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I Hate Asking For Help

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    its not easy dealing with school

    while working at the same time then having family drama that no one can see you having to put the cherry on the top having a boyfriend that's a question mark.
    smilingtolie smilingtolie 18-21, F Jan 13

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    I feel like breaking down.

    I feel trapped can someone talk to me?
    DaveGamer17 DaveGamer17 16-17, M Aug 2

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    Hello, first of all thank you

    for reading this! I'm a lonely mother of a chilf of 3, i'm 22 year old woman and i can't pay my bills. I can't search a job, because i'm busy taking care of my son. I would love to have some financial help, so i can buy some clothes for my boy and pay some bills I could do...
    katexspencer katexspencer 22-25, F Feb 14

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    But I'm Learning...

    I was always afraid of letting anyone close to me--much less ask or let them help me. It's still a little hard to allow someone to help, and I rarely ask, but I am slowly growing toward being able to be real and open with others...... and finding that it shows my COURAGE and...
    02KnowMe 02KnowMe 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    1234cardiff 1234cardiff 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    I don't know whether it's ego,

    attitude, self respect or I do know like others to take my burden but I hesitate to ask for help.
    lonelyboy91 lonelyboy91 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 29

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    Been married for less

    than a year. My husband promised me the world and hasn't delivered. Our financial situation basically isn't a financial situation because we are always broke. I work insane amounts of overtime to try to get by. My husband promised to pay certain bills and I would pay certain...
    BeingStrong1 BeingStrong1 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 7

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    I like to do things on my own,

    i really do hate asking for help. ppl have no idea how hard it is for me to ask, so if I humble myself to ask you for help, consider yourself the few n far between
    craigslist504 craigslist504 36-40 Aug 14

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    I'm Always the Helper, So I Can't Be the "Helpee"

    Although I've recently figured out its actually okay to ask for help, its still hard for me. People think I give great advice, so they always come to me with their problems. I will sit with a person for hours on end listening to their story and offering feedback, and I like it...
    sublimex sublimex 16-17, F 6 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    Not Been Brought Up This Way....

    As a child, I was always ridiculed for showing emotion. When I cried, my mother used to say that I was being ridiculous or silly. I guess since then, I have grown up to think my feelings dont matter. I feel I always have to be strong and when I am upset, I worry that I cant voice...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    I am constantly tired

    and it's all I can think about. My mentality, friends bitching, depressed thoughts and exhaustion ALL I CAN COME UP WITH IN MY MESSED UP MIND I can't speak like a normal person I can't do anything right IM A FREAKING FAILURE See? Even now I can't think of anything to type or say...
    shadowgem shadowgem 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla!
    HannahSavannah HannahSavannah 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 5

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    When I ask for help, I always feel like it's

    admitting that I'm stupid, yes I score high on the standardized tests and have a high IQ but I still hate it when I don't get things and have to ask for help
    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 19, 2014

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    Why should i ask for help?

    Why should u help me? U Will let me down And leave me to die alone anyway...
    Healinghate Healinghate 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Helpless to get Help I have a phobia of asking

    for help. My symptoms include not getting stuff done, spending hours figuring out trivial things, procrastinating, annoying people with my seemingly apathetic attitude, and alienating myself. I’ve always valued my independence and never saw my compulsion to be self-sufficient...
    kiarrafire kiarrafire 18-21, F May 7

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    I usually don't.I have realised people will help

    when they want to and the way they want to.They may not be around when you need them or the way you need them.Maybe just to hear you.That is when EP helps.I can vent here .Nevermind if no one responds.
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 7 Responses Jun 7

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    I feel like if i ask

    for help they'll think i'm stupid or i'd be bothering them in some way.
    Darkstar101 Darkstar101 16-17, M Aug 11

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    My Flaw

    Somewhere along the way in my screwey childhood, I was taught that asking for and/or accepting help was a terrible weakness. Well...that's what my Mama's husband would say anyway! Meanwhile Mama would give the shirt off her back to anyone who needed it. Sometimes it was a guy...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2012

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    And Always Have...

    When I was a kid, I had to learn the skills of survival early on because my mom was a lost soul and capable of only limited parenting. By the age of 6 I was making my own lunch for school, and had to make my way through the world in great part looking out for myself. As a result...
    VTMarkus VTMarkus 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2011

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    smilingtolie smilingtolie 18-21, F Jan 13

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    Asking For Help: Is Like Getting My Teeth Pulled

    Why is it so hard to ask people for help when I need it. There isn't anything in my childhood that may have hindered me from asking for help...I think. I needed my mom to help with my homework but she was resting when I decided to get it done. My dad said to ask my older brother...
    Letstalkaboutitin2013 Letstalkaboutitin2013 61-65, F Oct 25, 2012

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    I don't like asking for help.

    I like being able to say "I did this! I was able to overcome this and get it done myself!" Although I know how to ask for help wen it's truly needed.
    BeefStromi BeefStromi 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 16, 2014

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    I hate asking for because by the time the

    person I asked gives me a hand I have almost found my way out of the problem.
    sroonaka616 sroonaka616 18-21 Feb 12

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    hate asking for help ever

    since I was little if I feel or hot cut my dad would stare and say to go fix myself when I hurt myself badly he just stared and left me to take care of myself while he called me a stupid ***** so now that I'm grown I hate asking for help and when I get it it just ****** me off I...
    sadmistak3 sadmistak3 18-21, F Jan 4

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    Always Have (hated Asking For Help)

    One of the oldest stereotypes for men is that they can't read road maps and are incapable of asking for help to find their way--I must say that I posess a little of that in me--not so much the reading road map part, but the part about asking for help does fit me to a tee.  I'm...
    Endomorph Endomorph 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 19, 2012

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    One Time I Asked For Help.

    I met this girl who was all like you can talk to me about anything, I'll help, I swear and stuff. So I finally told her about my most miserable, when I was raped and all she said was, "rape happens to a million girls in the world, get over it. why should I bother when it doesn't...
    Broken2412 Broken2412 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    I Rarely Ask For Help

    Not sure why but I hat to ask anyone else for anything at all.  I think most of all I hate the feeling of being helpless in any  situation. I try and plan ahead for anything that I can.  Not like an obsession or anything , I just get great peace of mind from being...
    VoteForPedro VoteForPedro 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 20, 2010

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    I Admit It.

    I'm a man. I'm stubborn. And, asking for directions is a last resort.
    Inman Inman 31-35, M 4 Responses Jan 19, 2008

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    I Have to Do It Myself

    I am so bad at asking for help.  If something is to heavy and I have to move it I will try everything before I give up but I won't ask for help.  That is a bad thing too because I usually end up hurting myself.  I don't ask for help much also because I just want to do it...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F 12 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    I just don't like it.

    If I can achieve it on my own, then why bother others? If it's not reasonable to achieve alone, then that's when I'll ask for help. But only then.
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    I Hate Asking For Help ... To Me It Is A Sign Of Weakness

    In my younger days I was a very strong woman, physically, emotionally and financially. I grieve for those days when I was independent, carefree and confident.Two things have changed my life drastically; I had an accident nine years ago, and for the last two and a half years I...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond 51-55, F 10 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    Finally hit breaking point tonight.

    So many built up emotions and they all just came out. It's been over an hour and there are still tears coming out of my eyes somehow. My life is falling apart and I don't know where to go from here, who to turn to, or what to do. I feel so alone and so numb. This week is already...
    lizygurl lizygurl 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 1

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    why cant I talk to anyone about whats going on

    with me feel like I should sort my own crap up
    naomijanemccormack naomijanemccormack 26-30, F Feb 10

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    My stepmother is making up too much false gossip

    and is really not a nice person she acts like this when she is going through a with drawl because of all that nicotine she's really wanting me out of her life so how can I bring on evidence about her police blotter record in public and how do I get her exposed to my people cause...
    Jolietillinois Jolietillinois 22-25, M Aug 15

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    Yet it's the thing I need most right now.

    If someone offers even 1% of a listening ear, I bite it off at the moment. But it's not whinging, or similar. My problems are real in the eyes of most of the people around me. But, I need help so much it's interfering. I'm concerned that when I go to the work bbq... I will...
    cloudsoflife cloudsoflife 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 29

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    Today, I called my mother

    and said, "I'm going to die unless you help me." I did absolutely mean that in the literal sense, too. This is a long life. I have aTN, and I'm only 29. I will always have severe, debilitating chronic pain, and if I don't get some help, eventually I will become another statistic...
    itsaggggthang itsaggggthang 26-30, F Mar 10

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    if i know i can find out

    for myself then i will do it myself.
    danielfrost1995 danielfrost1995 18-21, M Jul 30

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    I hate asking for help,

    especially if it is something I really need/want. I can't stand being indebted to someone.
    Evabeth Evabeth 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    Failure!

    I've failed/dropped 9 classes because I was scared to ask for help! I've pulled muscles, been physically hurt, been afraid to cry or talk to people I love because I don't want to bother anyone.
    jokinpa jokinpa 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 10, 2007

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    Hey i just discovered this,

    (lol this isn't an add) i think its a great way of helping yourself https://www.futureme.org/ write yourself an email to the future I wrote how i think i can get over my hurdle (final school year, getting into medicine, the stress etc,etc) :3
    aya101 aya101 16-17, F Feb 14

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    I'm the one who everyone opens up to

    but can't open up to anyone. Neat isn't it? Nah seriously. I wish I could ask for help or at least talk about my problems.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 30

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    I now know why I've had eating problems,

    anxiety, and extreme self-image/self-confidence problems... I just had a really big reality check and I honestly cannot stop crying. Good and bad tears. Gosh... I don't know what to say right now other than I need to vent and let it all out... God has a plan...
    lizygurl lizygurl 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    i need 13 fillings, caps 4 teeth pulled,

    crowns, a root canal i will be strapped down and given gas and sedation i will go too a kids dentist that deals with special needs i was asked too wear pajamas and a pullup diaper will i be ok why am i being strapped down why
    hope1092 hope1092 22-25, M 3 Responses Aug 8

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    My Dusautonomia has gotten the better of me.

    .at times I have to ask for help and it hurts me so much to have to do this. I had to have assistance in the shower from my boyfriend because I have blacked out before.. He says he doesn't mind, but I am afraid one day he will decide he is tired of this and leave..and the though...
    katelynchildress katelynchildress 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I hate asking for help,

    it's such a stressful experience. I don't mind helping out other people, but it does take something out of you when you feel you need to depend on others. Ugh, what a disgusting feeling. Especially, when you don't really find the person reliable anyway but you still ask cause...
    Lifelover38 Lifelover38 22-25, M 3 Responses Jan 6

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    Been married for less

    than a year. My husband promised me the world and hasn't delivered. Our financial situation basically isn't a financial situation because we are always broke. I work insane amounts of overtime to try to get by. My husband promised to pay certain bills and I would pay certain...
    BeingStrong1 BeingStrong1 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 7