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I Had An Affair

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 10 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Affairs suck! I wouldn't wish this pain on

    anytime. I heard this song today. Seems fitting. Say something, I'm giving up on you I'll be the one, if you want me to Anywhere, I would've followed you Say something, I'm giving up on you And I am feeling so small It was over my head I know nothing at all And I will...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    He text me last night

    and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to lie in his arms like I used to. But I can't. I know it's not a good situation for me. I can not take the guilt that comes...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 3

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    Today is the one year anniversary of the first

    time her and I made love. Did we rush into it? It was only twelve days after we met. We were talking pretty steady by then, developing a friendship. I noticed that that morning a year ago and after a bit of a flirty conversation said, "don't want to inadvertently friend zone you...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    I feel like he's trying to keep at a distance.

    .he would say something and I would reply but he won't reply or he won't even open my msg tll the next and there's no point in replying now..I'm not sure what's happening but I'm seriously starting to consider this is not worth it anymore. I know he's been busy and I totally...
    sunshineab sunshineab 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Affair is one thing..

    having affair before is also another thing.. and sometimes I wonder.. am I trying hard to hurt myself. If only you could simply 'erase' it from your memory... 'If only'
    SwanLake78 SwanLake78 36-40, F 11 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    “Just let go. Let go of how you thought your

    life should be, and embrace the life that is trying to work it’s way into your consciousness” Caroline Myss She's my all time hero and inspiration.
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 17 Responses Jan 4

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    http://m.youtube.com/watch?

    v=Yv2EW9qcfb4 Sometimes in the morning When I wake up I shed a tear I'm hoping Come the night time You open the door and reappear I can promise to share All my dreams I will dare You set my heart racing when you get next to me Still I dont think you care Should I wait for...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 86 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 66 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    For those of you that know some of my journey,

    here is an update: As the poster child for the boy who cried wolf, I finally ended my affair. I knew for the first time in 3.5 years, I could let it go, I was done and I no longer had love to give our affair. I started distancing myself many many months ago. I can't say...
    pencruz pencruz 46-50, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 26 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 15 Responses May 27

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 20 Responses Mar 27

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    I've decided going forward

    if someone comments negatively on an experience I share here, I'm going to immediately delete their comment and block them. My experiences are part of my past, they're factual and they've already occurred so unkind, judgmental remarks are a waste of time and unnecessary. I don't...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 15

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    She was miserable when we met.

    Her H suffered terrible social anxiety and she felt stifled. It was a sexless marriage. She'd found some relief in yoga and running but her emotional misery was at the xanax level. She kept up appearances but I sensed this underlying tension and thought to myself, "I could...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Holy crap alot has happened

    since I've been on here last!! Finally told the wife i was unhappy, she left and stayed at her brothers..I went out, got far too drunk and stupidly ended up sleeping with my AP's roommate!! Im such an idiot!! Woke up in the same flat i used to love being at, in the room next...
    LionCaged LionCaged 26-30, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    When is the right time to finally say good bye?

    ??? To end it all?? Is it when you are too emotionally attached? Is it when you feel ignored? Is it when everything your affair partner says seems to be false, even though you in an open affair relationship? Is it when they say they can't live without you, you are important...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 26 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Why don't you ever hear about the pain your

    cheating cost others. The pain there going throw. But no it's all about u. Try thinking of others first
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Big Mistake! I divorced

    and Angel, repeat Angel, and married a demon
    Thesoutherner Thesoutherner 66-70, M 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 10

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    Rereading a friend's experience (Junkfan) about

    how difficult it is to move on. I really identify with your difficulty. I have moments of anger, hate, sadness..... you name it, I've felt it... There's an emotional barrier to leave this story behind. Because I loved the way he made me feel about myself. Because the way he...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 10 Responses Aug 17

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    Full of adrenaline right now!

    That overwhelming feeling, smiling far too much and tingling from actual adrenaline running throughout my body! Not from affair excitement-I don't understand that, it's not exiting because of that- I'm just excited to see the man that makes me feel alive!!
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 31 Responses Jun 18

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    I am in a relationship with the father of my

    child. It's not working and while I love him as a best friend, there no spark left. I broke it off last year to see a man and we continued to see each other regularly for a year. We began dating and then things got complicated. The man I had an affair with in the past was at a...
    jagaringenting jagaringenting 22-25 1 day ago

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    Ive reached a point where I don't care anymore.

    I remember reading nothingnetterthanlaughing post before and couldn't wait until I reached the same point she had hit. It took me six almost seven months to be here. It's weird when I would come on here it was because I had to write out my feelings. I am a writer... But the...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    How many of you had more

    than one affair? If yes, do you think you are a serial cheater? I'm having an affair right now, don't ever want to do or experience it again. But I know both men and women have done it multiple times... Feedback appreciated
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 27 Responses 1 day ago

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    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 18 Responses Jan 15

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 205 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    So a little update. I found someone new.

    He seems awesome! Really funny, easy to talk to, we get along great. We have exchanged lots of pics. He's hot!!! Lol. I'm hoping to meet him in person later today. Im super excited! He has helped me realize that my ex MM was not as great as I thought he was at the time. With...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 10 Responses Mar 22

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    William Parrish: Love is passion,

    obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart...
    AgingGracefully AgingGracefully 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My H has made contact

    and laid all of his cards on the table now it is up to me to make some hard choices. The only thing I hope for is that I have been the best possible mother I could be and if I did my job right they will eventually understand why it has come down to this.
    manyregrets manyregrets 36-40, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    We finally got to be together

    after almost two weeks of missing him. I went to his job site and I'm sure he will never look at his office the same way again! 13 months... I never thought it would last this long. Today I'm feeling really good.. I'm still on the high. I love him.. and loving him use to scare...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I was just driving

    and and the song came on he first dedicated to me ... Bruno Mars ... Locked out of heaven.... At first a couple memories came rushing in ... Where we were when he shared it with me, how excited he was to tell me he had a song for me weeks prior to hearing the song..he told me...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Jan 10

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    I know this cycle well.

    A couple of bad days of longing with some morose introspection, followed by a clear flow of lightness and appreciation for stability and peace. It gets better as time goes by. Senses dull, memory falters and hey... what was the fuss all about? Really? Do you remember how...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Update: Still going strong with my secret love.

    .. I still think about how wrong this is. Every minute, every text....every stolen kiss and every intense moment we share. If it's so wrong, why in the hell does it feel so right?? I asked my husband what would happen if I ever cheated on him... What would he think, what...
    Chelsea84 Chelsea84 26-30, F 19 Responses Feb 8

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    I had an affair. He had an affair.

    He's been talking with someone inappropriately online. I've met someone online who has rocked my world... I need to tell my husband it's over. It's been a year of hell and misery with periods of fake "good times" - we've tried counseling. Church. "Letting go" How long does...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 6 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I need to keep writing.

    This helps me get out onto paper the thoughts that I have in my head. This makes them real. More substantive. Easier to analyze and dissect. And thus, may allow me to move forward. I need to think about what I really want. I need to think about what I really want to do going...
    wh00ami wh00ami 36-40 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 28 Responses Jan 19

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    I Pulled the plug today .

    ..writing was on the wall...we both knew it....he ignored me pretty bad last night....and I just got tired of the bullshit....it's clearly not working...last 2 times he pulled the plug so this us big for me...but I finally felt strong enough today. I cried little bit...that...
    1000kissesdeep 1000kissesdeep 31-35, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    "same time next year" love story.

    .wish i could wait that long to see him again..
    luv4get luv4get 41-45, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    It wasn't so much an affair

    as it was a ******* or 5. During one my husband walked up to the car and caught me. I thought I was in so much trouble. Within two days my husband was begging me to **** the other guy and let him watch.
    greenmountainmomma greenmountainmomma 31-35, F 19 Responses Jan 30

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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