I Get Tired After Socialising

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    I always need alone time after socializing, that´s what I need to recharge. I get my energy from rest and quiet, not from being out and about. it´s just who I am but it took me a long time to figure out and to stand by what I need, and not feel abnormal about it. I used to feel...
    feelingwhole feelingwhole
    26-30, F
    Apr 30, 2011

    Being Around People

    i get nerves   when i am around    people   i dont   know  i relly do hate to socialising
    dogbeith dogbeith
    3 Responses Sep 28, 2008

    However It's Different For Me Online....

    This type of socializing I love!   It doesn't drain me like social events do.  There are different expectations and requirements at social gatherings.  Online is where you get to choose to whom you want to speak and be wearing your pj's the entire time :)
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 27, 2012

    I Love (most) People, Don't Get Me Wrong

    I find socializing very taxing. I'm not really all that introverted most of the time, because I do talk a lot (sometimes), so I don't think it's that. I find too much interaction with people drains the energy reserves. Usually by the end of the day I'm pretty drained. It's a...
    wack1985 wack1985
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 12, 2010

    Talking Makes Me Tired

    I could never understand why I feel so tired after socializing, until I started researching it online & discovered it happens to many other people as well. That was a relief to find out, because I thought something was really wrong with me. It doesn't happen around certain...
    newsoulawakening2 newsoulawakening2
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2013

    Oooh *yawn*

    It can be so exhausting. Smiling trying to make small talk, always feeling like you are soley responsible to prevent or fill the awkward silences. I think the hardest is when you have to meet a lot of new people, I mean one or two isn't bad but when you have to go somewhere that...
    DelightfulBabe08 DelightfulBabe08
    6 Responses Sep 27, 2008

    I'm an ambivert, which means (as far

    as my personality goes) that I'm about 55% extroverted, 45% introverted. Sometimes being around people is very tough, so I have to recharge my battery. It's not always easy being an ambivert.
    Pebbles1982 Pebbles1982
    31-35, F
    4 Responses May 8, 2015


    Yeah it can be very draining, and it can bring some good rest afterward.
    Arorin Arorin
    22-25, M
    Mar 4, 2010


    Socializing is like being bedridden for years and then trying to jog a mile... right now, I can barely even walk. And when I do, I look something like a frail baby deer taking its first shaky steps. But hey, I'm strength training. When I go out, it's with the goal of...
    effervescence effervescence
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2009

    Like Right Now

    I went with my fiance to his sister's wedding on saturday. And it near killed me with tiredness, and I'm still tired from it. And my brain is mush. There were 78 people there... and 60 of them were my future relatives. And it drained me to my core. But then it's always that way...
    sugarburn sugarburn
    22-25, F
    13 Responses Sep 30, 2008


    People tend to wipe me out especially in say a party situation and I'm forced to go beyond my normal social limits. This is often why you find me disappearing either to the computer or a quiet corner to sedate my brain, rebalance myself and collect my thoughts. I love people, don...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 6, 2009

    I Always Happens

    I don't think you could class me as introverted or extroverted I'm somewhere in the middle but what I do find is I always get tired when I've been socialising for a few hours like now I've had someone in my house since 7pm and i went to bed at 10.30, I don't mean to be rude but I...
    peacefulstorm peacefulstorm
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 31, 2013

    Socializing Burns More Calories Than Working Out

    I get extremely exhausted after socializing. In fact, I have noticed that if I'm forced to socialize for days at a time, I can drop as many as 3 pounds over just a few days. A day long job interview will always cause me to lose 2 or 3 pounds. When I go on business trips and am...
    lmori lmori
    1 Response Mar 5, 2011

    I hate it when people expect me to want to

    socialise at parties etc. They get offended if I don't want to go out with them all the time, but it's not like that. I just need time in my own to recharge.
    GingerHolmes GingerHolmes
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 8, 2015

    I don't want to put up with people

    who likes talking about other people's lives or boys for that matter. I'm a girl, so of course I have more girl friends and sometimes it's really tiring talking to the female population. If I do though, there are always some of my guy friends that I can go and talk to.
    arcticxcx arcticxcx
    18-21, F
    May 9, 2015

    The Burden Of Socializing

    Yeah, I am tired of socializing too. The fact of the matter is, the older I get, the less tolerance I have for other people's hurtful hidden agendas, etc.. Every now and again, socializing will be a joy when I meet someone who is genuine, and just fun to be around, but a lot of...
    sediqua22 sediqua22
    3 Responses Jul 13, 2010

    Many people don't get

    that I'm an introvert. After socializing for a while I need time to recover. But it's hard to explain to my extrovert parents. Any advice?
    EmoGirl1237 EmoGirl1237
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 15, 2014

    It's Very Draining.

    Never mind actually having to talk to people face-to-face, monkeys & associates forbid. Even just talking to people on here exhausts me. (I believe there is something called social stamina though. Some people are born with massive reserves. Some of us just need to train...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo
    31-35, M
    7 Responses Jan 21, 2008


    I sometimes hang with a buddy all day long. Depending on who it is, I sometimes feel drained, even if they are really chill. I just call them energy vampires. LOL
    LylaRocks LylaRocks
    26-30, F
    May 7, 2011

    It's Just That

    I think well of myself. I'm not going to belittle myself. In conversations where people talk about how x person is a (*(&^)*&YDHF i really get uncomfortable... I like being good to people all the time when I can.... I like drinking alcohol because its relaxing... I'm just a nice...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 29, 2011

    Why I Hate Socializing

    Socializing is effing exhausting for me... To put on a happy face and be empathetic and understanding and actively listen to people's needs and concerns and stories. I try to be the best, try to quickly decide what is the best response to people in each conversation I have. It's...
    brokenheaart brokenheaart
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 27, 2011

    Introvert Here.

    I'm a true introvert. I get out and socialize but if I'm around other people (besides my small group of friends or my husband) I'm left exhausted. Small talk annoys me a bit, but I do it to fit in. Plus I don't like telling people deeper things about me, so 'the weather' it is...
    soulfool soulfool
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 7, 2012

    But Still Love It

    I tend to be very energetic, and very carefully pay attention to people when I am socialising.  I tend to go off in tangents and bring as many people in to conversation as I can and smile as much as I can.  I remember when I used to cover press...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 4, 2008


    it takes sooo much effort to force smalltalk and to be sociable with people that you really could care less about or just dont feel like talking to. like i hate going to gatherings and events where conversation is forced and people try to start conversations with you about the...
    asdfok asdfok
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 25, 2008
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