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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    It's not my fault. The legacy of Narcissism.

    It's been a rough few weeks. Will be for a while. I asked my husband to help me catch up on some things since he was home and it won't kill him. I kid you not. Every little task I asked him to help with ended up starting with I can't do this because you... I asked him to put our...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2015

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    I am a nature lover. I love watching couples in

    the animal kingdom, so heart warming. I live in Canada and I have a pair of northern cardinals who come to my feeder every evening to have a quiet meal together. Never once have I seen a MIL hanging around squawking at them. Maybe that's why they appear so content. Wishing you...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Jun 26, 2015

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    An Update: So, a bit of time not living under

    my in-laws' roof is finally bringing me some peace, although I do have to endure my MIL visiting every other week. I am trying to make peace with that, especially now that DH and I have agreed that in 5 years we'll be moving far away from them again. We have a good plan - he...
    FarAway FarAway 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    We were at a party this past weekend.

    It was work related but with spouses invited and it was a big gala, 4000+ people. In any case, my partner complained that no one talked to him, but he didn't talk to anyone either, even me!! I tried to keep him company but it was also a networking thing. Had the event been...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Anyone else have a mil

    that just does what they want even when you specifically tell them something. Like we want the kids to exclusively drink water so that way they get a taste for water and not other drinks they don't need. Seems simple enough but this woman simply refuses to just give the kids...
    Jessicadooley Jessicadooley 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2015

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    My mother in law gossips

    and assumes things. (example - she's a Facebook stalker, and she asked at my husband's birthday party in front of everyone if I log onto my husband's Facebook when he's at work. My husband being the sweet and stern man he is, told his mother it's non of her business, and next we...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 26, 2015

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    It's been a long time

    since I posted in here. I'll do my best to keep it under a gazillion characters but there's a lot to catch up on... We moved a few months ago across the seas to be closer to DH's family. Yeah, I know. What were we thinking? Actually, we also had some serious financial reasons...
    FarAway FarAway 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2015

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    The role of religion in the continued saga of

    my MIL/SIL and my marriage to her baby boy. Many years ago when my MIL was more or less just meddling and controlling and a self centered narcissist she got a job. Yes a JOB that a church was paying her to watch babies in the nursery so that none of the members had to miss the...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    She is making my relationship

    and life so difficult. Where do I start with her.. Was it when I was in labour and they were asked to stay home until we were ready for visitors, but no she stood waiting in the cafeteria and became irate that my husband stopped texting her the two hours I was pushing! After...
    seriouslyfedup seriouslyfedup 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 25 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    Not technically my mother in law.

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 yrs and will most likely marry. But his mom is so catty and gossipy! She's openly rude and doesn't say hi to me when I walk in the house. I have no idea what I did wrong, but of course I can't tell him!!!! Ugh
    helpmeplease10 helpmeplease10 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    I have been with my boyfriend

    for 2 and a half years , I am currently in school for my doctoral degree , and you would think that your boyfriend's/husband's mom would be glad hes not settling for a prostitute. But no. She absolutely HATES me and she does anything to throw shade at me whether I am there or...
    alysssaaam alysssaaam 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 11

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    I feel so bad about my first post being

    so negative. I absolutely loathe my MIL. She was against our wedding in the first place. Seemed like a timid old woman and I thought she would be harmless. The first thing she said to me after I got married was "We had almost said no to this wedding,etc etc". I was almost at the...
    monalisa1986 monalisa1986 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 21

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    My MIL is a fundamentalist southern baptist,

    I'm mostly agnostic with pagan leanings. Truth be told, I'm pretty apathetic when it comes to religion. Except for once a year, around Christmas of course, my MIL swoops in to be super grandma. Note: She lives 15mins away, but refuses to see them the rest of the year. To top...
    evepoyepo evepoyepo 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2015

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 18-21, F 68 Responses May 4, 2007

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    Can you tell my MIL is back in my life?

    I'm only sharing this story because it may help someone decide whether to make the same mistakes I made. LOL! It's sad I know. Navigating through this crap takes a lifetime apparently! You'll probably make the same mistake and if you do, forgive yourself. Tough boundaries are...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Dec 14, 2015

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    OK folks, we're nearly through the most

    stressful time of the year when there is conflict in the family with the in-laws. How are your holidays going?
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 5 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 7 Responses Jan 25, 2015

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 21 Responses May 6, 2007

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    My mother-in-law is a narcissist.

    If anyone understands what that means in psychological terms, then you know the true depth and breadth of the type of pain, abuse and systematic destruction they produce toward their targets.They are not happy unless allowed total control of your life, which they feel completely...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Nov 27, 2015

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    This woman is impossible!

    My husband has gone off to boot camp and I am completely by my self. We just moved back to this area and I feel like an outsider with all of my old friends, and my family is all off doing other stuff. So I keep busy working (60 hours a week) and love that on my days off I can...
    LovablefunLady LovablefunLady 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 28, 2015

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    I'm going through my 2nd pregnancy

    and it's been difficult compared to my 1st one. It's worse with my mother in law there. She compares her pregnancy with my symptoms. Tells people I'm too old to have this baby but complains that I should be having more grandkids because no one else in her family are having any...
    Darkshadows02 Darkshadows02 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Affirmations For Every Troubled Daughter In Law, With Love!

    I believe what we think, we become. The last thing I want to become is a grumpy old lady (like some people we know right??) Repeat after me: I spend my time with people who love and respect me. I lovingly release anyone who doesn't have my best interests at heart, with a...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    We are planning a family trip to disney world

    with her. I don't want her to go to disney world with us but husband does. She complains about everything that my husband and I do he drives to fast, we smoke, we aren't strict Baptist, we listen to music other than Christian music, we aren't legally married, I'm not ready to...
    Samllang Samllang 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    My mother-in-law would often brag she was the

    best cook ever. The women never used spices at all when cooking. There were 4 of us daughter-in-laws gathered in her kitchen for a Thanksgiving meal. My mother-in-law was in "Big Brag" mode and was tooting her own horn. She put something in the microwave and was bragging away...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses May 16, 2015

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    So she is mean crude

    and rude . But my husband gets angry because I have nothing nice to say about her ever. Gee I really wonder why ?well if she were nice 90 percent of the time instead of nasty 90 percent then maybe I could be .i really do not understand some people why and how would he even...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 4

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 40 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 16 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    hi everyone its been

    so long i have posted something. as previously i told you i was living with my in laws but we moved out 3 months back about 5 hours distance from them. now i dont know what is happening to my hubby...he is forcing me to spend weekend with my inlaws.... he was changed and saw...
    mimid12 mimid12 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    She is a hideous person whom I'm stuck with

    forever. Thank God her son is nothing like her!
    cheekyhannah36 cheekyhannah36 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 5, 2015

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I really need to vent right now.

    ... everyday she abuses me directly or indirectly...for the sake of peace i keep quiet and dont react to her and talk nicely to her...but she always put me down....as i am preparing for higher studies i try to ignore everything and concentrate on my studies...but she dont want me...
    mimid12 mimid12 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 24, 2015

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    My MIL isn't involved in my kid's lives

    as much as she should be.
    sooz32 sooz32 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 16

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    my MIL drives me crazy.

    she even drives my husband nuts. so much to the point that we have considered trying to get a restraining order against her because she blows our phones up every day talking about crap we don't care about, harasses my father-in-law in the messages, and talks badly to us as well...
    xxfallenangel xxfallenangel 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 20

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    My mother in law has turned her whole family

    against me. She told her family that I have psychologically abused her. In her twisted head, she can say and act however she likes towards me , but the second I stand up for myself, apprently I'm 'abusing' her. My Sil is a nightmare too, always provoking and antagonising me...
    Lilyrose456 Lilyrose456 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 28

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    So I have written on here before.

    . I think like most, I do it to vent because the crap that is pulled is just insane.. Before I decided to write, I read a lot of post on here, some old some new.. Ladies, we have a lot of needy, sociopathic women out there that we have to call our MIL's. My word. I will always be...
    bekah930 bekah930 46-50 5 Responses May 10, 2015

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    I have been dating my fiance

    for 9 months and were about to get married in May (I'm 19 she's 21 if that makes a difference with the story)..... but I ******* hate her mom. Oh my god, I can't stand this woman. feels like she is obligated to do whatever the **** her mom wants her to do. First off my fiancés...
    ambs57 ambs57 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My evil MIL once asked me,

    "If my son and I were drowning, and you can only save one person, who would it be?" I responded, "I can't swim, so you're both screwed." Fake laughter ensued, "But seriously, who would you save if you COULD swim?" Without a skipping a beat, I responded, "My husband" She...
    NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt 31-35, F 2 Responses May 25, 2015

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    BIL Update: So today my BIL stopped by

    unannounced to see my husband before his big move about 1,500 miles away. I did wake up my husband so he could spend a few minutes talking to his brother, and when BIL finally left, my husband got all weepy. Really?? Now that BIL came over and was nice for 5 minutes, and...
    FarAway FarAway 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    We are planning a family trip to disney world

    with her. I don't want her to go to disney world with us but husband does. She complains about everything that my husband and I do he drives to fast, we smoke, we aren't strict Baptist, we listen to music other than Christian music, we aren't legally married, I'm not ready to...
    Samllang Samllang 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 27

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 23 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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