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I Have a Dysfunctional Family

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    An Isolated Childhood

    Please don't fall asleep, this is the short version. It is a story that I hope explains why you should never hold someone you love to tightly for you may cause permanent irreparable damage. Okay, deep sigh, here is my story. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and thinking about it...
    angelgenie angelgenie 26-30 22 Responses Jun 13, 2008

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    It must be so nice to give your parents hugs

    and kisses and tell them how much you love them. I never got to do that as a kid when I wanted to. All the other kids did though. Just the thought of me doing that now makes me cringe and feel uncomfortable because it's something I'm not used to. My parents were never the lovey...
    anonamanda001 anonamanda001 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 21, 2015

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    Normal

    Funny how I view dysfunction as "normal" until I see what a normal life actually is. Sometimes my family reminds me of a bunch of string, tied together tighter then what is comfortable. I'm the stray piece trying to cut myself loose, but alas, a piece of string has no hands...
    RunningBlue RunningBlue 18-21, F 2 Responses May 26, 2011

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    TellySR TellySR 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 7, 2014

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    I'll start with describing myself.

    I am a 23 year old woman who has never met my father so my mothers side of the family is all I know. It seems that my mother and her sister (my aunt) have a very fake relationship with each other that they have passed onto my cousins who treat each other and myself the same...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 6, 2015

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    Oh dear where do i start?

    We don't talk to each other not much any way, and the only thing that brings us to gether is TV. We don't look after each other, we don't chat with each other talking but not chatting, My big brothers and i are like complete strangers I have no clue how old they are and I am...
    comlpicatedguy comlpicatedguy 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 8, 2015

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    You have done so many bad things to me.

    Asking you to try to be real with me, my trying to get closure, forgiving you and asking for you to think about how you have affected my life and giving you a chance to show you care, to show you are sorry.... before its too late and you are gone, was a mistake. I don't know why...
    JessygotaBooBoo JessygotaBooBoo 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    So my brother dislikes me

    for no reason says am an immature idiot and my sister envies me because my mother says she will leave the house to me since I am physically disabled and can't work. My sister has made a big fight over it now my mom no longer wants to leave the home to me anyway. Well supposedly...
    kryme kryme 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    It's just what it is.

    A family you can never bind together cuz of pride, hate, envy and so much things going on. Just like that.
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 26-30, F Apr 11, 2014

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    I wish I knew what it felt like having a warm

    loving family. People who love you and are there for you no matter what the circumstances are. My family has broken me down to the point I don't want to live anymore.
    foreveralone22 foreveralone22 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 27, 2015

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    My family is not dysfunctional

    as it is weird. I guess i consider my family dysfunctional in the sense that by what society dictates a family should behave and be, well, my family is quite far from that. I guess the root of it all is my parents who despite all are together and have never been ashamed of their...
    Gatikasensual Gatikasensual 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    It started when I was a kid.

    .. I never had much of an identity and my mom is a narcissist. She's been somewhat like the mother who plays in mommy dearest. I hate to speak ill of my mother but I have more bad memories of her than I do good. She's ******** me of my self esteem and dignity then will run and...
    ladysapio ladysapio 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 14, 2015

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    No matter how old I am,

    it still stings to watch the blatant favoritism and painfully obvious way my Mother loves and approves of my Sister over me. Black sheep is one thing, but outright preferential treatment in front of others is unacceptable. I am of course a horrible person for even daring to...
    lavendersea lavendersea 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 29, 2015

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    I Am Not...

    I am not your punching bag, your inferior, or your animal. I am not made of stone, I have feelings and I don't forget. Things could have been so much more, If you only would have let it. You were my role model, my friend, and my everything. Well you had to go and **** that up...
    Canadian45 Canadian45 22-25 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    I don't think there's weakness in realizing you

    come from dysfunction, nor meanness in never forgetting it. I wouldn't have been able to fix my cracks if I didn't acknowledge they were there. I guess the forgiveness comes into play with keeping the cracks fixed. Honesty has been freeing for my personal sanity. My family...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F Dec 29, 2015

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    Omg! I go to bed mad

    and I'm woken up mad. I ordered my family gifts online for Christmas and sent them in the mail to my mom's address. I knew the package would come in the mail today and the plan was to run to the mailbox and hide the gifts until Christmas to create a surprise element. I'm woken...
    RavenS45 RavenS45 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2015

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    If someone is in need of venting call me at

    301-877-8003. I am willing to talk to you and I also need someone to talk to. My family is becoming hard to put up with. I am a great listener and I swear on my life I am not trolling.My name is Danae
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    Apparently my first cousin moved into the same

    town as my family. We only found out because my uncle decided to tell my father that my cousin had a baby. Apparently my uncle is scared my father might actually talk to his niece. What a crime that would be. My brother is the same way, he no longer talks to anyone from my...
    Kingshelman Kingshelman 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    You Are Not Alone, Take My Advice And Just Walk Away.

    My mother is the definition of pure evil. She let me know at an early age that she hated me. She beat me mercilessly for no reason, has knocked teeth out of my mouth when I was 12, refusing to replace it. Denied me basic necessities, that heaven that I have an aunt who has...
    Amnestic Amnestic 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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    I've never really had a relevant way of talking

    about what happens with my family. I have been living away from home for 3 years now. It's only now that I've been back for 2 weeks that I've realized why I left. I was so freaking depressed and fed up when I left. I would have gone anywhere and done anything just to get out...
    arj90 arj90 22-25, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    My Uncle has now identified himself

    as female after years of suffering mentally. Though we have never really been close I feel like I need to help him out, my family will not accept him and refuse to call him by his female name. I find this disrespectful, but no matter how hard i try and defend him (it is not just...
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2015

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    Just wanted to thank my parents

    for never signing me up for swim lessons as a child and now I can't take a decent vacation as an adult. Also wanted to thank them for never teaching me how to skate, ski, or snowboard. I can't have fun as an adult now. I've attempted to learn all these things as an adult and...
    rballa rballa 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 17, 2015

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    Whoever says they don't have a dysfunctional

    family is just lying to themselves.
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    How parents who don't know their kid can ruin

    its life First of all, I want to say I'm not a native english speaker and this story might be badly translated. I have spent whole days ill and couldn't work on it better. Please understand me and have patience to read. Thanks. At 13, my body started to show signs that...
    user8000 user8000 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    I have my own dysfunction,

    but even that seems minimal compared to the rest of my family. Almost everyone has a drinking or drug problem, most of them fight like it's a second language. There are past suicide attempts, physical abuse, and emotional torture. Everyone blames everyone else for their...
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 16, 2015

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    kico4 kico4 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 20, 2015

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    Just got into an argument with my brother.

    He always talks with such hostility. Every time i tell him that he sounds hostile he denies it sounding even more hostile.
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    I moved back home to help my grandparents

    who are in terrible health. My family who are here to help only want to fight about who gets the house and land when they die. I am so appalled that I don't know why I ever came back.
    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 3, 2015

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    Family is an interesting concept.

    I think if we say family most people immediately picture a mom and dad, a couple of kids and maybe a pet. Or maybe you think about the fight you had with your sister but you know she is still your best friend. Or you think about how your parents don’t get you and never let you...
    OakleysWorld OakleysWorld 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 11, 2015

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    Grandma talks horribly about me to her drunk

    sister, who hates me for no reason. They say things to put me down, they've been doing this for years and I feel horrible when they do this. I have severe depression and anxiety and I think about what they have to say about me every single day. To my face, gma is fake nice...
    JunkFoodJunkie JunkFoodJunkie 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm trying to balance my families needs with

    mine. Not easy. My two older siblings and my mom all have mental health issues. They don't work, not able to foster friendships or relationships. Unpredictable from day to day and extremely exhausting. They won't go to a doctor. I feel isolated, resentful and lonely. Any one of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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    I'm Scared of My Mother

    That sounds lame, maybe, but my mother can be scary. She has extreme mood swings, and even to this day I don't know how to deal with her. She will want to go out for mother daughter time, when maybe the night before she called me full of hate, anger, resentment, etc. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 19 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    At 9:45am i attend work

    and deal with teasing. They would talk bad about my facial features to friends. Many would blatantly look at me and laugh for a good minute with their friends, then have a conversation about me while still laughing and staring at me. At 5:45pm i come home to family members that...
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 29

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    Birthdays are so awkward in my house.

    My older sister's birthday was last week and I didn't say anything. We never really do, we love each other but it's more of a tough love type of relationship with us. We just don't make a big deal about it I guess? Today is my dad's birthday and I was hesitating if I should...
    anonamanda001 anonamanda001 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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    Right now I'm so mad at the same time I feel

    like balling my eyes out. I can't stand being in this home, seriously! I'm getting tired of it. You know what, I love my family and I miss them when I'm away. When I'm home I try to be nice and create a relationship with each person, but eventually someone does something and...
    RavenS45 RavenS45 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2015

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    I Am Tired Of The Hell That My Family Has Bestowed On Me!!!

    Growing up I had no idea what a normal family was like. I wasn't even aware that mine was abnormal as we were sheltered and I didn't have a frame of reference.  All I knew was that I was unhappy and that it seemed no one got along.  I also knew that my parents argued, nagged...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 6 Responses May 27, 2013

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    I am in the midst of writing a book about my

    dysfunctional family and I have a strong feeling it could be a best seller simply because of all that it encompasses. It's like an entire season of Jerry Springer which is a comical way to look at it but it's also painfully trivializing to say those two things are analogous. I...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    My mother is illogical

    and irrational. She is beyond nosy and loves to eavesdrop on everyone else's private conversations. She is an authoritarian type who enjoys criticizing and belittling others, and constantly jumps to conclusions that have absolutely no basis in reality. For her, the only...
    justsharing justsharing 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    My both of my parents are deceased.

    They had a horrible marriage. My father married my mother because she was pretty and my mother married my father because he had a nice job. They had a bitter divorce and the whole kid thing was sorta confusing. They both passed away in the last 18 months ---I knew more...
    robertsnj robertsnj 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    Picture it mixture of the Osbournes,

    The Munsters, The Adams Family, now picture taking them to an Opera! yeah that about sums it up...lmao
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 7, 2015

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    GlitzandGlamber GlitzandGlamber 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 4, 2015

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    My Parents Are Both Dead Now

    And finally I can stop denying how appallingly they treated me my whole life. My mother rejected and ranted and raged at me, my father ignored and avoided and dismissed me. There was no love, there was no attention, there was no contact or intimacy . . .and for years I was sure...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    Christmas, that's the start of it,

    or more Christmas presents anyway. This happens a lot, not just with Christmas but any present giving event. I don't man to be ungrateful but the thing is if people listened then it could be avoided. I'm a stupidly proud person when it comes to money, I don't mind accepting it...
    RaisingCrazy RaisingCrazy 22-25, T Nov 24, 2015

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    To everyone who has a dysfunctional family,

    don't let people make you believe your experience isn't important or "bad" if it isn't the worst thing that could have happened. I've noticed that people want to tell people who have dealed-or tried or deal-with unhealthy families to just "suck it up" and ignore their feelings...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2015

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    Ever since I can remember my family hasn't been

    perfect however over the past 4 years I have realized how dysfunctional my family is. A few years ago my Cousin who I grew up with moved into my parents house she moved to get away from her mom and to try to make a better life for her and her 3 kids. At first things were great I...
    patrickwilliam43 patrickwilliam43 31-35, M Dec 11, 2015

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