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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    I joined this forum just

    so that i can put my experience with my mother in law in writing. so here is the story. I met my husband in college. we were first friends and it turned into love. My husband does not like confrontations, he is a very calm person. when i met his mother, she was very...
    Aleksanrda Aleksanrda 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 7

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    I don't hate my mil i just get bothered by her

    presence at times. I feel like I am in a constant tug of war that I keep loosing because I refuse to play. I have been getting a bit irritated with MIL lately due to the fact that anytime I serve my DH she ALWAYS insist I give him more of this or that. I know his eating habits...
    depressedlostheartbroken depressedlostheartbroken 22-25 5 Responses Nov 14

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    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    A Little Advice

    Things right now are going realy well with my MIL and I. Of course she still hates me...but really I do not think that is EVER going to change. There is still tention but scense my husband told her it's not ok to treat us the way she has, she has completly backed off. It's...
    northernlightsalaska333 northernlightsalaska333 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    The Double Bind When I look back I feel Mil

    set me up for failure. I was trapped in a double bind. In simple terms double bind means: damned if you do, damned if you don't, and damned if you say. whatever I did, the outcome would always be negative. I lived with my in laws for 2 years. It's was the worst decision we...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 12

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    I dont care for the description of this topic.

    ... I really dont hate her, but i desperately need advice & right now I am willing to get advice from anyone...there is no question that my mother in law is difficult..she is a compulsive liar, she thrives on drama, she is a hypochondriac who i believe has some degree of...
    Neuronurse Neuronurse 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 8

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    I'm so po right now I need to get this out

    or I might scream. My husband and I share a home with my in laws, we do everything for them when ever the ask, my husband spent two days fixing her car, spent an entire weekend putting new appliances in her kitchen but when we need a favor it's I'm busy. I need to go Xmas...
    millerb79 millerb79 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 31

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    I want to share this

    because I feel so stressed and don't want to constantly complain to my husband. To make a long story short my husband and I made a lot of bad financial choices when we were young and filed for bankruptcy. We rented a great home for 3 years and had zero debt and wanted to start...
    millerb79 millerb79 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 29

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    She is such a trouble maker I ran into her at

    the food store with my son she didnt see us so we figured we would be nice and beep and wave well big mistake she walks over to the car and with an extremely phonie voice says to me congratulations because we leased a new car mind you we have been leasing new cars every three...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    Do I Hate My Mil?

    i've read all the awful things mil's have done and not sure how to explain the pain i've received from my mil and sil. their not like alot of the stories i've read. they don't ever come out and say awful things to me. it's unbelievable how i'm sooo hurt that i feel hate. i...
    nomotherlove nomotherlove 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    What Have I Gotten Myself Into????

    My mother-in-law lives with us, we took her in about a year ago. She has alot of health issues and she couldn't cook for herself and was practically starving herself, so we made the decision to take her in.  I knew it would be hard for us but that was just an understatement...
    Windylittlehound Windylittlehound 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2007

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 29 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    I HATE my Mother in Law.

    Yes it's me again :D What can I say I can't get enough of bitching about this evil woman. Anyways; I was on Facebook and had to log onto an old account to try to get photos off of it. The first person that popped up was my MIL I told myself don't look (we have not spoken to her...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 1

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 24 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    MY mother-in-law feels she has to rule all her

    daughter-in-laws lives. We have a family cabin on a river which is pretty primitive. No running water or electric. On Mother's Day we all are expected to spend the day cleaning the camp. Just what I wanted to do. Flowers and a nice dinner out with the hubby more in line with...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 2 Responses Oct 28

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    I wanted to wish all the ladies

    and gentlemen a Happy Thanksgiving and a stress free day! My prayer to those who will be sharing tomorrow with their MIL's. Lord give strength where it is needed when the MIL makes a negative comment about the turkey, we know then that they must really like it! Lord give...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    When i married my husband he gave me a warning.

    Stay away from his mother because she is nuts. Through the yrs I have seen where she has made the whole family miserable. All her daughter-in-laws hate her. She just won't stop with the crap. For example: They own a farm and have lots of animals. One sister-in-law lived next...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 1 Response Oct 27

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    My mother in law is a repeat offender.

    Before I came along, my Sister in Law (husband's brother's wife) had to endure 4 years of abuse. My mother in law treated her very badly, and still to this day my Sil takes Mil's abuse. When I came into the family, I took the abuse for two years, and realised enough is enough...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 30

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    I recently had a vivid flashback about my Mil

    and her abusive ways. I realised slowly how she would subtly and insidiously abuse me, and it mostly happened behind closed doors, where there were no witnesses. She GASLIGHTED me. Gaslighting is emotional/mental abuse to attempt to destroy the victim's trust in their...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 15

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    Hello All, I have been married

    for two years. My MIL has five children and my husband is her youngest son. She lives with us. She is very manipulative. I have been a guest in my home for the last two years. I moved from India to South Africa to be with my husband. Unfortunately, love does not pay any...
    SmritiP SmritiP 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 10

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    I just want to share my experience with you all.

    I've never come across a story like me.... My marriage is on the verge of collapse and It's all attributed to my mil. I've been with my husband for 11 yrs now, and the good trait that I once thought of him ironically turned out to be the biggest prob in our marriage. My husband...
    trufflecake trufflecake 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18

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    My mother in law has made my life a living

    nightmare from I said I do. She has had my husband ex gf sleep in her house whiles my husband was busting, she has invited this ex gf to family functions knowing that I would be there. His sisters speak about me like I'm invisible they make jokes about me weight and looks. They...
    Toyaday Toyaday 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 14

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    A while ago, at my beginning on this site I

    wrote I don´t really hate her. This word will always be too heavy for me. And this is the best revenge I can make: I love. I don´t love her passionately, but I live loving the world and accepting even things, creatures and persons that are not compatible with me. What I am...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 25

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    Beware all! National MIL day is on Oct 24!

    MInes will be test flying her broom! Funny how this day falls one week prior to Halloween. Hmmmm!
    hwntaz hwntaz 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 17

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    As I have written here a

    while ago, all this experience I earned dealing with my mil and consequently with my husband as her "product" is unwilling, but something I can´t avoid. Since I do own it, it is only fair to share it. When she lived with us and when I was younger and not so mature I felt...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    So my fiance and I are getting married next

    August, at which point we will have been together nearly 5 years. Our relationship is very strong, we truly are perfect for each other, and I am so excited to be marrying him. The only area we have ever struggled with has been his family. My family isn't perfect, however they do...
    WifeToBe822 WifeToBe822 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 12

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    she just caught me ************

    while my gf was at work and just walked out. funny thing was I was ******* off to some of the ladies on this app
    Philup74 Philup74 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 13

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 21-25, F 66 Responses May 4, 2007

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    Not Mil But Whole Family - Not Hatred But Uneasy Feeling

    about 18 mos after my failed marriage to a man AND his mother from hell, i began to date again.  i met a great guy.  we hit it off amazingly.  as a matter of fact, in my adult life i'd not ever 'hit it off' quite like that before.  we both knew instantly...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 7 Responses May 27, 2007

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 84 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    For the past 1.5 years my mother in law has

    harassed, bullied, stalked and threatened me. Before I came into my now husbands life she had complete control over him and his money. She views me as the ***** that took her control away. She doesn't like that I come from a good family, went to school and have held good jobs...
    belledejour82 belledejour82 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 28

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    Tell me if you think this is normal

    and or how to deal with this: My mother in law joined facebook and I accepted her request. She didn't "like or comment" on any of our wedding photos that we put up. She did however "like" my husband's photo in the wedding that were with his friends and some other photos of his...
    rosegrl rosegrl 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 7

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    Mother'S Day Is For Both Mother'S &Amp; MIL'S

    I decided to write something about the pending Mother's Day that is approaching and wish to share some thoughts about it. To all Mother's & MIL's: Please MIL's realize that Mother's Day is for all mothers. Us women try so hard daily to care for our families, see our mothers...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 3 Responses May 9, 2013

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    Where Do I Begin...i Am Tired of Trying!!

    I have been married for 13 years to a wonderful man who was very emotionally messed up when we met.  I have always gone out of my way to make the In Law's feel welcome and loved.  I send cards for every holiday, birthday, anniversary and gifts.  I make sure they...
    jlkenny jlkenny 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2007

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 36 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    This is just one incident in the many my

    mother-in-law has pulled. For a little back ground on her: she is a practicing RN nurse, she works for Social Services. My mother-in-law decided to take the grandchildren on a shopping trip to a small city about 80 miles from our town. She loaded up 7 grandchildren of all...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 4 Responses Oct 31

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    Moving out was the best decision I made in

    these years. I lived with my in laws for over a year. Whenever my mother in law emotionally and financially abused me, I turned to this site and all the wonderful people from this site helped me a lot, and I had the strength and ideas to go through with every events I had to...
    Doctor2012 Doctor2012 31-35 3 Responses Nov 5

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    Truth.

    I hate my ******* mother in law. She gets in the way of everything in my life. She draws my wife into her wicked ******* web of hate and suffering, and that in turn is passed on to my wife. Then she takes that **** out on me. There is no polite way for me to say this. There...
    thefragile77 thefragile77 36-40 7 Responses Aug 9, 2013

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    I don't hate her, but she is very irritating.

    She is very loud, argumentative, and the sound of her manly voice grates on my nerves. She does more talking than listening. For example, my husband or I will just have just said something and she will start every statement either by saying "Not only that" or "No," and then say...
    melhgriff melhgriff 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 9

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    Yesterday I received a letter from my MIL,

    who came very close to making me decide to leave her son this year and was acting as if she'd done nothing wrong. I had sent her a bible study on what God saw the role of parents to be in their adult children's lives. I am not religious, but it was the only article I could...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 6 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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