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I Hate Conflict

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    It Upsets Me

    On a deeply intensely personal level. I can't deal with it, well I shouldn't say can't deal with it, I can if I absolutely have to. But I desperately avoid it.
    DelightfulBabe08 DelightfulBabe08 26-30 Oct 9, 2008

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    Narixel Narixel 18-21, M Mar 24

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    It's Made Out To Be A Weakness...

    I've always known and understood that I do not receive conflict or confrontation very well. In fact, although I do not like to use the word "hate", it very much describes my dislike of both conflict and confrontation. I do not see this as a flaw, or something to be ashamed of...
    SoulSucker SoulSucker 22-25, F Aug 10, 2011

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    Sick With Anxiety Over Conflict

    I tried to post this story once but it got lost so here is the condensed version: I am having a conflict with a girl at work. I can usually handle her remarks that she feels are jokes or "giving people crap" as she likes to term it. But frequently being told "way to be a...
    gruenegal86 gruenegal86 22-25 2 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Conflict ...

    I step into a room all is quiet or there is just this energy that is toxic to everything in the area, that is how i know there was fighting or arguing there just recently. All my life my family has done nothing but argue amongst themselves. I really can't stand it, once the...
    TheCheese TheCheese 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 9, 2007

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    A Part Of Life

    It's always going to be around, we just have to decide how much of it we choose to let ourselves be exposed to. Personally, I avoid it as much as is possible.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 1, 2011

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    I Avoid It.........

    At all costs. I will bite my tongue, step in the middle, do anything I have to. I don't like raised voices, hands that gesture too fast, yelling, cursing, or anything else anger induced. I will do all I have to to stop it. It makes me very nervous & fearful. I'm terrified of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 10, 2009

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    I Hate Conflict

    Be it physical {between p'ple} or mental...i hate conflicts. They are so unhealthy, ever leaving someone with depression, anger or bitterness.Today, i just turned-down an offer to translate for a group of people in a certain christian conference simply because my mind was in a...
    lilyofthefields lilyofthefields 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2010

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    I Avoid It A Lot

    That can be a problem. I'm not going to say things, and withdraw instead of talking, even knowing conflict doesn't necessarily means big argument, or hate. But it feels so sometimes. Even if I feel the tension, I will tend to avoid conflict. If I'm pushed, I can be pretty...
    WickedScullyOfTheWest WickedScullyOfTheWest 31-35, F Sep 25, 2013

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    Red Hot Anger

    I wrote it in my blog so I'll talk about it in general.  I hate conflicts with a passion.  The ones I get into never seem to get resolved unless both parties involved want to sort it out.  And I don't mean in the way I used to which was to act upon my Revenge...
    Ozislander Ozislander 31-35, F Jun 23, 2010

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    I Dont Like It.

    I can have a debate with someone based on reason and logic, some level of understanding..but when it becomes a competition of who raises his or her voice the highest...i hate it. People who talk over the other person and say shutup a bunch of times like it helps them prove a...
    BronzeEspada BronzeEspada 26-30, M Jul 22, 2012

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    Its Dumb

    i hate conflict..i hate it. it makes me wanna slapp some one in da face.errrrrrrrrrr
    brooklyn917 brooklyn917 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 5, 2009

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    I Hate Conflict

    Be it physical {between p'ple} or mental...i hate conflicts. They are so unhealthy, ever leaving someone with depression, anger or bitterness.Today, i just turned-down an offer to translate for a group of people in a certain christian conference simply because my mind was in a...
    lilyofthefields lilyofthefields 26-30, F Jan 16, 2010

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    Conflict Suffocates Me

    I always get this overwhelming feeling when there's conflict in the house, I couldn't cool it or ignore the both of them either. So I sighed loudly and retreat to my room. Ecen in school I get suffocated with conflicts that I act stupid just to calm myself. Anyway its not good...
    amejad amejad 22-25, F May 25, 2010

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    I Just Dont Like It!

    i dont like conflict between other people, or between me and another person. its just a hassel that can be lived without...most of the time theres no real need for it. the main conflict that gets to me though is violence, and when a stronger person puts down a weaker one, cos its...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F Oct 26, 2007

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    I'm A Lover, Not A Fighter!

    Simply put, I value peace over violence. Yes, I know that sometimes we have to fight in order to gain peace.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M Sep 17, 2011

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    Because

     My parents have never argued, so I'm not used to see conflicts... I hate them, I rather yield than to keep on fighting... even when I know I'm right. I think arguing is wasting of time.... I'd rather be ignoring than shouting...  I apply this at...
    bublina bublina 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 5, 2009

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    Not All Conflict

    Ok, I've been thinking about this group ever since I joined it. I really don't like conflict; it's uncomfortable. But I can't say that I actually HATE it. Conflict is neccessary. As people are all different, with different views, beliefs and feelings, we are not all going to see...
    CagedRaven CagedRaven 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2009

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    Its Not About Who Is Right, Its About...

    It's not about who is right, it's about trying to unerstand each others intentions and perceptions. Most of the time the REAL reason why people argue, is because they have a different point of view. That sucks, but it's a human thing to have your own point of views. Try to...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2011

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    I understand that hate is a pretty strong word, and that if I "hate" him I shouldn't be with him. But you have to understand that I'm not strong enough to walk away, and every time...
    beautifulhypocrisy beautifulhypocrisy 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    I hate people always putting others down! All people are beautiful! All people are smart! When people finally realize this there will be so much less conflict. When the power of...
    Datboiichen Datboiichen 18-21, M Apr 9

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    Wow, who would have thought that I somehow became a victim of internet trolls!I posted a photo of some milk from a local supermarket, on the supermarkets facebook page. It shows...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    You don't understand how much I hate my boring, pathetic, pointless life. I miss put on everything. I have no experiences. I thought I had a good school friend then she hurt me too...
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    Yes! I hate allergies cause I always get sick and start vomiting 24/7😑 it really does suck😰
    drs0307 drs0307 16-17, F 1 hr ago

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    I love spring because I was born in spring but I do hate allergies there the worst
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 1 hr ago

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    I hate myself sometimes why I'm so lack of confidence. I wasn't like this when I was younger. Some parts in life changed me and how I behave. I always try to maintain low-profile...
    Iamlouis Iamlouis 22-25, F 1 hr ago

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    I hate fake people they think there perfect
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I hate when people judge me even thought they don't really no me for me
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 2 Responses 59 mins ago

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    I am consistently confronted with the fact that I regularly have very different, sometimes oposing views and/or feelings about things I experience, hear, see or otherwise. For...
    hifromberlin hifromberlin 26-30, M Mar 24

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    I am far from what I thought I'd be at the moment and it seems that there's no way to get back on track. I planned to go to college in America but things didn't really work out for...
    pleadndsting pleadndsting 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    I told you guys that I hated myself. Now I am in a messy circumstance and I felt everything was falling apart. I might not finish my degree on time when the financial stance is not...
    InFiDeL0020 InFiDeL0020 26-30, M Mar 24

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    School is possibly the worst invention ever. I don't hate education, I just hate school. I hate the people, I hate the teachers, I hate the early morning, I hate the uniform, I...
    ImChelsea ImChelsea 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I have never hated anyone in my life. My MIL I DO hate she has destroyed my marriage with get son her golden child . I am 45, he is 63, she is 86. Her son divorced his wife 30...
    sueoneil sueoneil 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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    I hate the feeling of missing someone, even though they say it's what makes the reunion more special. I hate the feeling of losing someone, it hurts deep. I hate the feeling of...
    grey019 grey019 31-35, M Apr 3

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    People don't like hate, and it's understandable. It's not a pleasant feeling. However, many self-help and New Age books talk longly and vigorously about how to 'extinguish hate in...
    MidsouthGuy MidsouthGuy 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    Okay….so…..I know this is trivial and probably in the long run very unimportant but I feel like I need to say it. So I used to like this guy a lot, but I never liked talking...
    CantThinkofAUsernameNow CantThinkofAUsernameNow 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    Dear ugly sagging boobs, I want to make sure you know that I attribute every miserable moment of self-doubt and self-pity to you. I've hated you the moment I discovered my...
    onnest onnest 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 27

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    I hate the way that my love makes me fake indifference when your name is mentioned. I hate the way you make me break into a sweat, and talk too loud, and go red, I hate the way you...
    yuichie yuichie 13-15, F Mar 31

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    I hate myself. I hate that I was born with depression. I hate that at age ten I already loathed myself to cut. I hate that at age 11 I was already done with experiencing life and...
    Rawrimabeast Rawrimabeast 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    This post maybe a nonsense... -_- so there's a girl in my class who I hate very much, call her Lucy. She's such an attention-seeker and a crybaby who gets scared of every little...
    Tiffany98702 Tiffany98702 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    My dad cheated on my mom with my best friend. I had just made friends with this girl and her husband and children. In the short time I've gotten to know them, I became attached...
    duClo duClo 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Hate can take over a body and is a degenerate invasion of  negitive thoughts and emotions. It tries to collect others and is aimed at targeting anyone or anything...
    MsOracle MsOracle 66-70, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I hate my dad. It's legit. I ******* hate his guts. When I was little I thought he was the best person in the world, but I was a child and I worried over myself having fun more...
    gmaingemail gmaingemail 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I hate my life. I hate the school I go to. I hate having no friends. I'm starting to hate my boyfriend. I hate my family. I hate where I live. So pretty much I hate everything...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit 18-21, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    My love/hate relationship with my dad. I'm thankful for my dad, he has helped me, my brother and mom economically speaking. But I can't bring myself to love him. I hate how...
    Soaringlotus Soaringlotus 18-21 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Both, human and vets. I hate how their mistakes go unnoticed unless they're really big, I hate how they don't care about emotional wellbeing of their patient. I hate the doctor who...
    LauNaAb LauNaAb 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    I hate how I changed when I met my ex. I became this girl looking back that I'm ashamed of. I hate myself for it. Why did I become her? When I look in the mirror I don't hate how I...
    Blueberrybliss Blueberrybliss 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I hate everything about me. I hate my hair, I hate face, I hate my nose. I just hate every inch of my body. No one will ever care. Because they'll soon hate me to
    rainsyd2014 rainsyd2014 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 23

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    I hate PMDD and all its side effects, 50% of the time I had mood swings that no one understands. I hate that I'm under 20 and considering a hysterectomy. I hate how people tell me...
    txaxomel txaxomel 18-21, F Mar 24

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    Hate is a strong word but yes, I hate my best friend but the only reason is because I love her. I can't stay indifferent to her and when she hurts me, I hate her because I'm angry...
    Bearloveshoney Bearloveshoney 18-21 Mar 24