I Have a Dead Beat Dad

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 257 People

    Going to College

    On my father I can type forever and forever about the crazy things that he do. I have always known who my father was, and growing up I use to go over his house every weekend. Matter fact my parents are still legally married, but they have been separated since I was 3 years old...
    vermel134 vermel134
    22-25
    2 Responses Jan 24, 2008

    My dad is gone now, but I've made peace with

    myself, & stopped wasting energy on him. For years I blamed me for him. It wasn't my fault he was a looser. He beat my mom for just breathing, and once almost killed her. For a long time I picked guys that were like him, & didn't even realize it. I read a lot of your...
    nevadiva4u nevadiva4u
    41-45
    Sep 14, 2014

    My Shameful Father Who I Call "ron"

    Skip the college support, let alone be there for anyone.... Or for that matter  a shameful dead beat father who takes advantage of the family. A man who doesn't have a job and who was a crappy parent. I can relate to all of you on this forum and everything that I have read...
    dutarus dutarus
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 10, 2010

    Every second I spent with you I hated.

    It takes a real coward to do what you did. Happy ******* holidays you piece of ****.
    Btimez3 Btimez3
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2014

    My Worse Father Ever

    he always says things behind my back and i just get soo mad he is the worse
    karisue1 karisue1
    18-21
    Oct 29, 2012

    Hahahahahhaha. Yes!!!!

    I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN NOTHING TO HIM.I THINK I WILL REMAIN NOTHING TO HIM.HE HAS NEVER PROVEN HE CARED.OH ****, HE TOOK ME TO MCDONALDS ONCE WHEN I WAS 5, THE ONLY, AND I REPEAT, ONLY TIME WE EVER SAW EACH OTHER.OH.THAT'S SO CARING.I shouldn't complain, at least I got to see him...
    WiltingBlossom WiltingBlossom
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jul 1, 2011

    I Have An Abusive Dead Beat Dad

    My dad is not my bio dad. He adopted me because he said he chose me, because our family was special. My dad was in the Navy when he married my mom, he was really fun and I was so excited to have a dad. But after he married my mom and moved us far away from home, my dad changed...
    Scoobydoo9 Scoobydoo9
    16-17
    1 Response Oct 11, 2013

    Dead Beat Navy Dad

    Senior Chief Chester Joseph Nicolas and I had an affair in April 2009 I was in a rocky relationship with my ex and Chester asked that if I could give him a chance he could treat me better and that he truly cared for me he told me that he was also going to be separating from his...
    carol1978 carol1978
    36-40
    Jul 24, 2013

    My dad is addicted to drugs

    and is extremely verbally abusive.
    starvingforana starvingforana
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jun 7, 2014

    I Like To Make Up Stories Of Who My Dad Should Have Been

    I don't see the resemblance.Not in the visual sense or in the personality.We haven't talked in over a year now, and just writing that down makes it seem so much longer (over a year now, really?)I started to notice the change last winter, when high school graduation was coming up...
    lovelybird22 lovelybird22
    18-21, F
    Feb 25, 2012

    Finding out the real reason

    as to why your biological father and mother got divorced... The truth hurts. I'm hurting so much right now... I knew he didn't want me. I knew I was the reason he left. I knew there was always something wrong with me. I'm not meant to be here... I can't do this anymore. I want...
    lizygurl lizygurl
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 1, 2015

    Ok so please tell me

    if I'm wrong here... My dad is very well off, lives in a mansion in USA (I do not I live in the UK) he has done since I have been small. I used to see him every Xmas and summer holiday he would buy me and my sister clothes and butter us up with "if you lived with me u would have...
    Ohkay89 Ohkay89
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 4, 2014

    So, I have posted some stories on here about my

    stepfather. But, not one yet about my biological father. My daddy. That's what I've always called him, but is he really a dad. Does he deserve to be called "daddy", by three little girls who now see the real him? Today, March 16, 2014 my dad was put into jail. When I think about...
    ItsAllASecret ItsAllASecret
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Mar 16, 2014

    Haven't Seen Him In Years

    I haven't seen my dad in years, in fact I was so young that I barely remember it. He only calls me every now and then and only talks for a little bit. Haven't made any effort to come see me or send my mom any child support. I recently came across a situation where I couldn't...
    Drake2013 Drake2013
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2012

    Deadbeat Dad

    Our father left Brooklyn and went to California about 1967 and got away with paying child support
    siera4 siera4
    41-45, F
    Dec 20, 2012

    My father was around

    and when I was younger he was active in my life. When I got to high school, things changed he was barely home my mom basically raised me working 20 hours a week. So he essentially was around but never there for me.
    Kaseirae14 Kaseirae14
    22-25, F
    Jul 3, 2014

    Ugh

    I hate calling him 'my dad', I guess he kind of is, but only by DNA. I'm 20 years old and my father is the absolute WORST. He sleeps all day, he doesn't have a job and the worst part is, he thinks he's doing a good job at being a dad. Even when he had a job, he would never spend...
    Hulajuice Hulajuice
    22-25
    1 Response Jun 29, 2013

    Please Help

    I just want my father back. Up until 4th grade he was my role model. We would do everything together while my mom and sister would bond. We had an infinite amount of money (at least I was mislead) and I had no obstacles in my future. In the beginning of 4th grade, he frequently...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 15, 2012

    A Child Born From Sin, Part III

    This is the continuation of my memoir "A Child Born From Sin" For so long I've been treated like nothing, for so long I've been neglected, for so long I've been battered; all I want is to be loved by someone, but how can I when the people who are supposed to love me the most...
    Cerorizo Cerorizo
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 5, 2013

    When I was born I wasn't aloud to live with my

    parents, both were druggies. I met my mom once but she lives in New Mexico with my half brother. Anyways my dad always lives a block away from me and my grandparents and siblings. He was a drugged up drunk and I cod never be around him that much. I think not having your own...
    hopecatcher hopecatcher
    18-21, F
    Apr 8, 2014

    i look forward to the day my dead beat *****

    doner dies and sometimes i pray he roasts in hell for what he has done.
    LadyGhost27 LadyGhost27
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 14

    He Doesn't Even Know My Name

    Well Im going to make this brief...my dad "wasn't ready to be a father", so he offered my mom money for a abortion, she refused, he left the state before i was born..never contacted my mom. His family dsidnt even know i existed till last year when i found my aunt.
    supergrrl supergrrl
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 26, 2010

    Not Really A Deadbeat But He Can't Take Care Of Himself...

    My father wasn't a deadbeat in the traditional sense - like many good dads, he worked hard and brought home the money to support my family. After my mother passed, which happened when I was very young, he became a 'functioning alcoholic'. He'd go to work, come home and drink one...
    MsBennett MsBennett
    22-25, F
    Dec 7, 2011
    Btimez3 Btimez3
    16-17, M
    1 Response Oct 22, 2014

    My biological father is never been there

    for me. He would come in and out of our lives. When he was in prison we would mail us letters saying he wanted to change. He would come out and we never heard from him. And recently he is trying to build a relationship with us. But the relationship I feel from his is me...
    theunkown6 theunkown6
    18-21
    2 Responses Jan 6, 2014

    My Dad

    My dad has is the kind of person who would take me and my sibling out to dinner one night and then the next day disappear for six months. He's done everything from threatening to lock us in our apartment and burn it down to bring the woman he cheated on my stepmom (who we all...
    alexmorgan18 alexmorgan18
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 11, 2009

    Got a text from my biological father today.

    .. I don't think I could be more upset. I have no idea what to say to him or how to feel/act toward him. I feel like bawling my eyes out or going out and doing something stupid. Dead beat dads are the best! <-- that was total sarcasm if you didn't get that. I need advice...
    lizygurl lizygurl
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 19, 2014

    One day he'll regret it

    and My success will be the biggest revenge
    dazedandlost dazedandlost
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 12, 2014

    I Want To Love Him

    I want to love my dad just like any other daughter loves her father. I want to be able to look up to him without any fear of being disappointed in him. But after seventeen years of disappointment I don't have the courage to try and love him anymore to only get hurt. My mother...
    unknownuser2663 unknownuser2663
    18-21
    1 Response Jun 19, 2013

    More messages from my biological father,

    only this time he texted my mom, not me. My mom let me read them and he was very rude. I'm so angry and upset. I don't understand at all. Hoping to see him and my step-sister soon to meet her since we're both older (she's in middle school though) and work it all out.
    lizygurl lizygurl
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 22, 2014

    He Is Just Bad

    Ok so first off, when I was like 7-9 yrs old he lived god knows where (I think with his mom and dad but he always moved, he went to state of Washington when all his family and friends are in Ohio to be a WAITER AT A BOB EVANS!!!) than my grandma and aunt(his mom And sister) make...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 11, 2012

    I don't understand how a man can walk away from

    their child.. I don't think anyone can make me understand that...
    trin2013 trin2013
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 3

    My mother had me when she was 18,

    to a guy she loved. He used to beat her, and she would always fight back. They both always had bruises, although here were worse. I don't know much about my father, considering my mother left him when I was 3. but what I do remember, was the fighting, and my moms screams, and...
    PaintedOn PaintedOn
    18-21, F
    Dec 4, 2013

    My dad was addicted to every hard drug.

    My mother said she was leaving but he could be part of our lives if he got clean. Afterwards, he put a gun to mother's head on one occasion, bugged our govt apartment, stalked us. He owes $65,000 child support, he paid $100 once when the state found out he had a job. Now he made...
    anastasia99 anastasia99
    22-25
    Dec 10, 2014

    Fatherless

    What can I say? My father told me he loved me but never stuck around to see me grow up. He left and never looked back and I will never understand why. Yet, I have never used him as an excuse and I have striven to make myself better than him, I will not allow his terrible...
    Tinawheat3 Tinawheat3
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 24, 2010

    My Father... Where Do I Begin?

    When I was 12 years old my father decided to walk out on us. Not that it came as a suprise by tha time he had cheated on my mom more than once... When I think back at it, the signs that he was a deatbeat was always there. He never really seemed to care about anyone other than...
    missan1990 missan1990
    26-30, F
    Oct 6, 2013

    I'm glad you found god

    and you're sober now, I really am, you know mom and J were asking for his help too. I guess he really does only listen to drunks. I'm really happy you got your life together but don't come around here asking for forgiveness. You can get that from your buddy up above but not here...
    Btimez3 Btimez3
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Nov 16, 2014

    Through Glass

    The sixth entry to my memoir "A Child Born From Sin" I'm looking at you through the glass... Praying that one day you'll come inside... You'll stand infront of me.... And call me your son.... A father, what is a father? Is a father someone who is loving and kind? Is a father...
    Cerorizo Cerorizo
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 20, 2013

    My Kids Need A Father

    2004 will be a year I will never forget. For one reason I graduated HS but for 2 I was so in love with a guy named Keith. My mom and dad both agreed he wasnt the man for me.. I should of listened its not often they both agree on anything. I defied them and went with my heart...
    miyahrimom12 miyahrimom12
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 16, 2012
    Danilyna Danilyna
    13-15, F
    1 Response May 1, 2015

    This Is Steve Poloncak And I Am A Deadbeat Father.

    I was dating a lady back 20+ years ago and i ran away when she said she was pregnant. I was a coward and i never looked back nor did i pay any kind of support. I would lie and say that i was responsible by not having kids but i lied to everyone and even my current wife. I refuse...
    kc9geu kc9geu
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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