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    He called me today. Wished me happy holidays.

    We chatted for a bit. I could sense his nervousness. It's been getting easier to get his random calls, when I least expect them. Still, I had to sit down afterwards, let my heart get back to it's even beat.. Happy Holidays everyone <3
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    My partner and I were

    both married. After a few months he abruptly told he had an epic fight with his wife and needed to lay low a few days. Never to be heard from again. After month of no contact I deleted all contact info. I refused to chase him or make a fool out of myself. I decided I should take...
    skcg1 skcg1 41-45, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Surprisingly Im doing ok with this holidays

    season happening. I was fearing for Christmas to come since months ago, too many memories of our last memories together from the Christmas of 2 years ago. It was haunting me for what seemed like been forever. But still not a single day went by I did not think of him. It's not...
    lostsoul0311 lostsoul0311 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 11 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 27 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    What are you supposed to do

    when you gave your heart, soul, and body to a man for 16 months, and then he abandons you? What are you supposed to do with the void?
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 189 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 21 Responses Jan 15

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    I met a woman on a night out with the lads this

    year whilst in a relationship for 8 years. We started having an affair for over a month, and it turned out to be very passionate. Sex was amazing, and we got on and talked for hours at a time, we just hit it off. My partner found one of the texts, and questioned me about it, I...
    Lonelyman1977 Lonelyman1977 36-40 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I just love Marmelade!

    Merry Christmas Family and Friends on EP. And a special shout out to our fav teacher💗
    GreyStreet98 GreyStreet98 46-50, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Love - This will be the first Christmas in 4

    years that we are not in each other lives. It has been nearly 4 months since we’ve last talked. By now, you’ve probably thought I’ve forgotten you or think that I don’t care . . . I wish you only knew, but what would that bring to either of us but more hurt. That is...
    2ndBruin 2ndBruin 41-45, M 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Jan 10

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    zoecc11 zoecc11 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 22

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 27 Responses Jan 19

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    I'm so afraid to say "U were right" And then

    go running back tomorrow I know I'm that weak Married , sexless etc A million reasons to have an affair But not a million reasons to live the life I'm living So If you read my posts you'll know what's going on So AP convinced me to return Major arguments Followed by...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 15 Responses May 27

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 19 Responses Mar 27

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    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    He text me last night

    and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to lie in his arms like I used to. But I can't. I know it's not a good situation for me. I can not take the guilt that comes...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 3

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Recently, I found an AP,

    she's married and I'm single. She knows of my views on polymary and open relationships. How I'm ok with my lover to have others. It's good to have someone who can accept your fantasies and views. She shares hers fantasies and desires that she can't with her spouse with me and it...
    GuyKL GuyKL 41-45, M 17 hrs ago

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    It's been almost four weeks

    since she left her husband and moved in with me. A good four weeks too but last night she was away. She went to spend the holiday with her children at her in-laws. Her husband bought her a separate hotel room so she would go. I miss her and couldn't sleep so taking this...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 17 Responses Apr 25

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    Holidays suck when trolls keep posting BS about

    not having their families because they cheated when really it's a huge friggin LIE!! Anyways Merry Christmas everyone! Apparently those of us who actually did cheat still have our families!!! Lol
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Merry Christmas everyone!

    !! Enjoy... And thank you
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    http://www.baggagereclaim.

    co.uk/my-books/the-no-contact-rule/ Best book out there for those that need help with no contact.
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 46 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 68 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    Insomnia sucks!! Leaves me thinking of him

    when I don't want too!! Grrr. So wish I could get to sleep :(
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    What had the affair change you/your

    perspectives in relationships the most? My background: I was TOW (the other women) and fell in love VERY deeply with a MM. Was beyond devastated and went somewhat psycho, thinking my life was over when it ended 2 years ago. For me one would be the idea of love or the...
    lostsoul0311 lostsoul0311 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I miss my affair partner

    so much,and its killing me,now he is seeing some one new I cant explain how I feel,its beyond sadness
    Siexybreaker Siexybreaker 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 22

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    So I have a question

    for the men: My AP told his friends about me. I know men are usually quiet about things like this and doesn't tend to open up about personal relationships so I am wondering what this means. He is the kind who has his guard up and is basically a loner. But so far he told at least...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 24 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 21 Responses Oct 13

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 41-45, F 33 Responses Nov 19

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    Well I know I shouldn't have

    but I did. I txt him and said if he loved me like he said he does then why am I the one facing this alone. I managed to day four of NC but it was killing me that he has got off free at the moment as my husband hasn't told anybody yet...me well I'm not getting spoken to by my...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, T 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Fing holidays suck when you f000 up your family.

    I hope my wife and family have a great holiday they deserve it after what I put them throw. They deserve better then me.
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Please - trolls do not respond to this thread.

    It's been a while since I have been on here...a year ago today - my now ex mm and I spent more than a few hours together. It was the 1st time that we spent a good amount of time together. I wonder if he remembers today...if he thinks about me...if he misses me...if he still...
    yogachic76 yogachic76 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    2ndBruin 2ndBruin 41-45, M 18 Responses Nov 3

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    I just don't understand how someone could say

    that they love and care about you so much, and then disappear. I guess that I will always be confused. I also have a sad realization that he may never contact me again.
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 20 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 10

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    I hate my ex affair partner

    so much. I'm so tired of reading the **** that he posts on his websites. I hate hearing about how he is so happy, so moved on, and how I don't even exist (and as if I never existed). Everything that I gave to him means nothing to him, and he doesn't appreciate everything that I...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Struggling Reconnecting With Husband After My Affair!

    I feel at rock bottom. So so low. I feel like I am in a bubble and can't connect with anyone. I am still missing my OM even after months have gone by. My feelings ran deep. I am frustrated that the relief I felt at ending the affair has been replaced by pining. I miss him. It's...
    Angeleyes789 Angeleyes789 46-50, F 26 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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