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I Hate My Child

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    Feeling Overwhelmed And Not Fully Enjoying Motherhood

    I do not HATE my children, I love my children more than life it's self. But I Googled and found this site and I understand how the other parents feel and I wanted to share my story. I had my first son, and he was the apple of my eye. I never knew such a wonderful, blissful and...
    ocean2009 ocean2009 26-30 9 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    Do Parents Really Hate Their Children?

    This isn't judgement; I can completely empathize with all of these stories. Sympathize? With some, not all, but I do understand where most of them are coming from, on some level. I am not a parent. I am a kid, and I searched Google for 'I hate my kids' because I have a problem...
    jkiddo223 jkiddo223 18-21 7 Responses Feb 15, 2012

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    Or I Hate How My Child And I Interact...

    I'm the mother of two sons, who are several years apart. The first was an easy going child and is a respectful adult. The second is a thorn in my side. I have often wondered if I truly hated him. How terrible is that to feel? I'm so ashamed, but our relationship is hell. He is...
    messedupmother messedupmother 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 2, 2013

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    Walk In My Shoes

    All of you sanctamonious creeps who cant imagine this- dont you dare judge others until you have had an adult child put you through living hell with no end in sight. Do not, repeat do not, have children. They will only rip your heart out and destroy your life.
    Bunny2020 Bunny2020 56-60, M 31 Responses Aug 14, 2012

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    My Adopted Children

    A few years ago, my husband and I , with our 2 kids ( at the time) were very happy. We always played and loved our kids so much. We always knew we wanted more kids.When my sister died in 2004, as you know many family and extended family came out of the woodwork. Well I was...
    fedup7 fedup7 31-35 25 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    Guess I Won't Never Be Good Enough Since They

    Chose Their Daddy Over Me- It was 1990 and I had just got to my duty station in South Korea. I was 20 with two boys back home with my ex's grandmama and still looking to party. On my 3rd night in the country I was out partying when someone rolled up on me from behind. HELLO! I...
    BrokenNMistreated BrokenNMistreated 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Colicy Baby

    My son has colic. He is two months old. I left his father when i was 8 weeks pregnant because he wanted me to get an abortion. Now i wish i would have. We have 2 other boys together who he has custody of. My oldest is 4 and my youngest is 2. They were both planned pregnancies...
    mandey420 mandey420 22-25 22 Responses Jul 15, 2009

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    It is not a matter of hating my ADHD son

    as he is now 40, they didn't diagnose him, I kind of read up on what is happening to this adorable little boy. And as he got older he became so hateful against me. As a young boy, 3 - 5 when he was taken into public he would throw horrible tantrums that I could barely pick him...
    kedoty kedoty 61-65, F 4 Responses Feb 6

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    This Group Makes Me Sad.

    If you have a reason to "hate" your kid, like if they beat up on you or steal from you, or wrong you in some kind of way, then I guess you have every right to.  But I have read some of these stories and I'm utterly disgusted.  One person said she hates her "colicy...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 46 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    I Regret My Marriage Because Of This Little Antichrist.

    I have a six year old stepson that lies , hurts my other children , breaks everything my new couch , toys (even his own) , snd steals all the food in the house.It's not like he steals A cookie , instead he will wait until everyone's asleep and steal all the food in the house.We...
    gaveup86 gaveup86 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    I've Obviously Done Something Wrong....

    We struggled as I was a single parent and I did everything I could to keep paying to send him to Catholic school as it was a safer environment in the county we lived in. I didn't do anything for myself as we couldn't afford it. I thought that paying for his education was the...
    kari1966 kari1966 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    My Sister In Law Is So Mean To Her Kids

    Well,the first time i noticed this was when My sister in law came over for a family get together a few years ago. Her son who was 4 was dancing around i think her had to pee he said "Mommy i need to go potty" and My sister in law  said "**** in your pants" so he had to go...
    Hannakinz Hannakinz 31-35 8 Responses Apr 24, 2010

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    Glad To See A Support System On This Subject

    I was raised in a hyper religious home that was deeply isolated from all communities outside of the public school system. My siblings and I were treated like dogs. Literally, like animals. My clothes were several sized too large and I did not own any underwear. I did not own a...
    susansmith00 susansmith00 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 7, 2013

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    It tears me to say I hate my kids.

    I am a single mom with two daughters 16 and 19 that act like savages. They have no respect, don't follow rules, ungratful and selfish. I can't even go out in public w them as they dont know how to act. I can't even have friends over in fear of embrassment. They verbally abuse...
    crazed723 crazed723 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 1

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    From A "Child"

    Okay, I get that "hating" your child is horrible, but let's look at this plainly. I'm an 18 year-old, and I know my parents love me, and I work really hard to make them proud of me. But my brother is going to be 24 this year, and he has made my family suffer more than words can...
    TeenageWasteland13 TeenageWasteland13 18-21 1 Response Jan 30, 2013

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    My 7 year old daughter has not been diagnosed

    and is not on medication, but I am pretty sure she is ADHD. She is also very bright. I am so exhausted after spending the evening with her. I feel sad and disappointed that it is so hard to enjoy much time with her because she doesn't stop moving, touching, talking, nagging...
    PoopedMom PoopedMom 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 14

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    I have two three year old twins.

    They are terrible . They are destructive and they lie. Many times i sit and wonder if I'm being punished by having to care for them . I've been looking into adoption because I no longer want to parent these two. I have three other kids., They do not act like those twins. Im...
    exhausted100 exhausted100 26-30 4 Responses Jan 26

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    Hate is a very strong word,

    so I'll try not to use it. I have a stepson (he's 15 now) who I have been around since he was 6. I knew that he was gay the day I met him. That is of no consequence to me. I love him no less for his orientation. When his father and I got together, we both brought one child into...
    needinghelpbadly needinghelpbadly 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    I Give Up

    Hi There, I always considered that I was a pretty good mum...not perfect..but pretty good and very loving albeit a bit too soft for my own good, I have a daughter who is 32..she moved to a major city about 1000miles away when she was 18 to get a good job..I would always try and...
    BlueBlueBlueJay BlueBlueBlueJay 56-60, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2013

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    I Never Bonded With My Daughter

    I had a traumatic pregnancy... vomited every day all day. I ended up in the hospital 5 times to get IV fluids because I couldn't even hold down water. To boot, she was a complicated delivery. On top of all of this, my pregnancy was the result of sexual abuse from a boyfriend I...
    kamikate kamikate 22-25 17 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    It'S Not True Hate. It'S More Of A Dislike Of Behaviour

    First of all if you don't have children why are you posting here? Secondly, When I was a child I was a terror, my mother always told me I don't hate you I dislike the way you act. That's what most of us feel. We don't truly Hate our children. We just get frustrated, overwhelmed...
    elokin elokin 26-30 4 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    Found Out My Mum Hated Me When I Was 10.

    I was 10 when I found my mums journal saying similar things to many people on this forum. It broke my heart and to this day 8 years later I constantly wonder if my mum still hates me. I was not a horrible child. I never went out have never been drunk to this day wouldnt touch...
    MissGemmaRogers MissGemmaRogers 18-21, F 8 Responses May 28, 2013

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    Actually....

    i love my child. He is the primary source of all my power to continue living. Without him i would decay and die. i love my child is just such a cheesy name you know?
    Kitchen Kitchen 26-30, M 6 Responses Jan 13, 2008

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    Well..this Will Prolly Make Me Look Like A Bad Person, But I Dont Care.

    I do believe that the name of this group was probably chosen in haste. If someone truly hates their child, then there really is a problem in the relationship, with the child suffering the most.I myself have never said i hate my child(ren). I love them too much to say it or even...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+ 12 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    Really? You Should Be Ashamed!

    As a 19 almost 20 year old mother to a beautiful little girl. I could never imagine myself saying I dislike or hate my daughter. You people should be ashamed. when I was growing up I used to lash out, back talk, cut, be disrespectful to my mother but not once did she take her...
    Addisonsmommy Addisonsmommy 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    OK -- GOT A DIFFICULT 14 YEAR OLD GIRL ?

    ?, THEN READ THIS Ok, I hope this helps and I am not writing this to undermine the serious problematic behaviours which you are having with your nightmare teenagers.. And this will only work for only some of you. PARTICUARLY if you have a car and you are THEIR taxi drivers...
    scrumpygoodboy scrumpygoodboy 51-55 2 Responses Feb 6

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    OCD AUT ADHD And The Narcissist

    I am raising my two teenagers completely 100% alone. I have a son with Autism ADHD and OCD.. He does not accept the answer no. He has OCD. he can say the same thing over and over again. He vacillates in his room about a topic and looks up and reads everything on the subject...
    elocin3667 elocin3667 46-50, F 7 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    The Way She Acts...

    I just absolutely HATE how my 3yr old acts. She has been this way since birth. I firmly believe I effed her up, in the way of how insecure she is. But the rest, its all her. When she was born, she was premie, we got through it. Then my husband deployed to Afghanistan when she was...
    smith8790 smith8790 26-30 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    I have 3 children. My oldest is 21,

    youngest is 5 weeks old both girls. My only son is 12 years old, he is disabled uses a wheelchair he was diagnosed with DMD at about 8 years of age. I was a single parent for many years until I met my husband a few years ago. My son hates his life and makes our life a living...
    Onlyonemakesmehappy Onlyonemakesmehappy 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 20

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    I don't even know where to begin.

    I don't know if it's hate or just frustration. I am a single mother of 4 children. I have a 10 year old daughter and a set of 10 year old twins and a 5 year old daughter. I must tell you that I was not ready to have my twins immediately after I had my oldest daughter and it...
    hurryandhelp hurryandhelp 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 11

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    Ever meet someone, maybe someone you work with,

    and as you get to know them their personality affects your core in a super negative way. From what you can tell you just really despise the makeup of that particular person and all your instints tell you to avoid them? Imagine that being your own son. I was looking for a word...
    NCSLLC NCSLLC 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 2

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    My 13 year old son has ADHD & Aspergers.

    He argues constantly & asks thousands of questions. The weeks I have him I am sooo stressed out! He pushes every button in me & I'm always on edge. I am at the point I don't want to be a mom anymore :(
    hazelangeleyes68 hazelangeleyes68 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I Understand.

    I do not have children myself since I do not want them. However, for anyone criticizing the people on this board, first of all, **** you. These are people opening up a very painful part of their hearts, and you have no right to rail on them for it. Nobody chooses or wants to hate...
    TheSageNabooru TheSageNabooru 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    New TV Show - I Regret Having Kids

    Hi All - I came across your forum and wanted to reach out to all of you. I am putting together a television special about parents that regret the decision to have children, or feel that the burdens and challenges of parenting aren't worth the rewards. I'd love to chat with all...
    seanAP seanAP 26-30, M 4 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    I have a daughter with Borderline Personality

    Disorder. I didn`t know what it was in the beginning. I thought it was just hormones. She is now 25 and newly diagnosed, which is fairly common with this disorder. It doesn`t make things any easier or make me forget the troubles she`s caused or the huge fights she`s caused or...
    jettboo jettboo 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Ungrateful Brat

    My 1st born son was born from a short tumultuous relationship while I took refuge in Greece from the attack on Sarajevo. 5 months later his mother vanished with him. She was pregnant with my 2nd child, but this I did not know. A twist of fate brought him to my doorstep back in...
    Sarajevo4Life Sarajevo4Life 36-40, M 4 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    I HATE This Website!!

    I was looking for a support system, other parents who were experiencing the same stress. what i found was alot of people who dont even have children judging those who do and most of those who do shouldnt!!
    seriouslystressedmama seriouslystressedmama 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    I'm glad to see I'm not the only one.

    I have enormous guilt over the sheer contempt i feel for our 15 year old son. To summarize he is and never will be anything more than the piece of s**t is today. This is nothing new, not brought on by adolescence, he has always been a black hearted soulless freak and has only...
    ihatemykid15 ihatemykid15 41-45, F 13 Responses Jan 9

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    I Can't Believe This Group

    You hate your child that you brought into this world ?? I always thought live between a parents and children was unconditional... guess I was wrong! Shame on you
    TaannAz TaannAz 31-35, F 14 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    Born Bad

    let me relate to you the brief story of one 11 year old males first "arrest" so to speak. a boy is picked up trespassing on railroad property. dressed neatly and wearing a backpack, the boy swears to only taking a shortcut through the yard. the transit officer insists the boy hop...
    christsalienspermdonor christsalienspermdonor 36-40, M 5 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    This Group Should Be Deleted.

    Yes this group should be deleted. You hate your child? How? Children are beautiful humans inside and out and is waiting to learn from their mistakes and know about the outside world. Why would anyone hate their child? How rude are all of you that says you hate your child. Yes i...
    AmazingandCutie AmazingandCutie 18-21, F 46 Responses Jul 18, 2012

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    Totally Understand

    Oddly enough, I too Hate your child... You should do something about the brat before I do.
    Ambitieuxetvicieux Ambitieuxetvicieux 31-35, F 18 Responses Jul 8, 2012

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    My Daughter, The Sociopath

    My child is a person I would NEVER interact with out of choice. She was my miracle baby. As a single mother, she was my world. We were always very close. When not at work, I was always with her - not out partying. I didn't have men over to the house. She was always a bit...
    tjhiggins tjhiggins 36-40, F 25 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    Needed To Rant!!

    I have two kids (4 and almost 2). And while I honestly love them and would never want to harm them in a million years, there are many times that I truly hate them. I was told one time that it's their BEHAVIOR I actually hate, not them, but that's not really true. I hate their bad...
    frustr8edMomma frustr8edMomma 26-30, F 10 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    I am a step-parent to three children ages 12,

    (almost) 11, and 9. Their biological mother walked out on them on their father when the youngest was about a year and a half old, and has very little contact with them since then (by her own choosing). She has called once in the past four months. She has visitation in the...
    TeaMother TeaMother 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    Dont Know What To Do

    When my daughter was born we had planned to give her up for adoption. Now I wish every day we had. When I came home after giving her to her adoptive parents my family was ready to never speak with me again. I felt the cold slipping in and finally decided the next day to get her...
    breakingupthebad breakingupthebad 31-35, F 10 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I Can't Stand Being A Wife And Mother...

    I just wrote something long but erased it, on purpose. No need for explanations: I hate being a mother, I hate being a wife. I just want to be left alone.
    notalis1970 notalis1970 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I did at one point, but now I don't anymore! Thank God!

    Before:I write this to be completely honest with my feelings, but I write it with a heavy heart.  This is something that I have NEVER admitted to anyone except for my therapist.  I hesitate also in fear of what my friends might think.  I love...
    compulsion2 compulsion2 22-25, F 17 Responses Oct 25, 2009

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    Wow... there are actually people

    who are unfit to be parents.... SEX is what causes kids, fyi
    lipstickeddreamer lipstickeddreamer 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 24

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    I Hate My Son

    I never thought it would be possible to hate your child but since my son turned 14 2 years and 8 months ago ( I'm counting till he's 18 I can't wait to be rid of him I don't care where he goes as long as I don't have to see him ) he's made my life hell his dad died when he was...
    Abc0917 Abc0917 31-35 32 Responses May 8, 2012

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    I Don'T Hate Her, But I Have Trouble Loving Her...

    I am having a lot of trouble with my 11 yr old daughter who lies all the time, steals money and food (no, i'm not letting her go hungry at all, she has 3 square meals a day with snacks in between.) She shoves dirty underwear and food scraps under her bed on the carpet and in...
    sandnsea sandnsea 51-55 14 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    Smother...

    my 14 month old is way louder and more annoying then my son was at that age. she never stops and i cant figure out why. it has greatly disconnected me from her and sometimes made me even hate her to the point that I have had thoughts of putting my hand over her mouth and nose so...
    MissKira MissKira 22-25, F 12 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    I Detest My Oldest Daughter

    My mom used to say "the child that is hardest to love needs love the most".  I never understood that until I had children.  My oldest is 27 now and I have FINALLY learned to say - I love her, it's her choices that I hate.   Connie is the oldest of...
    50yrsold 50yrsold 51-55, F 9 Responses Feb 10, 2010

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    Words To Help.

    Now I would never judge any of you. But for a lot of you, I want you to know: I was that child! When I was young, my mom was head over heels for a Vietnamese man. She let his Vietnamese mother watch me. She locked me in the house, turned off the lights and left me there. Now I...
    cjb009 cjb009 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Glad to find this group. I hate children , I can not see, hear or anything that has to do with children. I'm sick of people asking me to have children. Not because I'm married mean...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 13

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    April is Child Abuse Awareness Month (at least it is here in the USA). I've made a plan to post a status every day this month on Facebook with information about child abuse. I hate...
    RuthieAnja RuthieAnja 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    Well... First, I'm a trans woman, I'll never be able to have kids according to my gender, but to my biological sex at this moment. My parents do not know about my plans to...
    NatashaTG NatashaTG 18-21 1 Response