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I Had An Affair

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    Don't Do It....

    For all of you folks out there contemplating an affair - don't do it. If you're having one, quit before you get caught. This - coming from someone whose life is all but ashes now and the feeling and space I'm left in is nothing short of hell on earth. I'm having a hard time...
    chipmakerchick chipmakerchick 51-55, F 16 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    So I went and did it!

    !!! Emailed my AP asking him to talk to me for closure. He hasn't responded, doubt he will. Which makes me feel worse. Wish I wouldn't have now. I hate this feeling of rejection from someone that I thought truly cared about me. This is the first time he hasn't answered me when I...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 86 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 10 Responses Mar 22

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    I was married to a man

    for 20 years. We met when I was 16, got married when I was 22, and went on to have 3 kids. The only problem was he drank and over the years, his personality changed to the point of abuse. It was not physical abuse but verbal. He did things like swear at me, punch holes in the...
    leslie0718 leslie0718 41-45, F 12 Responses Feb 4

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    I guess I needed to see what it feels like to

    slam my fingers in the door again. I reached out to her today via email. Just had too hard of a time sitting with it. I miss her so badly somedays. I said I was having a hard day with it and she had touched a part of my soul no one had ever touched and not one day has gone by...
    mylove77 mylove77 36-40, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 16 Responses Jan 15

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    I met him at a masquerade.

    It felt like that moment he and I connected on a soul level . I have never experienced anything like that in my life. I know he felt the same. Over time things got more intense between us and even though he was in a relationship. We had agreed that we were just going to try to...
    MrGibbs23 MrGibbs23 26-30, F 23 hrs ago

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    It wasn't so much an affair

    as it was a ******* or 5. During one my husband walked up to the car and caught me. I thought I was in so much trouble. Within two days my husband was begging me to **** the other guy and let him watch.
    greenmountainmomma greenmountainmomma 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 30

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    My Last Letter, That You'Ll Never Get...

    Like a spark to gasoline, your subtle negativity, actions and words concerning your discontent with him lit a fire of hope for me over the past few months - that you would be free for us to be together one day... until yesterday that is. Your words - "yes, I am for sure getting...
    engx74 engx74 36-40, M 10 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    If someone cares for you.

    ... Why can't they just respect your feelings and let it end peacefully? He knows I am weak when it comes to him...
    artist7 artist7 31-35, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 22

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Thank god it's over..

    .. There's no more lying, hiding, or making excuses! It feels so good, like this weight has been lifted from my whole life! I thought I wanted to maintain a friendship, but I've learned it's not possible, for me anyway. Most situations are all very different, but truth is...
    platnum2011 platnum2011 26-30, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    artist7 artist7 31-35, F 40 Responses 3 days ago

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    I thought I was ready

    and let her back in like a complete idiot..im now experiencing all the same emotions as before and feel like screaming at her 'why don't u care as much as me!!!!!!!??' **** deffo have to cut her off after this event is over with..I never have a reason to see her again.. told...
    Greggerz Greggerz 26-30, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 350 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    So an older friend of

    both of ours called me after speaking to her. The soon to be ex wife.. She wanted to confirm the details with me of what I did not just hear say... Anyways this women is a good women she's older great heart mother of five.. So I tell her the truth. I haven't lied to anyone...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    So this question is for married men having

    affairs. What conditions would make you go distant from your other woman? And would you end an affair with the other woman or would she have to end it?
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 14 Responses May 27

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    Tossing and turning thinking of him.

    Damn it!! I thought I was past this crap!!! I just want to forget, get him out of my head...can't sleep. Can only think. This is one of those crappy days when it all comes flooding back. I'm sure he isn't thinking of me. Lucky bastard!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 10 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Masters of sex.. On showtime.

    .it's a great series that we can all relate to it.. Drink some wine and enjoy.
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I've decided going forward

    if someone comments negatively on an experience I share here, I'm going to immediately delete their comment and block them. My experiences are part of my past, they're factual and they've already occurred so unkind, judgmental remarks are a waste of time and unnecessary. I don't...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 15

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    We don't call or talk every day our time

    together is short yet the chemistry can't be matched. Our time together is sensual and explosive all in one.
    jackknows jackknows 46-50, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 207 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Just a thought..and I might get alot of sh*t

    for this but I had an affair and it really f*cked me up (read my posts!) and I will never do that again!! Now my thought is for those of you who are still actively looking for an affair..if u love your husband/wife too much to leave them and break their heart, then surely you...
    Greggerz Greggerz 26-30, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    So everyone knows my MM went distant about 6

    weeks ago. Well he just stopped calling and texting outside of work. Today he was messing with me like he always does. he grabbed my hand and I thought he was going to bite me but he was like o ur hand and I went to smell it and he it my hand into my lip and it busted my lip lol...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 26 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Update: Still going strong with my secret love.

    .. I still think about how wrong this is. Every minute, every text....every stolen kiss and every intense moment we share. If it's so wrong, why in the hell does it feel so right?? I asked my husband what would happen if I ever cheated on him... What would he think, what...
    Chelsea84 Chelsea84 26-30, F 18 Responses Feb 8

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    Goodbye.......... This is an update to a story

    I wrote on May 20th about my affair coming to an end. Since I initially wrote this story, things had taken a turn. Initially, the turn of events was very positive. After a period of time, my OW started emailing again. Over the course of a few weeks, our chat sessions got...
    bobrido bobrido 46-50, M 9 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    So I decided to go back

    and review all my posts about my ex AP and all the crawl and emotions I went through. I realize how hurt I was the first time he really disappeared on me! Wow i was a mess. Not this time so much. It's a problem of his and really nothing to do with me I've decided. I feel...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 28 Responses Jan 19

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 10 Responses Jan 10

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    I'm in the midst of an almost two year affair.

    It doesn't seem like it's ever going to end. We just like each other. We are both married. I don't want to leave my hubby and he doesn't want to leave his wife...
    crazyinlove74 crazyinlove74 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    This morning I made an amazing breakfast

    for my wife, and she loved it. We made love yesterday and it's always good and satisfying for both. We have actually been getting along and working on the house. - While finishing breakfast today, I asked her if there was anything new she would like to incorporate into our s.ex...
    jrod1 jrod1 41-45, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Omg this has nothing to with my affair

    but I have my nieces today and one is 1 and she has already spilt my coffee all over the carpet and than pooed on my carpet .. Shes potty training. Ha I would never have a baby again:) love them and all but glad mine are bigger
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm in the phase of accepting the fact

    that it's really over. My emotions have been pretty up and down this week. One moment I feel ok, and the next I'm hurting again. I've dreamt about him every single night since he ended it. One dream felt so real. It was the type where you wake up, and have to come to before you...
    Ditto85 Ditto85 26-30 8 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    It's been exactly one year,

    July 22nd, 2013. A year ago today, my YAMW and I drove off for 'lunch', but in fact, I took her to a nearby park, with a narrow sandy beach next to the San Francisco Bay, and after a few minutes - quite awkwardly - took her hand in mine. She didn't resist, too much... So, I...
    lifu0427 lifu0427 56-60, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Question to the cheaters is it you don't care

    about your spouses that you would put your picture on a open web site or or you just that stupid? And to the spouses that happen to see your spouses picture own here just leave them there not worth your time and heartache. It's just a sad world we live in no morals for...
    Soevil10 Soevil10 31-35, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I've been feeling tempted to use a real photo

    of myself as my profile pic, but am concerned of someone I may know from real life seeing me. Has anyone on here used a photo of themselves, and gotten caught by anyone you know personally?
    Ditto85 Ditto85 26-30 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Letmecheckyourshorts Letmecheckyourshorts 22-25, F 56 Responses Jan 12

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 45 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    He text me last night

    and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to lie in his arms like I used to. But I can't. I know it's not a good situation for me. I can not take the guilt that comes...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 3

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 10

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    I'm seeing my mm for a couple of hours today.

    im so excited.missed him so much whilst away on vacation.Even though been in contact daily with a few hundred texts it's still been hard.
    sooty1977 sooty1977 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 15 Responses Mar 13

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    I remember him tracing his finger over t

    forehead and writing 'I love you' with it. Just two months ago. To get back that moment..... Not sure what path we are on or how far along we are...I know we have technically finished, he's single, I'm not officially, and we have so far arranged three upcoming 'dates' in the...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 15 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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