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I Had An Affair

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    I have a sexless marriage,

    my guy does not care and very bad childhood. My legs are open for any one who says he loves me. I have the right to hurt others. EXCUSES EXCUSES. There is a difference between open and cheating its called lying.
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    Affair is one thing..

    having affair before is also another thing.. and sometimes I wonder.. am I trying hard to hurt myself. If only you could simply 'erase' it from your memory... 'If only'
    SwanLake78 SwanLake78 36-40, F 13 Responses 5 days ago

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    How many of you had more

    than one affair? If yes, do you think you are a serial cheater? I'm having an affair right now, don't ever want to do or experience it again. But I know both men and women have done it multiple times... Feedback appreciated
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 24 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am in a relationship with the father of my

    child. It's not working and while I love him as a best friend, there no spark left. I broke it off last year to see a man and we continued to see each other regularly for a year. We began dating and then things got complicated. The man I had an affair with in the past was at a...
    femketje femketje 22-25 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I've decided going forward

    if someone comments negatively on an experience I share here, I'm going to immediately delete their comment and block them. My experiences are part of my past, they're factual and they've already occurred so unkind, judgmental remarks are a waste of time and unnecessary. I don't...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 15

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 28 Responses Jan 19

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 36-40, F 37 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm married to a wonderful man

    and have two beautiful children but I have been having an affair with a MM for over a year. It's been a tremendous experience for me, both good and bad, and I don't know if I ever want it to end. Lots to talk about sometime but just saying hi to you all for now. I'm so glad I...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 20 Responses Jan 4

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 15 Responses May 27

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 66 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    http://m.youtube.com/watch?

    v=Yv2EW9qcfb4 Sometimes in the morning When I wake up I shed a tear I'm hoping Come the night time You open the door and reappear I can promise to share All my dreams I will dare You set my heart racing when you get next to me Still I dont think you care Should I wait for...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25

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    Today, urged on by an EP friend,

    I deleted the Hotmail account that I had used exclusively, off and on, to correspond with my OW between 2006 and 2013. In there were the early love notes when we were exploring the possibility of crossing the line. I also kept some sad ones from the times that we were apart at...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 18 Responses Jan 15

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 26 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    We finally got to be together

    after almost two weeks of missing him. I went to his job site and I'm sure he will never look at his office the same way again! 13 months... I never thought it would last this long. Today I'm feeling really good.. I'm still on the high. I love him.. and loving him use to scare...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 47 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 22

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    I have been in EP for a few months,

    read many stories here, particularly in this experience and other post about had an affair. Just amazed, how easily other shallow peoples tried to judged other person when they have read the experience. Some of us, didn't have plan to be the other woman. And some of MM are also...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 18 Responses Jan 4

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    We had to end in hate.

    .. There was too much passion to end in friendship. Our energy was electric our conversations were awesome our trust was trusting.. The only emotion that was left for the two of us was hate... If we can't love each other were gonna hate each other... We could not have had a nice...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    And that is exactly why I joined this website.

    I need to tell someone about it. It is really getting to me. I love my husband! From what I read, this is not the case with most people here. I love him and therefore I am disappointed. I want him to look at me as other men do. I want him to answer my calls when in the office. I...
    zanhaz zanhaz 41-45, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    I Had An Affair Tainted I am new this web

    page, read some of the interesting stories and have seen how much I can relate to some of them. I am not much of a reader or writer in that sense but perhaps telling my story and receiving feedback helps me vent the current situation that I am in. I’m not looking for feedback...
    maidinthebox maidinthebox 41-45, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I know this cycle well.

    A couple of bad days of longing with some morose introspection, followed by a clear flow of lightness and appreciation for stability and peace. It gets better as time goes by. Senses dull, memory falters and hey... what was the fuss all about? Really? Do you remember how...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    Full of adrenaline right now!

    That overwhelming feeling, smiling far too much and tingling from actual adrenaline running throughout my body! Not from affair excitement-I don't understand that, it's not exiting because of that- I'm just excited to see the man that makes me feel alive!!
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 31 Responses Jun 18

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    I am having a hard time letting go

    and feel tormented. For me, it is one of the worse feelings in the world when you want to talk to your lover and can't...or they are unresponsive to your requests...it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it because they don't belong to you. The memories and good times...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 10

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 26 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    "How do you know for sure you loved him?

    " "Because it feels like someone died. You don't grieve lust."
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 10 Responses Mar 22

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    Selfish bipolar sorry moralless people just a

    few words to explain cheaters.
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 5 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    She was miserable when we met.

    Her H suffered terrible social anxiety and she felt stifled. It was a sexless marriage. She'd found some relief in yoga and running but her emotional misery was at the xanax level. She kept up appearances but I sensed this underlying tension and thought to myself, "I could...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Question do you cheaters truly believe

    that when you get caught that your spouses will ever trust anything you say again. You have proved you can't be trusted.
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 16 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel like he's trying to keep at a distance.

    .he would say something and I would reply but he won't reply or he won't even open my msg tll the next and there's no point in replying now..I'm not sure what's happening but I'm seriously starting to consider this is not worth it anymore. I know he's been busy and I totally...
    sunshineab sunshineab 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    “Just let go. Let go of how you thought your

    life should be, and embrace the life that is trying to work it’s way into your consciousness” Caroline Myss She's my all time hero and inspiration.
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I Could Help It

    It started about 4 months ago in the grocery store i caughgt a guy about 23 watching me it kind of creaped me out and excited me at the same time seeing that my husband isnt interested anymore.So i paid for my things and headed for my car. As i turned around that guy had folloed...
    imsweetenough imsweetenough 31-35, F 205 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    Ever notice how many ignorant trolls there are

    on here wasting their time posting under our forum? Why is it they don't find us posting on the jaded spouses forum? I think it's because they don't feel like they belong anywhere useful. At least we know where we belong! Lol. And they call us the losers!!! Who is desperate for...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been doing well,

    for the most part. This past Sunday was rough....another first of things that have changed due to my affair. I had downloaded Maroon 5's new album last week and finally listened to it Sunday. On that album there is a song titled "Unkiss me", that song really hit me hard. It...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 86 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Ive reached a point where I don't care anymore.

    I remember reading nothingnetterthanlaughing post before and couldn't wait until I reached the same point she had hit. It took me six almost seven months to be here. It's weird when I would come on here it was because I had to write out my feelings. I am a writer... But the...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    He Doesn'T Know

    But I'm getting ready to leave him. He doesn't know. The love of my life. The most beautiful man that should be mine. All the promises I made him. I will break. He won't leave me ever. He has no reason to. I can't compartmentaliZe. Im not a box. And he's my world. The playing...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    Tonight I went to meet some friends at a local

    hangout, these friends of mine became friends with MM because of me.....anyway tonight I find out through these friends that way more people than I thought know about our affair. I didn't go babbling and I know MM didn't either, so I'm puzzled.....kind of. We live in a small...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Pity party or what. You can not

    even put your side if others disagree. Telling younger people "Shut the fck up and grow up" No don't say things to older people who disagree, by picking on younger people is bullying. Nosecone, bored, things got stale at home and every other excuse. It's about the thrill it's...
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    So I was just driving

    and and the song came on he first dedicated to me ... Bruno Mars ... Locked out of heaven.... At first a couple memories came rushing in ... Where we were when he shared it with me, how excited he was to tell me he had a song for me weeks prior to hearing the song..he told me...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    He text me last night

    and my heart jumped. I desperately wanted to respond but I didn't. He wanted to see me over the weekend but I didn't meet him. I love him so much and want to lie in his arms like I used to. But I can't. I know it's not a good situation for me. I can not take the guilt that comes...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 3

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    Update: Still going strong with my secret love.

    .. I still think about how wrong this is. Every minute, every text....every stolen kiss and every intense moment we share. If it's so wrong, why in the hell does it feel so right?? I asked my husband what would happen if I ever cheated on him... What would he think, what...
    Chelsea84 Chelsea84 26-30, F 19 Responses Feb 8

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    Big Mistake! I divorced

    and Angel, repeat Angel, and married a demon
    Thesoutherner Thesoutherner 66-70, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Today is the one year anniversary of the first

    time her and I made love. Did we rush into it? It was only twelve days after we met. We were talking pretty steady by then, developing a friendship. I noticed that that morning a year ago and after a bit of a flirty conversation said, "don't want to inadvertently friend zone you...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 12

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    When it ended for me 9 months ago,

    I didn't want to hear about Time being the healing factor, because time was just an inanimate word and the burning pain in my chest and soul could not be soothed. Time was a vacuum.. a void. Being in 2 relationships never made sense to me. It's some kind of "temporary...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 11 Responses Jan 10

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    I hope... ...Every day

    when you wake up, you miss the good morning texts and calls we shared. ...Every night you think about how we would say " goodnight love bug." ...When you see a woman with auburn hair, you think about how you loved to wrap my curls around your fingers when we kissed. ...You...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 10 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Novembermountain, a member of this forum,

    is in deep dire straits. Her affair broke her spirit. She wants to end her life. PLEASE help her regain her footing!! This life can be painful, full of mistakes, yet it is the only way us humans learn to discover our true meaning... find the light again. M
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    I had an affair. He had an affair.

    He's been talking with someone inappropriately online. I've met someone online who has rocked my world... I need to tell my husband it's over. It's been a year of hell and misery with periods of fake "good times" - we've tried counseling. Church. "Letting go" How long does...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    I just realized we passed a year

    since the first actual confirmation of sex, DDay.. He told her we had sex sept 10 last year and my husband found out sept 11 last year....of course he lied and said only five times with a condom hahahaha he's a douch!! Never ever once a condom, raw dog the whole time and many...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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