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I Hate Abusive Men

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 377 People

    My Father Etc.,etc, Etc & So On

    that's all I kmew growing up. Not me I watched my father beat my mother on a regular basis. of course we rarely kept a telephone so my friday nights or whatever night he chose I was running to neighbor and or the police telephone that was on the light poll  across the...
    stilltrying77 stilltrying77 46-50, F Mar 12, 2010

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    I Was Abused By a Man

    For four years I was with a man that would beat on me and mentaly abuse me. People would ask me in thier "are you a total idiot!?" way why I stayed with him. The fact is I was way too young to have gotten with anyone and on top of that when you have someone threatening...
    robsangel2008 robsangel2008 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    No Way Out

    Where do I begin?  5 years ago I married a man that I should have known better then to say "I do".  Thinking like most women, I thought his personalitiy "flaw" was just from his being alone.  OMG was I wrong.  The man I am with not only has character flaws...
    Sabrina56 Sabrina56 56-60, F 4 Responses May 13, 2010

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    Abusive relationships arent a new thing in my

    life. However, when I found out my bestfriend was being abused, it's shocked me. At 16, this isnt something that should happen. But she told me stories of being beaten unconscious, being punched and winded, being beaten with shoes, beaten with drumsticks, and all around terrible...
    13Smiles 13Smiles 16-17, F May 27

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    Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde

    Hi, my name is Sharon and I am 53 years old.  I married my husband 3 years ago and  we met thru aquantainces.   Seemed there was something I couldn't quite put my finger on.  His mother was rude and condescending... and jealous that her oldest son had...
    frecklefacebombshell frecklefacebombshell 51-55 4 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 Aug 20, 2009

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    Love Truely Is Blind...

      In 2005, I met and and fell head over heals for a blond hair, blue eyed, prince charming....or so I thought. Things moved really quickly and I ended up moving in with his family after only a few weeks of being together. You know that saying about how "love is blind"? well it's...
    honeykiss7 honeykiss7 26-30 Nov 7, 2011

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    Heart Break

    sometimes i think tht all guys want to do is hit it and quit it y is it so hard to find a good guy now-a-days i have seen my friend suffer from heart break for a long time nd i am getting very tired of her crying over a guy i just want her to be happy nd not have to worry bout if...
    phe3000 phe3000 18-21, F Mar 2, 2012

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    I Think I Broke The Pattern

    when i was 14 i had a live in boyfriend, too young i know, but my mother didn't know how to raise me or my little sister. the abuse he inflicted got worse and by the time i was 16 i was depressed and suicidal and in physical pain. i have a memory of my father. he shattered her...
    moon1376 moon1376 36-40, F Apr 20, 2013

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    Let It Go

    I met a man 6 years ago and was immediately swept off my feet.  Little did I know the nightmare that would follow.  I tried to break off the relationship several times and he kept coming back.   He left his wife (even though he told me he was divorced), we got...
    merrilar merrilar 41-45 1 Response Sep 28, 2010

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    Bullies

    i have been in a abusive realtionship and i thought that i deserved it and that this is just the way it was but i finally learned that it doesnt have to be and i left him 18 months ago and now going through a divorce
    gypsywillow15 gypsywillow15 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    I Hate Them!!

    abusive men are just bullies and cowards, and i have no respect for them at all!! enough said!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response May 16, 2010

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    Finally!

    It frustrates me to think about some past relationships I had where I was physically and sexually abused, and I did nothing at the time.  I kept thinking, oh, he didn't mean it, he really does love me, he's just having a bad day.  But now that i'm out and away from them...
    antisocialmuch antisocialmuch 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    "Why doesn't she just leave?

    " "Leaving an abusive relationship actually entails substantial risks for women. In fact, their risk of being killed increases by 75% when they leave." -Dr. Leelia Franck- Family Physician "Why did she get with a violent person in the first place?" "Domestic violence is...
    Bewail Bewail 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    The Things You Take

    You don't know the depth of your damage. Not that I think you give a **** but I would love for you to know how deep the knife you wielded plunged. I have used the best glues and adhesives I know but the cracks still reappear. Just when I think your memory has gone I see it...
    awhitedot awhitedot 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Snug As A Bug In My Bed -behind closed doors

       At age 16,   I was sort of waking up listening to my mother yell at my dad because  had not cleaned the bathroom at ten in the morning.  With  a horrified  shock I awoke to my dad's stinging   hands slapping me and grabbing me by the throat.   I had worked till...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    Hey r. U in a abusive realasionship

    and he says ur fat well I know how u can loose a 100 Ibs dumb him and flush just like that!
    awesome101010 awesome101010 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Not Sure What to Do

    I am scared of going to counseling with this abusive guy.  Is this something to worry about?  He has tried to discredit my friends and family already for several years.  He is depressed and sometimes angry, and only says he's getting couseling for "...
    Alpha11 Alpha11 36-40 1 Response Aug 20, 2009

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    They Make Me Sick

    I can't believe how men can just hurt a women without even thinking about it. Apparently they were not brought up right. And they dont seem to understand that women do in fact have feelings. And that if we say no it probably has meaning. I also dont see how they live with...
    cidcat89 cidcat89 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2009

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    Son Of An Abused Mother!

    i am 58 years old,and it seems as if it was yesterday that my alcoholic abusive father was always beating and yelling and cursing my mom and siblings.i dont care what therapists or any one says...it will never go away,and it never stops hurting.most of myfamily members say that i...
    moffatstreetboy moffatstreetboy 56-60, M 1 Response May 16, 2011

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    I Hate Abuse In All Forms - Not Just From Men

    I wish it were that simple, but sadly abuse happens from both men (much of it) and women - be it emotional or physical or otherwise and this is not only reserved to people, but there are those that abuse animals as well. I cannot understand the thought process that leads to this...
    DeepForest DeepForest 46-50 Nov 3, 2010

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    The First Time He Hit Me

    i remember the first time. i was already so blinded by my innocence. he smacked me, we had been together fro six months. we were in a hotel room. he smcked me for talking to one of his friends. i told myself, "so this is it. i'm going to be that woman.":
    fallingstar7891 fallingstar7891 22-25 Aug 3, 2011

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    He Was So Wonderful At The Beginning

    Having read Unspoken, Unwritten Agreement by IronLotus and the comments to her story I knew I had to write. I need to tell all teenage girls here about what a male high-school teacher told me, a teacher who used his power to serve his best interest. I was involved with a 40...
    orangehoney orangehoney 46-50, F Mar 23, 2011

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    Can't Stand Them

    To me they have no spine...no backbone...they think they better themselves by abusing women. I'm only one guy..but I'd love to go toe to toe with these jerks. See how they can handle trying to take on another man instead of hitting women!!!!  Chances are they would not be...
    weather1965 weather1965 41-45, M Aug 18, 2008

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    Ms Snickers-the matriarc of our cat family.

      Her eyes, are so beautifull with their golden marble like color one has a beauty mark by it as well.  In her cat years she is 100 years old,now -meows in echos.  Only due to the fact her hearing has gone.  Her owners my sister and husband will be putting her peacefully and...
    sibyll sibyll 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Well not hate but dislike. Can't be hate because my husband is one of them. I will go out for two hours and come home to a house that looks like it's been vandalized. I go out...
    HushedThoughts HushedThoughts 22-25 1 Response 6 days ago

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    This isn't my own experience it is both of my friends. I will call them Gabe and Sarah( they don't want me to give their real names out). The other day I was with them and I had to...
    Anonymous485 Anonymous485 16-17, M 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    and guess what? I hate selfish men.
    xlovelybutterflyx xlovelybutterflyx 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    My mother is a narcissist. My dad is her faithful enabler. They have been married for 52 years and to this day he does what she says. My mother was never home growing up. When...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 11 hrs ago

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    to everyone out there, please stop assuming that me and others on ep, are attention seeking. this is a place to share experiences and feel better about ourselves, not to put down...
    emjagrace emjagrace 13-15, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Me aged 7. I lived with my mum in a council house just me and her she didn't work and we certainly didn't have much. But you don't need stuff to be happy Then she met a guy. It was...
    Onedaybaby Onedaybaby 26-30, F 6 hrs ago

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    Men can't you read I don't add and talk to men sorry to disappoint you I am straight and I get on better with girls I get called names like a creep etc and I think to myself...
    charmingcutie charmingcutie 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    Guys are stupid, just insane to a point of ludicrously. I can't believe the depth of idiocy that some men were willing to propagate as fact. I saw this article and knew what it...
    Novemberman Novemberman 22-25, M 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Hello, my name is Diane and I am a junior at Rutgers University in New Brunswick. After the recent news concerning Mike Brown/Ferguson and police brutality, and reading about the...
    deekayyy deekayyy 18-21, F Aug 18

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    When I first met you I was just getting out of a 9 year abusive relationship. I felt like I was finally starting to find myself again after all those years and like who I was and...
    JenI22 JenI22 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Need to hide this here a while - lending ou my laptop (basic summary of my life from my point of view) I was bullied in school. Every single one. The first by a teacher which of...
    prettybrowneyes1993 prettybrowneyes1993 18-21, F Sep 1

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    I need to fix myself but idon't know how. I am attracted to mean people, violent people, controlling people;especially men. I see this pattern in my friendships too. I let people...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    There are nights when I just can't sleep without you. So I just look through the book of our pictures thar you gave me. Not to mention our songs. Which bring me through the night...
    KingFluffy823 KingFluffy823 16-17, M 19 hrs ago

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    I joined the Navy 2 years ago and within those 2 years I've experienced stupidity, hypocrisy, and bullying. The Navy may have taken steps to end hazing but there's still a lot of...
    CowgirlBebop CowgirlBebop 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    I used to be one of the prettiest girls. and I disfigured my self. with my own fingers. I decided I wanted a smaller jaw and smaller lips. little did I know the devil was...
    unlovednbroken unlovednbroken 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Firstly, I am not writing this to look for sympathy or pity from others, I am just at a point where I can not stand either of my parents anymore and I'm am not comfortable enough...
    CKINKAID CKINKAID 16-17, F Aug 22

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    I thought i get it all off my chest on here seeing as I was reading lots of emotional abuse and psychical abuse stories on here a few weeks ago that got me moving in my decision to...
    catgirl87 catgirl87 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    I was married for 10 years, my ex was verbally and physically abusive. He stopped working for the last two years,and I was the main support of the house. He would always accused me...
    liza0324 liza0324 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Or I still am in one. I'm not sure. At the moment he's not here and he says he's not coming back but he always comes back. I don't want him to come back. I am frightened of him...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Men can't you read I don't add and talk to men sorry to disappoint you I am straight and I get on better with girls I get called names like a creep etc and I think to myself...
    charmingcutie charmingcutie 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    So, how to start? I got married 2 years ago last weekend to a nice boy, a good Christian boy, or so I thought, so he led me to believe. Turns out he was lying. About all of it...
    geolbt geolbt 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I need some help now.. really I was a victim of emotional abuse. My father never ceased to criticise me, underestimate me, hated me, told me i am good for nothing . (if you are...
    ShadowlessSoul ShadowlessSoul 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    They just kicked me out a few days ago after I payed them rent! My son and I roomed with a friend and her boyfriend. For the last couple of months he has been verbally and mentally...
    SadAndHarassed SadAndHarassed 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My mom hates me. My stepdad hates me. I feel like I should just give up and kill myself. I hate everything about me. I just wanna die. I hate myself more than anyone on the...
    naddo630 naddo630 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Here are the 25 Traits of an Alpha male: 1. An Alpha male is very comfortable with himself. He always radiates confidence. He does not fear anyone, he does not really care how...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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