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I Hate Making The First Move

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 483 People

    It's not even Markung the first move actually,

    it's simply that it would really absolutely shatter me if u rejected me or made fun of me or anything. I think i really need to learn how to love myself a little.
    stonedalone stonedalone 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 26, 2014

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    My Ginger

    So I'm not bad at making the first move or anything like that. I just don't like to. There's a guy I like. & I have liked him for like 6 years. he moved away for a while. Now he's back & we're hitting it off. He's just not sure about whether or not we should date. I want to & it...
    Monroe8620 Monroe8620 18-21, F May 15, 2012

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    I Hate It With A Fiery Passion

    There is little in this world that I hate more than making the first move; I mean, seriously, if there are two people who happen to have some kind of interest in one another the opportunity to start something should be equally available to either one, not just one or the other. I...
    VioletXpanze VioletXpanze 31-35, T 1 Response Aug 26, 2013

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    I Really Hate

    if you want me please you make the first move... Because if you want someone you must come on get it...
    Ozgur980 Ozgur980 31-35, M Feb 15, 2012

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    I Am So Shy......

    I am so shy when I first meet a woman, and I rarely make the first move, so I know I miss out on a lot of opportunity.
    chillsdavis chillsdavis 56-60, M Jan 23, 2012

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    In Love Or Friendship

    I am so shy I just bug right up... I can barely call someone I know! When I hide behind a computer screen, though, I am so bubbly, blunt, and/or outgoing. I wish I could bring myself to put that to practice in real life.
    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    Friends?

    So, on multiple sites, I have 'friends' circles.  And there are a lot of people in those circles.  And most of those people, I never ever hear from.  Why are they there?  So it got me thinking.  Am I supposed to be responsible for maintaining the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 19, 2010

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    Why I Have Trouble Making The First Move

    When I was anywhere between 8th grade and high school I asked maybe 3 girls out on dates. The answer was "no" as could be expected for someone who got badly shortchanged in the looks department and was kind of lacking in social skills but these girls would also publicly ridicule...
    SomeDudeNearBoston SomeDudeNearBoston 46-50, M Mar 5, 2013

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    My Reason For Not Asking!!!

    My reason, why i would never, ever make the first move is; i know that if i did and we had a row and an arguement, they would throw it back in my face and i am not about to give them the chance of doing that, no! way!! I would never ask first,. So anything said, they can't say it...
    welshbabe welshbabe 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    He's Not Sure He's Gay

    I am so in love with this boy I knew from the moment I seen him I felt something I had never felt before we have gone out a few times this week and on my birthday he says hes unsure of his sexuality hes been with both guys and girls and he thinks he might like girls more he's...
    NotSureHesSure NotSureHesSure 22-25, M Jun 25, 2012

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    Do I Have To?

    As much as it bugs me, I just go for it - aggressively.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Jan 11, 2012

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    First Move

    Making the first move for me is like asking for help. No matter how many people I have helped it seems when I need help they are always busy, so I quit asking.When you make the first move enough and always hear 'NO', after enough rejection you just give up.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2011

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    I hate it I'm really shy actually

    if u like me tell me :)
    maybeagain maybeagain 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2014

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    The First Move

    The first move,Why is it always me,Making the move,I hate it,Always being first,Why, for a change?Can’t it be someone else?Making the first move.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Dec 15, 2011

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    I'm Such A Wuss

    I'm horrible with this kind of stuff. Horrible at flirting, hell, even socializing can be a challenge for me, nevermind trying to seduce someone. I really do wish I was more confident with these sorts of things... my life would be a hell of a lot easier if my scared *** would do...
    BrownEyedMystery BrownEyedMystery 18-21 Feb 21, 2012

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    It gives me anxiety, and I don't like ******* people off. But oh well, that's always bound to happen, right?
    TeethTheSizeOfPianoKeys TeethTheSizeOfPianoKeys 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 2

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    My dad created that. Then employers. So basically every greedy jerk.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 4 days ago

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    Since putting up a better photo of me with big smile and flattering my profile page. Two days ago: 7 views Yesterday: 10 views Today: 4 views Messages? None. Except a wink from...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    we were nothing but almost friends, we used to talk sometimes and i never talked first, he always make the first move cause i was to shy, we used to talk about anything and i felt...
    MichelleKnight MichelleKnight 16-17, F Mar 15

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    I wait for others to message me first now. I tried to introduce myself to others and make the first move. But I must have done something wrong. I tried to open up and introduce...
    planter715 planter715 51-55, M Mar 8

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    I have had several opportunities, but I am not the person who wants to make the first move. All of my friends have kissed people before. And I'm all like... "I now know how Leo...
    NobodyOfConcern NobodyOfConcern 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    I was 13. She was 2 separate females. And not sure which to give the credit to losing my virginity to. Its been 25 years now. 1 of them showed up outa the blue. Love was in the air...
    pecos666 pecos666 36-40 10 hrs ago

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    First of all I would like to thank and appreciate my boyfriend for his down to earth nature and his undying devotion towards me . I love him so much which was the inspiration for...
    rsushama73 rsushama73 41-45, F 3 hrs ago

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    It's crazy how many racist people are out there in this day and age....I met someone one here and we were chatting and talking found alot of things in common but then when she...
    Quietguy1234 Quietguy1234 18-21, M 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    These days I have been felling so annoyed with a nurse from the early intervention in psychosis for the distress and uncomfort she made me feel . These days I thought about the way...
    Powerlesss Powerlesss 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 12

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    I hate my mother! And even more I hate myself for everything I am. I believe that, no, I know that our environment, our parents shape our personalities in our childhood. I was...
    OlgaTs OlgaTs 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    I have this friend. Or...ex friend I guess as we stopped talking. We at first got along really well and liked similar things but soon it became apparent he wanted more than I could...
    Catherdra Catherdra 22-25, F 1 hr ago

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    I was with the ex for almost 3 years. We were each other's first and very much in love. We talked about marriage and kids. He constantly told me he was never gonna leave me unless...
    ccarol9073 ccarol9073 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    How To Turn Six Dollars Into Six Thousand Dollars: I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it. A little while back I was browsing 
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    How To Turn Six Dollars Into Six Thousand Dollars: I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it. A little while back I was browsing 
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    It's definitely the people. And it's not one or two. It's the southern culture in general. Where I live, the majority of people deny science, a lot have children and get married...
    Allforaview Allforaview 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    I have been having the worst end of March ever... Firstly, I missed my flight back home, that is where it all began. Then my dad and mom were insanely furious about it which led me...
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    I went to a SADD (students against destructive decisions) convention and speakers kept telling us that we should talk about stuff that we went through or that we are going through...
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    I have never made any large posts on here about my mother, because my subconscious knows that if I did so, I would probably be making posts about her nearly every day. My general...
    jahein137 jahein137 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    I hate my in-laws.I dont know if anyone has had this experience with there in-laws.Before they became my in laws my spouse parents use to be really nice.I was just girlfriend at...
    Fruitypunch15 Fruitypunch15 31-35 12 hrs ago

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    Fake people made me part of who I am today. At the start of year seven, a couple years ago, I was the only one from my primary school who moved to the school I went to. I had one...
    EmberFlame EmberFlame 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    This is me just venting... I hate how when I speak my own opinion to one of my friends, and then she goes off and tells my other friends. Then they are all mad at me for speaking...
    MommysLittleMonsterGirl MommysLittleMonsterGirl 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    ust dont know how to cope, I have been married for 8years. and my step daughter i hate saying step because i have loved her as my own for years, we have bonded and grown oir own...
    lemonadestreet lemonadestreet 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 17

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    I have moved back to my hometown and I can safely say I absolutely did not plan for things to turn out this way. Why did I move back? Well, LIFE happened. I have been stuck here...
    AThousandLies AThousandLies 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I'm just so done. I can't stand it anymore. I need to get out of this house. First it was my mother's house. She was horrid to live with. My boyfriend lived with me at that time...
    MichiDesu MichiDesu 18-21 2 days ago

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    Bored out of my mind, so here's a list. Likes in no particular order: 1. Animals, especially cute ones like bunnies and turtles and baby pigs, etc. 2. Anything made from potatoes...
    GhostBride GhostBride 18-21, F Mar 11

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    Me and my family moved to this country (USA) about a year and a half ago... we came to chase and old dream. I wanted to be an NBA player and so do my brothers. we each have the...
    AnotherJo AnotherJo 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 13

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    So things got better, because they broke up in the start of this year (they didn’t even last 6 months, this shows what a b**** she really it and my dad finally realised it.) From...
    Secret179688 Secret179688 16-17 6 days ago

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