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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    I friended one of my SD's friends from her old

    school on Facebook today. He's a great kid, and I always wished he and his friends would rub off on my SD. He's that awesome. He mentioned in an IM conversation that my SD told him all the time how mean I was. So, I laid it all out for him: All the lies, all the laziness, all...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I've been a step parent

    for 5 months now to a 7 year old girl. Her Mom is totally out of the picture, on her free will, and does not call, write, skype, or visit, though she is allowed to, if she gives us notice. While my husband was in the military her mother had custody of my SD, and she visited my...
    gmwhy gmwhy 26-30, F 4 Responses May 1

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    "And you? What do you think about all this?

    " I asked a 8 year old child. "Nothing" She answered quietly with eyes downcast. That is the ONLY word I ever heard my stepdaughter say. The armed Greek Authorities led her out of the house, ordered her in to a waiting car, and drove away. They were taking her back over the...
    MarinaDokar MarinaDokar 36-40, F Sep 9

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    Hate is such a strong word,

    but my step daughter makes me absolutely miserable. She is 14 and never shuts up... She has absolutely no concept of manners or personal space. I have caught her stealing from me and I just don't want to deal with her anymore. I wish she would disappear. Unlike a lot of the...
    bga321 bga321 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 10

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    She'S Finally Gone But I Can'T Let Go Of The Hurt And Anger

    My husband and I married when she was 10 years old and I have known her since she was 8. I truly loved her. Her mother is an alcoholic and we had full custody. My husband was active duty military and was deployed about 6-7 months out of each year for the past 7 years and so I had...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F 9 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    I could write for hours about this manipulative

    brat. SD moved in with us 3 months ago. For the 17.5 years prior to that she lived with her mother who is a pathological liar and drama queen. My SD is morbidly obese and her mother is bulimic/anorexic. She refused to enroll her in any sports (dance, swim, soccer) even when we...
    SJosephine SJosephine 36-40, F 6 Responses May 30

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    I wish she could just visit in the summers

    or on weekends like most normal stepchildren. But, no her sorry mother gave her away and SD prefers to live here because she says she gets more privileges than with bio mom. I am just getting burned out. I have to take her everywhere; to school and then come back out to pick her...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Where do I begin with my 26 year old,

    recovering heroin and cocaine addict, spoiled, unemployed, useless ***** of a step daughter that lives off of everyone else, has stolen from us all, is spending the first summer of the last 6 years out of jail, lives for free, doesn't do anything to help the house, lays out in...
    HadItWithHer HadItWithHer 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 5

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    gosh I do feel for you,

    your situation sounds almost exactly like mine, except my step daughter is 16, has bad grades, throws temper tantrums, and speaks to all of us like trash, and not able to hold down positive relationships, she causes unnecessary trouble both at school and at home, she loves...
    monikal monikal 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 16

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    I wouldn't say hate. That's a terribly strong

    word. She is the MOST ANNOYING CHILD ON EARTH. I have been with her mother since she was just barely 3 years old. When I met her, I had 2 daughters from a previous marriage, one of which was just 2 months older than the SD. I had never met a child that whined as much as this...
    AnanasBay AnanasBay 36-40, M 2 Responses May 25

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    From The Other Side. Hi!

    I've read some of the stories on here, and technically speaking, I'm a teenager (and no, I don't have a stepdaughter to love or hate or anything else), so all I'm trying to do is get you to think about things from the other side. How do you interact with your stepdaughter? Do...
    FR3DR1CKA FR3DR1CKA 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 25

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    Thank you for the invite.

    Dreading meeting my sister in law for breakfast tomorrow
    guliette guliette 51-55, F May 2

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    Oh Can't You Quit Your Complaining?!

    All in all? Most of you sound jealous your husbands (or boyfriends) care more about their daughters than you. 'WAH I HATE MY STEPDAUGHTER. she gets more attention from me than my husbandddddd. she eats at home. he helps pay to take care of her. she has a learning disability...
    ttopper ttopper 18-21 13 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    My stepmother despises me.

    She yells at me over and over and she made me cry several times. She almost hit me and I hate her too.
    LucyGirlAkita2 LucyGirlAkita2 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    My step daughter is three her mother is

    mentally ill her father and I have full custody. We recently found out she was molested by her older sister she was also thrown down stairs almost drown in a bathtub. THIS KID SCARES ME I took her to the store and caught her shoving **** in her pockets and she says I'm just...
    athurnall1 athurnall1 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 18

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    Feeling Helpless to My Stepdaughter's Cruelty

    Hi... I am feeling completely helpless to deal with my stepdaughter's cruelty toward me.  Hopefully some of you can offer a few words of advise, or maybe just relate to my dilemma. I don't have any children of my own, and I am newly married to a man who has two grown...
    DeserveBetterThanThis DeserveBetterThanThis 46-50 30 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    Sd Dropped Her Barrette In Her Potty Directly Into Her Poop...

    ...and sure I wasn't fishing it out of there!  I had my own baby in October, so non biological SD wants more attention, she is 3 years and 7 months and I have dealt with her since she was a newborn b/c my husband took her away from his ex-wife when she was 24 days old in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Mar 31, 2010

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    Part 3. Venting my frustrations.

    Maybe there should be a new category called "I Strongly Dislike My Spouse and Step Daughter". My day started with my husband opening his eyes, turning to me and not saying good morning, how are you, did you sleep well, but saying "did she eat already" referring to his daughter...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    We've Been Infiltrated!

    Yes, ladies. Some little pouty stepdaughter whose daddy dared to marry another woman is posting in our group now. Expect very soon to see her nasty little posts on your experiences. She'll no doubt leave you a little quip full of her huffing and puffing, cursing us evil witches...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Okay, well let me begin by stating how nice it

    is to have found this forum of people who not only understand what I am going through, but share the same struggles. I live the same life as so many of you. I have an eight year old step-daughter who is ruining not only my marriage, but my life. I must admit, that in reality, I...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 22

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    This Is What Worked For Me...It's Called

    I won't bore you all with my story of the evil troll I am loath to call my step-daughter. I have the same stories as almost everyone here...some worse, some better. The only difference is the way in which I decided to deal. On another site I came across an idea that seem to fit...
    USinUK USinUK 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    This Will Be A Long Story But Someone Please Read I Really Need To Know Iam Not The Only One Who Hates Their Stepdaughter!!!

    Ok where to begin...I met my husband about 3 yrs. ago he has 3 children with a PHYSCO! I have no kids of my own. He has 2 boys and one VERY EVIL little manipulative daughter! When I met my husband I thought we would be together forever but any more Iam not so sure about that and...
    ss2013 ss2013 18-21 5 Responses Dec 12, 2010

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    This is my second post on the subject.

    For my first, and the back story of this story, check out what I wrote earlier EP Link Okay, onto current events. I haven't spoken to my stepdaughter in months. I don't ignore her, if she asks me a question (which she rarely does) I'll answer her. Well, now my girlfriend, who...
    LostStepDad LostStepDad 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 21

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 181 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    Poem About Her Graduation

    I didn't come to watch you Walk across the stage. I didn't come to see you on your special day. This day when every eye, is focused just on you, and everyone is watching everything you do. How could I have missed it?, Some may ask in shock. As I sit here by myself...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    I'm counting down the days

    until my narcissistic little step daughter comes to visit. She'll be here six days. I'm dreading it. On the bright side, I only have 14 weeks of her over the next 2 years--but she's going to be in my home going through my things, manipulating her father, and telling lies. It's...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 6

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    I have a 18 going on 19 year old spoiled brat

    on my hands! I've only been in the picture for two years so I haven't vested time and energy with her as most of you have. None the less she makes me miserable! Any rule her father and I come up with she finds a way to manipulate! I'm tired of discussing, negotiating and...
    dealswithdramadaily dealswithdramadaily 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Warning For A Potential Stepmother Or Stepfather: Are You Making The Right Decision?

    I'm writing this in the hope that it will be found through a Google search by some person who is considering getting married to a person with children. To be honest, if I had read this before I got married I'm not sure it would have changed anything.  But at least I can say...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 128 Responses May 13, 2010

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    She's Not a Bad Kid

    She is 14 and decided to move in with me and her dad soon after I found out I was pregnant, this is my first baby and is actually my husbands first baby also... He didn't get a chance to help raise her as he got someone pregnant when he was 14. He didn't see this child till she...
    tatiana tatiana 26-30, F 79 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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    Dear Significant Other:

    Hello, darling. I know you'll end up reading this because you've found my rantings in the past. Well, that's fine. I've never said anything on here that I haven't said to your face (or over the phone, as sometimes happens). We had another argument this morning about your...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I found this post after googling "My

    stepdaughter is ruining my marriage" and couldn't believe all of the responses. While I will say upfront that both my husband and I have our issues that are complicated and deep, I am 100% sure that had my stepdaughter not been in the picture that my husband and I would not be...
    sg139 sg139 46-50, F Apr 28

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    Game On Honey!!

    Okay it's on!! I have turned the corner. The time has come to stop trying to protect her from herself and instead to protect myself FROM her! I have left my husband who I love more than anything twice now because of her and I guarantee that the next person leaving will be HER...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F Feb 26, 2012

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    My Letter To Her

    I've had some time to really think about what I want to say to you and I am going to try to put it down on paper so that you can read over it and think about it. You are the most selfish person I have ever had the misfortune of meeting. Almost without fail, everything you do or...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    Faking Sick

    So, SD has had a "stomach ache" and naturally, that means we have to babysit her while she misses school for no reason. There is NOTHING WRONG with this child. She's prancing around the house as usual. Whining about eating, her homework, etc. But Hubby makes her macaroni and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Part 2. And this is a prime example of what I

    am talking about. I tell my husband that I have to drive an hour away to pick his daughter up from my mom. I am 8 months pregnant and tired. He says "Oh she's coming home today that's great" I say "it is for you". He says " you don't miss her a little bit". I say "no not all...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    I am living in a home

    that I fear will never feel like home because of my step children. My spouse has custody of his 17 year old daughter and my children and I moved in 6 months ago. This is something that wasn't just dropped in his daughters lap. He asked her permission before moving us in. The...
    notabadmom notabadmom 36-40 10 Responses Jan 17

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    Well, the "boyfriend" she moved in with kicked

    her out...she is now staying with her grandparents who live way too close to us...and she's (as she says) doing what she wants...good for the grandparents! Enjoy! She's slowly working her way (along with the help of her dad) back into my nest...I am readying myself for a nice...
    THS1963 THS1963 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    Ok s she's back. I had high hopes

    for her truly. Her dad told me how tidy she is now, how healthy she eats, how she is doing really good in school. Weeeelllllll turns out its all a lie! ANd now that she spends her days sitting on my couch texting in her PJs, its pretty evident. She did OK in school, no better...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8

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    I found this post after googling "My

    stepdaughter is ruining my marriage" and couldn't believe all of the responses. While I will say upfront that both my husband and I have our issues that are complicated and deep, I am 100% sure that had my stepdaughter not been in the picture that my husband and I would not be...
    sg139 sg139 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 28

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    She comes home today

    after spending two weeks at my mom's house and I am already dreading it. She's going to get on my nerves for sure and absolutely detest dealing with her. I am 8 months pregnant and would like to enjoy this time in peace. She is going to be the reason why I end my marriage.
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    my girlfriend of 4 years has broken up with

    me .. reasons shes given 1.. her daughter hates me with a furious passion and it will never change 2.. lifestyle diferences... im clean,organised and tidy they are not...i dont drink my girl does...my girl likes to stay out late 4-5am i dont.. 3.. due to the above she...
    Darkkight1307 Darkkight1307 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 15

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    Well I think the reason

    why I hate this 9 years old manipulative little b.... is because 99% of my discussions with her father (my boyfriend) is because of her! I already wrote before about it here...she is selfish and spoiled as hell and she give attitude to me and her dad when she is not getting her...
    thestepppy thestepppy 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15

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    I am engaged and we recently moved in together.

    He has 3 kids...only 1 who visits every weekend. I have 2 boys full time. His 4 yr old daughter is a nightmare. She is bossy to my boys and I and her daddy gives her whatever she wants. She does not have a bedtime when she is here and she cries if he doesn't sleep with her. She...
    mortician87 mortician87 26-30, F 56 Responses Feb 5

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    My almost 14 yr old stepdaughter

    and her friend decided to cut (vandalize) the school bus seat last Friday. They took my sd's scissors and cut 5 slices into it. Monday she came home balling because all the kids ganged up on her telling her she was badge cause the driver said until someone confessed they were in...
    Countrychicky Countrychicky 26-30 5 Responses Apr 18

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    I have been dating my bf

    for over a year now and we have lived together for most of it. We are extremely happy and compatible and plan to marry (unannounced as of yet). I have known him and his family for many years, though we were not extremely close until my uncle, his best friend, passed away...
    Nate427 Nate427 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Haven't posted in a while.

    I must say I'm generally pretty impressed with my sd since she left home for school. She eats FOOD now (like cooks, and there's veggies and stuff!). She's doing well in school and she actually has friends who are not male! I don't think there's anything wrong with having male...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    Hate Being Home

    It's been over two years that I've dealt with her. She's still whiny, rude, disrespectful and annoying. And I've tried to get along with her. Trust me, I've tried. But every time she comes here, I cringe. Just the sight of her face makes me sick, and I particularly hate the sound...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 5, 2013

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    Her Lies Are Getting Out Of Control!!

    Let me first start off by saying how grateful I am to have found this group. I felt for a long time that the feelings I was having towards my stepdaughter made me a bad person - I've never had any reason to feel that way about myself before now. And it makes me angrier to be...
    sarahstepmom sarahstepmom 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Why Do I Feel This Way?

    I've come here for some advice, I've been with my husband for over 4 years now and I knew he had two daughters when I married him. One is 9 the other is 7. We rarely see them now, but when I did see them I didn't mind. That is until they would start doing things that almost...
    br0210 br0210 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2013

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    My boyfriend and I have been together

    for over 4 years now. He has 2 kids (a son who is 21 years old and a daughter who is 17 years old) from his previous relationship and we have 2 boys together (ages 2 and 1). His kids were cool and pleasant to be around with in the first year. However, their true colors started...
    MrsAnonymousA MrsAnonymousA 36-40, F 2 Responses May 21

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    Such a glorious thing happened a few weeks ago.

    My family was in town visiting and we were all sitting down to dinner at a local restaurant. DH gets to talking to his daughter about her band stuff at school, and she comes out and says tat she was kicked out of band. Why, you ask? Because she missed so many classes and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    I don't like the word "hate"

    but I feel so much angry inside me that it must be hate right? I would like to give you some background on our story. My husband and I got together 8years ago. We both had a child from a previous marriage that didn't work out. His daughter was 6 and my son was 4. We became...
    Needshelpnow Needshelpnow 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 1

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