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I Had An Affair

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 182 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Having an affair is fun,

    exciting and a rush like no other but holidays can be dark and lonely when you miss that person:(
    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M 6 Responses May 25

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 16 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    No need for me to stay,

    the last thing left I just threw it away. I put my faith in god and my trust in you. Now there's nothing more ****** up I could do. Wish there was something real, wish there was something true, Wish there was something real in this world full of you.
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F May 26

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 20 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    elincc11 elincc11 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 41 Responses Feb 10

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    I have been married for 7 years to the woman

    who I cheated on my first wife with. I am looking for people who are in or have had similar relationships to me who might want to share their experiences...
    IINick77II IINick77II 36-40, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm tired of the never-ending housework.

    I'm tired of all of the obligations of life. I'm tired of always wanting something that I can't have. I'm so bored of the mundane lifestyle that I am living. I wish that I could feel free. I wish that I didn't feel so trapped. I had sex with my ex AP not too long ago, and now...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 5 Responses May 26

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    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M May 25

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    I think kissing is so important!

    ! I love it when lady is a good kisser.
    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M 1 Response May 25

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    Question: Have any of you

    or your AP's ever showed each other pics of your children and spouses ? Mine has showed me pics of his wife and his children . I did too in return. I then made a comment asking if she was the kids grandmother and about how his wife looked like she was 60+ when she's actually 44...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 9 Responses May 25

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    I am a married woman with young children

    who recently ended a long term affair with a single man. The story can be written into a novel. I just want to connect and relate with other women in similar situations. It's therapy for me.
    DannysSong DannysSong 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    I feel that it much more important spending

    time learning how your lovers body works and gets turned on than knowing how your car works.
    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M 1 Response May 25

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 29 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Ccutler Ccutler 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am looking for women in their 30s

    that is local in the DC metro area that may be open to meeting up that have ended their affairs and are trying to heal and rebuild their lives. Please message me if you are open to this. Thank you. :)
    tulips1122 tulips1122 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Wanna know what I really hate the most ?

    Is when u have a good night texting back n forth, then the next day a good morning text, then nothing the rest of the damn day or night! Tired of thinking well maybe he was doing this or that. Or maybe he was busy, or....maybe he wants to text me back , but can't cause of wife...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 18 Responses May 25

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    after how many months,

    i snoop the fb profile of mm today and i was astonished to see that i am no longer affected. he looks happy with friends. i have finally gotten over him. i love my husband so much.
    chantal0218 chantal0218 31-35, F May 25

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    My Ex AP contacted me

    after only 3 wks NC and I folded like a deck of cards......but it was good to know that he was feeling the same and didnt want to end it. It was so nice to talk to him again. ....not sure how this story is going to end yet
    katness99 katness99 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 1

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    Hey God, There's nothing left

    for me to hide. I lost my ignorance, security, and pride. I'm all alone in a world you must despise. Hey God, I believed your promises, your promises and lies. Terrible lie Terrible lie Terrible lie Terrible lie You made me throw it all away. My morals left to decay. How many...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses May 26

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    And he still continues to leave me voicemails

    on my office phone. I delete without hearing them of course. But I find this so crazy. He has a new girl at work. Why keep messing with me !? I know why, I always took him back. Not this time. Go **** your self mother ******. Ahhhhhh that felt good.
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Here's some advice: don't have sex with your ex

    affair partner. I started seeing mine again the past few months and we broke up again. To make a long story short, some hurtful things were said to each other, and now we aren't even on speaking terms. I wish that I didn't get involved with him again. I feel like I set myself...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 2 Responses May 25

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    What hurts is I didn't

    even get a Valentine's Day card this year when we were still " together". He bought his new woman an hour massage. I just can't get over how fast he moves on to the next girl. He burned me so many times. I hate him.
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Because I can't talk to anyone about this.

    ... I had a weird flirtation with a co-worker for over a year, only glances, never actually physically met (weird work situation). Last March when his wife was out of the country he started up an email conversation and asked me to meet for lunch. I denied. We kept emailing tho...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 24 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    I was in so much pain

    after my affair. As I look back I can finally see why I put her above everyone else. It's because what we had was not real. I justified that I was in love with her and that she was perfect to make me feel better about what I was doing. For the most part my relationship with my...
    Notsosimpletoday Notsosimpletoday 31-35, M a week ago

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Smashed up my sanity,

    Smashed up my integrity, Smashed up what I believed in, Smashed up what's left of me, Smashed up my everything, Smashed up all that was true, Gonna smash myself to pieces. I don't know what else to do.
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 2 Responses May 26

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