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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    I only have less than a week left.

    Ever had that feeling like you need to use the bathroom and the closer you get to your house you feel like you can't hold it anymore...like the feeling intensifies? It seems like the intensity of disdain I feel about her living here is growing now that I am in the final...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 9

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    my husband has agreed

    that his daughter needs counseling and as of know she won't be back for awhile. she told my husband she doesn't want to grow up and stay a kid forever, so that's why she acts childish. she is 11 years old and has the behaviour of a 6 year old. plus she doesn't understand why...
    kthomas12 kthomas12 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    So here's my update..

    .it's Monday. I am back from my anniversary to find that a) she was walking around the babysitters house talking to people in a non childlike manner being a smart azz and rude. (basically what she's not allowed to do here) b) she is starting my week off wrong already with the...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 27

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    Dear Significant Other:

    Hello, darling. I know you'll end up reading this because you've found my rantings in the past. Well, that's fine. I've never said anything on here that I haven't said to your face (or over the phone, as sometimes happens). We had another argument this morning about your...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Next week I'm getting professional pictures

    taken of my two children 3& 1.5. My husband hasn't brought up at all that he wants SD in them and I sure as hell don't. The next time we have her I'll just take a pic of all 3 of them outside or something. Im worried about the judgements from his family about not including her...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    Warning For A Potential Stepmother Or Stepfather: Are You Making The Right Decision?

    I'm writing this in the hope that it will be found through a Google search by some person who is considering getting married to a person with children. To be honest, if I had read this before I got married I'm not sure it would have changed anything.  But at least I can say...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 129 Responses May 13, 2010

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Such a glorious thing happened a few weeks ago.

    My family was in town visiting and we were all sitting down to dinner at a local restaurant. DH gets to talking to his daughter about her band stuff at school, and she comes out and says tat she was kicked out of band. Why, you ask? Because she missed so many classes and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    I am engaged and we recently moved in together.

    He has 3 kids...only 1 who visits every weekend. I have 2 boys full time. His 4 yr old daughter is a nightmare. She is bossy to my boys and I and her daddy gives her whatever she wants. She does not have a bedtime when she is here and she cries if he doesn't sleep with her. She...
    mortician87 mortician87 26-30, F 54 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    Under 4 weeks and counting

    until she goes back home and I don't have to see her until next year. Since she had the cops called on her father in an attempt to go home where she gets to do whatever she wants, my husband has washed his hands of his daughter and has said he doesn't care what she does...
    roxmac roxmac 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    Big surprise! She can't hold down a job to save

    her life. Everywhere she goes is DRAMA. She was just fired for having an extremely bad attitude and being rude to customers. Now she's interviewing again. She said to me the other day "women don't like me," as in, female interviewers don't like her. YA THINK? She shows up to...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    Okay, this maybe just a rant

    because I'm by myself on this. My soon to be husband has a daughter, she is 9, and I just,had my first kid, she is 7 months. And I can not stand his daughter, at first she was sweet and would listen, and within the last year became unbearable. I dread the weekends, and am now...
    Shouse88 Shouse88 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    She is finally gone!!

    After 6 torturous weeks she finally went home yesterday. So this visit she had the cops called on her father because she reported to her therapist that he was abusing her, she stayed out late with a boy and couldn't be found, she died her hair bright purple, and her father...
    roxmac roxmac 31-35, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    When I read these stories,

    I realize that I am not the only person going through this and I am not crazy. This is reassuring. My stepdaughter has made it her mission in life to tear me down and drive a wedge between me and her dad. She is 12 and this has been going on since she was 6. There have...
    point1 point1 36-40 2 Responses Feb 24, 2014

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    I can't leave here fast enough.

    I can't stand my husband's daughter and now that we are here, all I want to see is the dust from this dirt road blowing in my rear view mirror.
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    My life is perfect...

    When its just me my husband and our daughter. But when we get my step daughter my life is a living hell. I feel like a horrible person for having bad feelings toward a 4 year old, but she is just an imperfection in our family. My husband and his ex thought having a baby would...
    stepmom310 stepmom310 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 24

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    I'm so happy she's going to her mother's house

    for a week today! I can't stand her. I miss times when my bf used to work in my city a lot and he didn't get to see her so often. I hate his ex for not telling him that she had stopped taking her pills. I can't stand that everyday she's with us, I'm locked in the room upstairs...
    fosterpaste fosterpaste 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    Part 3. Venting my frustrations.

    Maybe there should be a new category called "I Strongly Dislike My Spouse and Step Daughter". My day started with my husband opening his eyes, turning to me and not saying good morning, how are you, did you sleep well, but saying "did she eat already" referring to his daughter...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 196 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    So the day has come!!

    ! I am officially step free. But not without shenanigans. So when we arrive to the family home, she starts to show the real her that she always shows when no one else is around she didn't speak to me or my son the entire time we were there. Then at one point, my husband tells...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 14

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    I'm counting down the days

    until my narcissistic little step daughter comes to visit. She'll be here six days. I'm dreading it. On the bright side, I only have 14 weeks of her over the next 2 years--but she's going to be in my home going through my things, manipulating her father, and telling lies. It's...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 4 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    She's Not a Bad Kid

    She is 14 and decided to move in with me and her dad soon after I found out I was pregnant, this is my first baby and is actually my husbands first baby also... He didn't get a chance to help raise her as he got someone pregnant when he was 14. He didn't see this child till she...
    tatiana tatiana 26-30, F 79 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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    How To Keep Your Stepdaughters Away From Your House

    Ladies, after reading lots of posts here on how much we hate our SDs, well, I am half way through on banning them from visiting my house, at least for a while. Really hope that those of you who are suffering from the pain that your SDs caused you, will soon deserve the true love...
    Janicemann Janicemann 22-25 16 Responses Jun 16, 2012

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    Feeling Helpless to My Stepdaughter's Cruelty

    Hi... I am feeling completely helpless to deal with my stepdaughter's cruelty toward me.  Hopefully some of you can offer a few words of advise, or maybe just relate to my dilemma. I don't have any children of my own, and I am newly married to a man who has two grown...
    DeserveBetterThanThis DeserveBetterThanThis 46-50 32 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    Been a while since I last shared my status with

    you all. If you've followed my story since I started posting here you'll know that after 9 years my girlfriend, K, finally broke up with me because I wouldn't put up with the crap her daughter, O, was putting our family through. Years of drugs, shop lifting and even physical...
    LostStepDad LostStepDad 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 30

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    I have been SD free for years now,

    only having to see her twice in the past 8 years, and it's been wonderful. Although she still calls my husband only when she wants money with the "woe is me, you were never a father" tactic to make him feel guilty so he'll write the check. She blocks his calls to her, won't...
    amphen amphen 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    Oh boy. Here we go...

    My husband takes work trips frequently, and sometimes he's gone for a week or two. Sometimes he gets to go to nice places (beach, etc) and we are able to tag along. The catch is that he is working all day, and I am with the kids. He will only see us at night for dinner, then...
    Cabanacay79 Cabanacay79 36-40, F 4 Responses May 17

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    Okay... Here's some Sunday morning humour

    for anyone who's interested: My step-daughter has this double personality whereby she acts sweet as pie in front of my husband, yet as soon as he's out of sight, glares at me with eyes that cut right through me. This little game began when she was three. She's now nine. I've...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    We've Been Infiltrated!

    Yes, ladies. Some little pouty stepdaughter whose daddy dared to marry another woman is posting in our group now. Expect very soon to see her nasty little posts on your experiences. She'll no doubt leave you a little quip full of her huffing and puffing, cursing us evil witches...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    so this week I've had the sd here

    for almost a whole week. And today I was left with her today by ourselves. it went alright....at first, because I just trird to ignore her the whole time,but then went outside and played with my lo and her.Then her dad came home and the spoiled brat came out. Lucky he isn't...
    Shouse88 Shouse88 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    My step daughter is trying to ruin my

    relationship with her dad and I think her mum is telling her to do so
    jls2010 jls2010 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    I don't even know where to begin

    and there's been so much over 4 years that couldn't possibly be represented here. Several years ago when I started dating my now husband, things were decent with 2 of his 3 kids, all girls. They spent mother's day with me for several years because their mother didn't want them...
    feelingcrazyinny feelingcrazyinny 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    Even when the brats gone the fights continue.

    Haven't seen her for over a month again, thank god! But now husband had a dream about her... Um ok. So I listen but don't say anything then he starts a fight 'because I analyze every other dream and this one I have nothing to say?' No I don't. I do not care about your effing...
    MommyToMine MommyToMine 31-35, F 5 Responses May 18

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    I am sitting here once again dreading Sunday,

    because that's when SD7 and SD5 arrive and ruin everything until my partner drops them off at school on Monday morning. We have them every Sunday overnight, and then again on Tuesday evenings. I know it's not much, but it makes me crazy. Every Sunday becomes all about SD7 (who...
    reluctantstepmom reluctantstepmom 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    So I told my husband

    that he needs to consider allowing his daughter stay in MO when she goes for the summer. This morning, I dropped his daughter off at the bus stop and by the time I had returned back to the house, I had an email from her teacher stating that she has gotten in trouble yet again...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    Happy Mother's Day to all my fellow posters.

    Hope your day was peaceful and free of SD drama!!!
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 5 Responses May 10

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    I am drunk right now.

    Just had amazing sez with the husband and the last thing he talks about before we go to bed is SD. She comes tomorrow only until Sunday. Why would he talk about her after we spent an amazing hour together. I am furious and on the couch while he is peacefully sleeping in bed. I...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 24

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    I don't know what to do

    or how to fix this. My SD hasn't been here in 8wks. She is now telling my husband that I am the reason she won't come. That I am mean to her and she is afraid of me. I have never once yelled at her or been mean to her. I just don't cater to her or make her a priority. I don't...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 28

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    How can we (step parents) be expected to endure

    such misery? How dare our husbands/wifes bring us into these lives? We were fine before them and now such misery...and they do nothing...and experience only the "nagging" we are left with as our only defense...I want to hear from the parents of these NASTY human beings that...
    THS1963 THS1963 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 5, 2014

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    My step daughter has just turned 12 her dad has

    had custody since she was 1 years old. About 3 years ago his daughter really wanted to meet her mom and was crying for her so he went and track down his daughters mother and helped her get off drugs so that she could see her daughter now his daughter wants to go live with her...
    Hollymmcc Hollymmcc 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    I Am An Evil Stepdaughter well at least

    according to some of your posts. I found this site because I was looking for advice on how to get along with my stepmom, and this made me even more hopeless. The hate and selfishness in these posts towards your spouse's daughter is extremely depressing. I don't get along with my...
    evilstepdaughter evilstepdaughter 26-30 4 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    Okay, well let me begin by stating how nice it

    is to have found this forum of people who not only understand what I am going through, but share the same struggles. I live the same life as so many of you. I have an eight year old step-daughter who is ruining not only my marriage, but my life. I must admit, that in reality, I...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    I could write for hours about this manipulative

    brat. SD moved in with us 3 months ago. For the 17.5 years prior to that she lived with her mother who is a pathological liar and drama queen. My SD is morbidly obese and her mother is bulimic/anorexic. She refused to enroll her in any sports (dance, swim, soccer) even when we...
    SJosephine SJosephine 36-40, F 5 Responses May 30, 2014

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    This Is What Worked For Me...It's Called

    I won't bore you all with my story of the evil troll I am loath to call my step-daughter. I have the same stories as almost everyone here...some worse, some better. The only difference is the way in which I decided to deal. On another site I came across an idea that seem to fit...
    USinUK USinUK 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    I have a very similar situation.

    Except my stepkid is turning 12 soon. I'm 28 and my fiance is 44. been together 4 years, and we have always got on great. His kid was 8 when we met and my son was 5. Well we haven't had sex for nearly 6 weeks!! We never spend any time together as a couple anymore. His...
    JaynJones JaynJones 31-35, F 3 Responses May 23

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    Oh Can't You Quit Your Complaining?!

    All in all? Most of you sound jealous your husbands (or boyfriends) care more about their daughters than you. 'WAH I HATE MY STEPDAUGHTER. she gets more attention from me than my husbandddddd. she eats at home. he helps pay to take care of her. she has a learning disability...
    ttopper ttopper 18-21 14 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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