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I Grew Up With a Verbally Abusive Mother

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    She Taught Me What Not To Do...

    I do not know where to start... it`s hard to tell ppl you hate your mother and why... you are always defending the why... just because she is your mother... I was a rebellious teen.. with an over protective judgmental mother, she called me stupid , fat, useless etc... I tried to...
    thunder72 thunder72 41-45 4 Responses May 29, 2013

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    Competitive, Jealous, Abusive

    Sadly the word mother is meant to be an expression of Love, nurturing, guidance and security. But mine manifested the opposite.... No matter how much i longed for her love and affection all i got was abuse and rejection and criticism. The wounds are so deep but its time to really...
    KK888 KK888 31-35 6 Responses Aug 19, 2013

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    I Let Go Of The Hate

    Ive never had a '' loving relationship '' with my mother. I grew up mainly with with my grandma because my mum did not want to take responsibly for me. To her, i was a burden and not a joy, and to me, my childhood was something i survived, rather than experienced. I think back to...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 4 Responses Oct 31, 2012

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    I'm Building a Bunker With One Thousand Balconies...

    Yes, I am. Well, it's also true: I haven't money enough to live alone, to rent a tiny flat just for myself... and I doubt I'll be able to do so at least in the near future....but, there's good news: I had understood that, nevertheless, four material walls can't protect...
    H2O2 H2O2 41-45 4 Responses Apr 26, 2009

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    Mother's Day Is Looming Large ...

    Wondering if any of you have spent time picking through Mother's Day cards, yet can't seem to find one what truly expresses your feelings ? Well, for years I have - then usually end up allowing my frustration with the process to cause me to just grab one and go. It has...
    CalicoSilver CalicoSilver 51-55, M 1 Response May 6, 2010

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    Emotional Abuse and Neglect By My Mother

    My life has been severely affected by how my mother treated me growing up. I'm 40 now, but to this day I still have problems that I can relate back to my childhood. I was subjected to emotional abuse in many different forms. I was often criticised, belittled, made fun of...
    IndigoPeachblossom IndigoPeachblossom 36-40, F 111 Responses Mar 8, 2009

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    I just turned 40 and I didn't realize the

    longterm effects of having a mother that is verbally and emotionally abusive. I have 2 sisters, one older and one younger, so I fall right in the middle, the balance. I have been the scapegoat for my mother's guilting, blame displacement and harassment for decades. In 2009 I...
    Newmoonstar74 Newmoonstar74 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    Yes She Was.

    She had 4 sons and a dead beat husband and a whole lot to put up with. So I guess it was allowed.
    Thevy29 Thevy29 26-30, M 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Keep At It. Your Day Is Comin..

    it took many strides and struggles to get to this place but if anyone ever feels down or not going to make it. know that there is a pot of gold that sits and bestows upon you all great wishes and wealth of good fortune if you just keep at it and know that your not alone. that...
    goldenview goldenview 31-35 8 Responses Nov 25, 2010

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    Can't Remember A Single Kind Word

    I'm sure there were some but the overall memory of rejection and criticism is so strong that all I can remember are negative events. And it started from day one.My mom wanted a baby girl and if she'd had her way, would have sent me back, or left me at the hospital - her words...
    AlbertSAT AlbertSAT 66-70, M 3 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    Feeling Undermined

    My mother was beautiful, witty, charming, intellegent - but mentally cruel. I was her favourite daughter until I was 12 and started to rebel, and say what I really thought. She was pretty lethal, critical in the extreme, unsupportive, uninterested in anyone who didn't serve her...
    javeachica javeachica 56-60, F 35 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    A Psychotic, A Tyrant, And A Bully All Rolled Into One

    My Mother, simply put, is the meanest person I know. She is a psychotic, a tyrant, and a bully all rolled into one. My parents split up when I was around 5-6 years old. I'm not exactly sure of the year their final split was made, nor when the divorce was made final. But after the...
    wishiwasabrady wishiwasabrady 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 29, 2012

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    Was She Really Verbally Abusive?

    I've tried to figure out for awhile now whether my mother was really verbally abusive when I was a kid or not. Sometimes I think she was. Sometimes I think I was just too sensitive. Many times she was kind and loving. She spoiled me at times. Other times she would seem to...
    SomeoneOutThere SomeoneOutThere 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 22, 2013

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    Yeah Fine I Am Worthless.

            My mom was somewhat great when it comes to her responsibilities. She never lets the house dirty. She always attends all the family need but not my emotional need. I feel like she doesn't even care. When I was young she never let me go out and socialize. She wants me...
    mariadolce mariadolce 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    My Mother Verbally Abuses Me,

    Sometimes she gets physical, and hits me. One minute she loves me then the next she hates me. I know to run, when the flames come into her eyes. Other kids feel lucky when they get a new phone, or a sketch-pad, I'm lucky if my mom is in a good mood when she comes home. One time...
    Kayleelovesbubby Kayleelovesbubby 18-21, F 6 Responses May 30, 2012

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    Im Not Wanted

    i cant hate my mom. she calls me a ***** and tells me how im going to get knocked up (no im not a virgin however im not in a relationship so therfore not sexually active) last night i was told how she cant deal with me that i make her want to slit her throat. i recorded her and...
    kaidaRen kaidaRen 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    Help Me. I'M All Alone

    "help" I croaked. I ran out into the rain. After every storm there is a rainbow, the old saying goes. But my storm, is a hurricane. Fueled by the churning waves of anger boiling inside of me.
    obo3 obo3 22-25, M Jun 28, 2013

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    I will always love my mom.

    Sometimes it can be hard to express that love for her when she drinks herself to sleep every night and lashes out every morning but I firmly believe that everyone deserves a second chance. Just because I don't live with her doesn't mean I can't help her. She is my mother and I...
    SwooshZero SwooshZero 16-17, F May 15

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    Love To Hate In A Flash

    I am now in my late twenties, far from my mother. However, I grew up with my mother as an only child. My father lives in another town, and is unfortunately also emotionally abusive to those around him... I guess they found something in common when they got together :)). Basically...
    orlikha orlikha 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    Thank God She Is Dead!

    I finally told my brother that I didn't want to talk to my mother ever again.  After 45 years, I had had enough of her abuse.  I told him I didn't want to hear about it until after she died.  He told her (stupid) and she had a hissy fit.  That was in December. The doctors...
    ladygodiva110 ladygodiva110 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    My Mother

    When I was a kid my mother would call me names and berate me. She made fun of how I had no friends. She made fun of how I never stood up for myself and always got bullied. She made fun of how fat I was. She said my body looked like a girl's. She said I was nothing but...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 18, 2013

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    My Mother Was Very Abusive

    my mother was very abusive verbly and phyisically abused me and my sisters my twin sister hasnt forgiven my mother but i have to forgive her is to let my pain go and to hate her stll means i hold on to the pain, i wished i could get my sister to let the pain go and...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 22, 2009

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    I Grew Up With A Verbally Abusive Mother

    Since I have been very young, my mother and I have had a love/hate relationship. While as I have gotten older I have found more strength in myself, I still find myself insecure, anxious, and closed-off at times emotionally, unable to express feelings. I never expressed feelings...
    thespark01 thespark01 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Living With An Emotionally Abusive Mother.

    I am 17 and will be 18 on Jan. 31 all my life I have stayed with my mother. There is 5 of us 3boys and 2 girls. I am the middle child but the oldest daughter. Growing up my mom never really cared for me or cared to spend time with me or give me the mother daughter bond that every...
    Tikarrag16 Tikarrag16 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    Today

    My mom verbally and emotionally abused me. She is made up of a roller coaster of emotions and everyday I come home worried if I'm going to say something to make her yell. She doesn't always call me a ***** or something...it's more like word that REALLY hurt. Like 'spoiled...
    Laylabeandip Laylabeandip 13-15 4 Responses Apr 9, 2013

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    My story is not much different then any of

    yours. We are all survivors. I am the oldest of 6 children. Never knew my father who passed away when I was 10. Grew up in and out of foster homes. My mother lead a very selfish life style. My mothers hobbies were drinking daily and men, many different men. Out of 6 children...
    lover4life33 lover4life33 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    I Love My Mom But She Is Still Mean!

    I'm am the youngest child and I'm ten. My sister moved out. She has not been like this my whole life. It started when bob came( that is not his real name). And my parents are still together. And I hate to say it but my dad is my favorite parent. Ok so want to know how my mom meet...
    Hannahu10 Hannahu10 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6, 2013

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    Things She's Told Me (in No Particular Order)

    "We didn't want you" "Well, obviously you were a mistake." "What did you do to drive him off?" (After I was abandoned by my father at 7) "Look at yourself. Who would want that?" "Why are you so fat?" "Beauty is all about bone structure. I have perfect bone structure, and a nice...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    Ashamed

    For the longest time I hid my face behind my hair because I thought I was ugly. I wore a jacket every day to school because I thought I was fat. I would never take it off no matter how hot it was. I believed this was true because of my mother and sister. I had low self esteem and...
    Dezaria Dezaria 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2012

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    Stepfather Can't Buy Groceries With His Own Money

    When I was back home from college for one summer my mom got into a fight with my stepfather, a good guy who takes care of her and even does chores around the house, over a purchase that he made. The purchase was for food at a grocery store while he was working out of town. A...
    hunrein hunrein 26-30 1 Response Jul 8, 2013

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    Being told by my mother

    that I was selfish & worse since I was a pre-teen damaged me... Made me believe my own happiness wasn't worth a damn (even though I could never make her happy either). Every time something went right for me, she made me feel like I was being selfish for having it! I love my mom...
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Am I Evil?

    I feel like strangling her sometimes. She yells all the time, she is mad at everyone all the time...if i dare answer back it could turn ugly. She verbally, physically and mentally abuses all of us, me my sister and even my dad. She wont commit she has a problem, no...its us. We...
    kanukul kanukul 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 1, 2013

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    A Psychotic, A Tyrant, And A Bully All Rolled Into One

    This is VERY lengthy, so please bear with me here. (this is an edited re-post from a year ago) My Mother, simply put, is the meanest, angriest, most unpleasant person I know. She is a psychotic, a tyrant, and a bully all rolled into one. My parents split up when I was around 5-6...
    wishiwasabrady wishiwasabrady 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    Why Am I The Bad One?

    It was my husband who finally told me that the things my mother said and did sounded like abuse. Up until then I was always led to believe that there was something wrong with me, not her. As a child I thought it was normal to be expected to do manual labour (from the age of 5...
    DorianKaladar DorianKaladar 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 24, 2013

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    Betrayed and Abused Verbally By Mom

    My story is like a lot of others, I know, Im 49 now, but I still cant help feeling jealous of others who have great relationships with their moms, every once in a while.  I grew up in the late 1960's most of the 1970's in Southern California.  A memory...
    merijoe merijoe 46-50 10 Responses Apr 26, 2009

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    My Mother Stole My Childhood

    It's sad that all my childhood experiences which are supposed to be happy and pleasant, like road trips, holidays and birthdays, are extremely depressing for me. I don't know why, every one of those times the abuse got worse. My mom would be especially volatile not only towards...
    TiffanyHepburn TiffanyHepburn 22-25, F 11 Responses Apr 6, 2012

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    I am now 23 years old.

    I thought it was a good idea to seek out my biological mother the moment I had turned 18. I eventually found her, started talking to her. At first she seemed amazing, comforting, smart, and intelligent. As time passed she became abusive to me. Constantly putting me down in many...
    TRVPiiN TRVPiiN 22-25, M Sep 8

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    Anti-mothers

    I'm a resourceful, ingenuous, brave, strong and brilliant person... who always felt helpless and miserable deep inside, and keeps feeling that way because I've been treated as and inferior and despicable piece of meat since my childhood. Each and...
    H2O2 H2O2 41-45 16 Responses Mar 7, 2009

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    Im growing up with one

    and its really getting tough..Is there anyone out there that is willing to talk to me.Too much is going on:(
    SammyLautner SammyLautner 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    My mother has always been verbally (sometimes

    physically) abusive, manipulate woman. However, I don't blame her for that since she obviously has mental disorders yet she has never accepted profesional help. I'm only sad that I can't love her, all I feel is this common sense of respect, knoweledge and duty to take care of...
    BlindFate BlindFate 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    Today Is Mother's Day & It Makes Me Want To Puke

    She, the human incubator, never wanted me and never let me forget it.  She was sweet and lovable to others, but not to me.  And even when she was, it made me want to gag.  She never missed any opportunity to belittle, critizise, scream, punch, push, kick, shake, etc etc etc...
    mrsg2002 mrsg2002 56-60 2 Responses May 8, 2011

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    I'm currently 15 and my mother hates me.

    My father is the only real person I can talk to and connect with. My father and I are extremely close but he is my step father. My actual dad left when I was born. My step father doesn't have custody of me so by law I can't live with him and he can't see me. My mother only yells...
    cajunboy46 cajunboy46 13-15, M 1 Response May 15

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    It Never Stops

    im 19 and living at home because I dont have any way to get into college, idk if i even have any talents for a career. If i showed my mother a drawing, she'd insult it. same with a story, a song, a picture, etc. I gave up ever sharing any thing with her after 14. She loves my...
    JustAnobodie JustAnobodie 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 14, 2013

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    Just Can't Trust Her

     My mother has been verbally abusing me since I was very young. She still does it. You'd think that now we're both adults she would have learned to respect me as another human being. Nope. She's even more abusive now than before.  She's been telling me I was a loser and not...
    4vrUnique 4vrUnique 46-50 69 Responses Jul 27, 2009

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    My Mom Doesn't Ever Deserve The Title Mom.

    Since I was about 9, well it as far as i can remember. My mom would blame me for everything wrong between me and my sister since we don't get along. But she'd find a way to yell at me about everything. Almost every day she"d tell me how stupid I am or how just seeing her ruined...
    Katnissevermean Katnissevermean 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2013

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    Impossible Or Challenging?

    I will not hate her... Impossible as it may appear, impossible as it may be something quite crazy dawned upon me this morning. That I will not hate her. I understand this woman has this need to be hated because she hates herself so much and i probably represent whatis closest to...
    KK888 KK888 31-35 Aug 20, 2013

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    The Pain

    She was a cold women. That's how I could describe it. I didn't ever understand what went wrong, what memories are missing to her horribleness, or what goodness compelled me to cry when she passed away. When i was little from my earliest memories I remember her being gentle and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 21, 2013

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    Still Struggling At 52

    I am 52 years old and still seek my.mothers approval...she always criticized me but my.only sibling a brother..was.king...Just this week she told me that I make her sick..I was always told I was fat..talk to much..cant keep a secret...I am a "segal" (my fathers last name). I have...
    jodisjewels jodisjewels 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    My mother is so evil.

    I can't even say I love her anymore. The older I got, the more the abuse worsened. I try so hard to please her. I do not go out unless it's to my boyfriend's house, I do not smoke, I do not drink, I do not do any illegal drugs. I am not allowed to get a job, unless I pay 60...
    kyraisakitty kyraisakitty 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    There'S Not Title, It'S About Who I Am.

    I really enjoyed reading your stories and all the responses. Isn't the funniest part of our situations when you go to a friends house in high school and your shocked with the kindness of your friends mothers. In a very sad way, for me that was the best part about going to my...
    haggas haggas 46-50, M Feb 1, 2013

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    I really feel sorry to see

    that some people don't have living mothers or their mom was on drugs or had issues and took it out on then. GOD bleed you guys and may he take care of you.
    sashakimi3 sashakimi3 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 10

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