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I Had An Online "Affair"

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    About a year ago I began an emotional affair

    with someone I met on line. We actually met once and confirmed our feelings were real - or so I thought at the time. As months passed, I started to question the validity of my feelings for him and his for me. I wondered if it was more about filling an emotional void in each...
    sHESbrOKenNow sHESbrOKenNow 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    My Online Affair Is Over.. Now What?

    The last few months I have been having a very emotionally attached "online" affair. We have spent hours a day communicating via e-mail and Skype. The affair was not intentional and it was not being sought out. It started off as a friendship due to mutual interest in an...
    livingalieforyou livingalieforyou 26-30 7 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    The Book Connection

    In the early stage of our relationship our conversations were very shy and trivial. I used to ask him, what's on your playlist? and the he would produce a detailed list of the songs and that made me smile, because his songs were my songs. One day he asked: What's on you...
    thehippienerd thehippienerd 31-35, F 1 Response May 5, 2013

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    I thought our online affair would lead to a

    real life relationship. I find it hard to talk to him, now that I know I can never have him as my rl husband. I never would have met him in rl, if I knew he was only looking for a mistress. I love talking to him, even if it's only online... But my unrequited heart is bitter...
    caddriss caddriss 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 26

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    Currently In An Online Affair.

    I have been emailing, skyping, talking to a man almost every day for 5 months. We met in a chatroom and the connextion was almost instant - it's a very cyber- sexual thing we have but there is also an emotional bond. He is currently living with another woman, and thousands of...
    FaithHopeandTrick FaithHopeandTrick 41-45 2 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I Don't Want It To End!

    I have been involved in an online affair for 7 months now. I was looking for someone to talk to and just having fun. I had no expectations other than making friends and having fun. In the beginning there was a lot of flirting and we saw pictures showing the better sides of each...
    MrsSwan MrsSwan 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    Day After Syndrome

    Going back to our real lives proved to be hard for both of us.That day, on his birthday came a point were we had to go back, for it was noon, that was one of those rare days he didn't have to go back right away because he had the house to himself. He would pack and clean and then...
    thehippienerd thehippienerd 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    Sexier Than I Could Have Imagined.....

    So.... I got an anonymous E-mail about a week ago from someone who says he used to work with me. He just said he has seen me around town lately and thinks I'm sexy. I thanked him and we got to chatting.... at first it was just small talk but within days it turned into some very...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    You came into my life.

    I loved you there. It was almost like my life had a tiny slit that you just perfectly slipped through. And you fit so perfectly, so beautifully. And even though I could only communicate with you through text messages and phone calls, I felt like I had you right beside me the...
    carterv carterv 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2013

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    Does It Make Me A Bad Person?

    So i have been with my bf for over a year.  i was recently on a chat site and met this guy.  We have talked twice.  the first time we jsut got to kno eachother as well as exchanged pics, but it was pretty clear we were into eachother. btw i have never ever met anyone online...
    purple613 purple613 18-21, F 3 Responses May 17, 2011

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    One Of The Biggest Regrets Of My Life

    I hurt two amazing women and yet they both forgave me. I had told the person it was with that I was involved and wasn't going to leave her but I also lied and told her I was a woman....which as it turns out was the truth. I did love her. She was sweet and loving. At the same...
    Kris99 Kris99 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    Wanting More

    How Simple flirting in a on line game chat could turn into such an awesome experience.  One Night after a long day at work and a  huge fight with my husband, I went to my favorite on line game for some stress relief.   Seeing as how I had been playing this...
    MKsweetness MKsweetness 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 10, 2009

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    WARNING: Using Spyware to Hack a Spouse Or Partners E-mail Could Get You Jail Time Or You Could Be Sued!

     WARNING: USING SPYWARE TO HACK A SPOUSE OR PARTNERS E-MAIL COULD GET YOU JAIL TIME OR YOU COULD BE SUED!     Before Using Spyware or Key Logging Programs to catch a spouse or partner that you suspect is having an affair: Make Sure You Know What Your Liability...
    TeslasTemptress TeslasTemptress 46-50, F 8 Responses Sep 9, 2009

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    I Met My Future Wife Online...

    right here on EP...when she finds this, she will confirm that i pursued her, wooed her, swept her off her feet, then let her decide between me and my rival.  Later, after things did not work out for either of us, we reconnected, and things are just fireworks and and passion...
    headstrongheart headstrongheart 56-60, M 4 Responses Jan 23, 2010

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    Online Affair With A Married Man

    The first time we actually spoke on the phone and heard each other's voice, was one day after my 18th birthday. Little did I know that a month later, it would all be over. It all started in the summer of 2010. We began chatting online and at first, it was innocent. We...
    collegenerd collegenerd 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 27, 2012

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    Having An Online Affair

    I met this man over a month ago, not intentionally, but through an online interest group that we both share. He messaged me a short hello due to shared interest and immediately responded I'm married lol to which he said something funny about him having to return the ring now and...
    8 Responses Feb 10, 2013

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    It's Been About 6 Months Now...

    I met him on EP actually. There's every chance he'll see this, but i'm not sure if i care.. I happen to be ''the other woman'' in this situation.. We're not really emotionally involved at all, if anything we're the online equivalent to friends-with-benefits. We basically just...
    DanceCommander DanceCommander 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    Confused

    I've been having an online affair with a married man for 6 months now. It started out as talking ( I guess they all do). It has progressed to something more. We have tried to break it off several times. Twice before we got caught and they last about 2 days each. Now his wife...
    Epiclovers Epiclovers 41-45 4 Responses Dec 31, 2012

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    Yahoo

    this lady pmed in a chat room,she said she thought we had something in common,I was marriednlonely1 and she was ********. We went to yahoo to chat started chatting daily,that was over a year ago I fell in love .She made me feel things I hadn't felt in years.then we went to phone...
    bquick bquick 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    Present Tense-i Am Having An Online Affair

    This website has brought me so much I could never have expected. I joined because I am in a failing marriage. All things have been tried and we cannot make it work. Others, both men and women, have shared similar stories to mine and I have formed many bonds with them. I am...
    someonetohold someonetohold 36-40, F 7 Responses Dec 22, 2012

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    Online Affairs

    I'm not sure what the author of this poem intended when she wrote the poem, but it struck me as a perfect poem about how an online affair feels...Origins & History of Consciousness by Adrienne Rich "It's simple to wake from sleep with a stranger,dress, go out, drink coffee...
    autumnrocks123 autumnrocks123 26-30 2 Responses Nov 19, 2009

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    So What Precisely Is Defined As An Affair.

    There is a man that my husband works with, and when we met things just clicked. Do you know what I mean? We started talking via XBOX live and over yahoo messenger. Yes, we have talked about sexual stuff, traded pictures, etc but haven't done much else with it. We talk about...
    almostenchanted almostenchanted 22-25 6 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    Cyber Affair

    I am having a cyber affair. I started it just for fun. Part immature tantrum. My husband went out of town and didn't want to sex chat over the phone so I decided to find someone who did. (He's a little uptight) Unfortunately, I am starting to really like this guy and look...
    hsweets42 hsweets42 41-45, F 27 Responses Jan 9, 2008

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    I am the one who unfriended

    and blocked him on Facebook. He is the one who wanted for us to talk after the holidays. Things had been going downhill for awhile. He possessed this weird jealousy of my guy friend (who is gay by the way), by giving him the introvert's stare of death one time and trying to run...
    MyBet MyBet 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    I Am Not Going to Say That I Had One, I Am In One

    I am not going to say i had an on-line affair i am in it till this day, not proud of it but am in it, i wanted to say that how i found this site was the story in this group when i was looking on line on how to deal with being the other woman in an on-line relationship, i was...
    decivedbyhim decivedbyhim 31-35 1 Response Jun 15, 2008

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    The One That Got Away

    it started out as curiosity, and the saying is right "curiosity killed that cat, but cats have 9 lives , so im down to 8 then lol. started as friends online for over 9 months, then out of the blue she traveled out to meet me. It was a special experience. never had that with...
    heresjohnnyalso heresjohnnyalso 56-60, M Feb 9, 2013

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    My Affair With A Man In The Hindu Kush Mountains Of Afghanistan

    A simple introduction to the world-wide web, the complete innocence of the possible vulnerabilities I was an accident waiting for a happening. Who could possibly have thought playing a game would or could lead to the most erotic on-line affair, heartbreak, depression, coffee and...
    fromkabulwithlust fromkabulwithlust 46-50 Apr 13, 2013

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    Have Any Of You Met Your Online Affair

    And if so please tell us .... how was it???
    JessikaJ JessikaJ 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    This kind of boring and It was a long time ago,

    in the infancy of the Internet. I met Melanie in a Prodigy chat room for depression. There was instant connection, but she was 11 years older than me. We were both pretty sick people but we helped one another immensely. We both wanted more, but I was living in Hawaii at the...
    ProgressNotPerfection ProgressNotPerfection 41-45, M Mar 4

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    I Am A Married Woman Having An Online Emotional Affair...

    I am married to my best friend. We are actually really happy, he fully trusts me and really shouldn't. I feel horrible but ive been having an online affair for the past 3 years and finally getting ready to end it. My Online guy doesn't have a clue im married. My husband works a...
    ktowner ktowner 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    Willing To Try An Online Affair

    So after a few years of marriage, I am looking elsewhere to chat and flirt online. I live in Australia and am certainly not a bogan etc. However I just love that thrill of chatting to someone online where you share stories and saucy details. If you are female and want to have...
    funguy1977 funguy1977 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 20, 2012

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    I Am Having The Most Incredible Experience With A Guy On Facebook

    It started innocently enoughIn fact it's continuing innocently enough. It is the sweetest most incredible experience i have had, because of the limitations.It seems it is exactly what i needed that i didn't even know i did.For many reasons I had lost complete interest in...
    koosswanepoel koosswanepoel 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    Sammy7000 Is One Sick Man! Watch Out!

    So Sammy7000 is a member on here that chooses to go in to forums where people are writing their personal stories, seeking comfort from others and advice and chooses to belittle and berate them. He is a very sick and disturbed individual and if you can get past the fact that he...
    brookeP21 brookeP21 26-30, F Feb 13, 2013

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    ...What Happens Now?

    We had met in a forum for avid readers, his nickname had caught my attention, it was funny and honest also we had most of the same books in our list. One joke lent to another, a question, a comment and soon enough we were adding each other to chat. That afternoon the conversation...
    thehippienerd thehippienerd 31-35, F 4 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I am still hurting, i need to get this out.

    It happened before I realized it was happening. We were both 'spoken for' and I shared some really personal things with him. He was careless and our affair was discovered on his end. I will probably always 'love' him, i think of him constantly, yet my heart truly does belong to...
    confused623 confused623 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 23

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    There's Always A Catch.

    So, what happened next was that we continued chatting like we had been doing for a couple of weeks. Now he could be completely honest with me and I liked him even more... Turns out that he as a great daddy, that most days he was in charge of his 2 kids after work, bathe them...
    thehippienerd thehippienerd 31-35, F 2 Responses May 14, 2013

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    We Loved Each Other..We Love Each Other...But I Ended My Online Affair Last Night.

    ....it hurts, I won't lie. We met online two years ago and had an instant bond after the first time we spoke. We met on a game site where we could "marry"..and we did..we shared many good things, and also many hardships..we supported each other through some very tough real life...
    Erzulia Erzulia 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    The hardest thing about deleting your emails

    and photos isn't hitting delete,,,,it's clicking on the empty trash button.
    sHESbrOKenNow sHESbrOKenNow 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    The Way I Am With You

    I had spilled the beans... big time. After this I did not know if I would ever talk to him again. How could I be so stupid? How could I have fallen for a married man who was just looking to fill a void? and most important ... Why did I have to tell him? Why couldn't just love him...
    thehippienerd thehippienerd 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2013

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    I had an online "affair" with my Ep friend many

    moons ago. He is no longer on Ep last time I checked, his account is deleted. He was a real close friend. I started to develop feelings for him early last year, during my rocky relationship I was sure was going to end. My Ep friend made me feel better. He said all the right...
    Deseraye1 Deseraye1 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 24

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    Long Distance Love...

    I joined a discussion forum in 2006 and met loads of great people. They were from all walks of life, but we all had similar interests. One woman especially I realised was special, and we started emailing and messaging off-forum regularly. After a few months, I realised I was...
    gabryel243 gabryel243 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    :(

    im 17 i currently have 10+ internet relationships.... :(
    xxpearlyy xxpearlyy 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 8, 2013

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    After 13 Years Of Marriage Out Of The Blue My Wife Decides She Wants A Separation Later Found Out She Was Having An Affair With A 22-year-old Saudi Arabian From Idaho State After A Wild Weekend She Gets With Another 25-year-old Man The Next Day

    After 13 years of wonderful marriage things started to decline within the past couple of years that we had spent in our marriage right around the 11th year thing started decline due to her health issues. She experienced pericarditis and had to take steroids to cure the problem...
    Bruins94 Bruins94 31-35 3 Responses Sep 10, 2012

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    Butterflies

    It has been 3 years since the first time I saw him... That day was a Friday and what -in the place I live in- is called a "puente" bridge in Spanish meaning that sometimes a holiday will fall on a Thursday and then you get that Friday off. Luckily my workaholic husband did not...
    thehippienerd thehippienerd 31-35, F May 28, 2013

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    Pushing DELETE button is not the hardest thing.

    Hardest is to push YES when asked "do you want to empty trash?"
    dalessa dalessa 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    Fondness and Love Through Words

    A few years ago, when I began feeling very lonely and alone within my marriage, I began looking for someone to talk to. Just someone to email back and forth on a daily basis. Someone to vent to, someone to "lean on", maybe even someone to flirt with if we got that comfortable...
    silentwriter180 silentwriter180 41-45, F 17 Responses Feb 16, 2012

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    Why Lie About This?

    Ok so I have a "friend" who I chat with (never met) - we live thousands of miles away. I am married and he is involved with someone. Our relationship has developed into an emotional affair. We share a pretty strong bond, however as this relationship has somewhat "grown" and...
    livingalieforyou livingalieforyou 26-30 1 Response Mar 4, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Yes, I had an affair with married man. I was married at the time too. My marriage was already crumbling but his is still going strong and I couldn't be any happier for him. I...
    lovehimdeeply lovehimdeeply 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    8 years ago I had an affair with my then boyfriend's best friend. I fell so deep in love with him, he was my obsession. I just could not get away, i saw him everyday, we took trips...
    S3xym4m4 S3xym4m4 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    Just wanting to hear from some other married ladies like me out there who had an affair with a single man, fell in love and vice versa but decided to stay with their husband for...
    Casscat Casscat 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 8

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    It's almost April. My life has changed so much. I'm happy. Complete. Content. Calm. I'm very much in love. Living together. Falling asleep in his arms every night. It's amazing...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 29

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    I had an affair with a son of a ***** Francesco Clementucci, I really felt in love with him, despite the terrible intimate part with him and knowing that he is almost married, I...
    anna1953 anna1953 56-60, F Apr 10

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    A few year back a married lady going through a rough marriage, thinking I was separated made a go at me. I was then away from my wife due to work. I did not have those intentions...
    hotsweet1966 hotsweet1966 46-50, M 3 Responses Mar 23

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    I had an affair or close to it. She was my wife's friend. Always telling me I was good looking always being nice then the text came and I responded. My wife hadn't wanted me in...
    october004 october004 31-35, M 12 Responses Apr 5

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    I had an affair and ended up getting pregnant . I had an abortion . My husband forgave me and said he still loves me and I feel I betrayed him. The bf who got me pregnant bailed on...
    Cathymary Cathymary 31-35, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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