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I Had An Affair

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    Well. Actually. No I didn't.

    Would really like to, though. But not so easy as I am plug ugly :)
    englishchap englishchap 46-50, M 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I was married to a man

    for 20 years. We met when I was 16, got married when I was 22, and went on to have 3 kids. The only problem was he drank and over the years, his personality changed to the point of abuse. It was not physical abuse but verbal. He did things like swear at me, punch holes in the...
    leslie0718 leslie0718 41-45, F 12 Responses Feb 4

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    It was a huge mistake!

    I shouldn't have done it. I don't know why I did it. But honestly I kinda liked it....I'm a horrible person!
    Ravenheart1995 Ravenheart1995 18-21, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 207 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 26 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Thought about stuff I wrote yesterday

    and thank you friends who helped me out of a funk. NO I would never want to be his ex wife. She can have him all of him.. lying manipulative man that didn't care about his soon to be ex wife's feelings at all that he showed all his affection and time to his mistress. She can...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I miss my affair. I no longer miss HER because,

    for all her wonderful traits, she was still quite a narcissistic piece of work. Everything was about her, and I guess that my attention to her is what drew her to me. But I miss what she added to my life. She knew me better than I do. She understood me. And having her in my life...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Isn't it weird to think

    that in this crazy world we live in love can be a passing item. The ones we fall in love with does not guarantee a loving from them forever. Nobody won in my case. He is the hardest thing I have ever had to get over. And I think it's because the way it happened. It was like...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 17 Responses Jan 4

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 22 Responses Apr 10

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 10 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 86 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    I am finally seeing the fog lift.

    I am still consumed by thoughts of this, but life and me are slowly emerging. I have found this has taken my precious time away from MY life. Now it is time to refocus and yet I know my heart is having a hard time letting go. When do you, if ever, have a day go by without...
    pencruz pencruz 46-50, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Do you believe this??

    ?? If two past lovers can remain friends after the relationship they were never truly in love or they still are. Makes sense
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    A lot of times since my affair I don't want to

    be around anyone. I was very selective of my company to begin with. During the affair I only wanted to be around him but now no one . No one knows mentally what I have been through. People want to speak of irrelevant things, stupid things, superficial things about their...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    If you are still having an affair,

    stop. It's not worth it. I am now feeling like **** for hurting my family . Especially my kids. Somehow my family found out including my in laws . I have not said a word to anyone . So someone must have saw me out somewhere at the time. I am now under " watch". Trying to...
    js1276 js1276 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I took part in a affair with a guy

    who has made it clear that's All I am I have made the huge steps to move forward from this man and today I go into his place of work he makes himself very visible and needy for my attention what do you do ? I am over him plus the situation why is he trying to get my attention...
    teal10 teal10 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 46 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    It wasn't so much an affair

    as it was a ******* or 5. During one my husband walked up to the car and caught me. I thought I was in so much trouble. Within two days my husband was begging me to **** the other guy and let him watch.
    greenmountainmomma greenmountainmomma 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 30

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    I think if I was happy I wouldn't miss OM.

    It's been since March and I am still over here crying over the man. Why why why??! I can not forget him. He doesn't seem to miss me so why do I still think of him daily? I need a way to let go!! A 2 year affair of building and trusting and everything else a relationship has to...
    stonejumper stonejumper 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm waiting for a text,

    90% he will say he can't meet me tomorrow, 10 % he will say we can meet. I have never been so scared of my phone blinking. If only he knew 10% of my sorrow, my longing, my heartache. If only my phone breaks down now.
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Full of adrenaline right now!

    That overwhelming feeling, smiling far too much and tingling from actual adrenaline running throughout my body! Not from affair excitement-I don't understand that, it's not exiting because of that- I'm just excited to see the man that makes me feel alive!!
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 31 Responses Jun 18

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    1 month today since last email to MM,

    he still hasn't replied. I knew he wouldn't but the hope was still there, but that hope has diminished. He is still the first thing I think of when I wake up, the last I thing I think about when I go to sleep and he still enters my mind a hundred times a day. Don't know when...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 22

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    Saw them at the mall today.

    I had no jealousy what so ever. I'm actually a lot farther than I thought! I felt nothing for him or her. He had typical him behavior to her, walking ten feet in front of her. I don't think I realized I had already moved on. Namaste
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    stonejumper stonejumper 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    When your going throw getting caught cheating

    and all you can think about is the other person and how great he is then you need to leave your marraige because you don't have remorse for your cheating. If you where truly sorry the only thing you would be writing about on here is how much I screwed up my family. You would...
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I know some people need therapy

    for there cheating. But when your therapist tell you that cheating was a good thing in your marriage then you need to find a new therapist. Any body that premots lying is a bad therapist
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 5 hrs ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 66 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    I love him..... I wish I didn't,

    but I do truly love him..... What am I supposed to do with these emotions???!
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 9 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    He text me last night

    and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to lie in his arms like I used to. But I can't. I know it's not a good situation for me. I can not take the guilt that comes...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 3

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 15 Responses May 27

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    Update: Still going strong with my secret love.

    .. I still think about how wrong this is. Every minute, every text....every stolen kiss and every intense moment we share. If it's so wrong, why in the hell does it feel so right?? I asked my husband what would happen if I ever cheated on him... What would he think, what...
    Chelsea84 Chelsea84 26-30, F 18 Responses Feb 8

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13

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    It's amazing how much power we give the other

    person to have on us, I have been feeling like an idiot for the last three days why coz he hasn't been contacting me so yesterday I was like that's it it's over can't do this anymore this is not a life I don't need these emotions to control my reality the way I act with family...
    sunshineab sunshineab 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I think I did. I'm not

    even sure if I am still am! May through to August of being together but not officially, although it ended 7 weeks ago yet we met up twice since then. It's not a proper affair like the others I read of on here. I'm almost jealous in a way you lot get more than I do. I don't get...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    This all started because of some stupid songs

    and me trying to overcome the emotions that come with them aah!! I was walking up the hill (junk fan)but I think right now this very minute I completely stopped walking and I am thinking of how tired my feet are and how thirsty I am and how dam long I've been walking. And I...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have re-posted a story I deleted last year

    under "I Am Damaged Goods" This is part of my post-affair story. Some of my circle know a bit of what happened, but not the details. Until this point I had never had any dealings with any mental health professionals. This experience took me from from "no experience" to "as far...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 3 days ago

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    My Last Letter, That You'Ll Never Get...

    Like a spark to gasoline, your subtle negativity, actions and words concerning your discontent with him lit a fire of hope for me over the past few months - that you would be free for us to be together one day... until yesterday that is. Your words - "yes, I am for sure getting...
    engx74 engx74 36-40, M 10 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    I used / am using the same strategy to cope

    with the end of my affair as I do when walking in the hills: When faced with a large hill, for either recreational walking or work, I set off at a pace I know I can maintain. I watch my feet, and keep the pace of my footsteps the same, no matter how steep. When it's steep I take...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 15 Responses Jul 30

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    Question when your cheating with friends of

    your family what do you tell the kids when they can't play with each other after getting caught? When your doing family events how do you look your friends and spouses in the face? Does the thought of you'll destroying a family friendship ever cross your mind? Do you ever feel...
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    It looks like a lot of you'll have got caught.

    I'm sorry for the pain your family's going throw. And I hope that things work out for your family. I hope the pain of trying to fix you cheating doesn't get the best of you. Time is going to get real hard but if your truly sorry for what you have done then hold strong.
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 22

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    I realized something with the help of my

    therapist. My affair saved my marriage. My H was depressed and drunk everyday... My marriage was at a low.. He came in my life when I needed him.. I always thought he came into life when I was Vulnerable.. I thought I was at a crossroad in my life.. I was looking down...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 10 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    To those who are having an affair,

    thinking about it, or to those who did...4 years i had an affair, he ended it all in a pretty messed up way...he doesnt want me he doesnt love me like i do him and he isnt thinking about me now...I lost who i think is the love of my life...my husband has no trust for me, hes...
    TornLove82 TornLove82 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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