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I Had a Love Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 30 People

    How Hurt Would You Be?

     I’m curious about how people think of their lover after the affair......... Help me figure out how angry and hurt people are after being hurt by an affair.   Check out the survey........ “What Would You Do With The Pictures Left Over From Your...
    SHAWNTWAIN SHAWNTWAIN 51-55, M Mar 29, 2010

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    Still In Love With The Ex

    13 yrs ago I dated a man who had been through a pretty hard life he was sweet and caring and we fell in love very quickly almost too quickly with in a couple of weeks which in return scared both of us  our first date consisted of him taking me to a hotel and we rented a...
    moocows1 moocows1 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21, 2010

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    Michele And Rich (Part One)

    She appeared at the brightly lit receiving door as I was in the middle of unloading my first delivery of the day. I almost dropped the heavy carton that I was about to send down the conveyor rollers, when I noticed that instead of a few rough and tumble stockroom workers, stood a...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 5, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part Six)

    She had gone to that dealer instead of her regular dealer, because they knew us both there, and that would have been too embarrassing for Michele, who likes to keep her love life a total secret from the world. She had made an appointment to have them check if there was anything...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M 5 Responses Apr 6, 2013

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    The Paper Store (Parking Lots)

    For about a year after Michele and Rich had begun to meet in various parking lots around Massachusetts, they would go for rides all over New England. Usually they would head off to scenic locations in the country, and sometimes to coastal areas. Michele always liked to lay a...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 11, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part Two)

    So let me begin by mentioning that when we first met in early 1997, Michele was just 32 years young, and I was 15 years older than her, 47 years old. Of course now as I write this I have just turned 64 and Michele will be turning 49 in a few days. From the very start Michele...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 5, 2013

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    Does She Love Me?

    Two years ago I had a love affair with a female work mate. She loved me so much and we found so many things in common and that really made us all the more attracted to each other. Because of the affair she ahd a problem with her husband and moved out. The husband did not know...
    andysully andysully 31-35 May 27, 2010

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    Michele And Rich (Part One)

    She appeared at the brightly lit receiving door as I was in the middle of unloading my first delivery of the day. I almost dropped the heavy carton that I was about to send down the conveyor rollers, when I noticed that instead of a few rough and tumble stockroom workers, stood a...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M 3 Responses Apr 3, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part Three)

    In 2008 I decided to retire, and I think that, down deep I had been beginning to realize that Michele had probably denied to her parents that she had ever had any affair with me or anyone else. She most likely had just told them that we were just friends, and that I had simply...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 5, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part Five)

    As she pulled away I noticed that a medium to large sized sedan had been sitting at an angle just back from us about 30 feet or so. This was a very empty, distant part of the lot at most times of the day. I sat there for a good 7 minutes and finally the man pulled slowly up past...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 6, 2013

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    Michele And Rich (Part Five)

    As she pulled away I noticed that a medium to large sized sedan had been sitting at an angle just back from us about 30 feet or so. This was a very empty, distant part of the lot at most times of the day. I sat there for a good 7 minutes and finally the man pulled slowly up past...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 10, 2013

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    The Affair, The GPS Tracking Device, The Sex, The Lies

    Part One Marsha and Winston How It All Got Started She appeared at the brightly lit receiving door as I was in the middle of unloading my first delivery of the day. I almost dropped the heavy carton that I was about to send down the conveyor rollers, when I noticed that instead...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2013

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    I Miss Her

    Five years ago I met a woman online. I was in an unhappy marriage, with an overbearing wife, and this woman just seemed to have the right type of personality for me. at first we were just enjoying the attention from each other. I came from an alcoholic family and have a hard time...
    seattlejobud seattlejobud 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

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    Michele And Rich (Part Four)

    Finally!!! It's the next day, and our last day, November 7th 2012, at a walmart lot and we were going to have lunch and maybe a drive and then some familiar exciting times. WRONG! So Wrong, SURPRISE!!! I sat for a few minutes in my SUV with the curtains all ready in "action...
    covertaggressives101 covertaggressives101 61-65, M Apr 6, 2013

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    I Had A Affair !!!!

    I was about 21/22 when it happened, I had 2 beautiful daughters and a husband that paid little attention to me. He was to busy having his own affair with a girl that I thought was my best friend.It all started one day when I walked into the local Get-in-Go and the guy behind the...
    coffey0820 coffey0820 51-55, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    Very Unordinary Love Affair

    I can't speak to him anymore. I can't see him anymore. My parents forbid me to go see him and his boss will fire him if he learns that we have been meeting up.   It has been 5 years now since I felt this love for this man. We started off just as friends and I...
    kiersten0775 kiersten0775 16-17, F Apr 5, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    I started my affair 6 months ago. Almost 6 months to the day. We are both married. She has two small kids, I have none. I've known her for 4 years and have had a crush on her...
    confusedinpa7 confusedinpa7 36-40, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    To those who are having an affair, thinking about it, or to those who did...4 years i had an affair, he ended it all in a pretty messed up way...he doesnt want me he doesnt love me...
    TornLove82 TornLove82 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    I met my OH when I was 13 and he was 15.... we are pretty much together since than with some on/off phases inbetween. When I was 18 I had an affair with his younger cousin who was...
    anniecherry anniecherry 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 29

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    After some of the replies to my post yesterday, I see that plenty of people are on here to attack people that have had an affair, to try to make us feel worse for what we have done...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 19 Responses Aug 14

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    My friend and her husband got in a fight this last weekend. Her husband knows she had an affair. When he drinks he becomes insane. Last weekend he yelled at all the kids told them...
    Circlesnomore Circlesnomore 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    It's the same old saying, they want you to do good until your doing better than them. I am not sorry your husband loved me. I am not sorry your husband had sex with me. I am not...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 30

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    Its old news I had an affair. That part of my life is long over but it was such a turning point that it still affects me every day. This little update probably belongs under a...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 5

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    Thanks everyone for the advice about the safest way to meet him .. I asked him yesterday what his thoughts were on where we should go..( for those of you who don't know a cop...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    I love my husband but I had an affair. I told my husband everything and he wants to forgive me but hes finding it hard. I want to do everything he says because hes a wonderful...
    vuexter vuexter 36-40, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Is it better to have had and affair and the spouse not know of your doings and living with the guilt if there is any.... or be a spouse and you your spouse informs you he has has...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Ok so I live a good life. I cheated husband wanted to stay I am happy I also got to experience a beautiful love affair. BUT people were destroyed from it. I have had my share of...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 3

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    I had an affair that ended in 2010. I used to talk to him on regular basis after it ended. I really try not call him and have done really well it has been a year since we last...
    manyregrets manyregrets 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 13

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    Yesterday, my MM should be back from his long vacation/business trip out of the country. I am dying to know if he's back yet, since we have been NC for a month. I woke up in the...
    Ruby2ng Ruby2ng 36-40, F 8 hrs ago

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    Missing my mm a lot today. Last year this time, we were together in the hotel and it was the most memorable love making I have experienced in my life. Wish the best of him and I...
    sunsetocean sunsetocean 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I am capable of loving 2 persons at a time perhaps. Of course, I am not perfect. .but the affair that I had . .did teach me a lot of things. I was caught . .I had no idea how...
    SwanLake78 SwanLake78 36-40, F 16 Responses Aug 14

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    Due to my wife's failing health I found myself living in a sexless marriage. I answered an ad on Craigslist from a young woman( almost 30 yrs younger than myself) who was looking...
    Danpatty Danpatty 51-55, M Aug 16

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    My affair showed me I have a side of me that is manipulative and selfish. I used to listen to this song over and over so loud. I love this song http://youtu.be/u3u22OYqFGo It...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    My affair began due to a long distance relationship. I had been dating my boyfriend for 2 years prior to moving 6,000 miles away for a job. The job was only supposed to be for one...
    Sabrina89 Sabrina89 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    I miss my affair. I no longer miss HER because, for all her wonderful traits, she was still quite a narcissistic piece of work. Everything was about her, and I guess that my...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 6 Responses Aug 21

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    I was 15 she was 35 my speech teacher. She was very will pretty and always rubbed against me in class. I was a naive kid who did not know what was happening. She told me in class...
    edstarr edstarr 56-60, M 1 Response Jul 30

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    Just putting some thoughts together... An affair is how much you are willing to deal with in your affair and in your marriage My ex OM had the choice to stay or leave his marriage...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    I guess sometimes it just fades away? When the affair first started he was into it. He contacted me all the time through text, we had secret emails and he made time to meet up. I...
    lena81 lena81 31-35 4 Responses Aug 14

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    I have a difficult decision to make. My marriage went south about 3 years ago and 20 months ago I had my first affair. It's time to stop that behavior. It wears me out...
    CountrySlicker CountrySlicker 51-55, F 6 Responses Aug 6

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    Learning to surrender is painful. At least that's what I'm finding out. My MW has been hurt by me too many times. Now, the only option appears to be 'friendship'. But how can...
    lifu0427 lifu0427 56-60, M 4 Responses Aug 6

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    If you are still having an affair, stop. It's not worth it. I am now feeling like **** for hurting my family . Especially my kids. Somehow my family found out including my in...
    js1276 js1276 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 18

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    It lasted for almost a decade. It ended four years ago. I've been typing and deleting what I typed. Haha! How can I describe it? It was chaos, bliss, addiction, nourishment, bane...
    REG821 REG821 41-45 2 Responses Aug 14

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    Have you lost friends over sharing your affair? After being in a sexless marriage for 10 years, I started having affairs to keep my sanity. Some of my inner circle friends...
    arlington112 arlington112 41-45, F 20 Responses Aug 5

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    Qu for men- after finishing affair, did you keep your ex affair a friend/remain in contact etc and why if yes or no?
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 14

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    I used / am using the same strategy to cope with the end of my affair as I do when walking in the hills: When faced with a large hill, for either recreational walking or work, I...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 7 Responses Aug 18

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    A lot of times since my affair I don't want to be around anyone. I was very selective of my company to begin with. During the affair I only wanted to be around him but now no one...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 20

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    I realized something with the help of my therapist. My affair saved my marriage. My H was depressed and drunk everyday... My marriage was at a low.. He came in my life when I...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 11 Responses Aug 21

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    So 3 months on and im so much better! Obviously still have down days but overall im much more accepting of everything..those of you that are still trapped in an affair with no...
    LionCaged LionCaged 26-30, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Is it wrong that I have thoughts about "outing" my AP? He didn't intentionally hurt me, the situation hurt us. He loved me and loves me so much. We both just couldn't be in 2...
    ATH2000 ATH2000 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 30