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I Hate Getting the Silent Treatment

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    I hate waking up by the thought about something

    which makes me really nervous. I asked my crush out last night on whatsapp, he has not read the message yet. But I am here freaking out and feeling nervous every second of my life. He is very shy and doesn't express his feelings well at most of the situations. After he had...
    Jaqque23 Jaqque23 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    Speak Up!

    As much as I don't like to fight, I think that getting the "silent treatment" is much worse!  You can't solve problems by ignoring the person.  You have to speak up!  Say how you feel.  State the problem.  Even yell at the person.  Whatever...
    Valentine Valentine 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    officialwanderer officialwanderer 16-17, F 1 Response May 31

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    When two people give each other the silent

    treatment, the winner is always the one who cares the least. I never want to be the winner.
    Manzzle Manzzle 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 9

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    My Mother did this to me growing up

    and continues to do so. I almost wish she would just yell, slap me, whatever, but just randomly not talking to me over petty things has ruined our relationship. I've come to realize that her issues go beyond me but I'm still amazed that she does this to me still!
    sbell08 sbell08 26-30, F Jul 22

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    So i hot pregnant without the sanctity of

    marriage.. But it's been 8months now, when are they going to forgive me.. I need their help right now, and I dont know where to turn to because they're still not talking to me..
    SugarK SugarK 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    I can't deal with that.

    It makes me feel unimportant and like I'm not worth your time . You feel like you're so above me you don't even have to speak to me? I will cry
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F Aug 9

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    My husband doesn't necessarily give me the full

    silent treatment but sometimes he just doesn't respond to me. It drives me nuts! I'd rather he be angry and yell than no response. Sometimes he isn't paying attention and other times he says "what do you want me to say" I'm like "ANYTHING!!" He knows it makes me angry so...
    Slackergirl Slackergirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    The people who give the silent treatment really

    hate it when you turn the tables on them.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F Mar 29

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    I Hate It When My Husband A...

    I hate it when my husband and i get into an argument and later he gives me the silent treatment to avoid another argument.  It just makes matter worst.
    annianti annianti 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 5, 2008

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    My now ex as of today gave me the silent

    treatment right before he broke up with me. He is abusive and he uses the silent treatment to hurt me. Even though he knew I was crying and hurting so much he did not feel compelled to stop hurting me. The silent treatment is so painful. You feel voiceless, unimportant, small...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    Got the silent treatment all day,

    still on it. What I did to deserve this? Well, I just wondered about your visions for the future, for us, your expectations on me and if you had any dreams! You gave me answers like we were strangers. I should be thanked not emotionally abused!! Arrrrgh! Most immature and lazy...
    Mandy0111 Mandy0111 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    Okay, You're Angry

    I get that. I understand that I have done something to make you angry; but I think I deserve to know what that is, so I can either apologize or tell you you're full of ****.
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F Oct 31, 2012

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    I Demand Explanation

    It isn't fair to just walk and get on with your stuffs ignoring each other. Morning, comes evening and no words at all ? I won't give into your wishes. You can act your way not talking, but I need an explanation. After explaining to me you mind, depending on how the issue would...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 31, 2011

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    I'm getting the silent treatment.

    Your silence is slowly killing me.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    Silent Treatment Kills Love

    My story could become long, Im going to try to make it short. I live in a relationship since 6yrs. In the beginning this "Silent treatment" already happened, but I thought it was just a misstake(I was accused of something I didnt do) it lasted for a week. These...
    bluemikael bluemikael 31-35, M 6 Responses Oct 3, 2009

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    I had the silent treatment done to be about 5

    years ago. It was awful. He was one of my closest friends until I started dating this one guy in our circle of friends. Then suddenly he up and stops talking to me. Which literally broke my heart. I'd call him out on it to his face in front of everyone, yet he'd pretend he had...
    SomniumProeliator SomniumProeliator 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    Probably one of the worst things.

    I can't stand it! Pet peeve big time.
    kaye23e kaye23e 22-25, F Mar 6

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    My Marriage Of My Wife Of 22 Years And Raising My Son Of 17 Years

    My wife usually gave me the silent treatment! i was told this is a sign of abuse. Know she has taught my son of 17 years (the one i gave up a career of and become a stay home dad all those years is also giving me the silent treatment. I don't care about my wife (know that were...
    ancientaa ancientaa 46-50, M 2 Responses May 6, 2012

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    Carry1988 Carry1988 26-30, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I just hate my life right

    now my friend made a promise to me that he won't do anything stupid to himself anymore and he keeps breaking my promise all im tying to do is help him and now we hardly talk we prob say one thing to each other then thats it I don't know what to do anymore it feels like he doesn...
    Scarsdontfade Scarsdontfade 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I feel that most people

    that give the silent treatment are too immature to sort out and deal with issues. My mother would often give me the silent treatment when she was angry. She would almost never tell me why. I would feel awful because of it. I would do everything to try to win back her attention...
    everybodyclapyourhands everybodyclapyourhands 13-15, F Aug 31

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    burnedmemories burnedmemories 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 22

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    I would always rather know a truth

    that might hurt than nothing at all. At least you can try and do something about it when you're told. Hearing nothing just leaves you in limbo, helpless. So tell me what's on your mind, and we can try to work it out.
    Garuuuu Garuuuu 26-30, M Mar 7

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    Mjjim86 Mjjim86 26-30, M Feb 11

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    Dont Be Silent...

    Anytime someone gets mad at me and just doesn't say a word "the silent treatment". I think oh great what the hell did I do now. It bugs me so much I just make them more mad by asking what did I do a thousand times till they get so annoyed they tell me. Then I apologize for what I...
    dejin1 dejin1 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    Too Nice Or Too Proud?

    I hate the silent treatment. It can manipulate me most of the time or bring out the worst of me. I seriously wanna master this skill cause in the end the people who are experts at it, always rule over me and I just end up crying.I wanna learn how to give it back to them but when...
    NotBackingDown NotBackingDown 13-15, F Aug 19, 2012

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    I just found out that my wife scheduled a

    parent teacher conference tomorrow for my oldest daughter and didn't tell me about it I am Bulls&!t I have been dying to hear about what is going on in her school and my wife knows this. I work very long hours at the job and live for spending time with my girls. When I ask my...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 4

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    It kills me. I don't know

    if I said anything wrong, if you just don't like me anymore. What is it that turned you off? Why did you stop talking, responding? Please just let me know what I did wrong. PLEASE! I'm begging you.
    HopelesslyInLoveWithHer HopelesslyInLoveWithHer 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    Just Horrible

    There is nothing else in this world that is more likely to get me in a temper and get my blood boiling it just seems to hurt so much and is the worst form of punishment ever and especially when it is carried on to ridiculous lengths like weeks or even months I just can not be...
    gelroller gelroller 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    Errrrrrr

    I hate being ignored when your upset its a really terrible feeling and its not a good way for people to deal with problems.. It makes me feel like I am struggling under acid water or something. I dont know I mean I understand people need their space and all, but couldnt they just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 17, 2012

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    Yell, Swear, Cry...something!

    Alright, I know I can p iss people off.  I don't deny that.  But, don't give me the silent treatment!  It drives me insane!  I guess, because I don't stay mad at people for very long, I expect we just get it out and get on with it.  At the very least...
    darlene darlene 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 10, 2008

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    It's Just Rude.... And Annoying!

    My wife is the expert of "the silent treatment". She can ignore me for days. Ha ha ha. It's so rude though, and what makes it worse is that because she's not talking to me, I have to guess why! At least if I have a problem I'll make it known. I won't bottle it or stew on it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 21, 2012

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    I do hate the silent treatment.

    It makes me feel so hurt and alone. When my husband and I fight, he'll tell me sometimes that he needs some space to cool off because he doesn't want to say something out of anger. But I want to solve the problem right there! Sometimes he'll need a half hour before he's...
    AriaShakti AriaShakti 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    My ex-wife would give me the silent treatment

    and expect that I knew why I was getting it. I didn't. I'm dense. I would ask why she was upset and she would respond "You know why." or "You should know why.". I guess she thought she married a mind reader. My current wife will tell me what's bothering her, and I'm...
    LookingForSoMuchMore LookingForSoMuchMore 51-55, M 1 Response May 18

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    I'm getting the silent treatment

    now from my girlfriend of four months. It's been more than 24 hours since we last spoke and she's ignored a text and an email. I sent a text yesterday to try to break the ice, then emailed her an hour ago. I don't plan on reaching out again because that's exactly what she...
    Seamhead Seamhead 46-50, M 8 Responses Sep 3

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    How long can someone possible stay mad?

    Ugh. I said I was sorry the other night. Said he was hurt, but I'm hurt as well and didn't get an apology. I have no issue apologizing but want the same respect. I'm sure he's expecting me to text. Last time I get ignored 10 days. How long this time?
    gymgirl71 gymgirl71 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 22

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    It's Unhealthy and Damaging ...

    In a relationship, communication has to happen or there is nothing left, this is partners, friends, family - anyone who could possibly give someone the silent treatment. Have it out with someone in a heated discussion if you have to .. it gets things out in the open and...
    littledharmabum littledharmabum 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2008

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    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M Feb 22

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    I'm a firm believer in "the opposite of life is

    not war, it's indifference". I would much rather someone respond negatively to me than ignore because at least they care enough to respond.
    ThroughAGlassDarkly ThroughAGlassDarkly 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 22

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    My husband and have different opinions

    now he rarely talks to me, when I open subject to discuss he usually asks me To repeat what I said a couple of times and then he answers provokativly and than ignores me until I give up and go, I sleep angry most nights because of this treatment
    rules33 rules33 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Jaqque23 Jaqque23 18-21, F Mar 14

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    Its Not Fun.........

    If you're mad put up your dukes,talk,anything.Passive Aggresive is so un-appealing,its the rust that geyts into the iron of good relationships......
    bookerdana bookerdana 51-55, M 12 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    The Words Of Silence

    When someone gives you the silent treatment it speaks volumes to the recipient. Even though there's silence...we hear the words... ....I don't care about you.... ....you're nobody important... ....you're not worth my time.... ....you never really mattered.... It replays in your...
    hadyourchance hadyourchance 31-35, F 35 Responses May 9, 2013

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    There is nothing worse

    than being isolated by the one person that you care for the most. How can people not see that this is a form of emotional abuse and control?
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 5 Responses Sep 26

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    I'd Rather Argue That Sit Silent

    When my lover gets angry, stomps out of the room and slams the door I want to never talk to them again but can't.  I hate to be shut out.  I'd rather argue than that.  I don't like aruging either.  Would rather life went on smoothly.  That doesn't mean if...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 3 Responses May 13, 2008

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    SAY SOMETHING!It hurts right?

    Im not sure if it's the "not knowing" or the sudden disappearance or the promise that you made me. remember that? you said, no, you promised!, that you would never do that to me, and well....there ya go!"If you don't change the way you treat me, I'm going to have to change the...
    lifesinlimbo lifesinlimbo 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    stiffadak stiffadak 26-30, F Mar 18

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    When my boyfriend gives me the silent treatment

    I've told him it hurts me the worst and he still does it. Why would someone who says they love me continue to do that to me?
    Helluvagurl2013 Helluvagurl2013 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 6

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