I Hate My Husband

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    I know hate is a strong word

    and it ebbs and flows but tonight I hate him. Everything about him. I have terrible thoughts about what I wish would happen to him. Tomorrow I will feel the guilt of it but tonight I will dream of a life without him as my husband and pray I am strong enough to make it happen.
    bethany444 bethany444
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Aug 29, 2015

    please be careful on here ladies .

    .. I've had a few man people private message me. I am not an expert by any means but if a man is hitting on you from this particular topic board it's probably safe to safe he's looking for easy vulnerable prey and a huge red flag in my book. just be careful out there use your...
    starlight1976 starlight1976
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 24

    I met my husband at work,

    it was in May 2014. He was my assistant general manager at the time. We bonded quickly, and fell in love. He was kind, funny, romantic, and always surprised me with a rose or candy or anything really. We got married in March 2015, so it's been a year now. And we were pregnant at...
    Selina923 Selina923
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 7

    My husband is a lying cheating herpes infected

    fat pig .. I just found out 24 isn't to young and have found 43 women from dating sites that he's contacted or been with .. We've been married 1.5 years !!
    Mrsdumbhousewife Mrsdumbhousewife
    46-50, F
    21 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    So my dead car has been sitting in Visitors

    Parking of the condo where we live for a few months. I've been saving the money needed to tow it out of there and have it fixed... While I assume it was likely annoying my neighbours, most know me and have expressed empathy and understanding to me in regards to it's presence...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    39 Responses Sep 26, 2015

    I hate my husband. We've been married

    for 10 years and it's the biggest regret of my life. He is abusive and has cheated on me several times.He is 30 years old and has no career. He has wrecked every car I had and ruined every job I've had. I tried to hold on to my last job and I held it for 5 years until he got me...
    PURPLEQUEEN28 PURPLEQUEEN28
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Mar 25

    I hate him. I dont even like his name.

    He is not worth me. He lost my trust. He spoiled my life. This marriage is a terrible mistake. He is not fit for marriage at all. He is a WORKAHOLIC and I hate that. He is the total form of everything that I never wanted in my husband. He is an irresponsible citizen. Cold n...
    hopelesslyromantic hopelesslyromantic
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 16

    Hate is a strong word,

    so I won't say I necessarily hate my husband. I strongly dislike the dude though. No I'm not in an abusive home. His job allows me to stay home with our 20 month old. He has not cheated on me, nor stolen from me, nor done any of the horrible things you usually equate to a...
    MrsTellit MrsTellit
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 22, 2015

    Rain is so soothing. I'm watching through the

    window so hipnotic. Then I see his stupid grin he's under the porch. I now turn sour and wish for lightning.
    tripsandtricks tripsandtricks
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Apr 3, 2015

    ladies how did you not know this was

    who this guy was? any advice for a single woman?
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 28

    He walks in the door

    and the whole mood of the house changes. We have had the same child for 10 years and he acts as if it is his first day. I no longer hide my disdain. It shows clearly on my face. Yet he doesn't even notice.
    bethany444 bethany444
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Feb 24

    I'm only 21 and it feels like my life is over.

    I just don't know how everything fell apart so quickly.... and how much I have deteriorated. My life is doomed to be a living hell...
    Kutya95 Kutya95
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 20

    So I found out a few days ago he has been

    sneaking into my purse and stealing my credit card. He spends hundreds of dollars on himself on stupid things and has completely drained our savings. I don't have $20 to my name at this point. We will probably end up losing our house. He has said before that he won't stop...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    23 Responses Dec 7, 2015
    pink26 pink26
    41-45, F
    Apr 18

    I just caught him pooping in the shower.

    THIS IS NOT A JOKE. He was showering and I had to owe and the smell hit me and then I saw it- he was shoving the poop down the drain with his FINGERS! I am mortified and repulsed and am filing for divorce before the month is up. He has physically and mentally abused me and...
    Krose77 Krose77
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 15

    Pet Peeves: We got the dog

    because he insisted, but I'm the one who takes care of it the most. He only goes into work 2 days a week, and expects me to mostly be at his beck and call when he's home. When I do go out, he doesn't bother to feed himself, and gets all upset that he's "starving" when I get...
    kbmead kbmead
    41-45, F
    Mar 16

    Let me start off by saying I am a mom to a 2

    year old. I am in school twice a week for 3 and a half hours and I work once a week for 5 hours. The rest of the time i am a stay at home mom. so I am pretty busy... I also do everything around the house and for our daughter... all the cooking, cleaning, (hubs won't even...
    theprincessteph theprincessteph
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 7

    Where should I start?

    I am now fifty one years old. I met my husband when I was twenty five. I was working as a checker in a grocery store, he was a fire man that came in with the other fire men to shop for dinner...he was also married with two children. I still don't know where to begin, this is...
    gillettesharp gillettesharp
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Feb 28

    1 He never eats my horrible cooking!

    2 He never takes out the trash 3 The dinosaur he has is always tripping everyone up 4 He keeps shouting wilma at me, who the hell is this wilma woman?!?!?! 5 I'm not sure but I think he hates my mother, what kind of a man hates his mother in law?!?!?!!? 6 He's not as handsome...
    Denzebarrrn Denzebarrrn
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 6

    He pushed me again. I fell.

    3 times tonight. The cats hiding and still hasn't come out. I pulled up my skirt in defiance and asked how he'd feel if I asked a friend to fool around. Heated exchanges. Back in bed. Told I was no longer loved. Wedding in 6 days but already married. How do I communicate...
    Nattyshaw Nattyshaw
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 27

    Yep. I hate my annoying,

    rude, uninterested, unapologetic, narcissistic, self absorbed, ignorant, mamas boy. Can't think of a dumber thing I've ever done than marry him. He makes me want to jump off a cliff. He is THAT annoying.
    mason2x mason2x
    41-45
    5 Responses Mar 22, 2015

    My husband texted "call me,

    now" while I was working one on one with a new student, using my phone for our lesson in the student's home. I answered my husband, you ok? He said no emergency, but could I talk? Can't talk now, working - can call in 40 min. He texted. I needed to call him, he wanted...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal
    31-35, F
    25 Responses Apr 18
    Lovelyladi Lovelyladi
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 8

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    bethccaa bethccaa
    26-30, F
    Feb 21

    Being with him is such a waste of my life.

    I feel so horribly for thinking so negatively about him because he really is a sweet guy.. but geezus. I don't know what to do... I am so miserable lately and I just don't know what to do. the thought of leaving him and hurting him depresses me, but thinking that the rest of...
    Kutya95 Kutya95
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 28

    I've been on here since 2011

    and I'm finally getting divorced!! Since he moved out, I have felt free, relieved, and happy for the first time in a very long time. My only regret is not getting divorced sooner. The grass really is greener!
    Thatbastard Thatbastard
    36-40
    3 Responses Mar 29

    And I don't use the word HATE lightly.

    He's narcissistic and the most disrespectful person I have ever known. I am trapped by my two young children. I'm not ready to give then up every second weekend... They are still babies. Does anyone else live this life??
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    25 Responses Jan 30, 2015

    I know he won't do anything

    for me tomorrow for Valentine's Day/Wedding Anniversary. But talks about doing something big next weekend since he bought himself a new car today. I don't know if I'm being bitchy but I don't want to celebrate anything next weekend, it doesn't work that way. For my birthday he...
    drainedalltheJOY drainedalltheJOY
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 14

    Not as much hate as it is general dislike

    and irritation. I've read many stories I can relate and it always helps me to see that I'm not the only one, so I figured I'd put mine out there for others as well. We met when I was 18, married 5 years later. I ignored the signs (shame on me), but have no regrets because of...
    allycatii allycatii
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Nov 19, 2014

    Sometimes I wish I could go back in time

    and just walk away from my husband after our first date.
    typsygypsy typsygypsy
    36-40, F
    17 Responses Jan 31, 2015

    Sexy Honest Conman

    I dicovered this website when i typed "I HATE MY HUSBAND" IN TO GOOGLE. I didnt think it would bring anything up, but surprise, it did. I just got of the train and sat i n the station still dumb founded from the days events. I decided to go to New York to surprise...
    shakerababy shakerababy
    22-25, F
    16 Responses Jan 1, 2010

    he's yelling again and throwing things.

    . I wish there was a way out..
    Kutya95 Kutya95
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 16

    I have hated my husband

    for years, I can't get out of this. He keeps me broke so I can't leave. He's self employed with a very very small business, one moth is good and the next isn't. He has gone through all my inheritance. We have a deal on what each other pays, since he doesn't have a good month at...
    Eggshells122 Eggshells122
    51-55
    45 Responses Jul 20, 2015

    God He makes my blood boil sometimes!

    !! I really want to scream in his face!!!! But instead I Calmly walked away with a smile from his antagonistic mind games and his BS as I know that ****** him off more hahaha.!!!!! I have to keep reminding myself that by "taking the high road" is a win for me. although his...
    Jofree Jofree
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Mar 7, 2014

    20 Years Later.....

    i met my husband in 1986.  We  married in 1994.  Everything was good until about 2 years ago.  I believe he is the root of my depression.  I really think he tries to upset me.  Right now I am not working and most  men can "step up" and...
    josie josie
    36-40, F
    21 Responses Jun 14, 2007

    well, I can't say I hate him to the point

    where I would leave him.. but there is just no spark. There is hardly any sex, and he never compromises for me. I'm getting frustrated... Angry and depressed. I don't know what to do.. I feel trapped here. I can't leave, I gave up everything to move here with this person and it...
    Kutya95 Kutya95
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 15

    I finally took him off of my bank account

    and our house is now up for sale. He is being so difficult with everything and I think he just enjoys making my life hêll. I think he likes to see me cry and stress out. I've wasted seven years of my life with this asshöle and I can't take any more. Why did I stay so long...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    11 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    Yay... I can't wait for the prospect of

    yet another empty valentines day spent alone while he is off out playing with another lump of rusting metal. What hurts the most is the knowledge that I won't even get as much as a card out of him since his niece isn't here to shame him into getting me one.
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 11

    As I lay in bed trying to watch tv,

    I look over at him snoring. With each breath, he gets louder and louder. It's like nails to a chalkboard, it makes me cringe. I decide enough is enough I nudge him to roll over but nothing. I hit him again this time with more force still nothing. I grab the tv controller and jab...
    breakingfreenflying breakingfreenflying
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 8

    Today we got into another fight,

    he threatened to break my gadgets, passport, residence permit ( i reminded him also to include our marriage contract lol) he said unless I cooperate to fix our marriage. I want out already, it's clear for me that I married the wrong guy as he is becoming more controlling...
    ObsidianSky ObsidianSky
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Jan 13

    Tantrum

    I can feel the tantrum in the air. He is going to subject my kids to his cruel behavior because he is mad that I (the employed) wont support his ( the lazy unemployed one) smoking habit. He has not even tried to get a job. It's a year this month he has lived off me. I made a...
    Whatinthellwasithinking Whatinthellwasithinking
    36-40, F
    15 Responses Nov 3, 2012

    Duper's Delight

    I absolutely love that I found this! Needless to say, the love is dead. WTF was I thinking? As I lie here, sleepless, kept awake by horrendous pig snoring noises... Everyone outside this house thinks you're great and, to them, you are. Volunteer to coach, check, Sunday school...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs
    36-40
    27 Responses Jun 14, 2009

    I am counting down the years.

    3 1/2 years until my son is graduated and off to college, and then I will leave. My most common thought about him is, "What an *******." No matter how much peace I try to make in our home, he always finds fault and needs to blame others, especially me. Constant disrespect...
    kbmead kbmead
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Mar 13

    NOT Worth It

    I too hated my husband for a very long time, fell into a deep depression over 10 years, thought this poor marriage had to be my fault. Contrire...It was him..Still hate him, he makes my life hell in little ways still, left 8 months ago, and could not be happier..I left money...
    RAINBOW RAINBOW
    41-45, F
    65 Responses May 10, 2007

    I don't have a husband

    but it's about my father whom my mum married. Their relationship is hell, and it's effect on my siblings and me. My mum is stuck with this evil, she wanted to leave him, she has no money or somewhere to stay. We also want to keep the house but he doesn't want to leave this...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 14

    Satan's Secretary

    You know how someone can upset your spirit? You know how no matter how you try to distance yourself from someone they just can’t help themselves, they have to torment you? That is what I get. A man that just does not know when to quit. Even now we are apart, he still persists...
    EbonyLady EbonyLady
    41-45, F
    28 Responses Jul 31, 2011

    I Never Thought It Would Be Me

    Greetings. I am at the stage where I  do not mind if my "husband" finds this mail. I have always considered myself warm, generous, moral, kind ,into world peace and all that but......... I am QUITE surprised about this particular emotion  I have called...
    redflower redflower
    36-40, F
    190 Responses Apr 29, 2007

    I know it's a horrible thing to say

    but I hate him. I fell in love because he was kind, caring, and generous. Now he's turned into a mean selfish person and I can't stand being in the same house. He is verbally abusive, calling me all sorts of names. I had dreams of becoming an artist and a writer, but he has...
    persondowntown persondowntown
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 21

    Me: "Hubs, why did you put your dirty towel on

    top of my laundry hamper? Please put it IN one of the laundry hampers - this is the 3rd time this week I've found stuff stacked on top of my hamper when I've asked you not to do that. Dirty laundry goes IN the hamper please. Also, please consider using your own hamper instead...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 17

    You Supposed To Be The Man

    Being married is the only dumb thing I regret mostI’am going to write it while blood is still boiling to the  thousands of degrees and not for the sake of sharing it.    Now don’t get me wrong, teachers and preachers and judge mental people stay away from this rant and don...
    TemptressKassandra TemptressKassandra
    31-35
    40 Responses Jun 3, 2012

    I've been in this group

    since 2009. It took me six years to get up the nerve, but I finally did it. I DIVORCED MY HUSBAND!!! The divorce is final. I feel like the a huge weight has been lifted from me. I wish I hadn't waited so long, but it's now over and I have no more obligation to him. YAY...
    areyoustillhere areyoustillhere
    46-50
    2 Responses Sep 26, 2015

    He is the biggest jerk ever .

    his mothers hobby is putting me down and he can't understand why I do not want to be around her ugh!!!!!!!
    pink26 pink26
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Oct 7, 2015

    Married for 11 years.

    .Third husband...He is fat...No sex with him and don't want it..He is retired...He is happy sitting all day on facebook,tv..taking a **** for hours and eating...I hate being with him...He can't understand why...I moved here 3 years ago...Hard to make close friends..Much of my day...
    Lovelyladi Lovelyladi
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 8

    God, I am sooooo tired of hearing him whine

    about how his ex wife cheated on him and left him for another man. Let's see, he is 6'4", gorgeous, built like a god, sexy as hell, educated, and RICH!! Maybe he is just a better man then you, LITTLE guy. And from what I saw at the pool party he is supremely better equipped...
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Aug 23, 2014

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    signeccaa signeccaa
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 24

    I am the maid, waitress,

    financial manager, painter, installer, laundress, cook and the only grown up who does anything. I am sick of it. I am sick of being the only adult even though he is almost 50. He still goes to his mommy and lets her pet him and shower him with praise...and of course wait on...
    IAmTheMaid IAmTheMaid
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Jun 4, 2014

    He is lying here passed out holding onto me

    and all I can think is how I would rather be any where but here. I hate that it has come to this. I hate that every day of my life is a lie. I hate pretending that everything is ok. I hate the person I am. I have lost myself in this lie that has become my life. There is no...
    bethany444 bethany444
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Sep 20, 2014

    Almost 11 years later

    and he is meaner than ever . Why do I stay here ? Oh, that's right because I'm a mother to 4 children . He knows I can't financially strive on my own . It's like he has control . He hates me , I hate him this is beyond stupid . To be told "I've wasted years on you" uh, yea...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Apr 10
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