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I Hate Abusive Men

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    The First Time He Hit Me

    i remember the first time. i was already so blinded by my innocence. he smacked me, we had been together fro six months. we were in a hotel room. he smcked me for talking to one of his friends. i told myself, "so this is it. i'm going to be that woman.":
    fallingstar7891 fallingstar7891 22-25 Aug 3, 2011

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    Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde

    Hi, my name is Sharon and I am 53 years old.  I married my husband 3 years ago and  we met thru aquantainces.   Seemed there was something I couldn't quite put my finger on.  His mother was rude and condescending... and jealous that her oldest son had...
    frecklefacebombshell frecklefacebombshell 51-55 4 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    I Hate Them!!

    abusive men are just bullies and cowards, and i have no respect for them at all!! enough said!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response May 16, 2010

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    I had lived over a year by the time I got

    across an Egyptian Coptic who was in Brighton to claim asylum .i made a terrible mistake that I talked to this young man as I thought I will gain a friend but I was wrong He had attacked me sexually in the street after he invited me to his flat And while he was walking with me...
    lostsouluk lostsouluk 31-35, F Dec 27, 2014

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    I Was Abused By a Man

    For four years I was with a man that would beat on me and mentaly abuse me. People would ask me in thier "are you a total idiot!?" way why I stayed with him. The fact is I was way too young to have gotten with anyone and on top of that when you have someone threatening...
    robsangel2008 robsangel2008 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    Son Of An Abused Mother!

    i am 58 years old,and it seems as if it was yesterday that my alcoholic abusive father was always beating and yelling and cursing my mom and siblings.i dont care what therapists or any one says...it will never go away,and it never stops hurting.most of myfamily members say that i...
    moffatstreetboy moffatstreetboy 56-60, M 1 Response May 16, 2011

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    My Father Etc.,etc, Etc & So On

    that's all I kmew growing up. Not me I watched my father beat my mother on a regular basis. of course we rarely kept a telephone so my friday nights or whatever night he chose I was running to neighbor and or the police telephone that was on the light poll  across the...
    stilltrying77 stilltrying77 46-50, F Mar 12, 2010

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    Ms Snickers-the matriarc of our cat family.

      Her eyes, are so beautifull with their golden marble like color one has a beauty mark by it as well.  In her cat years she is 100 years old,now -meows in echos.  Only due to the fact her hearing has gone.  Her owners my sister and husband will be putting her peacefully and...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    They Make Me Sick

    I can't believe how men can just hurt a women without even thinking about it. Apparently they were not brought up right. And they dont seem to understand that women do in fact have feelings. And that if we say no it probably has meaning. I also dont see how they live with...
    cidcat89 cidcat89 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2009

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    Finally!

    It frustrates me to think about some past relationships I had where I was physically and sexually abused, and I did nothing at the time.  I kept thinking, oh, he didn't mean it, he really does love me, he's just having a bad day.  But now that i'm out and away from them...
    antisocialmuch antisocialmuch 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    He Was So Wonderful At The Beginning

    Having read Unspoken, Unwritten Agreement by IronLotus and the comments to her story I knew I had to write. I need to tell all teenage girls here about what a male high-school teacher told me, a teacher who used his power to serve his best interest. I was involved with a 40...
    orangehoney orangehoney 46-50, F Mar 23, 2011

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    Can't Stand Them

    To me they have no spine...no backbone...they think they better themselves by abusing women. I'm only one guy..but I'd love to go toe to toe with these jerks. See how they can handle trying to take on another man instead of hitting women!!!!  Chances are they would not be...
    weather1965 weather1965 41-45, M Aug 18, 2008

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    Hey r. U in a abusive realasionship

    and he says ur fat well I know how u can loose a 100 Ibs dumb him and flush just like that!
    awesome101010 awesome101010 16-17, F Sep 12, 2014

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    Snug As A Bug In My Bed -behind closed doors

       At age 16,   I was sort of waking up listening to my mother yell at my dad because  had not cleaned the bathroom at ten in the morning.  With  a horrified  shock I awoke to my dad's stinging   hands slapping me and grabbing me by the throat.   I had worked till...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 Aug 20, 2009

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    I Hate Abuse In All Forms - Not Just From Men

    I wish it were that simple, but sadly abuse happens from both men (much of it) and women - be it emotional or physical or otherwise and this is not only reserved to people, but there are those that abuse animals as well. I cannot understand the thought process that leads to this...
    DeepForest DeepForest 46-50 1 Response Nov 3, 2010

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    Let It Go

    I met a man 6 years ago and was immediately swept off my feet.  Little did I know the nightmare that would follow.  I tried to break off the relationship several times and he kept coming back.   He left his wife (even though he told me he was divorced), we got...
    merrilar merrilar 41-45 1 Response Sep 28, 2010

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    No Way Out

    Where do I begin?  5 years ago I married a man that I should have known better then to say "I do".  Thinking like most women, I thought his personalitiy "flaw" was just from his being alone.  OMG was I wrong.  The man I am with not only has character flaws...
    Sabrina56 Sabrina56 56-60, F 4 Responses May 13, 2010

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    "Why doesn't she just leave?

    " "Leaving an abusive relationship actually entails substantial risks for women. In fact, their risk of being killed increases by 75% when they leave." -Dr. Leelia Franck- Family Physician "Why did she get with a violent person in the first place?" "Domestic violence is...
    Bewail Bewail 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2014

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    Love Truely Is Blind...

      In 2005, I met and and fell head over heals for a blond hair, blue eyed, prince charming....or so I thought. Things moved really quickly and I ended up moving in with his family after only a few weeks of being together. You know that saying about how "love is blind"? well it's...
    honeykiss7 honeykiss7 26-30 Nov 7, 2011

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    Bullies

    i have been in a abusive realtionship and i thought that i deserved it and that this is just the way it was but i finally learned that it doesnt have to be and i left him 18 months ago and now going through a divorce
    gypsywillow15 gypsywillow15 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    I Think I Broke The Pattern

    when i was 14 i had a live in boyfriend, too young i know, but my mother didn't know how to raise me or my little sister. the abuse he inflicted got worse and by the time i was 16 i was depressed and suicidal and in physical pain. i have a memory of my father. he shattered her...
    moon1376 moon1376 36-40, F Apr 20, 2013

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 1 Response Aug 20, 2009

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    Abusive relationships arent a new thing in my

    life. However, when I found out my bestfriend was being abused, it's shocked me. At 16, this isnt something that should happen. But she told me stories of being beaten unconscious, being punched and winded, being beaten with shoes, beaten with drumsticks, and all around terrible...
    13Smiles 13Smiles 16-17, F May 27, 2014

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    Heart Break

    sometimes i think tht all guys want to do is hit it and quit it y is it so hard to find a good guy now-a-days i have seen my friend suffer from heart break for a long time nd i am getting very tired of her crying over a guy i just want her to be happy nd not have to worry bout if...
    phe3000 phe3000 18-21, F Mar 2, 2012

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    The Things You Take

    You don't know the depth of your damage. Not that I think you give a **** but I would love for you to know how deep the knife you wielded plunged. I have used the best glues and adhesives I know but the cracks still reappear. Just when I think your memory has gone I see it...
    awhitedot awhitedot 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    People just don't know when to quit. The slaps the pushes the kicks the stuff getting thrown at you. They don't know that it hurts. Not even the physical pain, but don't get me...
    celenahodgson celenahodgson 16-17, F Jan 13

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    The disrespectful attitude if you aren't a smart student...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Jan 14

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    I hate ***********.. Men and women always rely on it, and it's gotten worse in even the last year or two, when I was 10, I had no idea what half the crap I know now is, now.. Every...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 8 Responses Jan 7

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    Almost everything about it drives me insane. The fast pace of life, the mostly freezing weather except for summer and then these freak cold spells in the summer. I Get very easily...
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    I am so glad that my boyfriend and I have the great relationship that we have. I never have to worry about him straying to other girls especially sneaking around or lying. I never...
    yanene yanene 36-40, F 8 hrs ago

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    Things began normally. We were together a short while before his eating disorder became an issue. He would tell me in detail about his purges. I was so dependent on him I became a...
    gothstan gothstan 16-17, M 5 Responses Jan 2

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    I've been married to my husband for 7 years. We both have had our ups and downs and like most our marriage is far from perfect. I never really had a problem with my SIL, SMIL, or...
    hm3mac hm3mac 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    So, A few years back, I didn't really care about music at all. In fourth grade we wrote a yearbook and when it came to writing favorite bands, I left the field blank because i...
    JurassicTimes JurassicTimes 18-21 1 Response Jan 12

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    So there was a woman who went through breast cancer and took a nude pic of herself to show her strength as a cancer fighter and another of a woman breast feeding her child. These...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    My dad is abusive. There's no way around it. He's usually just emotionally and mentally abusive, but occasionally it's physical. My grandma think he's "useless", and she told me...
    BroadwayDreamer16 BroadwayDreamer16 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I think my husband hates me.....My childhood was REALLY bad. My current husband also had a childhood similar to mine but was not as lucky as me and his life took a different path...
    Lsngthsbttle Lsngthsbttle 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    EP is a cesspool of depravity and a killground for the psychopathic/sociopathic and mentally ill. If you are new to EP and you are expecting to be supported by people, you wont be...
    zanzibargem zanzibargem 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    Not so much Physically, but Emotionally and Mentally. Every time I had tried to break up with him he would threaten me, threaten to hurt himself, or make up some kind of sick story...
    HisKindredSpirit HisKindredSpirit 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    What you do, always comes with a consequence. Good or bad. ------------------------------- So here's a 100% true story, that is currently going on in my life. I won't say names...
    HannahMarieX HannahMarieX 18-21 Jan 13

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    I've been cheated on, lied to, used for money, used for sex, used to ease boredom amongst other reasons I guess I ought to give up on the male gender. Yet for some reason I always...
    LastofmyPeople LastofmyPeople 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 17

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    Ugh where do I even start lol. I have to laugh to keep my sanity but really my situation with my mil is no joke. She is stuck in this teenage mentality and never acknowledges her...
    Jemmajeanmonroe Jemmajeanmonroe 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    This is such a catharsis, I never dreamed I would meet so many people that share my views of life in the US Army. It makes for an appealing work day while I sit chained to my desk...
    jahat75 jahat75 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 13

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    I had lived in the uk since I was 13 and sadly I have been very unlucky and I had encountered lots of racial abuse and hatred I feel that 99% of white people and especially...
    newyear15 newyear15 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    I came out of an abusive relationship a month ago i loved him so much but he kept hitting me when he was angry. It is never the woman's fault no matter how much they say it is, no...
    Annika1986 Annika1986 26-30, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    The title says it all. Well yeah, I really do hate myself. I've been hospitalized 3 times in the past year for suicide attempts, self-harm, and drug use. I've done so many things...
    shecancareless shecancareless 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I had lived in the uk since I was 13 and sadly I have been very unlucky and I had encountered lots of racial abuse and hatred I feel that 99% of white people and especially...
    newyear15 newyear15 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 14

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    Society has long become more open to the idea of older man - younger woman relationship and older woman - younger man relationship as well. Hollywood has brought in the practice of...
    angelacc11 angelacc11 26-30, F 12 hrs ago

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