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I Had An Affair

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 1

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    My update. Today is 4 weeks total no contact.

    Prior to the 4 weeks we communicated three times a month since February. Things are getting easier. I see things so much clearer now. My anxiety level has lower significantly. I'm enjoying life more. It's been nice not having to lie and sneak around. No contact is hard...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    sarahccaa sarahccaa 26-30, F a week ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    Here's some advice: don't have sex with your ex

    affair partner. I started seeing mine again the past few months and we broke up again. To make a long story short, some hurtful things were said to each other, and now we aren't even on speaking terms. I wish that I didn't get involved with him again. I feel like I set myself...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 2 hrs ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I feel that it much more important spending

    time learning how your lovers body works and gets turned on than knowing how your car works.
    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I'm having withdrawals

    and just need/want to contact him....to hear is voice, to see his name, to see him....ahhh I must stay sane and in control!! Rule your mind or it will rule you...rule your mind or it will rule you...
    katness99 katness99 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 24 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 16 Responses May 6

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 42 Responses Feb 10

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    so I am seeing this guy from work.

    not the first. he's nothing I considered to be 'my type" he's older a little corky and odd and not someone others would consider attractive. we started flirting almost from day one. been nearly a year since we met. we would flirt in the most amusing stupid ways. but i loved it...
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 3 Responses May 16

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    Having an affair is fun,

    exciting and a rush like no other but holidays can be dark and lonely when you miss that person:(
    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I miss how special I felt with you.

    You were my delightful secret. My special go to when the going gets rough. Chatting with you.. The hours just pass by so fast.
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    after how many months,

    i snoop the fb profile of mm today and i was astonished to see that i am no longer affected. he looks happy with friends. i have finally gotten over him. i love my husband so much.
    chantal0218 chantal0218 31-35, F 11 hrs ago

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Let me bring a little sunshine to this

    experience...... there is laughter, there is love, there is joy and real happiness once the blinders come off and realness sets in. You will have your happily ever after just look in the mirror and thank God that it wasn't as bad as it could have been. Peace!
    DevineTension DevineTension 36-40, M 1 Response May 13

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    Realized that I missed being bored.

    Before the affair, I was just bored during downtime. Now... it's more sadness than boredom. Who knew that boredom is a privilege of the innocent times. How I wish to go back to the times of just plain bored instead. ??
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    mintttt mintttt 41-45 4 Responses May 15

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    Is it normal if your husband remembers about sex

    once every 10 days or unless you remind him if you sleep in different rooms? Or is it most likely he is having an emotional or sexual affair?
    kimlife kimlife 31-35, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Wow. The ex is blocked Tom my life everywhere.

    He is still coming up with ways to get to me. This time I got an email from 123 Greeting Cards. I never accepted the link. ( which said " so and so sent you a missing you card!") Deleted without opening the link. Then blocked 123 Greeting from emailing me. Next...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 28 Responses Feb 23

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 183 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 20 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I stay hard after I c m.

    . I am told that isn't normal... Especially if I am really turned on.. Is this normal?
    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Well I have got my on place finally.

    Still no contact with kids they want have anything to do with me. It hurts so much living without them in my life sometime i just want to end it all. My future ex has movie own I think she's starting to bate which is good for her she should be happy. I just hope who ever she...
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    I'm ashamed to say that one day shy of three

    weeks, I contacted him. I feel better knowing he's safe. Says he's been sober for two weeks now. He says he doesn't want to talk about the stuff that happened while we were in NC. What the hell?
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 3 Responses May 14

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    How many women on here have had more

    than one affair ? And was it to replace the high from the last one ?
    lostmyselfgirl lostmyselfgirl 36-40, F 5 Responses May 17

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    I hate these roller coaster rides.

    Feels like I climbed the top only to fall off the steepest hill.
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    We met at the hotel Friday night

    as planned. It was fun and so good to see each other. We have been together for 8 months now. Anyways , everything was great until his wife called his cell. He had to hurry and get dressed and go for a drive because his wife was asking him his wear a bouts . He said she...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 3 Responses May 17

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    MM 2... Ugh.. He's back!

    After a short rebound fling.. Months ago he claimed he couldn't handle both.. What's changed? Haven't seen or heard from him in months.. Shows up at a place he knows I'll be on that day.. He thinks he can just come back around? He actually thinks we're gonna start...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 15 Responses May 14

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