I Have a Disabled Spouse

For all of us taking care of their disabled/handicapped husbands and wives. 89 People

    My husband suffers from osteoarthritis.

    He was taking pain meds out of necessity. I believe this is what is causing the issue with his current ulcer ...he was in the VA last week for overnight observation. So now his stomach med is making him bloated n uncomfortable. I feel for him but at the same time I am on edge...
    aradia11 aradia11
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Sep 9, 2015

    Spina Bifida

    My husband ( the 75 part of our name) was born with the most severe form of this horrible condition. He wasn't supposed to make it out of his teens according to the doctors. He's 38.He gets around by using a HUGE power chair. This thing can tilt him almost completely upside down...
    Phoenix7578 Phoenix7578
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 18, 2013

    This is my first post,

    so please bear with me: My husband and I had been together for only 2 months when the first vehicle accident took place and the hospital placed him in an induced coma because being awake would have been way too painful. Once we got past the "is he going to live or die" phase...
    josnyder72 josnyder72
    41-45
    Jun 26, 2014

    My husband had a stroke in December of 2014.

    It has left him basically bedbound and can only transfer with a lift to a wheelchair. He is 49 and I am 47, I feel so lonely and terrible for him but I am really about to lose it being a 24/7 care taker and have no real relationship anymore. Just wanting to see if anyone else...
    lonelyinauburn lonelyinauburn
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    Drop Foot. Hi all, about 4 months ago my

    husband was shot in front of our house. He fractured his Femur and badly damaged his Tibial nerve. We found out last week that he will not be recovering, he has less than 5% nerve function in his right foot. Anyone else with w Drop foot experience on here?
    MsCass MsCass
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 8, 2015

    My husband had an accident about a year ago,

    since he came home after being in the hospital for months - nothing will ever be the same. Our lives have been flipped upside down and I've become the primary breadwinner and 24/7 care taker of not just him but our kids. I can't help but to feel angry and resentful and I know he...
    SweetFireD SweetFireD
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 21, 2015

    Rough Times

    We have been married for 25 years and my sweet hubby has put on 300 pounds now and is a severe diabetic who can barely get around who is up to over 500 pounds. He will not consider any surgical intervention. Due to the weight his back pain is getting worse. He pretty much is...
    2 Responses Feb 16, 2013

    Our Story - Meniere's Disease

    My wife is a beautiful and loving person who became my best friend more than ten years ago. It was our second marriage for each of us and decided to do the whole "death do us part" thing with the "in sickness and in health" disclaimer. We did not include the "OBEY" with the love...
    RAYT721 RAYT721
    51-55, M
    Jan 8, 2012

    My husband and I are coming up on our 10 year

    anniversary. He has always been a big guy; 6'5 400 lbs when we met but I am 6' myself so that didn't really bother me. He had a heart attack when were were dating but from blood clots in legs due to diabetes. Things were fine but then found a few years in he was only getting...
    Recabec Recabec
    36-40
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2015

    I've been a cna for years.

    i love my job but sometimes i get overwhelmed. when you work in a. nursing home like i do they encourage you to stay home if you're sick since the elderly are more prone to disease. but when you have a disabled spouse you don't get an off day. my husband doesn't stop needing my...
    SouthernBelle95 SouthernBelle95
    18-21, F
    Jan 5

    Trying To Learn To Cope

    I have been married for 22 years, I am 41 years old. My husband is in his mid to late 40's. He had a back injury aprox 5 years ago, has had 2 surgeries and many procedures. Nothing seems to have helped, just made it worse. I love my husband very much. I guess that is why i feel...
    Tulip42 Tulip42
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 16, 2013

    I realized today that I am going through the

    grieving process. I am grieving for the loss of the man I married and the things we can no longer do together. I still love him and am still insanely attracted to him. And he still loves me. We have been told the joints and spine will slowly be over run with degenerative disease...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 14, 2014

    I Can't See The Future

    I am 58 and I have been taking care of my life partner whom I love and he has MS. I moved in with him 6 1/2 years and we dated for 2 years before that. We were also engaged for 2 years when I was in high school 41 years ago. I help with his care and I work too. Some days his...
    2 Responses Jan 15, 2013

    Just wanted to reach out to someone else

    who can relate to my situation. 10 years ago my wife had an allergic reaction to medication and was diagnosed with stephens johnson s syndrome. It was an intense reaction, that continued for years. She was medically retired, she is fully disabled. She suffers from chronic pain...
    etap73 etap73
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Nov 28, 2015

    Truck Driver Accident

    My husband was in a severe accident at work 2 years ago. He was at work and they were hauling a 250,000lb concrete bridge beam. He was locking in the rear lever and slipped on loose gravel and was pulled under the last 3 sets of tires. They figure he had 4500lbs on him with...
    mommysim mommysim
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jul 28, 2013

    My wife and I were married

    for just over a year and our son was just not even a year old when my wife became severely disabled from an anoxic brain injury. She was non responsive for almost 5 months and her prognosis was extremely grim. She has defied all medical journals and has recovered to a point...
    tstanley2014 tstanley2014
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Mar 30, 2014

    My husband suffered a massive stroke in October

    of 2014. He was 34 and I was 31. He could not walk or talk. All he could say was my name. After being with him in the hospital for over three months we were finally able to come home. I have grieved for the husband who I once knew and had to let go. I still suffer from having...
    TexansFan007 TexansFan007
    31-35, F
    Jan 3

    Husband With Als

    My husband has been suffering with the disease ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig's for 9 years. He's been on a ventilator and feeding tube and confined to his bed for the last 7 years. As of right now, he is 100% paralyzed with only little movement in his eyes. I'm not really...
    Bxbeach Bxbeach
    41-45
    Nov 12, 2010

    Living With A Disabled Spouse 25 Yrs And Taking Care Of Others All The Time

    My husband became disabled from a drug used to treat shingles and the 1 in 1000 reaction he got which was avasclular necrosis of both hips at the age of 38.this auto immune disease caused 2 bone graft from his lower leg into his hips.One failed requiring right total hip.he also...
    nursebabe nursebabe
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2013

    Just A Taste...

    My husband and I have been married for 4 years and together for 10. My husband has several thoracic spine herniations, some with cord contact and degenerative disc disease, all which keep him in constant pain despite strong meds. No, there is no operation, no special medicine...
    ravenx013x ravenx013x
    36-40
    3 Responses Apr 23, 2013

    I don't have a disabled spouse

    but I subscribed here because I may be able to help others in some way. I've been paraplegic for 50yrs..since age 6 when I got hit by a car. I been through some struggles but always looked to God for help and he has blessed me many times over. Im very versed in many problems...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 3, 2015

    I M Losing It..

    I love my partner with all my heart. She's been disable since birth (spastic deplegia cerebral palsy), she also has acquired post traumatic disorder due to her unfortunate life. We have been together for almost 2 years. I take care of her. I work, I clean I take care of her...
    Faithinyoumy1 Faithinyoumy1
    31-35
    5 Responses Nov 7, 2013

    Not really sure where to start.

    ..or what to say.... I have been married now going on 15 years. My wife's health has slowly deteriorated over the years with several different issues causing her for the last 2 years to be bedridden. On top of that she is now morbid obese. She has a provider every weekday, but i...
    txhubby2016 txhubby2016
    36-40, M
    Jan 10

    Looking For Someone In The Same Situation

    I am looking for someone, male or female, in the same situation as me, or at least similar. My husband was in a bad car accident, braking his neck, this has caused a HUGE problem in our marriage. He has become distant, sexless, and emotionless. He can say not a word to me for...
    CoffeeHouseDreamer CoffeeHouseDreamer
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jul 8, 2012

    My husband and I just found out we're having a

    baby! we're thrilled but he's really worried that he won't be able to help me much because of his disability. he can't use his hands much and he's already terrrified that he will drop the baby or mess something up. I know he'll be an amazing father but I don't know how to...
    SouthernBelle95 SouthernBelle95
    18-21, F
    Dec 29, 2015

    I have a disabled husband.

    He is now in a wheelchair. I often feel bad about moving on with my life while he struggles to get a grip on his own life. I don't have a lot of friends and do not live near family. It's a lonely life at times. I don't want to leave him because I do love him. I just feel all...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Feb 9, 2014

    My Husband Has A Chronic Back Injury---

    I'm a 31 year-old woman who is head of the household. I have a very successful career, am the sole worker of the family, have two beautiful children, and am very healthy and fit. My husband is 40 years old and had a back surgery that went bad four years ago. Since that time he...
    acceptingthetruth acceptingthetruth
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jul 12, 2011

    3 years ago this May my husband fell over

    after a week of tests they found out he had a brain tumor that was crushing his brain stem. He had 2 surgeries, 7 cardiac arrests and countless infections before he finally woke up. He woke up to never being able to walk again, dress himself, bathe himself, drive. I had to...
    jenjen42 jenjen42
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Mar 24, 2014
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