I Hate the Saying "Quit Feeling Sorry For Yourself

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    Who Else Will

    It is not that you are just feeling sorry for yourself, but trying to deal with a unfortunate reality in your life.  Sometimes you just have to feel sorry for yourself, just as you would feel happy for yourself if something good happened.  Why do we always take away the...
    allofus allofus
    46-50, M
    Apr 4, 2009


    i hate having my feeling undermined people now just dismiss what i used to feel and sometimes still do you know if i say i was thought of as a loser they say i am not and i kinda know that now but then it was pretty serious and want to be taken seriously you know like bullying...
    jamesdean4ever jamesdean4ever
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 8, 2011

    Ok, That Is So Easy

    "quit feeling sorry for yourself" i hate this. i am not feeling feeling sorry for myself. i just feel like crap most of the time. it isn't that i want pity. i want anything but that. i just want a somewhat normal, if that is a real thing, existence. i am tired of faking...
    metalgirl99 metalgirl99
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 13, 2008

    It's a Saying of the Passionless

    I choose to have a life of passion. Occasionally that means that I wallow in self-pity. So what. I'll quit feeling sorry for myself when something else comes along to take its place. I feel sorry for people that are happy all the time. Joy and happiness are all that more...
    rusted rusted
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

    I Hate This Saying Too

    I don't understand why people tell you this, it just drives me crazy. I never say it to others with the hope that maybe they'll notice and learn from me. Honestly, some of those amazing times of my life where when I felt sad or somewhat depressed, even if there wasn't any...
    MatthewGuitar MatthewGuitar
    22-25, M
    Jan 7, 2013

    Most Pointless....

    this phrase is ridiculous because everyone feels sorry for themselves at one point or another....when i hear someone say this to me all i want to do is punch them in the face
    deleted deleted
    Jun 6, 2010

    Its a Cop Out

    i hate the saying "quit feeling sorry for yourself"because its quite often easier said then done. I know some people dwell on the negative but there are different ways of communicating this to them.
    Donalh Donalh
    22-25, M
    1 Response Sep 16, 2008

    Even I Dislike the Phrase

    Fortunately, I haven't been told that phrase nor have I said it to other people. I think the phrase itself has a thoughtless tone to it and could be said better, if the person wants to convey a sense of concern as well as a sense of urgency to those that are in depressing...
    Tummie Tummie
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Aug 23, 2008

    Ill Feel What I Want.

    If I want to feel sorry for myself then I damn well will! Im not making ou feel sorry for me, Im not hurting you. I might be hurting myself, but I just hate anyone who tells others what to feel....   and some wallowing can be good.... grant, not constantly, but it was only...
    Tesse Tesse
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Aug 29, 2008


    This is perhaps the most asinine exexpression in any language it is unfeeling, unsympathetic and down right heartless You might as well tell people to go without air  you are telling people to quit feeling which has it's own set of dangers, that usually are plastered on...
    tulick tulick
    31-35, F
    77 Responses Jul 10, 2008

    It's Okay to Feel Sorry For Yourself!

    I say it's okay to feel sorry for yourself because, well, I feel sorry for myself. Yes, I admit it! I pity myself. And I believe that I have good reasons to feel that way. Everyone has that right, because everyone is flawed and selfish, and everyone goes through rough times. In...
    NumberedStars NumberedStars
    13-15, F
    Apr 5, 2009

    Soooooooo Patronising!

    It is though!! Quit feeling sorry for yourself........ errrr, no. If I want to wallow for a while in the pool of self pity (or as a rather wise and wonderful friend once said to me - throw a pity party) then I bloody well will!! I'll come out of it when I'm ready. And by the...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel
    31-35, F
    Oct 2, 2010

    When People Say Well Thats the Passed Get Over It

    It drives me nuts hearing well that was the passed get over what they are really saying is hun i dont care dont want to hear it shut up! its like dont go having a pitty party just dont breath you may as well say too. when  people say things like that they really mean i...
    lunnas lunnas
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 23, 2008

    I think this is the most hypocritical saying

    ever! Look, we all fall hard from time to time. One shouldn't dwell on things and should pick themselves up again. However, to sit and tell people they shouldn't feel bad or think about themselves and their situation is just... I don't know, rude I think is what I'm looking to...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 5, 2015

    It May Sound Cold But Sometimes It's All You Can Say...

    As a survivor of a brutal assault- I dealt with panic disorder, PTSD, and self-pity for nearly a decade. I blamed any and all of my problems on my past. Those who loved me most, had to endure a lot, too. One day, someone I loved very much- looked at me and said "I love...
    onegirlintheworld onegirlintheworld
    31-35, F
    Oct 2, 2009

    I have the right to feel sorry

    for myself as much as I want. No one lives my life, no one feels what I feel, my emotions, my pain, my regrets, my worries, my fears. No one knows about my losses. No one knows about my disadvantages, and the hinders that are on my life. No one knows what goes on in my head, or...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    22-25, F
    Apr 4, 2015

    Empathy to oneself is essential

    for a good quality of life and for building good relationships with others. If you've been through something hurtful and if you're aware of what's going on with you emotionally, of course you're going to feel sorry for yourself! It's only human. The issue is when you refuse to...
    naranja naranja
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 4, 2015

    Try Out My Life And See How You Like It!

    I have a chronic condition called POTS that leaves me feeling tired and sick a few days a week and usually my friends are all very supportive, but this last week i had really bad spell where I couldn't come to school for a little over a week straight. The day I finally got back...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 29, 2012

    Caught In A Wicked Merry-go-round

    My brother has his fingers in everything - honor's society, travel abroad, etc. etc. I chose a correspondence school because it better fit my learning needs so I don't get those things (as much as I would have LOVED a travel abroad something) Lately my brother has been lording it...
    runningfree2 runningfree2
    Sep 10, 2012


    Because it's a jerk thing to say and it's one of the many things in life that are easier said than done.  And then when someone hangs up the phone after they tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself (happened a long while ago, but still), that adds even more insult to injury...
    yoyy yoyy
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 13, 2008

    I'll Punch You and See How You Feel

    I'm so tired of "get over it," and "suck it up," and stupid **** like that. If I want to be pissed off I'll be pissed off, if I want to hurt I'm gonna hurt. I'm doing everything I can to make it NOT hurt, but sometimes medicine is not enough. Even medicine and...
    Warmthoughtsofyou04 Warmthoughtsofyou04
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Jun 11, 2008

    I Dislike The Saying: Quit Feeling Sorry For Yourself

    I don't like that saying and I never use it.  It was never said to me but my parents have said it to my sisters.
    aquarius3 aquarius3
    Jan 16, 2012

    Who Ever Invented This Phrase Sucks

    How dos anyone know how  I am feeling?  Are they me?  Do they know everything that was contributed to what makes me feel as I do ?  NO, even if they have experienced the same or a similar thing.  Different people are affected in different ways.  ...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 11, 2010

    Way To Be A D_o_u_c_h_e

    "Quit feeling sorry for yourself." Gee, thanks for supporting me through the honest and valid emotion that I'm experiencing right now. Way to be an insensitive  d_o_u_c_h_e_b_a_g.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 12, 2010

    Along With Other Annoying Phrases

    "Cheer up goff" "It might never happen" "SMILE!" "Who died?" "Pull your socks up" "Get yer act together" "No one likes you"
    newmurderer newmurderer
    1 Response May 16, 2010


    Hi there. Let me apologize in advance that this is so long and jumps around a lot! I'm a 46 y/o separated woman(who's now completely mental) with three teens, 4 dogs (wait, make that 3 as of last week) and 2 invalid parents with whom we live, in one room of their 4 bedroom house...
    peteypie23 peteypie23
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2009

    Sometimes Its Our Only Therapy!

      Sometimes it’s the only support you can get! When people see you feeling bad, and they say this, they don’t realize how sad a person really is! Maybe we wouldn’t feel sorry for ourselves if others would take the time to listen and understand!
    depressedmommy depressedmommy
    22-25, F
    Apr 6, 2009

    Why Shouldn't I Feel Sorry For Myself?

    My life holds nothing to make me feel good at present. I'm housebound by never-ending pain in my back. I can't walk more than a few yards and I don't drive. Ergo; I never leave the house unless my husband is off work and can drive me. Even then I'm limited, because we often...
    Meggi51 Meggi51
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2008

    Just Because It's Inconvenient...

    Sometimes, you just have to feel sorry for yourself, because if you don't, who will? You have to be a little selfish sometimes. Because everyone else is selfish.
    LylaRocks LylaRocks
    26-30, F
    Oct 3, 2008

    Quit Saying It!

    why cant i feel sorry for myself? it's like you are telling me that my problems are not all that important as compared to others. well, they are...to me. i know i may not be dying in a war or suffering from other stuff but what i have gone through hurt me as well. so quit telling...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 16, 2008
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