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I Had An Affair

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bettycc11 bettycc11 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Well the sun is shining down,

    flooding my head with memories of last summer with my ex ap. Geee this is tough :( I have done well with NC and God knows it's been very hard to maintain.
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Well I heard from him again

    as I expected. But it's been a few days now and it's been quiet. Normally I would be bothered by this but not now. It's been kind of nice. I think I am starting to realize that I was simply using him to try to resolve old issues from my past that really can't be resolved through...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    dalidacc11 dalidacc11 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    We have done no contact

    before a couple of times, and since I'm the married one, I know that I have to respect that and I never contact him. Every time, he eventually contacts me. Today feels final. I begged him, that if we did this, to please please not contact me because it's too hard for me to...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    So applicable!!! I had to post this to this

    group because I think it's an inspiration for us all!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 25 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Ugh! I'm so mad again!

    My ex ap never ceases to **** me off. So today he accuses me of 'using men' and that I never truly loved him because I didn't leave my husband for him. WOW! It really offends me because I have just spent the past 2 years of my life thinking of my ex ap every day, and have really...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I was doing fine. He left last June

    and got back this month. Yes, I thought of him when he was gone. Yes, I blew things up in my mind to be more than they were, but I kept it as a personal fantasy. But then out of the blue he's back and I'm newly separated from my husband and other crazy things going on in my life...
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Oh I started my period!

    That would explain a lot! Never fails. Everything I have said in the last 7 days doesn't count
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Well today I have lots of mixed feelings going

    on, but I've had this song playing on in my head so thought I'd share. http://youtu.be/ZM3w7Clgm98
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    The beginning of the real end was almost 6

    months ago. Its been rocky at best. He avoids me because he is afraid of his gf, who is so insecure and jealous of me.My greatest fear has happened. He admitted today that for now he has to eliminate me from his life in order to regain the trust of his gf. I feel awful . I am...
    nitrolove nitrolove 46-50, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    And I am happy to be free from the lies.

    I realize during my healing, that he was molding me into the woman he alleged his wife was not. Nagging, demanding, low sex or none at all, never there to listen to him or understand him. Not loving him or appreciating him for the man he was. We would talk or text all day, until...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    https://youtu.be/dsP03cjT2SI How I am feeling.

    ....... I really should be laughing. Ha!
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Remember that hill I started to climb the day

    ex ap said 'I think I'm done. I'm done..You have caused to much drama with my ex. I told you if you did it again I would be done' Well good thing is I am over the half way mark. I was thinking of drawing a sketch of all the things I have learned On The way up this hill. Time...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 39 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 10 Responses Apr 1

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    My marriage was dead I met a man

    who was also in a dead marriage. We connected on a deeper level. For us it wasn't all about the physical meetings. It was different. It was much more emotional. I will never be able to put into words how he changed my life. I was dead inside when I met this man. He brought me...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    "Two roads diverged in a wood,

    and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference." Did some snooping on social media. He works in a large company, and his colleagues have uploaded their sports and company event photos with public settings. (I saw a picture of his family...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    Why do I feel so weak?

    It's like I want to reach out and have conversations with him like we had in the past. Silly things like how crazy it's snowing on April 23rd in my hometown. My heart aches today. I hate it !!!!!!!! I want to stop thinking about him. I was doing so well. I'm crumbling...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Had.....keyword. I am gonna stick to NC this

    time. Nobody is worth this much pain. To all you out there feeling hopeless, we need up stand up for ourselves. We can do this!! To Timetochange2, you are my rock!! Thank you!! We will do this and when we are healed, we will celebrate!! ❤️❤️❤️
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    Sitting here thinking things through (I try not

    to) when it came to my thoughts about the affair we had. My husband found out and told his wife this busting out affair into the open, but since his wife found out she has never came to me, no txt no calls email or social media, we only live 10miles apart from eachother. It just...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 42 Responses Feb 10

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    Let the " hovering " begin.

    exAP tried getting through with an email. Said " hi" and that was it. Lol wow. The self help books I have read really helped me ! I knew he'd try to wiggle on my life again. Trying to suck the life out of me. Nope. Not gonna happen. Save the bullshit. I'm free...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    So his wife taken him back,

    we are not in contact any more, he took himself of Facebook etc and hasn't spoken through email calls or txt in weeks now. I'm getting stronger again after this affair broke me, my question is though and it often runs through my head is, when they go back to wifey do they miss...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    For anyone ending their affair

    and feeling like you've got no distance left to run... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uyRj9iwFYCE It's over You don't need to tell me I hope you're with someone who makes you feel safe when your sleeping tonight I won't kill myself, trying to stay in your life I got no...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 12 hrs ago

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    Been thinking about my ex ap lots lately

    even though I try hard not to, little thing happen in my every day life that stop me in my tracks, smells,songs,sayings,quotes etc and boom there he is in my head again! Anyway I was reading back on some of my post on here and wow that has helped me a lot, I seem to forget the...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 4 hrs ago

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    Someone on this forum told me to **** off

    because I said she pushed him away. What's the purpose of "no contact" then. You don't do "no contact" as reversed psychology???? The point is to move on because you know 1. It's not right, / 2. You are you're hurting most of the time (for what ever reason So you do "no...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 184 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 21 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    These men we chose play games with us.

    They have zero regard for how we feel. Ignorant and self centered they are! Why do we keep going back for more? Like it's going change! It never will. Life will go on with or without them. That's a fact. God how I wish o had never met mine!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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