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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    Not Mil But Whole Family - Not Hatred But Uneasy Feeling

    about 18 mos after my failed marriage to a man AND his mother from hell, i began to date again.  i met a great guy.  we hit it off amazingly.  as a matter of fact, in my adult life i'd not ever 'hit it off' quite like that before.  we both knew instantly...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 7 Responses May 27, 2007

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    Where Do I Begin...i Am Tired of Trying!!

    I have been married for 13 years to a wonderful man who was very emotionally messed up when we met.  I have always gone out of my way to make the In Law's feel welcome and loved.  I send cards for every holiday, birthday, anniversary and gifts.  I make sure they...
    jlkenny jlkenny 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2007

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    ...but My Father-in-law Is Worse!

    My mother-in-law was livid when she heard I was pregnant and told us not to tell anyone else.  At a family party (his family) that week, we told.  Well, we were thrilled:  who wouldn't be?  Not her, for a start.  As we were leaving, a cat leapt off a...
    alfeen alfeen 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    I have seen and heard from a lot of people that

    once you have children your MIL becomes worse. Even talking about her makes me so angry. I've never had one person make me so mad and have so much hate. My husband and I married back in October and everyone is asking when are we going to have kids. All I can think about is how I...
    redhead8 redhead8 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 14

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    Hate is a strong word.

    I'm working on not hating her but in fact, loving her. When I met my husband, I was instantly attracted and won over by his vibrant personality. Also, I loved how he talked so well of his mom. When I finally met his mom, I instantly fell in love with her. She's so sweet, serves...
    KTQJQ KTQJQ 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    12 things I observed about my in laws: 1.

    Inability to recognize and accept change in family relations and dynamics. Your son/brother has new priorities; his wife has taken the position of being first in his life ahead of mother, youngest sister and his family of origin. His wife is now his priority and number one in...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    Sunshinegal4u Sunshinegal4u 26-30, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    It has been a while not to say

    that our relationship has become rosie, but rather the amount nor time I spend with the in-laws has dwindled to non existent. So I have had nothing to vent. However now there is a new baby in the family (SIL) so we have been seeing that side of the family more. Time spent in...
    skip79 skip79 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 37 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    I can't stand my mil,

    where do I start, we got along before I had my first son 2 and half years ago,the thing that really annoyed back then was her youngest son,there is a 10 year age gap between my partner and his sister,he was always put before them,he is a very troubled boy/man(he is 21 now) he...
    jrg777 jrg777 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    Conversation with CIL This post is a follow up

    to EP Link I changed all names for privacy reasons but left the conversation in tact. This was via Whatsapp: 9:32, 2014/4/2 - You: Hello CIL, this is Zola, DH's fiancee. Hw r u doin? Do send me a response when u can, I need 2 share some details wit u. Have a blessed n...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 10

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    I guess now my hatred has just grown to

    complete indifference, I really couldn't care either way about this woman now. After all she's put us through for the past nearly 3 years, the lack of communication and blatantly obvious plays to try and turn DH against me, turning DH's siblings against him, not caring about...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 28 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    I unfortunately live with my mil.

    have been for at least 4 years. when I moved it wasn't something I wanted to do but I was pregnant and already had a daughter. my husband is an only child and his mom is having health issues. some she can't help others due to her not doing anything to make her health any...
    toirenee3 toirenee3 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    so my husband just informed me

    that my MIL told him that his ex was gonna move back to PA and she offered to let this ex stay at her house for a week to get a feel of PA. ughh.. what do you guys think? they only dated for like a week or 2.
    AngelicInnocence92 AngelicInnocence92 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 5

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    Ranking your MIL Who told in laws

    that they are relationship experts? My misguided MIL, SIL and CIL all seem to believe that they are the authority on relationships and know what's best for everyone else with the exception of themselves. Interestingly, none of them have any relationships to talk about, MIL is...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    In 2011 I found out my husband was having an

    affair. I filed for divorce. We had been together 29 yrs and raised 2 children. Our children were naturally upset. My mother-in-laws comment to my children was, "You are grown, you don't need your father any more." "He has a new family now". It has been 3 yrs and my children...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 5 Responses Jan 15

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    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    You think you MIL is bad,

    you should have mine. 10 minutes with this witch and you will be begging to have yours back She is the devils spawn. Horrible horrible, nasty old woman. Just like her ******* son, who I married unfortunately. They are both alcoholics, both love starting fights, always downing...
    kel619 kel619 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 10

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    Hey DIL’s, I know that we are living in the

    age of information technology; but if you aren’t on good terms with your in laws, do not add them to your social media accounts. If you already have them and they are acting up it may be best to block or remove them. Cyber bullying has become a new art form for in laws to...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Counting down! 12 weeks to go!

    !! Woo hoo!!! My husband, son, and I are finally preparing to move out of our apartment leaving his mother behind as we return back to our home state (13 hour drive away from my MIL-PRAISE GOD!!!). I never thought the day would come. I wrote my first story of my MIL and how...
    zamlee zamlee 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 24 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    I don't hate my mother in law I just hate the

    things she does and says. I hate how she always has the last word I hate that how she always thinks she's a perfect mother when she didn't even raise her own son(my husband) she left him so that he could be raised by her mother. right now we're at the store and she knows I'm...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 19 Responses May 6, 2007

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    I hate my mother-in-law.

    Yep, it's official. My husband and I have been married for a year (and were together for 5 years prior to marrying) but she never really warmed up to me. My husband has a kid with his ex girlfriend (who is also married) but the mother in law is much much nicer to her than she...
    blythe19 blythe19 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 21

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    Im so glad to have found a place to vent!

    I am so bitter against my MIL. Long story short: In the beginning of my marriage (5 yrs now) I treated my MIL as I do my mother. We were very close to the point that people could not understand it. Until I disobeyed my husband and asked her to live with us-to care for our 2yr...
    zamlee zamlee 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    My mother in law is a flip flopper.

    One minute she is acting like my friend and then the next minute she is undermining me about something. You see, I'm African American and my husband is Albanian. Getting married was a big culture shock for me. In the beginning of my marriage, my MIL began with putting me down...
    antique10 antique10 26-30, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Mother'S Day Is For Both Mother'S &Amp; MIL'S

    I decided to write something about the pending Mother's Day that is approaching and wish to share some thoughts about it. To all Mother's & MIL's: Please MIL's realize that Mother's Day is for all mothers. Us women try so hard daily to care for our families, see our mothers...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses May 9, 2013

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    My husband and I have been together a little

    over 5 years (married only 7 months). This is my second marriage. I have two children from my previous marriage, now 15 & 13. He welcomed them with open arms. They have a great relationship and he considers them his own. Their biological dad sees them one or twice a week and is...
    doobiemom321 doobiemom321 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 9

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    Do I Hate My Mil?

    i've read all the awful things mil's have done and not sure how to explain the pain i've received from my mil and sil. their not like alot of the stories i've read. they don't ever come out and say awful things to me. it's unbelievable how i'm sooo hurt that i feel hate. i...
    nomotherlove nomotherlove 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    MIL’s Latest Tricks

    Well, where to start huh :-) My name is Kelly and I Hate My Mother In Law, who actually isnt my mother-in-law yet and probably won't ever be if my situation doesnt improve somehow. I met my soldier in 2004 and knew he was the one, I fell fast with our first child in January...
    kellyfromnewcastle kellyfromnewcastle 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2007

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    MIL thinks I should go to work,

    take care of kids, clean the house, drive children everywhere, etc without the husbands help. like hell no. I need husbands help. luckily my husband disagrees. he doesn't want me to work. I don't want to work. lol. I'm perfectly fine with being a stay at home mother...
    AngelicInnocence92 AngelicInnocence92 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 25

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    I'm from India and my husband is from America

    and we have been married 18 years now. In the beginning she told my husband not to marry me because 'you never know where she comes from' although she knows I am a medical doctor. During our honeymoon, she will call everyday to make sure he is still alright that I will not kill...
    yellowrose2015 yellowrose2015 41-45, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    Even when she tries to help she makes a bigger

    mess and more work than there would have been had she minded her own business. Keep having talks with the hubby about it, and his response the other night was "look at my mom as practice for our children, if you can be patient with her, you can be patient with anyone". I'm...
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    I Hate My Mother In Law!!

        I hate my mother in law i hate her always butting in when my husband and i are talking, ive started when she buts in on us talking i tell her i was talking to don i wonder does she think shes married to her son i stay in my jail cell (my bedroom) when will...
    THEGOODTWIN THEGOODTWIN 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 21-25, F 66 Responses