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I Have a Boring Unfulfilling Marriage

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    Bedtime Is Boring...

    I want mind-blowing sex. I give it... Why can't I get it? I was born to be a lover but my wife is so content with vanilla stuff... I want to go for hours and be the object of affections... I don't want to wait until midnight to get in bed. I want to go to bed at nine...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 23, 2013

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    I Have A Boring Unfulfilling Marriage...

    My marriage wasn't always boring and unfulfilling. I think it began about 20 years ago when my husband and I relocated from the east coast of Canada to live on the west coast. At first it was great just getting away from both families, because there were times when they just...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 4 Responses Aug 17, 2013

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    No Where To Turn

    Have been married for 24 years and the last 5 have not been good. We have 2 children 19 and 16. My issues differ from my wife's. I just don't feel for her like I used to. Our sex life is pretty much non existent and boring. Lucky if its once a month, and its not because of me. We...
    silver250017 silver250017 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 13, 2011

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    I've been away on a business trip the last two

    days and return tomorrow night. My wife is terrified at home that I am cheating on her... I suppose her concerns are justified since we openly acknowledged to each other that I am not getting from her what I need and crave, and that I will die never knowing. Add to that...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I Flirt With Married Women

    i guess i just woke up one day and finally realized... "i'm responsible for my own happiness." i was depending on my wife for conversation, for kind words, for pleasantries and meaningful interactions... so to hell with that! i flirt with ladies now... everywhere...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    My Wife Is Gone A Lot

    My wife can hardly say no at work. She agrees to additional work above and beyond the scope of her responsibilities very easily. The additional tasking translates into more hours away from me and our two children, as well as stress that she brings home. Not only does it...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2013

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    An Available Saturday Evening

    How can it be that i have an empty day...no cleaning left to do, had sex with him early this morning to start him on a good day, sent the kids to grandmas' for the night and what is HE doing?....in bed sleeping! No dinner plans, no suggestions offered for a fun filled adult...
    syahyah syahyah 41-45 7 Responses Jan 24, 2009

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    "I Need More Time"

    So... I mostly saved myself for marriage. I had big ideas that my one-day wife would appreciate that and think that I was a better man for it. I figured that my soulmate would answer all of my questions and explore the incredibly exciting world of sexuality with me. I...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 4 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    My Escape!

    I can't tell you how it all began. It all happened so fast. One minute I see an Ad on Craigslist askign to write about your fantasies. It was a sad post to be honest Just some poor lonely guy looking to spice up his boring marriage by reading the fantasies of women in the world...
    escapingthecloset escapingthecloset 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 1, 2009

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 17 Responses Sep 19

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    I've finally very courageously laid all our problems out and asked him for separation. I let him know there's something wrong when you and I have not been intimate in over 4 years...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 3

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    I can't stand it any longer. Last night I had a date night with my wife after dropping my oldest boy off for homecoming. We took a bunch of pictures. At dinner, I realized I...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 17 Responses 2 days ago

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    When I was innocent, I always told myself that I would never have sex until marriage but that changed. I changed. And because of that change, I began to do things I should have not...
    NaNaJene NaNaJene 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 13 Responses Sep 15

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    Survey: how many of your Refusers also have OCD? I see it come up on posts repeatedly. PA behavior too, but that seems to have a more intuitive association. Mine has both. In...
    Candymaker Candymaker 41-45, F 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Life is so damn boring! I'm not saying i want to die (though i'd be lying if i said that thought has never crossed my mind) but rather that, well... life really is boring. I love...
    michael9666 michael9666 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 3

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    Yes, I'm boring!!! Do you know how I know? I get this message alot Hi, I saw your profile and I think you're a really interesting person. Ooo I have a confession, I' m...
    LivvieDestroyerofSocks LivvieDestroyerofSocks 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 11

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    The first day of school was boring asl like none off my squad was there like df anw I hope some if them are there tomorrow.
    ThaQueen1 ThaQueen1 18-21, F Sep 2

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    I am boring haha I et up I go to work and I come home... plag abit of xbox try get people to talk on my social apps and sit here on EP for ab it before I go to bed and repeat. I...
    surfdas surfdas 22-25, M Sep 6

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    If you can't maintain a simple conversation over EP, I will presume you are extremely boring and continue with my life. Its takes two to chat.
    Prevaricator Prevaricator 16-17 1 Response Sep 8

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    Listening to a woman during a boring conversation will normally end with "Ahem! My eyes are up here! ;)
    Jpfunjunky Jpfunjunky 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 18

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    At parties I am bored, at events I am bored, hanging out with people I am bored. When I am by myself I am NEVER bored, there is so much fun stuff to do and explore in the world...
    colorstone colorstone 31-35, M 2 days ago

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    I have online social anxiety. Honestly, talking is easy for me, I can do it for hours (though some people might get bored and weirded out by me), but when I'm online, my SA makes...
    justicehero justicehero 18-21, M Sep 5

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 15

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    I know this is very sad to say but I don't believe in true love or marriages anymore. It is because of the kind of marriage I'm in currently. I used to think when I get married it...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 6 Responses Sep 15

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 18

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    I have failed my my wife. It took an entire year for me to be able to admit that or even see it. For the last year it's been "my wife is selfish" or "my wife is unreasonable." But...
    TonyM323 TonyM323 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 23

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 15 Responses 3 days ago

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    My wife's best friend is divorcing her husband, who is one of my good friends. She said things were bad for a while, and somehow it escalated past the point of therapy. They never...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses Sep 15

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 21

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    I feel I can not carry this burden of sadness any longer,my marriage has been lonely for so long.My husband and I had not been intimate for years he did not approach me avoided and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 5

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses Sep 14

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 19

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    With my best friend for 22 years. I have a soul connection with her that is uncanny. Yet she is married and so am I. This is one of the hardest life's to live. Sadly I am in a...
    lonesojourner lonesojourner 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 20

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    I feel like this experience us turning me into an emotional Jekyll and Hide... In the morning, when domestic life goes on as it must, I feel inclined to be patient, more forgiving...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I believe that it takes a lot of patience to continue to feel ignored, feel less then a equal partner, and not have our sexual desires fulfilled. I believe that marriage is a...
    kay0122 kay0122 41-45, F 7 Responses Sep 2

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    I did not write the following but it is a great take on what an open marriage is like and what it should be like. I found this article at Salon.com. What I learned from dating...
    sosexyincolo sosexyincolo 36-40 2 Responses Sep 11

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    This year has been one hell of a year already. After 7 years of being married, I decided that I just couldn't handle anymore of it. For the last 5 years, I have overanalyzed every...
    AloneandWantingOut AloneandWantingOut 26-30, F Sep 11

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    As part of my core belief of continuous improvement and growth, I want to improve my marriage and relationship with my wife. Like most marriages I assume, we have our ups and...
    spiritnow spiritnow 41-45, M Sep 16

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    Hi, I'm new here and thought I would reach out and share my story. I found EP from an article on the website when I was looking up sexless marriage. I signed up to read the...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 16 Responses Sep 19