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I Hate Small Talk

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    Party Talk

    I find it really hard to stay focused in a group discussion at a party. I'm good at the beginning, I can mingle and chat but at some point I start to lose my concentration and I'll be daydreaming while people speak. I know it's rude but it's like I can't stay tuned in to the...
    FallenAngelWOOT FallenAngelWOOT 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    A Few Words About Small Talk

    Pointless things get on my nerves. Particularly pointless things that waste time and/or energy. Enter the seemingly popular social practice of small talk in which we often engage as we interact with coworkers, clients, salespeople, acquaintances, strangers in the elevator or the...
    moonmaiden76 moonmaiden76 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 10, 2009

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    Enough Of The Small Talk.

    I don't mind you talking to me, I'm more than happy to have a conversation with anyone. Just please no small talk. It's truly not your fault when it occurs. When someone small talks it makes me feel awkward and very uninteresting, only because I don't know how to respond to small...
    nakedhero nakedhero 18-21, M Oct 30, 2013

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    I Much Hate Small Talks

    Complete waste of time, energy, meaning, everything.
    Thought1 Thought1 22-25 Jul 14, 2009

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    Small Talk, Borring

    I don't get it. It must be a ritual people have and even they hate it too but do it anyway because it's part of their routine. I only ask how you are if I truly want to know how you are and I am up for hearing what's been going on with your life, rather it's good or bad. If I...
    girlwithanxiety girlwithanxiety 26-30, F May 19, 2012

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    Small talk never gets anything done.

    I enjoy serious conversations that help me really get to know someone.
    Atma333 Atma333 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    Really, I find entire messages to me composed

    of "hi" or "how are you tonight?" to be utterly dull. I don't care what you look like. I don't want to touch your genitals. I don't care about weather. Tell me something about yourself. Tell me why I should care how your day went. Or something completely embarrassing and...
    teadaze teadaze 26-30, F Apr 22

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    Can't Think Of A Good Title

    I noticed that some people in this group find small talk annoying because you're talking to people you don't know and/or care about. Small talk is annoying to me for the opposite reason.  I can understand the need to talk about basic things to strangers (what's your name, where...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M Sep 13, 2012

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    I don't know if it's the same everywhere.

    I live an area that's ALL about work - seems it's the primary value here, and the FIRST question ANYONE asks anyone else, in ANY situation (at a party, at a bus stop, in an elevator, at a club - you name it) is "What do you do?" That is the definition of small talk here. If...
    LCBex LCBex 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    MiaStewarts MiaStewarts 16-17, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    Hi How Are You? Blah!!!!

    I hate it too, its not that im rude, i just cant be bothered with it, i hate feeling pressured into making crap talk with people just for the sake of it, if somebody wants to have a conversation with me about something they are genuinely interested in then fine, but small talk...
    Blondevixon Blondevixon 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    A Necessary Evil?

    One reason EP is amazing is that it cuts through the nonsense and sillyness of small talk.  In minutes...I can connect on an intimate emotional level with people who share experiences similar to mine.  It's sort of like fast forwarding through the part I dislike most...
    bioyah bioyah 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 24, 2008

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    Don't say "heyyy.. How are u doing"

    unless you have something real to say. Even then, stop beating around the damn bush and get it out already.
    Madii144 Madii144 18-21 Mar 20

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    Small talk kind of makes me nervous.

    Especially when it goes on too long and I can tell that one of us is just reaching for random things to say. I usually don't initiate the small talk. I'm completely comfortable in silence. But I think some people feel uncomfortable if they are seen but not talked to a bit. So...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I have trouble making friends

    because I never know what to say in social situations where I barely know someone. With the few friends I have, I'm very talkative and funny and relaxed. But, a group of guys standing around??? I end up saying nothing and being forgotten I guess. And now that I'm older, it's...
    GaryB4 GaryB4 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 7

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    I Dread It

    It's usually inane, irritating, and even depressing. Inane, because the topics are typically boring as crap, and I feel dumb making useless commentary about the weather or the price of gas. Irritating, because usually I'm talking to people I don't really know, who probably care...
    BookNerd BookNerd 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 28, 2008

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    Politics and the weather,

    no thank you! This may be telling as to why I suffer so much in social situations. Or why others do depending on your perspective. I suppose I just prefer to discuss substantive things and others find this too "heavy" when making acquaintances. Bah.
    saltloveandlight saltloveandlight 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    Mute

    I hate small talk.  I generally find myself oddly unable to make small talk.  If I know you, I will talk your ear off.  But it's that whole, "how 'bout the weather.  it's been rainy lately, huh" kind of thing that I just can't do.  I can't ask...
    chatty chatty 31-35 1 Response Aug 19, 2008

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    Office Small Talk: When You Have Noting Really Important To Say.

    Personally I dread the office that I work in because it requires me to be present for a small gathering of supervisors (and my bosses) who enjoy small talk. I'd rather just get to work, get stuff done and then eventually get home. But soooo much time is wasted on B.S. small...
    AnythingRain AnythingRain 36-40 Dec 5, 2012

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    I Hate to Talk

    Unless it's a meaningful, deep, interesting talk with a friend, or one I feel connexions with. That's pretty rare. Talking beside that mostly drains me, and in particular small talk, that I often feel hypocrite; and so unnecessary. You can be polite and respectful without small...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 1, 2008

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    Open Your Heart Or Don't Waste My Time

    I have no trouble opening up to people online.  It's anonymous, so I have nothing to fear.  When I take the time to write a thoughtful message to someone who contacts me, I expect the same in return. So if you want to have a genuine conversation, by all means, let's have one...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 11, 2011

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    I think small talk is a waste of time

    and an outdated formality which detours from the progression of humanity.
    NCGamerChick NCGamerChick 31-35, F Jul 9

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    Can't Talk So Take A Walk

    I hate small talk, infact I prefer BIG talk.~The End~
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 22, 2012

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    It Just Feels Fake...

    I hate small talk because it just feels fake.  Talking to someone you dont really want to talk to just feels awful for me.  And it's like everyone feels this pressure to make small talk in certain situations .... like its required of them .... but really, it's not. ...
    outoftheshadows outoftheshadows 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    Why?

    it takes so much energy for me to interact with people face to face that even small talk drains me. and i find myself resenting the person who is doing the small talking, because it's needlessly depeleting my social stamina. i've recently noticed that when i come back to myself...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 26, 2008

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    Small Talk (poem) (Story 19)

    That comment on the weather I seemed to ignore That time we were together I must seem like a bore I can't control the weather Must we complain? You shouldn't have worn leather Out here in the rain The gas prices are high But don't have a fit I guess I should wonder why But I can...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F Dec 4, 2012

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    Part of Why I Hate Talking On the Phone....

    ....is once you get past the "how are you and what is new with you"  all that is left is small talk.  Just a waste of time in my opinion.  Maybe that is because I am not very good at making small talk, why I don't like parties where I don't know many...
    ShewhoisEvolving ShewhoisEvolving 51-55, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    Big Talk

    I dread parties.  It's not that I don't like people, it's just that I'm pretty hopeless at small talk - standing and conversing is a form of multitasking that I have been unable to master.  Sitting down at a dinner table, solving the problems of the planet, now that's a...
    GarciaMarquez GarciaMarquez 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    Ridiculous

    Living in a college town makes small talk even more obnoxious. I chose to stay in the college town after I graduated for my own personal reasons. Not being a student anymore significantly cuts down on the small talk that I have to deal with. However, last weekend, as I was...
    dramaqueen82 dramaqueen82 26-30 Dec 20, 2009

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    Unnavoidable Awkwardness

    Here is my take on what goes on in my head during these exchanges http://mynormalthoughts.blogspot.com/
    ginoz10 ginoz10 26-30 Nov 7, 2010

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    I Don't Get It

    I don't get small talk. I mean like what's the difference between small talk and.... Regular [?] talk? You're still talking either way. I think small talk is a hard concept to get. It makes you end up looking like an idiot if can't make small talk. If you ask 100 people if they...
    stripesANDsunshine stripesANDsunshine 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    Not a Small Talker

    I use very few words when I speak. I like getting to the point, measure my words carefully and talk only when I have a clear idea of what I want to say. Because I talk that way, I don't really manage small talk very well... I'm not a "fluff" talker but I do like a good...
    keepingwarm keepingwarm 31-35 Jan 8, 2008

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    I Do Hate It

    I definitely hate small talks BUT when i see how well others converse about no such important things and I am left out , I feel pretty awkward and think is this why I dont have many friends. this leads me to believe it is a necessary evil. I just dont understand how do I respond...
    chkpuk chkpuk 22-25, M Feb 20, 2011

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    Nothin to Say

    Hi, how are you? yeah it's been a long time!What have you been up to? Me? Not much. (silence stretches out) Well.... I better go, or I need to hurry, or it sure has been nice seeing you or...... and so on. Tell me why do we bother? Let's avoid the situation entirely or say...
    wheredidthatcomefrom wheredidthatcomefrom 51-55 1 Response Feb 8, 2009

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    Small Talk Is Just...

    It's just annoying. It's like a filler, two people who really don't have anything to talk about feel too akward about silence so they have to fill the time with small talk.  Personally I feel more awkward about the small talk because I know that they know that I don't want to...
    katnipkitkat katnipkitkat 41-45, F Jul 14, 2012

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    Mixed Relationship

    I have a mixed relationship with small talk. I really dislike having to talk about things that aren't important. I also dislike having to talk to people I don't like and pretending to be pleasant. However, I understand that small talk can be a comfortable way for many people to...
    mbutterfly mbutterfly 26-30 1 Response Jul 29, 2008

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    It is so pointless :/.

    If you wish to connect with me have an actual conversation. There is no joy or connection in meaningless small talk. It's just awkward and obnoxious.
    malakaixanoctu malakaixanoctu 18-21, M May 11

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    Don't Ever Let A Person Make You Lie. Small Talk Is Lieing.

    No, I don't want to see you sell yourself to me. I do not go to any place where I will be expected to lie to others and act like a fake because that is exactly what they want and if you give it to them you will give up your soul. What a waste of energy. Waste of air. Don't we...
    amethystascension amethystascension 22-25, F Nov 3, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    yeah, i really would - i've never been one of these people who is good at small talk, I find it difficult and awkward and it makes me feel uncomfortable, so much so, that...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I don't think anything is wrong with small talk. One has to start somewhere to break the ice. And I actually like small talk because it helps people with comfort level in a lot of...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    Small talk is boring. It's a waste of time.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 2

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    Cant really do small talk well. Am like rainman. Brain and heart but no more room. Lol Sigh.
    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 4

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    I suck at small talk I get edgy and have no idea about things that people seem to be born with knowledge about...like politics sports and new band names...my knowledges range are...
    sg1989 sg1989 22-25, F Jul 13

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    I'd really like to get to know someone on here. Like a pen pal. We can talk about anything. Can be deep or just silly, whatever. Would be nice to make a good friend :) Any takers...
    michaeln41 michaeln41 41-45, M 8 Responses Jul 4

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    Everyone...please stop sending me emails that just say "hi" I won't respond. And when I ask you a question, I genuinely do want to know. And I am tired of getting back like one...
    akrysrose akrysrose 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 10

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    Cowards. If you like me, great. If you hate me, awesome. Whichever category you fall under, you will respect me. Tell it to my face or don't say it at all. You don't have to love...
    lillylolz lillylolz 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    This is exactly how I feel. Since life is deep and meaningful I believe our conversations with one another should be too. There is always so much to learn about someone if only we...
    Christy922 Christy922 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    People are more interesting when they care to explore the depths within themselves, regardless of where it takes them.
    SolitaryFriend SolitaryFriend 31-35, M Jul 2

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    I believe in getting to know people. It's mostly because I've read books. I want to be able to say that I really know someone instead of knowing little arbitrary facts about them
    classact45 classact45 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    I'm throwing my marker in here and inviting anyone with a taste for TMI to explore my groups and feel free to message me.
    icDavey icDavey 56-60, M Jul 5

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    Open up to me, tell me your plans, your interests, things you don't like about society. not wassup, wyd, have a good day.. i mean do people really mean it when they say have a good...
    cbeneath cbeneath 22-25, F 19 Responses Jul 12

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