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    I had an affair with my best friend's husband.

    ..Rightfully, she was very angry with me and was determined to let the whole world know, and that is exactly what she did. I don't blame her, and I can only imagine the betrayal she felt. I threw away 20 years of our friendship because her husband fell in love with me and...
    tulips1122 tulips1122 36-40, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    Something about the weather,

    or maybe the glass of wine at lunch...Brought me to the Fridays when you and I would get together. I realize now that we didn't see each other very much. Fridays and Mondays before school pick up does not a real relationship make, but it was real. It consumed all of me. When we...
    belgiumgirl10 belgiumgirl10 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 24

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    Been thinking about my ex ap lots lately

    even though I try hard not to, little thing happen in my every day life that stop me in my tracks, smells,songs,sayings,quotes etc and boom there he is in my head again! Anyway I was reading back on some of my post on here and wow that has helped me a lot, I seem to forget the...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 25

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    Still going strong on No Contact with AP,

    y'all. Tomorrow will be day six. I only refreshed my email 3000 times today. It's an improvement from the 6000 times yesterday. It's been hard. Super hard. I was too busy to cry though.
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    My affair ended back in December.

    . It actually was over in October but I held on to him sooo much longer then I should have... I missed the thrill of the affair...but I knew there was no way I was gonna go through that kind of pain again. My life has changed dramatically.. I suggested to my h we try...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 1

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    Today, I found myself signing into a secondary

    Facebook account that AP doesn't know about and that he's not blocked from, just so I could see his photos and if he posted anything. Why am I such a loser?
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    I love her so much but getting shut out is too

    much for this old heart to take. If you ever see me leaning towards seeing her again, please kick me. No kill me, because seeing her again, setting myself up for this again, would be a fate worse than death. I'm going to the mountain to heal.
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Ugh. This ex AP will not go away.

    He left me because he's a narcissist and it's his way or no way. So he put me through a lot of crap. Anyway I went NC and he finds a way to get through to my email. Trying to say hi. Hi. Just trying to say hi again. Hi. How was your weekend ? And then the " feel...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 184 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    It's always hardest late at night.

    I'm a night owl and everything is quiet besides the city noises outside my window. My mind is running, wondering, missing, grieving. It makes perfect sense though. It's this time of night that I'd be cozying up on the couch, Netflix on quietly in the background while my AP and I...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My marriage was dead I met a man

    who was also in a dead marriage. We connected on a deeper level. For us it wasn't all about the physical meetings. It was different. It was much more emotional. I will never be able to put into words how he changed my life. I was dead inside when I met this man. He brought me...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    Great. The ******* found me on LinkedIn.

    Blocked, blocked and blocked. He is going crazy because I'm not giving him his narcissistic supply.
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm really avoiding him this time.

    I can't be bothered to text him to initiate contact. Again I am hoping things stay silent for a while. I can see how bad he is for me and how stupid I was for playing his games. The illusion I had of him and who he was is lifting now. It makes things easier. I could stay friends...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    So there's like one person on earth knows about

    any of this because I was way too scared I would get caught even though Robert (ex boyfriend that I live with) and I aren't together and he knows I was trying to go down to california and see mitchell (started off as AP, now we want more) right... So mitchell is flying up here...
    wantingtobehappy84 wantingtobehappy84 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Going on four days of no contact.

    I kept busy this weekend so it wasn't that bad. I'm missing him a lot today. Some big things happened this weekend with him and I wish he could tell me how they went. Today, he has an appointment with his alcohol abuse counselor. I pressured and nagged him to make that...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm really avoiding him this time.

    I can't be bothered to text him to initiate contact. Again I am hoping things stay silent for a while. I can see how bad he is for me and how stupid I was for playing his games. The illusion I had of him and who he was is lifting now. It makes things easier. I could stay friends...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F a week ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    Someone on this forum told me to **** off

    because I said she pushed him away. What's the purpose of "no contact" then. You don't do "no contact" as reversed psychology???? The point is to move on because you know 1. It's not right, / 2. You are you're hurting most of the time (for what ever reason So you do "no...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    I drove by the park. Stopped at the red light,

    I stared at the bench where we sat under the lamp post. We talked for hours, my hand on your arm, your hand on my knee, kisses in between. Back in the car, I said to you: "I don't think we should see other people while we're doing this, just each other." You responded: "you...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 39 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    For anyone ending their affair

    and feeling like you've got no distance left to run... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uyRj9iwFYCE It's over You don't need to tell me I hope you're with someone who makes you feel safe when your sleeping tonight I won't kill myself, trying to stay in your life I got no...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    Great version of Taylor Swift's " blank

    space" Makes me think about my affair I had. http://youtu.be/q5rhrqYU1iE
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Had to share. I think this is

    so true. Why do u have to type 25 words!! Lol
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    We have done no contact

    before a couple of times, and since I'm the married one, I know that I have to respect that and I never contact him. Every time, he eventually contacts me. Today feels final. I begged him, that if we did this, to please please not contact me because it's too hard for me to...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 23

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bettycc11 bettycc11 26-30, F Apr 24

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 29 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I had an affair with a married man.

    I'm married too. We both have kids. We both feel in love. He told his wife and has cut off contact. Should I tell my husband?? I'm seeking therapy. Feeling lost. I have no intention of going back to the affair...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 20 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    Just heard these lyrics "Don't forget to

    remember me". This isn't what the song is about, but it struck a chord with me. Afraid that my exAP will forget me...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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