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I Have a Dead Beat Dad

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    He Is Just Bad

    Ok so first off, when I was like 7-9 yrs old he lived god knows where (I think with his mom and dad but he always moved, he went to state of Washington when all his family and friends are in Ohio to be a WAITER AT A BOB EVANS!!!) than my grandma and aunt(his mom And sister) make...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 11, 2012

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    Ugh

    I hate calling him 'my dad', I guess he kind of is, but only by DNA. I'm 20 years old and my father is the absolute WORST. He sleeps all day, he doesn't have a job and the worst part is, he thinks he's doing a good job at being a dad. Even when he had a job, he would never spend...
    Hulajuice Hulajuice 18-21 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    He Doesn't Even Know My Name

    Well Im going to make this brief...my dad "wasn't ready to be a father", so he offered my mom money for a abortion, she refused, he left the state before i was born..never contacted my mom. His family dsidnt even know i existed till last year when i found my aunt.
    supergrrl supergrrl 18-21, F 3 Responses May 26, 2010

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    A Child Born From Sin, Part III

    This is the continuation of my memoir "A Child Born From Sin" For so long I've been treated like nothing, for so long I've been neglected, for so long I've been battered; all I want is to be loved by someone, but how can I when the people who are supposed to love me the most...
    Cerorizo Cerorizo 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 5, 2013

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    My father was around

    and when I was younger he was active in my life. When I got to high school, things changed he was barely home my mom basically raised me working 20 hours a week. So he essentially was around but never there for me.
    Kaseirae14 Kaseirae14 22-25, F Jul 3

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    Not Really A Deadbeat But He Can't Take Care Of Himself...

    My father wasn't a deadbeat in the traditional sense - like many good dads, he worked hard and brought home the money to support my family. After my mother passed, which happened when I was very young, he became a 'functioning alcoholic'. He'd go to work, come home and drink one...
    MsBennett MsBennett 22-25, F Dec 7, 2011

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    I Like To Make Up Stories Of Who My Dad Should Have Been

    I don't see the resemblance.Not in the visual sense or in the personality.We haven't talked in over a year now, and just writing that down makes it seem so much longer (over a year now, really?)I started to notice the change last winter, when high school graduation was coming up...
    lovelybird22 lovelybird22 18-21, F Feb 25, 2012

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    My Shameful Father Who I Call "ron"

    Skip the college support, let alone be there for anyone.... Or for that matter  a shameful dead beat father who takes advantage of the family. A man who doesn't have a job and who was a crappy parent. I can relate to all of you on this forum and everything that I have read...
    dutarus dutarus 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 10, 2010

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    My Worse Father Ever

    he always says things behind my back and i just get soo mad he is the worse
    karisue1 karisue1 18-21 Oct 29, 2012

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    Deadbeat Dad

    Our father left Brooklyn and went to California about 1967 and got away with paying child support
    siera4 siera4 41-45, F Dec 20, 2012

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    Going to College

    On my father I can type forever and forever about the crazy things that he do. I have always known who my father was, and growing up I use to go over his house every weekend. Matter fact my parents are still legally married, but they have been separated since I was 3 years old...
    vermel134 vermel134 21-25 2 Responses Jan 24, 2008

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    My Dad, the Invert Turned Alcoholic

    Ever since I was a kid my dad has been hard to talk to. He never liked to go anywhere, and was always sitting on the couch watching T.V. Nobody blamed him because he also worked really hard, and manged to support us all in a middle class house in the city. I never did anything...
    justbelieve justbelieve 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2009

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    I Have An Abusive Dead Beat Dad

    My dad is not my bio dad. He adopted me because he said he chose me, because our family was special. My dad was in the Navy when he married my mom, he was really fun and I was so excited to have a dad. But after he married my mom and moved us far away from home, my dad changed...
    Scoobydoo9 Scoobydoo9 13-15 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    Haven't Seen Him In Years

    I haven't seen my dad in years, in fact I was so young that I barely remember it. He only calls me every now and then and only talks for a little bit. Haven't made any effort to come see me or send my mom any child support. I recently came across a situation where I couldn't...
    Drake2013 Drake2013 16-17, M 1 Response Jun 17, 2012

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    Dead Beat Navy Dad

    Senior Chief Chester Joseph Nicolas and I had an affair in April 2009 I was in a rocky relationship with my ex and Chester asked that if I could give him a chance he could treat me better and that he truly cared for me he told me that he was also going to be separating from his...
    carol1978 carol1978 36-40 Jul 24, 2013

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    My dad is addicted to drugs

    and is extremely verbally abusive.
    starvingforana starvingforana 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 7

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    Please Help

    I just want my father back. Up until 4th grade he was my role model. We would do everything together while my mom and sister would bond. We had an infinite amount of money (at least I was mislead) and I had no obstacles in my future. In the beginning of 4th grade, he frequently...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 15, 2012

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    My Father... Where Do I Begin?

    When I was 12 years old my father decided to walk out on us. Not that it came as a suprise by tha time he had cheated on my mom more than once... When I think back at it, the signs that he was a deatbeat was always there. He never really seemed to care about anyone other than...
    missan1990 missan1990 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2013

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    Before I was born my father used to be a drug

    addict and alcoholic my sister sadly had to see it all I'm sad she had to go through all that at such a young age of three. But when I five years after I was born on a gloomy day for my family my father finally had it with the fighting that had been going on a couple weeks...
    BrookeDuchanne16 BrookeDuchanne16 16-17, F Jun 13

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    Fatherless

    What can I say? My father told me he loved me but never stuck around to see me grow up. He left and never looked back and I will never understand why. Yet, I have never used him as an excuse and I have striven to make myself better than him, I will not allow his terrible...
    Tinawheat3 Tinawheat3 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    This Is Steve Poloncak And I Am A Deadbeat Father.

    I was dating a lady back 20+ years ago and i ran away when she said she was pregnant. I was a coward and i never looked back nor did i pay any kind of support. I would lie and say that i was responsible by not having kids but i lied to everyone and even my current wife. I refuse...
    kc9geu kc9geu 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    My biological father is never been there

    for me. He would come in and out of our lives. When he was in prison we would mail us letters saying he wanted to change. He would come out and we never heard from him. And recently he is trying to build a relationship with us. But the relationship I feel from his is me...
    theunkown6 theunkown6 18-21 3 Responses Jan 6

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    So, I have posted some stories on here about my

    stepfather. But, not one yet about my biological father. My daddy. That's what I've always called him, but is he really a dad. Does he deserve to be called "daddy", by three little girls who now see the real him? Today, March 16, 2014 my dad was put into jail. When I think about...
    ItsAllASecret ItsAllASecret 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    I'm grown now but my dad always pulls I'm

    struggling and need help conversations. Instead of child support for 4 kids he gave my mom a gallon of milk a week or worse TANG! Wtf?! I think back and get mad. He use to make us feel bad for him. He cheated and abused my mom all the time until she left. Now she's got a great...
    KittyMcPuffin KittyMcPuffin 31-35, F Apr 20

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    Through Glass

    The sixth entry to my memoir "A Child Born From Sin" I'm looking at you through the glass... Praying that one day you'll come inside... You'll stand infront of me.... And call me your son.... A father, what is a father? Is a father someone who is loving and kind? Is a father...
    Cerorizo Cerorizo 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    I Want To Love Him

    I want to love my dad just like any other daughter loves her father. I want to be able to look up to him without any fear of being disappointed in him. But after seventeen years of disappointment I don't have the courage to try and love him anymore to only get hurt. My mother...
    unknownuser2663 unknownuser2663 18-21 Jun 19, 2013

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    When I was born I wasn't aloud to live with my

    parents, both were druggies. I met my mom once but she lives in New Mexico with my half brother. Anyways my dad always lives a block away from me and my grandparents and siblings. He was a drugged up drunk and I cod never be around him that much. I think not having your own...
    hopecatcher hopecatcher 16-17, F Apr 8

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    My mother had me when she was 18,

    to a guy she loved. He used to beat her, and she would always fight back. They both always had bruises, although here were worse. I don't know much about my father, considering my mother left him when I was 3. but what I do remember, was the fighting, and my moms screams, and...
    PaintedOn PaintedOn 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2013

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    My Dad

    My dad has is the kind of person who would take me and my sibling out to dinner one night and then the next day disappear for six months. He's done everything from threatening to lock us in our apartment and burn it down to bring the woman he cheated on my stepmom (who we all...
    alexmorgan18 alexmorgan18 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 11, 2009

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    Hahahahahhaha. Yes!!!!

    I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN NOTHING TO HIM.I THINK I WILL REMAIN NOTHING TO HIM.HE HAS NEVER PROVEN HE CARED.OH ****, HE TOOK ME TO MCDONALDS ONCE WHEN I WAS 5, THE ONLY, AND I REPEAT, ONLY TIME WE EVER SAW EACH OTHER.OH.THAT'S SO CARING.I shouldn't complain, at least I got to see him...
    WiltingBlossom WiltingBlossom 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    My Kids Need A Father

    2004 will be a year I will never forget. For one reason I graduated HS but for 2 I was so in love with a guy named Keith. My mom and dad both agreed he wasnt the man for me.. I should of listened its not often they both agree on anything. I defied them and went with my heart...
    miyahrimom12 miyahrimom12 26-30 1 Response Nov 16, 2012

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    He doesn't abuse me but he abuses my dog. He throws cups of water at her for no reason and slaps her and kicks her. I don't see it but I hear it and he denies it. Just now my dad...
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    I'm 20. I'm about to be a senior in college and for as long as I can remember I have been dealing with verbal and emotional abuse from my father. He makes me feel like I am...
    thatgirlangie thatgirlangie 18-21, F Jul 1

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    Yesterday's was the worst. Because I have to go out through an ally way it's a really easy ambush area. I was foolish when I saw then I didn't do anything I just froze. I know I...
    theghostofsummerpast theghostofsummerpast 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 2

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    What do you do when your father hates you, and doesn't mind saying it? My father abused me and my brother and sisters both physically and verbally. When my Mom finally left him...
    GoranMountainMan GoranMountainMan 18-21, M Jul 5

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    Right now he is passed out on the couch. He is having a hard time with the divorce. He is starting to go back to his ways after all that work he put into trying to escape his...
    MildLife MildLife 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 12

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    For years they said forget his opinion. Me ignored them. Why. Dont know. Couldnt leave. Still cant. But am trying. Why do i care. Why do i want a father at...
    converted converted 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 12

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    My dad is a dead beat. He always has been and I think he always will. When I was younger I only saw my dad about once or twice a year. Now its less than that. I havent seen him in...
    yoloforsho yoloforsho 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    So, I have found a "daddy" for my punishments and such when I'm naughty, but rewards me when I'm good. I've been needing structure and discipline in my life for a longg time now...
    juliamarie444 juliamarie444 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I have been through so many traumatic things in my life...I currently suffer from what I think is Depression and Social Anxiety, but I think it's deeper than that. I am a Rape...
    RayeannB RayeannB 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    Does my mom love my dad? Ever since I was young I felt no love attraction between them. He has hit her once before and yelled at her but he clams to love her. And you can tell he...
    LoveisBeautiful5013 LoveisBeautiful5013 18-21, F Jul 7

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    Ok so I have been talking to this guy online for a year now and I really like him a lot we have became close like best friends. But once I found out he was like 40 I just naturally...
    chynarosee chynarosee 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    Advice to younger guys: Try getting a job somewhere where other young girls work. You get long hours side by side and they get to know you and see your sense of humor and work...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 27

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    Daddy bought me a gift on his birthday. I'll surely have to make this up to him. I don't care; I have the best Daddy. :)
    MDaddysGirlM MDaddysGirlM 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Okay can I have an ep daddy instead?
    ilovemyepmom11 ilovemyepmom11 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I have Anxiety. I started noticing it creeping up my throat before my abortion. After the abortion, I was flooded with rapid heartbeats, fits of anger, and weeks of sadness. I...
    sheesh262 sheesh262 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    Recently I have been going out more and staying out really late like 4am. I'm 18. As a 18 year old I believe that I'm entitled to more freedom there fore I should be able to stay...
    esepora esepora 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    I hate him. When I was younger he was always hitting my mom and yelling at her. She always took it because she knew if she left he would hit us. Eventually my dad filed for divorce...
    Nirvana4Life Nirvana4Life 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 5

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    I am writing in the hopes that anyone reading this will not feel as alone. On tuesday 6/24/2014 I was arrested for an extreme DUI and a collision. I stayed up nearly the whole...
    RiseAbove222 RiseAbove222 22-25, F 3 Responses