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I Hate Getting the Silent Treatment

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    Hey It's My #1 Deal Breaker!

    The best thing you can do for someone giving silent treatment?  Give them the opportunity to continue it permanently. I've been dumb in the past.  Read my stories and learn from my mistakes. I dated one guy who gave me the silent treatment at his whim.  It was...
    abercrombiegirl abercrombiegirl 26-30, F Oct 17, 2009

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    BreakfastSpecial BreakfastSpecial 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Mjjim86 Mjjim86 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 11

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    Worst thing ever, especially

    if it's from someone you love.
    amandavynes amandavynes 13-15, F Mar 25

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    The Foundation Of My Relationships...m

    And it f*****g kills!!!!!!!!!! I have been hurt so badly by people I quickly grew emotionally involved with and it was all because they made communication near impossible. I'm ALWAYS stuck in damn long distance relationships and there has never been a person I have grown really...
    FunnyLookingCorpse FunnyLookingCorpse 18-21 Aug 12, 2012

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    Silent Treatment Kills Love

    My story could become long, Im going to try to make it short. I live in a relationship since 6yrs. In the beginning this "Silent treatment" already happened, but I thought it was just a misstake(I was accused of something I didnt do) it lasted for a week. These...
    bluemikael bluemikael 31-35, M 6 Responses Oct 3, 2009

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    I lived with it my entire childhood

    and teen years. I would much rather have had some yelling and get over it quickly. In my family dad went a week or more not sayin a word to any of us. Refused to eat with us or make us sit and wait 30 min on him at mealtime. He spent every minute in basement or outside in shed...
    1490wayb 1490wayb 46-50, M Jan 13

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    Lol But I Do Sometimes, Not On Purpose.

    Just because I am lazy and forgetful. So what can I expect more from people when I am not good myself. Now some real life friends complain I am too lazy. Will it come to a phase that I get comfortable with getting silent treatment? Ooh karma, and I am such a lazy friend!
    whitewhitecloud07 whitewhitecloud07 31-35 May 3, 2013

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    I'd Rather Argue That Sit Silent

    When my lover gets angry, stomps out of the room and slams the door I want to never talk to them again but can't.  I hate to be shut out.  I'd rather argue than that.  I don't like aruging either.  Would rather life went on smoothly.  That doesn't mean if...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 3 Responses May 13, 2008

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    Just Horrible

    There is nothing else in this world that is more likely to get me in a temper and get my blood boiling it just seems to hurt so much and is the worst form of punishment ever and especially when it is carried on to ridiculous lengths like weeks or even months I just can not be...
    gelroller gelroller 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    Yess Indeed

    Not to get all EMO and stuff, but I think I got this from my mom who would punish me by withdrawing herself emotionally from me, if I did the slightest infraction that she did not agree with. Now its like a bad reflex where people learn that if they want to get to me, just say...
    EricM1970 EricM1970 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    Jaqque23 Jaqque23 18-21, F Mar 14

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    My husband and have different opinions

    now he rarely talks to me, when I open subject to discuss he usually asks me To repeat what I said a couple of times and then he answers provokativly and than ignores me until I give up and go, I sleep angry most nights because of this treatment
    rules33 rules33 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    My Marriage Of My Wife Of 22 Years And Raising My Son Of 17 Years

    My wife usually gave me the silent treatment! i was told this is a sign of abuse. Know she has taught my son of 17 years (the one i gave up a career of and become a stay home dad all those years is also giving me the silent treatment. I don't care about my wife (know that were...
    ancientaa ancientaa 46-50, M 2 Responses May 6, 2012

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    People Have Tried Giving Me...

    People have tried giving me the silent treatment, but I'm relentless.  They always cave.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 13, 2008

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    Okay, You're Angry

    I get that. I understand that I have done something to make you angry; but I think I deserve to know what that is, so I can either apologize or tell you you're full of ****.
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F Oct 31, 2012

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    The people who give the silent treatment really

    hate it when you turn the tables on them.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F Mar 29

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    It's Just Rude.... And Annoying!

    My wife is the expert of "the silent treatment". She can ignore me for days. Ha ha ha. It's so rude though, and what makes it worse is that because she's not talking to me, I have to guess why! At least if I have a problem I'll make it known. I won't bottle it or stew on it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 21, 2012

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    It kills me. I don't know

    if I said anything wrong, if you just don't like me anymore. What is it that turned you off? Why did you stop talking, responding? Please just let me know what I did wrong. PLEASE! I'm begging you.
    HopelesslyInLoveWithHer HopelesslyInLoveWithHer 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    I Demand Explanation

    It isn't fair to just walk and get on with your stuffs ignoring each other. Morning, comes evening and no words at all ? I won't give into your wishes. You can act your way not talking, but I need an explanation. After explaining to me you mind, depending on how the issue would...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 31, 2011

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    It Breaks Hearts

    silence, could be good, but sometimes, it breaks hearts. Especially if u don't know what's going on, and you know.. sometimes, it's better to be blunt & honest about something than leave someone unknowing & hurt. But well, we've all been hurt & hurt others coz of this...
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass 18-21, F 2 Responses May 6, 2009

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    When my boyfriend gives me the silent treatment

    I've told him it hurts me the worst and he still does it. Why would someone who says they love me continue to do that to me?
    Helluvagurl2013 Helluvagurl2013 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 6

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    Did I Scare Him Away When I Told Him I Miss Him?

    Day 1: B, a friend of mine, asked me to help her out with documenting a party for Med students. I though it would be cool and I was kinda looking for a possible prom date since prom season was drawing close so I said yes . At the party, I was busy taking videos and pictures that...
    dhanieliene dhanieliene 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 20, 2013

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    Its Not Fun.........

    If you're mad put up your dukes,talk,anything.Passive Aggresive is so un-appealing,its the rust that geyts into the iron of good relationships......
    bookerdana bookerdana 51-55, M 12 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    My husband doesn't necessarily give me the full

    silent treatment but sometimes he just doesn't respond to me. It drives me nuts! I'd rather he be angry and yell than no response. Sometimes he isn't paying attention and other times he says "what do you want me to say" I'm like "ANYTHING!!" He knows it makes me angry so...
    Slackergirl Slackergirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I really can't stand arguing with someone n

    they can't say anything back like don't be such a *****!
    JazzydramaG82 JazzydramaG82 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M Feb 22

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    Yell, Swear, Cry...something!

    Alright, I know I can p iss people off.  I don't deny that.  But, don't give me the silent treatment!  It drives me insane!  I guess, because I don't stay mad at people for very long, I expect we just get it out and get on with it.  At the very least...
    darlene darlene 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 10, 2008

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    The Words Of Silence

    When someone gives you the silent treatment it speaks volumes to the recipient. Even though there's silence...we hear the words... ....I don't care about you.... ....you're nobody important... ....you're not worth my time.... ....you never really mattered.... It replays in your...
    hadyourchance hadyourchance 31-35, F 39 Responses May 9, 2013

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    Shut Up and Talk to Me, You!

    I don't like when people I actually care about don't talk to me. It does hurt.
    mixedview mixedview 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2008

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    Passive Aggressive Behavior Is Abuse

    And the silent treatment is included. I think that passive aggressive behavior is a form of emotional abuse, and that no one should ever do it. I have been in an abusive relationship before (abusive in every sense of the term), and the silent treatment can wound the soul every...
    VincentValentine VincentValentine 31-35, M Aug 2, 2011

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    Too Nice Or Too Proud?

    I hate the silent treatment. It can manipulate me most of the time or bring out the worst of me. I seriously wanna master this skill cause in the end the people who are experts at it, always rule over me and I just end up crying.I wanna learn how to give it back to them but when...
    NotBackingDown NotBackingDown 13-15, F Aug 19, 2012

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    Silent As A Tomb

    That is how the house I grew up in was... whenever I did something to displease the parents they wouldn't talk to me... or even acknowledge me if it was within those walls... If a neighbor was outside all of a sudden I was worthy of the spoken word... It would come out of no...
    elderwitch47 elderwitch47 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    I Hate It When My Husband A...

    I hate it when my husband and i get into an argument and later he gives me the silent treatment to avoid another argument.  It just makes matter worst.
    annianti annianti 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 5, 2008

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    I would always rather know a truth

    that might hurt than nothing at all. At least you can try and do something about it when you're told. Hearing nothing just leaves you in limbo, helpless. So tell me what's on your mind, and we can try to work it out.
    Garuuuu Garuuuu 26-30, M Mar 7

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    I hate waking up by the thought about something

    which makes me really nervous. I asked my crush out last night on whatsapp, he has not read the message yet. But I am here freaking out and feeling nervous every second of my life. He is very shy and doesn't express his feelings well at most of the situations. After he had...
    Jaqque23 Jaqque23 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    Try getting the silent treatment from the ex

    you still love RIGHT before spring break. It's not fun...at ALL.
    amandavynes amandavynes 13-15, F Mar 17

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    How did we go from speaking

    so much to almost never. How can you have more time on your hands and less time for me. I'll never know as you've stopped opening up. Goodbye and goodluck.
    Lionessdesire Lionessdesire 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 27

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    Speak Up!

    As much as I don't like to fight, I think that getting the "silent treatment" is much worse!  You can't solve problems by ignoring the person.  You have to speak up!  Say how you feel.  State the problem.  Even yell at the person.  Whatever...
    Valentine Valentine 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    How long can someone possible stay mad?

    Ugh. I said I was sorry the other night. Said he was hurt, but I'm hurt as well and didn't get an apology. I have no issue apologizing but want the same respect. I'm sure he's expecting me to text. Last time I get ignored 10 days. How long this time?
    gymgirl71 gymgirl71 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 22

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    SAY SOMETHING!It hurts right?

    Im not sure if it's the "not knowing" or the sudden disappearance or the promise that you made me. remember that? you said, no, you promised!, that you would never do that to me, and well....there ya go!"If you don't change the way you treat me, I'm going to have to change the...
    lifesinlimbo lifesinlimbo 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    It's Unhealthy and Damaging ...

    In a relationship, communication has to happen or there is nothing left, this is partners, friends, family - anyone who could possibly give someone the silent treatment. Have it out with someone in a heated discussion if you have to .. it gets things out in the open and...
    littledharmabum littledharmabum 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2008

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    Talk to Me

    The worst thing someone can do to me is give me the silent treatment. I would rather fight and scream then have someone just ignore me. Damn it to hell just tell me what is wrong. Silence doesn't fix anything.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 11, 2008

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    It's About Time You Shut Up

    I say that, but the silence is deafening sometimes. Some people who like to give the silent treatment seem to almost follow the recipients around, glaring daggers at their backs and pointedly keeping a blank face. My dad used to huff and puff in irritation whenever he was giving...
    Dyssey Dyssey 70+, F Sep 2, 2013

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    Probably one of the worst things.

    I can't stand it! Pet peeve big time.
    kaye23e kaye23e 22-25, F Mar 6

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    Errrrrrr

    I hate being ignored when your upset its a really terrible feeling and its not a good way for people to deal with problems.. It makes me feel like I am struggling under acid water or something. I dont know I mean I understand people need their space and all, but couldnt they just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 17, 2012

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    Ive been looking at all kinds of reason ppl give the silent treatment. This is the best i came up with. If you no other reasons please add them. Silence gives people with BPD an...
    RickUSA RickUSA 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 6

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    My stupid uncle spanked me after lunchtime today and i still have to just stay in my room until bedtime. my birthday was 3 days ago and i am 15 now but he just said he didnt even...
    starbursthero starbursthero 13-15, M 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I have NEVER liked being struck. I barely tolerated listening to scoldings. There were two avoidance strategies I used for years to get myself out of trouble with my stepmother and...
    StandoffishBrat StandoffishBrat 18-21 2 Responses Apr 3

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    I got spanked today for getting bad grades at school. I got out my report card last week and as soon as I saw it i knew i will be spanked hard, so i decided to hide it from my mom...
    leaklog leaklog 18-21, M 5 Responses Apr 3

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    just got a new hair cut...I look stupid beyond belief I now have the dumbest bowl cut hair ever and I hate it its awful it makes me look worse than i already did
    greenteajello greenteajello 13-15, F Mar 30

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    With all my might. But this isn't unusual. Who doesn't hate it????? I Also wouldn't subject my kids (if I had any) to that ****. No ******* way.
    JpegIcon JpegIcon 26-30, M Apr 3

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    When I slept I was literally deaf to the world. It was more peaceful that way and until I decided to wake up and face the world I ignored all distrsctions. That is what I was doing...
    StandoffishBrat StandoffishBrat 18-21 1 Response Apr 12

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    Well, I don't hate it. It can be such an amazing thing when you know someone will always be there. It's just a scary thing when you've been put down by many people.
    Cozy01 Cozy01 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    It feels like a risk to take. Like you pick out a haircut and it looks good on the model but your unsure if you will look good with the hairstyle. It is a 50/50 chance of either...
    Inlovewithtecher Inlovewithtecher 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 30