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I Have a Difficult Mother

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    I Can'T Stand My Mother

    I am already 27 years old and I have a very difficult relationship with my mother. I am the second child in 6 siblings, the oldest daughter. I have a sister and 4 brothers. When I was growing up, I thought she was doing okay but then I realized that she was always full of...
    maverickcat maverickcat 26-30, F Feb 24, 2013

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    "I don't understand you always get what you want

    so why are you like this." But what I said in my head made it hard to breathe because it was the truth. "I want him to stay, but he's leaving in January." I don't get what I want ever. Not with my mother. She constantly guilt trips me when she says she used to get me everything...
    Augustends Augustends 16-17, F Aug 26

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    Midnight Texting

    I've written a few stories about how overprotective my mother can be. She's a lot better than she used to be, now that I've graduated college and all.  But there's this really annoying habit she has of waking up in the middle of the night, going to the bathroom, and while she's...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M Sep 20, 2012

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    She's a Challenge

    My mother has Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder.  It's not OCD...it's worse. People with OCD know what they're doing is nutty.  She believes everything she does is correct and everyone else is wacky.  Growing up in a home where everything had to be...
    dontask dontask 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 5, 2008

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    Park The Car My Butt

    I came home 15 minutes late tonight.  FIFTEEN.  I could understand if I got home like an hour or two late, but just 15 minutes???  I still think it's quite ridiculous that I have a curfew in the first place.  I'm 21 freaking years old.  But I've been...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 19, 2010

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    Mom, Please Close Your Mouth When You Chew.

      We just came back from dinner. Elbows on the table, speaking with the mouth full, texting, declaring financial status, dietary discretion, and ages of others; sneezing on the food, taking calls in the middle of an order, and grabbing food from other diner's plates are...
    motherlode motherlode 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2009

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    Non-appreciating Mother

    As the 2nd child out of 4 children, I have been my Mom's little blacksheep. I therefore did extra things for her so that I could win her love. I helped in the house, I scrubbed the old slasto floor tiles on my knees, polished them...on my knees and shined them. I helped wash...
    psyhoed psyhoed 51-55 2 Responses May 6, 2012

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    Ok, Mother, You Win !!

    I have been here on EP for more than a year and I have written about every topic imaginable ( divorce, cooking, religion, politics,wine, coffee and even time travel), but this is the one topic I have been more reluctant to write about , because it touches me personally and I find...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    What Really Counts

    I was the only girl in my family.  I have three brothers, two older and one younger.  I should have been a boy. My mother didn’t like me.  It’s as plain and simple as that.  Her world revolved around the boys’ activities, particularly my...
    Myonis108 Myonis108 56-60, F 13 Responses Jan 13, 2009

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    When my mother is upset with my actions,

    her critical words make me feel worse than the most debased criminal--and in self-defense against feeling, I used a swear word that summarized how bad she is in my eyes for treating me that way. Writing this brings me great shame, as I believe that "others cannot make you...
    WayOfDominique WayOfDominique 36-40, M Feb 11

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    I Love Her But I Don't Like Her!!

    I am trying to finish writing a story for all of my experiences,I have 19 stories to write and then I'll be caught up.Of the 19 stories this will be the most difficult to write so I'm getting this one over with. I love my mom,but I don't like her,if that makes any sense,I am 50...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2008

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    Neglect And Anger

    I've never really spoken of my relationship between me and my mother online before, so here it goes... My mother was always angry, and idealistic. A socialist, she always wanted to change the world. Strange, then, that she decided to have two children. When my dad left, life...
    EmmyChu EmmyChu 18-21, F Aug 14, 2012

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    Just Another Manic Sunday

    I  have a very tense and complicated relationship with my mother. We have very little in common actually, but I am her only daughter and I have to look after her because she is a widow and she is very elderly. Which is OK, I have managed, and I am not complaining. What...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 15, 2009

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    She Doesn't Understand The Meaning Of "advice"

    My mother very frequently wants to "help" me and give me "advice."  What she doesn't realize is the purpose of advice.  Let me give you an example.We were talking about charging my iPhone.  I just got a cheap new charger that wasn't an Apple product.  She told...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 17 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    Tired Of The Pessimism

    I know I recently wrote a story about how my mother texts me late at night to make sure I'm okay. Well, something similar happened.  My parents are out of town this weekend for a wedding.  I texted my mother and asked her if they would be home Sunday or Monday because I'd...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M Sep 30, 2012

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    I Have A Difficult Mother And We Share A Birthday!

    I have always had a difficult relationship with my mother.  I was meant to be the best birthday present she ever had but I failed to be that and I don't think she's ever forgiven me.  I think maybe she over identified with me, saw me as an extension of herself, but...
    loopy210 loopy210 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 13, 2011

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    Stew And Dumplings...

    my mother was married for twenty two years .... three children later and she declared herself a lesbian .. whatever makes you happy that s what i say... she had a good neighbour who was also her friend .. a good pal up the road too.... i remember the snow storm of "82 , she had...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 Nov 30, 2012

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    I Am Frustard , and Cant Stand , Upset

    i didnt happy  that my mom always looking blame on me and i knew that she kept lied to me.. she didnt beleive me what i told her .. she bother me about noise almost everynight... i told her to stop to nosie . she called me i am crazy or fake. this is make me **** off...
    rosegal38 rosegal38 36-40 Sep 16, 2009

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    How often do you call your mother?

    How often does she want you to call her? How often do you want to call her? (Apologies to those of you who have lost your mothers and wish you had the luxury of not calling them.)
    MissAnthony MissAnthony 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    My Mom Is My Best Friend & Worst Enemy...

    I'm 42 and for the last 10 years have had a very close relationship with my Mom.  We weren't close before that because she had a lot of problems while I was growing up & didn't have time or attention (except negative) to give me.  For the past 20 years, we've lived...
    whoislynn whoislynn 41-45 Aug 23, 2008

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    Instance Today

    she has beautiful qualities when i pull myself and pivot my angle of thinking yet my positivism is most often proven wrong. she has expressed deep feelings three times that i recollect, has no valid words of wisdom or angst to just listen and absorb my point of view, left me at...
    tessagirl tessagirl 18-21, F Jun 24, 2009

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    Logo

    The logo for this group almost made me pee my pants.  Love it!  Thank you, Friend!
    astrophellana astrophellana 31-35, F Jan 30, 2009

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    Difficult Family

    My family is completely dysfunctional. My mother is bat **** crazy for a long time now, most of it because she chose to align with 2 loser daughters of hers. It amazes me that feels compelled to be surround herself with adult children who don't even take care of their own...
    ZTush ZTush 31-35 Nov 27, 2013

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    I Have Always Been Too Fat For My Mother

    Growing up, my mom use to pinch the bridge of my nose so it wouldn't get fatter.  She would also complain how fat I was getting and not let me eat dinner some nights.  It was a constant battle for me to be pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough, etc....  To this...
    notreallythere notreallythere 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 14, 2009

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    My Mother and My Birthday

      I have the occasional ‘issue’ with my Mum. She often doesn’t seem to have a lot of time for me anymore, as if she feel that since I’m ‘grown-up’ she has done her job and that’s that. If she’s stressed or has...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 6 Responses Aug 22, 2009

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    Dear Old Mom...

    my mother doesn't really like me or care about me very much.  it's not something that i allow to bother me on most days but the hurt is there.  most people don't believe me.  but the thing is i think my mom has asperger's and therefore is not really able to engage...
    geenpunchbuggie geenpunchbuggie 31-35 7 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    I Flinch When She Sends Me An Email.

    The only time in my life that I ever have a good interaction with my mother is when I grin and bare it. So it was only good for her. And it didn't do me any good anyway because all she brings up are the bad. She is one of those people who thinks every clerk is trying to rip her...
    lovefreedom lovefreedom 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 31, 2011

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    The Family (And Mother) From Hell.

    Incoming wall o' text here. Be warned. How do I put this? I share a very...very...complicated....relationship with my mother...AND my natural family. On my natural family's side, I have 2 elder sisters --- both of whom have the same father. I have another half-sister near the...
    MoonlitMaven MoonlitMaven 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 23, 2013

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    She's A Lady... And A Scorpio

    Yes, my mother is a Scorpio. Do you know what the number one characteristic of that sign is? Stinging... She can sting with words better than anyone I know. This is a family trait. It was passed down from her mother (also difficult). My grandmother was a somewhat overwrought...
    lolasinn7 lolasinn7 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 8, 2010

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    My mother has borderline personality disorder

    and has always treated me very different from my siblings, they can do no wrong and I can do no right, I have a 10 month old daughter who my mother hasn't seen since she was 3 weeks old. I am in the process of forgiving her and accepting that she is the way she is and isn't...
    lisadee87 lisadee87 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 14

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    Like You Wouldn't Believe...

    Approaching my mother about anything is like trying to defuse a bomb with a pair of toe nail clippers.  You're never quite sure when she will blow up in your face.   I do love my mother.  I appreciate her for bringing me up and I deeply respect her as a person...
    Ryuuzaki Ryuuzaki 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2009

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    I Am Trying to Understand

    I have two lesbian daughters and feel very disappointed and responsible for the choices they've made. The real bond we had is no longer that strong. I believe that my daughters think that I'm difficult. I do not want to see them hand in hand with their partners when visiting...
    WW WW 41-45, F 6 Responses Feb 27, 2008

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    And As For Fathers...

    I'm not sure how to put this in a way that won't make me sound like an as*h***. Oh well, here goes... Backstory: My father died when I was a two-year-old. We lived in a small town and he was a doctor so we were somewhat prominent. Not only that, he decided to die in a...
    lolasinn7 lolasinn7 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2010

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    My Mother..

    So.. I used to think that my parent's marriage was really good.. till I reached the age of about 15, 16... My dad had gotten into trouble and had to go to that big house,, anyway needless to say my mom had to get an extra job to support me and my sister... I noticed that even...
    stellalune stellalune 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    Mom's Acknowledgment

    I always feel that I should start off by saying that I love my mother and I appreciate all of the hard work she has done to raise me.  That said, I grow very tired of her selfishness and inability to support me in my endeavors.  She was 17 when she had me, so...
    3thumbelina3 3thumbelina3 26-30, F Jul 17, 2009

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    Her latest. She gloms onto a lot of things I

    do. I have a dog who is at least 15 years old. She used to be quite fond of him. She kept him overnight for me a couple months ago when I went out of town for 2 nights. He is arguably old and set in his ways. She posted on fb the first night about how she was going to take...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    Related Experiences

    I live on a farm and we throw a yearly festival. The last party had 400 people or more. A mother and her very young son want to come live at the farm. The problem is that I don't...
    WiredCritter WiredCritter 22-25 Oct 31

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    Today is the second day that we have basically kept my mother in a "medicine induced coma" to keep her from being in pain. When I expressed my guilt, the Hospice nurse told me to...
    Myzery Myzery 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 29

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    It's going to be a long night... I get home from shopping at several stores...I detest shopping. DETEST it! Only to find my mother in the family room pumped up on morphine and...
    Myzery Myzery 31-35, F Oct 30

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    My mother is forgetting how to eat/swallow. I thought she would forget other stuff first. Like me...herself... I don't know what to do or think right now.
    Myzery Myzery 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 3

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    There is something foundational in the development of a person during the first five years that relates specifically to a mother's love and nurture. If you didn't have that you...
    brokenat5 brokenat5 61-65, M 6 days ago

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    My mother is currently hallucinating like crazy and I am at a loss on what to do...
    Myzery Myzery 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I cling, but I realize its all meaningless ****. relics of a past that I thought meant something but means nothing to anyone else. when I am no more these items will be nothing...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer 46-50, M 1 day ago

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    Mom woke up from her medicine coma a short while ago...for being an extremely drugged up woman in severe pain, she sure does move fast! Behold! The power of loads of narcotics! I...
    Myzery Myzery 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 29

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    Full moon + Alzheimer's Disease = No fun.
    Myzery Myzery 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 6

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    hi, I was blessed with this horrific gift. Why?
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    I can relate to this COMPLETELY... I found this story and copied a snippet from it… I have changed it a little bit cos some of it is not true but I changed it to the truth and...
    Misscoconut Misscoconut 16-17, F Nov 13

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    I'm sure this is the question everyone asks: How do you maintain to yourself that your mother is narcissistic? And now background (convoluted tldr imminent): I have a mother whose...
    rootlesswind rootlesswind 26-30 2 Responses Nov 15

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    If you just glance at the stories I've written here, you manage to take one thing away: I hate my mother. I don't even consider her my mother. More like an older woman who kept...
    Theworldisminenow Theworldisminenow 18-21, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I don't want it to define me. I don't want this experience to define me for the rest of my life but I have to validate my anger and sadness. I don't let those emotions become...