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I Hate Conflict

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 546 People

    It Upsets Me

    On a deeply intensely personal level. I can't deal with it, well I shouldn't say can't deal with it, I can if I absolutely have to. But I desperately avoid it.
    DelightfulBabe08 DelightfulBabe08 26-30 Oct 9, 2008

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    Its Not About Who Is Right, Its About...

    It's not about who is right, it's about trying to unerstand each others intentions and perceptions. Most of the time the REAL reason why people argue, is because they have a different point of view. That sucks, but it's a human thing to have your own point of views. Try to...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2011

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    I break down and go silent.

    I start to cry and blame myself instantly. someone could have ruined something but it's my fault just to make the storm blow over. I hate conflict.
    briannarenee briannarenee 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    Not All Conflict

    Ok, I've been thinking about this group ever since I joined it. I really don't like conflict; it's uncomfortable. But I can't say that I actually HATE it. Conflict is neccessary. As people are all different, with different views, beliefs and feelings, we are not all going to see...
    CagedRaven CagedRaven 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2009

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    One of the reasons I have the issues I do in

    life, and in my relationship, is the fact that I am conflict averse. I am avoidant. If there is a big thing that will likely have people angry or upset, I will avoid that issue and do everything in my power to not have it brought up. Now, add to that my inability to keep my...
    atkinspj atkinspj 31-35 Jun 1

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    Its Dumb

    i hate conflict..i hate it. it makes me wanna slapp some one in da face.errrrrrrrrrr
    brooklyn917 brooklyn917 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 5, 2009

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    A Part Of Life

    It's always going to be around, we just have to decide how much of it we choose to let ourselves be exposed to. Personally, I avoid it as much as is possible.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 1, 2011

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    Conflict Brings Breakdowns

    I've always hated conflicts. Every time I'm around one--even if I'm not involved--I get a headache and feel sick. Truthfully? Conflicts of any kind terrify me. I feel that they will never get resolved without someone getting hurt, and I hate it when that happens. Conflicts serve...
    LoreilDarksky00 LoreilDarksky00 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2010

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    I Avoid It.........

    At all costs. I will bite my tongue, step in the middle, do anything I have to. I don't like raised voices, hands that gesture too fast, yelling, cursing, or anything else anger induced. I will do all I have to to stop it. It makes me very nervous & fearful. I'm terrified of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 10, 2009

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    Sick With Anxiety Over Conflict

    I tried to post this story once but it got lost so here is the condensed version: I am having a conflict with a girl at work. I can usually handle her remarks that she feels are jokes or "giving people crap" as she likes to term it. But frequently being told "way to be a...
    gruenegal86 gruenegal86 22-25 2 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Red Hot Anger

    I wrote it in my blog so I'll talk about it in general.  I hate conflicts with a passion.  The ones I get into never seem to get resolved unless both parties involved want to sort it out.  And I don't mean in the way I used to which was to act upon my Revenge...
    Ozislander Ozislander 36-40, F Jun 23, 2010

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    It's Made Out To Be A Weakness...

    I've always known and understood that I do not receive conflict or confrontation very well. In fact, although I do not like to use the word "hate", it very much describes my dislike of both conflict and confrontation. I do not see this as a flaw, or something to be ashamed of...
    SoulSucker SoulSucker 22-25, F Aug 10, 2011

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    I'd do almost anything to avoid it,

    and consequently don't speak my mind sometimes when I want to. I especially hate conflict with guys because when they get angry I am really afraid they'll hurt me.
    elliebear22 elliebear22 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    Because

     My parents have never argued, so I'm not used to see conflicts... I hate them, I rather yield than to keep on fighting... even when I know I'm right. I think arguing is wasting of time.... I'd rather be ignoring than shouting...  I apply this at...
    bublina bublina 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 5, 2009

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    Conflicts that turn into shouting matches,

    name calling, physical threats and physical assault should be avoided by everyone. But just because one may hate conflicts does not mean they will not quickly react to protect and defend their honor, their country, their loved ones. I am one that will not tolerate the get in...
    altoneaston47 altoneaston47 66-70, M Jun 1

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    Darlinghton Darlinghton 18-21, M Mar 24

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    I Hate Conflict

    Be it physical {between p'ple} or mental...i hate conflicts. They are so unhealthy, ever leaving someone with depression, anger or bitterness.Today, i just turned-down an offer to translate for a group of people in a certain christian conference simply because my mind was in a...
    lilyofthefields lilyofthefields 26-30, F Jan 16, 2010

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    I'm A Lover, Not A Fighter!

    Simply put, I value peace over violence. Yes, I know that sometimes we have to fight in order to gain peace.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Sep 17, 2011

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    I am a very outspoken person.

    But I absolutely hate conflict. If I get put in a stressful situation I usually panic and feel the overwhelming need to get the hell outta there ASAP. If you yell at me, I'm outta here. I panic just at the thought of someone being upset with me. Ugh. Problems, problems, problems...
    breeze90 breeze90 22-25, F Jul 28

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    I Dont Like It.

    I can have a debate with someone based on reason and logic, some level of understanding..but when it becomes a competition of who raises his or her voice the highest...i hate it. People who talk over the other person and say shutup a bunch of times like it helps them prove a...
    BronzeEspada BronzeEspada 26-30, M Jul 22, 2012

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    Conflict ...

    I step into a room all is quiet or there is just this energy that is toxic to everything in the area, that is how i know there was fighting or arguing there just recently. All my life my family has done nothing but argue amongst themselves. I really can't stand it, once the...
    TheCheese TheCheese 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 9, 2007

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    Xo12345 Xo12345 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    I Just Dont Like It!

    i dont like conflict between other people, or between me and another person. its just a hassel that can be lived without...most of the time theres no real need for it. the main conflict that gets to me though is violence, and when a stronger person puts down a weaker one, cos its...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F Oct 26, 2007

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    I Hate Conflict

    Be it physical {between p'ple} or mental...i hate conflicts. They are so unhealthy, ever leaving someone with depression, anger or bitterness.Today, i just turned-down an offer to translate for a group of people in a certain christian conference simply because my mind was in a...
    lilyofthefields lilyofthefields 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2010

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    Conflict Suffocates Me

    I always get this overwhelming feeling when there's conflict in the house, I couldn't cool it or ignore the both of them either. So I sighed loudly and retreat to my room. Ecen in school I get suffocated with conflicts that I act stupid just to calm myself. Anyway its not good...
    amejad amejad 22-25, F May 25, 2010

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    I feel like I'm asking too much of myself to stick it out. I literally feel drained going everyday. My classes are fine material wise and my professors are a good bunch this...
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F Sep 19

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    I don't like conflict. I want the world to be a good place to live. Sadly my defense to conflict is to just ignore it and pretend that it isn't happening. I know that doesn't make...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M Sep 18

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    Feel like crap because my job scheduled over so listed conflict. I am so pissed off and I can't talk to people. I just feel madder and madder and start to hate all of humanity...
    Apirne Apirne 18-21, F Sep 21

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    I hate waking up with myself, opening my despised eyes to see my hideous self. Tasting the horrible taste of my own mouth makes me not want to breathe. Then comes the stupid...
    tylerkleewilliams tylerkleewilliams 18-21, M 21 hrs ago

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    Me is exactly what society wants to dump in trash bins. unattractive, my actions are usually actions or word that i'll regret less than a second after doing it, i hate the fact...
    roseinsurvival roseinsurvival 13-15 18 hrs ago

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    I don't hate fat people but I hate when they skinny shame skinny people but say they love being fat and contradict themselves. You obviously hate being fat and wish you were skinny...
    OverWorkedWoman OverWorkedWoman 18-21, F 14 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    My last story was 2011..........its 2014 and I'm literally dying inside, emotionally, physically and mentally from all the stress, emotional abuse, and mental abuse my son is...
    honeysuckle23 honeysuckle23 46-50, F 11 hrs ago

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    I can't tell if I'm beautiful or ugly. My face and body distort when I look at myself in the mirror. The one moment when I finally tell myself I could possibly be pretty, I look up...
    Aepeth Aepeth 16-17, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I love it but I hate it. I miss my boyfriend. I hate that all my friends want me to go out with them and their boyfriend, though I hate third wheeling. One friend even asked me to...
    queennahbe queennahbe 18-21, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I try to minimizing conflict between my relationships. But this is getting out of hand and I don't know what else to do.
    princessjasmne princessjasmne 18-21, F Sep 2

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    Searching these posts for help winning back my wife. I have failed my my wife. It took an entire year for me to be able to admit that or even see it. For the last year it's been...
    TonyM323 TonyM323 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 23

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    I'm feeling so conflicted lately. Part of me loves the fact that I can blend in and am totally unseen. I'm pretty much invisible. The other part of me is longing for someone to...
    imreel imreel 36-40, F Sep 2

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    I hate my name, it's too common. Like seriously, I hate it.
    awrahliyah awrahliyah 13-15, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I hate the word naughty. it's like this childish word used by adults as a sexual thing. :/
    Sourminds Sourminds 18-21, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    pulsar78 pulsar78 31-35, M 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    i can't do this anymore im soo alone i just wanna die i hate this :'( i grew waay to fast i'm 17 but i'm waay more mature then my age level, i grew up way to fast to look after...
    catsrule5678 catsrule5678 16-17, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Anybody where fat tubbie hips jewelry is? That's why he hates you because your a sh.t...and I am not....
    LetsRock51 LetsRock51 46-50, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I have been suffering from acnes for like 1 and a half years and i really hated it, my face used to burn like hell! Went to skin specialist and he said These are not normal one...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    I hate it when someone texts GM and GN every day and all of a sudden they stop!! Obviously I try too, it's not just a one way street but when I do it I don't get a reply! I'm nice...
    lorem0313 lorem0313 26-30, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    There, I said it. I don't hate the idea, I just don't see what the big deal is. This is mainly because people these days are too selfish to make marriage work. What, then, are we...
    ssj29 ssj29 22-25, M 12 hrs ago

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    There's nothing I hate more than sexism and choirography!!! Eww
    sunflowerpet sunflowerpet 18-21, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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