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I Hate Abusive Men

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    I Think I Broke The Pattern

    when i was 14 i had a live in boyfriend, too young i know, but my mother didn't know how to raise me or my little sister. the abuse he inflicted got worse and by the time i was 16 i was depressed and suicidal and in physical pain. i have a memory of my father. he shattered her...
    moon1376 moon1376 36-40, F Apr 20, 2013

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    No Way Out

    Where do I begin?  5 years ago I married a man that I should have known better then to say "I do".  Thinking like most women, I thought his personalitiy "flaw" was just from his being alone.  OMG was I wrong.  The man I am with not only has character flaws...
    Sabrina56 Sabrina56 56-60, F 4 Responses May 13, 2010

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    Ms Snickers-the matriarc of our cat family.

      Her eyes, are so beautifull with their golden marble like color one has a beauty mark by it as well.  In her cat years she is 100 years old,now -meows in echos.  Only due to the fact her hearing has gone.  Her owners my sister and husband will be putting her peacefully and...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    The Things You Take

    You don't know the depth of your damage. Not that I think you give a **** but I would love for you to know how deep the knife you wielded plunged. I have used the best glues and adhesives I know but the cracks still reappear. Just when I think your memory has gone I see it...
    awhitedot awhitedot 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde

    Hi, my name is Sharon and I am 53 years old.  I married my husband 3 years ago and  we met thru aquantainces.   Seemed there was something I couldn't quite put my finger on.  His mother was rude and condescending... and jealous that her oldest son had...
    frecklefacebombshell frecklefacebombshell 51-55 4 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    They Make Me Sick

    I can't believe how men can just hurt a women without even thinking about it. Apparently they were not brought up right. And they dont seem to understand that women do in fact have feelings. And that if we say no it probably has meaning. I also dont see how they live with...
    cidcat89 cidcat89 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2009

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    Finally!

    It frustrates me to think about some past relationships I had where I was physically and sexually abused, and I did nothing at the time.  I kept thinking, oh, he didn't mean it, he really does love me, he's just having a bad day.  But now that i'm out and away from them...
    antisocialmuch antisocialmuch 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 Aug 20, 2009

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    Son Of An Abused Mother!

    i am 58 years old,and it seems as if it was yesterday that my alcoholic abusive father was always beating and yelling and cursing my mom and siblings.i dont care what therapists or any one says...it will never go away,and it never stops hurting.most of myfamily members say that i...
    moffatstreetboy moffatstreetboy 56-60, M 1 Response May 16, 2011

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    Let It Go

    I met a man 6 years ago and was immediately swept off my feet.  Little did I know the nightmare that would follow.  I tried to break off the relationship several times and he kept coming back.   He left his wife (even though he told me he was divorced), we got...
    merrilar merrilar 41-45 1 Response Sep 28, 2010

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    I Was Abused By a Man

    For four years I was with a man that would beat on me and mentaly abuse me. People would ask me in thier "are you a total idiot!?" way why I stayed with him. The fact is I was way too young to have gotten with anyone and on top of that when you have someone threatening...
    robsangel2008 robsangel2008 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    I Hate Abuse In All Forms - Not Just From Men

    I wish it were that simple, but sadly abuse happens from both men (much of it) and women - be it emotional or physical or otherwise and this is not only reserved to people, but there are those that abuse animals as well. I cannot understand the thought process that leads to this...
    DeepForest DeepForest 46-50 Nov 3, 2010

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    Snug As A Bug In My Bed -behind closed doors

       At age 16,   I was sort of waking up listening to my mother yell at my dad because  had not cleaned the bathroom at ten in the morning.  With  a horrified  shock I awoke to my dad's stinging   hands slapping me and grabbing me by the throat.   I had worked till...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 1 Response Aug 20, 2009

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    Can't Stand Them

    To me they have no spine...no backbone...they think they better themselves by abusing women. I'm only one guy..but I'd love to go toe to toe with these jerks. See how they can handle trying to take on another man instead of hitting women!!!!  Chances are they would not be...
    weather1965 weather1965 41-45, M Aug 18, 2008

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    Abusive relationships arent a new thing in my

    life. However, when I found out my bestfriend was being abused, it's shocked me. At 16, this isnt something that should happen. But she told me stories of being beaten unconscious, being punched and winded, being beaten with shoes, beaten with drumsticks, and all around terrible...
    13Smiles 13Smiles 16-17, F May 27

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    Heart Break

    sometimes i think tht all guys want to do is hit it and quit it y is it so hard to find a good guy now-a-days i have seen my friend suffer from heart break for a long time nd i am getting very tired of her crying over a guy i just want her to be happy nd not have to worry bout if...
    phe3000 phe3000 18-21, F Mar 2, 2012

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    Love Truely Is Blind...

      In 2005, I met and and fell head over heals for a blond hair, blue eyed, prince charming....or so I thought. Things moved really quickly and I ended up moving in with his family after only a few weeks of being together. You know that saying about how "love is blind"? well it's...
    honeykiss7 honeykiss7 26-30 Nov 7, 2011

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    My Father Etc.,etc, Etc & So On

    that's all I kmew growing up. Not me I watched my father beat my mother on a regular basis. of course we rarely kept a telephone so my friday nights or whatever night he chose I was running to neighbor and or the police telephone that was on the light poll  across the...
    stilltrying77 stilltrying77 46-50, F Mar 12, 2010

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    Bullies

    i have been in a abusive realtionship and i thought that i deserved it and that this is just the way it was but i finally learned that it doesnt have to be and i left him 18 months ago and now going through a divorce
    gypsywillow15 gypsywillow15 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    I Hate Them!!

    abusive men are just bullies and cowards, and i have no respect for them at all!! enough said!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response May 16, 2010

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    The First Time He Hit Me

    i remember the first time. i was already so blinded by my innocence. he smacked me, we had been together fro six months. we were in a hotel room. he smcked me for talking to one of his friends. i told myself, "so this is it. i'm going to be that woman.":
    fallingstar7891 fallingstar7891 22-25 Aug 3, 2011

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    He Was So Wonderful At The Beginning

    Having read Unspoken, Unwritten Agreement by IronLotus and the comments to her story I knew I had to write. I need to tell all teenage girls here about what a male high-school teacher told me, a teacher who used his power to serve his best interest. I was involved with a 40...
    orangehoney orangehoney 46-50, F Mar 23, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    In particular, my own.....
    Iamevolved Iamevolved 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    My parents misused physical discipline and I think physical discipline is wrong...
    Miserablechildhood Miserablechildhood 13-15, M 2 Responses Jun 30

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    "My wife was the second best choice..." GIVE ME A BREAK YOU ******* *******! I will NEVER couple with you NEVER! MY FEELINGS ARE ARTIFICIAL DIDN'T YOU KNOW?!
    ImHisWolfishGirlfriend ImHisWolfishGirlfriend 26-30 1 Response Jul 16

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    So my boyfriend just left me and said he'll only come back to me if I end up pregnant. Right not I'm 50/50 that I may be, but going to wait for another month and see if I start my...
    rubina18 rubina18 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    I really despise my husband. We have been married for over 5 years and I have started to have such angry feelings toward him I could scream. He is an abusive man, he digs into his...
    Anon0526 Anon0526 22-25, F 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I really hate my family but spend each day trying to make things better. So long story short but when I was two my mom passed away and my dad played the mom/dad role for many years...
    leek12345 leek12345 22-25, F Jul 9

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    Especially in the mens room. I mean I'm in a stall perusing a certain personal interest and in the stall next door some kind of "amusing" sounds can be heard. Then... Hello...
    pardax pardax 13-15, M 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    so a few months ago my dad started heightening his abuse of me, it's verbal and emotional but sometimes it even gets like physical not like hurting me but more like forcing me out...
    atinyratsy atinyratsy 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I'm not one of those types of people that complain about the little things or one who likes to wallow in self pity and despair. I just wish life would stop kicking me when I'm...
    MysteriousKitty MysteriousKitty 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I really hate anyone that abuses women and children because it can be men or women. I had an experience when I was younger with an abusive step mother and ever since that I've...
    MadzG MadzG 13-15, F Jul 20

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    I used to look up to my father; he was my hero. When I was younger, my dad used to go out of town a lot for his 'job' and I would miss him terribly. Now, I cannot stand being in...
    lesluu07 lesluu07 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    Seriously I hate girls that go after men because they are in the military. Aka tag chasers. Military life isn't all it's cracked out to be. I seriously don't get it. I can't stand...
    F0REVERY0UNG23 F0REVERY0UNG23 22-25, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I absolutely Hate my sister in-law.I've been married to her brother for over 30 years and from day one her and the "family" has done everything they could to try to make my life a...
    nanaof6 nanaof6 51-55, F 13 hrs ago

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    I hated my middle school teachers. they were always controlling with my life. What video games I should play, what tv or movies I should watch, what music I should listen too. one...
    favi4et favi4et 18-21, M 5 hrs ago

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    It's impossible to write my story, because I know that no one will ever believe me... When you're in love, it's hard not to do anything for the person you care about... No one...
    HUMAN2BME HUMAN2BME 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I hate everything about myself. Each day I'm reminded that there's something wrong with me. I have major depressive disorder, social anxiety disorder, not to mention gay but with a...
    MachineEmpire1985 MachineEmpire1985 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 5

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    I don't think the title of this group is specific enough. Nobody should hit anybody, but if a woman started attacking me for no good reason, I would definitely hit back. Should I...
    annoyedagnostic annoyedagnostic 18-21, M 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am not even married yet to my fiancé but his mother is already driving a wedge between us. We both work very hard to make ends meet. We live in expensive area and have a small...
    jlathomas jlathomas 31-35, F 19 mins ago

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    To long I was in the trap of a abusive marriage. Everyday waking up trying to convince myself it was the "right" thing to do by staying. To keep my family together. Everyday his...
    Happythoughts7771 Happythoughts7771 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    Hate is a strong word. But I can't think of another word that better describes my feelings towards this woman. She is emotionally abusive and has been physically abusive before...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F Jul 9

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    My sister and I were best friends once. We were very sheltered and though our mother has always been wonderful our Dad was very emotionally abusive and constantly pitted us...
    Emmaleejune Emmaleejune 22-25, F Jul 6

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    As I said before I was 15 when my mother,2 siblings, and I were finally liberated from my abusive bigamist(married to a woman in Ukraine while married to my mother in US)father. He...
    Eitan Eitan 22-25, M Jul 15

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    My dad was abusive....And trust me if a man were to ever hit me you best believe I'm goin hit you back. And if I were to ever see my stepdad hit my mom...he can pick out his casket...
    Smileeboo Smileeboo 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    If I ever could change ANYTHING in my life, it would have been to NEVER ever have tasted alcohol. It would seriously not been any loss at all! I am no alcoholic. I never drunk and...
    Olmed Olmed 36-40 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm new to this experience thing. But The reason I joined is so that I could write about my feelings towards my "dad". Ever since I was little he's really been nothing more than a...
    aloflo aloflo 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I have a very complex relationship with my parents. A long time ago, I stopped sharing anything with them because I feel that they couldn't be trusted. They are very quick to judge...
    beyondctrl beyondctrl 18-21, F Jun 29

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    Abusive people who take you for granted, who take advantage of you for their own pleasure.. I hate that
    Answeringyou35 Answeringyou35 18-21, F