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I Had An Affair

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part. The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 22

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    This post is specifically for those who have been hurt by an affair, or an unfaithful partner. You know who you are. I'd like to say that no that person willing starts and...
    learner80 learner80 31-35, F 19 Responses Mar 1

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant - I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 350 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I asked for a break. I asked him to not contact me. It was not the "we are over". Just some breathing room to give us space. We have been arguing alot. And in my romantic way, I...
    pencruz pencruz 46-50, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I like coming on here and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 13 Responses Jan 2

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    Last Story... Forever. - Not really a story.. just a good bye. I came here looking for some insight into what to expect in an affair and how to deal with the end. It was helpful...
    harderthanithought harderthanithought 31-35, F 22 Responses Oct 20, 2013

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me' - my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Looking at all the positives of my emotional affair ending. 1. I am not feeling as stressed and anxious. Sneaking phone calls, waiting for phone calls, all very stress inducing. 2...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Maybe you're reading this because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    The first time I sneaked out to meet you, I texted you afterwards: Me: Did you wear cologne tonight? Gosh now I smell like you. You: Sorry, I will not wear it again. Me: It's...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Is it cheating if he watches??
    Letmecheckyourshorts Letmecheckyourshorts 22-25, F 57 Responses Jan 12

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    Two Lovers, One Night. - I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 65 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Affairs and marriage two completely different things!!! I want to be 60 with my husband and have my grandchildren come to the house. My husband takes care of me because he loves me...
    circlesnomore circlesnomore 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Looks like I will be getting divorced from my MM turned husband. It can't happen until the baby is born. I never expected it to turn out this way. It's breaking me!!
    blumomma blumomma 31-35, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    " siempre juntos... Nos volvíamos a enamorar"
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    Hi! I'm new to this forum and have commented a bit but I guess it's time I share my experience with everyone. I've been married for over 20 years and last ten have been sexless by...
    AssInTheSand AssInTheSand 46-50, F 19 Responses Jan 5

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    Ok... I know I posted stuff like this before , but I'm highly irritated . My guy went to camp again to fish cause that's what he loves to do. I haven't heard from him since last...
    js1276 js1276 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?" "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 22

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    He text me last night and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 16 Responses Mar 3

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    I hope... ...Every day when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 9 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    He Doesn'T Know - But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 17 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    This is a thank you to all of you who I have met thru this site. Many of us share similar stories. I'm still involved with my AP. I haven't been able to cut the ties. But what I've...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I never really loved you!! I was caught up in the euphoria of it all!! That's passed!! Later
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    I'm in a 5 year relationship with a very married man who recently told me he would "never" leave her for me. I am physically ill knowing this as I have bent over backwards to keep...
    Ineedcake Ineedcake 46-50, F 10 Responses 5 days ago

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    Years ago my pregnant teenage niece needed a safe place to stay after the father of her baby became physically abusive. During that time we spent together we talked and shared a...
    FindingMySong FindingMySong 46-50, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    The Scent of Love It's been 4 months and 7 days since your beautiful blue eyes looked into mine and you uttered those words, "I can't go on". I stopped by the ex's to handle...
    FindingMySong FindingMySong 46-50, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I have an eating disorder and my AP doesn't even know. He loves petite skinny young girl type body figure but failed to realize with me being 5'4 and close to 100 pounds it's not...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's officially over! I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 29 Responses Jan 19

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    Honey why you calling me so late? It's kinda hard to talk right now. Honey why are you crying? Is everything okay? I gotta whisper 'cause I can't be too loud Well, my girl's in...
    Poss84 Poss84 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    After the overly repeated text, "I'm in a meeting, let's chat tonight," I respond: "I'm calling it, our goals are different and I wish you well." Delete contact in phone...
    r0xypoxy r0xypoxy 36-40, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    To all of my EP friends that are going through the ups and downs. Human I can hold my breath I can bite my tongue I can stay awake for days If that's what you want Be your...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 20

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    My MM is at it again... I was with him on Thursday... He was a little distant on Friday .. Then on Saturday he sent a text that said I need me time.. Didn't hear from him all day...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind - I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 46 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    I have been in EP for a few months, read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 14 Responses Jan 4

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    I've decided going forward if someone comments negatively on an experience I share here, I'm going to immediately delete their comment and block them. My experiences are part of my...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 15

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    I'm hurting less and less each day. But my friends here, SO much hurt. SO much confusion. SO much despair. As I lay my head down to rest, I send every spare bit of my now...
    FindingMySong FindingMySong 46-50, M 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Shocking Love Affair - I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 26 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    I have just ended a 5 month relationship with a MM. I need advice on how to not take him back. We broke up at least once a month and I would take him back after he convinced me of...
    dawn8001 dawn8001 36-40, F 10 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't wake up crying anymore. Progress. I still cry, just not all the time. I am realizing that being friends may not be something I can handle. I miss him, but talking to him...
    goodnightangel goodnightangel 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Today it hurts!! :( thanks to a friend on EP I'm keeping myself in check but I haven't cried in a long time and I did today ... Aaahh He said one day you will be just a distant...
    circlesnomore circlesnomore 31-35, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    My Last Letter, That You'Ll Never Get... - Like a spark to gasoline, your subtle negativity, actions and words concerning your discontent with him lit a fire of hope for me over...
    engx74 engx74 36-40, M 10 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago, I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 10 Responses Jan 10

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    I think if you sit back and quiet the fear of losing your ap your heart and head will always let you know when your done. I knew I was done a month before we actually started going...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I am tired of reading about affairs just being about stroking each others ego. Really like spending time with someone you love and or care about should be filled put downs and...
    pjblack pjblack 41-45, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    So after some thought and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 20 Responses Mar 27

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend, I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 13 Responses Jan 15

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    I was poking around online this morning and ran across you. We share to damn many friends. Sitting there looking at your picture I realize you simply do not look as attractive to...
    FindingMySong FindingMySong 46-50, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair... This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 12 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I had an affair and ended up getting pregnant . I had an abortion . My husband forgave me and said he still loves me and I feel I betrayed him. The bf who got me pregnant bailed on...
    Cathymary Cathymary 31-35, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    If only I can get you alone for 10 minutes. Not much, just 10 minutes. All I want is for us to sit, talk, for you to look at me. Today you gave me 3 hours. While you lied in my...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago