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I Hate My Child

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    I Can't Be His Mother Anymore

    I do not know where to start, my son's story and mine are so complicated. I have 4 beautiful children that are stunning, smart, funny and pretty gifted each in their own way. One of the 4 drives me to the edge of sanity. The other 3 are pleasant and polite. Overall they...
    3OutOf4AintBad 3OutOf4AintBad 41-45, F 54 Responses Jun 4, 2012

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    Adhd Has Burned Me Out. Waiting For Her To Turn 18.

    I am so burned out dealing with my youngest daughter that I am afraid that soon my apathy will turn to hate. She has ADHD and dealing with her is a constant struggle. She is turning 12 but you would never know it. It's like having a perpetual toddler in the house. I have to...
    rcc916 rcc916 41-45 9 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    I don't even know where to begin.

    I don't know if it's hate or just frustration. I am a single mother of 4 children. I have a 10 year old daughter and a set of 10 year old twins and a 5 year old daughter. I must tell you that I was not ready to have my twins immediately after I had my oldest daughter and it...
    hurryandhelp hurryandhelp 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 11

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    This Group Should Be Deleted.

    Yes this group should be deleted. You hate your child? How? Children are beautiful humans inside and out and is waiting to learn from their mistakes and know about the outside world. Why would anyone hate their child? How rude are all of you that says you hate your child. Yes i...
    AmazingandCutie AmazingandCutie 18-21, F 47 Responses Jul 18, 2012

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    Let me begin by saying I don't truly hate her,

    but I wish I had made a different choice years ago. She was a beautiful baby. Green eyes and curly dark hair. Like the porcelain dolls my grandmother collected. And over the years she has become as scary to me as those dolls were sitting with eyes open in the moonlight. She wasn...
    melyrz504 melyrz504 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    I need help on a child that's gifted.

    I love him but can't stand being with him more then a day. Trying to find a parents view on this. I feel awful for the tuff love. And all he needed was more education. I thought he was being a bad kid. I asked 3 teachers if they thought he should be tested. Everyone of them told...
    lansinger lansinger 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 26

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    Words To Help.

    Now I would never judge any of you. But for a lot of you, I want you to know: I was that child! When I was young, my mom was head over heels for a Vietnamese man. She let his Vietnamese mother watch me. She locked me in the house, turned off the lights and left me there. Now I...
    cjb009 cjb009 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Well..this Will Prolly Make Me Look Like A Bad Person, But I Dont Care.

    I do believe that the name of this group was probably chosen in haste. If someone truly hates their child, then there really is a problem in the relationship, with the child suffering the most.I myself have never said i hate my child(ren). I love them too much to say it or even...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+ 12 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    It is not a matter of hating my ADHD son

    as he is now 40, they didn't diagnose him, I kind of read up on what is happening to this adorable little boy. And as he got older he became so hateful against me. As a young boy, 3 - 5 when he was taken into public he would throw horrible tantrums that I could barely pick him...
    kedoty kedoty 61-65, F 3 Responses Feb 6

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    Walk In My Shoes

    All of you sanctamonious creeps who cant imagine this- dont you dare judge others until you have had an adult child put you through living hell with no end in sight. Do not, repeat do not, have children. They will only rip your heart out and destroy your life.
    Bunny2020 Bunny2020 56-60, M 32 Responses Aug 14, 2012

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    My 18 yr old daughter is lazy self involved

    and very mean and rude I can't stand her
    ldyfubar ldyfubar 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 30

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    OK -- GOT A DIFFICULT 14 YEAR OLD GIRL ?

    ?, THEN READ THIS Ok, I hope this helps and I am not writing this to undermine the serious problematic behaviours which you are having with your nightmare teenagers.. And this will only work for only some of you. PARTICUARLY if you have a car and you are THEIR taxi drivers...
    scrumpygoodboy scrumpygoodboy 51-55 4 Responses Feb 6

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    From A "Child"

    Okay, I get that "hating" your child is horrible, but let's look at this plainly. I'm an 18 year-old, and I know my parents love me, and I work really hard to make them proud of me. But my brother is going to be 24 this year, and he has made my family suffer more than words can...
    TeenageWasteland13 TeenageWasteland13 18-21 3 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    I am DONE! I don't hate my child

    but today...I don't like him. He came home from school again with another bad report. He is always getting in trouble for talking, touching others, and being respectful. He is 7 and I just can't handle it anymore. I have talked to him about this behavior until I am blue in the...
    nannerbeans nannerbeans 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 24

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    This Group Makes Me Sad.

    If you have a reason to "hate" your kid, like if they beat up on you or steal from you, or wrong you in some kind of way, then I guess you have every right to.  But I have read some of these stories and I'm utterly disgusted.  One person said she hates her "colicy...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 48 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    Really? You Should Be Ashamed!

    As a 19 almost 20 year old mother to a beautiful little girl. I could never imagine myself saying I dislike or hate my daughter. You people should be ashamed. when I was growing up I used to lash out, back talk, cut, be disrespectful to my mother but not once did she take her...
    Addisonsmommy Addisonsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    I have 3 children. My oldest is 21,

    youngest is 5 weeks old both girls. My only son is 12 years old, he is disabled uses a wheelchair he was diagnosed with DMD at about 8 years of age. I was a single parent for many years until I met my husband a few years ago. My son hates his life and makes our life a living...
    Onlyonemakesmehappy Onlyonemakesmehappy 36-40, F 7 Responses Feb 20

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    Found Out My Mum Hated Me When I Was 10.

    I was 10 when I found my mums journal saying similar things to many people on this forum. It broke my heart and to this day 8 years later I constantly wonder if my mum still hates me. I was not a horrible child. I never went out have never been drunk to this day wouldnt touch...
    MissGemmaRogers MissGemmaRogers 18-21, F 8 Responses May 28, 2013

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    I Don'T Hate Her, But I Have Trouble Loving Her...

    I am having a lot of trouble with my 11 yr old daughter who lies all the time, steals money and food (no, i'm not letting her go hungry at all, she has 3 square meals a day with snacks in between.) She shoves dirty underwear and food scraps under her bed on the carpet and in...
    sandnsea sandnsea 51-55 15 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    ldyfubar ldyfubar 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 25

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    I Never Bonded With My Daughter

    I had a traumatic pregnancy... vomited every day all day. I ended up in the hospital 5 times to get IV fluids because I couldn't even hold down water. To boot, she was a complicated delivery. On top of all of this, my pregnancy was the result of sexual abuse from a boyfriend I...
    kamikate kamikate 22-25 20 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    My Daughter, The Sociopath

    My child is a person I would NEVER interact with out of choice. She was my miracle baby. As a single mother, she was my world. We were always very close. When not at work, I was always with her - not out partying. I didn't have men over to the house. She was always a bit...
    tjhiggins tjhiggins 36-40, F 40 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    I love my children with all my heart,

    every ounces of my soul but I'm tired and ready to relieve myself of this responsibility. My mother won't take them and tells me this feeling well pass, I highly doubt it. I've been feeling this way for 2 years now. I just want to be rid of them. Children are people and just...
    fedthefuxup fedthefuxup 31-35, F 5 Responses May 17

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    Please answer me truly " can a mother really

    hate her own child " ? I really need an answer I'm not trying to judge or something but I guess my mum hates me . Could this be true feelings ? Or it's temporary feeling ! I need to understand x
    emkayonexx emkayonexx 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Hate is a very strong word,

    so I'll try not to use it. I have a stepson (he's 15 now) who I have been around since he was 6. I knew that he was gay the day I met him. That is of no consequence to me. I love him no less for his orientation. When his father and I got together, we both brought one child into...
    needinghelpbadly needinghelpbadly 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 9

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    Actually....

    i love my child. He is the primary source of all my power to continue living. Without him i would decay and die. i love my child is just such a cheesy name you know?
    Kitchen Kitchen 26-30, M 6 Responses Jan 13, 2008

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    I Can't Stand Being A Wife And Mother...

    I just wrote something long but erased it, on purpose. No need for explanations: I hate being a mother, I hate being a wife. I just want to be left alone.
    notalis1970 notalis1970 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I'm writing this at the end of what was

    supposed to be a nice summer get away. She is 10 years old. She is brilliant, and not at all a horrible person, she is just very difficult to be around. Stubborn. Every single thing is a battle with her. She wants things her way and will not here any discussion otherwise...
    asdfghjkmokl asdfghjkmokl 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I'm going to be honest here,

    and I'm sure I'll sound like a monster, but I'm pretty sure I hate my baby. Im almost positive I have postpartum. I posted once, then immediately deleted it because of the guilt and shame. I'm a mother who feels nothing at all like one. I have 2 children, my oldest I would take...
    turtles2014 turtles2014 22-25 1 Response Nov 1

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    I Understand.

    I do not have children myself since I do not want them. However, for anyone criticizing the people on this board, first of all, **** you. These are people opening up a very painful part of their hearts, and you have no right to rail on them for it. Nobody chooses or wants to hate...
    TheSageNabooru TheSageNabooru 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    I identify with so much of this.

    I feel dark today. Tomorrow will be different. But I'll always get to feel guilty, because I'm a ****** mom. My daughter "threatened" becoming an emancipated minor. I looked it up and started working on a plan to turn that threat into a promise.
    pressix pressix 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 6

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    I Regret My Marriage Because Of This Little Antichrist.

    I have a six year old stepson that lies , hurts my other children , breaks everything my new couch , toys (even his own) , snd steals all the food in the house.It's not like he steals A cookie , instead he will wait until everyone's asleep and steal all the food in the house.We...
    gaveup86 gaveup86 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    It's more like I hate his existence.

    I am a single mother for 20 years and I have been responsible for my son for 20 years (and he is 20 yo). His physical and mental capacity is equal to six mo. I have been acting like his slave servant for 20 years. I have spent more money on him than I did for myself. I have...
    tucana tucana 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 7

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    I'm glad to see I'm not the only one.

    I have enormous guilt over the sheer contempt i feel for our 15 year old son. To summarize he is and never will be anything more than the piece of s**t is today. This is nothing new, not brought on by adolescence, he has always been a black hearted soulless freak and has only...
    ihatemykid15 ihatemykid15 41-45, F 17 Responses Jan 9

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    It'S Not True Hate. It'S More Of A Dislike Of Behaviour

    First of all if you don't have children why are you posting here? Secondly, When I was a child I was a terror, my mother always told me I don't hate you I dislike the way you act. That's what most of us feel. We don't truly Hate our children. We just get frustrated, overwhelmed...
    elokin elokin 26-30 5 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    Smother...

    my 14 month old is way louder and more annoying then my son was at that age. she never stops and i cant figure out why. it has greatly disconnected me from her and sometimes made me even hate her to the point that I have had thoughts of putting my hand over her mouth and nose so...
    MissKira MissKira 22-25, F 13 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    I did at one point, but now I don't anymore! Thank God!

    Before:I write this to be completely honest with my feelings, but I write it with a heavy heart.  This is something that I have NEVER admitted to anyone except for my therapist.  I hesitate also in fear of what my friends might think.  I love...
    compulsion2 compulsion2 22-25, F 17 Responses Oct 25, 2009

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    I have two kids on the spectrum.

    I am sooo tired of trying to parent them. Watching them get bigger physically, but stay stunted mentally is the most challenging thing I have ever endured. I have been dealing with this for eight yrs and I am tired, My daughter is 7 and asks the same type of immature questions a...
    autismsucks4 autismsucks4 31-35, F 6 Responses May 16

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    This Group Has Gotten Me Really Depressed...

    The group caught my attention because it's so unusual for parents to accept this feelings, feelings that I consider normal from time to time. People are scared to express them because they fear judgment, so I think it's healthy to have a space where you can vent. That said, I...
    LauraNa76 LauraNa76 31-35 5 Responses May 27, 2013

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    My Mom has recently started dating a man (about

    a year ago). He is an amazing person, very calm and soft spoken. Just a very genuine person. He has a 14 year old boy (*jason) who everyone believes to be a psychopath. Jason cuts himself very badly, and shows the scars to anyone he can. He often cuts things like "f-you" onto...
    katesouthafrica katesouthafrica 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 9

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    So I hate my kids today

    and most days. 9 & 11 years old. Both with autism & ADHD. They treat me like crap, cuss at me, hit me, yell at me. Make a mess of the house, break everything. When I try to set rules and punishments I get beaten by them. I am in therapy and so are my sons but some days I...
    PerpetualDreamer PerpetualDreamer 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 27

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    This is from an 19 year old girl's point of view

    who suffered because her mother loved her brother. I was raped, abused, molested, injured, and nearly killed by my brother on so many occasions, yet my mother did nothing. She knew. She knew all of this was happening yet she did nothing to separate him from me. She would get...
    sadkitten11 sadkitten11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    I don't really hate him

    but right now it is the only way I know how to express what I am feeling toward my 6 week old son. It is the sort of hatred that emerges when every effort at love fails, when your whole existence is pointed toward something else in the hopes of helping it to grow, to be happy...
    andreapterodactyl andreapterodactyl 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 16

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    I spent most of my childhood

    and teens being with younger children, I was an aunt by age 2, I loved being with them and bypassed dolls for the real thing. As I grew older people would say you'd make a great mum. I even went into teaching for the children and so I could eventually spend school holidays...
    picard14 picard14 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    I never wanted a child,

    but my husband really did. We decided to try adoption and went to classes to become foster/adopt parents. 2 years ago we chose an 8-year-old boy and he came to live with us. He has a lot of problems - came from a neglectful and abusive alcoholic mother, went through 8 foster...
    JenLWoo JenLWoo 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    My 13 year old son has ADHD & Aspergers.

    He argues constantly & asks thousands of questions. The weeks I have him I am sooo stressed out! He pushes every button in me & I'm always on edge. I am at the point I don't want to be a mom anymore :(
    hazelangeleyes68 hazelangeleyes68 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    Feeling Overwhelmed And Not Fully Enjoying Motherhood

    I do not HATE my children, I love my children more than life it's self. But I Googled and found this site and I understand how the other parents feel and I wanted to share my story. I had my first son, and he was the apple of my eye. I never knew such a wonderful, blissful and...
    ocean2009 ocean2009 26-30 10 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    New TV Show - I Regret Having Kids

    Hi All - I came across your forum and wanted to reach out to all of you. I am putting together a television special about parents that regret the decision to have children, or feel that the burdens and challenges of parenting aren't worth the rewards. I'd love to chat with all...
    seanAP seanAP 26-30, M 6 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Totally Understand

    Oddly enough, I too Hate your child... You should do something about the brat before I do.
    Vivagalore Vivagalore 31-35, F 18 Responses Jul 8, 2012

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    I don't hate my child

    because of things she has done in her childhood, or because I want a vacation and can't have one. Or that I am tired of being a mom. My hatred comes from years of build up. My daughter is now in her forties. I knew there was something wrong when she was a teen and tried to...
    mda3 mda3 66-70, F 6 Responses Jun 13

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    Two marriages, five children,

    and I can definitely say I hate my oldest though I have not seen him in 13 years or spoken to him for 9 years. That was my choice. When I left America and his mother I deliberately took his younger brother and sister, but not him. Together we traveled to my native Spain where...
    DiscePati DiscePati 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 12

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