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I Had An Affair

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    So I'm having or had

    or having I don't even no anymore, an affair with who I assume is a serial cheater A serial cheater that supposedly loves and and wants to be with me (with an IF ONLY ofcourse) I had a suspicion that there was something going on with a friend of his Amazing that he has time...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    As many of you have read,

    I had an affair with a single man (I checked out of my marriage a few years prior doe to verbal abuse and alcoholism). I left my ex husband and live together now with my AP for a year and a half. It has turned out to be the greatest love we have both ever known, as well as a...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    After fifteen months of the sexiest ride of my

    life, the affair is over. She's officially separated from her husband and living with me now. All future stories about her will be posted in the "I love my girlfriend" group. Thanks for all the support and insight :)
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 8 Responses a week ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 11 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    Today I started watching a series on Shotime

    called "The Affair" Every episode tells both sides of the story. The writer puts an emphasis on the fact that when you meet someone and fall in love, both of you remember different details depending on your life situation and your frame of thinking at that time. I like that...
    AnnUrban AnnUrban 22-25, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    Men in affairs: Do you celebrate your wedding

    anniversary? If so how? Do you try harder out of guilt if you are having an undisclosed affair or do you try to just get through the day? Women: your thoughts?
    just2night just2night 41-45, F 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    Blah blah blah! Completely over affair

    and nothing to write about:)
    ventingagain ventingagain 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 41-45, F 33 Responses Nov 19

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 17 Responses Apr 25

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 22

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    Question for chesters

    why is it that you hate the person your cheating with if they don't call you ever day or if the get morals all of a sudden. Your cheating to aren't you just as wrong as them.
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 68 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    After the experience with my husband

    and MM i am starting to believe in a phrase once unlucky always unlucky.What about you guys?Do you believe in it?
    kimlife kimlife 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 191 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    As most of you know MM

    and I are not really together.. He ended things, but we still keep in contact everyday and last week we met for sex..after not seeing him for almost 7 weeks.. all we had together was one lousy hour. It was great to see him but.... One hour was all he gave.. I've fought for so...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 19 Responses Mar 27

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    A different situation.

    Analysts sometimes exert considerable time and effort contending that "If the situation were different, I'd know what course of action to take" or "If the marketing manager hadn't already foul things up so badly, the firm wouldn't have a problem." Such reasoning ignores the...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have done some ****** things in my life just

    like cheating own my wife. But I never did something as ****** as having my cheating partner around my wife that's a new low.
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    He has come and gone

    so many times. I keep wondering why I bother. Lately it seems I'm giving up. Not caring so much about what happens. I am done pursuing him. It's his turn to take the active role. I'm not even sure I want to see him again. I'm not sure he totally sure he wants to see me. He says...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    My OM has been avoiding me:-( I see him in

    passing and my sons sporting events, but never alone. We have not been intimate for 2 months. He just wrote his gf a letter laying their relationship on the line. Idk what has happened or what is going on. He said he ñeeds to thiñk and make some decisions? Can't be with me...
    nitrolove nitrolove 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 45 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    "at first, when we truly love someone,

    our greatest fear is that the loved one will stop loving us. what we should fear and dread, of course, is that we wont stop loving them, even after they are dead and gone"...learning it such a hard way !!
    itszack itszack 36-40, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 23

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    After almost 5 months of the most intense ride

    ever, my affair is over. We were (are) insanely in love with eachother. We were together on Friday the 5th and it was incredible. On the 6th I received a text from him stating that his daughter tried to kill herself. He would be unreachable for the day. I got a text later...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 29 Responses a week ago

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 10

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    "You men live your lives

    while it is we who have to wait," says Nelly Ternan (from The Invisible Woman) I guess this is true to all affairs, the infinite waiting. I'm finding myself constantly wondering if I am thinking too much or I am thinking too little... It felt like butterflies in the stomach...
    stephlee99 stephlee99 26-30, F 18 Responses 6 days ago

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    OK so I met MM this morning at early wee hours.

    The time we were away from each other, he found solstice in watching and listening to self-help videos and audios. The material is of religious nature. Everyday, he spent an hour listening. He was not ready to contact me again. I was quite surprised actually. I thought...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    2ndBruin 2ndBruin 41-45, M 17 Responses Nov 3

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    My current MM and I started out having just a

    sexual relationship and promising each other that we would not fall in love. We would always tell each other "I lust you." It's been this way for 7 months but now I'm starting to worry that he has deeper feelings for me. We really enjoy each other and the sex is incredible...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Jan 10

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    Struggling Reconnecting With Husband After My Affair!

    I feel at rock bottom. So so low. I feel like I am in a bubble and can't connect with anyone. I am still missing my OM even after months have gone by. My feelings ran deep. I am frustrated that the relief I felt at ending the affair has been replaced by pining. I miss him. It's...
    Angeleyes789 Angeleyes789 46-50, F 26 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    I'm thinking of ending it.

    Writing him a 'dear John' letter, saying I won't be in touch, so that it forces me not to get in touch. To those that have ended an affair, how long did it take you to stop missing him or her? My affair has been going on, on and off, for two years. I can't take it any more, it...
    ginwig ginwig 46-50, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 27 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Koalaclover Koalaclover 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 20 Responses Jan 15

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    So it's been a week tomorrow

    and I haven't made any effort to contact him. He hasn't contacted me either. We weren't fighting or anything. I just decided that I should take some space before I got too wrapped up in it all again. I have no idea why he hasn't made any attempts from his end but I suspect he is...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Tonight it is over! We will have the talk.

    hm.. call it the sixth sense of a Scorpio. A friendship/ relationship of 7 years has reached full circle. Out of the 7 years, this past year has been the worse of all. I guess I should be saying I am glad it is over for good. I am hurt though that he turned into a...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 22

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    My heart is aching. I love my affair partner

    so much. The end is so close I can taste it. My mind was filled of thoughts of him today. He is my true love, the one that got away do to say😧. I know the reality is its just an affair and the time is not right for us. But the heart wants what it wants.
    nitrolove nitrolove 46-50, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    Let me start with, I've been married

    for 33 yrs. My husband and I get along great! I'm very out going and he's more reserved. About six months ago an old boyfriend, (from 37 yrs ago) contacted me and said he wanted to see me, to see what I looked like, even tho we were friends on facebook. That should've been my...
    tr526 tr526 51-55, F 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am married and in an affair with a married

    man. We started 5mths ago and its a lot if fun. But the highs are great but the lows are so distracting when all i want to do is contact him or see him. It sends me a bit crazy. Does anyone have any good techniques to stop this roller-coaster thoughts or its just part of the...
    tan999 tan999 31-35, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 15 Responses May 27

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    Note to self:hard to build trust in an affair.

    ... If it's even possible.,,, which I honestly doubt!!!! ******* sick of feeling this way!!!! Depressed for an entire year!!! Minor highs with major and longer lows!!! Aaaaargh!
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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