I Hate Making The First Move

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    I've always hated making the first move.

    People don't always want to get to know you or be friends. I've experienced people making judgments about me before they know me.
    Gambler715 Gambler715
    51-55, M
    Jan 14

    I Really Hate

    if you want me please you make the first move... Because if you want someone you must come on get it...
    Ozgur980 Ozgur980
    31-35, M
    Feb 15, 2012

    In Love Or Friendship

    I am so shy I just bug right up... I can barely call someone I know! When I hide behind a computer screen, though, I am so bubbly, blunt, and/or outgoing. I wish I could bring myself to put that to practice in real life.
    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2011

    I hate it I'm really shy actually

    if u like me tell me :)
    maybeagain maybeagain
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2014

    He's Not Sure He's Gay

    I am so in love with this boy I knew from the moment I seen him I felt something I had never felt before we have gone out a few times this week and on my birthday he says hes unsure of his sexuality hes been with both guys and girls and he thinks he might like girls more he's...
    NotSureHesSure NotSureHesSure
    22-25, M
    Jun 25, 2012

    Friends?

    So, on multiple sites, I have 'friends' circles.  And there are a lot of people in those circles.  And most of those people, I never ever hear from.  Why are they there?  So it got me thinking.  Am I supposed to be responsible for maintaining the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 19, 2010

    My Reason For Not Asking!!!

    My reason, why i would never, ever make the first move is; i know that if i did and we had a row and an arguement, they would throw it back in my face and i am not about to give them the chance of doing that, no! way!! I would never ask first,. So anything said, they can't say it...
    welshbabe welshbabe
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jul 5, 2010

    The First Move

    The first move,Why is it always me,Making the move,I hate it,Always being first,Why, for a change?Can’t it be someone else?Making the first move.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    Dec 15, 2011

    It's not even Markung the first move actually,

    it's simply that it would really absolutely shatter me if u rejected me or made fun of me or anything. I think i really need to learn how to love myself a little.
    stonedalone stonedalone
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2014

    My Ginger

    So I'm not bad at making the first move or anything like that. I just don't like to. There's a guy I like. & I have liked him for like 6 years. he moved away for a while. Now he's back & we're hitting it off. He's just not sure about whether or not we should date. I want to & it...
    Monroe8620 Monroe8620
    18-21, F
    May 15, 2012

    I Hate It With A Fiery Passion

    There is little in this world that I hate more than making the first move; I mean, seriously, if there are two people who happen to have some kind of interest in one another the opportunity to start something should be equally available to either one, not just one or the other. I...
    VioletXpanze VioletXpanze
    31-35, T
    1 Response Aug 26, 2013

    I don't mind chatting

    but IRL I'm very shy with women I'm attracted to. always have been.
    ZombieKillerguy ZombieKillerguy
    41-45, M
    Jan 14

    I'm Such A Wuss

    I'm horrible with this kind of stuff. Horrible at flirting, hell, even socializing can be a challenge for me, nevermind trying to seduce someone. I really do wish I was more confident with these sorts of things... my life would be a hell of a lot easier if my scared *** would do...
    BrownEyedMystery BrownEyedMystery
    18-21
    Feb 21, 2012

    I Am So Shy......

    I am so shy when I first meet a woman, and I rarely make the first move, so I know I miss out on a lot of opportunity.
    chillsdavis chillsdavis
    56-60, M
    Jan 23, 2012

    First Move

    Making the first move for me is like asking for help. No matter how many people I have helped it seems when I need help they are always busy, so I quit asking.When you make the first move enough and always hear 'NO', after enough rejection you just give up.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Sep 7, 2011
    TheAvenue TheAvenue
    18-21, M
    Jan 15

    Pretty traditional. I like a man

    who takes charge, including making the first move.
    RMDk RMDk
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jan 13

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