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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    Where Do I Begin...i Am Tired of Trying!!

    I have been married for 13 years to a wonderful man who was very emotionally messed up when we met.  I have always gone out of my way to make the In Law's feel welcome and loved.  I send cards for every holiday, birthday, anniversary and gifts.  I make sure they...
    jlkenny jlkenny 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2007

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    MIL’s Latest Tricks

    Well, where to start huh :-) My name is Kelly and I Hate My Mother In Law, who actually isnt my mother-in-law yet and probably won't ever be if my situation doesnt improve somehow. I met my soldier in 2004 and knew he was the one, I fell fast with our first child in January...
    kellyfromnewcastle kellyfromnewcastle 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2007

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    Mil and Sil tactics: When all fails: play the

    victim I still get vivid flashbacks of the abuse that I have experienced. What I remember is both mil and my sil (husband brother's wife) wanted to turn the whole family against me, which they have finally succeeded. Both the women wanted to ruin my character and taint me as...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 27

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    My MIL has been visiting her new online

    boyfriend in Alaska for the past 7 weeks, and it was like being on vacation while she was gone. Now that she's back, it's like all that rage and frustration comes flooding right back with her. I prayed to God that she would stay up there and never come back, but God doesn't hear...
    WorkedtoDeath WorkedtoDeath 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 24

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    Good lord. She is always right.

    She knows best. My partner was sick, she kept telling me what was wrong and what would fix it/ because she knows best. She is doing my fkng head in. She is the biggest know it all ever. If I try and be nice she politely smokes and just talks about herself. It's always about her...
    honeybee86 honeybee86 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 10

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    Do I Hate My Mil?

    i've read all the awful things mil's have done and not sure how to explain the pain i've received from my mil and sil. their not like alot of the stories i've read. they don't ever come out and say awful things to me. it's unbelievable how i'm sooo hurt that i feel hate. i...
    nomotherlove nomotherlove 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    Over involved is the root cause of MIL problems.

    When we become adults, the amount of time we spend with our parents is voluntary. If your parents are over involved, whether it is through their pushiness or by your invite, it will lead to problems when you take on a life partner. If your parent doesn’t know how to back off...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Aug 14

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 28 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    What Have I Gotten Myself Into????

    My mother-in-law lives with us, we took her in about a year ago. She has alot of health issues and she couldn't cook for herself and was practically starving herself, so we made the decision to take her in.  I knew it would be hard for us but that was just an understatement...
    Windylittlehound Windylittlehound 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2007

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I'm having a very difficult time with my MIL.

    Mind you she is 75 and we are living with her for the time being. She drives me nuts and it almost seems as if she does it purposely. I catch her spying on me when I'm feeding my 16 month old son. She listens to our conversations or arguments. She has a say in everything. My son...
    determinedwife determinedwife 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 24 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    I am seeing red pretty much all I am seeing

    right now. My MIL can't get the hint not even the hint but the truth of the matter that we are done with her. We had a big blow out a year and a month ago after that she did not send the kids birthday cards, holiday cards ect, not that I am complaining because I want nothing to...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    my husbands "mother" is a real piece of work.

    not only is she a compulsive lair and backs tabbed, her delusional sense of entitlement has created a situation where she is blocked from calling, emailing or texting my husband. she continues to play games, but luckily my husband knows she's a nightmare & supports this joint...
    Bellalight Bellalight 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 19

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    The effects of shaming

    and undermining: My mil was an expertise at undermining me. Nothing was ever good enough for her. She would criticise me, undermine me, nit pick over the most smallest of things. She would never acknowledge anything good that I did and would turn a blind eye, if anyone praised...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    Hey everyone, I just wanted to drop a quick

    note on here because I’ll be leaving this forum at the end of the month. I’m sure if my MIL pulls a fast one on me or my partner pulls something regarding his mom that I can’t live with, I’ll be back looking for your wise words!! But for the time being everything is...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 4 Responses Aug 28

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    My post will be brief with a question out to

    all of my soulful friends on this site. When you and your husband/spouse takes MIL out for dinner, and the spouse pulls out the charge card to pay, who does your MIL thank for the dinner? Reason I am asking although it is a small irritant for me, we took my MIL out to dinner...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 25

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    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Yesterday I received a letter from my MIL,

    who came very close to making me decide to leave her son this year and was acting as if she'd done nothing wrong. I had sent her a bible study on what God saw the role of parents to be in their adult children's lives. I am not religious, but it was the only article I could...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 6 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    Married and very lonely!

    !!!!! I feel so betrayed, abuses and beaten down :(
    sickofmymil sickofmymil 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 25

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    First time posting! So happy I've found this

    haven! My MIL is the epitome of evil and just today she pulled the most evil stunt of our 10 years of dealing with each other. First of all let me begin by telling you a little about me and mine. I'm 25 years old, married for 1 year but we have been together since we were 15...
    blopez24 blopez24 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    My mother in law never had any respect

    for me or any of my family members always was very mean but, yet I should be her r pin cushion and just t take her crap
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    Hello, i know this may seem random

    and i hope i don't sound creepy but i really need your advice. I'm 24 and i live in the Philippines. I dislike my future mother in law so much. She is driving me nuts. She lives with us because my fiancé thinks it's a good idea. I can't do anything about it because he loves his...
    KatieRose88 KatieRose88 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 15

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    God i hate her Shes so

    annoying Controlling Shes very dumb Just an idiot ugh
    gugly14 gugly14 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    My mother-in-law is by far the most selfish

    and self-centered person I have ever met. She was a horrible mother who led by the example of denial and co-dependency. She never taught the difference between right and wrong and never allowed her child to face the consequences of his own actions. She has tied her child to her...
    notahater16 notahater16 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 84 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 21-25, F 65 Responses May 4, 2007

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    I’d be interested in seeing some behaviours

    listed here about common experiences and behaviours in bullet point form, as I think it’s empowering for us to see how we all pretty much have the same MIL. :o) My MIL when she lived with us: Decided that there was a war between her and I. No eye contact with me, pretended...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 4 Responses Aug 15

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    My mil is a repeat offender.

    I have noticed that many family members and friends want nothing to do with her. Below are some examples of her failed relationships. 1. She doesn't along with any of her children spouse's and has insulted and undermined us all. None of us are good enough to be in her family...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    A Little Advice

    Things right now are going realy well with my MIL and I. Of course she still hates me...but really I do not think that is EVER going to change. There is still tention but scense my husband told her it's not ok to treat us the way she has, she has completly backed off. It's...
    northernlightsalaska333 northernlightsalaska333 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    HELP!!!! Ladies I just found out

    that I will be flying on the plane with my MIL to the west coast. My husband is taking a different plane, he is leaving sooner. Not only am I flying with my illustrious MIL the not so wonderful SIL and BIL too!!!! My MIL's comment to me was, "how wonderful you can hold my...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I do not hate her. I'm at the point

    where I've accepted that I've allowed her behaviour to continue without setting clear boundaries. I've done this to balance other family member feelings because I love my husband, home and children. She isn't consistantly a PA MIL. It's just lately my mind becomes flooded...
    notbuyingintoit1 notbuyingintoit1 41-45, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 36 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 2, 2007

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    Mother'S Day Is For Both Mother'S &Amp; MIL'S

    I decided to write something about the pending Mother's Day that is approaching and wish to share some thoughts about it. To all Mother's & MIL's: Please MIL's realize that Mother's Day is for all mothers. Us women try so hard daily to care for our families, see our mothers...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses May 9, 2013

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    Truth.

    I hate my ******* mother in law. She gets in the way of everything in my life. She draws my wife into her wicked ******* web of hate and suffering, and that in turn is passed on to my wife. Then she takes that **** out on me. There is no polite way for me to say this. There...
    thefragile77 thefragile77 36-40 7 Responses Aug 9, 2013

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 17 Responses May 6, 2007

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    I am starting to bite my tongue,

    go to my room and cry out of sheer desperation! How can one lady be so fkng annoying! Worst of she's living with us temporarily! But that dsnt stop her- because she knows everything. Including the running of our house. I'm starting to lock myself in my room more and more to give...
    honeybee86 honeybee86 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    She whined for years

    that none of the 4 boys wanted to take over the family farm. She wanted to retire with a nice chunk of change and listed it for over $400,000. 5 years later, still no takers. My husband wanted to buy the farm but always said he would not pay the price that a stranger would...
    delisi1007 delisi1007 41-45 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hi Guys, I am new to this space

    and really am anxious on sharing my experience with you buddies on my first day here. So to begin with I would like to give you guys a background on me. I have always grown up a middle class family with my parents not being an ideal couple and mom complaining about Dad. When I...
    troubledDIL2012 troubledDIL2012 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 27

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    A funny side My mil is a graduate housewife,

    a kind of a woman that is on the verge of extinction. Such women deserve our utmost respect and I mean it. Problems arise when such women think that nothing in the world can be compared to or admired more than a devoted housewife. So, for years she was our regular supplier of...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 8

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    Hate is a strong word

    but I seriously dislike her. She has never been a fan of mine...she is a very strong woman. She gave birth to five children who are her life. Her oldest child, Katharine died in a tragic car crash days after her 19th birthday. So when my husband and I were expecting our...
    FiestyJacqueline FiestyJacqueline 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Just a word of encouragement

    for all of you tortured souls. My husband broke his leg this summer. Mild fracture but laid up for a while. His mother came bleating to my door. I was very kind. Let her visit him by going to the bedroom window and talking to him through that. Best part of it. Husband found it...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    This will be brief, took MIL

    and step son's (including hubby of course) out to dinner because one of the boys was home. I thought well, I'll charge the dinner just to see if I get a thank you from my MIL. The only step son that thanked me was the youngest. AND no my MIL did not thank me for the dinner...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 8

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