I Hate My Wife

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,147 People

    It's Not Her At All...it's All Me

    Where to start? Nothing is good here. I spend my life living for her and the kids. Where do you need to go? What do you need to do? Okay...I'll schedule my life a little later....right after you do your thing. What's that? I gave up my career so you wouldn't have to give up yours...
    michas michas
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Aug 12, 2007

    I think I’m losing my mind.

    We've been together for almost 7 years; married for almost 4, and our son is approaching his 2nd birthday. If it weren't for him I'd be gone in a heartbeat. She is a miserable, condescending, life-sucking bag of depression and mood swings who seems to genuinely hate me one...
    BangOnTheDrum BangOnTheDrum
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Feb 21

    I Used to Love Her, But I'm Over That Now

    She is intelligent, talented, and, in her way, attractive. HOWEVER, she is also narcissistic, rude, uncaring, self-absorbed, and extremely given to self-pity. She has cheated on me, wooing an ex-high school boyfriend with complete hog-wash stories about how tough, yet...
    SomeGuy SomeGuy
    46-50, M
    29 Responses Sep 14, 2006

    I met my partner 9 years ago,

    and back then I can say honestly that I loved her. However, since we've had children, I can barely stand her. I kick myself daily and wonder why the hell I had children with this domineering, nagging harpy. Before I met her I had a lot of money and felt that I was going...
    donotmarry donotmarry
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Jan 1

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    carlyccaa carlyccaa
    26-30, F
    Oct 19, 2015

    I Am Sad I Am Not Alone.

    I had a good relationship with my wife until my son was born. After that it has been down hill. It certainly not from lack of effort on my part. I have tried to make thing work. I am unsure if I can continue to keep things going like this. I have been married for about ten years...
    Jamcojay Jamcojay
    31-35, M
    68 Responses May 3, 2007

    Good quiz about marriage http://www.

    drmichaelbroder.com/assessment-inventory/ Stay or go depends on how bad it is.
    Ttiffany330 Ttiffany330
    41-45, F
    Mar 6

    Question? What would you do if You were me?

    So my partner complains that he is living in a sexless marriage, which part is yes and then no. When I say no is because every time we do have sex he treats me like crap, when he doesn't get sex be treats me like a queen. Why should I put myself through crap after he has sex...
    Rose2974 Rose2974
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Jan 6

    Praying For the End of Time..

    I hate my wife. I find myself saying it tourette-like.  So far I'm only whispering, but soon the volume will increase. I have none of the horrors in the other stories. My wife is faithful and she understands the need to spend less most of the time.  I still...
    foolwithnomoney foolwithnomoney
    36-40, M
    89 Responses Mar 21, 2007

    Funny how much this group is like I Live In a

    Sexless Marriage. Well folks, it's the same set of choices. Divorce, affair, or live with it. Hoping it will get better has a slim chance of success. Bad marriages rarely become good ones. And they NEVER become good ones unless both partners are committed to changing things. In...
    PhinheasGage PhinheasGage
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Dec 16, 2015

    I hate to join this group

    because I don't HATE her, but my f'n god does she frustrate me to no God damned end sometimes!! Like today. Which is why, today, I wanted to commiserate with others that feel the same way. Today I would gladly be rid of her. Sometimes I wish I had never married her, or met her...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 14

    Horrible Selfish Wife... Want a Way Out

    i married this person i thought i loved about 2 years back... worst decision of my life. even during our courtship we had terrible fights and arguments. But always thought it resulted due to her past experiences in previous relationships. but it wasnt, i was wrong and its just...
    myrtlethyme myrtlethyme
    26-30
    117 Responses Oct 17, 2008

    Married 10+ years so far.

    When we met, she was literally a country village girl with nothing except a daughter she could not support and bad health. We both wanted to get hitched, so that's how it happened, basically - sans love. I married her because I felt I could trust her. She married me because...
    kipperpipper kipperpipper
    70+
    3 Responses Sep 21, 2015

    I honestly never thought my partner would hate

    me so much as he does. He makes me think that everything that has happened in our relationship is my fault. I believe it's a two way street and I am not on here to bash his name or have anyone feel sorry for me as he has for him. If our relationship is falling apart it's both...
    Rose2974 Rose2974
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2015

    Happy Choices

    Hey all,   Im really enjoying these stories, not because Ive had similar experiences, just the opposite.  I have been firmly commited to staying single for years.  Im now 32 and I don't envy a single person I know (married or single).  Im...
    joshanon joshanon
    31-35
    51 Responses May 4, 2009

    I am a shell of my former self.

    I used to be an outgoing, super positive easy going person. Since living with my wife (we got married 1 year ago and been living together for 3) I have changed. I am constantly in a mood and stressed out; whilst at home! I'm not stressed or moody in other parts of my life like...
    123Alfred123 123Alfred123
    31-35, M
    9 Responses Jan 4

    Same. Here but mine drinks

    as well. My plan is when youngest hits 18 I leave I'm retired and have no bills mortgages no debt no assets for her to go after this after raising five kids I'm done she is evil my dad is leaving me 1 million and I have 1.5 million in retirement she can't get....I out smarted...
    Jkl3435 Jkl3435
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Mar 16

    Fat Wives Suck.

    Brother let me tell you, it’s every excuse in the book for my wife to stay fat. I can’t lose weight after having three kids. My back hurts. My knee hurts. My thyroid isn’t working correctly. (Although she has had it checked 3-4 times in the last 10 years and it is...
    Space1999 Space1999
    36-40
    136 Responses Sep 7, 2010

    My missus is a cold nasty control freak.

    But the thing is, she has a terminal illness, so I am staying with her. Help
    willyjonwilly willyjonwilly
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Apr 12

    Hi guys! I'm deeply sorry,

    and I give you my condolences to being in the situation that you're certainly in! If I had a husband, my life's purpose would be to make Him happy and to do my best to satisfy His every needs, and wait on Him hand and foot. And if I don't then I should be punished! And when...
    ExoticXDarkness ExoticXDarkness
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

    My Wife Hates Herself..

    Actually my wife loathes herself.  I did not realize it when we were dating, but after marraige the truth slowly manifested itself piece by piece.  The thing about being married to a person that hates themselves, is that they hate you too.  They pretty...
    AlaskaMagnum AlaskaMagnum
    31-35, M
    22 Responses Jul 28, 2007

    It has been a number of years

    since I last wrote. I thought I should follow up. Thanks to the many great and kind responses to my earlier stories I was able to keep it together and struggle through the ugliness. I kept the kids with me and she opted to move to New York (we lived in Florida at the time...
    magnus magnus
    36-40
    3 Responses Oct 18, 2015

    How Do I Tame My Control Freak Wife?

    Ok, so hate may be a bit harsh in my situation. In fact, by all accounts, everything should be amazing. So I've been with her for 20 years (17 married). We have two kids 15 and 11. Good jobs, nice home, good friends. She says she still loves me more than anything. But I don't...
    mrgadget93010 mrgadget93010
    46-50
    10 Responses Feb 6, 2012

    Dear husband: WHIRLWIND OF EMOTION You came

    into my life like a whirlwind of emotion, bringing a love I thought couldn't exist. Each day brought forth excitment and anticipation and built up more each day. Then it became less frequent but you still said, I love you and you're the love of my life! So I held on.... Then...
    Rose2974 Rose2974
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2015

    Meet the Wife!!!

      Damn, I hate my wife!!  The only thing that reminds me we are a couple is when she’s drunk and wants a stiff one!  (Not a drink)…this is what elrodinsa wrote back in June ’07.   Sit tight ‘cause this is gonna be a good one, you...
    wifeofelrodinsa wifeofelrodinsa
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Sep 7, 2007

    Met My Bitchy Wife On Aol

    When I met my wife I was the last single person in a group of about 20 friends. That year my best friend hung himself and that is when I became an introvert, no longer going out after work to play hockey, volleyball or any other activities. I turned to AOL in a time of...
    jpd1966 jpd1966
    41-45, M
    18 Responses Apr 1, 2007

    I Despise My Wife. I Love My Kids.

    I'm struggling to cope up with my marriage... I have no one else to talk to. I'm miserable. I want this to end. Sorry I have no one to write to. I have no one I can lean on. I love my kids but the pain is just too deep. Why did I get into this?! I have no way out. If she gets...
    34 Responses Jan 15, 2013

    IN SILENT THOUGHT Into the night,

    in silent thought, I dream of you. Where are your thoughts tonight? Do you remember me too? It's been too long since I've touched your lips and said your name. But do not think I've forgotten, for my feelings are still the same. I feel the magic of your kiss and hear your...
    Rose2974 Rose2974
    41-45, F
    Dec 7, 2015

    Why Do We Continue to Do It?

    I can't stand my ***** wife for another day! September marks two years without sex. My dog is starting to look good to me. I work with toothless fat guys with hairy necks that get more trim than I do. It's pathetic.  Sits on the ******* couch with an attitude ands always...
    JustADogGuy JustADogGuy
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Sep 11, 2007

    I Know...i Created the Beast...

    I've been married well over 20 years and should be smart enough to know that I should have bailed a long time ago. First it was, she'll come around, she was different before. Then it was staying for the kids, now I really have no reason to stick it out, but why do I stay...
    furiousandunhappy furiousandunhappy
    41-45
    22 Responses Aug 7, 2009

    Anyone out there want to chat!

    I'm not looking to talk to piggish men lol just would like some meaningful convo, to learn about someone else's rough marriage etc
    Katii31991 Katii31991
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 6, 2015

    How Could This Have Happened to Me??

    Hi There, Yes, I'm not a very smart guy.  I watched a movie and decided I liked latino girls...So naturally I was so excited when I met my first Latino girl...She was so sexy and curvy and I couldn't believe that such a sexy girl was so attracted to me...an ordinary white...
    stupidswanz stupidswanz
    31-35, M
    10 Responses Jul 21, 2007

    Stuck With Her

    My wife and I have been married for a little over 10 years and everyday I think to myself, "What the hell was I thinking?" You've all heard that phrase, "If I knew then what I know now,....". Needless to say, I wouldn't marry the ***** again. I was raised in a...
    Stuck Stuck
    41-45, M
    19 Responses Sep 17, 2007

    Cheating Wife

    This is the story of my life with my wife.  I am writing this so that it may help some other guys to not make the same mistakes I made and to possibly help me clear out my thoughts and vent a bit. Mistake number 1 which is probably a big source of many marriage...
    dansin dansin
    26-30, M
    29 Responses Nov 7, 2009

    The Contract

    I've been reading through the comments on this forum for a couple of days now and I think I have something to contribute. It appears that there are many here with similar circumstances to my own. I've never posted to an internet forum in my life, and I don't intend to become a...
    used4life used4life
    41-45
    30 Responses Aug 9, 2009

    I believe good guys finish last,

    I use to have a bad boy imagine back like 8-10 years ago and my wife loved it, she would have done anything for me she was a good girl and loved me now now all that has changed
    imagine5707 imagine5707
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Dec 10, 2015

    Sorry To Interrupt

    My husband and I had a major blow out recently.  Really it pales in comparison to the years of fighting we've gone through.  Of the seven years we've been married so far I have to say this last one has been the best and even then it's been hell. I found this group...
    abusivewife abusivewife
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Mar 21, 2010

    I don't hate her, as much

    as I hate what her and I have become. We never got along that great to begin with. married for the wrong reasons. It was finding someone to say "I will" not "I do" I know I am to blame also, I just need to say it to the world. Its broken and her and I both used the hammer.
    Wraithofkindness Wraithofkindness
    41-45, M
    1 Response Oct 29, 2015

    The invention of the smartphone has created

    really stupid relationship issues. We spend more time buried in Facebook than speaking face to face. We email and text each other from the same room. We let our children watch TV or play video games because we are too busy building out crops within "FarmVille." We replace...
    Heartbreak007 Heartbreak007
    70+, M
    6 Responses Feb 8, 2014

    It Doesn't Get Better With Age

    42 years ago, at 19 and 17, my wife and I "fell in love," lived together, got married, and everything went downhill from there. She tossed out her birth control pills without telling me and I wasn't permitted to have a vasectomy until I'd had two kids, by Texas state...
    BitterGeezer BitterGeezer
    61-65
    38 Responses Jul 10, 2009

    I married a woman who I fell in love

    when I was still in high school. We got married when I was in my second year at university of png. Now we have 3 children. Since the birth of our first child, she is the boss of everything ( to cut story short). To make it worse, she accusses me of things I have never done. To...
    Yarqs Yarqs
    31-35
    3 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    I Hate My Bitchy Wife !

    My wife is a nagging, harping, finger pointing know it all *****. I am seriously thinking of just up and leaving her ! I cannot stand her touching me, we never have relations anymore, I don't want to spend time with her, talk to her, and I could care less about anything she has...
    cyberfixture cyberfixture
    41-45, M
    72 Responses Apr 11, 2007

    I have never been so miserable with someone.

    I have been married before and I think I had just settled. Everything has to be just right for her to be happy. I don't think she is happy very often. She doesn't have any friends, which I have been trying to encourage but she usually likes to sit around the house. She is a...
    champx5 champx5
    46-50, M
    1 Response Dec 13, 2015

    My Mom & Aunt's Conversations with my wife's

    sister-in-law Please refer to my earlier stories. I want to inform you guys that my evil wife's younger brother got divorced with in 11 months of his marriage. Recently all of us attended the wedding of my evil wife's cousin brother. During the wedding my mom& aunt had a...
    wsing wsing
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Mar 13

    My Life Is Spent Keeping Her Happy.....at My Expense

    I hate my wife for various reasons.  There are moments that I can actually stomach her but mostly I just wait for her to go to work and be gone.  I don't even like talking to her.  We are so different.  Im a "glass is half full" and shes a "what...
    johnwad3 johnwad3
    26-30, M
    15 Responses Dec 14, 2006

    I am trapped in horrible marriage with a fat

    ugly self absorbed narcissistic pig of a wife. Oh, did I mention she is cold and abusive. The fat ugly part is not even what bothers me. I could live with that. It is the control freakish abusiveness I can't stand. Why do I say I am trapped? It is because we have children who...
    wifesuck wifesuck
    51-55, M
    8 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    It wasn't until I read some of these

    that I realized how good I have it. No wife is perfect, but I think I've been focusing on more of what irritates me than her good qualities. She works hard for the family, showers every day, makes meals, and is happy more often than not. Just the fact that she's stayed with me...
    trapped4life trapped4life
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Nov 20, 2015

    I HATE MY WIFE!!!!!! I HATE HER WITH EVERY

    STRAND OF MY BEING. I HATE, HATE, HATE, HATE HER!!
    Done4Good Done4Good
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    Just a Vent. Nothing i ever do is good enough

    for her. For over a decade i have put up with her misery and depression. I was very young when i met her and stood by her through thick and thin. She suffered depression, Overdosed on painkillers, stints in rehab i was there. Solid as a rock. Along come our twins she...
    Frustrated1978 Frustrated1978
    31-35, M
    10 Responses Oct 6, 2015

    My wife has Borderline Personality Disorder.

    It is a very insidious psychological problem. I didn't know it when we got married. If you don't know about it, it can be devastating to a relationship. Her BPD has destroyed our marriage of 13 years. We have 2 wonderful kids that I do not want to leave, but I can't stand to...
    sasquatsch sasquatsch
    46-50, M
    7 Responses Dec 28, 2015

    What Happened to My Life?

    Well, in some respects I suppose I am lucky. My wife does not spend money with abandon, doesn't cheat on me, and at least does a little bit of work around the house (more on that later). We are each employed with decent jobs. But she is a self-centered, domineering...
    miserable3 miserable3
    36-40, M
    79 Responses May 15, 2007

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    emilyccaa emilyccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 8, 2015

    I actually AM a wife,

    and I sometimes wonder if my husband hates me. Actually he is generally good to me and I'm always mad at him and don't always know why. We were incredibly in love when we got married and things were good until he stopped having sex with me. I spent so much time pursuing him and...
    fruitfusion fruitfusion
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 2, 2015

    I don't even know where to start.

    Everyone starts out with what they expected their marriage to be. I had zero expectations. ultimately that was the problem. When you read the definition of "***" in the dictionary it used to be a picture of me. But I found Jesus and learned to recognize what I was. While I'm...
    esohgee esohgee
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Oct 5, 2015

    Indian, married for 15+ years with 2 lovely

    kids. I married this person with ONLY ONE expectation that she would be a caring/understanding person. Till today im providing her the best quality of life in US and never expected anything from her. Since she was not good at handling pressure, I suggested her to be a home maker...
    smprop1999 smprop1999
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 18

    I Am Sick of My Lazy Wife

    We've been married almost 20 yrs.  She isn't the same girl I married.  We have 2 beautiful children who I love to death.  My wife can't stand to spend 5 mins with either of them.  This summer break is already a nightmare!  She has a part time job, works...
    jumpship jumpship
    41-45
    115 Responses Jun 20, 2008

    I work day and night,

    earn a six-figure salary and am a senior manager, and my wife berates me throughout the day that I don't make enough money and that she has to work. She snaps at anything I do (angrily retorts when I say most anything) and is just miserable to be around. Many people I know...
    marriedtodevil marriedtodevil
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Jan 28, 2014
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