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I Had An Affair

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    I've decided going forward

    if someone comments negatively on an experience I share here, I'm going to immediately delete their comment and block them. My experiences are part of my past, they're factual and they've already occurred so unkind, judgmental remarks are a waste of time and unnecessary. I don't...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 15

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    mrmarine mrmarine 46-50, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    We don't call or talk every day our time

    together is short yet the chemistry can't be matched. Our time together is sensual and explosive all in one.
    jackknows jackknows 46-50, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    There's only so much someone can take.

    I think I'm almost at my limit. Which is good because I need saving from myself. The affair is technically over yet here I am, being fed crumbs of hope every day by someone who cannot give his love to me for various reasons yet cannot let go because we are and I quote 'more...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    I had a couple hours of clarity yesterday.

    It felt good.i felt good. I have it good. I realized I had really gotten mixed up with a super dysfunctional woman. I knew I had ignored the signs and was drawn in by her push and pull and that is my part. Her part however, was very selfish. She told me what I needed to hear to...
    mylove77 mylove77 36-40, M 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I thought I was ready

    and let her back in like a complete idiot..im now experiencing all the same emotions as before and feel like screaming at her 'why don't u care as much as me!!!!!!!??' **** deffo have to cut her off after this event is over with..I never have a reason to see her again.. told...
    Greggerz Greggerz 26-30, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Anyone out there ever had their married affair

    partner get caught by his wife and threatened divorce? How did the situation end up?
    prettykitty0810 prettykitty0810 36-40, F 24 Responses 1 day ago

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    I guess I needed to see what it feels like to

    slam my fingers in the door again. I reached out to her today via email. Just had too hard of a time sitting with it. I miss her so badly somedays. I said I was having a hard day with it and she had touched a part of my soul no one had ever touched and not one day has gone by...
    mylove77 mylove77 36-40, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It wasn't so much an affair

    as it was a ******* or 5. During one my husband walked up to the car and caught me. I thought I was in so much trouble. Within two days my husband was begging me to **** the other guy and let him watch.
    greenmountainmomma greenmountainmomma 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 30

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    Well Something changed

    for me today.... I got angry. I decided he used me like a piece of crap and threw me away! I text that to him along with a few other nasty things! I felt I had to do it. Told him the next one may end up being some crazy clingy *****! Lol. Called him a *****! Lol. Deleted his...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 22

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    Feeling lonely, exhausted

    and in terrible self inflicted pain. My husband never touches me. I planned to leave but he is begging me to stay. But nothing has changed. My MM never has time for me. Just endless text messages lately. And that is turning sour too. At an all time low.
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    I know where I am going.

    My MM is a manipulator and so is my husband. My MM manipulates himself by believing he can make his marriage work. No, I am not a victim. I knew he was a jack of all traits and over the years made me believe it is me and I KNEW about his situation... when in fact he is a...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I don't think this headline is accurate,

    but I didn't know what else to put. I'm not currently in a relationship and my situation is such that I can't pursue one right now. So I thought I'd use the time constructively and try to understand the other side of affairs. I have never been married, been close a few times...
    corrigan1234 corrigan1234 36-40, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    He text me last night

    and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to lie in his arms like I used to. But I can't. I know it's not a good situation for me. I can not take the guilt that comes...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 3

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    My AP of 18 months has decided we should try to

    be friends. He has an on again off again gf that went to counseling with him b4 she broke up with him the last time. She then had a health scare and came running back to him. This was conveniently at the same time I was going to leave my husband (at least I thought I was...
    nitrolove nitrolove 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 15 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    My Last Letter, That You'Ll Never Get...

    Like a spark to gasoline, your subtle negativity, actions and words concerning your discontent with him lit a fire of hope for me over the past few months - that you would be free for us to be together one day... until yesterday that is. Your words - "yes, I am for sure getting...
    engx74 engx74 36-40, M 10 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    Happily ever after is only in the fairy tales

    ladies. I was a "success" story. I thought that I got my HEA when I married my mm. That is what we all think. We think how perfect, how wonderful it will be when we are finally together...it's fantasy land! The story doesn't end there. There are a host of problems that come...
    blumomma blumomma 31-35, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I dreamed about her last night.

    Damn I miss her some days. I often wonder how she is doing after her husband found out. Does she think about me as much as I think about her? My wife and I are still working things thru after she found out but it is hard some days. I keep thinking and looking at my wife. She...
    mylove77 mylove77 36-40, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 10

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 18 Responses Mar 27

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 207 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    I am married and so my AP,

    neither happily married. We became friends over 2 years ago, but over the last year have gotten alot closer. Our families were all friends (his wife, my husband, our kids), but he and I were closer then the rest. We hung out almost every weekend with our families. Over a year...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 350 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 16 Responses Jan 15

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 10 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I was married to a man

    for 20 years. We met when I was 16, got married when I was 22, and went on to have 3 kids. The only problem was he drank and over the years, his personality changed to the point of abuse. It was not physical abuse but verbal. He did things like swear at me, punch holes in the...
    leslie0718 leslie0718 41-45, F 12 Responses Feb 4

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    So an update is in order I believe!

    I totally gave up on caring about the last idiot I will call B. I sent him a nasty message telling him he's a ***** and so on, because after some thought I realized how stupid I was being for putting up with his crap! Of course there was no response. However I think deep down...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    We got to spend some time together tonight.

    .. As always.. It was amazing.. He told me he doesn't think he was every the type to be in a monogamous relationship and wishes he figured that out years ago before he got married. He started seeing a therapist.. He likes having someone to talk with about what's going on...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    For those of you who have gone thru your affair

    ending for a very short period of time..and then it's back on.. After the first time your intimate did you both try and keep a certain distance? Limited contact... If so.. For how long were you both able to keep a distance?
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 16 Responses Jan 4

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    I'm in the midst of an almost two year affair.

    It doesn't seem like it's ever going to end. We just like each other. We are both married. I don't want to leave my hubby and he doesn't want to leave his wife...
    crazyinlove74 crazyinlove74 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    This morning I made an amazing breakfast

    for my wife, and she loved it. We made love yesterday and it's always good and satisfying for both. We have actually been getting along and working on the house. - While finishing breakfast today, I asked her if there was anything new she would like to incorporate into our s.ex...
    jrod1 jrod1 41-45, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am on vacation and I miss my mm very much.

    Ladies don't always believe they are only after one thing because that's not always the case My mm has been in contact daily telling me he loves me and misses me and to have fun with my family and that he can't wait to have me back. Yes this journey is hard at times but yes also...
    sooty1977 sooty1977 36-40, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Don't Do It....

    For all of you folks out there contemplating an affair - don't do it. If you're having one, quit before you get caught. This - coming from someone whose life is all but ashes now and the feeling and space I'm left in is nothing short of hell on earth. I'm having a hard time...
    chipmakerchick chipmakerchick 51-55, F 16 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    So this question is for married men having

    affairs. What conditions would make you go distant from your other woman? And would you end an affair with the other woman or would she have to end it?
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 7 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 66 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    So I decided to go back

    and review all my posts about my ex AP and all the crawl and emotions I went through. I realize how hurt I was the first time he really disappeared on me! Wow i was a mess. Not this time so much. It's a problem of his and really nothing to do with me I've decided. I feel...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    Wanted to post an update.

    It got blocked by ep. I really don't know what I did say in it that'd make it get blocked. What guideline did I mess up? I cut and pasted, does it think I'm not typing it b/c I cut and pasted my text from a Word doc? Ugh
    IrishEyesSmiling IrishEyesSmiling 46-50, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 45 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    A while ago i posted about having met an old

    flame whilst out shopping and the moral dilemma i found from his suggestion we met for a coffee. I'd like to thank for all your advice in this and update you all. I managed to find excuses not to meet for weeks, he didnt pester, i almost wish he had as it would have given me a...
    gentleannie gentleannie 46-50, F 12 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    artist7 artist7 31-35, F 39 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 26 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 14 Responses May 27

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    I ended my affair 4 months ago.

    I'm continuing to work on my marriage, however, I am having difficulty enjoying sex with my husband. His sex drive is pretty much dead due to his depression and medication, however, because I know sex is a big problem in our marriage, I try to initiate it when possible. My self...
    Musicalangel13 Musicalangel13 31-35, F 10 Responses 3 days ago

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    Letmecheckyourshorts Letmecheckyourshorts 22-25, F 56 Responses Jan 12

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 10 Responses Jan 10

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 28 Responses Jan 19

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