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I Hate When People Only Talk To Me When They Need Something

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    Oh it's awful. Like if you're never going to

    talk to me except for a few times to ask for something why bother? Like especially if they have tons of other friends and they talk to them all the time and stuff, but they only come to you when they need something. It's ridiculous. It's like, ask your actual friends, don't come...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2015

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    you think I'm your sex toy .

    . because of the stuff I did when I was single ... now that I have a boyfriend and they talk crap to you ... because of the pics of your penis you sent me when no one asked for them or the conversation You started when no one thought about you ..... you wanna get mad at me after...
    2tall4heels 2tall4heels 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2015

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    Same with me. My brother tends to never speak

    to me unless he needs money. Not too long ago I called him out on this. He got mad and told me that not every conversation is about money. He got very angry and was trying to make me feel bad about thinking he was again asking for money. Within a day of this conversation, he...
    Ladams19 Ladams19 41-45, M Jul 30, 2015

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    I despise these individuals.

    I have many "friends" but as time passes there are these that pop up from time to time. I guess you can say that I'm an approachable person but it would be nice for people just to come up me to just chat or have some type of activity together. I do have friends that do...
    s3gur0 s3gur0 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 19, 2014

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    And Now That I'm No Longer Useful To People...

    ...Suddenly I've lost every last person I could vaguely have called a friend in the real world. One thing I've learned. being nice and being there for people invariably means you'll get walked all over. Plus if it's OK for "life" to be a *****, then I guess it's OK for me too...
    rachelx86 rachelx86 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    My So Called Friends

    I hate when my "friends" come to me for money because they know I have some since I work at it. When they don't need money, they don't talk to me much. I don't give them much but I guess they always ask since they think I will have a change of heart and give money. One finally...
    reset reset 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2012

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    I feel invisible . I'm only remembered

    when something is needed . It's so sad and I'm so over it .
    Goodlifegirl Goodlifegirl 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14, 2014

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    My so called "friend" at my old school would

    only hang out with me when she needed something done for her or helped with and I was stupid enough to keep helping her.
    sketch4life sketch4life 13-15, F Nov 12, 2015

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    katephipps19947 katephipps19947 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    Especially when you need something

    or someone to help you and your showing it but all they care is about themselves and the pain they are going... But I guess I'm that type of person who would bottle up my own feelings for the sake of my family and friends, but still I'm not a container of sustainable energy who...
    Kblue99 Kblue99 16-17, F May 19, 2014

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    My assessment of your request.

    .. maybe spend a little more time asking about how I'm doing, what's going on with my life, etc. before getting to the point of you initiating contact - whether it is possible to use my staff benefits to access the recreational club swimming pool for free. Your fakeness grade: D...
    sophiebelle27 sophiebelle27 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2015

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    Yes I've had few friends

    and they actually came to my house out of nowhere after few years and blabber stories and expect me to help them out... Guess what I'm not gonna fall for that ever... Gladly I've send them away - they didn't even started the convo's with "hi how are you?" That's low
    PompeyLd87 PompeyLd87 26-30, F Aug 4, 2014

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    Fred363 Fred363 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    My friends talk to me

    when she has problems, or broken heart. My uncle called me only if he needed me to help with his ministry, or need me to buy this and that for his family. My aunts called me when she needed me to babysit her daughter. My other friends called me cuz they didn't have anyone left...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 10, 2015

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    I'm so tired of this guy walking in

    and out of my kids and I life he only contracts me when he has no one
    stiffanygonzalez stiffanygonzalez 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 24, 2015

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    I'm not E harmony ..

    . I'm not zoosk.... im Match. com I'm not any dating site so don't use me to find a lady that don't want your horny *** then say I made a fake account when she blocks you
    2tall4heels 2tall4heels 18-21, F Mar 8, 2015

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    People who talk to me only

    when they need to talk to someone. I'm all for listening to my friends vent but not ONLY for that. I'm not a therapist, nor do I plan on being a therapist. If you're only keeping me around for that reason then don't bother keeping me around. I know and I get it. People have...
    BellsproutDigsIt BellsproutDigsIt 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 10, 2014

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    Happened to me today.

    My friend sends me a message about how she needs me to print something for her for registration and that she'll get it when she comes over to swim. She literally told me to print something for her and invited herself over to swim on Saturday. Too bad I'm busy Saturday and I...
    secrets1can2be3told secrets1can2be3told 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Story of my life. But now

    if they need me, I'm not there. It's only fair since they weren't around when I actually needed them.
    theotherusernamesweretaken theotherusernamesweretaken 26-30, M Jul 30, 2015

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    I think relationships of any kind should be

    50/50. That is all I have to say on this matter.
    ThatOneGemini ThatOneGemini 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 31, 2015

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    my 30 year old stepdaughter will call me a *****

    and attack me viciously on facebook and to her family and then turn around and ask me how am i and tell me how she is going to name me as godmother to one of her wild, unkempt beasts. then she will ask for money...... i felt sorry for her at times but i am finished. i broke my...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F Aug 29, 2015

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    Whole time I'm there

    but now all of a sudden the mystical Jamel comes from nowhere with glowing lights just for you to ask for a f****** pencil f*** you honestly you did not know I was still hee all the time just because you're catching hell you need me now
    JamOnly JamOnly 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 7, 2015

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    I hate people who pretend to be nice

    and friendly only when they need something from me. I was naive before but now I know how to say NO. I am pretty blunt about it now and it hurts their stupid ego but that's what they're going to get for trying to manipulate me.
    PorcelainRose85 PorcelainRose85 26-30, F Jun 19, 2014

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    A Call Away, A Call You Say

    I know that in some way, shape and or form Im wanted. If it were for other reasons then Im sure this whole "lonelyness" thing would clear up, like someone wiping the smudge off of dirty glasses. At least you call when you need something..at least there is that. If I had to make a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 11, 2013

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    i can't stand when people need me

    for something and i never here from them after doing what they want im a babysitter and im getting sick of it
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 29, 2015

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    Happens all the time.

    I'm constantly there for people when they need me. I'm a great friend and listen to them repeat themselves over and over and never complain. But when I need them they avoid me and just don't care.
    tvdlover1865 tvdlover1865 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2015

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    Users Are Incredibly Nice

    OMG these people are absolutely amazing when they require something from you. They will drop in a few compliments to ease you up before they go for it. It is heartbreaking when you finally realise that you have a user in your circle of friends but it is better than not knowing at...
    ImperfectionsMakeUsUnique ImperfectionsMakeUsUnique 22-25, F Aug 20, 2012

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    I hate my sisters!! I had accept the fact

    that they never cared about me I should have known people like them are toxic and unhealthy They alwAys mulipated me thinking i was mean every time i stood up for myself They never took the time to even see if i was ever ok never took the time to get to know there own nephews...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F Jun 23, 2014

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    that depends on my relationship with the person.

    If we're friends or relatives but they only contact me when they need something,and usually let me down when I need them to do something for me then I'd feel really bad and would just walk away from them.I excell at walking away However,if we're mere aquintances or classmates,I...
    samy666 samy666 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 30, 2015

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    Seriously the hardest thing to just try

    and cut these selfish people from my life. Then I'm left friendless, and in a small town is it so awkward to try and make new friends as a 21 year old.. As a kid you just walk up to someone and say, "hey I like goldfish too! lets be bffs!" Wtf adulthood..
    katieann09 katieann09 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2015

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    The thing is, I'll never resist talking to

    someone if they need help (as long as they're not a danger to me). It just hurts how they're usually all gone whenever they don't need help anymore. I know that's all I'm worth, though. There's only one person who I fully trust. She's a blessing in my life. I still feel stupid...
    Whobody Whobody 18-21, M Aug 2, 2015

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    I feel like the people I've surrounded myself

    with only want to interact with me when they need something, be it an outlet for venting, or some favor, or money. I don't think they even realize they're doing it, but when I scroll back through our messaging conversations or think back on verbal conversations we've had, I can...
    Breizh Breizh 22-25, F 1 Response May 7, 2014

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    I hate it like I'm a nice person

    but I just hate when people just talk to you because they want something, or they want to be around you because you have something they want....
    talaunanna talaunanna 16-17, F Jul 31, 2015

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    The Worst!!

    The worst is when someone sort of talks to you when it's convenient, and then when they get a boyfriend/girlfriend, they forget you ever existed. Then eventually, when bf/gf dumps them, they suddenly blow your phone up and want you to be consummately there for them, calling you...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    It really does hurt. Especially the ones where you've talked nearly every day for months on end and they all of a sudden leave. You learn to get through it and you dont let it...
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    My brothers friend was mad at me for not having sex with him at the park while we were all playing hide and seek so he told me that's it's lame how my parents control me and I'm a...
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    One of my EP pet peeves. Not one message is exchanged between us. I've never heard of you by way of your posts. I've never answered a question of yours and you've never commented...
    GraesSparrow GraesSparrow 51-55, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Why you can't let me be myself if you don't love me I guess I stay alone and be hateful to people.
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