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I Hate Being a Stepmom

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    Need Serious Help Disengaging - The whole thought of completely disengaging is really intriguing but in reality, is difficult to do.  Help me here, how do you do it?  How do you...
    missmyoldlife missmyoldlife 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    Frustrated With Step Son Age 7; Husband Doesn't Understand. - It's refreshing to hear about other stepmothers who dislike or have issues with their stepchildren. I personally can't...
    cristele cristele 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 9, 2011

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    I Want My Old Life Back - I have so much anger built up inside of me that I don't know when I will explode or who will be there when it happens, but I need to express my anger...
    Katie1979 Katie1979 26-30 72 Responses Apr 28, 2009

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    My husband is my match. He comes with two children, ages 4 and 12. We have a daughter of our own. Prior to having my daughter, I cared for his children. I would've jumped in...
    jabcat81 jabcat81 26-30 4 Responses Jan 29

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    Insanity - Hello! I am new to this. I have been searching for some sort of outlet/place to vent for awhile. I am glad to see that on here it seems I won't be judged nearly as...
    hermanbonkers1 hermanbonkers1 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 16, 2013

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    It's getting to the point that I'd rather raise foster kids than step kids. Probably the same problems but at least I would feel like I was helping someone have a better life.
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    What I hate overall about being a "step parent" is the fact that all I really equate to is a wallet.
    sobackwards sobackwards 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Did anyone read the stepmom poem I posted? It's on my profile experiences, but don't click on the link. What do you think of it?
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    I love my stepchildren. I have a wonderful relationship with them. But sometimes I can't help but resent the fact that with them comes an alcoholic ex-meth addict mother who is...
    SwimmerCate SwimmerCate 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    I met and fell in love with the person that was everything to me. He had three kids and an amazing cozy house. Once we married everything changed. It was never me it was all...
    hemibroscoff hemibroscoff 66-70, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    My Husband's Past Is Making Me Miserable -  I hate being a stepmom. I'm married to a beautiful man that loves me dearly.  When we met, I didn't realize he would be the...
    FrustratedChristian FrustratedChristian 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 5, 2009

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    I met my husband 4 years ago after I myself got divorced. I was really broken from my divorce and had two little boys to look after. My husband was going through a separation...
    lorir1975 lorir1975 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    It Never Ends - I have been a stepmother for over 20 years. The darlings were 7 and 14 when we met. When the biological Mother has significant issues (despite being remarried...
    20plusyears 20plusyears 41-45 5 Responses Jun 27, 2013

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    Raising a child that isn't your own. Such fun! When things get tough, there are no sweet memories of them being cute because you weren't around for that part. No biological love...
    Countrychicky Countrychicky 26-30 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    two stepdaughters. Aged 18 and 15. I've been their stepmom for nearly 13 years. They live with us. (their dad and me) and we have a 8 year old together as well. Their mom is not in...
    lowlandgirl lowlandgirl 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 12

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    I Hate My Stepson - I have always hated kids. I started casually seeing a guy that I knew had a kid, but I thought it wasn't going to go anywhere. It turned out that we had so much...
    deleted deleted 26-30 38 Responses Mar 5, 2011

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    This is to all the women out there, never never never ever ever married a man with kid/kids!!!!! His kid/kids will aways come first before anything else, it doesn't matter who's at...
    Teardrop1001 Teardrop1001 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    Unappreciated And Fed Up... - I was curious if anyone else ever feels like I do? My husband was my high school sweet heart, we broke up, both married other people and ended up...
    Paige1234 Paige1234 26-30, F 23 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    I hate being a step-mom!!!! I married a man with two children of his own. I do not have any. His oldest son was "kicked out" when I moved in because him and his girlfriend were...
    insanestepmother insanestepmother 46-50, F Jan 30

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    I was married in 2011 to a guy who has two daughters from his previous marriage.It was so well when it was just the the two of us and then after several months his youngest moved...
    mvavvd mvavvd 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Stressed Out - I have been married for a little over a yr and my husband has a 9 yr old daughter from a previous marriage. It has been difficult for me. I was always used to being...
    blackcat35 blackcat35 31-35 6 Responses Oct 29, 2010

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    If I knew what I know now, I would never have gotten with my current bf who has a 5 year old. It makes me feel awful, but obviously I'm not alone. I'm not saying it's the sk...
    Xoxolovely12 Xoxolovely12 22-25 1 Response Feb 10

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    I am woman and have been with my wife for 3 years but only married for 3 months. I have one son which is 6 and she has two kids which are 4 (boy) and 6(girl). Through out dating...
    duckdolla duckdolla 26-30 2 Responses Jan 28

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    Freedom - Hi there. I browsed so many of the stories here and each one had a similar thread: the sadness, disappointment and even despair associated with being a stepmom. My...
    Wickedskids Wickedskids 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    I just feel like I'm going through the motions. It has come to the point where I don't even want to be in the same room with them. I am always their taxi for after school events...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 30

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    Hoping I've found somewhere others can relate to how I'm feeling. My fiancé and I have been together nearly 2 years now. We have a 9 month old daughter together. He has a 10 year...
    angelfallen13 angelfallen13 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 27

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    Today I'm having a bit of a low day. Am feeling that my husband is slipping a bit as in not making his kids stick to our rules. They drop the ball and he just makes a remark about...
    makingimpossiblepossible makingimpossiblepossible 36-40, F 11 Responses Feb 23

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    There is always an excuse. "It's their hormones". IT's always a passive answer. "We don't want to stir the hornets nest by engaging their mother". It's always my invalid argument...
    Louisianafedup Louisianafedup 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    I am so glad that I came to this website. It has made me feel so much better about my feelings. Let me start from the beginning. When I met my hub he said he had 2 kids. After a...
    madimom madimom 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    Why I Will Never Date A Guy With Kids Again - Ladies please, please, don't just walk ...run!! I’ve just come out of another ‘Man with baggage’ relationship –Never again...
    angellight7 angellight7 31-35, F 11 Responses May 20, 2013

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    Hey everyone..I wrote last week about hating being a step mom. I read through a lot of forums and could relate with other women out there. There's no hard & fast rules as...
    lorir1975 lorir1975 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 11

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    So sd10 was here this weekend. First weekend since we moved. Again she drove me insane!! From the minute we picked her up she had an attitude problem. Probably cause she doesn't...
    angelfallen13 angelfallen13 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I've scanned through several stories, most of which I can relate to. I too, hate being a "stepmom". I'm more of a glorified babysitter every other weekend/holiday. Ya know, the...
    JustMe2209 JustMe2209 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    I'm happy to see other people share my feelings. I wouldn't say I hate it, but no one understands how difficult this is for me. I am pretty much that "single gal to instamom" and...
    PaytonFromVA PaytonFromVA 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    Women That Aren't Stepmoms Could Never Understand... - I know that I should've known what I was getting into. At first it was ok. I honestly thought I could handle it & make a...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 15 Responses Jan 22, 2012

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    I am hard on my 3 year old daughter because of all the slacking on behalf of my husband when it came to his two spoiled sons. My stepsons are now 17 and 21 but it was hell getting...
    Canitgetanyworse Canitgetanyworse 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 4

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    I'm tired of my 12 year old stepson. He is rude and stubborn. I asked him to take off his shoes at the door because of all the mud, my 8 year old son said okay Momma and did as I...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    It's almost Easter and of course- as with every holiday, we have to work OUR plans around BIO Mom's. It was easier when kids were little- it was in parenting plan . Now that kids...
    HollyCharbo HollyCharbo 46-50 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Just to show the other side of the coin a story of how it actually can be (sometimes). This week was a good week. My husbands new approach to raising his kids seems to work. No big...
    makingimpossiblepossible makingimpossiblepossible 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    I Just Don't Understand - I married my husband 2 years ago. He and I both have daughters from previous marriages. My daughters bio dad is non existent and is with us full...
    bluekc bluekc 26-30, F 28 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    What Did I Get Myself Into - I got married 6 months ago to an incredible man, really he is the best. Only there's one problem, the only cause of stress in our relationship, the...
    Marie2424 Marie2424 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    I Don't Want To Resent My Stepson!!! - I am mother of a 4 year old girl and stepmom to a 3 year old boy. My husband and I have almost been married a year and have a baby of our own...
    claytonsgirl77 claytonsgirl77 31-35 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    So...sometimes I do feel like the evil step mom from the stories when I have these kinda unreasonable feelings that I can't get rid of. I hate having to monitor all that I say as...
    makingimpossiblepossible makingimpossiblepossible 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    Is it just me or are loads of (young) people just signing up to attack what you wrote just for the fun of it?? Some haven't even read through the whole story and based their...
    makingimpossiblepossible makingimpossiblepossible 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    No Credit - The thing I hate most about being the stepmom is that I do everthing and never get any credit . For example my oldest stepdaughter just graduated from high school and...
    wendy1972 wendy1972 36-40, F 11 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    Don't Get Involved With A Man With Kids - I got involved with a man about 5 years ago that has two children ages 10 and 14.  I was warned by everybody how hard it was. I told...
    dfilbert dfilbert 36-40, F 78 Responses Oct 25, 2009

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    Thank goodness I thought I was the only one! I dated my fiancé for a year when we were 19 flash forward 10 years later and we got reconnected but during that time he had 3 kids...
    Walkedinblind Walkedinblind 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    My now husband and I only dated for 13 months prior to getting engaged. We were married 10 months later and have now been married 4 months. While our marriage is great, every other...
    IDidntAskForThis IDidntAskForThis 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    I'm a single mom of an 11th grader. I met the most wonderful guy who happens to be a father of 3. He has a 19, 15, & 12 year old. The 19 year old lives on her own. This guy...
    stepmominpgh stepmominpgh 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 16

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