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I Had An Affair

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 24 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    you know I just woke up missing Bill.

    . then instead of glamorizing him..I started remembering all the times he didn't show up..or jumped out of my bed to scurry to Walmart because caught called and wanted something... I have to believe there are available men that are good lovers..how in the hell did we as lonely...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    In a dilemma... Too email

    or not to email him how I feel or wait it out ....
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well.. I flat out asked him

    why he stopped texting me at night and for him to be honest with me. He said reason why is because he has been getting home late and by the time he does few things around house , eats, spends time with his kids, goes into to the other bedroom (him and his wife no longer share...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    This is for all of the recent posts of having

    gone NC. Applause to us that have chosen to end, where the affair became toxic and the joys of being on the journey were gone. NC is hard. Each day gets easier...some days you take a step back but keep moving forward. I am almost one year out of a 3.5 year affair that really...
    pencruz pencruz 51-55, F 10 Responses Jun 19

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    I had sex with a man that's not my husband

    tonight. that's a first for me. I should be feeling guilty right now, but a little happiness goes a long way. I'm not going to leave my husband and he's not going to leave his wife, we just wanted the physical attention.
    redpelican7 redpelican7 31-35, F 18 Responses 5 days ago

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    Just ended my affair

    and I'm sad. She was careless with her phone and her husband found out, she spilled everything. Mixed feelings. A bit relieved but also sad, I loved her. The sex...ha...no one complains that affair sex is worse than married sex. My wife doesn't know.
    joestu84 joestu84 41-45, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Happy Father's Day to you.

    You love your son. He means more to you in the world than anything else. Your face lights up when you receive his call or talk about him. I feel like such a horrible person, trying to steal time from a little boy. I have never ask you to leave..because... It's not right. I...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 21

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    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 16 Responses May 6

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    So we are making plans

    for Saturday night. Not holding my breath, not hoping, not counting on it. I don't want to set myself up for disappointment . If it goes through, I'll be happy .
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 1 Response a week ago

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    i tied up my lover. she enjoys that.

    i know how to play her. that is what she misses with her boyfriend
    rbrtoo rbrtoo 41-45 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My ap has flaked on our upcoming night together

    for the first time in a year. He has apologized but hasn't even attempted to try and make plans to make up for it. This isn't like him and it has me Feely sh***y. :'( I know we have things that come up and have to kind of be flexible but it's hard to feel the very thing that...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 6 Responses Jun 19

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    How amazing it begins to feel

    when I can finally realize that I'm ok without him. I no longer obsess over hearing from him. I no longer have that urge to see him again. He claims he's just busy but at this point I really don't care like I did before. I was way too invested in something that I knew deep down...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 40 Responses Feb 10

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    It was an okay day, I saw my ex at work,

    we took a break together and i was pretty up beat, i am trying so hard to put on a straight face, i didn't get sad today. I have to believe that i can overcome anything, i will get over him. Closure helps and acceptance that it's over and it's for the best.
    Ccutler Ccutler 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 15 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 29 Responses Feb 23

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    Today, almost one year later,

    I had a flashback memory of my ap. And it hit me like a ton of bricks. It was not a tender sweet memory of us together. It was a memory of a time when he sensed my frustration in wanting more and me distancing myself from him. A memory of how he made me believe we would maybe...
    pencruz pencruz 51-55, F 7 Responses Jun 21

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    It was a year ago today

    that you found out. I will remember that day forever, you were so mad, I have never seen you that mad. I still could see the love for me behind those sad eyes when you told me to leave. That was the hardest thing you have ever had to do. You told everybody we knew. The anxiety...
    DannysSong DannysSong 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Still woke up thinking of the MM.

    Even though it was Me who ended it , it still hurts just as bad. I'll always have doubts in my heart of why he did things the way he did.
    latinafairy latinafairy 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    well it's the day after,

    I was wondering if the new guy would still be interested in continuing wherever it is we have or if it was a one time thing. he's not gone outside of his marriage before either. we messaged like usual today, just light conversation with flirtation. nice to see it didn't change
    redpelican7 redpelican7 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    I hate him! I hate what I allowed him to do to

    me!! I hate that I was so stupid for so long. I hate that I can't tell him so!! I ended it already. I refuse to contact him. It will only boost his ego more that I am so angry and upset with him. It's not worth it plus I don't want to risk him wanting to have me back!! I hope he...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 37 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    What do you do when you don't know what you

    want? Stay in the secret relationship but my mind can't see us not together even if I think or say it. I don't know what I want anymore but being cold to him just breaks my heart but I seriously can't help it I'm just irritated with everything
    sunshineab sunshineab 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 21

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    Does anyone has good resources

    for forgiveness? I am having a hard time forgiving....
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 43 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 16 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    Im feeling annoyed, upset,

    offended, resentful, disappointed, discouraged, powerless, doubtful, uncertain, perplexed, hesitant, unbelieving, sceptical, unsure, uneasy, empty, pathetic, tragic, reserved, weary, cold, tormented, anger, rejected...........all of these unpleasant feelings i still have some...
    katness99 katness99 36-40, F 12 Responses Jun 22

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    I'm new here but thought I would post.

    My H is an over the road trucker and is only home a few nights every month. I've been seeing a single guy that lives down the street from me for the past year and although we are not in love, it's a wonderful physical relationship.
    TruckersWife1984 TruckersWife1984 31-35, F 10 Responses Jun 21

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Those of you who had an affair

    and experienced a D-day with your spouse... what does it feel like? I'm curious.... sorry if the question sounded weird. I just want to be more prepared if my affair came to light. (unlikely since it is over but I'll never know for sure that it won't happen)
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have a other rant that I need to get off my

    chest: Haven't seen each other in 3 weeks. Then wife looking at phone bill. Asked him questions about so many texts. Then asks me to start using this app called whatsapp. Ever since using that stupid ******* app, things have changed . Hardly anymore late night texts . "Work...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I feel so helpless and there is nothing I can

    do about it. We are still together. It's just the changes I can't deal with. I've been on edge and I hate that feeling in my stomach everyday that something still isn't right even after all the reassurance . Haven't hardly slept for 2 days and crying my self to sleep. I...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I survived 9... everyday.

    .like clockwork he texted me..I ended it June 9th..coping.. confused.. ashamed.. sad..let down...but relieved that now I can get past this toxic pain...he told me he loved me and was more "real" with me than with any other person... I felt that way...never would I ever get...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    I don't know how much longer my heart can take .

    Tired of him telling me how he has to work over everyday because of the work load. Ok... I get that. Tired of him telling me how tired he is because of work. Ok.. I get that too. Tired of him not texting me at night before bed. Excuse: I'm sorry. I fell asleep. Been really...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 9 Responses Jun 23

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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