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I Had a Miscarriage

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    A Chapter Ended Before It Began...

    I want to start by saying, I am not a woman. I can't know how a woman feels when she loses a child, nor do I claim to compare my pain to it. This is a story, from my point of view, from watching what she went through and having to carry on and help hold her up as well. In 2009...
    LEBsCreations LEBsCreations 22-25, M 7 Responses Mar 10, 2013

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    Losing My Son!

    This would be the first thing that I would write about the whole labor and delivery of CJ but its probably the best thing to do. Well at about 11 or a little after we dropped Christopher *my boyfriend* off at his house and I was having little, but strong cramps in my...
    cjsmama12907 cjsmama12907 16-18, F 7 Responses Dec 23, 2007

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    Losing a child is hard Loving something in your

    belly for so long then its gone whoever said you cant love something you never had lied...id do anything to have my babies in my arms yes im young (im almost 15) im using my sisters account temporary because of bullying on mine but its been a hard experience and I cant get...
    brianalynne69 brianalynne69 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    So I wanted to get this off my chest.

    . In my life, I've been pregnant multiple times, and had multiple losses. I was 9 my first time. I had been abused an fell pregnant from it, the man found out and beat me up, used a coat hanger to kill the baby, an then had his friends molester me. I nearly died, but nothing...
    Popet Popet 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    I had an ultrasound at 8 weeks.

    Everything was fine, saw the heartbeat and everything. A week later, the heart stopped and it stopped growing. My body still thought it was pregnant. At 12 weeks and 2 days, I started bleeding. I had lost the baby, but didn't know it. After a horrendous trip of the hospital and...
    mGeSLO mGeSLO 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 16

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    a month and a half ago,

    i miscarried a child i didnt know was there. like many of you i feel entirely numb and useless. at sixteen i had an abortion which resulted in me bleeding for seven weeks and the idea was raised i wouldnt be able to conceive. now my doctor thinks i cant carry a baby to full term...
    eviemay6 eviemay6 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 13

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    When I started writing this experience I

    explained my story, but mid way I realised that I do not want to go into detail about how my miscarriage came about and all the medical terms, I want to express my emotional journey, my pain, my anger and frustration. You see, society sees a miscarriage as a minor issue...
    tabrahams tabrahams 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    I had a miscarriage at nine weeks in June.

    The fetus had stopped growing at 6 weeks, but it took my body another 3 weeks to miscarry. It was an agonizing wait. I kept hoping the doctors were wrong. I was stuck, waiting and waiting for the miscarriage to happen. It's been four months since then. I never felt the...
    Corly Corly 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 10

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    My whole life all I ever wanted was to be loved.

    You know, that deep "I know you and accept all of you" kind of love you read about. It's a lie. Nobody could possibly have that. It would destroy me if anyone knew just how screwed up I am. That when I cry for 'no reason' I know deep down it's because life is so often misery...
    HollyHawk HollyHawk 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 23

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    Before I tell this story,

    I need to make some things known. I've always had irregular periods. Vastly irregular, actually. One month it will be 5 or 6 days late, and the next month, it may be 2 or 3 WEEKS late. However, I still ovulate the normal 2 weeks after a period. Now for the story. I lived with...
    snyper89 snyper89 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I Was Starting To Love My Baby...

    I was told by my doctor about two months ago that I was pregnant. I of course asked for an ultrasound so we could find out how far along I am. We went for the ultrasound the next week, they couldnt see anything. I felt worries but the reassured me all would be fine. My doctor...
    LaceyJane08 LaceyJane08 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2013

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    It was Easter Sunday nine years ago

    that I bled. I miscarried my first child. It was hard because I was already emotionally attached, and yet from the beginning of the pregnancy I knew intuitively that something was wrong. My mother said that I had caused the miscarriage by worrying too much! Nonsense. I just knew...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    Commonplace Occurrences

    The thing about miscarriages is that they are very, very common. Many women miscarry without even realizing they were pregnant in the first place.  Conception and growth and development of babies is a far more complex thing than you might believe, given population statistics...
    milkynips milkynips 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    16&miscarried

    I was pregnant at 16 , and i still am 16. the worst feeling ever? was losing you. so here's my story. My Name Is Karina, And I lost my baby at 9 weeks pregnant. me an my boyfriend are 1 year and 5 months together and i couldn't be any happier. when i first told him that i was...
    Karinaxbby Karinaxbby 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    My First Pregnancy...

    I was so excited to finally be pregnant. I even had reason to believe I couldn't get pregnant, but it finally happened, and I couldn't believe it. But now here I am, sharing my experience in "I had a miscarriage." I'd rather start with what I remember and cherish the most. I...
    benzqueen19 benzqueen19 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    Born Into The Father's Arms.

    The past several years have just been an up and down roller coaster for me, I can't seem to find a calm point in my life. I had a miscarriage when I was 26, my fiance, who is now my husband was in the army at the time so I rarely got to see him during those times. The pregnancy...
    deleted deleted 26-30 29 Responses Jun 28, 2011

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    It's now been 5 months

    since I had a miscarriage. It was one of the hardest things I've ever experienced. The father of the child was amazing. He had a very hard time with it too, though. We were happily expecting a child, only for it to be taken away from us. I wouldn't wish that sort of pain on...
    aparadiso08 aparadiso08 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 22

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    It started yesterday evening.

    This is my second one and I'm devastated. I'm wondering if something is wrong with me. If ill ever be able to have a healthy pregnancy. It just sucks. I was SO careful both times it happen. I am 25 and well, for my age this shouldn't be happening. I go to the doctor in a few...
    mj0233774 mj0233774 22-25, F Oct 4

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    Teen Miscarriage - Grieving Decades

    Later There are so few articles that deal with the grieving process decades later. Even fewer for miscarriage, and non existent for teen miscarriage. Our society frowns upon teen pregnancy. Sadly, teen moms and their children are stigmatized. Hence, a teenager who has...
    imselby imselby 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    Dreamingofhim0514 Dreamingofhim0514 26-30, F Oct 15

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    Father's Loss

    When people talk about having a miscarriage, they assume how painful it is for the mother. It is without a doubt extremely painful for her but I think people forget that the joy that was once there was a double joy.  It was a shared joy and when a woman suffers a miscarriage so...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2013

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    when i was 16 i was raped.

    that rape resulted in me getting pregnant. i decided then an there to do my best to care for the baby. then 4 months later i miscarried a little boy. when that happened i hit a rough patch so to speak. then i picked the broken pieces of my heart up and tried to move on. it was...
    Nursesaide14 Nursesaide14 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 18

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    I have had three miscarriages.

    All three this year. it seemed that every time I would get my hopes up after seeing the faint positive on the pregnancy tests my world would shatter. I would start bleeding and cramping then I would my baby. my precious child. it breaks me every time I think about what each one...
    openlycurious openlycurious 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 16

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    Sadness

    I got pregnant on my wedding night. How is that for timing.  I have an extremely active and stress filled life.  I was so shocked.  I just couldn't believe I was actually pregnant.  I was just tired and nauseated which I thought was from working so much to cover for the time...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    A friend of mine called tonight to tell me she

    was having a miscarriage. She called me because she knew I had a miscarriage back in 2011 and I'm very open about how that effected my life. In talking with her it brought back all the feelings I had about mine. All the emotions I carried for so long. All the hurt I had. I...
    Dreamingofhim0514 Dreamingofhim0514 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 13

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    I still hold my belly waiting to feel her

    presence. I cry when I realize there is nothing there.
    Wranglergirl33 Wranglergirl33 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    Last night, I miscarried at work.

    .. It's okay. It wasn't meant to be; neither was He. Just like that..... He was very angry at me. He didn't want to leave his current low life to be a father. This long argument about me keeping the baby was very disturbing. I ended it with him and will not turn back to...
    IntomeYousee IntomeYousee 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Miscarriages Happen To Teens Too

    I was three months along, almost four when it happened. I was in bed asleep with a felt this painful cramp on my side. I knew right then what was happening. I went to the bedroom and saw that I was bleeding. At the ER the nurses were all very nice and friendly but the doctor...
    NorthWind NorthWind 26-30, F 26 Responses Dec 18, 2006

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    I hope I'm not going to be judged

    but I was about 16 when I had my miscarriage with my now fiancée. Some people say it was for a reason but I can't possibly understand the reason behind it. I've just come to terms with it because I realized my soon to be husband is having his first born with another woman. (We...
    curlsandall curlsandall 18-21, F Sep 7

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    When I had my miscarriage I didn't know I was

    pregnant I thought I was sick went to the hospital and was told I was pregnant I was happy to find I was having another child but as few days later I began to bleed bad I felt like I lost my mind seeing and knowing I was having a miscarriage nothing I could do to stop it I tried...
    ssuarez91 ssuarez91 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    I had a miscarriage a week ago.

    It was my first pregnancy and I just feel empty. I've never drank, smoked or done drugs and I made sure my body was in good condition for the day that I have kids. I have been with the daddy for about 5 months. I was 6 weeks pregnant. I only knew for a few days but I instantly...
    arsinoe arsinoe 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 13

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    Losing My Peanut At 17 Weeks

    My name is McKenzie and I am 17 years old and a senior I'm highschool. In July, I was at a graduation party and I had been drinking and I got pregnant. It was unexpected because I thought I was unable to conceive because I have polycystic ovarian syndrome. I found out I was...
    mamamack mamamack 18-21, F 20 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    I've had 2, both when I was 12 weeks along.

    I always feel awkward when people express their sympathy to me because I'm not sad about it. I will meet them in heaven someday and it will be awesome! :)
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Oct 11

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    It started yesterday evening.

    This is my second one and I'm devastated. I'm wondering if something is wrong with me. If ill ever be able to have a healthy pregnancy. It just sucks. I was SO careful both times it happen. I am 25 and well, for my age this shouldn't be happening. I go to the doctor in a few...
    mj0233774 mj0233774 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 4

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    I had a miscarriage in early August

    and ever since I've been extremely depressed and suicidal. I was so excited to have a baby (something I've been dreaming of for years) and was absolutely crushed when I had a miscarriage. I became so detached from my boyfriend because he wouldn't talk about it with me that it...
    madispute madispute 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 12

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    It started yesterday evening.

    This is my second one and I'm devastated. I'm wondering if something is wrong with me. If ill ever be able to have a healthy pregnancy. It just sucks. I was SO careful both times it happen. I am 25 and well, for my age this shouldn't be happening. I go to the doctor in a few...
    mj0233774 mj0233774 22-25, F Oct 4

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    My life was in turmoil

    when I first found out, October last year - no stability just doubt/ October last year I took a test, you can see where this is heading, shall I spell out the rest/ October last year, twenty thirteen - i was going to be a mother, but the future was unseen/ 19years old and...
    EBAAA EBAAA 18-21, F Sep 4

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    I lost my baby at 5 weeks back in February

    after taking over 2 years to conceive. I only knew I was pregnant for a week, but I already felt so much love for the little life starting inside me. When I discovered I was starting to bleed, I freaked out, and though I tried to tell myself that it's not uncommon to bleed a...
    crochetedgirl crochetedgirl 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 22

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    Grieving

    I don't want to talk to people I know about it. I don't want to share my misery with people, even online. But this grief is building inside me, and I fear its release. Everywhere I look, there are children or things pertaining to children. Its been 8 days since my miscarriage...
    nepenthe333 nepenthe333 22-25, F 4 Responses May 24, 2013

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    First of all, I would like to say hello to

    everyone reading this comment and thankyou in advance for any advise/support that you may give me. (long read) My first miscarriage happened almost 2 years ago and I was devastated, I just thought, why me. When it happened I thought that I was 16 weeks pregnant but when I got...
    pandapoop16 pandapoop16 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 4

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    about 7 years ago, i fell pregnant,

    i didnt know for about a month, but i took a test and found out i was pregnant. I was 14, i didn't know how to react. i dont know if it was denial or just pure disbelief, but i remember i was so happy, not particularly because i had a little life growing inside of me but because...
    mommieofanangel mommieofanangel 18-21, F Jun 20

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    I Miscarried...

    A few weeks ago... At the beginning of the month I had found out I was pregnant. I was very happy, but I was only a few weeks along and didn't want to start telling everyone until we were at a good state within the pregnancy... and for good reason... only two days into knowing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Just recently I found out I had a miscarriage.

    I was so stupid to even except I was pregnant. I refused to take a test because I never even thought I had become pregnant. A few went by and I started bleeding really bad but thought nothing of it. I went to the doctors and was told I had a misscarriage.it was the worst thing I...
    ADayToRememberForever ADayToRememberForever 18-21, F Oct 19

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    "Ode To Emily"

    I will never get to kiss the scrape on your knee and slowly dry your tears. I will never get to see you in your prom dress. I will never get to lecture you about right or wrong, and I will never get to spend my last cent buying you a gift just to see you smile. But I will miss...
    Kathryn7May Kathryn7May 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2013

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    After 8 wonderful years of marriage my husband

    and I were so excited to share our news that we were expecting. This was our first pregnancy. We found out at 8 weeks that the baby no longer had a heartbeat. I was so heartbroken. I am so ready to be a mommy and I know my husband will be a wonderful father. When the doctor...
    80buttercup 80buttercup 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 9

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    I've had 5 miscarriage,

    3 at 7 weeks and 2 at 10 weeks, and yet the doctors won't do any tests to see why I had 5 miscarriages, all I kept been told was that I might not be able to carry a baby full term. It's heart breaking knowing that I want a baby so bad and that me and my partner have been trying...
    westlife213 westlife213 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 12

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    Today

    I have not had a miscarriage. I joined this group because today my sister had a miscarriage. She is completely devastated. I want to support her but I have not experienced this and although I can sympathize and try to understand I do not know what she is going through. I would...
    fireflyaway fireflyaway 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 7, 2011

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    I Watched His Heart Stop.

    I was 15 years old and i was living in Califonia at the time, And i was living with a sibling and their spouse in a tiny little shoe box of a house that was two bedrooms. so 3 people 3 dogs and a cat...and a baby no one knew about. I had gotten pregnant by my boyfriend at the...
    SystemK SystemK 22-25 3 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    It started yesterday evening.

    This is my second one and I'm devastated. I'm wondering if something is wrong with me. If ill ever be able to have a healthy pregnancy. It just sucks. I was SO careful both times it happen. I am 25 and well, for my age this shouldn't be happening. I go to the doctor in a few...
    mj0233774 mj0233774 22-25, F Oct 4

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    When I had my miscarriage I didn't know I was

    pregnant I thought I was sick went to the hospital and was told I was pregnant I was happy to find I was having another child but as few days later I began to bleed bad I felt like I lost my mind seeing and knowing I was having a miscarriage nothing I could do to stop it I tried...
    ssuarez91 ssuarez91 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 9

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    I don't know if I'll ever be able to fully

    recover from what happened, but the days are starting to become more bearable. I'm paying attention in school -- I'm doing quite well actually, I've become less moody, at least during the day, he and I are talking, although we don't talk about the incident. I had some pretty...
    ReesesPeaces ReesesPeaces 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 23

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