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I Had a Mentally Ill Mother

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    She's NOT Human - You know,

    given how many times my mom has her little grown up temper tantrums and how cartoonishly over-the-top she acts in terms of her anger issues and her freak-outs, I think she behaves more like a cartoon character than a real human being. For example, mood swings by the...
    Monstermaster13 Monstermaster13 22-25, M Jun 10

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    Maybe if its a nightmare,

    i just have to wake up- my dad was in jail for two years which made my whole family really depressed, specially my mother and myself. My two older sister and parents hid to me where my dad was for 4 months near to my 8th grade promotion. If I had to put a lot of pieces together...
    Justbreatheba Justbreatheba 18-21, F Apr 7

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    A Loner And His Mom

    My longtime friend called me today and told me that he has polo practises near my house, we were really close , he was my friend from high school . Just like every school geek to rebelious teen , i too made allot of friends but no close freinds. My best friend who have been...
    vivekthenobody vivekthenobody 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 7, 2010

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    I Figured It Out Late In Life

     I have been touched by all of the stories in the group. I didn’t know that my mother was mentally ill, and even today I have no “official” diagnosis. But my sister found her diary after her death and she wanted to destroy it. Fortunately, I talked her into...
    whenfamilyfails whenfamilyfails 61-65 3 Responses Aug 15, 2009

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    Good News!!

    My adopted mother is bipolar and can be just like Satan. I grew up being extremely abused by her till I was 11 years old.I'm not going to go into details but the last time she hurt me I was taken away by DCS.She didn't fight for me because she was stuck in her illness and I never...
    TinytifferCA TinytifferCA 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 17, 2012

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    The Hardest Thing To Deal With In Life....

    ...Is a mentally ill mother. I'm at a dead end. Actually, I don't know if she has a mental illness, but it's hard to otherwise find an explanation of what I go through. I have never really shared this with anyone, because I don't know how.....so here I go. it will probably be...
    marmar13 marmar13 26-30 2 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    Mom Was Sick

    All I remember is my grandma always saying my Mom was sick.   She spent a lot of time in and out of the hospital. As I grew older I realized this was the mental hospital.  It explained the bars on the windows.     She was manic depressed and had...
    teye teye 36-40 2 Responses Jun 29, 2009

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    Why Me

    Living through these things is difficult. I too know what it's like to parentified so young. I made my escape a little over a year ago and haven't turned back. I finally realized that I didn't deserve to be told I should have been aborted, that I was too stupid to go to college...
    RLDryden RLDryden 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    I Feel Like I'm Dying

    She's been suffering from schizo and bipolar disorders since I was 11. (I'm 18 now) Throughout the years, she has been in and out of mental institutes, staying there for 1-2 months each time, but every time she leaves, she refuses to go back for follow up treatment, so her...
    leavethislabyrinth leavethislabyrinth 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2013

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    Stuck

    I posted this in another group but felt it applied more here. Even as I sit typing, she goes on repeating the same vulgarities, "I can't do this. I can't do this. ****. I'll ******* beat your ***"Despite my struggles in life and the insanity they have created in my own mind, I...
    lysergic lysergic 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 30, 2013

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    Bi Polar Mommy

    She can never talk in a calm manner it is always screams.. She was addicted to Meth and Rx pills she would crash out on the couch for days and wake up long enough to scream at me for making eggs that were "browned".. Day in and day out the verbal abuse.. But at the end of the day...
    Voided Voided 22-25, F Apr 24, 2011

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    Living In The House Of Usher

    As I type this she is lying once again in her bed with her head under the covers, it is only 2:00 p.m. and she has not been up even once today. Her house looks as though someone opened the roof and dumped a years worth of garbage, old clothes and an assortment of useless odds...
    poesraven15 poesraven15 56-60 2 Responses Nov 4, 2010

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    My Mother Is Mentally Ill...But I Value My Quality Of Life

    I am lucky. I had a father who is normal. And what I mean by normal is that although he's a heart patient, his mind functions within the realm of logic and reason. My mother, however, is mentally ill.   I was raised middle-middle class, with two college educated parents...
    NolaDarling NolaDarling 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 21, 2012

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    The woman who raised me was mentally ill.

    I didn't know this until I was an adult. This is partly what made the effects of her parenting, her energy, and her spirit so devastating for me. What this woman robbed the most from me were connections to other people. She consciously or unconsciously stole relationships from...
    elenaonline elenaonline 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    We Love Our Mothers Unconditionally, But Where Do We Find The Strength To Not Want That In Return

    where do I start?  I'm not looking for sympathy, just some support.  I have learned that how we feel is how we feel, period.  We can not choose our parents.  Mine were married 39 years, but only a few were good.  My dad was mentally and physically...
    texasdaughter texasdaughter 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    I Wish I Had A Normal Mother

    Now that I am a mother, I realize how abnormal my life was, and continues to be, with mine. She is so so sick. Twenty plus years ago, when I still lived at home, I'd make excuses for her behavior; even when she'd wake me up in the middle of the night to wash blood off the floor...
    MaureenOHara MaureenOHara 41-45 1 Response Jul 30, 2013

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    Pain

    At least once a week I am deprived of sleep because my mom is yelling about her delusions about the neighbors, people from her and my fathers past, money etc. I cry everyday and suffered major depression because of low self esteem that rooted from my mother never being around and...
    tragicomedy tragicomedy 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2010

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    She's Dangerous

    When she was a late-teenager, my bipolar mother stabbed her brother. Once she stabbed him with a tent stake. Once she permanently injured his back. Once she ran him over with a snowmobile. They weren't rich; they were Pennsylvania mountain folk. There was no recompense for these...
    PennsylvaniaPenny PennsylvaniaPenny 22-25, F Nov 18, 2012

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    Life Cant Get Any Worse..,

    hello friends ., i had experienced worse things in life in the aspects of finance(even though i could have been wealthier), education(even though i had potential), relationship(even though i was true to my heart). but none of this depressed me, none of them pushed me to the end...
    kirtkane kirtkane 22-25 Sep 26, 2012

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    Schizoeffective

    My mother suffers from schizo-effective disorder. For those unaware of the details of this mental abnormality it is thought to be a combination of schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. She has been diagnosed many times but due to the nature of her ailment she continues to go...
    xsandyx3 xsandyx3 18-21, F Nov 16, 2013

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    And I Don'T Think I Hate Her Anymore.

    I don't think I knew anything was wrong with my mom until I started school, and met other people's moms. I couldn't believe how.. nice they were. How they weren't in bed crying, how they actually cooked meals, and cleaned, how they didn't yell, and change their minds. I guess...
    Ikid Ikid 22-25 5 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    She Ruined My Life

    The day before my brother left for college he picked me up on his shoulders and brought me in his room. This was very exciting for me because I was never allowed in his room. He sat me down and started asking me how i felt about my mom. I didn't really under my feelings or the...
    nevergoingtoforgive nevergoingtoforgive 16-17 6 Responses Dec 22, 2012

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    My Mother Is Severely Depressed

    HI I am living the worst life, l live with mentally ill mother who suffers a sever depression she is not responding to me like i am talking to my-self i am alone with no brothers or sisters she urinates on her bed and when i ask her to go to toilet she refuses and say "I...
    wassal wassal 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 18, 2013

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    UGH

    So much has and is going on with my mothers life. Yes, i understand that i should be caring and understanding but i can only handle so much. I hate at my moms house because she always yells at me. She makes me feel guilty for leaving her alone. I was adapted into a family and i...
    canonlyhandlesomuch canonlyhandlesomuch 18-21 1 Response Apr 2, 2013

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    My Mom Is Bi Polar My Dad Is Schizophrenic

    When I was 7 I had the choice. Go live with my uncle or Aunt. My mom was arrested in front of my 7 yr old eyes. Handcuffed and put into the back seat of a police car. I will never forget it. She flipped out again. That is how I knew it. Flipped out. She...
    kayaonelove kayaonelove 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    Hateful!

    My mother is a manipulative, lying, sick individual. She will never get any help for herself - she puts herself in situations with people that don't really know her well and lies like nothing I've ever seen before. It's AMAZING that she's so good at it. She keeps her friends...
    motherhatesmeagain motherhatesmeagain 36-40 6 Responses Jul 3, 2011

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    Living With Mental Illness

    I am surprised that no one else has shared this experience so I guess I will be the first. I guess I should start with some background information: My parents were divorced when I was 6 due to domestic violence (on the part of my father) and financial...
    endlessrain endlessrain 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Falsely Accused By My Mentally Ill Mother

    I have been mentally abused by my mentally ill alcoholic mother for years. When she was diagnosed and was given her monthly check, i was the only child and was automatically deemed rep payee. I have had years of abuse over this of being falsely accused of stealing her money...
    peachesdaughter peachesdaughter 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    My Mom On Pills

      For me, it all started one morning one morning back in 1994, when we were involved in a car accident.  It wasn't very bad, but it messed my mom's back and neck up.  At that moment, our life changed forever.  Our mom had to have back and neck surgery, and...
    aking25 aking25 22-25 2 Responses Aug 10, 2010

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    My Mother Is Ridiculous

        I have to say that I love my mother but I do NOT like her at all. She has always been selfish and self-involved and crazy. You could say that my Dad had to be both mom and dad to me because my mother was so messed up and neglectful. I remember several painful...
    Gotmusicinme Gotmusicinme 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2010

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    Mildly In Comparison, I Guess

    I grew up one of three kids with a single mother. She let the house go because she was too proud to ask for help. We always belonged to a church, and she should have asked for help more.I do remember redoing the roof with her and my brother. I kind of enjoyed that. I don't...
    catlover47 catlover47 46-50, F May 30, 2013

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    Hopeless And Worthless..

    I have lived with a mother battling depression since I can remember. Living with such a situation has proven time and time again to be the most painful and emotional situations, as the levels of physical and emotional abuse I have faced are incomprehensible. I have attempted to...
    esavvi esavvi 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 16, 2012

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    My Dear Mother

    My mother has been suffering from bipolar disorder for nearly 25 years and it's getting worse. My mother is now feeling,seeing, and having out of body experiences from some unknown entity. From an early age I have assumed responsibility. She was always a great mother growing up...
    Qmomma206 Qmomma206 26-30 Oct 21, 2012

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    What Happened To My Mommy

    I had one brother and one sister. I was the baby. I had both of my parents and we were your average, everyday, normal family. My dad worked and my mom stayed at home with us kids. It couldn't have gotten any better. I was nine. My sister was eleven making my brother sixteen. My...
    shellzz shellzz 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    My Mom Is The Bravest Mom In The Whole World.

    Everyone is writing about how horrible their mother was. Mine wasn't, and still isn't. She was just very broken and sick. I always knew my mom was different, she would get up in the night, have anxiety attacks and I remember ever since I was a little child, being carried around...
    Experienceprojectgirl14 Experienceprojectgirl14 13-15, F Apr 13, 2013

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    I think when I was about nine or ten years old, I realized my mother was doing drugs. When you're a little kid, that is definitely a big deal, and with everything being shoved down...
    OldAbandoned10 OldAbandoned10 22-25, F Jun 30

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    I will admit this is a little long, and despite not wanting to seem like I'm feeling sorry for myself, I'll post this at that risk. I am a 21-year old guy, and I guess I should...
    SalemSaberhagen SalemSaberhagen 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 9

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    she's so sick that I can't have people come over the house. living with her is like being trapt in her prison.
    gabbyxox gabbyxox 16-17, F Jul 14

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    She would spank us anywhere, I've been spanked poolside, in the middle of the street, in the car, at school etc Basically anywhere you can think of me and my brother have been...
    mummyof8 mummyof8 36-40, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    My Mother, simply put, is the meanest, angriest, most unpleasant person I know. She is a mentally ill psychotic, a tyrant, and a bully all rolled into one. My parents split up when...
    wishiwasabrady wishiwasabrady 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    My mother was both neglectful and a bully. For many years, she has been treated for depression, but I believe she is mentally ill with a more serious disorder. When I was eight...
    glitterdahlia glitterdahlia 41-45 1 Response Jun 29

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    I would like to say my story in brief. Last year, I fell mentally ill, extremely lonely and suicidal. I was engaged to someone living abroad, and decided to live permenantly where...
    GodsPrincesseOrchidee GodsPrincesseOrchidee 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 5

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    so a few months ago my dad started heightening his abuse of me, it's verbal and emotional but sometimes it even gets like physical not like hurting me but more like forcing me out...
    atinyratsy atinyratsy 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    This is a response I wrote to an anorexic woman. I'm bipolar, but I've talked to enough people with other kinds of mental illnesses to see we have a lot in common. I wrote this to...
    wundayatta wundayatta 56-60, M Jul 13

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    Emotional Affair: Was she Narcissistic or Borderline Waif? I am a married man with two beautiful children and a wonderful wife. I have never “physically” cheated on my wife...
    DriveRiggins DriveRiggins 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 9

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    People who say money doesn't buy happiness are full of ****. I know it isn't EVERYTHING but it sure is something. Financially, the struggle is real for me. I come from a poor...
    Rose30x Rose30x 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    For the longest time I thought my mother just hates me, and I still feel that way. Then someone outside the family asked how long she's been diagnosed with bpd. When I said never...
    Gennai02 Gennai02 26-30, F Jul 4

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    This encounter happened a few years ago. My mom had just recently passed and I had fallen ill.I was sleeping on my favorite living room long couch and could hear my grandmas soft...
    emilysdream emilysdream 22-25, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    She thought I had an illicit affair when I was on travel. I travel a lot, but she got the wrong impression when I described one of my trips. She decided to try her own hand at...
    rikki3214 rikki3214 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 4

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