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I Grew Up With Domestic Violence

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 202 People

    A Rainbow of Abuse (if Under 18, Only Read If You Need Help)

    Growing up, I survived a whole rainbow of abuse, and would like to offer condolence too anyone who needs it. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been through sexual abuse on many occassions, verbal abuse around every corner, and have been severly beaten by both parents. If anyone...
    BirdsFlyAway BirdsFlyAway 18-21, F 12 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    Just Needed To Get It Out

    Well i dunno where to start with this one either, feels wierd that im about to write about my life as i usually dont even let myself think about it. No one knows me, not deep down. Ive got a lot of friends, and a fair few which im soooo close to i call them family. But they dont...
    sashaaax0o sashaaax0o 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Scars

    My dad hit my mom.  I never saw him do it, but I know he did.  I know because I could hear them, behind closed doors, fighting an endless battle over things so unimportant, that now, years later, she can't remember what the arguments were about.  It's frightening...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 4 Responses May 17, 2009

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    From when I was born till i was ten years old,

    I lived in that environment. The strangest part is how i thought it was normal, now im constantly second guessing what normal family should be like. I never really talked about it, when i first got away from it my Dad tried to push me to see a councilor, but i refused to admit...
    EcclesiastesNIV EcclesiastesNIV 16-17, F Mar 8

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    Home Is Where The Hatred Is

    so I left.many times,especially around christmas-which could be tricky in the freezing cold. i learned to haunt the local college,they had libraries,showers at the gym,occasional beersoaked couches in frathouse basements. escapism served me well,no need for me to be part of any...
    dubkebab dubkebab 36-40, M 6 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    Pretending

    I remember each time too fondly, the nights my father would finally snap. The tension would be rising for weeks and I would know it was going to happen again. Even still my young mind wanted to believe my father was telling the truth, that he wouldn't harm my mother again but he...
    Babyt13 Babyt13 18-21 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    I Thought The Nightmares Would Never End

    Daddy and Mom loved each other. The smiles in their wedding day pictures are genuine and honest. But no one except the family knew, for a number of years, whenever Daddy drank, which he did every night, he was a monster. Sober, he was charming and polite - the best husband and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Jun 25, 2013

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    The memories are vague,

    and fragmented due to time, old age, and because of all of the years of drinking and doing drugs. However, I still remember enough to remind me of just how bad my childhood really was. I remember to this very day seeing my grandma lying in a bed, not long before she died of...
    Panman60 Panman60 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 8

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    7 Years.

    Okay. This is the first time I've ever shared a story of mine about this. I have a long and sorry past and I am only 14 years old. I will most likely put it all out because honestly, it feels good to have a clean slate sometimes. To begin, I would like to say that I have a very...
    Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Grew Up With It To...

     I grew up with domestic violence as well....watched my Dad beat the hell out of my mother all the time, he was an loser alcoholic.....she turned into one after wards jut to numb the pain and escaped. I and my other nine siblings tried more times and one to stop him from...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    It's So Scary..

    I remember when my father hit my mother.. it was terrifying.. and I tried to help her and he just hit me out of the way.. I was so scared.. then a family friend came in and took him out for the rest of the day.. I thought for sure that my mother would leave him.. but she never...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2010

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    Ashamed Of My Parents

    my past affects me to this day...the people a young child has no other option but to trust ...parents and granparents ...not to mention your mothers new found live in boyfriend.. myself and my siblings were abused by all on a daily basis... lack of food..daily beatings no hygiene...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Lucky

    It was only a small part of my life but it has haunted me. My parents got divorced when I was 5 because my mother wanted to party and my father wouldn't let her. Mother of 4 I might add. So a year later she had what should have been a one night stand but she got pregnant and a...
    wolfcon wolfcon 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    Time

    This will be the time he kills her. On the porch, overlooking the yard in which we play and pretend we're rulers of kingdoms in which abuse is punishable by death. In the hallway, where every inch of wall is decorated with crayon scribbles of safe places. On the shattered panes...
    bombe bombe 22-25, F Mar 28, 2013

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    No Where To Run Or Hide So I Escaped Into Myself.

    I didn't find out till I was 14 or so but, my father was a cocaine addict. My parents got separated twice, I remember being little and seeing my father beat my mom, randomly finding cops outside our house and being confused as to why, my mother packing me and my brother in a car...
    dreamingpoppet dreamingpoppet 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    I Dont Know.

    I don't know how it feels. But I know how it feels. I never got hit by my parents-not really. But I got beaten by a kidnapper. All I know is PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS YOU CANT JUST DO WATEVER U WANT WITH THEM! I'm sorry for you I mean it. Keep strong!
    LivLov LivLov 13-15, F Oct 14, 2012

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    With Love To All Of Us

    and once the storm is over , you wont remember how you made it though, how you managed to survive, You wont even be sure if the storm is over, But one things for sure...when you walk out you wont be the same as when you walked in. Thats what this this storm is all about .. . My...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Childhood Lessons

    The dark haired little girl tiptoed quietly to the top of the staircase and sat down softly on the first tread. Unnoticed by the adults below, she pulled her slender legs up towards her chest and wrapped her small arms around them, her bare feet poking out from underneath the...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 33 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    An Endless Circle

    This is the first time i have ever really said this out loud so here goes .i had a happy normal childhood till the age of around 12 years old. they was only ever me?(me been the oldest) , my mum and brother .my mum started to run at my and hit me at first it wasnt very much but...
    hippogryphlass hippogryphlass 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    Salt Water.

    I fell asleep. Now, every child growing up in a violent home knows that this is a big mistake. If a fight kicks off, who will defend my Mum? Who will call the police, the ambulance? Our neighbours can't be counted on; the whole cul de sac is aware of the savage beatings...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15, 2010

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    You Never Loved Me

    Diapers. I was still in them. Just little. So little. It wasn’t a rash. I didn’t leave your home with a rash every week. You weren’t very good at being a dad. Never were. Still aren’t. How could you do it? I was your daughter. Your baby. I was fragile. I...
    PreviouslyBroken PreviouslyBroken 22-25, F Feb 14, 2011

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    Why Do They Stay?

    my mother, has had the police out here more times than i can count, but still goes back to the guy....sigh, (not my dad)
    jones22 jones22 18-21 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    And its a horrible disease isn't it EP. =) Of course we know that about 85% of all domestic violence relationships involve the act of when men abuse women. 1 in 4 women will, not...
    zonus zonus 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 7

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    Yesterday morning there was a *breaking news* story about a murder that took place around midnight Saturday night (very close to where I live). A husband had strangled his wife to...
    Polly73 Polly73 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 29

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    I am proud to say that I am a survivor of domestic violence, but what most people don't understand that your battle is still not over. It's been approximately three years since I...
    yessika23 yessika23 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 9

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    About two weeks ago my now ex-boyfriend strangled me and knocked me around. He refused to let me leave, even though I begged and pleaded with him. When I tried to escape he...
    Smashley007 Smashley007 26-30 Sep 27

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    I've decided to share my most resent experience and I need help. My mom made fun of another disabled person yesterday and I stood up to her again and she got really mad. We...
    Madis9957 Madis9957 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 24

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    It's been a year two months ago since I've gotten out an abusive relationship! I am a survivor but it still affects me, and I really been brushing it off till now. It affects my...
    NewLife0817 NewLife0817 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    I am just out of the psychiatric after 6 months. I have complex post traumatic stess disorder and it is not really understood well in this country. I was in an abusive...
    akce akce 36-40 Oct 6

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    Yes. For a long time. I wasn't stupid. I didn't have that 'but I love her so much' crap that victims often say. I took it because I had three kids and a hard job to do at the time...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Oct 7

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    You never get over it, you learn to cope then rebuild.. You never forget.. I will never foreget the feeling of sheer terror when his hands were around my neck.. The exact moment I...
    Memoriesremain Memoriesremain 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    15 Years of Hell Part 2- We were flown to Texas where we had lived previously,but I knew that was the 1st place my husband would look! Through a group that helps battered women and...
    SexiestChocolate SexiestChocolate 41-45, F Oct 9

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    I am still dealing with a year of emotional abuse. but one of the ways I am dealing with it is through my art. If you would like to submit anonymous content for my project check me...
    insideourheadsproject insideourheadsproject 18-21, F Oct 14

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    I have been with the father of my daughter for 6 years. 3 and a half of them married to him. The most recent time two years ago he was verbally abusive and controlling. He would...
    butterflyhearts17 butterflyhearts17 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I got this welt on my head today. My boyfriend has been putting ice to it but here I sit alone now that he's at work.... Wondering why I still deal with it. We get violent at least...
    sarahhunnix3 sarahhunnix3 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I recently ended my relationship with a boyfriend who was emotionally, verbally, & physically abusive to me. After 9 mos. Of insane drama, I thought the breakup was going to be the...
    11pinklotus 11pinklotus 36-40, F Oct 6

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    15 Years of Hell Part 1-I divorced my husband for good 11 years ago next March and left him 14 years ago in January after 12 years of marriage. I only took myself,my three children...
    SexiestChocolate SexiestChocolate 41-45, F Oct 9

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    I have been married for three years and have known my husband for four. When we met, it was an instant connection where I could with him about anything and be myself. We started to...
    btmama1108 btmama1108 22-25, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I get really mad at these men who advocate 'Domestic Discipline' (which to me is just another term for wife beating) and frustrated with women who put up with being abused. Now I'm...
    Jilly53 Jilly53 56-60, F a week ago

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    So the other day I was at my friends house and she started to braid my hair. I freaked out and moved away. She looked at me and asked my I don't like people touching my hair. I...
    Madis9957 Madis9957 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 27

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    It's a shame how some men can beat a woman bloody. There is no excuse for it. They know what they are doing is wrong yet they keep doing it. I wish there was a button I could press...
    guideme2truth guideme2truth 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    I have been a survivor for 3 years now and only a select few people know about my situation and my family is not one of them. They dont know how much pain I went through and still...
    yessika23 yessika23 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 9

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    I feel so alone at moments, even though I know that I have my family. I have loved this man for four years now but it has been the hardest thing in my life. There is not a day...
    strongwoman517 strongwoman517 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 11

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    Has any other female been through this?
    LadyBlacc89 LadyBlacc89 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I just filed a protection order. I'm finally going to be free of him. I'm empowered, yet terrified.
    findinghome90 findinghome90 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    PART 4 Lou has tried to leave his marriage. It's difficult to leave with no support and two kids. I get that. I was able to leave because there was domestic violence, and my...
    NCheartinNY NCheartinNY 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 29

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    Iv recently just left my partner due to domestic abuse, he first hit me the start of this year. he grabbed me by the neck on the bed, shouting abuse saying he hates me, I could not...
    Kelly1012 Kelly1012 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 9

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    Just now starting to realize how little information is out there about ACoA. The characteristics of an ACoA are virtually everywhere - but everything seems to stop with them. It...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 30

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    Madhya Pradesh, September 29, 2014: The burning of a church in India’s Madhya Pradesh has stoked fears of widening religious violence against Christians in the Hindu-majority...
    valha11a valha11a 46-50, M Oct 3

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