I Have a Father With Cancer

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    My 68 year old Dad is in hospice now.

    He does have early stage lung cancer, but what is taking his life is the end stage COPD. He is at home on 24/7 oxygen and hospice has been really great so far. He could have a few weeks or a few months, we just don't know. He smoked for 50 years and quit a month ago. A month to...
    Ravenwind43 Ravenwind43
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    He Has Joined My Mother In Heaven

    My father died on February 18, 2009.  He was 83 years old.  He never had to spend one day in a nursing home.  He left this earth peacefully sometime between 4:00 am and 6:30 am.  My younger brother checked on him about 4:00 am and kissed him before leaving for...
    ginger1979 ginger1979
    41-45, F
    1 Response Feb 26, 2009

    Daddy's Girl

    My father has been diagnosed with colon cancer - final stage - in October 2007 back when I was 16. I just started my senior years of high school and they were very important in determining whether or not I was going to get into University. The pressure was on and my sister had...
    rollingwater rollingwater
    1 Response Jul 7, 2009

    Who To Talk To...

    My father was diagnosed in 2008 with Stage 4 Prostate Cancer with Metastasis to the bone. One day we're telling him to go to the doctor because he's had a long running cold and BAM! you have cancer. We have been through the Clinical Trial for hormone therapy, and that reduced the...
    sammhickk sammhickk
    1 Response May 18, 2012

    Died Of Cancer Five Years Ago To This Day

    My father was 70 years old. I remember the day he called and told me he had cancer. On that day a numbness situated itself in me. A heaviness sitting in my stomach. I did not know exactly where or what it was, but I felt its force. I had to move while weighed down. I am lighter...
    OkayBut OkayBut
    51-55, M
    11 Responses Jun 22, 2010

    Cancer Has Not Changed My Father

    My father has stage IV renal cancer - chromophobe type. This type of cancer has a rather dismal prognosis. The odds of surviving more than a year were less than 5%. Apart from surgery, my father opted not to accept treatment. After my research, I believe that if I were in his...
    femme7 femme7
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jul 26, 2008

    My Father Has Cancer...but It's Complicated.

    This has been an ongoing battle since 2000, my father has had prostate cancer and it seems this year will be when he loses the battle. This week has been especially difficult after he landed in ER for 2 days with severe pain in his back and ribs. Seems the secondary sites in his...
    misskittyrocks misskittyrocks
    1 Response Jan 26, 2012

    Two Weeks

    Normally I call my dad evrey morning. During the, last week I couldn't get ahold of him and last sunday I foundout they switched his medicine so he's asleep most of the day. He's been battling prostate cancer. This morning I missed a call from my dads, phone, I was excited that...
    Lolaray77 Lolaray77
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 19, 2013

    Still Miss Him

     Well in my case a dad who "had" prostate cancer, they didn't catch it in time, he lived 8 months after diagnosis getting thinner and frailer, unable to do much for himself towards the end, he died 10 months after he had remarried.   he retained his humour to...
    Calia Calia
    46-50, F
    Jun 29, 2009

    My Dad Is Disappearing With Cancer

    I am feeling so strange. My 73 year old father is dying of cancer-it is everywhere. It would be easier to list the places they haven't found it...that would be his blood and his prostate.  Those are all good, so far. I have always been pretty close with my dad. My parents...
    NattyD NattyD
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 4, 2007

    Prostate Cancer

    in the last month we have just found out that my dad has cancer.. i'm still in shock but also starting to feel sad... he's not the kind of person to ever be ill, he likes to keep going.. he's not even that old :( ~ i'm 26 but all of a sudden i feel like a tiny girl again so...
    JustADaisy JustADaisy
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 14, 2010

    Its Been A Year Now...and I'm Not Coping Well At All

    I've always been so brutal towards my father cuz he's always been so suffocating and over protective towards me. I guess "running away" (long story) helped because with the space away from my dad and now that he's sick I don't "hate" him but i'm always so sad for him instead. No...
    CrazyHappySad CrazyHappySad
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Nov 26, 2011

    Cancer Took My Dad

    I lost my father 20 years ago to one of the deadliest diseases of today. Cancer is spreading like wild fire on a daily basis. It’s also leaving the families in a black hole of hurt and anguish whether the person survives or not. Once you have gone through it with someone you...
    Cancertookmydad Cancertookmydad
    Aug 25, 2012

    TOO Much Already

    After 5 step fathers my mom finally got a good one....they have been married for 13 years....he was dianosed with pancreatic cancer two weeks  before Thanksgiving...then with thyroid cancer he has had surgery and has gone through the chemo and radiation...while this is...
    vanityshine vanityshine
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 24, 2009

    Rapid Decline

    My dad was diagnosed a year and one week ago with small cell carcinoma of lungs with mets in bone liver and brain. He has had four rounds of chemo and one radiation for his brain lesions. He is 61 and was not in the best of health prior to disease, a heavy smoker, drinker and...
    Tanna83 Tanna83
    1 Response Jun 29, 2009

    I Have a Father With Cancer

    My dad was diagnosed with Stage 3 colon cancer about a month ago.  After surgery and lab results, seemed ok. He started chemo, things were looking up.  And then the doctors ran more tests and realised that the cancer had already spread.  We can only buy him more...
    sweetcharity sweetcharity
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 15, 2007

    My Father Was Diagnosed With Oral Cancer

    My father has had a difficult year.  In August 2007 my mother died after a long battle with Alzheimer's.  In February 2008 my Uncle Howard, my father's younger brother, also died after a long battle with Alzheimers.  My father was diagnosed with Oral Cancer in...
    ginger1979 ginger1979
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 20, 2008

    My Dad Has Pancreatic Cancer And I Hate It!

    Just before Christmas we found out that my 70 year old father has pancreatic cancer. It is now February and while it hasn't spread, it seems that almost everything that could go wrong has gone wrong. The first stent they put in to help the pancreas drain bile to the intestines...
    spiritedsoul spiritedsoul
    41-45, F
    1 Response Feb 24, 2011

    What To Do

    A little more than year ago we found out my dad had cancer and that it's not treatable. Presently it's advanced so much that he's lost his ablity to walk, use bathroom on his own he's bed ridden and lost alot of weight. Its really hard for me especially since I live 400 miles...
    Lolaray77 Lolaray77
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2013

    My Dad was recently diagnosed with terminal

    cancer, he has 2-6 month to live. The cancer is in his lungs, brain and liver. My dad has been absolutely horrible to me in the past and now that he is dying I feel like a ****** daughter because i havent talked to him and i dont know what to do.
    noseatbeltsong noseatbeltsong
    Apr 13, 2015

    My Dad Is Dying.

    He was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer august 2008, and has had chemotherapy and radiation therapy. He responded really well but the cancer grew back. We found out in september 2009 and he was given Tarceva, a growth inhibitor. He's becoming very weak now and just got out...
    RayneQueen RayneQueen
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 2, 2010

    Dad Dying Too Soon Or Not Soon Enough?

    I’m not even sure what I want to say. This may end up pretty long. I guess first a few facts. My dad is 82 and hardly the frail old man you generally picture someone of that age to be. He’s gone through half a dozen or so surgeries to remove cancer over the past decade...
    reh3959 reh3959
    1 Response Oct 3, 2012

    Too Much I Feel Lost and Alone

    My Dad is nearing the end.  I hate even typing those words.  I don't want to face it.  This weekend he got really short of breath, more than usual.  He also got so weak he could not get up off of a chair without help. He is retaining a lot of fluid and his...
    PrayerWhisperer PrayerWhisperer
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jul 5, 2008

    So Difficult

    October 19, 2007 I was told my dad has lung cancer which spread to his liver.  He began chemo in Nashville, where he lives.  On the same day that he had his 3rd chemo treatment, he flew to this Hospital in Mexico.  Here I sit in the room with him.  He is...
    Gem1970 Gem1970
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 1, 2007

    Battle With Esophageal Cancer

    My Dad got diagnosed with Stage 3 esophageal cancer a year and a half ago. He went through surgery and two different chemo and radiation but the cancer keeps coming back. We were told this week that his cancer has metastasized to his bone and to lymph nodes in the throat. I work...
    Nausica Nausica
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Oct 4, 2007

    My Family Is Getting Crazy

    So my Dad is in the nursing home and now my brother and his wife are sneaking around and going there with paperwork for him to sign and keeping me out of the loop even though I specifically asked to be there when they were going to see Dad this weekend.  My sister lives...
    PrayerWhisperer PrayerWhisperer
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2008

    About 8 Months Ago

    My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal bowel cancer. He was only given 3-4 months to live, but now it's been 8 months and he's fighting hard and doing his best. My life, the way I feel and think, changed quite drastically when I found out. Unfortunately my way of coping...
    Beats69 Beats69
    26-30, M
    1 Response May 22, 2010

    The News:

    back in november my dad was complaining about swollen glands in his neck and he went to get them checked out and as far as i knew that was the end of it. and then a few weeks ago he said something about how one side never went down and how he had been seing a doctor. then, about...
    mellanoes mellanoes
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Mar 15, 2009

    F*** Pancreatic Cancer!

    I have an amazing family. Really, I'm lucky. Lord knows I put them through so much when I was growing up. But they've stayed by me through thick and thin (heh..literally). They are my biggest support system. Even with my crazy schemes..like moving 2000 miles away. Now my...
    smileyneopep smileyneopep
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2011

    My Dad Is Dying Of Cancer...

    In the last 16 years, my Dad has been battling with cancer of ( the Bladder) and have only know about his condition for 10 years. My mother kept this secret from both my brother and me. Although my brother knew long before I did about my Dad illness.. I just received a email from...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 23, 2010

    Cancer Cure Covered Up By Government.

    Type in any browser ( RUN FROM THE CURE ) I was blown away when i watched this video, i have known for years the Governments and companies that make medice would have covered up something like this. Please please please pass it on to all your list. It does not just cure cancer...
    reikiman123 reikiman123
    Oct 20, 2013

    Just Found Out My Father Has Colon Cancer.

    I don't know how to feel. How to act. Cancer....that's a terrible word that sends chills down my spine. It's one thing I'm terribly afraid of. I never thought I would have to go through it or watch my family go through it. But, cancer has taken my father in its grip and I hope...
    anongirl19 anongirl19
    18-21, F
    Aug 16, 2012

    Dads Dying

    The doctors give him 2 months left. Hes been struggling for 5 years. Ive cried everytime the poison came back. I love my dad more than i love myself. But now i cant shed a tear for him. I dont worry about him during the day. Whats wrong with me? I havent seen him for 2 weeks...
    Violet86 Violet86
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 5, 2011

    Moved Him to Nh

    Today my bro and I had to move my Dad to the nursing home from the hospital.  My Dad is mostly silent.  We've asked him so many times what he is thinking that I'm sure he is heartily sick of that question.  Transporting him there in my little mini van was easy...
    PrayerWhisperer PrayerWhisperer
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 8, 2008

    Time of Death 6:20 Pm

    He's gone - my father.  At 6:20 this evening, he breathed his last breath and went to the cottage forever. It's about 1 1/2 hours later and I'm not sure how or what I feel.  Very glad that all of his suffering and pain is over.  Still working on total acceptance...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 17, 2008

    My Dad Has a Very Rare Brain Cancer

    My dad was diagnosed with a rare brain cancer in Nov/07.  He has been undergoing agressive chemo since then and is having a stem cell transplant in a couple of weeks.  He and my mom are two of my very best friends and it has been difficult seeing him get weak and sick...
    Dee67 Dee67
    41-45, F
    12 Responses Mar 30, 2008

    Multiple Myeloma - A Life Changer

    My father was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma in February 2012. My parents' lives both changed instantly. He is 65 years old - he was healthy, active, ate well. And then...he was a patient with an non-curable disease. He has to take mountains of drugs. He had a bone marrow...
    tornadowatch tornadowatch
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 10, 2012

    Heaven Has a New Resident Tonight

    After a little more than 2 1/2 years, my precious Daddy's battle with cancer is done.  He has gone to be with Jesus tonight.  I have cried many tears, especially over the last 2 months when he got so much worse and we had to put him in the nursing home.  I saw him...
    PrayerWhisperer PrayerWhisperer
    46-50, F
    9 Responses Sep 5, 2008

    Stage 3 - Squamous Cell Carcinoma

    My father is dying, I'm certain of that now.  Sooner rather than later, we'll arrange the funeral, plan what my mother will do now that he's gone & ache forever for the loss in the family. We bonded late in life over a place of all things.  My father fell in love...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Apr 28, 2008

    Within Two Months And Waiting

    My Father, whom is 64 , whom I adore, and make every effort to still please in my heart of hearts was given 3-6 months of life expectancy as of this past Monday. What I do not have is the understanding of what I am to do. He has held my hand these past 4 years as I ended a very...
    Teresa71 Teresa71
    1 Response Oct 12, 2012

    The Man With the Heartwarming Smile

    This year was one of devastating news...my father-in-law was diagnosed with lung cancer having, of course, never smoked a day in his life. Leonard is the most cheery, outgoing, kind-hearted man and has always been the one member of my husbands family that I feel truly accepts...
    1tufcuky 1tufcuky
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 24, 2009

    I Had A Father With Cancer

    He was diagnosed with a rare sinus cancer with no name or no program of chemo to fight it,on January 21 2012 and lost his battle on September 8 2012 He was a lab rat , and went under serious tests and surgerys , his cancer spread from his eye to his bones ,stomach,heart,brain...
    Robin17 Robin17
    Jun 16, 2012

    Squamous Cell Pt 2

    I'm in a very weird place.  I'm just not sure what to do.  My dad may not be worse physically, the tumor is shrinking, but the way they are coping with his pain is frustrating. The tumor is in his back and causes a fair amount of pain.  The frustrating part is...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 22, 2008

    Damn Cancer

    My father was diagnosed with stage one bladder cancer, damn cancer. It has taken my grandfather and my aunt, I don't want it to take my father though. I acted all strong when he called and told me on the phone, but as soon as he hung up I cried and cried. He has a rather good...
    BrownEyedGirl09 BrownEyedGirl09
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 14, 2012

    My Stepdad Is Dying of Cancer

    My stepdad was diagnosed with melanoma a little over three years ago. He has lived a pretty normal life with it until now. About a month ago he had a tumor removed from his brain. Since then, tumors have appeared all over his body right under his skin. They are all over him and...
    want2befree want2befree
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 8, 2009

    My Dad Is Battling Cancer

    My Dad has been battling cancer for 2 years.  Won't be cured ever the doctors say.  It's taking its toll on him...first the radiation and then the chemo. My Dad is a wonderful man with this incredibly strong faith in God.  Ever since mom died and then my husband...
    PrayerWhisperer PrayerWhisperer
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Mar 5, 2008
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