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I Hate My Daughter In Law

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    "Sociopathic" DIL: Our Side

    Since I am a DIL who has been accused of being toxic, sociopathic, controlling and so on - I'll share the other side of this. I adored my MIL and my husband's family. They were why I married him!! When we dated his mom or sister would call and he would tell me to pick up his...
    mockingbird2013 mockingbird2013 31-35, F Oct 18, 2013

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    Speaking Out For My Mother & My Self!

    My mother has the daughter in law from HELL! Unfortunately my sister in law! This woman has no morals, she's self absorbed, con artist etc, etc, In my book she's nothing but WHITE TRASH!! There was unity within our family till the day she come along when my brother decided to...
    hotbeatch23 hotbeatch23 31-35 6 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    my son is unapproachable.

    We would get a minute phone call now and then when he was enroute back from work. But that is short lived. As soon as my DIL "makes up" stories about me, we lose contact all together. Meantime.. months and months go by and we don't see our grandkids. It is incomprehensible that...
    sadmeme sadmeme 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 17

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    Hello To All The Mils- Im A Daughter In-law. Pls Read My Post 4 More

    hello ladies. i just came here to check out the posts. i'm not trying to intrude. i have such a bad relationship with my in-laws that i have to ask..is there anything u would say to her, change, stop before it started. . i need to get some understanding of what is going on here...
    pennysinghisen pennysinghisen 46-50 6 Responses Jul 12, 2011

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    I Don't Hate My Daughter In Law But She Sure Pushes Me To It.

    I find it hard to believe that there are so many woman complaining about their mother in laws, I know that some are bad and there are some that are terrible and out of control but the girls of this generation are very selfish and make the world all about them.  My mother in law...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    My Son Is So Weak !

    He married this young woman 6 years ago despite the fact that she is epileptic and she cannot have children. We were devastated , but we decided to love and support her the much as we can for the sake of our son. She is moody, arrogant, lazy and aggressive, but I just ignored...
    Lauseta Lauseta 61-65, F 7 Responses Oct 31, 2013

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    I Think They Have Got It Correct.

    Aboriginal custom all over Australia bans a person from talking directly to their mother in law. This rule applies to both men and women talking to their mother in law. Perhaps this rule was developed to overcome such a common cause of friction in families, when a husband or wife...
    skip79 skip79 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 7, 2013

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    Seeking Help - A Dil To A Mil

    OK, I admit, I struggle BIGTIME with my MIL. She is very needy (financially and otherwise) and puts down my own mom all the time. She even talks about my parent's mortality - i.e., my parents are 62 and 65. She is only 50 and talks about how my parents won't live long enough to...
    sehall sehall 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 20, 2013

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    I Think My Daughter Inlaw Has A Personality Disorder Or Something...something Just Isn't Right

    I don’t hate my DIL, but there are so many things about her that seriously concerns me.  1) She’s a habitual liar. 2) She is very controlling and abusive towards my son 3) She spends money they don’t have to buy things they don’t need all the time 4) She negates her...
    concernednana concernednana 36-40 8 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    I dont really hate my daughter in law its just

    that she has and got my son to take me off face book in case i only ever find out anything which i class as important through some of my family. The latest is my grandsons naming day ceremony is on face book and some of my family have been invited , when i enquired if there was...
    vernspeedy vernspeedy 66-70, F 3 Responses Jan 29

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    I Just Want You To Hear My Story.

    hi, i am not a mil but i am a dil. I just wanted to ask, rather to hear the point of view of a mil. I have this mil who has 3 children and the youngest is my husband. We got married 2 years ago. I was not really comfortable with her anymore. As her son and i was still in the...
    memickme29 memickme29 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 1, 2013

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    Most Selfish and Disrespectful Person I Know

    I live in a 3 bedroom apartment with my husband and 2 of my 4 kids. At least it was just us until recently. About 6 months ago my oldest son moved home bringing with him his wife Angel and their baby--my beautiful granddaughter who is 2 years old. Before my son and his...
    turkstragal turkstragal 41-45 10 Responses Aug 5, 2009

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    Can't Deny It Anylonger...I HATE My DIL...She Is Destroying My Husband's Spirit

    I tried to be the bigger person for several years. Always did the right thing. Accepted my DIL with open arms despite her cold and mean behavior to me. She came around at times, but I didn't realize I was just being played. I fell for it and now I have been hurt again. She didn...
    sadinAR sadinAR 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    I Am A Daughter-in-law And Am Looking For A Mother-in-law's Perspective.

    My MIL and I have a difficult relationship. I consider her to be melodramatic, patronizing, and controlling. She considers me to be disrespectful, nitpicky, and immature. I understand I am not a perfect person, and because of that, I am always trying to improve upon my faults...
    uninspiredname123 uninspiredname123 22-25 3 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    Shes such a ***** i just wish she'd leave us

    alone so we could be happy.
    arl169 arl169 61-65, F 1 Response Dec 25, 2013

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    Let me start by saying I don't hate my DIL I

    just wish that I understood better. Also, she and my son are not married but I still consider her to be a DIL. Wait I am getting ahead of myself... I have 3 DS(23,21,19) and 2 DD (19, 17) and over the years our home has served as a refuge for more than one teen who has needed a...
    nanamoma nanamoma 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 11, 2013

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    Does Anyone Have A Success Story About Dealing With A Terrible Daughter In Law? Did Your Relationship Improve With Her And How Did You Accomplish That?

    In a 5 yr span, I've had a heck of a time with the girl who intends to marry my son. Have tried everything, and I mean everything, nothing improves. Has anyone managed to change their relationship with a mean dil into something positive and happy? If so, what changed things for...
    anothermom2 anothermom2 56-60, F 4 Responses Oct 7, 2012

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    Disrespectful Dil

    for 2 years this young lady has up rooted my families life..before my son met her..he believed in God..was very respectful to me..was a good kid..and then he met her..you could tell that she was trouble from day one but in his eyes she was a Goddess..they ran away together and...
    tjc9226 tjc9226 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    Psychotic Is Her Name...

    My son's wife is such a psycho! When he first brought her into our lives we accepted her without  pause. She & her mother quickly changed that around! Both women seem to be very jealous & competitive natured. We (hubby & I) tried to be friendly with her mom. We...
    disgustedwithDIL disgustedwithDIL 41-45 41 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    Is She Stupid Or Mentally Ill?

    My daughter-in-law has no sense of humor. She also does not understand anything you might be talking about. If you agree with her she says you are criticizing her if she has just said something negative. She gossips constantly. She is always offended by other people no...
    competent competent 66-70, F 4 Responses May 7, 2012

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    My Mother In Law An My Husband Girl Friend

    where to start ..every since i been marry to my husband his mother came into war with me she even told her son to pick between us an i had to accept him with a women she wanted for him,, but i became bitter an angery an i more mess came alone she even put they picture up on fb to...
    mrsmcgary mrsmcgary 31-35 1 Response Nov 29, 2012

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    My relationship with my MIL is

    so complicated. I admittedly am very sensitive to what she says and does where my husband and children are concerned. I don't choose to be that way, but over time I have gotten to the point that my defenses automatically go up when I'm around her. I guess the tension really...
    hrw05 hrw05 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Future Dil

    Oh my word!  I desperately tried to to at least tolerate my future DIL (Wedding is Feb 19).  I really did.  To make matters worse, it's my stepson's fiancee'.  It's already strained because there is only 8 1/2 years between me and my stepson and I think...
    Mommad77 Mommad77 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 7, 2010

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    Daughter in law AND Her Mom

    I do not hate my dil but I do not like her as a person. She seems to try to be a good mother to my grandson, but she is very munipulating and sneaky. She met my son while they both were working at the same place - she knew he had a girl friend - I guess it didn't matter to...
    bwkitty bwkitty 51-55, F 4 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    I Need To Let Go

    My 25 year old son now in med. school told me"Ma just be my friend now -your parenting is over. If I don't get it now I never will". He may be smart and talented but this does not extend to relationships with women. His first serious relationship lasted 3 years and almost ruined...
    ravingluna ravingluna 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2012

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    Hate Is Easy, Love Takes Courage!

    The site "I Hate My Mother in Law" has over 500 experiences written by daughter in law's. I find it odd that many DIL's feel like they have been treated poorly and feel hated by their mother in laws and yet there was not a "I Hate My Daughter in law" site on...
    chaus chaus 51-55, F 64 Responses Jun 30, 2008

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    The Diva Continues Her Campaign Of Terror

    Since my last writing, the monster my son married has only gotten worse. She has posted horrible lies on Facebook, accusing my family of "never doing anything to help" them. She creates friction and starts trouble wherever she can. She takes everything anyone says or does as...
    5awesomekids 5awesomekids 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 1, 2013

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    Pensive

    My son fought hard and he had his family to his place for his birthday. We were all very busy, but we made the long trip, stayed as long as we could, and had to leave early do to obligations and poor weather. I think it went really well. We were civil, if not friendly. I hugged...
    Junnifer Junnifer 41-45 3 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    At Wits End With My Dil

    I don't hate my daughter in law but I'm coming close. Mothers of sons are penalized by DIL's - they are not allowed to watch their grandchildren be born and are never as good as HER parents or never do anything as well as HER parents. HER parents come...
    JuicyGirl JuicyGirl 56-60 75 Responses Dec 8, 2008

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    This woman only let me see my granddaughter

    twice before she was one years old, then disappeared for 4 yrs. She now 3 mos ago shows up at my door in a crisis. I took both of them in for 7 wks. I helped her get an apt.... But she drives me nuts. Keeps wanting more and more money but still hasn't gotten a job, refuses to...
    SharoninNC SharoninNC 61-65, F 5 Responses May 16

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    "Sociopathic" DIL: Our Side

    Since I am a DIL who has been accused of being toxic, sociopathic, controlling and so on - I'll share the other side of this. I adored my MIL and my husband's family. They were why I married him!! When we dated his mom or sister would call and he would tell me to pick up his...
    mockingbird2013 mockingbird2013 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2013

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    Social Networking ( & The Cell Phone) Has Ruined Our Children

    Is it me-----or are all young people under 30 self involved, clueless , narcissists? I often ask my son the question" just what do you & your friends (fiancee included) talk about?" He truly knows nothing about what his friends families--especially his fiancee--if the subject...
    60knowsbetter 60knowsbetter 56-60, F 6 Responses Dec 21, 2012

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    What'S The Best Way To Deal With Dil And Sons Rejection.

    My son is 22 and is in the Military. He has a three year old with a girl from my town. We have been through hell trying to get him legal rights to see his son and after alot of work and sleepless nights he finally gets to see his son every other day while on leave. He was...
    leggobad leggobad 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 19, 2013

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    DIL Asking For Help!

    I'm a DIL and would like some feedback from MIL’s- please nothing rude, mean, or hurtful. When DH and I announced our plans to get married and later our engagement, MIL suddenly needed to see us 3 times a month, whereas before we got married (announced our marriage plans) it...
    prlf prlf 26-30 10 Responses Sep 25, 2013

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    Controlling Girl........

    she is not married to my son...only "engaged" . but she has destroyed my sons relationship with his parents, his 2 kids from previous xwife. his sister, and all his extended family. she was so nice to everyone when she hooked up with him.......now........... she is pregnant by...
    gramof4 gramof4 66-70, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Just Get On With Your Own Life!

    I've read lots of these posts now and what stands out to me is that 'people' just need to stop judging others, accept the differences in people and get on with their own lives. I have 3 gorgeous sons who i love and adore, and 3 DIL's .. I'm there for all of them and the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    I Am So Worried About My Grandsons

    My daughter in law is the laziest person on this earth and I feel she is putting mt grandsons in danger. She never cleans, does dishes, wash or feeds the boys. My grandsons are 4 and 2. My dil sleeps all day, she is so mean to my oldest grandson. I am so worried about these boys...
    cindee51 cindee51 51-55 4 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    My Dils Meaner Than Your Dil (ha)

    We have "put up" with our new DIL for the past year...She's a know-it-all, selfish, rude, manipulative, control freak, attention seeking, trashy girl that trapped our oldest son into a relationship. Yes, I mean trapped! She has a six year old daughter from a previous marriage...
    CaMom CaMom 51-55 10 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    My DIL is the worst mother ever

    and my son is not far behind her. I should be paid to put up with her, I keep the kids most of the time to protect them from her. I would love to report her to DCF but fear my son will keep the kids from us if they find out :(
    chuckiesmom chuckiesmom 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    She Deliberately Destroyed Our Family

    She pretended to like us until the day she got an engagement ring; at that moment she began her crusade to get us out of our son's life. The first thing she did was talk my son out of finishing college, with only two courses left!!! She'd already graduated and landed a job and...
    GrownUpWoman GrownUpWoman 61-65 5 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    Controlling Daughter In Law

    My DIL is selfish and entitled and has changed my sons relationship with me. I have limited contact with my grandson because they live a distance away. In the 10 yrs that I know her, she does not look directly at me when I talk to her and has never called me by my name or any...
    Buffy2050 Buffy2050 56-60, F 12 Responses Mar 28, 2013

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    Misunderstandings And Tension. Dil Seeking Mil Advice.

    Okay, I know my MIL is not fond of me. Hate is a very strong word so I would like the think that she does not hate me. We are both two completely different people and I am still trying to get used to her personality but most of the time she assumes everything about me is...
    MrsAnonymous16 MrsAnonymous16 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 11, 2013

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    And I Always Will

    The short story is that she is an addict who took pills her entire pregnancy with my grandchild (until she went to jail) and I cannot forgive this. There is a much longer version, there is a six year history in this story but this is the latest. Am I wrong to want nothing to do...
    scoredhigher scoredhigher 41-45 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I Hate My Daughters

    and they hate each other.  they both deal with drugs my real blood uses the in   deals both are loser 1 no beter then the other
    fiverlerl fiverlerl 41-45 2 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    I Don't Hate My DIL, I Feel Sorry For Her

    I don't hate my dil, I feel sorry for her (I'm not being sarcastic), she's had so many issues in her life, I want to love her but she makes it impossible. She is 34, my son is 29...They were married 12/2012. We were not thrilled with the union because we felt that they brought...
    dngpjg dngpjg 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2013

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    Has Anyone Tried Family Counseling?

    I'm curious to know if anyone has tried counseling with their DIL or DIL and son and how it worked out. Is this something as a MIL you would even be interested in doing?
    chenderson chenderson 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    I have come to the realisation

    that my daughter in law to be is a manipulative,selfish,self absorbed,greedy con artist she puts on an act that fools many people but the more I get to know her the more I wonder why do people especially my son not see her for what she really is she is neither attractive or...
    walni walni 61-65 8 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    My Daughter In Law Is a Manipulating Mental Case

    I hate my daughter in law.  And so does my son.   I don't know why he married her in the first place and neither does he, but they have a 4 year old and twin boys 1 1/2 years old now and he won't leave them with her because he doesn't want anyone else to raise his...
    linnie40000 linnie40000 61-65 26 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    Dil

    I really hate one if my dils so much right now.
    Junnifer Junnifer 41-45 Jun 30, 2013

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    It is not so that I hate my mother in law because she in my mother in law. No, no, no. I hate her because she is a bad person. At the begining I wanted to be a friend of hers, but...
    emikolic emikolic 26-30, F Jul 3

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    In 2008 my Mother in law lost h husband . I tried helping her through his illness and after his death and things were ok.I had never had bad feelings toward her in the past,as a...
    helpless69 helpless69 41-45, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    I wasn't able to carry a baby to full term so when my sister called me 3 days after her daughter's 12th birthday I jumped at the chance to take my niece into our home. We had just...
    Megit Megit 56-60, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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