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I Hate Making The First Move

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 473 People

    Why I Have Trouble Making The First Move

    When I was anywhere between 8th grade and high school I asked maybe 3 girls out on dates. The answer was "no" as could be expected for someone who got badly shortchanged in the looks department and was kind of lacking in social skills but these girls would also publicly ridicule...
    SomeDudeNearBoston SomeDudeNearBoston 46-50, M Mar 5, 2013

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    In Love Or Friendship

    I am so shy I just bug right up... I can barely call someone I know! When I hide behind a computer screen, though, I am so bubbly, blunt, and/or outgoing. I wish I could bring myself to put that to practice in real life.
    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    I Hate It With A Fiery Passion

    There is little in this world that I hate more than making the first move; I mean, seriously, if there are two people who happen to have some kind of interest in one another the opportunity to start something should be equally available to either one, not just one or the other. I...
    VioletXpanze VioletXpanze 26-30, T 1 Response Aug 26, 2013

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    My Reason For Not Asking!!!

    My reason, why i would never, ever make the first move is; i know that if i did and we had a row and an arguement, they would throw it back in my face and i am not about to give them the chance of doing that, no! way!! I would never ask first,. So anything said, they can't say it...
    welshbabe welshbabe 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    He's Not Sure He's Gay

    I am so in love with this boy I knew from the moment I seen him I felt something I had never felt before we have gone out a few times this week and on my birthday he says hes unsure of his sexuality hes been with both guys and girls and he thinks he might like girls more he's...
    NotSureHesSure NotSureHesSure 22-25, M Jun 25, 2012

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    I'm Such A Wuss

    I'm horrible with this kind of stuff. Horrible at flirting, hell, even socializing can be a challenge for me, nevermind trying to seduce someone. I really do wish I was more confident with these sorts of things... my life would be a hell of a lot easier if my scared *** would do...
    BrownEyedMystery BrownEyedMystery 18-21 Feb 21, 2012

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    I Really Hate

    if you want me please you make the first move... Because if you want someone you must come on get it...
    Ozgur980 Ozgur980 31-35, M Feb 15, 2012

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    My Ginger

    So I'm not bad at making the first move or anything like that. I just don't like to. There's a guy I like. & I have liked him for like 6 years. he moved away for a while. Now he's back & we're hitting it off. He's just not sure about whether or not we should date. I want to & it...
    Monroe8620 Monroe8620 18-21, F May 15, 2012

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    Friends?

    So, on multiple sites, I have 'friends' circles.  And there are a lot of people in those circles.  And most of those people, I never ever hear from.  Why are they there?  So it got me thinking.  Am I supposed to be responsible for maintaining the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 19, 2010

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    I hate it I'm really shy actually

    if u like me tell me :)
    maybeagain maybeagain 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I Am So Shy......

    I am so shy when I first meet a woman, and I rarely make the first move, so I know I miss out on a lot of opportunity.
    chillsdavis chillsdavis 56-60, M Jan 23, 2012

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    The First Move

    The first move,Why is it always me,Making the move,I hate it,Always being first,Why, for a change?Can’t it be someone else?Making the first move.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Dec 15, 2011

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    First Move

    Making the first move for me is like asking for help. No matter how many people I have helped it seems when I need help they are always busy, so I quit asking.When you make the first move enough and always hear 'NO', after enough rejection you just give up.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2011

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    Do I Have To?

    As much as it bugs me, I just go for it - aggressively.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M Jan 11, 2012

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