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I Hate My Stepdaughter

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    Starting to really feel like my 14yr

    relationship with my husband is down the tubes. I have one foot out the door and am really ready to just walk. Tonight he had the nerve to tell me that I have a mental problem because I can't stand his rude ungrateful kid, and EVERYONE he's talked to about it agrees. Who the...
    christine434 christine434 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    So things just don't get better with this child.

    She was here for the weekend and literally failed to turn off the light EVERY SINGLE TIME she left a room. Including leaving her closet light on constantly. I had a talk with her yesterday about not shutting the front door all the way when she comes in or out and she needs to...
    mouthymomma mouthymomma 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31

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    this message is directed at those

    who would tell stepmothers what they "should" or "shouldn't" feel, say, do, or write about our situations. please take your judgment elsewhere. we have no need for your self-righteous scolding. we need a safe place to vent our frustrations, so the feelings that you judge us for...
    tryingtobeamazing tryingtobeamazing 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 27, 2015

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    We moved last year in an attempt to give SD a

    "fresh start" - she had been such a bully and **** in school that even if she wanted to be a good kid, no teacher or classmates would ever give her the chance. This seemed to be a great move. She graduated this year from her "special Ed" (basically just time outs to deal with...
    VickySpirit VickySpirit 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    I just found out the SD blocked me on social

    media :/ I texted her "Happy New Year. Enjoy." Because she went out of town to celebrate. She's so rude, she didn't even reply. She will turn 21 next month. I don't think she needs to live with us anymore.
    momstermom momstermom 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    Lori2002 Lori2002 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 26, 2015

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    Today I am feeling so greatful

    and happy. This is the first year we haven't had SD around Xmas time. It has been the best holiday to date since I met my husband! We haven't seen the girl in 8 months, keeping my fingers crossed this will continue! Keep your heads up other Stepmoms, it can and hopefully will...
    2Loves1Hate 2Loves1Hate 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2015

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    When my son wakes up really early I take him to

    the living room and put him in his swing while I lay on the couch. In doing so this morning I did not hear my sd3 take down her baby gate, sneak into my bedroom, get into my makeup, and take her father's phone into her room to play. I am furious. I'm at my wits end and do not...
    evilstepmom25 evilstepmom25 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    I have read a lot of the posts here

    and its such a relief to know that I'm not the horribly awful person that i was starting to feel like i was. This is all very new for me. My husband and i have been together for just over 14years. He has a 14 year-old daughter. She was born two months before we started...
    christine434 christine434 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 2

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    this morning, at 4:45 am,

    i gently touched my sweet sleeping husband to awaken him, as he had instructed the ex to drop off SD at 5am for their trip today. he's taking her to NYC for an anniversary celebration hosted by his favorite publisher. i made him coffee, helped him pack a lunch, and kissed him...
    tryingtobeamazing tryingtobeamazing 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 18, 2015

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    MommyToMine MommyToMine 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 4, 2015

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    I am so glad I found this sight!

    My husband and I have been married for 25 yrs 3 children. He had a daughter that was adopted by his ex girlfriends husband when she was 2. My husband had no contact with her until 9 yrs ago. She was 21 and found out he was her bio father. My husband went absolutely out of his...
    sdmaddness sdmaddness 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2015

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    I hate my step daughter.

    There I said it. Going to try and keep this somewhat short but I need to vent. I met a man at my workplace, we fell in love, got married. I knew he had a daughter from a previous marriage, she is 15 and my now husband is 35. He (and sort of his grandmother) raised her by himself...
    Kristofferson44 Kristofferson44 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    I have two stepdaughters.

    Their mom is pure evil. I didn't realize that a person could be so evil until I encountered her. I also tried to give her the benefit of the doubt by thinking she was just going through a phase. My husband and his ex had been divorced for quite some time before I ever even...
    badmama2 badmama2 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    I am sitting here once again dreading Sunday,

    because that's when SD7 and SD5 arrive and ruin everything until my partner drops them off at school on Monday morning. We have them every Sunday overnight, and then again on Tuesday evenings. I know it's not much, but it makes me crazy. Every Sunday becomes all about SD7 (who...
    reluctantstepmom reluctantstepmom 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2015

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    Happy Mother's Day to all my fellow posters.

    Hope your day was peaceful and free of SD drama!!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses May 10, 2015

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    Okay... Here's some Sunday morning humour

    for anyone who's interested: My step-daughter has this double personality whereby she acts sweet as pie in front of my husband, yet as soon as he's out of sight, glares at me with eyes that cut right through me. This little game began when she was three. She's now nine. I've...
    Gracey0079 Gracey0079 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Interesting new tactic; I don't point out

    anything negative about my skid (9) to her dad. She's so blatantly selfish and pouty that it's impossible not to notice, and I've begun to realize that if I point it out first, he - because he was thinking the same negative thought, but was feeling guilty because he should...
    VickySpirit VickySpirit 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2015

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    Even though she is no longer in my home,

    of course the drama just continues. Funny thing is, I am actually starting to feel bad for the kid. How could she not be messed up with the people she has as role models. Especially her mother. So now, my husbands daughter supposedly told her mom that I told her that her...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 14, 2015

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    So I told my husband

    that he needs to consider allowing his daughter stay in MO when she goes for the summer. This morning, I dropped his daughter off at the bus stop and by the time I had returned back to the house, I had an email from her teacher stating that she has gotten in trouble yet again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    My fiance has a 9 yo daughter from his first

    marriage. I've know this little girl since she was 4 when her dad and I first started dating. This child is extremely annoying. She is the type that CONSTANTLY asks questions about EVERYTHING! Even when she knows the answer and she'll use her "baby voice" when talking to her dad...
    mouthymomma mouthymomma 26-30 7 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    I just wanted to let you all know

    that I am thankful for you. For the validation of my feelings, from realizing I am not alone, for making me laugh and making me feel stronger. You are where I turn when I can't say how I feel to anyone else - you help me remember my humanity and that it's ok to throw in the...
    tiredSM tiredSM 36-40 3 Responses Nov 29, 2015

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    How To Keep Your Stepdaughters Away From Your House

    Ladies, after reading lots of posts here on how much we hate our SDs, well, I am half way through on banning them from visiting my house, at least for a while. Really hope that those of you who are suffering from the pain that your SDs caused you, will soon deserve the true love...
    Janicemann Janicemann 22-25 16 Responses Jun 16, 2012

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    Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

    I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4...
    cellens11 cellens11 18-21 204 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    Lazy Saturday morning,

    hubby & I had coffee, he pulled my papasan chair so it was facing his recliner & put my feet in his legs. We surfed Christmas music and enjoyed the decorations. SD hovered, seething. Danced in front of us dramatically, trying to get daddy's undivided attention. I said nothing...
    VickySpirit VickySpirit 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2015

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    "Let's pretend you are a loving daughter.

    .." From "Gladiator" Right before her brother killed the emperor and she kissed his ring. And that was his own children.
    elstillstanding elstillstanding 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2015

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    I am engaged and we recently moved in together.

    He has 3 kids...only 1 who visits every weekend. I have 2 boys full time. His 4 yr old daughter is a nightmare. She is bossy to my boys and I and her daddy gives her whatever she wants. She does not have a bedtime when she is here and she cries if he doesn't sleep with her. She...
    mortician87 mortician87 26-30, F 54 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    I have a 5 year old step daughter

    which lives with her mom and only visits every other weekend. I have no issues with her. But I also have a 2 year old step daughter that lives with us full time and no matter what I can not make myself like her! She is too attached to her daddy. She follows him e everywhere...
    Ashes86d Ashes86d 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 5, 2015

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    Today's quote of the day!

    "The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think." I am convinced that we sometimes run ourselves into the ground over the fear of what people think. We go above and beyond the call of duty trying our best to not have people view us as the evil...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 8, 2015

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    My sd13 has finally come to her senses.

    She's finally realized that, after almost a year, her mother is lying about going back to court for her. She just keeps having more kids instead. She'll be pregnant again soon. We're getting along fine now. My problem now is with my other sd3. She drives me crazy! She's super...
    evilstepmom25 evilstepmom25 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    Please read this. I'm not a stepmother; Far

    from it, actually, but I'll explain that later. I thought I needed to post this because I think I can help. Please, please, /please/ be patient with your stepchildren. I've read through some of these, and think I can help, but I can't talk to you all individually, so I pray to...
    GasMasksAndCaffiene GasMasksAndCaffiene 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    Oh Can't You Quit Your Complaining?!

    All in all? Most of you sound jealous your husbands (or boyfriends) care more about their daughters than you. 'WAH I HATE MY STEPDAUGHTER. she gets more attention from me than my husbandddddd. she eats at home. he helps pay to take care of her. she has a learning disability...
    ttopper ttopper 18-21 14 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    So, this is interesting: I'm out of town on a

    business trip, and I see an email from SD's teacher, that she got a pink slip at recess today for tackling some kid on the playground. But that's not why the teacher is emailing, she's emailing because SD has created such melodrama around this event, claiming that she's going to...
    VickySpirit VickySpirit 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    Is there a nice way to say it?

    I finally had to yell at SD to get her to stop hitting my daughter. I just had enough. She hasn't hit since but my feelings towards her are worse. She's still manipulative and generally unpleasant. I had to tell my SO the way I felt. Well as nice as possible. It's her week here...
    Beansmom3 Beansmom3 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 17, 2015

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    I wish she could just visit in the summers

    or on weekends like most normal stepchildren. But, no her sorry mother gave her away and SD prefers to live here because she says she gets more privileges than with bio mom. I am just getting burned out. I have to take her everywhere; to school and then come back out to pick her...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 15, 2014

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    I feel like I just hit the lotto!

    !! My husbands mom had a DNA test done and she is NOT his kid!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Dec 8, 2015

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    focusonthefamily.com An excerpt from-Step

    Parenting: It Takes Two Stress in a stepfamily generally divides people along biological lines. When push comes to shove, the allegiance (or loyalty) between parents and children often wins out over the marriage unless the couple can form a unified position of leadership. If...
    AndiLi AndiLi 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    I can't stand this little pain.

    I am so ready for her to grow up and move out. I have been in her life since she was 2 yo she will soon be 9yo. She is a manipulator. She does the right thing only when she is going to get something out of it. She moves slow every morning and barely washes. I used to make her...
    Aggie01 Aggie01 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    **WAIST OF OUR TIME** my husband has a

    daughter that's 5 years old she comes over every other weekend because she lives 2 hrs away which is really annoying because when we pick her up it takes us 4 hrs for the whole trip on Friday afternon and then on Sunday afternoon i feel like its such a waist of time and then on...
    Thatinkedlovexo Thatinkedlovexo 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm beginning to feel that

    as long as there is the stepkid in one's life, you will always be miserable when she is there and it will never improve. From time to time, there may be the illusion of advancement, but it's only temporary. I've read through everyone's stories and most people say it either...
    MargeSimpson31 MargeSimpson31 31-35, F 10 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    Warning For A Potential Stepmother Or Stepfather: Are You Making The Right Decision?

    I'm writing this in the hope that it will be found through a Google search by some person who is considering getting married to a person with children. To be honest, if I had read this before I got married I'm not sure it would have changed anything.  But at least I can say...
    FrustratedSF1 FrustratedSF1 31-35, M 135 Responses May 13, 2010

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    Feeling Helpless to My Stepdaughter's Cruelty

    Hi... I am feeling completely helpless to deal with my stepdaughter's cruelty toward me.  Hopefully some of you can offer a few words of advise, or maybe just relate to my dilemma. I don't have any children of my own, and I am newly married to a man who has two grown...
    DeserveBetterThanThis DeserveBetterThanThis 46-50 32 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    A message to the people

    who like to read our stories and post their comments on how hateful we are: SHUT THE HELL UP. This is a forum of support and understanding. As step-parents, we are all struggling with our issues regarding our SKs. That's why we post our stories and feelings here; to rant, to...
    Milktheostrich Milktheostrich 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Happy New Year to you all.

    Wishing you all peace, happiness and harmony in this new year.
    AndiLi AndiLi 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    She is spoiled. Selfish.

    Self centred. Privileged. Expensively educated. Rude. All complicated by the fact that I find her very physically attractive.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Dec 3, 2015

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