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I Had An Affair

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    I volunteered with this woman

    for a kids summer camp. She was divorced and loved to flirt, she had made comments to me but I sort of blew them off. I was online once and found her on a dating site, so I decided to contact her and just chit chat some for fun. After talking for awhile online we decided to meet...
    baddboy1 baddboy1 31-35, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Holidays suck when trolls keep posting BS about

    not having their families because they cheated when really it's a huge friggin LIE!! Anyways Merry Christmas everyone! Apparently those of us who actually did cheat still have our families!!! Lol
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 17 Responses Apr 25

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    2ndBruin 2ndBruin 41-45, M 18 Responses Nov 3

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 15 Responses May 27

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Jan 10

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 41-45, F 33 Responses Nov 19

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    I hate my ex affair partner

    so much. I'm so tired of reading the **** that he posts on his websites. I hate hearing about how he is so happy, so moved on, and how I don't even exist (and as if I never existed). Everything that I gave to him means nothing to him, and he doesn't appreciate everything that I...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 68 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Merry Christmas everyone!

    !! Enjoy... And thank you
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 46 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Ok this question is for the guys

    who are married and had an affair. Once you had an affair and if and when it ended im sure there were still feelings involved but my question is how did you act around your OW? Like if you worked with her was it awkward or did you act as if nothing happened? Even though me and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    It has been almost half year

    since my last post here. So much happened. Finally he left. We get to see each other almost every2-3 months. At first I was very much looking forward to meet him but now seems feelings are fading away. We met tonight. Why didn't me cry after you say goodbye ? Why didn't me...
    Lookandsee Lookandsee 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Have you ever thought

    that maybe... Just maybe ... Your AP is here too???
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 18 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    Insomnia sucks!! Leaves me thinking of him

    when I don't want too!! Grrr. So wish I could get to sleep :(
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Merry Christmas to all my beautiful friends on

    EP!! Thank you to all of you, who have supported me during my journey... Love you all.
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 23

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    (Before anyone gets bent out of shape over this

    rant, I have NEVER been an OW) I've seen a lot of OW get attacked on here by their MMs wives. And quite viciously. While I agree that it's perfectly natural to hold a serious grudge toward the OW, 99% of the anger belongs with their husbands; while the OW is in no way innocent...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    So a lot has happened

    since my last post. My Sancho had completely disappeared for like 5 months and told me it would be hard for him to see me but then just quit contacting me. After not talking to me I found out I was pregnant by my hubby again. I know its not my Sancho's because we hadn't had sex...
    XcookiexbakerXx XcookiexbakerXx 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 189 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    I just love Marmelade!

    Merry Christmas Family and Friends on EP. And a special shout out to our fav teacher💗
    GreyStreet98 GreyStreet98 46-50, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 27 Responses Jan 19

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 22

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    I don't know if i had

    or i am having an affair.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    He text me last night

    and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to lie in his arms like I used to. But I can't. I know it's not a good situation for me. I can not take the guilt that comes...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 3

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 21 Responses Oct 13

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 19 Responses Mar 27

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    He called me today. Wished me happy holidays.

    We chatted for a bit. I could sense his nervousness. It's been getting easier to get his random calls, when I least expect them. Still, I had to sit down afterwards, let my heart get back to it's even beat.. Happy Holidays everyone <3
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Fing holidays suck when you f000 up your family.

    I hope my wife and family have a great holiday they deserve it after what I put them throw. They deserve better then me.
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    zoecc11 zoecc11 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I am back now in touch with MM via email only

    after a year of No contact. Have any of you been that long without contact and resumed contact again? What happened? We were the best of friends until we got too emotionally embroiled and we crossed boundaries we should never have done.. That is great chemistry I guess. Can ex...
    Tiamo1 Tiamo1 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Please - trolls do not respond to this thread.

    It's been a while since I have been on here...a year ago today - my now ex mm and I spent more than a few hours together. It was the 1st time that we spent a good amount of time together. I wonder if he remembers today...if he thinks about me...if he misses me...if he still...
    yogachic76 yogachic76 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    What had the affair change you/your

    perspectives in relationships the most? My background: I was TOW (the other women) and fell in love VERY deeply with a MM. Was beyond devastated and went somewhat psycho, thinking my life was over when it ended 2 years ago. For me one would be the idea of love or the...
    lostsoul0311 lostsoul0311 26-30, F 11 mins ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 354 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 86 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    http://www.baggagereclaim.

    co.uk/my-books/the-no-contact-rule/ Best book out there for those that need help with no contact.
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    carry11 carry11 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 11 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Last weekend he tells me he loves me

    and now not even Happy Christmas! What's going on? I don't love him but I do have some feelings for him. We've been in touch daily for nearly a year. And now no contact for three days. I wished him Happy Xmas but he hasn't replied. His last week I love you was followed by an...
    HappySecret HappySecret 36-40, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Love - This will be the first Christmas in 4

    years that we are not in each other lives. It has been nearly 4 months since we’ve last talked. By now, you’ve probably thought I’ve forgotten you or think that I don’t care . . . I wish you only knew, but what would that bring to either of us but more hurt. That is...
    2ndBruin 2ndBruin 41-45, M 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    So my mm walked away from me again,

    Christmas will be hard for me, trying to hide how hurt I am on the inside in front of my children :'( I will get through it as I'm not going to ruin it for my kids! I've been so silly and blind,did I really think It would end as a happy ever after. I'm sat here typing this and...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, T 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My other man finally left me pregnant

    and chose to live with his live in partner of 7 years.... When I told him two weeks ago that I was pregnant he asked me " how did that happened? " I was so upset of his response and I told him we need to talk about it but he never talk or text me again. He still concerns of what...
    Myoneandonlylove Myoneandonlylove 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm so afraid to say "U were right" And then

    go running back tomorrow I know I'm that weak Married , sexless etc A million reasons to have an affair But not a million reasons to live the life I'm living So If you read my posts you'll know what's going on So AP convinced me to return Major arguments Followed by...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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