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I Grew Up With Domestic Violence

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 211 People

    No Where To Run Or Hide So I Escaped Into Myself.

    I didn't find out till I was 14 or so but, my father was a cocaine addict. My parents got separated twice, I remember being little and seeing my father beat my mom, randomly finding cops outside our house and being confused as to why, my mother packing me and my brother in a car...
    dreamingpoppet dreamingpoppet 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    It's So Scary..

    I remember when my father hit my mother.. it was terrifying.. and I tried to help her and he just hit me out of the way.. I was so scared.. then a family friend came in and took him out for the rest of the day.. I thought for sure that my mother would leave him.. but she never...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2010

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    I Thought The Nightmares Would Never End

    Daddy and Mom loved each other. The smiles in their wedding day pictures are genuine and honest. But no one except the family knew, for a number of years, whenever Daddy drank, which he did every night, he was a monster. Sober, he was charming and polite - the best husband and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Jun 25, 2013

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    Scars

    My dad hit my mom.  I never saw him do it, but I know he did.  I know because I could hear them, behind closed doors, fighting an endless battle over things so unimportant, that now, years later, she can't remember what the arguments were about.  It's frightening...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 5 Responses May 17, 2009

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    Pretending

    I remember each time too fondly, the nights my father would finally snap. The tension would be rising for weeks and I would know it was going to happen again. Even still my young mind wanted to believe my father was telling the truth, that he wouldn't harm my mother again but he...
    Babyt13 Babyt13 18-21 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    Home Is Where The Hatred Is

    so I left.many times,especially around christmas-which could be tricky in the freezing cold. i learned to haunt the local college,they had libraries,showers at the gym,occasional beersoaked couches in frathouse basements. escapism served me well,no need for me to be part of any...
    dubkebab dubkebab 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    With Love To All Of Us

    and once the storm is over , you wont remember how you made it though, how you managed to survive, You wont even be sure if the storm is over, But one things for sure...when you walk out you wont be the same as when you walked in. Thats what this this storm is all about .. . My...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Time

    This will be the time he kills her. On the porch, overlooking the yard in which we play and pretend we're rulers of kingdoms in which abuse is punishable by death. In the hallway, where every inch of wall is decorated with crayon scribbles of safe places. On the shattered panes...
    bombe bombe 22-25, F Mar 28, 2013

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    The memories are vague,

    and fragmented due to time, old age, and because of all of the years of drinking and doing drugs. However, I still remember enough to remind me of just how bad my childhood really was. I remember to this very day seeing my grandma lying in a bed, not long before she died of...
    Panman60 Panman60 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 8, 2014

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    Ashamed Of My Parents

    my past affects me to this day...the people a young child has no other option but to trust ...parents and granparents ...not to mention your mothers new found live in boyfriend.. myself and my siblings were abused by all on a daily basis... lack of food..daily beatings no hygiene...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    An Endless Circle

    This is the first time i have ever really said this out loud so here goes .i had a happy normal childhood till the age of around 12 years old. they was only ever me?(me been the oldest) , my mum and brother .my mum started to run at my and hit me at first it wasnt very much but...
    hippogryphlass hippogryphlass 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    Salt Water.

    I fell asleep. Now, every child growing up in a violent home knows that this is a big mistake. If a fight kicks off, who will defend my Mum? Who will call the police, the ambulance? Our neighbours can't be counted on; the whole cul de sac is aware of the savage beatings...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15, 2010

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    Grew Up With It To...

     I grew up with domestic violence as well....watched my Dad beat the hell out of my mother all the time, he was an loser alcoholic.....she turned into one after wards jut to numb the pain and escaped. I and my other nine siblings tried more times and one to stop him from...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    A Rainbow of Abuse (if Under 18, Only Read If You Need Help)

    Growing up, I survived a whole rainbow of abuse, and would like to offer condolence too anyone who needs it. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been through sexual abuse on many occassions, verbal abuse around every corner, and have been severly beaten by both parents. If anyone...
    BirdsFlyAway BirdsFlyAway 18-21, F 11 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    Being awaken by screams

    and cries, loud voices...things crashing, thumping.......as a curious child...sneak to the stairs to see what is a miss...as I got closer to the stairs, hearing my father's voice, and my mother's cries, sending that fear through your tiny little body....as you sneak on the...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Just Needed To Get It Out

    Well i dunno where to start with this one either, feels wierd that im about to write about my life as i usually dont even let myself think about it. No one knows me, not deep down. Ive got a lot of friends, and a fair few which im soooo close to i call them family. But they dont...
    sashaaax0o sashaaax0o 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    I Dont Know.

    I don't know how it feels. But I know how it feels. I never got hit by my parents-not really. But I got beaten by a kidnapper. All I know is PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS YOU CANT JUST DO WATEVER U WANT WITH THEM! I'm sorry for you I mean it. Keep strong!
    LivLov LivLov 13-15, F Oct 14, 2012

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    Why Do They Stay?

    my mother, has had the police out here more times than i can count, but still goes back to the guy....sigh, (not my dad)
    jones22 jones22 18-21 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    7 Years.

    Okay. This is the first time I've ever shared a story of mine about this. I have a long and sorry past and I am only 14 years old. I will most likely put it all out because honestly, it feels good to have a clean slate sometimes. To begin, I would like to say that I have a very...
    Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2012

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    From when I was born till i was ten years old,

    I lived in that environment. The strangest part is how i thought it was normal, now im constantly second guessing what normal family should be like. I never really talked about it, when i first got away from it my Dad tried to push me to see a councilor, but i refused to admit...
    EcclesiastesNIV EcclesiastesNIV 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2014

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    You Never Loved Me

    Diapers. I was still in them. Just little. So little. It wasn’t a rash. I didn’t leave your home with a rash every week. You weren’t very good at being a dad. Never were. Still aren’t. How could you do it? I was your daughter. Your baby. I was fragile. I...
    PreviouslyBroken PreviouslyBroken 22-25, F Feb 14, 2011

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    Hi there, I was hoping some one could help me out with a situation so I can better support my partner. My fiancée in her last relationship was subject to domestic violence for...
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    At work, I have a police scanner beside me and given that I work nights, I get to hear all the 'good stuff', so to speak. It's astounding and disgusting how prevalent domestic...
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    This is an experience I was uncomfortable sharing because I never know how much to share with the Internet. The one thing that encouraged me to post this is the ability to help...
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    Hello all. I am new to this site but would like to share my story. I have been in a emotional, verbal, and physical abusive relationship for 8 years. Just a few months ago, I...
    Lola0821 Lola0821 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    it's been two months plus. he is still in jail and we are headed to another hearing. I'm getting weaker. I don't want to do this. I want it to go away. I want my life back. I miss...
    twofourgone twofourgone 41-45, F 2 Responses May 9

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    Hi, My friends daughter was beaten so badly that she needed brain surgery. I have started a fund to help the family. She is 21 and has a very young son. She will need so much help...
    lakelove lakelove 41-45, F 1 Response May 13

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    gidget9204 gidget9204 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    What is a Mother? For me I was lucky I had a friend’s mother stand up for me when I was young, and even before I fully understood what was being done I knew she loved me like her...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M May 9

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    When we only see a person or group through the eyes of prejudice because of race, sex, religion, etc. then we see nothing at all and end up living a limited unfulfilled life. My...
    squid4u squid4u 46-50, M 3 hrs ago

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    Chuckdog24 Chuckdog24 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    Obviously I don't engage in it due to the associated consequences, but violence to me is an amazing part of life. I have a killer instinct in me. A thirst for blood and reckless...
    herewegothen herewegothen 18-21, M 1 Response May 7

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    Train people to solve problems using violence and you end up with people who know how to solve problems with violence. The vets I've worked with almost never followed orders, every...
    UppityProletarian UppityProletarian 36-40, M 1 Response May 8

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    When I was born, I was pulled from my birth mother and then stayed in the hospital. I had a very bad infection caused by my mother smoking and doing drugs while I was in her...
    songwriterandsinger songwriterandsinger 13-15, F May 10

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    I was talking with my friends from the town I went to high school, we talked about a lot of things but then later on they said I grew up sheltered and I guess it might be true but...
    KValentine17 KValentine17 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    We're starting again. Almost 2 weeks and I've had some maintenance spankings and one more serious spanking. I initiated all but the first one. Consistency is so hard with kids and...
    spankt spankt 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 23

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    I was spanked last night with his belt, then the large wooden paddle, then a 1 1/2 inch thick rubber strap paddle thingy. Ouch! First time with that. It hurts! Strangely, it hurt...
    Oneluckygal Oneluckygal 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 26

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    Yesterday Sir gave me a chore to do and I totally forgot to do it. So today at lunch He bent me over His knee and disciplined me with our new wood hairbrush. So now I'm sitting in...
    JoshsSubmissive JoshsSubmissive 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 27

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    My husband and I have been in a DD relationship for a little over 2 years now and I couldn't imagine what things would be like if we had not introduced this change into our...
    daddysbabygirl27 daddysbabygirl27 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 29

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    We have been in a DD relationship for around a year now. He hasn't allowed me to cut my hair since I signed my contract, I have a dress code, including makeup, and He's purchased...
    brandspankinnew brandspankinnew 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 30

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