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I Had An Abortion

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    Today marks 2 years. I'm having a bad day

    because I can't stop thinking about my baby. I never wanted that abortion, I wanted my baby. I loved him or her very much. I let my family get in my head and convince me I was doing the right thing, even though I knew all along it wasn't right. I feel terrible for not defending...
    reneeo11314 reneeo11314 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 8

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    Not The Ordinary

    A word for "you". "You" meaning those who judge our members for their life choices; those who spread verbal abuse like a wild-fire toxin of "word-vomit"; those who use this group as a means to feel better about themselves by feeding their own ego (a...
    hae hae 22-25, F 65 Responses Oct 15, 2009

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    ...at least I'll be able to say this next week.

    Never in a million years would I have though that I'd be in this situation. I've been with my boyfriend a little over a year. We just moved in together. I was on the pill and we never used any other protection and for some reason I felt like I was invincible. Until I messed up...
    Sadhazeleyes Sadhazeleyes 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 18

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    I've been more open about my abortion

    and being raped. It's great having people that understand the medical part of it all. And to able to have support in, not just this group, but other places as well.
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    Me And You.

    We should be together right now. Forget everything else. It's not important. You should still be content and curled in my belly. Perhaps even smiling in your slumber. I'd be smiling too, And you'd sense that somehow. You deserve to be alive. My decision was hasty and made...
    Me5678 Me5678 22-25, F 12 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    I am approaching the year mark of

    when I had an abortion. My boyfriend and I were still in college, not financially ready, and he wasn't emotionally ready. I was sick and tired constantly, throwing everything up I tried to eat, and throwing p when I smelled most anything. We weren't in a good spot in our...
    mka1234 mka1234 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    You are not a bad person

    for getting an abortion, it doesn't matter if: You were assaulted. Your birth control failed. You weren't on birth control at all. There is a medical issue. You don’t want children. You already have children and can’t handle another. You aren't ready. You don’t want to be...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F Apr 11, 2014

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    Feeling Guilty As Due Date Approaches

    Oh I'm having such a rough time....I would be giving birth to my baby next month- every week I think about what I did and cry. I'm married, and we always wanted kids, but when I found out I was pregnant- it was the worst time ever. My husband had been out of work for almost 2...
    sml7777 sml7777 31-35, F 22 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    to anyone thinking about getting an abortion

    because their boyfriend doesn't want the baby, think about what YOU want. he's not gonna be laying on the bed and getting the fetus taken out YOU ARE. do not let a man decide what's best for you, it may be his ***** kid, but you're carrying it. if you consider abortion think...
    RavenRena17 RavenRena17 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I had an abortion 160 days ago,

    which was 5 months and 9 days ago... I'm finally seeking help. I found an amazing organization that helps with coping with abortion. My therapist is so great. It's helped me a lot to cope with all my feelings. Especially with my anger. I hope one day I can find some peace...
    sunrays2525 sunrays2525 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 8

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    Problem-free Termination

    Just thought I'd post my experience. Having read some of the other stories, I feel relatively lucky about my abortion. I live in Australia and was in a committed relationship at the time. The diaphragm I was using must not have worked this one time, I don't know why (diaphragms...
    GoogleyEye GoogleyEye 36-40, F 14 Responses Nov 8, 2009

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    I personally haven't had one,

    but I would like to keep the option open, I'm on the pill so I'm taking measures to not get pregnant and if I happen to get pregnant by accident I will definitely be getting one. at my age (18) having a kid would ruin my future plans for college and there's a possibility I might...
    RavenRena17 RavenRena17 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I had a termination last week

    after saying I would never have one. Until you're put in that situation and forced to make the hardest decision of your life, a person should not be judged. I was 12 weeks gone when I found out I was pregnant, I had just returned home after travelling with my partner. Both...
    bebefore bebefore 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 29, 2014

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    Where to start... I found out I was pregnant

    when I was about 5 weeks. I have one amazing 4yr old boy whom I love with every inch of me. Me & his father have been on & off for 5 yrs, when we sudden got surprised with this & were literally stumped. We knew we couldn't financially support another child & knowing the hardship...
    Ashleemichelle Ashleemichelle 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    I have never had an abortion

    but I would like to say one thing.... You are all so strong and wonderful. Some of these stories have made my heart ache. I am happy you are making the choices you believe are right for you and letting nothing stand in your way. As for those who come here to harass these...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    When I found out I was pregnant,

    I was in absolute shock and felt helpless. I was at a clinic to renew my birth control at the time, and the doctor told me I was 4 weeks pregnant after giving a urine sample. They gave me lots of information about this news and sent me on my way. I was with my boyfriend at the...
    barbiegurlswag barbiegurlswag 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 27

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    The Right Choice

    This is my story, its alittle long but this was the most difficult decision of my life!  I struggled with the decision to abort or not abort for 5 weeks and although I miss my baby dearly, I know I made the right decision for the situation I'm in.  I hope that this...
    haladj327 haladj327 26-30, F 63 Responses Dec 12, 2006

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    i'm still emotionally healing.

    8/28/14 was the day I had my abortion at 6 weeks 5 days pregnant. I go through phases of regret here and there but I know I did the right thing, for myself and the father. I am 21, and he is 22 with a child already from a previous relationship. barely anybody knows and that's...
    janaeannette janaeannette 18-21, F 21 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    Abortion, cruel!, evil!

    , murder!, all words that have been used against me since I had one, I was 12 weeks and 6days I had a surgical abortion. My parents didn't know I went on my own it was an hours journey there and back, I had never had an operation before I was petrified. I never believed in it...
    rbambro rbambro 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    What It's Like To Have An Abortion - My Story.

    I used to be on the fence of abortion but leaned more towards pro-life. I'd visited tons of pro-life sites where I read horror stories of abortions gone wrong, read about the pain, read about the cold nurses, and the doctors who couldn't take it. I saw the pictures of partial...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets 26-30, F 27 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    Anyone who has gone through an abortion

    and who feels comfortable talking about the subject, would you mind messaging me?
    coolestdweebyahknow coolestdweebyahknow 22-25, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    It infuriates me that hateful,

    mean people come into this group and pester these women about having an abortion. !NEW FLASH! These people have come for comfort and support, not to debate about how their choice is wrong/right. How dare you come here and push feelings of guilt upon them! Find your sympathy...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    My Abortion Story

    My Abortion – Very Long, but I wanted to make sure I included all the details I could remember. October 23rd 2012, I met this guy who worked at a local grocery store. Instead of revealing his name I will name him JC, well we exchanged phone numbers and texted constantly for...
    GagandaLaranda GagandaLaranda 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 14, 2013

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    Pro-life Centers Posing As Abortion Clinics And How To Avoid Them

    IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR AN ABORTION CLINIC, BE CAREFUL OF THESE ANTI-CHOICE CENTERS. When I was looking for a doctor to perform my abortion, I stumbled across a lot of anti-choice groups posing as abortion clinics. There would be receptionists and volunteers dressed in scrubs so...
    adventureolive adventureolive 22-25, F 16 Responses May 23, 2012

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    Successful Herbal Abortion

    I just want to share that after much introspection, I decided to have an abortion 3 months ago. I used a combination of Pennyroyal, Blue and Black Cohosh tinctures for 4 1/2 days every 4 hours. I thought it would never end, every trip to the bathroom was a nightmare. But I'm...
    Alair Alair 31-35 86 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    Testing one two three.

    This thing doesn't work for me!
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 30

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    Dear baby, So tomorrow would have been the day

    that you were meant to arrive on this earth, but instead I had to make one of the hardest decisions of my life back in October 2014 and send you up to heaven and not give you the opportunity to enter this world. I still remember the day I found out I was pregnant with you, it...
    Jodie201093 Jodie201093 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    Yesterday to be exact.

    I knew that my body was changing and my missed period was an automatic sign. I was in denial. I thought maybe I'm just sick, because I was physically sick 24/7. Nausea, headaches, cramping, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. I sent my boyfriend to the store to get a test and he...
    SereneWarrioress SereneWarrioress 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 21

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    bobwasbad bobwasbad 51-55, M May 25

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    LIKE IT OR NOT ABORTION IS A CHOICE

    I find it really aggravating that the women that come here looking for support are bombarded with jerks who come here with their own personal opinions about what a woman should do with her body. I came here on this forum today and saw a lot of bs that had nothing to do with...
    ladyinrage ladyinrage 46-50, F 10 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    I have two questions!

    What do you think about telling new boyfriends about your previous abortion? What about dating someone who disagrees with abortion? I'm feeling kind of lost with the next phase. I am dating someone knew and I feel like I am hiding something. He also disagrees with abortion and I...
    Hannaahhboo Hannaahhboo 18-21 3 Responses Jun 19

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    I read a great quote today about how a 16 year

    old girl can't adopt a child because she is too young, doesn't have stable income, and probably doesn't have that stable of a household. But yet if she gets pregnant by any means she is forced to have that child. Does that sound fair to you? Or how about the article I was just...
    MissJessieGurl MissJessieGurl 18-21, F Jun 20

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    I had an abortion and I'm fine.

    I do not regret and never will. Because I made the right decision. I knew I was making the right decision, 7 years ago. And I still feel the same. So people can say and hope for me to feel bad about my decision. And people can talk all that BS negativity to me. What they say...
    Singlemother78 Singlemother78 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    I might mute this group

    because i find it disturbing. I can't understand all the women saying they "had an abortion and feel awful about it but I'm not ready and I know it's the right thing to do." Drives me crazy. If it's right what are they feeling bad about? And what do you mean your not ready...
    Aagatha Aagatha 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 18

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    I'm 18 years old and a waitress.

    I was oblivious for awhile and had no concern that I was pregnant at all. I was taking my pill and didn't feel it was possible but after some time I started to worry as I hadn't had a period. So I took a pregnancy test which then came back positive 3+weeks. I didn't know how I...
    Manthaxx Manthaxx 18-21, F 25 Responses Jan 26

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    I've had two abortions in high school,

    and before anyone judges they both were by the same guy and we're still together and I'm a sophomore in college. We both weren't financially capable of taking care of a child and our parents would have pled us apart because of the incident. So we decided abortion was our only...
    kbp13 kbp13 18-21, F 29 Responses May 30

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    First time poster! I am not sure

    if this is allowed, but would anyone be willing to help me with my newest project? I am looking to write a book. I had an abortion two years ago at the age of 23. I am looking for men & women that would like to come forward with their stories to help me. :) (Side note - instead...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 30

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    I had an abortion when I was a teenager.

    Very few people know about it. My main reason for doing it was I was a high school drop out and I had found out my boyfriend at the time was addicted to crack, he actually came to the appointment high on crack. I also was just didn't want to be a failure in life, I had always...
    Damice Damice 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 22

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    Correction, I almost had an abortion.

    And it made me realize just how hard it is to make the choice and how life saving it can be. Now, my period has always been on time without fail. After stopping the patch to change birth controls, I had a month to wait until my next period. Well, my boyfriend hates condoms and...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 22

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    I'm Taking the Group Back Whos With Me??

    This is for those who have been affected by inconsiderate, untactful comments on this board that were disguised as "helpful" or concerned let alone the obviously hurtful comments based on political/religious beliefs. This is directed at stopping these kinds of passive...
    hae hae 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    I had an abortion 2 days ago.

    I want to share my story so others who are thinking about getting one and are scared because of what they've read. I read many stories of people having one and some were absolutely terrifying. I was so afraid the day I was to have my procedure. I was 9.4 weeks the day I had the...
    lulu3902 lulu3902 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 25

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    Haven't Had An Abortion, Aren't Even Considering It? Read This

    So Since out groups creator has not been seen since 2008, I am going to put what we want you all to see here. "This group is for women who have had abortions to share their experiences and support one another. It is not for debate or opinions about women's reproductive...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    I think it's disgraceful

    that women come on here to post hateful messages about women who have chosen to have an abortion. NOBODY that has been through it has ever said it's an easy decision to make. It's not easy- I'm speaking from experience. I pray that you judgement and "perfect" women never find...
    Bunny808 Bunny808 22-25, F 16 hrs ago

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    I'm 15 and sadly I'm pregnant.

    Everyone wants me to keep the baby but I can't.. I want to be a surgeon. I want my boyfriend to follow his dreams. He's 19 and if I keep it im sure he'll get in trouble for the ages. My parents don't let me date so it makes it 100000000 times worse. I'm already getting a bump...
    lameselina lameselina 16-17, F 6 Responses Jun 8

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    i just found out i was 4 weeks pregnant.

    me and my boyfriend have been together for only 4 months.. we connected right away, weve had some hardships but this by far is the hardest. I automatically assumed we keep the baby, but then i found he doesnt want to.. He says he wants a future with me but not a hard one. He...
    lexis850lx lexis850lx 18-21, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Spontaneous Abortions - Am I A "mommy Killer"?

    I have had three spontaneous abortions; or that is what my obstetrician called them.  Most people refer to them simply as miscarriages.  According to the "I hate abortion" group; this makes me a "Mommy Killer". I had my first in 1997, then...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 96 Responses Oct 19, 2009

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