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I Had An Affair

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    and.... we are on again.

    Let's see for how long...
    idgirl84 idgirl84 31-35, F 9 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 12 Responses May 6, 2015

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    I am back from a 5 day conference.

    My husband went with me. Happy to say we had a lovely time. Can't say I didn't think of the MM. He crossed my mind..it's a process. But I am hopeful..as I was able to push thoughts away quickly and with a confidence of finality that I don't usually have. I won't compare. I...
    pumpgirl pumpgirl 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 65 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 84 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 36-40, F 27 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I haven't had an affair.

    They require secrecy and that's against my value system and I think damaging to my relationship with my wife. I have had an ongoing regular sexual relationship with a woman who is not my wife while married. Except I was open with my wife about it before anything happened.
    rabb1trabb1t rabb1trabb1t 41-45, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    Why do you call me 'Love'?

    ... I hope you do not mind me asking. I call you love because you are one of my closest friends... unless you do not want me to call you that. I prefer you do not. Ok then. bye.
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 17 Responses Jan 23, 2015

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    I really miss my ex mm.

    It's been months since we had any contact. I've had more contact with the W. I hope that some day we will be able to talk again. I miss our conversations. He was so easy to talk too.
    Mshine944 Mshine944 41-45, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    After two years of random calls

    and texts from xmm, we finally met. It was friendly and sweet and had a touch of the surreal to it. I wasn't meeting him to rekindle anything, nor was he. I'm certainly not interested in anything like that after all I've been through to recover my own sanity and peace...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 28, 2015

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    I never thought it would happen to me of all

    people. The shame, the guilt of being caught and trying to repair the damage. I've been exclusive with Steve for 3 years. about 2 months back, I went to my local shopping plaza and as I walked in he was there. David his name is. I was automatically attracted like insects are to...
    LesGirl01 LesGirl01 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 10 Responses Apr 1, 2015

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    He's a drunk. He woke up at 8pm thinking it

    was morning. He showered and got dressed for work. I watched the entire freak show.. So sad. I need to get out of this marriage. It's toxic. He's crazy one minute then loving the next. It's insane. Having the affair was an escape... I'm a coward. I took the...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 33 Responses Jun 4, 2015

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 179 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Going away tomorrow with my husband.

    Looking forward to our time together. Hopefully time to do some reconnecting. I am hopeful but don't want to over pressurize the situation. Just wanted to say I am looking forward to it.
    pumpgirl pumpgirl 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 2

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    I have cheated quite a lot,

    I'm a teenager it's not so uncommon but right now I am in a happy relationship and even greater an open one lol. As long I don't cheat emotionally I'm fine.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 31

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Expererience1954 I think you need to leave this

    group. By your experiences listed you have no need to be in this group. If you can't find anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Not to mention you only ream those whom you pick so stop being a bully and move on. I say that because you responded to one of my post...
    Aloha2erhz Aloha2erhz 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 36 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I am preparing to leave my husband.

    Not because of the affair, but for me and to spare him pain in the future. I sign my lease this week. I'm excited and scared. Wish me luck!
    Runnergirl2015 Runnergirl2015 31-35, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    I have reread my first two posts

    and realized I didn't mention an important part. We BOTH decided to end this not just me. For what ever reason...I didn't mention it. I don't know why really.
    pumpgirl pumpgirl 46-50, F Feb 1

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 13, 2015

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    The guy who wrote 'The Truman Show' knows

    what's going on. I think we are created for drama...used...abused... we think we are different but someone finds our life entertaining. Mercy!
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    It's been over two months

    since his unexplained NC. The ups and downs I go through are so hard. Funny that I was nearly feet from him, and his wife, on Friday night (I was in a room next to him at an office)... And he still didn't contact me. I've started to realize that I quite possibly was his bipolar...
    infusedheart infusedheart 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    This morning, we talked.

    More like old friends than ex-lovers. And it feels good.
    idgirl84 idgirl84 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    We've been on and off

    for 3.5 years now. Mostly on. The off- when I don't think there will be an end, that he will never leave her. They're in mediation, but it's going so slow...I feel like I enable it, the marriage, the long drawn out process toward divorce, because I support him emotionally...
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 8 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    It's wasn't exactly an affair I'm single he has

    a girlfriend it's not gone past texting I felt like he was slow fading me out so I just stopped texting so did he has been 2 weeks now was starting to feel better then he goes and likes my photo on Instagram ...why do I always want what I can't have why do I always want the guys...
    winterusa winterusa 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am curious for those of you

    that are married and have ended your affair...how is your marriage doing? Have you been able to reconnect with your spouse after the affair? If so, how?
    StartingOver41 StartingOver41 41-45, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 41-45, F 16 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I feel like ish, I talked to my sancho again

    and now I'm lonelier than ever. I haven't seen him but I have talked to him and I loved it. I really did. He was like don't disappear on me again blah blah, and there I go melting away saying all these dumb things. Now I'm in that limbo again of being here with my hubby and...
    XcookiexbakerXx XcookiexbakerXx 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Rough day of NC. Ugh.

    ... But, I did it. At least I have my wine to end the day.
    RLaney RLaney 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 22 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    How you make him think

    that you are a psycho and he ended it with you. The final tomahawk. It is pretty hard on your system to be constantly maintaining a level of detachment. When I feel my thoughts are taking over in thinking of MM full time, I start feeling this sick buzz in my body. Whenever I...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 43 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    I'm going to spend time with him today.

    . His text "wear shear white panties please...And no bra.. I want to lick you with your panties on... It's been a long while babe since I felt this way..." He brings out My sexual desires...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 4 Responses Feb 2

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    It's been 8 months since I last heard your

    voice. While it's gotten slightly easier, I am still in distress over the sudden ending of our 4 year long friendship, companionship and romantic relationship. I think about you everyday. I think about memories fond and not so fond. I think about what life would like if you were...
    bunny2010 bunny2010 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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