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I Hate Small Talk

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    I noticed that some people in this group find small talk annoying because you're talking to people you don't know and/or care about. Small talk is annoying to me for the opposite reason.  I can understand the need to talk about basic things to strangers (what's your name, where...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M Sep 13, 2012

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    Big Talk

    I dread parties.  It's not that I don't like people, it's just that I'm pretty hopeless at small talk - standing and conversing is a form of multitasking that I have been unable to master.  Sitting down at a dinner table, solving the problems of the planet, now that's a...
    GarciaMarquez GarciaMarquez 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    Hi Hi How are you? Good thanks yourself?

    Good just really bored..... How do I reply to this??? Should I continue this pattern and say "oh that's a shame..." Or should I go in guns blazing and say "so what are your thoughts or feelings around inequalities in third world countries?" Too extreme perhaps? Lol
    awokensheepislittlebopeep awokensheepislittlebopeep 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    It Just Feels Fake...

    I hate small talk because it just feels fake.  Talking to someone you dont really want to talk to just feels awful for me.  And it's like everyone feels this pressure to make small talk in certain situations .... like its required of them .... but really, it's not. ...
    outoftheshadows outoftheshadows 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    I Hate to Talk

    Unless it's a meaningful, deep, interesting talk with a friend, or one I feel connexions with. That's pretty rare. Talking beside that mostly drains me, and in particular small talk, that I often feel hypocrite; and so unnecessary. You can be polite and respectful without small...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 1, 2008

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    Small Talk Is Just...

    It's just annoying. It's like a filler, two people who really don't have anything to talk about feel too akward about silence so they have to fill the time with small talk.  Personally I feel more awkward about the small talk because I know that they know that I don't want to...
    katnipkitkat katnipkitkat 41-45, F Jul 14, 2012

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    I don't know if it's the same everywhere.

    I live an area that's ALL about work - seems it's the primary value here, and the FIRST question ANYONE asks anyone else, in ANY situation (at a party, at a bus stop, in an elevator, at a club - you name it) is "What do you do?" That is the definition of small talk here. If...
    LCBex LCBex 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    Why?

    it takes so much energy for me to interact with people face to face that even small talk drains me. and i find myself resenting the person who is doing the small talking, because it's needlessly depeleting my social stamina. i've recently noticed that when i come back to myself...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 26, 2008

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    I've come to an conclusion on how much I hate

    small talk. Why is it so hard for me you might ask??? We'll it's like you can tell the other person is bored. I'm a type of person that has to know all about you to have a comfortable conversation. I want to know your dreams, goal, family, childhood and all things that define...
    MiniMe57 MiniMe57 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    Small Talk, Borring

    I don't get it. It must be a ritual people have and even they hate it too but do it anyway because it's part of their routine. I only ask how you are if I truly want to know how you are and I am up for hearing what's been going on with your life, rather it's good or bad. If I...
    girlwithanxiety girlwithanxiety 26-30, F May 19, 2012

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    Don't say "heyyy.. How are u doing"

    unless you have something real to say. Even then, stop beating around the damn bush and get it out already.
    Madii144 Madii144 18-21 Mar 20

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    Enough Of The Small Talk.

    I don't mind you talking to me, I'm more than happy to have a conversation with anyone. Just please no small talk. It's truly not your fault when it occurs. When someone small talks it makes me feel awkward and very uninteresting, only because I don't know how to respond to small...
    nakedhero nakedhero 18-21, M Oct 30, 2013

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    Mixed Relationship

    I have a mixed relationship with small talk. I really dislike having to talk about things that aren't important. I also dislike having to talk to people I don't like and pretending to be pleasant. However, I understand that small talk can be a comfortable way for many people to...
    mbutterfly mbutterfly 26-30 1 Response Jul 29, 2008

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    Skip the small talk,

    because I don’t want to hear about your favorite TV show again, I don’t care if your friends know wealthy folks, and I could walk naked during a cold foggy morning, so I don’t need a weather update; stop wasting this ******* life on bullshit, and tell me something...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    Pretty much every conversation I have

    ever: Person: "Hi." Me: "Hi!" Person: "hru" Me: "I'm great thanks! How are you?" Person: "i am also gud thx dear. i lonely. Wna chat?" Me: "..."
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    MiaStewarts MiaStewarts 16-17, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    Small talk never gets anything done.

    I enjoy serious conversations that help me really get to know someone.
    Atma333 Atma333 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    Really, I find entire messages to me composed

    of "hi" or "how are you tonight?" to be utterly dull. I don't care what you look like. I don't want to touch your genitals. I don't care about weather. Tell me something about yourself. Tell me why I should care how your day went. Or something completely embarrassing and...
    teadaze teadaze 26-30, F Apr 22

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    Lol. Never could master it.

    But was too intense to be shy. So i pounced on problems voiced. Or theories discussed. But small talk is my kryptonite. Lmao.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 31

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    I hate social pretense.

    I used to dissemble all the time. I'd I'd lie about my interests, feign laughter, and all the other bullshit that's so common in this society of ours. Now, I was under the erroneous impression that most people would like me better if I molded my personality such that it...
    Isayoldchap Isayoldchap 16-17, M Aug 19

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    It is so pointless :/.

    If you wish to connect with me have an actual conversation. There is no joy or connection in meaningless small talk. It's just awkward and obnoxious.
    malakaixanoctu malakaixanoctu 18-21, M May 11

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    Politics and the weather,

    no thank you! This may be telling as to why I suffer so much in social situations. Or why others do depending on your perspective. I suppose I just prefer to discuss substantive things and others find this too "heavy" when making acquaintances. Bah.
    saltloveandlight saltloveandlight 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    Open Your Heart Or Don't Waste My Time

    I have no trouble opening up to people online.  It's anonymous, so I have nothing to fear.  When I take the time to write a thoughtful message to someone who contacts me, I expect the same in return. So if you want to have a genuine conversation, by all means, let's have one...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 11, 2011

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    A Few Words About Small Talk

    Pointless things get on my nerves. Particularly pointless things that waste time and/or energy. Enter the seemingly popular social practice of small talk in which we often engage as we interact with coworkers, clients, salespeople, acquaintances, strangers in the elevator or the...
    moonmaiden76 moonmaiden76 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 10, 2009

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    Nothin to Say

    Hi, how are you? yeah it's been a long time!What have you been up to? Me? Not much. (silence stretches out) Well.... I better go, or I need to hurry, or it sure has been nice seeing you or...... and so on. Tell me why do we bother? Let's avoid the situation entirely or say...
    wheredidthatcomefrom wheredidthatcomefrom 51-55 1 Response Feb 8, 2009

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    I think small talk is a waste of time

    and an outdated formality which detours from the progression of humanity.
    NCGamerChick NCGamerChick 31-35, F Jul 9

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    I have trouble making friends

    because I never know what to say in social situations where I barely know someone. With the few friends I have, I'm very talkative and funny and relaxed. But, a group of guys standing around??? I end up saying nothing and being forgotten I guess. And now that I'm older, it's...
    GaryB4 GaryB4 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 7

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    Office Small Talk: When You Have Noting Really Important To Say.

    Personally I dread the office that I work in because it requires me to be present for a small gathering of supervisors (and my bosses) who enjoy small talk. I'd rather just get to work, get stuff done and then eventually get home. But soooo much time is wasted on B.S. small...
    AnythingRain AnythingRain 36-40 Dec 5, 2012

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    I Dread It

    It's usually inane, irritating, and even depressing. Inane, because the topics are typically boring as crap, and I feel dumb making useless commentary about the weather or the price of gas. Irritating, because usually I'm talking to people I don't really know, who probably care...
    BookNerd BookNerd 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 28, 2008

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    Ridiculous

    Living in a college town makes small talk even more obnoxious. I chose to stay in the college town after I graduated for my own personal reasons. Not being a student anymore significantly cuts down on the small talk that I have to deal with. However, last weekend, as I was...
    dramaqueen82 dramaqueen82 26-30 Dec 20, 2009

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    Party Talk

    I find it really hard to stay focused in a group discussion at a party. I'm good at the beginning, I can mingle and chat but at some point I start to lose my concentration and I'll be daydreaming while people speak. I know it's rude but it's like I can't stay tuned in to the...
    FallenAngelWOOT FallenAngelWOOT 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    I Do Hate It

    I definitely hate small talks BUT when i see how well others converse about no such important things and I am left out , I feel pretty awkward and think is this why I dont have many friends. this leads me to believe it is a necessary evil. I just dont understand how do I respond...
    chkpuk chkpuk 22-25, M Feb 20, 2011

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    Can't Talk So Take A Walk

    I hate small talk, infact I prefer BIG talk.~The End~
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 22, 2012

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    If you decide to message me,

    I don't want you to ask me "what's up" or "how are you" and I don't want to have to respond to one worded messages. I want to your life, your favorite color and why, you're favorite movie, your best friend. Maybe that's too much to ask but I'm done with small talk.
    cisideview cisideview 18-21, F Sep 1

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    Small talk is actually physically painful

    for me, because I know its forced and neither one of us wants to go through it. I want to know about your dreams and goals. I want to know what makes you smile and your absolute favorite song. I want to know what makes you, you!
    adobson5194 adobson5194 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    Small Talk (poem) (Story 19)

    That comment on the weather I seemed to ignore That time we were together I must seem like a bore I can't control the weather Must we complain? You shouldn't have worn leather Out here in the rain The gas prices are high But don't have a fit I guess I should wonder why But I can...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F Dec 4, 2012

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    Unnavoidable Awkwardness

    Here is my take on what goes on in my head during these exchanges http://mynormalthoughts.blogspot.com/
    ginoz10 ginoz10 26-30 Nov 7, 2010

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    Hi How Are You? Blah!!!!

    I hate it too, its not that im rude, i just cant be bothered with it, i hate feeling pressured into making crap talk with people just for the sake of it, if somebody wants to have a conversation with me about something they are genuinely interested in then fine, but small talk...
    Blondevixon Blondevixon 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    Talk about something interesting

    or don't message me lol hello, how are you is getting old!
    ComplexNotComplicated1 ComplexNotComplicated1 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    I find it hard to small talk, especially the "how are you?" And you say "good" when you are truthfully a lot of things. When small talk happens my tongue goes all tired like it...
    Angiethebrave Angiethebrave 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Small talk can be so meaningless. There are times when there will be a quiet moment between whomever I'm speaking to(which I don't mind) but then they will say something like...
    illiy illiy 16-17, F Sep 3

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    Haha, true, but I'm no good at either. On omegle I spend like thirty minutes typing up all my interests so I can find someone I can have a good conversation with. Then I babble...
    HorizonHeart HorizonHeart 13-15, F Aug 18

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    Just putting this out there. When I talk to someone and have like a deep conversation my focus gets blown way out once the person starts responding with these things: Oh LOL Yea...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M Sep 9

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    Fluff and light talk bore me so badly that I simply can't pay attention and listen to it. I want to hear what you really think and feel in the hope of finding a genuine common...
    4myinnerchild 4myinnerchild 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I love talking to new people, it helps me gain a wide range of friends and sometimes meet the best kinds of people..
    Distancexx Distancexx 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I don't like sitting and waiting for someone to reply to me, and only get "OK"!! That can be so FRUSTRATING!! Having a conversation means spending time telling things about...
    Panth69 Panth69 46-50, M Aug 18

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    I'm new to this college and I see a bunch of friendly people yet find it very uneasy to approach anyone. I don't like this feeling. It's troubling trying to understand someone else...
    PixieStixs PixieStixs 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 19

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    It's soooo annoying when someone messages me and has nothing to say after "hi" and "how are you". Your life story is way more interesting then you telling me how you are watching...
    LeonardFinch LeonardFinch 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 2

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    Absolutely!! Who are you?? Why do you vote the way you do? Is marriage a part of your thinking? All that kinda stuff!!
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Sep 2

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    anyone around my age? message or k1k me: chels.eyy ((:
    chelsey1214 chelsey1214 13-15, F Sep 2

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    are you open,sincere,honest and looking for long lasting meaningful conversations ? then send me a message
    antoneli antoneli 18-21, M Sep 3

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    I love getting to know about peoples lives and experiences
    pinkylo7 pinkylo7 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 7