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I Had An Affair

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    The worst thing about the whole affair is

    losing peace of mind and soul.
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    I have had one song on replay

    for the last week, "A Woman's Worth" by Alicia Keys. Baby when I tell you that this song spoke into my spirit, it did. I have heard this song play a dozen times or more but when I heard it this time during the mist of this heartbreak, it spoke volume to me. MM has reached out...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    These men we chose play games with us.

    They have zero regard for how we feel. Ignorant and self centered they are! Why do we keep going back for more? Like it's going change! It never will. Life will go on with or without them. That's a fact. God how I wish o had never met mine!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 68 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Wise words ..........

    ......... Yes or no ?
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 28 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 186 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Looking back at my affair,

    I find some of the things we would say to each other dumb and immature. My ex AP and I talked about leaving our spouses because we were madly in love , this was the love I have been waiting on all my life, soulmates and all that type of talk. The funniest looking back was we...
    Notsosimpletoday Notsosimpletoday 31-35, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    Just when I thought I am ok I feel the void

    opening up again. The pain comes back more fiercely this time. Searing, tears. I had it under control. I had come to some sort of acceptance. It was manageable. Small pockets of pain... I could deal. Just don't stick your hands into those pockets... It came trickling back...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Inquiring... I know a lot of women in here

    had/have been on anti depressants because of the struggle of current affair or post affair or freak in marriage itself. How did you know it was time and what did you do? I used to have 4 small children to raise. Now I have one in h.s., one in middle , one in fourth and one in...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    I been wondering though in

    that in gaged affair any of you been caught by your husband's/boyfriend's wives/girlfriend I mean red handed I never cheated myself my ex she has to like some stab you in back then turns the knife! How does it feel to be caught?
    Scorpiomaria90 Scorpiomaria90 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    dalidacc11 dalidacc11 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    Pep-talk to self: 1.

    What he does or who he is with is not your concern. He can be with her, or some new girl. If it is her, good that he manned up and showed commitment. If it is someone new- good, he got out of a dead relationship and tried to find his happiness. But still none of your business...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 25 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I'm currently having an affair with my ex,

    I've been with my current boyfriend for 20 months and split from my ex for 2 years, I wish I could say this affair is just sexual but I go on days out with him and for meals and the sex is as mind blowing as it always has been, I don't love either of my men, but I can't leave my...
    Bornsinner30 Bornsinner30 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I am really annoyed that my ex AP tried to get

    in touch with me for several months (4 texts & an email I ignored for 3+ months), and then when I finally respond to him, he talks to me for a little over a week, and then disappears again! He even asked me to meet him in person (and I didn't), and now he has become silent again...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I am officially done!

    Had it with him. Not chasing my damn tail anymore. Been going around in circles now for wayyy too long!! I refuse to speak to him. I'm done with his crap. I hope I never hear from him again. I used to be sad when I thought about losing contact. Now I couldn't care less!! I think...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    I woke up early, made coffee,

    prayed for strength to get over ex AP & forget she's in Vegas on vacation with a new guy (slightly unsuccessfully as pangs of jealousy & flashes of her pretty eyes looking at another the same way she looked at me stabbed at my insides). I concentrated on each of my kids, a fire...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 10 Responses Apr 1

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    so impressed with all you do tried

    so hard to be like you flew too high and burnt the wing lost my faith in everything lick around divine debris taste the wealth of hate in me shedding skin succumb defeat this machine is obsolete made the choice to go away drink the fountain of decay tear a hole exquisite red...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Back from my vacation

    and it was so nice !!! I obsessed on day one with thoughts of ex AP. got a little teary eyed driving by restaurants we ate in the past. Little reminders here and there. I've realized I haven't cried since Friday. So I'm doing well. He is becoming more and more of a stranger...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    The beginning of the real end was almost 6

    months ago. Its been rocky at best. He avoids me because he is afraid of his gf, who is so insecure and jealous of me.My greatest fear has happened. He admitted today that for now he has to eliminate me from his life in order to regain the trust of his gf. I feel awful . I am...
    nitrolove nitrolove 46-50, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I wish I had never met him

    so I wouldn't be going through this break up right now. I wish it hadn't happened. I wish I hadn't allowed contact again after the last time he screwed me over!! I am suffering my own punishment for doing so. I know it's for the best but it's still very hard. He never gives any...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    How do you know your AP still has feelings

    for you after the break up?
    islustorlove islustorlove 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 30 Responses Feb 23

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    So applicable!!! I had to post this to this

    group because I think it's an inspiration for us all!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kayccaa kayccaa 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 30 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 44 Responses Feb 10

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    And I am happy to be free from the lies.

    I realize during my healing, that he was molding me into the woman he alleged his wife was not. Nagging, demanding, low sex or none at all, never there to listen to him or understand him. Not loving him or appreciating him for the man he was. We would talk or text all day, until...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 26 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    Let the " hovering " begin.

    exAP tried getting through with an email. Said " hi" and that was it. Lol wow. The self help books I have read really helped me ! I knew he'd try to wiggle on my life again. Trying to suck the life out of me. Nope. Not gonna happen. Save the bullshit. I'm free...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 8 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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