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I Have a Dysfunctional Family

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    GlitzandGlamber GlitzandGlamber 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Apparently my first cousin moved into the same

    town as my family. We only found out because my uncle decided to tell my father that my cousin had a baby. Apparently my uncle is scared my father might actually talk to his niece. What a crime that would be. My brother is the same way, he no longer talks to anyone from my...
    Kingshelman Kingshelman 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    My "old" family, which consisted of my real

    mother, father and myself was highly dysfunctional. Nothing but unhappiness and hate. They would beat each other and when they felt like it.. Me too. Not only did they abuse each other and me, but they abused drugs and alcohol. My "new" family which consists of my real father...
    Owymonster Owymonster 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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    I have 3 sisters in my family that's it.

    1 full sister and 2 half sisters. My oldest half sister I found out about 2 years ago she's a few years older than me, my youngest half sister's dad abused me, my full sister I hardly ever see. That's my family. :-)
    friendlygent friendlygent 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 17, 2014

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    I Am Not...

    I am not your punching bag, your inferior, or your animal. I am not made of stone, I have feelings and I don't forget. Things could have been so much more, If you only would have let it. You were my role model, my friend, and my everything. Well you had to go and **** that up...
    Canadian45 Canadian45 22-25 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    As I get older I realize I'm happy I grew up

    how I did.. I'm only 17 but boy have I learned some lessons to use in life. My parents were split and had shared custody of me and my brother week on week off as far back as I can remember. Even though both my parents are struggling in life from completely different situations...
    MacieMakenna MacieMakenna 18-21, F Jan 20, 2014

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    My sister, who I just met last year,

    invited me to watch her girls play basketball tonight. I enjoyed it a lot and was so proud of my nieces. I wish I could have hugged them and told them how great they were but they have no idea who I am, and my sister has no intention of explaining it to them. I hope someday they...
    Leannaix Leannaix 18-21, F Nov 24, 2014

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    My mother is illogical

    and irrational. She is beyond nosy and loves to eavesdrop on everyone else's private conversations. She is an authoritarian type who enjoys criticizing and belittling others, and constantly jumps to conclusions that have absolutely no basis in reality. For her, the only...
    justsharing justsharing 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    'Growing up in narcissistic (strict) parents'

    I was born as ‘THE ONLY CHILD’ in the city of Bangkok, Thailand in under well-educated, warm, but imperfect family. (My parents of ethnic in both THAI AYUDHAYA vs. SUKHOTHAI CHINESE) They both were family-oriented people, but the truth was they become ‘narcissistic family...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 6, 2014

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    An Isolated Childhood

    Please don't fall asleep, this is the short version. It is a story that I hope explains why you should never hold someone you love to tightly for you may cause permanent irreparable damage. Okay, deep sigh, here is my story. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and thinking about it...
    angelgenie angelgenie 26-30 22 Responses Jun 13, 2008

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    My both of my parents are deceased.

    They had a horrible marriage. My father married my mother because she was pretty and my mother married my father because he had a nice job. They had a bitter divorce and the whole kid thing was sorta confusing. They both passed away in the last 18 months ---I knew more...
    robertsnj robertsnj 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    I'm Scared of My Mother

    That sounds lame, maybe, but my mother can be scary. She has extreme mood swings, and even to this day I don't know how to deal with her. She will want to go out for mother daughter time, when maybe the night before she called me full of hate, anger, resentment, etc. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    If I never seen any of them

    for the rest of my life not including my Gma, I wouldn't care.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Jun 3, 2014

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    ever feel that the way we communicate could

    change the whole relationship among the family? I dont really speak a lot at home, my old man and my mom also dont speak a lot to each other. In fact they live separately now. He always blamed her for not staying with us, doing her role as a wife. And Mom always said to me...
    musimpanas musimpanas 22-25, M Dec 14, 2014

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    Trying to cope with the upcoming holidays with

    My mom. I tend to believe because she demonstrates the signs of Borderline Personality Disorder. I am adopted and for years I felt like I always needed to make my mother proud and live up to her expectations. the moment things do not go her way She will hold over my head" I...
    lynn0483 lynn0483 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    Okay,I am getting closer to finally find out

    what's really going on and whats really wrong with me. I am in a weird mood now, it's like my whole family situation slowly stops to kill me less emotionally now(less than it did before) and there's a space for rational thinking.Today I,again, had arguments with my mother.It was...
    9am3 9am3 18-21, F Dec 10, 2014

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    So I told my sister something with specific

    instructions not to tell other members of family. And she couldn't keep her mouth shut and now I have to deal with the other family members crap. What should I do? It would just be nice to have someone to talk to in a safe manner without it turning into front page news. :(
    ikissedafrog ikissedafrog 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    TellySR TellySR 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 7, 2014

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    Can't believe they wouldn't support me

    when grandpa was dying and they won't support me now. Even after he is gone. What can one expect from those who would accuse someone of stealing even after they stood by and watched someone they live so dearly take their last breaths? So disappointed but resolute to wash my...
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I'm so tired of my family fighting.

    I'm beginning to have my own issues of NEEDING to feel wanted because of the way my family operates and has my whole life. If you tick them off they'll disown you for a bit. It's never forever like they swear they'll do. They'll swear we're never welcome back at their house n...
    jak8701 jak8701 26-30, F Jan 4

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    Usually when someone says "family",

    I would think of a nice, warm, welcoming and happy family whereby the parents are supportive, the children have a good relation with each other even though they tend to quarrel/fight with each other or somewhat like the TMNT (disclaimer: I do not own TMNT). It's a perfect image...
    AoRagdoll AoRagdoll 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    If I Have An Evil Step Mother, Where'S My Prince?

    Two years ago, I moved out from my house. Not by choice but because my step mom kicked me out and what hurts most is that my dad proceeded to allow her to do this. I lived with my mom for about a month afterward but that didn't last long before we started fighting as well. I now...
    bug14 bug14 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    My white trash part of my family is on a train

    wrecking run right now...Its brutal.... drugs, alcohol , wrecked cars and meth labs etc...and Mexican mafia looking for them They just love wrecking trains...
    AgingGracefully AgingGracefully 51-55, M 1 Response Jan 20

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    Highly dysfunctional.

    I can't stand it sometimes. It's so hard living here most of the time. Everyone is so nosey. No one knows how to mind their business. No one knows how to leave me alone, ever. Everyone has something to say about what I do, what I say, what I think, what I wear, who I talk to...
    BananaSmoothiee BananaSmoothiee 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    I remember being 7 and my mother agreeing to

    give me an allowance for doing chores daily. Within a few days, a list was posted on the fridge and on it was a seven day schedule of the chores I'd do each day. Dishes, cat litter, dog crap in the back yard, make sure my room was clean. Some days I'd have to dust, some days I'd...
    HDJA HDJA 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2014

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    I Have A Dysfunctional Family

    So here's my story. I grew up in a very emotionally abusive home. My dad who was a former alcoholic had rage and anger issues that would constantly spill out onto us, he would blame us for everything under the sun all the time. I just remembered being scared that I was going to...
    z4e71 z4e71 31-35, F Nov 19, 2013

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    This past August, my dad had major surgery,

    was really sick and is lucky to be alive. I posted awhile ago that I heard this rumor ::: that I'm upset and mad that he didn't die"":::: My husband confronted my father about the nasty rumor. Because I'm so hurt that I want nothing to do with them any more... *please keep...
    mudflap73 mudflap73 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    Something about the cold winter makes me feel

    more vulnerable and more alone. I called my mom today to ask her for a favor and of course she guilt tripped me and then I retorted back condescending remarks about the role that she still has yet to fulfill. As I mocked her parenting abilities I was waiting for her to...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F Nov 15, 2014

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    When i was 12 a torture began

    that i would endure for another 2 years. My dad was an awful man, and there are days i still wake up crying, and terrified. I tell you this because ive been told its good to talk about it. To tell people, and ep has become the only place i can truly talk about things.
    Ashleyy2 Ashleyy2 18-21, F 14 Responses Aug 13, 2014

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    My mother suffers from mental health issues

    and spends all day playing video games. She can't work anymore because she damaged her arm too badly and it'll take almost a year to fully heal. But even when she was working, she would work 3-12 in the morning and wouldn't get back until around 1. Then she would play video...
    whisperedthing whisperedthing 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    You Are Not Alone, Take My Advice And Just Walk Away.

    My mother is the definition of pure evil. She let me know at an early age that she hated me. She beat me mercilessly for no reason, has knocked teeth out of my mouth when I was 12, refusing to replace it. Denied me basic necessities, that heaven that I have an aunt who has...
    Amnestic Amnestic 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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    Well hell where do I begin!

    !??!! I'm an only child of a biracial deaf hippie parents!! I was taken away at 8 & I was between foster home, grandparents & parents to finally on my own at 15! My life saga crazy & to much to go into detail!! "I really need to write a book"!! Anyway now a mother of 5 beautiful...
    eudoraf5 eudoraf5 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2014

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    Fxcked.

    Well my mums an alcoholic, I have bipolar and I self harm, and my step dad seems to think my older sister is depressed because her room is messy. Sigh.
    Blenkinsop4 Blenkinsop4 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    It's just what it is.

    A family you can never bind together cuz of pride, hate, envy and so much things going on. Just like that.
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F Apr 11, 2014

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    Right now you can really tell I'm part of the

    family. A dysfunctional mess. I can't seem to finish college. I don't have a job and there's not a sleeping pill in this country that can seem to help me sleep. My mother is just about ready to throw me out, because I really can't seem to achieve anything. She blames here under...
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    My dad was very abusive of my mother.

    .. and he beat her in front of me when I was very young and yelled at me when I cried. So when I was 7 years old, he abused me too until I was 14 and he committed suicide. I was not there to see it. My mother now is alcoholic and drug addict. She disowned me for no reason because...
    tristful tristful 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I Am Tired Of The Hell That My Family Has Bestowed On Me!!!

    Growing up I had no idea what a normal family was like. I wasn't even aware that mine was abnormal as we were sheltered and I didn't have a frame of reference.  All I knew was that I was unhappy and that it seemed no one got along.  I also knew that my parents argued, nagged...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 7 Responses May 27, 2013

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    XxscarsxX XxscarsxX 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    My dad is an alcoholic.

    My mom has a boyfriend who is an ******* and won't leave him. She's also very greedy. She also cheated on my dad with him along with a few other men. My brother is greedy and spoiled he won't help mom out financially, even though that's what my sister and him agreed to. My...
    XxWolverinaxX XxWolverinaxX 18-21 2 Responses Jan 17

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    My mom and I were homeless.

    Mom was basically dying and I had dropped out of high school. And I was at my aunt's "house." My aunt told her boyfriend that I was a "gift" for him. So my mom called my dad and begged him to let me stay with him so that I could finish high school and not be homeless and...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    Anti-family

    I've had depression and low self esteem for most of my life. Family members capitalized on this during a hard time in my life and as I trusted them they worked to erode my remaining self-esteem. Criticisms, jabs at my skills, lots of gossip and rumor spreading, and actual...
    xp4td xp4td 26-30 3 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    So I have an older brother.

    He is six years my senior. I've always been more mature and let's say "well off" than him. We lost our mother Very young and have always been close as a result. Yesterday out of nowhere he tells me he's been having sex dreams about me and can't stop thinking about it. Any advice...
    HopefullRomantic HopefullRomantic 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Why does my family have to fight they fight all

    the damn time. I wish I really wish that they'd stop for today at least for Christmas. Can't they do that? Can't we sit together have a meal and be a happy family for once? Is it something so so simple that they can't do it?
    AngelWithASecret2 AngelWithASecret2 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 25, 2014

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    My brother never had a father figure

    even though our father lives in the same house with us. The weird thing is, even though he's physically there.... mentally he isn't. My father lives in his own fantasy world where he is seeking attention from his own father who really doesn't care for him. So while my brother...
    khushali11 khushali11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    Whoever says they don't have a dysfunctional

    family is just lying to themselves.
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    I am in the midst of writing a book about my

    dysfunctional family and I have a strong feeling it could be a best seller simply because of all that it encompasses. It's like an entire season of Jerry Springer which is a comical way to look at it but it's also painfully trivializing to say those two things are analogous. I...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    If there's one thing I'm always jealous about

    other people is them having a happy family.
    gwenllian gwenllian 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    In the following story,

    "us" and "we" refer to me, my sister, brother, dad and mum. In the last couple of years, my uncle got divorced and found a new girlfriend without saying a word to us about any of that. Another uncle decided to build a new house and we didn't hear about it until he needed help to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 17, 2014

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    Normal

    Funny how I view dysfunction as "normal" until I see what a normal life actually is. Sometimes my family reminds me of a bunch of string, tied together tighter then what is comfortable. I'm the stray piece trying to cut myself loose, but alas, a piece of string has no hands...
    RunningBlue RunningBlue 18-21, F 2 Responses May 26, 2011

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    No longer will I ever let a family member

    borrow money. EVER. (Or 'friend')
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    I Wounder why I was born into my family,

    can they never get together without me having to break up fights at 4am every day? can we never just have a nice family holiday together, if that's too much then don't come I am sick and tired of all this ****. thank you dear family for ruining Christmas for the 5th year in a...
    anneloves anneloves 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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