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I Had a Miscarriage

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    Born Into The Father's Arms.

    The past several years have just been an up and down roller coaster for me, I can't seem to find a calm point in my life. I had a miscarriage when I was 26, my fiance, who is now my husband was in the army at the time so I rarely got to see him during those times. The pregnancy...
    deleted deleted 26-30 29 Responses Jun 28, 2011

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    My First Pregnancy...

    I was so excited to finally be pregnant. I even had reason to believe I couldn't get pregnant, but it finally happened, and I couldn't believe it. But now here I am, sharing my experience in "I had a miscarriage." I'd rather start with what I remember and cherish the most. I...
    benzqueen19 benzqueen19 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    I think i am having a miscarriage my husband

    dont know what to say my family and his are saying it could just be bleeding since it is happening during my regular period time. I have a appointment to the doctor on wensdays. the doctor I went to on friday said that I don't need to go to the ER for just bleeding that the...
    leaf90McC leaf90McC 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    I Watched His Heart Stop.

    I was 15 years old and i was living in Califonia at the time, And i was living with a sibling and their spouse in a tiny little shoe box of a house that was two bedrooms. so 3 people 3 dogs and a cat...and a baby no one knew about. I had gotten pregnant by my boyfriend at the...
    SystemK SystemK 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    First of all, I would like to say hello to

    everyone reading this comment and thankyou in advance for any advise/support that you may give me. (long read) My first miscarriage happened almost 2 years ago and I was devastated, I just thought, why me. When it happened I thought that I was 16 weeks pregnant but when I got...
    pandapoop16 pandapoop16 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 4, 2014

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    Father's Loss

    When people talk about having a miscarriage, they assume how painful it is for the mother. It is without a doubt extremely painful for her but I think people forget that the joy that was once there was a double joy.  It was a shared joy and when a woman suffers a miscarriage so...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2013

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    I had a miss miscarriage

    and I was wondering if anyone could tell me what happens with a Dilation and curettage. What things did they use to numb you? I know t might be hard to talk about, but it will help me a lot as I am having one weds
    Ssshandelle Ssshandelle 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    I lost my baby this past week

    and my husband said I had to deal with it by my self because he was working.
    leaf90McC leaf90McC 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    I had a miscarriage 8 years ago.

    I was 5.5 weeks pregnant
    dianeh30 dianeh30 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Commonplace Occurrences

    The thing about miscarriages is that they are very, very common. Many women miscarry without even realizing they were pregnant in the first place.  Conception and growth and development of babies is a far more complex thing than you might believe, given population statistics...
    milkynips milkynips 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    I was 10 weeks pregnant

    when I started to miscarry my baby and the hardest part was that it was on thanksgiving and having my family ask how my pregnancy was going then having to tell them the news. This was the saddest thanksgiving and worst day ever. I'm still trying to wrap my head around all this.
    princesskatara princesskatara 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    I had an ultrasound at 8 weeks.

    Everything was fine, saw the heartbeat and everything. A week later, the heart stopped and it stopped growing. My body still thought it was pregnant. At 12 weeks and 2 days, I started bleeding. I had lost the baby, but didn't know it. After a horrendous trip of the hospital and...
    mGeSLO mGeSLO 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    I lost my baby :( I'm

    so depressed idk what to say..,
    hayhaytaytay hayhaytaytay 13-15, F 18 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    Today

    I have not had a miscarriage. I joined this group because today my sister had a miscarriage. She is completely devastated. I want to support her but I have not experienced this and although I can sympathize and try to understand I do not know what she is going through. I would...
    fireflyaway fireflyaway 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 7, 2011

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    I have a 4 month old daughter she was born in

    September. in December I found out I was pregnant again. timing was terrible my relationship wasn't where it needed to be, my living situation was changing, and I had lost my job. I decided it was best to not tell family and friends until we knew the gender. Feb 10th I went to...
    lis924 lis924 22-25, F Feb 14

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    Lost And Found

    I remember the days very well. The physical pain, the emotional hurt and the grieving. The first time, the second, the third and a few more over the years. I went numb. Time stood still for a while. Then I remember I was not the only one in pain, hurting and grieving. I...
    Duchessforthright Duchessforthright 46-50 4 Responses Oct 27, 2012

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    Blood is crusted to the floor,

    dark in my memory. My rigid hands grip the steering wheel. I can’t go any faster, I cannot flee the sounds of my own heart. They are terrifying and guttural, like rent metal, ripping out of me. Heartbreak. Little pieces of my soul fall off and die, brittle in their...
    reveriedusoir reveriedusoir 22-25, F Dec 20, 2014

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    Just recently I found out I had a miscarriage.

    I was so stupid to even except I was pregnant. I refused to take a test because I never even thought I had become pregnant. A few went by and I started bleeding really bad but thought nothing of it. I went to the doctors and was told I had a misscarriage.it was the worst thing I...
    ADayToRememberForever ADayToRememberForever 18-21, F Oct 19, 2014

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    When I first found out I was pregnant,

    I posted about it on this site...expressing all the feelings and emotions I was having. I ended up being so excited to be a mom. I bought a journal to record my journey. I joined a bunch of mom forums to feel like I was apart of some loving fellowship. All I could think about...
    silencedfears silencedfears 26-30 Jan 20

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    I had a miscarriage three weeks ago

    while I was at work. it was the most physically traumatizing experience I've ever remembered enduring. and what's worse? i had no idea I was pregnant. I feel unbelievably numb and empty.
    EsotericDestiny EsotericDestiny 18-21, F Oct 31, 2014

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    a month and a half ago,

    i miscarried a child i didnt know was there. like many of you i feel entirely numb and useless. at sixteen i had an abortion which resulted in me bleeding for seven weeks and the idea was raised i wouldnt be able to conceive. now my doctor thinks i cant carry a baby to full term...
    eviemay6 eviemay6 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2014

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    I just want to have a family with my husband

    so bad. But ever since miss carried out son last October, he won't even try again... Should I just give up?
    Samanthaladale Samanthaladale 18-21 4 Responses Oct 25, 2014

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    Before I tell this story,

    I need to make some things known. I've always had irregular periods. Vastly irregular, actually. One month it will be 5 or 6 days late, and the next month, it may be 2 or 3 WEEKS late. However, I still ovulate the normal 2 weeks after a period. Now for the story. I lived with...
    snyper89 snyper89 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    Why am I still so sad?

    It's been almost a year. We lost our first pregnancy on April 1st of last year. Now we've been trying since June and have had no luck. I get so angry when I see people who are pregnant that "don't deserve it." I just miss what my life was supposed to be like. My sister in law...
    allthingsbright allthingsbright 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    Losing a child is hard Loving something in your

    belly for so long then its gone whoever said you cant love something you never had lied...id do anything to have my babies in my arms yes im young (im almost 15) im using my sisters account temporary because of bullying on mine but its been a hard experience and I cant get...
    brianalynne69 brianalynne69 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 24, 2014

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    I had a relationship with a man

    who lived out of town. He flew in to visit me and I flew out to visit him. I didn't know that I was pregnant until I had my miscarriage last year on Christmas. I didn't know how to react to it and spent Christmas by myself like I had planned. It took about a week for me to...
    PirateDesk PirateDesk 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I Had A Miscarriage.

    it was very unexpected. we weren't planning on having a child. i got pregnant though. and not long after i had a miscarriage. at first i was speechless. i didn't know what to do. as the day went on it sunk in and i just felt horrible and worthless. though it wasn't planned it...
    varjakpaw varjakpaw 18-21, F 9 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    I've had 2, both when I was 12 weeks along.

    I always feel awkward when people express their sympathy to me because I'm not sad about it. I will meet them in heaven someday and it will be awesome! :)
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    Teen Miscarriage - Grieving Decades

    Later There are so few articles that deal with the grieving process decades later. Even fewer for miscarriage, and non existent for teen miscarriage. Our society frowns upon teen pregnancy. Sadly, teen moms and their children are stigmatized. Hence, a teenager who has...
    imselby imselby 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    I Was Starting To Love My Baby...

    I was told by my doctor about two months ago that I was pregnant. I of course asked for an ultrasound so we could find out how far along I am. We went for the ultrasound the next week, they couldnt see anything. I felt worries but the reassured me all would be fine. My doctor...
    LaceyJane08 LaceyJane08 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2013

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    I don't know how to feel right now.

    I wasn't trying to get pregnant. I'm 26, but still not at a point in my life where I can have a child. I'm a professional athlete. I don't have a soft spot for children. I don't melt at the sight of babies and swoon the way most women do. But show me a puppy, oh my goodness...
    skifree1080 skifree1080 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    I miscarried in 2013 at the end of February a

    week prior I went to the doctors because I started bleeding but he said it was most likely benine since I wasn't cramping but told be to come back if it continued for five days after three it a had stopped and then it started again but since I still wasn't cramping I figured he...
    LexaLee44 LexaLee44 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    I got married at 18 to my husband

    who is in the Navy. At 19 I found out I was pregnant with our first child after thinking we couldn't even have kids and found out just a week before his deployment of 9 months. My husabdn was excited and happy at first and later due to his own fears of becoming a father my...
    Lvalens Lvalens 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    I was 11 weeks pregnant.

    I was having really bad stomach pains during the night. I started to bleed badly. My grandparents rushed me to the emergency room they took me back immediately and started checking...they said that they couldn't find my baby's heartbeat my due date was july 12th 2015 ... From...
    foreverANDnever14 foreverANDnever14 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    Miscarriages Happen To Teens Too

    I was three months along, almost four when it happened. I was in bed asleep with a felt this painful cramp on my side. I knew right then what was happening. I went to the bedroom and saw that I was bleeding. At the ER the nurses were all very nice and friendly but the doctor...
    NorthWind NorthWind 26-30, F 26 Responses Dec 18, 2006

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    December 19,2014 I had a miscarriage.

    It was very hard for me to deal with. I didn't know I was pregnant until it happened.. It looked like a little deflated sack with a black speck in it.. I was heartbroken.. Now when my boyfriend holds my belly I cry.. I was around a month when it happened..
    Kris4314 Kris4314 16-17, F Feb 17

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    Sadness

    I got pregnant on my wedding night. How is that for timing.  I have an extremely active and stress filled life.  I was so shocked.  I just couldn't believe I was actually pregnant.  I was just tired and nauseated which I thought was from working so much to cover for the time...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    It's now been 5 months

    since I had a miscarriage. It was one of the hardest things I've ever experienced. The father of the child was amazing. He had a very hard time with it too, though. We were happily expecting a child, only for it to be taken away from us. I wouldn't wish that sort of pain on...
    aparadiso08 aparadiso08 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    "Ode To Emily"

    I will never get to kiss the scrape on your knee and slowly dry your tears. I will never get to see you in your prom dress. I will never get to lecture you about right or wrong, and I will never get to spend my last cent buying you a gift just to see you smile. But I will miss...
    Kathryn7May Kathryn7May 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2013

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    Losing My Peanut At 17 Weeks

    My name is McKenzie and I am 17 years old and a senior I'm highschool. In July, I was at a graduation party and I had been drinking and I got pregnant. It was unexpected because I thought I was unable to conceive because I have polycystic ovarian syndrome. I found out I was...
    mamamack mamamack 18-21, F 20 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    It was Easter Sunday nine years ago

    that I bled. I miscarried my first child. It was hard because I was already emotionally attached, and yet from the beginning of the pregnancy I knew intuitively that something was wrong. My mother said that I had caused the miscarriage by worrying too much! Nonsense. I just knew...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    I lost my baby this weekend.

    I am completely devastated. My heart broke into a million pieces. Everything was going great. My husband and I were so excited about having our second child. Then, without warning, I started bleeding. At first it was a little bit. I held out hope that it was going to be "ok...
    leggypeggy leggypeggy 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    A Chapter Ended Before It Began...

    I want to start by saying, I am not a woman. I can't know how a woman feels when she loses a child, nor do I claim to compare my pain to it. This is a story, from my point of view, from watching what she went through and having to carry on and help hold her up as well. In 2009...
    LEBsCreations LEBsCreations 22-25, M 7 Responses Mar 10, 2013

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    I found out I was pregnant with my first very

    early around 3 weeks. It wasn't planned but we were happy to keep it. We went for an early scan around 9 weeks we got to see a heart beat and were told we were actually only 7 weeks. I thought that sounded right according to my own calculations. It took me until that scan to...
    Tink1986 Tink1986 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 15

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    My name is Emily, I'm 19 years old,

    and I'm currently having a silent miscarriage. The baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and I'm currently 12 weeks along. My body wants this baby so badly that it won't let the baby go. This type of miscarriage is very uncommon and it's horrible. It's so hard knowing that at any...
    Emilia0659 Emilia0659 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    I have recently had a miscarriage.

    I'm only 24 but am so ready to be a mum. My boyfriend now wants to wait 6 months or so before we try again :( don't know how to react to that because he know I want one sooner, maybe it's my emotions taking over? I know we aren't financially ready for a baby so I do know he's...
    emzferris emzferris 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 28

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    Grieving

    I don't want to talk to people I know about it. I don't want to share my misery with people, even online. But this grief is building inside me, and I fear its release. Everywhere I look, there are children or things pertaining to children. Its been 8 days since my miscarriage...
    nepenthe333 nepenthe333 22-25, F 4 Responses May 24, 2013