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I Hate When People Leave Without Saying Goodbye

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    When I say leave I mean leave your life.

    In the last two years I've had 5 people leave my life with no goodbye, no responses to any of my attempts to communicate. I haven't gotten any explanations as to why but I'm starting to think its me. I never had this problem until I moved to Chicago. I can't seem to keep anyone...
    bmo0 bmo0 26-30, M 2 Responses Oct 24, 2015

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    I know this is my third post on the subject

    but I still can't get over the nerve (or pure selfishness) of some people! When you've talked online with the same person online for hours every day for even just a few weeks, you get to where you really count on that person to make your life feel 'complete', and you feel you're...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 30, 2015

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    or when they leave the relationship

    and didn't tell you when or why.... they "leave" that to you to figure it all out!
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 20, 2015

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    Yeah, like what the ****?

    !? I'm I really that insignificant and unimportant to where you can't even bother to even say a simple "goodbye" or "see you later" :/
    hinatahyuga809 hinatahyuga809 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2015

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    I really do, you know?

    I had a really close friend of mine suddenly disappear without saying goodbye. I couldn't tell if she was angry with me about something or she just didn't want to deal with me anymore. All I knew, was that I truly loved her. I loved her more than anything. All I wanted was to...
    LovingChihiro LovingChihiro 18-21, M 5 Responses Aug 30, 2015

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    Haha you always said how youd be here

    for me. You told me every time we talked. And then u just leave like that right when i have the most **** going on. I hope youre happy you selfish ***** :) i hope someday you feel the pain ive felt so that you can know what you did to me by leaving. Try sitting in an empty house...
    PainIsPeace PainIsPeace 16-17, M Dec 3, 2015

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    I've done it before but I'm not going to do it

    again. I've learned my lesson...
    Drifter15 Drifter15 18-21, M Nov 30, 2015

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    so I'm saying goodbye.

    I'm deleting my account because I'm not really using it. and am starting to feel horrible that I got pregnant at 16 because of people on here, I want to keep my self esteem high, so I'm deleting this account! xx, aspen
    itsmeaspen itsmeaspen 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 28, 2015

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    I hate my life.. Nothing goes right.

    .. I just want to cry..
    Drifter15 Drifter15 18-21, M 5 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    ...and then drop by every

    once in a while to make you feel it. :(
    dabram71 dabram71 16-17, M 1 Response May 3, 2015

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    Yeah really : / Like I'm in the middle of

    talking to someone and then they disappear for 8 hours, then they come back and say "Sorry I was out". I was sitting here waiting for you to answer me forever, you could have just said bye. Am I right? Takes three seconds. -.- *totally annoyed*
    HeartOfWarrior HeartOfWarrior 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2015

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    Some one send me a message to me,

    and I tried to help him out because I am sincerely, care for his problems. I think, he got wrong idea for my suggestions. I helped other person before, so I was happy to help same situation in troubled person. that was problem with sexless marriage, and I understand the...
    Kosmos01 Kosmos01 56-60, F Nov 13, 2015

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    I hate myself for not saying goodbye to my mom

    before she died. The school always holds me back they refused me the afternoon off after I received a call saying she was taking a turn for the worse, I just wanted to go and see her at the hospital, when I got out of school, my dad told me she died that afternoon.
    ChloeJamesIsForever ChloeJamesIsForever 16-17, F Aug 1, 2015

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    Okay this just kinda ****** me off

    but if you want to stop being friends with someone and start afresh because you think that's the right thing to do for yourself and for your happiness and what not, by all means please do whatever it takes to be happy. BUT please when it comes to people like me don't just leave...
    hecknope hecknope 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2015

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    xtranger xtranger 22-25, M Oct 13, 2015

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    I do...it sorta hurts my feelings a little.

    ...So it is with great sadness that I tell all my EP peppers that....I will be leaving soon logging out....sorry, please try to hold you're heads high.... know you're lives will go on without me.....ROFLMAO.....Those of you that know me know that I will miss you more than you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 20 Responses Jun 8, 2015

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    I hate when you meet people on a social website

    like this and everything goes great at first. Then something happens totally out of your control and they get mad at you for whatever reason and want even come to you to discuss before they tuck their tail and block you or delete their account. I have had this happen so many...
    Jamestone73 Jamestone73 41-45, M 4 Responses May 12, 2015

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    Made a few good friends on EP.

    Am sad to see that one of them has disappeared from here. We messaged quite a bit and only spoke 2 days ago...disappointed that he didn't say goodbye.
    HonestAndHopeful HonestAndHopeful 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    If you leave without

    as much as a word, it shows that you hold me in very little regard. If you care about me at all, you should tell me why you want to leave. It hurts enough to be left in the first place, but it hurts even worse to not know why. I keep placing blame on myself and each time this...
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 3 Responses May 17, 2015

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    I'm so mad at you. You hurt me

    so bad I'm shaking with anger and hurt my heart is broken you didn't say goodbye or I love you. Who are you what happened to you.Why did you let demons eat your soul now you walk like them and you talk like them and you act like them and you look like them. You have no love in...
    Dxl24 Dxl24 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 29, 2015

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    I've had friends who left me forever

    and didn't even say why! :'(
    sensitiveemotionalteen13 sensitiveemotionalteen13 13-15, F 3 Responses Oct 26, 2015

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    I hate when people say they will stay in touch

    or still want to be friends, then you never hear from them again. You don't need to say that just to be nice. Be honest and say you want no further contact if that's really the case.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2015

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    You say you love me,

    yet you disappear without a word, without a good bye or good night. You always do your own things and never care about me. Why am I the one who has to do my best for us?
    Sakaii Sakaii 18-21, M Aug 30, 2015

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    I finally deleted you,

    you know? All that time & energy wasted on listening to your LIES. I think the reason you "disappeared" is because lies are simply too hard to keep up and you got tired. Since you, people have asked me why I can't take a compliment or why I react the way I do when they try to...
    MommaBella MommaBella 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2014

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    You know, I am tired of being alone.

    Or at least being alone in my head. I'm tired of staring at your Skype profile, internally screaming for you to call or text; for you to please, please change your mind. I'm tired of trying to find the reason you left , and knowing that I'll never get the definitive answer...
    dearalexe dearalexe 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2014

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    You have to say good bye

    because you never know when you'll see them again, and I always hug when I say goodbye :)
    youngadult18 youngadult18 18-21, M Aug 3, 2015

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    it is the worst thing ever.

    .. when people leave without saying goodbye... or just disappear from my life for no reason... about 10 years ago.. i had a friend.. and we had a strong relationship... one day she stopped calling... and when i tried to call her number.. the operator told me that this number is...
    kisslife2050 kisslife2050 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 9, 2015

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    If you're one of these pathetic people,

    don't even think about starting a dialog with me!
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 29, 2015

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    it's really pain when someone leave without

    saying goodbye... today I am saying her goodbye :(. I am praying for you spend a good life.
    bdhotuser bdhotuser 18-21, M Jan 8

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    So I was talking to this person I just met

    and I was starting to like talking to them and they just randomly leave and don't reply to me and I'm sitting like well then...
    Sniper3024 Sniper3024 13-15, M 1 Response Sep 30, 2015

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    Everyone in my life leaves without

    even thinking I'm worth saying goodbye to
    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 13, 2015

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    Especially when they're the one

    who tell us not to leave them but they leave us without a goodbye
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 21, 2015

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    It's some thing that happens a lot to me.

    . Though it may just be karma for what has happened in the past.
    NattyxBatty NattyxBatty 16-17, T 1 Response Dec 14, 2015

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    I don't think she'll ever know how much I think

    about her. Though you are not my last love, you were my first. I'll never forget you leaving, mostly as my friend. Can't even remember the last time we talked. I hear you're doing well. I don't know what happened. I don't know why you left, without saying goodbye
    JamesCarter20 JamesCarter20 18-21, T 1 Response Jan 8

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    You come back into my life

    when it really doesn't matter anymore. When the healing has taken place and resolve has harden the emotions... When the tears have all been poured out. When the sleepless nights have been overshadowed by new dreams.. When the unanswered questions have been answered by...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Nov 7, 2015

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    I know this is just another online realm,

    but common courtesy should still apply. After 3 months of consistent conversation with someone, just up and leaving is rude...even if we didn't know each other in the real world. a simple goodbye would have been suffice.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 20, 2015

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    The thing what my friend did with me.

    ...he told me we will talk later but never happens, about 6 months ago but he never talk...everyday he ignore me and when I start talking he says bye....that burn me..never know why?
    BlueWolf657 BlueWolf657 16-17, F Jan 24

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    I do... And for a second I get confused.

    Like... What did I do to deserve the absence of a proper goodbye, a proper hug? I thought we had a connection. I thought that there was something there between us. But there's another side to the spectrum that I must not ignore. I hate goodbyes. I don't even know how to...
    NaomiSunshineJourney NaomiSunshineJourney 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2015

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    Most of us have had it happen.

    Yet in my last experience with this, I did a little research on the mental disorder the person has...ticking time bomb! So it turned out to be good-riddance. Hope they get the help they so desperately need!
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 29, 2015

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    I was friends with a woman online

    for over 4 years.This was before most ppl used text messages,etc.we emailed each other almost every day.Then one day i messed up and told her that i felt attracted to her.She basically said she wasn't interested in that so i just apologized.Anyway about a month or so later the...
    usernameagain9 usernameagain9 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    I don't say goodbye, ever,

    until I am saying goodbye for good. Goodbye seems to finite to use for a simple salutation.
    joshypoookc joshypoookc 36-40, M Dec 6, 2015

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    I fell in love with my best friend.

    She had a lot of issues with herself but for me she was the perfect girl. There could be nothing about her that I would've changed. Have been in love with her for the last 7 years, been friends for more than 10.. She knew how I felt and she liked me as well, although we never...
    Neel11 Neel11 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 8

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    Just last summer my mother,

    my own flesh and blood, left. She just up and left. I had to find out the day before I was going to see her from a friend. She wasn't even going to tell me. When I confronted her she said it was in the name if love. My mom left me so she could find "love".
    IAmAPainfulTruth IAmAPainfulTruth 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2015

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    my soulmate joined a cult

    and hasnt talked to me in a year.we were best friends for .. 15 years. and now.. nothing.no reason why. no goodbye.it took me awhile to realize people come and go for numerous reasons.sometimes to get away from you. sometimes to keep you away from themselves.
    thegreatruiner thegreatruiner 70+, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2015

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    there's a guy who says he loves me

    even though we met and have been together for just a short period of time. everyday that we're talking it feels like I'm slowly loving him too though the situation is complicated bcoz I have a boyfriend whilr he has special someone too. as days goes by, he told me that he left...
    krishamae20 krishamae20 18-21, F Dec 4, 2015

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