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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    So I have written on here before.

    . I think like most, I do it to vent because the crap that is pulled is just insane.. Before I decided to write, I read a lot of post on here, some old some new.. Ladies, we have a lot of needy, sociopathic women out there that we have to call our MIL's. My word. I will always be...
    bekah930 bekah930 46-50 7 Responses May 10

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    I've posted here before about how my husband

    kids and I stayed with mil and she was totally horrible to us. she would slam things, get mad when I cooked my kids food, go through my husbands and my text messages, go in our room and take things out, including the restroom doors off the hinges, spread rumors and talk about...
    yesitsme123 yesitsme123 31-35 43 mins ago

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 38 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    She's stealing from my home!

    To elaborate, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, I've never liked his mother in law. She's 50 in perfect health, lives in a single wide trailer and doesn't work and single. She gets by in life by having her 80 year old mother pay for her expenses. She has every excuse in...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 25

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    i I don't hate her I just can't stand her

    sometimes!!! I bump heads with her daily its exhausting. we think so differently and I think we both hate to be wrong so in discussions about nonsense we can go at it and get heated quickly. I hate talking or thinking about religion and she loooves her catholic mind set. she...
    crazy4love crazy4love 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 28

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    One time when my MIL was living with us - I

    planned on cooking my meat dish. It takes like 4 hours of prep time to get that dish all together. Cognac is one of the ingredients for that dish. I only use 1 Tbsp so it took me like 15 years to go through my first bottle. The night before I was gathering all of the...
    NOWHealing NOWHealing 61-65, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    Just a word of encouragement

    for all of you tortured souls. My husband broke his leg this summer. Mild fracture but laid up for a while. His mother came bleating to my door. I was very kind. Let her visit him by going to the bedroom window and talking to him through that. Best part of it. Husband found it...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 21, 2014

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    My mother in law and sister in law really do

    the most! I am so fed up of them I wished there was a place I could banish them to, never to be seen again. As indicated in the previous story (http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Hate-My-Mother-In-Law/5773371), my husband and I are now residing in our house. The same house...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 9 Responses May 7

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Through the yrs my Mother-in-law has done some

    pretty nasty things. But it seems like as the years go by the level of her nastiness comes to light more and more. My daughter is a grown women now. We stopped at a restaurant for some lunch. The waitress brought a container with vinegar and oil for our salads. My...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 7 Responses May 10

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    My mother-in-law would often brag she was the

    best cook ever. The women never used spices at all when cooking. There were 4 of us daughter-in-laws gathered in her kitchen for a Thanksgiving meal. My mother-in-law was in "Big Brag" mode and was tooting her own horn. She put something in the microwave and was bragging away...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 18-21, F 65 Responses May 4, 2007

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    ...but My Father-in-law Is Worse!

    My mother-in-law was livid when she heard I was pregnant and told us not to tell anyone else.  At a family party (his family) that week, we told.  Well, we were thrilled:  who wouldn't be?  Not her, for a start.  As we were leaving, a cat leapt off a...
    alfeen alfeen 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    I don't know what to do.

    I have to sit down and have a talk with my MIL, FIL, and fiance in a day or two. Why? Because she wants to tell me some "concerns" she has with me and my relationship with her son. Oh, ya: and she wants to do it 90 days before the wedding. I am angry. Livid at times...
    IRealizedVienna IRealizedVienna 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 30

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    I Hate My Mother In Law!!

        I hate my mother in law i hate her always butting in when my husband and i are talking, ive started when she buts in on us talking i tell her i was talking to don i wonder does she think shes married to her son i stay in my jail cell (my bedroom) when will...
    THEGOODTWIN THEGOODTWIN 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 19 Responses May 6, 2007

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    I hate it when she buts in my discussions with

    my daughter I try so hard to desipline her my way but the lady comes and freaking tells her the opposite!!!! I am so pissed off right now its not even funny I just went to pick up my daughter from school cause she had a tummy ache I looked at my girl and told her if u feel sick...
    crazy4love crazy4love 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 30

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    Have you ever had a moment

    where it comes back to haunt you? Have you ever had a moment where you felt hurt, and rage at the same time? Have you ever had a moment where you felt defeated, and hopeless? Have you ever had a moment where you finally came to realise that there is evil in this world, and you...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 5 Responses May 11

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    My mother-in-law and Father-in-law owned 120

    acre farm. The barn was pretty fantastic. It was 3 stories with an elevator up the middle. My sister-in-law lived in the older farm house next door. She had 6 children. My mother-in-law would gimp around saying she was to crippled up to do farm chores. She'd guilt the...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I don't actually hate my mother in law.

    .. I just don't want to see her face so often! She insists on buying these extravagant gifts for our little family (doesn't sound so bad, right?), but there are always strings attached. The strings are that she has to pick everything, argue with you if you say it's too much...
    MadelineShasta MadelineShasta 26-30, F 2 Responses May 12

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    I wanted to wish all the ladies

    and gentlemen a Happy Thanksgiving and a stress free day! My prayer to those who will be sharing tomorrow with their MIL's. Lord give strength where it is needed when the MIL makes a negative comment about the turkey, we know then that they must really like it! Lord give...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    Update: After going no contact

    for over a year, now mil wants me to include her in my life. I lived with her for two years, and she made my life a living hell. She psychologically abused me, and I was on the verge of separating from my husband at that time. It's funny how things have turned out, two years ago...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 8

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    Update to my in laws wanting to visit our home.

    My previous story (http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Hate-My-Mother-In-Law/5797843#reply_7961789) occurred on Monday, ironically one month after we moved in. My husband and I spent the remainder of the week sulking at each other and not exactly living in loving...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 2 Responses May 8

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    MIL’s Latest Tricks

    Well, where to start huh :-) My name is Kelly and I Hate My Mother In Law, who actually isnt my mother-in-law yet and probably won't ever be if my situation doesnt improve somehow. I met my soldier in 2004 and knew he was the one, I fell fast with our first child in January...
    kellyfromnewcastle kellyfromnewcastle 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2007

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    Affirmations For Every Troubled Daughter In Law, With Love!

    I believe what we think, we become. The last thing I want to become is a grumpy old lady (like some people we know right??) Repeat after me: I spend my time with people who love and respect me. I lovingly release anyone who doesn't have my best interests at heart, with a...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    So today is my day off,

    my man tells me the mother in law is on her way over to hang out. I went in the back yard and started repairing these wooden benches(I did this to get away from her) the project consumed me. She tried to make small talk with her"quips" but I hammered away, wiping sweat off my...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I guess now my hatred has just grown to

    complete indifference, I really couldn't care either way about this woman now. After all she's put us through for the past nearly 3 years, the lack of communication and blatantly obvious plays to try and turn DH against me, turning DH's siblings against him, not caring about...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    Okay so if you guys have kept up to date with

    my stories you know that I've had many many problems with my mother inlaw. well today she pissed me off even more than usual. she's been taking pictures of my house like I went over to my house tester day cuz she wanted me to help her send some photos to someone from her fone...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 7 Responses May 14

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    So I have to explain one thing first.

    We have no contact with the in-laws at our home. They aren't allowed in. Years ago my husband lets his mom handle all his banking, bills , mail etc so she has/had not only his personal information but access to all of his accounts. After marriage I insisted that stop. My In...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 6 Responses May 6

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 28 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 83 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    I'm here on my couch stressed wanting to cry

    holding on to an anger that i really want to let go of but have no one to talk to, and I can't run as i wish to do because I'm 7mths pregnant. I hate having my MIL she makes me angry just by looking at her she makes me go nuts with every stupid comment she makes just to get her...
    crazy4love crazy4love 22-25, F 7 Responses May 5

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 25 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    I've only been married

    for a few weeks and my MIL didn't show her true colors until after we were married. Now she is backstabbing and trying to put a wedge between us. I've already considered divorce. This is not what I signed up for.
    notinmydeck notinmydeck 31-35, F 5 Responses May 6

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    I don't even know where to begin.

    I got married 3 years ago and only few months into my marriage her true colours started showing. She hates me. She hated me since day one. I haven't done anything to her. I wish I had known before what she was like, I would never have gotten married to her son. But she faked it...
    Faith89 Faith89 22-25, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I got diagnosed with PTSD today.

    PTSD that was caused due to my mil narcissistic behavior. and the PTSD caused chronic fatigue syndrome. I have no fight left and just don't know what to do. I'm supposed to stop letting my anger at her stop ruling my life. I hate this woman for all the undue stress and harm she...
    IhateBeth2013 IhateBeth2013 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 25

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    I need help! I hate my mother in law!

    Any time her name is mentioned or I hear her voice I literally feel sick to my stomach! This woman has her hooks into my husband and I do not know what to do to get him to see what a monster she really is. My mother in law, I swear, treats my husband like he is her husband...
    pissedoff1966 pissedoff1966 46-50, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    So my soon to be husband

    and I got our marriage license the other day :D so we now have three months to get married. Yes, that part is rushed but for other reasons, we never planning on having a huge wedding, just something small with family and friends. Well, with the time limit that we have we decided...
    MissJessieGurl MissJessieGurl 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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