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I Had a Bad Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 128 People

    Trying to Transform a Bad Boy Into a Prince

    I had a fairytale wedding with a guy that I knew was completely diffrent from me. He didn't do the things I liked to do, or hang around the people I liked to associate with or anything, but he was exciting because he was everything that mommy and daddy had kept me away from...
    Tappestry Tappestry 36-40, F Nov 22, 2007

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    Y And D Syndrome

    I suffered from the young and dumb syndrome.You get married when you are young and dumb about yourself, your goals and the life of the person you are with.I did that and spent years unhappy with someone who I couldn't make happy.  It seemed that my life revolved around trying to...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    Update

    Well I have talked to my MM. Its not what you're thinking- I didnt fall into the trap. After not returning his calls or texts he did stop contacting me. BUT.....He contacted me Friday to let me know that his wife had gotten into his computer while he was out of the office and...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F Aug 29, 2011

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    A Piece of Paper

    Isn't it funny how alot of men change after you marry them, I'm not saying all men but alot of them change.I married a little over 2 years ago, when I met Greg he was kind, caring, thoughtful and everything else that goes along with courtship. After we had married BOY did that...
    carol2 carol2 46-50, F Jan 1, 2008

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    Why Did I Stay In An Abusive Relationship For So Long?

    Whenever I mentioned to others how I stayed in an abusive marriage for 16 years, the classic response I'd get was why would anyone tolerate such a "relationship" for so long if it was so bad? Letting go of an intensely harmful relationship is more complicated than it looks...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    The Closest I May Ever Be to Being Married

    The longest relationship I have ever had is now most likely coming to an end. It has been dreadful and it would be for the best if it did end. I am mostly just having a hard time letting go the idea of it never getting better. I also am scared for the fact that I know the...
    Evey11 Evey11 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    My Husband and "Best Friend"

    My Ex husband was my high school sweetheart....we had two beautiful babies in the 5 years we were together. I became really good friend with this girl from work. Her and I were always together. Everywhere you seen her, I was there, and everywhere I was, she was there. She went to...
    heavensangelv2003 heavensangelv2003 21-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2007

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    Unhappy Wives

    I have been married before. I can get married again if this one doesn't work out but who would want to?   He was happily married - but his wife wasn't. - Victor Borge
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    Ultimately We Split Up

    I had a very bad marriage, ultimately we got divorced.  Sad, really.  It was religious differences that drove us apart.  She thought she was God, I thought she was a succubus sent from the underworld.
    ElLagarto ElLagarto 56-60, M 12 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    Yes I had a bad marriage, and I was dumb enough to get out earlier. Now to say it was all her fault would be a huge lie. I stood like a Coulomb of stone when I could have bent some what. Even when I did bend though, it was not the right way most of the time. Sometimes I would...
    doctorirwin doctorirwin 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 25, 2010

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    I suppose he married me

    because he thought of me as his girl ever since childhood. I found myself in trouble with a new baby from a guy I had a long relationship with. They both knew each other and I suppose I should of listened to my future husband then BUT I thought I knew what I wanted. I was...
    HotBoxDatRocks HotBoxDatRocks 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 27

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    Three Bad Marriages

    I have been married 3 times and each marriage has been horrible and I have been cheated on.  Due to all these issues I have a very bad feeling and will not marry again.  Why is it that people cheat?  I do not understand.  If you are that unhappy than leave the...
    sgettman sgettman 46-50 3 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    Where We Went Wrong.

    My 1st marriage was a disaster! Instead of a long story of what she did to me and i did to her, i'd just like to say that neither of us knew how to do it right. For me, it was the result of bad childhood programing to not know and I assume the same for her. of all the issues...
    jimrich jimrich 70+, M Jan 27, 2011

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    "My Story"

    First and far most of all, this is my little short story of what I actually went through during 1995-2000 and just wanted you readers to know that we all have our own opinions, in which I had stated mine. So, please feel free to express your opinions in however which way you...
    ksoria73 ksoria73 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    I Am the Wiser For It.

      Thomas De Quincey defined marriage as "a union between two persons, who lived in harmony so absolute with each other, as to be independent of the world outside. My idea of a true marriage is a mutual bonding of two individual souls. Nothing to do with legal contracts...
    WiseOldOwl WiseOldOwl 56-60, M 20 Responses Oct 4, 2009

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    I had a bad marriage!  There were signs when we were dating that I should have NEVER gotten married but I igorned those signs because he was my first boyfriend and first love. We dated for 5 years and was married for 20 before I couldnt take it anymore and left! The only good...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 6, 2011

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    Two Time Loser

    Yes, that's right.  I've been through it twice.  I'm not proud of that, not in the least.  I'd like to point my finger and say it wasn't my fault, however, I simply cannot do that regardless of innocence or lack thereof. The first one ... simply put we were both...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2007

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    I Had A Bad Marriage? I Guess So...

    We started dating when I was 17 and she was 28. We were introduced through my cousin and I knew almost immediately she was someone special. We had some rocky times while dating but married when I was 22. The age difference didn't matter to me all. She was everything a man could...
    BohemianTragedy BohemianTragedy 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 28, 2012

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    Abusive Husband

    My first husband was very abusive. I married him when I was 19. We had 5 children together. He would beat on me and the 2 boys all the time. 2 of our 3 girls he sexually abused. It was a very hard time for all of us and even now me and the three oldest kids still remember all of...
    ConnieNewZ ConnieNewZ 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2007

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    My Diy To Fix My Marriage- And It Worked

    1) I began to pray 2) I began to pay........ (Attention) To what was wrong with me. (Not him) 3) I started to fix ME 4) I talked with him. ** I was not angry nor did I accuse him of causing my troubles.** 5) I found some fatal flaws in our relationship. (Both sides) So, I worked...
    IamGreenEyes IamGreenEyes 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    It will be 4 years in a few weeks that we have been married. 6 months after we married everything fell apart. He became distant, cruel, and emotionally abusive. I stood up to him...
    ditsheyo ditsheyo 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    Today's disappointment is going to be the last time I have one of the kind... Someone who wrote to me in such a sweet, loving, caring way...even asked for my address to send me a...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 22

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    Sitting here with my coffee and my dog cuddled up next to me, feeling oh so relaxed from the sedation from the cervical epidural. Funny thing is the sedation didn't kick in at the...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 15 Responses Sep 18

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    I have been married for 24 years and probably about 20 have been relatively sexless. My W and I had a fight on Sunday, I slept on the coach on Monday (my choice), and had yet...
    RestonLonely RestonLonely 46-50, M 10 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I had a dream. It must have been Halloween because I was in a batman costume. We must've been at a Halloween party that went bad because there were decorations and lights of...
    OneHowlToTheMoon OneHowlToTheMoon 22-25, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 13 Responses Sep 15

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses Sep 15

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 15 Responses 3 days ago

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 18

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    Everything is ok but sex. Yes, I know; those are the most unpopular words here. Those who dare to utter them are frequently treated with …….. But I just wanted to give some...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 8 Responses Sep 2

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    For those with children who are thinking of divorcing or outsourcing, a word of caution. I won't go into my background as of now, how I grew up and how little I knew and understood...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 11 Responses Sep 15

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    I did not write the following but it is a great take on what an open marriage is like and what it should be like. I found this article at Salon.com. What I learned from dating...
    sosexyincolo sosexyincolo 36-40 2 Responses Sep 11

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    My wife's best friend is divorcing her husband, who is one of my good friends. She said things were bad for a while, and somehow it escalated past the point of therapy. They never...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well the day finally came….and went. I did the deed and asked for a divorce. As expected she was upset. I couldn’t blame her. Her whole world was going to change. She...
    beachlivin04 beachlivin04 41-45, M 47 Responses Sep 19

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    I will try to describe my sexless marriage. We have been together for a long time. We met in high school and were each others first lovers. Both of us were shy and insecure and...
    Amaaj Amaaj 46-50, F 12 Responses Sep 20

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    I've heard the technical definition of a sexless marriage is sex less than 10 times in a year. But what about quality? What about a partner who doesn't just roll over and tell you...
    frogchop frogchop 46-50, M 14 Responses Sep 9

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    my story is a long one. i keep it secret, but am haunted by it each day. i still feel scared, and nervous. i went to brazil for a special overseas college for international...
    rainydaytoday rainydaytoday 22-25 1 Response 5 days ago

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    A few weeks ago I met someone here via his responses on my posts. He seemed very nice. I checked his profile. Others liked him. It seemed "safe" to chat with him. So when he...
    IrisROE IrisROE 56-60, F 46 Responses Sep 5

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    Marriage is not perfect. You must take the good and the bad days. Hopefully the good days outweigh the bad. It is a continual work in progress. Love brought two people together and...
    desirabledreams desirabledreams 46-50, F 8 Responses Sep 21

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    I lost my Dad when I was four so yea....I have a had a lot of time to think about his death, fathers, him and well, everything. I was four and although I was in the room right...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 13

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    I Had An Affair Tainted I am new this web page, read some of the interesting stories and have seen how much I can relate to some of them. I am not much of a reader or writer in...
    maidinthebox maidinthebox 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 18

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    I have failed my my wife. It took an entire year for me to be able to admit that or even see it. For the last year it's been "my wife is selfish" or "my wife is unreasonable." But...
    TonyM323 TonyM323 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 23

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 15

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    If you asked me a few years ago, I would tell you how horrible an affair is and I looked down on people who had affairs. Now I am the person on the other side, and it's true what...
    Yalaboo Yalaboo 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 7

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    I just read something that makes too much sense, good people make you feel good, bad people make you feel bad. That is the exact reason I had to have my husband find some place...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 22

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