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I Hate Abusive Men

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    Son Of An Abused Mother!

    i am 58 years old,and it seems as if it was yesterday that my alcoholic abusive father was always beating and yelling and cursing my mom and siblings.i dont care what therapists or any one says...it will never go away,and it never stops hurting.most of myfamily members say that i...
    moffatstreetboy moffatstreetboy 56-60, M 1 Response May 16, 2011

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    He Was So Wonderful At The Beginning

    Having read Unspoken, Unwritten Agreement by IronLotus and the comments to her story I knew I had to write. I need to tell all teenage girls here about what a male high-school teacher told me, a teacher who used his power to serve his best interest. I was involved with a 40...
    orangehoney orangehoney 46-50, F Mar 23, 2011

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    Bullies

    i have been in a abusive realtionship and i thought that i deserved it and that this is just the way it was but i finally learned that it doesnt have to be and i left him 18 months ago and now going through a divorce
    gypsywillow15 gypsywillow15 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    No Way Out

    Where do I begin?  5 years ago I married a man that I should have known better then to say "I do".  Thinking like most women, I thought his personalitiy "flaw" was just from his being alone.  OMG was I wrong.  The man I am with not only has character flaws...
    Sabrina56 Sabrina56 56-60, F 4 Responses May 13, 2010

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    Hey r. U in a abusive realasionship

    and he says ur fat well I know how u can loose a 100 Ibs dumb him and flush just like that!
    awesome101010 awesome101010 13-15, F Sep 12

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    I Think I Broke The Pattern

    when i was 14 i had a live in boyfriend, too young i know, but my mother didn't know how to raise me or my little sister. the abuse he inflicted got worse and by the time i was 16 i was depressed and suicidal and in physical pain. i have a memory of my father. he shattered her...
    moon1376 moon1376 36-40, F Apr 20, 2013

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    I Hate Abuse In All Forms - Not Just From Men

    I wish it were that simple, but sadly abuse happens from both men (much of it) and women - be it emotional or physical or otherwise and this is not only reserved to people, but there are those that abuse animals as well. I cannot understand the thought process that leads to this...
    DeepForest DeepForest 46-50 Nov 3, 2010

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    Love Truely Is Blind...

      In 2005, I met and and fell head over heals for a blond hair, blue eyed, prince charming....or so I thought. Things moved really quickly and I ended up moving in with his family after only a few weeks of being together. You know that saying about how "love is blind"? well it's...
    honeykiss7 honeykiss7 26-30 Nov 7, 2011

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    Heart Break

    sometimes i think tht all guys want to do is hit it and quit it y is it so hard to find a good guy now-a-days i have seen my friend suffer from heart break for a long time nd i am getting very tired of her crying over a guy i just want her to be happy nd not have to worry bout if...
    phe3000 phe3000 18-21, F Mar 2, 2012

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    Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde

    Hi, my name is Sharon and I am 53 years old.  I married my husband 3 years ago and  we met thru aquantainces.   Seemed there was something I couldn't quite put my finger on.  His mother was rude and condescending... and jealous that her oldest son had...
    frecklefacebombshell frecklefacebombshell 51-55 4 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 1 Response Aug 20, 2009

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    The First Time He Hit Me

    i remember the first time. i was already so blinded by my innocence. he smacked me, we had been together fro six months. we were in a hotel room. he smcked me for talking to one of his friends. i told myself, "so this is it. i'm going to be that woman.":
    fallingstar7891 fallingstar7891 22-25 Aug 3, 2011

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    Finally!

    It frustrates me to think about some past relationships I had where I was physically and sexually abused, and I did nothing at the time.  I kept thinking, oh, he didn't mean it, he really does love me, he's just having a bad day.  But now that i'm out and away from them...
    antisocialmuch antisocialmuch 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    Ms Snickers-the matriarc of our cat family.

      Her eyes, are so beautifull with their golden marble like color one has a beauty mark by it as well.  In her cat years she is 100 years old,now -meows in echos.  Only due to the fact her hearing has gone.  Her owners my sister and husband will be putting her peacefully and...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    I Was Abused By a Man

    For four years I was with a man that would beat on me and mentaly abuse me. People would ask me in thier "are you a total idiot!?" way why I stayed with him. The fact is I was way too young to have gotten with anyone and on top of that when you have someone threatening...
    robsangel2008 robsangel2008 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    "Why doesn't she just leave?

    " "Leaving an abusive relationship actually entails substantial risks for women. In fact, their risk of being killed increases by 75% when they leave." -Dr. Leelia Franck- Family Physician "Why did she get with a violent person in the first place?" "Domestic violence is...
    Bewail Bewail 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    Abusive relationships arent a new thing in my

    life. However, when I found out my bestfriend was being abused, it's shocked me. At 16, this isnt something that should happen. But she told me stories of being beaten unconscious, being punched and winded, being beaten with shoes, beaten with drumsticks, and all around terrible...
    13Smiles 13Smiles 16-17, F May 27

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    Snug As A Bug In My Bed -behind closed doors

       At age 16,   I was sort of waking up listening to my mother yell at my dad because  had not cleaned the bathroom at ten in the morning.  With  a horrified  shock I awoke to my dad's stinging   hands slapping me and grabbing me by the throat.   I had worked till...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    They Make Me Sick

    I can't believe how men can just hurt a women without even thinking about it. Apparently they were not brought up right. And they dont seem to understand that women do in fact have feelings. And that if we say no it probably has meaning. I also dont see how they live with...
    cidcat89 cidcat89 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2009

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    I Hate Them!!

    abusive men are just bullies and cowards, and i have no respect for them at all!! enough said!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response May 16, 2010

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    Let It Go

    I met a man 6 years ago and was immediately swept off my feet.  Little did I know the nightmare that would follow.  I tried to break off the relationship several times and he kept coming back.   He left his wife (even though he told me he was divorced), we got...
    merrilar merrilar 41-45 1 Response Sep 28, 2010

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 Aug 20, 2009

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    Can't Stand Them

    To me they have no spine...no backbone...they think they better themselves by abusing women. I'm only one guy..but I'd love to go toe to toe with these jerks. See how they can handle trying to take on another man instead of hitting women!!!!  Chances are they would not be...
    weather1965 weather1965 41-45, M Aug 18, 2008

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    The Things You Take

    You don't know the depth of your damage. Not that I think you give a **** but I would love for you to know how deep the knife you wielded plunged. I have used the best glues and adhesives I know but the cracks still reappear. Just when I think your memory has gone I see it...
    awhitedot awhitedot 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    My Father Etc.,etc, Etc & So On

    that's all I kmew growing up. Not me I watched my father beat my mother on a regular basis. of course we rarely kept a telephone so my friday nights or whatever night he chose I was running to neighbor and or the police telephone that was on the light poll  across the...
    stilltrying77 stilltrying77 46-50, F Mar 12, 2010

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    Well not hate but dislike. Can't be hate because my husband is one of them. I will go out for two hours and come home to a house that looks like it's been vandalized. I go out...
    HushedThoughts HushedThoughts 22-25 1 Response Sep 11

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    This isn't my own experience it is both of my friends. I will call them Gabe and Sarah( they don't want me to give their real names out). The other day I was with them and I had to...
    Anonymous485 Anonymous485 16-17, M 2 Responses Sep 17

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    I can't stand when people twist my words around and make them sound much worse than they are! I am uncomfortable around gay men. That doesn't mean I hate gay men! That's just an...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    how much longer can I deal with the small mindedness before I explode? for example, just today I went to put gas in my car at one of the local stations. when I walked in to pay...
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F Sep 19

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    and guess what? I hate selfish men.
    xlovelybutterflyx xlovelybutterflyx 18-21, F Sep 11

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    I hate fat men who think they are better then me
    worthlessex worthlessex 46-50, F Sep 23

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    My last story was 2011..........its 2014 and I'm literally dying inside, emotionally, physically and mentally from all the stress, emotional abuse, and mental abuse my son is...
    honeysuckle23 honeysuckle23 46-50, F 32 mins ago

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    I hate my life, I am almost 30 and haven't had a job in over 10 years, live alone, have 0 friends for 10 years now, almost never leave my house, high anxiety, major depression...
    Asadfellow Asadfellow 26-30, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Yesterday morning there was a *breaking news* story about a murder that took place around midnight Saturday night (very close to where I live). A husband had strangled his wife to...
    Polly73 Polly73 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    I have been out of my abusive relationship for many years about 7 years now and it is still something that haunts me. I don’t really have an outlet to talk about it and try and...
    Ruger1212 Ruger1212 31-35, F 3 hrs ago

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    I'm a 39 yo man, and like the title says I hate my mother. I was unfortunate enough to be born to a woman who would be the poster child for parent licenses. She was mentally ill...
    wonderweirdo wonderweirdo 36-40, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I decided to share this experience because I just don't feel like I can totally forgive this person for their actions it's been years, I've had another partner since and had...
    Trufflebug Trufflebug 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    When I first met you I was just getting out of a 9 year abusive relationship. I felt like I was finally starting to find myself again after all those years and like who I was and...
    JenI22 JenI22 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    Need to hide this here a while - lending ou my laptop (basic summary of my life from my point of view) I was bullied in school. Every single one. The first by a teacher which of...
    prettybrowneyes1993 prettybrowneyes1993 18-21, F Sep 1

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    I need to fix myself but idon't know how. I am attracted to mean people, violent people, controlling people;especially men. I see this pattern in my friendships too. I let people...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 12

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    Or I still am in one. I'm not sure. At the moment he's not here and he says he's not coming back but he always comes back. I don't want him to come back. I am frightened of him...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 10

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    Doesn't it seem hazy sometimes? I just woke up one day and my self esteem was shot, I second guessed my judgements, doubted my memory and I felt strange...strange and like I had...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I need some help now.. really I was a victim of emotional abuse. My father never ceased to criticise me, underestimate me, hated me, told me i am good for nothing . (if you are...
    ShadowlessSoul ShadowlessSoul 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 12

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    They just kicked me out a few days ago after I payed them rent! My son and I roomed with a friend and her boyfriend. For the last couple of months he has been verbally and mentally...
    SadAndHarassed SadAndHarassed 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    For those who find themselves trapped in an abusive relationship and need to understand the dynamics of why,this video is a must.
    berangere berangere 66-70, F Sep 17

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    Because i was in one myself for several years. He abused me as my bf, and i believed him when he said he would change and control his temper. I believed him so completely that i...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F Sep 18

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    This isn't my natural state. It's like every day is Halloween. Everyone's in their costumes. I seem to be sewn into mine. But everyone else seems to be enjoying the party, or they...
    Anyiel Anyiel 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 21

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    I hate waking up with myself, opening my despised eyes to see my hideous self. Tasting the horrible taste of my own mouth makes me not want to breathe. Then comes the stupid...
    tylerkleewilliams tylerkleewilliams 18-21, M 10 hrs ago

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