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I Got Out of a Relationship With a Narcissist

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    Divorced a narcissist 10 years ago.

    Have a son who is now 18. Any contact with her has been filled with anger, accusations,condescension ... A true intent to spread her misery. Only in touch with her for the sake of my son. 18 but has had some very intense emotional (and some physical) abuse from his mom and...
    YYCMan YYCMan 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 17

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    17 years with a narcissist

    and I never even knew there was a name for his abuse :( I was 21 when I got with him, he was 42 and now 17 yrs later I'm just washed up broken, damaged goods. He promised me the stars and gave me the garbage bin. How is anyone supposed to recover from that ****?!?
    Mieshamooi Mieshamooi 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Walked Out...

    Finally got the strength to walk out on my narcissistic poor excuse of a man. He kept giving me "I don't know's" and "maybe's" so I told him to have fun living in his "I don't know" world, looked at him straight in the eye, told him I'm leaving him and left. I had never seen the...
    zeneverythingzen zeneverythingzen 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Well all his stuff is out I gave him 48 hours

    notice that the rest would be outside tonight he obviously didn't believe me as a friend said it was unfair not to message him an say it was there so I did an was sent the reply of why are you doing this to me My thought was like really this is all about you anyway 45 minutes...
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Every time I have to communicate with him,

    I feel like I wish I could be with him again... It's so dysfunctional. He abused me.
    cloudedsky cloudedsky 26-30 3 Responses Jul 22

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    Most selfish, egotistical,

    narcissisting man I've ever come in contact with. 15 years of marriage, and he had me so brainwashed, I didn't even know he was like that until our 12th year. He would lie in bed for 3 weeks at a time, and I had to cater to him, as did our son. And, no saying "just a minute...
    aaaagggghhhh aaaagggghhhh 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 25, 2014

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    Being in a relationship with a narcissist is

    such a cruel and different experience. It took me years to rebuild my trust in myself and others. He took parts of me I never thought I could get back, but I have on my own. After a solid year of destroying my self esteem and confidence, he dropped me like I was nothing. It was...
    Izy96 Izy96 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    11 days an I'm beginning to feel happiness this

    is great I can feel my old self coming back an it feels great definatly no contact is key to ending this cycle !
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 24

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    miimii0069 miimii0069 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    MizzKeepItReal MizzKeepItReal 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2014

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    The Dichotomy Of My Guilt And His Need

    I want to help. I want to be supportive. I like to please.  So I am introduced to this guy, so nice, so smart, but hurting.  We become friends.  The warning signs I missed included becoming such close friends so quickly, such a focus on me.  He bathed me in the light of his...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    You can tell people what happened.

    You can tell them how he lied. You can tell them how he made you feel worthless. You can tell them that he could make your heart drop by just the single look that disapproved of the smile on your face. But they won't understand, they won't ever. And in the end, when all is done...
    ChristiH ChristiH 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Is it ever possible for a narcissist to find

    the right person for them? Will there ever be a person who will make them magically change their ways? I'm struggling right now because I've been expecting the mask to break with my ex and his new gf but it hasn't. He's claiming to be a great father now to his son, but has left...
    annaalt annaalt 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    Wow 2014 has become a transformation year.

    .. In just a month it seems like my life has change... I got out of a narcissist relationship, in which I wasted 10 yrs of my life. Still healing but thank God he hasn't contacted me and I sure ain't contacting him... And I just found out I am being promoted as thee supervisor of...
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 30, 2014

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    when I had hit arrested

    after he broke my nose and fractured my ribs under the influence of various substances and alcohol. And now Im with a psycopathic control freak only a few months after the recovery from ex.. wtf is wrong with me that I am so blinded by attention and charms from mental cases?? I...
    Teegar Teegar 22-25, F Jun 24

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    I dated a super abusive generally bad guy

    for three years. When I found out he was cheating on me and got someone else pregnant I broke up with him last December. Now everything seems great with the new girl and he just got engaged to her. I just feel sick like he's really changed for her because she's somehow good...
    annaalt annaalt 22-25, F 2 Responses May 6

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    And he had a tiny p _ _ _ s.

    Which wouldn't have mattered but the fact he was so controlling and self centred and wore my make up and used all my skincare , made it matter even more, not even sex could make me want him. He'd ***** if his things weren't washed and we never even discussed him moving in, he...
    Whinny00 Whinny00 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    It's been over 2 months

    since the female narcissist but before she did she made sure she left her bags of poison with me the coward god bless her
    rosewood1966 rosewood1966 46-50, M Feb 10

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    i unfortunately have to with this narcissistic

    person for the next 16 years because i have a child with him. everything i do is wrong. he makes up scenarios in his head to the point it makes me feel like im going crazy. he ha never hit me, but does the current woman he is with. i hate dealing with him in any capacity because...
    ambiwambie ambiwambie 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    I'm writing because I'm having some doubts.

    I was in a relationship for 3 years with someone who was clearly a narcissist I caught him cheating on me almost a year and a half ago and he chose to be with the new girl who he had gotten pregnant cheating on me. He has made no direct attempts since then to see my daughter, he...
    annaalt annaalt 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 5

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    I'm so low right now was put on antidepressants

    4 days ago but they've made me feel even worse im in bed no energy at all I know I've done the best thing by going no contact an not holding out as I did 4 weeks then he begged me back but was still messing with my head only lasted 6 days an I said I couldn't handle it he was...
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 19

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    That Which Does Not Break Me...

    It's been nearly 4 years since I extracted myself from her clutches. We met online, and I was taken with her almost immediately.  I also happened to be in a vulnerable situation with my then-girlfriend, in which I was unhappy and considering leaving the relationship. ...
    divinetriangle divinetriangle 31-35, F 10 Responses May 3, 2008

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    I have a question. I know there are two

    different types of narcissists...cerebral and somatic. If the wife is a cerebral narcissist and the husband is a somatic narcissist, can the relationship work. I believe my friend's husband is a somatic. He has been with his wife for 25 years and they have 2 beautiful daughters...
    Radiantlovingwoman Radiantlovingwoman 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 25

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    Hi there... I need some help from others

    that have gotten out of a narcissistic marriage, and have kids. Here's the rough sketch of my story: I was in relationship and married to a narcissistic man for 17 years. We had two boys, now 19 and 21. They were 13 and 15 when I left my ex. My ex was very intelligent and...
    beesknees12 beesknees12 41-45, F 7 Responses Feb 16

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    To my father, my abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing, despite all the innocence and potential you robbed from me, you no longer have any control over me. I'm no longer afraid of you...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    Selfish, Deceptive, And Manipulative

    Stbx was a wicked witch in disguise. When we first dated, she created an "illusional girl" that I fell in love with. I held firmly onto this false image for quite a long time. She acted lovely, caring, agreeable, and understanding. She showed so much love, respect, and attention...
    Toliveandlearn Toliveandlearn 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 21, 2013

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    So Frustrated

    About 2 1/2 years ago I got out of a very bad relationship of 12 years. I'm only 27, but when I look back I've been in a relationship since I was 13. The relationship of 12 years was ridiculous, but I could not let go. Call it weakness, co-dependency, naive, immature, etc...
    KNicoleT1986 KNicoleT1986 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    I have been in this exact same place  over

    half a dozen times before.  Why haven't I learned by now?  From hour to hour  and even minute to minute I NEVER know who you'll choose to see  when you look at me.  And no matter what you say  your actions scream the truth;  I will never truly be your 'completely enough...
    girlofnirvana girlofnirvana 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    Ok 6th day nc again an it's horrible empty

    feeling inside of me like I want to contact him I want him to come back as the one I thought was my soulmate I know it's bull **** but I can't help myself I know I shouldn't love someone more than I love myself I know I need to find me again because she's so lost I just feel...
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    Mine just managed to get a counsellor to say

    I'm to damaged for a relationship great how I was so good at the beginning as he points out funny that then I get cancer have treatment an surgery then my past makes him not be there amazing there heads are really ****** up !
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 15

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    Just seems like nobody ever considers the

    consequences of getting to know me.
    TicToxic TicToxic 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    Living With An Alcoholic Narcissist Was Pure Hell

    When we met he seemed to be the answer to my dreams. Handsome, funny, generous, outgoing, and kind. We talked all the time, and he told me all about his life and his dreams and ambitions. I felt special with him, and so happy he trusted me enough to open up about himself so...
    MissConstrued MissConstrued 46-50, F 12 Responses Mar 19, 2013

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    I can't wait for the day none of this affects

    me anymore. I'm past the stage of ever wanting anything to do with my ex but I still get hurt when he seems to have overcome everything he used to be and is now a decent person. Every time he says how glad he is to be with his new gf and how the third times the charm for making...
    annaalt annaalt 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    Omg Being In A Relationship With A Narcissist Is A Terrible Experience

    Contrary to popular belief, there are many females who are narcissist. I was in a relationship with one for about 8 months, and it was both wonderful, and horrible. I was very much in love with her, that was part of the problem because she knew it, and took advantage of it, or...
    justbeit justbeit 51-55, M 8 Responses Oct 7, 2010

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    At Least I'M Alive

    I thought that when I left him that the manipulations and rages would subside, just a little, see, we have a child together so NO CONTACT is hardly an option. I wish I would have left the state, heck, leave the country when I found out I was pregnant but I was full of the hopes...
    SpacegirlBlues SpacegirlBlues 31-35, F Jun 19, 2013

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    The Narcissist:

    I got out of my narcissistic relationship about 5 years ago , It was the "rollar coaster ", of all time, when we first meet i thought "wow what a fantastic guy" "ïvé hit the jackpot im so lucky"!!! ("ýea rite"!!!) ...
    Feflower Feflower 36-40, F 10 Responses Dec 14, 2007

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    When I decided to go no contact with my ex

    (about 2 or 3 months ago), I deleted all his pics and some cheesy images he used to send me, deleted him from my facebook, cleaned up the fb history chat (it had KILOMETERS of cheesy corny stuff from him, arguments and useless silly things). I just didn't delete his sms (text...
    Blackberries Blackberries 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    What Happened to "That Guy"

    I was married as was my Nar ex... We had an affair and ended up leaving our spouses and moving in together a year ago...WE had been friends first for about 5 years and he had a terrible reputation. He cheated on his wife of 10 years, quite openly, never took resp for anything...
    littlenady littlenady 36-40 5 Responses Jul 24, 2008

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    This page is proof I'm not crazy.

    I am thankful for all your contributions.
    Hamhavi Hamhavi 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    Recently my ex has gone back on a tirade of

    commenting horrible thing about me on old pictures of us thankfully it's stopped now that I've got hold of his po. But I just don't understand it. He's engaged now to the girl he cheated on me with so why does he bother anymore. He claims to have a perfect life why can't he...
    annaalt annaalt 22-25, F Jun 23

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    I've been out for a month

    and a half. I got through feeling confused and heartbroken after the first break up with him. I was naive enough to think the second time would be any better. He abused me in every way imaginable; physically, emotionally, financially, mentally and sexually. Throughout the...
    merrywings merrywings 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 20

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    I am getting out of a thirty-year marriage to a

    narcissist. I posted a story about a situation that I’m having with my soon to be ex-husband. I received a message from someone who gave me some very sound advice, and it led me to finding the website that I would like to share with my friends here at EP. It deals with...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    forgedindarkness forgedindarkness 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    At least I think I was in one.

    I am not sure if he was someone who was narcissistic or antisocial behavorial disorder but a lot of people tend to agree that he had these tendencies. After a month of breaking up, I just want to know what this is so I never fall for it again. - After the first date he was all...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    my ex and I dated for 4 months.

    I broke up with him because I couldn't stand the abuse, the controlling manipulative angry person he was. he treated me like **** everyday he was so jealous and always argued and fought with me. as I tried breaking up with him he tried to make me feel guilty and sorry for him...
    thinlinee thinlinee 22-25, F Dec 16, 2014

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