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I Had a Love Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 30 People

    How Hurt Would You Be?

     I’m curious about how people think of their lover after the affair......... Help me figure out how angry and hurt people are after being hurt by an affair.   Check out the survey........ “What Would You Do With The Pictures Left Over From Your...
    SHAWNTWAIN SHAWNTWAIN 51-55, M Mar 29, 2010

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    The Paper Store (Parking Lots)

    For about a year after Michele and Rich had begun to meet in various parking lots around Massachusetts, they would go for rides all over New England. Usually they would head off to scenic locations in the country, and sometimes to coastal areas. Michele always liked to lay a...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 11, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part Two)

    So let me begin by mentioning that when we first met in early 1997, Michele was just 32 years young, and I was 15 years older than her, 47 years old. Of course now as I write this I have just turned 64 and Michele will be turning 49 in a few days. From the very start Michele...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 5, 2013

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    Very Unordinary Love Affair

    I can't speak to him anymore. I can't see him anymore. My parents forbid me to go see him and his boss will fire him if he learns that we have been meeting up.   It has been 5 years now since I felt this love for this man. We started off just as friends and I...
    kiersten0775 kiersten0775 16-17, F Apr 5, 2010

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    Michele And Rich (Part Five)

    As she pulled away I noticed that a medium to large sized sedan had been sitting at an angle just back from us about 30 feet or so. This was a very empty, distant part of the lot at most times of the day. I sat there for a good 7 minutes and finally the man pulled slowly up past...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 6, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part Five)

    As she pulled away I noticed that a medium to large sized sedan had been sitting at an angle just back from us about 30 feet or so. This was a very empty, distant part of the lot at most times of the day. I sat there for a good 7 minutes and finally the man pulled slowly up past...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 10, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part Six)

    She had gone to that dealer instead of her regular dealer, because they knew us both there, and that would have been too embarrassing for Michele, who likes to keep her love life a total secret from the world. She had made an appointment to have them check if there was anything...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M 5 Responses Apr 6, 2013

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    The Affair, The GPS Tracking Device, The Sex, The Lies

    Part One Marsha and Winston How It All Got Started She appeared at the brightly lit receiving door as I was in the middle of unloading my first delivery of the day. I almost dropped the heavy carton that I was about to send down the conveyor rollers, when I noticed that instead...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2013

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    I Miss Her

    Five years ago I met a woman online. I was in an unhappy marriage, with an overbearing wife, and this woman just seemed to have the right type of personality for me. at first we were just enjoying the attention from each other. I came from an alcoholic family and have a hard time...
    seattlejobud seattlejobud 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

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    Michele And Rich (Part Four)

    Finally!!! It's the next day, and our last day, November 7th 2012, at a walmart lot and we were going to have lunch and maybe a drive and then some familiar exciting times. WRONG! So Wrong, SURPRISE!!! I sat for a few minutes in my SUV with the curtains all ready in "action...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 6, 2013

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    Still In Love With The Ex

    13 yrs ago I dated a man who had been through a pretty hard life he was sweet and caring and we fell in love very quickly almost too quickly with in a couple of weeks which in return scared both of us  our first date consisted of him taking me to a hotel and we rented a...
    moocows1 moocows1 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21, 2010

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    Does She Love Me?

    Two years ago I had a love affair with a female work mate. She loved me so much and we found so many things in common and that really made us all the more attracted to each other. Because of the affair she ahd a problem with her husband and moved out. The husband did not know...
    andysully andysully 31-35 May 27, 2010

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    Michele And Rich (Part One)

    She appeared at the brightly lit receiving door as I was in the middle of unloading my first delivery of the day. I almost dropped the heavy carton that I was about to send down the conveyor rollers, when I noticed that instead of a few rough and tumble stockroom workers, stood a...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 5, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part One)

    She appeared at the brightly lit receiving door as I was in the middle of unloading my first delivery of the day. I almost dropped the heavy carton that I was about to send down the conveyor rollers, when I noticed that instead of a few rough and tumble stockroom workers, stood a...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M 3 Responses Apr 3, 2013

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    I Had A Affair !!!!

    I was about 21/22 when it happened, I had 2 beautiful daughters and a husband that paid little attention to me. He was to busy having his own affair with a girl that I thought was my best friend.It all started one day when I walked into the local Get-in-Go and the guy behind the...
    coffey0820 coffey0820 51-55, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    Michele And Rich (Part Three)

    In 2008 I decided to retire, and I think that, down deep I had been beginning to realize that Michele had probably denied to her parents that she had ever had any affair with me or anyone else. She most likely had just told them that we were just friends, and that I had simply...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 5, 2013

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    I Had An Affair Tainted I am new this web page, read some of the interesting stories and have seen how much I can relate to some of them. I am not much of a reader or writer in...
    maidinthebox maidinthebox 41-45, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I started my affair 6 months ago. Almost 6 months to the day. We are both married. She has two small kids, I have none. I've known her for 4 years and have had a crush on her...
    confusedinpa7 confusedinpa7 36-40, M 5 Responses Aug 28

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    To those who are having an affair, thinking about it, or to those who did...4 years i had an affair, he ended it all in a pretty messed up way...he doesnt want me he doesnt love me...
    TornLove82 TornLove82 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    For those of you that know some of my journey, here is an update: As the poster child for the boy who cried wolf, I finally ended my affair. I knew for the first time in 3.5 years...
    pencruz pencruz 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    Hi. This is my first post here. I’m mostly writing this for myself, to help me make sense of my life and my experiences. I realize that this sounds like incredible navel-gazing...
    wh00ami wh00ami 36-40 4 Responses Sep 10

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    I had an affair. He had an affair. He's been talking with someone inappropriately online. I've met someone online who has rocked my world... I need to tell my husband it's over...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I love my husband but I had an affair. I told my husband everything and he wants to forgive me but hes finding it hard. I want to do everything he says because hes a wonderful...
    vuexter vuexter 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 23

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    Is it better to have had and affair and the spouse not know of your doings and living with the guilt if there is any.... or be a spouse and you your spouse informs you he has has...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    I am in a relationship with the father of my child. It's not working and while I love him as a best friend, there no spark left. I broke it off last year to see a man and we...
    femketje femketje 22-25 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I believe that in theory we have all either cheated or had an affair. Because even if we lusted or longed to be with someone other that our spouse or significant other , we have...
    nomar251 nomar251 51-55 5 Responses Sep 2

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    I had an affair with a mw for two years. She told me she just wanted me, and the sex for both was incredible. It replaced both of our sexless marriages. - and you wouldn't...
    TheOtherGuy35 TheOtherGuy35 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 9

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    Ok so this question isn't strictly about my affair, more to do with the aftermath. I kinda don't know where else to post it. My affair ended 7 months ago. It has shattered my...
    Fififififi Fififififi 41-45, F 28 Responses Sep 5

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    My affair showed me I have a side of me that is manipulative and selfish. I used to listen to this song over and over so loud. I love this song http://youtu.be/u3u22OYqFGo It...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    So I was just driving and and the song came on he first dedicated to me ... Bruno Mars ... Locked out of heaven.... At first a couple memories came rushing in ... Where we were...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I miss my affair. I no longer miss HER because, for all her wonderful traits, she was still quite a narcissistic piece of work. Everything was about her, and I guess that my...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 6 Responses Aug 21

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    I met her a year ago today. I didn't notice her wedding ring at first but soon found that she never took it off, even when she took everything else off. She told her husband...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 31

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    Ive reached a point where I don't care anymore. I remember reading nothingnetterthanlaughing post before and couldn't wait until I reached the same point she had hit. It took me...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 12

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    How many of you had more than one affair? If yes, do you think you are a serial cheater? I'm having an affair right now, don't ever want to do or experience it again. But I...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 24 Responses 6 days ago

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    Holy crap alot has happened since I've been on here last!! Finally told the wife i was unhappy, she left and stayed at her brothers..I went out, got far too drunk and stupidly...
    LionCaged LionCaged 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 11

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    I know this cycle well. A couple of bad days of longing with some morose introspection, followed by a clear flow of lightness and appreciation for stability and peace. It gets...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    A lot of times since my affair I don't want to be around anyone. I was very selective of my company to begin with. During the affair I only wanted to be around him but now no one...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 20

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    I realized something with the help of my therapist. My affair saved my marriage. My H was depressed and drunk everyday... My marriage was at a low.. He came in my life when I...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    So 3 months on and im so much better! Obviously still have down days but overall im much more accepting of everything..those of you that are still trapped in an affair with no...
    LionCaged LionCaged 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    I'm having on ongoing affair with a married for god years. Her name is tammy mahoney. We have never had sex but we've sexted several time. We are in love with each other dearly but...
    hartfan hartfan 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    OK EP friends, what I want to know is how is your life after the affair? I feel stuck. I feel like I cannot move forward with my wife. There is a huge void in our relationship...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 9 Responses Aug 30

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    I'm not sure why I keep coming back to EP any more. I met my OW here, and for months after the affair ended I couldn't bring myself to login to EP because there were too many...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 3 Responses Sep 3

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    When is the right time to finally say good bye???? To end it all?? Is it when you are too emotionally attached? Is it when you feel ignored? Is it when everything your affair...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 9

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    Affair is one thing.. having affair before is also another thing.. and sometimes I wonder.. am I trying hard to hurt myself. If only you could simply 'erase' it from your memory...
    SwanLake78 SwanLake78 36-40, F 13 Responses 5 days ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 36-40, F 37 Responses 4 days ago

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    I just realized we passed a year since the first actual confirmation of sex, DDay.. He told her we had sex sept 10 last year and my husband found out sept 11 last year....of...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I think I did. I'm not even sure if I am still am! May through to August of being together but not officially, although it ended 7 weeks ago yet we met up twice since then. It's...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I am sitting by the same window. Looking out from my work. I remember it was the same afternoon, the same scenery, I dialed your phone number, and asked to see you. You heard my...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 23

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    I have often wondered when I knew the time was right to let go, I mean completely let go. You see, I am the poster child for the boy who cried wolf. Over the course of my affair, I...
    pencruz pencruz 46-50, F 9 Responses Sep 3