I Grew Up In A Disfunctional Family

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    I Love My Dysfunctional Family

    My family isn't the best at times but other times they are brilliant. When I was four my parents split up and my sister and I moved in with our mum. Over time my dad met a lady and they married when I was ten. She had a son from her previous marriage and when dad and her got...
    LibranGirl LibranGirl
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 10, 2011

    It's A Terrible Cycle I Should Have Watched More Carefully

    My parents are a royal mess. My brother and I see it everyday when we look at them. Our father is bipolar and between the divorce, him remarrying, and him being left again, he's gone off the deep end (paranoid, delusional). Our moter remarried a great guy that is going to wind...
    V8fusion V8fusion
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 5, 2010

    And part of me wants to do the same thing he

    did I have often thought of running away and living at a best friends house Part of me wants to escape this distopia of a family and find something that is real To find good times and bad times where people are predictable and don't have random out bursts of anger that are...
    kaylaes52 kaylaes52
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2015

    My late mother liked to say

    that there is no such thing as a "functional family," just varying degrees of dysfunction.
    utahwriter utahwriter
    41-45, M
    1 Response Apr 21, 2014

    You don't respect me In fact I think you

    respect very few people You are uncontrollable You tell me things no child should now and then you demand respect like it's something that is just given out You have no boundaries, especially when it comes to me You are unpredictable when it comes to anger or to happiness. It's...
    kaylaes52 kaylaes52
    18-21, F
    Mar 20, 2015

    Should I let my Daddy back into my heart?

    I'm having a hard time here~ Caught between conflicts~ Basically my family's complicated in some ways~ I've had to deal with it alone~ But now my mother and sister is in the know~ It's apparently called domestic violence~ I hate that name and the label but I must come to terms...
    ElaineLovesSmiles ElaineLovesSmiles
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 27, 2014

    Keys

    I had just the one key, on a string around my neck like all the other latchkey kids. Didn't anyone know we would need the other keys? The ones that unlock social relationships, leadership skills, character traits, self-discipline, and all the other things we still need but don't...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange
    46-50, F
    Feb 24, 2013

    Family Hate

    I was 13 when my dad died. a week after the funeral my mother was sleeping with most of my dads single friends or divorced friends.  She was setting an example for my two sisters Ginger and Barb. My mother was looking for a ticket out of the small Minnesota town we...
    Micayla Micayla
    61-65, F
    5 Responses Nov 28, 2009

    I don't think I am abused.

    I love my dad so much but I'm not sure if he feels the same. I try too explain how mean he is to me to my friends but they've met him and say he's too nice and they don't believe me- I need someone to believe me and tell me if it is ok. My dad is incredibly strict with me- a lot...
    smilecosucan smilecosucan
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2015

    and am still in one .

    its hard and difficult . they make things real difficult for me.
    furrycats furrycats
    31-35
    2 Responses Aug 20, 2015

    So I just finished skyping with my mom

    and she said my feelings of being hurt are boring to her. And I'm moving to Florida to be near her and if I want to keep rehashing my life that I can go live near my father. That it should focus on my daughter and grandsons who want nothing to do with me yet says that I am...
    lionessstrong lionessstrong
    46-50, F
    Apr 21, 2014

    Disfunctional? Try Chaotic.

    My life's pretty much been chaotic from the time I exited the womb. Growing up, my dad had quite a temper. He would fly into these rages, often brought on by something unconnected. When he was in this state, he would throw things, hit walls, break things... and there was always...
    UnspokenWords UnspokenWords
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 30, 2009

    moms side mostly addicts.

    . dads side mostly alcoholics catholics 1/3one side jehovah witnesses 1/3 other side sure physical abuse, verbal etc etc.. seen alot of death violence, i've had my *** kicked within an inch of my life the first time i learned respect. (i'm actually gonna share a story here) lol...
    Zakkh1994 Zakkh1994
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Oct 10, 2014

    Will Smith's Words Gave Me Hope:

    As someone who grew up without the ability to depend on their parents to teach them the ways of life. I was forced to find a new teacher. I can remember vividly watching my parents fight. Sometimes I would just stand there and watch them. Others, I would get in between them. Tell...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Sep 11, 2012

    My parents who abused me

    as a kid are old now and they have no means of supporting themselves anymore. I am forced to support them now because they will die of hunger as they have zero income nor pension. Oh well.
    againstdaflow againstdaflow
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 5, 2014

    Extremely Dysfunctional.

    I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family. My parents divorced when I was five years old, and my father had been cheating on my mother. When my parents split, my two siblings and I stayed with my mother for a while. My mother was extremely depressed after all of this. She...
    KatLeroux KatLeroux
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2009

    Strange That I Am In This Group

    People do have a higher opinion of you considering the type of job that you are doing. Your lifestyle etc tells a lot about you. But, little do they know of your past. Your background. Your early years. I did not realise that I had subscribed to this group. While going through...
    HardingP119 HardingP119
    36-40, M
    Mar 25, 2013

    Stress.....

    My biological mother just called me and started complaining that she hates her parents, my grandparents. This is the second time in three days that she has done this to me. I am 19 yrs old. and in college three hours away from home. What am I suppose to do? She (my so-called...
    Athlete2012 Athlete2012
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 8, 2013

    The Ghost In My Mothers House

    yesterday the ghost in my mothers house washed our dishes and cleaned our rooms, made my bed the week before that it knocked on the window my mom's bedroom and she ran to it and told the ghost to leave, because the kids are still awake and before that i found stubble left in our...
    Phasmid Phasmid
    18-21, F
    Jun 27, 2011

    Now I Can See

    I have to think about things for awhile, or maybe write about things, to really get an understanding of the issue. I suppose that's due to the "don't think, don't talk, don't feel" environment I'm from. Anyway, I have a poem in the group, "I write poems," titled "As Always." I...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange
    46-50, F
    Mar 14, 2013

    My dad split up when i was 6 months old ,

    my moms fiancé sexually assaulted me.
    blondieforever3 blondieforever3
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jun 30, 2014

    Break Away

    i grew up in one,but im not gonna write all the horrible details,everyone in this group has their own horrible memories they dont need mine,im writing to say to all of you,you.ve survived as i have and we need to praise ourselves for that and not let our past ruin our future...
    annaleestarr annaleestarr
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Mar 6, 2010

    My Mom Doesn'T Want To Listen To Me

    I try to talk to my mom and only half the time does she listen to me even If I am telling her about my crush or something she only half listens....I can tell her something and if she doesn't want to hear it, she gets an attitude or gets frustrated. I try to tell her stuff...
    AmandaHugandKiss2014 AmandaHugandKiss2014
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 4, 2013

    My mother in law raped my brother in law

    when he was little! He was a mess on drugs and alcohol and finally committed suicide. I believe my husband was molested or raped too but has pushed the memories down! My brother in law told his father, and sister but they did not tell the mother until I confronted them after his...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 21

    Parents are divorced

    since I was 10. I'm an only child too. I've lived with my mom and grandparents since then. I'm 20y old now. Asian culture, so i wouldn't move out till i'm financially ready and going to get married. I've never had that nuclear family bonding. We do not have fun outings...
    milttocs milttocs
    18-21, M
    Jan 17, 2014

    Is Disfunctional The New Functional?

    So my family life pretty much sucked from the day I left the womb.  I pretty much grew up knowing that I could never please my mother.  My father took off one day and just left us all.  Never really saw him again.  My brother molested me when I was a child and...
    jaded523 jaded523
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 4, 2009

    My mom don't even know

    when I'm there and when I'm not.. She come home last night arguing with her boyfriend, so I walked out the back door, I was out for 3 hours and didn't have a text message saying "where are you" ect, nothing. Feel **** to be unimportant 😞
    teerosex teerosex
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Mar 1, 2015

    And they still are and I love it.

    . Different personalities in one household cannot be functional.
    Lee124 Lee124
    41-45, F
    Oct 11, 2014

    Dysfunction Sucks!

    I don't know where to begin... I grew up in a single parent household, with a mother who was dysfunctional. It felt like nothing I did was ever good enough for her. I wish I could be more specific but I think I blocked my childhood memories because they are too painful to bear...
    dyskreet1 dyskreet1
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2011

    Money Doesnt Make Pain Go Away...

    I know that most my stories now have been about my depressing father, but getting this out is the only thing that makes me feel like someone actually cares about what happens in my life. How can you talk to your loved ones about the pain your in when most of the time they are the...
    Virtis Virtis
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 21, 2012

    My mom and I haven't been able to work out our

    issues with each other for as long as I can remember and we are finally burnt out and were giving up yet she still watches my daughter!
    cms8787 cms8787
    22-25
    1 Response Dec 30, 2014

    Didn't We All?

     My folks split when I was 5 ... before that there was lots of fighting and bickering between them.... lived with my mother.... My mother ended up being a prescription drug addict.... for a few years there were some really bad health issues and ambulances called ... she...
    RighteousGirl RighteousGirl
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 28, 2009

    Somethings about my family really are obnoxious.

    They all act fake to each other, and they act like it is the holy thing to do, instead of fighting like they used to... I can't stand it, and I refuse to act fake like they do. I am not saying that I want them to fight, but I want them to not be fake. What a mess. If someone in...
    BabyHoskins BabyHoskins
    18-21, F
    Jun 1, 2014

    ... Sigh it's a long

    and old story. I'm working to move past it.this healing journey is long and it gets hard at times with emotional triggers! But I'm thankful for the people on and offline that have come to help me through
    sweetartventure sweetartventure
    31-35, F
    Mar 23, 2015

    Rejected Love...

    After many years of therapy that included regressive hypnotism therapy I discovered that while I was still in diapers I took on the responsibility of "helping my mom". She was bipolar but wasn't aware of it until about 8 years ago. My therapist told me that I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 18, 2009

    Getting With The Program

    I have seen many out-of-control kids over the years. How sad for their families, their neighbors, classmates, the community--but mostly for themselves. And tragically, I have witnessed ineffective parenting techniques. But there's hope! Last year I was given The Total...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 2, 2013

    Normal

    Everything seems normal till you find out it's not. Then comes bewilderment, astonishment, anger at the unfairness, resignation, cluelessness, panic-- a whirlwind of confusing reactions. What do I do now that I know this is not the way things are supposed to be? Some will fall...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 15, 2013

    How Do I Help My Brother?

    Far as I can tell, my folks' divorce had a lasting impact on my brother (and me, of course), which seems to be more devastating as we grow older. Now over 50, my brother has been out of work for a year. He does not "get" so many basic things, like relationships, work ethics...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange
    46-50, F
    Oct 21, 2013

    My mom is bulimic, my dad is an alcoholic

    and drug addict, my step mom is a prostitute, my step dad is a sex addict, my brother is a former drug addict, my sister was a ********, her husband sexually and physically abused me...just a tad dysfunctional
    babykaykez19 babykaykez19
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 27, 2014

    I'm a borderline. I really struggle with knowing

    who I am. I'm constantly lost in this 'searching' for myself. I rarely feel satisfaction. I recently lost my place on a therapeutic counselling course. I was top of my class and find psychology easy but I'm traumatised from my childhood. I exposed my pain and my tutor used it to...
    FannyAnnDee FannyAnnDee
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 1, 2014

    I wish I felt more love

    and connection in my family, it damages a part of me and every time I see a movie/scenario where love is expressed, I cry!
    fajphummie1 fajphummie1
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jun 30, 2014

    I hate my childhood memories,

    It was a joke. No food in the refrigerator, my father has a good job and we were always broke. I ran away at 14 and married a guy I had been secretly seeing for 2 years. My parents were alcoholics and they divorced. My mom got sober, I was beat as a kid had to miss school to...
    Katl Katl
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 2, 2014

    You Couldn't Make This Sort Of Stuff Up!

    I'm not gonna get all negative on you. I'm a happy, healthy mum of two who is on EP when I should be doing the housework. Its my day off from work and I dont want to iron a pile of clothes though, so here I am... I did have a horrible childhood. Together with my older sister...
    est941 est941
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 15, 2010

    Chaos

    Even in all the chaos i found peace. Disfunctional or not i could find ways to be happy. My favorite toy growing up was going outside in the dirt to just dig holes. Who cares about all the abuse i found my way.
    Arorin Arorin
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2010

    I Don't Know Why I Bother Anymore

    My parents have even more mental problems than I do. My mom fell out of love with my dad after having two kids, then stayed with him and had three more. I asked her why and she said she wanted to have a son to pass on the family's name and she wanted to pass on her good genetics...
    Phasmid Phasmid
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2010

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