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I Have a Dysfunctional Family

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    Apparently my first cousin moved into the same

    town as my family. We only found out because my uncle decided to tell my father that my cousin had a baby. Apparently my uncle is scared my father might actually talk to his niece. What a crime that would be. My brother is the same way, he no longer talks to anyone from my...
    Kingshelman Kingshelman 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Learning To Accept My Dysfunctional Family

    Everyone wants to have the perfect family. You know, the one where every one loves each other, are happy to be together, and family members gets along well with each other. Holidays are celebrated together, accomplishments are encouraged etc. The fact is, most families are far...
    Amantcul Amantcul 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Right now you can really tell I'm part of the

    family. A dysfunctional mess. I can't seem to finish college. I don't have a job and there's not a sleeping pill in this country that can seem to help me sleep. My mother is just about ready to throw me out, because I really can't seem to achieve anything. She blames here under...
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    I Wounder why I was born into my family,

    can they never get together without me having to break up fights at 4am every day? can we never just have a nice family holiday together, if that's too much then don't come I am sick and tired of all this ****. thank you dear family for ruining Christmas for the 5th year in a...
    anneloves anneloves 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I'm so tired of my family fighting.

    I'm beginning to have my own issues of NEEDING to feel wanted because of the way my family operates and has my whole life. If you tick them off they'll disown you for a bit. It's never forever like they swear they'll do. They'll swear we're never welcome back at their house n...
    jak8701 jak8701 26-30, F Jan 4

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    I know no one is perfect- there's really no

    such thing as perfect, but I hate that my family is so dysfunctional. My father is an angry drunk that uses coke, never was really there for us growing up. He treated us like ****, constantly putting us down and beating us. I blame him for me not knowing how to love and be...
    blissfulreverie blissfulreverie 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    An Isolated Childhood

    Please don't fall asleep, this is the short version. It is a story that I hope explains why you should never hold someone you love to tightly for you may cause permanent irreparable damage. Okay, deep sigh, here is my story. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and thinking about it...
    angelgenie angelgenie 26-30 22 Responses Jun 13, 2008

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    I Have A Dysfunctional Family

    So here's my story. I grew up in a very emotionally abusive home. My dad who was a former alcoholic had rage and anger issues that would constantly spill out onto us, he would blame us for everything under the sun all the time. I just remembered being scared that I was going to...
    z4e71 z4e71 31-35, F Nov 19, 2013

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    This past August, my dad had major surgery,

    was really sick and is lucky to be alive. I posted awhile ago that I heard this rumor ::: that I'm upset and mad that he didn't die"":::: My husband confronted my father about the nasty rumor. Because I'm so hurt that I want nothing to do with them any more... *please keep...
    mudflap73 mudflap73 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    When i was 12 a torture began

    that i would endure for another 2 years. My dad was an awful man, and there are days i still wake up crying, and terrified. I tell you this because ive been told its good to talk about it. To tell people, and ep has become the only place i can truly talk about things.
    Ashleyy2 Ashleyy2 18-21, F 14 Responses Aug 13, 2014

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    But I love them. I might complain about,

    say, my mother a lot and sometimes even blame her, but really I love her so much. I wouldn't know what to do without her. (Really, I might have passed my teens, but I still can't take care of myself in a proper manner yet. I know. I'm ashamed as well.)
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    My mother is illogical

    and irrational. She is beyond nosy and loves to eavesdrop on everyone else's private conversations. She is an authoritarian type who enjoys criticizing and belittling others, and constantly jumps to conclusions that have absolutely no basis in reality. For her, the only...
    justsharing justsharing 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    GlitzandGlamber GlitzandGlamber 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 4

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    My Parents Are Both Dead Now

    And finally I can stop denying how appallingly they treated me my whole life. My mother rejected and ranted and raged at me, my father ignored and avoided and dismissed me. There was no love, there was no attention, there was no contact or intimacy . . .and for years I was sure...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    TellySR TellySR 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 7, 2014

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    My sister is in am "I'm moving" high.

    .. I knew that she wanted to move and she didn't want to move with our other sister this time, but now she's talking about that she doesn't want to move with me now. I'm totally fine about it. I don't see why she's mad at me though. I didn't do anything wrong. I think she's...
    CharleeLuv CharleeLuv 18-21, F Feb 23

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    My mom and I were homeless.

    Mom was basically dying and I had dropped out of high school. And I was at my aunt's "house." My aunt told her boyfriend that I was a "gift" for him. So my mom called my dad and begged him to let me stay with him so that I could finish high school and not be homeless and...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 9 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    Something about the cold winter makes me feel

    more vulnerable and more alone. I called my mom today to ask her for a favor and of course she guilt tripped me and then I retorted back condescending remarks about the role that she still has yet to fulfill. As I mocked her parenting abilities I was waiting for her to...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F Nov 15, 2014

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    InfiniteTearDrops InfiniteTearDrops 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    My both of my parents are deceased.

    They had a horrible marriage. My father married my mother because she was pretty and my mother married my father because he had a nice job. They had a bitter divorce and the whole kid thing was sorta confusing. They both passed away in the last 18 months ---I knew more...
    robertsnj robertsnj 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    Whoever says they don't have a dysfunctional

    family is just lying to themselves.
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    Sprry I won't be on here

    for a long time I'm not leaving plz understand its family crap
    Botdf1shutup Botdf1shutup 16-17, F Jan 30

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    It's just what it is.

    A family you can never bind together cuz of pride, hate, envy and so much things going on. Just like that.
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F Apr 11, 2014

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    I hate how i still live with them.

    I'm scared i always am that ill be 30 and still stuck here with them..Ive written about my fam issues before here and there lol..so maybe i wont be so detailed with this,but i was drawn to write here.i wish i did have a stable fam..A nice emotionally stable mother a dad with a...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    My dad is very disrespectful towards my mom

    and he believes he's superior to her because he had a college education and not my mom. He always starts arguments about the most ridiculous things and he yells and disrespects my mom and he doesnt allow her to say anything. I've asked my mom why don't they divorce, but they...
    danaehrmantraut danaehrmantraut 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2014

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    Why does my family have to fight they fight all

    the damn time. I wish I really wish that they'd stop for today at least for Christmas. Can't they do that? Can't we sit together have a meal and be a happy family for once? Is it something so so simple that they can't do it?
    AngelWithASecret2 AngelWithASecret2 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 25, 2014

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    So I told my sister something with specific

    instructions not to tell other members of family. And she couldn't keep her mouth shut and now I have to deal with the other family members crap. What should I do? It would just be nice to have someone to talk to in a safe manner without it turning into front page news. :(
    ikissedafrog ikissedafrog 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    My dad is an alcoholic.

    My mom has a boyfriend who is an ******* and won't leave him. She's also very greedy. She also cheated on my dad with him along with a few other men. My brother is greedy and spoiled he won't help mom out financially, even though that's what my sister and him agreed to. My...
    XxWolverinaxX XxWolverinaxX 18-21 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I Am Not...

    I am not your punching bag, your inferior, or your animal. I am not made of stone, I have feelings and I don't forget. Things could have been so much more, If you only would have let it. You were my role model, my friend, and my everything. Well you had to go and **** that up...
    Canadian45 Canadian45 22-25 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    Here is the thing....

    i realy dont know whats going on with my family but anytime i have an encounter with them its never for the better, it has come to a point that the mere thought of spending time with them gives me the most depressing feeling. my dad currently has this mindset that my siblings and...
    Emmanuelo Emmanuelo 26-30, M 6 days ago

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    My mother suffers from mental health issues

    and spends all day playing video games. She can't work anymore because she damaged her arm too badly and it'll take almost a year to fully heal. But even when she was working, she would work 3-12 in the morning and wouldn't get back until around 1. Then she would play video...
    whisperedthing whisperedthing 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Fxcked.

    Well my mums an alcoholic, I have bipolar and I self harm, and my step dad seems to think my older sister is depressed because her room is messy. Sigh.
    Blenkinsop4 Blenkinsop4 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    Can't believe they wouldn't support me

    when grandpa was dying and they won't support me now. Even after he is gone. What can one expect from those who would accuse someone of stealing even after they stood by and watched someone they live so dearly take their last breaths? So disappointed but resolute to wash my...
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    Highly dysfunctional.

    I can't stand it sometimes. It's so hard living here most of the time. Everyone is so nosey. No one knows how to mind their business. No one knows how to leave me alone, ever. Everyone has something to say about what I do, what I say, what I think, what I wear, who I talk to...
    LostandFading LostandFading 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    No longer will I ever let a family member

    borrow money. EVER. (Or 'friend')
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    I am 25 years old and have recently moved back

    home to live with my parents for a few months. I always knew my family was extremely dysfunctional growing up, but I always thought that was just part of the 'teenage angst' experience. Now that I am an adult, it is increasingly apparent that the problem was not all in my head...
    Thristic Thristic 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    ever feel that the way we communicate could

    change the whole relationship among the family? I dont really speak a lot at home, my old man and my mom also dont speak a lot to each other. In fact they live separately now. He always blamed her for not staying with us, doing her role as a wife. And Mom always said to me...
    musimpanas musimpanas 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    Here it goes ... I never got the love I really

    needed from my mom or dad. Yes they provided food on the table clothes on my back a shelter . But my home doesn't feel home I have a 10 year old brother who my mom had later in life . I'm the oldest sibling I have a middle brother age 18 . My parents have a horrible marriage...
    fiestychica fiestychica 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 19

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    My "old" family, which consisted of my real

    mother, father and myself was highly dysfunctional. Nothing but unhappiness and hate. They would beat each other and when they felt like it.. Me too. Not only did they abuse each other and me, but they abused drugs and alcohol. My "new" family which consists of my real father...
    Owymonster Owymonster 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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    Hello. I am a 23 year old male,

    and this is my story that I want people to know. It all began back in my old home. My parents were great and wonderful parents to the eyes of the outside world. For example, church, school, friends, public settings. Everybody loved them and everybody wished to be like my...
    familymaynotbeforever91 familymaynotbeforever91 22-25, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    As I get older I realize I'm happy I grew up

    how I did.. I'm only 17 but boy have I learned some lessons to use in life. My parents were split and had shared custody of me and my brother week on week off as far back as I can remember. Even though both my parents are struggling in life from completely different situations...
    MacieMakenna MacieMakenna 18-21, F Jan 20, 2014

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    I'm Scared of My Mother

    That sounds lame, maybe, but my mother can be scary. She has extreme mood swings, and even to this day I don't know how to deal with her. She will want to go out for mother daughter time, when maybe the night before she called me full of hate, anger, resentment, etc. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    I am in the midst of writing a book about my

    dysfunctional family and I have a strong feeling it could be a best seller simply because of all that it encompasses. It's like an entire season of Jerry Springer which is a comical way to look at it but it's also painfully trivializing to say those two things are analogous. I...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    If I Have An Evil Step Mother, Where'S My Prince?

    Two years ago, I moved out from my house. Not by choice but because my step mom kicked me out and what hurts most is that my dad proceeded to allow her to do this. I lived with my mom for about a month afterward but that didn't last long before we started fighting as well. I now...
    bug14 bug14 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    If I never seen any of them

    for the rest of my life not including my Gma, I wouldn't care.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Jun 3, 2014

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    Normal

    Funny how I view dysfunction as "normal" until I see what a normal life actually is. Sometimes my family reminds me of a bunch of string, tied together tighter then what is comfortable. I'm the stray piece trying to cut myself loose, but alas, a piece of string has no hands...
    RunningBlue RunningBlue 18-21, F 2 Responses May 26, 2011

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    My dad was very abusive of my mother.

    .. and he beat her in front of me when I was very young and yelled at me when I cried. So when I was 7 years old, he abused me too until I was 14 and he committed suicide. I was not there to see it. My mother now is alcoholic and drug addict. She disowned me for no reason because...
    tristful tristful 18-21, F 3 Responses