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I Hate the Saying "Quit Feeling Sorry For Yourself

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    Try Out My Life And See How You Like It!

    I have a chronic condition called POTS that leaves me feeling tired and sick a few days a week and usually my friends are all very supportive, but this last week i had really bad spell where I couldn't come to school for a little over a week straight. The day I finally got back...
    colorsofrain colorsofrain 16-17 1 Response Aug 29, 2012

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    Undermined

    i hate having my feeling undermined people now just dismiss what i used to feel and sometimes still do you know if i say i was thought of as a loser they say i am not and i kinda know that now but then it was pretty serious and want to be taken seriously you know like bullying...
    jamesdean4ever jamesdean4ever 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2011

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    Why Shouldn't I Feel Sorry For Myself?

    My life holds nothing to make me feel good at present. I'm housebound by never-ending pain in my back. I can't walk more than a few yards and I don't drive. Ergo; I never leave the house unless my husband is off work and can drive me. Even then I'm limited, because we often...
    Meggi51 Meggi51 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 10, 2008

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    I Hate This Saying Too

    I don't understand why people tell you this, it just drives me crazy. I never say it to others with the hope that maybe they'll notice and learn from me. Honestly, some of those amazing times of my life where when I felt sad or somewhat depressed, even if there wasn't any...
    MatthewGuitar MatthewGuitar 22-25, M Jan 7, 2013

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    Caught In A Wicked Merry-go-round

    My brother has his fingers in everything - honor's society, travel abroad, etc. etc. I chose a correspondence school because it better fit my learning needs so I don't get those things (as much as I would have LOVED a travel abroad something) Lately my brother has been lording it...
    runningfree2 runningfree2 22-25 Sep 10, 2012

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    Along With Other Annoying Phrases

    "Cheer up goff" "It might never happen" "SMILE!" "Who died?" "Pull your socks up" "Get yer act together" "No one likes you"
    newmurderer newmurderer 70+ 1 Response May 16, 2010

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    Ill Feel What I Want.

    If I want to feel sorry for myself then I damn well will! Im not making ou feel sorry for me, Im not hurting you. I might be hurting myself, but I just hate anyone who tells others what to feel....   and some wallowing can be good.... grant, not constantly, but it was only...
    Tesse Tesse 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2008

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    Overwhelmed!

    Hi there. Let me apologize in advance that this is so long and jumps around a lot! I'm a 46 y/o separated woman(who's now completely mental) with three teens, 4 dogs (wait, make that 3 as of last week) and 2 invalid parents with whom we live, in one room of their 4 bedroom house...
    peteypie23 peteypie23 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2009

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    I Dislike The Saying: Quit Feeling Sorry For Yourself

    I don't like that saying and I never use it.  It was never said to me but my parents have said it to my sisters.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 Jan 16, 2012

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    Its a Cop Out

    i hate the saying "quit feeling sorry for yourself"because its quite often easier said then done. I know some people dwell on the negative but there are different ways of communicating this to them.
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 16, 2008

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    I'll Punch You and See How You Feel

    I'm so tired of "get over it," and "suck it up," and stupid **** like that. If I want to be pissed off I'll be pissed off, if I want to hurt I'm gonna hurt. I'm doing everything I can to make it NOT hurt, but sometimes medicine is not enough. Even medicine and...
    Warmthoughtsofyou04 Warmthoughtsofyou04 22-25, F 11 Responses Jun 11, 2008

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    Ok, That Is So Easy

    "quit feeling sorry for yourself" i hate this. i am not feeling feeling sorry for myself. i just feel like crap most of the time. it isn't that i want pity. i want anything but that. i just want a somewhat normal, if that is a real thing, existence. i am tired of faking...
    metalgirl99 metalgirl99 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 13, 2008

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    Just Because It's Inconvenient...

    Sometimes, you just have to feel sorry for yourself, because if you don't, who will? You have to be a little selfish sometimes. Because everyone else is selfish.
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F Oct 3, 2008

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    Sometimes Its Our Only Therapy!

      Sometimes it’s the only support you can get! When people see you feeling bad, and they say this, they don’t realize how sad a person really is! Maybe we wouldn’t feel sorry for ourselves if others would take the time to listen and understand!
    depressedmommy depressedmommy 22-25, F Apr 6, 2009

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    ...

    Because it's a jerk thing to say and it's one of the many things in life that are easier said than done.  And then when someone hangs up the phone after they tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself (happened a long while ago, but still), that adds even more insult to injury...
    yoyy yoyy 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2008

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    Way To Be A D_o_u_c_h_e

    "Quit feeling sorry for yourself." Gee, thanks for supporting me through the honest and valid emotion that I'm experiencing right now. Way to be an insensitive  d_o_u_c_h_e_b_a_g.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2010

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    Unfeelinbg

    This is perhaps the most asinine exexpression in any language it is unfeeling, unsympathetic and down right heartless You might as well tell people to go without air  you are telling people to quit feeling which has it's own set of dangers, that usually are plastered on...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 77 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Even I Dislike the Phrase

    Fortunately, I haven't been told that phrase nor have I said it to other people. I think the phrase itself has a thoughtless tone to it and could be said better, if the person wants to convey a sense of concern as well as a sense of urgency to those that are in depressing...
    Tummie Tummie 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    Soooooooo Patronising!

    It is though!! Quit feeling sorry for yourself........ errrr, no. If I want to wallow for a while in the pool of self pity (or as a rather wise and wonderful friend once said to me - throw a pity party) then I bloody well will!! I'll come out of it when I'm ready. And by the...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F Oct 2, 2010

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    Quit Saying It!

    why cant i feel sorry for myself? it's like you are telling me that my problems are not all that important as compared to others. well, they are...to me. i know i may not be dying in a war or suffering from other stuff but what i have gone through hurt me as well. so quit telling...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle 16-18, F 5 Responses Oct 16, 2008

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    Who Else Will

    It is not that you are just feeling sorry for yourself, but trying to deal with a unfortunate reality in your life.  Sometimes you just have to feel sorry for yourself, just as you would feel happy for yourself if something good happened.  Why do we always take away the...
    allofus allofus 46-50, M Apr 4, 2009

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    Most Pointless....

    this phrase is ridiculous because everyone feels sorry for themselves at one point or another....when i hear someone say this to me all i want to do is punch them in the face
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 6, 2010

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    Along With "Snap Out of It"

    These were favorite sayings of my mothers - "snap out of it" and "quit feeling sorry for yourself", after the latter she would then reel off a while list of reasons why she is so much worse of than I am, oh and how I should be grateful! Grateful for what? Okay...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 10, 2008

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    Who Ever Invented This Phrase Sucks

    How dos anyone know how  I am feeling?  Are they me?  Do they know everything that was contributed to what makes me feel as I do ?  NO, even if they have experienced the same or a similar thing.  Different people are affected in different ways.  ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    It May Sound Cold But Sometimes It's All You Can Say...

    As a survivor of a brutal assault- I dealt with panic disorder, PTSD, and self-pity for nearly a decade. I blamed any and all of my problems on my past. Those who loved me most, had to endure a lot, too. One day, someone I loved very much- looked at me and said "I love...
    onegirlintheworld onegirlintheworld 31-35, F Oct 2, 2009

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    When People Say Well Thats the Passed Get Over It

    It drives me nuts hearing well that was the passed get over what they are really saying is hun i dont care dont want to hear it shut up! its like dont go having a pitty party just dont breath you may as well say too. when  people say things like that they really mean i...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    It's a Saying of the Passionless

    I choose to have a life of passion. Occasionally that means that I wallow in self-pity. So what. I'll quit feeling sorry for myself when something else comes along to take its place. I feel sorry for people that are happy all the time. Joy and happiness are all that more...
    rusted rusted 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    I HATE WHEN PEOPLE ARE SORRY FOR ME. I mean I have been raped 4 time I was beaten by my 6exs I have been shot I have been stabbed 12 time. But that makes me who I am. And I love...
    SECRETOFLOVE SECRETOFLOVE 16-17, F Mar 24

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    I always feel sorry for road kill. Especially when it looks like a dog, or a cat, I mean that's someone's pet :( I had a dog get hit by a car, and a cat get hit by a car, and it...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F Apr 7

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    I feel sorry for myself more. lol
    mstud17 mstud17 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    I don't say sorry unless I mean it. So I always just try to do the right thing.
    pappa94 pappa94 18-21, M Apr 15

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    I hate goodbyes. I'm terrible at them. And goodbyes mean permanent. If I say goodbye to you then we are deffo done. I prefer the phrase "just not here right now"
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F Apr 4

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    Cowards. You have to realize that’s what bullies are: Cowards. They see you taking chances, making moves, living a life that they want to be living and can’t be honest enough...
    Ashishishe Ashishishe 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Even here...ive lost some people who became important. It reminds me that despite our vows to always remain for each other, one day .....all will be parted. I love my friends..
    popuptarget popuptarget 46-50, M Apr 3

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    Hi I'm Brandon or tb for short again nyu I'm looking for love as well as friendship I'm bi so for girls I love the people who are well around my age 15-17 kind nice smart cares...
    Teddybearfluff Teddybearfluff 13-15 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Sometimes its hard for me to get thoughts into words. I speak fine, but my conversational skills need help. I need practice! Anybody reading this that just may know me....please...
    ninerzoon ninerzoon 36-40, M Apr 4

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    I have a hard time letting go of someone if we are friends
    wallflower365 wallflower365 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    I keep rereading the messages I wrote to a close friend and I can't stop rereading it. I do miss him very much but I want to stop but then again I don't want too. I reread the...
    Meyrinfields Meyrinfields 16-17, F Apr 15

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    "If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours" Oh Daddy what am I doing? Mum misses you so much . I never really understood heartache until now or how...
    Luna47 Luna47 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    and loooooving it ;) a message would be lovely!!
    dezasterpiece dezasterpiece 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I'm suppose to be dressed and on a bus to college right now. Instead i am lying in bed feeling sorry for myself. I hate college and I don't even mean the course. I love the...
    emmysauraus emmysauraus 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    The argument, like you said. The same argument. "I hate fights" I say At least, that might be what it is. Then I say "idk what it is... An argument?" "That's not good" And it...
    seasalticecream seasalticecream 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 11

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    I really need some advice on this because it is destroying me. Well it began when i met two women on the same night who are friends. We all got on well and had a laugh and a joke...
    uklondoner1 uklondoner1 31-35 Apr 3

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    Hey guys... I figured out how to feel better about myself, and be happier and I'd like to share it with you all. (I am aware this might all sound very hippie like...but I'm just...
    xxersabooxx xxersabooxx 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 29

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    I know it's wrong to hate who I am. God made me this way for a reason. But I hate being female. It doesn't feel right. I can't relate to other girls. I mean, I can relate to girls...
    RuthieAnja RuthieAnja 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 1

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    If you do not like what you read- please keep to yourself. A Dire Warning to Christians and People Everywhere. Hello, everyone here. What will be discussed here is very very...
    EvangelistTeen EvangelistTeen 13-15, F Apr 6

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    Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It...
    serachii serachii 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    Hate is a very strong word, so I'll try not to use it. I have a stepson (he's 15 now) who I have been around since he was 6. I knew that he was gay the day I met him. That is of no...
    needinghelpbadly needinghelpbadly 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    Summer of 2010 -Guess I'm just looking back today, thinking about my sister and that summer, and how it was the last year in my life I'd get to spend with her. Been listening to...
    AllStarcrushNate AllStarcrushNate 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    There is this boy I knew from my best friend. After my Bestie send me a picture from him, he wanted one of me too. (Only adding at this point, that He's attractive!) I had or maybe...
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    I hate myself. I hate that I was born with depression. I hate that at age ten I already loathed myself to cut. I hate that at age 11 I was already done with experiencing life and...
    Rawrimabeast Rawrimabeast 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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