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I Had An Affair

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I feel lonely. I'm still doing No Contact,

    but I just can't believe my ex AP had to come back into my life again, mess it up again, and then ignore me again. I wonder if he didn't come back into my life, if I would have been more moved on by now. Now I have to go through pain again, and it really hurts, but I feel like...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Soo as the story goes he did return in April.

    First he was nice and said 'we can meet if you want?' Texted back and fourth my anxiety got high again waiting for my phone to beep. We texted over the next two weeks but only two days. By the last day he was for sure that I had let his currently divorcing ex wife know that he...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    with a married man that ended tragically.

    I was left devastated, hurt, confused and an empty shell of a woman. All that I ever wanted in life was to be successful at any and everything I touched. I have a great career, loving family and a few close friends. I thought my life was content but needed a loving partner to...
    Hunniebae Hunniebae 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 1

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    Day 24 over not a peep from him.

    This is the longest he ever stayed NC. I think I'm finally free !!!!!
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    After two years of random calls

    and texts from xmm, we finally met. It was friendly and sweet and had a touch of the surreal to it. I wasn't meeting him to rekindle anything, nor was he. I'm certainly not interested in anything like that after all I've been through to recover my own sanity and peace...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 28

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE.

    .. All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their memorable "one liners". Covered with innuendos and lies just to have that one more hug, one more look, one more talk, one more kiss, then one more...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 22 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Ive Ben in an affair

    for almost 3 years. My ap says this was never an affair and kept telling me I'm his wife. He was leaving his real wife for me, but nothing ever happened. I am madly in love with this guy. He is married with a daughter. I'm married with 2 kids. I would have given everything to...
    Soconfusedgm Soconfusedgm 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    gratefully I'm still NC with my mm.

    ..still miss him..still think of him everyday but seriously reading the angst from my fellow suffers...why couldn't we see where we were headed.. loneliness is such a opportunistic beast....allowing us to enter into a lair where our very souls are peeled away from our skin... I'm...
    Bancy918 Bancy918 51-55 1 Response a week ago

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    I am friends with my MM (for now

    and I hope it never changes). I want it to last this time. I reconnected with him mid June. I missed our friendship. I was not ready to be friends again, but I am working on it. I am working on accepting his marital life. I am working on being neutral. I am trying to...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    So, I've been talking to ex AP

    for about a week now. He's doing better. Not the best, but better. I'm relieved about that. I'm feeling less guilty about breaking NC. I know I'm going to have to start it again sometime, but now, we're talking, we've talked and that's that. I'll start over at day one when I...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 24

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Dear Wife, Your husband has been cheating on

    you for 10 years with all different women, he never engaged in relationships, just sex. Until he met me. The first time it happened, I felt bad, but not really, it was only going to be that once. Of course, though, it didn't stay that way. After then we got to know each...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 13

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    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 17 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    While sitting in front of my t.

    v. watching my favorite soap opera.. my AP contacted me after 6wks of NC ...omg when I seen his text my heart dropped ..his text were that he wanted to see me one last time...asking me if I missed us...trying to make me feel guilty saying I never cared...blah blah blah...I...
    FindingMyself03 FindingMyself03 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I befriended him on Facebook - big mistake.

    I stalk his page relentlessly - who am I? I google his articles. I message him during business hours because I know- hope - we won't get caught. We speak on the phone - he gives me career advice. I respect him professionally but it's just an excuse to talk to him. He said...
    Lanasawmysoul Lanasawmysoul 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chavacc11 chavacc11 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    why do people like to call the ap women home

    wrecker??!! Come on... So sad to hear people say that.. It's ignorant, judge mental and so much more...truth is... If the home wasn't off to begin with the affair wouldn't have happened. It takes two people to make an affair work. So if anyone is a home wrecker it's the dam...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Been about a month or

    so of no contact. I am glad. But he's haunting my dreams!! I keep having dreams that he's texting me. This is a very recent development and I'm not even thinking about him when I go to bed. I hardly think of him at all anymore. Ugh I just want it to go away!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 12 Responses May 27, 2014

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    I feel as though regret is wasted energy.

    In all experiences there are lessons to be learned and there is beauty to be seen. Although you can see the positive in any situation, it is important that you don't entirely forget the negative. Having an affair is similar to using drugs. It's intense. Exhilarating...
    AnnUrban AnnUrban 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 46-50, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    The emotional affair began in October

    and the sexual affair began in November. I thought I had control of it....evidently I didn't. And neither did he. He's married. I'm married. We both know this will never go any further that this. I feel addicted to him. He's like my drug. I miss him when I'm not with him. When...
    oliveoil0812 oliveoil0812 26-30, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 182 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 43 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    I realized, here women are not afraid to tell

    that they had an affair. And many of the experiences are from women not men. Could it be true, that women likes sex and affection more then men?
    pluv2011 pluv2011 41-45, M 8 Responses Jul 23

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    tessaccaa tessaccaa 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    after I hooked up with my side guy,

    I got a lot of advice about not getting attached. alright, so after another month of seeing him, I'm still keeping that advice in mind. he's not available very often as we both work with our spouses and live a distance apart. so I got it in my head that maybe I should look for...
    redpelican7 redpelican7 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I asked myself today,

    what did I learn from all this? The lesson for me is *Stay the heck away from a married man!* Until now, I kept convincing myself that he was separated when I met him.. his wife had a kid from another guy... she was a B and a User and a cheater.. yada yada yada. Time to fess...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 40 Responses Feb 10

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 12 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    http://www.elephantjournal.

    com/2013/12/what-having-an-affair-taught-me-cami-krueger/ Elephant Journal is one of my favorite sites to read some very uplifting and insightful articles.
    AnnUrban AnnUrban 26-30, F Jul 23

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 28 Responses Feb 23

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    I am so messed up again.

    Ugh. I moved on and was over my affair. He was someone in my life regularly. I'm friends with his wife. He was best friends with my husband. My now ex husband. I'm still good friends w my ex and his wife. We weren't caught. We are still intertwined in eAch others lives thru...
    lilsecret1 lilsecret1 41-45, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 14 Responses May 6

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 19 Responses Jan 23

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    I haven't been on here

    for a while, but I had a great need to write this, just to get if off my chest (yes I know, I am such a girl LOL). • I want someone I can text goodnight, last thing I do before I go to sleep. • I want someone I can message first thing in the morning and wish them an awesome...
    jrod1 jrod1 41-45, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    This must explain why women can't understand

    that affairs have nothing to do with either the wife or the other woman. Men are by nature compartmentalized creatures. Figuratively speaking, you view your work, your family, your hobbies, and your recreation as separate boxes. You eat breakfast in one box. You have...
    UrMickey UrMickey 51-55, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 37 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I recently discovered a major lie

    that my ex AP had been hiding from me. I am SO done with him. This is exactly what I needed to kick start my moving on process. My last message to him today is: "You are a liar and I hate you. Stay the **** out of my life Jason. I am so done with you." So I found out that he...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 22

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    Hi, i had an affair

    which ended last week. She ended it because she said she deserved better i.e. that i should leave my wife, get divorced and live with her. I have two kids and I am caught in this dilemma but she wasn't prepared to hang around while i make up my mind. Emotionally i feel...
    kabe200 kabe200 51-55, M 10 Responses Jul 24

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    LongLiveRockAndRoll LongLiveRockAndRoll 26-30, M 29 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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