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I Hate My Child

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    I never wanted a child,

    but my husband really did. We decided to try adoption and went to classes to become foster/adopt parents. 2 years ago we chose an 8-year-old boy and he came to live with us. He has a lot of problems - came from a neglectful and abusive alcoholic mother, went through 8 foster...
    JenLWoo JenLWoo 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Let me begin by saying I don't truly hate her,

    but I wish I had made a different choice years ago. She was a beautiful baby. Green eyes and curly dark hair. Like the porcelain dolls my grandmother collected. And over the years she has become as scary to me as those dolls were sitting with eyes open in the moonlight. She wasn...
    melyrz504 melyrz504 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    Totally Understand

    Oddly enough, I too Hate your child... You should do something about the brat before I do.
    Vivagalore Vivagalore 31-35, F 17 Responses Jul 8, 2012

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    It's more like I hate his existence.

    I am a single mother for 20 years and I have been responsible for my son for 20 years (and he is 20 yo). His physical and mental capacity is equal to six mo. I have been acting like his slave servant for 20 years. I have spent more money on him than I did for myself. I have...
    tucana tucana 41-45, F 7 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I Can't Be His Mother Anymore

    I do not know where to start, my son's story and mine are so complicated. I have 4 beautiful children that are stunning, smart, funny and pretty gifted each in their own way. One of the 4 drives me to the edge of sanity. The other 3 are pleasant and polite. Overall they...
    3OutOf4AintBad 3OutOf4AintBad 41-45, F 86 Responses Jun 4, 2012

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    This Group Makes Me Sad.

    If you have a reason to "hate" your kid, like if they beat up on you or steal from you, or wrong you in some kind of way, then I guess you have every right to.  But I have read some of these stories and I'm utterly disgusted.  One person said she hates her "colicy...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 48 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    From A "Child"

    Okay, I get that "hating" your child is horrible, but let's look at this plainly. I'm an 18 year-old, and I know my parents love me, and I work really hard to make them proud of me. But my brother is going to be 24 this year, and he has made my family suffer more than words can...
    TeenageWasteland13 TeenageWasteland13 18-21 3 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    This is from an 19 year old girl's point of view

    who suffered because her mother loved her brother. I was raped, abused, molested, injured, and nearly killed by my brother on so many occasions, yet my mother did nothing. She knew. She knew all of this was happening yet she did nothing to separate him from me. She would get...
    sadkitten11 sadkitten11 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    This Group Should Be Deleted.

    Yes this group should be deleted. You hate your child? How? Children are beautiful humans inside and out and is waiting to learn from their mistakes and know about the outside world. Why would anyone hate their child? How rude are all of you that says you hate your child. Yes i...
    AmazingandCutie AmazingandCutie 18-21, F 50 Responses Jul 18, 2012

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    I am DONE! I don't hate my child

    but today...I don't like him. He came home from school again with another bad report. He is always getting in trouble for talking, touching others, and being respectful. He is 7 and I just can't handle it anymore. I have talked to him about this behavior until I am blue in the...
    nannerbeans nannerbeans 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    Found Out My Mum Hated Me When I Was 10.

    I was 10 when I found my mums journal saying similar things to many people on this forum. It broke my heart and to this day 8 years later I constantly wonder if my mum still hates me. I was not a horrible child. I never went out have never been drunk to this day wouldnt touch...
    MissGemmaRogers MissGemmaRogers 18-21, F 8 Responses May 28, 2013

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    A reminder for the morons

    who post off topic rants, judgements and derision: Social mores say parents have to love their kid not nature. Society says you HAVE to love him. Nature says that thing is an abomination and should be swiftly shoved along. Cram the mentally defective turds can't help it...
    ockhamsdragon ockhamsdragon 36-40 5 Responses Aug 12, 2014

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    My 18 yr old daughter is lazy self involved

    and very mean and rude I can't stand her
    ldyfubar ldyfubar 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I Never Bonded With My Daughter

    I had a traumatic pregnancy... vomited every day all day. I ended up in the hospital 5 times to get IV fluids because I couldn't even hold down water. To boot, she was a complicated delivery. On top of all of this, my pregnancy was the result of sexual abuse from a boyfriend I...
    kamikate kamikate 22-25 22 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    I am writing this simply

    because I have no other sounding boards left. I have sought help at every term and like others on here,,, to no avail. I have lost my friends my family and my marriage is at a low like no other. I have been diagnosed with a mental breakdown, my spouse is pretty much at that...
    luigiartist luigiartist 51-55, M 5 Responses Feb 22

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    I don't really hate him

    but right now it is the only way I know how to express what I am feeling toward my 6 week old son. It is the sort of hatred that emerges when every effort at love fails, when your whole existence is pointed toward something else in the hopes of helping it to grow, to be happy...
    andreapterodactyl andreapterodactyl 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    My Daughter, The Sociopath

    My child is a person I would NEVER interact with out of choice. She was my miracle baby. As a single mother, she was my world. We were always very close. When not at work, I was always with her - not out partying. I didn't have men over to the house. She was always a bit...
    tjhiggins tjhiggins 36-40, F 53 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    Racemixing Causes Too Many Problems- If I knew

    at 18 when I married my wife whaat I know 25 years onward I would have NEVER had children with her! I absolutely would have still married her but just NEVER had children with her. Why? Because those children are mutts. Half-Black from her,1/4 Korean,1/4 White from me. Despised...
    DoonJi DoonJi 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    I am writing this because I have no one I could

    say this to that wouldn't judge me or understand. My daughter is 6 years old. She has a very rare, severe disability, she cannot walk, talk or understand anything that goes on around her. Her neurologist says she has the mental capacity of a 2 month old. She has severe epilepsy...
    tiredmumma tiredmumma 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 12

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    Please answer me truly " can a mother really

    hate her own child " ? I really need an answer I'm not trying to judge or something but I guess my mum hates me . Could this be true feelings ? Or it's temporary feeling ! I need to understand x
    emkayonexx emkayonexx 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 12, 2014

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    So I hate my kids today

    and most days. 9 & 11 years old. Both with autism & ADHD. They treat me like crap, cuss at me, hit me, yell at me. Make a mess of the house, break everything. When I try to set rules and punishments I get beaten by them. I am in therapy and so are my sons but some days I...
    PerpetualDreamer PerpetualDreamer 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 27, 2014

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    My Adopted Children

    A few years ago, my husband and I , with our 2 kids ( at the time) were very happy. We always played and loved our kids so much. We always knew we wanted more kids.When my sister died in 2004, as you know many family and extended family came out of the woodwork. Well I was...
    fedup7 fedup7 31-35 30 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    I have 3 children. My oldest is 21,

    youngest is 5 weeks old both girls. My only son is 12 years old, he is disabled uses a wheelchair he was diagnosed with DMD at about 8 years of age. I was a single parent for many years until I met my husband a few years ago. My son hates his life and makes our life a living...
    Onlyonemakesmehappy Onlyonemakesmehappy 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    I'm going to be honest here,

    and I'm sure I'll sound like a monster, but I'm pretty sure I hate my baby. Im almost positive I have postpartum. I posted once, then immediately deleted it because of the guilt and shame. I'm a mother who feels nothing at all like one. I have 2 children, my oldest I would take...
    turtles2014 turtles2014 22-25 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    I Can't Stand Being A Wife And Mother...

    I just wrote something long but erased it, on purpose. No need for explanations: I hate being a mother, I hate being a wife. I just want to be left alone.
    notalis1970 notalis1970 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I'm writing this at the end of what was

    supposed to be a nice summer get away. She is 10 years old. She is brilliant, and not at all a horrible person, she is just very difficult to be around. Stubborn. Every single thing is a battle with her. She wants things her way and will not here any discussion otherwise...
    asdfghjkmokl asdfghjkmokl 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2014

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    I identify with so much of this.

    I feel dark today. Tomorrow will be different. But I'll always get to feel guilty, because I'm a ****** mom. My daughter "threatened" becoming an emancipated minor. I looked it up and started working on a plan to turn that threat into a promise.
    pressix pressix 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 6, 2014

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    I'm glad to see I'm not the only one.

    I have enormous guilt over the sheer contempt i feel for our 15 year old son. To summarize he is and never will be anything more than the piece of s**t is today. This is nothing new, not brought on by adolescence, he has always been a black hearted soulless freak and has only...
    ihatemykid15 ihatemykid15 41-45, F 18 Responses Jan 9, 2014

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    I have an 11 year old daughter

    and a 7 year old son. My daughter has always been a liar and a thief... But you wouldn't know it... She's super sweet and even a justice at school. She knows right from wrong but thinks she is so clever that I will not notice. I have tried everything to get her to stop. I have...
    LammarArvizu LammarArvizu 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    Really? You Should Be Ashamed!

    As a 19 almost 20 year old mother to a beautiful little girl. I could never imagine myself saying I dislike or hate my daughter. You people should be ashamed. when I was growing up I used to lash out, back talk, cut, be disrespectful to my mother but not once did she take her...
    Addisonsmommy Addisonsmommy 18-21, F 9 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Well..this Will Prolly Make Me Look Like A Bad Person, But I Dont Care.

    I do believe that the name of this group was probably chosen in haste. If someone truly hates their child, then there really is a problem in the relationship, with the child suffering the most.I myself have never said i hate my child(ren). I love them too much to say it or even...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 66-70 13 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    I spent most of my childhood

    and teens being with younger children, I was an aunt by age 2, I loved being with them and bypassed dolls for the real thing. As I grew older people would say you'd make a great mum. I even went into teaching for the children and so I could eventually spend school holidays...
    picard14 picard14 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2014

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    I Don'T Hate Her, But I Have Trouble Loving Her...

    I am having a lot of trouble with my 11 yr old daughter who lies all the time, steals money and food (no, i'm not letting her go hungry at all, she has 3 square meals a day with snacks in between.) She shoves dirty underwear and food scraps under her bed on the carpet and in...
    sandnsea sandnsea 51-55 16 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    I'm at the point where I don't want to be a

    parent anymore. Don't get me wrong; you could never tell on the outside. He's 4, and is diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. This has been a horrible year. He's been kicked out of 4 pre-k's, which the last two I had to put down at least $300 to even have him considered. On top of that...
    Jebarb Jebarb 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    New TV Show - I Regret Having Kids

    Hi All - I came across your forum and wanted to reach out to all of you. I am putting together a television special about parents that regret the decision to have children, or feel that the burdens and challenges of parenting aren't worth the rewards. I'd love to chat with all...
    seanAP seanAP 26-30, M 8 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Two marriages, five children,

    and I can definitely say I hate my oldest though I have not seen him in 13 years or spoken to him for 9 years. That was my choice. When I left America and his mother I deliberately took his younger brother and sister, but not him. Together we traveled to my native Spain where...
    DiscePati DiscePati 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    My Mom has recently started dating a man (about

    a year ago). He is an amazing person, very calm and soft spoken. Just a very genuine person. He has a 14 year old boy (*jason) who everyone believes to be a psychopath. Jason cuts himself very badly, and shows the scars to anyone he can. He often cuts things like "f-you" onto...
    katesouthafrica katesouthafrica 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I found this group because I googled I hate my

    child. What a horrible thing, right? I know that I don't actually *hate* him, I just get so angry and frustrated, it feels like hate. I actually love him very, very much. He's 12 years old and very smart. He's already skipped a grade and could actually move up again, but won't...
    pinkpaisley pinkpaisley 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 19, 2014

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    I need help on a child that's gifted.

    I love him but can't stand being with him more then a day. Trying to find a parents view on this. I feel awful for the tuff love. And all he needed was more education. I thought he was being a bad kid. I asked 3 teachers if they thought he should be tested. Everyone of them told...
    lansinger lansinger 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2014

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    I don't want to kill my kid,

    but I sure as hell want to blow my own head off right in front of him.
    anthem1937 anthem1937 46-50 2 Responses Apr 30

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    Actually....

    i love my child. He is the primary source of all my power to continue living. Without him i would decay and die. i love my child is just such a cheesy name you know?
    Kitchen Kitchen 26-30, M 6 Responses Jan 13, 2008

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    I Regret My Marriage Because Of This Little Antichrist.

    I have a six year old stepson that lies , hurts my other children , breaks everything my new couch , toys (even his own) , snd steals all the food in the house.It's not like he steals A cookie , instead he will wait until everyone's asleep and steal all the food in the house.We...
    gaveup86 gaveup86 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    I don't hate my child

    because of things she has done in her childhood, or because I want a vacation and can't have one. Or that I am tired of being a mom. My hatred comes from years of build up. My daughter is now in her forties. I knew there was something wrong when she was a teen and tried to...
    mda3 mda3 66-70, F 6 Responses Jun 13, 2014

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    It'S Not True Hate. It'S More Of A Dislike Of Behaviour

    First of all if you don't have children why are you posting here? Secondly, When I was a child I was a terror, my mother always told me I don't hate you I dislike the way you act. That's what most of us feel. We don't truly Hate our children. We just get frustrated, overwhelmed...
    elokin elokin 26-30 6 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    Adhd Has Burned Me Out. Waiting For Her To Turn 18.

    I am so burned out dealing with my youngest daughter that I am afraid that soon my apathy will turn to hate. She has ADHD and dealing with her is a constant struggle. She is turning 12 but you would never know it. It's like having a perpetual toddler in the house. I have to...
    rcc916 rcc916 41-45 9 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    Walk In My Shoes

    All of you sanctamonious creeps who cant imagine this- dont you dare judge others until you have had an adult child put you through living hell with no end in sight. Do not, repeat do not, have children. They will only rip your heart out and destroy your life.
    Bunny2020 Bunny2020 56-60, M 33 Responses Aug 14, 2012

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