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I Going Through a Divorce, Right Now

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    Been best friends 20 years,

    together 16, married 11. We have a 5 and 8 year old. On NYE we talked through divorce arrangements. I initiated but am devastated and don't want this, but we have tried and tried. He's going through mid life crisis, doesn't know what he wants - just that it's not this; not me...
    differentdrummer78 differentdrummer78 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    What Should I Do?

    I have been married for 45 years. I got married 6 months out of high school. We went together 2 years before getting married. I knew there would be problems because he drank a lot even then. I loved him and thought marriage would take care of all our problems ( how is that for...
    jasmine64 jasmine64 61-65 2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    So Confused......

    I made the decision last month to leave my husband. I spent weeks thinking, making sure I was doing the right thing. I so much as got my own apartment n moved halfway out. Now, after 12 years he sees what he did to me, and that it was wrong. I begged n pleaded to counseling but...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 18, 2013

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    Happening Soon

    My wife and I have been having issues connecting it felt like we were roommates for about 6mos.  Last week we went to Cancun with friends and I thought to reconnect.  We held hands once and she cried on my shoulder once.  We have been married 15yrs and last night something...
    o8o5 o8o5 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 17, 2011

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    Last Saturday, 3/14/15,

    my husband if 8 years and I decided we need to move on. We both tried and tried and we are both good people. However, we can not get along. Just another proof that sometimes love is not enough. I have no doubt at some point in our lives we were so much in love. Love remains but...
    purpletearsfall purpletearsfall 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Had The First 4 Way Meeting

    I arrived early and so did my wife.  Suck in a tiny room with a women the i still love but I can see feels uncomfortable sitting here with me.  Small talk started by me and the rest of the time we each spent walking outside.  We discussed the house, the bills, and the children...
    michael4480 michael4480 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 21, 2011

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    It's not really me it's my parents .

    I am not heart broken over it because I hate my step father. He has done nothing but cause me pain and suffering mentally and then he moves my mom and I . But the ironic part he only moved us because he wanted to be closer to his girlfriend. Yeah! He was cheating on my mom this...
    annirawrmuffin annirawrmuffin 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2014

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    Today'S The Day

    After 12 years of an emotionless marriage, amongst some other types of abuse, I'm moving out. I sign my lease today. It's amazing how the person that was suppose to love and cherish you forever is the one that hurts you the worst. Hardest thing I've ever done, I believe it's...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Aug 1, 2013

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    Divorce After 40 Years Of Marriage

    It is quite a shock to discover that after what I thought was a good marriage for 40 years I am now faced with a divorce. I know each case is different but I find it extremely hard to come to terms with. I have raised two children who are both married with children and my husband...
    MARIETJIEP MARIETJIEP 56-60, F 13 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    Waiting For Divorce

    My marriage fell apart two years ago when my husband said it was over two months after our 30th anniversiery. Last May he physically abused me, I left the home with my 16yr. old. He was told to file for a divorce since he wanted out but he never did so Oct. one month before ...
    Sportsmom1 Sportsmom1 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 29, 2009

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    I Don't Want This To End................

    10 weeks ago my wife took my children and with a note on the table for me to read when i got home from work, and left.  We talk only about the children.  She doesn't want to go to counseling.  I already received paper work.  I am so devastated.  My mind is consumed with her...
    michael4480 michael4480 36-40, M 7 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    I want him to come back everyday

    but then there is the rare moment where I get so angry I say **** him. he kicked me out and ignores me so **** him he was never worth the pain I suffered.
    SMcCL SMcCL 22-25, F 1 Response May 21

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    Hardest Thing In My Life ...

    It's funny what you consider challenging. Making a marriage work - being willing to sacrifice everything to keep this afloat - that is what I considered challenging. Having your husband give you and your child up for drinking and drugs - that topped everything on my list...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 19, 2009

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    Another 26 Years

    My hubby told me he wasn't happy for a few years.  I ignored it.  I wasn't at  times also, but made a covenant for better or worse.  I felt we were in the worse.  I worked so hard at this marriage, it was my lifes career.  We had decided I would stay home and raise our...
    LhasaX2 LhasaX2 46-50 2 Responses Jul 17, 2011

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    a mutual decision but still sad experience

    after 20 years together. We are trying to do this with love and respect especially with our two children in mind!
    islandgirl31 islandgirl31 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 12, 2014

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    This is my first actual posting.

    I was married for six years and have been with him for 8 years. My heart is pretty broken right now but I have been trying to focus on the next steps for my life. I am really happy that things will be final and over next month. He keeps posting on Facebook that divorce is easy...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 7

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    I am 23 and divorced sadly.

    my husband left me after my father left my mother, my ex has Asperger and can to the conclusion that because his parents are divorced ands know my parents are divorcing we would inevitability divorce, despite my protect that we are not our parents we were married on new years...
    lonelyASgrlfrnd lonelyASgrlfrnd 22-25, F Dec 21, 2014

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    Here we are less than two weeks from the

    divorce. We have a settlement conference next Wednesday. He says we have they set just in case we need it because our attorneys are forcing us to do that. Now he says we can talk about us. He wants to discuss what we both want as in our marriage. I have my doubts only...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response May 19

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    My Husband Wants A Divorce

    I have been married for almost 12 years (Jan is our anniversary). We have 3 kids (13, 9 and 7). My husband has been out of work for a year and he just recently sat by his dad's side for weeks watching him die. When he came back home after being away for 5-6 weeks. I knew there...
    HSteinhauer HSteinhauer 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 2, 2009

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    Divorce After 26 Years Of Marriage...

    Feb. 8th, 2010 my husband of 25 years told me he didn't love me anymore and that he was done! My whole world fell apart and my heart shattered. A couple of days before this I had found him and his employee in kennel with a new lock on top of inside door, and when he finally came...
    lillianmiller11 lillianmiller11 51-55 3 Responses Jan 5, 2011

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