I Hate My Child

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 633 People

    Here is my story: I adopted my son at 18 mths

    he is now 10.5. He came from a Family of mental illness and drug addicts along with thieves and drug dealers. Of course I found out none of this until 2 yrs later. From the beginning he fought me kicked bite and would bang his head and arch his back in anger for no reason. He...
    christydugger christydugger
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Mar 1, 2015

    The kid is dead. Killed herself in 2007

    when she was 12, but the trouble her existence caused me still makes me wish she'd never been born!
    HellenicinHouston HellenicinHouston
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Mar 14, 2016

    This Group Should Be Deleted.

    Yes this group should be deleted. You hate your child? How? Children are beautiful humans inside and out and is waiting to learn from their mistakes and know about the outside world. Why would anyone hate their child? How rude are all of you that says you hate your child. Yes i...
    AmazingandCutie AmazingandCutie
    18-21, F
    50 Responses Jul 18, 2012

    Needed To Rant!!

    I have two kids (4 and almost 2). And while I honestly love them and would never want to harm them in a million years, there are many times that I truly hate them. I was told one time that it's their BEHAVIOR I actually hate, not them, but that's not really true. I hate their bad...
    frustr8edMomma frustr8edMomma
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Oct 11, 2013

    I have a four year old,

    turning five this year. I regret ever having him.
    SadDre SadDre
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 10, 2015

    He ate my chocolate. He thinks I take my doge

    religion too seriously, and that it makes him have nightmares. The school punished him severely twice because he farted (twice). What should I do? Such evil. Much misbehaviour.
    SuchExperienceMuchWisdom SuchExperienceMuchWisdom
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Oct 6, 2015


    I am currently in a situation where I have had to move in my parents basement with my family 3 children 1 husband and me. I really knew that coming here would be a huge ugly mistake. My parents are getting older, and already have been known to be dysfunctional at the least. I...
    Morfius79 Morfius79
    36-40, F
    4 Responses May 28, 2013

    I don't want to kill my kid,

    but I sure as hell want to blow my own head off right in front of him.
    anthem1937 anthem1937
    5 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    Words To Help.

    Now I would never judge any of you. But for a lot of you, I want you to know: I was that child! When I was young, my mom was head over heels for a Vietnamese man. She let his Vietnamese mother watch me. She locked me in the house, turned off the lights and left me there. Now I...
    cjb009 cjb009
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 12, 2012

    I have four children 11,

    7,4 & 2. My second child who is my first son,I just can't stand him and I try with him. I had him at 18, when he was born he had swallowed his meconium and he lived in the nicu for approximately 30 days , he was my miracle baby. At six days old his father got arrested for...
    eve1989 eve1989
    26-30, F
    Mar 16, 2016

    I have two kids on the spectrum.

    I am sooo tired of trying to parent them. Watching them get bigger physically, but stay stunted mentally is the most challenging thing I have ever endured. I have been dealing with this for eight yrs and I am tired, My daughter is 7 and asks the same type of immature questions a...
    autismsucks4 autismsucks4
    31-35, F
    5 Responses May 16, 2014

    My Adopted Children

    A few years ago, my husband and I , with our 2 kids ( at the time) were very happy. We always played and loved our kids so much. We always knew we wanted more kids.When my sister died in 2004, as you know many family and extended family came out of the woodwork. Well I was...
    fedup7 fedup7
    31 Responses Jan 5, 2013

    I have 3 children. My oldest is 21,

    youngest is 5 weeks old both girls. My only son is 12 years old, he is disabled uses a wheelchair he was diagnosed with DMD at about 8 years of age. I was a single parent for many years until I met my husband a few years ago. My son hates his life and makes our life a living...
    Onlyonemakesmehappy Onlyonemakesmehappy
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Feb 20, 2014

    Career change. For the better.

    Landed the career opportunity of a life time. Then, hours before day one starts...kid one is sick. Not like, "I have a runny nose or a headache" kind of sick. More like "call the doctor I feel like I'm dying" kind of sick. Bad mommy, all I could think was, "wow, just had to be...
    needatimemachine needatimemachine
    36-40, F
    Aug 4, 2015

    My husband was a Vietnam vet.

    He had PTSD and was generally a miserable man. We have 2 birth sons. I got the idea that if we adopted a kid from Vietnam, it might "fix" him. He went there and got us an 8 month baby girl. She was/is a delightful daughter. He was healthier for a few months but went right...
    HappyBaby58 HappyBaby58
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2015

    Really? You Should Be Ashamed!

    As a 19 almost 20 year old mother to a beautiful little girl. I could never imagine myself saying I dislike or hate my daughter. You people should be ashamed. when I was growing up I used to lash out, back talk, cut, be disrespectful to my mother but not once did she take her...
    Addisonsmommy Addisonsmommy
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Jul 1, 2012

    I don't like kids. I never planned on having

    kids. My daughter wasn't planned. Her dad was a rebound from the love of my life. I knew we shouldn't be together very early on and tried to break it off but he convinced me to stick around. Then I got pregnant. I don't believe in abortion for myself and figured we would just...
    crkdhalo0827 crkdhalo0827
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 4, 2015

    please send an update on your situation with

    your daughter. I am going through the same thing. Thank you
    Marytellme Marytellme
    Dec 7, 2015

    This is from an 19 year old girl's point of view

    who suffered because her mother loved her brother. I was raped, abused, molested, injured, and nearly killed by my brother on so many occasions, yet my mother did nothing. She knew. She knew all of this was happening yet she did nothing to separate him from me. She would get...
    sadkitten11 sadkitten11
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2014

    From A "Child"

    Okay, I get that "hating" your child is horrible, but let's look at this plainly. I'm an 18 year-old, and I know my parents love me, and I work really hard to make them proud of me. But my brother is going to be 24 this year, and he has made my family suffer more than words can...
    TeenageWasteland13 TeenageWasteland13
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2013

    Walk In My Shoes

    All of you sanctamonious creeps who cant imagine this- dont you dare judge others until you have had an adult child put you through living hell with no end in sight. Do not, repeat do not, have children. They will only rip your heart out and destroy your life.
    Bunny2020 Bunny2020
    56-60, M
    34 Responses Aug 14, 2012

    I couldn't even have a conversation with my son

    until he was five because of a language delay. I resent him. In the first few years of his life he broke so many things, including my spirit. Anything nice I had, he broke, so I stopped buying nice things. I stopped giving a **** about reparing and fixing things. I gave up. I...
    cdidaho cdidaho
    36-40, F
    Jan 15, 2016

    I don't hate my child.

    I am linked to this story because my sister has exact similarities to OP's daughter. My sister is still young but she has been a off since she was very young. She abuses my mother and anyone that crosses her line of fire. And to outsiders it looks like my parents enable her...
    StormyCloud9 StormyCloud9
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2016

    I'm glad to see I'm not the only one.

    I have enormous guilt over the sheer contempt i feel for our 15 year old son. To summarize he is and never will be anything more than the piece of s**t is today. This is nothing new, not brought on by adolescence, he has always been a black hearted soulless freak and has only...
    ihatemykid15 ihatemykid15
    41-45, F
    17 Responses Jan 9, 2014

    I Don'T Hate Her, But I Have Trouble Loving Her...

    I am having a lot of trouble with my 11 yr old daughter who lies all the time, steals money and food (no, i'm not letting her go hungry at all, she has 3 square meals a day with snacks in between.) She shoves dirty underwear and food scraps under her bed on the carpet and in...
    sandnsea sandnsea
    15 Responses Apr 26, 2013

    My 14 year old is mean.

    He has been mean since he was a tot. I have given him the world. He has had a life most kids dont get. He has had a better life then me or his mom. He hates school. Cant keep friends. Does bad in school. his worst problem is disrespect. I never told my parents i hated them. I...
    thedayfell thedayfell
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Aug 31, 2015

    Well..this Will Prolly Make Me Look Like A Bad Person, But I Dont Care.

    I do believe that the name of this group was probably chosen in haste. If someone truly hates their child, then there really is a problem in the relationship, with the child suffering the most.I myself have never said i hate my child(ren). I love them too much to say it or even...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa
    70+, F
    13 Responses Jul 9, 2012

    I am writing this because I have no one I could

    say this to that wouldn't judge me or understand. My daughter is 6 years old. She has a very rare, severe disability, she cannot walk, talk or understand anything that goes on around her. Her neurologist says she has the mental capacity of a 2 month old. She has severe epilepsy...
    tiredmumma tiredmumma
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 12, 2015

    I Never Bonded With My Daughter

    I had a traumatic pregnancy... vomited every day all day. I ended up in the hospital 5 times to get IV fluids because I couldn't even hold down water. To boot, she was a complicated delivery. On top of all of this, my pregnancy was the result of sexual abuse from a boyfriend I...
    kamikate kamikate
    22 Responses Mar 3, 2013

    Adhd Has Burned Me Out. Waiting For Her To Turn 18.

    I am so burned out dealing with my youngest daughter that I am afraid that soon my apathy will turn to hate. She has ADHD and dealing with her is a constant struggle. She is turning 12 but you would never know it. It's like having a perpetual toddler in the house. I have to...
    rcc916 rcc916
    13 Responses Mar 6, 2012

    Feeling Overwhelmed And Not Fully Enjoying Motherhood

    I do not HATE my children, I love my children more than life it's self. But I Googled and found this site and I understand how the other parents feel and I wanted to share my story. I had my first son, and he was the apple of my eye. I never knew such a wonderful, blissful and...
    ocean2009 ocean2009
    14 Responses Oct 16, 2012

    I thought I had bonded with my daughter

    but I'm starting to think otherwise. all she ever does is cry and whine and b*tech for everything and I can't take it anymore. If my husband's family and mine weren't so attached I'd give her up for adoption. No one gets any sleep in our house, she's driven my brother, my...
    bri7182 bri7182
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2016

    Two birth control babies.

    Depo-provera and Ortho-evra. In that order. So 10 years ago I stopped using birth control, I haven't had anymore pregnancies either-go figure. Brilliant, funny, sweet. That's them. They love me and think I'm the greatest mom in the world, and I try very hard to be that for them...
    needatimemachine needatimemachine
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 4, 2015

    Found Out My Mum Hated Me When I Was 10.

    I was 10 when I found my mums journal saying similar things to many people on this forum. It broke my heart and to this day 8 years later I constantly wonder if my mum still hates me. I was not a horrible child. I never went out have never been drunk to this day wouldnt touch...
    MissGemmaRogers MissGemmaRogers
    22-25, F
    9 Responses May 28, 2013

    Ok, honestly I don't hate my child,

    however I can totally relate and agree with what parents are posting here. It takes courage to admit you can't do it anymore and turning to a forum like this simply shows the parents do care and they still haven't given up. I text my ex regularly and say I can't do this I'm...
    FeelLikeImFailing FeelLikeImFailing
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 14, 2016

    I am writing this simply

    because I have no other sounding boards left. I have sought help at every term and like others on here,,, to no avail. I have lost my friends my family and my marriage is at a low like no other. I have been diagnosed with a mental breakdown, my spouse is pretty much at that...
    luigiartist luigiartist
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Feb 22, 2015

    I have a 10yr old girl

    and an 8yr old boy. I love my kids, I really do, but I'm getting to the point that I resent my daughter so badly. Some days I wish she was 18 already so she could just get out and let us have some peace. I feel like I'm a failure because I cannot get this child to act right. I...
    atwitsend84 atwitsend84
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 7, 2015

    I Can't Be His Mother Anymore

    I do not know where to start, my son's story and mine are so complicated. I have 4 beautiful children that are stunning, smart, funny and pretty gifted each in their own way. One of the 4 drives me to the edge of sanity. The other 3 are pleasant and polite. Overall they...
    3OutOf4AintBad 3OutOf4AintBad
    41-45, F
    100 Responses Jun 4, 2012

    A daughter writing here.

    Now I don't have a child, but I'm writing here hoping to shed some light on this group. Before you report this thinking It's just another lost story hating this group; It's not. Reading your stories, I want to tell you that you have all the right to feel the way you feel. Most...
    halfaxa halfaxa
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Feb 12, 2016

    I don't hate my children.

    I was frustrated and angry and in the moment typed it into google. (Much better than saying it to them) I am clinically depressed and when I am down I feel like I hate them esp. if they are being badly behaved. I don't. I love them. I hate their behaviour but that is my fault...
    madlisatom madlisatom
    46-50, F
    1 Response May 29, 2015

    I have a 6 year old son

    that has been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD (oppositional defiance disorder). For health reasons I can't work, I also suffer from depression, and when he's not at school, he's with me. I do love him very much, but his behaviour has worn me down and I've said things in anger that I...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses May 20, 2015

    I Can't Stand Being A Wife And Mother...

    I just wrote something long but erased it, on purpose. No need for explanations: I hate being a mother, I hate being a wife. I just want to be left alone.
    notalis1970 notalis1970
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Oct 24, 2013

    I have an 11 year old daughter

    and a 7 year old son. My daughter has always been a liar and a thief... But you wouldn't know it... She's super sweet and even a justice at school. She knows right from wrong but thinks she is so clever that I will not notice. I have tried everything to get her to stop. I have...
    LammarArvizu LammarArvizu
    31-35, F
    Apr 13, 2015

    I Regret My Marriage Because Of This Little Antichrist.

    I have a six year old stepson that lies , hurts my other children , breaks everything my new couch , toys (even his own) , snd steals all the food in the house.It's not like he steals A cookie , instead he will wait until everyone's asleep and steal all the food in the house.We...
    gaveup86 gaveup86
    26-30, M
    5 Responses Aug 9, 2012

    I found this group because I googled I hate my

    child. What a horrible thing, right? I know that I don't actually *hate* him, I just get so angry and frustrated, it feels like hate. I actually love him very, very much. He's 12 years old and very smart. He's already skipped a grade and could actually move up again, but won't...
    pinkpaisley pinkpaisley
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Aug 19, 2014

    My daughter punched me in the face,

    breaking my glasses. I'm not hurt. I feel sad, angry, scared, lost, and a whole host of other emotions right now.
    zeeva70 zeeva70
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jan 28, 2016

    I know that sounds really bad,

    but he constantly lies and steals from us (my other kids and l)When I was sick with cancer and unemployment he stole everything of value (iPad DVD players , tablets gaming systems money for rainy days, etc . He's very disrespectful calls me names and cursed me out. He is one of...
    Tiedmom Tiedmom
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 8, 2015

    My son infuriates me!

    He has some serious issues.
    HisMomToo HisMomToo
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2016

    Totally Understand

    Oddly enough, I too Hate your child... You should do something about the brat before I do.
    Vivagalore Vivagalore
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Jul 8, 2012

    I did at one point, but now I don't anymore! Thank God!

    Before:I write this to be completely honest with my feelings, but I write it with a heavy heart.  This is something that I have NEVER admitted to anyone except for my therapist.  I hesitate also in fear of what my friends might think.  I love...
    compulsion2 compulsion2
    22-25, F
    17 Responses Oct 25, 2009

    I went through a terrible divorce

    when my youngest was 15 and the oldest was just entering college. I have depression and anxiety issues, and the divorce made me suicidal. Despite not having much help, I managed to get through it. But, in the midst of the divorce, my son betrayed me and his two sisters. He was...
    Keleanners Keleanners
    1 Response Sep 21, 2015

    Colicy Baby

    My son has colic. He is two months old. I left his father when i was 8 weeks pregnant because he wanted me to get an abortion. Now i wish i would have. We have 2 other boys together who he has custody of. My oldest is 4 and my youngest is 2. They were both planned pregnancies...
    mandey420 mandey420
    23 Responses Jul 15, 2009

    I hate my 7yr old daughter.

    She is a little *****. She lies all of the time and is disgusting and rude to other little children. She kicked the neighbor kid and lied and said he hit her and she didn't even care that he got in trouble for her lying. She doesn't listen at school and is one of the dumbest...
    MrsStressed MrsStressed
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 15, 2016

    This Group Makes Me Sad.

    If you have a reason to "hate" your kid, like if they beat up on you or steal from you, or wrong you in some kind of way, then I guess you have every right to.  But I have read some of these stories and I'm utterly disgusted.  One person said she hates her "colicy...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin
    22-25, F
    47 Responses Mar 12, 2010

    My Daughter, The Sociopath

    My child is a person I would NEVER interact with out of choice. She was my miracle baby. As a single mother, she was my world. We were always very close. When not at work, I was always with her - not out partying. I didn't have men over to the house. She was always a bit...
    tjhiggins tjhiggins
    36-40, F
    62 Responses Feb 19, 2012

    All I ever wanted was to be a mother.

    I gave everything to trying to be the best mother I could be. Now I am facing two trials at once because my kid called cps and the police on me on separate occasions, both times because she did not want to clean. I know it is my own fault for being a weak parent, but I never...
    Donefor4sure Donefor4sure
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 20, 2015

    I always wanted my own children,

    but the timing was never right and it never worked out for me. Flash forward to 4 1/2 years ago when I heard of a little girl who needed a home. I admit it - I was naïve and thought that love could conquer all - this poor little girl needed me, right? I took her in and...
    nanster23 nanster23
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jul 13, 2015
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