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I Had An Abortion

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    I'm Taking the Group Back Whos With Me??

    This is for those who have been affected by inconsiderate, untactful comments on this board that were disguised as "helpful" or concerned let alone the obviously hurtful comments based on political/religious beliefs. This is directed at stopping these kinds of passive...
    hae hae 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    Not The Ordinary

    A word for "you". "You" meaning those who judge our members for their life choices; those who spread verbal abuse like a wild-fire toxin of "word-vomit"; those who use this group as a means to feel better about themselves by feeding their own ego (a...
    hae hae 22-25, F 65 Responses Oct 15, 2009

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    I posted about my story in early september

    and I felt like I'd check back in and follow up. I don't cry as much or think about it as much, but its still there. I know it always will be and I don't plan on it really ever going away. Different things trigger different reactions but I guess thats normal. I'm considering...
    torile torile 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 16

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    My Abortion Story

    My Abortion – Very Long, but I wanted to make sure I included all the details I could remember. October 23rd 2012, I met this guy who worked at a local grocery store. Instead of revealing his name I will name him JC, well we exchanged phone numbers and texted constantly for...
    GagandaLaranda GagandaLaranda 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 14, 2013

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    I just want to know is it

    even possible to even get on with life, after having abortion, I've tried so hard to try make myself happy, but I just can't, all I do is think of my baby and what's happened, is there even hope it will get better? And how long can it take to even see light from the dark tunnel...
    Bailey251 Bailey251 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 3

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    I was an 18 year old senior in a Christian high

    school. I was on birth control, but I guess accidents happen. I'd been with the guy for a year and a half when I got pregnant. I've never been more terrified in my entire life. His family never would have been supportive. I allowed him to talk me into an abortion. I went to the...
    maegan91 maegan91 22-25, F 16 Responses Mar 6

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    You are not a bad person

    for getting an abortion, it doesn't matter if: You were assaulted. Your birth control failed. You weren't on birth control at all. There is a medical issue. You don’t want children. You already have children and can’t handle another. You aren't ready. You don’t want to be...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F Apr 11

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    This month would have been the month my child

    would have been born it's bitter sweet i try not to think about it but sometimes I can't help it. Then I find out 2girls I use to talk to just had babies seems like our kids would have been just a few weeks apart I would have been the last to deliver that kind of hurt that I don...
    Hotpinkgirl1982 Hotpinkgirl1982 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    LIKE IT OR NOT ABORTION IS A CHOICE

    I find it really aggravating that the women that come here looking for support are bombarded with jerks who come here with their own personal opinions about what a woman should do with her body. I came here on this forum today and saw a lot of bs that had nothing to do with...
    ladyinrage ladyinrage 46-50, F 10 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    So I can't be a mom because I had an abortion?

    What does one have to do with the other? I mean, really? So I terminated a pregnancy, for all the right reasons. I made the right decision. And because of that, I can't be a mother? Where is it written? Where's the professional who says that? I can tell you right now, that not...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 6

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    I had an abortion 6 years ago

    because of pressure from my parents and cousin. I went to the clinic twice leaving. I wanted advice which they could not speak with me because they only speak to you if your going to have the actual abortion. I felt alone my boyfriend at the time used drugs and I felt as though...
    Aml4 Aml4 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 7

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    A Positive Experience?

    I had a medical abortion a last week ago. The reason why I am writing this post is because before I went, I went onto the internet to read about people's experiences and to be honest it scared me to death!   It's a bit weird to explain an abortion as a positive experience...
    New2this1 New2this1 22-25 30 Responses Nov 28, 2008

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    We shouldn't have to give a 4 page essay on

    why we chose our abortions. Why? Because it is nobody's business. And we shouldn't have to explain ourselves to anybody. We are going to get judged, regardless. And we're not standing in front of a judge, trying to prove our innocence. Because we are already innocent. Abortions...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 11

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    It was my senior year of high school.

    I was with the boyfriend I am with right now, almost 3 years together. I found out I was pregnant when my best friend at the time was at the hospital having her baby 3 months early. The minute I knew I was pregnant I knew I could not have my baby. I was still in school, I was...
    lillysmith1102 lillysmith1102 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 16

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    Concerned: Fake Stories

    As a member of this group, I could not help but look through some of the stories and titles and I have a very difficult time believing that all these stories with some of their titles are true.  These really have more of a anti-abortion ring to them.  I cannot stress...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 82 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    Problem-free Termination

    Just thought I'd post my experience. Having read some of the other stories, I feel relatively lucky about my abortion. I live in Australia and was in a committed relationship at the time. The diaphragm I was using must not have worked this one time, I don't know why (diaphragms...
    GoogleyEye GoogleyEye 36-40, F 14 Responses Nov 8, 2009

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    It's a sort of long story.

    I have been with the same person for a bit over 7 years. About 4 years ago, I became pregnant. I was so confused and had so many conflicting feelings. Eventually, after speaking to my partner, he convinced me that it could not happen because we were not ready and so on and so...
    704steffiZ 704steffiZ 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 9

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    Feeling Guilty As Due Date Approaches

    Oh I'm having such a rough time....I would be giving birth to my baby next month- every week I think about what I did and cry. I'm married, and we always wanted kids, but when I found out I was pregnant- it was the worst time ever. My husband had been out of work for almost 2...
    sml7777 sml7777 26-30, F 21 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    So. . . I am puzzled not sure

    where to begin with the reality I am currently living, so I will start with facts, I am currently 20 years old, I recently earned an Associates Degree over the summer time and now I am continuing my education in hopes of earning a Bachelors. This summer seems to be the most...
    RAnonymous7 RAnonymous7 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 1

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    They say that because I had an abortion,

    I should never have children. Okay, first of all, having an abortion does not define who you are as a person. Having an abortion does not make you a bad person or bad mother. I hate to burst their bubbles, but I am very good mother. I have a 3 year old daughter, who I breastfed...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    I've done this and know many other women do

    this too. You know who you are ;) Why tell people who are against abortions, the reasons why we did it? We don't owe them an explanation. And its non of their damn business. For whatever reason, we had an abortion. Even if we told our story to them, they wouldn't care. There is...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I had an abortion a few days ago

    and I'm struggling with it. After I had the surgery I was hoping to feel relief but I don't I feel so empty and upset. When I was at the clinic and saw the ultra sound picture I almost started to cry but felt like I couldn't back out of my decision now. The father and I are not...
    Melanieisabell Melanieisabell 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 8

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    I'm 19 and living with my boyfriend in Canada.

    We are trying to get my citizenship but its really hard when we're barely living check to check. Then we found out that I was pregnant. I was so scared at first, I've always wanted a family but I just felt that now wasn't the right time. So at 15 weeks we found a place that...
    MissJessieGurl MissJessieGurl 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 12

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    I come from a country

    where people judge a women based on her virginity status. Adding to that, I was brought up by parents that are extremely strict and I would say, that was might be why I turn out to have a weird prsonality. I am very good at home but then when I'm with my boyfriend, I'm wild. We...
    hahiheho hahiheho 18-21, F Oct 13

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    I found out I was pregnant February 17th 2014 &

    I was so excited. Becoming a mom is something I've always wanted in life but my doctor & I honestly thought I couldn't get pregnant. So I threw that idea to the far back of my head. Well it happened & the first person I told was the guy I had been seeing for 2 1/2 years. At...
    Trying2MoveOn Trying2MoveOn 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 3

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    I decided to break up with him.

    Not because I didn't love him anymore but because I couldn't see a future with him. After my abortion I've just been alone and somehow I have pushed away the only person who was closely related to what I was going through. I just couldn't bear the picture of our love growing...
    thekingspearl thekingspearl 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 30

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    Successful Herbal Abortion

    I just want to share that after much introspection, I decided to have an abortion 3 months ago. I used a combination of Pennyroyal, Blue and Black Cohosh tinctures for 4 1/2 days every 4 hours. I thought it would never end, every trip to the bathroom was a nightmare. But I'm...
    Alair Alair 31-35 69 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    I Had An Abortion

    I am 18 year old and found out I was pregnant on 8th november, at first I was shocked as i was on the pill and didnt really know what to do, i was at work when i found out and couldn't do much about it until the next day.. when i got home from work i spoke to my...
    Tropical291 Tropical291 18-21, F 42 Responses Dec 8, 2009

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    I've been dealing with depression

    for 5 years now. Last year I got pregnant. I've always dreamed and wanted to be a mother, but I knew that it wasn't the right moment. I've not finished my studies yet, I live with my parents, my bf lives abroad and we were together for only 6 months at the time. And I was and...
    borb0leta borb0leta 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    Haven't Had An Abortion, Aren't Even Considering It? Read This

    So Since out groups creator has not been seen since 2008, I am going to put what we want you all to see here. "This group is for women who have had abortions to share their experiences and support one another. It is not for debate or opinions about women's reproductive...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    This is the first time I am speaking out about

    this. I do not want to be judged and have pro-life's criticizing me over my choice or go off about doing it safe because we did. I kept this all to myself up until now. I had an fwb and the last time I was with him was the beginning of July and I found out I was pregnant at...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 3

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    I was 19, and I dated my first boyfriend

    for 6 months. Almost 2 weeks after we broke up, I found out I was pregnant. I do want kids one day, but he wasn't working or going to school, and I didn't have a job and had so much school ahead of me. I did not want to be bound to my ex for the rest of my life, and I knew there...
    elliecrash elliecrash 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Just To Share A 'Positive' Experience.

    I was 19 and in my first real relationship, he was my first. We always used condoms, always. Then as we were coming up on our one year anniversary, we had been tested, I went on the Pill. We continued to used condoms through the first cycle, that's when the condom broke and I...
    ThirdMistake ThirdMistake 41-45, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    I had a termination last week

    after saying I would never have one. Until you're put in that situation and forced to make the hardest decision of your life, a person should not be judged. I was 12 weeks gone when I found out I was pregnant, I had just returned home after travelling with my partner. Both...
    bebefore bebefore 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 29

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    I've written about this before

    and I've told my story so many times I cant count....it remains my biggest regret and something that I can still literally feel pain in my heart from. Tomorrow at 1:15pm it will be two years since I killed my precious baby. A baby that I wanted so badly, but was stupid and weak...
    janedoe6452 janedoe6452 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 9

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    Unfortunately I'm having a second one.

    I really wish I wasn't but oh well. a councelor called me (maybe my call got directed to her) and I asked 'do you guys have abortion services there?' She answered with 'How old are you?' I told her. 'Were you ever pregnant before?' I told her yes. 'What was the result?' I told...
    kbeary kbeary 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 1

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    Never have my eyes been

    so puffy and red in my life. After going through one abortion two years ago and completely regretting it (I'm still going through the depression that it caused) I get pregnant again and my bf is threatening to kill himself if I don't get an abortion. He said I was born to ruin...
    kbeary kbeary 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 30

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    I don't know how anyone has the cheek to judge

    any woman for choosing to abort their baby. Because at the end of the day it is their baby! And who has the right to tell them what they should and shouldn't do and what's best for them or the baby. For abortion, against abortion. I don't care the point is you shouldn't force...
    AriaSteel AriaSteel 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 30

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    People call me baby killer

    and murderer. They have the nerve to say "you should have kept your legs closed" but they know nothing about what happened to me. I was raped at age 14. I didn't "spread my legs" I had my virginity forcefully taken from me and I became pregnant. I was unable to get plan b. At 14...
    Thatonegirl53 Thatonegirl53 18-21, F 10 Responses Sep 30

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    Since my abortion, I've learned

    so much. Having an abortion has changed me. It changed my beliefs. It changed my life. I have found the positive in my experience. And I am stronger because of it. Looking back on it, I know that I made the right decision. There's no question. I am at peace. And I have no...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 24

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    Does It Ever Get Any Easier?

    I am 21 about to turn 22, a single mother going through a divorce that struggles everyday to provide for my daughter who will be four soon.it was two weeks before my 21st birthday and i knew something wasnt right i found out i was six weeks pregnant by a guy whom i had only been...
    mbhmommy92909 mbhmommy92909 22-25, F 63 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    And now there are complications.

    No matter what I am about to share here, I still don't regret my decision. It would have had to happen anyway. I ended up in the ER a few days ago after the bleeding started again and wouldn't stop. At first I thought it was my period, but the smell was awful, the cramps weren...
    thecellardoor thecellardoor 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 16

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    I did in April 2014, too young,

    I have so many issues with my self that I needed to face before I can bring something so innocent into my world. I've never spoke about it I don't know how to deal with it, I go through all the what ifs and buts. After I did it I found out my step sister was pregnant. We...
    co0816 co0816 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have never had an abortion

    but I would like to say one thing.... You are all so strong and wonderful. Some of these stories have made my heart ache. I am happy you are making the choices you believe are right for you and letting nothing stand in your way. As for those who come here to harass these...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    Being A Mother And Having An Abortion

    When I was pregnant with my daughter, it was the happiest day of my life. But at the same time, I was so scared. My daughter's father abused me the entire pregnancy. I didn't know that he was still married. I got pregnant 6 months after knowing the father. I thought that God was...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    Me And You.

    We should be together right now. Forget everything else. It's not important. You should still be content and curled in my belly. Perhaps even smiling in your slumber. I'd be smiling too, And you'd sense that somehow. You deserve to be alive. My decision was hasty and made...
    Me5678 Me5678 18-21, F 11 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    Spontaneous Abortions - Am I A "mommy Killer"?

    I have had three spontaneous abortions; or that is what my obstetrician called them.  Most people refer to them simply as miscarriages.  According to the "I hate abortion" group; this makes me a "Mommy Killer". I had my first in 1997, then...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 97 Responses Oct 19, 2009

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    I had an abortion 6 years ago.

    I am happy to say that I have closed the door on this experience. I believe I stated that in my last story. So you're probably wondering why am I still here? It's simply because I want to continue to help others. I want women to find peace as I have and to know there is healing...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    The Right Choice

    This is my story, its alittle long but this was the most difficult decision of my life!  I struggled with the decision to abort or not abort for 5 weeks and although I miss my baby dearly, I know I made the right decision for the situation I'm in.  I hope that this...
    haladj327 haladj327 26-30, F 58 Responses Dec 12, 2006

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    For anybody who is thinking about

    or had an abortion, this is somewhat of an update of what I posted in one of my stories. Be sure that you do your own research. Do not get on any pro life websites because you will get false information. Many pro life websites are made to scare women. Even talking to a pro...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    I've been dealing with depression

    for 5 years now. Last year I got pregnant. I've always dreamed and wanted to be a mother, but I knew that it wasn't the right moment. I've not finished my studies yet, I live with my parents, my bf lives abroad and we were together for only 6 months at the time. And I was and...
    borb0leta borb0leta 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    What Would I Tell Someone Who Is Considering Abortion?

    What would I tell someone who is considering abortion? Well I would tell them the truth. The only person that can tell you what it is like to have an abortion, is from a woman who actually had the procedure done herself. If you hear from judgmental prolife people, you will get...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    What It's Like To Have An Abortion - My Story.

    I used to be on the fence of abortion but leaned more towards pro-life. I'd visited tons of pro-life sites where I read horror stories of abortions gone wrong, read about the pain, read about the cold nurses, and the doctors who couldn't take it. I saw the pictures of partial...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets 22-25, F 23 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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