I Hate Small Talk

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 956 People

    I know it's necessary in order to get to talk

    to people you don't know that well. But I just hate how here on EP, or I mean, MeToo, that people always message me saying "hi" and only that. I mean, you can at least say, "Hi!" Capitalization and punctuation can make all the difference. Even though that's still boring. I want...
    EmiTru EmiTru
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2014

    Both my mom and my sister are going through

    cancer screening. My sister has abnormal cells on her cervix that the doctor says are precancerous. And they found a lump on my mom's breast today. My grandpa doesn't recognize me anymore because of Alzheimer's. And I'm really really scared about the future.
    AshleyJea AshleyJea
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 15, 2015

    I seem to drive people away

    when I engage in small talk. I wonder if I would enjoy it more if I was better at it. My instinct says I would still hate it, but I think I can still benefit from improving my skill set.
    Kingshelman Kingshelman
    31-35, M
    1 Response Dec 30, 2015

    This guy in my office always wants to point out

    how quiet I am, infront of everyone, and talkstalkstalks about talking and how much he loves it. So I ended the microwave early, laughed with him as I casually walked out of the kitchen like I had to be somewhere and ate my cold lunch in my office.
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 5

    'So the weathers nice' Oh goodness Plz

    Stop Seriously ask me about what i want to peruse as a career or ask my opinion on sheep or something. Egh the weather
    laani laani
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Jul 8, 2015

    I hate when someone messages me with: "Hi"

    or "Hey" What do they expect for an answer? "Hi" or "Hey"? Oh, then the next step is usually text speak: How ru doin? My GAWD, at that rate we'll be here all day. Why don't you just tell me what you want to say and be done with it.
    lov2smile lov2smile
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Dec 8, 2015
    Maritzi Maritzi
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 10, 2015

    I put as much effort into my response

    as you did in your message. One word message? One word reply, if a reply at all. However, you drop a hint that you actually read some stuff by me and are trying to connect as human beings, I'll respond in kind and may even thank you for doing so!
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe
    26-30, T
    1 Response Jan 7, 2015

    When I'm talking to people,

    at least for the first time, I just really don't know what to say. Awkward silences are really no exception. This makes it very difficult for me to connect to people, let alone making new friend. Online I do better but still also there I struggle.
    FeetAreFantastic FeetAreFantastic
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Oct 17, 2015

    I wish I was more patient.

    I would have a lot more friends then, but I can't get past the small talk. I need some excuse to talk to people or something to do with them or it just doesn't work.
    Azureskye Azureskye
    22-25, M
    Sep 16, 2015

    I hate small talk but at the same time am

    really bad at starting other topics of conversation!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 28, 2015
    kait1994 kait1994
    13-15, F
    1 Response Oct 8, 2015

    Small talk is for small minds.

    Small talk is for people you keep at a distance. Small talk is NOT for people you want to get to know. If you really want to know someone, ask them about their childhood, ask them about about their friends, their loves, their gods. Ask them what they think about when they're...
    AshleyJea AshleyJea
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    I hate small talk because I'm awful

    and awkward at it. Why can't new friendships skip all the politeness, and get straight to what we have in common? You like vodka? I like vodka. Let's take a shot, and break the ice over a few dorky Christmas songs.
    darkadventures darkadventures
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    Its nore i hate people

    who hate small talk..for unconfjdent shy guys like me smal talk is a big step for me
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 27, 2015

    I have trouble making friends

    because I never know what to say in social situations where I barely know someone. With the few friends I have, I'm very talkative and funny and relaxed. But, a group of guys standing around??? I end up saying nothing and being forgotten I guess. And now that I'm older, it's...
    GaryB4 GaryB4
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Mar 7, 2014

    I would like to get straight to the point I get

    it if you just wanna chat but I have no idea how to carry on a conversation and asking me how are you three times a day gets a tad bit annoying
    Rhea03811 Rhea03811
    13-15, F
    Dec 28, 2015
    MiaStewarts MiaStewarts
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jul 12, 2014

    I struggle of having small talk with some

    people on here, but im not that angry about, im never angry while I have a convos. But in sometimes I would explain my day to people on here, and the responce would just be "ok" or "cool" or something like that. Please don't be shy while talking to me, you can talk about...
    Tagstar2000 Tagstar2000
    13-15, M
    1 Response Dec 8, 2015

    It Just Feels Fake...

    I hate small talk because it just feels fake.  Talking to someone you dont really want to talk to just feels awful for me.  And it's like everyone feels this pressure to make small talk in certain situations .... like its required of them .... but really, it's not. ...
    outoftheshadows outoftheshadows
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 9, 2008

    I hate social pretense.

    I used to dissemble all the time. I'd I'd lie about my interests, feign laughter, and all the other bullshit that's so common in this society of ours. Now, I was under the erroneous impression that most people would like me better if I molded my personality such that it...
    Isayoldchap Isayoldchap
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Aug 19, 2014

    Small talk just makes an already awkward

    situation more awkward....so who would like it haha...?
    Thalassian Thalassian
    18-21, M
    Aug 14, 2015

    It makes me angry??? I feel like punching

    people in the face when they make small talk and try to keep it going.
    hevydevy hevydevy
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 6, 2015

    I ******* live for real,

    in-depth conversations with interesting people. I am pretty terrible at making small talk, and I often avoid even attempting to make an effort. I need intellectual conversation, conversations where we pour ourselves out to each other, conversations that could go on for hours...
    kimb27 kimb27
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2014

    I wanna talk about atoms,

    death, aliens, sex, magic, intellect, the meaning of life, faraway galaxies, the lies you have told, your flaws, your favorite scents, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurities, your fears, I love people with depth, who speak with emotion from a twisted mind...
    darlingrose darlingrose
    70+, F
    3 Responses Aug 13, 2015

    Small talk is a little annoying .

    .. I hate small talk.. Although I rarely actually start conversations I would like to talk about more meaningful things .. even if you're a stranger.. I just hate the awkwardness that small talk brings
    Darasi Darasi
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015

    I am very confused when I must keep small talk.

    Then i become nervous and want to run away.
    Neslanasrdela Neslanasrdela
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 31

    Small talk is a totally undeveloped area in my

    brain. This is why I love the self-checkout in the supermarket: Cashier: “Ah, cat food … what kind of cat do you have?” Me: “Um … a black and white”. Cashier: “We used to have a cat. But now we have moved on and we had to left him. Too bad though, because they are...
    Glassshoes Glassshoes
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 3

    A Few Words About Small Talk

    Pointless things get on my nerves. Particularly pointless things that waste time and/or energy. Enter the seemingly popular social practice of small talk in which we often engage as we interact with coworkers, clients, salespeople, acquaintances, strangers in the elevator or the...
    moonmaiden76 moonmaiden76
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jun 10, 2009
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 10, 2015

    Party Talk

    I find it really hard to stay focused in a group discussion at a party. I'm good at the beginning, I can mingle and chat but at some point I start to lose my concentration and I'll be daydreaming while people speak. I know it's rude but it's like I can't stay tuned in to the...
    FallenAngelWOOT FallenAngelWOOT
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 29, 2012

    hi, what's up, how are you,

    what you doing and this is how I reply: hi, nothing, fine, nothing. I'm not gonna try to put effort into conversation that the other person isn't gonna put effort in. besides I don't message people unless I have an actual conversation starter. or Ive found some similar...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 7

    It is not communication,

    it is the negation of it. Empty words are uttered to take the place of meaningful ones that will never be said.
    Cierzo Cierzo
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    Seriously, especially on here,

    why even message me with "so how's your day" because I will always answer with okay. I do not know you. Just skip to what you want and cut the bull.
    KindOfPoisonous1 KindOfPoisonous1
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 27, 2015

    Like how else can I respond to "what's up" other

    than "nothing much" when I stay on the computer all day?! XD
    mrhedgeh0g mrhedgeh0g
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Aug 13, 2015

    Hi How Are You? Blah!!!!

    I hate it too, its not that im rude, i just cant be bothered with it, i hate feeling pressured into making crap talk with people just for the sake of it, if somebody wants to have a conversation with me about something they are genuinely interested in then fine, but small talk...
    Blondevixon Blondevixon
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Feb 9, 2008

    I find this site is for exchanging ideas,

    friendly debates, and to talk of interesting topics. When people message me asking how I am I don't care to answer that often. For me exchanging pleasantries such as this is quite mundane. It's something I have to do when I'm at work, when I catch up with friends, and even on...
    CovertInk CovertInk
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 1, 2015

    It's one thing to be able to avoid it

    or politely finish a useless "conversation" with others when you've had enough. But it's pretty damn awful when you share a very very small hallway with 5 other small talk loving narcissistic coworkers who need to speak at any given moment just so they can hear their own...
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    Dec 8, 2015

    I find it SUPER awkward

    and my anxiety doesn't help much either. :/
    Addy123x Addy123x
    13-15, M
    Aug 7, 2015
    sammyXx2 sammyXx2
    13-15, M
    3 Responses Sep 6, 2015

    I can't not stand when someone messages me

    asking do I like something when they just,read my experience saying that I do. I find it so stupid
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 31, 2015

    Big Talk

    I dread parties.  It's not that I don't like people, it's just that I'm pretty hopeless at small talk - standing and conversing is a form of multitasking that I have been unable to master.  Sitting down at a dinner table, solving the problems of the planet, now that's a...
    GarciaMarquez GarciaMarquez
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Feb 12, 2012

    Hi Hi How are you? Good thanks yourself?

    Good just really bored..... How do I reply to this??? Should I continue this pattern and say "oh that's a shame..." Or should I go in guns blazing and say "so what are your thoughts or feelings around inequalities in third world countries?" Too extreme perhaps? Lol
    awokensheepislittlebopeep awokensheepislittlebopeep
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 20, 2014

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