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I Grew Up With Domestic Violence

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 202 People

    Why Do They Stay?

    my mother, has had the police out here more times than i can count, but still goes back to the guy....sigh, (not my dad)
    jones22 jones22 18-21 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    It's So Scary..

    I remember when my father hit my mother.. it was terrifying.. and I tried to help her and he just hit me out of the way.. I was so scared.. then a family friend came in and took him out for the rest of the day.. I thought for sure that my mother would leave him.. but she never...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2010

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    You Never Loved Me

    Diapers. I was still in them. Just little. So little. It wasn’t a rash. I didn’t leave your home with a rash every week. You weren’t very good at being a dad. Never were. Still aren’t. How could you do it? I was your daughter. Your baby. I was fragile. I...
    PreviouslyBroken PreviouslyBroken 22-25, F Feb 14, 2011

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    Just Needed To Get It Out

    Well i dunno where to start with this one either, feels wierd that im about to write about my life as i usually dont even let myself think about it. No one knows me, not deep down. Ive got a lot of friends, and a fair few which im soooo close to i call them family. But they dont...
    sashaaax0o sashaaax0o 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    An Endless Circle

    This is the first time i have ever really said this out loud so here goes .i had a happy normal childhood till the age of around 12 years old. they was only ever me?(me been the oldest) , my mum and brother .my mum started to run at my and hit me at first it wasnt very much but...
    hippogryphlass hippogryphlass 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    I Dont Know.

    I don't know how it feels. But I know how it feels. I never got hit by my parents-not really. But I got beaten by a kidnapper. All I know is PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS YOU CANT JUST DO WATEVER U WANT WITH THEM! I'm sorry for you I mean it. Keep strong!
    LivLov LivLov 13-15, F Oct 14, 2012

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    Salt Water.

    I fell asleep. Now, every child growing up in a violent home knows that this is a big mistake. If a fight kicks off, who will defend my Mum? Who will call the police, the ambulance? Our neighbours can't be counted on; the whole cul de sac is aware of the savage beatings...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15, 2010

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    Childhood Lessons

    The dark haired little girl tiptoed quietly to the top of the staircase and sat down softly on the first tread. Unnoticed by the adults below, she pulled her slender legs up towards her chest and wrapped her small arms around them, her bare feet poking out from underneath the...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 34 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    Home Is Where The Hatred Is

    so I left.many times,especially around christmas-which could be tricky in the freezing cold. i learned to haunt the local college,they had libraries,showers at the gym,occasional beersoaked couches in frathouse basements. escapism served me well,no need for me to be part of any...
    dubkebab dubkebab 36-40, M 6 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    No Where To Run Or Hide So I Escaped Into Myself.

    I didn't find out till I was 14 or so but, my father was a cocaine addict. My parents got separated twice, I remember being little and seeing my father beat my mom, randomly finding cops outside our house and being confused as to why, my mother packing me and my brother in a car...
    dreamingpoppet dreamingpoppet 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    Ashamed Of My Parents

    my past affects me to this day...the people a young child has no other option but to trust ...parents and granparents ...not to mention your mothers new found live in boyfriend.. myself and my siblings were abused by all on a daily basis... lack of food..daily beatings no hygiene...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    I Thought The Nightmares Would Never End

    Daddy and Mom loved each other. The smiles in their wedding day pictures are genuine and honest. But no one except the family knew, for a number of years, whenever Daddy drank, which he did every night, he was a monster. Sober, he was charming and polite - the best husband and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Jun 25, 2013

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    From when I was born till i was ten years old,

    I lived in that environment. The strangest part is how i thought it was normal, now im constantly second guessing what normal family should be like. I never really talked about it, when i first got away from it my Dad tried to push me to see a councilor, but i refused to admit...
    EcclesiastesNIV EcclesiastesNIV 16-17, F Mar 8

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    With Love To All Of Us

    and once the storm is over , you wont remember how you made it though, how you managed to survive, You wont even be sure if the storm is over, But one things for sure...when you walk out you wont be the same as when you walked in. Thats what this this storm is all about .. . My...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Pretending

    I remember each time too fondly, the nights my father would finally snap. The tension would be rising for weeks and I would know it was going to happen again. Even still my young mind wanted to believe my father was telling the truth, that he wouldn't harm my mother again but he...
    Babyt13 Babyt13 18-21 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    Scars

    My dad hit my mom.  I never saw him do it, but I know he did.  I know because I could hear them, behind closed doors, fighting an endless battle over things so unimportant, that now, years later, she can't remember what the arguments were about.  It's frightening...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 4 Responses May 17, 2009

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    7 Years.

    Okay. This is the first time I've ever shared a story of mine about this. I have a long and sorry past and I am only 14 years old. I will most likely put it all out because honestly, it feels good to have a clean slate sometimes. To begin, I would like to say that I have a very...
    Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    The memories are vague,

    and fragmented due to time, old age, and because of all of the years of drinking and doing drugs. However, I still remember enough to remind me of just how bad my childhood really was. I remember to this very day seeing my grandma lying in a bed, not long before she died of...
    Panman60 Panman60 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 8

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    A Rainbow of Abuse (if Under 18, Only Read If You Need Help)

    Growing up, I survived a whole rainbow of abuse, and would like to offer condolence too anyone who needs it. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been through sexual abuse on many occassions, verbal abuse around every corner, and have been severly beaten by both parents. If anyone...
    BirdsFlyAway BirdsFlyAway 18-21, F 12 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    Time

    This will be the time he kills her. On the porch, overlooking the yard in which we play and pretend we're rulers of kingdoms in which abuse is punishable by death. In the hallway, where every inch of wall is decorated with crayon scribbles of safe places. On the shattered panes...
    bombe bombe 22-25, F Mar 28, 2013

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    Not knowing what mood my father would come home

    in after a night of drinking which was every night of he week for most of his life, screaming as loud as can be at 4am dragging us out of bed because there was a spoon in the sink, we would then have to turn he house upside down and clean it and still hope we got some sleep...
    JackNJ JackNJ 36-40, M Apr 29

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    Grew Up With It To...

     I grew up with domestic violence as well....watched my Dad beat the hell out of my mother all the time, he was an loser alcoholic.....she turned into one after wards jut to numb the pain and escaped. I and my other nine siblings tried more times and one to stop him from...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    Lucky

    It was only a small part of my life but it has haunted me. My parents got divorced when I was 5 because my mother wanted to party and my father wouldn't let her. Mother of 4 I might add. So a year later she had what should have been a one night stand but she got pregnant and a...
    wolfcon wolfcon 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    i hate any type of domestic violence against women, be it physical, sexual, or psychological, my heart goes out to women in these terrible situations, women's shelters are...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 7

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    Its never love when he calls you a ***** or a *****. Because no respectable man would ever call his woman names, especially ***** or *****. Is he truly sorry for leaving scars on...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I was a sophomore in college and he was a senior. Something about him being older made it feel so right…he was charming, mature, and the life of the party type of guy. Not to...
    EmmaCollins EmmaCollins 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 31

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    I'm feeling very hopeless and overwhelmed. I've been married for almost 17 years to an emotionally abusive narcissistic alcoholic. It wasn't until about four years ago that I...
    kmn789 kmn789 36-40, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I am sitting here, and I do not know where to start. For 21 long years I have been living a lie. Thinking that what he has done to me was "normal". My heart is racing because this...
    WonderingJazmine WonderingJazmine 18-21 Aug 12

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    I dont think it is right for violence men hitting women or women hitting men. I think violence never solves anything
    SurfingLogan SurfingLogan 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    My ex, in the past couple years... Has choked me. Slapped me, fractured my ribs.. Threw me across the room. . kicked me. And that was only the physical violence part of it all...
    amtired amtired 22-25 15 Responses Jul 27

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    A poem I wrote after experiencing domestic abuse...if you are being abused get away and get help sadly many don't have the chance to... " CENTER ISLE" Today is...
    lilacbeauty lilacbeauty 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    Unnecessary violence is always a waste of time.
    guideme2truth guideme2truth 26-30, F Aug 12

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    I have been with my husband for almost 7 years-married for 5. In the beginning this were great and I thought he was perfect. Typical behavior. He treated me like I was what he had...
    lonestarlonely lonestarlonely 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    30 Things I’ve Learned About Love from My Emotionally Abusive, Narcissistic, Alcoholic Husband 1. If you trust someone, they will repay you with suspicion and jealously. 2. If...
    KMarie789 KMarie789 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Thankful I got out. If anyone has or had a similar experience you can message me. We can share our stories about how we got safe.
    Shermer Shermer 36-40, F 11 hrs ago

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    He through water in my face and on my 11 month old face , because I was Leaving him !! :'(
    Yuri1396 Yuri1396 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    My brother was abused by our so called "father" ever since he was a kid ;when my parents got divorced and my brother started mistreating me.I have been thrown against walls,I've...
    crazcat97 crazcat97 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    Hello! As you can see by the title I grew up as a JW and well...I love it :) I just got baptized at the international convention and I'm really excited haha it was so good and it...
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    I recently learned that domestic abuse isn't limited to couples , I would never guessed it was also roommates as well. I did a lot of research into this before I figured out that I...
    Lunnaku Lunnaku 26-30 2 Responses Aug 3

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    I really want to be cocky and very confident with myself but im still sooo shy its pathetic
    Qcf257 Qcf257 16-17, M 11 hrs ago

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    I don't understand why there's war? Why do people kill and why can't people settle it all with words? Why is everything not about who's right it's about who's left? Why do people...
    hellerpeople hellerpeople 16-17, F Jul 24

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    Violence gets us nowhere. Keep it civil.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Jul 26

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    I'm from St. Louis, Missouri. And if any of you have caught a glimpse of what's going on in Ferguson, Missouri.... It's not good. A young African American man was shot and killed...
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    Im going to skip the details as to how i got this way. My family problems are personal to me, but ill provide all of the info i see relevant. I go crazy about my weight and body...
    TragedyorRemedy TragedyorRemedy 16-17, F 11 hrs ago

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    Grew up Jehovah's Witness...baptized when I was 14. Pushed into it. Dad was an elder...good guy but easily pushed around. My mother is a hypocrite. Lost my babies over that...