I Had An Affair

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    Married men, single men all attracted to me

    and then they lose interest ..that was the last time I ever put myself out there it's to painful a true love is not meant me ...and even now no ep to share with
    winterusa winterusa
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 9

    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough
    31-35, F
    161 Responses Dec 30, 2011

    Well, the married man whom I had sex with

    repeatedly had the affair. I was single at the time. He even licked my toes. ******* A!
    NurseZenLiberal NurseZenLiberal
    31-35, F
    Apr 18

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 38) Evan's

    voice mails continued... May 6 345am Hi, honey. I love you so much. I miss you. I want you. I need you. I love you very much. Always remember that. This is for you. He’s singing Minsan Lang Kitang Iibigin (I’ll Love You Only Once) (Ariel Rivera) I love you so much, Gladys...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 6

    Irony of those of us

    who had affairs. So much more peace and contentment in our lives and marriages when we are having an affair and when the affair ends, finding ways of refocusing our energies and finding other joy, comfort, relief, calm or happiness ... It's hard to do
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae
    46-50, M
    8 Responses Apr 7

    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl
    36-40
    12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

    Some could say I'm a cliche.

    Just another guy that fell completely in love with a woman and ended up in an affair...one that looks like it's ending with him being left behind.... Like a million story's, told before. I'm not. I. Am. Me. And THIS, is MY heart! I am living it. It's a part of me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Apr 18

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 31) A few

    days later, I got warnings from Outlook with these messages for back up: Subject : Fwd: Video Screen Shot The lady named Gladys with this email address that l reported is using social media, humiliating myself, violating my human rights, posting video andpictures during our...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    2 Responses Apr 5

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 32) May 15

    2015 I got a demand letter from their lawyer: My clients say that since February 2015, you have engaged in repeated and persistent acts intended to embarrass, humiliate and besmirch the reputation of my clients by sending salacious, offensive and derogatory communication to...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    1 Response Apr 6

    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage
    41-45, F
    31 Responses Sep 16, 2014

    Still do, I wanted to thank everyone

    who didnt judge me nor read my stories with disgust, I am in love with my first cousin since I was 12, my affair has lasted almost 15 years, thats 15 years of hiding and telling lies which can cause a heavy burden. Thankfully I had this site and its members who made me feel as...
    RumNraisin1978 RumNraisin1978
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Apr 20

    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    16 Responses Oct 13, 2014

    I thought with EP shutting down I might

    as well add one of my personal experiences for a change. I had an affair with a very loving and caring man for over 2 years. It was during a time of feeling numb and unloved as well as too much hostility from my own spouse. This man and I decided to move forward together with...
    Sweetangel2013 Sweetangel2013
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 21

    Omg! I just started a new affair

    and let me just say, he's AMAZING in bed!! Lol. I think the best I've ever had. It's was an awesome few hours. I'm so sad to to see EP go :( I like being able to post here. I don't know where this affair is going to lead but I sure hope it goes long term!
    freedomnow001 freedomnow001
    36-40, F
    Apr 15

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part

    41) Settlement Conference continued... Evan: Maybe she wanted some answers. I feel bad (crying). I suffered in silence during those times… (I suffered in silence…I didn't want to hear these words anymore…these were his words each time...he didn't have to suffer, no one...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    1 Response Apr 6

    I posted the following on RelateToThat,

    and that Janet woman deleted my comment to her post, which I'm posting here. This woman is ridiculous. I think we will be wasting our time posting there. My reply to her... "We do not want..." (you will see in my previous post of what she does NOT want us to write about...
    Fmina Fmina
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Apr 11

    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel
    41-45, F
    14 Responses Jan 4, 2014

    I had an affair. How strange to

    even type these words. It isn't difficult to admit those words. It is difficult to relate to those words because I was in the camp of people who never went outside of their relationship. I fell in love. I was IN LOVE. It was Cinderella. It was Bonnie and Clyde. It was hard and...
    daliadoom daliadoom
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 15

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 42) Oct 15

    2015 I received whatever was agreed on at the settlement conference except for my rosary. Evan was the one who wrote on the envelope. For sure Loren does't know anything about this. She was not even on the conference that's why Evan was able to say that he just used me as...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    2 Responses Apr 6

    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63
    46-50
    347 Responses Mar 24, 2009

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 28) A lot of

    Loren’s relatives feasted about the story. I didn’t know a lot of them do not like her. They said I was Loren’s karma waiting to happen. They also told me about her embezzlement. Loren’s sister in law had this to say: i am so very sorry. i understand you. all i can...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    1 Response Apr 5

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 39) Evan's

    voice mails continued... Mar 21 743am Good morning, honey. I love you. Lots of kisses. Have a good one. Bye. Mar 20 243pm Where are you, honey? Where are you, honey? I waited for you to text or call me. I missed you all day. Bye. I love you. #30 Mar 20 836am Hi, honey. Good...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 6

    Most amazing man I have ever met!

    When I am with him he makes me feel like I am a princess and I am the only one who matters. The issue I have is finding time for us to be together! Here lately it is proving to be more difficult! I don't know if he is losing interest or maybe in overthinking. Either way he...
    curioussoutherngirl38 curioussoutherngirl38
    36-40, F
    Apr 21

    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321
    26-30, F
    83 Responses Jan 12, 2013

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 30) I’ve

    always made it a habit now to check my junk email and my Other Inbox on FB just to see if there are other peeps from Evan’s side of the fence who wanted to communicate/harass me. Voila! From my Other Inbox: April 28 2015 Kisa: Hi…you don't know me but we both hate loren Me...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 5

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 27) Loren

    chose to be quiet? It's because of her loud mouth and big ego that blew this affair out of proportion. Loren's must have found out about the emails that I sent to Evan’s siblings for she emailed me yet again. Subject: continue your threats and you’ll get what you want...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    1 Response Apr 5

    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly
    51-55, F
    41 Responses Sep 1, 2011

    so follow up about the younger guy i met out

    with my husband a couple weeks ago. we have been texting, well mostly flirting, on a daily basis. last night I text him and said hi. we ended up meeting for a drink. we sat on the patio alone and got to know a little about each other. he is a very interesting person. his age...
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle
    36-40, F
    Apr 6

    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37
    36-40, F
    16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

    Meeting you was fate.

    Becoming your friend was a choice. But falling in love with you was.... Beyond my control... It still is..... I'm sorry....
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 15

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 34) I never

    agreed to an arrangement that she’d fly to Toronto from Winnipeg just to see me. I never pressured or obligated Gladys to visit me in Toronto. (His texts, emails, voice mails, and love letters show his requests to see me. Our joint account shows his deposits for our would be...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 6

    So after messaging back

    and forth, no in person contact, he's gone silent. We had started messaging each other on this app again about a few weeks ago and it felt nice, to feel wanted. I caved, I knew he'd be messaging me on this app and as soon as I reinstalled it on my phone there were messages from...
    XcookiexbakerXx XcookiexbakerXx
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Apr 11

    Many people comment on our affairs

    as if the only issues at hand, are moral ones. Most of us live loving, helpful, moral and empathic lives, until we stumble/fall into this experience. I have no answers as to why it becomes such an addictive situation but it does. This emotional and psychological merry go...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Oct 15, 2015

    There was a distinct reluctance in giving up on

    my sadness, after loosing the love I thought had saved me. Sometimes when we stop pushing and trying to hold on, we discover our self again. We dig deep and decide to mourn the love that couldn't be. I won't lie to you.. I still think of him and get really happy when he calls...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Jan 26

    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01
    31-35, F
    18 Responses Mar 27, 2014

    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    9 Responses May 27, 2014

    It was fun exciting and hot.

    In the end I fell in love and even though I knew better I believed in us. How could I? I am stupid. I really believed that something so perverted could become legitimate. How cliche! Just like a soap opera. It felt so real and despite logic I believed. I knew he wouldn't feel...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk
    46-50, F
    11 Responses Apr 5

    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina
    51-55, F
    32 Responses Feb 10, 2015

    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain
    36-40, F
    23 Responses Nov 19, 2014

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 37) Evan's

    voice mails continued... #16 Apr 10 1119am Mass Mar 30 149am I love you, honey. I miss you so much. He’s singing Forever (Kenny Loggins) I love you. I miss you so much. #17 Mar 18 733am I love you, honey. This is for you. He’s singing Narito (Here) Gary Valenciano I love...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 6

    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Dec 17, 2013

    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury
    46-50, M
    15 Responses Jan 15, 2014

    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy
    46-50, F
    60 Responses Jan 8, 2012

    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014
    36-40, F
    23 Responses Jan 19, 2014

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 33) They

    threatened to sue. I don’t like being threatened, especially in this case that what they’re all saying that I did were not true. I prepared to sue for my personal belongings and fraud. He promised that we’d be exclusive and he threw away his wedding ring as a sign that...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    1 Response Apr 6

    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44
    46-50, F
    13 Responses Jul 30, 2014

    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23
    26-30, F
    20 Responses Feb 23, 2015

    No one can ever understand

    until it happens to them. As the MM I struggle to find joy in my "regular" life. I'm dealing with major depression because my OW decided that our lives are better off without each other. I must try to readjust and really learn how to love myself and my family again. But every...
    hopeless122015 hopeless122015
    36-40, M
    17 Responses Dec 4, 2015

    He's a drunk. He woke up at 8pm thinking it

    was morning. He showered and got dressed for work. I watched the entire freak show.. So sad. I need to get out of this marriage. It's toxic. He's crazy one minute then loving the next. It's insane. Having the affair was an escape... I'm a coward. I took the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    28 Responses Jun 4, 2015

    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    14 Responses Jan 23, 2015

    After two years of random calls

    and texts from xmm, we finally met. It was friendly and sweet and had a touch of the surreal to it. I wasn't meeting him to rekindle anything, nor was he. I'm certainly not interested in anything like that after all I've been through to recover my own sanity and peace...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    11 Responses May 28, 2015

    “Remember that sometimes not getting what you

    want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” ― Dalai Lama
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 29) April 19

    2015 Just like my junk email folder, I didn’t know about the Other Inbox on FB. I chanced upon a story about it somewhere. When I found out where to locate it, there were hundreds of messages sent to me from anybody I never ever knew. But these messages that came from an Elsa...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 5

    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae
    46-50, M
    13 Responses Nov 3, 2014

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 40) I

    prepared for the settlement conference for more than 2 months. I watched Judge Judy every day. I studied the calm parties and the ones who don't listen to the judge who keep on talking. I learned that to win a case, one has to be calm. Oct 13 2015 Who would have ever thought...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 6

    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Apr 1, 2015

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part 36) Evan's

    voice mails continued... Nov 4 827am I love you, honey. Good morning. I miss you so much. This is for you. He’s singing So It’s You (Raymond Lauchengco) I love you. I miss you so much. #9 Oct 31 1015am I miss you so much. I love you so much, Gladys. Always remember that...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 6

    TWO DECADES, TWO CONTINENTS (Part

    35) Transcription of Evan's voice mails... #2 Sep 22 158am I love you, honey. Good night. Miss you so much. So miss that voice. Your voice is really beautiful, hon. I love you. Bye. Tsup tsup tsup. Sep 17 101am Good night, honey. I miss you so much. Sleep tight. I...
    Emmanjoy Emmanjoy
    46-50
    Apr 6

    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm
    31-35, F
    22 Responses Dec 26, 2011

    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    11 Responses May 6, 2015
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