I Hate My Husband Forum & Chat Board | When they a literally crazy???!!!!

So what do you do when you A** husbands rewrites the history if his behavior - that is become mythology? No he never called me a c***, when drunk showed me into walls or aimed punches at my face stopping just short of contact, been wasted at every holiday, and gave nothing of his salary to support his son for 3 years. I am just making it all up - because it's fun thinking about someone treating you badly - you wish you coukd take a baseball bat to their head. I am now sleeping with a bad next to my bed, just for precaution. The SOB will never physically bully me again. It's been time to divorce for a looking time! The fantasy world these men create, where they are really great guy
is Unrecognizable from the monster I live with daily. The worst is the evil smile after they've humiliated or hurt you. You all know that grin. The one that says I can behave any way I like - I am above any laws but my own.
I truly wish he'd have a heart attack. But Evil people seem to live the longest.
Any advice on how to not let the lies bother me so much - that I am enraged!!! Bad enough he did these abusive things to begin with - but he is not one to aopologize - as he's decided he never did these things. Thank god for police reports.
Hope, pray - I've reached the point where poverty scares me less then living with a crazy abusive drunk any longer. It's been two days of WWIII. When I suggested divorce - again - his response was "I'll financially ruin him." As you can see - blame in the sentence and avoidance of the real issue. Hate, loathing, repulsion, none of these words are strong enough to express what I think about him.

 

I wish I had an answer for you. I'm dealing with a similar situation. My husband is delusional and completely unable to interact rationally. He lies about what he says and changes the facts around in situations in order to make things more favorable for him. You'd think he thought a video camera was filming everything and he is trying not to admit to anything that can be documented. He obviously knows things didn't happen the way he professes but it doesn't stop him from living in his own little reality where he has done 'nothing wrong' and I am crazy. He has made statements during arguments such as "I do a lot around here. You're the one who is lazy." Then when I go over the laundry list of things that I have done that day or week and contrast it with what he hasn't done he denies, denies, denies, then I point how clearly inaccurate he is. At this point he acknowledges that it happened the way I said but completely cancels that out by saying "yeah, okay... but so what?" It drives me crazy. So what? I'll tell you 'so what'- your whole argument was based on your twisted distortion of reality. I get angry just thinking about it.

 

I know the feeling too well. You want to diagnose them with something because you think they are psychotic in what they think is really going on, but know they would use that as an excuse for their behavior.  I've been looking up alot of info regarding people with Narcissistic personality disorder, and since then its almost given me answers for the person i've been dealing with and while i may not 'diagnose' him with that the fact i don't feel alone in dealing with this type of person, and it describes him to a T in sooooooo many ways it actually has become funny,  it's made me feel so much more sane and made me not want to argue with him anymore about anything because these types of people are lost causes. Unless they can work it out on their own, they will never ever get it.

 

I can't take it. A therapist, a cop, and another "professional" have all suggested he get the exact same time of help. Of course in his mind they are all crazy and he is sane. The worst is in a divorce - you can not put you kid(s) in a dangerous situation. This sadly includes being along with daddy. I want them to have time together but I also have to know my child is safe! Right now I can not trust soon to be ex to put down the booze and be a sober father!

 

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I read every book I could find on emotional abuse but narcissism fixes in their too on a large way!!! On the one hand I feel good to finally be getting away, but that I have to stay living with this delusional man until the house sells (in a recession) I feel sick! Just want to move forward and how do you do that if you still have to share a roof with the man who calls you a foul name one moment and the next says your a liar??? Have lived 15 Years without love and 12 with utter nutty. Crave real love from a sane person so much I cry about it. I think most human's want to hear "I love you" from someone who means it and is emotionally capable of love.