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I Have a Dysfunctional Family

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    It's Been No Bed of Roses.

    My intimate family members are very dear to me. We’ve been through a lot of hardship, a lot of misery together. I respect every one of my family members, i’ve witness their strength. Unfortunately, when we merge there is only disharmony, chaos.. and pain. Without doubt in...
    Imaginist Imaginist 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    If there's one thing I'm always jealous about

    other people is them having a happy family.
    gwenllian gwenllian 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    Anti-family

    I've had depression and low self esteem for most of my life. Family members capitalized on this during a hard time in my life and as I trusted them they worked to erode my remaining self-esteem. Criticisms, jabs at my skills, lots of gossip and rumor spreading, and actual...
    xp4td xp4td 26-30 3 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    My das is fighting with my step mom again.

    ... He Left the house 5 years ago, And they keep fighting... I try to not lisent to them, but is hard....
    Healinghate Healinghate 18-21, M Mar 18

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    My "old" family, which consisted of my real

    mother, father and myself was highly dysfunctional. Nothing but unhappiness and hate. They would beat each other and when they felt like it.. Me too. Not only did they abuse each other and me, but they abused drugs and alcohol. My "new" family which consists of my real father...
    Owymonster Owymonster 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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    I am 25 years old and have recently moved back

    home to live with my parents for a few months. I always knew my family was extremely dysfunctional growing up, but I always thought that was just part of the 'teenage angst' experience. Now that I am an adult, it is increasingly apparent that the problem was not all in my head...
    Thristic Thristic 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    My dad is an alcoholic.

    My mom has a boyfriend who is an ******* and won't leave him. She's also very greedy. She also cheated on my dad with him along with a few other men. My brother is greedy and spoiled he won't help mom out financially, even though that's what my sister and him agreed to. My...
    XxWolverinaxX XxWolverinaxX 18-21 2 Responses Jan 17

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    'Growing up in narcissistic (strict) parents'

    I was born as ‘THE ONLY CHILD’ in the city of Bangkok, Thailand in under well-educated, warm, but imperfect family. (My parents of ethnic in both THAI AYUDHAYA vs. SUKHOTHAI CHINESE) They both were family-oriented people, but the truth was they become ‘narcissistic family...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 6, 2014

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    I Wounder why I was born into my family,

    can they never get together without me having to break up fights at 4am every day? can we never just have a nice family holiday together, if that's too much then don't come I am sick and tired of all this ****. thank you dear family for ruining Christmas for the 5th year in a...
    anneloves anneloves 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    Here is the thing....

    i realy dont know whats going on with my family but anytime i have an encounter with them its never for the better, it has come to a point that the mere thought of spending time with them gives me the most depressing feeling. my dad currently has this mindset that my siblings and...
    Emmanuelo Emmanuelo 26-30, M Feb 24

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    My Parents Are Both Dead Now

    And finally I can stop denying how appallingly they treated me my whole life. My mother rejected and ranted and raged at me, my father ignored and avoided and dismissed me. There was no love, there was no attention, there was no contact or intimacy . . .and for years I was sure...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    If I never seen any of them

    for the rest of my life not including my Gma, I wouldn't care.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Jun 3, 2014

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    I'm slightly worried,

    yesterday I got out of the shower without a towel because there wasn't one in the bathroom. So I had to walk across the landing nude, but my sister came out of her room and saw me. She just stood there without saying anything. I think she was shocked. But since it happened she...
    Robson11 Robson11 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 8

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    My mom and I were homeless.

    Mom was basically dying and I had dropped out of high school. And I was at my aunt's "house." My aunt told her boyfriend that I was a "gift" for him. So my mom called my dad and begged him to let me stay with him so that I could finish high school and not be homeless and...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    My dad was very abusive of my mother.

    .. and he beat her in front of me when I was very young and yelled at me when I cried. So when I was 7 years old, he abused me too until I was 14 and he committed suicide. I was not there to see it. My mother now is alcoholic and drug addict. She disowned me for no reason because...
    tristful tristful 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    My mother suffers from mental health issues

    and spends all day playing video games. She can't work anymore because she damaged her arm too badly and it'll take almost a year to fully heal. But even when she was working, she would work 3-12 in the morning and wouldn't get back until around 1. Then she would play video...
    whisperedthing whisperedthing 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Yes, my family is dysfunctional.

    Now what? Where do I go from here. I find myself asking these things because I'm trying to fix myself. Sitting around looking at how I'm broken, and even the reasons why is not helping me. I went to a therapist. He made me pay him even though all he did was make me tell him...
    krrimarte krrimarte 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    GlitzandGlamber GlitzandGlamber 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 4

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    Normal

    Funny how I view dysfunction as "normal" until I see what a normal life actually is. Sometimes my family reminds me of a bunch of string, tied together tighter then what is comfortable. I'm the stray piece trying to cut myself loose, but alas, a piece of string has no hands...
    RunningBlue RunningBlue 18-21, F 2 Responses May 26, 2011

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    My sister and I have been close pretty much all

    our lives with the exception of a few times we had differences and didn't talk to each other. I was responsible for her and my brother from a young age due to my mothers mental incapacity. I set the bar very high be expected maybe the impossible from both of them. All of form...
    FeelingCrazy FeelingCrazy 46-50 Feb 9

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    I'm so tired of my family fighting.

    I'm beginning to have my own issues of NEEDING to feel wanted because of the way my family operates and has my whole life. If you tick them off they'll disown you for a bit. It's never forever like they swear they'll do. They'll swear we're never welcome back at their house n...
    jak8701 jak8701 26-30, F Jan 4

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    My mom has a legitimate mental issue,

    my dad looks like he's slowly dying day by day, my older sister isn't around at all anymore, and my little sister is just doing her thing. My brain is a complete mess at home. My parents make me hate myself. Their words and actions destroy me. And im sorry to say this but...
    anonamanda001 anonamanda001 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    I've dealt with my dad's crap

    for years. Ignored me, called me a stupid *****, we never really talked. He seemed to put in a lot of effort into making me feel bad. It got to the point that I didn't know if it was just me. He threatened to batter me a lot. He hardly ever did. But then there was my brother...
    Oaza Oaza 13-15, F Feb 15

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    Apparently my first cousin moved into the same

    town as my family. We only found out because my uncle decided to tell my father that my cousin had a baby. Apparently my uncle is scared my father might actually talk to his niece. What a crime that would be. My brother is the same way, he no longer talks to anyone from my...
    Kingshelman Kingshelman 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Weird thing has been happening.

    I believe when I leave my laundry in the bathroom, my stepson is ************ on my pants! I try to get my laundry out of there every day, but sometimes I'm in too much of hurry. What should I do!!!! Gross!! He's also been caught previously hoarding clothing from me and my...
    ikissedafrog ikissedafrog 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Ughhh... I have a little cousin

    that i wanna straight punch in the face! Shes 19 and super disrespectful she cursed out ger older bro n sis and moved out of the house. She called all of us liars and keeps going for advice to her sis in law who is a poisonous bi***! I tried to get thru to her about whats going...
    Contrarthodox Contrarthodox 26-30, F Apr 15

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    I'm Scared of My Mother

    That sounds lame, maybe, but my mother can be scary. She has extreme mood swings, and even to this day I don't know how to deal with her. She will want to go out for mother daughter time, when maybe the night before she called me full of hate, anger, resentment, etc. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    Something about the cold winter makes me feel

    more vulnerable and more alone. I called my mom today to ask her for a favor and of course she guilt tripped me and then I retorted back condescending remarks about the role that she still has yet to fulfill. As I mocked her parenting abilities I was waiting for her to...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F Nov 15, 2014

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    I am in the midst of writing a book about my

    dysfunctional family and I have a strong feeling it could be a best seller simply because of all that it encompasses. It's like an entire season of Jerry Springer which is a comical way to look at it but it's also painfully trivializing to say those two things are analogous. I...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    An Isolated Childhood

    Please don't fall asleep, this is the short version. It is a story that I hope explains why you should never hold someone you love to tightly for you may cause permanent irreparable damage. Okay, deep sigh, here is my story. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and thinking about it...
    angelgenie angelgenie 26-30 22 Responses Jun 13, 2008

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    Fxcked.

    Well my mums an alcoholic, I have bipolar and I self harm, and my step dad seems to think my older sister is depressed because her room is messy. Sigh.
    Blenkinsop4 Blenkinsop4 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    As I get older I realize I'm happy I grew up

    how I did.. I'm only 17 but boy have I learned some lessons to use in life. My parents were split and had shared custody of me and my brother week on week off as far back as I can remember. Even though both my parents are struggling in life from completely different situations...
    MacieMakenna MacieMakenna 18-21, F Jan 20, 2014

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    I Have A Dysfunctional Family

    So here's my story. I grew up in a very emotionally abusive home. My dad who was a former alcoholic had rage and anger issues that would constantly spill out onto us, he would blame us for everything under the sun all the time. I just remembered being scared that I was going to...
    z4e71 z4e71 31-35, F Nov 19, 2013

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    My dad is very disrespectful towards my mom

    and he believes he's superior to her because he had a college education and not my mom. He always starts arguments about the most ridiculous things and he yells and disrespects my mom and he doesnt allow her to say anything. I've asked my mom why don't they divorce, but they...
    danaehrmantraut danaehrmantraut 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2014

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    Here it goes ... I never got the love I really

    needed from my mom or dad. Yes they provided food on the table clothes on my back a shelter . But my home doesn't feel home I have a 10 year old brother who my mom had later in life . I'm the oldest sibling I have a middle brother age 18 . My parents have a horrible marriage...
    fiestychica fiestychica 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 19

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    If I Have An Evil Step Mother, Where'S My Prince?

    Two years ago, I moved out from my house. Not by choice but because my step mom kicked me out and what hurts most is that my dad proceeded to allow her to do this. I lived with my mom for about a month afterward but that didn't last long before we started fighting as well. I now...
    bug14 bug14 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    I know no one is perfect- there's really no

    such thing as perfect, but I hate that my family is so dysfunctional. My father is an angry drunk that uses coke, never was really there for us growing up. He treated us like ****, constantly putting us down and beating us. I blame him for me not knowing how to love and be...
    blissfulreverie blissfulreverie 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 12

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    So I told my sister something with specific

    instructions not to tell other members of family. And she couldn't keep her mouth shut and now I have to deal with the other family members crap. What should I do? It would just be nice to have someone to talk to in a safe manner without it turning into front page news. :(
    ikissedafrog ikissedafrog 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    I am getting married soon

    because it is my only "ticket out" to live away from my family. In my culture girls can't live by their own , except few. So I planned for this, a 1-3 years marriage until i become financially stable and then move out after getting a divorce. Do any of you have slimier...
    keiyee keiyee 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    My sister is in am "I'm moving" high.

    .. I knew that she wanted to move and she didn't want to move with our other sister this time, but now she's talking about that she doesn't want to move with me now. I'm totally fine about it. I don't see why she's mad at me though. I didn't do anything wrong. I think she's...
    CharleeLuv CharleeLuv 18-21, F Feb 23

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    My brother never had a father figure

    even though our father lives in the same house with us. The weird thing is, even though he's physically there.... mentally he isn't. My father lives in his own fantasy world where he is seeking attention from his own father who really doesn't care for him. So while my brother...
    khushali11 khushali11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    I Am Not...

    I am not your punching bag, your inferior, or your animal. I am not made of stone, I have feelings and I don't forget. Things could have been so much more, If you only would have let it. You were my role model, my friend, and my everything. Well you had to go and **** that up...
    Canadian45 Canadian45 22-25 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    You Are Not Alone, Take My Advice And Just Walk Away.

    My mother is the definition of pure evil. She let me know at an early age that she hated me. She beat me mercilessly for no reason, has knocked teeth out of my mouth when I was 12, refusing to replace it. Denied me basic necessities, that heaven that I have an aunt who has...
    Amnestic Amnestic 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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    Hello. I am a 23 year old male,

    and this is my story that I want people to know. It all began back in my old home. My parents were great and wonderful parents to the eyes of the outside world. For example, church, school, friends, public settings. Everybody loved them and everybody wished to be like my...
    familymaynotbeforever91 familymaynotbeforever91 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 25

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    I Am Tired Of The Hell That My Family Has Bestowed On Me!!!

    Growing up I had no idea what a normal family was like. I wasn't even aware that mine was abnormal as we were sheltered and I didn't have a frame of reference.  All I knew was that I was unhappy and that it seemed no one got along.  I also knew that my parents argued, nagged...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 7 Responses May 27, 2013

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    Learning To Accept My Dysfunctional Family

    Everyone wants to have the perfect family. You know, the one where every one loves each other, are happy to be together, and family members gets along well with each other. Holidays are celebrated together, accomplishments are encouraged etc. The fact is, most families are far...
    Amantcul Amantcul 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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