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I Have a Difficult Mother

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    Just Another Manic Sunday

    I  have a very tense and complicated relationship with my mother. We have very little in common actually, but I am her only daughter and I have to look after her because she is a widow and she is very elderly. Which is OK, I have managed, and I am not complaining. What...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 15, 2009

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    The Family (And Mother) From Hell.

    Incoming wall o' text here. Be warned. How do I put this? I share a very...very...complicated....relationship with my mother...AND my natural family. On my natural family's side, I have 2 elder sisters --- both of whom have the same father. I have another half-sister near the...
    MoonlitMaven MoonlitMaven 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 23, 2013

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    My mother has borderline personality disorder

    and has always treated me very different from my siblings, they can do no wrong and I can do no right, I have a 10 month old daughter who my mother hasn't seen since she was 3 weeks old. I am in the process of forgiving her and accepting that she is the way she is and isn't...
    lisajane1987 lisajane1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 14

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    Stew And Dumplings...

    my mother was married for twenty two years .... three children later and she declared herself a lesbian .. whatever makes you happy that s what i say... she had a good neighbour who was also her friend .. a good pal up the road too.... i remember the snow storm of "82 , she had...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 Nov 30, 2012

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    My Mother..

    So.. I used to think that my parent's marriage was really good.. till I reached the age of about 15, 16... My dad had gotten into trouble and had to go to that big house,, anyway needless to say my mom had to get an extra job to support me and my sister... I noticed that even...
    stellalune stellalune 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    She's A Lady... And A Scorpio

    Yes, my mother is a Scorpio. Do you know what the number one characteristic of that sign is? Stinging... She can sting with words better than anyone I know. This is a family trait. It was passed down from her mother (also difficult). My grandmother was a somewhat overwrought...
    lolasinn7 lolasinn7 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 8, 2010

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    Park The Car My Butt

    I came home 15 minutes late tonight.  FIFTEEN.  I could understand if I got home like an hour or two late, but just 15 minutes???  I still think it's quite ridiculous that I have a curfew in the first place.  I'm 21 freaking years old.  But I've been...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 19, 2010

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    Non-appreciating Mother

    As the 2nd child out of 4 children, I have been my Mom's little blacksheep. I therefore did extra things for her so that I could win her love. I helped in the house, I scrubbed the old slasto floor tiles on my knees, polished them...on my knees and shined them. I helped wash...
    psyhoed psyhoed 51-55 2 Responses May 6, 2012

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    When my mother is upset with my actions,

    her critical words make me feel worse than the most debased criminal--and in self-defense against feeling, I used a swear word that summarized how bad she is in my eyes for treating me that way. Writing this brings me great shame, as I believe that "others cannot make you...
    WayOfDominique WayOfDominique 36-40, M Feb 11

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    What Really Counts

    I was the only girl in my family.  I have three brothers, two older and one younger.  I should have been a boy. My mother didn’t like me.  It’s as plain and simple as that.  Her world revolved around the boys’ activities, particularly my...
    Myonis108 Myonis108 56-60, F 13 Responses Jan 13, 2009

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    Midnight Texting

    I've written a few stories about how overprotective my mother can be. She's a lot better than she used to be, now that I've graduated college and all.  But there's this really annoying habit she has of waking up in the middle of the night, going to the bathroom, and while she's...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M Sep 20, 2012

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    She's a Challenge

    My mother has Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder.  It's not OCD...it's worse. People with OCD know what they're doing is nutty.  She believes everything she does is correct and everyone else is wacky.  Growing up in a home where everything had to be...
    dontask dontask 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 5, 2008

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    I Have A Difficult Mother And We Share A Birthday!

    I have always had a difficult relationship with my mother.  I was meant to be the best birthday present she ever had but I failed to be that and I don't think she's ever forgiven me.  I think maybe she over identified with me, saw me as an extension of herself, but...
    loopy210 loopy210 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 13, 2011

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    My Mother and My Birthday

      I have the occasional ‘issue’ with my Mum. She often doesn’t seem to have a lot of time for me anymore, as if she feel that since I’m ‘grown-up’ she has done her job and that’s that. If she’s stressed or has...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 6 Responses Aug 22, 2009

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    My Mom Is My Best Friend & Worst Enemy...

    I'm 42 and for the last 10 years have had a very close relationship with my Mom.  We weren't close before that because she had a lot of problems while I was growing up & didn't have time or attention (except negative) to give me.  For the past 20 years, we've lived...
    whoislynn whoislynn 41-45 Aug 23, 2008

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    Tired Of The Pessimism

    I know I recently wrote a story about how my mother texts me late at night to make sure I'm okay. Well, something similar happened.  My parents are out of town this weekend for a wedding.  I texted my mother and asked her if they would be home Sunday or Monday because I'd...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M Sep 30, 2012

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    Her latest. She gloms onto a lot of things I

    do. I have a dog who is at least 15 years old. She used to be quite fond of him. She kept him overnight for me a couple months ago when I went out of town for 2 nights. He is arguably old and set in his ways. She posted on fb the first night about how she was going to take...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I Love Her But I Don't Like Her!!

    I am trying to finish writing a story for all of my experiences,I have 19 stories to write and then I'll be caught up.Of the 19 stories this will be the most difficult to write so I'm getting this one over with. I love my mom,but I don't like her,if that makes any sense,I am 50...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2008

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    She Doesn't Understand The Meaning Of "advice"

    My mother very frequently wants to "help" me and give me "advice."  What she doesn't realize is the purpose of advice.  Let me give you an example.We were talking about charging my iPhone.  I just got a cheap new charger that wasn't an Apple product.  She told...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 17 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    I Have Always Been Too Fat For My Mother

    Growing up, my mom use to pinch the bridge of my nose so it wouldn't get fatter.  She would also complain how fat I was getting and not let me eat dinner some nights.  It was a constant battle for me to be pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough, etc....  To this...
    notreallythere notreallythere 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 14, 2009

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    Like You Wouldn't Believe...

    Approaching my mother about anything is like trying to defuse a bomb with a pair of toe nail clippers.  You're never quite sure when she will blow up in your face.   I do love my mother.  I appreciate her for bringing me up and I deeply respect her as a person...
    Ryuuzaki Ryuuzaki 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2009

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    Mom, Please Close Your Mouth When You Chew.

      We just came back from dinner. Elbows on the table, speaking with the mouth full, texting, declaring financial status, dietary discretion, and ages of others; sneezing on the food, taking calls in the middle of an order, and grabbing food from other diner's plates are...
    motherlode motherlode 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2009

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    Dear Old Mom...

    my mother doesn't really like me or care about me very much.  it's not something that i allow to bother me on most days but the hurt is there.  most people don't believe me.  but the thing is i think my mom has asperger's and therefore is not really able to engage...
    geenpunchbuggie geenpunchbuggie 31-35 6 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    I Flinch When She Sends Me An Email.

    The only time in my life that I ever have a good interaction with my mother is when I grin and bare it. So it was only good for her. And it didn't do me any good anyway because all she brings up are the bad. She is one of those people who thinks every clerk is trying to rip her...
    lovefreedom lovefreedom 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 31, 2011

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    I Am Frustard , and Cant Stand , Upset

    i didnt happy  that my mom always looking blame on me and i knew that she kept lied to me.. she didnt beleive me what i told her .. she bother me about noise almost everynight... i told her to stop to nosie . she called me i am crazy or fake. this is make me **** off...
    rosegal38 rosegal38 36-40 Sep 16, 2009

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    Mom's Acknowledgment

    I always feel that I should start off by saying that I love my mother and I appreciate all of the hard work she has done to raise me.  That said, I grow very tired of her selfishness and inability to support me in my endeavors.  She was 17 when she had me, so...
    3thumbelina3 3thumbelina3 26-30, F Jul 17, 2009

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    Ok, Mother, You Win !!

    I have been here on EP for more than a year and I have written about every topic imaginable ( divorce, cooking, religion, politics,wine, coffee and even time travel), but this is the one topic I have been more reluctant to write about , because it touches me personally and I find...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    I Can'T Stand My Mother

    I am already 27 years old and I have a very difficult relationship with my mother. I am the second child in 6 siblings, the oldest daughter. I have a sister and 4 brothers. When I was growing up, I thought she was doing okay but then I realized that she was always full of...
    maverickcat maverickcat 26-30, F Feb 24, 2013

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    How often do you call your mother?

    How often does she want you to call her? How often do you want to call her? (Apologies to those of you who have lost your mothers and wish you had the luxury of not calling them.)
    MissAnthony MissAnthony 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    I Am Trying to Understand

    I have two lesbian daughters and feel very disappointed and responsible for the choices they've made. The real bond we had is no longer that strong. I believe that my daughters think that I'm difficult. I do not want to see them hand in hand with their partners when visiting...
    WW WW 41-45, F 6 Responses Feb 27, 2008

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    Neglect And Anger

    I've never really spoken of my relationship between me and my mother online before, so here it goes... My mother was always angry, and idealistic. A socialist, she always wanted to change the world. Strange, then, that she decided to have two children. When my dad left, life...
    EmmyChu EmmyChu 18-21, F Aug 14, 2012

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    Instance Today

    she has beautiful qualities when i pull myself and pivot my angle of thinking yet my positivism is most often proven wrong. she has expressed deep feelings three times that i recollect, has no valid words of wisdom or angst to just listen and absorb my point of view, left me at...
    tessagirl tessagirl 18-21, F Jun 24, 2009

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    Difficult Family

    My family is completely dysfunctional. My mother is bat **** crazy for a long time now, most of it because she chose to align with 2 loser daughters of hers. It amazes me that feels compelled to be surround herself with adult children who don't even take care of their own...
    ZTush ZTush 31-35 Nov 27, 2013

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    Logo

    The logo for this group almost made me pee my pants.  Love it!  Thank you, Friend!
    astrophellana astrophellana 31-35, F Jan 30, 2009

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    Fed Up

    My mother is such a remarkable woman.. But we have been dealing with so much stress and since my brother moved out, I am her new punching bag. Whenever she is frustrated with someone or a situation I always get the backlash of it. She dosent want me talking to anyone because she...
    Feb 17, 2013

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    And As For Fathers...

    I'm not sure how to put this in a way that won't make me sound like an as*h***. Oh well, here goes... Backstory: My father died when I was a two-year-old. We lived in a small town and he was a doctor so we were somewhat prominent. Not only that, he decided to die in a...
    lolasinn7 lolasinn7 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2010

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    My mother-in-law makes me want to tear my hair out sometimes. She's very melodramatic for a 60 year old woman. She freaks out about the SMALLEST of things. Literally. For example...
    XxVivaLaBellaxX XxVivaLaBellaxX 18-21, F Jul 1

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    For the longest time I thought my mother just hates me, and I still feel that way. Then someone outside the family asked how long she's been diagnosed with bpd. When I said never...
    Gennai02 Gennai02 26-30, F Jul 4

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    Those of you who follow my blog thephilosopherkatoria.wordpress.com you have seen my most recent post. For those of you who havent heres a snip bit. My mother is eating away at my...
    thephilosopherkatoria thephilosopherkatoria 70+, F Jul 10

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    Every time she see me she tells me that i'm very thin & that i need to gain more weight! Ugh its annoying as hell!
    Gblue5 Gblue5 22-25, F Jul 22

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    My friends just don't get how much drugs ruined my life and I don't even do them they just don't understand so now I need open ears and an open mind
    greenpotato112 greenpotato112 16-17, M Jul 4

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    It didn't mean anything to me until my cousin told me that I was at my moms wedding. Now it means a lot and I never take it off
    JalenFrankie616 JalenFrankie616 13-15, F 9 hrs ago

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    I have difficult step kids. Mainly the 13 year old boy. He lives with us and he's just so horrible. He lies and steels all the time. Steels money and Jewellery of his nan. Then...
    lisawkd lisawkd 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I want to express my frustration without offending anyone. I get very down on myself when I read about other POTSies who are athletes or can run. I am extremely happy for them that...
    Zebra223 Zebra223 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    Sometimes I get mad or angry and jealous of my cousins and other people. I live with my mom and dad and have no brothers or sisters and I get jealous of my cousins who live far...
    Musicgirl32558 Musicgirl32558 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 19

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    When I was aged two my father was accused of molesting my half sister (same mum) at age 7, he was imprisoned for 8yrs and my sister's father took her away from the family. I...
    juleswillo1 juleswillo1 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    I’ve never had a mom. I am 24 and I have friends and a life but I have struggled my whole life with this emptiness inside of me. I have suffered for so many years because I haven...
    samacoco samacoco 22-25, F Jul 15

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    So blessed to have a mother who loves unconditionally and who has always been there.. HBD to my mom and best friend!!♥♥♥♠
    ladylove38 ladylove38 36-40, F Jul 8

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    So glad to have found this. The only other POTS groups I am a part of are on Facebook and I don't really want my friends knowing how much I struggle. Feeling comfort in the...
    Zebra223 Zebra223 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    I have always thought my mother is selfish. I am 23 years old and I am still being treated like an eighth grader who is still fighting for his independence. Most of the times, I...
    wirrywoo wirrywoo 22-25, M Jul 4

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    Hello there! I'm writing almost as it's happening. I discovered the term NM, recently, and since then, I have been gathering information on how to act in order to 1st, stay sane...
    alinie alinie 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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