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I Have a Dysfunctional Family

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    Like i said before in my previous stories,

    my brother has mental problems. Today in the middle of the night, he decided to barge in my dad's room and beat the hell out of him. It wasn't clear at first because i was nearly asleep, but i heard my brother yelling at my dad that he was going to kill him. I had to rush out of...
    Dapperness Dapperness 16-17, F Feb 17

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    Anger And Tears

    Up until about age 5 I thought my family was just normal like everybody else. I am one of 5 children with two older brothers and two younger sisters. However this would soon change for the worse. I remember sitting down for dinner one evening. My dad worked hard in his job and my...
    MichaelJad MichaelJad 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 1, 2012

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    I'm really starting to believe

    that dysfunctional parents come together online to support each other in the delusion that they were/are actually great parents. I don't mean to sound judgmental because I believe that a lot of these parents were hurt/hurting themselves and they need love, too, but it is...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 28

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    I hate my family beyond belief.

    My mom is essentially bipolar and has verbally and emotionally abused me for years. Sometimes I really don't know how to deal with this.
    hadeion hadeion 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I don't get along with my mom at all.

    See, my parents got separated 1 year ago and ever since I have wanted to move in with my dad (my mom used to be, and frankly still is, very abusive). I have to say though I was not very easy, still am not, but she is a mother and therefor should have gotten me help (I am very...
    anonymous552 anonymous552 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    Anti-family

    I've had depression and low self esteem for most of my life. Family members capitalized on this during a hard time in my life and as I trusted them they worked to erode my remaining self-esteem. Criticisms, jabs at my skills, lots of gossip and rumor spreading, and actual...
    xp4td xp4td 26-30 3 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    My Mum

    My son suggested we go see her as we were driving near where she lives.So we did.Haven't talked to her in a long time, we had a falling out about 10 years ago.She A) told me she felt sorry for my son having a Mum like me. And B) called DOCS on Me!!!She never apologized for that...
    meteorite meteorite 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    Yes,i do.dont really got a pops,

    that explains my dad/daughter ****** fantasy/fetish.*sigh* i know im sick,but what can i do
    AmberLovesRabbits AmberLovesRabbits 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    An Isolated Childhood

    Please don't fall asleep, this is the short version. It is a story that I hope explains why you should never hold someone you love to tightly for you may cause permanent irreparable damage. Okay, deep sigh, here is my story. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and thinking about it...
    angelgenie angelgenie 26-30 20 Responses Jun 13, 2008

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    I hate my family sometimes,

    how horrible they have become. All that is mostly on one side, and I feel horrible for that parent. Ever since my grandpa died on that side, the family just fell apart. They are so messed up in the heads, I wish it wasn't a part of my family history. Their severe, careless...
    dessertqueen dessertqueen 16-17, F Feb 16

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    Heres A Story I Found In This Book I Read. Called 'silent Sons'

    Once on yellow paper with green lines he wrote a poem, And he called it "Chop" because that was the name of his dog, and that's what it was all about. And his teacher gave him an A and a gold star, And his mother hung it on the kitchen door, And read it to all his aunts. That was...
    RedWolfGuy RedWolfGuy 22-25, M 3 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    If This Is What Family Is, I Don't Want To Be A Part Of It.

    I am Lexi, and my family is ****** up. I'm sixteen years old and I have to get my feelings out to someone, so thank you for listening. My mother had me at a very young age. She got pregnant her senior year of high school at 18, and had me when she was 19. The man who got her...
    PurpleStopSign96 PurpleStopSign96 16-17, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    If I Have An Evil Step Mother, Where'S My Prince?

    Two years ago, I moved out from my house. Not by choice but because my step mom kicked me out and what hurts most is that my dad proceeded to allow her to do this. I lived with my mom for about a month afterward but that didn't last long before we started fighting as well. I now...
    bug14 bug14 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    I am getting pretty tired of putting up with

    the sheer insanity of my family's dynamic...in particular my psychotic older sister. Stuff goes waaaaaay back with her narcissistic and severe judgment impaired life decisions. She has time and time again made horrible choices and blamed my family even though all we ever do is...
    Lonie23 Lonie23 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    I can't really say I have much of a family.

    We don't act like one. I won't say they don't love me because they do. They just have a weird way of showing it. I don't even care that we aren't a family anymore, I've long ago stopped caring. I don't use my distructive family as an excuse to act out, that's stupid and immature...
    McLovin0000 McLovin0000 18-21, F Mar 17

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    Prey To The World

    It would seem that everyone who grew up like me would turn out tough and strong enough to not take anything and everything from any and everybody. I often wonder why instead of growing up to be a strong adult, I left behind that tough child and grew up to be timid, withdrawn, and...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F Sep 9, 2013

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    I'm just not sure what to do anymore.

    I have a reputable and what appears to most people to be a nice family but behind closed doors my mother is a drug addict and my father works 2:30 in the morning until between 4/6 every night trying to support her habit. She's constantly trying to squirrel money away, she's...
    littleme93 littleme93 18-21, F Mar 6

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    It's just what it is.

    A family you can never bind together cuz of pride, hate, envy and so much things going on. Just like that.
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F Apr 11

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    I am a twenty four years old Asian female

    who have a dysfunctional family. Throughout my whole life of twenty four years, I've never met my father in my childhood. I've no recollection of him whatsoever. My mother had told me stories of why he left, the reason was he cheated on my mother which made me dislike him to the...
    lovelyautumn1989 lovelyautumn1989 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 11

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    My "old" family, which consisted of my real

    mother, father and myself was highly dysfunctional. Nothing but unhappiness and hate. They would beat each other and when they felt like it.. Me too. Not only did they abuse each other and me, but they abused drugs and alcohol. My "new" family which consists of my real father...
    Owymonster Owymonster 16-17, F 7 Responses Mar 10

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    My mothers siblings stalk me

    and my brother because we pay then no attention.
    Zeita75 Zeita75 36-40, F Mar 6

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    I Am Not...

    I am not your punching bag, your inferior, or your animal. I am not made of stone, I have feelings and I don't forget. Things could have been so much more, If you only would have let it. You were my role model, my friend, and my everything. Well you had to go and **** that up...
    Canadian45 Canadian45 22-25 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    You Are Not Alone, Take My Advice And Just Walk Away.

    My mother is the definition of pure evil. She let me know at an early age that she hated me. She beat me mercilessly for no reason, has knocked teeth out of my mouth when I was 12, refusing to replace it. Denied me basic necessities, that heaven that I have an aunt who has...
    Amnestic Amnestic 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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    So I want to move in with my dad

    but my mom says I need valid arguments. Any ideas? (Other then the fact that I WANT to live with my dad) I am a 13 year old girl.
    anonymous552 anonymous552 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 27

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    'Growing up in narcissistic (strict) parents'

    I was born as ‘THE ONLY CHILD’ in the city of Bangkok, Thailand in under well-educated, warm, but imperfect family. (My parents of ethnic in both THAI AYUDHAYA vs. SUKHOTHAI CHINESE) They both were family-oriented people, but the truth was they become ‘narcissistic family...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 6

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    My Parents Are Both Dead Now

    And finally I can stop denying how appallingly they treated me my whole life. My mother rejected and ranted and raged at me, my father ignored and avoided and dismissed me. There was no love, there was no attention, there was no contact or intimacy . . .and for years I was sure...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    The Dys in Dysfunction

    my mother married and divorce twice. she would get in abusive relationships and cry for help. she lived with every single one of her adult children and went from house to house. i help her out alot with money and a place to live. she stop putting so much stress on me because it...
    starship33 starship33 36-40, F 19 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    Dysfuntional Family

    I like alot of other's, have a Toxic Dysfuntional Family, so it is my choice not to have them in my life. Whitch is very lonely, but i don't need the drama. Then there's the ******* Ex's that not only collude with each other and abuse me still (years later) and "hook in...
    Feflower Feflower 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 12, 2007

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    After finding out that dysfunctional families

    have names for the roles each person/child has, I thought about how perfectly they fit each member of my family, even with us playing at least two roles at a time (like golden child and scapegoat). I don't know why, but today after getting fed up with my sister [again], I...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    I Am Tired Of The Hell That My Family Has Bestowed On Me!!!

    Growing up I had no idea what a normal family was like. I wasn't even aware that mine was abnormal as we were sheltered and I didn't have a frame of reference.  All I knew was that I was unhappy and that it seemed no one got along.  I also knew that my parents argued, nagged...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 8 Responses May 27, 2013

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    The Last Straw

    Three days ago my sister opened the door to my house and came in, I was home but was about to leave to the gym. She was on her lunch break from community service for a DUI she got. She wanted to use my microwave and when I turned around she slipped a beer into her pocket. I...
    Sobixgirl Sobixgirl 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 5, 2013

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    I feel like my first relative

    when he comes round he's more apart of my family then I am....I feel so left out and hurt that I sit on my own most of the time...I don't even feel like eating my dinner even though I'm starving...I don't feel loved just feel like I'm apart of this big family but I'm invisible...
    pardz pardz 22-25, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    TellySR TellySR 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    My family is really dysfunctional

    and it sucks. It's just one of the many things that contribute to my depression. We go to a therapist and she makes things worse. Today, I found out that my father told her that I hit him. I didn't. I don't remember ever hitting him. The therapist told me that she called DCF...
    just1a2girl3 just1a2girl3 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    Because of my dysfunctional family I feel

    as though marriage will never work. I've never seen myself as a pessimist but the only thing I see happening to marriage is divorce. Is this irrational?
    whocares16 whocares16 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I'm sitting here at my aunts funeral.

    The place is packed. I'm surprised I'm not crying because I'm usually a very emotional person. I think part of the reason is she was cremated so there is no body. I'm not looking forward to she little/ or should I say large gathering cause my family is really big and it will...
    meghan888 meghan888 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    My lovely family Cousin: Does drugs Mom:

    Alcoholic Aunt: Alcoholic Grandfather: Dead Uncle: Dead Grandmother: Lives with cousin Dad: Tries so hard to keep the peace (Love you Dad) Me: Caught up in the middle of it all
    addictedtoweightlifting addictedtoweightlifting 18-21, M 6 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Well hell where do I begin!

    !??!! I'm an only child of a biracial deaf hippie parents!! I was taken away at 8 & I was between foster home, grandparents & parents to finally on my own at 15! My life saga crazy & to much to go into detail!! "I really need to write a book"!! Anyway now a mother of 5 beautiful...
    eudoraf5 eudoraf5 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I hate having such a dysfunctional family.

    Sometimes I wonder what it feels like to have a loving supporting family. I understand every family has their issues but at the end of the day they love each other and are there for each other. It breaks my heart to know I'll never have that. I'm a simple person. I enjoy the...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 30

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    I'm Scared of My Mother

    That sounds lame, maybe, but my mother can be scary. She has extreme mood swings, and even to this day I don't know how to deal with her. She will want to go out for mother daughter time, when maybe the night before she called me full of hate, anger, resentment, etc. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    My parents are very base creatures.

    My sisters are more or less average with their flaws naturally. There is not much communication or desire for communication between us... certainly not on my end.
    Arcadeus Arcadeus 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    It's easy to point at my mother

    as the "bad guy" out of my parents. After all, she was the one who was constantly yelling, cussing at us, saying she hated us and wanted to leave us, and physically assaulted us at least once. But it's not fair to focus all of my resentment on her and give my father a free pass...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    Father's been ranting

    and raving the past hour. Not highly unusual. Anyhow, I was just dozing off and heard him say something along the lines of, "you two should have been given up to the system." Or something like that, anyways. That's probably the meanest thing I've ever heard him say about my...
    Naxxaras Naxxaras 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 13

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    As I get older I realize I'm happy I grew up

    how I did.. I'm only 17 but boy have I learned some lessons to use in life. My parents were split and had shared custody of me and my brother week on week off as far back as I can remember. Even though both my parents are struggling in life from completely different situations...
    MacieMakenna MacieMakenna 18-21, F Jan 20

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    I'm not sure which category this comes under

    but here it goes... It's something bothering me n I'm helpless... I'm travelling Australia with my lovely boyfriend. We have a good life. We work hard, love each other and most of all take care of one another... We' r here for each other and one another matters. Which is nice...
    FuzzBroadway FuzzBroadway 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    My father who I never knew anything about

    until recently is getting out of jail in April. He's in there for molesting boys, I'm going to go meet him and the whole other side of my family soon.
    lostsoul9011 lostsoul9011 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 14

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    Fxcked.

    Well my mums an alcoholic, I have bipolar and I self harm, and my step dad seems to think my older sister is depressed because her room is messy. Sigh.
    Blenkinsop4 Blenkinsop4 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    If you truly stop to take a moment; simply

    thinking of how other people feel in particular situations, than we all are genetically in a dysfunctional relationship.
    Jrock91 Jrock91 22-25, M Mar 6

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    All I wanted to do is Go out with my friend to

    pick out our competition outfit tomorrow And both my parents are coming I go upstairs and now they're talking about me, do you think I can't hear you? **** all of you
    prettybr0wneyes prettybr0wneyes 13-15, F Feb 14

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    I'm trying to be more positive about my family

    (and life in general), but sometimes memories pop up that remind me that maybe my family is toxic and has always been and I'm not just being "crazy." Lately, the memories of playing basketball have been floating around in my head. I was always interested in playing the sport...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    13 year old boy refusing to go to school.

    Refuses to get out of bed. Yells at his mom. Says he hates her and wishes she were dead. He is almost 6 feet tall. Already tried calling police but he goes to private school and they won't do anything. Mom has done everything from throwing cold water on him to taking everything...
    Lily1397 Lily1397 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 4

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    My Dysfunctional Family

          It all begins with an Alcoholic father who was very abusive to my Mom and to us Children, Not only physical abuse but sexual abuse to me as a 13 year old child, I know he had to have done the same things to my older sisters but i never questioned...
    confusedone confusedone 41-45, F 15 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    My half sister is a **** up,

    she uses my parents for money, me for sympathy. I've fallen for it ever since I can remember. I've always watched out for my other sister. That doesn't seem right, though. She's older, she should be looking after me. That's how it should be, right? I'm so sick of her games. The...
    kelslyn kelslyn 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    Normal

    Funny how I view dysfunction as "normal" until I see what a normal life actually is. Sometimes my family reminds me of a bunch of string, tied together tighter then what is comfortable. I'm the stray piece trying to cut myself loose, but alas, a piece of string has no hands...
    RunningBlue RunningBlue 18-21, F 2 Responses May 26, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Not in the physical world- I was raised to believe that the family I thought was my family was mine. I later found out that I was taken and they were not my real family I belonged...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    As I've written here, I hate my biological family. I do have a family of 5 close friends, all younger than I am. Our little group gathers on Saturday nights to play fantasy role...
    katmaninva katmaninva 56-60 6 days ago

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