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I Hate Small Talk

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    It Just Feels Fake...

    I hate small talk because it just feels fake.  Talking to someone you dont really want to talk to just feels awful for me.  And it's like everyone feels this pressure to make small talk in certain situations .... like its required of them .... but really, it's not. ...
    outoftheshadows outoftheshadows 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    Don't say "heyyy.. How are u doing"

    unless you have something real to say. Even then, stop beating around the damn bush and get it out already.
    Madii144 Madii144 18-21 Mar 20, 2014

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    Awanputih Awanputih 18-21 1 Response Nov 30, 2014

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    I've come to an conclusion on how much I hate

    small talk. Why is it so hard for me you might ask??? We'll it's like you can tell the other person is bored. I'm a type of person that has to know all about you to have a comfortable conversation. I want to know your dreams, goal, family, childhood and all things that define...
    MiniMe57 MiniMe57 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    I think small talk is a waste of time

    and an outdated formality which detours from the progression of humanity.
    NCGamerChick NCGamerChick 31-35, F Jul 9, 2014

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    I just can't do it? Seriously,

    I can hold a decent conversation..but when I guy asks me "what's up", "what are you doing?", ect., I freeze.
    simplyconfused93 simplyconfused93 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    Skip the small talk,

    because I don’t want to hear about your favorite TV show again, I don’t care if your friends know wealthy folks, and I could walk naked during a cold foggy morning, so I don’t need a weather update; stop wasting this ******* life on bullshit, and tell me something...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 25, 2014

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    I hate social pretense.

    I used to dissemble all the time. I'd I'd lie about my interests, feign laughter, and all the other bullshit that's so common in this society of ours. Now, I was under the erroneous impression that most people would like me better if I molded my personality such that it...
    Isayoldchap Isayoldchap 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2014

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    MiaStewarts MiaStewarts 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 12, 2014

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    I absolutely can't stand it.

    Give me deep conversation, give me life stories, anything but the small talk. It makes me crazy!
    leaguegirl97 leaguegirl97 16-17, F Nov 16, 2014

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    Small Talk Is Just...

    It's just annoying. It's like a filler, two people who really don't have anything to talk about feel too akward about silence so they have to fill the time with small talk.  Personally I feel more awkward about the small talk because I know that they know that I don't want to...
    katnipkitkat katnipkitkat 41-45, F Jul 14, 2012

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    I don't see the point to it.

    It's agonizing for me. I would rather sit down with a friend and talk for three hours about something deep and meaningful than talk for three minutes about something meaningless.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 14, 2014

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    I ******* live for real,

    in-depth conversations with interesting people. I am pretty terrible at making small talk, and I often avoid even attempting to make an effort. I need intellectual conversation, conversations where we pour ourselves out to each other, conversations that could go on for hours...
    kimb27 kimb27 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    Politics and the weather,

    no thank you! This may be telling as to why I suffer so much in social situations. Or why others do depending on your perspective. I suppose I just prefer to discuss substantive things and others find this too "heavy" when making acquaintances. Bah.
    saltloveandlight saltloveandlight 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2014

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    Enough Of The Small Talk.

    I don't mind you talking to me, I'm more than happy to have a conversation with anyone. Just please no small talk. It's truly not your fault when it occurs. When someone small talks it makes me feel awkward and very uninteresting, only because I don't know how to respond to small...
    nakedhero nakedhero 22-25, M Oct 30, 2013

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    Office Small Talk: When You Have Noting Really Important To Say.

    Personally I dread the office that I work in because it requires me to be present for a small gathering of supervisors (and my bosses) who enjoy small talk. I'd rather just get to work, get stuff done and then eventually get home. But soooo much time is wasted on B.S. small...
    AnythingRain AnythingRain 36-40 Dec 5, 2012

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    Really, I find entire messages to me composed

    of "hi" or "how are you tonight?" to be utterly dull. I don't care what you look like. I don't want to touch your genitals. I don't care about weather. Tell me something about yourself. Tell me why I should care how your day went. Or something completely embarrassing and...
    teadaze teadaze 26-30, F Apr 22, 2014

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    doxed doxed 16-17, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    A Few Words About Small Talk

    Pointless things get on my nerves. Particularly pointless things that waste time and/or energy. Enter the seemingly popular social practice of small talk in which we often engage as we interact with coworkers, clients, salespeople, acquaintances, strangers in the elevator or the...
    moonmaiden76 moonmaiden76 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 10, 2009

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    Small talk never gets anything done.

    I enjoy serious conversations that help me really get to know someone.
    Atma333 Atma333 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 20, 2014

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    Sometimes when I get messages from peeps

    and it's your normal convo starters like, hey how's it going? Or something along those lines I cannot be bothered replying. This especially goes for new messages on here. I know it seems rude but I would rather someone message me random convo or something interesting. I believe...
    aquagrl aquagrl 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2014

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    Small talk is actually physically painful

    for me, because I know its forced and neither one of us wants to go through it. I want to know about your dreams and goals. I want to know what makes you smile and your absolute favorite song. I want to know what makes you, you!
    adobson5194 adobson5194 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    If you decide to message me,

    I don't want you to ask me "what's up" or "how are you" and I don't want to have to respond to one worded messages. I want to your life, your favorite color and why, you're favorite movie, your best friend. Maybe that's too much to ask but I'm done with small talk.
    cisideview cisideview 18-21, F Sep 1, 2014

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    Big Talk

    I dread parties.  It's not that I don't like people, it's just that I'm pretty hopeless at small talk - standing and conversing is a form of multitasking that I have been unable to master.  Sitting down at a dinner table, solving the problems of the planet, now that's a...
    GarciaMarquez GarciaMarquez 46-50, M 2 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    I always make the mistake of make believing

    that I am a social butterfly, go to parties with the confidence of a peacock, ready to make some chit chat, aaaaaaand blow it. The awkward stares....oh the awkward stares after running out of things to say. 180 and bump that motha.
    bombchu bombchu 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    I have trouble making friends

    because I never know what to say in social situations where I barely know someone. With the few friends I have, I'm very talkative and funny and relaxed. But, a group of guys standing around??? I end up saying nothing and being forgotten I guess. And now that I'm older, it's...
    GaryB4 GaryB4 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 7, 2014

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    Hi How Are You? Blah!!!!

    I hate it too, its not that im rude, i just cant be bothered with it, i hate feeling pressured into making crap talk with people just for the sake of it, if somebody wants to have a conversation with me about something they are genuinely interested in then fine, but small talk...
    Blondevixon Blondevixon 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    Nothin to Say

    Hi, how are you? yeah it's been a long time!What have you been up to? Me? Not much. (silence stretches out) Well.... I better go, or I need to hurry, or it sure has been nice seeing you or...... and so on. Tell me why do we bother? Let's avoid the situation entirely or say...
    wheredidthatcomefrom wheredidthatcomefrom 51-55 1 Response Feb 8, 2009

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    Why?

    it takes so much energy for me to interact with people face to face that even small talk drains me. and i find myself resenting the person who is doing the small talking, because it's needlessly depeleting my social stamina. i've recently noticed that when i come back to myself...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 26, 2008

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    Hi Hi How are you? Good thanks yourself?

    Good just really bored..... How do I reply to this??? Should I continue this pattern and say "oh that's a shame..." Or should I go in guns blazing and say "so what are your thoughts or feelings around inequalities in third world countries?" Too extreme perhaps? Lol
    awokensheepislittlebopeep awokensheepislittlebopeep 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 20, 2014

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    Can't Think Of A Good Title

    I noticed that some people in this group find small talk annoying because you're talking to people you don't know and/or care about. Small talk is annoying to me for the opposite reason.  I can understand the need to talk about basic things to strangers (what's your name, where...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M Sep 13, 2012

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    Pretty much every conversation I have

    ever: Person: "Hi." Me: "Hi!" Person: "hru" Me: "I'm great thanks! How are you?" Person: "i am also gud thx dear. i lonely. Wna chat?" Me: "..."
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 19, 2014

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    I hate awkward small talk.

    Thing is, I'm mostly too damn shy to break out of my shell. I wish I could.
    movingwoman movingwoman 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2014

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    Talk about something interesting

    or don't message me lol hello, how are you is getting old!
    ComplexNotComplicated1 ComplexNotComplicated1 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2014

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    I don't like small talk.

    ..so stop it! or I will stop talking all together..hihi
    Livyordreams Livyordreams 26-30, F Feb 3

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    I know it's necessary in order to get to talk

    to people you don't know that well. But I just hate how here on EP, or I mean, MeToo, that people always message me saying "hi" and only that. I mean, you can at least say, "Hi!" Capitalization and punctuation can make all the difference. Even though that's still boring. I want...
    EmiTru EmiTru 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Party Talk

    I find it really hard to stay focused in a group discussion at a party. I'm good at the beginning, I can mingle and chat but at some point I start to lose my concentration and I'll be daydreaming while people speak. I know it's rude but it's like I can't stay tuned in to the...
    FallenAngelWOOT FallenAngelWOOT 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    I don't like small talk,

    so I'm rather blunt. And have one word answers. Sorry. But, I'm sure you didn't message me to see if I had any plans for the weekend.
    DaddysBabyPrincess1 DaddysBabyPrincess1 16-17, F 8 Responses Feb 13

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    I don't know if it's the same everywhere.

    I live an area that's ALL about work - seems it's the primary value here, and the FIRST question ANYONE asks anyone else, in ANY situation (at a party, at a bus stop, in an elevator, at a club - you name it) is "What do you do?" That is the definition of small talk here. If...
    LCBex LCBex 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 10, 2014

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    I put as much effort into my response

    as you did in your message. One word message? One word reply, if a reply at all. However, you drop a hint that you actually read some stuff by me and are trying to connect as human beings, I'll respond in kind and may even thank you for doing so!
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T 1 Response Jan 7

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    Related Experiences

    i don't mind small talk but i really would rather get to know you, i can't seem to move conversations to anything further though
    Jin777 Jin777 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 4

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    I've lived in this small town my whole life and hate it. The only reason we stay is because we own a good business. I am not accepted at all by the women around here. I've gone out...
    wamba5 wamba5 46-50, F Feb 16

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    i hate when i ask ppl how are they and whats on their minds they sound like idiot sayin hey or i am good. speak more. you are not kids!!
    lovelinessbathes lovelinessbathes 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 29

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    I honestly hate that. but I can't keep a long and interesting convo with someone who lives miles away. I just don't see the purpose to that. we are never going to hang out and be...
    jenniebaez1992 jenniebaez1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 4

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    Maybe it's because I live in small cou try there are simple minded people everywhere,even in "big cities".I don't care first if someone is "not so clever",but after some time I...
    beautyinman beautyinman 41-45, F Feb 7

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    I like talking with people who r open for a real conversation, about anything. Not just some words like "hey, how r u doing, how's the weather? good. yeah. end of the conver." I...
    lookingatthelights lookingatthelights 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    I like intelligent passionate conversations. I don't like to talk about dumb stuff and I didn't come on here to talk about how much you wanna sex me, or how big ur d!**?k is. I...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 2

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    I just like talking to people bout whatever there is to talk bout. Something to pass the time or get a friend or two who I can get to know. Because a "real " good friend or two is...
    ridge76 ridge76 22-25, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I WANT TO GO BACK AND FORTH IN CONVERSATIONS. IT SEEMS I HAVE TO KEEP ASKING PEOPLE QUESTIONS BECAUSE THEY DONT TALK!!
    lovelinessbathes lovelinessbathes 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    PEOPLE here please open your mouths and please do not say nothing or nm
    lovelinessbathes lovelinessbathes 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 29

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