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I Had An Affair

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 17 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I am friends with my MM (for now

    and I hope it never changes). I want it to last this time. I reconnected with him mid June. I missed our friendship. I was not ready to be friends again, but I am working on it. I am working on accepting his marital life. I am working on being neutral. I am trying to...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    Over the weekend I had an affair with a married

    man. I'm 27 and he's 44. I met him over a year ago as a graduate student and then I began volunteering for his organization. I always found him attractive and thought that he might think the same about me based on subtle behavior and things he's said, and I got confirmation the...
    olivehadley olivehadley 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 19 Responses Jan 23

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I haven't been on here

    for a while, but I had a great need to write this, just to get if off my chest (yes I know, I am such a girl LOL). • I want someone I can text goodnight, last thing I do before I go to sleep. • I want someone I can message first thing in the morning and wish them an awesome...
    jrod1 jrod1 41-45, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    So I befriended him on Facebook - big mistake.

    I stalk his page relentlessly - who am I? I google his articles. I message him during business hours because I know- hope - we won't get caught. We speak on the phone - he gives me career advice. I respect him professionally but it's just an excuse to talk to him. He said...
    Lanasawmysoul Lanasawmysoul 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    after I hooked up with my side guy,

    I got a lot of advice about not getting attached. alright, so after another month of seeing him, I'm still keeping that advice in mind. he's not available very often as we both work with our spouses and live a distance apart. so I got it in my head that maybe I should look for...
    redpelican7 redpelican7 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chavacc11 chavacc11 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 14 Responses May 6

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    http://www.elephantjournal.

    com/2013/12/what-having-an-affair-taught-me-cami-krueger/ Elephant Journal is one of my favorite sites to read some very uplifting and insightful articles.
    AnnUrban AnnUrban 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    Day 24 over not a peep from him.

    This is the longest he ever stayed NC. I think I'm finally free !!!!!
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    So, I've been talking to ex AP

    for about a week now. He's doing better. Not the best, but better. I'm relieved about that. I'm feeling less guilty about breaking NC. I know I'm going to have to start it again sometime, but now, we're talking, we've talked and that's that. I'll start over at day one when I...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Please do not think that I'm judging anyone.

    But please put your relationship with Christ before a pastor. He promised every believe the gift of God Holy Spirit. He will guild you in the way of Christ. Love him enough r to give him each issues you have. And watch God work it out
    Inlovewithchrist Inlovewithchrist 51-55, F 11 Responses Jul 21

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 46-50, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Ok... So finally after 2 months of not seeing

    him we may finally see each other this weekend. But I am not gonna hope or hold my breath. I need to find a guy in between or just dump his *** . Tired of not seeing him.... Tired of everything... Just tired!!!!
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    Been about a month or

    so of no contact. I am glad. But he's haunting my dreams!! I keep having dreams that he's texting me. This is a very recent development and I'm not even thinking about him when I go to bed. I hardly think of him at all anymore. Ugh I just want it to go away!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    So, I finally texted my ex AP back

    and forth for 3 hours on July 20th, after not speaking since July 10th. I thought that everything was good again. Even the last thing he said to me was for me to email him. So on July 21st, I tried to contact him in several different ways, and he completely ignored me all day. I...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 13

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    I am so messed up again.

    Ugh. I moved on and was over my affair. He was someone in my life regularly. I'm friends with his wife. He was best friends with my husband. My now ex husband. I'm still good friends w my ex and his wife. We weren't caught. We are still intertwined in eAch others lives thru...
    lilsecret1 lilsecret1 41-45, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    today I'm trying to focus on

    who I was before I let my entire existence get swept into " the land of Bill and Kate" in going to yoga class and..last night I dreamed I was running.. I used to run everyday.. I'm revisiting park and amping up to coheed and Cambria.. really angry venting music...god knows I'm...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 6 Responses a week ago

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    After two years of random calls

    and texts from xmm, we finally met. It was friendly and sweet and had a touch of the surreal to it. I wasn't meeting him to rekindle anything, nor was he. I'm certainly not interested in anything like that after all I've been through to recover my own sanity and peace...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 28

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    I'm glad it's been over

    for the last couple of months. I just found out that hubby may have cancer. They found some suspicious spots on a scan. He's going for more testing. I'm in limbo right now. No clear answers. I'm scared and sad. I don't want to lose him. We have young kids too. I can't sleep well...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    gratefully I'm still NC with my mm.

    ..still miss him..still think of him everyday but seriously reading the angst from my fellow suffers...why couldn't we see where we were headed.. loneliness is such a opportunistic beast....allowing us to enter into a lair where our very souls are peeled away from our skin... I'm...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It's been a while since I've seen

    or spoken to him. 7 months... I've been quite busy... Trying all sorts of things to find that "feeling" the connection we had. I've tried swinging... I had some fun with it for about 3 months...But I never got that feeling I had with my MM. I've tried finding a new MM...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I recently discovered a major lie

    that my ex AP had been hiding from me. I am SO done with him. This is exactly what I needed to kick start my moving on process. My last message to him today is: "You are a liar and I hate you. Stay the **** out of my life Jason. I am so done with you." So I found out that he...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 16 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 37 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    This must explain why women can't understand

    that affairs have nothing to do with either the wife or the other woman. Men are by nature compartmentalized creatures. Figuratively speaking, you view your work, your family, your hobbies, and your recreation as separate boxes. You eat breakfast in one box. You have...
    UrMickey UrMickey 51-55, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Just one more time For the sake of sanity Tell

    me why Explain the gravity That drove you to this That brought you to this place That pushed you down Into the soil's embrace Give me the chance I was denied To sit and talk with you For one last time Did I disappoint you? Did I let you down? Did I stand on the shore And watch...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F a week ago

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    We had an emotional thing It's over I'm gonna

    be away for 3 weeks from today he did everything to avoid walking out of work with me today he always try's to walk to with me ..I feel hurt 3 weeks away no contact at all I guess it's for the best I thought he would have said good bye tho
    lostmyselfgirl lostmyselfgirl 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 1 Response a week ago

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 40 Responses Feb 10

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    LongLiveRockAndRoll LongLiveRockAndRoll 26-30, M 29 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    The last time I posted here I was talking about

    how things were completely over with my AP. The last time we saw each other was in march 2014. I was feeling down one day in May- and I emailed him. I apologized and told him how I missed him. I received a vacation reply email and was actually disappointed that I couldn't...
    tangerinedreams23 tangerinedreams23 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 22 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    He's a drunk. He woke up at 8pm thinking it

    was morning. He showered and got dressed for work. I watched the entire freak show.. So sad. I need to get out of this marriage. It's toxic. He's crazy one minute then loving the next. It's insane. Having the affair was an escape... I'm a coward. I took the...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 36 Responses Jun 4

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