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I Got Out of a Relationship With a Narcissist

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    Ok 6th day nc again an it's horrible empty

    feeling inside of me like I want to contact him I want him to come back as the one I thought was my soulmate I know it's bull **** but I can't help myself I know I shouldn't love someone more than I love myself I know I need to find me again because she's so lost I just feel...
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    Please someone tell me how I can stop my heart

    ache over my ex narcssistic husband please.
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2014

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    I have not been in one of these relationships,

    my mother has, she got out 6 months ago, she is having a very very hard time, I was wondering if any of you would have any advice to help her or a direction to point her, she is very depressed and sad all the time, she still finds a way to smile so I know there is still hope...
    Jlynn1424 Jlynn1424 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 19, 2014

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    Most selfish, egotistical,

    narcissisting man I've ever come in contact with. 15 years of marriage, and he had me so brainwashed, I didn't even know he was like that until our 12th year. He would lie in bed for 3 weeks at a time, and I had to cater to him, as did our son. And, no saying "just a minute...
    aaaagggghhhh aaaagggghhhh 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 25, 2014

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    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    I met my ex boyfriend four months ago.

    We met online and talked everyday for a month before actually meeting. We had very deep conversations and I felt like I already knew him even though we hadn't met yet. On our first date he brought me roses and made me feel like I was the only person in the room. Two weeks into...
    confusedgirl01 confusedgirl01 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 6, 2014

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    Well, yesterday was a good day,

    and today is starting out the same. I had a dream about him again last night. Both last night and the night before were not bad dreams...just neutral I suppose. The night before last could have been a very real scenario. He came to my house and calmly said, "You know, if you...
    Avicularia Avicularia 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2014

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    What Happened to "That Guy"

    I was married as was my Nar ex... We had an affair and ended up leaving our spouses and moving in together a year ago...WE had been friends first for about 5 years and he had a terrible reputation. He cheated on his wife of 10 years, quite openly, never took resp for anything...
    littlenady littlenady 36-40 5 Responses Jul 24, 2008

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    I'm so low right now was put on antidepressants

    4 days ago but they've made me feel even worse im in bed no energy at all I know I've done the best thing by going no contact an not holding out as I did 4 weeks then he begged me back but was still messing with my head only lasted 6 days an I said I couldn't handle it he was...
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 19

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    Mine just managed to get a counsellor to say

    I'm to damaged for a relationship great how I was so good at the beginning as he points out funny that then I get cancer have treatment an surgery then my past makes him not be there amazing there heads are really ****** up !
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 15

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    Well, I suppose my narcissist got out of the

    relationship with me. Exactly 2 weeks ago, everything was rosy again. I say "again" because it was the typical pattern of his daily mood swings, me trying to smooth things over, apologize and explain, etc. two weeks ago tomorrow is when I was discarded. I've been no-contact...
    Avicularia Avicularia 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2014

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    Walked Out...

    Finally got the strength to walk out on my narcissistic poor excuse of a man. He kept giving me "I don't know's" and "maybe's" so I told him to have fun living in his "I don't know" world, looked at him straight in the eye, told him I'm leaving him and left. I had never seen the...
    zeneverythingzen zeneverythingzen 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    And I'm Still Recovering

    I thought I had been in some pretty sucky bad relationships, ha! They were very good healthy relationships compared to this one. I started dating this girl about a year and a half ago, we'll call her Voldemort because I do believe she is the true heir to Slytherin. Voldemort was...
    talktolabomb talktolabomb 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 24, 2010

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    He used the back of his spoon to check his

    teeth. He took three hours to get ready for the day. If I did not compliment him enough, he would ignore me like a spoiled child. I was demanded to look as wonderful as him even if I was exhausted and if it was not approved by him, he would pretend to others that he was not...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 12, 2014

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    I can't wait for the day none of this affects

    me anymore. I'm past the stage of ever wanting anything to do with my ex but I still get hurt when he seems to have overcome everything he used to be and is now a decent person. Every time he says how glad he is to be with his new gf and how the third times the charm for making...
    annaalt annaalt 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    Having a better day today.

    I hate when I miss him cause I know I shouldn't
    confusedgirl01 confusedgirl01 31-35, F Sep 7, 2014

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    17 years with a narcissist

    and I never even knew there was a name for his abuse :( I was 21 when I got with him, he was 42 and now 17 yrs later I'm just washed up broken, damaged goods. He promised me the stars and gave me the garbage bin. How is anyone supposed to recover from that ****?!?
    Mieshamooi Mieshamooi 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Starting Over: Why Losing Him Helped Me Find Myself

        I knew it was time to go. I had known for quite some time. What started out as a fairytale relationship, full of excitement and promise, quickly turned into a nightmare I simply could not bear any longer. But, leaving isn't always easy to do. Remnants of hope swirled in my...
    MissConstrued MissConstrued 46-50, F 11 Responses Apr 28, 2013

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    It's All About Control

    I am learning about the 7 kinds of abuse.  I thought I stood up too him after he hit me.  I told him NEVER do that again.  I was shaking and terrified of what the next blow would feel like.  It didn't come.  It was silence.  He ignored me.  Let me sit in the corner shaking...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    I have a question. I know there are two

    different types of narcissists...cerebral and somatic. If the wife is a cerebral narcissist and the husband is a somatic narcissist, can the relationship work. I believe my friend's husband is a somatic. He has been with his wife for 25 years and they have 2 beautiful daughters...
    Lostinlove41 Lostinlove41 41-45, F Apr 25

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    That Which Does Not Break Me...

    It's been nearly 4 years since I extracted myself from her clutches. We met online, and I was taken with her almost immediately.  I also happened to be in a vulnerable situation with my then-girlfriend, in which I was unhappy and considering leaving the relationship. ...
    divinetriangle divinetriangle 31-35, F 10 Responses May 3, 2008

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    Well all his stuff is out I gave him 48 hours

    notice that the rest would be outside tonight he obviously didn't believe me as a friend said it was unfair not to message him an say it was there so I did an was sent the reply of why are you doing this to me My thought was like really this is all about you anyway 45 minutes...
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    I have been in this exact same place  over

    half a dozen times before.  Why haven't I learned by now?  From hour to hour  and even minute to minute I NEVER know who you'll choose to see  when you look at me.  And no matter what you say  your actions scream the truth;  I will never truly be your 'completely enough...
    girlofnirvana girlofnirvana 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    It's been over 2 months

    since the female narcissist but before she did she made sure she left her bags of poison with me the coward god bless her
    rosewood1966 rosewood1966 46-50, M Feb 10

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    Wow 2014 has become a transformation year.

    .. In just a month it seems like my life has change... I got out of a narcissist relationship, in which I wasted 10 yrs of my life. Still healing but thank God he hasn't contacted me and I sure ain't contacting him... And I just found out I am being promoted as thee supervisor of...
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 30, 2014

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    The more I learn about psychopathy/NPD,

    the more I forgive the one who ensnared me. He can't help what he is. But it's so hard to forgive myself for giving up my morals and boundaries just to please him. Why didn't I give *him* up when I knew I should have and had the chance? What I became was my fault, not his. He...
    Avicularia Avicularia 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    At Least I'M Alive

    I thought that when I left him that the manipulations and rages would subside, just a little, see, we have a child together so NO CONTACT is hardly an option. I wish I would have left the state, heck, leave the country when I found out I was pregnant but I was full of the hopes...
    SpacegirlBlues SpacegirlBlues 31-35, F Jun 19, 2013

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    my ex and I dated for 4 months.

    I broke up with him because I couldn't stand the abuse, the controlling manipulative angry person he was. he treated me like **** everyday he was so jealous and always argued and fought with me. as I tried breaking up with him he tried to make me feel guilty and sorry for him...
    thinlinee thinlinee 22-25, F Dec 16, 2014

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    My Ex Husand Was A Narcissist, Selfish To The Core

    He constantly complained I wasnt "emmeshed" with him in his career choice in being a musician. What!!!? 99% of all conversations for years was about his music! I was ready to puke if I had to listen to any more talk about himself. I was never allowed to talk about my career...
    lucyloo22 lucyloo22 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    Living With An Alcoholic Narcissist Was Pure Hell

    When we met he seemed to be the answer to my dreams. Handsome, funny, generous, outgoing, and kind. We talked all the time, and he told me all about his life and his dreams and ambitions. I felt special with him, and so happy he trusted me enough to open up about himself so...
    MissConstrued MissConstrued 46-50, F 12 Responses Mar 19, 2013

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    Now I Know

    I had heard the term narcissist before, but never really understood what it was until recently. I thought I had met the man of my dreams, my future husband. Our relationship started out perfectly, he was so attentive, showering me with attention, gifts, love and compliments. We...
    slcsux slcsux 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 15, 2012

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    Selfish, Deceptive, And Manipulative

    Stbx was a wicked witch in disguise. When we first dated, she created an "illusional girl" that I fell in love with. I held firmly onto this false image for quite a long time. She acted lovely, caring, agreeable, and understanding. She showed so much love, respect, and attention...
    Toliveandlearn Toliveandlearn 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 21, 2013

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    So Frustrated

    About 2 1/2 years ago I got out of a very bad relationship of 12 years. I'm only 27, but when I look back I've been in a relationship since I was 13. The relationship of 12 years was ridiculous, but I could not let go. Call it weakness, co-dependency, naive, immature, etc...
    KNicoleT1986 KNicoleT1986 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    My Ex is a Narcissist I have suffered

    for 3 years his emotional abuse has left me so empty I don't know where to begin in rebuilding my life its only been 2 days but I am determined to stay away this time. When first met him I was in a vulnerable state my boy friend of 8 years had just passed away and i was on my...
    sazz85 sazz85 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 14, 2014

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    Is it ever possible for a narcissist to find

    the right person for them? Will there ever be a person who will make them magically change their ways? I'm struggling right now because I've been expecting the mask to break with my ex and his new gf but it hasn't. He's claiming to be a great father now to his son, but has left...
    annaalt annaalt 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    Feeling really down tonight.

    .. Will it ever stop hurtng?
    confusedgirl01 confusedgirl01 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2014

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    11 days an I'm beginning to feel happiness this

    is great I can feel my old self coming back an it feels great definatly no contact is key to ending this cycle !
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 24

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    The Dichotomy Of My Guilt And His Need

    I want to help. I want to be supportive. I like to please.  So I am introduced to this guy, so nice, so smart, but hurting.  We become friends.  The warning signs I missed included becoming such close friends so quickly, such a focus on me.  He bathed me in the light of his...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    I was married to a narcissist

    for 6 years who destroyed me, left me for another woman and married her and I am still reeling.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2014

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    Omg Being In A Relationship With A Narcissist Is A Terrible Experience

    Contrary to popular belief, there are many females who are narcissist. I was in a relationship with one for about 8 months, and it was both wonderful, and horrible. I was very much in love with her, that was part of the problem because she knew it, and took advantage of it, or...
    justbeit justbeit 51-55, M 8 Responses Oct 7, 2010

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    Hi there... I need some help from others

    that have gotten out of a narcissistic marriage, and have kids. Here's the rough sketch of my story: I was in relationship and married to a narcissistic man for 17 years. We had two boys, now 19 and 21. They were 13 and 15 when I left my ex. My ex was very intelligent and...
    beesknees12 beesknees12 41-45, F 7 Responses Feb 16

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    MizzKeepItReal MizzKeepItReal 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2014

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    And he had a tiny p _ _ _ s.

    Which wouldn't have mattered but the fact he was so controlling and self centred and wore my make up and used all my skincare , made it matter even more, not even sex could make me want him. He'd ***** if his things weren't washed and we never even discussed him moving in, he...
    Whinny00 Whinny00 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    Hi this is my story me

    and my N are on a break its been 4 days. I've known this guy for years since i was 21 and at uni he pursued me then but i wasn't interested at all as he had a huge ego and was very materialistic and flashy so he continued on with his life with many many girls and got a...
    leeds1984 leeds1984 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2014

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    At least I think I was in one.

    I am not sure if he was someone who was narcissistic or antisocial behavorial disorder but a lot of people tend to agree that he had these tendencies. After a month of breaking up, I just want to know what this is so I never fall for it again. - After the first date he was all...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    Where do I begin? I have been with a narcissist

    for 3 and a half years. All of that time was so confusing. This could easily turn into pages, but I will be vague as possible. Even now as the days go by I'm still remembering things he did, more and more, as if I had locked them away somewhere. I guess my psyche coped by...
    hazelwoodd hazelwoodd 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 17

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