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I Hate Being a Second Wife

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 397 People

    Can you believe that woman?!! - I feel so relieved! I just wrote to THE person (My husband's ex) who has made my life hell for the past 5+ years. I told her exactly how I feel and...
    CatherineJoan CatherineJoan 31-35 5 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    Who The F Does She Think She Is?!?!?! - My husband was married 8 years ago to a woman who got pregnant after only 4 months of them dating. They were married for ONE YEAR before...
    BronzeMedal BronzeMedal 26-30 3 Responses Feb 5, 2013

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    A Second Wife Emotions! - Hello,         I'm a new member on this site and I really need a place to vent out some of my issues!   ...
    mixxemotions mixxemotions 36-40 2 Responses Nov 6, 2008

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    Not So Great 2nd Best - I love my husband, but I hate being his second wife. His ex-wife hasn't moved on with her life after years of divorce and tries her best to be apart of our...
    Zoe1 Zoe1 31-35 3 Responses May 21, 2009

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    Harder Than I Ever Imagined - I am almost a second wife, we are engaged.  We have been together for over 2 years now and I never in my wildest dreams imagined how difficult it...
    Aquaria71 Aquaria71 36-40 4 Responses Jan 24, 2008

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    Pllight Of A Second Wife - I told myself I would never marry a man with with children but a friendly chat became a friendly dinner that exchanged warm smiles that triggered a...
    ocasiyo ocasiyo 51-55 6 Responses Dec 8, 2010

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    I Hate Feeling Like A Visitor - I am in my first marriage and his second. I had a simple life. I gave up most of my things, including selling my house, to live in his home. Also...
    SecondHandWife SecondHandWife 46-50 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    Please, Don't Do It Ladies! You Deserve Better! - I just want to tell all you lovely ladies, especially those in your early 20s with little to mar your lives up to this point...
    LoveForgotten LoveForgotten 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    Is A Stepmom Still A Parent? - I have a stepson who is 13 and is in therapy right now. Me and my husband and his mom and her husband met with the therapist to do family counseling...
    Nurselori Nurselori 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    Should I Go For Kid Or No? -   we are living together, i love my husband baby, but one feeling is there should i die without fullfiling my desire like baby,alone love, etc...
    kanchan1 kanchan1 26-30 1 Response Apr 8, 2013

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    My husband is great and loves me and I love him. The problem?? I'm his second wife and I HATE it.
    HeartOMine HeartOMine 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    Technically I Am The First Wife...So Why Do I Feel 2nd? - I have been with my husband almost 6 years, married for almost 4...we have 2 beautiful children...we love eachother, we...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    My Widow Fiance's Family & Friends Hate Me - I have been engaged to my fiance for a few months now and we are planning our wedding next year. He is very loving and protective...
    asiatica asiatica 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 4, 2013

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    Hurt and Frustrated - My husband  and I have been married for two years. It is a second marraige for both of us, and things between us are really good. My hurt and...
    ddlricha ddlricha 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 11, 2007

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    My Husband's Ex Wife - My first name is Michelle. I have been married to my husband Tim for 15 years, together for 18 years. This family had moved in behind our house and I was...
    mrsfritch79 mrsfritch79 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    2nd Wife Fustrations - I am soooo sick of everything. Being a second wife, makes you feel like a discount item. My husband apoligizes to his ex wife.....but no he cannot apoligize...
    dumbspouse dumbspouse 31-35 7 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    She's Constantly In My Life... - I hope someone can give me advice on this. My husband was married for five years before we got together. We grew up with each other and have known...
    crystleyed crystleyed 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 24, 2008

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    Bleeding Heart - hi! im a Filipina, 21 yrs. old . i will just go direct to the point i have a boyfriend bahraini offcourse he is muslim and we all know that muslims allowed to...
    sheiy sheiy 22-25 2 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    What Did I Get Myself Into?! - I really really hate being the second wife.  To be honest, i think the second wives have it the worst!  We get all of the baggage that...
    butterfly01 butterfly01 22-25 7 Responses May 19, 2009

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    #1, #3, and Maybe #2? - this is an embarrassing story but i will swallow my pride and share in hopes of reaching out to others and perhaps it will send a rescue to someone...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 20 Responses Jun 21, 2007

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    What To Do About The Feelings Of Hurt When People Mention "her". - I have given this a lot of thought, and here is my conclusion: No matter how much you berate yourself for "not...
    justasecond justasecond 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2013

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    The Ring - My husband and I got married Feb. 2007 but I didn't get my wedding ring until July 2007. I found some pictures of his ex-wife and saw that she had a engagement ring. I...
    LASD5150 LASD5150 36-40 8 Responses Aug 11, 2010

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    Emotional Blackmail - So, Sunday my hubby announced that he was giving two weeks notice at work and moving in with his son and grand children in another state (NM - we are in TX...
    atxtumbleweed atxtumbleweed 56-60 2 Responses Feb 22, 2011

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    I'm Not Even A Second Wife...I'm The Third Wife - Be prepared for a long and probably confusing story. I've been with my husband now for almost 10 years. Married 2 and a half. He...
    thirdwifesince2011 thirdwifesince2011 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    Not More Bad News... - Oh dear, just when you thought you had all the issues laid out to deal with.... Now I've realised that less than one sixth of his disposable income...
    Secondchild Secondchild 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    Sick And Tired Of Being The Second Wife... Bitter, Depressed & Lonely - It's late and I'm sitting here after a few glasses of wine, I'm frustrated as usual, and came across...
    madkitty madkitty 22-25, F 17 Responses Jun 20, 2011

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    Second Best... - I am not a second wife but I live with my boyfriend and my child and welcome his children into our home every second weekend and school holidays and any other time...
    el1983 el1983 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    If I Could Only Go Back... - My husband and I have been married for a year and a half and have a beautiful baby boy.  On the surface we seem like the perfect little family...
    2late2g0back 2late2g0back 22-25, F 4 Responses May 5, 2010

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    A Second Wife'S Dilemma - I recently found out that my stepson (9 year old), had a meltdown and told his mom that he missed spending time with his mom and my husband. His ex-wife...
    theyoungwife theyoungwife 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    Love Is the Triumph... - Hello everyone, To say, I came across the following quote and think it might help us in dealing with the he** of being a second wife: Love is the triumph...
    savvymermaid savvymermaid 46-50 3 Responses Jan 10, 2009

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    I Feel Like I Deserve Better - I don't even know where to begin. Well lets begin when me and my husband meet. We meet online, saw a cute picture of a kid and him, I thought it was...
    goldrebo goldrebo 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2012

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    Not So Cinderella - I have heard some stories on here and feel for everyone writing them. I’ve been with him for 2 years, we're not married but he talks about it and I...
    Onterrible Onterrible 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 20, 2013

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    Where Did It All Go So Wrong - My husband and I have 3 children between us (2 of his and 1 mine). I adore my steps and as a second family we all get along so well it's hard to...
    galogoly galogoly 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    I Hate The Position I Am In! - I have been with my fiance for a little over 3 years now, we have twin daughters who just turned 2, and he has 2 sons from his previous marriage...
    Countrymomma24 Countrymomma24 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2013

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    Divorce Is Pointless!!! - As a second wife, and continued court battles through the years it has become painfully obvious that divorce is nothing more than the enforcement of a...
    matel matel 36-40 17 Responses Jul 27, 2011

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    Second to Everything... - I hate being placed second in my own life.  The day my husband and I married, we knew we couldn't afford an all-out celebration - so we planned...
    wickedstepmother wickedstepmother 26-30, F 16 Responses Apr 14, 2007

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    I have always been a strong and independent person. I make a decent living, have a master's degree, no crazy amount of debt, slowly building a retirement nest egg. I re-met my now...
    SimoneB SimoneB 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    I'm not a second wife yet, but a relationship after a first wife. It's brilliant between my partner and I, and the best relationship both of us have ever had (we're in late 30s and...
    SashieG SashieG 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    Does It Get Better? - I am going to be marrying a man in 5 months, and I am really struggling with his past... I feel so selfish and crazy but as I plan for my first wedding, I...
    cincinnatichic cincinnatichic 22-25, F 15 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    I too am dealing with a similar situation, she by all accounts in a lunatic and many people cannot figure out why I choose to stay in a relationship with a man whose ex's sole...
    atana327 atana327 26-30 1 Response Feb 20

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    Mama #2 - So, my husband's ex is making me a little crazy. After a stressful divorce battle and final 50/50 custody order, I really convinced myself that we could move forward and...
    Mamatwo Mamatwo 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    Not How I Pictured Marriage - Alright Ladies, I've read a lot of your stories and I feel like I can relate to each one in a different way. I felt like it was time to post my...
    abovetheopensea abovetheopensea 18-21 4 Responses Jan 24, 2011

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    Its Hard Being The Girlfriend - i am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man, who has a great mind, and cherishes the ground i walk on .............. until his kids come...
    Wickedlady28 Wickedlady28 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 14, 2010

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    Can't even believe there is such a chat room about this, really thought I was the only one being pathetic about this. My fiancé and I are sooo in love, he is the best man I could...
    Boozybird Boozybird 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    My Husband Remembers His First Time With His Ex, But Not With Me - My husband and I have been married over 30 years. We have a good relationship. We've had our ups and downs, as...
    ladywithclass ladywithclass 56-60 2 Responses Jul 16, 2013

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    Not A Happy Ever After - And so it ends. My partner is moving town to be closer to his kids who are having some difficulties with behaviour/school etc. I cannot go with him for...
    Secondchild Secondchild 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 23, 2010

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    There's Always A Reminder That I Am The Second Wife - Feeling crappy again today. How do you deal with your in-laws who feel as if they are still obligated to stay in touch with...
    theyoungwife theyoungwife 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    Being Second Wife Is A And Was A Wrong Decision - 2 yrs into marriage, and I am not necessarily happy. he gives his ex wife child support for 2 kids, and he is jobless(student) and...
    secondclass secondclass 31-35 1 Response Apr 21, 2013

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    I Hate Being A 2nd Wife - my husbands oldest daughter is a beautiful smart girl, she is always welcome ANYTIME. but her mom, she has got the biggest attitude ever, she thinks she...
    beccap23 beccap23 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2011

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    Not In My Wildest Dreams.. But As They Say It Is Fate.. - i was living the best of a single life .. financially capable, good job and as they partly dream girl material .. never...
    mimai mimai 26-30 2 Responses Mar 22, 2010

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    I am not quite a second wife. My fiance and I met late in high school but did not take interest to each other further than sleeping together once. He then got with who ended up...
    NotFirstNotLast NotFirstNotLast 18-21, F Jan 21

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    My husband has been married twice before. The first wife they met in high school and dated for a long time, got engaged, she got pregnant and they speeded up the wedding. Their...
    Thirdwife2013 Thirdwife2013 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2013