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I Hate Burdening My Friends With My Problems

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 439 People

    Drama Days!

    I often have drama days, not caused by me, but others around me. And I often get sucked in, by some jerk having a bad day and taking it out on the nearest person... which mostly happens to be me. This happens online or offline. :-/ Either way, I try not to get my friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 14, 2009

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    What I Learned

    I feel like I always help others but feel like people are stunned or overwhelmed when it comes to my issues...but sometimes I wonder if... I've always helped in high stress situations with a cool head. Hurricanes, major disasters, deaths in the family, trauma, cancer...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 2 Responses Aug 25, 2008

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    So I Keep My Mouth Shut....

    I keep my mouth shut, that way I don't have burden anyone. I keep it all to myself, and just shut the world out. For now, its the best thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 14, 2010

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    ....I have always been the one to hold your

    hand. I will pull you back from the edge. I will catch you as you fall. I will dive into the river for you. I will hold you and let you lean on me, and when the night comes and you're too tired to return home, I will carry you there. I will carry you til you find your footing...
    SunnysBlueForever SunnysBlueForever 18-21, F Mar 10, 2014

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    Moving On

    i guess a hard part in life is moving on especially when ur trying to forget about someone who was supposed to be your friend. One of my friends moved out from us during the start of the school year. he was hanging out with other people. And my other friend was so angry that he...
    justsomenormalguy justsomenormalguy 16-17 Jul 11, 2009

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    I Hate It

    I really hate telling my friends about my probelms because then it makes me feel like they are worring about me. I hate that, that's the only reason I won't talk to them about my probelms most of the time. So don't feel bad if I don't talk to you about my probelms...
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2009

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    My Problems

    I don't like feeling depressed but it's nice to be able to vent.... I just want to say thank you ep members who take the time to listen hugs.
    butterflylisa butterflylisa 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2010

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    I Try To Solve My Problems On My Own..

    Everytime I talk to my friends about my problems, they try to understand.But i'm just a weird person cuz after i tell them what's wrong i can just act normal like always.then i get confused that they don't ask me if everything is alright and they get confused cuz they see me...
    DrowningInMyOwnSorrow DrowningInMyOwnSorrow 18-21, F Jan 10, 2012

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    No One Really Cares About My Problems, Anyway

    My dad kind of walked out on us recently, and i told my so-called 'best friend' and she said, 'ahh no worries...' and then she went back to talking about her new boyfriend. None of my other friends care, and I don't think they know what to say which is okay. I don't mind that as...
    notyouraveragegirl notyouraveragegirl 16-17 1 Response Jul 10, 2011

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    Omg!

    Maybe I'm a little too old for "OMG". That's what I get for trying to stay relevant to my son. Anyway, I saw this group name and thought, "Holy Christmnaas Trees, Batman! That's ME!". To be honest, most of my friends could probably care less about my problems. I sent out a...
    Xanadu7 Xanadu7 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 13, 2010

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    Twisted, But True

    I am generally the first person to offer a shoulder cry on or a friendly ear because I like being there for my friends. However, for some reason, I always feel like when I have problems, its an imposition to vent or talk about them. Part of it, I'm sure is because, for a long...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    I Don't Know What Im Doing Wrong

    Everytime I try to make plans or something over FB, they reply with an "oh sure..maybe" or tell me the same excuse over and over. I get they have their own lives, other friends ect and I don't mind that - but they never talk to me and they never want to hang out let alone ask. If...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 20, 2011

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    No One To Talk To Anymore

    So I came across this site because apparently I talk about my problems too much to people. So much that literally, no one wants to hear me anymore. I had no idea that it was that  bad. I mean, I had a lot of BS that went on over the holidays and I just can't keep it bottled in...
    BlessdMomma35 BlessdMomma35 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 26, 2010

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    Like to Go Crawl In a Cave . . .

    And "lick my wounds" like a bear or an animal would - getting wounded by another human turns me into a silent animal.
    moxiesurvivor moxiesurvivor 66-70, F 6 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    Sorry

    I really feel bad constantly bothering everyone. It seems like i am always down recently and i can only imagine how fed up everyone is. =/ In real life i know that i am burdening them... or at least i have in the past. Thats pretty much what they told me... and stopped talking...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2008

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    It's Never a Burden

    I just want everyone to know that it's impossible for you to burden me with your problems.  I enjoy helping people with their problems and it brings me joy when someone's problem is solved because of me.  So don't ever hesitate to tell me about your problems.  I'll...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 8 Responses Aug 22, 2008

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    Know One Listens To Me

    my husband cuts me off constantly he really doesn't wanna hear anything i have to say this adss to my loneliness i'm not from md so that doesn't help i love people but can't make friends i get pre judged by people let's face it my life is a mess i'm lonely ladies i wanna make...
    juicymo3322 juicymo3322 41-45, F 2 Responses May 25, 2012

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    Mind You...

    ...I really don't like burdening ANYONE with my problems as I've always kept most of my emotions and thoughts close to my chest. Those on here are probably the only ones that really know more than a glimpse of how I feel most of the time, but even then, I try to avoid overly...
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 12, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    So I've known this girl for 2 years we became best friends then re year after another girl came into our group and I was us three best friends happy and then another girl came into...
    smileyfacebaby smileyfacebaby 13-15, F Apr 8

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    My friend told me I really needed to consider if being friends with him was worth it. Because I would take longer to heal if I talk to him almost everyday and meet him once a week...
    silvis silvis 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    I honestly think i'm in love with my crush Elliott. Our story first began in Year 9 (currently in year 10) when we sat next to each other in Maths. He was sweet, adorable and liked...
    IISweetDreamsII IISweetDreamsII 13-15 Apr 11

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    As much as I hate being alone with my thoughts, I'm terrified to talk about certain things. I don't want to scare people away. I have certain people in my life that I trust, but I...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 27

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    I am not being forward or making a pass. If I send you a friend request, I am not being bad I just want to friends with everyone. I hope I don't offend me. I am a man and can't...
    MrsStanleys MrsStanleys 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Have lots of friends with different personality. The thing is, when they talk to you at the same time while someone is also calling for your name and you're just like: Life is...
    secret7148 secret7148 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I really want to be friends with one. Infact be her toy boy :p
    kwickdecisions kwickdecisions 22-25, M Apr 3

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    It's been rough being friends with my ex, he constantly says he misses me and he wants to work things out. I've ignored texts from him unless it has to do with our son. I tried to...
    smashmouth4eva smashmouth4eva 31-35, F Apr 3

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    Because why not? People are people, and all people are worth at least trying to be friends with. I've learned a lot from people different from me.
    MaddieAKAMadi MaddieAKAMadi 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    About 10 years ago I had a couple of friends with benefits. We were all in the same situation and it worked great. We all knew each other and hangout together. Then my job moved...
    Mitchd630 Mitchd630 51-55 5 days ago

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    Do I have a fake friend? A few days ago ( at school ) I was having a bad day. And because of this, I wasn't really talking to anyone. So my friend thought I wasn't talking to her...
    crazydreamer101 crazydreamer101 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    Im Always being a friend and a shoulder to cry on and when i need a friend none of my "so called friends" are no where to be found until they need help from me. They all users i...
    nonamechild nonamechild 26-30, F Mar 31

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    I feel like "hate" is truly a strong word to describe the way I feel about my so called "friends." I've never really had friends honestly but now that I've made some, I feel like...
    ohangela ohangela 13-15, F Apr 7

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    I'm sure everyone hates them, but I want to share this: the friends that I have are the same ones I've had since 5th and 6th grade and we're all 29 and 30 now. 20 years of...
    xtrishax xtrishax 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I recently found out my 2 year friend ship is a fake friendship she's a fake friend and ******* about me to the girl who hates me😒
    smileyfacebaby smileyfacebaby 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I had told my so called friends multiple times that I never wanted to hear about anything that involved my ex husband. I pretty much think of him as being dead, and kind of am...
    abarton abarton 26-30, F Apr 15

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    My friends wants everything I got and does everything I do.. It's so annoying.. I can't stand her. She eats like a cow and I told her but she doesn't listen to me. I see ghosts and...
    OfMiceAndKaylinn OfMiceAndKaylinn 16-17, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Real friends are the ones who are always there for you no matter what, fake friends leave you in the dark and never try to help. I no longer have time for meaningless friendships...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 7 Responses Mar 31

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    So back when i was in 5th grade i had no one until i met a girl and we became Bff (i'm a dude) we laughed we had fun we talked day and night and the whole year it was just PERFECT...
    themainguy themainguy 13-15, M Apr 17

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    Friend A: never calls, it's always me. I always feel like the burden on her shoulders but they came across the world just to see me. I suppose only a friend does that. The only...
    ParisCat ParisCat 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I really hate when someone tell me they going to do something with me and they stand me up and not inform me that they not going to make it #fakeness
    tonya2025 tonya2025 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    Oh i hate losing you i cannot live
    Thedepressedgirlatthewindow Thedepressedgirlatthewindow 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    So I just stopped talking to a girl who I thought was in love with me. She isn't who she claimed to be. Anyway, without further ado, please do not talk to or trust mackenzieoneill...
    BrandonVidya2014 BrandonVidya2014 18-21, M Mar 30

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    I've had a lot of those. Saying they were my friends, but they always made me feel like ****. This time my concern is about somebody I met in january online. I barely know the guy...
    Lolinondoda Lolinondoda 16-17, F Apr 13

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    I'm an outgoing, rule breaking, spontaneous kind of girl and my very best friend is an introverted, goody goody, who hasn't tried anything new willingly since forever xD in fact...
    shamrok11 shamrok11 13-15, F 4 Responses Apr 6

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