I Have a Dysfunctional Family

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    Picture it mixture of the Osbournes,

    The Munsters, The Adams Family, now picture taking them to an Opera! yeah that about sums it up...lmao
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 7, 2015

    Wow! What an understatement.

    My home life as a child was unbearable. I want you to understand right away. I am not looking for sympathy. I have to deal with all of this somehow. I feel like getting it all out will allow me to heal. I cannot tell my entire story in one post. There is too much that...
    aplacetohide aplacetohide
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 13

    Learning To Accept My Dysfunctional Family

    Everyone wants to have the perfect family. You know, the one where every one loves each other, are happy to be together, and family members gets along well with each other. Holidays are celebrated together, accomplishments are encouraged etc. The fact is, most families are far...
    Amantcul Amantcul
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

    I Am Tired Of The Hell That My Family Has Bestowed On Me!!!

    Growing up I had no idea what a normal family was like. I wasn't even aware that mine was abnormal as we were sheltered and I didn't have a frame of reference.  All I knew was that I was unhappy and that it seemed no one got along.  I also knew that my parents argued, nagged...
    lagatta lagatta
    41-45, F
    5 Responses May 27, 2013

    Dear fellow human being,

    If you come from a dysfunctional family I implore you to join other young adults and adults who had dysfunctional families. Let us create our own family. United we stand, divided we fall. Let's join forces, become part of a team and work together. Let us reap the benefits of...
    UltraE UltraE
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 25

    As I get older I realize I'm happy I grew up

    how I did.. I'm only 17 but boy have I learned some lessons to use in life. My parents were split and had shared custody of me and my brother week on week off as far back as I can remember. Even though both my parents are struggling in life from completely different situations...
    MacieMakenna MacieMakenna
    18-21, F
    Jan 20, 2014

    It must be so nice to give your parents hugs

    and kisses and tell them how much you love them. I never got to do that as a kid when I wanted to. All the other kids did though. Just the thought of me doing that now makes me cringe and feel uncomfortable because it's something I'm not used to. My parents were never the lovey...
    RoastedCycki RoastedCycki
    70+, F
    4 Responses Sep 21, 2015
    Likewise2 Likewise2
    46-50, F
    Feb 15

    I am never coming over to my parents

    for dinner again, except when both my sister and my cousin goes too. I dont care if it's the best food in the world. There's way too much negativity in the house and what upsets me is that my parents don't even bother try working on their problems.
    Yinhx Yinhx
    31-35, F
    Feb 21

    when you realize out of all the many people in

    your family and life no one gives a damn if you are ok or not.
    JessygotaBooBoo JessygotaBooBoo
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 14

    I’m in a car, it’s on a straight road

    and can’t turn left or right. My seatbelt is tight, there are no peddles, and I’m handcuffed to the steering wheel. A voice comes on the radio and tells me there is a cliff 100 miles ahead that drops 1000 feet into a raging river. I look at the speedometer and it reads 2...
    Hawks269 Hawks269
    46-50, M
    1 Response Feb 26

    My Parents Are Both Dead Now

    And finally I can stop denying how appallingly they treated me my whole life. My mother rejected and ranted and raged at me, my father ignored and avoided and dismissed me. There was no love, there was no attention, there was no contact or intimacy . . .and for years I was sure...
    dispossessed dispossessed
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Nov 22, 2013

    I've never really had a relevant way of talking

    about what happens with my family. I have been living away from home for 3 years now. It's only now that I've been back for 2 weeks that I've realized why I left. I was so freaking depressed and fed up when I left. I would have gone anywhere and done anything just to get out...
    arj90 arj90
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 11

    Will a judge confirm,

    okay my submission to a restraining order against my aunt, mom and brother for talking negative about me behind my back. I live in maryland, PG county
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic
    22-25, F
    Feb 15

    Something about the cold winter makes me feel

    more vulnerable and more alone. I called my mom today to ask her for a favor and of course she guilt tripped me and then I retorted back condescending remarks about the role that she still has yet to fulfill. As I mocked her parenting abilities I was waiting for her to...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123
    22-25, F
    Nov 15, 2014

    I have 6 brothers and 2 sisters.

    I am second youngest. Mom and dad split shortly after my mom was pregnant with my little brother. Dad moved out but visited frequently. We're not all from the same dad, me, my brother and one sister have the same dad. This is probably why those 3 "middle" children were so awful...
    SweetDreamsRubi SweetDreamsRubi
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 24

    so my family is scattered.

    ... our life line has been disconnected for years....but I do know one thing that boils my blood... Every time I see one cousin and he acts like we should be cool even though he sodimized me.... every time I think of it or hear his name I become filled with rage... as he lives a...
    Raynebow81 Raynebow81
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 15

    It started when I was a kid.

    .. I never had much of an identity and my mom is a narcissist. She's been somewhat like the mother who plays in mommy dearest. I hate to speak ill of my mother but I have more bad memories of her than I do good. She's ******** me of my self esteem and dignity then will run and...
    ladysapio ladysapio
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 14, 2015

    Just wanted to thank my parents

    for never signing me up for swim lessons as a child and now I can't take a decent vacation as an adult. Also wanted to thank them for never teaching me how to skate, ski, or snowboard. I can't have fun as an adult now. I've attempted to learn all these things as an adult and...
    rballa rballa
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 13

    Grandma talks horribly about me to her drunk

    sister, who hates me for no reason. They say things to put me down, they've been doing this for years and I feel horrible when they do this. I have severe depression and anxiety and I think about what they have to say about me every single day. To my face, gma is fake nice...
    JunkFoodJunkie JunkFoodJunkie
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 3

    I Wounder why I was born into my family,

    can they never get together without me having to break up fights at 4am every day? can we never just have a nice family holiday together, if that's too much then don't come I am sick and tired of all this ****. thank you dear family for ruining Christmas for the 5th year in a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

    Apparently my first cousin moved into the same

    town as my family. We only found out because my uncle decided to tell my father that my cousin had a baby. Apparently my uncle is scared my father might actually talk to his niece. What a crime that would be. My brother is the same way, he no longer talks to anyone from my...
    Kingshelman Kingshelman
    31-35, M
    1 Response Dec 31, 2014

    Oh dear where do i start?

    We don't talk to each other not much any way, and the only thing that brings us to gether is TV. We don't look after each other, we don't chat with each other talking but not chatting, My big brothers and i are like complete strangers I have no clue how old they are and I am...
    comlpicatedguy comlpicatedguy
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015

    So my brother dislikes me

    for no reason says am an immature idiot and my sister envies me because my mother says she will leave the house to me since I am physically disabled and can't work. My sister has made a big fight over it now my mom no longer wants to leave the home to me anyway. Well supposedly...
    kryme kryme
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 27
    Yinhx Yinhx
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 25

    I think the worst thing

    when you actually open up to siblings and let them in to let the pressure drop is when they finally decide to use that as their weapon against you. I always thought the saying, "your worst enemy could be your best friend." And it's true she hit right near home and it hurt...
    blahblahblahxoxo blahblahblahxoxo
    18-21, F
    Mar 29

    I have family all over the world.

    Canada. Texas. India. USA. Britain. Egypt. And places I probably haven't heard about. Recently my dad told me I had two uncles. One is really wealthy and lives in Texas. I've never met or seen them. I have family all over the USA. My family somewhat does "in...Çest." I'll...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 8

    In my narcissistic family no one loves,

    respects, cares, celebrate and adores me. They hate, are envious, despise, disgusted with me. And abuse me, I am smart, good looking and kind. And to them I'm just a human punching bag.. I'm depressed. God doesn't seem to even care or help.
    empath008 empath008
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 17

    What do you do with an insecure mother.

    People call me ugly. Family and people tell me we look alike. She knows i get bullied for my appearance. Its like she is consumed by bitterness. She acts so fake and passively says rude stuff. Same thing with my brother and aunt.
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 9

    Who doesn't right? The great thing about being

    a grown *** person is you don't have to feed into the dysfunction any more, you can chose to just step away and deal with your family on your own terms.
    TheMythicalCreature TheMythicalCreature
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 20

    I have been married for 24 years.

    I am from the U.S. and my husband is from Morocco. He is Muslim and I am Christian. This, of course, has been difficult, but it wasn't a major problem until my husband decided, after 20+ years, that he really wants me to convert to Islam. I told him that, while I will celebrate...
    delkurtz delkurtz
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Feb 21

    How parents who don't know their kid can ruin

    its life First of all, I want to say I'm not a native english speaker and this story might be badly translated. I have spent whole days ill and couldn't work on it better. Please understand me and have patience to read. Thanks. At 13, my body started to show signs that...
    user8000 user8000
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    Just got into an argument with my brother.

    He always talks with such hostility. Every time i tell him that he sounds hostile he denies it sounding even more hostile.
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 27

    An Isolated Childhood

    Please don't fall asleep, this is the short version. It is a story that I hope explains why you should never hold someone you love to tightly for you may cause permanent irreparable damage. Okay, deep sigh, here is my story. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and thinking about it...
    angelgenie angelgenie
    26-30
    22 Responses Jun 13, 2008

    I love my family no matter how mean

    and unusual they are, they're pretty nice and caring when they choose to be... though they are probably the reason why I am also a dysfunctional person. I grew up thinking so many things were normal and I have so many personal problems now.... they really gave me the lowest self...
    SweetDreamsRubi SweetDreamsRubi
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 20

    I Am Not...

    I am not your punching bag, your inferior, or your animal. I am not made of stone, I have feelings and I don't forget. Things could have been so much more, If you only would have let it. You were my role model, my friend, and my everything. Well you had to go and **** that up...
    Canadian45 Canadian45
    22-25
    1 Response Nov 15, 2012

    I'm Scared of My Mother

    That sounds lame, maybe, but my mother can be scary. She has extreme mood swings, and even to this day I don't know how to deal with her. She will want to go out for mother daughter time, when maybe the night before she called me full of hate, anger, resentment, etc. I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    19 Responses Jul 19, 2009

    For the past 5 years my sister

    and I have been part of a foster family system through kinship placement; We take in removed child from family who have lost custody for one reason or another. It has been a really enjoyable experience, at least until the most recent placement of my young niece and teenage...
    GrimCreeper0150 GrimCreeper0150
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Feb 9

    Family makes fun of the way i look

    and how i carry myself. I cannot help that i have social anxiety disorder and depression.
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 8

    My parents have been disrespecting my feelings

    and putting their hands on me since childhood. I delve into the feelings of disrespect and laughter they gave to me, and beneath that anger were unexpressed feelings I had since childhood. It wasn't sadness although I had some feelings of hurt like I did something wrong but it...
    Dana1111 Dana1111
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 26
    TellySR TellySR
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2014

    Whoever says they don't have a dysfunctional

    family is just lying to themselves.
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Apr 27, 2014
    GlitzandGlamber GlitzandGlamber
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    I have a parent who complains about everything.

    They don't even have to hint or say it...I get it okay. You're starting to regret having me and my siblings...with two other people -_- enough with lying to yourself. You can't complain about **** whenYOU'RE the one that allowed this to happen...it doesn't matter once I leave...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 13

    At 9:45am i attend work

    and deal with teasing. They would talk bad about my facial features to friends. Many would blatantly look at me and laugh for a good minute with their friends, then have a conversation about me while still laughing and staring at me. At 5:45pm i come home to family members that...
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 29

    I am in the midst of writing a book about my

    dysfunctional family and I have a strong feeling it could be a best seller simply because of all that it encompasses. It's like an entire season of Jerry Springer which is a comical way to look at it but it's also painfully trivializing to say those two things are analogous. I...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

    My parents were alcoholics.

    Now they are elderly. My sister and I take turns caring for them in their home. My alcoholic brother lives out of state. My parents paid off his mortgage, gave him a pick up truck and give him $1,000 per month to live off of. I quit my job to care for my parents. We are their...
    RavenP RavenP
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 3

    I wish I knew what it felt like having a warm

    loving family. People who love you and are there for you no matter what the circumstances are. My family has broken me down to the point I don't want to live anymore.
    foreveralone22 foreveralone22
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 27, 2015

    If there's one thing I'm always jealous about

    other people is them having a happy family.
    gwenllian gwenllian
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Sep 20, 2014
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 20, 2015

    You have done so many bad things to me.

    Asking you to try to be real with me, my trying to get closure, forgiving you and asking for you to think about how you have affected my life and giving you a chance to show you care, to show you are sorry.... before its too late and you are gone, was a mistake. I don't know why...
    JessygotaBooBoo JessygotaBooBoo
    22-25, F
    Feb 7

    Everytime my family talks i always have a

    strong sense of listening to them. The last time i did i heard my mom say she didn't care if i killed myself.
    DeadlyArsenic DeadlyArsenic
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 14

    You Are Not Alone, Take My Advice And Just Walk Away.

    My mother is the definition of pure evil. She let me know at an early age that she hated me. She beat me mercilessly for no reason, has knocked teeth out of my mouth when I was 12, refusing to replace it. Denied me basic necessities, that heaven that I have an aunt who has...
    Amnestic Amnestic
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2010

    My mother is illogical

    and irrational. She is beyond nosy and loves to eavesdrop on everyone else's private conversations. She is an authoritarian type who enjoys criticizing and belittling others, and constantly jumps to conclusions that have absolutely no basis in reality. For her, the only...
    justsharing justsharing
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Nov 1, 2014

    Normal

    Funny how I view dysfunction as "normal" until I see what a normal life actually is. Sometimes my family reminds me of a bunch of string, tied together tighter then what is comfortable. I'm the stray piece trying to cut myself loose, but alas, a piece of string has no hands...
    RunningBlue RunningBlue
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 26, 2011

    My moms house: Everyone goes over,

    everyone sends their kids over, everyone can go over whenever they please and take whatever they please. Everyone else's house: "you can't stay here", "don't go in the fridge", "go home." Now I'm starting to understand my moms frustration. When it comes to her, she accepts...
    3dayweekend 3dayweekend
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 16
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