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I Had An Affair

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 25 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 10 Responses Apr 1

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    Well it's been a while

    and thought I'd give an update, well after his son have him the 'pick her or me' situ we split. We stayed on eachothers social network site and met one nite to discuss an ongoing matter, which resulted in fair well sex. I have been so badly down since and now I'm dusting myself...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    That's just the way it goes.

    Sometimes you fall in and out of love. Sometimes their doesn't have to be an explanation to it. The love could just no longer exist. And sometimes the love/friendship does exist and it did exist in a private private world for only two people and now it doesn't. I am lost today...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Wise words ..........

    ......... Yes or no ?
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I'm starting to miss him!

    Why damn it!! He obviously doesn't care. Why do I? This sucks and it's not the first time I've been through this either! Lots of drinking for me tonight!!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 26 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    My marriage was dead I met a man

    who was also in a dead marriage. We connected on a deeper level. For us it wasn't all about the physical meetings. It was different. It was much more emotional. I will never be able to put into words how he changed my life. I was dead inside when I met this man. He brought me...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    I been wondering though in

    that in gaged affair any of you been caught by your husband's/boyfriend's wives/girlfriend I mean red handed I never cheated myself my ex she has to like some stab you in back then turns the knife! How does it feel to be caught?
    Scorpiomaria90 Scorpiomaria90 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Inquiring... I know a lot of women in here

    had/have been on anti depressants because of the struggle of current affair or post affair or freak in marriage itself. How did you know it was time and what did you do? I used to have 4 small children to raise. Now I have one in h.s., one in middle , one in fourth and one in...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 28 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 186 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    How do you know your AP still has feelings

    for you after the break up?
    islustorlove islustorlove 26-30, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I had an affair. She came to me almost every day

    and spent the night at least once a week. Weekends were mine too at the end. Then she left her husband and moved in with me. That was three months of bliss. She was here all the time. We went to bed together. we had coffee in the mornings, we made love twice a day. Now she has...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    Just when I thought I am ok I feel the void

    opening up again. The pain comes back more fiercely this time. Searing, tears. I had it under control. I had come to some sort of acceptance. It was manageable. Small pockets of pain... I could deal. Just don't stick your hands into those pockets... It came trickling back...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have had one song on replay

    for the last week, "A Woman's Worth" by Alicia Keys. Baby when I tell you that this song spoke into my spirit, it did. I have heard this song play a dozen times or more but when I heard it this time during the mist of this heartbreak, it spoke volume to me. MM has reached out...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I'm currently having an affair with my ex,

    I've been with my current boyfriend for 20 months and split from my ex for 2 years, I wish I could say this affair is just sexual but I go on days out with him and for meals and the sex is as mind blowing as it always has been, I don't love either of my men, but I can't leave my...
    Bornsinner30 Bornsinner30 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    It's been so long (nearly 3 years).

    I feel so pathetic saying how long. My life for the most part is great. Living in Europe, seeing amazing things, but every now and then I get that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach. The feeling of missing you. Maybe not even that but wanting to know how you are, where...
    belgiumgirl10 belgiumgirl10 41-45, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kayccaa kayccaa 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    So I am officially done!

    Had it with him. Not chasing my damn tail anymore. Been going around in circles now for wayyy too long!! I refuse to speak to him. I'm done with his crap. I hope I never hear from him again. I used to be sad when I thought about losing contact. Now I couldn't care less!! I think...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I SENT HER THIS FOR FINAL CLOSURE JUST NOW: I

    just want you to know how much I appreciate what you have done for me. I never knew how to love until I listened to how you loved Brian, watched you and listened to how you loved Kenny and felt how you loved me. You will forever be a part of me in the way I love others and...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I woke up early, made coffee,

    prayed for strength to get over ex AP & forget she's in Vegas on vacation with a new guy (slightly unsuccessfully as pangs of jealousy & flashes of her pretty eyes looking at another the same way she looked at me stabbed at my insides). I concentrated on each of my kids, a fire...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 68 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    After just a month of breakup,

    we got back together,I know its wrong and Im not making excuses,this year I will make the hardest decision of my life and Im aware I will loose him permanently,but he will stay in my heart forever
    charmedangel1978 charmedangel1978 31-35, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    As I look back at my affair,

    I look back at what it was, path that lead to so much pain and destruction. There is so much that it caused between my wife and I. Something else that bothers me, is that I caused so much pain to my AP's husband. I know it was her, and we both did this but I do feel guilty that...
    Notsosimpletoday Notsosimpletoday 31-35, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well it's been 6weeks

    since we last saw eachother but we ended in January, his wife taken him back and he went to try sort it out. Why do I still hurt? Why do I still think of our times together, why do I still cry, granted not as much these days, I remember hurting so bad inside it would take my...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 44 Responses Feb 10

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    I wish I had never met him

    so I wouldn't be going through this break up right now. I wish it hadn't happened. I wish I hadn't allowed contact again after the last time he screwed me over!! I am suffering my own punishment for doing so. I know it's for the best but it's still very hard. He never gives any...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Great letter to self.

    Forgiving yourself. Self Forgiveness Letter: I forgive you. I forgive you for continually putting yourself in situations where you could be hurt. I forgive you because I know your heart was always in the right place and I know you seek out the good in all people. I...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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