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I Hate Asking For Help

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    I try not to judge but I do i feel

    that is what I need help with
    HaitiBeauty101 HaitiBeauty101 18-21, F Apr 6

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    I hate this. But please I need a girl to talk

    to right now about stuff I just don't know what to do anymore. Please I know one of you cares enough. Please show me that people still care. (786) 459-7844
    cheezyfish cheezyfish 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    The Price Of Pride

    When I was a kid, we struggled somewhat financially due to my mom's alcoholism. Every time my sister used to ask for something my parents couldn't afford, I saw how much it upset my dad that he couldn't give it to her. So I learned not to ask at all. I developed quite a complex...
    Lullacus Lullacus 18-21, F 2 Responses May 18, 2013

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    I don't like asking for help,

    even if I need it, I don't like asking for it. When I do, it makes me feel weak, and it kind of makes me feel like a loser, and a failure. I'd much rather figure out and solve things on my own. So that's why, I kind of feel shameful asking for help.
    Hatebreeder59 Hatebreeder59 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    My Final Option Maybe it's my pride at work,

    maybe it's because I feel weak asking, maybe because in the past, when I've asked people for help, they've fallen through and/or wanted something in return and constantly hold it over your head until you've paid them back, but it's the most difficult thing for me to do. So...
    SaturnSenshi SaturnSenshi 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    My Flaw

    Somewhere along the way in my screwey childhood, I was taught that asking for and/or accepting help was a terrible weakness. Well...that's what my Mama's husband would say anyway! Meanwhile Mama would give the shirt off her back to anyone who needed it. Sometimes it was a guy...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 8, 2012

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    I Rarely Ask For Help

    Not sure why but I hat to ask anyone else for anything at all.  I think most of all I hate the feeling of being helpless in any  situation. I try and plan ahead for anything that I can.  Not like an obsession or anything , I just get great peace of mind from being...
    VoteForPedro VoteForPedro 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 20, 2010

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    One of the main reason

    why I don't like asking for help because most of the time when I ask for it, the person does not deliver. It only talk and no action.
    ChillyWilly82 ChillyWilly82 31-35, M Mar 18

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    Expectations...

    I have such high expectations of myself and have always held myself responsible and accountable beyond all others regardless. Asking for help, as my upbringing would make you believe, is a weakness from within, a character flaw of sorts.  This was unacceptable.  It was...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2007

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    I don't like asking for help.

    I like being able to say "I did this! I was able to overcome this and get it done myself!" Although I know how to ask for help wen it's truly needed.
    BeefStromi BeefStromi 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 16

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    The reason why I hate asking

    for help because there not many reliable people in this world.
    ChillyWilly82 ChillyWilly82 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 22

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    I Have to Do It Myself

    I am so bad at asking for help.  If something is to heavy and I have to move it I will try everything before I give up but I won't ask for help.  That is a bad thing too because I usually end up hurting myself.  I don't ask for help much also because I just want to do it...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F 12 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    When I ask for help, I always feel like it's

    admitting that I'm stupid, yes I score high on the standardized tests and have a high IQ but I still hate it when I don't get things and have to ask for help
    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    I just don't like it.

    If I can achieve it on my own, then why bother others? If it's not reasonable to achieve alone, then that's when I'll ask for help. But only then.
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    Not Been Brought Up This Way....

    As a child, I was always ridiculed for showing emotion. When I cried, my mother used to say that I was being ridiculous or silly. I guess since then, I have grown up to think my feelings dont matter. I feel I always have to be strong and when I am upset, I worry that I cant voice...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    Not something I like doing.

    Something I am working on doing more of. I have been pleasantly surprised. My friends are way cooler than I gave them credit for being and are much more supportive than I ever thought they would be. I guess telling some of my "secrets" and letting them help has made us...
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Confused And Ashamed, Please Help

    I have been dating this girl for 3 years now. When we first met she was my world, she actually was the first girl I have ever dated. I have always been interested in guys, and I still am. Our relationship got bad and I decided that i wanted to see other people. One of those...
    abrownxo abrownxo 18-21, F Jul 26, 2013

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    I don't know my pride is a problem.

    I would rather fail than ask for help. I know that's really stupid, but whenever I have asked for help it made me feel some type of way. Wasn't a good feeling. It made me feel stupid and incapable
    DarkGoddesss DarkGoddesss 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    Use to Hate It

    I didn't hate asking for help because I was independent and felt that I would look weak. I was insecure. I hated asking for help because I just couldn't stand it whether it be with the teacher when I had a question on a math problem, or asking the store clerk where a...
    ladynau ladynau 19-21, F 1 Response Feb 7, 2008

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    I Always Feel Like I'm Bothering Others

    I hate asking for help too. For me, I don't really think it's about pride. I think it's more about low self-esteem. I feel like if I ask someone for help, I'm bothering them. And why should I expect anyone to drop what they're doing to help ME? While I hate blaming my parents...
    lmori lmori 36-40 5 Responses Dec 26, 2010

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    I Don't Want to Impose...

    I really do hate asking for help. Even from my kids. I've been such an Independent person for so long, that it crushes my pride to have to ask anybody for anything. I also hate to be an imposition on anybody. Anytime I ask somebody for help, I do feel like I'm imposing. Also, I...
    silvermystics silvermystics 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2007

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    I wanted the title of this experience to be

    "I'm going to ask for help", but there were no matches for that. I'm coping okay - but I always go for the wrong type of boys (sleazy ones) and get hurt when they do sleazy things. When I get hurt I seem to cling on to the next one and repeat the cycle. I'm going to go an...
    cunninlc cunninlc 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I can't,I try but then I think how weak

    and vulnerable I'll appear and then I tell myself to suck it up and,I think this is my biggest down fall :/
    xosydneeox xosydneeox 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    JamesWatson96 JamesWatson96 16-17, M Feb 22

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    I Hate To Ask For Help

    I hate to ask for help but if I really need help I ask for it anyway.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 Jan 29, 2012

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    Really Need Some Help

    COMMISSIONS PLEASE? Hey Guys, I Need money to get clothing for winter and to afford our move back to Missouri. . So I'll Be Taking Commissions (Even Though Commissions Are ALWAYS Open). I'll Even Lower Ref's To 30$ Full Body's To 15-20$. Badges And Chibis To 10$. 5$ For Icons...
    Akueri Akueri 18-21, F Oct 20, 2013

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    Young m willing to do anything to help his

    family. Have anything to ask www.gofundme.com/7b4p5c
    Boredathomeboy Boredathomeboy 16-17, M Mar 9

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    My husband and I were working

    and everything was great. Then one day my mom had breast cancer and she had allzheimers but it wasn't bad. But when she started chemo the allzheimers came out fast. I had to quit work to take care of her and a month later I had to take my husband to the hospital and he had to...
    cyrak cyrak 51-55, F Apr 11

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    When it's something about my personal life,

    I have on my fake smile, I don't ask for help even when I need it because I know I can fix it if I just put a little thought into it ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ No school is totally different, I'll say for tutoring if needed because I know the only way to survive this...
    Nishanae Nishanae 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2013

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    And Always Have...

    When I was a kid, I had to learn the skills of survival early on because my mom was a lost soul and capable of only limited parenting. By the age of 6 I was making my own lunch for school, and had to make my way through the world in great part looking out for myself. As a result...
    VTMarkus VTMarkus 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2011

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    One Time I Asked For Help.

    I met this girl who was all like you can talk to me about anything, I'll help, I swear and stuff. So I finally told her about my most miserable, when I was raped and all she said was, "rape happens to a million girls in the world, get over it. why should I bother when it doesn't...
    Broken2412 Broken2412 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    I Hate Asking For Help, I'M The One Who Helps.

    I need some help.. I'm in a relationship, and I like him a lot.. But he is 15 I am 17. He is still a little immature and his parents don't let him do some stuff a guy my age or older could do. I don't know what to do.. We haven't been dating for a long time but I haven't ha a bf...
    brithope1 brithope1 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2013

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    But I'm Learning...

    I was always afraid of letting anyone close to me--much less ask or let them help me. It's still a little hard to allow someone to help, and I rarely ask, but I am slowly growing toward being able to be real and open with others...... and finding that it shows my COURAGE and...
    02KnowMe 02KnowMe 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    I absolutely hate asking

    for help. For whatever the situation is I feel like people will think I'm dumb or weak or not independent of I ask for help. It's been a lifelong struggle.
    Girlinthefloweredskirt Girlinthefloweredskirt 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Pride has cost me love

    and happiness, money, productivity
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I Hate Asking For Help ... To Me It Is A Sign Of Weakness

    In my younger days I was a very strong woman, physically, emotionally and financially. I grieve for those days when I was independent, carefree and confident.Two things have changed my life drastically; I had an accident nine years ago, and for the last two and a half years I...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond 46-50, F 10 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    I'm 15 And Could Use Some Advise.

    My dad and mom are getting divorces. They told me and my siblings 3 months ago and right now every week i change houses but i really want to stay with my mom her week plus all weekends; this means that i would see my dad every second week. I love my dad but i don't know what to...
    DontBeSad DontBeSad 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    Really Hate It

    I do not why, but I am just unable to ask for help as well. I do not like to bother other people with my problems and worries. I would have to tell them what the problem is and that would make me feel ... naked. The worst part of it is I would have to admit I failed...
    spot spot 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2007

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    I hate this. But please I need a girl to talk

    to right now about stuff I just don't know what to do anymore. Please I know one of you cares enough. Please show me that people still care. (786) 459-7844
    cheezyfish cheezyfish 18-21, M Dec 1, 2013

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    I should have sought therapy two years ago

    but my pride and stupidity got in the way. I should seek it out now . . . If humans need mentl maintenance then my mind is just rust right now.
    Raptorpsychologist Raptorpsychologist 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 18

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    This is something i am trying to work on.

    I'm an extremely proud man, and i really hate asking someone for help. I have the attitude of 'no, i can do this by myself, i don't need anyone's help'. Definitely needs changing. Being proud is a good thing in my opinion, but i take it too far.
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I'm Always the Helper, So I Can't Be the "Helpee"

    Although I've recently figured out its actually okay to ask for help, its still hard for me. People think I give great advice, so they always come to me with their problems. I will sit with a person for hours on end listening to their story and offering feedback, and I like it...
    sublimex sublimex 16-17, F 6 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    Failure!

    I've failed/dropped 9 classes because I was scared to ask for help! I've pulled muscles, been physically hurt, been afraid to cry or talk to people I love because I don't want to bother anyone.
    jokinpa jokinpa 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 10, 2007

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    But I need help. I need someone to pour out to,

    someone to listen. I am so damaged and no one cares to ask my whole story and I want to tell it. I need to. I'm struggling to live and I need a friend right now. If you can please message me and help me I would feel sooo much better. If you don't like to hear people's problems I...
    imforeverME imforeverME 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    I don't know why, but I hate asking

    for it! I think it's because I feel like the teacher will yell at me in case I wasn't listening. But it really does help when they give you hints and stuff.
    cotygal123 cotygal123 13-15, F Dec 31, 2013

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    Never What You Get

    The number one reason i  hate asking for help is it's never what you get; whether your asking friend professional religious leader or kind stranger, it's never what you get. At best what you get is clueless, random supposed to be helpful advice that worked for them but doesn...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 6 Responses May 20, 2008

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    I absolutely hate needing help.

    I've always been self sufficient, and I believe I can handle anything life throws at me on my own. Even though everyone needs help at some point, don't be like me! If someone offers to help you, take it!
    ArtPaige ArtPaige 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    I Admit It.

    I'm a man. I'm stubborn. And, asking for directions is a last resort.
    Inman Inman 31-35, M 4 Responses Jan 19, 2008

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    I hate that I hate myself. I look at other people and wish I had the same confidence that they do. But I know some day I'll be confident just like them, I just have to wait.
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