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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    When she was 11 she sat in a court room

    and told the judge that her stepdad was her daddy. I tried to talk her out of it. She insisted she wanted to do that. 11 years later she crashed my father in laws funeral and manipulated my husband and while he was morning the loss of his father. When he doesn't answer her calls...
    tori1215 tori1215 36-40, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    She comes home today

    after spending two weeks at my mom's house and I am already dreading it. She's going to get on my nerves for sure and absolutely detest dealing with her. I am 8 months pregnant and would like to enjoy this time in peace. She is going to be the reason why I end my marriage.
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 21, 2014

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    I wish she could just visit in the summers

    or on weekends like most normal stepchildren. But, no her sorry mother gave her away and SD prefers to live here because she says she gets more privileges than with bio mom. I am just getting burned out. I have to take her everywhere; to school and then come back out to pick her...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15, 2014

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    I got married 2 years ago

    and became the step "NOTHING" to 2 girls.Ages 3 and 6. I've hated it since day one... They are catered to brats... the 3 year old walks around with a bag of kit katt balls or chips or box of snack cakes all day long... because her mom likes to pacify her... She's still in a...
    JessicaLeigh00 JessicaLeigh00 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    Under 4 weeks and counting

    until she goes back home and I don't have to see her until next year. Since she had the cops called on her father in an attempt to go home where she gets to do whatever she wants, my husband has washed his hands of his daughter and has said he doesn't care what she does...
    roxmac roxmac 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    Just have to vent!! I have three step kids.

    All three live with us. Two I get along great with, the 19 yo however is a different story. Ever since she was 15 or so she has turns our lives into a living hell. When she was 15 she wanted to be adopted by her friends mom so she could go smoke pot and do whatever she wanted to...
    Rosem08 Rosem08 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 17

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    Warning For A Potential Stepmother Or Stepfather: Are You Making The Right Decision?

    I'm writing this in the hope that it will be found through a Google search by some person who is considering getting married to a person with children. To be honest, if I had read this before I got married I'm not sure it would have changed anything.  But at least I can say...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 130 Responses May 13, 2010

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    my husband has agreed

    that his daughter needs counseling and as of know she won't be back for awhile. she told my husband she doesn't want to grow up and stay a kid forever, so that's why she acts childish. she is 11 years old and has the behaviour of a 6 year old. plus she doesn't understand why...
    kthomas12 kthomas12 31-35, F Jun 22

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    I have been with my husband

    for over ten years. He is a wonderful man and the only thing we fight about is his daughter. She is 13 and driving me crazy. She will not brush her teeth, shave, wash or even wipe herself unless she is told. The bathroom issue has been so bad lately that she is only allowed to...
    KIMROBINSON KIMROBINSON 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 14

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    I don't even know where to begin

    and there's been so much over 4 years that couldn't possibly be represented here. Several years ago when I started dating my now husband, things were decent with 2 of his 3 kids, all girls. They spent mother's day with me for several years because their mother didn't want them...
    feelingcrazyinny feelingcrazyinny 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    Good news! My SD is finally getting it.

    After job searching for months (and seriously depleting her savings) she finally realized it was not the fault of other people that she could not interview successfully. She actually said "it must be something I am doing wrong." Her dad and I both suggested for a long time to...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 17

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    Such a glorious thing happened a few weeks ago.

    My family was in town visiting and we were all sitting down to dinner at a local restaurant. DH gets to talking to his daughter about her band stuff at school, and she comes out and says tat she was kicked out of band. Why, you ask? Because she missed so many classes and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 197 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    Dear Significant Other:

    Hello, darling. I know you'll end up reading this because you've found my rantings in the past. Well, that's fine. I've never said anything on here that I haven't said to your face (or over the phone, as sometimes happens). We had another argument this morning about your...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I have been SD free for years now,

    only having to see her twice in the past 8 years, and it's been wonderful. Although she still calls my husband only when she wants money with the "woe is me, you were never a father" tactic to make him feel guilty so he'll write the check. She blocks his calls to her, won't...
    amphen amphen 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    My step daughter is trying to ruin my

    relationship with her dad and I think her mum is telling her to do so
    jls2010 jls2010 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    I'm counting down the days

    until my narcissistic little step daughter comes to visit. She'll be here six days. I'm dreading it. On the bright side, I only have 14 weeks of her over the next 2 years--but she's going to be in my home going through my things, manipulating her father, and telling lies. It's...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 4 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    An Update: There Is A Silver Lining...

    I've posted my story on here before, but there's been a happy development so I thought I would give an update. To recap: I've been with my wife for over four years, married for one. She had two teenage kids, an SS who lives with his dad full-time and an SD (14) who, up until...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 4 Responses Sep 2, 2010

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    When I read these stories,

    I realize that I am not the only person going through this and I am not crazy. This is reassuring. My stepdaughter has made it her mission in life to tear me down and drive a wedge between me and her dad. She is 12 and this has been going on since she was 6. There have...
    point1 point1 36-40 2 Responses Feb 24, 2014

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    After coming off a family holiday with my

    husbands daughter (I don't like to call her my SD), I had 7 days of rudeness, disrespect, viciousness. The holiday ended with a big argument, where my husband took his daughter side - which she loved. we usually have her two weekend a month, with two weeks during the summer...
    rubymae66 rubymae66 41-45, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Am An Evil Stepdaughter well at least

    according to some of your posts. I found this site because I was looking for advice on how to get along with my stepmom, and this made me even more hopeless. The hate and selfishness in these posts towards your spouse's daughter is extremely depressing. I don't get along with my...
    evilstepdaughter evilstepdaughter 26-30 4 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    Update: as I predicted,

    my SD left rehab early. Sometimes I hate being right. Funny as it was me and my hubby that took her to the airport to see her off to rehab, trying to help her change her life for the better, and suddenly 3 months into a 12 month prepaid program, her lovely BM materializes to...
    jenna5972 jenna5972 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I may leave due to my sd.

    Sd threatened to f*****g punch me and called me a dumb f*****g b***h. She's in her 20's, for pete's sake. Her homeless, drug addict mother let her quit high school at 16, while I'm college educated, holding an excellent career, but I'm the dumb one? Really? It's like she's 5...
    jenna5972 jenna5972 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 14

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    Big surprise! She can't hold down a job to save

    her life. Everywhere she goes is DRAMA. She was just fired for having an extremely bad attitude and being rude to customers. Now she's interviewing again. She said to me the other day "women don't like me," as in, female interviewers don't like her. YA THINK? She shows up to...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    We've Been Infiltrated!

    Yes, ladies. Some little pouty stepdaughter whose daddy dared to marry another woman is posting in our group now. Expect very soon to see her nasty little posts on your experiences. She'll no doubt leave you a little quip full of her huffing and puffing, cursing us evil witches...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    She's Not a Bad Kid

    She is 14 and decided to move in with me and her dad soon after I found out I was pregnant, this is my first baby and is actually my husbands first baby also... He didn't get a chance to help raise her as he got someone pregnant when he was 14. He didn't see this child till she...
    tatiana tatiana 26-30, F 79 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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    I won't go into particulars,

    just need to vent in general. I hate both of my step daughters. In fact, looking at them makes my skin crawl, I can't stand hearing them, and every time they're in the house I grind my teeth. They are lazy, selfish, sheltered and naive. They can't be nice to anyone, they are so...
    Trapped75 Trapped75 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    I am drunk right now.

    Just had amazing sez with the husband and the last thing he talks about before we go to bed is SD. She comes tomorrow only until Sunday. Why would he talk about her after we spent an amazing hour together. I am furious and on the couch while he is peacefully sleeping in bed. I...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 24

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    Happy Mother's Day to all my fellow posters.

    Hope your day was peaceful and free of SD drama!!!
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 5 Responses May 10

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    Next week I'm getting professional pictures

    taken of my two children 3& 1.5. My husband hasn't brought up at all that he wants SD in them and I sure as hell don't. The next time we have her I'll just take a pic of all 3 of them outside or something. Im worried about the judgements from his family about not including her...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    She is finally gone!!

    After 6 torturous weeks she finally went home yesterday. So this visit she had the cops called on her father because she reported to her therapist that he was abusing her, she stayed out late with a boy and couldn't be found, she died her hair bright purple, and her father...
    roxmac roxmac 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 29

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I am to the point that I just don't

    even care anymore. I met my man 5 years ago. He was just finalizing his divorce. He had been separated from his ex for almost 2 years at this point. He left when he caught her cheating and still tried to work it out until she moved in with another man while he was deployed...
    roxmac roxmac 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 26

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    I am sitting here once again dreading Sunday,

    because that's when SD7 and SD5 arrive and ruin everything until my partner drops them off at school on Monday morning. We have them every Sunday overnight, and then again on Tuesday evenings. I know it's not much, but it makes me crazy. Every Sunday becomes all about SD7 (who...
    reluctantstepmom reluctantstepmom 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    It wasn't always the case.

    At first she was funny, engaging, searingly bright. I paid for her school fees- one of the most expensive in the UK (My children have been state educated- have mortgaged to the hilt to pay for her) She is undoubtedly talented. Nationally known even in her allotted field...
    Newnameuk Newnameuk 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 20

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    Am I the only one who strongly dislikes

    when people who aren't members of this group call themselves trying to lecture, scold, judge or educate us?
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    Okay, this maybe just a rant

    because I'm by myself on this. My soon to be husband has a daughter, she is 9, and I just,had my first kid, she is 7 months. And I can not stand his daughter, at first she was sweet and would listen, and within the last year became unbearable. I dread the weekends, and am now...
    Shouse88 Shouse88 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    Okay, well let me begin by stating how nice it

    is to have found this forum of people who not only understand what I am going through, but share the same struggles. I live the same life as so many of you. I have an eight year old step-daughter who is ruining not only my marriage, but my life. I must admit, that in reality, I...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 10 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    So I told my husband

    that he needs to consider allowing his daughter stay in MO when she goes for the summer. This morning, I dropped his daughter off at the bus stop and by the time I had returned back to the house, I had an email from her teacher stating that she has gotten in trouble yet again...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    Okay... Here's some Sunday morning humour

    for anyone who's interested: My step-daughter has this double personality whereby she acts sweet as pie in front of my husband, yet as soon as he's out of sight, glares at me with eyes that cut right through me. This little game began when she was three. She's now nine. I've...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    My sd is 37, her dad

    and I have been married 30 yrs and have 3 kids. We all got along but we didn't see much of sd once she turned about 12 (her choice, she had a busy schedule). When sd turned 31 her and bf decided to start having kids. Well they had 3 and ever since the first our lives have...
    whydoibotheranymore whydoibotheranymore 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    this morning, at 4:45 am,

    i gently touched my sweet sleeping husband to awaken him, as he had instructed the ex to drop off SD at 5am for their trip today. he's taking her to NYC for an anniversary celebration hosted by his favorite publisher. i made him coffee, helped him pack a lunch, and kissed him...
    tryingtobeamazing tryingtobeamazing 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    My life is perfect...

    When its just me my husband and our daughter. But when we get my step daughter my life is a living hell. I feel like a horrible person for having bad feelings toward a 4 year old, but she is just an imperfection in our family. My husband and his ex thought having a baby would...
    stepmom310 stepmom310 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 24

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    This Is What Worked For Me...It's Called

    I won't bore you all with my story of the evil troll I am loath to call my step-daughter. I have the same stories as almost everyone here...some worse, some better. The only difference is the way in which I decided to deal. On another site I came across an idea that seem to fit...
    USinUK USinUK 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    So here's my update..

    .it's Monday. I am back from my anniversary to find that a) she was walking around the babysitters house talking to people in a non childlike manner being a smart azz and rude. (basically what she's not allowed to do here) b) she is starting my week off wrong already with the...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 27

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    I'm so happy she's going to her mother's house

    for a week today! I can't stand her. I miss times when my bf used to work in my city a lot and he didn't get to see her so often. I hate his ex for not telling him that she had stopped taking her pills. I can't stand that everyday she's with us, I'm locked in the room upstairs...
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