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I Grew Up With Domestic Violence

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    Salt Water.

    I fell asleep. Now, every child growing up in a violent home knows that this is a big mistake. If a fight kicks off, who will defend my Mum? Who will call the police, the ambulance? Our neighbours can't be counted on; the whole cul de sac is aware of the savage beatings...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15, 2010

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    I Dont Know.

    I don't know how it feels. But I know how it feels. I never got hit by my parents-not really. But I got beaten by a kidnapper. All I know is PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS YOU CANT JUST DO WATEVER U WANT WITH THEM! I'm sorry for you I mean it. Keep strong!
    LivLov LivLov 13-15, F Oct 14, 2012

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    No Where To Run Or Hide So I Escaped Into Myself.

    I didn't find out till I was 14 or so but, my father was a cocaine addict. My parents got separated twice, I remember being little and seeing my father beat my mom, randomly finding cops outside our house and being confused as to why, my mother packing me and my brother in a car...
    dreamingpoppet dreamingpoppet 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    From when I was born till i was ten years old,

    I lived in that environment. The strangest part is how i thought it was normal, now im constantly second guessing what normal family should be like. I never really talked about it, when i first got away from it my Dad tried to push me to see a councilor, but i refused to admit...
    EcclesiastesNIV EcclesiastesNIV 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2014

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    With Love To All Of Us

    and once the storm is over , you wont remember how you made it though, how you managed to survive, You wont even be sure if the storm is over, But one things for sure...when you walk out you wont be the same as when you walked in. Thats what this this storm is all about .. . My...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Grew Up With It To...

     I grew up with domestic violence as well....watched my Dad beat the hell out of my mother all the time, he was an loser alcoholic.....she turned into one after wards jut to numb the pain and escaped. I and my other nine siblings tried more times and one to stop him from...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    7 Years.

    Okay. This is the first time I've ever shared a story of mine about this. I have a long and sorry past and I am only 14 years old. I will most likely put it all out because honestly, it feels good to have a clean slate sometimes. To begin, I would like to say that I have a very...
    Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 Lovelifebeforeitsgone14 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2012

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    An Endless Circle

    This is the first time i have ever really said this out loud so here goes .i had a happy normal childhood till the age of around 12 years old. they was only ever me?(me been the oldest) , my mum and brother .my mum started to run at my and hit me at first it wasnt very much but...
    hippogryphlass hippogryphlass 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    Time

    This will be the time he kills her. On the porch, overlooking the yard in which we play and pretend we're rulers of kingdoms in which abuse is punishable by death. In the hallway, where every inch of wall is decorated with crayon scribbles of safe places. On the shattered panes...
    bombe bombe 22-25, F Mar 28, 2013

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    Being awaken by screams

    and cries, loud voices...things crashing, thumping.......as a curious child...sneak to the stairs to see what is a miss...as I got closer to the stairs, hearing my father's voice, and my mother's cries, sending that fear through your tiny little body....as you sneak on the...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Pretending

    I remember each time too fondly, the nights my father would finally snap. The tension would be rising for weeks and I would know it was going to happen again. Even still my young mind wanted to believe my father was telling the truth, that he wouldn't harm my mother again but he...
    Babyt13 Babyt13 18-21 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    Home Is Where The Hatred Is

    so I left.many times,especially around christmas-which could be tricky in the freezing cold. i learned to haunt the local college,they had libraries,showers at the gym,occasional beersoaked couches in frathouse basements. escapism served me well,no need for me to be part of any...
    dubkebab dubkebab 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    You Never Loved Me

    Diapers. I was still in them. Just little. So little. It wasn’t a rash. I didn’t leave your home with a rash every week. You weren’t very good at being a dad. Never were. Still aren’t. How could you do it? I was your daughter. Your baby. I was fragile. I...
    PreviouslyBroken PreviouslyBroken 22-25, F Feb 14, 2011

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    A Rainbow of Abuse (if Under 18, Only Read If You Need Help)

    Growing up, I survived a whole rainbow of abuse, and would like to offer condolence too anyone who needs it. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been through sexual abuse on many occassions, verbal abuse around every corner, and have been severly beaten by both parents. If anyone...
    BirdsFlyAway BirdsFlyAway 18-21, F 11 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    I Thought The Nightmares Would Never End

    Daddy and Mom loved each other. The smiles in their wedding day pictures are genuine and honest. But no one except the family knew, for a number of years, whenever Daddy drank, which he did every night, he was a monster. Sober, he was charming and polite - the best husband and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Jun 25, 2013

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    Just Needed To Get It Out

    Well i dunno where to start with this one either, feels wierd that im about to write about my life as i usually dont even let myself think about it. No one knows me, not deep down. Ive got a lot of friends, and a fair few which im soooo close to i call them family. But they dont...
    sashaaax0o sashaaax0o 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Ashamed Of My Parents

    my past affects me to this day...the people a young child has no other option but to trust ...parents and granparents ...not to mention your mothers new found live in boyfriend.. myself and my siblings were abused by all on a daily basis... lack of food..daily beatings no hygiene...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    Why Do They Stay?

    my mother, has had the police out here more times than i can count, but still goes back to the guy....sigh, (not my dad)
    jones22 jones22 18-21 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    The memories are vague,

    and fragmented due to time, old age, and because of all of the years of drinking and doing drugs. However, I still remember enough to remind me of just how bad my childhood really was. I remember to this very day seeing my grandma lying in a bed, not long before she died of...
    Panman60 Panman60 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 8, 2014

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    Scars

    My dad hit my mom.  I never saw him do it, but I know he did.  I know because I could hear them, behind closed doors, fighting an endless battle over things so unimportant, that now, years later, she can't remember what the arguments were about.  It's frightening...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 5 Responses May 17, 2009

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    It's So Scary..

    I remember when my father hit my mother.. it was terrifying.. and I tried to help her and he just hit me out of the way.. I was so scared.. then a family friend came in and took him out for the rest of the day.. I thought for sure that my mother would leave him.. but she never...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2010

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    37 years ago, I was in a violent relationship that lasted for three years. I still have nightmares, PTSD. I am writing a memoir about it now and found a publisher for my manuscript...
    DonnaKaz DonnaKaz 56-60, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    37 years ago, I was in a violent relationship that lasted for three years. I still have nightmares, PTSD. I am writing a memoir about it now and found a publisher for my manuscript...
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    This is my lifestyle. I'm looking for other wives also in this lifestyle to become friends with.
    MistiA MistiA 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Facing a bit of a dilemma. I recently reached out to an ex who I was very serious with before my current relationship. His mother passed and I wanted to give my condolences. That's...
    Oneluckygal Oneluckygal 31-35, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    the last time i got into a fair fist fight was when i was in elementary ( which i btw won!) , but other than that there's been fights with my brother ( which i won too) and then me...
    mistywillow mistywillow 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My boyfriend and I haven't even been together for a year yet and violence has already started. I've gotten hit, choked, slapped, dragged, literally stepped on, kicked and hair...
    seeyajess seeyajess 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Sitting on a very sore bottom and feeling very sorry for myself. Just got ten swats with the paddle and another ten hard locks with his belt, for my attitude. I know it was...
    AngelDream AngelDream 41-45, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    Is it just me or when your HOH makes a final decision and it wasn't what you wanted do you get upset too?How do I tell him this without being rude or disrespectful?
    SpoiledRottenBaby SpoiledRottenBaby 18-21, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    My mom always wanted a girl, and a girl I am...but as i grew up all i remember is that she would always yell. Every time you didn't do something her way you were automatically a...
    dance4609 dance4609 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've realised that the youngsters of today are completely bored and lost if they dont have a device in their hands or not in a wifi area when accompanying parents for lunch, which...
    urwright urwright 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    I hail from a place where nobody wants to come Cause you better bring a gun and you better not run And I grew up with the pushers and the killers and the thieves But some students...
    shippai shippai 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    I was married to my abuser for 14 years. We divorced in 2002 and he has always hassled me off and on - maybe once in 12 months - since then. Unfortunately, I got back on his radar...
    2ndtrombone 2ndtrombone 46-50, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm grounded. Again. In grounded from my stupid credit card because once again I shopped without permission. My spending has been getting better, but it's still not up to standards...
    Slightlynaughtyvegan21 Slightlynaughtyvegan21 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    The only thing worse than a man espousing violence against women is a woman who does the same to ingratiate herself with her male subjugators. It is so sad and disheartening.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response a week ago

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    I was with a man for 2 1/2 years, married him and took his last name. After we were married everything changed. About a month into our marriage the physical abuse started, first it...
    roughweather roughweather 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have advanced military training. Violence is natural to me.
    mistermdg mistermdg 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 20

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    I was in a physically abusive relationship for about a year. Now that we are no longer together it feels like he has some kind of hold on me. I really love this man but I gotta let...
    pillowprincess34 pillowprincess34 36-40 3 Responses Jul 18

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    Do Not Marry These Spoiled Self Entitled Creatures!- In 1999,my wife took our two young children(age 4 and 7) and fled back to her native United States illegally while I was away...
    DivorcedEuropean DivorcedEuropean 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 18

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    Relatively new to this lifestyle, although I felt this way for a very long time in support of Christian Domestic Discipline.. I can totally take spanking and other punishment, and...
    hauntd hauntd 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    Marty has really stepped up to the plate. His batting average is 100% home runs and grand slams. Last night was a grand slam. He has decided since spanking me everyday or almost...
    Martys4ever Martys4ever 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 18

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    Divorced a narcissist 10 years ago. Have a son who is now 18. Any contact with her has been filled with anger, accusations,condescension ... A true intent to spread her misery...
    YYCMan YYCMan 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I recently left my ex, again. This is the last. In past few years, he choked me..slapped me.... Threw me... Kicked me... And other things too. The Last Time I saw him he said he's...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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