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I Have a Dysfunctional Family

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    My brother threatens

    and hits me but my parents say I need to try and "understand what he's going through". I can't deal with thIs so I just stay out of the house as much as possible and ignore my brother.
    josiemills43 josiemills43 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 15

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    TellySR TellySR 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I remember being 7 and my mother agreeing to

    give me an allowance for doing chores daily. Within a few days, a list was posted on the fridge and on it was a seven day schedule of the chores I'd do each day. Dishes, cat litter, dog crap in the back yard, make sure my room was clean. Some days I'd have to dust, some days I'd...
    HDJA HDJA 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    My Parents Are Both Dead Now

    And finally I can stop denying how appallingly they treated me my whole life. My mother rejected and ranted and raged at me, my father ignored and avoided and dismissed me. There was no love, there was no attention, there was no contact or intimacy . . .and for years I was sure...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    My Mum

    My son suggested we go see her as we were driving near where she lives.So we did.Haven't talked to her in a long time, we had a falling out about 10 years ago.She A) told me she felt sorry for my son having a Mum like me. And B) called DOCS on Me!!!She never apologized for that...
    meteorite meteorite 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    My "old" family, which consisted of my real

    mother, father and myself was highly dysfunctional. Nothing but unhappiness and hate. They would beat each other and when they felt like it.. Me too. Not only did they abuse each other and me, but they abused drugs and alcohol. My "new" family which consists of my real father...
    Owymonster Owymonster 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 10

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    Tomorrow is the day that I will see my dad

    who I haven't seen in 21 years... So many emotions!
    stargazer2468 stargazer2468 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 17

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    I know it's wrong to hate your family,

    but I've really grown to hate my family over the years. They've neglected me, I never got the attention that I truly wanted and/or needed. Whenever I did want attention from them, they either said, "We're too busy!", or "Don't you think this is childish?". It's been like that...
    GrandGizzard GrandGizzard 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 16

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    Learning To Accept My Dysfunctional Family

    Everyone wants to have the perfect family. You know, the one where every one loves each other, are happy to be together, and family members gets along well with each other. Holidays are celebrated together, accomplishments are encouraged etc. The fact is, most families are far...
    Amantcul Amantcul 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    My mother came out to visit me-- 2k mile trip,

    and now she's gone after we had a huge fight. Everything seemed like she needed to critique me on, and I told her if she continued to criticize she wouldn't be welcome in my household. I've been angry all day but I feel sad and horrible too. Nothing I do is right :(
    danie728 danie728 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    Well hell where do I begin!

    !??!! I'm an only child of a biracial deaf hippie parents!! I was taken away at 8 & I was between foster home, grandparents & parents to finally on my own at 15! My life saga crazy & to much to go into detail!! "I really need to write a book"!! Anyway now a mother of 5 beautiful...
    eudoraf5 eudoraf5 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    If there's one thing I'm always jealous about

    other people is them having a happy family.
    gwenllian gwenllian 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 20

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    'Growing up in narcissistic (strict) parents'

    I was born as ‘THE ONLY CHILD’ in the city of Bangkok, Thailand in under well-educated, warm, but imperfect family. (My parents of ethnic in both THAI AYUDHAYA vs. SUKHOTHAI CHINESE) They both were family-oriented people, but the truth was they become ‘narcissistic family...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 6

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    Normal

    Funny how I view dysfunction as "normal" until I see what a normal life actually is. Sometimes my family reminds me of a bunch of string, tied together tighter then what is comfortable. I'm the stray piece trying to cut myself loose, but alas, a piece of string has no hands...
    RunningBlue RunningBlue 18-21, F 2 Responses May 26, 2011

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    If you truly stop to take a moment; simply

    thinking of how other people feel in particular situations, than we all are genetically in a dysfunctional relationship.
    Jrock91 Jrock91 22-25, M Mar 6

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    I am getting pretty tired of putting up with

    the sheer insanity of my family's dynamic...in particular my psychotic older sister. Stuff goes waaaaaay back with her narcissistic and severe judgment impaired life decisions. She has time and time again made horrible choices and blamed my family even though all we ever do is...
    Lonie23 Lonie23 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    In the following story,

    "us" and "we" refer to me, my sister, brother, dad and mum. In the last couple of years, my uncle got divorced and found a new girlfriend without saying a word to us about any of that. Another uncle decided to build a new house and we didn't hear about it until he needed help to...
    Uncertain153 Uncertain153 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 17

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    My both of my parents are deceased.

    They had a horrible marriage. My father married my mother because she was pretty and my mother married my father because he had a nice job. They had a bitter divorce and the whole kid thing was sorta confusing. They both passed away in the last 18 months ---I knew more...
    robertsnj robertsnj 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I find myself always being negative to my mom

    and putting her down and not thanking or being appreciative of her.. I know this is wrong but I just don't know how to make our relationship better... I just always think that she always thinks that I know nothing and treats me as if I am 10 years old. Please someone comment...
    Wasitwrong Wasitwrong 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    I felt to connect with people on here,

    I should share something personal. Well, I have anxiety and I blame it on my family. My father left my mother when my brother was 12 and I was 6. I thought it was my fault that my father left. Now I realized that he was a coward and that he used to beat up my mother. A...
    redlovely redlovely 22-25, F 3 Responses May 20

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    My sister, who I just met last year,

    invited me to watch her girls play basketball tonight. I enjoyed it a lot and was so proud of my nieces. I wish I could have hugged them and told them how great they were but they have no idea who I am, and my sister has no intention of explaining it to them. I hope someday they...
    Leannaix Leannaix 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    My mother is illogical

    and irrational. She is beyond nosy and loves to eavesdrop on everyone else's private conversations. She is an authoritarian type who enjoys criticizing and belittling others, and constantly jumps to conclusions that have absolutely no basis in reality. For her, the only...
    justsharing justsharing 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 1

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    If I Have An Evil Step Mother, Where'S My Prince?

    Two years ago, I moved out from my house. Not by choice but because my step mom kicked me out and what hurts most is that my dad proceeded to allow her to do this. I lived with my mom for about a month afterward but that didn't last long before we started fighting as well. I now...
    bug14 bug14 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    It's just what it is.

    A family you can never bind together cuz of pride, hate, envy and so much things going on. Just like that.
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F Apr 11

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    If I never seen any of them

    for the rest of my life not including my Gma, I wouldn't care.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Jun 3

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    My family and I are being evicted due to a slew

    of false complaints filed by our neighbor who seems to dislike us and I still don't understand why. We have to be out in two days. We have nowhere to go. I'm only 20 years old but I've been carrying the responsibility of my brother(12) and my sister's(14) well being on my...
    Mousetoes Mousetoes 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 29

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    Trying to cope with the upcoming holidays with

    My mom. I tend to believe because she demonstrates the signs of Borderline Personality Disorder. I am adopted and for years I felt like I always needed to make my mother proud and live up to her expectations. the moment things do not go her way She will hold over my head" I...
    lynn0483 lynn0483 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    My family is the definition of crazy.

    But I forgive them for everything and all the awful things they do to me and I'm scared because even if i forgive my dad for being a drunk and hitting my mom and me and my mom's infedelity I love them but when I forgive them it justifies all they've done and it doesnt stop?
    silencedd silencedd 22-25 1 Response Oct 14

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    I do have a dysfunctional family.

    ..and I guess thats why I'm always nervous. I'm guilty if im happy. I have a wonderful husband and even in-laws...which is so rare, but I'm always sad n guilty because I feel ive ditched my own family and their unhappy lives...I escaped to live my own life without them. My dad...
    setmefree287 setmefree287 26-30, F Sep 4

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    Fxcked.

    Well my mums an alcoholic, I have bipolar and I self harm, and my step dad seems to think my older sister is depressed because her room is messy. Sigh.
    Blenkinsop4 Blenkinsop4 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    Hi there, I grew up with my mother

    after my parents got divorced and my mother and I moved back to my mothers home country, when I was 3. Since then I have always had a life with two families which grew apart more and more as I got older. To the point where I am 19 now and my father hates my other family and my...
    Paddingt Paddingt 18-21, M Oct 13

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    An Isolated Childhood

    Please don't fall asleep, this is the short version. It is a story that I hope explains why you should never hold someone you love to tightly for you may cause permanent irreparable damage. Okay, deep sigh, here is my story. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and thinking about it...
    angelgenie angelgenie 26-30 22 Responses Jun 13, 2008

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    Whoever says they don't have a dysfunctional

    family is just lying to themselves.
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 22-25, F 6 Responses Apr 27

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    I am in the midst of writing a book about my

    dysfunctional family and I have a strong feeling it could be a best seller simply because of all that it encompasses. It's like an entire season of Jerry Springer which is a comical way to look at it but it's also painfully trivializing to say those two things are analogous. I...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 2

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    Meeting my dad today

    after 21 years!! Eeeep!
    stargazer2468 stargazer2468 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 18

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    As I get older I realize I'm happy I grew up

    how I did.. I'm only 17 but boy have I learned some lessons to use in life. My parents were split and had shared custody of me and my brother week on week off as far back as I can remember. Even though both my parents are struggling in life from completely different situations...
    MacieMakenna MacieMakenna 18-21, F Jan 20

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    I have 3 sisters in my family that's it.

    1 full sister and 2 half sisters. My oldest half sister I found out about 2 years ago she's a few years older than me, my youngest half sister's dad abused me, my full sister I hardly ever see. That's my family. :-)
    friendlygent friendlygent 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 17

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    I Am Tired Of The Hell That My Family Has Bestowed On Me!!!

    Growing up I had no idea what a normal family was like. I wasn't even aware that mine was abnormal as we were sheltered and I didn't have a frame of reference.  All I knew was that I was unhappy and that it seemed no one got along.  I also knew that my parents argued, nagged...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 7 Responses May 27, 2013

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    I know I'm your least favorite.

    You must think you gave me enough support and love but no, you were never there for me and i had to take care of myself. I know that you had hard times too but I was little. I was needing your love and responsibility. Not anymore. I don't want it anymore. I don't think i'm brave...
    fuccfuse fuccfuse 13-15, F Oct 30

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    I feel lonely even though I have a large family,

    I am the only girl amongst seven brothers. They rarely have any contact with me unless they want something. They practically ignore our mother, again unless they require something all her care is left to me, they do nothing at all to help, but she still drops everything and...
    sister0 sister0 51-55, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    I wish I was able to talk to my family about

    certain things I go through all by myself.. Unfortunately it seems like all I have is me.
    hopeliveshavefaith hopeliveshavefaith 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 16

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    So apparently my aunt has been in rehab

    and she just got out. She's called my mom twice apologizing. -She forged checks from my mom -She told her alcoholic bf that he could have sex with me -She neglected my cat Merry when she offered to care for her when I was homeless. It's her fault my sweet baby cat is dead...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 3

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    Last Christmas is when everything about my

    family came to a weird and twisted turn. The day before Christmas Eve I called my step sister to ask her to come to my house for Christmas. She was planning on driving to her mothers, which is an 8 hour drive. She is an awful driver and my parents and I were concerned that she...
    EvansMommy33014 EvansMommy33014 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    You Are Not Alone, Take My Advice And Just Walk Away.

    My mother is the definition of pure evil. She let me know at an early age that she hated me. She beat me mercilessly for no reason, has knocked teeth out of my mouth when I was 12, refusing to replace it. Denied me basic necessities, that heaven that I have an aunt who has...
    Amnestic Amnestic 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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    I Have A Dysfunctional Family

    So here's my story. I grew up in a very emotionally abusive home. My dad who was a former alcoholic had rage and anger issues that would constantly spill out onto us, he would blame us for everything under the sun all the time. I just remembered being scared that I was going to...
    z4e71 z4e71 26-30, F Nov 19, 2013

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    But. But. Me was told dysfunctional was

    ok. Has been new definition of normal. Apparently. based on posts. And rumors. It has been this way long long time. Since before president clinton. Maybe even before nixon. Lmao.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M Sep 16

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    I will be meeting my dad

    for this first time in 21 years this Friday! Wow... I'm feeling so many emotions right now!
    stargazer2468 stargazer2468 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 12

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    When i was 12 a torture began

    that i would endure for another 2 years. My dad was an awful man, and there are days i still wake up crying, and terrified. I tell you this because ive been told its good to talk about it. To tell people, and ep has become the only place i can truly talk about things.
    Ashleyy2 Ashleyy2 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 13

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    Something about the cold winter makes me feel

    more vulnerable and more alone. I called my mom today to ask her for a favor and of course she guilt tripped me and then I retorted back condescending remarks about the role that she still has yet to fulfill. As I mocked her parenting abilities I was waiting for her to...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F Nov 15

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    My dad is very disrespectful towards my mom

    and he believes he's superior to her because he had a college education and not my mom. He always starts arguments about the most ridiculous things and he yells and disrespects my mom and he doesnt allow her to say anything. I've asked my mom why don't they divorce, but they...
    danaehrmantraut danaehrmantraut 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    My mom and I were homeless.

    Mom was basically dying and I had dropped out of high school. And I was at my aunt's "house." My aunt told her boyfriend that I was a "gift" for him. So my mom called my dad and begged him to let me stay with him so that I could finish high school and not be homeless and...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 10

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