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I Had a Bad Marriage

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    Two Time Loser

    Yes, that's right.  I've been through it twice.  I'm not proud of that, not in the least.  I'd like to point my finger and say it wasn't my fault, however, I simply cannot do that regardless of innocence or lack thereof. The first one ... simply put we were both...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2007

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    Abusive Husband

    My first husband was very abusive. I married him when I was 19. We had 5 children together. He would beat on me and the 2 boys all the time. 2 of our 3 girls he sexually abused. It was a very hard time for all of us and even now me and the three oldest kids still remember all of...
    ConnieNewZ ConnieNewZ 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2007

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    A Piece of Paper

    Isn't it funny how alot of men change after you marry them, I'm not saying all men but alot of them change.I married a little over 2 years ago, when I met Greg he was kind, caring, thoughtful and everything else that goes along with courtship. After we had married BOY did that...
    carol2 carol2 46-50, F Jan 1, 2008

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    Update

    Well I have talked to my MM. Its not what you're thinking- I didnt fall into the trap. After not returning his calls or texts he did stop contacting me. BUT.....He contacted me Friday to let me know that his wife had gotten into his computer while he was out of the office and...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F Aug 29, 2011

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    My Husband and "Best Friend"

    My Ex husband was my high school sweetheart....we had two beautiful babies in the 5 years we were together. I became really good friend with this girl from work. Her and I were always together. Everywhere you seen her, I was there, and everywhere I was, she was there. She went to...
    heavensangelv2003 heavensangelv2003 21-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2007

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    Three Bad Marriages

    I have been married 3 times and each marriage has been horrible and I have been cheated on.  Due to all these issues I have a very bad feeling and will not marry again.  Why is it that people cheat?  I do not understand.  If you are that unhappy than leave the...
    sgettman sgettman 46-50 3 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    I Had A Bad Marriage? I Guess So...

    We started dating when I was 17 and she was 28. We were introduced through my cousin and I knew almost immediately she was someone special. We had some rocky times while dating but married when I was 22. The age difference didn't matter to me all. She was everything a man could...
    BohemianTragedy BohemianTragedy 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 28, 2012

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    Why Did I Stay In An Abusive Relationship For So Long?

    Whenever I mentioned to others how I stayed in an abusive marriage for 16 years, the classic response I'd get was why would anyone tolerate such a "relationship" for so long if it was so bad? Letting go of an intensely harmful relationship is more complicated than it looks...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    "My Story"

    First and far most of all, this is my little short story of what I actually went through during 1995-2000 and just wanted you readers to know that we all have our own opinions, in which I had stated mine. So, please feel free to express your opinions in however which way you...
    ksoria73 ksoria73 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    Ultimately We Split Up

    I had a very bad marriage, ultimately we got divorced.  Sad, really.  It was religious differences that drove us apart.  She thought she was God, I thought she was a succubus sent from the underworld.
    ElLagarto ElLagarto 56-60, M 12 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    I Am the Wiser For It.

      Thomas De Quincey defined marriage as "a union between two persons, who lived in harmony so absolute with each other, as to be independent of the world outside. My idea of a true marriage is a mutual bonding of two individual souls. Nothing to do with legal contracts...
    WiseOldOwl WiseOldOwl 56-60, M 20 Responses Oct 4, 2009

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    Yes I had a bad marriage, and I was dumb enough to get out earlier. Now to say it was all her fault would be a huge lie. I stood like a Coulomb of stone when I could have bent some what. Even when I did bend though, it was not the right way most of the time. Sometimes I would...
    doctorirwin doctorirwin 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 25, 2010

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    The Closest I May Ever Be to Being Married

    The longest relationship I have ever had is now most likely coming to an end. It has been dreadful and it would be for the best if it did end. I am mostly just having a hard time letting go the idea of it never getting better. I also am scared for the fact that I know the...
    Evey11 Evey11 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    Unhappy Wives

    I have been married before. I can get married again if this one doesn't work out but who would want to?   He was happily married - but his wife wasn't. - Victor Borge
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    I Had A Bad Marriage

    I had a bad marriage!  There were signs when we were dating that I should have NEVER gotten married but I igorned those signs because he was my first boyfriend and first love. We dated for 5 years and was married for 20 before I couldnt take it anymore and left! The only good...
    true2myself2 true2myself2 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 6, 2011

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    Y And D Syndrome

    I suffered from the young and dumb syndrome.You get married when you are young and dumb about yourself, your goals and the life of the person you are with.I did that and spent years unhappy with someone who I couldn't make happy.  It seemed that my life revolved around trying to...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    Where We Went Wrong.

    My 1st marriage was a disaster! Instead of a long story of what she did to me and i did to her, i'd just like to say that neither of us knew how to do it right. For me, it was the result of bad childhood programing to not know and I assume the same for her. of all the issues...
    jimrich jimrich 70+, M Jan 27, 2011

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    I suppose he married me

    because he thought of me as his girl ever since childhood. I found myself in trouble with a new baby from a guy I had a long relationship with. They both knew each other and I suppose I should of listened to my future husband then BUT I thought I knew what I wanted. I was...
    HotBoxDatRocks HotBoxDatRocks 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 27

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    My Diy To Fix My Marriage- And It Worked

    1) I began to pray 2) I began to pay........ (Attention) To what was wrong with me. (Not him) 3) I started to fix ME 4) I talked with him. ** I was not angry nor did I accuse him of causing my troubles.** 5) I found some fatal flaws in our relationship. (Both sides) So, I worked...
    IamGreenEyes IamGreenEyes 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    Trying to Transform a Bad Boy Into a Prince

    I had a fairytale wedding with a guy that I knew was completely diffrent from me. He didn't do the things I liked to do, or hang around the people I liked to associate with or anything, but he was exciting because he was everything that mommy and daddy had kept me away from...
    Tappestry Tappestry 36-40, F Nov 22, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    I am lonely in this marriage , my husband had gave up on life .I know we have been through a lot together ,but I never gave up on our family ,I still try hard . I love him to death...
    Nectar12 Nectar12 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 23

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    I am just looking to vent a little bit here. I've been married for 20 years. It's been 20 years of pretty awful. My husband doesn't have conversations with me and we haven't been...
    endjoy1994 endjoy1994 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    It will be 4 years in a few weeks that we have been married. 6 months after we married everything fell apart. He became distant, cruel, and emotionally abusive. I stood up to him...
    ditsheyo ditsheyo 31-35, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    Once again my wife gets angry for little or no reason & so I'm sleeping on the couch...but I've learned that's a great time to ********** & chat on EP...
    LondonKiwi LondonKiwi 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 21

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    Started out well but my wife must have everything her way always. If I make a "mistake" (defined as not doing exactly as I am told) she will verbally & often physically assault me...
    LondonKiwi LondonKiwi 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 21

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    The lord is close to the brokenhearted. He saves those whose spirits have been crushed. Psalm 34:18
    Pierce7891 Pierce7891 16-17, F Aug 30

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    Today I was in class and got a new maths teacher, I was snapchatting a friend and, too be fair, the teacher was quite good looking. I was taking a photo of her to send to him and...
    ntbNwuahiag ntbNwuahiag 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    Sitting here with my coffee and my dog cuddled up next to me, feeling oh so relaxed from the sedation from the cervical epidural. Funny thing is the sedation didn't kick in at the...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 14 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    How sad, another bad marriage complaint. I can't even find or think of anything good about you. You make me feel like I should just die. FML! If ever I find myself divorced I won't...
    Fitguy1984 Fitguy1984 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am sadly coming to the realization that my spouse and I never really had a marriage. We weren't even good at dating. The first Valentine's day we had an argument...I don't even...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 20 Responses Aug 20

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    So I'm 20 years old.. Almost 21 actually, and I have never had any romantic experience of any kind. I can't think of anybody I know who has never been in a relationship, or who...
    postmixlemonade postmixlemonade 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    So I'm 20 years old.. Almost 21 actually, and I have never had any romantic experience of any kind. I can't think of anybody I know who has never been in a relationship, or who...
    postmixlemonade postmixlemonade 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 24

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    A few of my white girlfriends are involved in an interracial marriage. They all have kids by a black man as I do. Other white girlfriends are dating black men and two of them are...
    nudistwifeandmother nudistwifeandmother 41-45, F 2 Responses 38 mins ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    Everything is ok but sex. Yes, I know; those are the most unpopular words here. Those who dare to utter them are frequently treated with …….. But I just wanted to give some...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 8 Responses Sep 2

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    For those with children who are thinking of divorcing or outsourcing, a word of caution. I won't go into my background as of now, how I grew up and how little I knew and understood...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    Bear with me because this may seem off topic, but it isn't. I've been recently thinking about death. Yesterday, my post sexless marriage lover had to put his beloved dog of 14...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    I did not write the following but it is a great take on what an open marriage is like and what it should be like. I found this article at Salon.com. What I learned from dating...
    sosexyincolo sosexyincolo 36-40 2 Responses a week ago

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    Life after ILIASM I used to be a regular here. I found this group was very supportive and it really helped me regain some perspective and find the courage to leave my relationship...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 19

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    Good afternoon!! I am new here and I'm in need of some support right now. My husband and i have been married for 3 years and together for 4 years. I have never been done so wrong...
    trinmir trinmir 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I started my affair 6 months ago. Almost 6 months to the day. We are both married. She has two small kids, I have none. I've known her for 4 years and have had a crush on her...
    confusedinpa7 confusedinpa7 36-40, M 5 Responses Aug 28

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    2 years into my marriage and just found out my husband is confused about whether he likes guys or not. He had a couple of experiments in the past. The thoughts are coming back...
    viola411 viola411 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I have been denied sex by my wife for the past 24 years. I acknowledge that in the beginning I was responsible for most of the problems in the relationship. I was an alcoholic and...
    davejgj davejgj 66-70, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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