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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 23 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    So my boyfriend left

    for basic training to go into the army about a week ago, meaning he hasn't been able to call or text or have any access to his phone at all. Right when he got off the the plane he called me to say that he loves me and whatnot, and asked me to send his regards to his family as he...
    Bonneyshattuck Bonneyshattuck 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 15

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 16 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    Hello I am new to this site.

    I'm nervous and anxious and I cry nearly every day. I've been feeling this way for 2 years. I'm here today to ask mother in laws to read my story, and please give me you're honest advice on what you think I should do.. I literally don't know how I could go on.. I am a 30 year...
    kayepx kayepx 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 29

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    I really need to vent right now.

    ... everyday she abuses me directly or indirectly...for the sake of peace i keep quiet and dont react to her and talk nicely to her...but she always put me down....as i am preparing for higher studies i try to ignore everything and concentrate on my studies...but she dont want me...
    mimid12 mimid12 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 24

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    My husband believes the issues between my

    mother in law and I are my fault because I am "hard to talk to". I have been married since june but together a little over a year with a 4 month old and he has a 9 year old from a previous relationship. The house we live in was bought by his father after he and his mother...
    ShannonKV ShannonKV 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 27

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    I am a nature lover. I love watching couples in

    the animal kingdom, so heart warming. I live in Canada and I have a pair of northern cardinals who come to my feeder every evening to have a quiet meal together. Never once have I seen a MIL hanging around squawking at them. Maybe that's why they appear so content. Wishing you...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Jun 26

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 18-21, F 66 Responses May 4, 2007

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    Yes, I hate my "MIL".

    .. She is nowhere near nice to me, manipulates my boyfriend and takes advantage of him. BUT... my "FIL" is pretty screwed up himself, which also scares me. From the bits and pieces I've been told, he was very abusive to his wife and kids (my bf). He and the evil MIL have not...
    CabanaCrush CabanaCrush 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    My ex mother-in-law was a major contributing

    factor to the destruction of my first marriage (I'm happily married to a different woman now, and my new mother-in-law is MUCH better). I won't say that my ex mother-in-law CAUSED our breakup, because she didn't, but she was just one more negative aspect that hastened the...
    SomewhatJaded SomewhatJaded 26-30, M 6 Responses Aug 18

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    I'm recently married.

    I'd only met my MIL once before, & she seemed nice. She wasn't overly friendly or anything, but not rude or unkind, either. A surprise pregnancy led me to quit my job, take my kids, & move across country to be with my husband. His mom proposed (insisted) we live with her so...
    lulabelle138 lulabelle138 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 25

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    My husband recently made the decision

    that going to his brothers wedding and pretending that there is some sort of family harmony wasn't something he wanted to participate in. This was reinforced by us having to call the sheriff 3 times in one weekend to resolve her loose vicious dogs the weekend before the wedding...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 22

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 25

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    My mother-in-law would often brag she was the

    best cook ever. The women never used spices at all when cooking. There were 4 of us daughter-in-laws gathered in her kitchen for a Thanksgiving meal. My mother-in-law was in "Big Brag" mode and was tooting her own horn. She put something in the microwave and was bragging away...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 4 Responses May 16

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    My mother in law is the worst person I have

    ever come across on. She is an evil manipulative *****. She has never liked me (nor any woman that was involved in my husband's life). She has tried multiple times to sabotage our relationship, even tried to get my husband's ex to jump me! She believes I am the worst wife ever...
    Hannahmikel Hannahmikel 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 13

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    Enforced gratitude. Within a family people do

    some nice things to each other, for birthdays, anniversaries, season´s holidays ... and in everyday life. This is nice, but the motives are not always nice. When I send a jar of homemade jam or some tomatoes from my garden or I just buy my best friend a funny card, I don´t...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 6

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    Hate seems like a really strong word but.

    .. no, I actually do. Mine drives me crazy. She lives with us. She'll never leave us alone. To be honest, she makes me feel really claustrophobic. When she's in a good mood, she's a smelly alcoholic who loves nothing better than to gossip about her neighbors while I'm working...
    grenadoman grenadoman 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 5

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    I don't hate my fiancée mom

    but she sure does hate my guts for no apparent reason. My boyfriend recently went into the Navy and his mom was telling him are you sure you want to be with this woman you're going to meet a lot of new people and she thinks that it's bad that I had a baby with another guy and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 2

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 20 Responses May 6, 2007

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    I haven't responded in ages,

    but feel like I have to vent. My husband and I went to visit mil last week. After many months of not visiting her, I caved in and gave in to hubby's persuasion. I noticed Mil is still up to her old tricks, every time I have visited her she calls my Brother In Law (hubby's...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 21

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    I've never liked to use the word hate.

    Not many people have made this list until now! Technically she is not my mother in law, she is my boyfriend's mother, and she makes me horribly mad. I've been with my boyfriend for three and a half years, he is wonderful. Perfect in every way and I adore him. He tells me that...
    rebekahmh rebekahmh 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 30

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 27 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    My Monster In Law works at Macy's.

    She had some clothes fall onto her while at work. She is fine except for some bruises. She is constantly calling/texting my husband for money and to run chores for her because she is so terribly injured she can't work or bare the strength to do anything. Thank the lord I am in...
    Hannahmikel Hannahmikel 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 40 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    I guess now my hatred has just grown to

    complete indifference, I really couldn't care either way about this woman now. After all she's put us through for the past nearly 3 years, the lack of communication and blatantly obvious plays to try and turn DH against me, turning DH's siblings against him, not caring about...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    my MIL has called me big

    and has made rude comments about my pregnancy size...this is my second one..she knows I'm not having twins but ask if I was ...I feel that she is my MIL I have to hold my tongue out of respect for my husband...who tells me to let it go...but I can't its hard
    r3dclover r3dclover 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    As I've been finding my footing

    after a toxic dose of MIL, I have found it necessary to make some promises to myself moving forward. I'll share them in case someone else can benefit from my train of thought. PROMISES I promise to... Always feel worthy of respect, even in the presence of those who can’t...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 9 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    That woman drives the biggest wedge between us.

    As of things aren't rocky enough without her meddling. You had your time with him, lady. Kindly step aside and LET HIM GROW UP ALREADY.
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I always thought that a man

    who treated his mother well would be the guy to marry. Unfortunately I have found this out the hard way. I started dating James, and from the start, I have felt that I stole my mother in law's boyfriend. It is like the reverse of the Oedipus complex. My mother in law is in love...
    tarabull tarabull 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    We all learned how things are from the

    environment we grew up in. My MIL learned to manipulate to get what she wanted because her father made it so he wasn’t approachable, so she learned this trick to get what she wanted. Perhaps she witnessed her mother manipulating to get what she wanted. She’s had a lifetime...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 5 Responses Jul 25

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    So I have written on here before.

    . I think like most, I do it to vent because the crap that is pulled is just insane.. Before I decided to write, I read a lot of post on here, some old some new.. Ladies, we have a lot of needy, sociopathic women out there that we have to call our MIL's. My word. I will always be...
    bekah930 bekah930 46-50 6 Responses May 10

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    It's MIL's birthday on Monday.

    I suggested we buy her a gift certificate for the hair salon she uses, he's taking her to dinner as well. My partner tells me his plan is to buy some caviar and extra special treats and set up a picnic for her and him. So I say "she'll love that, a date with her son!" and he...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Jul 31

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    okay so ive never really gotten along with my

    mother in law it was rocky at first and it seemed like that after i had my son Donnie things just got steadly worse and worse. She seems to think that she has the right to tell me how to raise my son and how to take care of him. i may not be the mother of the year but. i am a...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 5

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    My evil MIL once asked me,

    "If my son and I were drowning, and you can only save one person, who would it be?" I responded, "I can't swim, so you're both screwed." Fake laughter ensued, "But seriously, who would you save if you COULD swim?" Without a skipping a beat, I responded, "My husband" She...
    NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt 31-35, F 3 Responses May 25

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    My mother-in-law was an RN nurse

    for around 30 yrs. She let it be know she knew everything about medicine. There were 3 of us daughter-in-laws. MY one sister-in-law had 6 children. MY mother-in-law always lectured on how we took our children to the doctor's to much. She figured she'd tell you when they needed...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 5 Responses Mar 14

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 25 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    http://www.fortrefuge.

    com/Emotional-Abuse-Narcissistic-Mothers.html I am amazed that my MIL's picture is not displayed on this site. If you take the time to read it you may wonder why yours isn't up there. It's like a social anthropologist has had a hidden blind in my MIL's home for the past 60...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    okay so ive written like 4 stories in this

    group concerning my mother in law Linda Maxwell and the things she likes to do, used to do to me, and what she is currently trying to do to me. so heres an update. a couple of weeks ago(around the beginning of August) Linda locked me and my son in a car and refused to take us...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Affirmations For Every Troubled Daughter In Law, With Love!

    I believe what we think, we become. The last thing I want to become is a grumpy old lady (like some people we know right??) Repeat after me: I spend my time with people who love and respect me. I lovingly release anyone who doesn't have my best interests at heart, with a...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    I Hate My Mother In Law!!

        I hate my mother in law i hate her always butting in when my husband and i are talking, ive started when she buts in on us talking i tell her i was talking to don i wonder does she think shes married to her son i stay in my jail cell (my bedroom) when will...
    THEGOODTWIN THEGOODTWIN 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Going through this MIL issue has been very much

    like peeling back the layers for me. At the crux of the conflict with my MIL I could easily blame her for everything wrong in my relationship. And in reality, if I go to root causes, she does take the prize. But someone made her this way, and someone made that person a certain...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Aug 23

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
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