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I Grew Up With Domestic Violence

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    You Never Loved Me

    Diapers. I was still in them. Just little. So little. It wasn’t a rash. I didn’t leave your home with a rash every week. You weren’t very good at being a dad. Never were. Still aren’t. How could you do it? I was your daughter. Your baby. I was fragile. I...
    PreviouslyBroken PreviouslyBroken 22-25, F Feb 14, 2011

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    Childhood Lessons

    The dark haired little girl tiptoed quietly to the top of the staircase and sat down softly on the first tread. Unnoticed by the adults below, she pulled her slender legs up towards her chest and wrapped her small arms around them, her bare feet poking out from underneath the...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 32 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    An Endless Circle

    This is the first time i have ever really said this out loud so here goes .i had a happy normal childhood till the age of around 12 years old. they was only ever me?(me been the oldest) , my mum and brother .my mum started to run at my and hit me at first it wasnt very much but...
    hippogryphlass hippogryphlass 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    No Where To Run Or Hide So I Escaped Into Myself.

    I didn't find out till I was 14 or so but, my father was a cocaine addict. My parents got separated twice, I remember being little and seeing my father beat my mom, randomly finding cops outside our house and being confused as to why, my mother packing me and my brother in a car...
    dreamingpoppet dreamingpoppet 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    With Love To All Of Us

    and once the storm is over , you wont remember how you made it though, how you managed to survive, You wont even be sure if the storm is over, But one things for sure...when you walk out you wont be the same as when you walked in. Thats what this this storm is all about .. . My...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    From when I was born till i was ten years old,

    I lived in that environment. The strangest part is how i thought it was normal, now im constantly second guessing what normal family should be like. I never really talked about it, when i first got away from it my Dad tried to push me to see a councilor, but i refused to admit...
    EcclesiastesNIV EcclesiastesNIV 16-17, F Mar 8, 2014

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    Pretending

    I remember each time too fondly, the nights my father would finally snap. The tension would be rising for weeks and I would know it was going to happen again. Even still my young mind wanted to believe my father was telling the truth, that he wouldn't harm my mother again but he...
    Babyt13 Babyt13 18-21 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    Scars

    My dad hit my mom.  I never saw him do it, but I know he did.  I know because I could hear them, behind closed doors, fighting an endless battle over things so unimportant, that now, years later, she can't remember what the arguments were about.  It's frightening...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 4 Responses May 17, 2009

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    Salt Water.

    I fell asleep. Now, every child growing up in a violent home knows that this is a big mistake. If a fight kicks off, who will defend my Mum? Who will call the police, the ambulance? Our neighbours can't be counted on; the whole cul de sac is aware of the savage beatings...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15, 2010

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    7 Years.

    Okay. This is the first time I've ever shared a story of mine about this. I have a long and sorry past and I am only 14 years old. I will most likely put it all out because honestly, it feels good to have a clean slate sometimes. To begin, I would like to say that I have a very...
    Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    It's So Scary..

    I remember when my father hit my mother.. it was terrifying.. and I tried to help her and he just hit me out of the way.. I was so scared.. then a family friend came in and took him out for the rest of the day.. I thought for sure that my mother would leave him.. but she never...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2010

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    Grew Up With It To...

     I grew up with domestic violence as well....watched my Dad beat the hell out of my mother all the time, he was an loser alcoholic.....she turned into one after wards jut to numb the pain and escaped. I and my other nine siblings tried more times and one to stop him from...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    Time

    This will be the time he kills her. On the porch, overlooking the yard in which we play and pretend we're rulers of kingdoms in which abuse is punishable by death. In the hallway, where every inch of wall is decorated with crayon scribbles of safe places. On the shattered panes...
    bombe bombe 22-25, F Mar 28, 2013

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    A Rainbow of Abuse (if Under 18, Only Read If You Need Help)

    Growing up, I survived a whole rainbow of abuse, and would like to offer condolence too anyone who needs it. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been through sexual abuse on many occassions, verbal abuse around every corner, and have been severly beaten by both parents. If anyone...
    BirdsFlyAway BirdsFlyAway 18-21, F 12 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    The memories are vague,

    and fragmented due to time, old age, and because of all of the years of drinking and doing drugs. However, I still remember enough to remind me of just how bad my childhood really was. I remember to this very day seeing my grandma lying in a bed, not long before she died of...
    Panman60 Panman60 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 8, 2014

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    Ashamed Of My Parents

    my past affects me to this day...the people a young child has no other option but to trust ...parents and granparents ...not to mention your mothers new found live in boyfriend.. myself and my siblings were abused by all on a daily basis... lack of food..daily beatings no hygiene...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    I Thought The Nightmares Would Never End

    Daddy and Mom loved each other. The smiles in their wedding day pictures are genuine and honest. But no one except the family knew, for a number of years, whenever Daddy drank, which he did every night, he was a monster. Sober, he was charming and polite - the best husband and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Jun 25, 2013

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    Home Is Where The Hatred Is

    so I left.many times,especially around christmas-which could be tricky in the freezing cold. i learned to haunt the local college,they had libraries,showers at the gym,occasional beersoaked couches in frathouse basements. escapism served me well,no need for me to be part of any...
    dubkebab dubkebab 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    Just Needed To Get It Out

    Well i dunno where to start with this one either, feels wierd that im about to write about my life as i usually dont even let myself think about it. No one knows me, not deep down. Ive got a lot of friends, and a fair few which im soooo close to i call them family. But they dont...
    sashaaax0o sashaaax0o 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Lucky

    It was only a small part of my life but it has haunted me. My parents got divorced when I was 5 because my mother wanted to party and my father wouldn't let her. Mother of 4 I might add. So a year later she had what should have been a one night stand but she got pregnant and a...
    wolfcon wolfcon 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    Why Do They Stay?

    my mother, has had the police out here more times than i can count, but still goes back to the guy....sigh, (not my dad)
    jones22 jones22 18-21 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    I Dont Know.

    I don't know how it feels. But I know how it feels. I never got hit by my parents-not really. But I got beaten by a kidnapper. All I know is PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS YOU CANT JUST DO WATEVER U WANT WITH THEM! I'm sorry for you I mean it. Keep strong!
    LivLov LivLov 13-15, F Oct 14, 2012

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    Being awaken by screams

    and cries, loud voices...things crashing, thumping.......as a curious child...sneak to the stairs to see what is a miss...as I got closer to the stairs, hearing my father's voice, and my mother's cries, sending that fear through your tiny little body....as you sneak on the...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Related Experiences

    What is it about DV that just sticks with us for so long? I think it affects every relationship that I experience...maybe this is not a bad thing. I am wiser and just more aware-I...
    AramatLynn AramatLynn 46-50, F 9 hrs ago

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    What is it about DV that just sticks with us for so long? I think it affects every relationship that I experience...maybe this is not a bad thing. I am wiser and just more aware-I...
    AramatLynn AramatLynn 46-50, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I am writing this incase anyone else finds themselves in a similar situation . . . Please do not worry about me, I have been free of this relationship for 7 years now. I am a lot...
    elimarie7 elimarie7 31-35, F Dec 31, 2014

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    After only 1 month out of my abusive relationship with my ex-boyfriend, why do I care how he is doing? I want him to be well. To be helped with whatever issues that drove him to...
    lotusabloom lotusabloom 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am in a very bad situation. I have been verbally, emotionally, financially and physically abused by my ex for the past 5 years. I moved away from the U.S.A. to Argentina to be...
    sumaura85 sumaura85 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F Dec 30, 2014

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    It's been 25 years ago I left the man who abused me. It took a while to become strong but I built a good life raised my son the best I could and had a successful business. My son...
    Truthsetsmefree Truthsetsmefree 61-65 1 Response Jan 2

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 2 Responses Jan 6

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    I am a victim of physical and emotional abuse, I am 25 and met him when I was 19. As many people say, they are charming at first and seemed very clever and manipulative with his...
    Brightheart89 Brightheart89 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 16

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    He hit me again. No he grabbed me by my shirt threw me on the ground kicked me punched me in my head flicked my nose drug me across the floor picked me up about 3 more times threw...
    lis924 lis924 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm laying in bed, sick with a sinus infection and watching Fried Green Tomatoes. The part where Ruth's husband beats her up and kicks her down the stairs when she's trying to...
    TheLittleMrs TheLittleMrs 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'M A VICTIM OF DV, AND I JUST REALIZED THAT HISTORY REPEATED ITSELF I'M LIVING MY MOTHER NIGHTMARE, RIP .
    shela61 shela61 46-50, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Women deserve equal rights... and lefts! If you don't wanna get hit, then don't hit. Keep your hands to yourself!
    Terrain12 Terrain12 31-35, F Jan 4

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    I was raised Mormon, left the church shortly after my little brother experienced a nervous breakdown whilst serving a mission. I had always had a fear of the mentally ill and...
    eviec7 eviec7 36-40, F 57 mins ago

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    Hello, I am new here. I had something happen to me that I have never seen before and just wanted to talk about. I was beginning to heal from it because of reading other people's...
    Fresh1414 Fresh1414 22-25, F 19 hrs ago

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    We made it official Saturday. I've never been to a prison before, I was scared to death. I sat at the table and prayed while I waited for him to come in. Most of the other people...
    b1tch2u b1tch2u 31-35 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I am glued to television, why are people creating so much havoc and are so barbaric. RIP to the people in France who died tragically. Good work by the police officers who killed...
    jaml jaml 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 9

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    All the times I ever felt like being an ******* or thinking about violence I realised I was just deeply sad about something else. This gave me a new perspective on people who tried...
    pixelcravings pixelcravings 26-30 Jan 9

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    Single dad of a nine year old princess, looking for long haired old fashioned girl with her heart glowing and on her sleeve. Aiming for a simple, slow paced, homesteading...
    sadindeed sadindeed 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    Now is a good time to set some goals for yourself to achieve during the upcoming new year. Be sure to write them down and share them with a trusted accountability partner. It is...
    TractorGirl93 TractorGirl93 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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