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I Grew Up With Domestic Violence

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    The memories are vague,

    and fragmented due to time, old age, and because of all of the years of drinking and doing drugs. However, I still remember enough to remind me of just how bad my childhood really was. I remember to this very day seeing my grandma lying in a bed, not long before she died of...
    Panman60 Panman60 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 8

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    Scars

    My dad hit my mom.  I never saw him do it, but I know he did.  I know because I could hear them, behind closed doors, fighting an endless battle over things so unimportant, that now, years later, she can't remember what the arguments were about.  It's frightening...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 4 Responses May 17, 2009

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    Home Is Where The Hatred Is

    so I left.many times,especially around christmas-which could be tricky in the freezing cold. i learned to haunt the local college,they had libraries,showers at the gym,occasional beersoaked couches in frathouse basements. escapism served me well,no need for me to be part of any...
    dubkebab dubkebab 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    I Thought The Nightmares Would Never End

    Daddy and Mom loved each other. The smiles in their wedding day pictures are genuine and honest. But no one except the family knew, for a number of years, whenever Daddy drank, which he did every night, he was a monster. Sober, he was charming and polite - the best husband and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Jun 25, 2013

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    From when I was born till i was ten years old,

    I lived in that environment. The strangest part is how i thought it was normal, now im constantly second guessing what normal family should be like. I never really talked about it, when i first got away from it my Dad tried to push me to see a councilor, but i refused to admit...
    EcclesiastesNIV EcclesiastesNIV 16-17, F Mar 8

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    No Where To Run Or Hide So I Escaped Into Myself.

    I didn't find out till I was 14 or so but, my father was a cocaine addict. My parents got separated twice, I remember being little and seeing my father beat my mom, randomly finding cops outside our house and being confused as to why, my mother packing me and my brother in a car...
    dreamingpoppet dreamingpoppet 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    Just Needed To Get It Out

    Well i dunno where to start with this one either, feels wierd that im about to write about my life as i usually dont even let myself think about it. No one knows me, not deep down. Ive got a lot of friends, and a fair few which im soooo close to i call them family. But they dont...
    sashaaax0o sashaaax0o 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Why Do They Stay?

    my mother, has had the police out here more times than i can count, but still goes back to the guy....sigh, (not my dad)
    jones22 jones22 18-21 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    With Love To All Of Us

    and once the storm is over , you wont remember how you made it though, how you managed to survive, You wont even be sure if the storm is over, But one things for sure...when you walk out you wont be the same as when you walked in. Thats what this this storm is all about .. . My...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Lucky

    It was only a small part of my life but it has haunted me. My parents got divorced when I was 5 because my mother wanted to party and my father wouldn't let her. Mother of 4 I might add. So a year later she had what should have been a one night stand but she got pregnant and a...
    wolfcon wolfcon 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    An Endless Circle

    This is the first time i have ever really said this out loud so here goes .i had a happy normal childhood till the age of around 12 years old. they was only ever me?(me been the oldest) , my mum and brother .my mum started to run at my and hit me at first it wasnt very much but...
    hippogryphlass hippogryphlass 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    Time

    This will be the time he kills her. On the porch, overlooking the yard in which we play and pretend we're rulers of kingdoms in which abuse is punishable by death. In the hallway, where every inch of wall is decorated with crayon scribbles of safe places. On the shattered panes...
    bombe bombe 22-25, F Mar 28, 2013

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    I Dont Know.

    I don't know how it feels. But I know how it feels. I never got hit by my parents-not really. But I got beaten by a kidnapper. All I know is PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS YOU CANT JUST DO WATEVER U WANT WITH THEM! I'm sorry for you I mean it. Keep strong!
    LivLov LivLov 13-15, F Oct 14, 2012

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    Pretending

    I remember each time too fondly, the nights my father would finally snap. The tension would be rising for weeks and I would know it was going to happen again. Even still my young mind wanted to believe my father was telling the truth, that he wouldn't harm my mother again but he...
    Babyt13 Babyt13 18-21 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    A Rainbow of Abuse (if Under 18, Only Read If You Need Help)

    Growing up, I survived a whole rainbow of abuse, and would like to offer condolence too anyone who needs it. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been through sexual abuse on many occassions, verbal abuse around every corner, and have been severly beaten by both parents. If anyone...
    BirdsFlyAway BirdsFlyAway 18-21, F 12 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    Salt Water.

    I fell asleep. Now, every child growing up in a violent home knows that this is a big mistake. If a fight kicks off, who will defend my Mum? Who will call the police, the ambulance? Our neighbours can't be counted on; the whole cul de sac is aware of the savage beatings...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15, 2010

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    7 Years.

    Okay. This is the first time I've ever shared a story of mine about this. I have a long and sorry past and I am only 14 years old. I will most likely put it all out because honestly, it feels good to have a clean slate sometimes. To begin, I would like to say that I have a very...
    Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    You Never Loved Me

    Diapers. I was still in them. Just little. So little. It wasn’t a rash. I didn’t leave your home with a rash every week. You weren’t very good at being a dad. Never were. Still aren’t. How could you do it? I was your daughter. Your baby. I was fragile. I...
    PreviouslyBroken PreviouslyBroken 22-25, F Feb 14, 2011

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    Childhood Lessons

    The dark haired little girl tiptoed quietly to the top of the staircase and sat down softly on the first tread. Unnoticed by the adults below, she pulled her slender legs up towards her chest and wrapped her small arms around them, her bare feet poking out from underneath the...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 32 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    Ashamed Of My Parents

    my past affects me to this day...the people a young child has no other option but to trust ...parents and granparents ...not to mention your mothers new found live in boyfriend.. myself and my siblings were abused by all on a daily basis... lack of food..daily beatings no hygiene...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Grew Up With It To...

     I grew up with domestic violence as well....watched my Dad beat the hell out of my mother all the time, he was an loser alcoholic.....she turned into one after wards jut to numb the pain and escaped. I and my other nine siblings tried more times and one to stop him from...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    It's So Scary..

    I remember when my father hit my mother.. it was terrifying.. and I tried to help her and he just hit me out of the way.. I was so scared.. then a family friend came in and took him out for the rest of the day.. I thought for sure that my mother would leave him.. but she never...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    If you were to see me walking down the street, or in the grocery store, you would never realize that I am a survivor. The physical scars have healed, yet the mental and emotional...
    nuwbnprincess nuwbnprincess 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    So basically, when I got pregnant for my boyfriend, yes I was young. We were stupid, but we were in love. When we told his mother, she flipped out and started asking for a DNA test...
    SincerelyRae SincerelyRae 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    So im gonna finally get this off my chest. Its been a dark cloud over my head for months. I want to change something that i cannot change. I am a victim of domestic violence. Its...
    Heyababe Heyababe 18-21, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    When I was 6 years old, my parents separated and I ended up moving in with my mom and step-dad, visiting my dad on the weekends. When I was 10 years old, the abuse started. It...
    sunisburning sunisburning 18-21, F Nov 24

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    I wake up to my boyfriend whispering in my ear your stupid, fat, ugly and no one will ever love you. I look around our apartment were going to lose soon and there's a hole in every...
    phantom44a phantom44a 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    Last year I met this guy, who I fell in love with two months into "talking." We worked together. He would talk to me during work hours but after I wouldn't receive a cal or text...
    TVel94 TVel94 18-21, F Dec 8

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    It's almost 1 AM and I can't sleep. I began scrolling through Instagram. Clicking on profiles of those I used to know. I found my rapist. I went to his profile. After scrolling...
    Jeradactyl Jeradactyl 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    From one relationship to the next... Almost everyone I've been with has been abusive, either mentally or physically... It's difficult to trust people. I guess that's why I'm on...
    EmeraldDreams12 EmeraldDreams12 18-21 1 day ago

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    http://www.byui.edu/counseling-center/self-help/abusive-relationships
    amtired amtired 22-25 Nov 25

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    i miss my ex abuser i dont know why. im going thru witgdrawl of a toxic relationship. its driving me crazy
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response Nov 30

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    I did what I had to do. anything to avoid it. I guess I just got tired of it and saw no other way out. I could never leave you, I loved you too much. I was too weak for you. so I...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 1 Response Dec 5

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    I'm reluctant to share my story. When a man assaults a woman, he is a monster. When a woman assaults a man, apparently it's the man's fault. I left her because she was abusive. I...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 6

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    I'm glad i had enough strength to realize that there are too many men in the world to allow this ONE to belittle me..No more why didn't I call or pick up the phone..no more soon as...
    learningLessons14 learningLessons14 18-21, F Dec 7

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    I'm going to tell a story, so prepare for a lengthy read. Read it if you like, or not, I just need to write it down. I'm going to start at a very important part of my experience...
    soulrebel78 soulrebel78 36-40, F Nov 30

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    i hate violence,i hate seeing violence, i hate being violent and i hate being violated.. seeing bruises and cuts and swelling on a person caused by my hands is one of the worst...
    antoneli antoneli 18-21, M 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I recently started thinking back to how crazy my upbringing was. my life is basically a movie... I hope it has a happy ending. I arrived in this country as a refugee and we were...
    neghleo neghleo 31-35, M 3 Responses Dec 1

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    Let me start off by saying I know nothing about how father-daughter relationships are supposed to be. I grew up quite distantly from my father- albeit under the same roof until I...
    parisjade12 parisjade12 22-25 6 days ago

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    Today is the start of the White Ribbon Campaign in Ireland... "White Ribbon Ireland is the national movement of the world's largest male-led campaign to end men's violence against...
    NOTyeronlyman NOTyeronlyman 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 25

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    When I tell people I practice domestic discipline half of them have no idea what that is and the other half think I'm crazy. After having our 6th child my marriage started failing...
    Jillianlwt Jillianlwt 36-40 Dec 13

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    I try to produce alternatives to silence or violence. I find this very difficult however. It is seems I am getting much of this now - either silence or violence. It seems I have no...
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M Nov 29

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    I have been into Domestic Discipline and Spanking over 20 years. Anyone else live DD?
    spankeedduk spankeedduk 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 30

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    I have lived Domestic Discipline for over 20 years and my husband spanks me when i break a rule. I love the DD lifestyle!
    spankeedduk spankeedduk 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    I have no desire to be a housewife. granted, I can clean, do laundry, and know how to iron somewhat. I still have to learn how to cook because when I finish school and live on my...
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    goodogstay goodogstay 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 6

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    We've been online friends for over a year now. We've spoken on the phone a dozen times. For many months we'd message all day using various sites and apps. We hit it off from the...
    breathingbox breathingbox 70+, M 8 hrs ago

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