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I Had a Bad Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 133 People

    I Am the Wiser For It.

      Thomas De Quincey defined marriage as "a union between two persons, who lived in harmony so absolute with each other, as to be independent of the world outside. My idea of a true marriage is a mutual bonding of two individual souls. Nothing to do with legal contracts...
    WiseOldOwl WiseOldOwl 56-60, M 20 Responses Oct 4, 2009

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    Ultimately We Split Up

    I had a very bad marriage, ultimately we got divorced.  Sad, really.  It was religious differences that drove us apart.  She thought she was God, I thought she was a succubus sent from the underworld.
    ElLagarto ElLagarto 56-60, M 12 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Two Time Loser

    Yes, that's right.  I've been through it twice.  I'm not proud of that, not in the least.  I'd like to point my finger and say it wasn't my fault, however, I simply cannot do that regardless of innocence or lack thereof. The first one ... simply put we were both...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2007

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    My Diy To Fix My Marriage- And It Worked

    1) I began to pray 2) I began to pay........ (Attention) To what was wrong with me. (Not him) 3) I started to fix ME 4) I talked with him. ** I was not angry nor did I accuse him of causing my troubles.** 5) I found some fatal flaws in our relationship. (Both sides) So, I worked...
    IamGreenEyes IamGreenEyes 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    Where We Went Wrong.

    My 1st marriage was a disaster! Instead of a long story of what she did to me and i did to her, i'd just like to say that neither of us knew how to do it right. For me, it was the result of bad childhood programing to not know and I assume the same for her. of all the issues...
    jimrich jimrich 66-70, M Jan 27, 2011

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    A Piece of Paper

    Isn't it funny how alot of men change after you marry them, I'm not saying all men but alot of them change.I married a little over 2 years ago, when I met Greg he was kind, caring, thoughtful and everything else that goes along with courtship. After we had married BOY did that...
    carol2 carol2 46-50, F Jan 1, 2008

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    Trying to Transform a Bad Boy Into a Prince

    I had a fairytale wedding with a guy that I knew was completely diffrent from me. He didn't do the things I liked to do, or hang around the people I liked to associate with or anything, but he was exciting because he was everything that mommy and daddy had kept me away from...
    Tappestry Tappestry 36-40, F Nov 22, 2007

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    Unhappy Wives

    I have been married before. I can get married again if this one doesn't work out but who would want to?   He was happily married - but his wife wasn't. - Victor Borge
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    Why Did I Stay In An Abusive Relationship For So Long?

    Whenever I mentioned to others how I stayed in an abusive marriage for 16 years, the classic response I'd get was why would anyone tolerate such a "relationship" for so long if it was so bad? Letting go of an intensely harmful relationship is more complicated than it looks...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Abusive Husband

    My first husband was very abusive. I married him when I was 19. We had 5 children together. He would beat on me and the 2 boys all the time. 2 of our 3 girls he sexually abused. It was a very hard time for all of us and even now me and the three oldest kids still remember all of...
    ConnieNewZ ConnieNewZ 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2007

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    "My Story"

    First and far most of all, this is my little short story of what I actually went through during 1995-2000 and just wanted you readers to know that we all have our own opinions, in which I had stated mine. So, please feel free to express your opinions in however which way you...
    ksoria73 ksoria73 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    Update

    Well I have talked to my MM. Its not what you're thinking- I didnt fall into the trap. After not returning his calls or texts he did stop contacting me. BUT.....He contacted me Friday to let me know that his wife had gotten into his computer while he was out of the office and...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F Aug 29, 2011

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    Yes I had a bad marriage, and I was dumb enough to get out earlier. Now to say it was all her fault would be a huge lie. I stood like a Coulomb of stone when I could have bent some what. Even when I did bend though, it was not the right way most of the time. Sometimes I would...
    doctorirwin doctorirwin 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 25, 2010

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    My Husband and "Best Friend"

    My Ex husband was my high school sweetheart....we had two beautiful babies in the 5 years we were together. I became really good friend with this girl from work. Her and I were always together. Everywhere you seen her, I was there, and everywhere I was, she was there. She went to...
    heavensangelv2003 heavensangelv2003 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2007

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    I had a bad marriage!  There were signs when we were dating that I should have NEVER gotten married but I igorned those signs because he was my first boyfriend and first love. We dated for 5 years and was married for 20 before I couldnt take it anymore and left! The only good...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2011

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    Three Bad Marriages

    I have been married 3 times and each marriage has been horrible and I have been cheated on.  Due to all these issues I have a very bad feeling and will not marry again.  Why is it that people cheat?  I do not understand.  If you are that unhappy than leave the...
    sgettman sgettman 46-50 3 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    The Closest I May Ever Be to Being Married

    The longest relationship I have ever had is now most likely coming to an end. It has been dreadful and it would be for the best if it did end. I am mostly just having a hard time letting go the idea of it never getting better. I also am scared for the fact that I know the...
    Evey11 Evey11 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    Y And D Syndrome

    I suffered from the young and dumb syndrome.You get married when you are young and dumb about yourself, your goals and the life of the person you are with.I did that and spent years unhappy with someone who I couldn't make happy.  It seemed that my life revolved around trying to...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    I Had A Bad Marriage? I Guess So...

    We started dating when I was 17 and she was 28. We were introduced through my cousin and I knew almost immediately she was someone special. We had some rocky times while dating but married when I was 22. The age difference didn't matter to me all. She was everything a man could...
    BohemianTragedy BohemianTragedy 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 28, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    If I had a way to leave here today with my kids and know that we would be ok, I would! I'm completely tired of this marriage I'm in.. All he does is walks around catching an...
    prizedeyes prizedeyes 31-35, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I had this friend that treated me like **** but I always treated her like a sister because I was afraid of being alone. One day I found out she was talking crap about me to my...
    thegirlinred thegirlinred 18-21, F Apr 27

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    My husband is a workaholic he is unromantic and thinks that life should be all about working so our grandchildren which we don't have (I'm 29) can have a better life. I'm all about...
    StilettoEsquire StilettoEsquire 26-30, F 4 Responses May 16

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    I have a friend who is super self conscious about her weight and appearance..she has been tearing me down a lot recently. I wonder if she even realizes that she does it? I found a...
    oyeabunstyle oyeabunstyle 26-30, F Apr 26

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    In my evolution, I have become very clear to the idea that a human being's love and care are just temporary. People express themselves through words but then get tired of you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 27

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    I know that history always repeats itself, but some things I just don't understand. Every single time I end up getting close to a person they either drift away from me, or backstab...
    lizcosmo1997 lizcosmo1997 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 27

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    Jaws. Arachnophobia. Nightmare on Elm Street. Alien. Goddam my parents for allowing me to watch those before my teens
    TheGrumpyDead TheGrumpyDead 31-35, M 1 Response May 9

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    Why am I writing this? Because so many of the stories you see are about bad marriages and sad marriages. I just want to remind people that sometimes marriage is wonderful.
    pinkcorsetgirl pinkcorsetgirl 41-45, F 8 Responses May 14

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment. She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F Apr 26

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment. She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    As I said I was the controller in my marriage, The operational word in this sentence is "was". Now everything is out of my control and my husband is ruling everything with an iron...
    isis55 isis55 51-55, F May 9

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    Let's see were do I begin... Maybe this is just what I needed to say. I sadly didn't wait until marriage. I'm on the short side of 33 and you know what I truly wish I had. To those...
    Beanbella Beanbella 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    i would not want it any other way!!! i recently found this on-line a few years ago. It is a great list of ideas on ways to submit to your Husabnd. i found this list giving me new...
    goodgirl456 goodgirl456 31-35, F 5 Responses May 7

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 36-40, M 4 Responses May 5

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    I got out. Best decision of my life. Every situation is different, and ending a marriage (particularly when there are children involved, which there are for me) is a serious...
    ericseviltwin ericseviltwin 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    Just having a bad day, wondering where I went wrong in my life. I feel like such a failure some days, like today. I don't know how I managed to end up married and divorced before...
    ifollowmyownstar ifollowmyownstar 31-35, F May 7

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    I've been needing to say this out loud for a long time now and I have never had anyone to talk to. I can't even talk to my best friend about it. I met my husband when I was 17...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    Hi Folks, I'm new here, but it seems like the appropriate group to post in because for the past month our marriage has become a kind of sexless desert. It's all because of some sex...
    NaiveSusan NaiveSusan 18-21, F 8 Responses May 13

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    I had an affair with my best friend's husband...Rightfully, she was very angry with me and was determined to let the whole world know, and that is exactly what she did. I don't...
    tulips1122 tulips1122 36-40, F 12 Responses May 1

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    I've been married for 4 years now and I'm so unhappy my husband would rather play video games and smoke pot can spend time with me. he sleeps in bed with me maybe 3 times a month...
    lonelyandconfusedwife2015 lonelyandconfusedwife2015 26-30, F 5 Responses May 6

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    I've never posted here before. I've learned of this site through my boyfriend, who used to post a lot about his sexless marriage. His posts were generally in the range of, "My wife...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses May 8

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    I had a cherished object once, And I am sure this is where my fierce love of dragons had originated from. It was a purple dragon with small wings and a big belly. The stuffing was...
    SugarAndStrawberries SugarAndStrawberries 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    I have been married for close to 3 years and have a beautiful daughter. Since the first day of our marriage, my husband is largely absent. He has a very demanding job which...
    notashappyasilook notashappyasilook 26-30, F 3 Responses May 6

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    hi!sir this is rekha ,ihave married almost 10yr since our marriage my husband has not held a steady job in entire 10 yrs ,now he is not working ,he is not intrested to job,iam so...
    harshi1 harshi1 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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