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I Gave One of My Children Up For Adoption

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    Life Altering!!!

    My life basically ended the day the papers were signed. BUT NONE of the whole decision had anything to do with me at all. My only mission was to pick people who I thought wld always be there for my Son (26 yro this Jan 2nd!) (Same day different date my daughter's father OD'ed on...
    christinelove69 christinelove69 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 30, 2013

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    I Gave My First Child Up For Adoption

    I found out i was pregnant at 27 weeks. I had broken up with the father two months before, because he was a drug user. He was the most un supportive person. I had been dating someone else for about a month when i found out and he didnt really express his thoughts on it. I felt my...
    hailey9592 hailey9592 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 28, 2013

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    I'm In An Open Adoption !

    My childern's Father committed suicide when my 1st  son  was 10 months and I was 4 months pregnant wih our 2nd. I tried  to take care of both of my boys, I wasn't right in my mind ; as you could imagine. I gave my son up for adoption when he was 3 months...
    tigeress1970 tigeress1970 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    Not Forgotten

    You know grief will cut like a knife sometimes when its least expected. For 16 years I've been tortured with the unexpected stabs of grief from the adoption of my baby girl. When I was 16 yrs old I had my first boyfriend! Unfortunately I found myself pregnant. My parents were...
    underrock underrock 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 28, 2012

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    Out There Somewhere

    I gave my son up many years ago and since then have had two more....and a lot of life and living in between. This giving up for adoption followed a bad first marriage, where when I needed help badly as a single mother, my family abandoned me and then hated me for letting him go...
    ultimatereality ultimatereality 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 15, 2012

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    Lost Without You

    I was 17 (now 27) and all I kept hearing was how unselfish it was and how i was doing the right thing and I can go to college and find the "right man" and blah blah blah blah blah. All it did was lead me to the most horrible place I have ever been in life. Cause I could have...
    robynelizabeth robynelizabeth 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Hi i am ashley i am 24,

    i currently have two beautiful daughters they are eleven months apart and both have the same father. Currently i am pregnant by the same fool and i am torn because he just recently got out of jail because of his anger and violence towards me.. Anyways me and him had relations...
    nervreck44 nervreck44 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    It Was From The Love In My Heart

    It was 1994 and I was 19 years old. I was in no position to give a child the love and attention s/he deserved so I decided to look into finding a suitable home for my child. I chose adoption and spent time in choosing the right family. They drove to where I was living a couple of...
    OnewithJC OnewithJC 36-40, F Dec 12, 2012

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    I Hope This Helps..

    My name is Marcus..I am a birth father to a daughter who is now 20 years old. Her mother and I are actively searching for her together at this time and we hope and pray every day to be able to connect with her. In reading many of the stories on here and other sites I wanted to...
    marcusa27 marcusa27 36-40, M 3 Responses Feb 19, 2013

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    I Was Not Perfect, But I Loved Them With All My Heart!

    I am now 26 years old and 4 years ago i did not have a choice but to put my 4 children up for adoption. I was had family but didnt have family. I was a single mother who tryed to work and take care of my children. my world and life revolved around them. There wasnt anything i...
    acastellon acastellon 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 19, 2011

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    The Woser Thing Lv Ever Did

    I lost my children on 2002 to adopshon the reson l lost them was because there farther was vailont to me l will never forget the day l had my youngest son l stayed in hostpital with him for 5 days that day came when l had yo walk out of the hostpital with out him don't ask me how...
    mummysreborns293 mummysreborns293 26-30, F Jul 23, 2012

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    And So the Story Goes

    When I discovered I was pregnant: 3 months into my pregnancy, I wasn't sure what I was going to do! I had been raised in a strict religious home, and so abortion was out of the question.(except for that one minute of "it would be a quick fix") Having spent the first 5...
    thum thum 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 23, 2009

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    Birth Mothers Beware Of Adoption...Your Baby's Life Depends On It!!!!

    Adoption is not necessarily the "win-win" situation it is made out to be. Birth mothers need to know that they are not always giving up their babies into perfect homes...that the home they surrender their baby to could be filled with just as much or more dysfunction than can be...
    cscottandcarly cscottandcarly 36-40 13 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    Brandon -- Part II

      Part II Her parents decided she needed to stay home.  She would not be returning to school, but I would.  I finished the semester, then moved back home and enrolled in the university in town.  She stayed at her parents' house and got a job at the mall...
    emperorspartacus emperorspartacus 26-30, M 7 Responses Apr 30, 2008

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    I Gave My Child Up For Adoption

    long story short.... 11 years with an idiot 3 kids later I left... met a new guy... bad dude. He stalked me and threatened to kill me, my three kids and slit his unborn childs throat... so I gave her up so I would not live in fear for the rest of her life. Each and everyday that...
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    Joined By Love

    From the moment I found out I was pregnant almost four years ago I knew that I loved my child with all of my heart. Her father and I had known each other since childhood and I considered him one of my oldest and best friends. Although I had three other small children from a...
    sienna2010 sienna2010 26-30 2 Responses Apr 16, 2013

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    I gave my daughter up

    for adoption 25 years ago. I love her so much and its been a hard road. The last picture I have of her is when she was in the hospital. She had jet black hair and a blond streak in the middle. I had a choice to make and it was not easy. I was afraid for her, Her dad was very...
    Tinatremblay Tinatremblay 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 23

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    I signed the papers yesterday.

    I feel so weak and miserable. I know I couldn't have financially taken care of her but regardless I did it anyway. now she's gone. My heart is broken, she's really gone. The worst part is that I don't have anyone to help me through this. They just see me lost and say I'll be...
    SunshineHarmony SunshineHarmony 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I'M A Birth Mother

    I found out at 19 that I expecting a child with my ex. He constantly told me that he couldn't be the baby's father. When I found out I was pregnant, I knew an abortion was not the option for me. I decided that I will put him up for adoption. I found a great lawyer and a great...
    cgoldenthal7 cgoldenthal7 26-30 Jun 5, 2013

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    Im 39 weeks pregnant

    and im giving my child up for adoption to a couple that I chose. It's very hard of a decision but I had to make it. I had no other choice. I have been strong this whole pregnancy but I am afraid of loosing it after I hand my child away. Im having a boy and I've always wanted a...
    jcollins25 jcollins25 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    Mine Is 18 Now...

    Grace. What a good name.  Her adoptive parents were awesome.I was a 16 year old idiot.  Not a day goes by that I don't think of her.  She's so successful.  Poor thing has my height.  I love her, from a distance.  She knows of me, but doesn't have time in her life right now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 27, 2012

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    Im Giving My Baby Up For Adoption

    I am giving my baby up for adoption. I have 3 kids now with a forth one on the way. My husband left me and my daughter's and I can't give this baby the life it deserves. I love this baby with all my heart and soul. I am 20weeks along now and already have the family picked out. Im...
    weirdkelsee weirdkelsee 22-25, F 10 Responses Dec 27, 2011

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    My Dear Son

    I surrendered my son for adoption in March of 1980.  He was born on February 23, 1980 in Massachusetts.  I do not want to initiate a search.  I feel that is not my right but if he ever wanted to meet me, I would welcome him in my life.  I had no other childred...
    ginaenos ginaenos 51-55 4 Responses Nov 2, 2008

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    The Best Thing I Could Of Done:

    I know alot of people think its the wrong thing to do, but my life was so complicated, and still is.. I already had 3 abortions at the time, and when I found out I was pregnant at 16 weeks, I couldnt do it, I know it is still legal to get an abortion at that time, but the baby...
    beautytakesatoll beautytakesatoll 18-21, F 2 Responses May 2, 2011

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    My Beautiful, Sweet Lil Girl... ;]

    Me and her father were together all together for 5 yrs.. I met him when I was 15 and thought I found the love of my life (oh how stupid and young I was)... I got pregnant about a year after dating.. By this time, I knew in my mind things weren't going to be forever with...
    GirlyGamerGeek GirlyGamerGeek 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 18, 2010

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    My Firstborn

    In 1982, I was going to school, working part-time as a waitress, being broke in a way I'd never experienced before, and generally kind of a mess.  My life crashed down around my ears when I discovered I was pregnant. I knew from the beginning that I didn't want to have an...
    GitanaDeFuego GitanaDeFuego 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 17, 2009

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    Mckenzie Marie Otjen

    This is my story. My name is Jamie. At 14 years of age I found I was pregnant. My father, the baby's father, and all other family were unwilling to help in raising my baby. I had to make a tough choice. Adoption it was. We started researching and looked at families. I was so...
    JamieScales JamieScales 31-35, F Jan 30, 2013

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    Gave Child Up To Parents 5 Years Ago. Almost 6. I Live With Regret And Hate Myself.

    When I was 19 I ended up pregnant. I was living with my parents and the guy wasn't around. I ended up giving birth at the age 20 to a beautiful little girl. I stayed home and took care of my first daughter. I still went out sometimes which I probably should never have done. I won...
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    I Gave My Baby Up For Adoption Over a Year Ago

    On April 1, 2007 I found out that I was almost 2 months pregnant. I was so scared. It was my first pregnancy. I felt really alone. I had a bad childhood and I was so scared to bring a child into this world. I didn't want to have an abortion because I was scared and I didn't think...
    beebs83 beebs83 22-25, F 82 Responses May 24, 2009

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    When me and my girlfriend Hailie were in grade

    9 she got pregnant and we were keeping it. I had to get a job and when i was working i met this other chick named Alli and we hooked up once. Hailie left Nolan (the baby) on the floor when she went to the bathroom and he banged his head on the coffee table. At the hosiptal they...
    LandonS LandonS 16-17, M 3 Responses Feb 3

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    That Was 14 Years Ago

    I had my two year old son when I got pregnant with Emily. I was not in any position to care for another child. My son was also a lover of babies, he would attack others children trying to pick them up and give them love. I was very worried that I would be in the shower one day...
    aliceinwonderment aliceinwonderment 36-40, F 8 Responses Feb 14, 2010

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    Wyatt Love <3

    on augs 12 2012 i gave up my baby up for adoption and it was the most amazing thing i could have ever done in my life! here is my story i just moved away from home ( hawaii ) to las vegas.. and i had got pregnant and didnt want to get abortion cause i dont believe in those... i...
    wyattlove wyattlove 22-25, F Aug 15, 2012

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    I Am Thinking About Giving My Unborn Child Up For Adoption

    i am 20 years old i have a two year old son me and his father split but decided after 5 months to get back together but in the time we were apart i fell pregnant to my cousins friend who i recently found out is an ex drug addict and a very violent person he wants to be in the...
    cindlz21 cindlz21 18-21 5 Responses Nov 28, 2011

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    My Beautiful Baby Boy.

      I just turned 18 a week ago. I had my son on March 20th, 2008. My boyfriend and myself knew we couldn't care for our little boy. Both of us didn't have jobs @ the time and knew we were to young, him being 18 and myself being 17. We knew this teacher at our school who was...
    imissyouu imissyouu 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    I Gave a Child Up For Adoption and Worked Out the Best It Possibly Could Have.

    I am a single mom.  I have two children 5 and 2 that I love more than anything.  I got pregnant March of last year with a guy that does not care about anything.  At first I just ignored being pregnant and when I started to show I knew that I could ...
    jess135 jess135 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    Seaking Advice...

    June of 2001 I gave up a beautiful baby boy for adoption. I joined the military in 1999 and was so happy to start my life new. I had a rough childhood. I moved alot, lived in the car, had a very possive mother and never finished the full year of school at one place...
    mamaxs3 mamaxs3 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 9, 2009

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    My Dearest, Audri.

    when i was a senior in highschool, i fell in-love. i never in a million years thought it would happen, i have an attitude, i tell it like it is, i'm sarcastic, rude, but i found him. he was perfect, he was just like me. the first time we found out i was pregnant, we had no idea...
    noodle2010 noodle2010 18-21, F May 23, 2012

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    I Gave Up My Second Child For Adoption

    Almost ten years ago I gave birth to my second daughter and for two days had her in my arms.  My older daughter who was one year old at the time was on the bed with me as I held her newborn sister, not knowing it would be the only time she ever saw her.  My then...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Mar 17, 2008

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    One Year!

    Well as i sit here basicly alone, I wonder if me gettng married was good for me! I went from being alone and craving being able to fall asleep in a mans arms to this. I dont even know what to call it any more. I had so many ambitions to nothing at all. For example:1: Being a mom...
    acastellon acastellon 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    I Want To Adopt

    I think any woman who can give their baby up for adoption is extremely strong. I can't imagine what some days may be like for any of you. Its such and unselfish thing you have done for the many reason I am sure you had. I live in Alabama, United States and I have been looking to...
    HopefulToAdopt HopefulToAdopt 26-30 1 Response Jul 20, 2013

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    Emma'S First Birthday Is This Week

    things have been rough with the adoptive parents. apparently our "oh so open adoption" has been a little too open for them and they now accuse me of trying to co-parent so they are trying to space out my visits more now. why do the birth mothers get the short end of the stick...
    chels321 chels321 18-21, F Feb 25, 2013

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    I Want To Give My Unborn Up For Adoption.

    I am 32 and at my wits end. I have just found out that I'm about 7 months pregnant. I already have two sons and could barely support them. Abortion is out of the question seeing as its way to late, besides I don't think I would be able to go through that. I am afraid to tell my...
    bhmama32 bhmama32 31-35, F 6 Responses May 20, 2013

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    All my life I felt like the baby black sheep in

    the family. My parents loved my older sister because she was a virgin, who never came out of her room and only did homework in her free time. I grew up not knowing who the hell I was because I got made fun of for having one arm. In September of 2013, I discovered I was 6 weeks...
    Zosto12 Zosto12 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    Difficult Testimony, Even After Years

    I don't know if this will heal one day. It's difficult to talk about it. It's difficult to write about it. I still feel guilty about it. 6 years ago I was raped, by, I don't know who did it. Ashamed, I didn't want to talk to my "family", I said nothing and then it was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 24, 2008

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    Brandon -- Part I

      This turned out to be a really long post, so I broke it up into two sections to make it a little more digestible.  Look for the other part here on Experience Project. Part I I can't believe it's been almost seven years.  He's in first or second grade now! ...
    emperorspartacus emperorspartacus 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 30, 2008

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    I Gave Up Both My Children For Adoption And Lost A Baby

    I was seventeen when i got pregnant with my first child and i was thrilled but the problem was that I loved my babies father to much. He was no good for me or her. We left south carolina and joined the carnival because we had no where to go but bye gods grace broke down in...
    Rachaeld23 Rachaeld23 22-25, F 2 Responses May 11, 2012

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