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I Hate My Husband

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    And I don't use the word HATE lightly.

    He's narcissistic and the most disrespectful person I have ever known. I am trapped by my two young children. I'm not ready to give then up every second weekend... They are still babies. Does anyone else live this life??
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 30 Responses Jan 30, 2015

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    We've been married six years.

    He physically abused me the first two and lied to me about virtually everything. I never knew what was real. He calls me names and says I deserve it. He says I provoked the abuse and that it took a month of being around me to abuse me. He wrote s book and made me the bad...
    Krose77 Krose77 36-40, F 9 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    He doesn't just say things to hurt me,

    he says things to destroy me!
    quietlucy quietlucy 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 23

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    I can't handle it anymore.

    . can anyone help? He drives me crazy.. he nags me constantly, he claims constantly. .he basically tells me I'm stupid. . No patience. . Mean to my friends and son.. Tells me to get rid of them. Does not want me going anywhere and when I do. It's the major guilt trip. Calls me...
    giveusstreangth giveusstreangth 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 26

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    God He makes my blood boil sometimes!

    !! I really want to scream in his face!!!! But instead I Calmly walked away with a smile from his antagonistic mind games and his BS as I know that ****** him off more hahaha.!!!!! I have to keep reminding myself that by "taking the high road" is a win for me. although his...
    Jofree Jofree 46-50, F 7 Responses Mar 7, 2014

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    an update or vent, wuichevwr so we had a

    massive hail storm last night. leaks from light five fixtures in three different rooms. two kids still up and scared by storm. he did nothing. i ran around, grabbing towels and buckets and ringing real estate agent to advise. he then bitched we didnt know when we would have...
    caligal73 caligal73 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    Duper's Delight

    I absolutely love that I found this! Needless to say, the love is dead. WTF was I thinking? As I lie here, sleepless, kept awake by horrendous pig snoring noises... Everyone outside this house thinks you're great and, to them, you are. Volunteer to coach, check, Sunday school...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 27 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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    I never thought I would say this,

    I regret marring him so much, I feel like I ruined my life, we have nothing in common, i used to love dancing, dancing was everything for me, and now because if he's lame *** I never dance, my life is so boring by his side, he hates my dog, I had to give it to my mom, I feel so...
    Mimi7288 Mimi7288 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    My husband and i have been married

    since 2012. Everything was fine at first then we separated in 2014 the day of our child's 1st birthday. We were separated up until this September. We both dated other ppl while we were split. Everything was perfect at first. Then after about a month and half he went right back...
    Misrblemom87 Misrblemom87 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    Tantrum

    I can feel the tantrum in the air. He is going to subject my kids to his cruel behavior because he is mad that I (the employed) wont support his ( the lazy unemployed one) smoking habit. He has not even tried to get a job. It's a year this month he has lived off me. I made a...
    Whatinthellwasithinking Whatinthellwasithinking 36-40, F 17 Responses Nov 3, 2012

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    I have hated my husband

    for years, I can't get out of this. He keeps me broke so I can't leave. He's self employed with a very very small business, one moth is good and the next isn't. He has gone through all my inheritance. We have a deal on what each other pays, since he doesn't have a good month at...
    Eggshells122 Eggshells122 51-55 51 Responses Jul 20, 2015

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    I Never Thought It Would Be Me

    Greetings. I am at the stage where I  do not mind if my "husband" finds this mail. I have always considered myself warm, generous, moral, kind ,into world peace and all that but......... I am QUITE surprised about this particular emotion  I have called...
    redflower redflower 36-40, F 190 Responses Apr 29, 2007

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    Ha,Ha,i spent 5$ over what he said ,

    and my debit card is now being taken away,oh,and the T.V.Is disconnected w/ the parts gone,now i can't watch TV either.If anyone thinks i'm going to put up w/this ****,they have lost their mind.I just wish i never met him,i'm looking for work,saving money and i'm out:)I...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 30 Responses Oct 5, 2015

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    NOT Worth It

    I too hated my husband for a very long time, fell into a deep depression over 10 years, thought this poor marriage had to be my fault. Contrire...It was him..Still hate him, he makes my life hell in little ways still, left 8 months ago, and could not be happier..I left money...
    RAINBOW RAINBOW 41-45, F 66 Responses May 10, 2007

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    I cannot say with any certainty

    that I hate him. What was once a wonderfully dark romance, keeping my palms sweaty from the mystery of what was to come; is now a cold bitter place filled with resentments. I willingly gave up anything I needed to, to appease him. Nothing makes him happy not even myself or my...
    LivingDeadgirl30 LivingDeadgirl30 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    I've been in this group

    since 2009. It took me six years to get up the nerve, but I finally did it. I DIVORCED MY HUSBAND!!! The divorce is final. I feel like the a huge weight has been lifted from me. I wish I hadn't waited so long, but it's now over and I have no more obligation to him. YAY...
    areyoustillhere areyoustillhere 46-50 3 Responses Sep 26, 2015

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    I really think he's crazy.

    He screams so loud, drives crazy, tells me if I leave the "next guy" will beat me to death because I'm unbearable. Tells me to "shut the **** up" and slams the steering wheel almost daily. If I am not immediately quiet and stay quiet until he is ready for me to talk he either...
    Krose77 Krose77 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 30, 2015

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    please be careful on here ladies .

    .. I've had a few man people private message me. I am not an expert by any means but if a man is hitting on you from this particular topic board it's probably safe to safe he's looking for easy vulnerable prey and a huge red flag in my book. just be careful out there use your...
    starlight1976 starlight1976 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    Yep. I hate my annoying,

    rude, uninterested, unapologetic, narcissistic, self absorbed, ignorant, mamas boy. Can't think of a dumber thing I've ever done than marry him. He makes me want to jump off a cliff. He is THAT annoying.
    mason2x mason2x 36-40 6 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    God, I am sooooo tired of hearing him whine

    about how his ex wife cheated on him and left him for another man. Let's see, he is 6'4", gorgeous, built like a god, sexy as hell, educated, and RICH!! Maybe he is just a better man then you, LITTLE guy. And from what I saw at the pool party he is supremely better equipped...
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 23, 2014

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    So I found out a few days ago he has been

    sneaking into my purse and stealing my credit card. He spends hundreds of dollars on himself on stupid things and has completely drained our savings. I don't have $20 to my name at this point. We will probably end up losing our house. He has said before that he won't stop...
    sansastark12 sansastark12 22-25, F 34 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    He is the biggest jerk ever .

    his mothers hobby is putting me down and he can't understand why I do not want to be around her ugh!!!!!!!
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 7, 2015

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    Today we got into another fight,

    he threatened to break my gadgets, passport, residence permit ( i reminded him also to include our marriage contract lol) he said unless I cooperate to fix our marriage. I want out already, it's clear for me that I married the wrong guy as he is becoming more controlling...
    ObsidianSky ObsidianSky 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 13

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    So my dead car has been sitting in Visitors

    Parking of the condo where we live for a few months. I've been saving the money needed to tow it out of there and have it fixed... While I assume it was likely annoying my neighbours, most know me and have expressed empathy and understanding to me in regards to it's presence...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 52 Responses Sep 26, 2015

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    I know hate is a strong word

    and it ebbs and flows but tonight I hate him. Everything about him. I have terrible thoughts about what I wish would happen to him. Tomorrow I will feel the guilt of it but tonight I will dream of a life without him as my husband and pray I am strong enough to make it happen.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 29, 2015

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    You Supposed To Be The Man

    Being married is the only dumb thing I regret mostI’am going to write it while blood is still boiling to the  thousands of degrees and not for the sake of sharing it.    Now don’t get me wrong, teachers and preachers and judge mental people stay away from this rant and don...
    TemptressKassandra TemptressKassandra 31-35 42 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Things seem tolerable

    and then back he demeans you.
    clmr33 clmr33 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    Sometimes I wish I could go back in time

    and just walk away from my husband after our first date.
    typsygypsy typsygypsy 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 31, 2015

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    Making Peace with Your Past: Choosing

    Forgiveness Are you haunted by something that happened in your past? Whether someone wronged you or you made a decision you regret, Dr. Phil says that forgiveness is what you do for yourself, not for other people. When you forgive, it doesn't mean that you approve of what's...
    Q2013 Q2013 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    I am a 32 years old and I need help.

    ...I have been separated from my husband of 6 years for about 5 months,, i am so confused because I miss him so much but when he is near me I can't stand him..He has been a selfish, self center, baby...a year after we get married le left me to go back to his country to take care...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses a week ago

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    I am the maid, waitress,

    financial manager, painter, installer, laundress, cook and the only grown up who does anything. I am sick of it. I am sick of being the only adult even though he is almost 50. He still goes to his mommy and lets her pet him and shower him with praise...and of course wait on...
    IAmTheMaid IAmTheMaid 36-40, F 6 Responses Jun 4, 2014

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    Everything he does proves his lack of respect

    for me. Tonight he took dinner out of the oven and ran across the street to get three things from the store. It was literally right across the street. Like, walk out the front door, cross a one lane road and walk through the front door of the shop. This was an hour ago. He...
    Krose77 Krose77 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 23

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    He criticizes my cooking.

    If I'm cooking and he thinks I am doing it wrong he gets so angry his face turns red. Yes, he abuses me and I know I need to get out. Try not to judge me, leaving us much easier said than done.
    Krose77 Krose77 36-40, F 8 Responses Jan 2

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    Yay... I can't wait for the prospect of

    yet another empty valentines day spent alone while he is off out playing with another lump of rusting metal. What hurts the most is the knowledge that I won't even get as much as a card out of him since his niece isn't here to shame him into getting me one.
    LoneSouls LoneSouls 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I guess that one headset free day is too much

    to ask for these days? It's always the same with him... if he isn't watching something that involves rape or murder, then he's making stupid noises to get on my nerves. Today, he's clicking his tongue and clanging his rolling machine against a metal tray. Looks like I'm stuck...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls 31-35, F Jan 27

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    I've been married to him

    for a year and 7 months and been together for 2 years before marriage. We both are from two different countries. And we are still in a long distance relationship. Things were quite good at first unless i found out about this other lady with two children (still confused who's...
    nish43 nish43 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    He promised to love me,

    he gave his word and I was young and dumb enough to truly believe he actually meant it.
    quietlucy quietlucy 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    20 Years Later.....

    i met my husband in 1986.  We  married in 1994.  Everything was good until about 2 years ago.  I believe he is the root of my depression.  I really think he tries to upset me.  Right now I am not working and most  men can "step up" and...
    josie josie 36-40, F 21 Responses Jun 14, 2007

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    I finally took him off of my bank account

    and our house is now up for sale. He is being so difficult with everything and I think he just enjoys making my life hêll. I think he likes to see me cry and stress out. I've wasted seven years of my life with this asshöle and I can't take any more. Why did I stay so long...
    sansastark12 sansastark12 22-25, F 15 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    Let me start off by saying I am a mom to a 2

    year old. I am in school twice a week for 3 and a half hours and I work once a week for 5 hours. The rest of the time i am a stay at home mom. so I am pretty busy... I also do everything around the house and for our daughter... all the cooking, cleaning, (hubs won't even...
    theprincessteph theprincessteph 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have always dreamed of having one of those

    husbands that would die for me. That loved me so much and had nothing but nice, beautiful things to say about me. To be my knight in shining armor. To defend me and have my back. I could have made someone else so happy, someone who deserves me. I get so jealous and depressed...
    Scarletcharlotte Scarletcharlotte 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 31

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    15 Years With A Passive-aggressive

    My soon-to-be ex husband is not a bad guy. He tries to do the right thing and so do I. I do not blame him entirely for the dissolution of our marriage as I am at fault as well. My experience with him has been rough. He always seemed to work well and function under "crises" mode...
    crystalclearvideo crystalclearvideo 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    I know he won't do anything

    for me tomorrow for Valentine's Day/Wedding Anniversary. But talks about doing something big next weekend since he bought himself a new car today. I don't know if I'm being bitchy but I don't want to celebrate anything next weekend, it doesn't work that way. For my birthday he...
    drainedalltheJOY drainedalltheJOY 26-30, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    He is lying here passed out holding onto me

    and all I can think is how I would rather be any where but here. I hate that it has come to this. I hate that every day of my life is a lie. I hate pretending that everything is ok. I hate the person I am. I have lost myself in this lie that has become my life. There is no...
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 8 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    I always write stories about how unhappy i am

    with him.It's a love/hate relationship.He is a controlling a**hole,and i finally exploded on him last night.Once again,telling me step by step what i should do,being dis respectful,the same old crap,so i FINALLY went off on him.See ,i don't work,but i will in September when my 5...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 53 Responses Mar 19, 2015

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