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I Hate Not Being Good Enough

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    Enough

    Why can I not be enough for anyone? I just want to be myself, dress the way I want and look the way I want without constantly getting ridiculed about it. I like tattoos, I like piercings, I like black and skinny jeans. Why is this so bad? Even my boyfriend has to okay my tattoos...
    battlewounds battlewounds 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2013

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    Enough

    We've probably all heard some version of the adage, "when you appreciate what you have, it becomes enough." Part of me wonders if it's a lack of appreciation of self, or just a near blood-thirsty need for perfection. Whether its educational achievements or physical looks, what I...
    typicallytoska typicallytoska 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2012

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    I Want To Be Perfect

    I am told I don't give myself enough credit, but I really feel like I am not good enough at anything I do. I want perfection in every single action. Everything I can do can always be better.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 1, 2011

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    Will I Ever Be?

    Through my entire life I have never been good enough In elementary school and high school I was unpopular Always picked on because my family wasn't wealthy What's f**ked up is that we weren't really poor either I had a lisp so they picked on me for that too They always...
    delishious delishious 22-25, F Jan 4, 2010

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    I Do Believe I've Done It Again

    Well, it's been a good bit of time since my last visit to this site. I am proud to say that I am finally over that chick, and that I don't regret moving on. It was one of the best things I ever did. I saw her in person over the summer, and I felt not one twitch. Nothing. It was...
    nukedapanda nukedapanda 16-17 1 Response Sep 2, 2009

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    Ever.

    Because I have days where I genuinely believe that. I believe that no matter what I do, or how far I go, Or how hard I try. Nothing I ever do will be good enough. I will never be good enough. There are days other than these, where I mistakenly believe I'm confident enough to...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    Unwanted

    No one wants to be my friend. None of the guys like me, they think im wierd and hate me. I havent done any wrong to these people! The girls in my year dont want to know about me, i have been completely dropped. And to be honest i was the smartest in my group of friends and a bit...
    Paleskin16 Paleskin16 13-15, F Nov 18, 2012

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    It's unfortunate in this world you can do

    everything in your power to be good enough and it STILL won't make a difference.
    winmill winmill 22-25, F May 18

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    I've Come To Accept It But I Still Hate It

    I know I'm not good enough for many people and many things.I have a lot of issues that prevent me from getting close to people. I feel ugly. I feel stupid. I feel like I lack so many things required to make another person happy. I feel like I lack many of the things needed to...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 6, 2011

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    They're Like Sex, Except I'm Having It!

    **** good enough. what is good enough? I'm tired of actually being confident for once in my life and getting sh*t in return. I actually feel like I'm good enough to have friends or a woman, though i may not have the most interesting stories on account of my long-time introversion...
    matiswest matiswest 18-21, M Nov 24, 2012

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    Nothing Is Ever Good Enough

     I've never felt I'm good enough for anyone, even when i was in an abusive relationship i thought he could do better than me and that he should leave to find someone better, i didn't want to leave him because i thought i loved him( i was stupid and young) but now...
    secretsarement2bekept secretsarement2bekept 16-17 3 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    Good Enough?

    I don't understand why I can't feel good enough. . . for myself. . . for anyone. . . for anything really. I feel as if I'm constantly letting people down. They expect so much >.< and I try, I push myself. It gets to the point where I just feel numb. . . nothing.
    Ithink4me Ithink4me 18-21 2 Responses Aug 11, 2013

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    For A Change

    I had this one wish on my life. I wish that life would be less mean and horrible, because whatever I am trying to do doesn't turn out good at all. I'm just a total failure and I hate pitying myself. Unfortunately, I'm really just a loser. Ever step seemed to make me stumble...
    PocketHoles PocketHoles 26-30 1 Response Jan 27, 2011

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    Never Will Be

    I feel like i will NEVER be good enough. The past couple of weekends ive gone out and not a single person was interested in me. that really made me so upset and alone. :( I just feel like no matter what i do i dont get the attention that other girls get... and these girls are...
    pennysocean pennysocean 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    I Lied to Myself For Three Years

    This whole deal makes me seem so pathetic. I probably am. But way back in eighth grade i met this girl. At first i just thought she was cute. Well after about a year of being friends i fell in love. We went to schools in different states after eighth grade, but we talked for...
    nukedapanda nukedapanda 16-17 3 Responses Jan 17, 2009

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    What's Wrong With Me?

    About 2 years ago, I really liked this guy. He then went out with my best friend and kissed her right in front of me. After that whole experience, I stopped looking for guys, and I let myself go. Whenever an attractive guy would cross my vision, I would tell myself not to bother...
    kkillahd kkillahd 16-17 1 Response Jul 3, 2008

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    This is a story of when I was in primary school,

    I was 12 years old. When I first started becoming more aware of my social anxiety. Its kind of haunted me and dragged me down ever since. It was the end of school dance and my whole year level was there. I looked up to all the pretty girls in my grade, they were so cool and...
    alaskamxrie alaskamxrie 16-17, F 1 Response May 21

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    The pressure on women today to be "perfect"

    and have everything is just getting utterly ridiculous. If any woman was to actually have the perfect life she'll be the victim of abuse and jealously from left right and centre. You actually can't win in this disgusting society we live in. There's NO pleasing people anymore...
    NihilImpetus NihilImpetus 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 28

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    My Low Capacity

    I wrote some of my priorities like: God, family, my study, my skill on a paper and I put it on the wall in my room. I did that in order just to be a good person everyday, I want to enlarge my capacity... when I woke up, I think I will read that before doing any activities.. yeah...
    ziie7 ziie7 16-17, F May 27, 2013

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    Love..

    I hate not being good enough for his love...for him to pretend there was something there...I hate that I wasn't good enough for his love...
    Joyius Joyius 16-17 Oct 3, 2010

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    It's Just How I Feel

    I have this one friend... they manage to make me feel "not good enough" any time I am anything but totally positive.  Now, I know the easy answer would be to just walk away and don't look back...but we've been very close for almost 4 years now and since I don't...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2008

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    Second Best

    Kind of new to this..just need to get it out my system, i can't keep it in anymore.I'm madly in love with a boy, and i have been for a year. I don't understand him, we speak all the time and whenever we're with each other there's a 100% guarantee we are more than likely going to...
    dawngibson dawngibson 18-21 1 Response Apr 15, 2012

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    I always feel like I'm not good enough.

    For love For friendship For happiness
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Why Do They Lie?

    Everyone says my perception of myself is totally skewed. But I'm tired of the lies. I;m tired of the compliments that I know are said out of pity. I'm tired of people saying i'm beautiful. I know what I am. And that's not me. It just makes me feel more sorry for myself when they...
    watswrongwitme watswrongwitme 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I feel this way constantly and hate it :( Why can't I just ever be good enough? :'(
    imjusttrying imjusttrying 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 5

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    Actually not good enough or I v been surrounded by those who think I m not good enough, or it's me who doesn't think I m good enough. All 3 possibilities are possible I dislike...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 2

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    I know that some of my family and friends say certain things to me to make me think that i am not good enough, but i have to understand that they have set limits on my capabilities...
    Andrea408 Andrea408 22-25 1 Response Nov 5

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    Defeated, 'not good enough', inadequate: all arbitrary concepts swirling in our heads. They are a state of mind, and the mind is volatile. Iv lived with the cycle on repeat for...
    yourtheocean yourtheocean 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 5

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    after being cheated on and lied to constantly, i have not given you any reasons to not trust me, so why do you constantly treat me like im worthless why cant you b more considerate...
    cynR1993 cynR1993 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 5

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    I've always felt Inferior to others because of the way I look. As a kid I was told I was ugly and worthless because I didn't look like the prettier girls. When I was 13 I was told...
    batjokes batjokes 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 6

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    You know, I felt this way for a long, long time. I've finally come round to the fact that there's nothing wrong with me. I've just never found the right people! 😄
    niklb niklb 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 5

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    Ugh! The most unappreciated feeling in the world is 'FEELING NOT GOOD ENOUGH.' Lately, I been feeling like if I am alone. Feels like everything I try doing is wrong. I never do...
    Jaiyy Jaiyy 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 5

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    im tired of feeling like i dont belong im tired of being bullied im tired of not being good enough for anybody
    cartersnider99 cartersnider99 13-15, M 2 Responses Nov 14

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    I wasn't good enough for my ex, i really cared for them but things they did hurt me.. They weren't faithful they flirted with others and couldn't let go of a lady lover. I feel...
    kanashimi93 kanashimi93 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 8

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    I'm not good enough... I was never good enough to be friends with people at school- they all turned against me and tormented me for years. I was never good enough for S- his...
    Jenezebel Jenezebel 26-30, F 21 hrs ago

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    I'm never good enough in anything, i fail at socializing, i fail at studies, i fail at talking to someone, i fail at meeting and talking with dad's guests, i fail at everything...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M Oct 23

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    Okay. I've been asked out more than a few times by more than a few guys. I don't know why, but I take it horribly. The first time I was asked out I was a young girl, completely...
    theopposite theopposite 18-21, F Oct 24

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    I spent my childhood watching my mom try to be good enough for my dad. Then I got married and spent 15 years listening to my ex telling me how I'm not good enough. I finally got...
    superwholockimom superwholockimom 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 2

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    Although it's said in the title, I really hate being compared to others, even though I, myself, compare myself to others. My family is really strict (though they hide their...
    Xatiua Xatiua 13-15, F Nov 9

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    I've decided that I'm not good enough. You might be surprised at how many girls online complain about fat and ugly guys talking to them. I believe in love, but I've learned that...
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 11

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    Mostly my stepdad, all I do is tri to please him.. But what ever I do is never good enough for him. He calls me and my siblings some awful things sometimes and he makes my mom cry...
    crazyhyperkid crazyhyperkid 18-21, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I feel like im not good enough. I always feel like im the outsider. Sure, im the "comedian" in my littel "clique" but it does not feel right. I feel like i dont belong there. Like...
    fabiola214 fabiola214 13-15, F Nov 3

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    I really love my body, but I hate being naked. Showers are alright when there's damp everywhere and I can lock the door, but I don't like being naked at any other point. I hate the...
    Colourfi Colourfi 13-15, F a week ago

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    And tired of hearing otherwise. Successful groom. But look at societal proof of grooming. Worse or no good growth. Barking. Superiority. Greed. Ego. Its crap...
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 9

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    It’s so frustrating to know that he’ll never want you because he deserves someone better than you, prettier. It’s not that you aren’t good or pretty… it’s that you’re...
    pats17 pats17 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 10

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    I wish I was good enough to keep you busy. I wish I was good enough to be able to capture your attention and have you not worry about anything else. The reality that I've come to...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 24

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    I don't believe I'm attractive I need felt good enough for the people around me or my ex.. I feel like I'll never be good enough I compare myself to girls and wish I could change...
    kanashimi93 kanashimi93 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    my mother keeps saying i'm not good enough. she gets angry with me easily and keeps me in my room cleaning things i can't even see wrong. It hurts to feel like i will never make...
    Cheshirecupacat Cheshirecupacat 13-15, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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