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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    Affirmations For Every Troubled Daughter In Law, With Love!

    I believe what we think, we become. The last thing I want to become is a grumpy old lady (like some people we know right??) Repeat after me: I spend my time with people who love and respect me. I lovingly release anyone who doesn't have my best interests at heart, with a...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 28 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    Enmeshment is terrible!

    I already knew it, so I guess I should not have been shocked seeing the true extent and repercussions of it; but seeing it in black and white, then actually physically dealing with it, really made me see how much my mother in law and my husband’s family of origin has...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 4

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    My husband and I lived about a 7 hour drive

    from his parents. About 5 yrs. into our marriage I got a promotion that required we relocate. The job I would be working at would place us right in the same town as his parents. We sold our home and decided to stay with them while we searched for a new home in that area. We...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 4 Responses Jun 19

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    she sent me a Facebook friend request last

    night. I started laughing. is this for real? I haven't talked to her since leaving her home and that terrible mistreatment to my kids and I. she's nuts!
    yesitsme123 yesitsme123 31-35 4 Responses Jun 19

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    I wanted to wish all the ladies

    and gentlemen a Happy Thanksgiving and a stress free day! My prayer to those who will be sharing tomorrow with their MIL's. Lord give strength where it is needed when the MIL makes a negative comment about the turkey, we know then that they must really like it! Lord give...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 4 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    For 20 years my wife has kept this women in the

    background and I have felt we've had a 3 way relationship. Now she has moved her to the town we live and I can't deal with it
    myapp myapp 51-55, M 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    My mother-in-law would often brag she was the

    best cook ever. The women never used spices at all when cooking. There were 4 of us daughter-in-laws gathered in her kitchen for a Thanksgiving meal. My mother-in-law was in "Big Brag" mode and was tooting her own horn. She put something in the microwave and was bragging away...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 4 Responses May 16

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    I suffered from a miscarriage last year.

    My husband and I had been emotionally low the whole year - a lot of expectations built up etc. Two days ago my MIL and FIL arrive to "help" us out during our trying times. First day, I cook up a storm as I am very thankful that they are here to help. After a sumptuous lunch, MIL...
    anniehaydon anniehaydon 31-35, F 6 Responses Jun 16

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    I sometimes blame menopause

    for my MIL erratic behavior, but I believe she's just crazy. My father in law and her are divorced for a century now. He really gets anxiety from any interaction with her. Recently my she's been borrowing my mans car. (she doesn't have a job so I have no idea why, she is 50 and...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Yesterday my mother in law incessantly kept

    giving me annoying passive aggressive advice, and I told her (loudly and very annoyed) to please stop because I am an adult and KNOW how to do things. She told me that the would rather that I slapped her in the face than to yell at her like that and she was shocked and appalled...
    xinderellah xinderellah 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    My mother in law is the most evil B&$@h.

    I started dating my husband in high school, when we got married my MIL thought that she could be involved in everything. I mean everything, if my family had a event she wanted to be invited and would get pissed is she wasn't. My in laws have no respect and do whatever they want...
    Katmed Katmed 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 6

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 38 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    my husbands car messed up

    and he had no one else to call to get to work besides his mother. she k locked at the door and my blood boiled! she did not come in but my kids heard her voice and ran outside super excited and then I got really mad at them once they came inside. I apologized and realize they...
    yesitsme123 yesitsme123 31-35 1 Response 3 days ago

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    So I have written on here before.

    . I think like most, I do it to vent because the crap that is pulled is just insane.. Before I decided to write, I read a lot of post on here, some old some new.. Ladies, we have a lot of needy, sociopathic women out there that we have to call our MIL's. My word. I will always be...
    bekah930 bekah930 46-50 6 Responses May 10

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 18-21, F 66 Responses May 4, 2007

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    I posted a couple of days ago about my mother

    in law. Last night she started complaining about how I'm a bad wife. That I don't cook him 3 meals a day and that he's starving. Nothing I've not heard before so I just said ok and tried to be calm. I also don't "dress up" for him enough either. Told me I need to lose the weight...
    MoonLightwolf18 MoonLightwolf18 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 10

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    My wife and I have been together six years total

    and married for over two. We have a beautiful, funny, energetic baby girl, make good money and live in a vacation spot. We have many issues but most is my extremely demanding and overbearing mother in law. She controls all of her kids and her husband. • After our daughter was...
    rA31411 rA31411 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 10

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 20 Responses May 6, 2007

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 83 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    My monster in law is truly disgusting.

    She thinks that she is going to plan everything out for our wedding. She didn't like my dress or shoes that I picked, so she said I needed to get different ones. Oh hell no, that ***** can go **** herself. It's bad enough that I'm not going to have a single person I like there...
    MissJessieGurl MissJessieGurl 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 7

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    As I've been finding my footing

    after a toxic dose of MIL, I have found it necessary to make some promises to myself moving forward. I'll share them in case someone else can benefit from my train of thought. PROMISES I promise to... Always feel worthy of respect, even in the presence of those who can’t...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 9 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    I'm wondering if I should set my grudges aside

    and just "forgive" her after her whole 2 year mental tirade. Everyone says you find "peace" by forgiving but I question myself if this is the right thing to do....I have a hard time forgiving and have a harder time forgetting the sh*t she put me through.
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    I have a question. . Do you feel like marriage

    as an institution is to blame at any level for this kind of stuff happening? And I promise everyone faithfully that I seek genuine, honest answers. Note: I am not married.
    webstumbler webstumbler 31-35, M 4 Responses Jun 6

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 25

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    My mother-in-law was an RN nurse

    for around 30 yrs. She let it be know she knew everything about medicine. There were 3 of us daughter-in-laws. MY one sister-in-law had 6 children. MY mother-in-law always lectured on how we took our children to the doctor's to much. She figured she'd tell you when they needed...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses Mar 14

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 23 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    My mother in law gossips

    and assumes things. (example - she's a Facebook stalker, and she asked at my husband's birthday party in front of everyone if I log onto my husband's Facebook when he's at work. My husband being the sweet and stern man he is, told his mother it's non of her business, and next we...
    AnnaEsthesia AnnaEsthesia 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I can't believe it. A few days ago we

    celebrated my daughter's first birthday. And at the party, my mother in law tried to feed my daughter with fried food. Both my husband and I saw it as my husband was carrying our daughter. I was waiting for him to stop his mum but he didn't. So I quickly said "please don't feed...
    brilliantsense brilliantsense 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 16

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    I cannot deal with her.

    I hate to use the word hate, but it's pushing that point. First, she plays herself to be a saint. She does not drink, she does not curse. That's fine. Here's the thing. She gets trashed and uses language I've never heard from her mouth ONLY with her coworkers. I've known her...
    1MoreSilverDollar 1MoreSilverDollar 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    My mil in general is just a b-tch to me.

    Always yelling about something. She complains to no end that no one cleans. Well I swept the dining room today and she went right behind me and did it herself saying I didn't do it right. She's been watching our 2 month old niece the past 5 weeks. Sits there b-tching that she's...
    MoonLightwolf18 MoonLightwolf18 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 7

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    My mother and I got along

    when I 1st got with my boyfriend. it's been 3yrs now that him and I have been together and she's getting on my nerves now. we moved in with her cuz she so called needed help with her house and so on, but now this lady is spends tones of $$ on upgrading her house and throwing her...
    emlopez1109 emlopez1109 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I just really need to let this out.

    When I first met my S/O, my relationship with his family was great (for the first few weeks). I went to a concert with his mother, got along well with both of his parents, and everything seemed normal. MIL claimed she loved me and that I was amazing! I had a few red flags...
    blamegame91 blamegame91 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    this is my story. My husband

    and I have been married for 25 years. My sister in law who was the only person in charge of my mother in laws final plans has recently had a stroke. My mother in law wants my husband to go up to see her to discuss his final arrangemehts. I am not allowed to join him She said...
    sallam sallam 46-50 3 Responses Jun 13

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    I guess now my hatred has just grown to

    complete indifference, I really couldn't care either way about this woman now. After all she's put us through for the past nearly 3 years, the lack of communication and blatantly obvious plays to try and turn DH against me, turning DH's siblings against him, not caring about...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    I am a nature lover. I love watching couples in

    the animal kingdom, so heart warming. I live in Canada and I have a pair of northern cardinals who come to my feeder every evening to have a quiet meal together. Never once have I seen a MIL hanging around squawking at them. Maybe that's why they appear so content. Wishing you...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 25 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    My evil MIL once asked me,

    "If my son and I were drowning, and you can only save one person, who would it be?" I responded, "I can't swim, so you're both screwed." Fake laughter ensued, "But seriously, who would you save if you COULD swim?" Without a skipping a beat, I responded, "My husband" She...
    NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt 31-35, F 3 Responses May 25

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    Things were not always sour between MIL

    and I. There was a time back when her and i first met we got along pretty well. No alarming issues stuck out to me. The first time i realized something was off was the same week me and my husband got married. We decided we would get married at a courthouse by ourselves. We felt...
    Hope8611 Hope8611 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 5

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