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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    I wish she could just visit in the summers

    or on weekends like most normal stepchildren. But, no her sorry mother gave her away and SD prefers to live here because she says she gets more privileges than with bio mom. I am just getting burned out. I have to take her everywhere; to school and then come back out to pick her...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Her Lies Are Getting Out Of Control!!

    Let me first start off by saying how grateful I am to have found this group. I felt for a long time that the feelings I was having towards my stepdaughter made me a bad person - I've never had any reason to feel that way about myself before now. And it makes me angrier to be...
    sarahstepmom sarahstepmom 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Such a glorious thing happened a few weeks ago.

    My family was in town visiting and we were all sitting down to dinner at a local restaurant. DH gets to talking to his daughter about her band stuff at school, and she comes out and says tat she was kicked out of band. Why, you ask? Because she missed so many classes and...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    Game On Honey!!

    Okay it's on!! I have turned the corner. The time has come to stop trying to protect her from herself and instead to protect myself FROM her! I have left my husband who I love more than anything twice now because of her and I guarantee that the next person leaving will be HER...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2012

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    A while ago I posted a scathing story about my

    step-daughter in this group lol. Believe it or not, I've had a change of heart. I don't LOVE my step-daughter but my sons, her brothers, do. They are only 18 months old and even though they barely see her they seem to have always been drawn to her and it's like they know that's...
    bumblebeez bumblebeez 26-30 3 Responses Oct 31

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    I friended one of my SD's friends from her old

    school on Facebook today. He's a great kid, and I always wished he and his friends would rub off on my SD. He's that awesome. He mentioned in an IM conversation that my SD told him all the time how mean I was. So, I laid it all out for him: All the lies, all the laziness, all...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    Part 2. And this is a prime example of what I

    am talking about. I tell my husband that I have to drive an hour away to pick his daughter up from my mom. I am 8 months pregnant and tired. He says "Oh she's coming home today that's great" I say "it is for you". He says " you don't miss her a little bit". I say "no not all...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    Warning For A Potential Stepmother Or Stepfather: Are You Making The Right Decision?

    I'm writing this in the hope that it will be found through a Google search by some person who is considering getting married to a person with children. To be honest, if I had read this before I got married I'm not sure it would have changed anything.  But at least I can say...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 130 Responses May 13, 2010

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    I have a 10 year old step daughter just hearing

    her voice when she gets here from her moms EVERY Friday makes me cringe!!! There is no getting along with her she argues about everything, or always tries to have the last word I've basically had to ban the term "I know" in my home because that's her response for everything! It...
    vemj93 vemj93 18-21, F 13 Responses Oct 19

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    Where to begin, my step daughter is 22 she has

    lived with us for 14 years, she has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and I literally have given up careers, getting a degree and children of my own because of her. She has literally taken every extra moment I have had. She has been in so much trouble from trying to catch the...
    craycrayb craycrayb 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 9

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    Once Again This Little Idiot Is Running My Life!

    i freakin hate this kid...seriously. theres no more even using somewhat nice words to describe her...she is a little idiot and i hate her. just the fact that she has a room in my house utterly disgusts me. this is now being prompted because my husband has decided to placate to...
    frustratedmess frustratedmess 26-30 5 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    This Will Be A Long Story But Someone Please Read I Really Need To Know Iam Not The Only One Who Hates Their Stepdaughter!!!

    Ok where to begin...I met my husband about 3 yrs. ago he has 3 children with a PHYSCO! I have no kids of my own. He has 2 boys and one VERY EVIL little manipulative daughter! When I met my husband I thought we would be together forever but any more Iam not so sure about that and...
    ss2013 ss2013 18-21 5 Responses Dec 12, 2010

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    I have been with my husband

    for 3 years now, and during the first year it was just him and I. I knew he had kids, two of them, a girl and a boy, the girl the eldest. They did not live with him, he only had visitation. We got a call one day from from cps saying we need to pick them up from their mother and...
    edeadior edeadior 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    I could write for hours about this manipulative

    brat. SD moved in with us 3 months ago. For the 17.5 years prior to that she lived with her mother who is a pathological liar and drama queen. My SD is morbidly obese and her mother is bulimic/anorexic. She refused to enroll her in any sports (dance, swim, soccer) even when we...
    SJosephine SJosephine 36-40, F 6 Responses May 30

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    Oh Can't You Quit Your Complaining?!

    All in all? Most of you sound jealous your husbands (or boyfriends) care more about their daughters than you. 'WAH I HATE MY STEPDAUGHTER. she gets more attention from me than my husbandddddd. she eats at home. he helps pay to take care of her. she has a learning disability...
    ttopper ttopper 18-21 14 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    gosh I do feel for you,

    your situation sounds almost exactly like mine, except my step daughter is 16, has bad grades, throws temper tantrums, and speaks to all of us like trash, and not able to hold down positive relationships, she causes unnecessary trouble both at school and at home, she loves...
    monikal monikal 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 16

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    Hate is such a strong word,

    but my step daughter makes me absolutely miserable. She is 14 and never shuts up... She has absolutely no concept of manners or personal space. I have caught her stealing from me and I just don't want to deal with her anymore. I wish she would disappear. Unlike a lot of the...
    bga321 bga321 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 10

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    This is my second post on the subject.

    For my first, and the back story of this story, check out what I wrote earlier EP Link Okay, onto current events. I haven't spoken to my stepdaughter in months. I don't ignore her, if she asks me a question (which she rarely does) I'll answer her. Well, now my girlfriend, who...
    LostStepDad LostStepDad 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 21

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    My stepdaughter has been working all summer.

    She's made $400, and plans to work all year while going to school. I was happy to hear it. I thought getting a job would make her act more responsibly and learn some life lessons. I've been saying she should get a job for a while now. Now, she's going to be working, going to...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    I hate her. Not dislike.

    Hate. Shes 9 and her mother must have M√ľnchausen. Anyway we pay a lot in support but also a lot for insurance. We get the left over bills for all the things that are wrong with her when really there are none besides she's an attention seeking brat pain in my ***. I got one more...
    JulieJA JulieJA 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 21

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    I have been dating my bf

    for over a year now and we have lived together for most of it. We are extremely happy and compatible and plan to marry (unannounced as of yet). I have known him and his family for many years, though we were not extremely close until my uncle, his best friend, passed away...
    Nate427 Nate427 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Haven't posted in a while.

    I must say I'm generally pretty impressed with my sd since she left home for school. She eats FOOD now (like cooks, and there's veggies and stuff!). She's doing well in school and she actually has friends who are not male! I don't think there's anything wrong with having male...
    septemberiscoming septemberiscoming 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    My Letter To Her

    I've had some time to really think about what I want to say to you and I am going to try to put it down on paper so that you can read over it and think about it. You are the most selfish person I have ever had the misfortune of meeting. Almost without fail, everything you do or...
    Madreofmany Madreofmany 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    She's Not a Bad Kid

    She is 14 and decided to move in with me and her dad soon after I found out I was pregnant, this is my first baby and is actually my husbands first baby also... He didn't get a chance to help raise her as he got someone pregnant when he was 14. He didn't see this child till she...
    tatiana tatiana 26-30, F 79 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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    She comes home today

    after spending two weeks at my mom's house and I am already dreading it. She's going to get on my nerves for sure and absolutely detest dealing with her. I am 8 months pregnant and would like to enjoy this time in peace. She is going to be the reason why I end my marriage.
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    I have a 18 going on 19 year old spoiled brat

    on my hands! I've only been in the picture for two years so I haven't vested time and energy with her as most of you have. None the less she makes me miserable! Any rule her father and I come up with she finds a way to manipulate! I'm tired of discussing, negotiating and...
    dealswithdramadaily dealswithdramadaily 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 28

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    I'm counting down the days

    until my narcissistic little step daughter comes to visit. She'll be here six days. I'm dreading it. On the bright side, I only have 14 weeks of her over the next 2 years--but she's going to be in my home going through my things, manipulating her father, and telling lies. It's...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 6

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    When I read these stories,

    I realize that I am not the only person going through this and I am not crazy. This is reassuring. My stepdaughter has made it her mission in life to tear me down and drive a wedge between me and her dad. She is 12 and this has been going on since she was 6. There have...
    point1 point1 36-40 2 Responses Feb 24

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 183 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    I have NOT had a change of heart.

    My negative feelings heighten every second weekend. My biggest problem is that my husband sides with her... Always... Despite the mounds of people aside from myself that take issue with her behaviour. I'm sure this is a defence mechanism (he feels that her bad character is a...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 20

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    I don't need to hear anyone's mean comments I

    need to hear from women who can help me deal with this child. First of all my little terror is my 9 year old going on 3 step daughter. I used to have a good relationship (we used to have her half of the time, so she would listen and was accustomed to the rules of our home) with...
    JulieJA JulieJA 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 25

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    This Is What Worked For Me...It's Called

    I won't bore you all with my story of the evil troll I am loath to call my step-daughter. I have the same stories as almost everyone here...some worse, some better. The only difference is the way in which I decided to deal. On another site I came across an idea that seem to fit...
    USinUK USinUK 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    Well I think the reason

    why I hate this 9 years old manipulative little b.... is because 99% of my discussions with her father (my boyfriend) is because of her! I already wrote before about it here...she is selfish and spoiled as hell and she give attitude to me and her dad when she is not getting her...
    thestepppy thestepppy 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15

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    Okay... Here's some Sunday morning humour

    for anyone who's interested: My step-daughter has this double personality whereby she acts sweet as pie in front of my husband, yet as soon as he's out of sight, glares at me with eyes that cut right through me. This little game began when she was three. She's now nine. I've...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    How To Keep Your Stepdaughters Away From Your House

    Ladies, after reading lots of posts here on how much we hate our SDs, well, I am half way through on banning them from visiting my house, at least for a while. Really hope that those of you who are suffering from the pain that your SDs caused you, will soon deserve the true love...
    Janicemann Janicemann 22-25 16 Responses Jun 16, 2012

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    Okay, well let me begin by stating how nice it

    is to have found this forum of people who not only understand what I am going through, but share the same struggles. I live the same life as so many of you. I have an eight year old step-daughter who is ruining not only my marriage, but my life. I must admit, that in reality, I...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 22

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    I Am An Evil Stepdaughter well at least

    according to some of your posts. I found this site because I was looking for advice on how to get along with my stepmom, and this made me even more hopeless. The hate and selfishness in these posts towards your spouse's daughter is extremely depressing. I don't get along with my...
    evilstepdaughter evilstepdaughter 22-25 1 Response Oct 7

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    Well, the "boyfriend" she moved in with kicked

    her out...she is now staying with her grandparents who live way too close to us...and she's (as she says) doing what she wants...good for the grandparents! Enjoy! She's slowly working her way (along with the help of her dad) back into my nest...I am readying myself for a nice...
    THS1963 THS1963 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    I'm watching my stepkids alone tomorrow

    for the first time. She's 10, he's 7. I spent over $50 at the craft store picking out a zillion cool projects and crafts and activities. When we picked them up, she looked at them like they were made of dog poop. I hate this crap. I'm tired of hearing about when mommy and daddy...
    theytestme theytestme 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 24

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    Hate Being Home

    It's been over two years that I've dealt with her. She's still whiny, rude, disrespectful and annoying. And I've tried to get along with her. Trust me, I've tried. But every time she comes here, I cringe. Just the sight of her face makes me sick, and I particularly hate the sound...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 5, 2013

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    Why Do I Feel This Way?

    I've come here for some advice, I've been with my husband for over 4 years now and I knew he had two daughters when I married him. One is 9 the other is 7. We rarely see them now, but when I did see them I didn't mind. That is until they would start doing things that almost...
    br0210 br0210 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2013

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    Part 3. Venting my frustrations.

    Maybe there should be a new category called "I Strongly Dislike My Spouse and Step Daughter". My day started with my husband opening his eyes, turning to me and not saying good morning, how are you, did you sleep well, but saying "did she eat already" referring to his daughter...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Dear Significant Other:

    Hello, darling. I know you'll end up reading this because you've found my rantings in the past. Well, that's fine. I've never said anything on here that I haven't said to your face (or over the phone, as sometimes happens). We had another argument this morning about your...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Where do I begin with my 26 year old,

    recovering heroin and cocaine addict, spoiled, unemployed, useless ***** of a step daughter that lives off of everyone else, has stolen from us all, is spending the first summer of the last 6 years out of jail, lives for free, doesn't do anything to help the house, lays out in...
    HadItWithHer HadItWithHer 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 5

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    I wouldn't say hate. That's a terribly strong

    word. She is the MOST ANNOYING CHILD ON EARTH. I have been with her mother since she was just barely 3 years old. When I met her, I had 2 daughters from a previous marriage, one of which was just 2 months older than the SD. I had never met a child that whined as much as this...
    AnanasBay AnanasBay 36-40, M 2 Responses May 25

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    Feeling Helpless to My Stepdaughter's Cruelty

    Hi... I am feeling completely helpless to deal with my stepdaughter's cruelty toward me.  Hopefully some of you can offer a few words of advise, or maybe just relate to my dilemma. I don't have any children of my own, and I am newly married to a man who has two grown...
    DeserveBetterThanThis DeserveBetterThanThis 46-50 31 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    I am engaged and we recently moved in together.

    He has 3 kids...only 1 who visits every weekend. I have 2 boys full time. His 4 yr old daughter is a nightmare. She is bossy to my boys and I and her daddy gives her whatever she wants. She does not have a bedtime when she is here and she cries if he doesn't sleep with her. She...
    mortician87 mortician87 26-30, F 56 Responses Feb 5

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    From The Other Side. Hi!

    I've read some of the stories on here, and technically speaking, I'm a teenager (and no, I don't have a stepdaughter to love or hate or anything else), so all I'm trying to do is get you to think about things from the other side. How do you interact with your stepdaughter? Do...
    FR3DR1CKA FR3DR1CKA 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 25

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    We've Been Infiltrated!

    Yes, ladies. Some little pouty stepdaughter whose daddy dared to marry another woman is posting in our group now. Expect very soon to see her nasty little posts on your experiences. She'll no doubt leave you a little quip full of her huffing and puffing, cursing us evil witches...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    She Just Disgusts Me

    i'm so tired of every weekend. her mom had her for a few weekends due to family events and they were the BEST weekends!!! unfortunately the little terror was back again. my family came to visit this weekend and she is so sneaky and manipulative it is too much for me. every time i...
    frustratedmess frustratedmess 26-30 7 Responses Oct 13, 2013