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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    Mother'S Day Is For Both Mother'S &Amp; MIL'S

    I decided to write something about the pending Mother's Day that is approaching and wish to share some thoughts about it. To all Mother's & MIL's: Please MIL's realize that Mother's Day is for all mothers. Us women try so hard daily to care for our families, see our mothers...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses May 9, 2013

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Beware all! National MIL day is on Oct 24!

    MInes will be test flying her broom! Funny how this day falls one week prior to Halloween. Hmmmm!
    hwntaz hwntaz 41-45, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I joined this forum just

    so that i can put my experience with my mother in law in writing. so here is the story. I met my husband in college. we were first friends and it turned into love. My husband does not like confrontations, he is a very calm person. when i met his mother, she was very...
    Aleksanrda Aleksanrda 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 7

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    Not Mil But Whole Family - Not Hatred But Uneasy Feeling

    about 18 mos after my failed marriage to a man AND his mother from hell, i began to date again.  i met a great guy.  we hit it off amazingly.  as a matter of fact, in my adult life i'd not ever 'hit it off' quite like that before.  we both knew instantly...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 7 Responses May 27, 2007

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    I am starting to bite my tongue,

    go to my room and cry out of sheer desperation! How can one lady be so fkng annoying! Worst of she's living with us temporarily! But that dsnt stop her- because she knows everything. Including the running of our house. I'm starting to lock myself in my room more and more to give...
    honeybee86 honeybee86 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 8

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    I guess now my hatred has just grown to

    complete indifference, I really couldn't care either way about this woman now. After all she's put us through for the past nearly 3 years, the lack of communication and blatantly obvious plays to try and turn DH against me, turning DH's siblings against him, not caring about...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 24

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 29 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    What Have I Gotten Myself Into????

    My mother-in-law lives with us, we took her in about a year ago. She has alot of health issues and she couldn't cook for herself and was practically starving herself, so we made the decision to take her in.  I knew it would be hard for us but that was just an understatement...
    Windylittlehound Windylittlehound 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2007

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    Here's an update to end all updates.

    .. My mother-in-law has LEFT my father-in-law and has moved in with our former landlords-these landlords are friends of my husband's family, but while we were living in their rental apartment, we had nothing but problems with our landlady. Being as landlady is friends with my...
    mnh1982 mnh1982 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 29

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    I am a 27 and have been with my husband

    for 5 years but recently got married a few months ago. Our lives would be so much better if the monster in law would go into a nice permanent sleep. She's sincerely a horrible person but the worst part of her existence is we live in her house!!!! Though we have the whole...
    MonsterInLaw0847 MonsterInLaw0847 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 5

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 17 Responses May 6, 2007

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    Yesterday I received a letter from my MIL,

    who came very close to making me decide to leave her son this year and was acting as if she'd done nothing wrong. I had sent her a bible study on what God saw the role of parents to be in their adult children's lives. I am not religious, but it was the only article I could...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 6 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I am seeing red pretty much all I am seeing

    right now. My MIL can't get the hint not even the hint but the truth of the matter that we are done with her. We had a big blow out a year and a month ago after that she did not send the kids birthday cards, holiday cards ect, not that I am complaining because I want nothing to...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    I Hate My Mother In Law!!

        I hate my mother in law i hate her always butting in when my husband and i are talking, ive started when she buts in on us talking i tell her i was talking to don i wonder does she think shes married to her son i stay in my jail cell (my bedroom) when will...
    THEGOODTWIN THEGOODTWIN 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    A Little Advice

    Things right now are going realy well with my MIL and I. Of course she still hates me...but really I do not think that is EVER going to change. There is still tention but scense my husband told her it's not ok to treat us the way she has, she has completly backed off. It's...
    northernlightsalaska333 northernlightsalaska333 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    ...but My Father-in-law Is Worse!

    My mother-in-law was livid when she heard I was pregnant and told us not to tell anyone else.  At a family party (his family) that week, we told.  Well, we were thrilled:  who wouldn't be?  Not her, for a start.  As we were leaving, a cat leapt off a...
    alfeen alfeen 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 84 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    I am married to a wonderful man

    who has an insane mother. A little over a year ago, I purchased a house with all my savings and money that my mother had willed to me. The first day we moved in one of the pipes burst. During the fiasco my MIL snuck upstairs and I caught her going through my drawers. I tried...
    thegreatestunknown thegreatestunknown 26-30 5 Responses Sep 24

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    My mother in law never had any respect

    for me or any of my family members always was very mean but, yet I should be her r pin cushion and just t take her crap
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Ahh my sister in law's baby shower.

    An event thats supposed to be fun unless you have to deal with my monster in law. When we found out my SIL was pregnant I was uber excited and wanted to help with anything and everything I could to help with the baby shower which worked out fine up until I helped find the venue...
    MonsterInLaw0847 MonsterInLaw0847 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    My mother in law brings out the worst in people.

    I realised my in laws house is polluated with negativity. She has turned the household into a hostile, unloving and competitive environment. No one is happy, and she makes everyone miserable by emotionally ripping everyone to shreds. I wonder what happended to her when she was a...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 10

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    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    I do not hate her. I'm at the point

    where I've accepted that I've allowed her behaviour to continue without setting clear boundaries. I've done this to balance other family member feelings because I love my husband, home and children. She isn't consistantly a PA MIL. It's just lately my mind becomes flooded...
    notbuyingintoit1 notbuyingintoit1 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 22

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    First time posting! So happy I've found this

    haven! My MIL is the epitome of evil and just today she pulled the most evil stunt of our 10 years of dealing with each other. First of all let me begin by telling you a little about me and mine. I'm 25 years old, married for 1 year but we have been together since we were 15...
    blopez24 blopez24 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 21-25, F 65 Responses May 4, 2007

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    Hate is a strong word

    but I seriously dislike her. She has never been a fan of mine...she is a very strong woman. She gave birth to five children who are her life. Her oldest child, Katharine died in a tragic car crash days after her 19th birthday. So when my husband and I were expecting our...
    FiestyJacqueline FiestyJacqueline 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 19

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    My husband and I haven't spoken to my mother in

    law hardly at all in several years. We got mad at her for multiple reasons a while back, one of them was her taking my son around known drug users, and she has NEVER liked me, so we figured it would be best to just cut her out of our lives. It has been a big stress on me for...
    arkgirl arkgirl 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 4

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    Good lord. She is always right.

    She knows best. My partner was sick, she kept telling me what was wrong and what would fix it/ because she knows best. She is doing my fkng head in. She is the biggest know it all ever. If I try and be nice she politely smokes and just talks about herself. It's always about her...
    honeybee86 honeybee86 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 10

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    Do I Hate My Mil?

    i've read all the awful things mil's have done and not sure how to explain the pain i've received from my mil and sil. their not like alot of the stories i've read. they don't ever come out and say awful things to me. it's unbelievable how i'm sooo hurt that i feel hate. i...
    nomotherlove nomotherlove 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    My marriage is in trouble.

    We are just over a month married. My husband is 51 and has been living with his mother in somewhat of a husband/wife situation for many years (since her husband died). When we started dating I felt like my mother in law tolerated me because she realized that her son has needs...
    W0eIsMe W0eIsMe 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 7

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    I'm having a very difficult time with my MIL.

    Mind you she is 75 and we are living with her for the time being. She drives me nuts and it almost seems as if she does it purposely. I catch her spying on me when I'm feeding my 16 month old son. She listens to our conversations or arguments. She has a say in everything. My son...
    determinedwife determinedwife 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 22

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    Tell me if you think this is normal

    and or how to deal with this: My mother in law joined facebook and I accepted her request. She didn't "like or comment" on any of our wedding photos that we put up. She did however "like" my husband's photo in the wedding that were with his friends and some other photos of his...
    rosegrl rosegrl 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 7

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    My mother in law has made my life a living

    nightmare from I said I do. She has had my husband ex gf sleep in her house whiles my husband was busting, she has invited this ex gf to family functions knowing that I would be there. His sisters speak about me like I'm invisible they make jokes about me weight and looks. They...
    Toyaday Toyaday 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 14

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    Hello, I feel as though I should apologise in

    advance of the really long rant I'm about to have..thank you so much if you read any, let alone to the end. My husband have been married 11 and a half years, we have one child aged 2. I'm not going to go into every single nasty, manipulative, sarcastic snide thing she's said and...
    RedCurlyHair RedCurlyHair 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 26

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    So my fiance and I are getting married next

    August, at which point we will have been together nearly 5 years. Our relationship is very strong, we truly are perfect for each other, and I am so excited to be marrying him. The only area we have ever struggled with has been his family. My family isn't perfect, however they do...
    WifeToBe822 WifeToBe822 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 12

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 36 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    I recently had a vivid flashback about my Mil

    and her abusive ways. I realised slowly how she would subtly and insidiously abuse me, and it mostly happened behind closed doors, where there were no witnesses. She GASLIGHTED me. Gaslighting is emotional/mental abuse to attempt to destroy the victim's trust in their...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 15

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    This will be brief, took MIL

    and step son's (including hubby of course) out to dinner because one of the boys was home. I thought well, I'll charge the dinner just to see if I get a thank you from my MIL. The only step son that thanked me was the youngest. AND no my MIL did not thank me for the dinner...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 8

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 24 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    My monster in law has ruined lots of special

    moments during my wedding preparations this year that I will now only remember with sadness and lots of anger. But one her shining heinous moments was my bridal shower that never happened. I originally hadn't thought about having a bridal shower at all I don't really have many...
    MonsterInLaw0847 MonsterInLaw0847 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 6

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    Truth.

    I hate my ******* mother in law. She gets in the way of everything in my life. She draws my wife into her wicked ******* web of hate and suffering, and that in turn is passed on to my wife. Then she takes that **** out on me. There is no polite way for me to say this. There...
    thefragile77 thefragile77 36-40 7 Responses Aug 9, 2013

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    My mother-in-law is by far the most selfish

    and self-centered person I have ever met. She was a horrible mother who led by the example of denial and co-dependency. She never taught the difference between right and wrong and never allowed her child to face the consequences of his own actions. She has tied her child to her...
    notahater16 notahater16 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 16

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    HELP!!!! Ladies I just found out

    that I will be flying on the plane with my MIL to the west coast. My husband is taking a different plane, he is leaving sooner. Not only am I flying with my illustrious MIL the not so wonderful SIL and BIL too!!!! My MIL's comment to me was, "how wonderful you can hold my...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    I have officially decided to cut my MIL out of

    my life for good. Maybe MIL isn't the exact title, since I'm only the fiance, but it's a shame that it had to come to this. I heard so many great things about her when my fiance and I were just dating, as well as some tragic tales here and there too. I was so excited to meet the...
    curlyhairedgirl curlyhairedgirl 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 26

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