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I Had An Affair

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    No contact is tough. Today is his birthday.

    I survived it. I miss the good times but the bad times unweighted the good. Hard to believe it was four years ago and we were celebrating your 40th bday. Our beach trip get away ! Life moves on .
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 4 Responses May 11

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 183 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    MM 2... Ugh.. He's back!

    After a short rebound fling.. Months ago he claimed he couldn't handle both.. What's changed? Haven't seen or heard from him in months.. Shows up at a place he knows I'll be on that day.. He thinks he can just come back around? He actually thinks we're gonna start...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 15 Responses May 14

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    sarahccaa sarahccaa 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 28 Responses Feb 23

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    Tonight I miss chatting with you desperately.

    It has been six months since we ended. How are you? Are you well? I want to forget you, but failed miserably. It's mostly better now. I don't cry over you much already (ok maybe tonight is the exception)... Today I got the job offer to work overseas. I told you I wanted to...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 8 Responses May 14

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 42 Responses Feb 10

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    How many women on here have had more

    than one affair ? And was it to replace the high from the last one ?
    lostmyselfgirl lostmyselfgirl 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    My update. Today is 4 weeks total no contact.

    Prior to the 4 weeks we communicated three times a month since February. Things are getting easier. I see things so much clearer now. My anxiety level has lower significantly. I'm enjoying life more. It's been nice not having to lie and sneak around. No contact is hard...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I hate the fact that some part of me still

    misses her. Its been 3+ years since we parted. There is no contact. I have pinpointed the times at which thoughts of her are at their peak. Downtime. If I keep myself busy, which I usually do, but sometimes it is inevitable. Driving as well. Times in which my mind is able to run...
    idleheart idleheart 31-35, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm having withdrawals

    and just need/want to contact him....to hear is voice, to see his name, to see him....ahhh I must stay sane and in control!! Rule your mind or it will rule you...rule your mind or it will rule you...
    katness99 katness99 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    Julieccaa Julieccaa 26-30, F May 12

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Someone please talk me out of unblocking him

    from facebook! It's been two and a half weeks of NC!
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 5 Responses May 11

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    I'm ashamed to say that one day shy of three

    weeks, I contacted him. I feel better knowing he's safe. Says he's been sober for two weeks now. He says he doesn't want to talk about the stuff that happened while we were in NC. What the hell?
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 3 Responses May 14

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    This is not about that.

    I am no longer in an affair. I'm suffocating. Dying. Constricted. He was my escape from this. He gave me air. Maybe that makes me a ****** wife and mother? I leave it to you to decide since you will regardless. I want to run. I want to run. I want to run. My mom did. I'm fine...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    It was an online affair,

    she was too far away to meet, although most of the time it felt like she was mentally closer to me than my wife. She found me one here, seduced me, and I loved every minute of it. Well mostly, near the end of the 9 months the joy of "being with" her was replaced by an even...
    mtns5 mtns5 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 24 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    I'm here for you. For those moments you fall

    apart, and when you celebrate the relief of a 'good day'. It's a tough mountain to climb. I know. Each step will bring you closer to a better and wiser YOU. Believe it, because it's true. You will survive this and be able to be grateful for how they validated every part of...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    Hate weekends like this.

    Yesterday we texted back n forth all day long. Last night I texted him and he replied she is here (wife) and he would text me in a few minutes. Well minutes turned into an hour. Finally fell asleep. I dare not text him in case she was still around or if they were fighting or...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I miss how special I felt with you.

    You were my delightful secret. My special go to when the going gets rough. Chatting with you.. The hours just pass by so fast.
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Let me bring a little sunshine to this

    experience...... there is laughter, there is love, there is joy and real happiness once the blinders come off and realness sets in. You will have your happily ever after just look in the mirror and thank God that it wasn't as bad as it could have been. Peace!
    DevineTension DevineTension 36-40, M 1 Response May 13

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    so I am seeing this guy from work.

    not the first. he's nothing I considered to be 'my type" he's older a little corky and odd and not someone others would consider attractive. we started flirting almost from day one. been nearly a year since we met. we would flirt in the most amusing stupid ways. but i loved it...
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    He finally texted me

    after not hearing from him since yesterday morning. Said he had a family emergency with his kid and was in the hospital almost all night and that he would talk to me later. He told me everything they did etc. So everything is good now. I still feel a tad uneasy even though...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am wondering how much our behavior is driven

    by the ghosts of our past. I felt an undeniable connection to AP that I found really hard to break even though the situation was not good for either of us. He was the same. AP and I both had father issues to some extent. AP's father left the family and set up a new life in...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 14 Responses May 13

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I hate these roller coaster rides.

    Feels like I climbed the top only to fall off the steepest hill.
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Well I have got my on place finally.

    Still no contact with kids they want have anything to do with me. It hurts so much living without them in my life sometime i just want to end it all. My future ex has movie own I think she's starting to bate which is good for her she should be happy. I just hope who ever she...
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 1

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    Today marks 60 days of NC.

    No matter the thoughts or dreams that I have about him, I am not backing down this time. I am done with him once and for all!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses May 11

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    mintttt mintttt 41-45 4 Responses May 15

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    Why when people get caught having an affair do

    they suddenly love their current partner
    lostmyselfgirl lostmyselfgirl 36-40, F 16 Responses May 13

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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