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I Had An Abortion

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    I had my surgical abortion nearly one year ago

    and I still think about it every day. I didn't find out I was pregnant untill I was 18weeks and by the time I had my operation I was 20 weeks. I'm scarred from what I went through that day and don't know how to get past it, my boyfriend doesn't like to talk about it and I don't...
    lolaa101 lolaa101
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Apr 12

    This is such a politicized issue,

    and I feel like my story gets grabbed by people on both sides of the issue to make their "point". The real me and my real experience is lost in between. This was a long time ago and I had a long term boyfriend whom I sometimes lived with, but at the time he was attending...
    TruthTelling TruthTelling
    41-45, F
    1 Response Feb 19

    ok so some of you may of already read this story

    when i put it up 4 years ago i just want to put it again and add on to it as i couldn't to the last post as i deleted that account and made a new one up. My Abortion Broke Me it was 10 months ago when i found out i was 13 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend told me to choose...
    BarbiesAreFake BarbiesAreFake
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 10

    I've had two abortions in high school,

    and before anyone judges they both were by the same guy and we're still together and I'm a sophomore in college. We both weren't financially capable of taking care of a child and our parents would have pled us apart because of the incident. So we decided abortion was our only...
    kbp13 kbp13
    18-21, F
    19 Responses May 30, 2015

    I recently had an abortion.

    The decision was not a difficult one. It was the waiting that had the most negative affect on me. Not to mention that two weeks prior I was dumped by "the father". I was lucky enough to have a strong support system and was able to leave the province to get a speedy and safe...
    Jesca1960 Jesca1960
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    i'm still emotionally healing.

    8/28/14 was the day I had my abortion at 6 weeks 5 days pregnant. I go through phases of regret here and there but I know I did the right thing, for myself and the father. I am 21, and he is 22 with a child already from a previous relationship. barely anybody knows and that's...
    janaeannette janaeannette
    22-25, F
    19 Responses Oct 29, 2014

    I had an abortion. Please,

    if I can ever help anyone who had an abortion, or is considering abortion, I'd be happy to. If you need someone to talk to, I am here. My email is: fnu101907 at gmail.com God Bless
    fnu101907 fnu101907
    31-35
    Jan 29

    A horrible experience of my life.

    ....as i sit here typing...tears rolling down my cheeks because after this i would be getting ready for my second abortion I always believed that no individual is bad... i was sent to a maritime zone for 3 years of work..i was 22 at that time there i fell in love with a guy who...
    limited2 limited2
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 11

    You are not a bad person

    for getting an abortion, it doesn't matter if: You were assaulted. Your birth control failed. You weren't on birth control at all. There is a medical issue. You don’t want children. You already have children and can’t handle another. You aren't ready. You don’t want to be...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2014

    On Friday it made at week

    that I had my abortion. I was 9weeks in , I knew abortion was the only way out. Both my boyfriend and I, aren't ready to be parents yet. The day of the abortion I was scared and nervous. But after the procedure was done. I didn't feel like crying like I have been. I just felt...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 17

    A Positive Experience?

    I had a medical abortion a last week ago. The reason why I am writing this post is because before I went, I went onto the internet to read about people's experiences and to be honest it scared me to death!   It's a bit weird to explain an abortion as a positive experience...
    New2this1 New2this1
    22-25
    32 Responses Nov 28, 2008

    I'm 18 years old and a waitress.

    I was oblivious for awhile and had no concern that I was pregnant at all. I was taking my pill and didn't feel it was possible but after some time I started to worry as I hadn't had a period. So I took a pregnancy test which then came back positive 3+weeks. I didn't know how I...
    Manthaxx Manthaxx
    18-21, F
    16 Responses Jan 26, 2015

    the date is coming up.

    less than a month. I used to not be okay, I used to cry for hours. I feel like I'm almost okay now, I haven't had a crying episode in a month or two. is that horrible? have I lost my humanity?
    samhlani samhlani
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 13

    4-5 Week Pregnant.. Miscarriage Successful

    I took a pregnancy test 3-4 days after my missed period and lo and behold I was pregnant. I am 21 and living with my boyfriend, and knew that right not just wasn't the time for a pregnancy let alone a child. I initially thought of having a med abortion with the miso whatever pill...
    fchay fchay
    22-25
    61 Responses May 27, 2013

    Just To Share A 'Positive' Experience.

    I was 19 and in my first real relationship, he was my first. We always used condoms, always. Then as we were coming up on our one year anniversary, we had been tested, I went on the Pill. We continued to used condoms through the first cycle, that's when the condom broke and I...
    ThirdMistake ThirdMistake
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Aug 5, 2013

    Not The Ordinary

    A word for "you". "You" meaning those who judge our members for their life choices; those who spread verbal abuse like a wild-fire toxin of "word-vomit"; those who use this group as a means to feel better about themselves by feeding their own ego (a...
    hae hae
    22-25, F
    65 Responses Oct 15, 2009

    Correction, I almost had an abortion.

    And it made me realize just how hard it is to make the choice and how life saving it can be. Now, my period has always been on time without fail. After stopping the patch to change birth controls, I had a month to wait until my next period. Well, my boyfriend hates condoms and...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Mar 22, 2015

    I am looking to talk to mothers of multiple

    children who have chosen abortion with an unexpected last pregnancy
    Reallife23 Reallife23
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 26

    I had a termination last week

    after saying I would never have one. Until you're put in that situation and forced to make the hardest decision of your life, a person should not be judged. I was 12 weeks gone when I found out I was pregnant, I had just returned home after travelling with my partner. Both...
    bebefore bebefore
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Jul 29, 2014

    It infuriates me that hateful,

    mean people come into this group and pester these women about having an abortion. !NEW FLASH! These people have come for comfort and support, not to debate about how their choice is wrong/right. How dare you come here and push feelings of guilt upon them! Find your sympathy...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 29, 2014

    A year ago today was they worst day of my life.

    A day I'd never imagine getting over, a day still not forgotten in my heart. A love that's still strong & stuck to me. Time carried on & my heart grew heavy, my mind grew with sadness. But time numbed my pain, the pain I didn't see on others faces. The pain that made me feel...
    Amba21 Amba21
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2015

    I was happy and shocked

    when I found out that I was pregnant about 3 weeks. I don't really understand why people wrote here that they didn't know they were pregnant. My body changed immediately. I had to go to the restroom constantly. My breats felt like they were under tension. I was very tired all...
    saskiajasmin saskiajasmin
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 26

    I had an abortion three weeks ago.

    Today was my last appointment with the Dr. I feel fine, physically,but from time to time I still feel angry. I know I'll be fine, I just want to leave everything behind, one step at a time...
    justagirl1987 justagirl1987
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 28

    I was an 18 year old senior in a Christian high

    school. I was on birth control, but I guess accidents happen. I'd been with the guy for a year and a half when I got pregnant. I've never been more terrified in my entire life. His family never would have been supportive. I allowed him to talk me into an abortion. I went to the...
    maegan91 maegan91
    22-25, F
    15 Responses Mar 6, 2014

    Hey, I had an abortion about 5 months ago.

    I am struggling a lot as my partner just dose not care about it at all. I will go from the start. Me and my partner have been together for a year and a half and I adore him! I fell pregnant unplanned and we were in shock but from the start he said abortion. I panicked I did it...
    Puzzle2 Puzzle2
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 16

    For everyone asking me how I could do

    that to my ex and didn't he have a say... My ex had no job, didn't finish school and had no plans on getting his life together(still doesn't). I was 16 and in school. We had just moved states away and at the time being emancipated was not easy. My mom wanted me to marry the guy...
    BOJ1988 BOJ1988
    26-30, F
    Mar 7

    I never thought I would ever say those words in

    my life. In middle school, I was actually pro life. I hated the thought of abortion. It wasn't until a paper I wrote, really hit my mom hard and she sat me down and told me her abortion story. She told me that the doctor told her that if she kept the baby, she may not live. She...
    sierranikole sierranikole
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 3

    Spontaneous Abortions - Am I A "mommy Killer"?

    I have had three spontaneous abortions; or that is what my obstetrician called them.  Most people refer to them simply as miscarriages.  According to the "I hate abortion" group; this makes me a "Mommy Killer". I had my first in 1997, then...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters
    31-35, F
    94 Responses Oct 19, 2009

    If I get pregnant I will abort.

    I had my tubes tied and recently found out, a month or so ago, that one is undone. My period was late this month and I thought about what to do. I've decided.
    BOJ1988 BOJ1988
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2015

    Feeling Guilty As Due Date Approaches

    Oh I'm having such a rough time....I would be giving birth to my baby next month- every week I think about what I did and cry. I'm married, and we always wanted kids, but when I found out I was pregnant- it was the worst time ever. My husband had been out of work for almost 2...
    sml7777 sml7777
    31-35, F
    19 Responses Oct 12, 2013

    I found out I was pregnant within 5 weeks in.

    I told my boyfriend but I wasn't sure if he was happy or sad, but he cried and said he just worried about me and doesn't want to ever do anything to hurt me, make a long story shorter I got off work 7 pm on a Friday we had plans, some errands we had to do and at the last minute...
    sweetycakes7 sweetycakes7
    26-30, F
    Feb 11

    I wish i could look into your eyes,

    hold your hand, feel your heart. just to hold you for a minute, feel your warmth, show you my love. this would all be possible, if not for one mistake, if i had the knowledge that i do now. They said it would be easy, 2 weeks and the pain will end, but they didn't prepare me for...
    sillyoldme sillyoldme
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jul 31, 2015

    What It's Like To Have An Abortion - My Story.

    I used to be on the fence of abortion but leaned more towards pro-life. I'd visited tons of pro-life sites where I read horror stories of abortions gone wrong, read about the pain, read about the cold nurses, and the doctors who couldn't take it. I saw the pictures of partial...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets
    26-30, F
    24 Responses Sep 27, 2011

    I was about 18 when I had an abortion it was

    the worse day of my life.I still can remember everything the nosie in the waiting room some of the girls faces the smell of the surgery room the tools they use and more. I can't move on and get that out of my head. I'm scared God will never give me a second chance to have a...
    Mia1028 Mia1028
    22-25, F
    Apr 17

    It was the ends of December of 2015,

    when I found out that I was pregnant. I was in finals for school so I thought its probably wrong. A few weeks later I went to my doctor and the confirm I was pregnant, I didn't know how I felt I was mad and sad and happy and scared, how was I going to tell my parents. How was I...
    alirod23 alirod23
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 31

    Haven't Had An Abortion, Aren't Even Considering It? Read This

    So Since out groups creator has not been seen since 2008, I am going to put what we want you all to see here. "This group is for women who have had abortions to share their experiences and support one another. It is not for debate or opinions about women's reproductive...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    10 Responses Aug 28, 2013

    Me And You.

    We should be together right now. Forget everything else. It's not important. You should still be content and curled in my belly. Perhaps even smiling in your slumber. I'd be smiling too, And you'd sense that somehow. You deserve to be alive. My decision was hasty and made...
    Me5678 Me5678
    22-25, F
    12 Responses Apr 25, 2013

    My Abortion Story

    My Abortion – Very Long, but I wanted to make sure I included all the details I could remember. October 23rd 2012, I met this guy who worked at a local grocery store. Instead of revealing his name I will name him JC, well we exchanged phone numbers and texted constantly for...
    GagandaLaranda GagandaLaranda
    18-21, F
    14 Responses Jan 14, 2013

    What do you do when you've barely turned 19,

    working two jobs, living in a homeless program, have no family support & you find out you are pregnant? Well, I got an abortion. Today. 1/19/16. I knew I'd regret this day before it even came. Maybe 7 weeks isn't a very long time for someone to become so attached to something...
    haileypaige haileypaige
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 20

    Concerned: Fake Stories

    As a member of this group, I could not help but look through some of the stories and titles and I have a very difficult time believing that all these stories with some of their titles are true.  These really have more of a anti-abortion ring to them.  I cannot stress...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters
    31-35, F
    79 Responses Nov 1, 2009

    So.. Yesterday I had an abortion at 12 weeks.

    And as many posts I've read says, it's not as bad as your mind makes it out to be. Your nerves are the worst part. Except for mine, when the procedure started we found out I have a tilted cervix, so the doctor (somehow, I don't want to know) had to turn it so he could get to it...
    Kayw07 Kayw07
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 24

    Near two months ago I had an abortion.

    I am still wondering when I'll began to feel relived because all I can feel is regret, guilt, and shame. In some sense, I am utterly lost. I cannot stop thinking about the what if's, such as picking out names for each sexed category and how I could of taught them to play piano...
    KDMitri KDMitri
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 8

    I Had An Abortion

    I am 18 year old and found out I was pregnant on 8th november, at first I was shocked as i was on the pill and didnt really know what to do, i was at work when i found out and couldn't do much about it until the next day.. when i got home from work i spoke to my...
    Tropical291 Tropical291
    18-21, F
    42 Responses Dec 8, 2009

    I'm Taking the Group Back Whos With Me??

    This is for those who have been affected by inconsiderate, untactful comments on this board that were disguised as "helpful" or concerned let alone the obviously hurtful comments based on political/religious beliefs. This is directed at stopping these kinds of passive...
    hae hae
    22-25, F
    26 Responses Jun 28, 2009

    I don't regret having an abortion,

    I know my own reasons and I know why it was the right thing to do. However, knowing what I know now, I would never have discussed it with the guy I was involved with at the time ( I'm not going to say "my ex partner" because we weren't involved in that way) I would never...
    Karmicjoy Karmicjoy
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 19

    I don't know if I would make a different

    decision. I don't want you to suffer because I'm selfish and want to live you even though I can't provide the life you'd want/need. I wonder everyday what you would be like. I sometimes catch myself looking through my baby pictures.. and obsessing about what baby Metris was...
    nielle24 nielle24
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 2

    Successful Herbal Abortion

    I just want to share that after much introspection, I decided to have an abortion 3 months ago. I used a combination of Pennyroyal, Blue and Black Cohosh tinctures for 4 1/2 days every 4 hours. I thought it would never end, every trip to the bathroom was a nightmare. But I'm...
    Alair Alair
    31-35
    108 Responses Apr 12, 2010

    I am 19 and I had an abortion a week ago.

    The worst part was I went through the whole process by myself. My boyfriend was supportive when he found out, even said he'd pay for the procedure. A week or so later he stopped talking to me. I asked him a million times what was wrong and he wouldn't tell me. The day came and I...
    aholiday10 aholiday10
    18-21, F
    Feb 16

    I have never had an abortion

    but I would like to say one thing.... You are all so strong and wonderful. Some of these stories have made my heart ache. I am happy you are making the choices you believe are right for you and letting nothing stand in your way. As for those who come here to harass these...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 31, 2014

    The Right Choice

    This is my story, its alittle long but this was the most difficult decision of my life!  I struggled with the decision to abort or not abort for 5 weeks and although I miss my baby dearly, I know I made the right decision for the situation I'm in.  I hope that this...
    haladj327 haladj327
    26-30, F
    60 Responses Dec 12, 2006

    On Monday i found out

    that i was pregnant AGAIN. The biggest shock of my life. After the abortion i had last year, I oathed that I would never, EVER go through that again. I was more careful. Strict on using condoms always, no exception. Until one stupid night I went out with my ex and our friends...
    HazelLancaster HazelLancaster
    22-25, F
    Apr 21

    When I noticed that I had not started my period,

    I went to an abortion clinic and they suspected that I was about 4 weeks pregnant. Following up the procedure with the clinic would have been about $500 so I decided to do some research. I started taking vitamin C pills as soon as I felt I had read enough info about the possible...
    Somegirlinoklahoma Somegirlinoklahoma
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 2

    Another negative pregnancy test.

    Why couldn't it be negative, years ago when I chose to have an abortion? Why was it so easy for me to get pregnant, after being raped? Now I want second child, after my first. And it is so hard to get pregnant. Why would I be pregnant, when I didn't want to be? Years when that...
    Singlemother78 Singlemother78
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    Problem-free Termination

    Just thought I'd post my experience. Having read some of the other stories, I feel relatively lucky about my abortion. I live in Australia and was in a committed relationship at the time. The diaphragm I was using must not have worked this one time, I don't know why (diaphragms...
    GoogleyEye GoogleyEye
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Nov 8, 2009

    Pro-life Centers Posing As Abortion Clinics And How To Avoid Them

    IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR AN ABORTION CLINIC, BE CAREFUL OF THESE ANTI-CHOICE CENTERS. When I was looking for a doctor to perform my abortion, I stumbled across a lot of anti-choice groups posing as abortion clinics. There would be receptionists and volunteers dressed in scrubs so...
    adventureolive adventureolive
    22-25, F
    13 Responses May 23, 2012

    I didn't tell the guy

    until years later. He was upset because he was told he would most likely never have a child. He blamed me for "stealing" his only chance to be a dad. I don't think it's my responsibility to risk my future and well being for someone else.
    BOJ1988 BOJ1988
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    LIKE IT OR NOT ABORTION IS A CHOICE

    I find it really aggravating that the women that come here looking for support are bombarded with jerks who come here with their own personal opinions about what a woman should do with her body. I came here on this forum today and saw a lot of bs that had nothing to do with...
    ladyinrage ladyinrage
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Oct 21, 2013

    Does It Ever Get Any Easier?

    I am 21 about to turn 22, a single mother going through a divorce that struggles everyday to provide for my daughter who will be four soon.it was two weeks before my 21st birthday and i knew something wasnt right i found out i was six weeks pregnant by a guy whom i had only been...
    mbhmommy92909 mbhmommy92909
    22-25, F
    60 Responses Jul 10, 2013

    I had an abortion and I'm fine.

    I do not regret and never will. Because I made the right decision. I knew I was making the right decision, 7 years ago. And I still feel the same. So people can say and hope for me to feel bad about my decision. And people can talk all that BS negativity to me. What they say...
    Singlemother78 Singlemother78
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 20, 2015

    I wont have any story

    but have an information it quite interesting
    OliviaStewart OliviaStewart
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 6
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