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I Had a Bad Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 131 People

    Ultimately We Split Up

    I had a very bad marriage, ultimately we got divorced.  Sad, really.  It was religious differences that drove us apart.  She thought she was God, I thought she was a succubus sent from the underworld.
    ElLagarto ElLagarto 56-60, M 12 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Abusive Husband

    My first husband was very abusive. I married him when I was 19. We had 5 children together. He would beat on me and the 2 boys all the time. 2 of our 3 girls he sexually abused. It was a very hard time for all of us and even now me and the three oldest kids still remember all of...
    ConnieNewZ ConnieNewZ 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2007

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    Two Time Loser

    Yes, that's right.  I've been through it twice.  I'm not proud of that, not in the least.  I'd like to point my finger and say it wasn't my fault, however, I simply cannot do that regardless of innocence or lack thereof. The first one ... simply put we were both...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2007

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    Trying to Transform a Bad Boy Into a Prince

    I had a fairytale wedding with a guy that I knew was completely diffrent from me. He didn't do the things I liked to do, or hang around the people I liked to associate with or anything, but he was exciting because he was everything that mommy and daddy had kept me away from...
    Tappestry Tappestry 36-40, F Nov 22, 2007

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    Why Did I Stay In An Abusive Relationship For So Long?

    Whenever I mentioned to others how I stayed in an abusive marriage for 16 years, the classic response I'd get was why would anyone tolerate such a "relationship" for so long if it was so bad? Letting go of an intensely harmful relationship is more complicated than it looks...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    The Closest I May Ever Be to Being Married

    The longest relationship I have ever had is now most likely coming to an end. It has been dreadful and it would be for the best if it did end. I am mostly just having a hard time letting go the idea of it never getting better. I also am scared for the fact that I know the...
    Evey11 Evey11 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    Unhappy Wives

    I have been married before. I can get married again if this one doesn't work out but who would want to?   He was happily married - but his wife wasn't. - Victor Borge
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    Y And D Syndrome

    I suffered from the young and dumb syndrome.You get married when you are young and dumb about yourself, your goals and the life of the person you are with.I did that and spent years unhappy with someone who I couldn't make happy.  It seemed that my life revolved around trying to...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    My Husband and "Best Friend"

    My Ex husband was my high school sweetheart....we had two beautiful babies in the 5 years we were together. I became really good friend with this girl from work. Her and I were always together. Everywhere you seen her, I was there, and everywhere I was, she was there. She went to...
    heavensangelv2003 heavensangelv2003 21-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2007

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    Where We Went Wrong.

    My 1st marriage was a disaster! Instead of a long story of what she did to me and i did to her, i'd just like to say that neither of us knew how to do it right. For me, it was the result of bad childhood programing to not know and I assume the same for her. of all the issues...
    jimrich jimrich 70+, M Jan 27, 2011

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    A Piece of Paper

    Isn't it funny how alot of men change after you marry them, I'm not saying all men but alot of them change.I married a little over 2 years ago, when I met Greg he was kind, caring, thoughtful and everything else that goes along with courtship. After we had married BOY did that...
    carol2 carol2 46-50, F Jan 1, 2008

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    Update

    Well I have talked to my MM. Its not what you're thinking- I didnt fall into the trap. After not returning his calls or texts he did stop contacting me. BUT.....He contacted me Friday to let me know that his wife had gotten into his computer while he was out of the office and...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F Aug 29, 2011

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    I had a bad marriage!  There were signs when we were dating that I should have NEVER gotten married but I igorned those signs because he was my first boyfriend and first love. We dated for 5 years and was married for 20 before I couldnt take it anymore and left! The only good...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2011

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    "My Story"

    First and far most of all, this is my little short story of what I actually went through during 1995-2000 and just wanted you readers to know that we all have our own opinions, in which I had stated mine. So, please feel free to express your opinions in however which way you...
    ksoria73 ksoria73 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    Three Bad Marriages

    I have been married 3 times and each marriage has been horrible and I have been cheated on.  Due to all these issues I have a very bad feeling and will not marry again.  Why is it that people cheat?  I do not understand.  If you are that unhappy than leave the...
    sgettman sgettman 46-50 3 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    I Had A Bad Marriage? I Guess So...

    We started dating when I was 17 and she was 28. We were introduced through my cousin and I knew almost immediately she was someone special. We had some rocky times while dating but married when I was 22. The age difference didn't matter to me all. She was everything a man could...
    BohemianTragedy BohemianTragedy 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 28, 2012

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    Yes I had a bad marriage, and I was dumb enough to get out earlier. Now to say it was all her fault would be a huge lie. I stood like a Coulomb of stone when I could have bent some what. Even when I did bend though, it was not the right way most of the time. Sometimes I would...
    doctorirwin doctorirwin 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 25, 2010

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    My Diy To Fix My Marriage- And It Worked

    1) I began to pray 2) I began to pay........ (Attention) To what was wrong with me. (Not him) 3) I started to fix ME 4) I talked with him. ** I was not angry nor did I accuse him of causing my troubles.** 5) I found some fatal flaws in our relationship. (Both sides) So, I worked...
    IamGreenEyes IamGreenEyes 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    I Am the Wiser For It.

      Thomas De Quincey defined marriage as "a union between two persons, who lived in harmony so absolute with each other, as to be independent of the world outside. My idea of a true marriage is a mutual bonding of two individual souls. Nothing to do with legal contracts...
    WiseOldOwl WiseOldOwl 56-60, M 20 Responses Oct 4, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I'm in a bad marriage and maybe if I can talk to someone I can stand it a few more years. If there were no kids I would be gone. Seriously...u would walk with a backpack if I had...
    Lonely2222 Lonely2222 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 15

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    I've been in a bad marriage since I was 22 and I'm ready to leave but I don't want to leave my young children or displace them from the home. I've tried over and over to repair the...
    skinnert1 skinnert1 31-35, M Feb 14

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    I'm only 51. I don't want to spend my life alone. I want to hike and camp and raft and ski. I would rather live in a cabin and road trip (not in a giant RV) than stay in a nice...
    Lonely2222 Lonely2222 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    My story: married after college at 22. Divorced at 28 with 2 kids. We were kids ourselves and he was an alcoholic with character issues. Put myself thru grad school and married...
    Lonely2222 Lonely2222 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 15

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    I'm 27. He's 38. We both came out of bad marriages. Lying, cheating, verbal abuse ect... We've been together a year a half. Not long, right? The sex used to be good...
    Sparklee05 Sparklee05 26-30, F 9 Responses Feb 3

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    Hello people, I am 40 years old I have severe periodontal disease, I am not here for pity, its my fault I have this, poor hygiene in my younger years, smoking unfilterred cigrettes...
    Wakeup56 Wakeup56 36-40, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    There's a member that posted a story on marriage, loss of intimacy and love and divorce. In the end the husband realizes how he neglected his wife, how much he still loves her and...
    MsInvis MsInvis 46-50, F 3 hrs ago

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    I have a few embarrassing moments in my life some i never told anyone but id like to get it off my chest. First one is when i was 14, in middle school, i was at lunch and the girls...
    ErinMartin ErinMartin 18-21, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    It is the middle of the night and I have just been rejected again last night. Today, my wife flies overseas for 2 weeks and she does not show the slightest inclination to have even...
    Sub305k Sub305k 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 11

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    I'm wondering about marriage in general. What is it? Why is it necessary? I've been exploring myself, my flaws and attributes. Been looking at my life, my relationships and the...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 9 Responses Feb 13

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    I kind of regret getting married. *The crazy thing is one of the most disturbing nightmares I ever had was while I was in my teens, and it was about me marrying a decent man who...
    Bethstar Bethstar 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    What do you remember about your ex's immediately after breakup and a year after? The good and the bad memories? Do you find yourself remembering only the good memories of your ex...
    FleetingThots FleetingThots 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I've been married for 6 1/2 years. 3 months ago my husband had to confess to cheating because he tested positive for chlamydia. I was devastated. I couldn't believe it. Throughout...
    Kylamama518 Kylamama518 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 22

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    Well, we had our first sex argument of 2015. After having a dry Valentines Day (pun intended) I stifled my disappointment, like I do pretty much every day, through the weekend...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 50 Responses Feb 17

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    I had a dream last night...It was a vivid dream, and it was of my father who passed away in 2008... here is my background... We had a very challenging relationship, my father was a...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F Feb 16

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    Never imagined myself posting in this section but here goes. So I've been married over 12 years now and to be honest after reading all the stories here, I wouldn't say I have a bad...
    destiny2015 destiny2015 36-40, F Feb 22

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    I have been married 9 years. we have 3 children ages 11,6,5. I just want to leave so bad! im not happy here but he is, how I have no idea... we have separated before and I felt so...
    mekelb mekelb 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    I am a male who has been married for 11 years, we have a nine year old son and i have ruined our marriage through my jealous behaviour. I have moved out for the second time so we...
    sema4444 sema4444 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    Update!! After sleepless nights and crying throughout, I managed to get some sleep at 6am today and woke up at 9am. Hubby had gone to work by the time I woke. So I sent him a...
    Alexandra0210 Alexandra0210 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 17

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    Lucy and the chocolates. I lasted one day. The bearing factory, a freight train in my chest, so loud. The sound shook my gizzard. No thanks. Walmart, night stocker. Look in the...
    rustyskills rustyskills 41-45, M 3 hrs ago

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    Our counselling is going well. At some point l will do an update. H is continuing to actively participate. He appears keen to go along. We have been looking at our family...
    2BlossomBlue 2BlossomBlue 51-55, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    I've only been married 1 year and 1 month. We were friends for 2 years, then together for 2..you think that would be the set up for something amazing. Today I find out that he is...
    twilightbutterfly twilightbutterfly 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 13

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    Counseling. Okay we are going to give this a try. Honestly I'm dreading it. He is fairly happy with how things are but I am not. Basically he says he wants me to be happy and...
    newdaynewway newdaynewway 46-50, F 6 Responses Feb 18

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    I am having difficulties putting my husbands different personas into one. See, he can be quite normal, or even great; mostly around other people and at work. He is funny, charming...
    Dini00 Dini00 31-35, F Feb 19

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    Somebody said if they were my husband they would be upset with my stories and I wonder why???!! This is my place to vent.... My response to him is below. honestly I write it out to...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 3 Responses