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I Have a Cheating Husband

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    Is it a mathematical equation

    that the amount of pain you have is proportional to the amount of happiness you once had? The holidays are particularly hard after a breakup. Memories of what it used to feel like floats around every Christmas tree, every gathering of friends and every gift you wrap. Imagine...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    My husband is cheating on me.

    He placed a password on his phone and quickly erases his messages on his phone. I also caught him exchanging poctures of his genitalia with women on his phone. We have a 4 yr old with autism. I dont want my son to get worse. I tried understanding but it does not look like he...
    Ihatekermit Ihatekermit 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 25

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    I have known about his affair

    for about 4 weeks now. I cry myself to sleep every night. I had never prepared myself for this situation but I feel like my life as I know it is being ripped away from me. She is begging him to move out and file for divorce. He told her I refused to give him one but he has...
    Lyddia Lyddia 31-35, F 11 Responses Jan 11

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    I Feel Numb

    I have been with my husband since I was in my 20's (in my 40's now) and sometimes it doesn't seem like there was a time before him. Pretty much from day 1 he has cheated. We have a big blow up. He sometimes leaves for a day or more. (At my request) Then comes back crying and...
    Shelly110 Shelly110 46-50, F 4 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    Sick Of Lies

    been married for two years, found out he's been cheating the whole time with several woman, still goes to the restaurants where he has meet some, don't understand his problem I deserve better
    maywillie maywillie 46-50, M 4 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    My name is Maritza Ramos Maldonado from Clifton

    Park,N NY and I found out recently my husband Fred is secretly gay and having sex with prostitutes in front of the YMCA where he works as a janitor.Now I have hiv/aids and genital herpes
    maritzamaldonado maritzamaldonado 51-55, F Mar 25

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    Question: How many of you women apart of this

    experience group is trying to work on your marriage even with your spouse being unfaithful and why or why not?
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 27

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    Should I Leave? Devasted By Husband's Webcam Cheating And Constant Lies...

    Before my husband and I got married I found emails between him and his ex. Apparently he had a girlfriend when we met and started dating but he never told me. I had even found her name on a bill in his room and asked about it but it was an old bill and he said it was somebody he...
    BrokenPromises1892 BrokenPromises1892 18-21 4 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    The Problem With Husbands #1

    One thing that most husbands (and significant others) fail to realize is that the person you fell in love with, the person you said you were committed forever to... IS the only person you're allowed to be with. It's common sense that there are millions of people out there that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 8, 2013

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    Today I was washing his clothes

    and found a note written on a small piece of paper from a woman telling my husband to meet her at a motel room and how much she misses him. How can he tell me theres no one else???? The DAMN LYING FOOL IS CAUGHT! I KNEW IT! I KNEW HE WAS!!!! Am I that terrible of a wife? I do...
    Shirleyyougest Shirleyyougest 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 27

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    He Never Ceases To Amaze Me!

    I got up late today. Took some time for me. It was about 2pm before I even made it to the computer to check my email. I had an email from my husband. He left me for another woman in January. It isn't unusual for me to have email from him.Even though he is living with another...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 6 Responses May 7, 2011

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    My husband is a UPS driver,

    and a couple of years ago he met a woman in another county through work. She is older that he is. The other day I was being nosy (I've always had trust issues with him), and I saw where they have had recent communications through Facebook messenger that included comments about...
    katiek777 katiek777 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    First Time To Post - Desperately Need Advice

    My husband and I have been married for thirty-eight years.  We've been together for nearly forty years, since I was 16 years old.  We played together on the playground as children.   We have two wonderful children, three gorgeous grandchildren.  My husband and I are best...
    loradw loradw 46-50 48 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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    Had A Cheating Husband

    Huh...lol.. wow... I want to speak out about CHEATERS. I know alot about them. Lived with a couple of them. I can handle, forgive, about almost anything and go on when it comes to working on a relationships. BUT i will not stand for a cheater. My last husband was ... sigh mind...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 33 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    A few months ago I found out my husband was

    cheating.. He's sworn that he'll stop and find a way to fix our marriage. Tonight I discovered emails he forwarded to himself that are pictures of a naked girl! What do I do?
    Smckinnis Smckinnis 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    my experience with my husband of 28 yrs married

    but we have been together for 38yrs we are both in our 50s we have a great life together we have adult children my man worked away from home he would go to work on a mon then come home on the Friday we had a terrible argument one weekend before he went to work for the week he...
    joyce1960 joyce1960 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    I have been with my husband

    for 11 years married 7 and 8 months ago I found out the my husband had been cheating on me(I was six months pregnant at the time I found out). Of coarse he didn't tell me I actually got a message on facebook from the girl he was seeing asking me if we were really separated...
    Jackie2525 Jackie2525 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Not Prepared....

    There is nothing that prepares you for the betrayal of a husband. No number of heartache you see your mother endure, no number of break ups with a boyfriend, no stories a friend told you, no heartbreak movie, no reminders that “all men cheat”…absolutely NOTHING prepares you...
    RealityCheckNYC RealityCheckNYC 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    My Waste Of Time.

    16 years ago; we had each other, we had a beautiful home and three wonderful healthy children. 15 years ago; we still fooled around with each other, we went in to chat rooms together and felt turned on but terrified with what we discovered in chat rooms. 14 years ago; we were...
    Seraa Seraa 46-50 2 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    My Husband Is A Cheater ! But This What Iv Learned

    My husband cheated on my ! But my lessons in life came from the experience ! At 32 iv found how strong I can be an that you don't always fined the answers you would like to in the time you want them ! But no matter what the issue is the truth always comes out ! In life you'll...
    Mgarrett99 Mgarrett99 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 3, 2013

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    The Worst Night Of My Life

    I remember the night I found out about my husbands cheating so clearly, I dont think I will ever forget it. I totally lost my mind that night. I had been unhappy for some time, our youngest daughter had been diagnosed with a heart murmer at birth, I had a miscarriage three...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jan 3, 2011

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    Well I had one. Divorce is in progress.

    Because what you allow continues.
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I have a hard time standing up

    for myself or confronting my husband on my suspicions about him cheating I feel like he will get mad at me for hacking into his accounts and putting spyware on his phone am I wrong here for doing that
    Jackie85 Jackie85 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 24

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    Cheating Husbands

      I have been with my husband for 5 yrs. But married for 4 yrs. in October. We have 2 beautiful girls together. But on July 14th my husband came home to me at 7:30 a.m. in the morning and told me that he had been thinking for awhile that maybe we should seperate. I asked...
    whitetigerpetal whitetigerpetal 22-25 34 Responses Aug 25, 2008

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    My Husband Cheated With A Women And Fatherd Three Children

    My husband cheated with someone and they had three children together. By the time that someone told me what was gong on, their relationship had existed for about seven years, with children ages 4, 2 and now another child who is a little over a year. My husband and I have been...
    kaydelgado kaydelgado 36-40, F 1 Response May 24, 2012

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    Me and my husband together off

    and on for 22 years, married for 5. He cheated when we were younger and I walked away from the relationship. Then he go incarcerated for 6 years. When he getting he contacted me to see if we can try and make it work. I said yes, we tried then he head butted me and I walked away...
    lounground75 lounground75 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    I am so alone right now.

    I'm tired of him cheating. Why continue a marriage? I don't understand why he just doesn't leave. Right now he is out pretending like he is shopping when I know better than that. I can't stand him for it. I wish he would just leave.
    OhSoSad13 OhSoSad13 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    Dont Want It Anymore

    Been with him for 6 years married for 3. Since the very begging he was always flirting around example: asking girls to be his girlfriend while he was with me, telling girls to go over to his place, telling them how pretty they are. But I stayed around because he always swore to...
    jennleen jennleen 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    Tired And Hurt

    well I have been married to my husband for 22 years soon to be 23. When we first got married he used to beat me, Well we separated and was separated for awhile. He promised to quit and he did, he hasn't hit me in years. but I soon learned that he was running around with...
    nanamoreet nanamoreet 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    Husband Cheated On Me N My 10 Year Old Son

    I have been married for 14 years. A little background about us, ours was an arranged marriage and after marriage, he told me that he was not physically attracted to me and he was forced in this marriage. He didn't hv any girlfriend when we got married. We also didn't have a great...
    Twotango Twotango 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    **UPDATE**Getting Stronger, I Think?

    A lot has happened since this post. Towards the end of April my husband stayed out an entire weekend. I drove to the other women's house and his truck was parked there! He showed up that Sunday afternoon with an insulting lie. I told him I wanted a divorce and told him to leave...
    Pray4change Pray4change 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    Recently discovered that my husband Is texting

    a girl he used to date before we met (over 10 years ago) daily... More so when I'm working. (I'm a nurse and work night shift). I've looked at his phone and the message aren't there so he's obviously sending them... In my eyes that means there is something to hide. He had also...
    hurtRN hurtRN 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 21

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    State Of Denial

    I have been with my husband for 17 years and married 11. He has had multiple one night stand over the years and in 2012 I couldn't take it anymore and asked him to leave. He went and rented an apartment (that I did not know about) and did not move in. One day I found an...
    beachgal21 beachgal21 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    That Feeling

    It's that feeling that you can't explain. The one that tells you he has been unfaithful. You know its true. Yet you still doubt yourself. If you know it's true, then why do you question it? Is it because you have no actual facts to base it on? Or is it because you just don't...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 11 Responses Jul 16, 2011

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    Husband Says His Cheating Is My Fault?

    Hi! I am a 26 year old girl married to a 29 year old man, with a 10 month old son. I have been with my Husband for 3.5 years, only married for one (although we didn't plan to be married until this coming September... insert baby surprise here!). I wanted to share my story with...
    Lauerallaie Lauerallaie 26-30, F 16 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    HEY IM 26 YEARS OLD. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN

    MARRIED FOR 3 YEARS NOW AND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 5. WE HAVE A 3 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER. EVERYTHIG AT FIRST WAS BEAUTIFUL. AS TIME PASSED I CM TO FIND OUT HE HAD BEEN CHATTING TO WOMEN IN FACEBOOK. I CONFRONTED HIM AND HE CLOSED HIS FACEBOOK. SOME TIME PASED ON I FOUND OUT HE HAD...
    hersheys1228 hersheys1228 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 19

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    Well were to begin, I thought we were getting

    our marriage and family life back on track, when my husband begins to be distant again. Didn't really think too much of it just stress of work etc etc, when I find a texts and images on his phone of the other woman again ! Well I went crazy told him to get out, which he did...
    shellybelly828 shellybelly828 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2013

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    I been with my husband a yr

    and a half we been married for almost a month. About a week ago my husband was acting very wired about his cell phone. It's was always on silence, fast down when he put it down, sleeping with the phone off or in his pocket . One morning I couldn't take it so when he was sleep I...
    chris760 chris760 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 19

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    Cheating Too Close To Home

    I find cheating to be a weak characteristic in anyone, and something that I have never done. I also always said that if a man ever cheated on me, he was out. Just like that. Then it happened, my man decided to cheat. He didn't just cheat with some stranger or co worker, he...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi 41-45, F 25 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    It's Been Almost a Year....

    Well its been almost a year since my husband cheated and I am handling it better than when I first discovered it. Of course it's still hard for me to completely trust him, and the anger and hurt still come, but not as often. I sometimes wonder if he is still in contact with the...
    RainbowsandAngels RainbowsandAngels 51-55, F 14 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    dont where to start and tell my story,

    i think the most stupid woman in the world...love my kids and just want my kid to have mother/father like eveyone else..... i havei been marrage for 3 years and have 2 kids. been together with my husband for 10years now.... 2years ago i found out that my husband is cheated on...
    sadmarrage sadmarrage 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    My husband is working out of state

    and I have suspicions that he's cheating again I don't want to leave him or be alone but don't want to put up with it I constantly find myself checking his phone for as much info as I can find I have our iPhones linked together so I can see his location and photos and I can also...
    Jackie85 Jackie85 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    my husband goes on a website

    and talks to this girl. FLirting mostly. He spends every spare moment on his computer. I think he truly believes he cares for this women. They have never met and everything he has told her about himself is a lie. I made up a fake profile on the website and friended hime to i can...
    filleamour filleamour 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    I Do Not Know How to Trust Him Again

    I trusted him for 5 years ... only to find out that it was all a lie! I decided to give him another chance but how do I trust him again? After everything that he has done to me ... averaging an affair a year including one after we got back together ... how do I trust him. There...
    memnochmom memnochmom 22-25, F 18 Responses Oct 6, 2008

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    When i found out he is in a long relationship

    with a married woman for 10 years and married with me for 3 years We talked about it and he excplain everything i Told him i Cant stay like this he need to make a choice and after that he stope meeting her and she got angry and leave to another country with her Husband and...
    nounousamar nounousamar 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Gut Feeling,snooped,found Something

    I've been married for going on 8 years. We have two children together. Alot of times in my life,if I have a feeling about something,I usually listen to my inner voice. Everytime I have had a feeling about my husband cheating,I snooped and found conversations between him and other...
    roxychick180 roxychick180 22-25 5 Responses Oct 3, 2012

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    I Don'T Know How To Deal With This

    My husband says he's addicted to **** , I have caught him before emails, and phone numbers each time he swore he just contacted these women for pictures . Recently I found texts that suggest he did way more then talk to a women and there certain things to suggest she was a...
    Emc76 Emc76 36-40 3 Responses Jun 14, 2013

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    A Phone Call I Will Never Regret...

    My story is long, and winding, but I want to share a part of it that I hope will encourage others. My husband and I have been together for 13 years, and he has been struggling with a sex addiction throughout our relationship. He is working very hard, and is in recovery, but...
    Marisol88 Marisol88 26-30 7 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    Society has long become more open to the idea

    of older men younger women relationship. Younger women are more vibrant, more full of life and that energy can spill over onto you, making older men feel younger in return. Typically, women mature at a faster rate than men do and sometimes a 50 year old man is more compatible...
    BB0729 BB0729 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I have been married 26 years.

    I have been with my husband 29. I am just going to tell you the first and last thing he did. We were married in 1987. He cheated on my in 1993, probably before that but I don't have proof. Because of that 1993 relationship this other woman they had a son. After I got over...
    Patience2120 Patience2120 56-60, F 5 Responses Feb 15

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    I'm Still Trying To Understand.. Why?

    Hi my name is sammy. I've been married to my husband for almost a year. I have an 8 month old daughter named rylee and I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant with our second child. I'm sure off the bat we seam "normal". We are far from. My husband 1st "cheated" or attempted to heat with...
    ryleesmommy ryleesmommy 18-21, F 33 Responses Mar 4, 2011

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    My husband won't admit he has a girlfriend,

    but he also doesn't delete their text messages or facebook messages. When I tried to confront him he just shook his head and walked away. Now he is telling her he is going to divorce me but still acting like he's here for good. I don't know whether he is stringing her along...
    Lyddia Lyddia 31-35, F 8 Responses Jan 9

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    I Have To See The Other Woman

    My husband has been having an ongoing 2 yr but sex fling with this woman I have to see at an organization we beling to.I know she'll be out the picture soon because he does not care about her.Strictly sex.He has been bragging to others in this organization.I didn't believe it at...
    Lisa1471 Lisa1471 36-40, F 62 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    Random Thoughts From A Guy…

    From my perspective, men cheat for three primary reasons: a) symptomatic, b) situational and c) serial cheating. While I am sure there are as many reasons as situations of infidelity it generally seems most cases fall into (or close to) one of these three. Part of what you...
    triguy84 triguy84 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    I am a stay at home mom

    that was by my husbands side before we had anything at all. We were once sitting in a park eating out of plastic disposable containers with our kids asking what we would do to take care of our family. Within a few years my husband had built a very successful business using...
    linda233 linda233 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    Cheating Boyfriend.. Now My Husband

    Hello There, I want to share my infidelity story to get a feel from individuals who do not know me at all or my situation. So here it goes... I met my husband in 2003. I was 16 and he was 18.. It was a whirl wind. We had a long distance relationship until I went to college in...
    Acerose Acerose 22-25, F 29 Responses Oct 30, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    As usual I don't know where to start this, but I have to find relief somehow and writing always seems like the best solution. My husband and I have been married for 7 years (it'll...
    factsarefacts factsarefacts 26-30 2 Responses Mar 30