I Hate Abusive Men

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 676 People

    "Why doesn't she just leave?

    " "Leaving an abusive relationship actually entails substantial risks for women. In fact, their risk of being killed increases by 75% when they leave." -Dr. Leelia Franck- Family Physician "Why did she get with a violent person in the first place?" "Domestic violence is...
    Bewail Bewail
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 5, 2014

    Find her, protect her,

    spoil her, dance with her and never stop loving her or someone else will
    Omegawolf11 Omegawolf11
    18-21, M
    Jun 20, 2015

    i was abused by men my whole life

    and I'm tired of being scared, but i cant fight them alone...
    AnarchyRunner AnarchyRunner
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 21, 2015

    The Things You Take

    You don't know the depth of your damage. Not that I think you give a **** but I would love for you to know how deep the knife you wielded plunged. I have used the best glues and adhesives I know but the cracks still reappear. Just when I think your memory has gone I see it...
    awhitedot awhitedot
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2013

    Heart Break

    sometimes i think tht all guys want to do is hit it and quit it y is it so hard to find a good guy now-a-days i have seen my friend suffer from heart break for a long time nd i am getting very tired of her crying over a guy i just want her to be happy nd not have to worry bout if...
    phe3000 phe3000
    18-21, F
    Mar 2, 2012

    I Was Abused By a Man

    For four years I was with a man that would beat on me and mentaly abuse me. People would ask me in thier "are you a total idiot!?" way why I stayed with him. The fact is I was way too young to have gotten with anyone and on top of that when you have someone threatening...
    robsangel2008 robsangel2008
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2008

    Love Truely Is Blind...

      In 2005, I met and and fell head over heals for a blond hair, blue eyed, prince charming....or so I thought. Things moved really quickly and I ended up moving in with his family after only a few weeks of being together. You know that saying about how "love is blind"? well it's...
    honeykiss7 honeykiss7
    26-30
    Nov 7, 2011

    Ms Snickers-the matriarc of our cat family.

      Her eyes, are so beautifull with their golden marble like color one has a beauty mark by it as well.  In her cat years she is 100 years old,now -meows in echos.  Only due to the fact her hearing has gone.  Her owners my sister and husband will be putting her peacefully and...
    sibyll sibyll
    56-60, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2013

    Son Of An Abused Mother!

    i am 58 years old,and it seems as if it was yesterday that my alcoholic abusive father was always beating and yelling and cursing my mom and siblings.i dont care what therapists or any one says...it will never go away,and it never stops hurting.most of myfamily members say that i...
    moffatstreetboy moffatstreetboy
    56-60, M
    1 Response May 16, 2011

    I read lots of stories here about angry men.

    It's sad and makes me embarrassed to be a guy. Really, angry men, be MAN enough to look yourself in the mirror and realize the root of your anger is about yourself, not the woman in your life. Free her from your troubles. Let her be her. As for you - start the rebuild...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 10, 2015

    So he hits U and says he's sorry

    and loves U..heh.. It's not funny just pathetic HOW WRONG HE IS..he doesn't no what love means.. If he hits U, and says sorry no..if U were truly In love with
    stelliester stelliester
    16-17, F
    1 Response Feb 23, 2015

    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11
    36-40
    1 Response Aug 20, 2009

    Finally!

    It frustrates me to think about some past relationships I had where I was physically and sexually abused, and I did nothing at the time.  I kept thinking, oh, he didn't mean it, he really does love me, he's just having a bad day.  But now that i'm out and away from them...
    antisocialmuch antisocialmuch
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 26, 2009

    Snug As A Bug In My Bed -behind closed doors

       At age 16,   I was sort of waking up listening to my mother yell at my dad because  had not cleaned the bathroom at ten in the morning.  With  a horrified  shock I awoke to my dad's stinging   hands slapping me and grabbing me by the throat.   I had worked till...
    sibyll sibyll
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Feb 9, 2013

    Abuse is not always physical,

    sometimes you get abused by manipulation and you get taken advantage of!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    Bullies

    i have been in a abusive realtionship and i thought that i deserved it and that this is just the way it was but i finally learned that it doesnt have to be and i left him 18 months ago and now going through a divorce
    gypsywillow15 gypsywillow15
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 18, 2011

    I Hate Abuse In All Forms - Not Just From Men

    I wish it were that simple, but sadly abuse happens from both men (much of it) and women - be it emotional or physical or otherwise and this is not only reserved to people, but there are those that abuse animals as well. I cannot understand the thought process that leads to this...
    DeepForest DeepForest
    46-50
    Nov 3, 2010

    The only thing I can say about abusive men.

    If it is mental or physically. I know that if they are guilty they will reap what they have sown.
    Babeondwy Babeondwy
    41-45, F
    Sep 10, 2015

    My boyfriend never hit me.

    He never put a hand on me. But his words were worse than a slap. It was subtle, almost where I couldn't call him out on it. the things he said about me, to me. I am not the most perfect girl, or the prettiest he's ever seen. But I am important and beautiful and one day I'll be...
    Cate97 Cate97
    18-21, F
    Nov 14, 2015

    I was brought up with an verbally abusive step

    father. I was called a maggot, that I was a loser like my father. I was going to go to prison when I was 18. Every nasty thing you could say to a child, he did. He was an alcoholic. Verbally and physically abusive to my mother. Seeing a man do things to a women made me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 3, 2015

    The First Time He Hit Me

    i remember the first time. i was already so blinded by my innocence. he smacked me, we had been together fro six months. we were in a hotel room. he smcked me for talking to one of his friends. i told myself, "so this is it. i'm going to be that woman.":
    fallingstar7891 fallingstar7891
    22-25
    Aug 3, 2011

    Hey r. U in a abusive realasionship

    and he says ur fat well I know how u can loose a 100 Ibs dumb him and flush just like that!
    awesome101010 awesome101010
    16-17, F
    Sep 12, 2014

    I Hate Them!!

    abusive men are just bullies and cowards, and i have no respect for them at all!! enough said!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    1 Response May 16, 2010

    My Father Etc.,etc, Etc & So On

    that's all I kmew growing up. Not me I watched my father beat my mother on a regular basis. of course we rarely kept a telephone so my friday nights or whatever night he chose I was running to neighbor and or the police telephone that was on the light poll  across the...
    stilltrying77 stilltrying77
    46-50, F
    Mar 12, 2010

    I Think I Broke The Pattern

    when i was 14 i had a live in boyfriend, too young i know, but my mother didn't know how to raise me or my little sister. the abuse he inflicted got worse and by the time i was 16 i was depressed and suicidal and in physical pain. i have a memory of my father. he shattered her...
    moon1376 moon1376
    36-40, F
    Apr 20, 2013

    Abusive relationships arent a new thing in my

    life. However, when I found out my bestfriend was being abused, it's shocked me. At 16, this isnt something that should happen. But she told me stories of being beaten unconscious, being punched and winded, being beaten with shoes, beaten with drumsticks, and all around terrible...
    13Smiles 13Smiles
    18-21, F
    May 27, 2014

    They Make Me Sick

    I can't believe how men can just hurt a women without even thinking about it. Apparently they were not brought up right. And they dont seem to understand that women do in fact have feelings. And that if we say no it probably has meaning. I also dont see how they live with...
    cidcat89 cidcat89
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 5, 2009

    No Way Out

    Where do I begin?  5 years ago I married a man that I should have known better then to say "I do".  Thinking like most women, I thought his personalitiy "flaw" was just from his being alone.  OMG was I wrong.  The man I am with not only has character flaws...
    Sabrina56 Sabrina56
    56-60, F
    4 Responses May 13, 2010

    Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde

    Hi, my name is Sharon and I am 53 years old.  I married my husband 3 years ago and  we met thru aquantainces.   Seemed there was something I couldn't quite put my finger on.  His mother was rude and condescending... and jealous that her oldest son had...
    frecklefacebombshell frecklefacebombshell
    51-55
    4 Responses Nov 9, 2008

    Can't Stand Them

    To me they have no spine...no backbone...they think they better themselves by abusing women. I'm only one guy..but I'd love to go toe to toe with these jerks. See how they can handle trying to take on another man instead of hitting women!!!!  Chances are they would not be...
    weather1965 weather1965
    41-45, M
    Aug 18, 2008

    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11
    36-40
    Aug 20, 2009

    My sister was in a abusive relationship.

    She just wouldn't stay away from him. He said she loved him but he tried to kill her. I was so mad at her. I cried for weeks & just tried to understand how she felt. Well, he did it again & she finally came to her senses & left him. She also pressed charges & he is now in prison...
    Jessicajoyy Jessicajoyy
    22-25, F
    Jul 13, 2015

    Let It Go

    I met a man 6 years ago and was immediately swept off my feet.  Little did I know the nightmare that would follow.  I tried to break off the relationship several times and he kept coming back.   He left his wife (even though he told me he was divorced), we got...
    merrilar merrilar
    41-45
    1 Response Sep 28, 2010

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