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I Have a Dysfunctional Family

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    Normal

    Funny how I view dysfunction as "normal" until I see what a normal life actually is. Sometimes my family reminds me of a bunch of string, tied together tighter then what is comfortable. I'm the stray piece trying to cut myself loose, but alas, a piece of string has no hands...
    RunningBlue RunningBlue 18-21, F 2 Responses May 26, 2011

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    I am an 18 Y.O. male

    and I live with my parents and two brothers. I am currently studying to go to University. I apologize in advance if this article seems a bit jumbled, I am stressed out at this particular moment. But yeah, my family are so dysfunctional, can anyone help with advice for me? My...
    MrNostrand MrNostrand 18-21, M Apr 11

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    Something about the cold winter makes me feel

    more vulnerable and more alone. I called my mom today to ask her for a favor and of course she guilt tripped me and then I retorted back condescending remarks about the role that she still has yet to fulfill. As I mocked her parenting abilities I was waiting for her to...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F Nov 15, 2014

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    When i was 12 a torture began

    that i would endure for another 2 years. My dad was an awful man, and there are days i still wake up crying, and terrified. I tell you this because ive been told its good to talk about it. To tell people, and ep has become the only place i can truly talk about things.
    Ashleyy2 Ashleyy2 18-21, F 13 Responses Aug 13, 2014

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    You Are Not Alone, Take My Advice And Just Walk Away.

    My mother is the definition of pure evil. She let me know at an early age that she hated me. She beat me mercilessly for no reason, has knocked teeth out of my mouth when I was 12, refusing to replace it. Denied me basic necessities, that heaven that I have an aunt who has...
    Amnestic Amnestic 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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    I know no one is perfect- there's really no

    such thing as perfect, but I hate that my family is so dysfunctional. My father is an angry drunk that uses coke, never was really there for us growing up. He treated us like ****, constantly putting us down and beating us. I blame him for me not knowing how to love and be...
    blissfulreverie blissfulreverie 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 12

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    Apparently my first cousin moved into the same

    town as my family. We only found out because my uncle decided to tell my father that my cousin had a baby. Apparently my uncle is scared my father might actually talk to his niece. What a crime that would be. My brother is the same way, he no longer talks to anyone from my...
    Kingshelman Kingshelman 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Learning To Accept My Dysfunctional Family

    Everyone wants to have the perfect family. You know, the one where every one loves each other, are happy to be together, and family members gets along well with each other. Holidays are celebrated together, accomplishments are encouraged etc. The fact is, most families are far...
    Amantcul Amantcul 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    An Isolated Childhood

    Please don't fall asleep, this is the short version. It is a story that I hope explains why you should never hold someone you love to tightly for you may cause permanent irreparable damage. Okay, deep sigh, here is my story. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and thinking about it...
    angelgenie angelgenie 26-30 22 Responses Jun 13, 2008

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    I'm Scared of My Mother

    That sounds lame, maybe, but my mother can be scary. She has extreme mood swings, and even to this day I don't know how to deal with her. She will want to go out for mother daughter time, when maybe the night before she called me full of hate, anger, resentment, etc. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    'Growing up in narcissistic (strict) parents'

    I was born as ‘THE ONLY CHILD’ in the city of Bangkok, Thailand in under well-educated, warm, but imperfect family. (My parents of ethnic in both THAI AYUDHAYA vs. SUKHOTHAI CHINESE) They both were family-oriented people, but the truth was they become ‘narcissistic family...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 6, 2014

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    Anti-family

    I've had depression and low self esteem for most of my life. Family members capitalized on this during a hard time in my life and as I trusted them they worked to erode my remaining self-esteem. Criticisms, jabs at my skills, lots of gossip and rumor spreading, and actual...
    xp4td xp4td 26-30 3 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    I'm having dinner with my family?

    What the hell was I thinking! I don't even want to see my aunt and her eyes that enjoy looking down on us and most certainly don't want the company of a sibling who thinks I'm a lost cause. Together with the mom who does everything for her FAKE depressed daughter. Yes. My family...
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 15

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    I just read this and WOooow is

    that me. "Placater" - "Mascot" - "Caretaker" This child takes responsibility for the emotional well-being of the family. They become the families 'social director' and/or clown, diverting the family's attention from the pain and anger. This child becomes an adult who is...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 1 Response May 1

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    I'm not sure why, but every time a holiday

    or birthday comes around my husband gets me a present that is the exact opposite of what I asked for. Example: My engagement ring I wanted in a circle shape. I told him because to me it represents the circle of life and that I did NOT want a teardrop shape ring because to me it...
    lovenlounge lovenlounge 36-40, F 5 Responses May 7

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    If I Have An Evil Step Mother, Where'S My Prince?

    Two years ago, I moved out from my house. Not by choice but because my step mom kicked me out and what hurts most is that my dad proceeded to allow her to do this. I lived with my mom for about a month afterward but that didn't last long before we started fighting as well. I now...
    bug14 bug14 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    My Parents Are Both Dead Now

    And finally I can stop denying how appallingly they treated me my whole life. My mother rejected and ranted and raged at me, my father ignored and avoided and dismissed me. There was no love, there was no attention, there was no contact or intimacy . . .and for years I was sure...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    I've dealt with my dad's crap

    for years. Ignored me, called me a stupid *****, we never really talked. He seemed to put in a lot of effort into making me feel bad. It got to the point that I didn't know if it was just me. He threatened to batter me a lot. He hardly ever did. But then there was my brother...
    Oaza Oaza 13-15, F Feb 15

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    Weird thing has been happening.

    I believe when I leave my laundry in the bathroom, my stepson is ************ on my pants! I try to get my laundry out of there every day, but sometimes I'm in too much of hurry. What should I do!!!! Gross!! He's also been caught previously hoarding clothing from me and my...
    ikissedafrog ikissedafrog 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    Fxcked.

    Well my mums an alcoholic, I have bipolar and I self harm, and my step dad seems to think my older sister is depressed because her room is messy. Sigh.
    Blenkinsop4 Blenkinsop4 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    Hello. I am a 23 year old male,

    and this is my story that I want people to know. It all began back in my old home. My parents were great and wonderful parents to the eyes of the outside world. For example, church, school, friends, public settings. Everybody loved them and everybody wished to be like my...
    familymaynotbeforever91 familymaynotbeforever91 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 25

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    I Have A Dysfunctional Family

    So here's my story. I grew up in a very emotionally abusive home. My dad who was a former alcoholic had rage and anger issues that would constantly spill out onto us, he would blame us for everything under the sun all the time. I just remembered being scared that I was going to...
    z4e71 z4e71 31-35, F Nov 19, 2013

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    Me and my family are

    so split.. My cousin is serving 33years for attempted murder and I chose not to visit him because he tired making me help him like he was framed and to me that's ****** up. He's my blood I love him but wrong is wrong!!!
    sancjo88 sancjo88 26-30, M 12 hrs ago

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    Seriously they will fight over anything,

    my mom and grandma. It's not just arguing either, they have to break **** and pull the entire family into the drama. I am so sick of this. My grandma just had to leave to take my baby sister to get stitches from falling, but my mom and her are fighting at the same time, so they...
    Majesticscribbler Majesticscribbler 16-17, F a week ago

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    TellySR TellySR 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 7, 2014

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    I am 25 years old and have recently moved back

    home to live with my parents for a few months. I always knew my family was extremely dysfunctional growing up, but I always thought that was just part of the 'teenage angst' experience. Now that I am an adult, it is increasingly apparent that the problem was not all in my head...
    Thristic Thristic 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    Does anybody else have an evil step mother like

    a really horrible jealous one that doesn't allow you to see your other siblings 😡
    ameliah1 ameliah1 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    I am in the midst of writing a book about my

    dysfunctional family and I have a strong feeling it could be a best seller simply because of all that it encompasses. It's like an entire season of Jerry Springer which is a comical way to look at it but it's also painfully trivializing to say those two things are analogous. I...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    My family is like a building built on unstable

    foundation. Throughout the years it shakes and crumbles until it starts falling. Then in time to come all that will remain is what used to be. Ugly remains that hold memories that need to be forgotten...pain...despair...resentment...hatred...just a few happy memories. but not...
    kikimyst kikimyst 18-21, F Apr 18

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    I was at the grocery store buying ice cream

    for my family and I saw a little girl who sorta looked like my sister and wondered how nice it’d be to steal her away and dump my bitchy little sister on that poor sucker of a mom. Then I thought naaa that lady might kill herself before today even ends. I got home and the...
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 1 Response May 15

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    My both of my parents are deceased.

    They had a horrible marriage. My father married my mother because she was pretty and my mother married my father because he had a nice job. They had a bitter divorce and the whole kid thing was sorta confusing. They both passed away in the last 18 months ---I knew more...
    robertsnj robertsnj 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    Here is the thing....

    i realy dont know whats going on with my family but anytime i have an encounter with them its never for the better, it has come to a point that the mere thought of spending time with them gives me the most depressing feeling. my dad currently has this mindset that my siblings and...
    Emmanuelo Emmanuelo 26-30, M Feb 24

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    I Am Not...

    I am not your punching bag, your inferior, or your animal. I am not made of stone, I have feelings and I don't forget. Things could have been so much more, If you only would have let it. You were my role model, my friend, and my everything. Well you had to go and **** that up...
    Canadian45 Canadian45 22-25 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    Ughhh... I have a little cousin

    that i wanna straight punch in the face! Shes 19 and super disrespectful she cursed out ger older bro n sis and moved out of the house. She called all of us liars and keeps going for advice to her sis in law who is a poisonous bi***! I tried to get thru to her about whats going...
    Contrarthodox Contrarthodox 26-30, F Apr 15

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    Only for my mum he would have hit me by now,

    several times. she thinks its ok to live this way and to choose her alcoholic partner over her own daughter.. no wonder I'm so ******* messed up
    abeautifuldisasterx abeautifuldisasterx 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    Whoever says they don't have a dysfunctional

    family is just lying to themselves.
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    My "old" family, which consisted of my real

    mother, father and myself was highly dysfunctional. Nothing but unhappiness and hate. They would beat each other and when they felt like it.. Me too. Not only did they abuse each other and me, but they abused drugs and alcohol. My "new" family which consists of my real father...
    Owymonster Owymonster 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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    My mother is illogical

    and irrational. She is beyond nosy and loves to eavesdrop on everyone else's private conversations. She is an authoritarian type who enjoys criticizing and belittling others, and constantly jumps to conclusions that have absolutely no basis in reality. For her, the only...
    justsharing justsharing 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    My mom has a legitimate mental issue,

    my dad looks like he's slowly dying day by day, my older sister isn't around at all anymore, and my little sister is just doing her thing. My brain is a complete mess at home. My parents make me hate myself. Their words and actions destroy me. And im sorry to say this but...
    anonamanda001 anonamanda001 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 28

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    -Father. Sociopathic.

    Physically and mentally abusive to both my mother and myself. I lived with him for thirteen years. My current household: -Mother. I live with her now. Was sexually molested as an infant by her father. Was anorexic. Used to be suicidal. Used to cut. Been depressed whole life...
    SilencesLullaby SilencesLullaby 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    As I get older I realize I'm happy I grew up

    how I did.. I'm only 17 but boy have I learned some lessons to use in life. My parents were split and had shared custody of me and my brother week on week off as far back as I can remember. Even though both my parents are struggling in life from completely different situations...
    MacieMakenna MacieMakenna 18-21, F Jan 20, 2014

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    I hate how i still live with them.

    I'm scared i always am that ill be 30 and still stuck here with them..Ive written about my fam issues before here and there lol..so maybe i wont be so detailed with this,but i was drawn to write here.i wish i did have a stable fam..A nice emotionally stable mother a dad with a...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Verbally abusive mother

    and fatass retard of a dad who does things intentionally to make me angry
    PsychoticPsychologist PsychoticPsychologist 13-15 2 Responses Apr 28

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    My das is fighting with my step mom again.

    ... He Left the house 5 years ago, And they keep fighting... I try to not lisent to them, but is hard....
    Healinghate Healinghate 18-21, M Mar 18

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    My cousin just stopped talking to me

    because she got her best friend back. It's really messed up but whatever life keeps going.
    JessC12 JessC12 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Yes, my family is dysfunctional.

    Now what? Where do I go from here. I find myself asking these things because I'm trying to fix myself. Sitting around looking at how I'm broken, and even the reasons why is not helping me. I went to a therapist. He made me pay him even though all he did was make me tell him...
    krrimarte krrimarte 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 11

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