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I Hate Conflict

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    It Upsets Me

    On a deeply intensely personal level. I can't deal with it, well I shouldn't say can't deal with it, I can if I absolutely have to. But I desperately avoid it.
    DelightfulBabe08 DelightfulBabe08 26-30 Oct 9, 2008

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    I break down and go silent.

    I start to cry and blame myself instantly. someone could have ruined something but it's my fault just to make the storm blow over. I hate conflict.
    briannarenee briannarenee 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I Hate Conflict

    Be it physical {between p'ple} or mental...i hate conflicts. They are so unhealthy, ever leaving someone with depression, anger or bitterness.Today, i just turned-down an offer to translate for a group of people in a certain christian conference simply because my mind was in a...
    lilyofthefields lilyofthefields 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2010

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    Xo12345 Xo12345 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    Because

     My parents have never argued, so I'm not used to see conflicts... I hate them, I rather yield than to keep on fighting... even when I know I'm right. I think arguing is wasting of time.... I'd rather be ignoring than shouting...  I apply this at...
    bublina bublina 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 5, 2009

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    A Part Of Life

    It's always going to be around, we just have to decide how much of it we choose to let ourselves be exposed to. Personally, I avoid it as much as is possible.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 1, 2011

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    I am a very outspoken person.

    But I absolutely hate conflict. If I get put in a stressful situation I usually panic and feel the overwhelming need to get the hell outta there ASAP. If you yell at me, I'm outta here. I panic just at the thought of someone being upset with me. Ugh. Problems, problems, problems...
    breeze90 breeze90 22-25, F Jul 28

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    Sick With Anxiety Over Conflict

    I tried to post this story once but it got lost so here is the condensed version: I am having a conflict with a girl at work. I can usually handle her remarks that she feels are jokes or "giving people crap" as she likes to term it. But frequently being told "way to be a...
    gruenegal86 gruenegal86 22-25 2 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I Dont Like It.

    I can have a debate with someone based on reason and logic, some level of understanding..but when it becomes a competition of who raises his or her voice the highest...i hate it. People who talk over the other person and say shutup a bunch of times like it helps them prove a...
    BronzeEspada BronzeEspada 26-30, M Jul 22, 2012

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    I'm A Lover, Not A Fighter!

    Simply put, I value peace over violence. Yes, I know that sometimes we have to fight in order to gain peace.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Sep 17, 2011

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    Red Hot Anger

    I wrote it in my blog so I'll talk about it in general.  I hate conflicts with a passion.  The ones I get into never seem to get resolved unless both parties involved want to sort it out.  And I don't mean in the way I used to which was to act upon my Revenge...
    Ozislander Ozislander 31-35, F Jun 23, 2010

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    One of the reasons I have the issues I do in

    life, and in my relationship, is the fact that I am conflict averse. I am avoidant. If there is a big thing that will likely have people angry or upset, I will avoid that issue and do everything in my power to not have it brought up. Now, add to that my inability to keep my...
    atkinspj atkinspj 31-35 Jun 1

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    Its Not About Who Is Right, Its About...

    It's not about who is right, it's about trying to unerstand each others intentions and perceptions. Most of the time the REAL reason why people argue, is because they have a different point of view. That sucks, but it's a human thing to have your own point of views. Try to...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2011

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    I Hate Conflict

    Be it physical {between p'ple} or mental...i hate conflicts. They are so unhealthy, ever leaving someone with depression, anger or bitterness.Today, i just turned-down an offer to translate for a group of people in a certain christian conference simply because my mind was in a...
    lilyofthefields lilyofthefields 26-30, F Jan 16, 2010

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    I Avoid It.........

    At all costs. I will bite my tongue, step in the middle, do anything I have to. I don't like raised voices, hands that gesture too fast, yelling, cursing, or anything else anger induced. I will do all I have to to stop it. It makes me very nervous & fearful. I'm terrified of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 10, 2009

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    Conflict Suffocates Me

    I always get this overwhelming feeling when there's conflict in the house, I couldn't cool it or ignore the both of them either. So I sighed loudly and retreat to my room. Ecen in school I get suffocated with conflicts that I act stupid just to calm myself. Anyway its not good...
    amejad amejad 22-25, F May 25, 2010

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    Its Dumb

    i hate conflict..i hate it. it makes me wanna slapp some one in da face.errrrrrrrrrr
    brooklyn917 brooklyn917 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 5, 2009

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    Darlinghton Darlinghton 18-21, M Mar 24

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    I Just Dont Like It!

    i dont like conflict between other people, or between me and another person. its just a hassel that can be lived without...most of the time theres no real need for it. the main conflict that gets to me though is violence, and when a stronger person puts down a weaker one, cos its...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F Oct 26, 2007

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    Not All Conflict

    Ok, I've been thinking about this group ever since I joined it. I really don't like conflict; it's uncomfortable. But I can't say that I actually HATE it. Conflict is neccessary. As people are all different, with different views, beliefs and feelings, we are not all going to see...
    CagedRaven CagedRaven 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2009

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    Conflict Brings Breakdowns

    I've always hated conflicts. Every time I'm around one--even if I'm not involved--I get a headache and feel sick. Truthfully? Conflicts of any kind terrify me. I feel that they will never get resolved without someone getting hurt, and I hate it when that happens. Conflicts serve...
    LoreilDarksky00 LoreilDarksky00 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2010

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    It's Made Out To Be A Weakness...

    I've always known and understood that I do not receive conflict or confrontation very well. In fact, although I do not like to use the word "hate", it very much describes my dislike of both conflict and confrontation. I do not see this as a flaw, or something to be ashamed of...
    SoulSucker SoulSucker 22-25, F Aug 10, 2011

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    Conflicts that turn into shouting matches,

    name calling, physical threats and physical assault should be avoided by everyone. But just because one may hate conflicts does not mean they will not quickly react to protect and defend their honor, their country, their loved ones. I am one that will not tolerate the get in...
    altoneaston47 altoneaston47 66-70, M Jun 1

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    Conflict ...

    I step into a room all is quiet or there is just this energy that is toxic to everything in the area, that is how i know there was fighting or arguing there just recently. All my life my family has done nothing but argue amongst themselves. I really can't stand it, once the...
    TheCheese TheCheese 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 9, 2007

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    I'd do almost anything to avoid it,

    and consequently don't speak my mind sometimes when I want to. I especially hate conflict with guys because when they get angry I am really afraid they'll hurt me.
    elliebear22 elliebear22 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    Bring it on haters ! I love the hate I receive from you!
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