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I Had An Affair

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 68 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 20 Responses Mar 27

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 354 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I shouldn't have seen you

    after dark. I should have known better. We used to always meet during the mornings as our work schedule matched. After we part our ways we go on our daily routines as if our meetings never happened. We were able to separate our lives with each other. But not anymore. There...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    So it's been 3 weeks

    since I decided I was done. Really it was one lie....that was it for me. I have not tried to contact him. I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss him. But what do I really miss? I think I only miss who I wanted him to be and not who he was. I found some old emails from February. I...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Put it all in perspective.

    Yes we cheat or have cheated. Yes we had sex with ppl other then our spouses. So what? If they did it to us would we feel like it was the end? I think most of us wouldn't because we understand that we do still love our spouses but that something is just missing and we are...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    For those of us getting over an affair.

    Hope this new song by Lifehouse "Flight" strikes a chord. Be strong. We can do this. Lyrics below: "Flight" I've lost my balance I fell from the trapeze This act isn't easy I've been under water This storm has been raging These nights I'm not sleeping My dreams are now...
    Mystery226 Mystery226 46-50, F 3 days ago

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    Update: Still going strong with my secret love.

    .. I still think about how wrong this is. Every minute, every text....every stolen kiss and every intense moment we share. If it's so wrong, why in the hell does it feel so right?? I asked my husband what would happen if I ever cheated on him... What would he think, what...
    Chelsea84 Chelsea84 26-30, F 21 Responses Feb 8

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    Woke up today and decided

    whenever reminders of my ex AP pop into my head I am going to make myself push them out of my head. The new year is coming. What better reason to start fresh? He's taken up way too much of my thoughts and energy over the last two years. Including me writing here now so time to...
    Mystery226 Mystery226 46-50, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 192 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    How do I keep going after hurting everone?

    My heart hurts everyday for the destruction I have cost. I just learned from a friend that the woman I cheated with husband has made her move out. So now I help destroy more familys. She has a young child and the father is keeping him. Man I feel good about my self. I wouldn't...
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Having a terrible day!

    Why does my heart feel like it's breaking!! No bad news - I just miss him! We had such an incredible day this week!
    BluCoastGal BluCoastGal 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    It wasn't so much an affair

    as it was a ******* or 5. During one my husband walked up to the car and caught me. I thought I was in so much trouble. Within two days my husband was begging me to **** the other guy and let him watch.
    greenmountainmomma greenmountainmomma 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 30

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    You trying to come back proves you made up all

    the crap you said about me when your wife found out for the fifth time!! Well crap, I guess covering your *** is more important than being honest???!!! Why she would believe you is inconceivable considering the time we put in with each other and your track record of lying.... Oh...
    stonejumper stonejumper 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    I don't know where we're at anymore.

    . We text almost everyday.. It's always me that initiates the first text ..always.. Does that mean I'm chasing him? Idk....
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 14 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 86 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 11 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Today has been a rough day

    for me. This time last week, I thought things were good. I talked to him while we were both on our way to work and we were laughing and it was wonderful. Little did I know what was coming. I can still see that message like it's right in front of my face.. "I have to tell you...
    Girl58606 Girl58606 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    after many years of unhappiness I sought out to

    have an affair. I had a one night stand. I told my wife about it, out of spite and resentment. things are to weird now between us, no matter how much she thinks it can still work, her hurt, jealousy etc is going to be way to overbearing when I think about how she did same thing...
    Fitguy1984 Fitguy1984 26-30, M 9 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 22

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    One full month since I've spoken to him,

    texted him, or have seen him, and I feel good, free, I don't need him, I don't even like him! it's crazy how when you're in it, it's all you need, it consumed me, my whole life, now that I'm not, I can breathe
    mntmama mntmama 36-40, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 16

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    We're spending another weekend together.

    We've been together every weekend for months now plus Wednesday nights. We usually have intensely passionate dates but she came over the other night and I kept working on my crafts while she lay on the bed reading. We were close in the same room, quiet, each doing our own thing...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Before I start, please know there's no hard

    feelings, I'm not holding a grudge. Just expressing my thoughts. I'm going to hugely regret this, because I know I have come to enjoy your kisses way too much, and thinking of your mouth makes me weak. But when you said leave hearts and minds outside, I realized that means I'm...
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 19 Responses Jan 4

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    For those of you who told your spouse.

    .. do you feel better once it is out in the open? For those who got found out... will you rather not be? It's now over and I feel like I have gotten off with it scott free. Have to keep myself from telling H. Because he was the one I told everything to. Because I feel... guilt...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 22 Responses 2 days ago

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    Before this I was married to the best person

    alive but I have changed here. She doesn't believe in true love anymore because of me. She's doesn't smile like she uses to. She's lost faith in humanity. People like me are so pathetic. We use people and change them for life. I wonder how much damage I have done to my kids...
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    When I first stumbled upon EP.

    I was ok with my exAP. I was well on my way to healing and forgetting her. Out of sight out of mind. EP brought a lot of stuff up for me that I had been ignoring and avoiding. I had been glamorizing my affair in my own head. Not that it wasn't amazing, but I wanted to remember...
    tsohg76 tsohg76 36-40, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    stonejumper stonejumper 41-45, F 35 Responses 3 days ago

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    This song makes me want to cry: She knows

    when I'm lonesome, she cried when I'm sad She's up in the good times, she's down in the bad Whenever I'm discouraged, she knows just what to do But girl, she doesn't know about you I can tell her my troubles, she makes them all seem right I can make up excuses not to hold...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 10

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 17 Responses Apr 25

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    So, every time I read a heart breaking story

    of people involved in an affair I tell myself, it won't be me! And now I find myself waiting for his email and getting annoyed when he doesn't reply... Grrr...
    HappySecret HappySecret 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Jan 10

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    Im full of anxiety today!

    It's really not like me. I spoke to him this morning and then he just dropped off. I don't think that's why I'm anxious though. I'm at the point where if he screws me over again I won't be surprised or as hurt as I was before. Or so I think! There is something else bothering me...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    tsohg76 tsohg76 36-40, M 19 Responses 3 days ago

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    Now he wants to be with me.

    He wants me to leave my amazing boyfriend who has bent over backwards to please me. Who has changed, adapted, went to counseling and done everything imaginable to keep me and please me. I told him today I DO STILL LOVE my boyfriend and that I don't want out. My feelings must...
    wantingtobehappy84 wantingtobehappy84 22-25, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    Are a lot of us 'content' in our marriage.

    And the affair opened a door we wish we could have kept shut after experiencing the carnival on the other side? The roller coaster of love and emotions.. The highs and lows?
    stonejumper stonejumper 41-45, F 16 Responses 2 days ago

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 27 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 27 Responses Jan 19

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 13

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    Question: I offered to sneak out

    and meet my AP Thanksgiving night after dinner but he refused. My AP is single, no girlfriend and no work that day plus bad relationship with his family. He's just gonna end up sleeping at home alone- exactly what he did last Thanksgiving, last Christmas, last New Years Eve...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 18 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 22

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    KARMA the infamous karma.

    certain people have been waiting for me to get my karma ..example his ex-wife but the funny thing people don't realize about karma is there is no said Karma. There is no person that is going to come in my face Nor does it mean my husband is going to run out and have an affair on...
    stonejumper stonejumper 41-45, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 46 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    MM text last night...

    "I do want you, it just can't get to be to much... " Me.."I know exactly what your talking about.. " MM.. "Promise" Me... "Yes" Over six weeks ago he ended things... I haven't seen him.. What am I getting myself into?
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 10 Responses 4 days ago

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