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I Hate Not Being Good Enough

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    It's unfortunate in this world you can do

    everything in your power to be good enough and it STILL won't make a difference.
    winmill winmill 22-25, F May 18

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    They're Like Sex, Except I'm Having It!

    **** good enough. what is good enough? I'm tired of actually being confident for once in my life and getting sh*t in return. I actually feel like I'm good enough to have friends or a woman, though i may not have the most interesting stories on account of my long-time introversion...
    matiswest matiswest 18-21, M Nov 24, 2012

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    Enough

    Why can I not be enough for anyone? I just want to be myself, dress the way I want and look the way I want without constantly getting ridiculed about it. I like tattoos, I like piercings, I like black and skinny jeans. Why is this so bad? Even my boyfriend has to okay my tattoos...
    battlewounds battlewounds 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2013

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    Love..

    I hate not being good enough for his love...for him to pretend there was something there...I hate that I wasn't good enough for his love...
    Joyius Joyius 16-17 Oct 3, 2010

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    For A Change

    I had this one wish on my life. I wish that life would be less mean and horrible, because whatever I am trying to do doesn't turn out good at all. I'm just a total failure and I hate pitying myself. Unfortunately, I'm really just a loser. Ever step seemed to make me stumble...
    PocketHoles PocketHoles 26-30 1 Response Jan 27, 2011

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    I Lied to Myself For Three Years

    This whole deal makes me seem so pathetic. I probably am. But way back in eighth grade i met this girl. At first i just thought she was cute. Well after about a year of being friends i fell in love. We went to schools in different states after eighth grade, but we talked for...
    nukedapanda nukedapanda 16-17 3 Responses Jan 17, 2009

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    Will I Ever Be?

    Through my entire life I have never been good enough In elementary school and high school I was unpopular Always picked on because my family wasn't wealthy What's f**ked up is that we weren't really poor either I had a lisp so they picked on me for that too They always...
    delishious delishious 22-25, F Jan 4, 2010

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    Second Best

    Kind of new to this..just need to get it out my system, i can't keep it in anymore.I'm madly in love with a boy, and i have been for a year. I don't understand him, we speak all the time and whenever we're with each other there's a 100% guarantee we are more than likely going to...
    dawngibson dawngibson 18-21 1 Response Apr 15, 2012

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    This is a story of when I was in primary school,

    I was 12 years old. When I first started becoming more aware of my social anxiety. Its kind of haunted me and dragged me down ever since. It was the end of school dance and my whole year level was there. I looked up to all the pretty girls in my grade, they were so cool and...
    alaskamxrie alaskamxrie 16-17, F 1 Response May 21

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    Never Will Be

    I feel like i will NEVER be good enough. The past couple of weekends ive gone out and not a single person was interested in me. that really made me so upset and alone. :( I just feel like no matter what i do i dont get the attention that other girls get... and these girls are...
    pennysocean pennysocean 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    It's Just How I Feel

    I have this one friend... they manage to make me feel "not good enough" any time I am anything but totally positive.  Now, I know the easy answer would be to just walk away and don't look back...but we've been very close for almost 4 years now and since I don't...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2008

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    What's Wrong With Me?

    About 2 years ago, I really liked this guy. He then went out with my best friend and kissed her right in front of me. After that whole experience, I stopped looking for guys, and I let myself go. Whenever an attractive guy would cross my vision, I would tell myself not to bother...
    kkillahd kkillahd 16-17 1 Response Jul 3, 2008

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    I Want To Be Perfect

    I am told I don't give myself enough credit, but I really feel like I am not good enough at anything I do. I want perfection in every single action. Everything I can do can always be better.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 1, 2011

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    Enough

    We've probably all heard some version of the adage, "when you appreciate what you have, it becomes enough." Part of me wonders if it's a lack of appreciation of self, or just a near blood-thirsty need for perfection. Whether its educational achievements or physical looks, what I...
    typicallytoska typicallytoska 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2012

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    I always feel like I'm not good enough.

    For love For friendship For happiness
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Nothing Is Ever Good Enough

     I've never felt I'm good enough for anyone, even when i was in an abusive relationship i thought he could do better than me and that he should leave to find someone better, i didn't want to leave him because i thought i loved him( i was stupid and young) but now...
    secretsarement2bekept secretsarement2bekept 16-17 3 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    Ever.

    Because I have days where I genuinely believe that. I believe that no matter what I do, or how far I go, Or how hard I try. Nothing I ever do will be good enough. I will never be good enough. There are days other than these, where I mistakenly believe I'm confident enough to...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    Why Do They Lie?

    Everyone says my perception of myself is totally skewed. But I'm tired of the lies. I;m tired of the compliments that I know are said out of pity. I'm tired of people saying i'm beautiful. I know what I am. And that's not me. It just makes me feel more sorry for myself when they...
    watswrongwitme watswrongwitme 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2011

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    The pressure on women today to be "perfect"

    and have everything is just getting utterly ridiculous. If any woman was to actually have the perfect life she'll be the victim of abuse and jealously from left right and centre. You actually can't win in this disgusting society we live in. There's NO pleasing people anymore...
    CarcinogenicCacti CarcinogenicCacti 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 28

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    Unwanted

    No one wants to be my friend. None of the guys like me, they think im wierd and hate me. I havent done any wrong to these people! The girls in my year dont want to know about me, i have been completely dropped. And to be honest i was the smartest in my group of friends and a bit...
    Paleskin16 Paleskin16 13-15, F Nov 18, 2012

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    My Low Capacity

    I wrote some of my priorities like: God, family, my study, my skill on a paper and I put it on the wall in my room. I did that in order just to be a good person everyday, I want to enlarge my capacity... when I woke up, I think I will read that before doing any activities.. yeah...
    ziie7 ziie7 16-17, F May 27, 2013

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    Good Enough?

    I don't understand why I can't feel good enough. . . for myself. . . for anyone. . . for anything really. I feel as if I'm constantly letting people down. They expect so much >.< and I try, I push myself. It gets to the point where I just feel numb. . . nothing.
    Ithink4me Ithink4me 18-21 2 Responses Aug 11, 2013

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    I've Come To Accept It But I Still Hate It

    I know I'm not good enough for many people and many things.I have a lot of issues that prevent me from getting close to people. I feel ugly. I feel stupid. I feel like I lack so many things required to make another person happy. I feel like I lack many of the things needed to...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 6, 2011

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    I Do Believe I've Done It Again

    Well, it's been a good bit of time since my last visit to this site. I am proud to say that I am finally over that chick, and that I don't regret moving on. It was one of the best things I ever did. I saw her in person over the summer, and I felt not one twitch. Nothing. It was...
    nukedapanda nukedapanda 16-17 1 Response Sep 2, 2009

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    Ah, the feeling of never being good enough is a persistent one. I always push it away, but it keeps coming back for more of my confidence.
    Ellyhi Ellyhi 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    Okay first off, I'm not homeless poor but I also struggle. I'm still in high school, and I don't have a job at the time being. I feel like expressing myself right now, so if I...
    sapphireveins sapphireveins 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I posted about a similar problem last night, and like most people the night is a very emotional time for me so I feel the need to post this again but from a slightly different...
    KayJayHoeBum KayJayHoeBum 16-17, M Sep 5

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    I dislike talking about this sort of thing. I suppose it is because it makes me feel weak, I don't know. I have not felt right since I was really little. I have been anxious...
    jord4567 jord4567 18-21, M Aug 21

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    My mom always compares me with my sister. Like she is so ******* good and I need (or should I say HAVE) to be like her. She was accepted in the best university in my country. And...
    candy8ar candy8ar 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    I'm gay. Last September, I met this guy online a week before he moves to Edinburgh to study abroad for a year. I grew fond of him almost immediately and stayed in touch with him...
    Canonea Canonea 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 30

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    Am I not good enough for your attention right now?
    iiArial iiArial 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 18

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    I was in a relationship for four months. A few weeks ago, it all ended. My ex-boyfriend just gave-up on me, lied about being happy with me the last two months, and bitched about a...
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    It sux being here alone wit no one to tlk to...hate being alone...just lookn for sumone to make me feel good
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 20

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    I'm new at this but I have a lot on my mind and need other people to hear what I have to say. Do you ever think you're not good enough? You fall in love and get your heart broken...
    notg00denough notg00denough 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I've spent most of my life being a strong independent person, overcoming all the crap thrown my way.... But there's always been this devil on my shoulder saying I'm not good enough...
    Ladybuddha1 Ladybuddha1 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    I wish i was good enough for people to admire me. I wish I was good enough to find someone who would completely understand me and be there for me. I wish I was good enough for...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 18-21, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    And you wonder why I don't think I'm good enough. You say all these nice thins like "you're drop dead gorgeous and I'm glad I got to you first and even though we're an hour away...
    notg00denough notg00denough 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    I wasn't good enough for him. He wasn't emotionally available to me but was to others. If a guy wants to be with you, he will - no excuses. I was a doormat but truly that's not...
    alchemyh2o alchemyh2o 31-35, F Aug 31

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    I will never feel like I am good enough & I have every reason not to feel good enough.
    Itslisa Itslisa 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    I think its called monophobia. The fear of being alone. I've always just thought that it was normal, that feeling you get when you're alone. I found out recently it wasn't...
    NyBrid NyBrid 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    It gets on my nerves, when I realise that somebody has been keeping in touch with me only because I could be useful. Most of the times I already have this feeling of being used...
    kikinators kikinators 26-30, F Aug 26

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    No matter what I do and how well I do it, it's still never enough for anybody. I'm the ****** friend and a horrible daughter even though all I do is try and please everybody, not...
    iflipppppp iflipppppp 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    I always feel like I'm not good enough I am a nice person very friendly but it seems like the people who are mean get everything I'm seeing people I used to go to school with...
    fairycake1 fairycake1 22-25, F Aug 31

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    i hate being a twin. Im the ugly one. everyone choses her over me. imagine being IDENTICAL and people chosing her over you . it ****** sucks. hatebeing a twin
    whoami7 whoami7 13-15, F Sep 1

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    I hate the fact i still need to wait 4 years to drive a car. I love the fact that i dont need to work yet. I hate the fact that i have to go to school. I love the fact that i have...
    iTzzMike iTzzMike 13-15, M 1 Response Sep 9

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    Okay seriously. If your busy tell me!!! I friggin hate being ignored. Like I can't even tell you how much I hate. & especially when it comes to clueless D.A guys. You can't say you...
    Country00Girl Country00Girl 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    I feel like I can't ever get anyone because of the way I look or act. I'm self conscious about myself at times. I feel like I am overweight (170 lbs) and I feel ugly on the outside...
    KenKitty KenKitty 16-17, F Aug 24

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    I feel as if I'm not good enough for anyone and never will be and it's a **** feeling.
    abbie90 abbie90 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 27

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    Just got the cast list, I didn't make it. I made it to callbacks, guess I wasn't good enough. I'm trying to continue thinking that there will always be other productions, and I...
    lillylolz lillylolz 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 30

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    I realized I'll never be good enough for myself or my family
    whyusteens whyusteens 13-15, F Sep 1