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I Had An Abortion

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    Not The Ordinary

    A word for "you". "You" meaning those who judge our members for their life choices; those who spread verbal abuse like a wild-fire toxin of "word-vomit"; those who use this group as a means to feel better about themselves by feeding their own ego (a...
    hae hae 22-25, F 65 Responses Oct 15, 2009

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    I Had An Abortion

    I am 18 year old and found out I was pregnant on 8th november, at first I was shocked as i was on the pill and didnt really know what to do, i was at work when i found out and couldn't do much about it until the next day.. when i got home from work i spoke to my...
    Tropical291 Tropical291 18-21, F 42 Responses Dec 8, 2009

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    It was a year ago. I think I have been in denial

    since I did it. Its just now hitting me because my husband says he doesn't want a baby. I had my chance to have one with him but didn't because he said it wasn't the right time and we one day would when it was. I didn't want to but I had no choice. I feel guilty and stupid. I...
    boydbird boydbird 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 2

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    It's embarrassing to say

    but I've had two abortions. The first time around was extremely hard for me, soon after I wanted it back and became very obsessive with the idea of becoming pregnant again in hope that the spirit would return. I've read studies about women wanting a "replacement" baby which is...
    sarahk5 sarahk5 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have mixed feelings about my abortion.

    Like I know I did it for the right reasons but I'm still hurting about it. It was only 3 days ago & I already have a daughter who's 1 next month. She takes my mind off things but the worst part is waking up having to tell myself that I'm not pregnant anymore :( anyone have any...
    Abbierose93 Abbierose93 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    I'm Taking the Group Back Whos With Me??

    This is for those who have been affected by inconsiderate, untactful comments on this board that were disguised as "helpful" or concerned let alone the obviously hurtful comments based on political/religious beliefs. This is directed at stopping these kinds of passive...
    hae hae 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    To Those Who Are In Need Of Help And Support

    I had an abortion 5 months ago, and I still do not regret it to this day. I posted my story a long time ago on this page if anyone is in need of a truthful, positive abortion experience. I just wanted to remind everyone that this group is for SUPPORT, not for someone to come and...
    westcoastt westcoastt 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    31 days ago I had my 3rd abortion.

    Within these 31 days I have barely allowed myself to cope with my feelings because I had so much at stake and couldn't afford to be depressed. My choice was not made easily however I realized it was not a mistake unfortunately. I have one child already. A 6 year old boy who...
    inmysoul0505 inmysoul0505 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 21

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    What Would I Tell Someone Who Is Considering Abortion?

    What would I tell someone who is considering abortion? Well I would tell them the truth. The only person that can tell you what it is like to have an abortion, is from a woman who actually had the procedure done herself. If you hear from judgmental prolife people, you will get...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    You are not a bad person

    for getting an abortion, it doesn't matter if: You were assaulted. Your birth control failed. You weren't on birth control at all. There is a medical issue. You don’t want children. You already have children and can’t handle another. You aren't ready. You don’t want to be...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F Apr 11

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    Or at least, I am having a medical one on

    Friday. According to my Period Tracker, as of today, I am 22 days late. I've had three confirmed positive tests. I'm twenty-five and married, no children. Today was my first day at a brand new job that could turn into a great career. I can't afford to stay at home with a baby...
    BlackRainbows BlackRainbows 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 2

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    Still here, my baby would of been due 1st

    September, and I'm just sat here so down everyday knowing my baby could of been in my arms. It sucks and hurts me so bad. :(
    MyBabyBaileyO MyBabyBaileyO 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    Just wanting to give you guys an update.

    I last posted in this group in 2012, which was the year I went through the most agonising year of my life. Since my abortion on the 27th March 2012 (a day that never leaves my memory) I have been through so much. After that day, I moved in with my partner and have not looked...
    catherinex catherinex 18-21 1 Response Aug 19

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    So he's contacted me.

    Not the guy that raped me. The other guy. The married man I had sex with, a few days after being raped. As I said before, I wanted to forget the rape ever happened. So nobody knew about it. When I got pregnant, there were two men that could have been the father. But I knew in my...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    A Positive Experience?

    I had a medical abortion a last week ago. The reason why I am writing this post is because before I went, I went onto the internet to read about people's experiences and to be honest it scared me to death!   It's a bit weird to explain an abortion as a positive experience...
    New2this1 New2this1 22-25 30 Responses Nov 28, 2008

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    Being A Mother And Having An Abortion

    When I was pregnant with my daughter, it was the happiest day of my life. But at the same time, I was so scared. My daughter's father abused me the entire pregnancy. I didn't know that he was still married. I got pregnant 6 months after knowing the father. I thought that God was...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    hello .i m not a native English speaker,

    so excuse my English if i make a mistake. im 24 year old and i just had an abortion 1 week ago,this is would be my 3rd and most painfully one (emotionally ). im 24 year old but i fell that im still 15 in my mind,i had a very bad childhood:i was abused emotionally and phisically...
    hajer22 hajer22 22-25, F Sep 8

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    Me And You.

    We should be together right now. Forget everything else. It's not important. You should still be content and curled in my belly. Perhaps even smiling in your slumber. I'd be smiling too, And you'd sense that somehow. You deserve to be alive. My decision was hasty and made...
    Me5678 Me5678 18-21, F 11 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    My Abortion Story

    My Abortion – Very Long, but I wanted to make sure I included all the details I could remember. October 23rd 2012, I met this guy who worked at a local grocery store. Instead of revealing his name I will name him JC, well we exchanged phone numbers and texted constantly for...
    GagandaLaranda GagandaLaranda 18-21, F 12 Responses Jan 14, 2013

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    I was young scared and never ever told anybody

    about it I didn't want to tell my parents they always have big expectations from me, didn't wanna disappoint them, I never even told the guy I was dating I didn't wanna burden him even then I knew we weren't going to get married I knew having a child at that time would ruin his...
    leostrong leostrong 22-25, F Aug 29

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    It's only been a few weeks

    and I don't even know how I feel. I love babies, like more than anything and i used to always joke with my boyfriend about "put a baby in me" and blah blah and he was always like "stop you're scaring me" but I mean I never actually wanted to get pregnant at this age but I always...
    torile torile 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    Concerned: Fake Stories

    As a member of this group, I could not help but look through some of the stories and titles and I have a very difficult time believing that all these stories with some of their titles are true.  These really have more of a anti-abortion ring to them.  I cannot stress...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 82 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    You did what you have to do.

    .. Don't be hard on yourself. Just forgive yourself and move on. Life is short .
    Zelaleme Zelaleme 46-50, F Aug 25

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    For anybody who is thinking about

    or had an abortion, this is somewhat of an update of what I posted in one of my stories. Be sure that you do your own research. Do not get on any pro life websites because you will get false information. Many pro life websites are made to scare women. Even talking to a pro...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    What It's Like To Have An Abortion - My Story.

    I used to be on the fence of abortion but leaned more towards pro-life. I'd visited tons of pro-life sites where I read horror stories of abortions gone wrong, read about the pain, read about the cold nurses, and the doctors who couldn't take it. I saw the pictures of partial...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets 22-25, F 22 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    Does It Ever Get Any Easier?

    I am 21 about to turn 22, a single mother going through a divorce that struggles everyday to provide for my daughter who will be four soon.it was two weeks before my 21st birthday and i knew something wasnt right i found out i was six weeks pregnant by a guy whom i had only been...
    mbhmommy92909 mbhmommy92909 22-25, F 62 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    Feeling Guilty As Due Date Approaches

    Oh I'm having such a rough time....I would be giving birth to my baby next month- every week I think about what I did and cry. I'm married, and we always wanted kids, but when I found out I was pregnant- it was the worst time ever. My husband had been out of work for almost 2...
    sml7777 sml7777 26-30, F 21 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    I'm in a relationship with an older man.

    I was taking birth control and I ended up getting pregnant. I was shocked when I got the positive test results back. I was 18 at the time. I called my boyfriend in a panic and I broke down in hysterics right before I had to go to work. He promised we would talk after my shift...
    anonn19 anonn19 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    The man who raped me made me pregnant!

    The counsellors could see my absolute horror and they advocated an abortion. It was horrible! I went to live with my Dad afterwards. I was only fourteen.
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 18

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    I was an 18 year old senior in a Christian high

    school. I was on birth control, but I guess accidents happen. I'd been with the guy for a year and a half when I got pregnant. I've never been more terrified in my entire life. His family never would have been supportive. I allowed him to talk me into an abortion. I went to the...
    maegan91 maegan91 22-25, F 16 Responses Mar 6

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    my first pregnancy, i wanted the baby,

    he didnt . using his fists as words of persuasion he " talked " me into getting one . that was the first and last time :'(
    cupidzgift cupidzgift 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    I grew up attending Catholic school,

    which I enjoyed and identified with my entire life. Abortion wasn't just something that didn't apply to me, it was not even on my radar. I competed in college athletics at the D1 level, so that was what consumed my life. When I realized I missed my period while away for a...
    Lila7 Lila7 22-25, F Sep 6

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    It has been over a year now.

    And things are going well. My (now) fiance and I are busy busy busy! I am writing this because I know things changed for me. I never thought I would have had an abortion, but I did. Do I regret it? No. Reflecting back on where I was and where I am, I know I would not have been...
    CollegeStudent14 CollegeStudent14 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 27

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    LIKE IT OR NOT ABORTION IS A CHOICE

    I find it really aggravating that the women that come here looking for support are bombarded with jerks who come here with their own personal opinions about what a woman should do with her body. I came here on this forum today and saw a lot of bs that had nothing to do with...
    ladyinrage ladyinrage 46-50, F 10 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    I've done this and know many other women do

    this too. You know who you are ;) Why tell people who are against abortions, the reasons why we did it? We don't owe them an explanation. And its non of their damn business. For whatever reason, we had an abortion. Even if we told our story to them, they wouldn't care. There is...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    The Right Choice

    This is my story, its alittle long but this was the most difficult decision of my life!  I struggled with the decision to abort or not abort for 5 weeks and although I miss my baby dearly, I know I made the right decision for the situation I'm in.  I hope that this...
    haladj327 haladj327 26-30, F 58 Responses Dec 12, 2006

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    Haven't Had An Abortion, Aren't Even Considering It? Read This

    So Since out groups creator has not been seen since 2008, I am going to put what we want you all to see here. "This group is for women who have had abortions to share their experiences and support one another. It is not for debate or opinions about women's reproductive...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    I found out today I am pregnant.

    I'm 21. I have a boyfriend, whom I am completely inlove with and he feels the same about me. I'm a student, a preschool teacher, and I have a 3 year old beautiful and wonderful daughter who I would die for. My boyfriend isnt the father of her but he loves her like he is. I...
    elizabethsmith50 elizabethsmith50 18-21, F 11 Responses Aug 23

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    Spontaneous Abortions - Am I A "mommy Killer"?

    I have had three spontaneous abortions; or that is what my obstetrician called them.  Most people refer to them simply as miscarriages.  According to the "I hate abortion" group; this makes me a "Mommy Killer". I had my first in 1997, then...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 97 Responses Oct 19, 2009

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    I had mine after I had dated my first love.

    He was 18 and I was 14. We dated for five years, we were young, Catholic, went to Planned Parented Hood. They just saw $150 cash. I knew I was pregnant and in 20 minutes, I was not. My fella of five years and I just closed the drapes and laid in the dark. From then on every time...
    randomname1961 randomname1961 51-55, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Problem-free Termination

    Just thought I'd post my experience. Having read some of the other stories, I feel relatively lucky about my abortion. I live in Australia and was in a committed relationship at the time. The diaphragm I was using must not have worked this one time, I don't know why (diaphragms...
    GoogleyEye GoogleyEye 36-40, F 14 Responses Nov 8, 2009

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    It was five months ago,

    in April. It was one of those things that aren't supposed to happen: it was my sophomore year of college and I was visiting my boyfriend of three years for spring break. We only had sex once, and we used protection. But I still got pregnant. As soon as I missed my period, I...
    skinnesn skinnesn 18-21, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    yesterday i had an abortion.

    my husband and i made the decision after my dr told us im carrying conjoined twins. i am horrified by the fact that i saw them. it was the most aweful thing ive ever had to do. i hate myself for doing it. and i think my husband hates me. we have a 11 year old and a 5 year old...
    Raevan Raevan 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 4

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    ever since ive had my abortion it has changed me

    for the worst. im not the same person as i use to be. my day to day life has different patterns of mood swings. ive gone from a happy bubbly person to a person that is dark inside. i have no one to talk to about it cos people have worse situations than me. i find it hard to...
    rebecca1624 rebecca1624 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    I lost my baby and my boyfriend within the

    space of a week. I don't really know what to do with myself anymore.
    Lizsqueekysmith94 Lizsqueekysmith94 18-21, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    so I have A 5 yr old daughter in grade 2 im in

    school starting a new job and found out I am pregnant. unfortunately it isn't the right time to have another baby.so I have decided with the bf to get an abortion.it just too expensive at the moment. tonight is my first night doing the dong quai and black cohosh extract so wish...
    kiki121 kiki121 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 3

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    Successful Herbal Abortion

    I just want to share that after much introspection, I decided to have an abortion 3 months ago. I used a combination of Pennyroyal, Blue and Black Cohosh tinctures for 4 1/2 days every 4 hours. I thought it would never end, every trip to the bathroom was a nightmare. But I'm...
    Alair Alair 31-35 67 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    About a year ago, I became pregnant.

    I was 17, and I was terrified. I was always responsible, I was always careful. I had my entire life figured out, a 4.1 GPA, all my college applications in, and 2 jobs at the time. I just couldn't understand how this could happen to me. I was so young and so in love. We were...
    af996 af996 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    Ugh... Last Tuesday. Four days

    before our wedding day. We are 29 and have a 13 month old. Live with my mom, we are hoping to buy a house. So unplanned. You think I would have known it wasn't impossible after my son was born...(maybe I wanted it? I don't even know) Bottom line is that putting a roof over my...
    Sodarntypical Sodarntypical 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Since my abortion, I've learned

    so much. Having an abortion has changed me. It changed my beliefs. It changed my life. I have found the positive in my experience. And I am stronger because of it. Looking back on it, I know that I made the right decision. There's no question. I am at peace. And I have no...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 24

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    Got Called The "N" Word For Having An Abortion, Read On

    I received a private message from SweetAmaya. You know, the one who calls us all murderers for having an abortion and said we are going to hell for having an abortion. She read my story My Secret Kept Me Sick and commented there as well. Then this troll calls me a murderous "N...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 15 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    1 week ago today. Aug 17 ten days

    before my birthday. 2012. I didn't want to do it.. But I wasn't in the position financially to raise a second child. I am basically homeless living with someone else...my boyfriend went with me. We're still together. He agreed it was what was best. I still regret it. Am I...
    Jackiebh Jackiebh 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 24

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    I had a termination more

    than 6 weeks ago. My body hasn't felt the same since so I decided to take another pregnancy test. Thinking it would be negative, imagine my surprise when it came up positive telling me I am 1-2 weeks pregnant. I'm guessing the pregnancy hormone is the reason why, is this...
    Bunny808 Bunny808 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 19

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