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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    Even when she tries to help she makes a bigger

    mess and more work than there would have been had she minded her own business. Keep having talks with the hubby about it, and his response the other night was "look at my mom as practice for our children, if you can be patient with her, you can be patient with anyone". I'm...
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    ugh. where to start.

    My Mil has hated me since day 1. she has verbally abused me ever since I got engaged to her son. called me not good enough, a *****, and worthless.. well after we got married, she called me lazy. and I had a job which I quit due to my health issues and she was all mad...
    AngelicInnocence92 AngelicInnocence92 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 37 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    Not Mil But Whole Family - Not Hatred But Uneasy Feeling

    about 18 mos after my failed marriage to a man AND his mother from hell, i began to date again.  i met a great guy.  we hit it off amazingly.  as a matter of fact, in my adult life i'd not ever 'hit it off' quite like that before.  we both knew instantly...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 7 Responses May 27, 2007

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    In 2011 I found out my husband was having an

    affair. I filed for divorce. We had been together 29 yrs and raised 2 children. Our children were naturally upset. My mother-in-laws comment to my children was, "You are grown, you don't need your father any more." "He has a new family now". It has been 3 yrs and my children...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 5 Responses Jan 15

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    I Hate My Mother In Law!!

        I hate my mother in law i hate her always butting in when my husband and i are talking, ive started when she buts in on us talking i tell her i was talking to don i wonder does she think shes married to her son i stay in my jail cell (my bedroom) when will...
    THEGOODTWIN THEGOODTWIN 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    So this past weekend my 2 month old son was

    baptized. Before the mass started she was already complaining about everything I had done wrong (in her eyes). Then at the reception I was told by several guest my mother in law fed my son icing/fondant from the cake. My husband and I were both upset and decided to confront my...
    vbranco vbranco 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    my mother in law lives with us,

    because my husband fears for her health and safety. She is an alcoholic and spends every moment off work, drinking and smoking cigarettes. I take care of our home, six month old daughter, two dogs, and the disasters she leaves behind everyday while my husband works long hours to...
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    Update on my MIL: If you remember my story from

    a while back, I have an update that I'm sure you will all find a little bit funny yet sad. Well, after my MIL made me feel like total utter trash, a few months later... she found out that her partner (my equally rude FIL) was cheating on her with another woman. They broke up and...
    curlyhairedgirl curlyhairedgirl 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 6

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    I don't hate my mother in law I just hate the

    things she does and says. I hate how she always has the last word I hate that how she always thinks she's a perfect mother when she didn't even raise her own son(my husband) she left him so that he could be raised by her mother. right now we're at the store and she knows I'm...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    so my husband just informed me

    that my MIL told him that his ex was gonna move back to PA and she offered to let this ex stay at her house for a week to get a feel of PA. ughh.. what do you guys think? they only dated for like a week or 2.
    AngelicInnocence92 AngelicInnocence92 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 5

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 21-25, F 66 Responses May 4, 2007

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    Im so glad to have found a place to vent!

    I am so bitter against my MIL. Long story short: In the beginning of my marriage (5 yrs now) I treated my MIL as I do my mother. We were very close to the point that people could not understand it. Until I disobeyed my husband and asked her to live with us-to care for our 2yr...
    zamlee zamlee 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    ...but My Father-in-law Is Worse!

    My mother-in-law was livid when she heard I was pregnant and told us not to tell anyone else.  At a family party (his family) that week, we told.  Well, we were thrilled:  who wouldn't be?  Not her, for a start.  As we were leaving, a cat leapt off a...
    alfeen alfeen 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    I guess now my hatred has just grown to

    complete indifference, I really couldn't care either way about this woman now. After all she's put us through for the past nearly 3 years, the lack of communication and blatantly obvious plays to try and turn DH against me, turning DH's siblings against him, not caring about...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    Hate is a strong word.

    I'm working on not hating her but in fact, loving her. When I met my husband, I was instantly attracted and won over by his vibrant personality. Also, I loved how he talked so well of his mom. When I finally met his mom, I instantly fell in love with her. She's so sweet, serves...
    KTQJQ KTQJQ 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    I have seen and heard from a lot of people that

    once you have children your MIL becomes worse. Even talking about her makes me so angry. I've never had one person make me so mad and have so much hate. My husband and I married back in October and everyone is asking when are we going to have kids. All I can think about is how I...
    redhead8 redhead8 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 14

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    Affirmations For Every Troubled Daughter In Law, With Love!

    I believe what we think, we become. The last thing I want to become is a grumpy old lady (like some people we know right??) Repeat after me: I spend my time with people who love and respect me. I lovingly release anyone who doesn't have my best interests at heart, with a...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 19 Responses May 6, 2007

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    Conversation with CIL This post is a follow up

    to EP Link I changed all names for privacy reasons but left the conversation in tact. This was via Whatsapp: 9:32, 2014/4/2 - You: Hello CIL, this is Zola, DH's fiancee. Hw r u doin? Do send me a response when u can, I need 2 share some details wit u. Have a blessed n...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 10

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    Do I Hate My Mil?

    i've read all the awful things mil's have done and not sure how to explain the pain i've received from my mil and sil. their not like alot of the stories i've read. they don't ever come out and say awful things to me. it's unbelievable how i'm sooo hurt that i feel hate. i...
    nomotherlove nomotherlove 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    You think you MIL is bad,

    you should have mine. 10 minutes with this witch and you will be begging to have yours back She is the devils spawn. Horrible horrible, nasty old woman. Just like her ******* son, who I married unfortunately. They are both alcoholics, both love starting fights, always downing...
    kel619 kel619 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 10

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    Counting down! 12 weeks to go!

    !! Woo hoo!!! My husband, son, and I are finally preparing to move out of our apartment leaving his mother behind as we return back to our home state (13 hour drive away from my MIL-PRAISE GOD!!!). I never thought the day would come. I wrote my first story of my MIL and how...
    zamlee zamlee 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    The Lady is being such a weirdo today.

    When the kids woke up she got mad and stomped to the tv and turned up the volume really loud. i heard her banging around and my son told me he was pretending he was asleep but she unlocked the door, opened it wide and then slammed it. Then got a spatula and started banging on...
    princessjess32 princessjess32 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 24 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    Well, for starters she will not

    even admit that I am married to her son. What does that tell you ? Ignores calls as does my sister-in-law. just in complete denial that her son actually has a relationship and goes so far as to send us her goat she doesn't want anymore. WEIRD. not only thyat, he would not get...
    AliLovejoy1 AliLovejoy1 36-40 3 Responses Jan 3

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    Mother'S Day Is For Both Mother'S &Amp; MIL'S

    I decided to write something about the pending Mother's Day that is approaching and wish to share some thoughts about it. To all Mother's & MIL's: Please MIL's realize that Mother's Day is for all mothers. Us women try so hard daily to care for our families, see our mothers...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses May 9, 2013

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    MIL thinks I should go to work,

    take care of kids, clean the house, drive children everywhere, etc without the husbands help. like hell no. I need husbands help. luckily my husband disagrees. he doesn't want me to work. I don't want to work. lol. I'm perfectly fine with being a stay at home mother...
    AngelicInnocence92 AngelicInnocence92 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    My mother-in-law had a farm.

    She pretty much forced all the grandkids to be in 4-H. There was a lot of work to prepare for the County Fair in that area. The kids had to shovel poop, groom their animals, keep logs and work their animals. Besides that they were entered in all arts , canning, sewing and...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 25

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    ok ok maybe hates a little strong

    but sometimes I severely want to punch her. I may be young bug I can give birth just fine. its not her kids she needs to back off. I have to do everything her way. give birth her way , raise anna her way, dress anna her way and my poor baby isn't even here yet !!!! she makes my...
    youngkinyteenmom youngkinyteenmom 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    12 things I observed about my in laws: 1.

    Inability to recognize and accept change in family relations and dynamics. Your son/brother has new priorities; his wife has taken the position of being first in his life ahead of mother, youngest sister and his family of origin. His wife is now his priority and number one in...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    when my wife in hospital my mother-in-law was

    at home for help.one night we were watching tv and later we dicusied to sleep.i and she did s e x
    roshan70 roshan70 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 28 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    I haven't been in contact with Mil

    for over a year. I decided to cut all ties with her, and concentrate on getting better, and being around people who support and love me. My husband wasn't best pleased with my decision, but allowed me to have my space. Recently my husband suggested that I should reconnect with...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    MIL’s Latest Tricks

    Well, where to start huh :-) My name is Kelly and I Hate My Mother In Law, who actually isnt my mother-in-law yet and probably won't ever be if my situation doesnt improve somehow. I met my soldier in 2004 and knew he was the one, I fell fast with our first child in January...
    kellyfromnewcastle kellyfromnewcastle 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2007

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    What Have I Gotten Myself Into????

    My mother-in-law lives with us, we took her in about a year ago. She has alot of health issues and she couldn't cook for herself and was practically starving herself, so we made the decision to take her in.  I knew it would be hard for us but that was just an understatement...
    Windylittlehound Windylittlehound 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 28, 2007

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    My mother in law is a flip flopper.

    One minute she is acting like my friend and then the next minute she is undermining me about something. You see, I'm African American and my husband is Albanian. Getting married was a big culture shock for me. In the beginning of my marriage, my MIL began with putting me down...
    antique10 antique10 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I unfortunately live with my mil.

    have been for at least 4 years. when I moved it wasn't something I wanted to do but I was pregnant and already had a daughter. my husband is an only child and his mom is having health issues. some she can't help others due to her not doing anything to make her health any...
    toirenee3 toirenee3 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 25

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    Hi guys, I don't know from

    where to start but today I was super upset bcoz of my MIL.. its been ten months to my marriage.. its love marriage.. (inter caste as well).. ufff... my MIL is big curse to me.. i am sure whether she hates me or she is just J of me.??? she is working as a teacher but I must say...
    SRT7 SRT7 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 2

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