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I Grew Up With Domestic Violence

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 201 People

    Scars

    My dad hit my mom.  I never saw him do it, but I know he did.  I know because I could hear them, behind closed doors, fighting an endless battle over things so unimportant, that now, years later, she can't remember what the arguments were about.  It's frightening...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 4 Responses May 17, 2009

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    Home Is Where The Hatred Is

    so I left.many times,especially around christmas-which could be tricky in the freezing cold. i learned to haunt the local college,they had libraries,showers at the gym,occasional beersoaked couches in frathouse basements. escapism served me well,no need for me to be part of any...
    dubkebab dubkebab 36-40, M 6 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    I Dont Know.

    I don't know how it feels. But I know how it feels. I never got hit by my parents-not really. But I got beaten by a kidnapper. All I know is PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS YOU CANT JUST DO WATEVER U WANT WITH THEM! I'm sorry for you I mean it. Keep strong!
    LivLov LivLov 13-15, F Oct 14, 2012

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    An Endless Circle

    This is the first time i have ever really said this out loud so here goes .i had a happy normal childhood till the age of around 12 years old. they was only ever me?(me been the oldest) , my mum and brother .my mum started to run at my and hit me at first it wasnt very much but...
    hippogryphlass hippogryphlass 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    No Where To Run Or Hide So I Escaped Into Myself.

    I didn't find out till I was 14 or so but, my father was a cocaine addict. My parents got separated twice, I remember being little and seeing my father beat my mom, randomly finding cops outside our house and being confused as to why, my mother packing me and my brother in a car...
    dreamingpoppet dreamingpoppet 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    Childhood Lessons

    The dark haired little girl tiptoed quietly to the top of the staircase and sat down softly on the first tread. Unnoticed by the adults below, she pulled her slender legs up towards her chest and wrapped her small arms around them, her bare feet poking out from underneath the...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    Ashamed Of My Parents

    my past affects me to this day...the people a young child has no other option but to trust ...parents and granparents ...not to mention your mothers new found live in boyfriend.. myself and my siblings were abused by all on a daily basis... lack of food..daily beatings no hygiene...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Why Do They Stay?

    my mother, has had the police out here more times than i can count, but still goes back to the guy....sigh, (not my dad)
    jones22 jones22 18-21 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    The memories are vague,

    and fragmented due to time, old age, and because of all of the years of drinking and doing drugs. However, I still remember enough to remind me of just how bad my childhood really was. I remember to this very day seeing my grandma lying in a bed, not long before she died of...
    Panman60 Panman60 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 8

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    I Thought The Nightmares Would Never End

    Daddy and Mom loved each other. The smiles in their wedding day pictures are genuine and honest. But no one except the family knew, for a number of years, whenever Daddy drank, which he did every night, he was a monster. Sober, he was charming and polite - the best husband and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Jun 25, 2013

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    Pretending

    I remember each time too fondly, the nights my father would finally snap. The tension would be rising for weeks and I would know it was going to happen again. Even still my young mind wanted to believe my father was telling the truth, that he wouldn't harm my mother again but he...
    Babyt13 Babyt13 18-21 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    Lucky

    It was only a small part of my life but it has haunted me. My parents got divorced when I was 5 because my mother wanted to party and my father wouldn't let her. Mother of 4 I might add. So a year later she had what should have been a one night stand but she got pregnant and a...
    wolfcon wolfcon 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    Salt Water.

    I fell asleep. Now, every child growing up in a violent home knows that this is a big mistake. If a fight kicks off, who will defend my Mum? Who will call the police, the ambulance? Our neighbours can't be counted on; the whole cul de sac is aware of the savage beatings...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15, 2010

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    7 Years.

    Okay. This is the first time I've ever shared a story of mine about this. I have a long and sorry past and I am only 14 years old. I will most likely put it all out because honestly, it feels good to have a clean slate sometimes. To begin, I would like to say that I have a very...
    Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Just Needed To Get It Out

    Well i dunno where to start with this one either, feels wierd that im about to write about my life as i usually dont even let myself think about it. No one knows me, not deep down. Ive got a lot of friends, and a fair few which im soooo close to i call them family. But they dont...
    sashaaax0o sashaaax0o 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    At least My Mother Defended Me.

    My parents argued mostly over me "Mommy. MOM-MEEEE!" I shouted when I entered my bedroom after school and discovered my favorite toy, a remote controlled Hum H2, was not where I usually left it leaning against the wall beside my bed. I had gotten for the past Christmas(I was 9...
    ZolotayaWurola ZolotayaWurola 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    It's So Scary..

    I remember when my father hit my mother.. it was terrifying.. and I tried to help her and he just hit me out of the way.. I was so scared.. then a family friend came in and took him out for the rest of the day.. I thought for sure that my mother would leave him.. but she never...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2010

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    You Never Loved Me

    Diapers. I was still in them. Just little. So little. It wasn’t a rash. I didn’t leave your home with a rash every week. You weren’t very good at being a dad. Never were. Still aren’t. How could you do it? I was your daughter. Your baby. I was fragile. I...
    PreviouslyBroken PreviouslyBroken 22-25, F Feb 14, 2011

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    A Rainbow of Abuse (if Under 18, Only Read If You Need Help)

    Growing up, I survived a whole rainbow of abuse, and would like to offer condolence too anyone who needs it. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been through sexual abuse on many occassions, verbal abuse around every corner, and have been severly beaten by both parents. If anyone...
    BirdsFlyAway BirdsFlyAway 18-21, F 12 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    Grew Up With It To...

     I grew up with domestic violence as well....watched my Dad beat the hell out of my mother all the time, he was an loser alcoholic.....she turned into one after wards jut to numb the pain and escaped. I and my other nine siblings tried more times and one to stop him from...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    Time

    This will be the time he kills her. On the porch, overlooking the yard in which we play and pretend we're rulers of kingdoms in which abuse is punishable by death. In the hallway, where every inch of wall is decorated with crayon scribbles of safe places. On the shattered panes...
    bombe bombe 18-21, F Mar 28, 2013

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    With Love To All Of Us

    and once the storm is over , you wont remember how you made it though, how you managed to survive, You wont even be sure if the storm is over, But one things for sure...when you walk out you wont be the same as when you walked in. Thats what this this storm is all about .. . My...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    From when I was born till i was ten years old,

    I lived in that environment. The strangest part is how i thought it was normal, now im constantly second guessing what normal family should be like. I never really talked about it, when i first got away from it my Dad tried to push me to see a councilor, but i refused to admit...
    EcclesiastesNIV EcclesiastesNIV 16-17, F Mar 8

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    My dad then later my step dad, I hope my kids never have to see the things I did.
    oversimplification oversimplification 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I am in a domestic violence relationship. When my bf gets angry he insults me & pushes me. He has slapped me once. It is mostly bruises I've had and him hitting my head or throwing...
    sarahhunnix3 sarahhunnix3 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Surprisingly enough, I've never bothered writing about this. I met him, and I stopped writing, I stopped drawing, I stopped enjoying my life.. He gave me one great gift, one whom I...
    StrayMouse StrayMouse 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    Violence against women is a crime... Men... We need to stand up and be real men... These women are our sisters, daughters, wives and friends... Take the pledge at White Ribbon...
    yeronlyman yeronlyman 41-45, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    He was perfect from the beginning kind patient sweet. He moved in with me and I was totally in love he was my first true love. I ended up falling pregnant and it all started just...
    leeleelou leeleelou 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    hi to everyone is reading this. I don't know what is wrong with me at the moment but feel like I just need to tell what is happening to me and how I feel and maybe someone can...
    xhannahmuskax xhannahmuskax 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 9

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    My older brother takes his anger out on me , he has been for years. Mostly verbal abuse he uses some seriously ugly words just to bring me down and make sure I'm as miserable as he...
    kim95164 kim95164 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 25

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    Just want to know plz help my bf Is from Afghanistan i been with him 10 months and he has stop me from uni he has stop me from wearing tight jeans he dont even allow me to the shop...
    ayesha290388 ayesha290388 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 25

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    What did I do to deserve this? I loved him and was always there for him, even when he would scream at me or hit me. I never did anything to deserve this, in my mind, but whenever I...
    LtngBug67 LtngBug67 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    A few weeks ago I came to the realization that my ex-husband is on drugs and has been since the beginning of our marraige. Now that I have been out of my abusive relationship for...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    I left my abuser when I found out I was pregnant again, since he beat me previously causing my child to die. Now my son is 16 and is abusing me too. I can't take it anymore! I am...
    dumbwhore dumbwhore 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    I keep wondering if God is on my side, I feel really sad
    mewmew1234 mewmew1234 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    My fiancé slapped me today. He got fired yesterday but told me a lie about how they laid him off because they couldn't afford it. I could tell he was lying, so last night I looked...
    missmanamana missmanamana 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 25

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    I feel helpless... Knowing that he beat you again... I wish I were there to protect you... You do not deserve to be abused! Nobody deserves to be beaten. I care for you, my Angel...
    graceyflux graceyflux 26-30, F Mar 27

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    My mom specialises in helping women and kids who go through domestic violence, so all my life I've been taught that domestic violence is out of order.
    MixedLesbian MixedLesbian 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    As a child grew up with seeing men and women for that matter that lived by violence as the only way to live. Striking fear in others by violence and controlling people by violence...
    TanTwink TanTwink 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    Led Zeppelin - Babe, I'm Gonna Leave You.I was raised with the music of Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Dire Straits, Fleetwood Mac etc... My father listened to their music and as a...
    Lullacus Lullacus 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    I have suffered with poor mental health for many years following my divorce. I always felt not good enough in my marriage. I could never understand why I felt I always had to be...
    StandingDown StandingDown 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    Violence against women is a crime... Men... We need to stand up and be real men... These women are our sisters, daughters, wives and friends... Take the pledge at White Ribbon...
    yeronlyman yeronlyman 41-45, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    We live a DD life and wondered who else here lives this? We started a website so people understand what it is http://domesticdisciplineuk.ning.com/home Princess x
    princess1950 princess1950 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    My mother and I grew apart after she had my sister which is only natural but the bridge grew and grew over the years. I was to fat, I liked weird things, I was stupid, dramatic, I...
    Cerci575 Cerci575 18-21, F Mar 25

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    My mother lied to me my whole youth about who my father was. I was told my father was my mother’s first husband. Meanwhile my mother married my step father when I was just 20...
    dwc294 dwc294 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    My story I keep asking myself when it all started. If there was a specific day or a specific event to be able to pinpoint when I started to loose myself. There is no day or...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 1 Response Mar 22

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    So. I wanted to update on how fabulous my husband is getting at all of this. It all started with hand spanking... and let me tell you, we've come a far way! This month marks a...
    Tihtil Tihtil 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 24

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    Can a submissive surrender to her dom without the threat of spanking or other discipline?
    MrsHarley MrsHarley 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    I talked to my father in heaven about some of the problems I've been having many times recently. Chronic alcohol inebriation, lying, ***********, sneaking to bars at night...
    dave56901 dave56901 31-35, M 2 days ago

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    I grew up in a nudist family and to me it is a great feeling to go through life (as often as I can) the same way I came into this world. Some people called us nasty or disgusting...
    breeziebee breeziebee 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 23

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    THE JOURNEY THROUGH THE LAND OF THE “UNIMAGINABLE STARTING OVER” If someone would have told me that I was going to lose my children a year ago I would have laughed. If...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 Mar 26

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    I grew up listening to my parents arguments and fights. Whenever we went to a vacation together,I always waited anxiously for that sinister moment that's gonna ruin our fun,the...
    kerita99 kerita99 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    I have always been secretly jealous of my parents because they grew up in the 80s which is so amazing. A time without text messaging and u actually have face to face contact all...
    brenda285xD brenda285xD 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 1

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