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I Hate Confrontation

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    I Avoid Confrontation At All Costs

    I try to avoid conflict at all costs, however sometimes that seems to be more damaging. I tend to put myself through a lot just to avoid confrontation. I would climb Mt Everest just to get around someone or something confrontational. I really need to learn how to deal with it...
    missadventurer missadventurer 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 27, 2007

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    Run the Other Way

     I hate it when people are in my face. I know that I can get mad and say something I'll regret so I try not to say anything until I've cooled off and given eveything a chance to be looked at rationally.  Usually that works.  If I react immediately it's never gone...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Why.

     We don't need it. Let's just talk it out.
    BillySPizza BillySPizza 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    Im Not Quite Sure Why I Hate Confrontation

    I just do. i am afriand of telling people when i am angry or hurt by them. i cant even be around confrontation..like if i am near two people yelling, screaming or fighting i just kind of want to sink into a hole and pretend im not there. everytime someone gets mad at me and...
    NeverBeenKissed93 NeverBeenKissed93 18-21, F Oct 25, 2009

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    Life's Lessons

    I have always been more on the shy side.  I have to force myself to talk to other people much less than to confront someone. I get anxious, and will rehearse over and over in my head what I should say so I don't offend them, and worry about how to bring a subject up so they...
    wolfsage wolfsage 41-45, F Aug 17, 2011

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    Just Ugh!

    I frickin' hate having confrontations with people, especially women... Maybe... Maybe it's just with women. I mean, I hate experiencing hostility towards/from someone. All that negativity spazzes me to no end, but I am more likely to tell a man how I feel or what I want, while...
    mmmcookies mmmcookies 26-30 Aug 21, 2008

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    It Makes Me Physically Ill

    It's really pretty sad. Just the sound of someone raising their voice makes my stomach sink and my skin prickle. It doesn't even have to be MY confrontation. I'm currently listening to people argue in the next apartment over, and it's giving me heartburn. I could turn up the TV...
    Aednat Aednat 26-30, F Aug 15, 2012

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    Yes I Do, Very Much. &...

    Yes I do, very much.  I try hard to defuse any situation that can get out of hand with staying calm and talking, but if it ends up in one, I sure can hold my own. { you have been...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 25, 2009

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    Eeeeek

    I hate confrontations. I hate arguements, I hate it when people raise their voices or are mean, I hate being attacked, seeing others being attacked, and the worst; when someone attacks you then everyone laughs at you because you wont attack them back.   I hate how...
    Tesse Tesse 18-21, F Sep 19, 2008

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    Confrontation At Work

    I hate confrontation, at least in certain contexts. Right now I am really nervous about a situation at work. Several weeks back I had an "incident". I screwed up and got in some trouble, but my superiors counseled me on it, told me to learn from my mistake, move on, and be...
    joes1776 joes1776 26-30 Sep 18, 2010

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    Panic.

    General confrontation, like arguing with someone or basically verbal arguing, that's not so bad. I get upset, I cry and what not. When others are arguing in front of me however, I get scared. I shake and worry, "What if this turns physical?" If the verbal fight is influenced by...
    MissChii MissChii 18-21, F Jan 5, 2010

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    Of Course

    i dislike confrontation but i find myself in confrontational situations all of the time especially here on EP at which point i get depressed and consider deleting my account. i think people who ARE confrontational can easily sense those who are not and they seek them out as easy...
    ihaveanameitsrick ihaveanameitsrick 46-50, M 18 Responses Jan 25, 2009

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    It becomes harder for me to breathe,

    I get dizzy and I become unable to function. It is the worst feeling in the world.
    achantal achantal 18-21, F Oct 6

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    I Really Hate It

    I have only been in two fights (fists involved) in my entire life and both looking back were stupid, but I feel probably needed to diffuse the situation at hand. Anytime I am in a situation where voices are raised I get all sheepish and I think it is from when my parents would...
    ivebecomes0numb ivebecomes0numb 36-40 Feb 26, 2009

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    Why Does It Always Have to Be This Way

    I don't like fighting.  I am no good at it, my mind isn't quick-witted enough to combat my boyfriend's arguments, statements, diatribes, etc.  I make mistakes.  I have problems and I wish I had made different choices in life.  Why does he have to bring up...
    StardustShimmer StardustShimmer 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    I'm Not Confrontational

    I hate confrontation! I always have. It's wierd, because if someone has to confront me on something I've done or said, I get angry with myself that I put that person in the position where they had to come to me with it. If someone else does or says something that I have to...
    CagedRaven CagedRaven 46-50, F Jun 27, 2009

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    No Guts No Glory

    i always got nervous when ever a fight would break loose. I'd try to avoid it as much as possible. But now I've changed all that bottled up anger I'm not afraid of it anymore but I still am nervous.
    Ivyflower Ivyflower 18-21, F May 14, 2008

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    It Depends

    Sometimes I like being a little feisty >:) And sometimes I avoid confrontation. It all depends.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2011

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    Confrontation Is Pointless

    I don't like arguing with people, even if i am right. Screaming and yelling at someone doesn't fix things. So many people ruin relationships with others over something they said in the heat of the moment. & i dont want that.  And if i did do something wrong for you to...
    freshfrika freshfrika 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2009

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