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I Hate the Saying "Quit Feeling Sorry For Yourself

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    Soooooooo Patronising!

    It is though!! Quit feeling sorry for yourself........ errrr, no. If I want to wallow for a while in the pool of self pity (or as a rather wise and wonderful friend once said to me - throw a pity party) then I bloody well will!! I'll come out of it when I'm ready. And by the...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F Oct 2, 2010

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    Who Ever Invented This Phrase Sucks

    How dos anyone know how  I am feeling?  Are they me?  Do they know everything that was contributed to what makes me feel as I do ?  NO, even if they have experienced the same or a similar thing.  Different people are affected in different ways.  ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    I Hate This Saying Too

    I don't understand why people tell you this, it just drives me crazy. I never say it to others with the hope that maybe they'll notice and learn from me. Honestly, some of those amazing times of my life where when I felt sad or somewhat depressed, even if there wasn't any...
    MatthewGuitar MatthewGuitar 22-25, M Jan 7, 2013

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    Undermined

    i hate having my feeling undermined people now just dismiss what i used to feel and sometimes still do you know if i say i was thought of as a loser they say i am not and i kinda know that now but then it was pretty serious and want to be taken seriously you know like bullying...
    jamesdean4ever jamesdean4ever 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2011

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    It's Okay to Feel Sorry For Yourself!

    I say it's okay to feel sorry for yourself because, well, I feel sorry for myself. Yes, I admit it! I pity myself. And I believe that I have good reasons to feel that way. Everyone has that right, because everyone is flawed and selfish, and everyone goes through rough times. In...
    NumberedStars NumberedStars 13-15, F Apr 5, 2009

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    Along With "Snap Out of It"

    These were favorite sayings of my mothers - "snap out of it" and "quit feeling sorry for yourself", after the latter she would then reel off a while list of reasons why she is so much worse of than I am, oh and how I should be grateful! Grateful for what? Okay...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 10, 2008

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    Ok, That Is So Easy

    "quit feeling sorry for yourself" i hate this. i am not feeling feeling sorry for myself. i just feel like crap most of the time. it isn't that i want pity. i want anything but that. i just want a somewhat normal, if that is a real thing, existence. i am tired of faking...
    metalgirl99 metalgirl99 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 13, 2008

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    Try Out My Life And See How You Like It!

    I have a chronic condition called POTS that leaves me feeling tired and sick a few days a week and usually my friends are all very supportive, but this last week i had really bad spell where I couldn't come to school for a little over a week straight. The day I finally got back...
    colorsofrain colorsofrain 16-17 1 Response Aug 29, 2012

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    Sometimes Its Our Only Therapy!

      Sometimes it’s the only support you can get! When people see you feeling bad, and they say this, they don’t realize how sad a person really is! Maybe we wouldn’t feel sorry for ourselves if others would take the time to listen and understand!
    depressedmommy depressedmommy 22-25, F Apr 6, 2009

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    When People Say Well Thats the Passed Get Over It

    It drives me nuts hearing well that was the passed get over what they are really saying is hun i dont care dont want to hear it shut up! its like dont go having a pitty party just dont breath you may as well say too. when  people say things like that they really mean i...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    Because it's a jerk thing to say and it's one of the many things in life that are easier said than done.  And then when someone hangs up the phone after they tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself (happened a long while ago, but still), that adds even more insult to injury...
    yoyy yoyy 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2008

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    Way To Be A D_o_u_c_h_e

    "Quit feeling sorry for yourself." Gee, thanks for supporting me through the honest and valid emotion that I'm experiencing right now. Way to be an insensitive  d_o_u_c_h_e_b_a_g.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2010

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    Unfeelinbg

    This is perhaps the most asinine exexpression in any language it is unfeeling, unsympathetic and down right heartless You might as well tell people to go without air  you are telling people to quit feeling which has it's own set of dangers, that usually are plastered on...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 77 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Ill Feel What I Want.

    If I want to feel sorry for myself then I damn well will! Im not making ou feel sorry for me, Im not hurting you. I might be hurting myself, but I just hate anyone who tells others what to feel....   and some wallowing can be good.... grant, not constantly, but it was only...
    Tesse Tesse 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2008

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    I'll Punch You and See How You Feel

    I'm so tired of "get over it," and "suck it up," and stupid **** like that. If I want to be pissed off I'll be pissed off, if I want to hurt I'm gonna hurt. I'm doing everything I can to make it NOT hurt, but sometimes medicine is not enough. Even medicine and...
    Warmthoughtsofyou04 Warmthoughtsofyou04 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 11, 2008

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    Its a Cop Out

    i hate the saying "quit feeling sorry for yourself"because its quite often easier said then done. I know some people dwell on the negative but there are different ways of communicating this to them.
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 16, 2008

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    Why Shouldn't I Feel Sorry For Myself?

    My life holds nothing to make me feel good at present. I'm housebound by never-ending pain in my back. I can't walk more than a few yards and I don't drive. Ergo; I never leave the house unless my husband is off work and can drive me. Even then I'm limited, because we often...
    Meggi51 Meggi51 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 10, 2008

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    Quit Saying It!

    why cant i feel sorry for myself? it's like you are telling me that my problems are not all that important as compared to others. well, they are...to me. i know i may not be dying in a war or suffering from other stuff but what i have gone through hurt me as well. so quit telling...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle 16-18, F 5 Responses Oct 16, 2008

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    Most Pointless....

    this phrase is ridiculous because everyone feels sorry for themselves at one point or another....when i hear someone say this to me all i want to do is punch them in the face
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 6, 2010

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    Along With Other Annoying Phrases

    "Cheer up goff" "It might never happen" "SMILE!" "Who died?" "Pull your socks up" "Get yer act together" "No one likes you"
    newmurderer newmurderer 70+ 1 Response May 16, 2010

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    Who Else Will

    It is not that you are just feeling sorry for yourself, but trying to deal with a unfortunate reality in your life.  Sometimes you just have to feel sorry for yourself, just as you would feel happy for yourself if something good happened.  Why do we always take away the...
    allofus allofus 46-50, M Apr 4, 2009

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    Caught In A Wicked Merry-go-round

    My brother has his fingers in everything - honor's society, travel abroad, etc. etc. I chose a correspondence school because it better fit my learning needs so I don't get those things (as much as I would have LOVED a travel abroad something) Lately my brother has been lording it...
    runningfree2 runningfree2 22-25 Sep 10, 2012

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    It May Sound Cold But Sometimes It's All You Can Say...

    As a survivor of a brutal assault- I dealt with panic disorder, PTSD, and self-pity for nearly a decade. I blamed any and all of my problems on my past. Those who loved me most, had to endure a lot, too. One day, someone I loved very much- looked at me and said "I love...
    onegirlintheworld onegirlintheworld 31-35, F Oct 2, 2009

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    Overwhelmed!

    Hi there. Let me apologize in advance that this is so long and jumps around a lot! I'm a 46 y/o separated woman(who's now completely mental) with three teens, 4 dogs (wait, make that 3 as of last week) and 2 invalid parents with whom we live, in one room of their 4 bedroom house...
    peteypie23 peteypie23 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2009

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    I Dislike The Saying: Quit Feeling Sorry For Yourself

    I don't like that saying and I never use it.  It was never said to me but my parents have said it to my sisters.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 Jan 16, 2012

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    Just Because It's Inconvenient...

    Sometimes, you just have to feel sorry for yourself, because if you don't, who will? You have to be a little selfish sometimes. Because everyone else is selfish.
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F Oct 3, 2008

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    It's a Saying of the Passionless

    I choose to have a life of passion. Occasionally that means that I wallow in self-pity. So what. I'll quit feeling sorry for myself when something else comes along to take its place. I feel sorry for people that are happy all the time. Joy and happiness are all that more...
    rusted rusted 56-60, M 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Even I Dislike the Phrase

    Fortunately, I haven't been told that phrase nor have I said it to other people. I think the phrase itself has a thoughtless tone to it and could be said better, if the person wants to convey a sense of concern as well as a sense of urgency to those that are in depressing...
    Tummie Tummie 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    I wish people would learn to respect others and take others people feelings into consideration. Why do people have to be so mean to each other? This girl I used to be best...
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    Saying goodbye every weekend to my girlfriend who's in college kills me, it really does! I'm always so depressed after it
    Turtleisland97 Turtleisland97 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 6

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    Tough weekend. Still processing it all. Still very sad about it. Concerned for tomorrow. Too much quite. Too much thinking.
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F Nov 9

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    I absolutely hate being ignored. I put a LOT into my friendships and don't get anything in return. I'm kinda starting to feel like people could care less about me.... Super annoyed...
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    Is numbness same thing as the feeling of nothing at all? 'Numb' is too strong to explain how i am, i mean i still feel something... but that something comes with nothing. Like one...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 18-21, F Oct 25

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    I guess we may never speak again. I see you everyday. We haven't spoken in over a year. I still fall for you when I here your voice. You kept me alive for 3 years. I have told...
    MEGH0119 MEGH0119 13-15, F Nov 12

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    If u looked in the mirror 2day and cried, or some1 treated u like crap, I feel 4 u and I'm sorry that that happened. If ever any1 needs 2 talk, I'm here. Coz I know what it's like...
    theB1tchX theB1tchX 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 6

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    You know what would've been helpful? Telling me you loved me and that you'd always be there for me in my darkest hour instead of telling me "others have it worse". [Indirect]
    whyusteens whyusteens 13-15, F Oct 26

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    I just learned family members will talk down to you in a heart beat and disrespect you for no reason but I am done being stepped on.
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3

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    It's after midnight and I can't sleep... I have school tomorrow and a quiz and I need sleep. Not only is insomnia a *****, my knee is absolutely killing me. Not sure why as I haven...
    Sweetgirl120 Sweetgirl120 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 6

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    So tonight I have a party to go to. One of my mom's friends is getting married and her friends sister and I are super close (she lives far away and came to visit for this) and I...
    Sweetgirl120 Sweetgirl120 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    Some people **** me off because they always ask for help before at-least attempting things first. Not that everyone should be like me but how can you live life always relying on...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 22-25, F Nov 13

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    After realizing that I, alone, simply could not reverse the beliefs she stubbornly clung to, ... my offers to trust, reconcile and cooperate kept falling on deaf ears.... and no...
    Injoy1767 Injoy1767 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 23

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    Tho is where we say goodbye all the times we laughed together cried together and the only guy who actually beat up the guys that make me cry I'm going to miss you buddy I will...
    soccerislife14 soccerislife14 18-21, F Nov 4

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    It's like a weird phobia Whenever someone says goodbye I get really anxious and I start to get a little clingy like I will drag on the convo. I honestly have no idea why I'm like...