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I Have a Boring Unfulfilling Marriage

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    Bedtime Is Boring...

    I want mind-blowing sex. I give it... Why can't I get it? I was born to be a lover but my wife is so content with vanilla stuff... I want to go for hours and be the object of affections... I don't want to wait until midnight to get in bed. I want to go to bed at nine...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 23, 2013

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    My Wife Is Gone A Lot

    My wife can hardly say no at work. She agrees to additional work above and beyond the scope of her responsibilities very easily. The additional tasking translates into more hours away from me and our two children, as well as stress that she brings home. Not only does it...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2013

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    My Escape!

    I can't tell you how it all began. It all happened so fast. One minute I see an Ad on Craigslist askign to write about your fantasies. It was a sad post to be honest Just some poor lonely guy looking to spice up his boring marriage by reading the fantasies of women in the world...
    escapingthecloset escapingthecloset 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 1, 2009

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    I Flirt With Married Women

    i guess i just woke up one day and finally realized... "i'm responsible for my own happiness." i was depending on my wife for conversation, for kind words, for pleasantries and meaningful interactions... so to hell with that! i flirt with ladies now... everywhere...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    No Where To Turn

    Have been married for 24 years and the last 5 have not been good. We have 2 children 19 and 16. My issues differ from my wife's. I just don't feel for her like I used to. Our sex life is pretty much non existent and boring. Lucky if its once a month, and its not because of me. We...
    silver250017 silver250017 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 13, 2011

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    I Have A Boring Unfulfilling Marriage...

    My marriage wasn't always boring and unfulfilling. I think it began about 20 years ago when my husband and I relocated from the east coast of Canada to live on the west coast. At first it was great just getting away from both families, because there were times when they just...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 4 Responses Aug 17, 2013

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    An Available Saturday Evening

    How can it be that i have an empty day...no cleaning left to do, had sex with him early this morning to start him on a good day, sent the kids to grandmas' for the night and what is HE doing?....in bed sleeping! No dinner plans, no suggestions offered for a fun filled adult...
    syahyah syahyah 41-45 7 Responses Jan 24, 2009

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    I've been away on a business trip the last two

    days and return tomorrow night. My wife is terrified at home that I am cheating on her... I suppose her concerns are justified since we openly acknowledged to each other that I am not getting from her what I need and crave, and that I will die never knowing. Add to that...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 15

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    "I Need More Time"

    So... I mostly saved myself for marriage. I had big ideas that my one-day wife would appreciate that and think that I was a better man for it. I figured that my soulmate would answer all of my questions and explore the incredibly exciting world of sexuality with me. I...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 4 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Just because I flirt a little bit doesn't mean I am not happy. I'm actually crazy happy, and part of that happiness comes from the fact that he's OK with how I behave - and trusts...
    pinkcorsetgirl pinkcorsetgirl 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 11 Responses Jul 30

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    I was diagnosed about 5 years ago after attempting suicide. I went through DBT therapy and worked hard to "fix" myself. I manage life so much better now. It doesn't even feel like...
    jennaporter jennaporter 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I've been married for almost one year and we've fought before the marriage and after marriage countless times. We've spent 8 years together and the last 5 years was amazing and now...
    qoep qoep 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 4

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    My wife and I love each other but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 15 Responses Aug 13

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    I know the feeling, well I shared my story on the other page but I would very glad to shared it on this forum. I have been in marriage for 5 years and last time my husband and I...
    MsLucky MsLucky 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 4

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    "I don't like me. I also, despite my outward persona, think I am the most important to ever breathe air." I read this on a blog. It resonated with me, maybe it will resonate...
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 6

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    My wife and I love each other but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 13

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    Hi! I'm an area Seattle photographer who loves to bring out the entertaining and wonder in people. I have been a marriage and portrait photographer for more than five years...
    Michael749y5lj9 Michael749y5lj9 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their spouse, and then was able to fall in love again and have a happy marriage?
    Amiramae Amiramae 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I don't regret my decision to have sex before marriage. I was 17 and he was 19. It wasn't with the ideal person, and it wasn't great either, but I changed from that experience.
    thoughtfulgirl thoughtfulgirl 18-21, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have dated across the a rainbow of colors and nationalities. I'm African-American married (and divorced) an Irish Catholic American. I have two children who are very proud of...
    hazelarcher hazelarcher 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2

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    Def gonna have an interracial marriage love love love
    angieloveee angieloveee 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    I was thinking about my decision to have sex before marriage -- which obviously didn't happen, lol. Anyway, I have always had a youthful spirit. As mentioned previously, I closed...
    aepteewS aepteewS 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I am so exhausted from the roller coaster. Not enough sex, talk to my husband about it. Fights and tries to blame me so make whatever changes but ultimately promises it will get...
    newdaynewway newdaynewway 46-50, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    As a guy it is difficult to wait because we have a biological predisposition to mate often, but society says that's bad. Before the concept of marriage, our species did what it...
    iDispense iDispense 36-40, M 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I am just looking to vent a little bit here. I've been married for 20 years. It's been 20 years of pretty awful. My husband doesn't have conversations with me and we haven't been...
    endjoy1994 endjoy1994 36-40, F 6 hrs ago

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    I wanna travel the world. First stop: Paris, France. Mostly because I'm in my first year of French and by the 4th year, I will hopefully be fluent in the language. Also, I think...
    MiniMe57 MiniMe57 13-15, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I did not wait until marriage to have sex and get pregnant too. I was very sexually active in high school and in college.
    brunettemom brunettemom 41-45, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Yeah, but I barely use it. Not much to share in my life. I'll probably delete it. #boringpatheticlife
    NeelraDorianGray NeelraDorianGray 31-35, F 8 hrs ago

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 4 days ago

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    So here it goes I've been married for 20 yrs and the last 5 have been so lonely once to the point of suicide it's so heartbreaking that the man I love won't touch me or kiss me...
    RavenV180 RavenV180 36-40, F 4 Responses 40 mins ago

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    I'm a 41 year old Irish male living in London. I was diagnosed with AS in 1989 when I was 16 years old. My 20s and early 30s were really bad with constant pain, fatigue and...
    Yossarian73 Yossarian73 41-45, M Aug 12

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    So, I just realized a week ago, that my marriage of 24 years is abusive. I feel so stupid for not owning up to this before. My spouse has gotten physical on at least ten...
    dpwm9dpw dpwm9dpw 41-45, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I left my marriage because the electricity and magnetism between us was so strong...it started 4 years ago and I just can't quit! He's totally "unacceptable" to my family and...
    ashleysuzanne127 ashleysuzanne127 46-50, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    Okay, so after several arfairs on both our parts, and me getting on some meds for mental health, me and my wife decided to give it a serious try and save our 10 yr mariage. Foor...
    Rednkfireftr Rednkfireftr 31-35, M 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I've tried being a good husband I understand I'm unemployed and in waiting on disability from the state and the veterans administration and right now she is paying for most of the...
    williammac williammac 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 9

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    Ok friends, I took Meta's advise and put up a match.com profile. I am not having sex with anyone but my MM and this is not healthy for me (thank you Meta for getting me to think...
    HAR1978 HAR1978 46-50, F 10 Responses Aug 21

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    I am back in 'our' appartment. I have three younger siblings to keep company and help with the packing. I was expecting to be somewhat emotionaly distraught. Packing and leaving...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Last night my father in law (lives with us in the front wing of our house) had my wife and daughter come in the room. In order to keep this story short I am going to give you the...
    NHotH2O NHotH2O 46-50, M 12 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Last night was the first night in a long time that I sobbed over my situation. I laid in bed thinking what I would write in a suicide note. It was just too much emotionally to deal...
    dyingalittleeveryday dyingalittleeveryday 41-45, F 16 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    The lord is close to the brokenhearted. He saves those whose spirits have been crushed. Psalm 34:18
    Pierce7891 Pierce7891 16-17, F 5 hrs ago

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    The lord is close to the brokenhearted. He saves those whose spirits have been crushed. Psalm 34:18
    Pierce7891 Pierce7891 16-17, F 5 hrs ago

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    Pity Party - On Saturday night, I posted a very sad update on my state of mind - which I deleted the next day. I want to thank all of you who responded to that post, as your...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 25 Responses Aug 4

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    People have said to me I'm only young how can my life be boring...here's the answer my life can be boring by your friends living in the town 10 miles away with mk transport into...
    Daisyellenrose Daisyellenrose 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 7

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    I'm not as immature as to say "I hate boring people", but I want to raise some awareness and give some advice to those that do often revert to such common, generalised and...
    logix92 logix92 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 13

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    I am writing my experience here because I can't do it anywhere else without family and friends thinking I'm being "negative" and generally not being interested or even getting...
    SeaweedEater SeaweedEater 22-25 Aug 15

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    “Why should I, as a gay man, be denied the same right to file a joint tax return with my potential husband that a straight couple has?” Very helpful answer by Ryan T. Anderson...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    This place is full of people who make me want to take a nap and quite frankly never wake up. Sharing experiences.... How can you be against something you have never tried. How can...
    nochurchinthewild nochurchinthewild 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 9