I Hate Asking For Help

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    I really don't like asking

    for help cause I always feel like I'm burdening other people.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 16, 2015

    I know I can figure it out.

    No matter what it is I can get it done. Asking for help makes me feel useless, like I can't do anything.
    MrPoolofsouls MrPoolofsouls
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016


    I have such high expectations of myself and have always held myself responsible and accountable beyond all others regardless. Asking for help, as my upbringing would make you believe, is a weakness from within, a character flaw of sorts.  This was unacceptable.  It was...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal
    31-35, F
    Aug 27, 2007

    I don't like asking for help.

    I like being able to say "I did this! I was able to overcome this and get it done myself!" Although I know how to ask for help wen it's truly needed.
    BeefStromi BeefStromi
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 16, 2014

    I now know why I've had eating problems,

    anxiety, and extreme self-image/self-confidence problems... I just had a really big reality check and I honestly cannot stop crying. Good and bad tears. Gosh... I don't know what to say right now other than I need to vent and let it all out... God has a plan...
    lizygurl lizygurl
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 26, 2015

    When i ask for help people only make it worse

    by not understanding properly what i am asking for
    yolo361 yolo361
    16-17, F
    Dec 16, 2015

    I absolutely hate asking

    for help. For whatever the situation is I feel like people will think I'm dumb or weak or not independent of I ask for help. It's been a lifelong struggle.
    Girlinthefloweredskirt Girlinthefloweredskirt
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2014


    I've failed/dropped 9 classes because I was scared to ask for help! I've pulled muscles, been physically hurt, been afraid to cry or talk to people I love because I don't want to bother anyone.
    jokinpa jokinpa
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 10, 2007

    Ive had quite the wretched year.

    My husband was Navy and passed away august 6th of 2014 and since then life has been a nightmare. I suffer from severe depression, anxiety, and ptsd. Because of this my son, born two months before my husband's untimely death at 21, was given to my mother in law. I completed a...
    watchyourgrammar watchyourgrammar
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 11, 2016

    A guy cut mai trust..

    DoughnutVader DoughnutVader
    13-15, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016

    Views are high but comments

    and hearts are really low. Would love it if you'd heart or at least post a comment on my posting.
    deleted deleted
    13 Responses Mar 1, 2016

    I Hate Asking For Help ... To Me It Is A Sign Of Weakness

    In my younger days I was a very strong woman, physically, emotionally and financially. I grieve for those days when I was independent, carefree and confident.Two things have changed my life drastically; I had an accident nine years ago, and for the last two and a half years I...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond
    51-55, F
    10 Responses Jun 17, 2013

    I just have learned one thing never ever ask

    people for help. If you feel bad, trust me they make you to feel more horrible.
    okspols okspols
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 2, 2015

    I am not asking for help .

    .. I think i will be too boring to others, a burden to others ...so i just withdraw inside myself and suffer in silence ....
    QueenofRain QueenofRain
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 7, 2016

    I like to do things on my own,

    i really do hate asking for help. ppl have no idea how hard it is for me to ask, so if I humble myself to ask you for help, consider yourself the few n far between
    deleted deleted
    Aug 14, 2015

    I hate asking for help,

    it's such a stressful experience. I don't mind helping out other people, but it does take something out of you when you feel you need to depend on others. Ugh, what a disgusting feeling. Especially, when you don't really find the person reliable anyway but you still ask cause...
    Lifelover38 Lifelover38
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jan 6, 2015

    Hi, so I have a friend

    who I really care for that lives in a small town of Milford IA. She's a single mom raising 5 kids and going to school to study law. And the reason I'm telling you this is because I need help.. I live in California and she lives in Iowa so there's not much I can do for her even...
    cerjio cerjio
    46-50, M
    Dec 15, 2015

    I've been helping people from my original EP

    account, but I needed help so I made this account. I'm depressed and tortured emotionally.
    Iamnotalright Iamnotalright
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Nov 18, 2015

    In general I hate asking

    for help....not because I'm trying to be or look strong, but because the depression I experience will most prob drive people away due to stigma, not knowing what to say, or overwhelming them with negativity. Not worth the journey to get to the destination in this case. Sometime...
    TwistedCognition TwistedCognition
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016

    I hate it when people assume

    that I'm helpless and lonely. And I hate it more when someone pities me! I don't need your help and I don't pity myself. Why do you!
    ss504688 ss504688
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2016

    When I ask for help, I always feel like it's

    admitting that I'm stupid, yes I score high on the standardized tests and have a high IQ but I still hate it when I don't get things and have to ask for help
    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Mar 19, 2014

    I HATE asking for help!

    First, I now have a strong desire to be independent and do things for myself. I hate being dependent on others. It lowers my self-esteem. I desperately want to be self-reliant. Second, I feel like I'm bothering people if I ask them for help. I don't want to be a needy or...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme
    1 Response Nov 20, 2015

    There are favors so large

    that it becomes impossible to repay. After the initial gratitude, takes over the embarrassment and discomfort to road meeting their own benefactor. The most common way to get rid of his own inadequacy is to hate those who did the favor, denying in his own subconscious and...
    Arkimede Arkimede
    46-50, M
    Nov 21, 2015

    I'm too proud and my ego is too big

    for me to do something like that. I hate to admit that I don't know something or can't do something, I hate to show that I can be vulnerable too at times... Sometimes I even prefer to fail on my own than ask for help and succeed. Oh and I should not forget that I don't want to...
    ScissorhandsFingeredMe ScissorhandsFingeredMe
    18-21, F
    Feb 11, 2016

    Even when I need help I'm just to stubborn.

    Asking for help could really make things better.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016

    I Always Feel Like I'm Bothering Others

    I hate asking for help too. For me, I don't really think it's about pride. I think it's more about low self-esteem. I feel like if I ask someone for help, I'm bothering them. And why should I expect anyone to drop what they're doing to help ME? While I hate blaming my parents...
    lmori lmori
    5 Responses Dec 26, 2010
    MoriyaSuwako MoriyaSuwako
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 1, 2016

    i hate asking for help the reason is people

    will help you.But at the same time they tell to others that they have helped you,so i think its not a good idea to ask help from such people.
    Roadguy Roadguy
    26-30, M
    Jan 7, 2016

    I feel like if i ask

    for help they'll think i'm stupid or i'd be bothering them in some way.
    Darkstar101 Darkstar101
    18-21, M
    Aug 11, 2015

    I'm not sure if it's true

    because my counselor said so but I listen. when it comes to cooking or drawing...I will never lister....yeah... I'm such a self center. :(. I am my own master when it comes to my interest..I listen other than that.
    ZardaF5 ZardaF5
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016

    Being almost completely blind has robbed of me

    some independence. We want what we cannot have, so I've always strived for indepence, freedom, etc. Slowly, though, I'm realising sometimes I have to ask for help. And it isn't easy. I'd rather suffer in silence, eventually figure it out, not use the help of others. And when...
    AsYetNameless AsYetNameless
    16-17, T
    1 Response Apr 14, 2016

    When it's something serious I won't go to

    anyone close to me because I don't want them to worry too much. Especially if it's something they can't really help me with so that would make it worse. I had to tell someone because I wanted to get it off my chest so badly because I guess I felt so helpless during the situation...
    RoastedCycki RoastedCycki
    70+, F
    7 Responses Jan 6, 2016

    It is not the best way I know,

    and probably wrong, but when I stuck generally I struggle and try to figure out things myself. The best part you learn things, internalizes them. But the worst part, you don't know when you **** up and and when to start looking for a help, this way you can stuck on something...
    Gallantio Gallantio
    41-45, M
    Jan 30, 2016

    I've always hated asking

    for help.. ever since I lived with my mom and her last husband. If I ever asked for help her husband would just laugh in my face and make fun of me for whatever I needed help with. Even though I'm out of there, I still hate asking for help to this day
    boklenHolley7 boklenHolley7
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2016

    Not Been Brought Up This Way....

    As a child, I was always ridiculed for showing emotion. When I cried, my mother used to say that I was being ridiculous or silly. I guess since then, I have grown up to think my feelings dont matter. I feel I always have to be strong and when I am upset, I worry that I cant voice...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 27, 2013

    Camera flash and the lights go out.

    I forgot what I was playing about. People come and people go. Where they go nobody knows. Nobody knows. Nobody knows. Nobody knows. Everybody's talking about the latest buzz. I wasn't listening to what it was. Pay attention, the tension grows. Where it grows, nobody knows...
    QueenofRain QueenofRain
    26-30, F
    Mar 7, 2016

    I am constantly tired

    and it's all I can think about. My mentality, friends bitching, depressed thoughts and exhaustion ALL I CAN COME UP WITH IN MY MESSED UP MIND I can't speak like a normal person I can't do anything right IM A FREAKING FAILURE See? Even now I can't think of anything to type or say...
    shadowgem shadowgem
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Nov 25, 2014

    I don't know whether it's ego,

    attitude, self respect or I do know like others to take my burden but I hesitate to ask for help.
    lonelyboy91 lonelyboy91
    26-30, M
    Jul 29, 2015

    It makes me feel weak

    or that I might somehow end up in someone's debt or some bs like that.
    Nojji Nojji
    16-17, F
    5 Responses May 8, 2014

    I don't like to ask for help ether being on Ep

    ( sorry Ep ) but I enjoy helping people. Funny thing is when you actually ask for help some people take it granted some Thinks they're better then you because there helpless ...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 6, 2016

    Crazy thing I'm learning about life lately.

    One of the best ways to make friends and to strengthen existing relationships is to ask for help. Or to accept help when it's offered. People like feeling needed and useful, and if you let them help you with something they are more likely to ask for your help when they need it...
    thatonewoman thatonewoman
    31-35, F
    Dec 14, 2015

    Why, oh WHY...I am locked in my car

    and can not find the keys, help please.
    nevets68 nevets68
    46-50, M
    1 Response Feb 11, 2016

    I'm the one who everyone opens up to

    but can't open up to anyone. Neat isn't it? Nah seriously. I wish I could ask for help or at least talk about my problems.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    In some cases, if I can't figure it out,

    it won't get done until I can.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 23, 2015

    My shower drain is clogged with hair

    and glue! My toilet bubbles and most of the bowl water gets backed into the shower! I've plunged and got a good clump of hair and glue out but it's still clogged. Let drain cleaner sit a couple hours overnight. I was up til 1 a.m. Do I call my landlord (who I'm late on rent with...
    BlackSheep613 BlackSheep613
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 26, 2016

    I worry that I don't reach out

    because if I did what happens when I get the solution? I'd be forced to take it otherwise people wouldnt understand if I didn't and would judge me otherwise why else would I be like this unless I wanted to be like this....it's so simple yet infinitely harder to accept help
    isshereal isshereal
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016

    But I have to ask the help of a woman to look a

    my penis to see if it's normal before I lose my virginity
    sprite944 sprite944
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 20, 2015

    Here I sit, with my son,

    in a truck with a dead battery. Every company I call is going to charge me $100 minimum cash.. Well, I'm not near an ATM.and I only have $48. And because I live in a metro area with a hefty ghetto, the don't take cards. wtf? No one stops to help anyone anymore. And $100 for...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 6, 2016

    I just don't like it.

    If I can achieve it on my own, then why bother others? If it's not reasonable to achieve alone, then that's when I'll ask for help. But only then.
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 24, 2013

    But I'm Learning...

    I was always afraid of letting anyone close to me--much less ask or let them help me. It's still a little hard to allow someone to help, and I rarely ask, but I am slowly growing toward being able to be real and open with others...... and finding that it shows my COURAGE and...
    02KnowMe 02KnowMe
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 17, 2011

    Been married for less

    than a year. My husband promised me the world and hasn't delivered. Our financial situation basically isn't a financial situation because we are always broke. I work insane amounts of overtime to try to get by. My husband promised to pay certain bills and I would pay certain...
    BeingStrong1 BeingStrong1
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 7, 2015
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