I Had An Affair Forum & Chat Board | No Happy Stories?

I am a woman who's considering having an affair. I came here to learn about other people's experiences -specifically from a woman's perspective but to be honest it's starting to get a little depressing.
Most of the stories just describe heartache and misery. :(
Why would anybody want to have an affair if it's so awful?
Or are the people that enjoy theirs busy having fun while the ones with bad experiences have time to write about it?

 

I don't know if your question has been answered, but I will give you my two cents worth.

I've had a few affairs, and I can say I have not regretted any of them.  But there are caveats and it definitely is not for everyone, or even anytime.

My involvement with two women at one time was mainly due to my lack of self indulgence; but I don't care....rather, I have learned not to feel guilty about it.  I have come to understand why I want it, and that takes away from the stigma of affairs for me.

Let me share a  few thoughts from my experience (none of which have come to back to bite me--although they have at times caused me to fear for my primary relationship.

1) You must be in love with your primary, or at least be willing to stay in a committed relationship with them.  If this is not the case then you are "dating" and will eventually find someone that you will want to leave your husband for.

2) Understand that your affair may be discovered, and that WILL cause serious changes into your life.  Consider that it may affect you financially, your parents, your children, your friends, your job.  It may affect you in ways you cannot imagine.

3) At some point, you will be ALMOST discovered, and this will cause you an unbelievable amount of stress for some time.  Nothing may come of it, but believe me, it's NO FUN.

4) You must be strong enough to find the right partner in crime and put aside those that are dangerous.  You must be patient to find the right times to get together.  You must be conscious of details.  You must know how to fabricate plausible stories, or when to shut up!

5) You must be patient to wait for all the above to coincide.  It is like crossing a multi-lane highway.  You have to wait for the all clear or you will lose.

Having said that, I have never felt greater rush of satisfaction about all aspects of sex with a woman other than my wife (or gf).  The feeling of total animal instinct and urges being satiated it awesome..

I you want to know more, friend me, and I can discuss it more in detail.  Good-luck!!!  I would love to share details with you and tell you about situations I have found myself in so that you can avoid them.

 

Oh, I have lots of happy stories.... This past year has been the rollercoster of a lifetime. There has been unimaginable (straight out of a movOh, I have lots of happy stories.... This past year has been the rollercoster of a lifetime. There has been unimaginable (straight out of a movie) romance, there has been some downright heart-breaking can't eat, cant sleep, or in my case sleep all the time, wake up crying fall asleep crying…. Just pure hoplesness. BUT on the flip side….. The sex can go from XXX rated ***** style sex to the hottest most passionet (but still romantic) love-making sex. Either way, it's the best sex you'll have ever have…. And if it's not then get the hell out of the affair, it's not worth it!!! LOL
The excitement, the drama, the danger… it's fun….. but the disapointment when he cancelles plans, feeling that you're not a important when he doesn't call, the pain of wondering if he and his wife are in bed together at that moment, and the FACT (cause it is a FACT) that only about 1% - 2% of men leave their wives for another women AND don't think that your going to be smart and make sure he gets caught by his wife because guess what 85% (+/- ) of wives stay with their cheating husbands after they've been caught. So as long as you go into the affair KNOWING that all it will EVER be is an affair, and that you are not his #1 girl and you are NOT his #1 priority, then you will should be just fine.
I tell you what through, it feels damn good when you get a call or text at 3:00 am and he asks if he can meet you early before work because he can't stop thinking about you…. You know his wife is sleeping right next to him… he could just get his needs taken care of real quick by her (and don’t fool yourself, when he says he isn't having sex with his wife, he is) But, he craves you, he wants to see you, touch you, smell you..... It's the best feeling (but it's short lived because he'll do somethng later and it will hurt your feelings)
Just be prepaired to cry your eyes out, Love like you've never loved before, be happier than you thought you could be, Thank God for the oppertunity then regret everything you've done..... and then repete all those things I just said about 5-6 times and you'll be golden :) Good Luck

 

Happy stories here too...and it is always a rollercoaster. Catch a person at the wrong time, and the story is horrible. Catch them at another, and it is incredible. I believe it is the nature of the human condition.

I think part of the reason so many affair stories are tragic and "a little depression," as you put it, is that we struggle with who we should be and what others think of us. Many imagine worse case scenarios and it chews at us.

As someone who went through his share of affairs and had one blow up, it gets ugly...but not as ugly as I thought it would be. And not nearly as bad as the life I was leading before that an affair showed me how to escape.

If I learned something, it was how to keep it a secret until I could deal with it on my terms ;-)

 

I am having an affair and am loving it. I've also had previous affairs and they were great! Just know who you are, what you want and what you want from having an affair would be my advice, be honest with yourself and the person you are potentially going to have an affair with.

 

Ha ha that's probably true. But let me tell you, they will be here one day very soon. It will ALWAYS end up bad. That is if you truly love your partner. Now if you're are no longer in love then cheating may be a way out of the bad relationship. If you love the person your with, then get cheating out of your head. Focus on something dirty to do WITH your partner.