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I Hate Asking For Help

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    I Hate To Ask For Help

    I hate to ask for help but if I really need help I ask for it anyway.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 Jan 29, 2012

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    I can't,I try but then I think how weak

    and vulnerable I'll appear and then I tell myself to suck it up and,I think this is my biggest down fall :/
    xosydneeox xosydneeox 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    I don't know why, but I hate asking

    for it! I think it's because I feel like the teacher will yell at me in case I wasn't listening. But it really does help when they give you hints and stuff.
    cotygal123 cotygal123 13-15, F Dec 31, 2013

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    I Have to Do It Myself

    I am so bad at asking for help.  If something is to heavy and I have to move it I will try everything before I give up but I won't ask for help.  That is a bad thing too because I usually end up hurting myself.  I don't ask for help much also because I just want to do it...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F 12 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    When I ask for help, I always feel like it's

    admitting that I'm stupid, yes I score high on the standardized tests and have a high IQ but I still hate it when I don't get things and have to ask for help
    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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    I should have sought therapy two years ago

    but my pride and stupidity got in the way. I should seek it out now . . . If humans need mentl maintenance then my mind is just rust right now.
    Raptorpsychologist Raptorpsychologist 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 18

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    I hate asking people

    for help even when I need it because I have a really bad problem in thinking I can do everything on my own
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 1 Response May 23

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    This is something i am trying to work on.

    I'm an extremely proud man, and i really hate asking someone for help. I have the attitude of 'no, i can do this by myself, i don't need anyone's help'. Definitely needs changing. Being proud is a good thing in my opinion, but i take it too far.
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I don't like asking for help,

    even if I need it, I don't like asking for it. When I do, it makes me feel weak, and it kind of makes me feel like a loser, and a failure. I'd much rather figure out and solve things on my own. So that's why, I kind of feel shameful asking for help.
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    You stubborn bastard Ryan.

    Yes yes yes, i know. But i am an extremely proud man, so when i ask for help, i feel inferior. Being stubborn is probably the one thing i would change about myself, but being proud is something i would never change. I don't like asking for help, in fact, i hate it. That's why i...
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M 1 Response May 14

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    It makes me feel weak

    or that I might somehow end up in someone's debt or some bs like that.
    Nojji Nojji 13-15, F 5 Responses May 8

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    One Time I Asked For Help.

    I met this girl who was all like you can talk to me about anything, I'll help, I swear and stuff. So I finally told her about my most miserable, when I was raped and all she said was, "rape happens to a million girls in the world, get over it. why should I bother when it doesn't...
    Broken2412 Broken2412 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    I absolutely hate needing help.

    I've always been self sufficient, and I believe I can handle anything life throws at me on my own. Even though everyone needs help at some point, don't be like me! If someone offers to help you, take it!
    ArtPaige ArtPaige 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    I hate asking for it

    but I love to give it!!:)
    ChiyoStorm14 ChiyoStorm14 13-15, F 1 Response May 8

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    When it's something about my personal life,

    I have on my fake smile, I don't ask for help even when I need it because I know I can fix it if I just put a little thought into it ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ No school is totally different, I'll say for tutoring if needed because I know the only way to survive this...
    Nishanae Nishanae 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2013

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    Pride has cost me love

    and happiness, money, productivity
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I Always Feel Like I'm Bothering Others

    I hate asking for help too. For me, I don't really think it's about pride. I think it's more about low self-esteem. I feel like if I ask someone for help, I'm bothering them. And why should I expect anyone to drop what they're doing to help ME? While I hate blaming my parents...
    lmori lmori 36-40 5 Responses Dec 26, 2010

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    I just don't like it.

    If I can achieve it on my own, then why bother others? If it's not reasonable to achieve alone, then that's when I'll ask for help. But only then.
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    And Always Have...

    When I was a kid, I had to learn the skills of survival early on because my mom was a lost soul and capable of only limited parenting. By the age of 6 I was making my own lunch for school, and had to make my way through the world in great part looking out for myself. As a result...
    VTMarkus VTMarkus 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2011

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    But I'm Learning...

    I was always afraid of letting anyone close to me--much less ask or let them help me. It's still a little hard to allow someone to help, and I rarely ask, but I am slowly growing toward being able to be real and open with others...... and finding that it shows my COURAGE and...
    02KnowMe 02KnowMe 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    Young m willing to do anything to help his

    family. Have anything to ask www.gofundme.com/7b4p5c
    Boredathomeboy Boredathomeboy 18-21, M Mar 9

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    I hate asking for help

    so much, if I were drowning, I probably would not ask someone for help.
    ftw667 ftw667 36-40, M May 31

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    I always hate the idea of asking

    for help and delegating work to others. I enjoy doing things by myself and getting the work done with no body to blame but me if ever things don't go as plan, even if it gets really difficult that I hardly sleep any more. But of course, there will be times that you'll need to...
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F May 21

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    I try not to judge but I do i feel

    that is what I need help with
    HaitiBeauty101 HaitiBeauty101 18-21, F Apr 6

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    Not Been Brought Up This Way....

    As a child, I was always ridiculed for showing emotion. When I cried, my mother used to say that I was being ridiculous or silly. I guess since then, I have grown up to think my feelings dont matter. I feel I always have to be strong and when I am upset, I worry that I cant voice...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    Failure!

    I've failed/dropped 9 classes because I was scared to ask for help! I've pulled muscles, been physically hurt, been afraid to cry or talk to people I love because I don't want to bother anyone.
    jokinpa jokinpa 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 10, 2007

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    I Admit It.

    I'm a man. I'm stubborn. And, asking for directions is a last resort.
    Inman Inman 31-35, M 4 Responses Jan 19, 2008

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    JamesWatson96 JamesWatson96 16-17, M Feb 22

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    I'm Always the Helper, So I Can't Be the "Helpee"

    Although I've recently figured out its actually okay to ask for help, its still hard for me. People think I give great advice, so they always come to me with their problems. I will sit with a person for hours on end listening to their story and offering feedback, and I like it...
    sublimex sublimex 16-17, F 6 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    Asking For Help: Is Like Getting My Teeth Pulled

    Why is it so hard to ask people for help when I need it. There isn't anything in my childhood that may have hindered me from asking for help...I think. I needed my mom to help with my homework but she was resting when I decided to get it done. My dad said to ask my older brother...
    Letstalkaboutitin2013 Letstalkaboutitin2013 61-65, F Oct 25, 2012

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    I Rarely Ask For Help

    Not sure why but I hat to ask anyone else for anything at all.  I think most of all I hate the feeling of being helpless in any  situation. I try and plan ahead for anything that I can.  Not like an obsession or anything , I just get great peace of mind from being...
    VoteForPedro VoteForPedro 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 20, 2010

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    I'm 15 And Could Use Some Advise.

    My dad and mom are getting divorces. They told me and my siblings 3 months ago and right now every week i change houses but i really want to stay with my mom her week plus all weekends; this means that i would see my dad every second week. I love my dad but i don't know what to...
    DontBeSad DontBeSad 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I don't know my pride is a problem.

    I would rather fail than ask for help. I know that's really stupid, but whenever I have asked for help it made me feel some type of way. Wasn't a good feeling. It made me feel stupid and incapable
    DarkGoddesss DarkGoddesss 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    So I called the young adults help line

    and they were no effing help. Thanks for nothing. God! Why are people so stupid?!?!!?? I'm so damn frustrated
    SydneyDuchanne SydneyDuchanne 18-21, F 2 Responses May 8

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    I don't like asking for help.

    I like being able to say "I did this! I was able to overcome this and get it done myself!" Although I know how to ask for help wen it's truly needed.
    BeefStromi BeefStromi 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 16

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    Not something I like doing.

    Something I am working on doing more of. I have been pleasantly surprised. My friends are way cooler than I gave them credit for being and are much more supportive than I ever thought they would be. I guess telling some of my "secrets" and letting them help has made us...
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    I Hate Asking For Help ... To Me It Is A Sign Of Weakness

    In my younger days I was a very strong woman, physically, emotionally and financially. I grieve for those days when I was independent, carefree and confident.Two things have changed my life drastically; I had an accident nine years ago, and for the last two and a half years I...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond 46-50, F 10 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    My Flaw

    Somewhere along the way in my screwey childhood, I was taught that asking for and/or accepting help was a terrible weakness. Well...that's what my Mama's husband would say anyway! Meanwhile Mama would give the shirt off her back to anyone who needed it. Sometimes it was a guy...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 8, 2012

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    I absolutely hate asking

    for help. For whatever the situation is I feel like people will think I'm dumb or weak or not independent of I ask for help. It's been a lifelong struggle.
    Girlinthefloweredskirt Girlinthefloweredskirt 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 20

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    My husband and I were working

    and everything was great. Then one day my mom had breast cancer and she had allzheimers but it wasn't bad. But when she started chemo the allzheimers came out fast. I had to quit work to take care of her and a month later I had to take my husband to the hospital and he had to...
    cyrak cyrak 51-55, F Apr 11

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    My Final Option Maybe it's my pride at work,

    maybe it's because I feel weak asking, maybe because in the past, when I've asked people for help, they've fallen through and/or wanted something in return and constantly hold it over your head until you've paid them back, but it's the most difficult thing for me to do. So...
    SaturnSenshi SaturnSenshi 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    I have been abandoned

    after 23 yrs, left with the boys and a house I am afraid I can't afford!
    Kennyd529 Kennyd529 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 30

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    But I need help. I need someone to pour out to,

    someone to listen. I am so damaged and no one cares to ask my whole story and I want to tell it. I need to. I'm struggling to live and I need a friend right now. If you can please message me and help me I would feel sooo much better. If you don't like to hear people's problems I...
    imforeverME imforeverME 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    I hate this. But please I need a girl to talk

    to right now about stuff I just don't know what to do anymore. Please I know one of you cares enough. Please show me that people still care. (786) 459-7844
    cheezyfish cheezyfish 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    Sometimes I forget that it's okay to ask

    for help, because I'm so used to always doing everything for myself. I don't ask anyone for anything anymore, because the only person I ever want to depend on to get a job done and done correctly, is myself. I tend to get very stressed though
    amandaceline18 amandaceline18 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    The Price Of Pride

    When I was a kid, we struggled somewhat financially due to my mom's alcoholism. Every time my sister used to ask for something my parents couldn't afford, I saw how much it upset my dad that he couldn't give it to her. So I learned not to ask at all. I developed quite a complex...
    Lullacus Lullacus 18-21, F 2 Responses May 18, 2013

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    Expectations...

    I have such high expectations of myself and have always held myself responsible and accountable beyond all others regardless. Asking for help, as my upbringing would make you believe, is a weakness from within, a character flaw of sorts.  This was unacceptable.  It was...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    I've been independent for so long and it bothers me to have to ask for help. But people encourage me too I try to ask for help when I need it
    DepressedButWellDressed DepressedButWellDressed 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Due to my independent nature it's difficult for me to reach out for help. I found out that you have to depend on yourself, because people with good intentions tend to not want to...
    LillyPad80 LillyPad80 41-45, F Jul 14

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    But now I need it. Just someone to listen I guess, I don't really know. I had a moral dilemma two nights ago. A friends cousin hit on me. I absolutely reveled in the attention...
    thetruthaboutthedollhouse thetruthaboutthedollhouse 26-30, F Jul 2

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    I've never been good enough and I hate myself for it. When other kids were having a dandy time with their fathers. Mine was out cheating on my mom and doing drugs. I hate people...
    NPkid97 NPkid97 16-17, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm not cared about. I'm a foriegner, it's ok to be beaten and held against your will as long as, she's a foriegner and it's your ''wife'' I screamed to the top of my lungs...
    Luckycharm2014 Luckycharm2014 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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