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I Had An Affair

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    I am friends with my MM (for now

    and I hope it never changes). I want it to last this time. I reconnected with him mid June. I missed our friendship. I was not ready to be friends again, but I am working on it. I am working on accepting his marital life. I am working on being neutral. I am trying to...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 40 Responses Feb 10

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    gratefully I'm still NC with my mm.

    ..still miss him..still think of him everyday but seriously reading the angst from my fellow suffers...why couldn't we see where we were headed.. loneliness is such a opportunistic beast....allowing us to enter into a lair where our very souls are peeled away from our skin... I'm...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 1 Response Jul 25

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    Soo as the story goes he did return in April.

    First he was nice and said 'we can meet if you want?' Texted back and fourth my anxiety got high again waiting for my phone to beep. We texted over the next two weeks but only two days. By the last day he was for sure that I had let his currently divorcing ex wife know that he...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Here's an update.. It's a long one.

    First... Still haven't seen my mm yet. It's been over 2 months. We plan on seeing each other soon this week. Everything is fine with us. Those who have been following his overtime is finally done at work . Second ... If you go back to a year and a half ago I wrote about my...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 17 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 13

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    Day 24 over not a peep from him.

    This is the longest he ever stayed NC. I think I'm finally free !!!!!
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I've been having an affair with my HS sweetheart

    for 7 years. I'm married, he divorced due to us getting caught. It was the last straw for them. I have a really decent life and loving husband. The affair for me started due to "unfinished business" now I just can't stop. My AP is dating again but he always makes time for me. I...
    seashaker seashaker 46-50, F 8 mins ago

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    After two years of random calls

    and texts from xmm, we finally met. It was friendly and sweet and had a touch of the surreal to it. I wasn't meeting him to rekindle anything, nor was he. I'm certainly not interested in anything like that after all I've been through to recover my own sanity and peace...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 28

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    While sitting in front of my t.

    v. watching my favorite soap opera.. my AP contacted me after 6wks of NC ...omg when I seen his text my heart dropped ..his text were that he wanted to see me one last time...asking me if I missed us...trying to make me feel guilty saying I never cared...blah blah blah...I...
    FindingMyself03 FindingMyself03 31-35, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    Over the weekend I had an affair with a married

    man. I'm 27 and he's 44. I met him over a year ago as a graduate student and then I began volunteering for his organization. I always found him attractive and thought that he might think the same about me based on subtle behavior and things he's said, and I got confirmation the...
    olivehadley olivehadley 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am not married, but am the AP of someone

    who might be. Here's my question for you married people having affairs: why do you do it? Do you like your AP more than your spouse? And either way, why not just leave the marriage if you are unhappy?
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 46-50, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I am so messed up again.

    Ugh. I moved on and was over my affair. He was someone in my life regularly. I'm friends with his wife. He was best friends with my husband. My now ex husband. I'm still good friends w my ex and his wife. We weren't caught. We are still intertwined in eAch others lives thru...
    lilsecret1 lilsecret1 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 26

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 16 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 14 Responses May 6

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 37 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 182 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 12 Responses May 27, 2014

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    I'm glad it's been over

    for the last couple of months. I just found out that hubby may have cancer. They found some suspicious spots on a scan. He's going for more testing. I'm in limbo right now. No clear answers. I'm scared and sad. I don't want to lose him. We have young kids too. I can't sleep well...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I survived my first crisis without my mm.

    ..my mom is improving and I am leaving Memphis to head home...I wanted to talk to him so bad.. I texted like I was still with him and as crazy as that sounds it helped.. I'm not a dishonest person and the affair turned me into a habitual liar...as much as I'm suffering and even...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    AnnUrban AnnUrban 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I befriended him on Facebook - big mistake.

    I stalk his page relentlessly - who am I? I google his articles. I message him during business hours because I know- hope - we won't get caught. We speak on the phone - he gives me career advice. I respect him professionally but it's just an excuse to talk to him. He said...
    Lanasawmysoul Lanasawmysoul 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    This must explain why women can't understand

    that affairs have nothing to do with either the wife or the other woman. Men are by nature compartmentalized creatures. Figuratively speaking, you view your work, your family, your hobbies, and your recreation as separate boxes. You eat breakfast in one box. You have...
    UrMickey UrMickey 51-55, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    LongLiveRockAndRoll LongLiveRockAndRoll 26-30, M 29 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F 22 hrs ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 22 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    after I hooked up with my side guy,

    I got a lot of advice about not getting attached. alright, so after another month of seeing him, I'm still keeping that advice in mind. he's not available very often as we both work with our spouses and live a distance apart. so I got it in my head that maybe I should look for...
    redpelican7 redpelican7 31-35, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Like clockwork, he is back

    after 2 more weeks of NC. So frustrating. He says he misses me, wants to be with me, wants to know how I am, etc. However, as soon as I try to schedule a lunch or coffee with him, he shuts down and goes back to NC. I know I should just stop responding and probably try to block...
    cosoulsearcher cosoulsearcher 41-45, F 9 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 43 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Ok... So finally after 2 months of not seeing

    him we may finally see each other this weekend. But I am not gonna hope or hold my breath. I need to find a guy in between or just dump his *** . Tired of not seeing him.... Tired of everything... Just tired!!!!
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    He's a drunk. He woke up at 8pm thinking it

    was morning. He showered and got dressed for work. I watched the entire freak show.. So sad. I need to get out of this marriage. It's toxic. He's crazy one minute then loving the next. It's insane. Having the affair was an escape... I'm a coward. I took the...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 36 Responses Jun 4

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    I haven't been on here

    for a while, but I had a great need to write this, just to get if off my chest (yes I know, I am such a girl LOL). • I want someone I can text goodnight, last thing I do before I go to sleep. • I want someone I can message first thing in the morning and wish them an awesome...
    jrod1 jrod1 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 26

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I feel as though regret is wasted energy.

    In all experiences there are lessons to be learned and there is beauty to be seen. Although you can see the positive in any situation, it is important that you don't entirely forget the negative. Having an affair is similar to using drugs. It's intense. Exhilarating...
    AnnUrban AnnUrban 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 19 Responses Jan 23

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    Been about a month or

    so of no contact. I am glad. But he's haunting my dreams!! I keep having dreams that he's texting me. This is a very recent development and I'm not even thinking about him when I go to bed. I hardly think of him at all anymore. Ugh I just want it to go away!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 28 Responses Feb 23

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