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I Hate Burdening My Friends With My Problems

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    Drama Days!

    I often have drama days, not caused by me, but others around me. And I often get sucked in, by some jerk having a bad day and taking it out on the nearest person... which mostly happens to be me. This happens online or offline. :-/ Either way, I try not to get my friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 14, 2009

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    My Problems

    I don't like feeling depressed but it's nice to be able to vent.... I just want to say thank you ep members who take the time to listen hugs.
    butterflylisa butterflylisa 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2010

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    Sorry

    I really feel bad constantly bothering everyone. It seems like i am always down recently and i can only imagine how fed up everyone is. =/ In real life i know that i am burdening them... or at least i have in the past. Thats pretty much what they told me... and stopped talking...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2008

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    I Hate It

    I really hate telling my friends about my probelms because then it makes me feel like they are worring about me. I hate that, that's the only reason I won't talk to them about my probelms most of the time. So don't feel bad if I don't talk to you about my probelms...
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2009

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    Like to Go Crawl In a Cave . . .

    And "lick my wounds" like a bear or an animal would - getting wounded by another human turns me into a silent animal.
    moxiesurvivor moxiesurvivor 66-70, F 6 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    ....I have always been the one to hold your

    hand. I will pull you back from the edge. I will catch you as you fall. I will dive into the river for you. I will hold you and let you lean on me, and when the night comes and you're too tired to return home, I will carry you there. I will carry you til you find your footing...
    SunnysBlueForever SunnysBlueForever 18-21, F Mar 10, 2014

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    Omg!

    Maybe I'm a little too old for "OMG". That's what I get for trying to stay relevant to my son. Anyway, I saw this group name and thought, "Holy Christmnaas Trees, Batman! That's ME!". To be honest, most of my friends could probably care less about my problems. I sent out a...
    Xanadu7 Xanadu7 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 13, 2010

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    Moving On

    i guess a hard part in life is moving on especially when ur trying to forget about someone who was supposed to be your friend. One of my friends moved out from us during the start of the school year. he was hanging out with other people. And my other friend was so angry that he...
    justsomenormalguy justsomenormalguy 16-17 Jul 11, 2009

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    It's Never a Burden

    I just want everyone to know that it's impossible for you to burden me with your problems.  I enjoy helping people with their problems and it brings me joy when someone's problem is solved because of me.  So don't ever hesitate to tell me about your problems.  I'll...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 8 Responses Aug 22, 2008

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    I Don't Know What Im Doing Wrong

    Everytime I try to make plans or something over FB, they reply with an "oh sure..maybe" or tell me the same excuse over and over. I get they have their own lives, other friends ect and I don't mind that - but they never talk to me and they never want to hang out let alone ask. If...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 20, 2011

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    What I Learned

    I feel like I always help others but feel like people are stunned or overwhelmed when it comes to my issues...but sometimes I wonder if... I've always helped in high stress situations with a cool head. Hurricanes, major disasters, deaths in the family, trauma, cancer...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 2 Responses Aug 25, 2008

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    Twisted, But True

    I am generally the first person to offer a shoulder cry on or a friendly ear because I like being there for my friends. However, for some reason, I always feel like when I have problems, its an imposition to vent or talk about them. Part of it, I'm sure is because, for a long...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    I Try To Solve My Problems On My Own..

    Everytime I talk to my friends about my problems, they try to understand.But i'm just a weird person cuz after i tell them what's wrong i can just act normal like always.then i get confused that they don't ask me if everything is alright and they get confused cuz they see me...
    DrowningInMyOwnSorrow DrowningInMyOwnSorrow 18-21, F Jan 10, 2012

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    Mind You...

    ...I really don't like burdening ANYONE with my problems as I've always kept most of my emotions and thoughts close to my chest. Those on here are probably the only ones that really know more than a glimpse of how I feel most of the time, but even then, I try to avoid overly...
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 12, 2010

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    No One To Talk To Anymore

    So I came across this site because apparently I talk about my problems too much to people. So much that literally, no one wants to hear me anymore. I had no idea that it was that  bad. I mean, I had a lot of BS that went on over the holidays and I just can't keep it bottled in...
    BlessdMomma35 BlessdMomma35 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 26, 2010

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    So I Keep My Mouth Shut....

    I keep my mouth shut, that way I don't have burden anyone. I keep it all to myself, and just shut the world out. For now, its the best thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 14, 2010

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    No One Really Cares About My Problems, Anyway

    My dad kind of walked out on us recently, and i told my so-called 'best friend' and she said, 'ahh no worries...' and then she went back to talking about her new boyfriend. None of my other friends care, and I don't think they know what to say which is okay. I don't mind that as...
    notyouraveragegirl notyouraveragegirl 16-17 1 Response Jul 10, 2011

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    Know One Listens To Me

    my husband cuts me off constantly he really doesn't wanna hear anything i have to say this adss to my loneliness i'm not from md so that doesn't help i love people but can't make friends i get pre judged by people let's face it my life is a mess i'm lonely ladies i wanna make...
    juicymo3322 juicymo3322 41-45, F 2 Responses May 25, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    It's not just about me this time but I like to vent a little about something that makes me anxious that I just want to Hulk smash things without a care. I hate my cousins and I...
    Xemplefied Xemplefied 26-30, M 6 days ago

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    Kindness I've found can be over rated. Old friends I defended in their absence to foes are now best friends with them. Even deleted me of Facebook but when they see me smile and...
    ParisCat ParisCat 22-25, F May 2

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    Some people act like they're your friend but then again they really aren't 'cause of how they act toward you. That isn't a friend that acts like that. I hate fake friends.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 22

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    I thought they were there for me, that they liked me for who I am, but the truth was different. It hurts. , I know, I am not like them and that's a good thing. I am honest. Then...
    2greeneyess 2greeneyess 16-17, F 3 Responses May 14

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    Best way to find friends i find is never to go through friends list of people your friends with but start a fresh search with a different and genuine interest of yours. I say this...
    adamlancer22 adamlancer22 22-25, M 1 Response May 15

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    yup i learned my lesson not to be friends with everyone. it's okay to be Alone sometimes..it's hard finding true friends. my ex friend jumped me in the school's bathroom for NO...
    Californialexiiiiiii Californialexiiiiiii 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I mean Mental Disorders, there is a difference. One is named Jenna, she is practically my sister. She has a rather severe case of bipolar disorder. She and I know each other from...
    AnonWesker AnonWesker 13-15, M 1 Response May 14

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    I've been best friends with this girl for three years now, but I just don't enjoy being around her anymore. She has a negative attitude about life and about most things and she...
    fablikemkat fablikemkat 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    i am also looking for friends with benefits. contact me if u live in the north east. hopefully close to connecticut
    mx7499 mx7499 22-25, M May 9

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    How come we don't see women looking friends with benifits and men are the only seekers?
    Adam8888 Adam8888 26-30, M 1 Response May 11

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    Fun while it lasted. Got to know each other last summer, got on a bit too well in Spain while she was still with her boyfriend. Luckily, that changed soon after we got home...
    neathiopian neathiopian 18-21, M May 20

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    Oh,yes, indeedy, I do. I hate `em. I`m a naturally worrisome person. When I was in kindergarten, I used to recite messages we were supposed to give our parents in my sleep AFTER I...
    WeepGrl WeepGrl 22-25, F May 13

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    they tell me that my poetry is triggering and sad, i'm extremely judgmental, i don't have a say, i'm better off dead, spread rumors about me, call me names, treat me so bad that i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 7

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    A certain group of my "friends" are negative, two-faced, and when I'm with them I'm annoyed most of the time. I've tried to drift away from this group, but whenever I find new...
    lauradowns lauradowns 16-17, F 1 Response May 11

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    It seems like none of my friends want to hang out with me anymore. I have like two friends. One of them is in charleston but come to Beckley quite often. She will tell me that she...
    LoveBunnie21 LoveBunnie21 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I have a bunch of fake friends, actually. I treated them as my brothers and sisters. I don't have any siblings, I'm the only child. I loved them for who they are, but they betrayed...
    iiAmethystii iiAmethystii 13-15, F 1 Response May 5

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    Recently someone who i thought was a very close friend of mine... turned out to be a complete fake. This has changed the way i see all of my friends now.. and since then i have...
    cupcakes1995 cupcakes1995 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Seriously, I joined a party to talk to them and they start debating who their ex's are and which one was the biggest *****. Really? I Hate how they don't have any freaking respect...
    Destroyer2266 Destroyer2266 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    Honestly I have lost my best friend. She's disrespectful... She tries to make me jealous my calling other people her best friend that she hates. I mean if I really was her best...
    Madimac Madimac 13-15, F 1 Response May 6

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    I've never really had many, I guess I'm the person that everyone thinks is antisocial but actually is just not interested in everyone elses phony sh!t. I like real conversation...
    GingerHolmes GingerHolmes 16-17, F May 9

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    I've never really had many, I guess I'm the person that everyone thinks is antisocial but actually is just not interested in everyone elses phony sh!t. I like real conversation...
    GingerHolmes GingerHolmes 16-17, F 2 Responses May 9

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    I am fully aware that the friend zone and it's occupants exist for a reason. I am aware that women are not slots you put kindness into until a relationship falls out of it. But...
    tsharif80 tsharif80 31-35, M May 14

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    I don't hang out with them anymore. It's always fun to wake up on a Friday and think "well, here comes another Friday night of being stuck home by myself." 😒
    thisissamwut thisissamwut 18-21, M 2 Responses May 22

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    I had this little group of people that I hung out with at my gym, they're my age, and of course I got along with them because they're kinda like me. A couple nights ago, they...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 15 Responses 4 days ago

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    So I met this guy when we were 18. I kinda liked him, but I was on the fence about it, and in my snobby 18 year old wisdom, decided he wasn't worth another thought when he ditched...
    Supersyncsteph Supersyncsteph 31-35, F 1 Response May 19

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