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I Had a Bad Marriage

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    Two Time Loser

    Yes, that's right.  I've been through it twice.  I'm not proud of that, not in the least.  I'd like to point my finger and say it wasn't my fault, however, I simply cannot do that regardless of innocence or lack thereof. The first one ... simply put we were both...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2007

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    The Closest I May Ever Be to Being Married

    The longest relationship I have ever had is now most likely coming to an end. It has been dreadful and it would be for the best if it did end. I am mostly just having a hard time letting go the idea of it never getting better. I also am scared for the fact that I know the...
    Evey11 Evey11 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    A Piece of Paper

    Isn't it funny how alot of men change after you marry them, I'm not saying all men but alot of them change.I married a little over 2 years ago, when I met Greg he was kind, caring, thoughtful and everything else that goes along with courtship. After we had married BOY did that...
    carol2 carol2 46-50, F Jan 1, 2008

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    Trying to Transform a Bad Boy Into a Prince

    I had a fairytale wedding with a guy that I knew was completely diffrent from me. He didn't do the things I liked to do, or hang around the people I liked to associate with or anything, but he was exciting because he was everything that mommy and daddy had kept me away from...
    Tappestry Tappestry 36-40, F Nov 22, 2007

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    "My Story"

    First and far most of all, this is my little short story of what I actually went through during 1995-2000 and just wanted you readers to know that we all have our own opinions, in which I had stated mine. So, please feel free to express your opinions in however which way you...
    ksoria73 ksoria73 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    My Bad Marriage

    For 10 years i was in a bad marriage, before i got married i was already engaged to an other person i had everything i wanted except for one thing that he wasnt willing or ready to give me. I was talking to the kids i was babysitting and he didnt promise me the world or promise...
    jacksonnicky jacksonnicky 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 2, 2013

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    I Had A Bad Marriage? I Guess So...

    We started dating when I was 17 and she was 28. We were introduced through my cousin and I knew almost immediately she was someone special. We had some rocky times while dating but married when I was 22. The age difference didn't matter to me all. She was everything a man could...
    BohemianTragedy BohemianTragedy 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 28, 2012

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    Three Bad Marriages

    I have been married 3 times and each marriage has been horrible and I have been cheated on.  Due to all these issues I have a very bad feeling and will not marry again.  Why is it that people cheat?  I do not understand.  If you are that unhappy than leave the...
    sgettman sgettman 46-50 3 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    My Husband and "Best Friend"

    My Ex husband was my high school sweetheart....we had two beautiful babies in the 5 years we were together. I became really good friend with this girl from work. Her and I were always together. Everywhere you seen her, I was there, and everywhere I was, she was there. She went to...
    heavensangelv2003 heavensangelv2003 21-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2007

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    Abusive Husband

    My first husband was very abusive. I married him when I was 19. We had 5 children together. He would beat on me and the 2 boys all the time. 2 of our 3 girls he sexually abused. It was a very hard time for all of us and even now me and the three oldest kids still remember all of...
    ConnieNewZ ConnieNewZ 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2007

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    I Am the Wiser For It.

      Thomas De Quincey defined marriage as "a union between two persons, who lived in harmony so absolute with each other, as to be independent of the world outside. My idea of a true marriage is a mutual bonding of two individual souls. Nothing to do with legal contracts...
    WiseOldOwl WiseOldOwl 56-60, M 20 Responses Oct 4, 2009

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    Update

    Well I have talked to my MM. Its not what you're thinking- I didnt fall into the trap. After not returning his calls or texts he did stop contacting me. BUT.....He contacted me Friday to let me know that his wife had gotten into his computer while he was out of the office and...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F Aug 29, 2011

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    Why Did I Stay In An Abusive Relationship For So Long?

    Whenever I mentioned to others how I stayed in an abusive marriage for 16 years, the classic response I'd get was why would anyone tolerate such a "relationship" for so long if it was so bad? Letting go of an intensely harmful relationship is more complicated than it looks...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Y And D Syndrome

    I suffered from the young and dumb syndrome.You get married when you are young and dumb about yourself, your goals and the life of the person you are with.I did that and spent years unhappy with someone who I couldn't make happy.  It seemed that my life revolved around trying to...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    I had a bad marriage!  There were signs when we were dating that I should have NEVER gotten married but I igorned those signs because he was my first boyfriend and first love. We dated for 5 years and was married for 20 before I couldnt take it anymore and left! The only good...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 6, 2011

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    Unhappy Wives

    I have been married before. I can get married again if this one doesn't work out but who would want to?   He was happily married - but his wife wasn't. - Victor Borge
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    Yes I had a bad marriage, and I was dumb enough to get out earlier. Now to say it was all her fault would be a huge lie. I stood like a Coulomb of stone when I could have bent some what. Even when I did bend though, it was not the right way most of the time. Sometimes I would...
    doctorirwin doctorirwin 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 25, 2010

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    Ultimately We Split Up

    I had a very bad marriage, ultimately we got divorced.  Sad, really.  It was religious differences that drove us apart.  She thought she was God, I thought she was a succubus sent from the underworld.
    ElLagarto ElLagarto 56-60, M 12 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    My Diy To Fix My Marriage- And It Worked

    1) I began to pray 2) I began to pay........ (Attention) To what was wrong with me. (Not him) 3) I started to fix ME 4) I talked with him. ** I was not angry nor did I accuse him of causing my troubles.** 5) I found some fatal flaws in our relationship. (Both sides) So, I worked...
    IamGreenEyes IamGreenEyes 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    Where We Went Wrong.

    My 1st marriage was a disaster! Instead of a long story of what she did to me and i did to her, i'd just like to say that neither of us knew how to do it right. For me, it was the result of bad childhood programing to not know and I assume the same for her. of all the issues...
    jimrich jimrich 70+, M Jan 27, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I have been in a common law marriage for nearly 4 years. There have been many issues with me especially because i battle some anxiety and depression issues. Then i met someone...
    saria89 saria89 22-25, F Jul 9

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    Dealing with this crap from my husband. I want him to give me the divorce papers. Instead of taking things day by day has he saids. Who wants to live there life wondering what...
    OverPowered1 OverPowered1 31-35, F Jul 16

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    My wife and I met in college 14 years ago but we didn't date we just were friends. She leaves to return home because one of her parents get ill and we lose contact until 3 years...
    Solonelysc Solonelysc 31-35, M Jul 14

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    My wife just told me that we shouldn't celebrate our anniversary this week. Fine by me. The rest of our marriage is sham. Why pretend we are okay one day out of the year?
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Me and my husband tried to watch a movie together. It just seems forced. Our interaction with one another is forced... I feel like we are more like roommates than a couple. I...
    Shawneeluv Shawneeluv 22-25, F Jul 6

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    I'm 47 and very lonely My wife has been seeing someone else for years
    Solo24 Solo24 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Any women that want some fun with me ? Xx
    Solo24 Solo24 46-50, M 6 days ago

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    I've posted my affair story, so not going to repeat. I've finished my Affair, which is why this title says, I HAD an affair. It's been 5 months since I was together with the...
    OnAlert OnAlert 56-60, M 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    Lessons From Finance Class... I'm taking Business Finance this month (because nothing is more fun than sixteen-week courses packed into a four-week-long summer class), and my...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 12 Responses Jul 10

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    Thank you all for letting me vent here. It is therapeutic and helps me organize my thoughts. . I do often feel like I am imposing on people when I talk to them. I remember being...
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 28 Responses Jun 28

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    I don't see how this is going to work! I feel really bad. I am home sick from work. I have had bad dreams and my master is never around. He is working so hard to make a better...
    RsBrat RsBrat 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 8

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    Bare with me, long story. For many years there has been a street that I do not like, get bad vibes from. Can't really explain why, just hate driving down that street. Yesterday...
    TheEppy TheEppy 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    I have had bad luck for awhile.Right now my husband has been out of work for a week,and i have money to pay rent for august but thats it. .I'm working odd jobs right now.He was...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I just want him. That's it. Only him. I want to just be around him. I want to listen to the sound of his voice talk about anything an everything. I want to talk until 5 am and...
    JustAnotherNobody21 JustAnotherNobody21 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    I had an abdominal myomectomy on June 25, 2014. What an experience. So far my recovery has been easy. But I think I have been moving around far too much. Because the staples that...
    moniqueshea moniqueshea 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    This morning as I woke I had an incredible urge to wrap my arms around my SO and when I did he grabbed my hand and put it over his heart and squeezed tight. We laid like that for...
    whatevernobody whatevernobody 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    For about a year I've been considering divorcing my wife of nearly 8 years. Our relationship has never been great. We are great friends, but horrible lovers/spouses. We do things...
    randomtiger45 randomtiger45 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    I am an affair success story. Due to my x-h's controlling behaviour toward me (coupled with alcohol abuse) for years, I checked out of my marriage a few years ago. I allowed fear...
    dayflight dayflight 31-35 9 Responses Jul 15

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    I have no idea how to balance anything in this marriage anymore. There is zero intimacy in our marriage and every time I bring it up it is always, "we have no intimacy in our...
    glammjunkie glammjunkie 22-25, F Jun 27

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      I feel I have mentally checked out of this marriage months ago. I keep trying to deny my feelings and think everything is okay and not that bad. I am tired of being...
    Goddess65 Goddess65 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I never thought that I would be in a situation like this. I was raised in a strict Christian family that honed in on the importance of being a "good girl". My 1st marriage ended in...
    BHEwife BHEwife 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 30

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    So I'm not finding much on here from the refusers perspective but I'll give this a try as I could really use some advice. I have been married for 8 years. We have a marriage that...
    britt48 britt48 26-30, F 32 Responses Jul 14

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    I am in my third marriage. Curious how things go, my first one ended because my wife refused sex almost all the time. to the point of being intolerable. The stories I read here, i...
    marcz7 marcz7 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 4

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    How do you know if it's really over? My husband and I relationship always consisted of "extreme moments"- when things are great they are head over heels great! In turn when...
    Ashante90 Ashante90 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    Interesting article on obesity and its effect on people's sex lives. "Readers first encounter Englehardt at her heaviest, 265 pounds, strapped to a CPAP machine for sleep apnea...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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