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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    I was unfortunate enough to land myself in a

    house that includes not only my husband but along with my in laws, sister in law, her husband, and two kids. Everyone knows and can imagine what it's like to have a sister in law and a mother in law under the same roof. When his mother found out we were getting married, her...
    destinii3 destinii3 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    At the beginning we got along pretty well

    and she insisted she didn't want to be 'the stereotypical evil one'. I really believed her and tried to like even her small quirks like still buying my husband underwear, calling us EVERY day and searching in our bags when we visit her. About three months ago me and my husband...
    maajake maajake 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 84 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    Mother'S Day Is For Both Mother'S &Amp; MIL'S

    I decided to write something about the pending Mother's Day that is approaching and wish to share some thoughts about it. To all Mother's & MIL's: Please MIL's realize that Mother's Day is for all mothers. Us women try so hard daily to care for our families, see our mothers...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses May 9, 2013

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    I have to ask this question to you ladies .

    Do you tell your husband straight out that you hate his mother? And if so what kind of response do you get from him .
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 26-30, F 21 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 36 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    My mil is a retired kindergarten school teacher.

    She is so annoying when she talks to others and me because she talks to everyone like they are 5 years old. She is a complete common sense idiot!!!! We moved her in with us last May, 9 months after my fil took his life. ( My husband and I are starting to see why he might have...
    SharonJ08 SharonJ08 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 4

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    I mean I 100% wish nothing more

    than bad horrible nasty things would happen to her. She is 55 and acts like she is 16. She treats my husband like a slave and never gives him ANY credit. She can't ever do anything by herself and the few good deeds she does do most certainly does not overtake the enormous...
    AmaiXAshuri AmaiXAshuri 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    ...but My Father-in-law Is Worse!

    My mother-in-law was livid when she heard I was pregnant and told us not to tell anyone else.  At a family party (his family) that week, we told.  Well, we were thrilled:  who wouldn't be?  Not her, for a start.  As we were leaving, a cat leapt off a...
    alfeen alfeen 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Not Mil But Whole Family - Not Hatred But Uneasy Feeling

    about 18 mos after my failed marriage to a man AND his mother from hell, i began to date again.  i met a great guy.  we hit it off amazingly.  as a matter of fact, in my adult life i'd not ever 'hit it off' quite like that before.  we both knew instantly...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 7 Responses May 27, 2007

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    Im not really sure how to start this vent

    except with my MIL is absolutely nuts. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and have a 7 year old and 15 month old. Things with his sisters have always been a battle. From day 1 they have both tried to ruin our relationship, then they'd be nice, then back to...
    alowe8507 alowe8507 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    I feel like she is haunting me from the grave!

    The grave of get out of our life! We told my MIL she was to no longer contact us at all period. She told us our son was a mistake, told our adoptive daughter that her real mom is out there somewhere and she can find her whenever she wants I am not her real mom she does not have...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 4

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    Hi all. I am new here

    and for the last 3 years my mil has been a nightmare! From day one she has been telling my fiancé ridiculous things about me. She tries to convince him that I hold him back from school, his friends, and his family. When we got together 3 years ago, I was finishing up my BBA and...
    areyna88 areyna88 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    Even though my husband

    and I have a horrendous marriage, I still hate my mother in law on principle for how much she abused him as a child and let her husband abuse him as well.
    downbythebay94 downbythebay94 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 10

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    Hi there, first of all I am sorry to anyone

    who is reading this because that probably means you are in the same boat as me as far as having a evil mother in law from hell. I have posted a few times but encase you have not seen me I will get you up to speed on what is going on here: So my mother in law is evil and a...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 16

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    My mother in law is the most annoying person in

    the world. She drinks like a fish. She smokes like a factory, and somehow she hasn't dropped dead yet. I'm one of her two sons in law, and she also has two daughters in law. We're just four people united in our hatred of this woman. We're our own support group to deal with...
    TheDrunkDuck TheDrunkDuck 36-40, M 6 Responses Jul 3

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    Another great article: Narcissistic

    Mother-in-Law Breaks Up Marriages http://thenarcissistinyourlife.com/narcissistic-mother-in-law-breaks-up-marriages/ The article says when faced with this dilemma the daughter-in-law has three choices: 1) stay and suffer 2) try to get hubby away from mommy 3) leave the...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Jul 9

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Whether your MIL is a full blown narcissist

    or has developed some of these tools to hook the people around her, instead of just being an honest person (is that really too much to ask??) it is in your best interest to keep your eyes wide open and know who and what you're dealing with. I see my MIL in all points of this...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 4 days ago

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 24 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    MIL’s Latest Tricks

    Well, where to start huh :-) My name is Kelly and I Hate My Mother In Law, who actually isnt my mother-in-law yet and probably won't ever be if my situation doesnt improve somehow. I met my soldier in 2004 and knew he was the one, I fell fast with our first child in January...
    kellyfromnewcastle kellyfromnewcastle 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2007

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    I am done!. I wash my hands of all of them.

    . I cannot believe their arrogance this time. The way the treated my child, and when the poor innocent child was there, they spanked him, not just spanked threw him on the couch and spanked. It is not right. I do believe in spanking but only by the parents NEVER by anyone else...
    2tired2try 2tired2try 31-35 1 Response Jun 19

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    When my husband and I just got engaged we told

    his mom( my mother in law) about having a wedding in a couple of months so I guess our wedding plans didn't matter to her, she sent out invitations to our "wedding" she was hosting without telling us. We found out by people calling us and RSVP for this event, we confronted her...
    zurelie zurelie 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 10

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    It's took me a long time to work out

    but after 4 years I realise there is nothing I can do to change my MIL behaviour and with countless attempts and being beat up psychologically I have now come to the realisation that no matter how hard I try the situation with her will never change unless I change MYSELF the way...
    mbsk01 mbsk01 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 26

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    Where Do I Begin...i Am Tired of Trying!!

    I have been married for 13 years to a wonderful man who was very emotionally messed up when we met.  I have always gone out of my way to make the In Law's feel welcome and loved.  I send cards for every holiday, birthday, anniversary and gifts.  I make sure they...
    jlkenny jlkenny 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2007

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    I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to forgive

    her. At first, when I met her, I thought for sure that I wouldn't have typical awful MIL; but I was wrong. Her snide comments and back-handness started slowly. First with things such as looking me up and down in our kitchen, then coming over to me and leaning in to tell me...
    cfern823 cfern823 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 15

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    My partner’s son is turning 20 this weekend.

    I have known him since he was born. I have never been awarded the role of step mom though. There are a few reasons for that. 1) Early in my relationship, my partner and his mom were afraid of the ex-wife’s reaction if I were to show up so I was excluded to keep the peace. The...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Jul 3

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    Do I Hate My Mil?

    i've read all the awful things mil's have done and not sure how to explain the pain i've received from my mil and sil. their not like alot of the stories i've read. they don't ever come out and say awful things to me. it's unbelievable how i'm sooo hurt that i feel hate. i...
    nomotherlove nomotherlove 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    A Little Advice

    Things right now are going realy well with my MIL and I. Of course she still hates me...but really I do not think that is EVER going to change. There is still tention but scense my husband told her it's not ok to treat us the way she has, she has completly backed off. It's...
    northernlightsalaska333 northernlightsalaska333 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 28 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Can't believe I'm even admitting this

    but I have been hurt and tortured to the point that I had a dream not too long ago that I was in a wreck and my MIL was trapped in her seatbelt I went over to help her but instead I snapped her neck. I hope you don't judge me like that bc I never see myself as that kind of...
    KeirsWife KeirsWife 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 30

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 17 Responses May 6, 2007

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    The past 8 months my mother in law has been

    living with me and my husband. The deal was she needed a place to stay for two years. I believe whole heartedly that I will not make it out of this experience with my sanity. I regret ever agreeing to this horrendous living situation (we live in a small 2 bedroom apt) and my 2...
    nikkitatink0411 nikkitatink0411 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 21

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    I wouldn't normally use the word 'hate'

    but after 4 years with my soon to be husband I have no other feeling towards my MIL than exactly this! She had made it's quite clear from the beginning of our relationship that I was 'taking her baby away' she has always been very controlling and abusive towards our relationship...
    mbsk01 mbsk01 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 2, 2007

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    Here's a brief history of my MIL & the things

    that she's done in the last 1.5 yrs (in no particular order) 1- Cried about missing her ex- DIL (2x at Christmas) 2- Cried @ until my bf (her son) invited her to his b-day dinner. 4) Called me an evil StepMother on Mother's Day after I cooked for her entire family. 5) Told my...
    SparKle1309 SparKle1309 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 3

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    I invited her over for a birthday

    for my son and she sat in my dining room making fun of my family I cant stand her I told her she has no couth. But , its the second time she has done this to me as the old saying goes once shame on me twice shame on you so I dont want anything to do with her I cant stand her but...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 14

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    I Am Leaving This Group !!!

    I've spent 29 years come August being physically, emotionally and verbally abused by my s / o's mother. We all live in the same house and have for the past 18 years.  Thankfully we live separately and if I didn't want  to I'd not have to even lay eyes on her. I'm a forgiver...
    justmarji justmarji 51-55, F 9 Responses Jul 5, 2013

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 21-25, F 64 Responses May 4, 2007

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    In 2008 my Mother in law lost h husband .

    I tried helping her through his illness and after his death and things were ok.I had never had bad feelings toward her in the past,as a matter of fact we were pretty close I suppose . who knows what she said behind my back . We told her that due to her recent loss that she didn...
    helpless69 helpless69 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    What Have I Gotten Myself Into????

    My mother-in-law lives with us, we took her in about a year ago. She has alot of health issues and she couldn't cook for herself and was practically starving herself, so we made the decision to take her in.  I knew it would be hard for us but that was just an understatement...
    Windylittlehound Windylittlehound 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2007

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    My mother in law acts like a 10 year old around

    my husband just for attention, she never has a conversation with me only when she has to. She ignores me in any family function. When she feels she needs more attention she pretends to be sick, last year she called my husband crying and told him she has cancer, since I'm a nurse...
    zurelie zurelie 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 10

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    Cant stand being around her cant

    even stand being in the same room if someone mentions her name without feeling a burning feeling in my stomach shes mean to me 90 percent of the time . She has got me to the point that I tell everyone how much I hate her .I dont want her to get the best of me but it hurts so bad...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    Truth.

    I hate my ******* mother in law. She gets in the way of everything in my life. She draws my wife into her wicked ******* web of hate and suffering, and that in turn is passed on to my wife. Then she takes that **** out on me. There is no polite way for me to say this. There...
    thefragile77 thefragile77 36-40 7 Responses Aug 9, 2013

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