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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I guess now my hatred has just grown to

    complete indifference, I really couldn't care either way about this woman now. After all she's put us through for the past nearly 3 years, the lack of communication and blatantly obvious plays to try and turn DH against me, turning DH's siblings against him, not caring about...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    I unfortunately live with my mil.

    have been for at least 4 years. when I moved it wasn't something I wanted to do but I was pregnant and already had a daughter. my husband is an only child and his mom is having health issues. some she can't help others due to her not doing anything to make her health any...
    toirenee3 toirenee3 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    I don't hate my mother in law I just hate the

    things she does and says. I hate how she always has the last word I hate that how she always thinks she's a perfect mother when she didn't even raise her own son(my husband) she left him so that he could be raised by her mother. right now we're at the store and she knows I'm...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    I'm from India and my husband is from America

    and we have been married 18 years now. In the beginning she told my husband not to marry me because 'you never know where she comes from' although she knows I am a medical doctor. During our honeymoon, she will call everyday to make sure he is still alright that I will not kill...
    yellowrose2015 yellowrose2015 41-45, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Conversation with CIL This post is a follow up

    to EP Link I changed all names for privacy reasons but left the conversation in tact. This was via Whatsapp: 9:32, 2014/4/2 - You: Hello CIL, this is Zola, DH's fiancee. Hw r u doin? Do send me a response when u can, I need 2 share some details wit u. Have a blessed n...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 10

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 24 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    Affirmations For Every Troubled Daughter In Law, With Love!

    I believe what we think, we become. The last thing I want to become is a grumpy old lady (like some people we know right??) Repeat after me: I spend my time with people who love and respect me. I lovingly release anyone who doesn't have my best interests at heart, with a...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    I hate my mother-in-law.

    Yep, it's official. My husband and I have been married for a year (and were together for 5 years prior to marrying) but she never really warmed up to me. My husband has a kid with his ex girlfriend (who is also married) but the mother in law is much much nicer to her than she...
    blythe19 blythe19 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 21

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    ugh. where to start.

    My Mil has hated me since day 1. she has verbally abused me ever since I got engaged to her son. called me not good enough, a *****, and worthless.. well after we got married, she called me lazy. and I had a job which I quit due to my health issues and she was all mad...
    AngelicInnocence92 AngelicInnocence92 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 25

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    Im so glad to have found a place to vent!

    I am so bitter against my MIL. Long story short: In the beginning of my marriage (5 yrs now) I treated my MIL as I do my mother. We were very close to the point that people could not understand it. Until I disobeyed my husband and asked her to live with us-to care for our 2yr...
    zamlee zamlee 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    Even when she tries to help she makes a bigger

    mess and more work than there would have been had she minded her own business. Keep having talks with the hubby about it, and his response the other night was "look at my mom as practice for our children, if you can be patient with her, you can be patient with anyone". I'm...
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 19 Responses May 6, 2007

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 21-25, F 66 Responses May 4, 2007

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    I haven't been in contact with Mil

    for over a year. I decided to cut all ties with her, and concentrate on getting better, and being around people who support and love me. My husband wasn't best pleased with my decision, but allowed me to have my space. Recently my husband suggested that I should reconnect with...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    my mother in law lives with us,

    because my husband fears for her health and safety. She is an alcoholic and spends every moment off work, drinking and smoking cigarettes. I take care of our home, six month old daughter, two dogs, and the disasters she leaves behind everyday while my husband works long hours to...
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    What Have I Gotten Myself Into????

    My mother-in-law lives with us, we took her in about a year ago. She has alot of health issues and she couldn't cook for herself and was practically starving herself, so we made the decision to take her in.  I knew it would be hard for us but that was just an understatement...
    Windylittlehound Windylittlehound 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 28, 2007

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    My mother-in-law had a farm.

    She pretty much forced all the grandkids to be in 4-H. There was a lot of work to prepare for the County Fair in that area. The kids had to shovel poop, groom their animals, keep logs and work their animals. Besides that they were entered in all arts , canning, sewing and...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    Where Do I Begin...i Am Tired of Trying!!

    I have been married for 13 years to a wonderful man who was very emotionally messed up when we met.  I have always gone out of my way to make the In Law's feel welcome and loved.  I send cards for every holiday, birthday, anniversary and gifts.  I make sure they...
    jlkenny jlkenny 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2007

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    Ranking your MIL Who told in laws

    that they are relationship experts? My misguided MIL, SIL and CIL all seem to believe that they are the authority on relationships and know what's best for everyone else with the exception of themselves. Interestingly, none of them have any relationships to talk about, MIL is...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    The ABC's for Mothers in Laws (those of sons

    with a negative aura)Acknowledge and accept that your son is married, you may not like his choice but it’s his decision.Be supportive and encouraging, your daughter in law means the world to your son, shunning her won’t help.Callous, cold, hostile behaviour does not...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    MIL’s Latest Tricks

    Well, where to start huh :-) My name is Kelly and I Hate My Mother In Law, who actually isnt my mother-in-law yet and probably won't ever be if my situation doesnt improve somehow. I met my soldier in 2004 and knew he was the one, I fell fast with our first child in January...
    kellyfromnewcastle kellyfromnewcastle 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2007

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    Sunshinegal4u Sunshinegal4u 26-30, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    ...but My Father-in-law Is Worse!

    My mother-in-law was livid when she heard I was pregnant and told us not to tell anyone else.  At a family party (his family) that week, we told.  Well, we were thrilled:  who wouldn't be?  Not her, for a start.  As we were leaving, a cat leapt off a...
    alfeen alfeen 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    Hate is a strong word.

    I'm working on not hating her but in fact, loving her. When I met my husband, I was instantly attracted and won over by his vibrant personality. Also, I loved how he talked so well of his mom. When I finally met his mom, I instantly fell in love with her. She's so sweet, serves...
    KTQJQ KTQJQ 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    My husband and I have been together a little

    over 5 years (married only 7 months). This is my second marriage. I have two children from my previous marriage, now 15 & 13. He welcomed them with open arms. They have a great relationship and he considers them his own. Their biological dad sees them one or twice a week and is...
    doobiemom321 doobiemom321 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 9

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    My mother in law is a flip flopper.

    One minute she is acting like my friend and then the next minute she is undermining me about something. You see, I'm African American and my husband is Albanian. Getting married was a big culture shock for me. In the beginning of my marriage, my MIL began with putting me down...
    antique10 antique10 26-30, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    when my wife in hospital my mother-in-law was

    at home for help.one night we were watching tv and later we dicusied to sleep.i and she did s e x
    roshan70 roshan70 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 28 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    12 things I observed about my in laws: 1.

    Inability to recognize and accept change in family relations and dynamics. Your son/brother has new priorities; his wife has taken the position of being first in his life ahead of mother, youngest sister and his family of origin. His wife is now his priority and number one in...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    In 2011 I found out my husband was having an

    affair. I filed for divorce. We had been together 29 yrs and raised 2 children. Our children were naturally upset. My mother-in-laws comment to my children was, "You are grown, you don't need your father any more." "He has a new family now". It has been 3 yrs and my children...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 5 Responses Jan 15

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    Counting down! 12 weeks to go!

    !! Woo hoo!!! My husband, son, and I are finally preparing to move out of our apartment leaving his mother behind as we return back to our home state (13 hour drive away from my MIL-PRAISE GOD!!!). I never thought the day would come. I wrote my first story of my MIL and how...
    zamlee zamlee 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 83 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    Mother'S Day Is For Both Mother'S &Amp; MIL'S

    I decided to write something about the pending Mother's Day that is approaching and wish to share some thoughts about it. To all Mother's & MIL's: Please MIL's realize that Mother's Day is for all mothers. Us women try so hard daily to care for our families, see our mothers...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses May 9, 2013

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    MIL thinks I should go to work,

    take care of kids, clean the house, drive children everywhere, etc without the husbands help. like hell no. I need husbands help. luckily my husband disagrees. he doesn't want me to work. I don't want to work. lol. I'm perfectly fine with being a stay at home mother...
    AngelicInnocence92 AngelicInnocence92 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I have seen and heard from a lot of people that

    once you have children your MIL becomes worse. Even talking about her makes me so angry. I've never had one person make me so mad and have so much hate. My husband and I married back in October and everyone is asking when are we going to have kids. All I can think about is how I...
    redhead8 redhead8 18-21, F 7 Responses