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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    I am engaged and we recently moved in together.

    He has 3 kids...only 1 who visits every weekend. I have 2 boys full time. His 4 yr old daughter is a nightmare. She is bossy to my boys and I and her daddy gives her whatever she wants. She does not have a bedtime when she is here and she cries if he doesn't sleep with her. She...
    mortician87 mortician87 26-30, F 54 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    Well I think the reason

    why I hate this 9 years old manipulative little b.... is because 99% of my discussions with her father (my boyfriend) is because of her! I already wrote before about it here...she is selfish and spoiled as hell and she give attitude to me and her dad when she is not getting her...
    thestepppy thestepppy 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15, 2014

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    UPDATE: we are on the mend.

    thanks to this site, and the wonderful people on it, my hubs and i are working toward a new life without the constant interference of the ex and the SD. i have been clear about my boundaries, and he has heard me. he has developed a new plan to parent his daughter, outside of my...
    tryingtobeamazing tryingtobeamazing 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 14

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    This Is What Worked For Me...It's Called

    I won't bore you all with my story of the evil troll I am loath to call my step-daughter. I have the same stories as almost everyone here...some worse, some better. The only difference is the way in which I decided to deal. On another site I came across an idea that seem to fit...
    USinUK USinUK 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    I am drunk right now.

    Just had amazing sez with the husband and the last thing he talks about before we go to bed is SD. She comes tomorrow only until Sunday. Why would he talk about her after we spent an amazing hour together. I am furious and on the couch while he is peacefully sleeping in bed. I...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 24

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    So mommy dearest isn't going to let him

    relinquish rights not without screwing him over more. So he's going to take the brat to dinner once or twice a month and if she wants to come to our house she will and if not she's going to be dropped back off to her mother. Her moms programmed her to hate us all though so I'm...
    MommyToMine MommyToMine 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 193 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    Feeling Helpless to My Stepdaughter's Cruelty

    Hi... I am feeling completely helpless to deal with my stepdaughter's cruelty toward me.  Hopefully some of you can offer a few words of advise, or maybe just relate to my dilemma. I don't have any children of my own, and I am newly married to a man who has two grown...
    DeserveBetterThanThis DeserveBetterThanThis 46-50 32 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    So here's my update..

    .it's Monday. I am back from my anniversary to find that a) she was walking around the babysitters house talking to people in a non childlike manner being a smart azz and rude. (basically what she's not allowed to do here) b) she is starting my week off wrong already with the...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 27

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    How To Keep Your Stepdaughters Away From Your House

    Ladies, after reading lots of posts here on how much we hate our SDs, well, I am half way through on banning them from visiting my house, at least for a while. Really hope that those of you who are suffering from the pain that your SDs caused you, will soon deserve the true love...
    Janicemann Janicemann 22-25 16 Responses Jun 16, 2012

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    She's Not a Bad Kid

    She is 14 and decided to move in with me and her dad soon after I found out I was pregnant, this is my first baby and is actually my husbands first baby also... He didn't get a chance to help raise her as he got someone pregnant when he was 14. He didn't see this child till she...
    tatiana tatiana 26-30, F 79 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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    Dear Significant Other:

    Hello, darling. I know you'll end up reading this because you've found my rantings in the past. Well, that's fine. I've never said anything on here that I haven't said to your face (or over the phone, as sometimes happens). We had another argument this morning about your...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Such a glorious thing happened a few weeks ago.

    My family was in town visiting and we were all sitting down to dinner at a local restaurant. DH gets to talking to his daughter about her band stuff at school, and she comes out and says tat she was kicked out of band. Why, you ask? Because she missed so many classes and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    My partner has a 5 year old daughter from a

    previous relationship. He claims he had never wanted kids but that chick just stopped taking her pills without telling him. We've been talking lately and he said he couldn't promise me he would like a kid with me. I feel like this relationship should end. I want to have a kid...
    fosterpaste fosterpaste 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 29

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    I'm counting down the days

    until my narcissistic little step daughter comes to visit. She'll be here six days. I'm dreading it. On the bright side, I only have 14 weeks of her over the next 2 years--but she's going to be in my home going through my things, manipulating her father, and telling lies. It's...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 4 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    I have a very similar situation.

    Except my stepkid is turning 12 soon. I'm 28 and my fiance is 44. been together 4 years, and we have always got on great. His kid was 8 when we met and my son was 5. Well we haven't had sex for nearly 6 weeks!! We never spend any time together as a couple anymore. His...
    JaynJones JaynJones 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I could write for hours about this manipulative

    brat. SD moved in with us 3 months ago. For the 17.5 years prior to that she lived with her mother who is a pathological liar and drama queen. My SD is morbidly obese and her mother is bulimic/anorexic. She refused to enroll her in any sports (dance, swim, soccer) even when we...
    SJosephine SJosephine 36-40, F 5 Responses May 30, 2014

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    I'm having pretty bad anxiety about tmrw.

    Hubby hasn't seen SD since March 1st and he has to go see her tomorrow and if she wants to come to our home she will if not she's getting dropped off to her mom. I feel like I'm throwing him to a pack of wolves... She's so brainwashed we already know what's going to come out of...
    MommyToMine MommyToMine 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    How can we (step parents) be expected to endure

    such misery? How dare our husbands/wifes bring us into these lives? We were fine before them and now such misery...and they do nothing...and experience only the "nagging" we are left with as our only defense...I want to hear from the parents of these NASTY human beings that...
    THS1963 THS1963 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 5, 2014

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    When I read these stories,

    I realize that I am not the only person going through this and I am not crazy. This is reassuring. My stepdaughter has made it her mission in life to tear me down and drive a wedge between me and her dad. She is 12 and this has been going on since she was 6. There have...
    point1 point1 36-40 2 Responses Feb 24, 2014

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    this morning, at 4:45 am,

    i gently touched my sweet sleeping husband to awaken him, as he had instructed the ex to drop off SD at 5am for their trip today. he's taking her to NYC for an anniversary celebration hosted by his favorite publisher. i made him coffee, helped him pack a lunch, and kissed him...
    tryingtobeamazing tryingtobeamazing 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    Well, I don't really "hate" her.

    .. A few weeks ago, I flew my stepdaughter in to DC to meet up with my husband, me, my dad, and my stepmom for a week's vacation. I haven't spoken to her in a year (with the exception of the letters we exchanged in January--I've mentioned it in a different experience). If you're...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 2 Responses May 7

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    I Am An Evil Stepdaughter well at least

    according to some of your posts. I found this site because I was looking for advice on how to get along with my stepmom, and this made me even more hopeless. The hate and selfishness in these posts towards your spouse's daughter is extremely depressing. I don't get along with my...
    evilstepdaughter evilstepdaughter 26-30 2 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Hates a powerful word

    and bet step children pick up on it. I know how it feels to receive hate cause of sexuality. We have three beautiful children 2 daughters 15 and 13 and son 11 but when we first sent them to school they told people they have to mom's. at first they were ok with it some were...
    Lezsoccermom75 Lezsoccermom75 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    I am sitting here once again dreading Sunday,

    because that's when SD7 and SD5 arrive and ruin everything until my partner drops them off at school on Monday morning. We have them every Sunday overnight, and then again on Tuesday evenings. I know it's not much, but it makes me crazy. Every Sunday becomes all about SD7 (who...
    reluctantstepmom reluctantstepmom 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    I never thought I'd be saying something like

    this, but I'm so glad to have found an outlet for it because it's taking my sanity lately. My fiancé and I have been together for about 3 years now and she is the love of my life. Both of us are divorced and have children from previous marriages. My daughter (8) lives with her...
    DookSilvur116 DookSilvur116 26-30, M 5 Responses Apr 26

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    I am seriously considering telling my husband

    that he needs to figure out what to do with his daughter because I am beyond fed up. First and foremost because I don't think I should be the one dealing with her 99.9% of the time. She is not my kid...shouldn't one of her parents be the ones bearing the brunt of the...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 23

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    Am I the only one who strongly dislikes

    when people who aren't members of this group call themselves trying to lecture, scold, judge or educate us?
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    How do you step-parents deal with step brats?

    ? How do I rise above my SD?! I am a professional, level-headed woman. Well, unless it comes to my SD who is 10. My kids from a previous marriage get picked on by her when nobody's looking. My husband's response: they must have given her a reason. That's when he actually...
    wickedtornado wickedtornado 36-40, F 5 Responses May 13

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    I've posted about this subject before,

    but since my last post things are very different. My girlfriend (K) and I are no longer together, but we are living together. She broke it off with me in January and ever since then I've been trying to get my affairs in order so I can move out and take care of my autistic...
    LostStepDad LostStepDad 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 23

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    How did all u others

    that dislike n have trouble with SD deal with it? What to do? She's 13 and is disrespectful and lies non stop about me
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 10

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    She comes home today

    after spending two weeks at my mom's house and I am already dreading it. She's going to get on my nerves for sure and absolutely detest dealing with her. I am 8 months pregnant and would like to enjoy this time in peace. She is going to be the reason why I end my marriage.
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 21, 2014

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    I don't think they will leave us alone.

    They are jealous for themselves and their mum! And the husbands enjoy their visit. I had a boyfriend with three grown up daughters of his own, he adores them and obeys them out of guilt of having me after he divorced their mother. Whenever I told him about how bad they treated...
    pnina pnina 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    Part 3. Venting my frustrations.

    Maybe there should be a new category called "I Strongly Dislike My Spouse and Step Daughter". My day started with my husband opening his eyes, turning to me and not saying good morning, how are you, did you sleep well, but saying "did she eat already" referring to his daughter...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2014

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    Oh Can't You Quit Your Complaining?!

    All in all? Most of you sound jealous your husbands (or boyfriends) care more about their daughters than you. 'WAH I HATE MY STEPDAUGHTER. she gets more attention from me than my husbandddddd. she eats at home. he helps pay to take care of her. she has a learning disability...
    ttopper ttopper 18-21 14 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    It is not a lie, a phase I am going through

    or any other temporary circumstance, I truly and honestly from the bottom of my heart do not enjoy having to deal with my husband's daughter. She turns the simplest conversation or daily task into a nightmare. She is the one aspect of my life that I wish I could change daily...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 22

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    so she's in my house.

    her mother dumped her on us so that she could run off to the crazy college student, who is now apparently going to some loony bin in Cincinnati and dropping out of UVA. SD has been badmouthing me to the mother and her brother (who lives with me) since we got back from the trip...
    tryingtobeamazing tryingtobeamazing 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 11

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    I wish she could just visit in the summers

    or on weekends like most normal stepchildren. But, no her sorry mother gave her away and SD prefers to live here because she says she gets more privileges than with bio mom. I am just getting burned out. I have to take her everywhere; to school and then come back out to pick her...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15, 2014

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    while we were in Portland with his two kids

    and my three kids, a month ago on vacation, his youngest really acted out and made him so angry that he blew up in a fury on all of us. we've only been together two years, and i hadn't witnessed this type of rage before. it didn't involve hitting, just verbal fury but it scared...
    tryingtobeamazing tryingtobeamazing 41-45, F 4 Responses May 5

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    Even when the brats gone the fights continue.

    Haven't seen her for over a month again, thank god! But now husband had a dream about her... Um ok. So I listen but don't say anything then he starts a fight 'because I analyze every other dream and this one I have nothing to say?' No I don't. I do not care about your effing...
    MommyToMine MommyToMine 26-30, F 4 Responses May 18

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    Thank God I'm not married yet.

    I am engaged to a guy who for the most part has been good to me in our relationship. I have 2 issues that are preventing me from marrying him; My son and his daughter. My fiancé & his 2 girls live with me but they do not have a relationship with my son. It's weird, we all live...
    stepmominpgh stepmominpgh 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 13

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    So SD came thurs after telling my husband she

    wanted to, she was fine thurs night... Annoying as always for me but she was fine. She played with the boys and then fri morning before school they were all playing outside.... They were all happy. Hubby took them to school. Anyway, mommy dearest who has brainwashing SD was...
    MommyToMine MommyToMine 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    We've Been Infiltrated!

    Yes, ladies. Some little pouty stepdaughter whose daddy dared to marry another woman is posting in our group now. Expect very soon to see her nasty little posts on your experiences. She'll no doubt leave you a little quip full of her huffing and puffing, cursing us evil witches...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    So my stepdaughter, who has not spoken to me in

    at least a year, has been engaged for a few months now. Apparently, she called her dad the other day and asked if he thought I would go wedding dress shopping with her. He thought this was just soooooo sweet of her. Seriously? This is a girl who will not even acknowledge me...
    Emilie75 Emilie75 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 16

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    Happy Mother's Day to all my fellow posters.

    Hope your day was peaceful and free of SD drama!!!
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 5 Responses May 10

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