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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    When I read these stories,

    I realize that I am not the only person going through this and I am not crazy. This is reassuring. My stepdaughter has made it her mission in life to tear me down and drive a wedge between me and her dad. She is 12 and this has been going on since she was 6. There have...
    point1 point1 36-40 2 Responses Feb 24, 2014

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    I have been SD free for years now,

    only having to see her twice in the past 8 years, and it's been wonderful. Although she still calls my husband only when she wants money with the "woe is me, you were never a father" tactic to make him feel guilty so he'll write the check. She blocks his calls to her, won't...
    amphen amphen 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    We've Been Infiltrated!

    Yes, ladies. Some little pouty stepdaughter whose daddy dared to marry another woman is posting in our group now. Expect very soon to see her nasty little posts on your experiences. She'll no doubt leave you a little quip full of her huffing and puffing, cursing us evil witches...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    Okay... Here's some Sunday morning humour

    for anyone who's interested: My step-daughter has this double personality whereby she acts sweet as pie in front of my husband, yet as soon as he's out of sight, glares at me with eyes that cut right through me. This little game began when she was three. She's now nine. I've...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Such a glorious thing happened a few weeks ago.

    My family was in town visiting and we were all sitting down to dinner at a local restaurant. DH gets to talking to his daughter about her band stuff at school, and she comes out and says tat she was kicked out of band. Why, you ask? Because she missed so many classes and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    I'm counting down the days

    until my narcissistic little step daughter comes to visit. She'll be here six days. I'm dreading it. On the bright side, I only have 14 weeks of her over the next 2 years--but she's going to be in my home going through my things, manipulating her father, and telling lies. It's...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 4 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    I could write for hours about this manipulative

    brat. SD moved in with us 3 months ago. For the 17.5 years prior to that she lived with her mother who is a pathological liar and drama queen. My SD is morbidly obese and her mother is bulimic/anorexic. She refused to enroll her in any sports (dance, swim, soccer) even when we...
    SJosephine SJosephine 36-40, F 5 Responses May 30, 2014

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    How To Keep Your Stepdaughters Away From Your House

    Ladies, after reading lots of posts here on how much we hate our SDs, well, I am half way through on banning them from visiting my house, at least for a while. Really hope that those of you who are suffering from the pain that your SDs caused you, will soon deserve the true love...
    Janicemann Janicemann 22-25 16 Responses Jun 16, 2012

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    So we were supposed to get SD yeaterday (fri)

    but she wanted to go to her sisters soccer game today. So hubby said ok bc she was supposed to be here by noon. Well, we had a graduation/pool party to go to at 1 and its 5 to 1 and she still hasn't left. They live 45 min away. My hubby finally, after never standing up to her or...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 6

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    Under 4 weeks and counting

    until she goes back home and I don't have to see her until next year. Since she had the cops called on her father in an attempt to go home where she gets to do whatever she wants, my husband has washed his hands of his daughter and has said he doesn't care what she does...
    roxmac roxmac 31-35, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 194 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    my husband has agreed

    that his daughter needs counseling and as of know she won't be back for awhile. she told my husband she doesn't want to grow up and stay a kid forever, so that's why she acts childish. she is 11 years old and has the behaviour of a 6 year old. plus she doesn't understand why...
    kthomas12 kthomas12 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Just have to vent!! I have three step kids.

    All three live with us. Two I get along great with, the 19 yo however is a different story. Ever since she was 15 or so she has turns our lives into a living hell. When she was 15 she wanted to be adopted by her friends mom so she could go smoke pot and do whatever she wanted to...
    Rosem08 Rosem08 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 17

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    Well, I don't really "hate" her.

    .. A few weeks ago, I flew my stepdaughter in to DC to meet up with my husband, me, my dad, and my stepmom for a week's vacation. I haven't spoken to her in a year (with the exception of the letters we exchanged in January--I've mentioned it in a different experience). If you're...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 3 Responses May 7

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    this morning, at 4:45 am,

    i gently touched my sweet sleeping husband to awaken him, as he had instructed the ex to drop off SD at 5am for their trip today. he's taking her to NYC for an anniversary celebration hosted by his favorite publisher. i made him coffee, helped him pack a lunch, and kissed him...
    tryingtobeamazing tryingtobeamazing 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    I am drunk right now.

    Just had amazing sez with the husband and the last thing he talks about before we go to bed is SD. She comes tomorrow only until Sunday. Why would he talk about her after we spent an amazing hour together. I am furious and on the couch while he is peacefully sleeping in bed. I...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 24

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    So here's my update..

    .it's Monday. I am back from my anniversary to find that a) she was walking around the babysitters house talking to people in a non childlike manner being a smart azz and rude. (basically what she's not allowed to do here) b) she is starting my week off wrong already with the...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 27

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I can't leave here fast enough.

    I can't stand my husband's daughter and now that we are here, all I want to see is the dust from this dirt road blowing in my rear view mirror.
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    My step daughter has just turned 12 her dad has

    had custody since she was 1 years old. About 3 years ago his daughter really wanted to meet her mom and was crying for her so he went and track down his daughters mother and helped her get off drugs so that she could see her daughter now his daughter wants to go live with her...
    Hollymmcc Hollymmcc 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    How do you step-parents deal with step brats?

    ? How do I rise above my SD?! I am a professional, level-headed woman. Well, unless it comes to my SD who is 10. My kids from a previous marriage get picked on by her when nobody's looking. My husband's response: they must have given her a reason. That's when he actually...
    wickedtornado wickedtornado 36-40, F 5 Responses May 13

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    What a twisted, manipulative,

    sneaky little ******! I had a feeling that something was up when my son didn't want to go to the park with his sister and stepsister. The SD has been bullying my kids again, mainly my son who is a year younger than my SD, is a foot shorter than she is and weights 150 less than...
    wickedtornado wickedtornado 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    My life is perfect...

    When its just me my husband and our daughter. But when we get my step daughter my life is a living hell. I feel like a horrible person for having bad feelings toward a 4 year old, but she is just an imperfection in our family. My husband and his ex thought having a baby would...
    stepmom310 stepmom310 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 24

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    Dear Significant Other:

    Hello, darling. I know you'll end up reading this because you've found my rantings in the past. Well, that's fine. I've never said anything on here that I haven't said to your face (or over the phone, as sometimes happens). We had another argument this morning about your...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Warning For A Potential Stepmother Or Stepfather: Are You Making The Right Decision?

    I'm writing this in the hope that it will be found through a Google search by some person who is considering getting married to a person with children. To be honest, if I had read this before I got married I'm not sure it would have changed anything.  But at least I can say...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 129 Responses May 13, 2010

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    I am sitting here once again dreading Sunday,

    because that's when SD7 and SD5 arrive and ruin everything until my partner drops them off at school on Monday morning. We have them every Sunday overnight, and then again on Tuesday evenings. I know it's not much, but it makes me crazy. Every Sunday becomes all about SD7 (who...
    reluctantstepmom reluctantstepmom 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    This Is What Worked For Me...It's Called

    I won't bore you all with my story of the evil troll I am loath to call my step-daughter. I have the same stories as almost everyone here...some worse, some better. The only difference is the way in which I decided to deal. On another site I came across an idea that seem to fit...
    USinUK USinUK 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    So I told my husband

    that he needs to consider allowing his daughter stay in MO when she goes for the summer. This morning, I dropped his daughter off at the bus stop and by the time I had returned back to the house, I had an email from her teacher stating that she has gotten in trouble yet again...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    I wish she could just visit in the summers

    or on weekends like most normal stepchildren. But, no her sorry mother gave her away and SD prefers to live here because she says she gets more privileges than with bio mom. I am just getting burned out. I have to take her everywhere; to school and then come back out to pick her...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15, 2014

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    Even when the brats gone the fights continue.

    Haven't seen her for over a month again, thank god! But now husband had a dream about her... Um ok. So I listen but don't say anything then he starts a fight 'because I analyze every other dream and this one I have nothing to say?' No I don't. I do not care about your effing...
    MommyToMine MommyToMine 31-35, F 5 Responses May 18

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    Part 3. Venting my frustrations.

    Maybe there should be a new category called "I Strongly Dislike My Spouse and Step Daughter". My day started with my husband opening his eyes, turning to me and not saying good morning, how are you, did you sleep well, but saying "did she eat already" referring to his daughter...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    Big surprise! She can't hold down a job to save

    her life. Everywhere she goes is DRAMA. She was just fired for having an extremely bad attitude and being rude to customers. Now she's interviewing again. She said to me the other day "women don't like me," as in, female interviewers don't like her. YA THINK? She shows up to...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    I am to the point that I just don't

    even care anymore. I met my man 5 years ago. He was just finalizing his divorce. He had been separated from his ex for almost 2 years at this point. He left when he caught her cheating and still tried to work it out until she moved in with another man while he was deployed...
    roxmac roxmac 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    She's Not a Bad Kid

    She is 14 and decided to move in with me and her dad soon after I found out I was pregnant, this is my first baby and is actually my husbands first baby also... He didn't get a chance to help raise her as he got someone pregnant when he was 14. He didn't see this child till she...
    tatiana tatiana 26-30, F 79 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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    Am I the only one who strongly dislikes

    when people who aren't members of this group call themselves trying to lecture, scold, judge or educate us?
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    I only have less than a week left.

    Ever had that feeling like you need to use the bathroom and the closer you get to your house you feel like you can't hold it anymore...like the feeling intensifies? It seems like the intensity of disdain I feel about her living here is growing now that I am in the final...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 9

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    Okay, well let me begin by stating how nice it

    is to have found this forum of people who not only understand what I am going through, but share the same struggles. I live the same life as so many of you. I have an eight year old step-daughter who is ruining not only my marriage, but my life. I must admit, that in reality, I...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    So the day has come!!

    ! I am officially step free. But not without shenanigans. So when we arrive to the family home, she starts to show the real her that she always shows when no one else is around she didn't speak to me or my son the entire time we were there. Then at one point, my husband tells...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 14

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    I am engaged and we recently moved in together.

    He has 3 kids...only 1 who visits every weekend. I have 2 boys full time. His 4 yr old daughter is a nightmare. She is bossy to my boys and I and her daddy gives her whatever she wants. She does not have a bedtime when she is here and she cries if he doesn't sleep with her. She...
    mortician87 mortician87 26-30, F 54 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    How did all u others

    that dislike n have trouble with SD deal with it? What to do? She's 13 and is disrespectful and lies non stop about me
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 10

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    I don't know what to do

    or how to fix this. My SD hasn't been here in 8wks. She is now telling my husband that I am the reason she won't come. That I am mean to her and she is afraid of me. I have never once yelled at her or been mean to her. I just don't cater to her or make her a priority. I don't...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Had a lot of problems with my stepdaughter.

    My situation is both common and unique....unique because I've helped raise her since she was 4, common because we don't get along. I have done so many things for her, too numerous to list, over the years. She is 20 now. Had some questions, was wondering if you could help me...
    BetweenStates BetweenStates 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 4

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    Well I think the reason

    why I hate this 9 years old manipulative little b.... is because 99% of my discussions with her father (my boyfriend) is because of her! I already wrote before about it here...she is selfish and spoiled as hell and she give attitude to me and her dad when she is not getting her...
    thestepppy thestepppy 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15, 2014

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    Oh boy. Here we go...

    My husband takes work trips frequently, and sometimes he's gone for a week or two. Sometimes he gets to go to nice places (beach, etc) and we are able to tag along. The catch is that he is working all day, and I am with the kids. He will only see us at night for dinner, then...
    Cabanacay79 Cabanacay79 36-40, F 3 Responses May 17

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    Happy Mother's Day to all my fellow posters.

    Hope your day was peaceful and free of SD drama!!!
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 5 Responses May 10

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    I have a very similar situation.

    Except my stepkid is turning 12 soon. I'm 28 and my fiance is 44. been together 4 years, and we have always got on great. His kid was 8 when we met and my son was 5. Well we haven't had sex for nearly 6 weeks!! We never spend any time together as a couple anymore. His...
    JaynJones JaynJones 31-35, F 3 Responses May 23

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