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I Hate My Alcoholic Husband

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    Nasty Cycle

    I have recently kicked my drunken husband of 10 years out AGAIN!! This time he was "talking" to his ex-girlfriend via hidden text messages and phone calls. (I busted him really drunk texting her that he loves and misses her.)It has been seven days and this is just about the time...
    lostinluv10 lostinluv10 26-30 3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    The title of this thread,

    'I Hate My Alcoholic Husband', is really unhelpful, isn't it? There are times I do hate him, but underneath all the hate for his addiction is love and that is why I've stayed as long as I have. The correct thing to say is that I HATE the ADDICTION and the utter chaos created...
    KatieDarling7 KatieDarling7 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 12

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    It is definitely a love/hate relationship with

    my AH. One moment I see the old him and it fills my heart with joy and some sadness because I miss that him. The next day he may come home from work drunk off his arse stumbling in the front door while our sons watch. What the crud!?! He did not grow up like this. As a...
    KatieDarling7 KatieDarling7 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 11

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    NOT Again In My Life

    I am 55 years old and have been down this road before with my alcoholic mother.   I can't believe I am here AGAIN with my husband of 28 years.  Of course he denies that anything is wrong.  Most of his days are consumed with alcohol.  He consumes the...
    cat4554 cat4554 51-55 9 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    Dear Jack, Jim, And Jose... I Hate You Too....

    How do you define hate? In all honesty I think most of us who have written in this particular category do not hate our husbands but we hate what they have done through drinking. I know this statement is true for me. I hate the way that he lies to get what he wants, even after...
    Mandyjay84 Mandyjay84 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    I have been with my husband

    for seven years and married for almost six. I'm basically done right now and making a plan to leave. I'll go into his history another time, but the past two months are what I'm focusing on the most. He has been averaging about half a bottle of whiskey and several vodka sodas...
    fragmentofthegirl fragmentofthegirl 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 25

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    Overall it's been a good Christmas with my

    alcoholic husband. He has been cheery and has participated with a good spirit in all the family affairs. He was even trustworthy to drive! He stuck to my Christmas list with one small but not overly expensive surprise gift to me. It was very nice and our bank account is...
    KatieDarling7 KatieDarling7 41-45, F 2 hrs ago

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    NOT Again In My Life

    I am 55 years old and have been down this road before with my alcoholic mother.   I can't believe I am here AGAIN with my husband of 28 years.  Of course he denies that anything is wrong.  Most of his days are consumed with alcohol.  He consumes the...
    cat4554 cat4554 51-55 5 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    Is It Alcohol That Is Ruining Our Marriage?

    I been married for 9 years after knowing my husband for 1 year only. It seems so right back then when he proposed because we both were working in a foreign land and desperately wanted to find a sense of belonging? We are from different nationality and race and it has been a...
    Ayeritam Ayeritam 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2012

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    Never Happy

    I have been living the last six years in hell. I love my husband so much he got me where I m today. But, he is a drunk he drinks every night to the point of being intoxicated and then treats me horribly. He tells me everyday he drinks because I am a ***** and I respond with I...
    cjmom401 cjmom401 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    kerendion kerendion 26-30, F Nov 4

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    I Hate My Husband!

    I am married to an alcoholic. I have been for seven years. He lies to me constantly. I am forced to let him drink or he will leave. He did it last weekend. Left me with a broken fridge, no food, no money and hungry children for three days! That was him coming out of the closet...
    MySurrealLife MySurrealLife 36-40 6 Responses May 8, 2011

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    Happy I Found You

    Hi everyone, Today is one of my happiest.Why? because I stumbled upon this site after googling ,"I Hate my husband". I guess I'm more mad at myself for marrying this man in the first place.when I broke up with him in 2001 for this same reason. Now mind you, I was not...
    tearsofjoy tearsofjoy 61-65, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2010

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    This Site Should Be Called I Love/Hate My Alcoholic Husband.

    I've been with my husband for 17 years, married for almost 14. When we dated, we went out all the time, and socialized with a lot of our co-workers, so it seemed rather normal that there were drinks around often. A combination of him getting worse over the years, and me...
    exhaustedandsad exhaustedandsad 41-45, F 6 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    But He Is Such A Good Man...

    I love my sober husband, but the drunken one, I hate him! It started a few years ago after he had some surgery... he started drinking and then he was drinking at work and then it was every day... when he came home we would have terrible fights. He would blame me for everything...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    My Story

    My husband and I have been married for four years and together for 5 and we have a three-year-old. We've known eachother for ten years. We met at work and because I saw him everyday at work normal and he was my friend first I thought this relationship was bulletproof. At first he...
    powerlessone powerlessone 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    He fell off the wagon again.

    He drank a ton of vodka and drove his car all night. Kids found him passed out in the car in our driveway. He's not allowed in the house drunk but he came in after the kids went to school. He fell in the bathtub (again) while he was urinating and has been passed out laying in...
    Splityarn Splityarn 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 5

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    My Husband Is Like 2 Diffrent People

    my husband is an alcoholic, i have done alanon, i have even taken my kids and left! and after he attended aa and was on a road to recovery we moved back in together, he started drinking just a week in, we have 4 boys living with us and a teenage daughter who has chosen to live...
    confussedandsad confussedandsad 31-35, F Sep 22, 2012

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    The Never Ending Cycle

    I've been married to my alcoholic husband for 5 years now, together for 13 years.We have 3 kids together. He doesn't wake up drinking or even drink every day. He just has no control when he does drink. Earlier on it was more abusive verbally and even physically on a few occasions...
    Fedupandmiserable Fedupandmiserable 31-35 8 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    So Confused. So Alone

    I have been married to my husband for almost 16 years and for at least 13 of those years he has been drunk and a pill addict. He has a grown son that also has a drinking problem and pill problem that has moved in with us and brought his 2 year old son. My husband and I have 2...
    L8ter L8ter 31-35 5 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    I have been reading everything I can get my

    hands on to try to understand what I am dealing with. Is it just me but from what I read and have experienced the professionals NEVER hold them accountable. By that I mean I hear a lot of excuses. - be compassionate if he had cancer you wouldn't be mean to him. Well people...
    alcoholicmisery alcoholicmisery 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 3

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    12 Years On The Merry Go Round

    Despite us probably being very different people from various corners of the world, our experiences of the alcoholic partner are almost mirrored. Like so many others, my relationship started with us both drinking socially. We grew up in the 'golden era' of binge drinking (uk) the...
    Redlesweb Redlesweb 31-35 6 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    The Functioning Alcoholic

    How do some people get away with it? Please tell me. My so called husband drinks almost every waking moment. I'm sure that any time he is driving he is over the limit, other times he gets out of the car stumbling all over the place. I don't get how he keeps getting away with it...
    wishicouldleave wishicouldleave 46-50, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2012

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    Help Me Get Over My Ex Whos An Alcoholic.....

    I just got out of a relationship with what I would say is a high functioning alcoholic. He was the one to end it. He is now 29 and has been drinking since he was 15. I was with him for 12 years and hes always been a heavy drinker. When he drinks its never just one or two beers...
    LearningToLiveAgain31 LearningToLiveAgain31 31-35 3 Responses Jun 19, 2012

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    So happy I found this online.

    ...I have nobody to talk to about my alcoholic husband and am just looking for any kind of support I can get. My husband is I guess what some might call a "functioning alcoholic". He drinks everyday from morning til he passes out at night, always by 7pm. He does go to work...
    pde422 pde422 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 26

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    The End Is Near

    Here I sit out to eat with my alcoholic husband and the kids. Who knows how many beers he had before we left but he's ready to pick a fight. All I can think about is how much I hate him. I can't stand the sound of his voice. He's suppose to be traveling a lot this month and I...
    Noellemt Noellemt 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 1, 2013

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    It's Not Fair

    My husband has turned into an alcholic, and I'm expected to sweep it under the rug. It started out with just a few beers at night and has turned into six or seven every nite. My husband maintains a full time job and makes really good money. To the outside world he is the perfect...
    gynger gynger 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 25, 2011

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    I really want to leave my husband,

    we have 5 kids together and although he is a great father, i cant say much for his husband skills. He has an alcohol problem, he can't stop drinking. So many broken promises and I am so over it. My youngest is 2 1/2 months old and when she was only 3 days old he went to work (in...
    Pissesmeoff Pissesmeoff 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Hi Ladies, I wanted to share my story with you

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    Truefeminist Truefeminist 36-40, F 1 Response May 2

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    I Went To Al Anon For The 1st Time Tonight.

    My husband reckons he has his drinking under control. That I should be supportive of the positive changes he has made in his life and that after a whole 2 weeks of not drinking I should feel positive and happy for him. Maybe that's true. But I just don't trust him. Tonight...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    I Use To Love Everything About My Husband, Now I Loathe Him

    I come from a long line of addicts in my family. My grandmother on my father's side died of cirrhosis of the liver at 44. My fathers brother also died an alcoholic at the age of 42. I have seen the devastation that alcohol can bring to a family. My husband use to mask his...
    iusetobehappy iusetobehappy 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    I wrote this to my husband

    and wonder how many people can relate... The Ramblings of a sick mind…. I’m sick. I’m sick of being blamed for the bad things that YOU do I’m sick of never being appreciated for managing to always get us through I’m sick of lying to family, to friends, and the kids...
    CoDependant4sure CoDependant4sure 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 9

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    Another Bad Night

    He did it again . He desided to get drunk and act like a complete ***, but this time it was in front of family and friends visiting from Australia. Please someone anyone I need some advise!!!!
    amwar amwar 31-35 3 Responses Apr 28, 2012

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    My Husbands Alcoholism Has Ruined My Life And I Let It

    I take in a deep breath as I write this because I just realized that I am writing this for myself and not my husband the alcoholic. I guess you could say that I am codependant and although I don't like the taste of that word, that is exactly what I am and I want out of this...
    gynger gynger 26-30, F 13 Responses May 2, 2012

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    My Alcoholic Husband

    So I am 25 years old a student and a mom to 2 kids my daughter who is 6 and my son who is 4. I met my husband when I was about 16 and got together when I was 19 due to me getting pregnant with my daughter. When we were dating everything was wonderful, my husband was always sober...
    Bridget06 Bridget06 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2013

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    Christmas started for my family last week.

    With all of our family living in different states or other ends of the state we live in, as usual, our family drives around the nation and state like crazy people to make others happy. Next year I am determined things will be different and I will be home for Christmas...
    KatieDarling7 KatieDarling7 41-45, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    zoecc11 zoecc11 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I have been married to my husband

    for 22 years and together for 26 I loved this man so much words could not describe. I knew he drank socially when we met but had I known then what I know now... My husband and I are caught up in a love triangle. Myself, him and his Alcohol. We will call her Vodka. Hubby Jim and...
    CoDependant4sure CoDependant4sure 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 9

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    Someone please offer advice.

    .. my husband and I have been together for 7 yrs. He is an alcoholic and a drug addict. His drip of choice is crack and he binges. He was just on a relapse and I think its over but his drinking is bad. Its all he cares about. His family are drunks too. I have 3 children with him...
    bkappauff bkappauff 26-30, F 8 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    OMG I want to scream been planning my daughters birthday party Booked the party at a frozen yogurt shop Sent out invitations Made fresh chocolate cupcakes with buttercream icing...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 6

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    Do you ever dream about your husband dying? Like maybe if he was in a car accident or something? Ugh, I know that's beyond terrible but I'm getting to the point where I hate...
    whoreallycares85 whoreallycares85 26-30, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    my mother in law starts badgering my son having his cousin call him up saying if you want we or your grandma are going up to the hospital and my son said no I want to go up with my...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 12

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    I think I want a divorce, my husband acts like a child and constantly puts me down. He won't support me or his daughter. I really don't want her learning his bad behaviors. He's...
    pg1341290 pg1341290 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 27

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    My husband enjoys fighting if its not with me its with my son and he thinks that he is perfect its us not him .when hes at work we all get alng nice but when hes around complete...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5

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    I am so frustrated. I'm 26 years old,work two jobs, pay all the bills and do all the housework. I want to get my masters degree but I can't afford to now. I can't stand that my...
    Carma88 Carma88 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 16

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    I can not stand how awful and mean my husbands family is to me .but yet he expects me to say that I like them? Would you like peole that are mean to you and his sister says really...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 17

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    OMG!! My d bag husband has time to step out for a nasty cigarette but when I ask him to watch the baby for five freaking minutes I get eye rolls and nothing but attitude!! It's...
    hotdamndame hotdamndame 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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