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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    I'm counting down the days

    until my narcissistic little step daughter comes to visit. She'll be here six days. I'm dreading it. On the bright side, I only have 14 weeks of her over the next 2 years--but she's going to be in my home going through my things, manipulating her father, and telling lies. It's...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 6

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    My step daughter is three her mother is

    mentally ill her father and I have full custody. We recently found out she was molested by her older sister she was also thrown down stairs almost drown in a bathtub. THIS KID SCARES ME I took her to the store and caught her shoving **** in her pockets and she says I'm just...
    athurnall1 athurnall1 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't know why but I can't stand my

    boyfriends 3 year old daughter she is already having attitude throwing fits and whenever she sees me she hides in pillows, blankets runs away ect. I have a one year old with my boyfriend she will hit him shut the door on his face and put toys high up where he can't reach. Her...
    jasmin1030 jasmin1030 22-25, F Mar 6

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    We've Been Infiltrated!

    Yes, ladies. Some little pouty stepdaughter whose daddy dared to marry another woman is posting in our group now. Expect very soon to see her nasty little posts on your experiences. She'll no doubt leave you a little quip full of her huffing and puffing, cursing us evil witches...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    She's Only Five Years Old

    Things moved really fast when I met my husband. We were married a year from our first date, in September of 2010. My daughter from my first marriage is 9 1/2 years old. She is with us 6 days per week, and he has a 2 1/2 year old son and a 5-year-old daughter, "Priscilla" with us...
    notarealmomastepmom notarealmomastepmom 31-35 4 Responses May 28, 2011

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    Poem About Her Graduation

    I didn't come to watch you Walk across the stage. I didn't come to see you on your special day. This day when every eye, is focused just on you, and everyone is watching everything you do. How could I have missed it?, Some may ask in shock. As I sit here by myself...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    The Visitation Aftermath: I thought our visit

    went well. The SD was out for 5 days. Right off the bat, I told her I wasn't putting a lock on my door because I wasn't changing the way I lived my life in my home for a guest. Her dad told her that she was to check in, follow the rules, and not steal. Failure to do these things...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    How To Keep Your Stepdaughters Away From Your House

    Ladies, after reading lots of posts here on how much we hate our SDs, well, I am half way through on banning them from visiting my house, at least for a while. Really hope that those of you who are suffering from the pain that your SDs caused you, will soon deserve the true love...
    Janicemann Janicemann 22-25 15 Responses Jun 16, 2012

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    my girlfriend of 4 years has broken up with

    me .. reasons shes given 1.. her daughter hates me with a furious passion and it will never change 2.. lifestyle diferences... im clean,organised and tidy they are not...i dont drink my girl does...my girl likes to stay out late 4-5am i dont.. 3.. due to the above she...
    templar1307 templar1307 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I haven't seen her since November.

    This makes me happy. Although, DH Will be going to court soon for visitation. Cringe. But maybe it's a good thing that there will be a schedule and not on the whim of either him or bm. Than I can discipline, and I can monitor how he parents since clearly he treats my children...
    angiede angiede 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    Game On Honey!!

    Okay it's on!! I have turned the corner. The time has come to stop trying to protect her from herself and instead to protect myself FROM her! I have left my husband who I love more than anything twice now because of her and I guarantee that the next person leaving will be HER...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F Feb 26, 2012

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    IF IT'S NOT TOO LATE.

    ...SAVE YOURSELF!!!!! Things I've experienced as a Step. *Any material item I ever cared for broken or stolen. *Beloved pets killed or tormented. *Toothbrushes and razors tampered with. *Shampoo mixed with depilatory cream. *locked out of the house and had the house lit on fire...
    beingastepsucks beingastepsucks 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    I am posting this under the experience "I Hate

    My Stepdaughter" because I have updated this particular community about the issues revolving around her. In order to understand the full extent, you'd have to read the other scenarios I've presented before this. I want to thank those of you who have offered support and advice...
    sheyshey12 sheyshey12 26-30 2 Responses Mar 5

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    Such a glorious thing happened a few weeks ago.

    My family was in town visiting and we were all sitting down to dinner at a local restaurant. DH gets to talking to his daughter about her band stuff at school, and she comes out and says tat she was kicked out of band. Why, you ask? Because she missed so many classes and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    Why Do I Feel This Way?

    I've come here for some advice, I've been with my husband for over 4 years now and I knew he had two daughters when I married him. One is 9 the other is 7. We rarely see them now, but when I did see them I didn't mind. That is until they would start doing things that almost...
    br0210 br0210 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2013

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    Once Again This Little Idiot Is Running My Life!

    i freakin hate this kid...seriously. theres no more even using somewhat nice words to describe her...she is a little idiot and i hate her. just the fact that she has a room in my house utterly disgusts me. this is now being prompted because my husband has decided to placate to...
    frustratedmess frustratedmess 26-30 5 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    You know, it's such a small thing,

    but there are times when you're doing something in your day, and something clicks in your head. It's like your brain is working on it, and then if dawns on you that you were lied to yet again. I keep stumbling into those lies. Maybe they were harmless; maybe they weren't. But...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I am the step to 3 adult children.

    I've been a part of their lives for 20 years. For 20 years I gave and gave and I gave some more. The eldest daughter is about to be married. She has always been overly emotional and self-centered and rude. (not just to me but to everyone). Her father (my husband) is not fond of...
    beingastepsucks beingastepsucks 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    I've Made a Complete Mess of Things

    I hardly know where to begin.  My husband and I have been married 9 years.  We were both widowed with one daughter each.  His daughter was 9 at the time and mine was 5.  I tried my best to preserve the memory of both of the children's biological...
    lgs45 lgs45 41-45 3 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    For the last 8 years I've been raising my

    girlfriends two daughters along with my own. The oldest of the two, who turns 16 next month, is completely out of control. Ever since she started high school she's become unbearable. At first it seemed like annoying but harmless stuff - coming home late, atrocious grades, a bad...
    LostStepDad LostStepDad 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 2

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    Feeling Helpless to My Stepdaughter's Cruelty

    Hi... I am feeling completely helpless to deal with my stepdaughter's cruelty toward me.  Hopefully some of you can offer a few words of advise, or maybe just relate to my dilemma. I don't have any children of my own, and I am newly married to a man who has two grown...
    DeserveBetterThanThis DeserveBetterThanThis 46-50 28 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    Well I think the reason

    why I hate this 9 years old manipulative little b.... is because 99% of my discussions with her father (my boyfriend) is because of her! I already wrote before about it here...she is selfish and spoiled as hell and she give attitude to me and her dad when she is not getting her...
    thestepppy thestepppy 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15

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    I am engaged and we recently moved in together.

    He has 3 kids...only 1 who visits every weekend. I have 2 boys full time. His 4 yr old daughter is a nightmare. She is bossy to my boys and I and her daddy gives her whatever she wants. She does not have a bedtime when she is here and she cries if he doesn't sleep with her. She...
    mortician87 mortician87 26-30, F 59 Responses Feb 5

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    I am living in a home

    that I fear will never feel like home because of my step children. My spouse has custody of his 17 year old daughter and my children and I moved in 6 months ago. This is something that wasn't just dropped in his daughters lap. He asked her permission before moving us in. The...
    notabadmom notabadmom 36-40 12 Responses Jan 17

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    My stepmother despises me.

    She yells at me over and over and she made me cry several times. She almost hit me and I hate her too.
    LucyGirlAkita2 LucyGirlAkita2 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    This Is What Worked For Me...It's Called

    I won't bore you all with my story of the evil troll I am loath to call my step-daughter. I have the same stories as almost everyone here...some worse, some better. The only difference is the way in which I decided to deal. On another site I came across an idea that seem to fit...
    USinUK USinUK 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2013

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    I have a 17 y/o SD who had been addicted to

    drugs since she was 13. She had only lived with her mother until she got in trouble with the law at 15, then her mother handed her off to my husband and I. We have paid thousands for attorneys, psychiatric help, 2 stints in rehab. I have home schooled her to facilitate her...
    Dakari Dakari 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 16

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    Okay, first of all, please no mean judgments

    towards me, it's not like I decided one day to start hating her. This was a progression to it. My SD is 10 years old with the mentality of a 3 year old, literally. She whines and cries all the time like a big baby. She has been physically violent towards me and my 3...
    marikate82 marikate82 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 176 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    Dear Significant Other:

    Hello, darling. I know you'll end up reading this because you've found my rantings in the past. Well, that's fine. I've never said anything on here that I haven't said to your face (or over the phone, as sometimes happens). We had another argument this morning about your...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    This Will Be A Long Story But Someone Please Read I Really Need To Know Iam Not The Only One Who Hates Their Stepdaughter!!!

    Ok where to begin...I met my husband about 3 yrs. ago he has 3 children with a PHYSCO! I have no kids of my own. He has 2 boys and one VERY EVIL little manipulative daughter! When I met my husband I thought we would be together forever but any more Iam not so sure about that and...
    ss2013 ss2013 18-21 4 Responses Dec 12, 2010

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    When I read these stories,

    I realize that I am not the only person going through this and I am not crazy. This is reassuring. My stepdaughter has made it her mission in life to tear me down and drive a wedge between me and her dad. She is 12 and this has been going on since she was 6. There have...
    point1 point1 36-40 3 Responses Feb 24

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    I wish she could just visit in the summers

    or on weekends like most normal stepchildren. But, no her sorry mother gave her away and SD prefers to live here because she says she gets more privileges than with bio mom. I am just getting burned out. I have to take her everywhere; to school and then come back out to pick her...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Hate Being Home

    It's been over two years that I've dealt with her. She's still whiny, rude, disrespectful and annoying. And I've tried to get along with her. Trust me, I've tried. But every time she comes here, I cringe. Just the sight of her face makes me sick, and I particularly hate the sound...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 5, 2013

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    Oh Can't You Quit Your Complaining?!

    All in all? Most of you sound jealous your husbands (or boyfriends) care more about their daughters than you. 'WAH I HATE MY STEPDAUGHTER. she gets more attention from me than my husbandddddd. she eats at home. he helps pay to take care of her. she has a learning disability...
    ttopper ttopper 18-21 13 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    My husband and I have been together

    for 9 years and have a 7 year old son together. When we met, I was a single mum to my 2 year old son and he had a 2 year old daughter who liver with her mum. We used to see his daughter about 6 times a year as her mother can be very awkward. Three years ago his daughter came...
    don11282 don11282 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I really don't hate my SD,

    actually totally non-caring about her after 37 years of marriage to her father. She was 7 years old when we married, her parents divorced when she was 2 years old so she had no memories of them even being married. Unfortunately her mother allowed very limited visitation with...
    rejecteda1 rejecteda1 66-70 1 Response Apr 13

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    Warning For A Potential Stepmother Or Stepfather: Are You Making The Right Decision?

    I'm writing this in the hope that it will be found through a Google search by some person who is considering getting married to a person with children. To be honest, if I had read this before I got married I'm not sure it would have changed anything.  But at least I can say...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 113 Responses May 13, 2010

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    She'S Finally Gone But I Can'T Let Go Of The Hurt And Anger

    My husband and I married when she was 10 years old and I have known her since she was 8. I truly loved her. Her mother is an alcoholic and we had full custody. My husband was active duty military and was deployed about 6-7 months out of each year for the past 7 years and so I had...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    Sd Dropped Her Barrette In Her Potty Directly Into Her Poop...

    ...and sure I wasn't fishing it out of there!  I had my own baby in October, so non biological SD wants more attention, she is 3 years and 7 months and I have dealt with her since she was a newborn b/c my husband took her away from his ex-wife when she was 24 days old in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Mar 31, 2010

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    My Letter To Her

    I've had some time to really think about what I want to say to you and I am going to try to put it down on paper so that you can read over it and think about it. You are the most selfish person I have ever had the misfortune of meeting. Almost without fail, everything you do or...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    Well, it has been awhile.

    ..SD has been out for a week...yes, she ran away...and get this: hasn't attended school for the past 3 weeks all the while having her father and I believe that she was going...got suspended for stealing and never went back...her mother got out of prison and SD has been acting out...
    THS1963 THS1963 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 24

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    She's Not a Bad Kid

    She is 14 and decided to move in with me and her dad soon after I found out I was pregnant, this is my first baby and is actually my husbands first baby also... He didn't get a chance to help raise her as he got someone pregnant when he was 14. He didn't see this child till she...
    tatiana tatiana 26-30, F 79 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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    I don't really hate. hate is a very strong word

    . My husband treats his 2 yr old daughter from previous relationship better then our daughter .For example he buys his daughter everything she wants and needs but won't buy our 5month old anything I have too. He won't even hold our daughter or talk to her spend time with her...
    Redgirljanine Redgirljanine 22-25, F 9 Responses Mar 14

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    My Husband Thinks She's a Princess!

    My step-daughter is well-mannered and sweet, but can utilize those fine skills to be very manipulative and get exactly what she wants.  She is very cunning and sneaky and finds creative ways to avoid getting herself into trouble.  She will be 13 in March and refers to people as...
    kathie618 kathie618 36-40 30 Responses Aug 7, 2008

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    Still gone...ahhhh! Her dad is

    such a wimp...he's talked to her a couple of times but, he wouldn't dare ask her why she left, why she quit school or why she stole my things and gave them to her nasty murderous mom...I wonder about that sometimes...WHY does he tiptoe so lightly around this daughter? No matter...
    THS1963 THS1963 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    My almost 14 yr old stepdaughter

    and her friend decided to cut (vandalize) the school bus seat last Friday. They took my sd's scissors and cut 5 slices into it. Monday she came home balling because all the kids ganged up on her telling her she was badge cause the driver said until someone confessed they were in...
    Countrychicky Countrychicky 26-30 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't feel bad about this at all.

    I have 2 SD's. I have known them since they were 3 and 5. They are now 13 and 15. I have a close relationship with the 15 year old, let's call her SD #1. Then there's SD#2. *sigh*. We USED to be super close, then her dad and I split up for a year and I moved away. Well...
    skidmom skidmom 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    Shes 9 years old and she is the only kid in

    Earth I detest!..she is my boyfriend's daughter, but she got nothing from him cause hes a wonderful person and I love him so much, but this kid is not normal, always faking some kind of pain for getting attention and pity from people,exactly like her mum. Shes so manipulative...
    thestepppy thestepppy 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    I'm 26 years old and I have a step daughter 3

    years younger than I. I when I first moved in everything seemed fine we would get a long pretty good i thought. It wasn't until she accused me of stealing $100 from her room, and telling the nanny how I'm in desperate need for money and how I'm lazy and I never have the house...
    malcant46 malcant46 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 10

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    Never thankful is what she is.

    Stepdaughter is allowed to participate in the play which requires me to go back out across town and pick her up. She gets annoyed and upset too often. I get dinner prepared, load the toddler in the car who is hungry and go get her. I call her and she won't answer her phone just...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    Faking Sick

    So, SD has had a "stomach ache" and naturally, that means we have to babysit her while she misses school for no reason. There is NOTHING WRONG with this child. She's prancing around the house as usual. Whining about eating, her homework, etc. But Hubby makes her macaroni and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Visitation Prequel: Why I should have known

    she's still a brat. My stepdaughter's godmothers decided that as a result of her behaviors on her last two trips with them, this summer they aren't taking her on their vacation. It's reasonable. She was caught in bed with a teenage boy twice on the first vacation. Then, she...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    Will be swapping her weekends

    for a month. Refuse to have her here Father's Day or for my daughters birthday. This is a special time for our family so we don't need her attention seeking behaviour spoiling it. She and her mother won't be happy but who cares. She comes over when I say or not at all. It was...
    angelfallen13 angelfallen13 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 15

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    I long for the day I don't have to come on here

    to vent. I just found out my SD has been drinking. Like, she's 13! I wasn't of age when I first drank but I sure wasn't drinking before high school. Honestly, I found out a whole pile of stuff this week and I am just so done. Done with it all! We don't get along. We used to...
    Countrychicky Countrychicky 26-30 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I am getting married this summer.

    My future stepdaughter is 25, 100 lbs overweight and very immature. She has never been on a date and acts as though she is to young to think about it. My future husband does nothing to help her grow up. When I tell him that he tells me that she is a kid and I should mind my...
    obsessednyc obsessednyc 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 21