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I Hate Abusive Men

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 428 People

    "Why doesn't she just leave?

    " "Leaving an abusive relationship actually entails substantial risks for women. In fact, their risk of being killed increases by 75% when they leave." -Dr. Leelia Franck- Family Physician "Why did she get with a violent person in the first place?" "Domestic violence is...
    Bewail Bewail 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2014

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    No Way Out

    Where do I begin?  5 years ago I married a man that I should have known better then to say "I do".  Thinking like most women, I thought his personalitiy "flaw" was just from his being alone.  OMG was I wrong.  The man I am with not only has character flaws...
    Sabrina56 Sabrina56 56-60, F 4 Responses May 13, 2010

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    The First Time He Hit Me

    i remember the first time. i was already so blinded by my innocence. he smacked me, we had been together fro six months. we were in a hotel room. he smcked me for talking to one of his friends. i told myself, "so this is it. i'm going to be that woman.":
    fallingstar7891 fallingstar7891 22-25 Aug 3, 2011

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    Love Truely Is Blind...

      In 2005, I met and and fell head over heals for a blond hair, blue eyed, prince charming....or so I thought. Things moved really quickly and I ended up moving in with his family after only a few weeks of being together. You know that saying about how "love is blind"? well it's...
    honeykiss7 honeykiss7 26-30 Nov 7, 2011

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    Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde

    Hi, my name is Sharon and I am 53 years old.  I married my husband 3 years ago and  we met thru aquantainces.   Seemed there was something I couldn't quite put my finger on.  His mother was rude and condescending... and jealous that her oldest son had...
    frecklefacebombshell frecklefacebombshell 51-55 4 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Hey r. U in a abusive realasionship

    and he says ur fat well I know how u can loose a 100 Ibs dumb him and flush just like that!
    awesome101010 awesome101010 16-17, F Sep 12, 2014

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    Abusive relationships arent a new thing in my

    life. However, when I found out my bestfriend was being abused, it's shocked me. At 16, this isnt something that should happen. But she told me stories of being beaten unconscious, being punched and winded, being beaten with shoes, beaten with drumsticks, and all around terrible...
    13Smiles 13Smiles 16-17, F May 27, 2014

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    Ms Snickers-the matriarc of our cat family.

      Her eyes, are so beautifull with their golden marble like color one has a beauty mark by it as well.  In her cat years she is 100 years old,now -meows in echos.  Only due to the fact her hearing has gone.  Her owners my sister and husband will be putting her peacefully and...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    I Hate Them!!

    abusive men are just bullies and cowards, and i have no respect for them at all!! enough said!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response May 16, 2010

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    I Think I Broke The Pattern

    when i was 14 i had a live in boyfriend, too young i know, but my mother didn't know how to raise me or my little sister. the abuse he inflicted got worse and by the time i was 16 i was depressed and suicidal and in physical pain. i have a memory of my father. he shattered her...
    moon1376 moon1376 36-40, F Apr 20, 2013

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    Finally!

    It frustrates me to think about some past relationships I had where I was physically and sexually abused, and I did nothing at the time.  I kept thinking, oh, he didn't mean it, he really does love me, he's just having a bad day.  But now that i'm out and away from them...
    antisocialmuch antisocialmuch 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    Heart Break

    sometimes i think tht all guys want to do is hit it and quit it y is it so hard to find a good guy now-a-days i have seen my friend suffer from heart break for a long time nd i am getting very tired of her crying over a guy i just want her to be happy nd not have to worry bout if...
    phe3000 phe3000 18-21, F Mar 2, 2012

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 Aug 20, 2009

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    Snug As A Bug In My Bed -behind closed doors

       At age 16,   I was sort of waking up listening to my mother yell at my dad because  had not cleaned the bathroom at ten in the morning.  With  a horrified  shock I awoke to my dad's stinging   hands slapping me and grabbing me by the throat.   I had worked till...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    They Make Me Sick

    I can't believe how men can just hurt a women without even thinking about it. Apparently they were not brought up right. And they dont seem to understand that women do in fact have feelings. And that if we say no it probably has meaning. I also dont see how they live with...
    cidcat89 cidcat89 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2009

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    I Hate Abuse In All Forms - Not Just From Men

    I wish it were that simple, but sadly abuse happens from both men (much of it) and women - be it emotional or physical or otherwise and this is not only reserved to people, but there are those that abuse animals as well. I cannot understand the thought process that leads to this...
    DeepForest DeepForest 46-50 1 Response Nov 3, 2010

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    Bullies

    i have been in a abusive realtionship and i thought that i deserved it and that this is just the way it was but i finally learned that it doesnt have to be and i left him 18 months ago and now going through a divorce
    gypsywillow15 gypsywillow15 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    Let It Go

    I met a man 6 years ago and was immediately swept off my feet.  Little did I know the nightmare that would follow.  I tried to break off the relationship several times and he kept coming back.   He left his wife (even though he told me he was divorced), we got...
    merrilar merrilar 41-45 1 Response Sep 28, 2010

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    Son Of An Abused Mother!

    i am 58 years old,and it seems as if it was yesterday that my alcoholic abusive father was always beating and yelling and cursing my mom and siblings.i dont care what therapists or any one says...it will never go away,and it never stops hurting.most of myfamily members say that i...
    moffatstreetboy moffatstreetboy 56-60, M 1 Response May 16, 2011

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    I Was Abused By a Man

    For four years I was with a man that would beat on me and mentaly abuse me. People would ask me in thier "are you a total idiot!?" way why I stayed with him. The fact is I was way too young to have gotten with anyone and on top of that when you have someone threatening...
    robsangel2008 robsangel2008 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    Can't Stand Them

    To me they have no spine...no backbone...they think they better themselves by abusing women. I'm only one guy..but I'd love to go toe to toe with these jerks. See how they can handle trying to take on another man instead of hitting women!!!!  Chances are they would not be...
    weather1965 weather1965 41-45, M Aug 18, 2008

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 1 Response Aug 20, 2009

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    My Father Etc.,etc, Etc & So On

    that's all I kmew growing up. Not me I watched my father beat my mother on a regular basis. of course we rarely kept a telephone so my friday nights or whatever night he chose I was running to neighbor and or the police telephone that was on the light poll  across the...
    stilltrying77 stilltrying77 46-50, F Mar 12, 2010

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    He Was So Wonderful At The Beginning

    Having read Unspoken, Unwritten Agreement by IronLotus and the comments to her story I knew I had to write. I need to tell all teenage girls here about what a male high-school teacher told me, a teacher who used his power to serve his best interest. I was involved with a 40...
    orangehoney orangehoney 46-50, F Mar 23, 2011

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    So he hits U and says he's sorry

    and loves U..heh.. It's not funny just pathetic HOW WRONG HE IS..he doesn't no what love means.. If he hits U, and says sorry no..if U were truly In love with
    stelliester stelliester 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    The Things You Take

    You don't know the depth of your damage. Not that I think you give a **** but I would love for you to know how deep the knife you wielded plunged. I have used the best glues and adhesives I know but the cracks still reappear. Just when I think your memory has gone I see it...
    awhitedot awhitedot 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I have emotionally abusive parents. My mother thinks it's okay to put me with siblings that I dislike and will bring up stuff from the stuff to provoke my anger, she comments on my...
    melodicsadness melodicsadness 18-21, F 23 hrs ago

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    I have such a bad reputation I've been denied a service because of reasons my doctor wouldn't tell me. He said it with a smug look on his face. I've been labelled the "worst they...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Apr 8

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    it's the worst. I have ADD which I was only diagnosed with at 19. I was also diagnosed with depression and anxiety, which became an issue after suffering a serious setback. The...
    preeez preeez 22-25 1 Response Apr 9

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    Forced to go get help. Going to see a professional for over $100 a session which is being paid for by the welfare??. Was recommended by another chick who said he was "really good...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Apr 8

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    pathetic. abusive men make me sick. how could someone hurt someone else that can't protect themselves. that is not a real man.
    Ang012685 Ang012685 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    My husband is abusive mentally, he was able to convince me that I am capable of nothing more than being a housewife and a mother,he reminds me time and time again that I will have...
    samiam198812 samiam198812 26-30, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Mother had a tough life, and it carried over to how she raised her own kids. She was self-centered and abusive, mentally and physically. Beatings and put downs, and never once a...
    rbulova rbulova 70+, T 1 day ago

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    I stole this from lilmissdynamite: I am not here to meet men, so don't add me. I hate having men who can not read, I do not want to have you try to message me or add me to your...
    daddysluvr daddysluvr 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    I hate when men disrespect women and call them out of their names..
    Alisha39 Alisha39 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Check out this stupid ******* ***** named pimpstressbarbie who hates on men for NO reason calling us all horrible people saying that all of us should drop dead. Holy ****, I'd...
    MegaManZero97 MegaManZero97 16-17, M 5 Responses Apr 21

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    Due to some problem with my visa, I had to go back to China to live with my parents and find work there after studying in the US for two years. During these two years, I made sure...
    LouraMax LouraMax 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    He has always hated me and I have talked about that. He has said it to my face in so many words too. Well, he always portends he doesn't hear me if I speak. Yet if my mother says...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 Responses Apr 22

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    I knew a guy who spent too much time getting close, tried to know every single thing about me, all details about my personality, he was even interested in knowing about my dreams...
    bornwithmelancholy bornwithmelancholy 36-40, F 1 hr ago

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    I never thought I'd be saying something like this, but I'm so glad to have found an outlet for it because it's taking my sanity lately. My fiancé and I have been together for...
    DookSilvur116 DookSilvur116 26-30, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have the feeling that most of the stories are written by women, but as gay man I am also attracted by bald men. On the one hand I am glad I am not balding myself but on the other...
    Michi62 Michi62 46-50, M 2 hrs ago

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    This is the only forum I could find to somewhat relate to my experience. I don't hate my stepfather but at the same time I do. He's really nice at times but he can get very...
    love0112 love0112 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I remember I prayed for clarity and joy in my life. I also started persuing these tings and found great joy in many things. But I noticed the most heartache or stress I had was...
    melisasaidso melisasaidso 26-30, F 3 hrs ago

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    I hate all kinds of domestic violence. This includes physical and mental abuse of any kind. I am a recent survivor of an abusive and drunken husband. He assaulted, raped, kicked...
    singleredheadfemale singleredheadfemale 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 10

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