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I Hate My Husband

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    I met my husband when I was a vulnerable 17 yr

    old. I had no self confidence and meeting him was amazing. We married 6 years later when I was 23 and have an 8 yr old and 5 yr old. I love them dearly. I'm now 34 and a completely different person. He still acts the fool whuch us embarrassing I tried telling him I've the years...
    rainebow79 rainebow79 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I dont know why i let myself go

    so far. I am with a man who i dont love for years now. First we just get along like friends, then he wanted more and me stupid, i just let him nd somehow i became his wife. I think it was pressure of society so like if ur over 20, u have to get married. Now i feel like nothing...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response May 28

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    Am finally getting the the point in my life

    where I can do something to get away from my husband. After 30 years and two terrific kids, it's time to get away from my poisonous husband. I spent too much time when our marriage began hoping things would get better and making changes to suit him. I should have listened to...
    Momo2GS Momo2GS 56-60, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    wasted my life...

    For the past couple of days I have been wondering why I have wasted so much of my life?  I have been with my husband for 13 years, married for 9.  The only joy that has come out of this marriage are my 3 beautiful children, who are truly my life.  Other than that...
    judy3kids judy3kids 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 11, 2009

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    So here goes.. I've been with my partner

    for 8 years and we haven't been Married for even a year yet and I'm hating him so much already I feel like he never wants to be home his always at work for long hours then goes to the gym for over an hour and a half every single day including weekends. Then I'm the worst...
    lostaussie lostaussie 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 16

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    I cant stand that he d doesnt understand

    that when anyone brings up his mother's name it makes my blood boil you see I invited her over for a party and as usual his mother can b not behave she sat in my dining room saying terrible things about my family this is the second time she has done this and she hurt me...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    Mine is not a husband!

    !! He's just a spouse. A husband is someone who takes care of his wife. Emotionally, physically, and everything in between. A spouse is an *******, that constantly degrades you, brings you down, and doesn't get off his *** to do a dam thing!
    fedup9742 fedup9742 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 4

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    I am the maid, waitress,

    financial manager, painter, installer, laundress, cook and the only grown up who does anything. I am sick of it. I am sick of being the only adult even though he is almost 50. He still goes to his mommy and lets her pet him and shower him with praise...and of course wait on...
    IAmTheMaid IAmTheMaid 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 4

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    He is the biggest pile of crap

    that ever was born. Today he came in screaming at the dog and the poor dog was cowered on the floor. I had my hands full trying to fix his fat *** dinner and he starts asking me where things are instead of actually looking for his lazy self. He starts yelling and would not...
    HeIsTrash HeIsTrash 36-40, F 6 Responses Jun 15

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    I'm in the same boat

    as you ladies .. I thought I met this great guy but I was wrong .. I'm now 6 months pregnant and jobless as I was wrongfully terminated from my last job. I have been fighting it with unemployment but the law is so unfair sometimes .. I have two kids from two different prior...
    idelac13 idelac13 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    I married a man 20 years ago.

    After the first 5 years the sight of him made me sick. I stuck around because i thought i had to. Ladies if you hate this man please leave them. Dont turn out like me and curse the day we meet and the day we married. I wasted 15 years of my life. I started hating the...
    gmayes9 gmayes9 51-55 6 Responses Aug 5

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    Well 40 years ago I knew what he was like,

    but he was fit, good looking and healthy and we both worked long hours so we only had the weekends. Even then I knew he would make an unbearable 50+ year old, but it seemed so far away I thought I would deal with it when it happened. I thought I would be a different person too...
    Gaaaah Gaaaah 56-60, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    So not only did my husband come home at 3 am!

    !!! He then proceeds to text me at 4am while I'm sleeping saying "I should just come in there and 'rape' you" and then sends me a pic text that says something like "**** me! Long, hard, deep, passionately,..." Blah blah. I can't believe he had the nerve to even suggest sex. We...
    Wifeneedingimprovements Wifeneedingimprovements 22-25, F 12 Responses Aug 17

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    I have been married for 18 years

    and I'm sick of seeing him everyday. He works from home so I am his fetcher. I think I should change my name to Fetch or Getthat. We have 4 fantastic children. whom I love more than I could ever love this man. When anything goes wrong its always my fault. He is volatile...
    sallyalex sallyalex 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 7

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    I'm a Mexican girl from East Los Angeles,

    California, and I now live in New Zealand. I married a Kiwi man, and it's not all that I thought it would be. I feel constantly dismissed, and I feel like my husband does not see me as an equal and puts his friends above my own needs and desires. He is also on the high-end of...
    secretsurgeon secretsurgeon 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 9

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    I love my husband but i hate him more!

    He is a huge pain in my a... He claims he works to pay the bills but when i tell him what needs to be paid he doesn't want to pay them!! I would probably get more financial help from him if i divorced him and sued him for child support.
    Unhappilymarried34 Unhappilymarried34 31-35, F 14 Responses Jun 27

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    My husband is an *******!

    !!!!!! I hate how my kids cry for him when he leaves or goes out to be with his friends!! He doesnt deserve that kind of love from them he never spends time with them never. I resent him for all the breaks he gets. I know he works hard, i know he needs time alone too but what...
    texaschick85 texaschick85 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    God, I am sooooo tired of hearing him whine

    about how his ex wife cheated on him and left him for another man. Let's see, he is 6'4", gorgeous, built like a god, sexy as hell, educated, and RICH!! Maybe he is just a better man then you, LITTLE guy. And from what I saw at the pool party he is supremely better equipped...
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 23

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    Sexy Honest Conman

    I dicovered this website when i typed "I HATE MY HUSBAND" IN TO GOOGLE. I didnt think it would bring anything up, but surprise, it did. I just got of the train and sat i n the station still dumb founded from the days events. I decided to go to New York to surprise...
    shakerababy shakerababy 22-25, F 15 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    Satan's Secretary

    You know how someone can upset your spirit? You know how no matter how you try to distance yourself from someone they just can’t help themselves, they have to torment you? That is what I get. A man that just does not know when to quit. Even now we are apart, he still persists...
    EbonyLady EbonyLady 41-45, F 31 Responses Jul 31, 2011

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    My husband just left me

    and my son said I should talk to people here about my lack of sex. I worry about my son sometimes any hi
    Lisamum46 Lisamum46 46-50, F 30 Responses May 28

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    I'm 44 years old. I have been with my husband

    for 20 years, 14 married. We have a beautiful 4 year old daughter. My husband is a raging narcissist. Nothing is his fault. Everyone else is to blame, does not support him, or in some way has betrayed him, which justifies his terrible behavior. I am the breadwinner. He is...
    ughmarriage ughmarriage 41-45 4 Responses Jul 29

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    Animal

    i just wanted to say reading u all makes me feel better. because i now no I'm not alone. and neither are you (even though it may feel like it) i want out. and I'm working on it. it takes a while to save enough money when u do not work and just go to school. but i am getting...
    fuckhim fuckhim 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 10, 2010

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    I Never Thought It Would Be Me

    Greetings. I am at the stage where I  do not mind if my "husband" finds this mail. I have always considered myself warm, generous, moral, kind ,into world peace and all that but......... I am QUITE surprised about this particular emotion  I have called...
    redflower redflower 36-40, F 186 Responses Apr 29, 2007

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    I hate my husband because he always comes first.

    His drinking comes first. His needs/wants come first. He doesn't care if I need sleep, if I'm sick, pregnant, whatever, he will badger me until he gets what he wants. I cannot believe this is my life; that this is the man I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with. Once...
    sickofthisdisrespectfuljerk sickofthisdisrespectfuljerk 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    Married to a Jerk

    I have been married for almost 14 years. I started to hate my husband about 10 years ago (when my son was born). Everything in life that goes wrong is my fault at least he sees it that way. I cannot do anything right and I am a horrible mother. He has called me fat for as...
    libbie libbie 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 30, 2008

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    I Married A Loser!

    My husband was wonderful until he quit his job in 2004 trying to become an entreprenuer.  Since then its been up and down.  Lately its been down and I wish I never married him.  He walked out on his last job in January, stays at home for 22 hours a day, never...
    ihatetlb ihatetlb 31-35, F 83 Responses Mar 9, 2010

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    My husband and I have been together

    for almost 13 years and married for 5. He has known since the beginning that I wanted children. I have a 17 y/o from a previous relationship and lost a child to SIDS before we got together. Now, I am 36 and my doctor says I am peri-menopausal. Early menopause runs through my...
    gd78 gd78 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    15 Years With A Passive-aggressive

    My soon-to-be ex husband is not a bad guy. He tries to do the right thing and so do I. I do not blame him entirely for the dissolution of our marriage as I am at fault as well. My experience with him has been rough. He always seemed to work well and function under "crises" mode...
    crystalclearvideo crystalclearvideo 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    I'm so sick of doing everything in the house

    and being told I never do anything. Or being on my feet all night trying to clean up and get my basement finished and get a nursery ready while my lazy husband sits on the couch. I need help cleaning the house, I need compassion for being 9 months pregnant, I need back massages...
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 29

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    I have big plans! I am finally ready to ask

    him to move out and file for divorce. I've spoken with an attorney. I'm even paying his moving expenses. I AM FILING FOR DIVORCE! I am so looking forward to NOT being his wife. I just KNOW I'll be so much happier not being married. I will ask him to move out tomorrow...
    areyoustillhere areyoustillhere 46-50 6 Responses Jan 10

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    I seriously feel like I am raising a child with

    a complete idiot. It's even worse because he thinks he knows everything! I feel like I'm always wanting to leave him because life should not be this unhappy. I'll talk to him about it and he will try to be nice for like a day then goes back to being a selfish a hole.
    LikeSandsThroughTheHourglass LikeSandsThroughTheHourglass 26-30 14 hrs ago

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    Duper's Delight

    I absolutely love that I found this! Needless to say, the love is dead. WTF was I thinking? As I lie here, sleepless, kept awake by horrendous pig snoring noises... Everyone outside this house thinks you're great and, to them, you are. Volunteer to coach, check, Sunday school...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 27 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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    Why do I ALWAYS get put on the back burner?

    ! My husband chooses everything over me and our kids. I'm ******* sick of it. What's love anyway, right??
    Wifeneedingimprovements Wifeneedingimprovements 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 23

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    I'm certain my husband has depression

    and is in denial. I don't think our marriage can tolerate much more. All of the kids are complaining to me about his grumpiness. I feel like he wants me to be someone I'm not. Just do what he wants/says, never disagree, be his servant. We've both become very different people...
    skcg1 skcg1 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    20 Years Later.....

    i met my husband in 1986.  We  married in 1994.  Everything was good until about 2 years ago.  I believe he is the root of my depression.  I really think he tries to upset me.  Right now I am not working and most  men can "step up" and...
    josie josie 36-40, F 21 Responses Jun 14, 2007

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    I'm So Sick of Him

    I am so sick of everything being my fault! I can't stand him and want to go right this instant! Now I'm responsible for the crappy washer and dryer, it's my fault that rent a center keeps giving us pieces of crap. He's the one who went there and got the stuff, without me. Now I'm...
    literalgal literalgal 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    Ugh my husband is being a f***ing a-hole!

    ! I hate long weekends i'd rather be at work!! 😡
    yesenia25 yesenia25 26-30, F 12 Responses Apr 18

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    23 Years of Hell

    I don't know why I have stayed married to this guy for so long, I guess you could say it is a marriage of convenience.  He has never been a good father to our two daughters, always his work came first.  I have felt like a single parent forever.  But God forbid I...
    babs45 babs45 46-50, F 19 Responses Dec 29, 2007

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    You Supposed To Be The Man

    Being married is the only dumb thing I regret mostI’am going to write it while blood is still boiling to the  thousands of degrees and not for the sake of sharing it.    Now don’t get me wrong, teachers and preachers and judge mental people stay away from this rant and don...
    TemptressKassandra TemptressKassandra 31-35 44 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    my husband ****** me

    so hard and after that said-You can't make me happy :(..,wtf with him
    icanreachyourhight icanreachyourhight 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    Not even sure where to start.

    I feel like I'm married to a stranger. To make the story shorter, we've been married for 4 years, 2 young girls, he's physically cheated on me and has had issues with ***** clubs and massage places. I have stuck by his side, as stupid as that may be. And we have been doing...
    Wifeneedingimprovements Wifeneedingimprovements 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 16

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    Today is my first post.

    Been with my husband 26 years. I'm still in love with the man I married however that man is hard to find in the man I'm with today. I'm here so someone will hear my voice. There are people in my live that I could go to, but I am embarassed & I don't know who I can trust to...
    2lostnlonley 2lostnlonley 56-60, F 8 Responses Jan 11

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    He is lying here passed out holding onto me

    and all I can think is how I would rather be any where but here. I hate that it has come to this. I hate that every day of my life is a lie. I hate pretending that everything is ok. I hate the person I am. I have lost myself in this lie that has become my life. There is no...
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    God He makes my blood boil sometimes!

    !! I really want to scream in his face!!!! But instead I Calmly walked away with a smile from his antagonistic mind games and his BS as I know that ****** him off more hahaha.!!!!! I have to keep reminding myself that by "taking the high road" is a win for me. although his...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 7

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    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 8 Responses Aug 25

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    Spent the day busy with relatives helping unpack

    and hubs had an attitude with me all day. I only know half of what he did. And there's several hours between each "thing he did" that's unaccounted for. (He has a history of being unfaithful) And of course when I ask in detail what he did, I get yelled at for asking "21...
    Wifeneedingimprovements Wifeneedingimprovements 22-25, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    after 4 years of marriage

    and a beautiful daughter out of it, i am done. i am done with being used financially, emotionally, and physically. it didn't start out this way, and i am just sad and sorry that it ended up this way. i hate him for his deceitfulness, for taking me fro granted, and for...
    kmdavid kmdavid 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 5

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    texaschick85 texaschick85 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 1

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    I Hate My Husband

      When I got together with my husband I was sixteen and I had no idea that it would put me where i am right now. When I turned seventeen he had gotten me pregnant and i split up with him before i  found out. I saw him once after i had my son. Then not again until he was...
    midnightfantisy2005 midnightfantisy2005 19-21, F 18 Responses Aug 13, 2007

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    I would like to tell my story

    and see what you think of it. Been married for 7 years. My husband is an expat living in my country. My father gave us an apartment free to live in so my husband didn't pay rent, but he has a mortgage for house to pay overseas. After 7 years, I find out my husband has no savings...
    Gretasun Gretasun 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    NOT Worth It

    I too hated my husband for a very long time, fell into a deep depression over 10 years, thought this poor marriage had to be my fault. Contrire...It was him..Still hate him, he makes my life hell in little ways still, left 8 months ago, and could not be happier..I left money...
    RAINBOW RAINBOW 41-45, F 64 Responses May 10, 2007

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    I am new to EP, and noticed there are just over

    4,000 members in this group. I was wondering out of all those people, how many have actually gotten away from their husbands and how?
    fedup9742 fedup9742 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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