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I Have a Boring Unfulfilling Marriage

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    An Available Saturday Evening

    How can it be that i have an empty day...no cleaning left to do, had sex with him early this morning to start him on a good day, sent the kids to grandmas' for the night and what is HE doing?....in bed sleeping! No dinner plans, no suggestions offered for a fun filled adult...
    syahyah syahyah 41-45 7 Responses Jan 24, 2009

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    Bedtime Is Boring...

    I want mind-blowing sex. I give it... Why can't I get it? I was born to be a lover but my wife is so content with vanilla stuff... I want to go for hours and be the object of affections... I don't want to wait until midnight to get in bed. I want to go to bed at nine...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 23, 2013

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    My Escape!

    I can't tell you how it all began. It all happened so fast. One minute I see an Ad on Craigslist askign to write about your fantasies. It was a sad post to be honest Just some poor lonely guy looking to spice up his boring marriage by reading the fantasies of women in the world...
    escapingthecloset escapingthecloset 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 1, 2009

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    I Flirt With Married Women

    i guess i just woke up one day and finally realized... "i'm responsible for my own happiness." i was depending on my wife for conversation, for kind words, for pleasantries and meaningful interactions... so to hell with that! i flirt with ladies now... everywhere...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I've been away on a business trip the last two

    days and return tomorrow night. My wife is terrified at home that I am cheating on her... I suppose her concerns are justified since we openly acknowledged to each other that I am not getting from her what I need and crave, and that I will die never knowing. Add to that...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I Have A Boring Unfulfilling Marriage...

    My marriage wasn't always boring and unfulfilling. I think it began about 20 years ago when my husband and I relocated from the east coast of Canada to live on the west coast. At first it was great just getting away from both families, because there were times when they just...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 4 Responses Aug 17, 2013

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    No Where To Turn

    Have been married for 24 years and the last 5 have not been good. We have 2 children 19 and 16. My issues differ from my wife's. I just don't feel for her like I used to. Our sex life is pretty much non existent and boring. Lucky if its once a month, and its not because of me. We...
    silver250017 silver250017 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 13, 2011

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    My Wife Is Gone A Lot

    My wife can hardly say no at work. She agrees to additional work above and beyond the scope of her responsibilities very easily. The additional tasking translates into more hours away from me and our two children, as well as stress that she brings home. Not only does it...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2013

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    "I Need More Time"

    So... I mostly saved myself for marriage. I had big ideas that my one-day wife would appreciate that and think that I was a better man for it. I figured that my soulmate would answer all of my questions and explore the incredibly exciting world of sexuality with me. I...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 4 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 9 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    I've finally very courageously laid all our problems out and asked him for separation. I let him know there's something wrong when you and I have not been intimate in over 4 years...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 3

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    When I was innocent, I always told myself that I would never have sex until marriage but that changed. I changed. And because of that change, I began to do things I should have not...
    NaNaJene NaNaJene 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    Hi! I'm an area Seattle photographer who loves to bring out the entertaining and wonder in people. I have been a marriage and portrait photographer for more than five years...
    Michael749y5lj9 Michael749y5lj9 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their spouse, and then was able to fall in love again and have a happy marriage?
    Amiramae Amiramae 22-25, F Aug 26

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    I don't regret my decision to have sex before marriage. I was 17 and he was 19. It wasn't with the ideal person, and it wasn't great either, but I changed from that experience.
    thoughtfulgirl thoughtfulgirl 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 27

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I will try to describe my sexless marriage. We have been together for a long time. We met in high school and were each others first lovers. Both of us were shy and insecure and...
    Amaaj Amaaj 46-50, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Wish I could believe- my heavens he is really trying to be a better husband but he also watches me all the time. He has even taken over my office and works on his laptop from...
    peaceseeker09 peaceseeker09 46-50, F 12 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I am against the demand in girls marriage by Inlawas.....very bad!!
    gautamkeshu94 gautamkeshu94 18-21, M 5 hrs ago

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 26

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    I am a newlywed (married 11 months) and have a beautiful one month old daughter with my husband. While I was a little overwhelmed with all the huge changes in my life (getting...
    aubz88 aubz88 26-30, F 11 hrs ago

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    How do guys really feel when your wife tells you "I think the reason we have unexplained infertility is that we don't have sex often enough"? It's been more than 2 months since...
    surfiehall surfiehall 31-35, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    This apartment complicated is located in Nerja, lying amidst the wealthy lifestyle and heritage of this amazing region. The complex is situated just one km clear of the beach. The...
    Temple2516ja Temple2516ja 31-35, M 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    It's as if I don't exist sometimes... I'm only engaged with when it comes to paying a bill of some sort or a gift that's she wants, then it's become almost sleazy the way she tries...
    blackmaster77 blackmaster77 70+, M 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Saying someone can't get married because of what you think is like telling someone they can't have a donut because you're on a diet.
    HandsomePrince1 HandsomePrince1 16-17, M 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    First off, I always thought I was the only man going through this until I saw this group. From what I see it is on both sides of the sexes. Mine began about 10 years ago after my...
    Tonycamaro Tonycamaro 41-45, M 7 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Well I must be a complete moron. I desperately tried and failed at being intimate with my husband to only be met with rejection. This time it hurt more than usual I guess because...
    RavenV180 RavenV180 36-40, F 5 Responses 57 mins ago

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    Ok friends, I took Meta's advise and put up a match.com profile. I am not having sex with anyone but my MM and this is not healthy for me (thank you Meta for getting me to think...
    HAR1978 HAR1978 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    Life is so damn boring! I'm not saying i want to die (though i'd be lying if i said that thought has never crossed my mind) but rather that, well... life really is boring. I love...
    michael9666 michael9666 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 3

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    Yes, I'm boring!!! Do you know how I know? I get this message alot Hi, I saw your profile and I think you're a really interesting person. Ooo I have a confession, I' m...
    LivvieDestroyerofSocks LivvieDestroyerofSocks 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 11

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    Spice it up a bit, dude! I hate boring conversations. It is not hard to avoid them, but it is not entirely easy either.
    JAD01 JAD01 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    And i don't actually. But sometimes that can get boring, too.
    stonedalone stonedalone 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    The first day of school was boring asl like none off my squad was there like df anw I hope some if them are there tomorrow.
    ThaQueen1 ThaQueen1 18-21, F Sep 2

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    I am boring haha I et up I go to work and I come home... plag abit of xbox try get people to talk on my social apps and sit here on EP for ab it before I go to bed and repeat. I...
    surfdas surfdas 22-25, M Sep 6

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    If you can't maintain a simple conversation over EP, I will presume you are extremely boring and continue with my life. Its takes two to chat.
    Prevaricator Prevaricator 16-17 1 Response Sep 8

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    Listening to a woman during a boring conversation will normally end with "Ahem! My eyes are up here! ;)
    Jpfunjunky Jpfunjunky 31-35, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    I have online social anxiety. Honestly, talking is easy for me, I can do it for hours (though some people might get bored and weirded out by me), but when I'm online, my SA makes...
    justicehero justicehero 18-21, M Sep 5

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 21 Responses 4 days ago

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    I know this is very sad to say but I don't believe in true love or marriages anymore. It is because of the kind of marriage I'm in currently. I used to think when I get married it...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    Being Perfect - One commonality I've discerned among our Refusers is their firm belief that there is nothing wrong with them ("them" being people who avoid having sex with their...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Sep 8

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8