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I Hate When People Only Talk To Me When They Need Something

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    I'm not E harmony ..

    . I'm not zoosk.... im Match. com I'm not any dating site so don't use me to find a lady that don't want your horny *** then say I made a fake account when she blocks you
    2tall4heels 2tall4heels 18-21, F Mar 8

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    Happened to me today.

    My friend sends me a message about how she needs me to print something for her for registration and that she'll get it when she comes over to swim. She literally told me to print something for her and invited herself over to swim on Saturday. Too bad I'm busy Saturday and I...
    secrets1can2be3told secrets1can2be3told 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    i can't stand when people need me

    for something and i never here from them after doing what they want im a babysitter and im getting sick of it
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 29

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    Fred363 Fred363 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    I hate my sisters!! I had accept the fact

    that they never cared about me I should have known people like them are toxic and unhealthy They alwAys mulipated me thinking i was mean every time i stood up for myself They never took the time to even see if i was ever ok never took the time to get to know there own nephews...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F Jun 23, 2014

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    My friends talk to me

    when she has problems, or broken heart. My uncle called me only if he needed me to help with his ministry, or need me to buy this and that for his family. My aunts called me when she needed me to babysit her daughter. My other friends called me cuz they didn't have anyone left...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 10

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    I'm so tired of this guy walking in

    and out of my kids and I life he only contracts me when he has no one
    stiffanygonzalez stiffanygonzalez 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 24

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    I feel like the people I've surrounded myself

    with only want to interact with me when they need something, be it an outlet for venting, or some favor, or money. I don't think they even realize they're doing it, but when I scroll back through our messaging conversations or think back on verbal conversations we've had, I can...
    Breizh Breizh 22-25, F 1 Response May 7, 2014

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    Users Are Incredibly Nice

    OMG these people are absolutely amazing when they require something from you. They will drop in a few compliments to ease you up before they go for it. It is heartbreaking when you finally realise that you have a user in your circle of friends but it is better than not knowing at...
    ImperfectionsMakeUsUnique ImperfectionsMakeUsUnique 22-25, F Aug 20, 2012

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    I hate it like I'm a nice person

    but I just hate when people just talk to you because they want something, or they want to be around you because you have something they want....
    talaunanna talaunanna 16-17, F Jul 31

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    Converted Converted 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 22

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    Oh it's awful. Like if you're never going to

    talk to me except for a few times to ask for something why bother? Like especially if they have tons of other friends and they talk to them all the time and stuff, but they only come to you when they need something. It's ridiculous. It's like, ask your actual friends, don't come...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    Especially when you need something

    or someone to help you and your showing it but all they care is about themselves and the pain they are going... But I guess I'm that type of person who would bottle up my own feelings for the sake of my family and friends, but still I'm not a container of sustainable energy who...
    Kblue99 Kblue99 16-17, F May 19, 2014

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    Im Used

    When people message me i know its for me to give them something and always !
    earlyboii earlyboii 16-17, M May 17, 2013

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    my 30 year old stepdaughter will call me a *****

    and attack me viciously on facebook and to her family and then turn around and ask me how am i and tell me how she is going to name me as godmother to one of her wild, unkempt beasts. then she will ask for money...... i felt sorry for her at times but i am finished. i broke my...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Whole time I'm there

    but now all of a sudden the mystical Jamel comes from nowhere with glowing lights just for you to ask for a f****** pencil f*** you honestly you did not know I was still hee all the time just because you're catching hell you need me now
    JamOnly JamOnly 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 7

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    Same with me. My brother tends to never speak

    to me unless he needs money. Not too long ago I called him out on this. He got mad and told me that not every conversation is about money. He got very angry and was trying to make me feel bad about thinking he was again asking for money. Within a day of this conversation, he...
    Ladams19 Ladams19 41-45, M Jul 30

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    I think relationships of any kind should be

    50/50. That is all I have to say on this matter.
    ThatOneGemini ThatOneGemini 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 31

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    I despise these individuals.

    I have many "friends" but as time passes there are these that pop up from time to time. I guess you can say that I'm an approachable person but it would be nice for people just to come up me to just chat or have some type of activity together. I do have friends that do...
    s3gur0 s3gur0 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 19, 2014

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    People who talk to me only

    when they need to talk to someone. I'm all for listening to my friends vent but not ONLY for that. I'm not a therapist, nor do I plan on being a therapist. If you're only keeping me around for that reason then don't bother keeping me around. I know and I get it. People have...
    BellsproutDigsIt BellsproutDigsIt 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 10, 2014

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    Story of my life. But now

    if they need me, I'm not there. It's only fair since they weren't around when I actually needed them.
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M Jul 30

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    And Now That I'm No Longer Useful To People...

    ...Suddenly I've lost every last person I could vaguely have called a friend in the real world. One thing I've learned. being nice and being there for people invariably means you'll get walked all over. Plus if it's OK for "life" to be a *****, then I guess it's OK for me too...
    rachelx86 rachelx86 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    The Worst!!

    The worst is when someone sort of talks to you when it's convenient, and then when they get a boyfriend/girlfriend, they forget you ever existed. Then eventually, when bf/gf dumps them, they suddenly blow your phone up and want you to be consummately there for them, calling you...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    The thing is, I'll never resist talking to

    someone if they need help (as long as they're not a danger to me). It just hurts how they're usually all gone whenever they don't need help anymore. I know that's all I'm worth, though. There's only one person who I fully trust. She's a blessing in my life. I still feel stupid...
    Whobody Whobody 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 2

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    Yes I've had few friends

    and they actually came to my house out of nowhere after few years and blabber stories and expect me to help them out... Guess what I'm not gonna fall for that ever... Gladly I've send them away - they didn't even started the convo's with "hi how are you?" That's low
    PompeyLd87 PompeyLd87 26-30, F Aug 4, 2014

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    that depends on my relationship with the person.

    If we're friends or relatives but they only contact me when they need something,and usually let me down when I need them to do something for me then I'd feel really bad and would just walk away from them.I excell at walking away However,if we're mere aquintances or classmates,I...
    samy666 samy666 18-21, F Jul 30

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    Happens all the time.

    I'm constantly there for people when they need me. I'm a great friend and listen to them repeat themselves over and over and never complain. But when I need them they avoid me and just don't care.
    tvdlover1865 tvdlover1865 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 24

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    Seriously the hardest thing to just try

    and cut these selfish people from my life. Then I'm left friendless, and in a small town is it so awkward to try and make new friends as a 21 year old.. As a kid you just walk up to someone and say, "hey I like goldfish too! lets be bffs!" Wtf adulthood..
    katieann09 katieann09 22-25, F Feb 25

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    Another Shot Of Jack

    I hope this song can help someone
    cookbab cookbab 61-65, M Jan 17, 2013

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    My So Called Friends

    I hate when my "friends" come to me for money because they know I have some since I work at it. When they don't need money, they don't talk to me much. I don't give them much but I guess they always ask since they think I will have a change of heart and give money. One finally...
    reset reset 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2012

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    you think I'm your sex toy .

    . because of the stuff I did when I was single ... now that I have a boyfriend and they talk crap to you ... because of the pics of your penis you sent me when no one asked for them or the conversation You started when no one thought about you ..... you wanna get mad at me after...
    2tall4heels 2tall4heels 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    I feel invisible . I'm only remembered

    when something is needed . It's so sad and I'm so over it .
    Goodlifegirl Goodlifegirl 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14, 2014

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    A Call Away, A Call You Say

    I know that in some way, shape and or form Im wanted. If it were for other reasons then Im sure this whole "lonelyness" thing would clear up, like someone wiping the smudge off of dirty glasses. At least you call when you need something..at least there is that. If I had to make a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 11, 2013

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    I hate people who pretend to be nice

    and friendly only when they need something from me. I was naive before but now I know how to say NO. I am pretty blunt about it now and it hurts their stupid ego but that's what they're going to get for trying to manipulate me.
    PorcelainRose85 PorcelainRose85 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2014

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    I really do, you know? I had a really close friend of mine suddenly disappear without saying goodbye. I couldn't tell if she was angry with me about something or she just didn't...
    LovingChihiro LovingChihiro 18-21, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I know this is my third post on the subject but I still can't get over the nerve (or pure selfishness) of some people! When you've talked online with the same person online for...
    DaddyBear214 DaddyBear214 56-60, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I was at a local fair today and I see an older brother, probably 10, dragging his unruly brother, maybe 6, to his dad because he was misbehaving. The dad, who was talking to a...
    Emergingsoul Emergingsoul 36-40, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm so mad at you. You hurt me so bad I'm shaking with anger and hurt my heart is broken you didn't say goodbye or I love you. Who are you what happened to you.Why did you let...
    Dxl24 Dxl24 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    If you're one of these pathetic people, don't even think about starting a dialog with me!
    DaddyBear214 DaddyBear214 56-60, M 2 days ago

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    Most of us have had it happen. Yet in my last experience with this, I did a little research on the mental disorder the person has...ticking time bomb! So it turned out to be good...
    DaddyBear214 DaddyBear214 56-60, M 2 days ago

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    Seriously. I'm having a nice conversation with someone, and suddenly they stop talking to me. It happens all the time. Like, did I say something wrong? Am I boring? What is it? I...
    Spyro93 Spyro93 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Definitely agree. Some teen mom's are much better than an older mom. But the things that come out of the nonsupporters' mouth is ridicuolous, like you are talking to another person...
    ModifiedMamaofTwo ModifiedMamaofTwo 18-21, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    What the hell do I do? My parents are both unreliable, and are putting me in a bad position. I lived with my father up until 8 months ago, as he was abusive, pulling me around my...
    Emigirl7 Emigirl7 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It happens a lot to me, because I hate being serious or showing off what I know all the time, I find it extremely boring and I mean no offense but I find it quite boring in other...
    RubyGirll RubyGirll 36-40, T 1 Response 4 days ago