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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    As I've been finding my footing

    after a toxic dose of MIL, I have found it necessary to make some promises to myself moving forward. I'll share them in case someone else can benefit from my train of thought. PROMISES I promise to... Always feel worthy of respect, even in the presence of those who can’t...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 9 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    my husbands car messed up

    and he had no one else to call to get to work besides his mother. she k locked at the door and my blood boiled! she did not come in but my kids heard her voice and ran outside super excited and then I got really mad at them once they came inside. I apologized and realize they...
    yesitsme123 yesitsme123 31-35 1 Response Jun 26

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    My mother-in-law would often brag she was the

    best cook ever. The women never used spices at all when cooking. There were 4 of us daughter-in-laws gathered in her kitchen for a Thanksgiving meal. My mother-in-law was in "Big Brag" mode and was tooting her own horn. She put something in the microwave and was bragging away...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 4 Responses May 16

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    I am hanging by a think thread of sanity.

    I have been married for less than three years and my MIL has lived with us from day 1. Her excuse was that she was helping us adjust to matrimony as I am a foreigner. I respected her for giving birth to and bringing up my awesome husband but I have started to doubt if he is...
    SmritiP SmritiP 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 21

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    So I have written on here before.

    . I think like most, I do it to vent because the crap that is pulled is just insane.. Before I decided to write, I read a lot of post on here, some old some new.. Ladies, we have a lot of needy, sociopathic women out there that we have to call our MIL's. My word. I will always be...
    bekah930 bekah930 46-50 6 Responses May 10

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    My evil MIL once asked me,

    "If my son and I were drowning, and you can only save one person, who would it be?" I responded, "I can't swim, so you're both screwed." Fake laughter ensued, "But seriously, who would you save if you COULD swim?" Without a skipping a beat, I responded, "My husband" She...
    NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt 31-35, F 3 Responses May 25

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    UPDATE FOR ALL: You guys might be sick of me.

    Sorry. :-] She finally responded hours later and basically made herself the victim, which is definitely not the case in everyone else's eyes who is aware of the situation. I guess the name change business is a touchy subject for her and resulted in the blow up, and I can...
    hayleyannrand hayleyannrand 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 40 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 18-21, F 66 Responses May 4, 2007

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    My husband believes the issues between my

    mother in law and I are my fault because I am "hard to talk to". I have been married since june but together a little over a year with a 4 month old and he has a 9 year old from a previous relationship. The house we live in was bought by his father after he and his mother...
    ShannonKV ShannonKV 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    I Hate My Mother In Law!!

        I hate my mother in law i hate her always butting in when my husband and i are talking, ive started when she buts in on us talking i tell her i was talking to don i wonder does she think shes married to her son i stay in my jail cell (my bedroom) when will...
    THEGOODTWIN THEGOODTWIN 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Affirmations For Every Troubled Daughter In Law, With Love!

    I believe what we think, we become. The last thing I want to become is a grumpy old lady (like some people we know right??) Repeat after me: I spend my time with people who love and respect me. I lovingly release anyone who doesn't have my best interests at heart, with a...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    For 20 years my wife has kept this women in the

    background and I have felt we've had a 3 way relationship. Now she has moved her to the town we live and I can't deal with it
    myapp myapp 51-55, M 5 Responses Jun 29

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 83 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 25 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    I just really need to let this out.

    When I first met my S/O, my relationship with his family was great (for the first few weeks). I went to a concert with his mother, got along well with both of his parents, and everything seemed normal. MIL claimed she loved me and that I was amazing! I had a few red flags...
    blamegame91 blamegame91 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    Oh she hates me too! I can't forgive someone

    who has hurt my child and purposely hurt my family. I would like to smack the yank the b#tch off her pretend pedestal
    GingerJensen34 GingerJensen34 31-35, F Jul 7

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    Hello I am new to this site.

    I'm nervous and anxious and I cry nearly every day. I've been feeling this way for 2 years. I'm here today to ask mother in laws to read my story, and please give me you're honest advice on what you think I should do.. I literally don't know how I could go on.. I am a 30 year...
    kayepx kayepx 31-35, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    im,going through an issue with my husband's

    mother she decided to put her hands on my 3 Year old little boy and it hasn't been pleasant since then.. she's constantly making comments and acting childish .. I've talked to my husband but it doesn't seem to go anywhere..I don't know what to do she's really getting to me.
    ella1324 ella1324 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 5

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    It's MIL's birthday on Monday.

    I suggested we buy her a gift certificate for the hair salon she uses, he's taking her to dinner as well. My partner tells me his plan is to buy some caviar and extra special treats and set up a picnic for her and him. So I say "she'll love that, a date with her son!" and he...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I cannot deal with her.

    I hate to use the word hate, but it's pushing that point. First, she plays herself to be a saint. She does not drink, she does not curse. That's fine. Here's the thing. She gets trashed and uses language I've never heard from her mouth ONLY with her coworkers. I've known her...
    1MoreSilverDollar 1MoreSilverDollar 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    My mother in law gossips

    and assumes things. (example - she's a Facebook stalker, and she asked at my husband's birthday party in front of everyone if I log onto my husband's Facebook when he's at work. My husband being the sweet and stern man he is, told his mother it's non of her business, and next we...
    AnnaEsthesia AnnaEsthesia 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    My mother-in-law was an RN nurse

    for around 30 yrs. She let it be know she knew everything about medicine. There were 3 of us daughter-in-laws. MY one sister-in-law had 6 children. MY mother-in-law always lectured on how we took our children to the doctor's to much. She figured she'd tell you when they needed...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 5 Responses Mar 14

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 20 Responses May 6, 2007

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    She's not my mother-in-law YET.

    .. But I can't stand her. My boyfriend and I have been seriously dating for a year and a half. I keep telling myself that as time progresses, my "relationship" with her will get better, but it gets worse. She wont make eye contact with me. It's basically impossible to hold a...
    CabanaCrush CabanaCrush 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 9

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    I'm wondering if I should set my grudges aside

    and just "forgive" her after her whole 2 year mental tirade. Everyone says you find "peace" by forgiving but I question myself if this is the right thing to do....I have a hard time forgiving and have a harder time forgetting the sh*t she put me through.
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 22

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    My future mother in law

    and i have never quite gotten along. I'm getting married to her son at the end of the month. She has said and done many things that are hurtful. The basic story is that she had a bad childhood, therefore, doesn't know what a "good" family looks like and she doesn't know how to...
    daniraelife daniraelife 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 1

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    I sometimes blame menopause

    for my MIL erratic behavior, but I believe she's just crazy. My father in law and her are divorced for a century now. He really gets anxiety from any interaction with her. Recently my she's been borrowing my mans car. (she doesn't have a job so I have no idea why, she is 50 and...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 25

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    I guess now my hatred has just grown to

    complete indifference, I really couldn't care either way about this woman now. After all she's put us through for the past nearly 3 years, the lack of communication and blatantly obvious plays to try and turn DH against me, turning DH's siblings against him, not caring about...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    I am a nature lover. I love watching couples in

    the animal kingdom, so heart warming. I live in Canada and I have a pair of northern cardinals who come to my feeder every evening to have a quiet meal together. Never once have I seen a MIL hanging around squawking at them. Maybe that's why they appear so content. Wishing you...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Jun 26

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    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    Yesterday my mother in law incessantly kept

    giving me annoying passive aggressive advice, and I told her (loudly and very annoyed) to please stop because I am an adult and KNOW how to do things. She told me that the would rather that I slapped her in the face than to yell at her like that and she was shocked and appalled...
    xinderellah xinderellah 26-30, F Jun 29

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    I haven't responded in ages,

    but feel like I have to vent. My husband and I went to visit mil last week. After many months of not visiting her, I caved in and gave in to hubby's persuasion. I noticed Mil is still up to her old tricks, every time I have visited her she calls my Brother In Law (hubby's...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 21

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    I always thought that a man

    who treated his mother well would be the guy to marry. Unfortunately I have found this out the hard way. I started dating James, and from the start, I have felt that I stole my mother in law's boyfriend. It is like the reverse of the Oedipus complex. My mother in law is in love...
    tarabull tarabull 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    Yes, I hate my "MIL".

    .. She is nowhere near nice to me, manipulates my boyfriend and takes advantage of him. BUT... my "FIL" is pretty screwed up himself, which also scares me. From the bits and pieces I've been told, he was very abusive to his wife and kids (my bf). He and the evil MIL have not...
    CabanaCrush CabanaCrush 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    My husband recently made the decision

    that going to his brothers wedding and pretending that there is some sort of family harmony wasn't something he wanted to participate in. This was reinforced by us having to call the sheriff 3 times in one weekend to resolve her loose vicious dogs the weekend before the wedding...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 22

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