I Have a Mother Who Has Alzheimer's Disease

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 62 People

    New To This Group, But Not To Alzheimer's

    Hi everyone, I've been the caregiver for my mom for quite some time now.  She was just diagnosed about 5 or 6 years ago, but I think she has had it for probably 15 years.  I've noticed the slow progession of it for years, and actually tried to get her to see a Dr...
    ThisIsNotEnough ThisIsNotEnough
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2010

    My mother is forgetting how to eat/swallow.

    I thought she would forget other stuff first. Like me...herself... I don't know what to do or think right now.
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

    This Disease Not Is Only Taking A Toll On My Beautful Mother, But Is Also Taking A Toll On My Whole Famil.

    Iam writeing this story to seek help on understanding more about this disease. a year ago my healty, energetic,and still lovely mother was dignosed with alzheimers and dementia. it was very heartbreaking for myself and the family. unfortunently she is only 58years of age. i...
    jcnoria jcnoria
    31-35
    1 Response Jul 11, 2011

    Lost My Mom 2 Years Ago...

    I lost my mom to Alzheimer's two years ago after caring for her at home for 7 years.  She spent the last 4 months in assisted living and one morning, I got the call that she was not doing well.  I spent two days in her room with Hospice  helping take care of her. They started...
    sampatch sampatch
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Jan 3, 2012
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 6, 2014

    I am 99.999999% certain

    that this will be my last Thanksgiving with my mother. She hasn't slept since Friday (she sleeps for about 30 minutes at a time and then is up for hours) and now she is sick with a fever and that makes the hallucinations worse. She is on medications for the illness. I just don...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    Nov 26, 2014

    My mother is currently hallucinating like crazy

    and I am at a loss on what to do...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 21, 2014

    Ready To Give Up!

    My mother and I used to be best friends! Several years ago I noticed a change! Years ago when I had my first child! She originally said she would have anything to do with him! Then she threatened me every day as if he was hers! We moved out she called all the time with excuses...
    Barbara35 Barbara35
    31-35, F
    Oct 15, 2012

    Today she showed up at my house at 6 am.

    She had walked from her house where she lives with my dad (about a mile away). It was about 20 F. She was wearing a coat and asked if her Dad was at our house. I called my Dad to let him know she was at our house. I fixed her tea and offered her breakfast (she didn't eat). I...
    nonolover nonolover
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 27

    My Grandmother Had Alzheimer's

    My grandmother passed away on Feb. 21st 2008, she took care of me when I was young. I miss her a lot, but at least she doesn't have to live with the disease anymore. she lived with it for nine years and during that time she lived through 2 strokes which left her bed-ridden/unable...
    TheWaysOfShelly TheWaysOfShelly
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 11, 2008

    Accustom to a Soul

      Is one's essence defined by the age of the body or their culture, economic status or gender? What are we naked; without our statistics to label us? My mother has gone through a true metamorphosis and continues to do so. She wears different costumes of the mind. Each...
    mariaherndon mariaherndon
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 29, 2009

    Last night I moved a bunch of furniture around

    in order to make it easier for my mother to get through her room/bathroom using a walker or a wheel chair. Today I am getting messages that she is furious and wants it put back...even trying to move it herself even though she is in so much pain she can barely walk. I understand...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    Oct 14, 2014

    I Miss My Best Friend, My Mother

    My mother contracted Alzheimer's Disease in her early 50's. They had just moved to Colorado. I stayed in VA because I just got engaged.  By the time they got to CO, she was full blown gone.  She had to be watched 24 hours a day because she would run away, get ahold of...
    csparks csparks
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 10, 2008

    The Day The Crickets Said Good Bye

    My mother died of Alzheimers on August 30th of this year. She died in my house surrounded by love and sadness by her family.I needed a moment after she passed and stepped out onto the patio. It was a cool day for August and I was surprised at how fast she left in the end and how...
    blindeyepete blindeyepete
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

    I Will Walk With You

    Everything dies. we know for fact that nothing last. The most beautiful flower, eventually withers. The strongest hurricane, dissolves .The biggest empires , have crumbled. Even the happiest soul, eventually is gone. Her hair have grown gray and her juvenile spirit have decay...
    Dyoniza Dyoniza
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 12, 2013

    My mother passed away at 6:09 p.

    m. Eastern Standard Time December 9, 2014.
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Dec 9, 2014

    Alzheimers

    I have a mother who is struggling with Alzheimer's disease. She feels like a completely different person, and although I love and respect her, its hard to even talk to her. I found out about it within the past year, and am very emotional still about it. When I stumbled upon...
    Freeingtibet Freeingtibet
    46-50, F
    Mar 7, 2013

    So, my mother is still alive,

    but is now bed bound. That makes her angry, so she gets doped up to calm her down. Her kidneys may be failing...will find out tomorrow. She sees (hallucinates) children and angels. I still cannot get a straight answer about how much time she has left. I guess it is merely her...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2014

    Well, since the cost of my mother's care will

    go up quite a bit I have resorted to begging for money via GoFundMe. Lol It't can't hurt...but I don't high hopes of it helping. Long Term Care Insurence pays for home care or Assisted Living/Nursing Homes. If you are in the United States, you might want to look into it...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 16, 2014

    Traveling Down "alzheimers Road"

    Mom was first diagnosed December 2006. She came to live with me for about eighteen months.Prior to May 2008. she experienced a progressing stroke which was stopped by medication.  Then, the following May, she went to the Emergency Room with chest pains.  She had a pacemaker...
    steelmagnoliabr steelmagnoliabr
    66-70, F
    Jan 6, 2011

    I wish I could read minds.

    Selectively of course. That way when my mom is having one of her bad days where she was responding to internal stimuli and not making any damn sense when she talks so I would know what to do to make her feel better. Last night she was trying to think of something and statred...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 3, 2014

    My Mum Too

    I've going this group and already I can feel a lump in my throat. My Mum was diagnosed with alzhiemers back in 2006 and it's been a rollercoaster ever since. She and I never really had a mother / daughter relationship which has simultaneously made things easier and harder, she...
    Foreveronly Foreveronly
    31-35, F
    Dec 29, 2012

    Ugh. If I cannot get a doctor to do an anterior

    hip replacement on mom, I don't know what I'll do. There's only so much morphine you can give a person, and she is in pain and angry. Two straight weeks of constant pain...I don't blame her for being angry. She is not a good candidate for anterior hip replacement surgery...but...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    Oct 23, 2014

    Mum Has Alzheimer's

    My mother has been in a nursing home, with Alzheimer's, for eight years now.  She herself made the decision to go, for which I am very grateful to have been spared.  She is 88 now, and I am 61, and my husband is in his 70's.  Here we are, seniors looking after...
    NANSELTAR NANSELTAR
    61-65, F
    5 Responses Apr 14, 2008

    She is 71 and in the moderate-severe phase.

    She can still read, walk, eat but has no sense of time, place or memory. Her functioning has declined greatly this past year. It is hard to imagine where she will be one year from now. I will take care of her and enjoy her the best I can for now.
    nonolover nonolover
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 18

    My Mom was the most beautiful,

    charming, intelligent, witty person I knew. She had spirit and fierce independence. I was not the best daughter and she was not the best at "mothering." Things were not so great at times. This disease started to take her 2 years ago. It affects 1 in 6 women and 1 in 11 men. The...
    Kathy0120 Kathy0120
    51-55, F
    1 Response May 11, 2014

    Dealing With My Mother's Alzheimer's

    I wrote this for another blog last week and think it might be worth repeating.   Many of our peers are probably in a similar position as my sibling and me.  We have an aging parent afflicted with Alzheimer’s, this insidious disease robs our loved ones of...
    oldbaldguy oldbaldguy
    70+, M
    3 Responses Feb 13, 2010

    My mother may not make it through the night.

    But she might. I am unsure what I should do. She's trying to walk around...I am trying to stay out of the nurse's way as they try ti get her to rest. Do I sit in the corner and cry? Cry alone in my room. I cannot hold it together. I will be crying all night either way. I don't...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 29, 2014

    Mom, I Wish You Could Understand Who You Are to Me

    Mom, I know you will never read this, and even if someone read it to you, you wouldn't understand. Mom, you still look like the woman who loved me, who took care of our family, who was strong when things were tough....but you don't remember all of the things that I do. You don...
    ginger1979 ginger1979
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 10, 2007

    I REALLY hope Hospice comes on board tomorrow.

    I can't get mom to eat or drink and I am losing my mind.
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 17, 2014

    I have a grandma with stage seven dementia

    and she can be far out there but when I ever I go visit her she remembers everything. But when she is out there she is having a good time and that is all that matters.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits
    22-25, M
    1 Response Oct 17, 2014

    Hospice is coming in

    for an evaluation tomorrow morning! *Fingers crossed!*
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    Oct 17, 2014

    It's going to be a long night.

    .. I get home from shopping at several stores...I detest shopping. DETEST it! Only to find my mother in the family room pumped up on morphine and haldol. And I don't mean "medicine coma" pumped up...I mean, "Let's Do This!!!" pumped up. Me, being the aweful person that I am...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    Oct 30, 2014

    My Mum

    I reach out with my mind to touch you. I cannot reach. I see a spark in your eyes. A spark of memory, It flares to life Then dies. Now, your memories are mere moments Fleeting, fragile. Like the spark that never becomes the flame. Like the bud that never blooms. And your life...
    Foreveronly Foreveronly
    31-35, F
    Feb 12, 2013

    The guilt is getting to me.

    Perhaps because I have never really felt guilty before. lol On Sunday I started paying for 24/7 care at home for my mother. On Sunday, I was so exhausted, as soon as the caregiver showed up at 7:00 a.m. I went to bed until 2:00 p.m. After I woke up I just felt I needed to...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 22, 2014

    Mom woke up from her medicine coma a short

    while ago...for being an extremely drugged up woman in severe pain, she sure does move fast! Behold! The power of loads of narcotics! I bought her Mugu gai pan ( forgive me if I misspelled it, I do not eat it) and she is eating it...she has barely eaten in two weeks! Victory!
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 29, 2014

    She Is In Heaven Now

    My mom doesn't have to suffer with the terrible disease of Alzheimer's any more. On August 14 at 2:15 am, Mom breathed her last breath.  I thank God that I was at her side.  I was able to say my goodbyes and comfort Mom at the end. In her final days she was suffering...
    ginger1979 ginger1979
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Aug 22, 2007

    Things Are Changing...

    Things have been pretty wild for the last few weeks, andI thought I should come back and update some things.  It amazes me that it was just this spring that things seemed calmer with mom.I've been her caregiver for years now.  And over the years there have been many incidents...
    ThisIsNotEnough ThisIsNotEnough
    51-55, F
    15 Responses Dec 26, 2010

    Today is the second day

    that we have basically kept my mother in a "medicine induced coma" to keep her from being in pain. When I expressed my guilt, the Hospice nurse told me to, "quit beating yourself up". But, this isn't life...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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