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I Grew Up With Domestic Violence

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    Not knowing what mood my father would come home

    in after a night of drinking which was every night of he week for most of his life, screaming as loud as can be at 4am dragging us out of bed because there was a spoon in the sink, we would then have to turn he house upside down and clean it and still hope we got some sleep...
    JackNJ JackNJ 36-40, M Apr 29

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    An Endless Circle

    This is the first time i have ever really said this out loud so here goes .i had a happy normal childhood till the age of around 12 years old. they was only ever me?(me been the oldest) , my mum and brother .my mum started to run at my and hit me at first it wasnt very much but...
    hippogryphlass hippogryphlass 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    I Thought The Nightmares Would Never End

    Daddy and Mom loved each other. The smiles in their wedding day pictures are genuine and honest. But no one except the family knew, for a number of years, whenever Daddy drank, which he did every night, he was a monster. Sober, he was charming and polite - the best husband and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Jun 25, 2013

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    Grew Up With It To...

     I grew up with domestic violence as well....watched my Dad beat the hell out of my mother all the time, he was an loser alcoholic.....she turned into one after wards jut to numb the pain and escaped. I and my other nine siblings tried more times and one to stop him from...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    Scars

    My dad hit my mom.  I never saw him do it, but I know he did.  I know because I could hear them, behind closed doors, fighting an endless battle over things so unimportant, that now, years later, she can't remember what the arguments were about.  It's frightening...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 4 Responses May 17, 2009

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    Childhood Lessons

    The dark haired little girl tiptoed quietly to the top of the staircase and sat down softly on the first tread. Unnoticed by the adults below, she pulled her slender legs up towards her chest and wrapped her small arms around them, her bare feet poking out from underneath the...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 34 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    With Love To All Of Us

    and once the storm is over , you wont remember how you made it though, how you managed to survive, You wont even be sure if the storm is over, But one things for sure...when you walk out you wont be the same as when you walked in. Thats what this this storm is all about .. . My...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    You Never Loved Me

    Diapers. I was still in them. Just little. So little. It wasn’t a rash. I didn’t leave your home with a rash every week. You weren’t very good at being a dad. Never were. Still aren’t. How could you do it? I was your daughter. Your baby. I was fragile. I...
    PreviouslyBroken PreviouslyBroken 22-25, F Feb 14, 2011

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    Pretending

    I remember each time too fondly, the nights my father would finally snap. The tension would be rising for weeks and I would know it was going to happen again. Even still my young mind wanted to believe my father was telling the truth, that he wouldn't harm my mother again but he...
    Babyt13 Babyt13 18-21 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    Salt Water.

    I fell asleep. Now, every child growing up in a violent home knows that this is a big mistake. If a fight kicks off, who will defend my Mum? Who will call the police, the ambulance? Our neighbours can't be counted on; the whole cul de sac is aware of the savage beatings...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15, 2010

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    From when I was born till i was ten years old,

    I lived in that environment. The strangest part is how i thought it was normal, now im constantly second guessing what normal family should be like. I never really talked about it, when i first got away from it my Dad tried to push me to see a councilor, but i refused to admit...
    EcclesiastesNIV EcclesiastesNIV 16-17, F Mar 8

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    The memories are vague,

    and fragmented due to time, old age, and because of all of the years of drinking and doing drugs. However, I still remember enough to remind me of just how bad my childhood really was. I remember to this very day seeing my grandma lying in a bed, not long before she died of...
    Panman60 Panman60 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 8

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    Ashamed Of My Parents

    my past affects me to this day...the people a young child has no other option but to trust ...parents and granparents ...not to mention your mothers new found live in boyfriend.. myself and my siblings were abused by all on a daily basis... lack of food..daily beatings no hygiene...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    I Dont Know.

    I don't know how it feels. But I know how it feels. I never got hit by my parents-not really. But I got beaten by a kidnapper. All I know is PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS YOU CANT JUST DO WATEVER U WANT WITH THEM! I'm sorry for you I mean it. Keep strong!
    LivLov LivLov 13-15, F Oct 14, 2012

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    Why Do They Stay?

    my mother, has had the police out here more times than i can count, but still goes back to the guy....sigh, (not my dad)
    jones22 jones22 18-21 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    Lucky

    It was only a small part of my life but it has haunted me. My parents got divorced when I was 5 because my mother wanted to party and my father wouldn't let her. Mother of 4 I might add. So a year later she had what should have been a one night stand but she got pregnant and a...
    wolfcon wolfcon 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    No Where To Run Or Hide So I Escaped Into Myself.

    I didn't find out till I was 14 or so but, my father was a cocaine addict. My parents got separated twice, I remember being little and seeing my father beat my mom, randomly finding cops outside our house and being confused as to why, my mother packing me and my brother in a car...
    dreamingpoppet dreamingpoppet 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    A Rainbow of Abuse (if Under 18, Only Read If You Need Help)

    Growing up, I survived a whole rainbow of abuse, and would like to offer condolence too anyone who needs it. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been through sexual abuse on many occassions, verbal abuse around every corner, and have been severly beaten by both parents. If anyone...
    BirdsFlyAway BirdsFlyAway 18-21, F 12 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    Home Is Where The Hatred Is

    so I left.many times,especially around christmas-which could be tricky in the freezing cold. i learned to haunt the local college,they had libraries,showers at the gym,occasional beersoaked couches in frathouse basements. escapism served me well,no need for me to be part of any...
    dubkebab dubkebab 36-40, M 6 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    Time

    This will be the time he kills her. On the porch, overlooking the yard in which we play and pretend we're rulers of kingdoms in which abuse is punishable by death. In the hallway, where every inch of wall is decorated with crayon scribbles of safe places. On the shattered panes...
    bombe bombe 22-25, F Mar 28, 2013

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    It's So Scary..

    I remember when my father hit my mother.. it was terrifying.. and I tried to help her and he just hit me out of the way.. I was so scared.. then a family friend came in and took him out for the rest of the day.. I thought for sure that my mother would leave him.. but she never...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2010

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    7 Years.

    Okay. This is the first time I've ever shared a story of mine about this. I have a long and sorry past and I am only 14 years old. I will most likely put it all out because honestly, it feels good to have a clean slate sometimes. To begin, I would like to say that I have a very...
    Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Just Needed To Get It Out

    Well i dunno where to start with this one either, feels wierd that im about to write about my life as i usually dont even let myself think about it. No one knows me, not deep down. Ive got a lot of friends, and a fair few which im soooo close to i call them family. But they dont...
    sashaaax0o sashaaax0o 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    I'm facing domestic violence since 5 yrs. My Mom was housewife and after sad demise of her it was my duty to do all domestic chores (being only lady in house) and study at the same...
    sad1hana sad1hana 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    Never in my life would I have imagined myself being a victim of domestic violence. My boyfriend & I were perfect once upon a time, & things went so wrong so fast. I loved him, & a...
    HeartbrokenHeroine HeartbrokenHeroine 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    No blood I can still stand, I get some bruises or scratches. But really does it make a difference, I get kicked in my legs hard, hit hard, things thrown at me. I've learned to be...
    Anna85xo Anna85xo 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    I can't seem to let go of the person I love with all my heart, even though inside he wishes he could smash my face So much he hates everything about me yet he won't leave.
    brokenh8rt brokenh8rt 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    I left my abuser after 2 short years of marriage. He wasn't like this before we married, and I was widowed for 7 years prior to meeting him. He broke my nose in 2 places and it was...
    Marie1958 Marie1958 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    My eyes hurt my whole face is, there is broken glass everywhere...but my cheek is really swollen could someone please talk to me
    Anna85xo Anna85xo 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    On 31 May 1989 I married a 19 year old handsome blue eyed hockey player I thought was my soul mate. My son was not quite 1. We were going to be together for eternity. There was a...
    IStillGotIt IStillGotIt 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    From the time I was about 5 to 9, I watched my parents beat each other. They would slap, punch, and throw things at each other. Sometimes it would get so bad that my mom would pull...
    Xander8905 Xander8905 18-21, M Jul 13

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    Sometimes my girlfriend beats me very bad
    blackdicky blackdicky 36-40, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Glass everywhere. Blood tipping from the top of my head to the bottom of my toes. I can't see anything but a full wrecked house. I told myself to "Calm Down and that everything...
    queenlekxie04 queenlekxie04 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I DONT BUT I WANT TOO ugh how I want tooooo But we are black and in our culture it's "domestic violence" My husband will NOT EVEN CONSIDER IT but after a lonnnnggggg thinking...
    karlakashes karlakashes 26-30, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    BULLYING AT WORK…….HOW OFTEN DOES IT TAKE PLACE? HOW MANY OF US SUFFER IN SILENCE JUST TO SAVE FACE? AFTER ALL WE ARE ADULTS,ALL GROWN UP NOW….. AND HOW DO YOU TELL...
    sirslilangel sirslilangel 41-45, F Jul 5

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    I went for counselling at a domestic violence centre after separating from my abusive ex who incidentally was a counsellor! The service was free and part of a programme to help...
    juleswillo1 juleswillo1 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 10

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    Violence is never alright. Love is much better! If you are not able to love, a little respect would be much better that hatred and violence!
    Mirza4 Mirza4 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    I'm confused. What is a domestic discipline marriage??
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 2

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    what do you get out of taking people's lives, ending them or chewing them up and spitting them out again to scrounge for themselves? what benefit comes from causing pain, sadness...
    jeweldoggy jeweldoggy 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Its Time to End Violence Against Women around the World,YOUR SUPPORT IS IMPORTANT
    HotMomShaama HotMomShaama 46-50, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I don't understand why there's war? Why do people kill and why can't people settle it all with words? Why is everything not about who's right it's about who's left? Why do people...
    hellerpeople hellerpeople 13-15, F 10 hrs ago

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    Anyone have any experience with maintenance spankings?
    LovingDDandHoH LovingDDandHoH 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 27

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    Been awhile since I have been in here. We moved into our own place and started a business all in the last few weeks. My job has also changed to include three times the duties...
    RsBrat RsBrat 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    Im not one that typically gets b*&chy during "this time of the month"....I just cry. A lot. Im sensitive and I can get a bit grouchy. I don't want to follow the rules and expect...
    QuietTranquility QuietTranquility 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 30

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    Is there anyone (female or couple) in Texas or Oklahoma that share this lifestyle that would like to chat and be that "one person in real life that knows"? I love chatting with...
    lover70 lover70 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 10

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    My husband and I prefer that I wear skirts and dresses. I was at the park with the kids today and some lady asked me if I just got off of work. I said no I just prefer to wear...
    LovingDDandHoH LovingDDandHoH 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I had ended up getting all three punishments yesterday. Two combined in the morning and one at night. In the morning I felt so submissive. I cried on the last spank and continued...
    LovingDDandHoH LovingDDandHoH 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 30

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