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I Hate My Mother In Law

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    ...but My Father-in-law Is Worse!

    My mother-in-law was livid when she heard I was pregnant and told us not to tell anyone else.  At a family party (his family) that week, we told.  Well, we were thrilled:  who wouldn't be?  Not her, for a start.  As we were leaving, a cat leapt off a...
    alfeen alfeen 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Mil From H-e- Double Hockey sticks.

    here is the shortest breakdown humanly possible with out me having to go buy some eggs and pull an easter drive by to make myself feel better... lol mil, controlling, manipulative, evil, knifing, sinister, contradicting, condescending, wretched woman. the worst thing in my...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 21 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    Truth.

    I hate my ******* mother in law. She gets in the way of everything in my life. She draws my wife into her wicked ******* web of hate and suffering, and that in turn is passed on to my wife. Then she takes that **** out on me. There is no polite way for me to say this. There...
    thefragile77 thefragile77 36-40 7 Responses Aug 9, 2013

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    Another great article: Narcissistic

    Mother-in-Law Breaks Up Marriages http://thenarcissistinyourlife.com/narcissistic-mother-in-law-breaks-up-marriages/ The article says when faced with this dilemma the daughter-in-law has three choices: 1) stay and suffer 2) try to get hubby away from mommy 3) leave the...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Jul 9

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    Do I Hate My Mil?

    i've read all the awful things mil's have done and not sure how to explain the pain i've received from my mil and sil. their not like alot of the stories i've read. they don't ever come out and say awful things to me. it's unbelievable how i'm sooo hurt that i feel hate. i...
    nomotherlove nomotherlove 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    I Hate My Dil Page...

    So I saw this, and was curious of the opinions from the other side. What I saw made my pulse jump, palms twitch, and made me just down right angry. I clicked on a few of the stories about how much these women hated their DILs. I read them, trying to keep in mind, we have a...
    steamed27 steamed27 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Not Mil But Whole Family - Not Hatred But Uneasy Feeling

    about 18 mos after my failed marriage to a man AND his mother from hell, i began to date again.  i met a great guy.  we hit it off amazingly.  as a matter of fact, in my adult life i'd not ever 'hit it off' quite like that before.  we both knew instantly...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 7 Responses May 27, 2007

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    My kids discovered how bitter she is all the

    time and they mentioned it to me saying boy she is just bitter and i couldnt help but laugh and say yup thats are grammy but, she had the nerve to tell her son that I am poisoning our children againts her they are human and old enough to see .I am so sick and tired of getting...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 26

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    Maybe not "hate" but I STRONGLY DISLIKE her!

    But its getting there... Is that bad? She still has a long ways to go! :( The funny thing about it all is we used to really get along, at least I like to think that we enjoyed one another's company prior to me having my children but than again I've learned that she is sneaky...
    Story0fMyLife Story0fMyLife 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 27

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    Whether your MIL is a full blown narcissist

    or has developed some of these tools to hook the people around her, instead of just being an honest person (is that really too much to ask??) it is in your best interest to keep your eyes wide open and know who and what you're dealing with. I see my MIL in all points of this...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 Jul 20

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    Spawn Of Satan

    My MIL Sheryl is an evil, manipulative, lying, self-absorbed *****. She is always the victim, and is never at fault. She makes my poor husband's life miserable. He hates her, but also tries to be a good son and so tolerates her constant vitriol and abuse. It makes him physically...
    alwaysabitch alwaysabitch 56-60 8 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    I feel like she is haunting me from the grave!

    The grave of get out of our life! We told my MIL she was to no longer contact us at all period. She told us our son was a mistake, told our adoptive daughter that her real mom is out there somewhere and she can find her whenever she wants I am not her real mom she does not have...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 4

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    Borderline Personality Mil: Crazy!

    My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder, in a nutshell it means that she is two-faced, manipulative, sneaky, and just plain off. I have been with my husband for over 8 years and she has caused me MANY hours of stress due to her lying, nasty, hurtful comments to others (for NO...
    nilestheninja nilestheninja 31-35, F 36 Responses Apr 4, 2007

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    DisarmingtheDragon

    After years of enduring my mother-in-law's stinging barbs I decided to write them down and create a rule for dealing with her invectives. Happy results ensued! Writing relieved much of the pent-up tension.
    Dragonista Dragonista 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 2, 2007

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    In 2008 my Mother in law lost h husband .

    I tried helping her through his illness and after his death and things were ok.I had never had bad feelings toward her in the past,as a matter of fact we were pretty close I suppose . who knows what she said behind my back . We told her that due to her recent loss that she didn...
    helpless69 helpless69 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    God I Hate Her..

    I know this is horrible but I do hate her so. She has caused me so much pain and misery in my life. She almost cost me my child. She still chooses to this day my husbands EXWIFE over me. She still sees her children (none are my husbands) over my 2 year old. She hasn't seen him...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 64 Responses Mar 10, 2007

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    At the beginning we got along pretty well

    and she insisted she didn't want to be 'the stereotypical evil one'. I really believed her and tried to like even her small quirks like still buying my husband underwear, calling us EVERY day and searching in our bags when we visit her. About three months ago me and my husband...
    maajake maajake 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    Divide and rule: manipulative tactics from

    mil My mil has ruined many friendships for me. I used to be best friend's with my Sil (husband's brother's wife). We understood each other, and went through the same turmoil. Mil was extremely jealous of our friendship, and decided to cause havoc. She pitted us against each...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 5

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    Married and very lonely!

    !!!!! I feel so betrayed, abuses and beaten down :(
    sickofmymil sickofmymil 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    The effects of shaming

    and undermining: My mil was an expertise at undermining me. Nothing was ever good enough for her. She would criticise me, undermine me, nit pick over the most smallest of things. She would never acknowledge anything good that I did and would turn a blind eye, if anyone praised...
    genie201 genie201 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    I Hate My Mother In Law!!

        I hate my mother in law i hate her always butting in when my husband and i are talking, ive started when she buts in on us talking i tell her i was talking to don i wonder does she think shes married to her son i stay in my jail cell (my bedroom) when will...
    THEGOODTWIN THEGOODTWIN 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Just a word of encouragement

    for all of you tortured souls. My husband broke his leg this summer. Mild fracture but laid up for a while. His mother came bleating to my door. I was very kind. Let her visit him by going to the bedroom window and talking to him through that. Best part of it. Husband found it...
    wordofwarning wordofwarning 51-55, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I Love You My Best Friend!

    This is my first story, so forgive my spelling iam dexlic. lets travle back in time for a momnet back to 1980, my best friend was don i'll call him . he had moved from utah to a little southern town where your smile has a accent . well he and i was best friends for two years...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    My mil is a retired kindergarten school teacher.

    She is so annoying when she talks to others and me because she talks to everyone like they are 5 years old. She is a complete common sense idiot!!!! We moved her in with us last May, 9 months after my fil took his life. ( My husband and I are starting to see why he might have...
    SharonJ08 SharonJ08 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 4

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    I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to forgive

    her. At first, when I met her, I thought for sure that I wouldn't have typical awful MIL; but I was wrong. Her snide comments and back-handness started slowly. First with things such as looking me up and down in our kitchen, then coming over to me and leaning in to tell me...
    cfern823 cfern823 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 15

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    My post will be brief with a question out to

    all of my soulful friends on this site. When you and your husband/spouse takes MIL out for dinner, and the spouse pulls out the charge card to pay, who does your MIL thank for the dinner? Reason I am asking although it is a small irritant for me, we took my MIL out to dinner...
    pinterest pinterest 56-60, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    New Insight

    It’s so easy to blame. I can now connect the dots between the aggravating passive aggressive behaviour I see in my partner, and his mom. While his mom was here I was packed up ready to split. But now I have had some space and time to reflect - this is where I have come out: #1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I so f****** hate her.

    . She is one hell of a B****.. Making my and my husband's life a living hell.. N my husband is too jerk to see that its her mother not me who makes everything so complicated and miserable.. I wish she die..n die soon..
    mylifeisamess90 mylifeisamess90 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 27

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    Please, I need to know

    if anyone out there is from Brooklyn, or anywhere near or around the city that has dealt with Child Protective Services before. If you've read my previous experiences, my mother in law is a vicious monster, and we recently got into an altercation, and afterwards, she spitefully...
    nikkitatink0411 nikkitatink0411 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 25

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    I’d be interested in seeing some behaviours

    listed here about common experiences and behaviours in bullet point form, as I think it’s empowering for us to see how we all pretty much have the same MIL. :o) My MIL when she lived with us: Decided that there was a war between her and I. No eye contact with me, pretended...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 4 Responses Aug 15

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    Never Wishes Me Well

    I can't say that I hate my Mother in Law really.  I don't like to waste my time on such negative feelings but I do stay away from her as much as I can.  When I have to be around her I am as pleasant as I can be, which, because intrinsically I'm wired to please...
    neopet neopet 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    A Little Advice

    Things right now are going realy well with my MIL and I. Of course she still hates me...but really I do not think that is EVER going to change. There is still tention but scense my husband told her it's not ok to treat us the way she has, she has completly backed off. It's...
    northernlightsalaska333 northernlightsalaska333 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    MIL Is a Narcissist

    Here are the criteria for diagnosing nacissistic personality disorder: has a grandiose sense of self-importance is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love believes that he or she is "special" and...
    ValKreed74 ValKreed74 31-35, F 17 Responses Oct 2, 2007

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    IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?

    update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 37 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Now That Her Wish Came True And We're Divorced...

    Of all the EP groups, none are as emotionally-driven as this one; excepting, of course, those relating to illness/injury/death/loss  of a loved one.I discovered EP not long after I got remarried and recognized how horrible my MIL is. I googled something like, "My MIL is the...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 24 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    What Have I Gotten Myself Into????

    My mother-in-law lives with us, we took her in about a year ago. She has alot of health issues and she couldn't cook for herself and was practically starving herself, so we made the decision to take her in.  I knew it would be hard for us but that was just an understatement...
    Windylittlehound Windylittlehound 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2007

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    The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair

    My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls.  But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason.  She cut her hair without asking anyone.  And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he...
    curls curls 26-30, F 84 Responses Jun 9, 2007

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    Over involved is the root cause of MIL problems.

    When we become adults, the amount of time we spend with our parents is voluntary. If your parents are over involved, whether it is through their pushiness or by your invite, it will lead to problems when you take on a life partner. If your parent doesn’t know how to back off...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Aug 14

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    I had a arrange marriage…the very next day

    mil takes away my gold jewellery worth more than 12 lakhs (without my permission) and keeps it in her locker. I stay mum..n when I ask husband about it..he says it is kept for safety purposes. They just gave me jewllery worth 2.5 lakhs and that they always had…after few...
    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    Not All of Us Hate Our Mother-in-laws

    Not all of us hate our mother-in-laws.  Here is tribute I wrote and read at a mother's day service. To be honest I'm tired of the hated mother-in-law syndrome. From what I've seen the blame for bad relationships cannot be placed on just the mother-in-law.  If you hate...
    tearsfallen19 tearsfallen19 21-25, F 65 Responses May 4, 2007

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    Apart for wishing my children the best

    for their life, my greatest wish (if I ever caught a wish-fish) would be for all young wives or girlfriends not to get a mother in law from hell. Such mils are mistakes of nature, bad product in a factory ... and the problem is that there are so many of them. Nowhere among...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    My MIL has been visiting her new online

    boyfriend in Alaska for the past 7 weeks, and it was like being on vacation while she was gone. Now that she's back, it's like all that rage and frustration comes flooding right back with her. I prayed to God that she would stay up there and never come back, but God doesn't hear...
    WorkedtoDeath WorkedtoDeath 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    MIL’s Latest Tricks

    Well, where to start huh :-) My name is Kelly and I Hate My Mother In Law, who actually isnt my mother-in-law yet and probably won't ever be if my situation doesnt improve somehow. I met my soldier in 2004 and knew he was the one, I fell fast with our first child in January...
    kellyfromnewcastle kellyfromnewcastle 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2007

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    My Mother In Law Is Crazy.really!

    I have always thought my mil was nuts, shes annoying and repetitive and generally doesnt make any sence. she drives me mad. things recently got worse, we had to stay at her home for a month while contruction on our new house was completed, I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and had...
    dizzy dizzy 26-30, F 28 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    Deal with It...

    Have you ever noticed that people who blantantly disregard boundaries and disrespect you never seem to acknowledge their role and/or behavior?  It is almost like a person never knows they stink or have bad breath, one of nature's jokes I suppose.  The same holds true...
    bonobabe bonobabe 31-35, F 17 Responses May 6, 2007

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    No words to DESCRIBE HER..

    Straight off the bat, SHE'S EVIL -  Vendictive, selfish, self centered, child-ish control freak that she is!! She is a 61 year old woman, who throw's TEMPERTANTRUMS when she doesn't get her way, or things ARE NOT ABOUT HER I've been with her son for almost 4 1/2 years now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    Where Do I Begin...i Am Tired of Trying!!

    I have been married for 13 years to a wonderful man who was very emotionally messed up when we met.  I have always gone out of my way to make the In Law's feel welcome and loved.  I send cards for every holiday, birthday, anniversary and gifts.  I make sure they...
    jlkenny jlkenny 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2007

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    The Devil Herself...

    I will be honest in everything I say here and all is true I have no reason to lie about what I say here today. My mother in law was great when me and my husband were dating. Even though my husband warned me about her craziness I never saw it. so ok when he and I met we were...
    pzdmom pzdmom 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    A funny side My mil is a graduate housewife,

    a kind of a woman that is on the verge of extinction. Such women deserve our utmost respect and I mean it. Problems arise when such women think that nothing in the world can be compared to or admired more than a devoted housewife. So, for years she was our regular supplier of...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 8

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    Not Even 6 Months Married....

    My husband and I were married 5 months ago.  We have known each other for 6 years now and lived together for 3 before getting married.  I have always had problems with my mother in law and have tried my best to overcome them, however, since we have been married it has...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    Hello, i know this may seem random

    and i hope i don't sound creepy but i really need your advice. I'm 24 and i live in the Philippines. I dislike my future mother in law so much. She is driving me nuts. She lives with us because my fiancé thinks it's a good idea. I can't do anything about it because he loves his...
    KatieRose88 KatieRose88 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 15

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    I Am Leaving This Group !!!

    I've spent 29 years come August being physically, emotionally and verbally abused by my s / o's mother. We all live in the same house and have for the past 18 years.  Thankfully we live separately and if I didn't want  to I'd not have to even lay eyes on her. I'm a forgiver...
    justmarji justmarji 51-55, F 9 Responses Jul 5, 2013

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    I've been struggling with my MIL

    for years now. For the first few years of our marriage, it was a cold war. For the last four years of our marriage, our relationship has been openly hostile. I haven't spoken to her or seen her in person for going on three years, yet the letters, emails, packages and remarks...
    Meagan85 Meagan85 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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