I Had An Affair With a Married Man

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    He was really hot!actually dint knw he was

    married until later.met him when I went on a vacation.we stayed in de same hotel and then kept on having eye contacts,running into each other in de lift,restaurant,beach and we got talking,he visited me in my room and also did to him.after our conversation we had a friendly hug...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2015

    It's been awhile since I have written anything.

    I needed to write today. so here it is..... Been seeing a married man for about 9 years now. He tells me he is leaving his wife as he is not happy. He and I have never discussed our feelings about each other. I would be a total liar if I did not think that just maybe he...
    adrian24jg adrian24jg
    46-50, F
    Dec 18, 2015

    When I look back I slowly see how

    so obsessed I was with toxic man. A womanizer narcissistic man who loved himself more than he loved anyone else. I fed your ego constantly and that's what kept you coming back. 7 years Mike...7 years you took advantage of my love for you.
    Linley242 Linley242
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jul 23, 2015
    latrocks latrocks
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Oct 13, 2015

    It's been a confusing affair.

    On and off for 2 years now. He's so vocal about his love for his wife who has been residing abroad and has not been home for the last five years. He's charming and makes me laugh. It was a good friendship that turned into an affair. I'm separated. He's not. He's just...
    anobatalaga anobatalaga
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 30, 2015

    This time 6 months ago,

    I would never have believed i would be in this situation. I know what I've done is wrong, I am ashamed but I really need to put my story across. Situation me, single mum, 4 year old girl, been single for many years, (don't mind it that way) homeowner, very difficult and...
    latrocks latrocks
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2015

    I am here because I have no one to talk to,

    no one to share this sheer frustration and feelings I am going through. Please do not judge. I am a married. I live overseas, and I am away from my family. I have no friends where I live and all I do is work. It all started out about 5 years ago when I met an amazing person I...
    YorkshireLass43 YorkshireLass43
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 22, 2015

    Ok I just need some advice

    or insight on my situation. If I went into detail about my married man it would take days. Basically last year we had a fling for about 4 months. He bought a Harley and then went distance for about 6-8 weeks then slowly came back around finding excuses to text and call me. I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    Well, at the time, I wasn't married.

    In fact, I was single & I didn't know he had a wife until she texted me. He spent weeks calling and texting me, saying he would leave her if I agreed to be with him. But nobody has time to entertain that. 😑
    Jaycee04 Jaycee04
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    I was out of town for work in Arizona

    and my company put me in a motel. I had just gotten back to the hotel and phoned my wife to tell her about my day and see how her day went as well. We finally hung up as it was getting late and I decided to head to the lobby bar for a few drinks. It was pretty empty in the motel...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 26, 2013

    He was my everything,

    my perfect connection, he said the same about me, and yet now he is able to put me on limited contact and I feel lost and alone and confused. How can people say something but do another? How is it so easy for someone to go from obsessed to silence?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2014

    I don't love you I'm just passing the time.

    You could love me if I knew how to lie. But who could love me, I am out of my mind. Throwing a line out to sea, to see if I can catch a dream.
    Pk3456 Pk3456
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 18, 2015

    i was forced to have an affair

    as i lost my virginity to a married man. he had filmed the act while raping me and blackmailed me to sleep with him for four years. i had my first baby with him too. then he destroyed the video and set me free. his fantasy was to make a woman pregnant by rape ...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Oct 4, 2015

    If you all could read my last experience

    and help me out I will in return help you out as well.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 7, 2015

    This selfish act has ruined my reputation,

    mentality, eating habits, spiked up my anxiety, turned many people in my town away from me. Exposure is karma. You think you're in love. This isn't the case. Stay away. I urge women to not have affairs with married men. Please. Even if your emotions are taking over, especially...
    LDR8 LDR8
    26-30, F
    Oct 6, 2014
    moodynpretty moodynpretty
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jan 30

    Bad Babysitter

    I had an ongoing affair with an older married man. I was babysitting for this couple for a couple of years and he was always so nice to me. He would give me rides home and we would talk about everything. It was so nice having someone that was interested in me and he was really...
    VickyBu VickyBu
    18-21, F
    16 Responses Aug 9, 2012

    I started waitressing last year The owner of

    the restaurant hired me and always seemed like a good guy One night after I had worked there about a month he game in with bloodshot eyes. Looked like he had been crying. I was curious so I went to his office. I was surprised he let me in I asked him what was wrong and he told...
    NatalieGirlF NatalieGirlF
    18-21, F
    12 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    We worked together for years.

    Both of our marriages were struggling and we were both vulnerable. We made poor choices that lead to us falling in Love and inevitably hurting innocent people. Our spouses found out, my marriage ended and he is working on his. He has four children and they deserve a happy home...
    Havana80 Havana80
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 25, 2015

    yes, I did that...ended kinda bad.

    one tell I will tell you all about it, when i have the energy. but, for now.... just know that i been down that road if you wanna talk.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 9, 2015

    I'm trying to end it.

    I just can't. He's just the best I think its because it kinda turns me on us sneeking around. But I kno its wrong. I need to settle down and get a man myself and I want to be faithful. Its just he's so tempting and hot. He told me we could still mess around and I cn get married...
    laverso laverso
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

    I was younger, not yet engaged.

    I don't condone it, but I don't regret it either.
    Dominatrixwife Dominatrixwife
    18-21, F
    Oct 4, 2014

    Hello to my dear friends.

    It's been awhile since I have posted and I just can't wait to tell you how happy I am now. I am over all the hurt from my past experience and have taken it in as a lesson learned. To all you people who are having affairs with a married man/woman, please be very careful with the...
    Linley242 Linley242
    51-55, F
    1 Response Apr 19

    My best friend and I went to Cuba

    for Christmas vacation. She had just completed her divorce and I was recently separated from my husband. My divorce will be final in the next few weeks. We wanted to meet men and we sure did! She did not sleep in our room more than two of our seven nights there. I thought I...
    CafeAuLeah CafeAuLeah
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Apr 11, 2015

    Yes, I did. In 2008,

    I met my now husband at a holiday party his wife at the time was throwing. She had hired me to photograph the party. I immediately felt an attraction to him. Weeks went by and I couldn't get him out of my head. When he arrived to pick up the prints from the party, he offered to...
    FreyaQ FreyaQ
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

    Im terrified, embarrassed

    and I'm afraid addicted. I don't know what do do. I am married, a professional, well educated, church going, mother of young children and have been having an affair with a married man for 2 years now. He too has young children. We live hours apart but meet halfway every 2 weeks...
    Lostandscared3 Lostandscared3
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jun 13, 2015

    Yes its not something im fond of

    but yes I had affair with married man
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 5, 2015

    I had an affair with a married man.

    It was the best sx I have ever had.. I'm happily married juts lacking the passion and frequency I desire. My Lover just broke up with me a few weeks back because someone from his past came back into his life and he claims to have feelings for her.. He just emailed me asking me...
    java0050 java0050
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    Why do married men cheat

    and then suddenly feel guilty about it but still want to be friends. Also its okay if I initiate kisses or touching but he doesn't want to start anything
    Sabr3na Sabr3na
    36-40, F
    5 Responses May 4, 2015

    We met on EP actually.

    His name was Jason. We talked all the time about anything and everything, being intimate over the phone quite a bit. I thought I was in love. I thought he felt the same. We had made plans to meet in person. He told me he didn't if it didn't go anywhere, that he just wanted to...
    BeautifulxDelusions BeautifulxDelusions
    18-21, F
    5 Responses May 6, 2015

    I'm actually had more then one affair with a

    married man. The first was when I was a teenager, I had a relationship with a guy I babysat for. His wife was friends with my mom, and it went on for a few years. The most recent affair that I've had, was with my boss. The sneaking around, secrets, and risk of getting caught...
    karebear92 karebear92
    22-25, F
    8 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    I have read alot of stories about people

    and their affairs since joining EP. They ruin people, lives and hurt feelings, most of the time beyond repair. Those that think their affair is "different" because of this or that, well it's not. It's still an affair.. It is not worth it!! I will regret my actions for a long...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 18

    Like many here I too had an affair with a

    married man... He was my boss and he was gorgeous. I had just gotten out of a terrible relationship and a close friend of mine had committed suicide so I was shaken to the core emotionally. However being with my mm made me feel happy. He was genuinely kind to me and we shared...
    0Mischa0 0Mischa0
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2015

    when he contacts you

    after many months to tell you he left his wife for another woman...that is not you...it is a bit crushing. He continued to contact me and I let loose on him...he acted shocked when I told him I loved him and would have run to him if he said the word..now he is trying to be the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    Does anyone have any info

    or been through alcoholism with anyone? I just have a few questions.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 9, 2015

    he haunts me in my dreams at night,

    even once you have let go, you really haven't, cause he revisits me in my dreams at night
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2015

    I had an affair. It's been over a year.

    I don't think of him every minute anymore. He's still very much in my life. We were friends for many years before it grew. We did and do love each other. We both decided, we can't be together. We were very respectful of each other. Nobody got hurt, except ourselves. We REALLY...
    lilsecret1 lilsecret1
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 26, 2015

    I worked at a VBS camp two years ago during the

    summer. It was held during the night and I worked where I helped teach kids how to cook. I was the leader and I worked with a man, let's call him Bryan, who was about 29 at the time. I was 15. (A very mature 15 year old, I must add) We instantly connected. And we were very close...
    Southernpanda Southernpanda
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 14, 2014

    I had an affair with a married guy 20+ years

    older than myself... he used to pick me up at my parents house at night
    luc1ll3 luc1ll3
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 18

    yeah and during the time of our affair he

    committed suicide. I didn't know or find out until I tried to message him one day, and got a message back from his wife saying that he had died by suicide....and then she proceeded to tell me that she believed that he did so due in part to our "non platonic relationship" that...
    BlueroseCyn BlueroseCyn
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Dec 19, 2015

    A Very Drunken Mistake

    I know some people who work in a pub near where I live so I went to see them and have a few drinks. About halfway through the evening a guy came in. Quite tall with light brown hair and mid twenties. He sat down beside me and we immediately started taking. He bought me some...
    uniqueness101 uniqueness101
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 3, 2013

    Affair

    I was engaged to be married. My fiancee and I broke up. We got back together but he failed to inform me that while we were apart he got someone pregnant and married her. One day he called from his home phone instead of his cell and didn't block the number and it was from her...
    devon devon
    36-40
    3 Responses Oct 27, 2008

    I had an affair with a married man

    that last for two months. I thought they were already separated but realize they haven't but the marriage is on the rock. His wife was a casino gambler and they lost their properties because of her. His love and respect for her were gone. My hubby contacted my lover's wife and...
    sunrio sunrio
    36-40
    Oct 22, 2014

    I was so naive. I am

    so completely mad at myself. He told me he was going through a divorce and we started seeing each other. I fell head over heels in love with this man. Come to find out he wasn't going through a divorce. He simply wasn't happy. I was a side piece. My heart hurts everyday and it...
    ofallthings23 ofallthings23
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2015

    I'm married and having an affair with a married

    man.im in a great relationship with both men.
    k3rrr1 k3rrr1
    31-35, F
    Jul 15, 2015

    Ok I guess I'm deleting my account.

    It seems no one wants to help here so I guess I'll go elsewhere.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 8, 2015

    Yes, I had an affair with married man.

    I was married at the time too. My marriage was already crumbling but his is still going strong and I couldn't be any happier for him. I can only speak for myself of course, but the affair was never about love or wanting a leave our spouse for each other. We went into the...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Mar 20, 2014

    A year ago, I had an affair with a unhappily

    married man who I met from work. He was nice, good looking, and charming. I was going through a rough time with my boyfriend who moved away and wasn't communicating much to me. Also, I was struggling with a past trauma as well. Anyway, I contacted the mm b/c I knew he was into...
    Blueoasis24 Blueoasis24
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 10, 2015

    This is to all the women having affairs with

    married men right now. I want to share my story of my experience with having a relationship with a married man, in hopes that you reconsider continuing the affair. I had a 7 year relationship with a married man, I wouldn't call it an affair because he wasn't in love with me and...
    Linley242 Linley242
    51-55, F
    8 Responses Oct 5, 2014

    i used to be an escort.

    i met alot of men but one in particular that pursued me like crazy. he wanted me to stop escorting nd he would take care of me. we dated for 3 years. in that 3 years was alot of lies nd cheeting. i found out he had a wife nd 4 children that he went home to every night. his wife...
    laurieBoo laurieBoo
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015
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