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I Hate Not Being Good Enough

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    For A Change

    I had this one wish on my life. I wish that life would be less mean and horrible, because whatever I am trying to do doesn't turn out good at all. I'm just a total failure and I hate pitying myself. Unfortunately, I'm really just a loser. Ever step seemed to make me stumble...
    PocketHoles PocketHoles 26-30 1 Response Jan 27, 2011

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    They're Like Sex, Except I'm Having It!

    **** good enough. what is good enough? I'm tired of actually being confident for once in my life and getting sh*t in return. I actually feel like I'm good enough to have friends or a woman, though i may not have the most interesting stories on account of my long-time introversion...
    matiswest matiswest 18-21, M Nov 24, 2012

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    It's Just How I Feel

    I have this one friend... they manage to make me feel "not good enough" any time I am anything but totally positive.  Now, I know the easy answer would be to just walk away and don't look back...but we've been very close for almost 4 years now and since I don't...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2008

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    I Lied to Myself For Three Years

    This whole deal makes me seem so pathetic. I probably am. But way back in eighth grade i met this girl. At first i just thought she was cute. Well after about a year of being friends i fell in love. We went to schools in different states after eighth grade, but we talked for...
    nukedapanda nukedapanda 16-17 3 Responses Jan 17, 2009

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    This is a story of when I was in primary school,

    I was 12 years old. When I first started becoming more aware of my social anxiety. Its kind of haunted me and dragged me down ever since. It was the end of school dance and my whole year level was there. I looked up to all the pretty girls in my grade, they were so cool and...
    alaskamxrie alaskamxrie 16-17, F 1 Response May 21

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    I always feel like I'm not good enough.

    For love For friendship For happiness
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Enough

    Why can I not be enough for anyone? I just want to be myself, dress the way I want and look the way I want without constantly getting ridiculed about it. I like tattoos, I like piercings, I like black and skinny jeans. Why is this so bad? Even my boyfriend has to okay my tattoos...
    battlewounds battlewounds 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2013

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    Unwanted

    No one wants to be my friend. None of the guys like me, they think im wierd and hate me. I havent done any wrong to these people! The girls in my year dont want to know about me, i have been completely dropped. And to be honest i was the smartest in my group of friends and a bit...
    Paleskin16 Paleskin16 13-15, F Nov 18, 2012

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    Nothing Is Ever Good Enough

     I've never felt I'm good enough for anyone, even when i was in an abusive relationship i thought he could do better than me and that he should leave to find someone better, i didn't want to leave him because i thought i loved him( i was stupid and young) but now...
    secretsarement2bekept secretsarement2bekept 16-17 3 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    Love..

    I hate not being good enough for his love...for him to pretend there was something there...I hate that I wasn't good enough for his love...
    Joyius Joyius 16-17 Oct 3, 2010

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    I Want To Be Perfect

    I am told I don't give myself enough credit, but I really feel like I am not good enough at anything I do. I want perfection in every single action. Everything I can do can always be better.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 1, 2011

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    Why Do They Lie?

    Everyone says my perception of myself is totally skewed. But I'm tired of the lies. I;m tired of the compliments that I know are said out of pity. I'm tired of people saying i'm beautiful. I know what I am. And that's not me. It just makes me feel more sorry for myself when they...
    watswrongwitme watswrongwitme 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2011

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    Good Enough?

    I don't understand why I can't feel good enough. . . for myself. . . for anyone. . . for anything really. I feel as if I'm constantly letting people down. They expect so much >.< and I try, I push myself. It gets to the point where I just feel numb. . . nothing.
    Ithink4me Ithink4me 18-21 2 Responses Aug 11, 2013

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    It's unfortunate in this world you can do

    everything in your power to be good enough and it STILL won't make a difference.
    winmill winmill 22-25, F May 18

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    My Low Capacity

    I wrote some of my priorities like: God, family, my study, my skill on a paper and I put it on the wall in my room. I did that in order just to be a good person everyday, I want to enlarge my capacity... when I woke up, I think I will read that before doing any activities.. yeah...
    ziie7 ziie7 16-17, F May 27, 2013

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    The pressure on women today to be "perfect"

    and have everything is just getting utterly ridiculous. If any woman was to actually have the perfect life she'll be the victim of abuse and jealously from left right and centre. You actually can't win in this disgusting society we live in. There's NO pleasing people anymore...
    Ifilayhere Ifilayhere 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 28

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    What's Wrong With Me?

    About 2 years ago, I really liked this guy. He then went out with my best friend and kissed her right in front of me. After that whole experience, I stopped looking for guys, and I let myself go. Whenever an attractive guy would cross my vision, I would tell myself not to bother...
    kkillahd kkillahd 16-17 1 Response Jul 3, 2008

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    Never Will Be

    I feel like i will NEVER be good enough. The past couple of weekends ive gone out and not a single person was interested in me. that really made me so upset and alone. :( I just feel like no matter what i do i dont get the attention that other girls get... and these girls are...
    pennysocean pennysocean 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    I Do Believe I've Done It Again

    Well, it's been a good bit of time since my last visit to this site. I am proud to say that I am finally over that chick, and that I don't regret moving on. It was one of the best things I ever did. I saw her in person over the summer, and I felt not one twitch. Nothing. It was...
    nukedapanda nukedapanda 16-17 1 Response Sep 2, 2009

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    Will I Ever Be?

    Through my entire life I have never been good enough In elementary school and high school I was unpopular Always picked on because my family wasn't wealthy What's f**ked up is that we weren't really poor either I had a lisp so they picked on me for that too They always...
    delishious delishious 22-25, F Jan 4, 2010

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    I've Come To Accept It But I Still Hate It

    I know I'm not good enough for many people and many things.I have a lot of issues that prevent me from getting close to people. I feel ugly. I feel stupid. I feel like I lack so many things required to make another person happy. I feel like I lack many of the things needed to...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 6, 2011

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    Second Best

    Kind of new to this..just need to get it out my system, i can't keep it in anymore.I'm madly in love with a boy, and i have been for a year. I don't understand him, we speak all the time and whenever we're with each other there's a 100% guarantee we are more than likely going to...
    dawngibson dawngibson 18-21 1 Response Apr 15, 2012

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    Ever.

    Because I have days where I genuinely believe that. I believe that no matter what I do, or how far I go, Or how hard I try. Nothing I ever do will be good enough. I will never be good enough. There are days other than these, where I mistakenly believe I'm confident enough to...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    Enough

    We've probably all heard some version of the adage, "when you appreciate what you have, it becomes enough." Part of me wonders if it's a lack of appreciation of self, or just a near blood-thirsty need for perfection. Whether its educational achievements or physical looks, what I...
    typicallytoska typicallytoska 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2012

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    I have way too much on my mind. I never feel good enough... I feel like I'm not good enough to get into my dream college. I'm stressing about scholarships, jobs, volunteering. I...
    december789 december789 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    Growing into life , proceeding each day to come and it's like I'm not good enough . Every time I have an idea I'm scared to tell because then is when I get the questions : why do...
    insanebeauty insanebeauty 22-25, F Aug 7

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    Feeling absolutely worthless. I don't know why I can't do anything right.
    december789 december789 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    (Clears throat) i feel bad for bullies... Well something has to be the reason why they do the things they do. Peer pressure, abusive/alcoholic guardians. When I get bullied...
    bluegirlie98 bluegirlie98 13-15, F Jul 22

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    Maybe I just want to be loved by someone even the thought of them wanting me makes me feel not so empty inside, even if that person is just pretending to like me in order to get...
    mimilsu mimilsu 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    **** making decisions. I don't know what to do with my life.
    december789 december789 16-17, F Jul 29

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    Okay first off, I'm not homeless poor but I also struggle. I'm still in high school, and I don't have a job at the time being. I feel like expressing myself right now, so if I...
    sapphireveins sapphireveins 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I hate feeling as if I have to explain who I am to people. I hate feeling uncomfortable in my skin. I'm sick of feeling like I'm never good enough. I'm tired that I let things get...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I hate being used by players. I always tell myself that I'll never fall for another one again and yet I do, over and over again. I feel like, to guys, I'm only good enough for sex...
    xkylie xkylie 18-21, F Jul 28

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    All my life I have been insecure. I was born with spina bifida. I was the only disabled kid in my town growing up and always felt like a bit of an outsider. I've always been a bit...
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M Aug 11

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    i really, really ******* hate being an introvert. maybe "introvert" isn't really the right word though, i think that something along the lines of a person who suffers from social...
    BlaRiix BlaRiix 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    I don't like being black. From my experience being black is the worst thing ever that happened to me. Black? What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word...
    Abdulaziz94 Abdulaziz94 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 9

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    Am I not good enough for your attention right now?
    iiArial iiArial 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I try my best to help my family, but they ******* hate me😡😢, and I have a bad past so I thought I'm never good enough, for friends or for a gf or anyone. Unlit I met my gf...
    dominick6 dominick6 13-15, M 3 days ago

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    It didn't use to be this bad. I just felt like being a guy was better, but now it's at a whole other level. I look into a mirror and I see breasts, I see a vagina, and I hate...
    WhiteSparrow127 WhiteSparrow127 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    There is this really funny, really understanding, really incredibly beautiful girl that lives down the street from me in the same neighborhood. We have had on and off crushes on...
    IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 10

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    There is this really funny, really understanding, really incredibly beautiful girl that lives down the street from me in the same neighborhood. We have had on and off crushes on...
    IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 13-15, M Aug 10

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    So i've been in a relationship with this guy for 9 months & yesterday, he broke up with me because i was bisexual. Being bisexual may or may not be a phase for me, but then he told...
    xxbangbangxx xxbangbangxx 13-15, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I fking hate being misunderstood. It makes my blood boil, and makes me want to cry. I'm a good person, I take the time to figure out what someone is trying to say. I hear them out...
    dat1kiid dat1kiid 16-17 Jul 24

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    Yep, I usually wish I were good enough. Then again, it would remove the purpose of fancying someone - it's life's way of telling you exactly who you're not good enough to have. I'd...
    Nexile90 Nexile90 22-25, M Aug 8

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    I feel like I'm not like I'm good enough for my boyfriend because people tell me that I am my good enough and that he should leave me!
    unhappygirl21 unhappygirl21 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    Have you ever worked on something so hard and didn't get it? People say " Try you're best and you'll be good enough" but that doesn't apply to me. My best isn't good enough. No...
    beatriz117 beatriz117 13-15, F Jul 31

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    I wish I was good enough so I wouldn't wake up every morning feeling disgusted, and I wish I was good enough so he wouldn't talk to other girls...
    hebrokemyheart99 hebrokemyheart99 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    This a major problem for me, all the time. I feel like crap over this. Imagine me, living in a small town with a school of maybe 200 people K-12 grades. And always having this...
    lportra24 lportra24 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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    Okai where to start basically I have this cousin I love so much she Is also my best friend which makes me and her so close. But every single guy I like ends up liking her. I always...
    PhoebeIsMe PhoebeIsMe 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I never felt like i was pretty no matter what people say, i feel like ill never be good enough becsude my personality is so empty.... I am a bad person and i dont intend to be...
    Tooweak Tooweak 16-17, F 3 days ago