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I Had An Affair

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 16 Responses May 6

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Wow. The ex is blocked Tom my life everywhere.

    He is still coming up with ways to get to me. This time I got an email from 123 Greeting Cards. I never accepted the link. ( which said " so and so sent you a missing you card!") Deleted without opening the link. Then blocked 123 Greeting from emailing me. Next...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Realized that I missed being bored.

    Before the affair, I was just bored during downtime. Now... it's more sadness than boredom. Who knew that boredom is a privilege of the innocent times. How I wish to go back to the times of just plain bored instead. ??
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Hey God, There's nothing left

    for me to hide. I lost my ignorance, security, and pride. I'm all alone in a world you must despise. Hey God, I believed your promises, your promises and lies. Terrible lie Terrible lie Terrible lie Terrible lie You made me throw it all away. My morals left to decay. How many...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I'm having withdrawals

    and just need/want to contact him....to hear is voice, to see his name, to see him....ahhh I must stay sane and in control!! Rule your mind or it will rule you...rule your mind or it will rule you...
    katness99 katness99 36-40, F 3 Responses May 18

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 66 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    He finally texted me

    after not hearing from him since yesterday morning. Said he had a family emergency with his kid and was in the hospital almost all night and that he would talk to me later. He told me everything they did etc. So everything is good now. I still feel a tad uneasy even though...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 1 Response May 17

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I hate these roller coaster rides.

    Feels like I climbed the top only to fall off the steepest hill.
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 2 Responses May 17

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 29 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 20 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Smashed up my sanity,

    Smashed up my integrity, Smashed up what I believed in, Smashed up what's left of me, Smashed up my everything, Smashed up all that was true, Gonna smash myself to pieces. I don't know what else to do.
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here we go again... I can't do it.

    . He's still a drunk no matter how much I try to convince myself otherwise... I hid the truth and all my pain in the affair.. Focused all of my energy away from him... Perfect solution.. My MM was my escape... He was sober .., When it ended.. I hid that pain.. With...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 10 Responses May 17

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    Wanna know what I really hate the most ?

    Is when u have a good night texting back n forth, then the next day a good morning text, then nothing the rest of the damn day or night! Tired of thinking well maybe he was doing this or that. Or maybe he was busy, or....maybe he wants to text me back , but can't cause of wife...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 18 Responses 2 days ago

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    So, I guess I've been pretty ashamed about

    contacting my AP. It had been three weeks, and the longest we've ever gone without any contact, and I caved. I unblocked him and then a couple of days later sent a message. Last we spoke, he had lost his job and wasn't sure if he'd make rent. Still half heartedly in his...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 183 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    after how many months,

    i snoop the fb profile of mm today and i was astonished to see that i am no longer affected. he looks happy with friends. i have finally gotten over him. i love my husband so much.
    chantal0218 chantal0218 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    Well I have got my on place finally.

    Still no contact with kids they want have anything to do with me. It hurts so much living without them in my life sometime i just want to end it all. My future ex has movie own I think she's starting to bate which is good for her she should be happy. I just hope who ever she...
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 7 Responses a week ago

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    I'm thinking about sending the EX AP a cease

    and desist. I can't come to work and see I have voicemails waiting and I hit play knowing he will be one of them. And he is. I have caller ID so as soon as I see his last name pop up I hit delete without listening to a thing. But when will he stop ? I almost feel like he won...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My update. Today is 4 weeks total no contact.

    Prior to the 4 weeks we communicated three times a month since February. Things are getting easier. I see things so much clearer now. My anxiety level has lower significantly. I'm enjoying life more. It's been nice not having to lie and sneak around. No contact is hard...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 6 Responses May 19

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    I hate the fact that some part of me still

    misses her. Its been 3+ years since we parted. There is no contact. I have pinpointed the times at which thoughts of her are at their peak. Downtime. If I keep myself busy, which I usually do, but sometimes it is inevitable. Driving as well. Times in which my mind is able to run...
    idleheart idleheart 31-35, M 3 Responses May 18

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 24 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    I was in so much pain

    after my affair. As I look back I can finally see why I put her above everyone else. It's because what we had was not real. I justified that I was in love with her and that she was perfect to make me feel better about what I was doing. For the most part my relationship with my...
    Notsosimpletoday Notsosimpletoday 31-35, M 4 hrs ago

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    No need for me to stay,

    the last thing left I just threw it away. I put my faith in god and my trust in you. Now there's nothing more ****** up I could do. Wish there was something real, wish there was something true, Wish there was something real in this world full of you.
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    sarahccaa sarahccaa 26-30, F May 18

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    norahcc11 norahcc11 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    I stay hard after I c m.

    . I am told that isn't normal... Especially if I am really turned on.. Is this normal?
    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Is it normal if your husband remembers about sex

    once every 10 days or unless you remind him if you sleep in different rooms? Or is it most likely he is having an emotional or sexual affair?
    kimlife kimlife 31-35, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    Question: Have any of you

    or your AP's ever showed each other pics of your children and spouses ? Mine has showed me pics of his wife and his children . I did too in return. I then made a comment asking if she was the kids grandmother and about how his wife looked like she was 60+ when she's actually 44...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I feel that it much more important spending

    time learning how your lovers body works and gets turned on than knowing how your car works.
    alphamale1111 alphamale1111 36-40, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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