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I Hate Being a Stepmom

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    husband at adult picnic,

    my teen has friend over, SD grandma offers to keep sd, she says no, she'll go to picnic. we explain there's no kids there, she will not have fun. she goes anyway. glares at husband, making him aware how miserable she is as soon as she walks in. demands his full attention, he...
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1 41-45, F 2 Responses May 24

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    I used to think I could make it work

    but not anymore. I could never imagine living with people who basically hate me but this is reality. I did nothing to truly cause it. Why are people so hateful?
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 5 Responses May 16

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    I have been married for 2 years; have my first

    baby who is 4 months old now and summer vacation is around the corner. The question should I include my SD10 who doesn't live with us to our summer holiday planning; if I do; she would expect to come with us every summer and I am worried that in the future I would only want...
    Sabrinay Sabrinay 31-35, F 6 Responses May 25

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    I just want to vent. Today I was off

    so I took my five-month-old son with me to clean my moms house and then I made supper for my aunt who has recently broke her hip and my husband was pissed bc I wasn't available to take care of his kid. Mind u this was not even a day we were suppose to have her. It just ****** me...
    amlesa amlesa 26-30, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Why I Will Never Date A Guy With Kids Again

    Ladies please, please, don't just walk ...run!! I’ve just come out of another ‘Man with baggage’ relationship –Never again will I put myself through this. I am talking from experience. I am 30+, attractive, professional woman on a positive path and working hard to get a...
    angellight7 angellight7 31-35, F 11 Responses May 20, 2013

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    Maybe I shouldn't post in this experience.

    I don't hate being a stepmom. Not anymore anyway. I don't hate being a stepmom because I am OVER being a stepmom. The "children" are now 38 and 35 and no more considerate or respectful of me than when I married their father 32 years ago. These "children" don't mind stepping...
    sueselala sueselala 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    So stepson 14 is back

    for the summer. We just found out that he was supposed to stay and take summer school with bio mom, but she claims she didn't know and his dad already had the plane ticket. I think it's bs because she just didn't want to deal with him or pay for summer school. Stepson is...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I know this will annoy many,

    but one of my biggest peeves is husband KNEW my daughter and I were health nut vegetarians when we met- told me he tried it for a while, would love for he and his daughter to eat better. fast forward almost 10 years, I'm consistant, his kid brings home fast food w a giant soda...
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    Stepmom of 4, with 2 of my own.

    Only 1 step lives with us & 1 of mine. Step is 16 & laziest boy ever! Husband doesn't hold him accountable, doesn't enforce rules. We fight over same issues. I work full time with 45 minute commute one way. Very little help with house work. I'm exhausted & very fed up. Very...
    rrthompson rrthompson 46-50, F 2 Responses May 15

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    I'm new. I'm a struggling step mom to a almost

    17 yr old girl. I've been in her life for almost 8 years. There is zero connection. I've struggled to find common ground or even succeed in a conversation with her. okay so we aren't friends. But I'm the "step mom." whatever that means. My husband hates that her and I don't...
    mnmama mnmama 31-35, F 6 Responses May 11

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    Is it just me or are loads of (young) people

    just signing up to attack what you wrote just for the fun of it?? Some haven't even read through the whole story and based their opinion on the first 3 sentences. People really don't have to agree with what I write but just leaving a comment calling me names or a bad person...
    makingimpossiblepossible makingimpossiblepossible 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    This is to all the women out there,

    never never never ever ever married a man with kid/kids!!!!! His kid/kids will aways come first before anything else, it doesn't matter who's at fault. You will not win a losing battle. Please, I beg you to think twice or more before you say yes. Also, no one will listen to...
    Teardrop1001 Teardrop1001 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Before I start, please know I try to do all I

    can to be a great mom to my SD. I am involved with her school/ activities, homework, I take her places, make her meals, buy her clothes when needed, etc. but, 85% of the time I hate it. When I first met my husband she was a great girl. She was very sweet and my husband took...
    MargeSimpson31 MargeSimpson31 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    I am getting married to an amazing man in 61

    days. I couldn't be happier with him....his 3 kids are a different story. I also have 3 children and understand that mine are also not perfect, but they were raised very differently than my future stepchildren. Mine were raised to show respect, help out when asked or sees...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses May 19

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    after silently watching 12 yr old down a 23oz.

    arizona tea and eat a large bag of chocolate covered popcorn, i hear dad say "hey, it's almost time for bed". she replies "I plan on going to bed at 9:30". .....
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1 41-45, F 4 Responses May 19

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    What Did I Get Myself Into

    I got married 6 months ago to an incredible man, really he is the best. Only there's one problem, the only cause of stress in our relationship, the only reason we ever argue-his 2 kids from a previous marriage. I hate being home when they are here. I try to be normal and pretend...
    Marie2424 Marie2424 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    Hey everyone..I wrote last week about hating

    being a step mom. I read through a lot of forums and could relate with other women out there. There's no hard & fast rules as everyone's experience, albeit similar at times, is unique. Through it all, I came to realise that my hating being a step mom was down to the fact...
    lorir1975 lorir1975 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Women That Aren't Stepmoms Could Never Understand...

    I know that I should've known what I was getting into. At first it was ok. I honestly thought I could handle it & make a better life for my stepchildren. I couldn't understand how these stepmoms could feel the way they did. I was judgemental, I admit. I had no clue as to what it...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 22, 2012

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    I am sure my story is similar to many on this

    blog. I am a step mom and have been for about three years. When I was first introduced to my husband he had his girls every weekend. They were not well behaved at all. I didn't concern myself with it too much unless they were with me. They were rude and disrespectful to their...
    bettylou1212 bettylou1212 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    My step daughter wants to offer a present she

    did in school for Mother's Day!!! I don't feel comfortable with this as she already has a mum and will be giving her the same present; second I don't think it's healthy for both of us to have the role/image of a mum as this is not true so why pretend; I can be her father's wife...
    Sabrinay Sabrinay 31-35, F 4 Responses May 24

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    I think my marriage is over.

    I have been married to my husband for three years, but we have been together almost 11 years. His son is 10 years old, and honestly I have never tried to have a relationship with him like I should have. I have been in his life since he was born, but I was only 20 and didn't...
    tjones44 tjones44 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    I married a man about 6 months ago with three

    children ages 8, 13 and 15. I am a childless 35 year old who had wanted to have kids of my own until my experience with these children. Their mother will do absolutely anything and everything to poison her children's minds about me and their father while my husband is a great...
    chichimom chichimom 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 9

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    I've been with my fiance

    for 3 years and have been fairly happy until recently. we found out that I was pregnant on a August morning and in the afternoon he received a paternity test result saying he was the dad to a 4 year old. I was crushed and have felt this resentment since then towards anyone...
    emotionalmommy emotionalmommy 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    What I hate overall about being a "step parent"

    is the fact that all I really equate to is a wallet.
    sobackwards sobackwards 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 5, 2014

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    I met my husband while he was in the military

    thousands of miles away from his ex-wife and any parental responsibilities. The idea of being a stepmom didn't bother me; perhaps I was naive. We soon had a child of our own and, once he had completed his military duty, we moved back to his home state. There were never any...
    RealityJoke RealityJoke 31-35, F 5 Responses May 15, 2014

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    My morning....enter the room to find

    that my husband's daughter has done nothing she is supposed to do to get ready for school and am told lie #1. Look at the tv to discover she has climbed on top of something and written all over the right side of the flat screen tv screen and am told lie #2. Ask her a question...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 14 hrs ago

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    It's getting to the point

    that I'd rather raise foster kids than step kids. Probably the same problems but at least I would feel like I was helping someone have a better life.
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    A while back I denounced my ugly title

    "step-mom" and enforced my new much fonder title of "Daddys' wife" Along with that I relinquished all the duties and chores that were bestowed unto me....much much happier and peaceful place. ..I now share this following prayer to all the "steps" still out there fighting these...
    Maylissa Maylissa 41-45 1 Response Dec 17, 2014

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    I posted something in the group "I hate my

    roomate". because that's exactly what it feels like, living with bad roomates, virtual strangers who have no respect for you or your things. I keep getting flashbacks to some of the roomates I had in college, whenever I get annoyed. the ones who throw you laundry on the floor...
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1 41-45, F 1 Response May 16

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    Searching these posts

    for help winning back my wife. I have failed my my wife. It took an entire year for me to be able to admit that or even see it. For the last year it's been "my wife is selfish" or "my wife is unreasonable." But it was me. I'm selfish. I failed her and I pray I can get her back...
    TonyM323 TonyM323 36-40, M 8 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Wondering how fellow step mothers feel towards

    their husbands considering the grief his kids cause. This has been on my mind. I've lost respect for mine because, well, lots of reasons. Undisciplined children, lack of help around house, butt-kissing when I'm angry, broken promises, etc. How do you deal with this?
    rrthompson rrthompson 46-50, F 4 Responses May 19

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    So my therapist talked me into staying

    for 6 weeks so I can work on my communication skills. she asked me could I leave without any regrets. of course not. however, I think they are to far gone to get this situation fixed
    back2livin back2livin 51-55, F 3 Responses May 4

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    Let me apologize first,

    this is going to be but long. But I still want to hear your advice.... I've been with my fiancé(L) for 7 years, he has a 9 years old boy(R) that I met him since he was 1 and half years old. They have joint custody to have R every 2 weeks. L's mother(G) always help watch R when...
    Mooncake1028 Mooncake1028 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16

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    I just married my husband in November of 2014.

    Before we married I knew he had 2 kids but we broke up for about four months and in that four months, he got the kids mother pregnant AGAIN!! What do I do??? I married him anyway. Now I think that's the worst decision I made in my whole life!!! Now my husband has a 9yr old, 3yr...
    hurtstepmom hurtstepmom 31-35, F 18 Responses May 13, 2014

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    Attention Stepmom's: Put yourself first.

    I recently left my husband this week after 10 years of marriage. I was unhappy with the conditions of our home and how he never held his kids accountable for doing their chores and cleaning up after themselves, not considering my feelings, using me financially to support his...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 15, 2014

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    I feel compelled to tell you my story.

    I am a step-daughter who made life very hard for my step-mom. I hated her, well not her exactly, I hated my dads partner. As I matured I began to appreciate how much she loves my dad, the things she did for my siblings and I, and the important role she plays in our family. I...
    bannaj bannaj 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2014

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    Today I am angry! Very angry.

    Almost too angry to talk...if you could believe that. I am furious at my husband because besides the birth of my son, being married to him has cost me too much. I angry at his daughter because she is the catalyst for every single dramaful unhappy aspect of my life right now...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 3 Responses May 20

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    Today I'm having a bit of a low day.

    Am feeling that my husband is slipping a bit as in not making his kids stick to our rules. They drop the ball and he just makes a remark about it but doesn't follow through in making them actually do it. That's like a slippery road downwards and means life at home gets more...
    makingimpossiblepossible makingimpossiblepossible 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 23, 2014

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    Raising a child that isn't your own.

    Such fun! When things get tough, there are no sweet memories of them being cute because you weren't around for that part. No biological love to fall back on. I'm so sick of it all. 7 years and I'm thinking of throwing in the towel. She'll be 14 in June so pretty sure it's not...
    Countrychicky Countrychicky 26-30 3 Responses Apr 10, 2014

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    Does anyone else totally dread the weekends

    when they have their step kids?
    amlesa amlesa 26-30, F 4 Responses May 16

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    AND THE PARENTS OF THE YEAR AWARD.

    ....does not go to my husband and ex.... mom lives 4 hours away (for bf) said she'd come yesterday for sd b-day, which is today. then was going to come today by 11 a.m. husband goes to work first Saturday in a year. no gift for her to open this a.m. so I get up at 7:30 and run to...
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am currently married,

    i have a child outside of my marriage and so does my husband. We also have a 6 month old baby girl together. My step-Daughter is 10 years old and ever since her father and i have gotten married its gone down hill ever since. She ruined my wedding day by crying the whole time...
    Sarah053 Sarah053 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Because I'm Canadian,

    this coming Monday is a fairly new Statutory holiday... "Family Day." What was going through the minds of our trusted MPs when they decided to give us a day off in the middle of cold, snowy, February to spend cooped up with our "families" mustn't have their step-children on this...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 12

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    it really annoys me that a mother can have kids,

    and then dont wanna take care of them!!!! like you had kids like every other women TAKE CARE OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES!!!!! sorry just venting #parttimemoms
    mariebkn3 mariebkn3 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    I am so excited!!!!! This is the final week of

    school. Next week, we take the 1,000 mile trip to take her back from whence she came. Every time she got on my nerves this weekend, I chanted to myself "its almost over" "you can do this". I look forward to the days when I can wake up and only have to tend to my son. No more...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I do actually like my SS14,

    as we all know I do hate SD9... Anyway SS is here for the summer, he's been driving me crazy thus far... Smothering 'daddy' and our 5mo old son. I have repeatedly asked him to stop, he doesn't and Husband doesn't notice. He is 14 I'm like quit hanging all over everyone and go be...
    MommyToMine MommyToMine 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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