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I Had An Affair

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    Sometimes I wonder...

    . what if we love fearlessly with all our might. Will the outcome be any different? Often we guard ourselves by drawing back, playing games, withdrawing into silence when we feel afraid or overwhelmed by our feelings, especially in an affair because we think an affair is wrong...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I wanted to know if anyone had similar

    experiences... For those who broke up, did guilt have a big part to play in the final decision on either party's end? If so, at which point in the r/s did guilt start to kick in and made you or your AP decide that it couldn't continue anymore?
    FleetingThots FleetingThots 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 12 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 46 Responses Feb 10

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 26 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Doesn't it sound like

    when all you can write about is how much you got screwed over in cheating doesn't that sound like your not over it. Don't you think that this would oneday start missing with your marraige.
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 17 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 27 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    Ok here is the sequel.

    I wrote about an affair I had with a married preacher, long story short my husband walked in and caught us. I haven't been with the preacher again since. BUT a year later I was online on my favorite social website and an old flame messaged me. He had tried to date me in...
    reddhot reddhot 51-55, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 23 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 35 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't even know what to call this any more.

    .. I don't even know if i want this any more... Sorry this is going to be long but i need to just get this out there in some form before i go crazy! You can judge me all you like but trust me no one hates me more then i hate self right now. Found each other on a website June...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    angiestong angiestong 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    I don't care what you say.

    But all the people that have had affairs disgust me. SHAME on all of you. You don't deserve love!!
    MsListener MsListener 18-21, F 16 Responses 2 days ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I spent more than eight hours today reading all

    the messages exchanged within our long distance relationship in the last twelve months. I can still remember my feelings associated with most of the sent messages vividly; but now I felt either muted or none of those emotions that were tormenting me at those points in time. I...
    FleetingThots FleetingThots 36-40, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    Question how can a cheater say they would get

    revange or they could never forgive if there spouses cheats after they have need caught cheatinng.
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    After reading some things yesterday about M&Ms

    it got me thinking about my ex and I bet my mm will veer his head this way again. I'm almost 99% positive he will. I don't sit back and hope he will like I used to before. There is a certain personality trait 1/2 of these mm carry. It's called control. Not all of them, some have...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    here are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    anneluna anneluna 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 15 Responses May 27, 2014

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    Tobad.....it's been brought to my attention

    that you are taking up mentioning me personally in your posts. Get a freaking life. I picture you as a fat old woman who's pissed at all these beautiful, sexy women on here who have or are having affairs bc your husband cheated on you. Nobody cares what you have to say. And you...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 22, 2014

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    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 17 Responses 2 days ago

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    The day before yesterday,

    I went to see my physician for the std follow-up test. For days I have been feeling tired. I want to sleep all the time. I get up in the morning, get dressed and then I want to go right back to bed with my clothes on. I started crying in his office. It was so embarrassing...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 31 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 86 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 19 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    I had an affair for 16 months.

    .. Met him at least once a week... texted all day long... Then a short 7 week fling... All is done... Tonight I'm out alone and my h wants to know who I'm Fu**ing... Lol really????
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Omg has anyone seen the movie gone girl?

    !?! I would totally be like that wife. Best not to cross me. My evil streak is far to black. My husband would pay for cheating :) amazing Amy
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Why? Why did I break the NC?

    Why? I'm left in a puddle of tears again. Why can't I just let go? Why did he make such a mess of me? Why did he love me so much? Why didn't he leave me as a distant childhood memory? I was doing OK for a few weeks of NC but then I became weak and messaged him. He responded...
    unfinishedbusiness unfinishedbusiness 36-40, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Having a great night.

    Six weeks ago my MM said that he was leaving his wife. I had never pressured him to do this at any stage, but deep down inside it gave me hope. He had mentioned it a few times in passing before but I never entered into a conversation about it with him. I didn't want the pressure...
    TASTRS TASTRS 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 68 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    what precautions do you take to prevent your

    spouse from funding out that you have had an affair. I go in his fb and block people that may want to tell him. like my ap and his wife. my husband's not to good with tech so doesn't even know you can do that. I also don't allow a to know where I live and have passwords on my...
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 14 mins ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 187 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    My Love, After all this time,

    this hate, this rejection, we speak Once Then Twice We meet We laugh We speak again We meet again Dinner Stay up until midnight Laughing We touch, then say goodnight It all comes back The Love The pain The tears I cry for you I cry because of you My heart aches all...
    FindingMySong FindingMySong 46-50, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    What is the name for extreme chemistry in

    affairs or between twin flame couples (thank you koko). It is more than chemistry, more than magnetism....?? What is the crazy connection of energy called?
    just2night just2night 41-45, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 17 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 27 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Crap I erased my story on accident.

    But for everybody so curious about the ah ha I had it was awesome. Until a women has felt the destruction in her home or her heart she will not take my ah ha experience and know what I am speaking of. I allowed a man and his upset wife almost destroy parts of my being. It hurt...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I wonder if I will ever,

    get a text from him again... It's been so long... 9 weeks... No responses...part or me wants to know how he's doing... His job, marriage, children, and does he think of me often? How long did you ladies go without hearing from them... And the bam you get a text? What did it say...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 23 Responses 2 days ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 40 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    Watched 28 hotel rooms

    and it reopened up the wounds a little. Those of you who watched it...What do you think of the ending? Do you think they will be together or apart ultimately?
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 12 Responses Feb 21

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