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I Had An Emotional Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 191 People

    I Loved You And It Was Wrong

    You were close to my wife, and I barely knew you before that night. Through serendipity, we ended up alone at a party together. Before that night, I had never seen you open up before. My feelings were walled off. I was shy, afraid, and quick to judge. You were the same. We were...
    JimGreen JimGreen
    26-30, M
    9 Responses Apr 11, 2011

    I Had An Emotional Affair, Now It Is Over And I Am Heartbroken

    Wow! I thought I was all alone and then I find this forum and see that so many people have had a similar experience. It is very helpful to hear I'm not crazy for letting this happen. It is even more helpful to hear that others who have been through it have gotten past it. Here...
    soconfused31 soconfused31
    41-45, F
    13 Responses Jan 30, 2011

    My Emotional Affair

    I've come here because I've finally been able to put a name to what's been happening to me. I've been caught up in an emotional affair for 4 years and I have reached the end. I'm worn out, I'm drained and I'm desperately looking for a way to break free. I hadn't been looking for...
    Debbsy Debbsy
    51-55, F
    Nov 21, 2013

    I'm Having An Emotional Affair

    I've been married to an emotionally abusive (and once physically abusive) alcoholic for almost 18 years.  I regret ever going out with him, let alone marrying him.  I've been in counseling for three years, trying to find the courage to divorce him.  Not that this...
    everydaymatters everydaymatters
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Jun 22, 2009

    His Emotional Affair Or Was It?

    I am a wreck.....I discovered on my own that my husband has been having weekly conversations for 6 years with a woman that I didn't know existed. The cover-up and lies that followed really showed me a man I didn't know! If I can believe him ( and her as I called her too) they...
    Broken1028 Broken1028
    2 Responses Jan 27, 2012

    Tired Of It

    An emotional affair is exciting since it's "more than just sex." It qualifies as cheating on a partner or spouse, since you are hiding it from them and are thrilled and ashamed of what you are doing. So, in all of my primary relationships, I've made it clear that I will be...
    auroramaru auroramaru
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jun 12, 2013

    Help Me

    I am a mom of 3 and am married to guy who loves me more than I could ever hope. A year ago we started to go through some financial issues and an old frhigh school friend messaged me through facebook. We started to talk daily and became connected quick. By one month in we were...
    jenleake jenleake
    41-45, F
    Oct 11, 2013

    I Didn't Mean To

    I have been involved in an emotional affair for the past year. I had what I thought was a good marriage and was happy. I had been married for 27 years and have 4 kids. I met a man while on a cruise with my mother, cousin and aunt. I thought he was interested in my cousin who...
    Inevermeantto Inevermeantto
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Nov 20, 2012

    Happened So Quickly???

    Where do I start? I am still wondering how it all happened. Perhaps writing and sharing some thoughts might shed some light to the situation. First, about me. I am very analytical in nature. I tend not to get caught up in any hype or fads, and I certainly look into all...
    dexterv dexterv
    5 Responses May 20, 2011

    Here is my story: About 3 months ago I met this

    man in my support group. We had talked after the meeting and I thought gee this is nice to be able to relate to someone who is growing and working on themselves. We then later talked and I told him that I struggle with certain things. He said well if you need someone to talk to...
    sunsway sunsway
    41-45, F
    Jan 7, 2014

    As many of you will understand,

    I have spent more time reflecting upon how I ended up as an emotional wreck after a relationship breakdown - almost drove myself insane as a result! Last week I was having a particularly bad time (emotionally) and I sent him an email requesting that he meet me - he did. Rather...
    Sorrowed Sorrowed
    51-55, F
    Mar 16, 2014

    Need Advice - Emotional Affair?

    Hello to make a long story short my wife is addicted to FB. She has several "close" male friends. They chat daily if not hourly. The iphone is welded to my wife's hand. We fight about this "addiction" from time to time. She has called some of the men and they call her. I would...
    boyohboy1a boyohboy1a
    51-55, M
    Sep 30, 2013

    I am currently fighting

    for my relationship after having an emotional affair with one of my friends. My partner found out about the affair and I ended it abruptly. I didn't realize how bad it had gotten until he found out. We were in a bit of a rut, and I clung to my 'friend' for the emotional intimacy...
    AlexArcher AlexArcher
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2014

    Now And Then And Now

    Looking out the nighttime windowinto darkand emptiness  Completely done with dinner’s messThinking to myselfBetween the what I finished nowand what I will do next  There was a spaceWithin my mindThat let a memory in  Another nightAnother placeAnd you were thereWith meAnd as...
    whenif whenif
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2011

    EA With An Ex... Hurt My Spouse...

    I have been with my spouse (unmarried) for 12 years. We have one grown child together (long story and not relevant). I have been very sad and lonely for many years. He was not supportive or attentive or affectionate which is why I never married him. I held on for years hoping I...
    celestasphery celestasphery
    36-40, F
    May 16, 2013

    What If It Wasn't An Affair?

    I need perspective and this seems like a good place to get it, maybe? I'm 28 and have known A&M for the past 4 years. I met them in our small town through mutual friends and babysat their 2 small kids before we became friends. A (the wife) and I were in a prayer group together...
    Voi28 Voi28
    1 Response Apr 1, 2013

    May Be Over Thinking ... Need Some Honest Perspective

    This story is long and complicated . Please ask me any questions ... So I may get the best advice. - I have been married almost 8 years , together 9 . - I have to be honest that I am not sure I was ever in love with my husband. - I respect him and am loyal , he is a good man...
    CNella CNella
    31-35, F
    Aug 12, 2013

    This was a low point in my life.

    As soon as I saw what was happening, I confessed and broke it off. It has made my marriage stronger,if only because we were pushed into putting the work in when we needed to.
    SunnyAndJoyful SunnyAndJoyful
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 6, 2014

    I am telling my story

    because I am so desperately emotional and have no one to talk to about how I feel. I don't want judgements just understanding. I married very young to escape an abusive home. I have been married for 29 years but about 2 years ago I felt very alone in my marriage and contacted...
    Kaz2014 Kaz2014
    1 Response Mar 28, 2014

    Five years ago I started an affair with a

    married man - this relationship dwindled (on his part) and I have been left feeling very foolish. Initially I provided friendship and support to this man as he was (and remains) in an abusive relationship (his wife has a personality disorder - subjecting her husband to physical...
    Sorrowed Sorrowed
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2014

    What Am I Doing?!?

    I am in the middle of what I believe to be an emotional affair. I'll start off by stating I am a single twenty something year old man with a good head on my shoulders. My story is unlike any I have read so I need advice. Over 7 weeks ago I was texted by my best friends wife that...
    RG172 RG172
    5 Responses Jul 23, 2011

    I Had An Emotional Affair, Now It Is Over And I'm Heartbroken – Revisited

    It has been 521 days since the last time I talked to the man I had my emotional affair with (see previous story). I thought it was time for an update. My world is completely different now and all the pain was well worth the reward on the other end. The affair ended in January...
    soconfused31 soconfused31
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Jun 22, 2012

    Emotional Affair With My Boss

    Since last October I have fallen for my boss. I didn't mean for it to happen at all. One Friday afternoon he came over to me and we did some strange eye contact thing and neither of us could look away. I have felt a growing obsession with him ever since then. He is married...
    danny3000 danny3000
    May 28, 2013

    Just Finished An Emotional Affair, Part Two

    So we began emailing and I quickly realized that one of the reasons I contacted her again was to fix an old wrong.  Back in 1973, I never told her how I felt about her.  Never told her that I loved her.  I let her go too easily and I ...
    3deweys 3deweys
    8 Responses Mar 13, 2009

    I Can'T Forget Somebody!!!!

    I'm married and we are happy. I found myself getting involved with a man that I have known for years and never even thought about like this, we have been friends for 12 years he is married with kids as am I, and we are all friends ( takeaways together, meals out, drinking nights...
    Khloe43 Khloe43
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 25, 2013


    I don't know how it all happened.  I even told my husband.  His repsonse was "Just don't give him anything that's mine and we'll be ok."  Really?  WTF man!?!? Maybe it's because my husband would rather play cards or computer games than spend any real time...
    ChristineJones ChristineJones
    31-35, F
    11 Responses May 7, 2010

    Update On My Emotional Affair

    Tomorrow will be two months and four days since D and I broke off our relationship. I have intentionally not posted an update until now. Tomorrow, I will see her for the second time since our affair ended. I hope I am ready and emotionally prepared. I still love her. She is my...
    a330ford a330ford
    46-50, M
    1 Response Feb 24, 2013

    I'Ve Been Caught

    I got caught last night. History - We separated 1 year ago due to stress and fights. I wanted it over then I felt the love we had was dead then, after 10 years it hurt but it was something I had excepted. My husband wanted to try again after telling me he had been working on...
    BreakingHearts80 BreakingHearts80
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2013


    I am married with two kids. My husband and I had been going through a rough time for two years. Out marriage had been so easy and no fighting for about 7 years. Then all of a sudden my husband became so mean. Not just at me, but he could anything negative and became so hateful...
    1 Response Jan 9, 2013

    It started with a friendship.

    That's all I wanted. But then I found myself "in love" and there was the occasional kissing. He was married. I was married. He made the first move despite me constantly saying I didn't want this and I found myself to be very weak because I let this happen. This only lasted for...
    Mockingbird85 Mockingbird85
    1 Response Apr 30, 2014

    Set My Heart Free

    Can life for me ever really be the same After playing the emotional affair game? A happy and content mother and wife Someone happy, carefree, and enjoying life. My husband loves me and treats me so kind, Why do thoughts of you control my mind, I want to move on and forget what we...
    dare2love dare2love
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Apr 24, 2011

    Understanding An End To An Emotional Affair....

    My first love from HS contacted me several months ago. It started out friendly, but then shortly developed into sharing more and more..We had not seen or spoken to one another prior to this since HS (about 30 years). He is married to wife #2 and I have been married for over 20...
    PL466 PL466
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Aug 10, 2011

    Im Having An Emotional Affair

    Im married and having an emotional affair. It started out as just reconnecting with an old friend from high school, that moved away. It had been 20 some odd yrs since I had seen him, but I had always had him in the back of my mind. I always wondered what had happened to him. We...
    HurtingB HurtingB
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jun 15, 2010

    And I Refuse To Be Sorry.

    i wont be sorry because when you are sorry i think it means you regret what you did and i do not.  i have written about him before, but so you don't have to go back i will re-cap.  i met C. at work. i was asked to train him. and honestly all i thought was 'mmm nice eye candy...
    darlinsam darlinsam
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 5, 2011

    Her Smile

    She has a smile that captivates and when you see it, it warms your soul But when she frowns, she is so fargone, forlorn Those who know her try and bring it back, and it is there for a while Oh what they do, just to see that smile It radiates what is good, and what is inside...
    PL466 PL466
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 9, 2013

    Can't Get Over My Online Affair

    I am married with kids... I would say I have a very good marriage, my husband is attentive and a great dad. I think this mostly had to do with me, being a stay at home mom for a while now and feeling unfulfilled. I also had a very scary health ordeal a few years back which...
    hanvan2 hanvan2
    1 Response Jul 1, 2009

    My New Ea: Its Like A Drug

    I have never been the cheating type, but after trying relentlessly to repair my abusive and very cold marriage- of ten years I have fallen into the social media trap of initiating an emotional affair. It had actually started about a year ago, although I had not realized it. It...
    Brokenwinged39 Brokenwinged39
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 2, 2013

    An Affair Half A World Away.....

    My first boyfriend in high school moved to another city, and then another state but we remained best friends and we were always on and off again. The last time we were together I met a man. This man swept me off my feet, since my ex and I were always long distance I forgot about...
    MiAMaYtE MiAMaYtE
    26-30, F
    Oct 1, 2013

    With a man I met online.

    Purely by chance you think these things happen but we probably gravitated towards each other being of a similar stage in our lives and marriages. It lasted for several years during which we grew extremely close and I came to love, trust and depend on him. We would text every day...
    anncat anncat
    2 Responses Feb 27, 2015

    Emotional Affair Is Already Rocking Me To My Core....(.brand New To Ep)

    Hi, My name is Veronica I am a 37 year old college senior with one great almost 7 year old son. Well here is  the Start of what I think is going to be a long ride. I met this Married friend of mine in classes about two years ago, he is 30. I noticed him along time ago but due...
    Veronica27x Veronica27x
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2011

    I had an emotional affair.

    If my partner would have lived closer to me it most certainly have been a physical affair too. It happened very subtlety, an old crush from High School sending a message on Facebook catching up, wishing me a happy holiday season. Then filling me in on his life, the highs and...
    Raven57 Raven57
    56-60, F
    Dec 27, 2014

    I Didn'T Realize It Had A Name . . . I Had An Emotional Affair - And I Think About Her Everyday

    Cruising through this site, I was trying to find an experience that covered what I had done. After an hour of searching keywords and reading admissions, I found this. Everybody has ups and downs. I've been married for 13 years, and I have 2 kids. maybe 3 years ago, my wife...
    lostinmentalillness lostinmentalillness
    41-45, M
    1 Response May 1, 2013

    May Be Over Thinking ... Need Some Honest Perspective

    This story is long and complicated . Please ask me any questions ... So I may get the best advice. - I have been married almost 8 years , together 9 . - I have to be honest that I am not sure I was ever in love with my husband. - I respect him and am loyal , he is a good man...
    CNella CNella
    31-35, F
    Aug 12, 2013

    Emotional Affair -- One Year Later

    Today marks one-year since my first inmate moment with the woman I fell in love with. She is now only the woman of my dreams.  I am haunted by her memory every night when I sleep.Today:  I am separated and living 900 miles away.  900 miles from the woman of my dreams.  900...
    a330ford a330ford
    46-50, M
    1 Response Nov 8, 2013

    I kinda regret it because I know

    that its wrong but then again I'm not because before this happened, I would always talk with my bf about how I feel that he isn't spending enough time with me, instead of playing video games with his buddies all of the time. He said ok baby I hear you...but nothing didn't or...
    choxie22 choxie22
    22-25, F
    Apr 9, 2014

    Remnants From Emotional Affair

    I just returned from the second visit with my therapist. ****. I feel like ****. He is paid to be patient. He listens to me cry and I get angry with myself for being so sad and pitiful. In truth, I know the following: 1. I still love her, miss her, want her and would run to her...
    a330ford a330ford
    46-50, M
    9 Responses Jan 17, 2013

    It was just an online thing,

    though she wanted to meet, etc. By the time I was ready to meet in person, she disappeared. We are both married and the emotions between us got very strong, but I feel nothing for her now. It's been several months since we talked last. I don't know what happened.
    myguitarisbusted myguitarisbusted
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 7, 2014

    It Happened So Fast

    I have been married for 15 years..during that time my husband and I had a seperation that lasted for 2 years..we have now been back together for 3 years and I have been miserable..he would come home from work an go straight to his bedroom and not spend any time with me and the...
    blueyegirl123 blueyegirl123
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 1, 2013
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