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I Had An Affair

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 28 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Well it's been a while

    and thought I'd give an update, well after his son have him the 'pick her or me' situ we split. We stayed on eachothers social network site and met one nite to discuss an ongoing matter, which resulted in fair well sex. I have been so badly down since and now I'm dusting myself...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 4 days ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 25 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 26 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Heading on a five night getaway tomorrow with

    my family. It came at a perfect time. I think I cried more than I have in years. Now I'm back on track. Educating myself once again to become stronger. Reading about narcissistic men and how to break away forever. I still think once he needs an ego boost he will reach out...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 9

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    so, I have posted stories a few times on this

    site, but, I have since been in a committed relationship with my extra marital girlfriend for 5 of the happiest months of my adult life. I am smack in the middle of a amicable, yet complicated divorce, but, I am giving this a fighting chance. I am so tired of sabotaging all my...
    Rednkfireftr Rednkfireftr 31-35, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm not sure if this a question

    or just a story that I have to tell. I just had a 5 month affair blow up recently. I am married for 20 years in my late forties with no children. I love my wife but she has made live very hard for us. She has been through rehab 3 times for pain meds and has no real interest in...
    phxguy2001 phxguy2001 46-50, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm starting to miss him!

    Why damn it!! He obviously doesn't care. Why do I? This sucks and it's not the first time I've been through this either! Lots of drinking for me tonight!!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Well it's been 6weeks

    since we last saw eachother but we ended in January, his wife taken him back and he went to try sort it out. Why do I still hurt? Why do I still think of our times together, why do I still cry, granted not as much these days, I remember hurting so bad inside it would take my...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Great letter to self.

    Forgiving yourself. Self Forgiveness Letter: I forgive you. I forgive you for continually putting yourself in situations where you could be hurt. I forgive you because I know your heart was always in the right place and I know you seek out the good in all people. I...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 21 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    It's been so long (nearly 3 years).

    I feel so pathetic saying how long. My life for the most part is great. Living in Europe, seeing amazing things, but every now and then I get that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach. The feeling of missing you. Maybe not even that but wanting to know how you are, where...
    belgiumgirl10 belgiumgirl10 41-45, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 44 Responses Feb 10

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    As I look back at my affair,

    I look back at what it was, path that lead to so much pain and destruction. There is so much that it caused between my wife and I. Something else that bothers me, is that I caused so much pain to my AP's husband. I know it was her, and we both did this but I do feel guilty that...
    Notsosimpletoday Notsosimpletoday 31-35, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 30 Responses Feb 23

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kayccaa kayccaa 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Amateur attempt at psycho analyzing my

    affair: I wonder if my childhood experiences are the cause of needing validation from such an unlikely source. My father- in the early years I never saw him much. He was always out early and late back. When I asked him about it recently he said he had... he was starting his own...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I woke up early, made coffee,

    prayed for strength to get over ex AP & forget she's in Vegas on vacation with a new guy (slightly unsuccessfully as pangs of jealousy & flashes of her pretty eyes looking at another the same way she looked at me stabbed at my insides). I concentrated on each of my kids, a fire...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    That's just the way it goes.

    Sometimes you fall in and out of love. Sometimes their doesn't have to be an explanation to it. The love could just no longer exist. And sometimes the love/friendship does exist and it did exist in a private private world for only two people and now it doesn't. I am lost today...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 30 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I have had one song on replay

    for the last week, "A Woman's Worth" by Alicia Keys. Baby when I tell you that this song spoke into my spirit, it did. I have heard this song play a dozen times or more but when I heard it this time during the mist of this heartbreak, it spoke volume to me. MM has reached out...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Pep-talk to self: 1.

    What he does or who he is with is not your concern. He can be with her, or some new girl. If it is her, good that he manned up and showed commitment. If it is someone new- good, he got out of a dead relationship and tried to find his happiness. But still none of your business...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    I SENT HER THIS FOR FINAL CLOSURE JUST NOW: I

    just want you to know how much I appreciate what you have done for me. I never knew how to love until I listened to how you loved Brian, watched you and listened to how you loved Kenny and felt how you loved me. You will forever be a part of me in the way I love others and...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm currently having an affair with my ex,

    I've been with my current boyfriend for 20 months and split from my ex for 2 years, I wish I could say this affair is just sexual but I go on days out with him and for meals and the sex is as mind blowing as it always has been, I don't love either of my men, but I can't leave my...
    Bornsinner30 Bornsinner30 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 10 Responses Apr 1

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    Back from my vacation

    and it was so nice !!! I obsessed on day one with thoughts of ex AP. got a little teary eyed driving by restaurants we ate in the past. Little reminders here and there. I've realized I haven't cried since Friday. So I'm doing well. He is becoming more and more of a stranger...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Wise words ..........

    ......... Yes or no ?
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    So I am officially done!

    Had it with him. Not chasing my damn tail anymore. Been going around in circles now for wayyy too long!! I refuse to speak to him. I'm done with his crap. I hope I never hear from him again. I used to be sad when I thought about losing contact. Now I couldn't care less!! I think...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    I been wondering though in

    that in gaged affair any of you been caught by your husband's/boyfriend's wives/girlfriend I mean red handed I never cheated myself my ex she has to like some stab you in back then turns the knife! How does it feel to be caught?
    Scorpiomaria90 Scorpiomaria90 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I had an affair. She came to me almost every day

    and spent the night at least once a week. Weekends were mine too at the end. Then she left her husband and moved in with me. That was three months of bliss. She was here all the time. We went to bed together. we had coffee in the mornings, we made love twice a day. Now she has...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    Looking back at my affair,

    I find some of the things we would say to each other dumb and immature. My ex AP and I talked about leaving our spouses because we were madly in love , this was the love I have been waiting on all my life, soulmates and all that type of talk. The funniest looking back was we...
    Notsosimpletoday Notsosimpletoday 31-35, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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