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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    Such a glorious thing happened a few weeks ago.

    My family was in town visiting and we were all sitting down to dinner at a local restaurant. DH gets to talking to his daughter about her band stuff at school, and she comes out and says tat she was kicked out of band. Why, you ask? Because she missed so many classes and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    A while ago I posted a scathing story about my

    step-daughter in this group lol. Believe it or not, I've had a change of heart. I don't LOVE my step-daughter but my sons, her brothers, do. They are only 18 months old and even though they barely see her they seem to have always been drawn to her and it's like they know that's...
    bumblebeez bumblebeez 26-30 4 Responses Oct 31, 2014

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    I Am An Evil Stepdaughter well at least

    according to some of your posts. I found this site because I was looking for advice on how to get along with my stepmom, and this made me even more hopeless. The hate and selfishness in these posts towards your spouse's daughter is extremely depressing. I don't get along with my...
    evilstepdaughter evilstepdaughter 22-25 1 Response Oct 7, 2014

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    I have a 18 going on 19 year old spoiled brat

    on my hands! I've only been in the picture for two years so I haven't vested time and energy with her as most of you have. None the less she makes me miserable! Any rule her father and I come up with she finds a way to manipulate! I'm tired of discussing, negotiating and...
    dealswithdramadaily dealswithdramadaily 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 28, 2014

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    gosh I do feel for you,

    your situation sounds almost exactly like mine, except my step daughter is 16, has bad grades, throws temper tantrums, and speaks to all of us like trash, and not able to hold down positive relationships, she causes unnecessary trouble both at school and at home, she loves...
    monikal monikal 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Once Again This Little Idiot Is Running My Life!

    i freakin hate this kid...seriously. theres no more even using somewhat nice words to describe her...she is a little idiot and i hate her. just the fact that she has a room in my house utterly disgusts me. this is now being prompted because my husband has decided to placate to...
    frustratedmess frustratedmess 26-30 5 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    Faking Sick

    So, SD has had a "stomach ache" and naturally, that means we have to babysit her while she misses school for no reason. There is NOTHING WRONG with this child. She's prancing around the house as usual. Whining about eating, her homework, etc. But Hubby makes her macaroni and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    I could write for hours about this manipulative

    brat. SD moved in with us 3 months ago. For the 17.5 years prior to that she lived with her mother who is a pathological liar and drama queen. My SD is morbidly obese and her mother is bulimic/anorexic. She refused to enroll her in any sports (dance, swim, soccer) even when we...
    SJosephine SJosephine 36-40, F 5 Responses May 30, 2014

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    NEARLY EVERY POST IN THIS FORUM IS NAUSEATING.

    HOW THE HELL CAN YOU PEOPLE HATE CHILDREN?? YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE ANGRY, BUT DAYDREAMING ABOUT THEM GETTING KIDNAPPED AND FANTASIZING ABOUT KILLING THEM IS JUST INHUMAN AND DISGUSTING. ALL OF YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES. OH MY GOD.
    fanatic458 fanatic458 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    So we had our baby boy this week!

    !! Healthy and happy!! She was here this weekend, it wasn't too bad, he generally keeps SD away from me now. She did a few smart *** things and her usual daddy this daddy that routine was the same as usual, but all together not awful. I feel like my boys 6 & 8 tend to stay away...
    JulieJA JulieJA 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I have a 10 year old step daughter just hearing

    her voice when she gets here from her moms EVERY Friday makes me cringe!!! There is no getting along with her she argues about everything, or always tries to have the last word I've basically had to ban the term "I know" in my home because that's her response for everything! It...
    vemj93 vemj93 18-21, F 13 Responses Oct 19, 2014

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 186 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    Where do I begin with my 26 year old,

    recovering heroin and cocaine addict, spoiled, unemployed, useless ***** of a step daughter that lives off of everyone else, has stolen from us all, is spending the first summer of the last 6 years out of jail, lives for free, doesn't do anything to help the house, lays out in...
    HadItWithHer HadItWithHer 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    Well I think the reason

    why I hate this 9 years old manipulative little b.... is because 99% of my discussions with her father (my boyfriend) is because of her! I already wrote before about it here...she is selfish and spoiled as hell and she give attitude to me and her dad when she is not getting her...
    thestepppy thestepppy 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15, 2014

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    Hate is such a strong word,

    but my step daughter makes me absolutely miserable. She is 14 and never shuts up... She has absolutely no concept of manners or personal space. I have caught her stealing from me and I just don't want to deal with her anymore. I wish she would disappear. Unlike a lot of the...
    bga321 bga321 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    Warning For A Potential Stepmother Or Stepfather: Are You Making The Right Decision?

    I'm writing this in the hope that it will be found through a Google search by some person who is considering getting married to a person with children. To be honest, if I had read this before I got married I'm not sure it would have changed anything.  But at least I can say...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 130 Responses May 13, 2010

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    We've Been Infiltrated!

    Yes, ladies. Some little pouty stepdaughter whose daddy dared to marry another woman is posting in our group now. Expect very soon to see her nasty little posts on your experiences. She'll no doubt leave you a little quip full of her huffing and puffing, cursing us evil witches...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    Feeling Helpless to My Stepdaughter's Cruelty

    Hi... I am feeling completely helpless to deal with my stepdaughter's cruelty toward me.  Hopefully some of you can offer a few words of advise, or maybe just relate to my dilemma. I don't have any children of my own, and I am newly married to a man who has two grown...
    DeserveBetterThanThis DeserveBetterThanThis 46-50 32 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    I wish she could just visit in the summers

    or on weekends like most normal stepchildren. But, no her sorry mother gave her away and SD prefers to live here because she says she gets more privileges than with bio mom. I am just getting burned out. I have to take her everywhere; to school and then come back out to pick her...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15, 2014

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    Haven't posted in a while.

    I must say I'm generally pretty impressed with my sd since she left home for school. She eats FOOD now (like cooks, and there's veggies and stuff!). She's doing well in school and she actually has friends who are not male! I don't think there's anything wrong with having male...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2014

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    I don't like the word "hate"

    but I feel so much angry inside me that it must be hate right? I would like to give you some background on our story. My husband and I got together 8years ago. We both had a child from a previous marriage that didn't work out. His daughter was 6 and my son was 4. We became...
    Needshelpnow Needshelpnow 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 1, 2014

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    My husband just picked her up

    and now she will be here until Christmas Eve. I am already annoyed and want her to leave! She is 12 and isn't a bad kid. My husband and I have two children together 1&3. I just wish that she didn't exist. I hate having to throw our lives upside down for one weekend a month. She...
    LisaC617 LisaC617 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    Dear Significant Other:

    Hello, darling. I know you'll end up reading this because you've found my rantings in the past. Well, that's fine. I've never said anything on here that I haven't said to your face (or over the phone, as sometimes happens). We had another argument this morning about your...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I'm watching my stepkids alone tomorrow

    for the first time. She's 10, he's 7. I spent over $50 at the craft store picking out a zillion cool projects and crafts and activities. When we picked them up, she looked at them like they were made of dog poop. I hate this crap. I'm tired of hearing about when mommy and daddy...
    theytestme theytestme 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 24, 2014

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    I don't like the word hate,

    I was always told it was a strong word. My SD is six, her father and I have been together for five years, and just recently were married. I knew from the beginning I didn't love her, but thought maybe my feelings would grow. Five years later, and it's growing worse. My...
    julesan902 julesan902 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    My sd is 11 and going on 3.

    Rude, whiny, lies, manipulative, bully, user, extremely overweight, tantrums, hitting, kicking, shoving, no respect, never does as asked, all that and more descibes my sd. I feel sick when i have to see the terror because i know how she is. Even my hubby dreads it and we often...
    safyre745 safyre745 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    I don't need to hear anyone's mean comments I

    need to hear from women who can help me deal with this child. First of all my little terror is my 9 year old going on 3 step daughter. I used to have a good relationship (we used to have her half of the time, so she would listen and was accustomed to the rules of our home) with...
    JulieJA JulieJA 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 25, 2014

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    My husband andi are about to get into it

    tonight regarding SD. I have typed my feelings and want him to read it. What do you all think? I'm overly frustrated about the situation. I don't hate her at all but but all these circumstances makes me feel annoyed with her all the time and I don't know how to change it bc it...
    LisaC617 LisaC617 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    She's Not a Bad Kid

    She is 14 and decided to move in with me and her dad soon after I found out I was pregnant, this is my first baby and is actually my husbands first baby also... He didn't get a chance to help raise her as he got someone pregnant when he was 14. He didn't see this child till she...
    tatiana tatiana 26-30, F 79 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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    I hate her. Not dislike.

    Hate. Shes 9 and her mother must have Münchausen. Anyway we pay a lot in support but also a lot for insurance. We get the left over bills for all the things that are wrong with her when really there are none besides she's an attention seeking brat pain in my ***. I got one more...
    JulieJA JulieJA 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2014

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    I'm counting down the days

    until my narcissistic little step daughter comes to visit. She'll be here six days. I'm dreading it. On the bright side, I only have 14 weeks of her over the next 2 years--but she's going to be in my home going through my things, manipulating her father, and telling lies. It's...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 4 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    Hate Being Home

    It's been over two years that I've dealt with her. She's still whiny, rude, disrespectful and annoying. And I've tried to get along with her. Trust me, I've tried. But every time she comes here, I cringe. Just the sight of her face makes me sick, and I particularly hate the sound...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 5, 2013

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    My stepdaughter has been working all summer.

    She's made $400, and plans to work all year while going to school. I was happy to hear it. I thought getting a job would make her act more responsibly and learn some life lessons. I've been saying she should get a job for a while now. Now, she's going to be working, going to...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 3 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    "And you? What do you think about all this?

    " I asked a 8 year old child. "Nothing" She answered quietly with eyes downcast. That is the ONLY word I ever heard my stepdaughter say. The armed Greek Authorities led her out of the house, ordered her in to a waiting car, and drove away. They were taking her back over the...
    MarinaDokar MarinaDokar 36-40, F Sep 9, 2014

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    I am living in a home

    that I fear will never feel like home because of my step children. My spouse has custody of his 17 year old daughter and my children and I moved in 6 months ago. This is something that wasn't just dropped in his daughters lap. He asked her permission before moving us in. The...
    notabadmom notabadmom 36-40 10 Responses Jan 17, 2014

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    This Is What Worked For Me...It's Called

    I won't bore you all with my story of the evil troll I am loath to call my step-daughter. I have the same stories as almost everyone here...some worse, some better. The only difference is the way in which I decided to deal. On another site I came across an idea that seem to fit...
    USinUK USinUK 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    Ok s she's back. I had high hopes

    for her truly. Her dad told me how tidy she is now, how healthy she eats, how she is doing really good in school. Weeeelllllll turns out its all a lie! ANd now that she spends her days sitting on my couch texting in her PJs, its pretty evident. She did OK in school, no better...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    Oh Can't You Quit Your Complaining?!

    All in all? Most of you sound jealous your husbands (or boyfriends) care more about their daughters than you. 'WAH I HATE MY STEPDAUGHTER. she gets more attention from me than my husbandddddd. she eats at home. he helps pay to take care of her. she has a learning disability...
    ttopper ttopper 18-21 14 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    I friended one of my SD's friends from her old

    school on Facebook today. He's a great kid, and I always wished he and his friends would rub off on my SD. He's that awesome. He mentioned in an IM conversation that my SD told him all the time how mean I was. So, I laid it all out for him: All the lies, all the laziness, all...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 1 Response Aug 20, 2014

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    Ugh she's here again,

    thank God only for a week. She has to get back to her other cub rat friends in the city. She spent last night out all night and on fbook today she's tagged in a whole bunch of photos all over this guy. She slept with him. She sleeps with any guy who tells her she's hot. I really...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F Dec 27, 2014

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    How can we (step parents) be expected to endure

    such misery? How dare our husbands/wifes bring us into these lives? We were fine before them and now such misery...and they do nothing...and experience only the "nagging" we are left with as our only defense...I want to hear from the parents of these NASTY human beings that...
    THS1963 THS1963 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 5, 2014

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    How To Keep Your Stepdaughters Away From Your House

    Ladies, after reading lots of posts here on how much we hate our SDs, well, I am half way through on banning them from visiting my house, at least for a while. Really hope that those of you who are suffering from the pain that your SDs caused you, will soon deserve the true love...
    Janicemann Janicemann 22-25 16 Responses Jun 16, 2012

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    Okay... Here's some Sunday morning humour

    for anyone who's interested: My step-daughter has this double personality whereby she acts sweet as pie in front of my husband, yet as soon as he's out of sight, glares at me with eyes that cut right through me. This little game began when she was three. She's now nine. I've...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    This Will Be A Long Story But Someone Please Read I Really Need To Know Iam Not The Only One Who Hates Their Stepdaughter!!!

    Ok where to begin...I met my husband about 3 yrs. ago he has 3 children with a PHYSCO! I have no kids of my own. He has 2 boys and one VERY EVIL little manipulative daughter! When I met my husband I thought we would be together forever but any more Iam not so sure about that and...
    ss2013 ss2013 18-21 5 Responses Dec 12, 2010

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    Why Do I Feel This Way?

    I've come here for some advice, I've been with my husband for over 4 years now and I knew he had two daughters when I married him. One is 9 the other is 7. We rarely see them now, but when I did see them I didn't mind. That is until they would start doing things that almost...
    br0210 br0210 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2013

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    I have the stepdaughter tale to top them all.

    .. Step-dad to two girls, now 28 and 23. As well as a daughter of ten (together with my wife of eleven years). A short history on the early days reflects many of the stories I’ve read on here. The eldest of the two SDs proved a little trying through the teenage years and was...
    Gutsful Gutsful 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Sd Dropped Her Barrette In Her Potty Directly Into Her Poop...

    ...and sure I wasn't fishing it out of there!  I had my own baby in October, so non biological SD wants more attention, she is 3 years and 7 months and I have dealt with her since she was a newborn b/c my husband took her away from his ex-wife when she was 24 days old in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Mar 31, 2010

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    I have NOT had a change of heart.

    My negative feelings heighten every second weekend. My biggest problem is that my husband sides with her... Always... Despite the mounds of people aside from myself that take issue with her behaviour. I'm sure this is a defence mechanism (he feels that her bad character is a...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I have been dating my bf

    for over a year now and we have lived together for most of it. We are extremely happy and compatible and plan to marry (unannounced as of yet). I have known him and his family for many years, though we were not extremely close until my uncle, his best friend, passed away...
    Nate427 Nate427 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2014

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    She Just Disgusts Me

    i'm so tired of every weekend. her mom had her for a few weekends due to family events and they were the BEST weekends!!! unfortunately the little terror was back again. my family came to visit this weekend and she is so sneaky and manipulative it is too much for me. every time i...
    frustratedmess frustratedmess 26-30 7 Responses Oct 13, 2013

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