I Hate My Alcoholic Husband

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    Someone please offer advice.

    .. my husband and I have been together for 7 yrs. He is an alcoholic and a drug addict. His drip of choice is crack and he binges. He was just on a relapse and I think its over but his drinking is bad. Its all he cares about. His family are drunks too. I have 3 children with him...
    bkappauff bkappauff
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Dec 25, 2013

    I Hate My Husband!

    I am married to an alcoholic. I have been for seven years. He lies to me constantly. I am forced to let him drink or he will leave. He did it last weekend. Left me with a broken fridge, no food, no money and hungry children for three days! That was him coming out of the closet...
    MySurrealLife MySurrealLife
    5 Responses May 8, 2011

    My Story

    My husband and I have been married for four years and together for 5 and we have a three-year-old. We've known eachother for ten years. We met at work and because I saw him everyday at work normal and he was my friend first I thought this relationship was bulletproof. At first he...
    powerlessone powerlessone
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Sep 15, 2013

    Nasty Cycle

    I have recently kicked my drunken husband of 10 years out AGAIN!! This time he was "talking" to his ex-girlfriend via hidden text messages and phone calls. (I busted him really drunk texting her that he loves and misses her.)It has been seven days and this is just about the time...
    lostinluv10 lostinluv10
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2013

    I've always believed love is a choice - not a

    feeling. But right this minute I'm feeling a lot of lack of love for my husband. I've been married for 18 years. When we got married, he told me he didn't drink. He said he was a recovering alcoholic. Honestly I thought that meant he doesn't drink anymore. When I was...
    Msmith9764 Msmith9764
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    I have been with my husband

    for seven years and married for almost six. I'm basically done right now and making a plan to leave. I'll go into his history another time, but the past two months are what I'm focusing on the most. He has been averaging about half a bottle of whiskey and several vodka sodas...
    fragmentofthegirl fragmentofthegirl
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Mar 25, 2014

    Overall it's been a good Christmas with my

    alcoholic husband. He has been cheery and has participated with a good spirit in all the family affairs. He was even trustworthy to drive! He stuck to my Christmas list with one small but not overly expensive surprise gift to me. It was very nice and our bank account is...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 27, 2014

    It's been a while since I posted.

    A lot has changed since January 2015. My alcoholic husband is now my ex-alcoholic husband. He went to rehab on valentines day for 30 days in 2015. Those 30 days plus the fact he left in January was a much needed break. That time made me realize how wonderfully stress free...
    deleted deleted
    Apr 19, 2016

    NOT Again In My Life

    I am 55 years old and have been down this road before with my alcoholic mother.   I can't believe I am here AGAIN with my husband of 28 years.  Of course he denies that anything is wrong.  Most of his days are consumed with alcohol.  He consumes the...
    cat4554 cat4554
    5 Responses Aug 6, 2009

    Christmas started for my family last week.

    With all of our family living in different states or other ends of the state we live in, as usual, our family drives around the nation and state like crazy people to make others happy. Next year I am determined things will be different and I will be home for Christmas...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 24, 2014

    My husband is not the recovered alcoholic I

    thought he was. I knew something was wrong but didn't expect this. I don't know how I will handle his angry rages if they come back.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 28, 2016

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    kimcc11aa kimcc11aa
    26-30, F
    Jan 20, 2016

    The Functioning Alcoholic

    How do some people get away with it? Please tell me. My so called husband drinks almost every waking moment. I'm sure that any time he is driving he is over the limit, other times he gets out of the car stumbling all over the place. I don't get how he keeps getting away with it...
    wishicouldleave wishicouldleave
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2012

    I wrote this to my husband

    and wonder how many people can relate... The Ramblings of a sick mind…. I’m sick. I’m sick of being blamed for the bad things that YOU do I’m sick of never being appreciated for managing to always get us through I’m sick of lying to family, to friends, and the kids...
    CoDependant4sure CoDependant4sure
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Jan 9, 2014

    Dear Jack, Jim, And Jose... I Hate You Too....

    How do you define hate? In all honesty I think most of us who have written in this particular category do not hate our husbands but we hate what they have done through drinking. I know this statement is true for me. I hate the way that he lies to get what he wants, even after...
    Mandyjay84 Mandyjay84
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 21, 2013

    I Went To Al Anon For The 1st Time Tonight.

    My husband reckons he has his drinking under control. That I should be supportive of the positive changes he has made in his life and that after a whole 2 weeks of not drinking I should feel positive and happy for him. Maybe that's true. But I just don't trust him. Tonight...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Sep 24, 2012

    Never Happy

    I have been living the last six years in hell. I love my husband so much he got me where I m today. But, he is a drunk he drinks every night to the point of being intoxicated and then treats me horribly. He tells me everyday he drinks because I am a ***** and I respond with I...
    cjmom401 cjmom401
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

    I have been married to my husband

    for 22 years and together for 26 I loved this man so much words could not describe. I knew he drank socially when we met but had I known then what I know now... My husband and I are caught up in a love triangle. Myself, him and his Alcohol. We will call her Vodka. Hubby Jim and...
    CoDependant4sure CoDependant4sure
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2014

    My partner just won't admit he needs help

    and has a problem. I'm sick to death of being so pathetically nice around him to keep the peace. Tonight I have had to hide the dog as the dog has bitten him again, his fault for being drunk. The dog has seen him get abusive and is just protecting me, yay dog. Having taken a...
    lozziie lozziie
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jun 15, 2015

    It is definitely a love/hate relationship with

    my AH. One moment I see the old him and it fills my heart with joy and some sadness because I miss that him. The next day he may come home from work drunk off his arse stumbling in the front door while our sons watch. What the crud!?! He did not grow up like this. As a...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 11, 2014

    We have spent 9 years together.

    For the last 5, I have tried to change him. For the last 2 years, I have wanted out. It has gotten to the point that I am repulsed by him. I resent him. I haven't cried over him in long time. I am sure there is so much pain stored inside. I probably should get counseling. One...
    Ssaunders95 Ssaunders95
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Dec 23, 2014

    Christmas is over. And he hasn't been home

    for the past 7 days. Last Friday he came home drunk, again. He tried to deny it and I told him I was tired of him making me second guess what I knew was true, so I asked again how much he had to drink. He was angry and said only a few drinks. My response was to start...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 11, 2015

    I have been reading everything I can get my

    hands on to try to understand what I am dealing with. Is it just me but from what I read and have experienced the professionals NEVER hold them accountable. By that I mean I hear a lot of excuses. - be compassionate if he had cancer you wouldn't be mean to him. Well people...
    alcoholicmisery alcoholicmisery
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Nov 3, 2014

    I recently spent a fortune to send my husband

    of 19 years to rehab. Well it worked for about 2 weeks and now we are almost back to where we started. I hate him!!!! He does not work, when I come home is usually passed out on the couch..."asleep because he is exhausted" Yeah whatever I have heard that one for 5 years. Get a...
    moonpieg46 moonpieg46
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 24, 2015

    He fell off the wagon again.

    He drank a ton of vodka and drove his car all night. Kids found him passed out in the car in our driveway. He's not allowed in the house drunk but he came in after the kids went to school. He fell in the bathtub (again) while he was urinating and has been passed out laying in...
    Splityarn Splityarn
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    all. My husband was a drug addict and things went really bad in our marriage. Please read my story to see how we overcame our difficulties and turned our marriage around for the better. I hope that it will help someone. God bless. http://truefeminismnaphtali.blogspot.com...
    Truefeminist Truefeminist
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 2, 2014

    I have been with my boyfriend

    for five years. he was a cousin of a friend that I had. when we first met he was drinking and I was sober, I was not really into the bar scene but didn't mind hanging out. when I was leaving the party he told me not to go. at the time I was kind of dating his friend but it wasn...
    bubbatysbiimaa bubbatysbiimaa
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 31, 2015

    This Site Should Be Called I Love/Hate My Alcoholic Husband.

    I've been with my husband for 17 years, married for almost 14. When we dated, we went out all the time, and socialized with a lot of our co-workers, so it seemed rather normal that there were drinks around often. A combination of him getting worse over the years, and me...
    exhaustedandsad exhaustedandsad
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Feb 7, 2013

    I had the talk with my AH this morning.

    For christmas we had made the gift plans for our kids. I was to purchase the couple of items they wanted and we would give them a little cash in a card. They are getting old enough now that they really enjoy getting a little $$ to spend how they like. Christmas came and my AH...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 29, 2014

    Help! I truly hate this man!

    He's an alcoholic and very holiday ruins it for my family. He gets pissy when I want to go visit family. Don't think I can take another day or night of this!!! Help! Someone tell how to survive ...
    wanttoleavenow wanttoleavenow
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 28, 2014

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    zoecc11 zoecc11
    26-30, F
    Dec 24, 2014

    The title of this thread,

    'I Hate My Alcoholic Husband', is really unhelpful, isn't it? There are times I do hate him, but underneath all the hate for his addiction is love and that is why I've stayed as long as I have. The correct thing to say is that I HATE the ADDICTION and the utter chaos created...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 12, 2014

    Go ahead, judge me! I hate

    and despise this creature who lives in my house. If he doesn't have to go to work, he will not shower nor shave. My husband of 20 plus years thinks he is so smart, but he actually has nothing interesting to say. EVER! He either talks about himself or about some mindless...
    SkylarTaylor SkylarTaylor
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    I really want to leave my husband,

    we have 5 kids together and although he is a great father, i cant say much for his husband skills. He has an alcohol problem, he can't stop drinking. So many broken promises and I am so over it. My youngest is 2 1/2 months old and when she was only 3 days old he went to work (in...
    Pissesmeoff Pissesmeoff
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 22, 2014

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    kerendion kerendion
    26-30, F
    Nov 4, 2014

    Hate My Drunk Husband

    My husband is an alcoholic. He stops drinking for months but then will go on a binge where he drinks until he passes out. His mannerisms and behaviors while drunk REPULSE me. I cannot stomach having him in my sight. When he is out, I cringe thinking that he is walking in instead...
    9 Responses Feb 15, 2013

    My Husbands Alcoholism Has Ruined My Life And I Let It

    I take in a deep breath as I write this because I just realized that I am writing this for myself and not my husband the alcoholic. I guess you could say that I am codependant and although I don't like the taste of that word, that is exactly what I am and I want out of this...
    gynger gynger
    26-30, F
    14 Responses May 2, 2012

    I find that my situation is different

    than many I've read here and also very much the same. Some of these posts actually make me think "I don't have it so bad", but the bottom line is I'm miserable, angry, scared and disgusted, too. I was divorced from a heroin addict and when I met my current husband he was...
    iwant2bhappyagain iwant2bhappyagain
    61-65, F
    3 Responses May 9, 2015

    NOT Again In My Life

    I am 55 years old and have been down this road before with my alcoholic mother.   I can't believe I am here AGAIN with my husband of 28 years.  Of course he denies that anything is wrong.  Most of his days are consumed with alcohol.  He consumes the...
    cat4554 cat4554
    9 Responses Aug 6, 2009

    So happy I found this online.

    ...I have nobody to talk to about my alcoholic husband and am just looking for any kind of support I can get. My husband is I guess what some might call a "functioning alcoholic". He drinks everyday from morning til he passes out at night, always by 7pm. He does go to work...
    pde422 pde422
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Jan 26, 2014

    I hate him to the point

    where I have to pretend to love him so I don't have to hear another cruel word from his mouth. He is nothing but a toxic monster suffering from bipolar disorder and I have no pity for such a monster because I did not make him to be this way.
    ravena88 ravena88
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 19, 2016
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