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I Had An Affair

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    No not really. Sorry to disappoint you

    but you ladies in your 40s might want to hear this anyway. I have been crazy with thoughts about affairs and really any idiot has been looking like Brad Pitt to me since last December. I was unhappy, depressed and even put myself in the situations that could have ended up with...
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I stupidly listened to a " blocked senders"

    voicemail on my iPhone. I should have just clear it without listening. It was of course from ex ap. It cracks me up how they try to dip back into your life by saying stupid **** to make you react. He said " hey it's me I know you hate me but I wanted to say hi and I hope...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 26

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    We had met and got instantly lost in a riveting

    conversation at an evening function. Looking around after a while, we noted the place had emptied. Standing alone, we were the last two people to leave. Time had stood still. We giggled and parted politely, promising to chat again soon. A month or so later, I saw you at a...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 12 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Shocking Love Affair

    I must confess something here that I thought, I would never ever talk about in my life. But I have to admit, I had an affair. Yes I did, and now I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Here's my shocking story..... About two weeks ago, I cheated on my true love...I...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 29 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    More Like, 'my Affair Had Me'

    my affair did have me - for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. it chewed me up, spit me out, and i have yet to recover. we were in love, and probably still are (i definitely am) but ultimately it was my choice to end it - i didnt want to end my marriage for various reasons and knew...
    IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm IJustWantYouToKnowWhoIAm 31-35, F 23 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Do you ever wish you could meet done of the

    friends you have made on here.....the ones who know everything about you but never judge you? We can't have these conversations with our friends (or many of them. I think we all have at least one that we trust enough to tell) ....they might judge/spill our secrets. But out...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Going on four days of no contact.

    I kept busy this weekend so it wasn't that bad. I'm missing him a lot today. Some big things happened this weekend with him and I wish he could tell me how they went. Today, he has an appointment with his alcohol abuse counselor. I pressured and nagged him to make that...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 27

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    Dear Jonathan And Our Two Children.....i'm So Sorry.

    Tomorrow 01/13/13 is the1 year anniversary of my relationship with the man I'm having an affair with, the man I compromised my entire life for, the man I chose over my family when I got caught 6 months ago, and the man I currently live with today. And 1 year ago tomorrow I...
    Annie3321 Annie3321 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Something about the weather,

    or maybe the glass of wine at lunch...Brought me to the Fridays when you and I would get together. I realize now that we didn't see each other very much. Fridays and Mondays before school pick up does not a real relationship make, but it was real. It consumed all of me. When we...
    belgiumgirl10 belgiumgirl10 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 24

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    Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

    I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on...
    littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 351 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    I love her so much but getting shut out is too

    much for this old heart to take. If you ever see me leaning towards seeing her again, please kick me. No kill me, because seeing her again, setting myself up for this again, would be a fate worse than death. I'm going to the mountain to heal.
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Feeling really good today.

    . Spent time with a the new MM man again yesterday..He's so into me, I love it! I will never ever waist my time again on a man that's not!
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 23

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    Still going strong on No Contact with AP,

    y'all. Tomorrow will be day six. I only refreshed my email 3000 times today. It's an improvement from the 6000 times yesterday. It's been hard. Super hard. I was too busy to cry though.
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 10 Responses a week ago

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    Well I heard from him again

    as I expected. But it's been a few days now and it's been quiet. Normally I would be bothered by this but not now. It's been kind of nice. I think I am starting to realize that I was simply using him to try to resolve old issues from my past that really can't be resolved through...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    Today, I found myself signing into a secondary

    Facebook account that AP doesn't know about and that he's not blocked from, just so I could see his photos and if he posted anything. Why am I such a loser?
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    Ugh. This ex AP will not go away.

    He left me because he's a narcissist and it's his way or no way. So he put me through a lot of crap. Anyway I went NC and he finds a way to get through to my email. Trying to say hi. Hi. Just trying to say hi again. Hi. How was your weekend ? And then the " feel...
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    Maybe you're reading this

    because you are having an affair or had one already or maybe you are thinking about doing it. I can't give advice because I have no clue. All I know is I am recovering and it's been a long recovery. I think the most surprising aspect was the emotion that came with this...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 4, 2014

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    I am married with kids,

    he is also married with kids. Going on since last November. I'm addicted to him and our trysts. I tried to end it on numerous occasions because I know it is morally wrong. Obviously that didn't last. I love what we have and love him too. It will never happen between us...
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was

    anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I was so nervous that I accidently locked my keys in my car. He had to call AAA to come open it for me. That sucked, but we still managed to...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 30 Responses Feb 23

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    I am a father of 2 boys.

    I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I am able to enjoy my sports teams and hit the gym 5 days a week. I am also an addict. As nat king cole sang, some call it...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae 41-45, M 16 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    Just heard these lyrics "Don't forget to

    remember me". This isn't what the song is about, but it struck a chord with me. Afraid that my exAP will forget me...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 4 Responses Apr 26

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    For anyone ending their affair

    and feeling like you've got no distance left to run... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uyRj9iwFYCE It's over You don't need to tell me I hope you're with someone who makes you feel safe when your sleeping tonight I won't kill myself, trying to stay in your life I got no...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    It's been over for a year.

    The toughest year in my adult life. I believe like everyone, I have an innate emotional intelligence that will direct me to my personal bliss. The affair woke me up to passion, like nothing else has ever done before. I'm more empathic, less judgmental & more open minded than...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 13 Responses May 27, 2014

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    So there's like one person on earth knows about

    any of this because I was way too scared I would get caught even though Robert (ex boyfriend that I live with) and I aren't together and he knows I was trying to go down to california and see mitchell (started off as AP, now we want more) right... So mitchell is flying up here...
    wantingtobehappy84 wantingtobehappy84 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I'm an affair success story.

    In a short period of time, my life took a direction that I never thought possible. I never saw it coming, did things I never thought I was ever capable of, and struggled through some turmoil...but it took my life in a direction that was best for me. This is quite long, as I'm...
    happyasever happyasever 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I'm really avoiding him this time.

    I can't be bothered to text him to initiate contact. Again I am hoping things stay silent for a while. I can see how bad he is for me and how stupid I was for playing his games. The illusion I had of him and who he was is lifting now. It makes things easier. I could stay friends...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F Apr 26

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    Sitting here thinking things through (I try not

    to) when it came to my thoughts about the affair we had. My husband found out and told his wife this busting out affair into the open, but since his wife found out she has never came to me, no txt no calls email or social media, we only live 10miles apart from eachother. It just...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 24

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    I drove by the park. Stopped at the red light,

    I stared at the bench where we sat under the lamp post. We talked for hours, my hand on your arm, your hand on my knee, kisses in between. Back in the car, I said to you: "I don't think we should see other people while we're doing this, just each other." You responded: "you...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Great version of Taylor Swift's " blank

    space" Makes me think about my affair I had. http://youtu.be/q5rhrqYU1iE
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    Two Lovers, One Night.

    I'm afraid this is going to make me sound slutty. That is not really the case, i have just had weak moments in my life. I’m going to leave a lot of the mundane details out of this story to make it more interesting. This did happen several years ago but by highlighting the...
    emstioy emstioy 46-50, F 67 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Been thinking about my ex ap lots lately

    even though I try hard not to, little thing happen in my every day life that stop me in my tracks, smells,songs,sayings,quotes etc and boom there he is in my head again! Anyway I was reading back on some of my post on here and wow that has helped me a lot, I seem to forget the...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 25

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    Great. The ******* found me on LinkedIn.

    Blocked, blocked and blocked. He is going crazy because I'm not giving him his narcissistic supply.
    timetochange2 timetochange2 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Day 11 NC. My god, I miss him.

    I normally don't remember my dreams, but he's been invading them lately. I'm trying my best to keep a happy face on. I feel like the despair comes in waves and sometimes my whole body aches. When we were together on the best of days, I felt like my heart was warm and about to...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I had an affair with my best friend's husband.

    ..Rightfully, she was very angry with me and was determined to let the whole world know, and that is exactly what she did. I don't blame her, and I can only imagine the betrayal she felt. I threw away 20 years of our friendship because her husband fell in love with me and...
    tulips1122 tulips1122 36-40, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    My Husband's Best Freind

    I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split...
    hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    An affair... The beginning: The best part.

    The getting to know each other, the can't get enough, the spark, the passion, the excitement, the fun, the romance, the constant communication, you won't fall in love The middle: Still passionate, still exciting, still fun, still communicating regularly, the romance is still...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 22, 2014

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    My marriage was dead I met a man

    who was also in a dead marriage. We connected on a deeper level. For us it wasn't all about the physical meetings. It was different. It was much more emotional. I will never be able to put into words how he changed my life. I was dead inside when I met this man. He brought me...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    I have come full circle with my affair.

    .. This was the most beautiful yet unhealthiest relationship I have ever engaged in.... I trashed my self esteem, my morals and my heart for this relationship. I loved with every fiber in my body and every cell of my brain yet I was slowly reduced to a friend with no possibility...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    WOW! My ex ap says he still loves me

    and is going to show up at my house one day, and it's up to me whether I open the door or not. Oh, and when I thought he had disappeared recently, he actually had just gone on vacation. I'm just so bad with NC! The longest I went was 103 days, and then I broke NC. I really think...
    broken418 broken418 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 25

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    My affair ended back in December.

    . It actually was over in October but I held on to him sooo much longer then I should have... I missed the thrill of the affair...but I knew there was no way I was gonna go through that kind of pain again. My life has changed dramatically.. I suggested to my h we try...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 26

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    I'm really avoiding him this time.

    I can't be bothered to text him to initiate contact. Again I am hoping things stay silent for a while. I can see how bad he is for me and how stupid I was for playing his games. The illusion I had of him and who he was is lifting now. It makes things easier. I could stay friends...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 26

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    It's officially over!

    I saw his true side and I finally was strong enough to end it. I am hurting but relieved at the same time. This has definitely been a learning experience for me. :( I know in time I will get stronger each and everyday. Thank you to all to my EP friends for your support and...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 25 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    It's always hardest late at night.

    I'm a night owl and everything is quiet besides the city noises outside my window. My mind is running, wondering, missing, grieving. It makes perfect sense though. It's this time of night that I'd be cozying up on the couch, Netflix on quietly in the background while my AP and I...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 28

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an

    insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...might not agree with our actions but never judge someone before you know the entire story....so here it goes... We are human...we are daughters...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 39 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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