I Hate My Stepson

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 158 People

    Need Advise, Please Help...

    well, where to start... I'm 33 yrs old, male, married, my wife is 28 and had a son from a very brief relationship (2 months she said). I met her about 4 years ago, felt in love with her and wanted her to be with me no matter what. At first, her son (barely 2yrs old) had a very...
    jp79 jp79
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Oct 20, 2012

    I love reading the responses

    that assume you can just love these kids and they will be putty in your hands. I am a stepfather and once the kids figure out you can't discipline them because you aren't their legal guardian or natural father - playtime is over. Mothers are not natural disciplinarians and they...
    FutileFather FutileFather
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Mar 14, 2016

    My stepson was adorably cute

    when I met him 3 years ago. He was sweet and well behaved and I was thinking to my self I was very lucky. Fast forward a year later and he had to come live with us as CAS found there to be abuse, drugs and violence where he lived with his mom. My husband and I took him in with...
    Linelle Linelle
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 31, 2014

    Demon Step Sons.

    I have been with my husband 4 years this September. He has 2 boys from a former relationship. Before we met, I was told I had a very small chance of ever having children, so when he had the DNA tests done and they came back as both being his I was estatic. I really wanted kids...
    EmoStarDust09 EmoStarDust09
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 9, 2013

    Hate Is A Rather Strong Word But I Cant Handle My Stepson.

    Let me give you background on my stepson. He is five years old and lives with us full time. His mom is bipolar and in prison. He has lived with us for over a year and a half. He is disruptive in preschool, hateful to me, and tells my daughter she is stupid. My daughter is...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Jan 18, 2013


    When the dad thinks the following are normal behaviour! At the wedding reception the 11 and 1/2 year old (then) cried like a baby because he wants to come with us, eventually went home with his grandma, which then phoned us twice, oh my goodness! What a way to start our...
    Kabousie Kabousie
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 6, 2013

    Uhaul Needed

    I live with my partner and her two step sons.  The oldest is 17 and a senior in high school.  He wants his independance but doesn't see the relationship between responsibilty and independence.  He said some hurtful things to me the other night.  My partner did not back me up...
    jacknmaxx jacknmaxx
    6 Responses Oct 15, 2011

    Running Out Of Ideals

    This is a very long story but I will try to make it short. I have been married for a yr now, My husband and I have been together for 3 yrs altogether. I have 2 children of my own and he also has 2 children. The oldest child is like one of my own but the smallest( 4 yrs old) I...
    thegraylady1214 thegraylady1214
    3 Responses Jun 4, 2013

    Hi. I am 27 years old.

    My husband is 43. I fell madly in love with him very quickly when we met four years ago. He was very attractive, hard working, funny, and had the same goals I had. The only issue was he had an 11-year-old son. But here's the twist...it isn't really his son. My husband dated a...
    desperatehousewife87 desperatehousewife87
    26-30, F
    Nov 12, 2014

    My stepson aged 14 has been really hostile to me

    and my two new sons 14 & 16. My partner and stepsons dad split about a year ago (nothing to do with me). The dad of my stepson owns the house me and my partner are living in he has said he will never kick my partner or me out etc long story anyway. My house has three bedrooms...
    derick113 derick113
    56-60, M
    1 Response Jul 20, 2014

    good news and bad news - the step son moved out

    of the house - yahoooo - did the pharell williams happy dance! bad news is he still comes to visit a few times a week unannounced.
    50fab 50fab
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2014

    Help!!! I have 15 yr stepson

    that I just can't not tolerate! He is rude, disrespectful just like his crazy bio polar mother. Everything my husband and I do gets reported back to his mother. There are no trust in him from me or his father. Neither one of us want him at our house. The husband pays mega buck...
    sexywhw sexywhw
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 23, 2014

    My stepson aged 14 has been really hostile to me

    and my two new sons 14 & 16. My partner and stepsons dad split about a year ago (nothing to do with me). The dad of my stepson owns the house me and my partner are living in he has said he will never kick my partner or me out etc long story anyway. My house has three bedrooms...
    derick113 derick113
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Jul 20, 2014

    My 11 Year Old Stepson

    I am ready to divorce my husband as well. My 10 year old SS throws himself on the ground, cries for 20-30 screaming saying I f***** hate you. If something doesn't go his way he winds up like a siren and cries and daddy comes running. My own children do not like to be around him...
    Kelliy Kelliy
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Jan 20, 2013

    I Hate My Stepson And My Husband!

    My Stepson was 20 when I met his father and he lived at home then and he still lives at home now, and he's almost 28!  The pathetic, dysfunctional reality of it, is that he will never be a man and go out and make a life on his own because my husband doesn't...
    hailey238 hailey238
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Sep 16, 2009

    My step son is 24 now I have dealt with a lot

    of BS since he was 2 years old. His own mother lied to him telling him I was the other woman that ripped their family apart. My husband was seeing 7 women before I ever came along. My ill feelings come from his son trying to molest my son and my daughter when he was weeks shy of...
    OneEvilStepmother OneEvilStepmother
    46-50, F
    Oct 31, 2015

    I have three stepchildren.

    Two I adore and the eldest I cannot stand. He was 25 when I met his father and an addict (oxycodone). Like an idiot, I thought I would try to help him and let him house sit for me while I was away. I paid him well, too. And then I noticed that things were missing...
    SwimmerCate SwimmerCate
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 8, 2014

    I refuse to have a relationship with my

    husbands kids. When they lived here - my husband played both sides of the fence and never supported me. Years later, I still don't have a relationship if and when they stop by I say hello and go in the house or leave. I think its funny how they are like "we know she doesn't...
    50fab 50fab
    1 Response Jul 7, 2015

    I Hate My Stepson And My Feelings For My Husband Are Almost Gone

    Married when step son was 9.  Step hated me from the moment I appeared.  Dad can't discipline child, due to guilt???   Step went to stay with mom from 13-15.  Came back bigger and more pissed.  Stayed about a year and moved in with grandma so she could commiserate with him...
    quilty55 quilty55
    20 Responses Mar 15, 2011

    Separation Until After Graduation?

    Today is my 7th wedding anniversary. While I love my husband dearly and am trying to figure out how to celebrate, but my 16 year old step son from hell has me looking for apartments. I'm DONE. If he doesn't get exactly what he wants, how he wants it, when he wants it, DUCK...
    UnBlend UnBlend
    41-45, F
    Oct 27, 2014

    I married my husband

    and knew he had a 5 year old son. My children were 17 & 19. They were always and still are very respectful to my husband, We got custody of his satan's spawn when his mother chose him over her husband when he was 7. He is now 24 and I only pray this psycho one day moves out and...
    stepmonsterinhismind stepmonsterinhismind
    56-60, F
    Jul 16, 2015

    Sounds so horrible I no,

    and I do think I need help. Am having so many problems with my partner child it's unreal. I have him full time and some times I just feel like he's dumped on me, his mum's a waste of space and sees him 1 day aweek, we have recently had a daughter am so frightened he's gunna hurt...
    greeneye24 greeneye24
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 15, 2014

    You know that saying do unto others

    as you want done unto you? I was waiting for Karma to do its job with my stepson. I finally saw it happen when his girlfriend stuck him with a lease after 5 months. Then she met a new boyfriend and its all over social media. It doesn't get better than that. KARMA - the...
    50fab 50fab
    Mar 24, 2016

    If your future spouse has kids,

    RUN...as far and fast as you can!
    user1billion user1billion
    46-50, F
    5 Responses May 1, 2014

    My Ss Is A Mutant.

    My stepson in 5. He has no common sense and cant even follow simple tasks. I think he has aspergers but his biological mother and father won't get him tested. He is unberable to me because he doesn't think. He throws up at the dinner table if we dont give him the food he wants...
    Momster312 Momster312
    5 Responses Dec 17, 2012


    I absolutely have the worst of all stepchildren. He is a habitual liar and uses old grandmother's to get money.  This is my partners son and he acts like the biggest momma's boy that ever walked.  Thing is, he also lies to her and she believes the big liar.  I fully intend to...
    Frauke Frauke
    4 Responses Apr 14, 2012

    My wife refuses to effectively discipline her

    15 year old son. He is ADHD, OCD, ODD and a nightmare to live with. I have tried and tried to get through to him but he despises me. He recently got me into trouble with the law. Fortunately, he is now going to live at his dad's. Hurrah !!! God had mercy on me, my wife and our...
    Blujazz4000 Blujazz4000
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Nov 12, 2015

    Nearly 22 years old, suckling his mother,

    and crybaby half-breed! Has had one visitation with my husband in all his 22 years that lasted 3 days, because though he and his sister had flown already from United States to Greece and he was 10 he couldn't be away from his precious Mummy. Called his mother on his cellphone as...
    MarinaDokar MarinaDokar
    36-40, F
    Sep 9, 2014

    I am literally at my wits end here.

    One of the reasons I joined this app/community is so I could maybe get some insight. I literally cannot stand my 15 year old stepson. The thought of him makes me cringe. My husband has had full custody of him since he was 4 years old and of course things were ok when he was...
    melissaanne03 melissaanne03
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Feb 17, 2015

    I don't know if many of you will agree with me

    but children are the product of their environment. If you don't get them to obey rules - they will be a mess. My husband wanted his son to have freedom in high school so he let him stay out on weekends until 5 in the morning. He thought nothing of letting his high school...
    50fab 50fab
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

    There is nothing more i hate in this world

    right now but his 13 year old son. Tomorrow, on christmas day we are eating out at one of my favorite barbeque place. I was excited when my husband said we gonna eat at Gya Kaku. But that excitement dint live long as soon as i hear he said his son coming along. ****!!!! why does...
    msian1980 msian1980
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 25, 2015

    My ss is 7 years old.

    His mother is in and out of jail so my husband has full custody. Today he told me his mom told him to make up lies about me to try to get me in trouble. I don't even know what to do with that. He would protect his mother at all costs even though she is a criminal. He brings that...
    Struggle123 Struggle123
    41-45, F
    Feb 11, 2016

    I met my wife abroad

    and brought her and my stepson back to the United States so he could get a better education. He was around 5 at the time and quite a handful. Now he is 11 and is an amazing manipulator and threatens me and my wife often. He has even gone to the extreme of making false reports...
    Tarponking Tarponking
    36-40, M
    Jan 3, 2015

    I have an almost 10 year old stepson

    who is the most manipulative, conniving, lying person I have met in all my 37 years of living!! I have absolutely had it!!! I love his father with my entire soul. We have known each other for almost 22 years and have been together for the past 5. SS's bio mom is in prison and...
    momx6xy momx6xy
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 28, 2015

    Hello to everyone who reads this,

    I could use some listening or advice. Here is my dilemma in the most concise manner possible. I live with my fiancé, he has full custody of three children. The two older kids are teens and are ok, but the youngest is the one I dislike. He's very dramatic, lies, inconsiderate...
    ktr17 ktr17
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Mar 3, 2015

    I spent a ton of money on my stepson's grad

    party - the only request I had was no underage drinking. Had the convo at least 3 times. He ends the evening with drinking vodka, kicked him and his flavor of the month out 4 the night. Sorry - NOPE - I deserve respect in my own house.
    50fab 50fab
    1 Response Jul 2, 2014

    we hate you ***** too

    so deal with it
    MrPoolofsouls MrPoolofsouls
    16-17, M
    Sep 5, 2015

    let me begin by saying I am a really nice person

    who tries to see the good in all. I am an adult who runs a successful business and I have an 11 year old child. I met my boyfriend a little over 2 years ago. He is fantastic... loves me unconditionally, is so very sweet and caring... I feel I don't even deserve him. He came...
    spunk99 spunk99
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2015

    This year makes 4 years

    that my husbands son has been living with us permanently. It has been a nightmare. He is now 10.5 years old and extremely disrespectful and rude. My husband and I have two boys together (2 & 4 years old). His son is such a nuisance when he is around. He still poops his pants and...
    Frustrated1982 Frustrated1982
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 22, 2014

    My husbands son left our house in the summer to

    go live with his granny as there would be no rules. Seems granny wants to kick him out too now. Guess it wasn't just the ugly stepmother huh? VINDICATED
    50fab 50fab
    Mar 2, 2015

    ADVICE NEEDED!!! I've been with my husband now

    for ten yrs and together we have four children. Three are his from previous relationships and my daughter from my first marriage. His oldest and youngest are very delightful to have around but that middle son is awful. He's nothing but a spoiled, disrespectful, lying, drug using...
    Just2tirednow Just2tirednow
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 7, 2014
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