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    So his wife taken him back,

    we are not in contact any more, he took himself of Facebook etc and hasn't spoken through email calls or txt in weeks now. I'm getting stronger again after this affair broke me, my question is though and it often runs through my head is, when they go back to wifey do they miss...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    We have done no contact

    before a couple of times, and since I'm the married one, I know that I have to respect that and I never contact him. Every time, he eventually contacts me. Today feels final. I begged him, that if we did this, to please please not contact me because it's too hard for me to...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sitting here thinking things through (I try not

    to) when it came to my thoughts about the affair we had. My husband found out and told his wife this busting out affair into the open, but since his wife found out she has never came to me, no txt no calls email or social media, we only live 10miles apart from eachother. It just...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    I stupidly listened to a " blocked senders"

    voicemail on my iPhone. I should have just clear it without listening. It was of course from ex ap. It cracks me up how they try to dip back into your life by saying stupid **** to make you react. He said " hey it's me I know you hate me but I wanted to say hi and I hope...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I was doing fine. He left last June

    and got back this month. Yes, I thought of him when he was gone. Yes, I blew things up in my mind to be more than they were, but I kept it as a personal fantasy. But then out of the blue he's back and I'm newly separated from my husband and other crazy things going on in my life...
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Why do I feel so weak?

    It's like I want to reach out and have conversations with him like we had in the past. Silly things like how crazy it's snowing on April 23rd in my hometown. My heart aches today. I hate it !!!!!!!! I want to stop thinking about him. I was doing so well. I'm crumbling...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    https://youtu.be/dsP03cjT2SI How I am feeling.

    ....... I really should be laughing. Ha!
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    WOW! My ex ap says he still loves me

    and is going to show up at my house one day, and it's up to me whether I open the door or not. Oh, and when I thought he had disappeared recently, he actually had just gone on vacation. I'm just so bad with NC! The longest I went was 103 days, and then I broke NC. I really think...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 28 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    Remember that hill I started to climb the day

    ex ap said 'I think I'm done. I'm done..You have caused to much drama with my ex. I told you if you did it again I would be done' Well good thing is I am over the half way mark. I was thinking of drawing a sketch of all the things I have learned On The way up this hill. Time...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    So applicable!!! I had to post this to this

    group because I think it's an inspiration for us all!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Well I heard from him again

    as I expected. But it's been a few days now and it's been quiet. Normally I would be bothered by this but not now. It's been kind of nice. I think I am starting to realize that I was simply using him to try to resolve old issues from my past that really can't be resolved through...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Ugh! I'm so mad again!

    My ex ap never ceases to **** me off. So today he accuses me of 'using men' and that I never truly loved him because I didn't leave my husband for him. WOW! It really offends me because I have just spent the past 2 years of my life thinking of my ex ap every day, and have really...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Let the " hovering " begin.

    exAP tried getting through with an email. Said " hi" and that was it. Lol wow. The self help books I have read really helped me ! I knew he'd try to wiggle on my life again. Trying to suck the life out of me. Nope. Not gonna happen. Save the bullshit. I'm free...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 25 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    dalidacc11 dalidacc11 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    And I am happy to be free from the lies.

    I realize during my healing, that he was molding me into the woman he alleged his wife was not. Nagging, demanding, low sex or none at all, never there to listen to him or understand him. Not loving him or appreciating him for the man he was. We would talk or text all day, until...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Parts of my story:This is my song towards ex

    aphttp://youtu.be/PCSj8ihT1YYThis song is to my husbandhttp://youtu.be/zpwCWesWQIY
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    For anyone ending their affair

    and feeling like you've got no distance left to run... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uyRj9iwFYCE It's over You don't need to tell me I hope you're with someone who makes you feel safe when your sleeping tonight I won't kill myself, trying to stay in your life I got no...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 10 Responses Apr 1

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    I have been through many rough patches in my

    life. I have had bad relationships and bad friends. I made a million wrong choices in my life. But I realized that all my life I was only making efforts to make my friends stay and make my relationships work. Although I know that I can’t keep all the people happy all the time...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    If you are having an affair

    and in love with two people then giving the choice to pick wifey/husband or ap, always pick the second, because if we truly loved the first we would never go near the second. This is something people tell me, although yes I can agree with it, I still do love my husband and...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    My marriage was dead I met a man

    who was also in a dead marriage. We connected on a deeper level. For us it wasn't all about the physical meetings. It was different. It was much more emotional. I will never be able to put into words how he changed my life. I was dead inside when I met this man. He brought me...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    My mood swings are out of control!

    This is actually my first break up as an adult. It had been a year since I have seen ex mm and I am still having mood swings. WTF. I have been with my husband since I was 19. Can I imagine doing this more than one time in life? No !! Never! This crap is for the birds! Blah blah...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 21 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    The beginning of the real end was almost 6

    months ago. Its been rocky at best. He avoids me because he is afraid of his gf, who is so insecure and jealous of me.My greatest fear has happened. He admitted today that for now he has to eliminate me from his life in order to regain the trust of his gf. I feel awful . I am...
    nitrolove nitrolove 46-50, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 184 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Someone on this forum told me to **** off

    because I said she pushed him away. What's the purpose of "no contact" then. You don't do "no contact" as reversed psychology???? The point is to move on because you know 1. It's not right, / 2. You are you're hurting most of the time (for what ever reason So you do "no...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 39 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bettycc11 bettycc11 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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