I Got Out of a Relationship With a Narcissist

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    That Which Does Not Break Me...

    It's been nearly 4 years since I extracted myself from her clutches. We met online, and I was taken with her almost immediately.  I also happened to be in a vulnerable situation with my then-girlfriend, in which I was unhappy and considering leaving the relationship. ...
    divinetriangle divinetriangle
    31-35, F
    9 Responses May 3, 2008

    Wow 2014 has become a transformation year.

    .. In just a month it seems like my life has change... I got out of a narcissist relationship, in which I wasted 10 yrs of my life. Still healing but thank God he hasn't contacted me and I sure ain't contacting him... And I just found out I am being promoted as thee supervisor of...
    luv0105 luv0105
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 30, 2014

    He turned me into a PSYCHO *****

    but all this time, HE IS THE CRAZY ONE!
    Sen22 Sen22
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 27

    I now remember little things

    that were signs I wasnt aware of- my ex never liked physical contact beyond sex - if we held hands he would squeeze my hand really hard till it hurt so we wouldnt hold hands, if I spooned him he would complain I was hurting his arm shoulder chest whatever, When he put his arm...
    blonde10 blonde10
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Jul 22, 2015

    Being in a relationship with a narcissist is

    such a cruel and different experience. It took me years to rebuild my trust in myself and others. He took parts of me I never thought I could get back, but I have on my own. After a solid year of destroying my self esteem and confidence, he dropped me like I was nothing. It was...
    Izy96 Izy96
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 22, 2014

    The absolute hardest challenge I have ever been

    faced with. At the end of it all and only then did I truly realize the devastating toll that it had taken on my psyche. I left with nothing, not materialistically speaking but in terms of my sanity and self worth. I had been reduced to nothing at the hands of someone who claimed...
    ClassyCassie ClassyCassie
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 27

    Just seems like nobody ever considers the

    consequences of getting to know me.
    TicToxic TicToxic
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 4, 2015

    Okay so over New Years,

    I met back up with my ex and I was so flattered to see him. However, the next day, he was ignoring my texts. So okay I had my pitty party and blew up his phone just baffled at why he said the things he said and turn around ignore me. I told him from a friend stand point that I...
    Shadyqueen1 Shadyqueen1
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 5

    I've been out of the relationship

    for 18 months. I spoke to a new therapist today and realized that I'm being triggered by toxic people around me. So I act irrationally upset because I'm being triggered to events from my abusive ex. The therapist suggested the fact that I'm not fully healed and still fractured...
    cloudedsky cloudedsky
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 18

    The Narcissist:

    I got out of my narcissistic relationship about 5 years ago , It was the "rollar coaster ", of all time, when we first meet i thought "wow what a fantastic guy" "ïvé hit the jackpot im so lucky"!!! ("ýea rite"!!!) ...
    Feflower Feflower
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Dec 14, 2007

    Dear S, you are the true definition of a

    NARCISSIST. I feel sorry for your next victim.
    Sen22 Sen22
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 27
    Sen22 Sen22
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 30, 2015

    To my father, my abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing, despite all the innocence and potential you robbed from me, you no longer have any control over me. I'm no longer afraid of you...
    wowodeals wowodeals
    31-35, F
    Jul 2, 2015
    MizzKeepItReal MizzKeepItReal
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 12, 2014

    I have been in this exact same place  over

    half a dozen times before.  Why haven't I learned by now?  From hour to hour  and even minute to minute I NEVER know who you'll choose to see  when you look at me.  And no matter what you say  your actions scream the truth;  I will never truly be your 'completely enough...
    girlofnirvana girlofnirvana
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Aug 3, 2014

    And he had a tiny p _ _ _ s.

    Which wouldn't have mattered but the fact he was so controlling and self centred and wore my make up and used all my skincare , made it matter even more, not even sex could make me want him. He'd ***** if his things weren't washed and we never even discussed him moving in, he...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2014

    here is my experience: I was in relationship

    with a person with NPD, fortunately i realized that he was a narcist in an early phase of oir relationship, when I was trying to break up with him, he used to threaten me, so I have changed my tactics and became cold with him, one day I told him I wanted to break up, and it was...
    nataliawww nataliawww
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 9

    My boyfriend is a 48 year old married man.

    He's 25 years my senior and was my former boss. I now work in the same industry in the same vicinity so I'm still able to see him. He is still living with his wife and kids, like a normal family. I accepted it hoping that he would make me feel more appreciated to have a girl my...
    catsmp catsmp
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 16, 2015

    To the women who have been abused,

    neglected, disrespected by a man, violated, manipulated, and raped. Stand your ground, hold your heads up, love yourself, embrace yourself, feel the love around you- someone loves you in the mirror, she's waiting on you too tell you how much you love her. Own your power! No man...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 3

    I never knew that who I cared about

    so much was really just a sad sack of ****. We became friends, and then we were both at a point in our lives to begin to date. I had kept my virginity until him. Although it was time for me to go to my first year of college, he decided to keep dating me and promised to pick me...
    heyashree heyashree
    18-21, F
    Jun 25, 2015

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    alliecc11 alliecc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 4, 2015

    Walked Out...

    Finally got the strength to walk out on my narcissistic poor excuse of a man. He kept giving me "I don't know's" and "maybe's" so I told him to have fun living in his "I don't know" world, looked at him straight in the eye, told him I'm leaving him and left. I had never seen the...
    zeneverythingzen zeneverythingzen
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

    When I decided to go no contact with my ex

    (about 2 or 3 months ago), I deleted all his pics and some cheesy images he used to send me, deleted him from my facebook, cleaned up the fb history chat (it had KILOMETERS of cheesy corny stuff from him, arguments and useless silly things). I just didn't delete his sms (text...
    blackberries blackberries
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 14, 2015

    Because I was raised by a narcissistic parent,

    I tend to attract narcs as partners or friends. It's what I'm used to. I've been steadily working on this problem in therapy and obviously in daily life, but it's hard because they are so damn charming and convincing. Also, the mask doesn't usually drop until you're in their...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 25, 2015

    Starting Over: Why Losing Him Helped Me Find Myself

        I knew it was time to go. I had known for quite some time. What started out as a fairytale relationship, full of excitement and promise, quickly turned into a nightmare I simply could not bear any longer. But, leaving isn't always easy to do. Remnants of hope swirled in my...
    MissConstrued MissConstrued
    51-55, F
    11 Responses Apr 28, 2013

    I highly recommend this article

    and this website. Time to heal :) http://1solutionfocusedcoaching.com/2014/12/08/narcissists-are-never-going-to-apologize-escaping-purgatory/
    cloudedsky cloudedsky
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 8, 2015

    I am so drained from ending a toxic

    relationship with a narc how to get my power back?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 4

    At Least I'M Alive

    I thought that when I left him that the manipulations and rages would subside, just a little, see, we have a child together so NO CONTACT is hardly an option. I wish I would have left the state, heck, leave the country when I found out I was pregnant but I was full of the hopes...
    SpacegirlBlues SpacegirlBlues
    36-40, F
    Jun 19, 2013

    Where does a person start to describe a

    narcissist? I had a gal friend for over forty years start to change in her personality. Ever time we went out together she started saying things like don't you think I look way younger than my age? I think I do and look younger than you or others my age! She would repeat this...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 27

    Most selfish, egotistical,

    narcissisting man I've ever come in contact with. 15 years of marriage, and he had me so brainwashed, I didn't even know he was like that until our 12th year. He would lie in bed for 3 weeks at a time, and I had to cater to him, as did our son. And, no saying "just a minute...
    aaaagggghhhh aaaagggghhhh
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jan 25, 2014

    The Dichotomy Of My Guilt And His Need

    I want to help. I want to be supportive. I like to please.  So I am introduced to this guy, so nice, so smart, but hurting.  We become friends.  The warning signs I missed included becoming such close friends so quickly, such a focus on me.  He bathed me in the light of his...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Aug 6, 2012
    luv0105 luv0105
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 24, 2014

    I found a wonderful article on dealing with the

    emotional hangover after a relationship with a narc http://1solutionfocusedcoaching.com/2013/04/09/healing-the-emotional-hangover-from-leaving-an-abusive-relationship/#comment-7091
    cloudedsky cloudedsky
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 4, 2015

    This page is proof I'm not crazy.

    I am thankful for all your contributions.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 30, 2015

    Divorced a narcissist 10 years ago.

    Have a son who is now 18. Any contact with her has been filled with anger, accusations,condescension ... A true intent to spread her misery. Only in touch with her for the sake of my son. 18 but has had some very intense emotional (and some physical) abuse from his mom and...
    YYCMan YYCMan
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 17, 2015

    MUST FOLLOW THE NO CONTACT RULE!

    MUST! MUST! MUST! NEED TO! Then I'll be happier and stronger each day pass.
    Sen22 Sen22
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 1

    Yeah, i was hanging out with my boyfriend,

    his name is " Pizza Hut " btw, and i was just talking and like I looked at his box, and it said " hot and steamy just for you " and " worlds best pizza " like shrink your ego Pizza Hut or this relationship is going to be over.
    Nelly123321 Nelly123321
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 27

    11 days an I'm beginning to feel happiness this

    is great I can feel my old self coming back an it feels great definatly no contact is key to ending this cycle !
    crazycakes1 crazycakes1
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Mar 24, 2015

    I have been going no contact with my emotionally

    and psychologically abusive non parental female caregiver for three months! She's raised me since I was 5 and her son who was my best friend died from cancer when I was 17 and he was in his 20s. Even after her making threats at me for hours when I was 8 just for accidentally...
    rainbowsmangos2015 rainbowsmangos2015
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 24, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 27

    Every time I have to communicate with him,

    I feel like I wish I could be with him again... It's so dysfunctional. He abused me.
    cloudedsky cloudedsky
    26-30
    4 Responses Jul 22, 2015

    i unfortunately have to with this narcissistic

    person for the next 16 years because i have a child with him. everything i do is wrong. he makes up scenarios in his head to the point it makes me feel like im going crazy. he ha never hit me, but does the current woman he is with. i hate dealing with him in any capacity because...
    ambiwambie ambiwambie
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    You do not control me anymore.

    I am bringing my POWER back!
    Sen22 Sen22
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 27

    Hi! I have not logged in in a while,

    hope everyone is well. Update.....I finally started in a new relationship. we have been together for only 4 months the 15th, but unfortunately, I realised he is another N. Is this a ridiculous coincidence, or am I seriously a magnet to them????.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 20

    Living With An Alcoholic Narcissist Was Pure Hell

    When we met he seemed to be the answer to my dreams. Handsome, funny, generous, outgoing, and kind. We talked all the time, and he told me all about his life and his dreams and ambitions. I felt special with him, and so happy he trusted me enough to open up about himself so...
    MissConstrued MissConstrued
    51-55, F
    13 Responses Mar 19, 2013

    So Frustrated

    About 2 1/2 years ago I got out of a very bad relationship of 12 years. I'm only 27, but when I look back I've been in a relationship since I was 13. The relationship of 12 years was ridiculous, but I could not let go. Call it weakness, co-dependency, naive, immature, etc...
    KNicoleT1986 KNicoleT1986
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

    Like a week ago and I feel numb to the point I

    can't cry no more. I don't get it. How to love someone and take it away when things don't go your way?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 26
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