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I Hate Making The First Move

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    Do I Have To?

    As much as it bugs me, I just go for it - aggressively.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M Jan 11, 2012

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    I Hate It With A Fiery Passion

    There is little in this world that I hate more than making the first move; I mean, seriously, if there are two people who happen to have some kind of interest in one another the opportunity to start something should be equally available to either one, not just one or the other. I...
    VioletXpanze VioletXpanze 26-30, T 1 Response Aug 26, 2013

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    My Ginger

    So I'm not bad at making the first move or anything like that. I just don't like to. There's a guy I like. & I have liked him for like 6 years. he moved away for a while. Now he's back & we're hitting it off. He's just not sure about whether or not we should date. I want to & it...
    Monroe8620 Monroe8620 18-21, F May 15, 2012

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    Friends?

    So, on multiple sites, I have 'friends' circles.  And there are a lot of people in those circles.  And most of those people, I never ever hear from.  Why are they there?  So it got me thinking.  Am I supposed to be responsible for maintaining the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 19, 2010

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    First Move

    Making the first move for me is like asking for help. No matter how many people I have helped it seems when I need help they are always busy, so I quit asking.When you make the first move enough and always hear 'NO', after enough rejection you just give up.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2011

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    I hate it I'm really shy actually

    if u like me tell me :)
    maybeagain maybeagain 16-17, F 5 Responses Jan 17

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    He's Not Sure He's Gay

    I am so in love with this boy I knew from the moment I seen him I felt something I had never felt before we have gone out a few times this week and on my birthday he says hes unsure of his sexuality hes been with both guys and girls and he thinks he might like girls more he's...
    NotSureHesSure NotSureHesSure 22-25, M Jun 25, 2012

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    The First Move

    The first move,Why is it always me,Making the move,I hate it,Always being first,Why, for a change?Can’t it be someone else?Making the first move.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Dec 15, 2011

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    My Reason For Not Asking!!!

    My reason, why i would never, ever make the first move is; i know that if i did and we had a row and an arguement, they would throw it back in my face and i am not about to give them the chance of doing that, no! way!! I would never ask first,. So anything said, they can't say it...
    welshbabe welshbabe 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    In Love Or Friendship

    I am so shy I just bug right up... I can barely call someone I know! When I hide behind a computer screen, though, I am so bubbly, blunt, and/or outgoing. I wish I could bring myself to put that to practice in real life.
    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    This is more to do with dating. But I hate always having to make the first move on someone. Cant someone come up to me for once? Bah, I probably wouldn't be able to realize that...
    Incanto33 Incanto33 31-35, M 5 days ago

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    My first came while I was in school. I was sittin with my group at lunch, when my friend tells me to move over. When I did we both noticed that there was like red/orange spread on...
    alygun alygun 13-15, F 22 hrs ago

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    When I talk to someone or hanging out, it's so annoying that whenever I ask "so what do you wanna do?" or "what would you like to talk about?" "Would you like me to buy you...
    sc1701 sc1701 16-17, M Apr 1

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    Every time that I meet someone new I know it will backfire. For example; when I started my school year. I met a girl, her and I dated, she called one of my friends ugly and I told...
    dontfeartheripper dontfeartheripper 13-15, F Mar 23

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    I hate it when I have to plan for things, I can't stand it when my friends always plan our evenings to every single detail. I'd rather just see what happens.
    mayarosesg mayarosesg 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    Lol my first kiss was in the 7th grade. It was terrible! Middle school days were the worst 🙈😩😳
    KyLeone KyLeone 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    When I was 15 I was very passionate about a friend of mine a long time, we always studied together but never had the courage to say that. It turns out that a friend of mine...
    ygirl18 ygirl18 18-21, F Mar 31

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    It came when I was babysitting my little sister. She was watching bubble guppies while I was just on my phone. I had on light orange pants and I went in the bathroom to take...
    angrybirdqueen1 angrybirdqueen1 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    doesnt matter the state she said she can get me wherever , im 15 Male , No pervs.
    LunarDream LunarDream 13-15, M 2 Responses Apr 12

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    1. I’m kind of shy. 2. I do things on my own. 3. I don’t like it when people stare at me. 4. I play guitar. 5. I don’t know why but I’m attracted to girls. 6. Don’t say...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 6

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    I'm supposed to take someone out this weekend. Never met her before and kinda starting to freak out. I have so much anxiety that I almost want to cancel. Simply because I am...
    DigitalBlue DigitalBlue 18-21, F Apr 8

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    My husband and I live in Jamaica, I have moved there with him from Canada and he has two kids living there with their mom, sometimes they come visit. We live in an extremely small...
    crystalc1973 crystalc1973 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Should I change? My whole life I've been a wallflower except for the time I tried changing who I was to fit in in grae 9. But, I guess when people look at me they see poor...
    BelleBlowingBubbles BelleBlowingBubbles 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    So yesterday I was at the mall with R my boyfriend and O my friend, and my boyfriend for a while has been talking about kissing me, but I never knew when it would actually happen...
    JustAnOdinaryTeenageGirl JustAnOdinaryTeenageGirl 13-15, F Mar 24

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    I am almost 27. He is 44. We got married in 2010. 3 months later he was diagnosed with cancer and given 3 months. A week later we found out I was pregnant. With twins. After...
    FrustratedYoungLady FrustratedYoungLady 26-30, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I recently got my first job at McDonalds. It's been 5 months and I absolutely hate it. I could quit if I wanted to but I am on a pay monthly phone plan so I need to work. It's a...
    biancaaadaisy biancaaadaisy 16-17, F 6 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I fell in love for the first time when I was 17 and homeless. He gave me somewhere to stay when I needed it, supported me getting a job, taught me what real friends were and helped...
    Mackas14 Mackas14 18-21, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    So my husbands parents have always been weird to me. One because they are not happy together and didn't even really raise my husband and they are rude and clingy. So even before we...
    mad4maddie mad4maddie 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I hate my mother because she's always messing up my life. I'm not saying this in an angsty teenage way, I'm saying the truth and it's not just my life she's messed up. We're a...
    ChocolateCoveredKFC ChocolateCoveredKFC 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Can someone please take their time to read this? Its long, 8 pages but it explains a lot about the situation I am currently in. I think a lot of people could relate to this if they...
    elugo12345 elugo12345 18-21, M Apr 1

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    It sucks when you're ignored by the person whose attention is the only thing you want in the world. That's always the situation for me. It also seems like I have crushes on chicks...
    elugo12345 elugo12345 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 1

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    It sucks when you're ignored by the person whose attention is the only thing you want in the world. Ever since this girl first walked into our school, I couldn’t take my eyes...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    All my life all I have ever wanted is to be loved I never thought that it was something to much to ask; Love, it should be something given to you freely never having to seek it out...
    kari16 kari16 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Why does it always seem like teachers have something stuck up their butts? like chill it's only the first week back from holidays and y'all already giving us homework that's due...
    Ashlovert Ashlovert 16-17, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Hello! I love making new friends! If you want to be friends, just send me a message~ :3
    lilykitten1998 lilykitten1998 13-15, F 1 hr ago

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 4

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    My husband is a workaholic. We've been together for 3 years. He was always a workaholic before but now we have our first child (4 months old) and it's worse than ever. He even...
    cmoral cmoral 26-30, F Apr 8

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    Hey everyone! So I need someone to talk to. Here we go..... I can't stand my good for nothing sister in law. My husband is away in Afghanistan and I moved in with his family...
    mariekassie12 mariekassie12 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have mentioned before on here that our education system sucks, and here I will be making another point as to why. Grades. Do you want to know why kids really hate school? It all...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    I hate my teeth. I'm seventeen, but my teenage years have sucked. A while back in primary school I was such a happy, care free child. I knew my teeth were different, but it didn't...
    ibak12 ibak12 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I am hoping to find some relief in venting about my personal war on fat. I feel a bit narcissistic posting about vanity, but it goes deeper than my exterior appearance. My self...
    peacockskeleton peacockskeleton 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    this happened in Shiawassee county Michigan. on saturdat 3/15/2014 I came home from work to find out from my now ex girlfriend that her oldest son which I cognitive imparment had...
    kennyeagle13 kennyeagle13 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    It's started since last year. He was my best friend, and we would always hang out. I was his friend and nobody else. But then he started liking me a lot more than I thought, and so...
    Mariella123 Mariella123 18-21, F Mar 26

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    She drives me NUTS!!!! I basically raised myself because she sleeps all day. Ever since I was little all she does is sleep all day. Sometimes I think she doesn't even care about...
    DearYou DearYou 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 26

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    White Supremacist Suspect in Kansas Jewish Center Killings Faces Hate Crime Charges OVERLAND PARK, Kansas (Reuters) - The suspect in the Passover Eve killings of three people at...
    bijouxbroussard bijouxbroussard 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 14

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    I'm 16 years old and my older sister (by 17 years) has agreed to let me stay at her house for the rest of the school year until mom gets back from visiting her brother. (I couldn't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    First day back from Easter and I'm already getting bitched about! Some people these days can be such utter twats, yeah iv done **** get over it and move on. Stop bringing it up...
    whathappenedtomysweetgirl whathappenedtomysweetgirl 13-15, F 21 hrs ago

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    Living is pointless, I'm going to do as i please but I'll never be happy. I don't cut because I'm "emo", trying to fit in, upset about not getting what i want, i cut because i...
    12blueunicorns 12blueunicorns 13-15, F 5 hrs ago

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    My new neighbors are a bunch of self righteous vandals and thieves. I've been here for 14 years.-survived the big mortgage meltdown that cost me every single close neighbor I had...
    jayciedubb jayciedubb 46-50, M Mar 29

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    A few weeks ago I posted about me and my bf moving into a place soon and another post about her being to intrusive in her sons life and mine. This is an update. Ok..for the past...
    Slumbergirl92 Slumbergirl92 18-21, F 4 days ago