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I Had An Affair

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 28 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 46-50, F 16 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I dont get why people

    who are having an affair are turned on by the thrill of being caught,I ended mine coz hiding too much from alot of people made me realize that theres too much prize to pay to maintain it and once or twice a week of fun is not worth the stress and paranoia
    charmedangel1978 charmedangel1978 31-35, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    After two years of random calls

    and texts from xmm, we finally met. It was friendly and sweet and had a touch of the surreal to it. I wasn't meeting him to rekindle anything, nor was he. I'm certainly not interested in anything like that after all I've been through to recover my own sanity and peace...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 28

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    70 days..still hurts.

    .still miss him..but I'm starting to be able to focus on other things..I didn't realize I had narrowed my existence do much to him..there wasn't room for anything else.. no wonder everyone else was so frustrated with me..my whole existence was on his needs...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 17 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    "I can almost hear Your heart in the

    darkness How fast it is beating How close you are to me I can almost hear How tensely you are breathing Out there in the darkness Listening for me I can almost sense Your skin on my fingers Tension and the fear Anticipating me I can almost see you Somewhere in the darkness...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    Feeling really excited about meeting up with a

    new MM on Friday. Well I've been with him before but he comes and goes like the wind.. It's been over 8 months... I call him Houdini.. Lol I think it's good that he's like that so I don't get attached and fall in love get deeply hurt like I did with... You guys know who...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F Aug 19

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    Hi all. Here's a question

    for you all. When you have had or are having an affair, is there any expectation of the affair lasting long term forever or do both sides understand that the nature of an affair is finite with an undetermined end date (as hard as that may be to think about).
    NJBeachGuy NJBeachGuy 51-55, M 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't miss him. I miss corny / adorable /

    endearing / intelligent / sexy / understanding / funny / fun all wrapped into one.
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 1

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 16 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    So after some thought

    and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your marriage. We seem willing ( especially us women) to be used by our AP for their own satisfaction even at the expense of our...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 16 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    "I'm afraid of changing

    because I built my life around you." I remember how the Landslide song came on while I sat with my ex ap in the back of a restaurant. His hands caressed my face and he called me his secret wife. I felt so close to him and in love. I felt as if he would never leave me. Well he...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    So I read that a sexless marriage makes one look

    for every possible pit in town. Shape, age, compatibility does not matter in wanting to find affection or the rush of release. Once found. The validation, the probe, the examining from all angles and the natural connection, he turns his back. Returns to his cave of duties...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I been in one for 3 months she married I'm not.

    Her husband don't know anything she go on "vacation" she come to see me every two munch.
    Dimitri96 Dimitri96 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 16

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 26 Responses Feb 23

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 84 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 13

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    The morning dawn removes the hidden of the

    night's dark. An affair that goes no-where is an illusion that the Other Person, the MM, the AP lives. Ours is the disappointment to see the coward on day light... {Continuing the sentence, I wanted to say ... the coward who cannot make love into reality, but that opens a...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I just have to vent. I am

    so sick of reading that affairs are always the fault of the person who has the affair. Really? I call BS. Is there anything that my spouse could have done to prevent me from having an affair? Well, let's see... Being emotionally absent and a fg cold fish. Refusing to get a...
    untenable untenable 41-45, F 30 Responses Aug 17

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    I am drowning in an ocean inside,

    but I have to fake a smile to everyone on the outside. My ex ap just proposed to his girlfriend, and I am crushed...mainly because our relationship just ended recently, and he doesn't seem fazed by it at all. How can he be in the mindset for engagement after what just happened...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 17 Responses 4 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 43 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    feeling a little heartbroken today.

    that ******* ashleymadison leak... his wife found out.. after 5 months, looks like I'll be starting some involuntary no contact time. you don't realize how much you'll miss a person til they're gone
    redpelican7 redpelican7 31-35, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 181 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    He's a drunk. He woke up at 8pm thinking it

    was morning. He showered and got dressed for work. I watched the entire freak show.. So sad. I need to get out of this marriage. It's toxic. He's crazy one minute then loving the next. It's insane. Having the affair was an escape... I'm a coward. I took the...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 34 Responses Jun 4

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    The nature of forbidden love is uncertainties.

    I hated that. I hated that feeling of there is no tomorrow. Any promises are just fake and empty. I hated that. I cannot say about others' affairs. But mine was a mirage, an escape, a fantasy, but in realty, in retrospect, it was a lie. I was lying to myself to believe that he...
    MorningRose10 MorningRose10 31-35, F 10 Responses 5 days ago

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I signed up on Ashley Madison

    for less than 24 hours and now my email is out there. My husband doesn't pay attention to the news so I doubt he will take the time to search. I never even talked to anyone on there. I was just looking.
    KandyFoxx KandyFoxx 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 40 Responses Feb 10

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    My AP apparently has a new girlfriend.

    I found out from a mutual friend. I talk to him a few times a week and he acts like nothing has changed. He's screwing with my head again.
    KandyFoxx KandyFoxx 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    LongLiveRockAndRoll LongLiveRockAndRoll 26-30, M 29 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Amazing what a change of environment did.

    I took an overseas job, and once I started the stint, my thoughts of him went from daily to maybe once a week or less. Fleeting thoughts mostly. The preoccupation is with finding my way in a new environment and being out of my comfort zone. I am happy that I am no longer...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 18

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    It was off and on for almost three years.

    And it was totally off for extended periods of time. But it's true what they say about the importance of No Contact (NC). Contact just started it up again every time. Well now it's off again. I never intended to leave my marriage and she's hell bent on getting out of hers. I...
    SeeMeSmirk SeeMeSmirk 41-45, M 9 Responses Aug 19

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 37 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I know I'm never going to get divorced.

    my husband has been once already, and we just don't want to split up our young kids anymore. plus we run a business together. we're great parents and our jobs really depend on each other, we just make really awful spouses. I think we're to the point where we don't even like each...
    redpelican7 redpelican7 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    so ..I as everyone else just saw the Ashley

    Madison on news...my mm is on there... I'm sorry.. I laughed so hard.. all those lies!!! what kind of an idiot am I? thank god at least I can say I've owned my part in this and that is now between him and his wife...she will fund out...she saw it in his email.. he gave her...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    So I'm learning a new reality from EP.

    Getting the perspective from some of you here, especially the opposite sex really hits you like a brick. It's much needed and I thank you, no matter how painful the truth really is.
    seashaker seashaker 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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