I Hate My Mother In Law

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    Last Wednesday, I was driving home from work

    and my chest started to hurt, then pain was radiating up through my jaw, acid was bubbling up in my throat. I felt terrible, in pain, and faint. Luckily I was almost home and I stopped in the local hospital emergency by myself. After much attention and trouble shooting, they...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet
    46-50
    3 Responses Mar 10

    Just a word of encouragement

    for all of you tortured souls. My husband broke his leg this summer. Mild fracture but laid up for a while. His mother came bleating to my door. I was very kind. Let her visit him by going to the bedroom window and talking to him through that. Best part of it. Husband found it...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning
    51-55, F
    1 Response Aug 21, 2014

    I work at the Steve Harvey TV show.

    We are looking for couples/families who are having issues with their In-Laws. If you are interested, please contact me! Thanks, Michelle
    tvshow17 tvshow17
    36-40
    3 Responses Mar 7

    Recent events demand a new perspective to my

    experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed approach, which was needed to remain sane. Still, it seems that a final drop was needed. This final drop fell on my husband. Being happy that I do...
    stellera stellera
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Jan 25, 2015

    I've been visiting the doctor more often

    as I'm almost ready. I have more than 1 Dr to monitor my baby due to my placenta is too low. As usual, my mil will complain that her son can't take her out so she's stuck at home, i'm always in pain for someone that doesnt do anything around the house (I do all the cleaning...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 15

    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid
    26-30, F
    62 Responses Mar 10, 2007

    My mother-in-law is a narcissist.

    If anyone understands what that means in psychological terms, then you know the true depth and breadth of the type of pain, abuse and systematic destruction they produce toward their targets.They are not happy unless allowed total control of your life, which they feel completely...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Nov 27, 2015

    I get so sick of it. Why doesn't she just call

    her son and talk to him. Ask him to stop over and visit. No. Everything has to have a manipulation in it. Texts my husband keeps getting . Oh do you need a table and chairs, would you like some new gaming headphones. Told H if he brought anything home I was going to walk it to...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Feb 28

    I'm going through my 2nd pregnancy

    and it's been difficult compared to my 1st one. It's worse with my mother in law there. She compares her pregnancy with my symptoms. Tells people I'm too old to have this baby but complains that I should be having more grandkids because no one else in her family are having any...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Feb 2

    I did it! I finally broke off contact with my

    in-laws! Spouting off at the mouth about me and my kids to my step-children. I finally had enough and told the witch off. She unfriended me on Facebook so I decided to make it permanent after I sent a message telling her I no longer will have anything to do with her. I blocked...
    taintedalyce taintedalyce
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 4

    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch
    56-60
    8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet
    46-50
    3 Responses Nov 8, 2013

    My mother in law has turned her whole family

    against me, and now they can't stand me- I feel their hatred for me is too extreme. I guess it all changed when I confronted mil over her behaviour, and after that event everything changed. One by one each family member came after me- with insults, indirect digs, passive...
    Lilyphan123 Lilyphan123
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Mar 31

    My evil MIL once asked me,

    "If my son and I were drowning, and you can only save one person, who would it be?" I responded, "I can't swim, so you're both screwed." Fake laughter ensued, "But seriously, who would you save if you COULD swim?" Without a skipping a beat, I responded, "My husband" She...
    NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt NoMorePainNoMoreGuilt
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 25, 2015

    I've been watching my MIL through the pics on

    her retirement community page. It has really helped me move on emotionally. I can feel her energy shifting towards a new focus. She was featured in one article saying 'this is my time, I can do whatever I want now' - three cheers!! What she doesn't realize is all we've EVER...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet
    46-50
    5 Responses Feb 13

    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas
    41-45, F
    36 Responses Feb 13, 2008

    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74
    31-35, F
    16 Responses Oct 2, 2007

    So I have written on here before.

    . I think like most, I do it to vent because the crap that is pulled is just insane.. Before I decided to write, I read a lot of post on here, some old some new.. Ladies, we have a lot of needy, sociopathic women out there that we have to call our MIL's. My word. I will always be...
    bekah930 bekah930
    46-50
    5 Responses May 10, 2015

    Does anyone else have a

    so called "christian" mother in law who hates you because you're a different christian religion than her? My MIL is the most controlling, manipulative, intrusive, selfish person I've ever known. She hates it whenever any of her kids get married. She wants them all to herself...
    jillie36 jillie36
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 19

    My mother in law gossips

    and assumes things. (example - she's a Facebook stalker, and she asked at my husband's birthday party in front of everyone if I log onto my husband's Facebook when he's at work. My husband being the sweet and stern man he is, told his mother it's non of her business, and next we...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 26, 2015

    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2007

    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Oct 1, 2007

    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja
    31-35, F
    40 Responses Apr 4, 2007

    I'm telling my story in hopes of helping other

    toxic in-laws relationship survivors that may be enduring the same thing. I am no longer afraid and am looking forward to taking control of my life. After years of beating myself up and bawling my eyes out, I have finally realized the truth about why my monster-in-law and I...
    stayshineynotshadey stayshineynotshadey
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Mar 10

    I am feeling completely broken

    and lost. My husband called my MIL for a couple of days for no apparent reason. Almost all the time he spent glued to her ,never leaving her room except to sleep and giving me least possible attention. In the past my mother in law had on many instances expressed her displeasure...
    monalisa1986 monalisa1986
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Feb 28

    I am a nature lover. I love watching couples in

    the animal kingdom, so heart warming. I live in Canada and I have a pair of northern cardinals who come to my feeder every evening to have a quiet meal together. Never once have I seen a MIL hanging around squawking at them. Maybe that's why they appear so content. Wishing you...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet
    46-50
    2 Responses Jun 26, 2015

    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian
    31-35, F
    23 Responses Apr 5, 2007

    Affirmations For Every Troubled Daughter In Law, With Love!

    I believe what we think, we become. The last thing I want to become is a grumpy old lady (like some people we know right??) Repeat after me: I spend my time with people who love and respect me. I lovingly release anyone who doesn't have my best interests at heart, with a...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet
    46-50
    3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe
    31-35, F
    20 Responses May 6, 2007

    I Hate My Mother In Law!!

        I hate my mother in law i hate her always butting in when my husband and i are talking, ive started when she buts in on us talking i tell her i was talking to don i wonder does she think shes married to her son i stay in my jail cell (my bedroom) when will...
    THEGOODTWIN THEGOODTWIN
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Dec 4, 2007

    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Jan 10, 2013

    battle of FB - so let's see,

    mil unfriended me on Facebook weeks ago. comments on every post my husband posts. he tags me in a joke picture that has a man holding a sign..help...wife and dog attacked and kidnapped by ninjas.need money for kung fu lessons.,want my dog back. mil comments on his post "lol...
    taintedalyce taintedalyce
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Apr 8

    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

    This woman is impossible!

    My husband has gone off to boot camp and I am completely by my self. We just moved back to this area and I feel like an outsider with all of my old friends, and my family is all off doing other stuff. So I keep busy working (60 hours a week) and love that on my days off I can...
    LovablefunLady LovablefunLady
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy
    26-30, F
    26 Responses Mar 29, 2007

    'm new to experience project,

    I need a place to vent about the evil, sadistic, sociopath that is my fiances mother. This is gonna be a long, grueling post, so bare with me, there's complex levels to this craziness. My fiances mother has always been a selfish, narcissistic, trainwreck. Here's a little...
    Alk1988 Alk1988
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 16

    I thought this site wasn't allowing new posts?

    Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining... So, the smear campaign rolls on. My in-laws have efficiently smeared my good name. Among their many complaints: apparently I put a gun to my H's head and keep him from communicating with them. You know - it's like he's not an adult...
    FarAway FarAway
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 17

    I am not yet married.

    My finance and I are in the process of planning our wedding. very traditional - my parents are paying for most of it and his parents (who are divorced) are splitting the cost and paying for the rehearsal dinner and bar tab at reception. My fiance's mother is very upset over...
    bitingmytongueoff bitingmytongueoff
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Feb 17

    So our family has had to temporarily live with

    my mother in law because my husbands recent drug addiction and my postpartum depression brought cps down on us, and all of a sudden we could not be alone with our children unsupervised. She made excuses from the get go for her son's addiction. He did not need treatment, and him...
    Starkizzed21 Starkizzed21
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 11

    I have been married 15 years

    and it seems that every argument over the years has been about my MIL and sister in law. 16 years ago my mother in law rolled her eyes as we announced our baby was coming. As I married with a big pregnant belly, she decided not to attend her only son's wedding with the excuse...
    Eury Eury
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 14

    I decided to text her today

    that my daughter was going back to public school next year. I was upset her teacher taught the class that the earth is only 6000 years old and scientists are wrong. I told her that is not in line with my beliefs. I still believe in God, but I am not comfortable with the way many...
    Starkizzed21 Starkizzed21
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 31

    What the actual heck?

    OK, so my husband has had a mustache for the past 10 years. He's also often sporting various lengths of a beard (or at least scruff, unless he's going on a job interview or something). OK, this is a 2-parter, so enjoy...My husband's family is Irish - as in his father actually...
    FarAway FarAway
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 18

     I've decided to delete my recent post,

    but it won't seem to delete so I guess I'll just edit it to this. Have a nice evening :D
    FarAway FarAway
    31-35, F
    Mar 16

    It hasn't been an easy pregnancy

    for me, especially now that I'm on my 3rd trimester and found out I'm going to have a difficult delivery. Dr told me to rest and not stress, but how can I with my crazy in laws. My mil makes it worse everyday for me. Inlaws doesnt want me to sleep in the day, I'm so...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 3

    I am absolutely disgusted with her lack of

    respect for us as parents, her hypocritical ways, and her need to control and feel more important than everyone around her. I've been trying to convince my husband that we need to limit my stepdaughters time with her grandma and get her out of our lives. Although she has been a...
    Starkizzed21 Starkizzed21
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 18

    It's MIL's birthday on Monday.

    I suggested we buy her a gift certificate for the hair salon she uses, he's taking her to dinner as well. My partner tells me his plan is to buy some caviar and extra special treats and set up a picnic for her and him. So I say "she'll love that, a date with her son!" and he...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet
    46-50
    3 Responses Jul 31, 2015

    Why do I give a crap?

    After knowing exactly what she thinks of me, why does it bother me? I know that in life not everyone will like you. Maybe it's because feeling that hostility from her towards me and my kids for the past 6 yrs and me trying to put extra effort in the relationship so she would...
    taintedalyce taintedalyce
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 4

    So yesterday the whole church group was over

    there cleaning the hoard. They picked the day before a windstorm. The whole field behind my home is covered in chunks of insulation from an old mobile home they tore apart. I just hate them and all their damn garbage that blows over here. I hate their damn dogs that bark day and...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning
    51-55, F
    1 Response Mar 13

    My husband has finally seen the light!

    He has agreed to move out of there house and totally cut them off. After us fighting the past two weeks he agrees that his whole family is the problem. We are moving back in with my grandmother. We'll finally have money again because we won't be paying other peoples bills. I...
    MoonLightwolf18 MoonLightwolf18
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Oct 10, 2015

    so after 4 yrs of not speaking to my SIL (the

    other daughter in law) I thought to call. come to find out my MIL has been feeding her the same line of BS pitting me against her. Refusing to eat her cooking and then bragging how good mine is. telling me how she is so close to my SIL and they have so much in common and that...
    taintedalyce taintedalyce
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Apr 1

    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls
    26-30, F
    82 Responses Jun 9, 2007

    I feel like I have paying the price

    for some horrible evil I have committed in my youth. My mil has lived with us since 2/2008. At first, we got along fine, but now she acts like she is entitled to be lazy, rude, and cause headaches for me on a daily basis. My husband is an only child, so since she only gets $700...
    Yssic2000 Yssic2000
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Feb 13

    My Mother In-law is a disturbing mix of arrogant

    and ignorant She has so many annoying qualities, there are too many to list. But to give you an example of the mental torture: She repeats herself endlessly. She asks INANE questions which reveal her utter lack of comprehension of even the most basic subjects. She blurts out...
    amdaley amdaley
    36-40, F
    Apr 18

    I had a much longer post,

    and decided to delete it. I want to say today that I am going No Contact with my in-laws. My husband and I are not sure how we are going to sort it all out (because he still wants some limited contact with them). We'll be thinking about all of the details to find something that...
    FarAway FarAway
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 2

    I have been with my boyfriend

    for 6 years. He has custody of his 2 children, and his step child from a previous marriage. I raise them with my 2 children as my own. Mom is not around. For years MIL makes comments about my children to her son that they are ungrateful or brats. now keep in mind, mine are...
    taintedalyce taintedalyce
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Feb 7

    I really need to vent right now.

    ... everyday she abuses me directly or indirectly...for the sake of peace i keep quiet and dont react to her and talk nicely to her...but she always put me down....as i am preparing for higher studies i try to ignore everything and concentrate on my studies...but she dont want me...
    mimid12 mimid12
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19
    22-25, F
    67 Responses May 4, 2007

    It's sad how my husband tells me his

    grandmother needs a break from his mom and my FIL avoids my mil. I ask my hub and why does she have to come over to our house, its not like she does anything but complain. He tells me she has nowhere to go. I feel bad for her but she makes me miserable and depressed because she...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Feb 23

    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas
    41-45, F
    10 Responses Dec 4, 2007
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