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I Had An Affair

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 28 Responses Jan 19

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    For those of you in a long term affair,

    have you ever ended it without an explanation? Perhaps the writing was on the wall or you just had enough?
    pencruz pencruz 46-50, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 86 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    My OM's gf found a picture his phone

    and kicked him out. It was only in a bra....no different then pictures on fb in swimsuits....actually mine was less revealing and showed noones face. Ìt was from well over a year ago, and he was not with her then. She is being extremely unreadable...I think if she love him...
    nitrolove nitrolove 41-45, F 27 mins ago

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    Rereading a friend's experience (Junkfan) about

    how difficult it is to move on. I really identify with your difficulty. I have moments of anger, hate, sadness..... you name it, I've felt it... There's an emotional barrier to leave this story behind. Because I loved the way he made me feel about myself. Because the way he...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Aug 17

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    I met her a year ago today.

    I didn't notice her wedding ring at first but soon found that she never took it off, even when she took everything else off. She told her husband about us two weeks after we first made love. He knew something was up because she was happy again and she hadn't been happy in a...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    My affair showed me I have a side of me

    that is manipulative and selfish. I used to listen to this song over and over so loud. I love this song http://youtu.be/u3u22OYqFGo It was exactly how I felt and when I indulged info to his wife it was for revenge on him not her pain. Affairs make you aware of a human inside...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I was married to a man

    for 20 years. We met when I was 16, got married when I was 22, and went on to have 3 kids. The only problem was he drank and over the years, his personality changed to the point of abuse. It was not physical abuse but verbal. He did things like swear at me, punch holes in the...
    leslie0718 leslie0718 41-45, F 12 Responses Feb 4

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    Well it has been a couple of days

    and still no contact with H. He has talked to our children and has just told them he is working. I am taking advantage of the space and hope he is doing the same. I once read somewhere that Wisdom is knowing when to let go and move on and Courage is having the strength to fight...
    manyregrets manyregrets 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    It wasn't so much an affair

    as it was a ******* or 5. During one my husband walked up to the car and caught me. I thought I was in so much trouble. Within two days my husband was begging me to **** the other guy and let him watch.
    greenmountainmomma greenmountainmomma 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 30

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I started my affair 6 months ago.

    Almost 6 months to the day. We are both married. She has two small kids, I have none. I've known her for 4 years and have had a crush on her since the beginning. I knew my marriage was a shambles (no intimacy or love) and had an affair 5 years previous to this one. I fell...
    confusedinpa7 confusedinpa7 36-40, M 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    As we all travel this road,

    and for those of us struggling to end, cope, move forward, I have come here and found some amazing ep friends. Here's to all of my ep friends. May we all have a fabulous weekend, with smiles, laughter and sweet moments. It gets easier, one baby step at a time.
    pencruz pencruz 46-50, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    So today was a really good day.

    I have a story to share... Ok my friend was getting her hair done and there were other women there. Anyways my friend over hears this girl talking about her friend in a negative way kinda about the things she's doing now that she's single and my friends just listening, in and...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 10 Responses Jan 10

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    honeybee86 honeybee86 22-25, F 12 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 66 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    I believe that in theory we have all

    either cheated or had an affair. Because even if we lusted or longed to be with someone other that our spouse or significant other , we have cheated . Even if it's in our hearts.
    nomar251 nomar251 51-55 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    We have been NC for more

    than a month since break up. I have the urge to text him bcz am worried and would like to know how he is doing. On the other hand am afraid he doesn't feel like want to see my text. Should I?
    YoursTruly88 YoursTruly88 26-30 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Man. Today is hard. Really hard.

    Just laying in bed wishing I never started the affair, wishing we never got caught, wishing I could just walk away from her, and wishing she was here with me. I realize it's going to get worse before it gets better, but when do I turn the corner and start climbing my way out...
    confusedinpa7 confusedinpa7 36-40, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I wanted to write some of my thoughts

    and feelings this morning... Then I realized.. Today I have none..
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am left wondering tonight ,

    why do we get the urge to text them when there's been NC for months? Is it because they are thinking of us too? Kind of like when they pop into your head for no apparent reason? I know it sounds nuts but just think about it. Have you ever been thinking of someone and suddenly...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    How many single women have given their mm a key

    to their home? When did you do this and did it change anything?
    just2night just2night 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    After being with him on Sunday.

    .. He has distanced himself a bit.. I know he doses this ... But I'm a little extra emotional....He knows I'm all mushy the day after were together. Why can't he send and extra sweet text?? He always sends a good night lover text ... Last night he sent good night baby... I don't...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    OK EP friends, what I want to know is how is

    your life after the affair? I feel stuck. I feel like I cannot move forward with my wife. There is a huge void in our relationship and I'm not sure I want to work on fixing it. Have any of you made it work with your spouse? Did you leave? Where are you at after the affair?
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13

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    Today i feel ok..just sick of the thoughts of

    her! I'm never going to have a weekend doing nothing again! I found myself moping, getting emotional, thinking, checking her socail media. The weekend was horrible. Onward and upward, if she wants to forget me and completely stop looking at her whatsapp then i will have to do...
    LionCaged LionCaged 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 19 Responses Mar 27

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 205 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    I'm struggling. I am living with my partner

    whom I have been with a year. I relocated with him for his new job and found myself a new job. He is always snapping at me, putting me down and making me feel worthless. I have this friend who I met through our mutual love for cars and having the same car. There was never...
    pixxeh pixxeh 18-21, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 22 Responses Apr 10

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    Missing my mm a lot today.

    Last year this time, we were together in the hotel and it was the most memorable love making I have experienced in my life. Wish the best of him and I know he's missing me as well. At least I hope so. I want to text him so bad but I just can't and don't want to be hurt. I love...
    sunsetocean sunsetocean 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 17 Responses Jan 4

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    Update: Still going strong with my secret love.

    .. I still think about how wrong this is. Every minute, every text....every stolen kiss and every intense moment we share. If it's so wrong, why in the hell does it feel so right?? I asked my husband what would happen if I ever cheated on him... What would he think, what...
    Chelsea84 Chelsea84 26-30, F 19 Responses Feb 8

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 46 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    He text me last night

    and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to lie in his arms like I used to. But I can't. I know it's not a good situation for me. I can not take the guilt that comes...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 3

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 15 Responses May 27

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    Heading out in the morning

    for a 4 day weekend to meet some friends at the beach, it's an annual thing we do, even more important now that the friends have moved away! It will be different not having MM to text with the whole trip, especially the drive there and back. I am sure I will still think of him...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Regretfulme Regretfulme 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Baddog7 Baddog7 46-50, M 4 days ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 26 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 22

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    I am on a roll with questions tonight.

    ..So men and women both. What do you invest in the most? The emotional aspect or the physical aspect? What would you say your partner invested in?
    manyregrets manyregrets 36-40, F 14 Responses 4 days ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 10 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Baddog7 Baddog7 46-50, M 4 days ago

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    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    Yesterday, my MM should be back from his long

    vacation/business trip out of the country. I am dying to know if he's back yet, since we have been NC for a month. I woke up in the middle of the night and had the anxiety again. I thought I was doing all right and have accepted that he has gone, but here I am again, writing to...
    Ruby2ng Ruby2ng 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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