I Hate Getting the Silent Treatment

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    I just found out that my wife scheduled a

    parent teacher conference tomorrow for my oldest daughter and didn't tell me about it I am Bulls&!t I have been dying to hear about what is going on in her school and my wife knows this. I work very long hours at the job and live for spending time with my girls. When I ask my...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2014

    It's so easy and simple -

    if you have a problem with me f**king tell me what I've done. Don't sit there blanking me, and if you add little sighs to it I really will have to slap you!
    CaffeineJunky CaffeineJunky
    22-25, F
    Jun 21, 2015

    It kills me. I don't know

    if I said anything wrong, if you just don't like me anymore. What is it that turned you off? Why did you stop talking, responding? Please just let me know what I did wrong. PLEASE! I'm begging you.
    HopelesslyInLoveWithHer HopelesslyInLoveWithHer
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 6, 2014

    Just Horrible

    There is nothing else in this world that is more likely to get me in a temper and get my blood boiling it just seems to hurt so much and is the worst form of punishment ever and especially when it is carried on to ridiculous lengths like weeks or even months I just can not be...
    gelroller gelroller
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 10, 2013

    Do you ever stop and think what the average

    person thinks of another person they don't even know? Someone with no personality and no respect would only be so low. I lost count. I am weird. But I'll tell you this I am genuine and I don't follow people. I have perfectly good grammar and I'm intelligent. All I do is be...
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    Feb 7, 2015

    Okay, You're Angry

    I get that. I understand that I have done something to make you angry; but I think I deserve to know what that is, so I can either apologize or tell you you're full of ****.
    Serenitree Serenitree
    70+, F
    Oct 31, 2012

    My ex-wife would give me the silent treatment

    and expect that I knew why I was getting it. I didn't. I'm dense. I would ask why she was upset and she would respond "You know why." or "You should know why.". I guess she thought she married a mind reader. My current wife will tell me what's bothering her, and I'm...
    LookingForSoMuchMore LookingForSoMuchMore
    56-60, M
    1 Response May 18, 2014

    When two people give each other the silent

    treatment, the winner is always the one who cares the least. I never want to be the winner.
    Manzzle Manzzle
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2014

    Yell, Swear, Cry...something!

    Alright, I know I can p iss people off.  I don't deny that.  But, don't give me the silent treatment!  It drives me insane!  I guess, because I don't stay mad at people for very long, I expect we just get it out and get on with it.  At the very least...
    darlene darlene
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Apr 10, 2008

    Your cold silencedouses my fiery passionlike

    ice water.and leaves mea sodden clump of ash.Do not leave me this way.Show me the warmth of your smile.Let the Sunshine of youBring me back to life.
    SvveetKiester SvveetKiester
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    ..but I like to be the one giving it.

    Heh heh heh. Oh, so evil of me.
    Bethstar Bethstar
    26-30, F
    Feb 3, 2015

    The silent treatment from someone you care

    for is literally soul destroying. Nothing hurts me more. I can handle a heated argument no problem because at least there IS communication even if its being yelled. Sigh..its a waiting game to see if this torture ever comes to an end.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Jan 16, 2016

    I feel that most people

    that give the silent treatment are too immature to sort out and deal with issues. My mother would often give me the silent treatment when she was angry. She would almost never tell me why. I would feel awful because of it. I would do everything to try to win back her attention...
    everybodyclapyourhands everybodyclapyourhands
    16-17, F
    Aug 31, 2014

    SAY SOMETHING!It hurts right?

    Im not sure if it's the "not knowing" or the sudden disappearance or the promise that you made me. remember that? you said, no, you promised!, that you would never do that to me, and well....there ya go!"If you don't change the way you treat me, I'm going to have to change the...
    lifesinlimbo lifesinlimbo
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2014

    I'm getting the silent treatment

    now from my girlfriend of four months. It's been more than 24 hours since we last spoke and she's ignored a text and an email. I sent a text yesterday to try to break the ice, then emailed her an hour ago. I don't plan on reaching out again because that's exactly what she...
    Seamhead Seamhead
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

    The Words Of Silence

    When someone gives you the silent treatment it speaks volumes to the recipient. Even though there's silence...we hear the words... ....I don't care about you.... ....you're nobody important... ....you're not worth my time.... ....you never really mattered.... It replays in your...
    hadyourchance hadyourchance
    36-40, F
    27 Responses May 9, 2013

    Ah the silent treatment,

    it's just a childish way someone tries to manipulate or punish you.
    squizz5 squizz5
    41-45, M
    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    I Hate It When My Husband A...

    I hate it when my husband and i get into an argument and later he gives me the silent treatment to avoid another argument.  It just makes matter worst.
    annianti annianti
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Apr 5, 2008

    There is nothing worse

    than being isolated by the one person that you care for the most. How can people not see that this is a form of emotional abuse and control?
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Sep 26, 2014

    So i hot pregnant without the sanctity of

    marriage.. But it's been 8months now, when are they going to forgive me.. I need their help right now, and I dont know where to turn to because they're still not talking to me..
    SugarK SugarK
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2014

    I can't deal with that.

    It makes me feel unimportant and like I'm not worth your time . You feel like you're so above me you don't even have to speak to me? I will cry
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    Aug 9, 2014

    The people who give the silent treatment really

    hate it when you turn the tables on them.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111
    51-55, F
    Mar 29, 2014

    I'm a firm believer in "the opposite of life is

    not war, it's indifference". I would much rather someone respond negatively to me than ignore because at least they care enough to respond.
    ThroughAGlassDarkly ThroughAGlassDarkly
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 22, 2014

    Ah the silent treatment routine lmao.

    ******* be having attitudes or thinking something is wrong with you when they don't even know you. Stupid judge mental *******!!!!
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    Jun 13, 2015

    I would always rather know a truth

    that might hurt than nothing at all. At least you can try and do something about it when you're told. Hearing nothing just leaves you in limbo, helpless. So tell me what's on your mind, and we can try to work it out.
    Garuuuu Garuuuu
    31-35, M
    Mar 7, 2014

    I just hate my life right

    now my friend made a promise to me that he won't do anything stupid to himself anymore and he keeps breaking my promise all im tying to do is help him and now we hardly talk we prob say one thing to each other then thats it I don't know what to do anymore it feels like he doesn...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 21, 2014
    burnedmemories burnedmemories
    18-21, F
    Oct 22, 2014
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital
    51-55, M
    Feb 22, 2014

    Dont Be Silent...

    Anytime someone gets mad at me and just doesn't say a word "the silent treatment". I think oh great what the hell did I do now. It bugs me so much I just make them more mad by asking what did I do a thousand times till they get so annoyed they tell me. Then I apologize for what I...
    dejin1 dejin1
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jul 15, 2011

    So I'm getting another silent treatment from my

    boyfriend at the moment. He's 40 and I actually find it hard to believe that adult people can behave in such childish way. Deep inside quite often I regret I met him I'm just not ready to give up yet. Other times I feel I don't want to be without him ever... He snapped at me...
    ysabell7 ysabell7
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jan 5, 2016

    The Silent Treatment?

    !?! A form of tourtière my parents inflicted upon me my entire life. A form of Supposed "behavioral discipline" at that time 70's
    christinelove69 christinelove69
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

    How long can someone possible stay mad?

    Ugh. I said I was sorry the other night. Said he was hurt, but I'm hurt as well and didn't get an apology. I have no issue apologizing but want the same respect. I'm sure he's expecting me to text. Last time I get ignored 10 days. How long this time?
    gymgirl71 gymgirl71
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 22, 2014

    My now ex as of today gave me the silent

    treatment right before he broke up with me. He is abusive and he uses the silent treatment to hurt me. Even though he knew I was crying and hurting so much he did not feel compelled to stop hurting me. The silent treatment is so painful. You feel voiceless, unimportant, small...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 11, 2014

    I understand completely

    that people without depression or an anxiety disorder really can never fully understand the mental, emotional and physical pain that coincides with this disease. What I don't understand is how the people that " love you unconditionally " find it easier to not speak to you at all...
    ahart74 ahart74
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2015

    My husband doesn't necessarily give me the full

    silent treatment but sometimes he just doesn't respond to me. It drives me nuts! I'd rather he be angry and yell than no response. Sometimes he isn't paying attention and other times he says "what do you want me to say" I'm like "ANYTHING!!" He knows it makes me angry so...
    Slackergirl Slackergirl
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 8, 2014

    Speak Up!

    As much as I don't like to fight, I think that getting the "silent treatment" is much worse!  You can't solve problems by ignoring the person.  You have to speak up!  Say how you feel.  State the problem.  Even yell at the person.  Whatever...
    Valentine Valentine
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

    The silence of the loved ones hurts infinitely

    more than the words of those who hate you, or the ones you hate ever could.
    themanoflegends themanoflegends
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Feb 9, 2015

    Getting the silent treatment from those you

    care about is like they're denying your existence. It sucks.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Feb 18, 2015

    When my boyfriend gives me the silent treatment

    I've told him it hurts me the worst and he still does it. Why would someone who says they love me continue to do that to me?
    Helluvagurl2013 Helluvagurl2013
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 6, 2014

    I had the silent treatment done to be about 5

    years ago. It was awful. He was one of my closest friends until I started dating this one guy in our circle of friends. Then suddenly he up and stops talking to me. Which literally broke my heart. I'd call him out on it to his face in front of everyone, yet he'd pretend he had...
    SomniumProeliator SomniumProeliator
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Sep 3, 2014
    Carry1988 Carry1988
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 11, 2014

    I'm getting the silent treatment.

    Your silence is slowly killing me.
    JD0121 JD0121
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 6, 2014

    When I get the silent treatment I get a sick

    feeling in my gut and I don't know why
    Joshboyd99 Joshboyd99
    1 Response Jun 1, 2015

    It's Unhealthy and Damaging ...

    In a relationship, communication has to happen or there is nothing left, this is partners, friends, family - anyone who could possibly give someone the silent treatment. Have it out with someone in a heated discussion if you have to .. it gets things out in the open and...
    littledharmabum littledharmabum
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 30, 2008
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