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I Grew Up In A Disfunctional Family

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    How Do I Help My Brother?

    Far as I can tell, my folks' divorce had a lasting impact on my brother (and me, of course), which seems to be more devastating as we grow older. Now over 50, my brother has been out of work for a year. He does not "get" so many basic things, like relationships, work ethics...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange 46-50, F Oct 21, 2013

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    The Ghost In My Mothers House

    yesterday the ghost in my mothers house washed our dishes and cleaned our rooms, made my bed the week before that it knocked on the window my mom's bedroom and she ran to it and told the ghost to leave, because the kids are still awake and before that i found stubble left in our...
    Phasmid Phasmid 18-21, F Jun 27, 2011

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    My late mother liked to say

    that there is no such thing as a "functional family," just varying degrees of dysfunction.
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 21

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    My dad split up when i was 6 months old ,

    my moms fiancé sexually assaulted me.
    blondieforever3 blondieforever3 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    My Mom Doesn'T Want To Listen To Me

    I try to talk to my mom and only half the time does she listen to me even If I am telling her about my crush or something she only half listens....I can tell her something and if she doesn't want to hear it, she gets an attitude or gets frustrated. I try to tell her stuff...
    AmandaHugandKiss2014 AmandaHugandKiss2014 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    Raising My Brothers

    I was the oldest child & the only girl. I was responsible for me younger brothers. if they did something wrong i would get in trouble for it. they would only get in trouble if they were caught red handed doing something & i would still get in trouble for letting them do it. what...
    beyourself789 beyourself789 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2012

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    I Don't Know Why I Bother Anymore

    My parents have even more mental problems than I do. My mom fell out of love with my dad after having two kids, then stayed with him and had three more. I asked her why and she said she wanted to have a son to pass on the family's name and she wanted to pass on her good genetics...
    Phasmid Phasmid 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 9, 2010

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    I wish I felt more love

    and connection in my family, it damages a part of me and every time I see a movie/scenario where love is expressed, I cry!
    fajphummie1 fajphummie1 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    I Could Not Take The Abuse Any Longer, Got A Job Out Of My Home Town, And Left When I Was Only 17; When I Informed My Principal That I Was Not Be Attending My Graduation Ceremony, He Threatened Not To Give Me My Diploma. I Just Laughed And Said, "i Don't

    My father was very abusive to my brother and myself, but mostly to our mother. I used every excuse I could to get out of the house, was lucky to have a surrogate father in my Scoutmaster, and achieved everything I could in Scouting.
    Russ6969 Russ6969 41-45 Apr 2, 2012

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    My parents who abused me

    as a kid are old now and they have no means of supporting themselves anymore. I am forced to support them now because they will die of hunger as they have zero income nor pension. Oh well.
    againstdaflow againstdaflow 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    Getting With The Program

    I have seen many out-of-control kids over the years. How sad for their families, their neighbors, classmates, the community--but mostly for themselves. And tragically, I have witnessed ineffective parenting techniques. But there's hope! Last year I was given The Total...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 2, 2013

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    Stress.....

    My biological mother just called me and started complaining that she hates her parents, my grandparents. This is the second time in three days that she has done this to me. I am 19 yrs old. and in college three hours away from home. What am I suppose to do? She (my so-called...
    Athlete2012 Athlete2012 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 8, 2013

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    Extremely Dysfunctional.

    I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family. My parents divorced when I was five years old, and my father had been cheating on my mother. When my parents split, my two siblings and I stayed with my mother for a while. My mother was extremely depressed after all of this. She...
    KatLeroux KatLeroux 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2009

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    Dysfunction Sucks!

    I don't know where to begin... I grew up in a single parent household, with a mother who was dysfunctional. It felt like nothing I did was ever good enough for her. I wish I could be more specific but I think I blocked my childhood memories because they are too painful to bear...
    dyskreet1 dyskreet1 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2011

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    Break Away

    i grew up in one,but im not gonna write all the horrible details,everyone in this group has their own horrible memories they dont need mine,im writing to say to all of you,you.ve survived as i have and we need to praise ourselves for that and not let our past ruin our future...
    annaleestarr annaleestarr 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    You Couldn't Make This Sort Of Stuff Up!

    I'm not gonna get all negative on you. I'm a happy, healthy mum of two who is on EP when I should be doing the housework. Its my day off from work and I dont want to iron a pile of clothes though, so here I am... I did have a horrible childhood. Together with my older sister...
    est941 est941 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 15, 2010

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    Didnt Realize It Was Dysfunctional Until I Was Older....

    My father had the kind of temper that made you cower and cry. Of course my brother had mental health issues which gave him the courage or stupidity to push my father's buttons more and talk back to him. So while I sat back and tried sooo hard to behave he took as much time as...
    needaffection28 needaffection28 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    Will Smith's Words Gave Me Hope:

    As someone who grew up without the ability to depend on their parents to teach them the ways of life. I was forced to find a new teacher. I can remember vividly watching my parents fight. Sometimes I would just stand there and watch them. Others, I would get in between them. Tell...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 11, 2012

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    Family Hate

    I was 13 when my dad died. a week after the funeral my mother was sleeping with most of my dads single friends or divorced friends.  She was setting an example for my two sisters Ginger and Barb. My mother was looking for a ticket out of the small Minnesota town we...
    Micayla Micayla 61-65, F 9 Responses Nov 28, 2009

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    Keys

    I had just the one key, on a string around my neck like all the other latchkey kids. Didn't anyone know we would need the other keys? The ones that unlock social relationships, leadership skills, character traits, self-discipline, and all the other things we still need but don't...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange 46-50, F Feb 24, 2013

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    I finally decided to post this.

    It's like when I post things, it makes it less bad then it is. Like I'm not hiding all of my feelings. :) Growing up, I was given a set of rules to follow. Not anyone else. Just me. If I broke the rules, you could imagine about how much trouble I would get in. I'm just going to...
    JustAskAnything JustAskAnything 13-15, F 1 Response May 18

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    Is Disfunctional The New Functional?

    So my family life pretty much sucked from the day I left the womb.  I pretty much grew up knowing that I could never please my mother.  My father took off one day and just left us all.  Never really saw him again.  My brother molested me when I was a child and...
    jaded523 jaded523 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2009

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    My mom is bulimic, my dad is an alcoholic

    and drug addict, my step mom is a prostitute, my step dad is a sex addict, my brother is a former drug addict, my sister was a ********, her husband sexually and physically abused me...just a tad dysfunctional
    babykaykez19 babykaykez19 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    Weekends At The Local Bar -- Or As My Parents Called It -- Spending Quality Time With The Kids...

    The CactusThe OasisThe CorralThe Driftwood InnTom'sLittle ItalyWhen I think of the weekend activities spent with my parents during my (and my 4 siblings') childhoods, I think of these places. Most parents take their kids camping -- or to an amusement park -- not mine. We spent...
    CakeEater57 CakeEater57 51-55, F Apr 28, 2012

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    Why Don't You Like Me Daddy?

    “Why Don’t You Like Me, Daddy?” is a courageous story about the cause and effects of physical and verbal child abuse. The cause is most likely from bipolar disorder; The Effects are explained by the author and the many behaviors that lead up to his diagnoses. Stereotyping...
    cffarmercarl cffarmercarl 51-55, M Jun 27, 2012

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    Parents are divorced

    since I was 10. I'm an only child too. I've lived with my mom and grandparents since then. I'm 20y old now. Asian culture, so i wouldn't move out till i'm financially ready and going to get married. I've never had that nuclear family bonding. We do not have fun outings...
    milttocs milttocs 18-21, M Jan 17

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    I Love My Dysfunctional Family

    My family isn't the best at times but other times they are brilliant. When I was four my parents split up and my sister and I moved in with our mum. Over time my dad met a lady and they married when I was ten. She had a son from her previous marriage and when dad and her got...
    LibranGirl LibranGirl 26-30, F 1 Response May 10, 2011

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    Money Doesnt Make Pain Go Away...

    I know that most my stories now have been about my depressing father, but getting this out is the only thing that makes me feel like someone actually cares about what happens in my life. How can you talk to your loved ones about the pain your in when most of the time they are the...
    Virtis Virtis 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2012

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    Should I let my Daddy back into my heart?

    I'm having a hard time here~ Caught between conflicts~ Basically my family's complicated in some ways~ I've had to deal with it alone~ But now my mother and sister is in the know~ It's apparently called domestic violence~ I hate that name and the label but I must come to terms...
    ElaineLovesSmiles ElaineLovesSmiles 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    So I just finished skyping with my mom

    and she said my feelings of being hurt are boring to her. And I'm moving to Florida to be near her and if I want to keep rehashing my life that I can go live near my father. That it should focus on my daughter and grandsons who want nothing to do with me yet says that I am...
    lionessstrong lionessstrong 46-50, F Apr 21

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    Scared

    Before I turned eight, I don't remember much. Maybe the occasional memory surfaced of the screams from my mother and the crying of me as a preschooler every morning as she expected me to magically wake up and dress myself at the tender age of four. My father tells me that she...
    Ninjastar19 Ninjastar19 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2012

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    Strange That I Am In This Group

    People do have a higher opinion of you considering the type of job that you are doing. Your lifestyle etc tells a lot about you. But, little do they know of your past. Your background. Your early years. I did not realise that I had subscribed to this group. While going through...
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M Mar 25, 2013

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    I'm a borderline. I really struggle with knowing

    who I am. I'm constantly lost in this 'searching' for myself. I rarely feel satisfaction. I recently lost my place on a therapeutic counselling course. I was top of my class and find psychology easy but I'm traumatised from my childhood. I exposed my pain and my tutor used it to...
    FannyAnnDee FannyAnnDee 31-35, F Jul 1

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    I Will Be Amorphous About My History

    People don't seem to quite understand that by going by preconceptions and appearances makes one seem truly blind. I am seventeen years old, black and asian. Now to the family; I have no father-son-relationship with no one, technically I have a father but he left me twice, once as...
    CSeth CSeth 16-17, M 1 Response Jun 18, 2011

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    Somethings about my family really are obnoxious.

    They all act fake to each other, and they act like it is the holy thing to do, instead of fighting like they used to... I can't stand it, and I refuse to act fake like they do. I am not saying that I want them to fight, but I want them to not be fake. What a mess. If someone in...
    BabyHoskins BabyHoskins 18-21, F Jun 1

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    Normal

    Everything seems normal till you find out it's not. Then comes bewilderment, astonishment, anger at the unfairness, resignation, cluelessness, panic-- a whirlwind of confusing reactions. What do I do now that I know this is not the way things are supposed to be? Some will fall...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2013

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    Didn't We All?

     My folks split when I was 5 ... before that there was lots of fighting and bickering between them.... lived with my mother.... My mother ended up being a prescription drug addict.... for a few years there were some really bad health issues and ambulances called ... she...
    RighteousGirl RighteousGirl 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 28, 2009

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    Chaos

    Even in all the chaos i found peace. Disfunctional or not i could find ways to be happy. My favorite toy growing up was going outside in the dirt to just dig holes. Who cares about all the abuse i found my way.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 21, 2010

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    "the Perfect Family"

    I grew up with my grandparents until I was three, when my mother came, and took me away. It felt like the first time I had met her, and my dad. Everything seemed great at first, we had a nice house, with a garden. Then when I was five, we moved into an apartment, and that´s when...
    pixiedust27 pixiedust27 22-25 1 Response Aug 18, 2011

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    Rejected Love...

    After many years of therapy that included regressive hypnotism therapy I discovered that while I was still in diapers I took on the responsibility of "helping my mom". She was bipolar but wasn't aware of it until about 8 years ago. My therapist told me that I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 18, 2009

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    My Room Was Where I Always Was.

    Growing up my father was almost always at work.(He was overworked and underpaid!) He was an achoholic who would have occaisonal flashbacks and sometimes get aggresive. My mother was lazy and just watched t.v. at night and slept during the day. My brother was physically abusive...
    Tara277 Tara277 26-30, F May 23, 2012

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    Now I Can See

    I have to think about things for awhile, or maybe write about things, to really get an understanding of the issue. I suppose that's due to the "don't think, don't talk, don't feel" environment I'm from. Anyway, I have a poem in the group, "I write poems," titled "As Always." I...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange 46-50, F Mar 14, 2013

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    It's A Terrible Cycle I Should Have Watched More Carefully

    My parents are a royal mess. My brother and I see it everyday when we look at them. Our father is bipolar and between the divorce, him remarrying, and him being left again, he's gone off the deep end (paranoid, delusional). Our moter remarried a great guy that is going to wind...
    V8fusion V8fusion 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 5, 2010

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    I Grew Up....thinking It's My Fault

    I grew up with a child molester. My father and all my uncles at one time or another molested me. My father was the worst one of all. Everyone around him believed he was good and kind and could never do wrong even I believed it to for a long time. I thought it was my fault he did...
    nighyamoon nighyamoon 51-55 2 Responses Dec 10, 2011

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    I Am A Surviver!!!

    It's weird, when I was between a child and a teenager, I really thought that I had a great family.  I thought this because stepdad had a good job and we had more money.  More than my other cousins.  BOY, was I wrong!!!  I had my mom, she did all the...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 6 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    Disfunctional? Try Chaotic.

    My life's pretty much been chaotic from the time I exited the womb. Growing up, my dad had quite a temper. He would fly into these rages, often brought on by something unconnected. When he was in this state, he would throw things, hit walls, break things... and there was always...
    UnspokenWords UnspokenWords 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 30, 2009

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    breeze90 breeze90 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    What can l say, swinger parents now married 3 times each, abusive father and mother. Poor sexual and social boundaries in the house and with my 3 older brothers. A collective...
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    They are so openly opinionated. I say "openly" because deep down we are all opinionated, at least somewhat. Everyone has their own thoughts & opinions, and that is fine. But there...
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    Yesterday I was talking to my friend Sara about 9/11 because it was yesterday 13 years ago. We talked about remembering the day which I didn't because I was only 3 at the time, but...
    KenzieluvsRupert KenzieluvsRupert 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    We don't get to choose our families unfortunately. If we did it would be nice though. I come from a very unaccepting, judgmental, conditional love sort of family and recently it...
    crystalc1973 crystalc1973 36-40, F 9 hrs ago

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    I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half and I hate his family. At first I thought they were great. We didn't have any problems and I thought they were hilarious...
    primabonna111 primabonna111 16-17, F 2 hrs ago

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