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I Hate Men Who Abuse Women

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    A Man Does Not Love You When......

    He hits you and is verbally abusive. He tries to control every move you make. He resents you for having a better job and education. He is jealous of your friends and family and tries to stop you seeing them. He crictisizes what is dearest to your heart. He makes fun of your fears...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 19 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    No Compassion

    I cannot bring myself to have compassionate feelings toward an abusive man. I understand that they may have a drinking or drug problem, I understand they may have been abused themselves. I still believe they know right from wrong. There are a few who actually get help and get...
    IndyJoe IndyJoe 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 12, 2008

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    I was an emotionally abusive relationship

    for about a year. The abuse was both ways, it was just as much my fault as it was hers. Our last fight ended badly. She stopped yelling at me and started punching me, I didn't hit back, just tried to block. Then she grabbed a knife and came charging at me. That's when I hit her...
    oscarW88 oscarW88 26-30, M Jan 23

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    Im sitting in tears

    as I watch this.I have a Mother,a sister,2 daughters,and 4 grand daughters.Please guys think before You act.
    The1960texan The1960texan 51-55, M 1 Response Feb 11

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    It's More Than Physical

    You don't even have to lay a hand on a woman to abuse her. So much abuse is emotional and mental. Many men do this and don't see it as abuse but your dead wrong. This kind of abuse can leave much deeper wounds on a woman than hitting her do. Tell me why any loving Dom would want...
    MasterGin MasterGin 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    A Real Man

    a real man never hurts a woman. be very careful when u make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The Woman came out of a man's rib NOT from his FEET to be walked on, and NOT from his HEAD to be superior, but from his SIDE to be EQUAL. under the ARM to be protected and next...
    chie0429 chie0429 18-21, F 9 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    No man with any kind of pride would lay a hand

    on someone smaller and physically weaker than himself, but sadly, not many men have that kind of standard, as a result, finding a good, courageous, loyal, man, who can control his emotions, especially with those who are no physical match for him, is one hell of a difficult task...
    celibatemonk celibatemonk 61-65 Jan 19

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    The phone rang at 4:30 am.

    This almost never happens. Caller ID showed a woman I have casually "dated" but now we are pretty much friends. She's not my type and we are at different places in life. So WTF ?!?!? WHY is she calling me at 4:30 am As soon as she spoke I knew something was wrong. She had...
    FindingMySong FindingMySong 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 16

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    A Cowards Crime.

    I remember my mother being beaten and abused. My father drank heavily. I recall that when my daughter began living with and having a baby with a guy who was in the Armed Forces, I took him for a beer one day and told him the army did not have enough weapons that would keep me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 23, 2012

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    I know this isn't the right approach

    but I've always been the type if I catch you hitting a girl ima beat the absolute fk outta you.. I may have my *** beat but your *** is going to be hurting lol.. Especially if it's my sister.. Violence is the answer in that instance for me sorry rant over :)
    SportsGraphCollector SportsGraphCollector 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 4

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    And especially my best friend

    for siding with him after it happened. I just lost two at once. Support please
    cookiecutter345 cookiecutter345 22-25, F Mar 15

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    Verbal abuse is the cruelest form.

    Today the man that I have loved for as long as i can remember battered me. He told me that he thinks that he got another woman pregnant . I asked him when .. he said last month. I felt the air come out of my lungs with a swift kick in the stomach. Then my I felt a hard squeeze...
    sandmoon sandmoon 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    God's Creation

    I never understood how men could abuse women.  A creature that God created should never be abused.  From women spring life, how a man can trample that is beyond my understanding.  How men say they love women and then disrespect them is also intolerable.
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    Weaklings

    Men who abuse woman are nothing but weaklings and cowards.  Big bullies who can't deal with their feelings so they have to pick on a woman to make themselves feel like a man, big insecure weaklings, cowards and bullies.  I should know I was in an abusive relationship...
    keyna keyna 36-40, F 6 Responses May 16, 2008

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    my boyfriend broke my arm tonight.

    ..he was drunk. i'm so devastated. he is an amazing person when he is not drunk... I don't know where to go from here. I need you GOD. please help guide me in the right direction.
    KortneeAnne KortneeAnne 26-30, F 53 Responses Apr 13

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    I was sexually assaulted

    when I was 12 and since then I feel fiercely protective of myself and other females when it comes to guys. There are some horrible people in the world.
    redmidget redmidget 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    When I Was Little My Dad Will Abuse My Mom .

    And He Stoped But then Was Verbal Abusive . && 2 Two Years Later He Says He Changed && Wants To Get Back With My Mom. but All I Hear Is Bullshit
    imhighseestars imhighseestars 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    I was abused by my ex

    who was 3 years older than me about a year ago. Still can't get over it. I have nightmares every once in a while. Hence me being up at 5:27 am. I was beat by my own softball bat to the point of death. I bled out so much. If my ex before this one hadn't called me and woken me up...
    papasshortie papasshortie 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 19

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    I found this and thought it could be helpful

    for someone on ep Early signs of abuse in relationships. -Partner tells you who you can see, what clothes to wear, how to have your hair or make-up. - Wants to know where you're going, who you're with, when you will be home. - Displays stalking behaviour and accuses you of being...
    Rusham Rusham 66-70, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Unforgivable

    It shocks me how tolerant society still is of men who beat women. Sure, most people outwardly condmen it, but there are way too many people, both men and women, who still seem to blame the victim. Heck, I've heard it said that women who get beaten by men are at least half the...
    lauren71 lauren71 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    It's Not You

    I have a zero tolerance level for any man who lays his hands on a woman in anger, there is absolutely no excuse for it. The problem is that most men who are abusive don’t stop there, they are abusive sexually, take their women for granted, but most of all they are abusive...
    harleylover1970 harleylover1970 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    I use to always get into fights with my baby's

    father and he would always take it to far. But I'm glad I left him for the better of myself and baby
    yseniaa yseniaa 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    My friend is being mentally

    and physically abused but won't leave the guy because she claims she loves him and that is her baby daddy. I seen him hit her. She is only 22. How can I make understand that what she claims she feels is not real. She took him back and I'm so angry about it
    Aliciamartinez1 Aliciamartinez1 22-25 1 Response Jan 31

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    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 14

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    Dont Trust

    i can no longer trust any man.... every  man iv been with, has lied and abused me, and im sure if they could, they would steel from me... so far that has not happened.... but everything out side of that has..... i am no longer able to love, or trust, my grown adult child says to...
    Asianblue Asianblue 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    We Need To Teach Our Daughters, And Our Sons

    We need to teach our daughters to distinguish between:   a man who flatters her and a man who compliments her,   a man who spends money on her and a man who invests in her,   a man who views her as property and a man who views her properly,   a man who...
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 6 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    This Guy Is A Creepy Looney Tune On Ep

    So this HOHOFMYHOUSE posted a post lying about me sending a message to him personally. I did not. So I've found stuff that I hope would interest other people to show what kind of weirdo he really is and his followers. These are stories and comments from him. Some after I blocked...
    Natalie123ariel Natalie123ariel 22-25, F 7 Responses May 25, 2012

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    I hate seeing sweet, nice,

    caring girls getting ****** over by ******** that get whatever they want.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 1 Response May 19

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    Men

    MEN, they are so cruel and wicked. I used to think that they are kind hearth ed well i guess i was wrong about them. When i was younger i would tell my mum"i cant wait to get to my husbands house so that i can have him all to myself but all that thought started changing the...
    anizolicious anizolicious 13-15, F 6 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    Please anyone who got out of an abusive

    relationship. Give me some words of encouragement and support. I don't even know where to start. No job because he convinced me to quit and I have kids to support I don't even know where or how to start :( how did you do it? I'm scared 😢
    JenI22 JenI22 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 27

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    My dad used to hit on my mom.

    When I was 10 years old I told her if she does not leave him I would leave. I was going to live with my Grandma.
    UnknownNYC728 UnknownNYC728 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    I...don't know if this really requires an

    explanation. I mean, unless a woman is trying to murder a man and he's defending himself, that's one thing, but men who simply abuse women are cowards and monsters. That's just my thought on the subject. O.O
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    It was almost like Rose Madder.

    We were together so long. He abused me too much. Bloody noses black eyes, and he would always tell me it was my fault. That if I hadn't stood up for myself he wouldn't have beat me, or choked me. I got pregnant, he went to jail for drugs. That was almost a year ago. I still feel...
    Hersheychic Hersheychic 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    There are only 3 things a guy should want to

    change about a girl her last name, her addresses,and view point on men.
    hellhound44 hellhound44 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 3

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    A video well worth watching.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=KTvSfeCRxe8
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    My last two relationships have ended in

    violence. The first in hindsight wasn't a massive surprise but the last, if you had told me what he would do a month ago I would have laughed my head off. I'm not laughing now... Both guys are polar opposites really with not being able to let go of control being that one common...
    Magdamay Magdamay 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Abusive Relationships

    As a psychotherapist specializing in anxiety and trauma, I've worked with hundreds of women in abusive relationships so I'll share some of what I've learned in the hope that it might help an abuse victim.1.  The longer you put up with abuse, the harder it will be to walk away...
    musicbook musicbook 56-60, M 19 Responses Jun 21, 2012

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    In the past I've realized

    that I was drawn to broken guys. Guys that I felt like I could help. Then looking back I realize that I should have just left them alone. I have been beaten, mentally abused, and used. I guess sometimes I try to look for the good in people but now I need to look way more closely...
    beyourself22 beyourself22 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 26

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    Abuse Comes In All Sorts Of Forms.

    I have never been physically abused, but I watched it growing up. I am uncomfortable with sharing who it was, but It has affected my to this very day. I have, however been sexually abused. It changed my life forever after causing an unwanted pregnancy, and then lead to the most...
    KilieLove KilieLove 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 15, 2012

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    I was a victim of woman abuse,

    when I was 10 I went to my uncle's house and I would always stay at his house when my dad was working. So this one time I was sitting at the table doing my homework and he comes out of his room he's drunk out of his mind. I don't say anything, I just look at him and I get back...
    Emonerd9554 Emonerd9554 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 22

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    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    Walk In Beauty After My Beating.

    I must explain about my grandmother and our ways in life so you do not get confused before I continue much farther. You will have to bear with me, my mind is foggy and I shall relate to you as best as I can remember from my writings. I have kept a daily diary all of my life from...
    69yolanda69 69yolanda69 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 8, 2012

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    I don't understand why men feel like they are

    better than women. They are not! Women with a lot more pain than me! Women are not objects or things you own,they are people with feelings and emotions. Women are not animals in which men control and beat them when they don't do what they want. It's cruel how women are dying...
    softballgirl07 softballgirl07 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    Power to the people .

    ...........
    truth2b truth2b 26-30, M Mar 18

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    18 & I Fell In Love Quick & Uh Daddy Try To

    Tell Me Things Wouldn't Stick , but Uh The Next Thing You Know I'm Down On The Floor , Hands Wrapped Around My Neck I Couldn't Breath No More. Momma Cryin On The Phone Hearing Everything But When She Asked I Knew I Couldn't Tell Her Anything. What Kind Of Women Would She Think I...
    OhhAngie OhhAngie 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    The Weenie Roast

    I have been a member of EP now, for about 60 days, have made some wonderful friends and of course, met a few others. As I talk to people it amazes me how much abuse has taken place, men hurting their wives. This can be done is so many different ways, can never understand a guy...
    romanticdreams romanticdreams 46-50, M 17 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    I hate anyone who abuses anyone.

    Doesn't matter the gender.
    EowynElf EowynElf 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I am a guy, just a normal guy to a point.

    But it does frustrate me that most males like to take advantage of women. For me I love to talk to women, I love the way that they see things so differently from me. And yet I still cannot comprehend why most males chose to abuse their loved ones. I came from a broken home, my...
    CDAdmirer313 CDAdmirer313 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 6

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    I had to grow up with it.

    My father is worthless and I hate him. Ever since he did what he did to my mother I told my self I will never ever hit a girl or yell at her or even raise my voice in anyway. I told my self I will have respect for the women in my life instead if taking them for granted and just...
    hellhound44 hellhound44 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 3

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    Abuse

    Well, where to start? I'm new to this site, so I feel my first post should be about my most profound struggle in life. It isn't what makes me miserable on a daily basis, it barely effects my moods at all. But everyone has one tragic story, one obstacle in life that really stands...
    PreRaphaeliteEyes PreRaphaeliteEyes 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 25, 2012

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    Men are like guns. Keep one around long enough

    and your going to want to shoot it
    bleedinghurt bleedinghurt 18-21, F May 27

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    Bad Name

    Men who mistreat and abuse women give all of us guys a bad name. Whether the abuse is verbal, mental, emotional, physical, or even sexual.....The rest of us guys pay the price. Ive stopped counting the number of times Ive read stories or comments here that are anti-male here...
    IndyJoe IndyJoe 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 6, 2010

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    I Don't Hate Them....

    I dislike any (wo)man that emotionally/sexually/physically harms another (wo)man. There is no reason to do such a thing. I don't HATE anyone though. I do detest these people because I feel that they are cowardly for doing such things. I do feel sorry for all the (wo)men that...
    EmotionalPrincess EmotionalPrincess 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2012

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