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I Had An Affair

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    We have done no contact

    before a couple of times, and since I'm the married one, I know that I have to respect that and I never contact him. Every time, he eventually contacts me. Today feels final. I begged him, that if we did this, to please please not contact me because it's too hard for me to...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    Why do I feel so weak?

    It's like I want to reach out and have conversations with him like we had in the past. Silly things like how crazy it's snowing on April 23rd in my hometown. My heart aches today. I hate it !!!!!!!! I want to stop thinking about him. I was doing so well. I'm crumbling...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bettycc11 bettycc11 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    If you are having an affair

    and in love with two people then giving the choice to pick wifey/husband or ap, always pick the second, because if we truly loved the first we would never go near the second. This is something people tell me, although yes I can agree with it, I still do love my husband and...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    Ugh! I'm so mad again!

    My ex ap never ceases to **** me off. So today he accuses me of 'using men' and that I never truly loved him because I didn't leave my husband for him. WOW! It really offends me because I have just spent the past 2 years of my life thinking of my ex ap every day, and have really...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Well the sun is shining down,

    flooding my head with memories of last summer with my ex ap. Geee this is tough :( I have done well with NC and God knows it's been very hard to maintain.
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 4 days ago

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 184 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 21 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Well today I have lots of mixed feelings going

    on, but I've had this song playing on in my head so thought I'd share. http://youtu.be/ZM3w7Clgm98
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm really avoiding him this time.

    I can't be bothered to text him to initiate contact. Again I am hoping things stay silent for a while. I can see how bad he is for me and how stupid I was for playing his games. The illusion I had of him and who he was is lifting now. It makes things easier. I could stay friends...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    Just heard these lyrics "Don't forget to

    remember me". This isn't what the song is about, but it struck a chord with me. Afraid that my exAP will forget me...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 1

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 28 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    It's always hardest late at night.

    I'm a night owl and everything is quiet besides the city noises outside my window. My mind is running, wondering, missing, grieving. It makes perfect sense though. It's this time of night that I'd be cozying up on the couch, Netflix on quietly in the background while my AP and I...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 1 min ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 39 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Parts of my story:This is my song towards ex

    aphttp://youtu.be/PCSj8ihT1YYThis song is to my husbandhttp://youtu.be/zpwCWesWQIY
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 25 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Great version of Taylor Swift's " blank

    space" Makes me think about my affair I had. http://youtu.be/q5rhrqYU1iE
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    My affair ended back in December.

    . It actually was over in October but I held on to him sooo much longer then I should have... I missed the thrill of the affair...but I knew there was no way I was gonna go through that kind of pain again. My life has changed dramatically.. I suggested to my h we try...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    So his wife taken him back,

    we are not in contact any more, he took himself of Facebook etc and hasn't spoken through email calls or txt in weeks now. I'm getting stronger again after this affair broke me, my question is though and it often runs through my head is, when they go back to wifey do they miss...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    "Two roads diverged in a wood,

    and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference." Did some snooping on social media. He works in a large company, and his colleagues have uploaded their sports and company event photos with public settings. (I saw a picture of his family...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    WOW! My ex ap says he still loves me

    and is going to show up at my house one day, and it's up to me whether I open the door or not. Oh, and when I thought he had disappeared recently, he actually had just gone on vacation. I'm just so bad with NC! The longest I went was 103 days, and then I broke NC. I really think...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    I was doing fine. He left last June

    and got back this month. Yes, I thought of him when he was gone. Yes, I blew things up in my mind to be more than they were, but I kept it as a personal fantasy. But then out of the blue he's back and I'm newly separated from my husband and other crazy things going on in my life...
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    My marriage was dead I met a man

    who was also in a dead marriage. We connected on a deeper level. For us it wasn't all about the physical meetings. It was different. It was much more emotional. I will never be able to put into words how he changed my life. I was dead inside when I met this man. He brought me...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Something about the weather,

    or maybe the glass of wine at lunch...Brought me to the Fridays when you and I would get together. I realize now that we didn't see each other very much. Fridays and Mondays before school pick up does not a real relationship make, but it was real. It consumed all of me. When we...
    belgiumgirl10 belgiumgirl10 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 30 Responses Feb 23

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    I stupidly listened to a " blocked senders"

    voicemail on my iPhone. I should have just clear it without listening. It was of course from ex ap. It cracks me up how they try to dip back into your life by saying stupid **** to make you react. He said " hey it's me I know you hate me but I wanted to say hi and I hope...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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