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I Hate Abusive Men

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    The Things You Take

    You don't know the depth of your damage. Not that I think you give a **** but I would love for you to know how deep the knife you wielded plunged. I have used the best glues and adhesives I know but the cracks still reappear. Just when I think your memory has gone I see it...
    awhitedot awhitedot 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Heart Break

    sometimes i think tht all guys want to do is hit it and quit it y is it so hard to find a good guy now-a-days i have seen my friend suffer from heart break for a long time nd i am getting very tired of her crying over a guy i just want her to be happy nd not have to worry bout if...
    phe3000 phe3000 18-21, F Mar 2, 2012

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    Bullies

    i have been in a abusive realtionship and i thought that i deserved it and that this is just the way it was but i finally learned that it doesnt have to be and i left him 18 months ago and now going through a divorce
    gypsywillow15 gypsywillow15 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    No Way Out

    Where do I begin?  5 years ago I married a man that I should have known better then to say "I do".  Thinking like most women, I thought his personalitiy "flaw" was just from his being alone.  OMG was I wrong.  The man I am with not only has character flaws...
    Sabrina56 Sabrina56 56-60, F 4 Responses May 13, 2010

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    Let It Go

    I met a man 6 years ago and was immediately swept off my feet.  Little did I know the nightmare that would follow.  I tried to break off the relationship several times and he kept coming back.   He left his wife (even though he told me he was divorced), we got...
    merrilar merrilar 41-45 1 Response Sep 28, 2010

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    Son Of An Abused Mother!

    i am 58 years old,and it seems as if it was yesterday that my alcoholic abusive father was always beating and yelling and cursing my mom and siblings.i dont care what therapists or any one says...it will never go away,and it never stops hurting.most of myfamily members say that i...
    moffatstreetboy moffatstreetboy 56-60, M 1 Response May 16, 2011

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    Love Truely Is Blind...

      In 2005, I met and and fell head over heals for a blond hair, blue eyed, prince charming....or so I thought. Things moved really quickly and I ended up moving in with his family after only a few weeks of being together. You know that saying about how "love is blind"? well it's...
    honeykiss7 honeykiss7 26-30 Nov 7, 2011

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    "Why doesn't she just leave?

    " "Leaving an abusive relationship actually entails substantial risks for women. In fact, their risk of being killed increases by 75% when they leave." -Dr. Leelia Franck- Family Physician "Why did she get with a violent person in the first place?" "Domestic violence is...
    Bewail Bewail 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2014

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    I Think I Broke The Pattern

    when i was 14 i had a live in boyfriend, too young i know, but my mother didn't know how to raise me or my little sister. the abuse he inflicted got worse and by the time i was 16 i was depressed and suicidal and in physical pain. i have a memory of my father. he shattered her...
    moon1376 moon1376 36-40, F Apr 20, 2013

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    So he hits U and says he's sorry

    and loves U..heh.. It's not funny just pathetic HOW WRONG HE IS..he doesn't no what love means.. If he hits U, and says sorry no..if U were truly In love with
    stelliester stelliester 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    He Was So Wonderful At The Beginning

    Having read Unspoken, Unwritten Agreement by IronLotus and the comments to her story I knew I had to write. I need to tell all teenage girls here about what a male high-school teacher told me, a teacher who used his power to serve his best interest. I was involved with a 40...
    orangehoney orangehoney 46-50, F Mar 23, 2011

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    I Was Abused By a Man

    For four years I was with a man that would beat on me and mentaly abuse me. People would ask me in thier "are you a total idiot!?" way why I stayed with him. The fact is I was way too young to have gotten with anyone and on top of that when you have someone threatening...
    robsangel2008 robsangel2008 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    Hey r. U in a abusive realasionship

    and he says ur fat well I know how u can loose a 100 Ibs dumb him and flush just like that!
    awesome101010 awesome101010 16-17, F Sep 12, 2014

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 1 Response Aug 20, 2009

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    Snug As A Bug In My Bed -behind closed doors

       At age 16,   I was sort of waking up listening to my mother yell at my dad because  had not cleaned the bathroom at ten in the morning.  With  a horrified  shock I awoke to my dad's stinging   hands slapping me and grabbing me by the throat.   I had worked till...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde

    Hi, my name is Sharon and I am 53 years old.  I married my husband 3 years ago and  we met thru aquantainces.   Seemed there was something I couldn't quite put my finger on.  His mother was rude and condescending... and jealous that her oldest son had...
    frecklefacebombshell frecklefacebombshell 51-55 4 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 Aug 20, 2009

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    They Make Me Sick

    I can't believe how men can just hurt a women without even thinking about it. Apparently they were not brought up right. And they dont seem to understand that women do in fact have feelings. And that if we say no it probably has meaning. I also dont see how they live with...
    cidcat89 cidcat89 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2009

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    Can't Stand Them

    To me they have no spine...no backbone...they think they better themselves by abusing women. I'm only one guy..but I'd love to go toe to toe with these jerks. See how they can handle trying to take on another man instead of hitting women!!!!  Chances are they would not be...
    weather1965 weather1965 41-45, M Aug 18, 2008

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    Abusive relationships arent a new thing in my

    life. However, when I found out my bestfriend was being abused, it's shocked me. At 16, this isnt something that should happen. But she told me stories of being beaten unconscious, being punched and winded, being beaten with shoes, beaten with drumsticks, and all around terrible...
    13Smiles 13Smiles 16-17, F May 27, 2014

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    Finally!

    It frustrates me to think about some past relationships I had where I was physically and sexually abused, and I did nothing at the time.  I kept thinking, oh, he didn't mean it, he really does love me, he's just having a bad day.  But now that i'm out and away from them...
    antisocialmuch antisocialmuch 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    My Father Etc.,etc, Etc & So On

    that's all I kmew growing up. Not me I watched my father beat my mother on a regular basis. of course we rarely kept a telephone so my friday nights or whatever night he chose I was running to neighbor and or the police telephone that was on the light poll  across the...
    stilltrying77 stilltrying77 46-50, F Mar 12, 2010

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    I Hate Abuse In All Forms - Not Just From Men

    I wish it were that simple, but sadly abuse happens from both men (much of it) and women - be it emotional or physical or otherwise and this is not only reserved to people, but there are those that abuse animals as well. I cannot understand the thought process that leads to this...
    DeepForest DeepForest 46-50 1 Response Nov 3, 2010

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    Ms Snickers-the matriarc of our cat family.

      Her eyes, are so beautifull with their golden marble like color one has a beauty mark by it as well.  In her cat years she is 100 years old,now -meows in echos.  Only due to the fact her hearing has gone.  Her owners my sister and husband will be putting her peacefully and...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    I Hate Them!!

    abusive men are just bullies and cowards, and i have no respect for them at all!! enough said!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response May 16, 2010

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    The First Time He Hit Me

    i remember the first time. i was already so blinded by my innocence. he smacked me, we had been together fro six months. we were in a hotel room. he smcked me for talking to one of his friends. i told myself, "so this is it. i'm going to be that woman.":
    fallingstar7891 fallingstar7891 22-25 Aug 3, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    My mother is slowly losing her once impressive command of language. Commonplace items are now routinely referred to as "whatitsname" or "that...you know". But two words that still...
    talkinaftermidnight talkinaftermidnight 36-40, M 6 Responses Feb 7

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    fattitsisjustadlut123 51-55, F why is it that every time I see every letter as a cap and there are nonsensical but abusive words in a comment it is a brand new account like the one...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 8

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    My mother I realise suffers from NPD Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I have thrown myself at Narcissistic psychopathic men to simply be free of her. I have got over these...
    BrigdBee BrigdBee 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I absolutely hate controlling men and people. Men who try to control their women and every move they make. Its sad and I wish I could do something about it. It sucks to see women...
    batmanfan4ever16 batmanfan4ever16 22-25, M Feb 22

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    I will never understand why gender stereotypes still exist. I hate having people tell me that a girl needs to look and act a certain way. And I'm sure that men as well hate the...
    glomilk glomilk 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    What I hate most are men on this site who inbox me and put words in my mouth or play the victim. I always do my best to be honest. I know that there are great guys on here; but...
    smooches smooches 22-25, F 15 Responses Feb 10

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    I should not say that all men have hurt me. I do not think that all men are evil or blame everyone in my life but I have been hurt by a lot of men. I don't want to be bitter and I...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I really do. I know this ****** everyone off. But I'm seriously the worst. I hurt everyone that gives me their time. Even if I don't believe you love me, you gave me your time, and...
    Levi1 Levi1 13-15, M 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    My husband screams at me, calls me names and says I am abusive to him. I can't take it anymore and although I love my daughter more than anything, I sometimes wish she wasn't here...
    trapped83 trapped83 31-35, F 3 hrs ago

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    Out with winter in with the warm days. I hate warm days. That's when you see people in your neighborhood you haven't really seen all winter. Everyone just standing around looking...
    ptsdlady ptsdlady 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    Hate is a strong word, so I won't say I necessarily hate my husband. I strongly dislike the dude though. No I'm not in an abusive home. His job allows me to stay home with our...
    MrsTellit MrsTellit 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    So yeah I was.....how can a guy be in one you may ask.....well its damn easy when she is a complete narcissistic woman......I would wish this on my worst enemy......she gaslighted...
    huckleberrybunches huckleberrybunches 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 15

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    I dont know why I am writing this, I just need to get things off my chest. I don't hate my mother. And that's the worst part because I despise the person she is, yet I feel...
    Bizarree Bizarree 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 7

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    Well most of the time females don't aproach males, so most of the time males take take the first step of aproaching the female & making her acknowledge his pressence. So basically...
    omarrochet omarrochet 18-21, M 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    murdering a girl child in her mother's womb and if unfortunately she s born making her life worse than hell, the only thing the people with stereotype mindset India do. they...
    Ahaanaa Ahaanaa 13-15, F 8 hrs ago

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    It seems all the ones i meet are abusive evil monsters. And the so called nice ones have nothing but ulterior motives. I dont trust anyone at all, especially men of any race.
    kaukusaki kaukusaki 26-30 8 Responses Feb 8

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    Unless she is going to kill or do something heinous, do not lay your hands on a girl or woman. All men get painted with a chauvinist abusive brush every time one of these wastes of...
    Vdarkghost Vdarkghost 22-25 1 Response Feb 13

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    My landlord is a class "A" tool. Most of the tenants can't stand this guy and many move out within the first few months of moving in. He talks to everyone like he's some kind of...
    ashamedofmyfamily ashamedofmyfamily 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 18

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