I Hate Baby Mama Drama Forum & Chat Board | How can we move forward??

I have been with my boyfriend 4 years.  We plan on getting married next year.  The second time we went on a date he told me he had children.  Three children with his ex of 8 years.  She cheated on him with several men and he stayed with her to work things out and mainly to be there for his kids.  I have excepted the fact he has kids and I have been spending more time with him and his kids on a regular basis.  But here comes the drama.  His ex does not want me to even be around her kids or do anything with my boyfriend and his kids.  Mind you I have never met this women or personally talked to her.  Everything I have heard is from her blasting lies on facebook or calling my boyfriend after spending the day with the kids yelling at him for me being there around "Her" kids.  I feel that we are never going to be able to move on from this.  My boyfriend said his ex is violent and I can obviously see that by her calls, text messages and random hate words on facebook.  I am a great person that wants to be involved with my boyfriend and his kids, but I feel like we can not move on with her and her jealous behavior.  What should I do?

 

I am a "Crazy Baby Momma" in my ex and his wifes opinion. I'm trying to figure out the same thing from the opposing side right now.

My situation is almost the opposit of yours. New wife doesn't care about my kid or her husbands responsibilities to his daughter with me. She encourages him to create more distance with his child and blasts me on FB . He's about as much of a dead beat as a dad can be already and her being in the picture has hurt the situation more than it's helped.

I have gone to some pretty major extremes to get him to meet his responsibilities including complaining to their Commanding Officer when he quit paying child support, daycare and changed his number  (they're both full time Army and got in big trouble). They consider that an act of war but to me it was a last resort after several attempts to deal in other ways.

I too just want to move in a better direction but don't know how.

 

Suck it up! I am an ex-wife and have 4 children with my EX HUSBAND. I have raised and taken care of my children by MYSELF! I put myself through school and worked 2 jobs. Alot of times I worked 24 hour shifts. My kids were stair step in age. All 4 have graduated from high school and are in college. I cannot understand why women who have children out of wedlock have this self entitlement syndrome. I am back in school working towards my Ph. D. No one said life would be easy. But it's a choice. What you do in your early years will have an impact on your later years.

 

I went through this EXACT same thing. But she can be told in court she has NO control over who he has the kids around & the same goes for him. You are right it is out of pure jealousy, his ex actually admitted it & it was because she wanted him back(even though she has already remarried). She as well was violent, I spent one night picking glass out of his arm from where she tried running him over. And she post things on facebook, her & her mother! This has been going on for almost 3yrs, she has literally stalked us, had the police sent to our house I can't even tell you how many times. She has gone to the extent of having my bf arrested saying he told her he was going to slice her neck, HE NEVER even talked to her when she said it happened. My bf finally changed his cell number so she couldn't text harass him. By law she only has to have one working number to be able to reach him it can be a home number or even your cell as matter of fact it can be one of his parents. I wish you luck & make him put his foot down!